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Speaker 1: I think we're like a couple. Now, we're like Barry

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Speaker 1: We were making a joke because So the first time

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Speaker 1: I met Tim Dillan through Whitney Cummings, who doesn't mind

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Speaker 1: me friend jumping. So I met him through Whitney because

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Speaker 1: For a party, like a barbecue with a lot of young,

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Speaker 1: And then afterwards we passed the baton to him, and

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