WEBVTT - The Power of Connection in Black Communities

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. We're black, We're blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah buh buh b brown, ambition and.

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<v Speaker 2>Ambition, ambition, ambishing.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey a Manda, how you holling?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm all right. I had a long, lovely long weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>What about you?

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<v Speaker 2>You went a little upstate?

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<v Speaker 1>I did. By the time this came out comes out,

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<v Speaker 1>it will be my birthday? Is your birthday? It's your

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<v Speaker 1>birthday October sixteenth, the big four or five? Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>know it's not crazy. I'm like, forty five? What the hell?

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<v Speaker 1>Who's that? Oh my god, it sounds bananas. Like my

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<v Speaker 1>sixteen year old self is like you, oh well, she's

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<v Speaker 1>like she said hey, because she hasn't figured out her

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<v Speaker 1>brows yet.

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<v Speaker 2>Ain't nothing but a number. Well, how are you feeling about?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean forty five? Like, how are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Here's the thing. I don't feel forty

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<v Speaker 1>five whatever that means. I feel grown and you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean, Like I do feel like a full

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<v Speaker 1>fledged adult, like.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, you know, likes and it happens. Okay, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say it was like my mid to

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<v Speaker 1>late thirties when like I made the transition to like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I actually feel grown. For the longest time, I still

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<v Speaker 1>felt like my second gradeself, like girl, why do they

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<v Speaker 1>let me drive? But no, no, I feel like an adult.

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<v Speaker 1>And I will say for me, I know for a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people's birthdays kind of represent kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>what you haven't done. Oh, I wish I would have

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<v Speaker 1>done this. I wish I have to say by the

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<v Speaker 1>time I hit forty, I could look around and say

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like if I look at my journal and

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<v Speaker 1>then had like my big dreams written down, for the

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<v Speaker 1>most part, achieve those things, so my birthdays don't come

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<v Speaker 1>with it. What I haven't done is kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>what the hell how did I get here? So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. They're time for reflection in a good way.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't feel a sense of like, oh man,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought by this age i'd be data. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say I stopped that by forty.

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<v Speaker 2>Mmm, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Just once day. I don't wait. I don't wait to

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<v Speaker 2>I don't wait just once a year to do that

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<v Speaker 2>once a day the way that I'm like, dang, I

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<v Speaker 2>wish I would washed those dishes last night. I wish

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<v Speaker 2>I would have put my clothes in the dryer like

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<v Speaker 2>I meant to you last night. Now I got to

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<v Speaker 2>rewash them.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not gonna lie. I gotta get back like

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<v Speaker 1>in the cause they do say like especially now like

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<v Speaker 1>I have to start lifting weights again. I used to, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, do weight training and not even for like

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<v Speaker 1>the you know, so you could be all tight and slim,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, I'm entering into this perymenopause. I still

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<v Speaker 1>get my cycle. Sorry man, So I guess I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you can still get your take on Perry.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm still but I do know that the

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<v Speaker 1>older you get, you really are supposed to build muscle

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<v Speaker 1>and it helps with like osteoporosis. So you know, I've

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<v Speaker 1>just been like mindfula tiphany. Honestly, you need to hit

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<v Speaker 1>the gym and like do more weight training because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just entering into this age where you know, like if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't, you really put your just your general health

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<v Speaker 1>at risk. I'm like, I know what osteoporosis.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, listen, good, look it sucks. It's not fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been I think I hit like the two month

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<v Speaker 2>mark with my trainer, Gary Awa. I said his name

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<v Speaker 2>out loud. He doesn't deserve that free press.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do we love hate? Our Trainers're like, I hate,

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<v Speaker 1>but thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>What a terrible job. I don't know why a trainer

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<v Speaker 2>trains like no one's happy to see you, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's not like he's training like elite athletes. He's

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<v Speaker 2>here in the suburbs, training like busy moms, and he

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<v Speaker 2>like he. And also what I like about my trainer

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<v Speaker 2>is that like we're kind of rude to each other,

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<v Speaker 2>like I don't have to like you're gonna see me

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<v Speaker 2>at six thirty before coffee, like I'm not giving you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not giving you, And it's like a dentist thankless.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so you feel you feel skinny of your pants

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<v Speaker 2>fitting looser, I'm like, I'm here, okay, that's the only question,

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<v Speaker 2>no questions. But I don't feel like physically that like

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<v Speaker 2>I've had that big transformation but obviously so much stronger,

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<v Speaker 2>like that is definitely the benefit. But then today I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, god, damn, I'm just gonna have to do

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<v Speaker 2>this three days a week forever. When does it stop?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, But you're a good reminder of why I'm

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<v Speaker 2>doing it now. Yeah, to prepare myself.

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<v Speaker 1>No and a good way.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry. The tone was not giving what my brain.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>I just mean like, you know, start small, like start

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<v Speaker 2>building these abbits early. But the way that I desperately

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<v Speaker 2>want to stop, I'm just like three, I've been doing

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<v Speaker 2>it three days a week and I think. I think

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just tired, tired of waking up. And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know. Something's got to I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to. I don't want to quit, but my

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<v Speaker 2>body is like, m can we have a little woos off?

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<v Speaker 2>And so I don't know what the right balance.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it's like that's the point where you actually have

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<v Speaker 1>to push past. I can know it is, and I

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<v Speaker 1>mean as someone who girl, Remember I was on my

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<v Speaker 1>jump rope craze until my knees were like who and

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<v Speaker 1>I thought I had authoritis you know, Arthur and idis

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<v Speaker 1>at each of my knees. The doctor was like, girl, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you just need to exercise. Because my nise was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my niece is giving up and She's like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like basically I have to strengthen the then the the

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the muscle around my knees, and I'm like so.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I was walking a lot and honestly, I still

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<v Speaker 1>really do love walking. I just have not hit the

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<v Speaker 1>road jack like I've had before. And honestly, walking is

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<v Speaker 1>still not weight training, and I know that like I

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<v Speaker 1>need to wait train. It doesn't even have to be

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<v Speaker 1>weight to weights. It could just be your own body.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's like the stage I'm mentoring into. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taking all of November off, which I do now

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<v Speaker 1>because I learned from my therapist that November for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I knew it, but I didn't feel it's

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<v Speaker 1>so triggering because that's the monster ill passed away. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I told myself that's going to be like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going anywhere I'm traveling. I'm just going to I

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<v Speaker 1>almost like reclaim my health in November. Like I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to do my first like drip vitamin drip. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>done that before.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, like were they actually hook you up to an

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<v Speaker 2>IV Yeah, like rich people do after their parties.

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<v Speaker 1>So my friend Linda does does that and she was

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<v Speaker 1>just like she'd gets it quarterly and she just like

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<v Speaker 1>she just swears by it.

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<v Speaker 2>What goes in you?

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<v Speaker 3>Like, what is it?

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<v Speaker 1>You can kind of cheose, so you could do vitamin

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<v Speaker 1>B because I tend to get a cold every November,

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<v Speaker 1>so I want to get see. I know I'm vitamin

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<v Speaker 1>D deficient maybe some bee. So I'm just these are

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<v Speaker 1>kind of conversations I'm going to have. Like I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>okay that I'm debating whether maybe I'll join a gym.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually used to not mind going to the gym.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't decided because also too, when it gets really

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<v Speaker 1>really cold, an't nobody leaving the house. But that's what

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<v Speaker 1>it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's what it is. I think it's the

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<v Speaker 2>colder weather. I'm just like, thank god I can pre

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<v Speaker 2>warm my car. I mean, for y'all who just.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, how do you don't even know? Right now? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>during my dad, my mom's twenty five year old Mercedes

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<v Speaker 1>Benz like she has a bet she had a bench

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>The millennium Benz, I'm hen of the century.

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<v Speaker 1>When they got that bit, it was first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>she has heated seats, I said, not Sylvia stunting on

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<v Speaker 1>the ground twenty five years ago? Do you know? She was? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>But no, because you know they hit Durrell's car, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I got the money and bought Alyssa.

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<v Speaker 2>Not your parents someone hit but not your parents. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that way you said that made it seem like.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, and so I used that They gave me, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm around fifteen thousand dollars and I used it to

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<v Speaker 1>get a Listen's car, which is like sixteen thousand. And

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<v Speaker 1>so now I'm debating, and maybe you know, we could

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<v Speaker 1>talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>This episode made a nice car for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I am, but I'm debating least versus by that's a

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<v Speaker 1>debate right now. But I mean we can talk about

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<v Speaker 1>it maybe the next session to talk about the pros

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<v Speaker 1>and cons as I make my decision because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>drive that much. But yeah, so I'm just November, it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be like I want to get a massage,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to get like a routine going of an exercise,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I want to sleep late. Yeah. Just it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be like, yeah, just kind of like regain

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<v Speaker 1>health a month. I mean, I'm not unhealthy. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I just but I just feel like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to be more intentional. You know. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm like, oh, girl, forty five ain't what it

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<v Speaker 1>used to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's also just like, I mean, you're holding space

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<v Speaker 2>for your grief at the same time too. So I

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<v Speaker 2>hope that it's just that you don't have too much

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<v Speaker 2>on your to do list and that you.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you know, yeah, everything is very if I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like it, which I like.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're giving yourself a soft place to land.

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<v Speaker 1>And also said, I just want to feel I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we're in this pivotal moment where it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't take care of yourself physically, it's hard

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<v Speaker 1>to come back harder, you know. And so I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>like Tiffany, I'm not even I'm not trying to be

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<v Speaker 1>some muscle woman, which nothing's wrong with that, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to be like, oh, I've got a gentle routine,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that, Like my body's in good shape. As

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<v Speaker 1>far as I feel strong, I can get up off

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<v Speaker 1>the floor without having to do the Okay, now I

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<v Speaker 1>roll to the side.

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<v Speaker 3>This need I got a trick shoulder, shoulder I haven't

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<v Speaker 3>got already live these days. Damn well, you looked.

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<v Speaker 2>A real good live and in color at me a

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<v Speaker 2>live live? What do we say about our live show?

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<v Speaker 2>Our first ever?

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<v Speaker 1>Lie? It was, first of all, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>I was expecting. First of all, packed house. Okay, the

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<v Speaker 1>house was packed, but to sing our ba qa song

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<v Speaker 1>and our opening song and to have people sing it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm just so used to like I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about my friend Mandy, I'm talking about girl Mandy. That's

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<v Speaker 1>my sister Mandy. And I'm like, wait, I forgot that

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<v Speaker 1>y'all are listening because y'all sang it along with us,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh my god, that was so real.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the most surreal moment for me. When people

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<v Speaker 1>saying like it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Time, it was like, it was so fun. Honestly, what

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<v Speaker 2>if we just took the audio from that, like fifty

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<v Speaker 2>women singing that song with us and just you said

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<v Speaker 2>as our you should true, yeah, I know you should.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fun for you. No, I didn't think about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that, And because we always said we never

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<v Speaker 1>had like a you know, yeah, oh my god, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was and to meet people.

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<v Speaker 2>People flew in they really did from Savannah. God, and

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't just fly from Savannah. Courtney has just been

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it's just really special when people will follow

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<v Speaker 2>along with the show four years. I mean it just

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<v Speaker 2>like the way that you guys leave us comments and

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<v Speaker 2>messages on Insta like it matters, and I recognize y'all

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<v Speaker 2>like friends in my head. So to see Courtney in

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<v Speaker 2>person so cute. She was even wearing the lip bar

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<v Speaker 2>color that I wear rich Auntie that we talked about before.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone was just so happy to be there, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just I'm just I feel proud, immensely proud, and and

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<v Speaker 2>to the venue source of Knowledge bookstore in Newark. You

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<v Speaker 2>always said it was special, but I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I still. I think the smell of incense is still

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like burned.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, all right, we getting y'all my cyluses,

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<v Speaker 1>but it wasn't magical, yes, because I don't know that.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been to black bookstores obviously, but this is not

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<v Speaker 1>just a black bookstore, like owned by black people. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a black book black and brown well, a black bookstore

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<v Speaker 1>that exclusively carries books and resources and literature focused on

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<v Speaker 1>black and brown people. Like I know, Mandy, you're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for a children's book that was like bilingual, that had Spanish.

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<v Speaker 2>And and didn't have to look far. I'm a whole

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<v Speaker 2>all of them. Yes, I was like, I never knew

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<v Speaker 2>these books existed.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, the children's section alone will blow you away. So

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<v Speaker 1>many brown faces. You're like, all these books exist out here.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, it was beautiful. And to Patrese and Masani and

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<v Speaker 2>Patresea's little grand baby. He was running around. He's Rio's age,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was just like, oh you're you're I'm adopting

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<v Speaker 2>you for this evening because it just felt right to

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<v Speaker 2>have a little boy running around.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, foods by Nisha. The girls were tearing Abnicia's food.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, yeah, it just was.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we have to thank Chris for Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>Chris from Popcorn Finance.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, for if you're a podcaster and you ever need well,

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<v Speaker 2>if you never need someone to fly cross country, just

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<v Speaker 2>befriend Chris and we'll just do it. He will. No,

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<v Speaker 2>but what a gem of a human being. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and thank you so much Chris for like planning everything.

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<v Speaker 2>And even our producer Tanya came out. I know that

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<v Speaker 2>she was getting some cute like she was doing some

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<v Speaker 2>Q and A in the audience to see how people

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<v Speaker 2>were feeling. And I'm really glad that we got I

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<v Speaker 2>know that this is you know, we're nearing the end.

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<v Speaker 2>You're taking November off, so I'm just like it's just

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<v Speaker 2>cutting into our time. But but no, I'm just to

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<v Speaker 2>go out like that, to have an experience like that,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm just really really grateful that we just

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<v Speaker 2>like did it. It was very stressful, but we did it.

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<v Speaker 2>It happened, and thank you be a fan for showing up.

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<v Speaker 2>What more can what more can we say?

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<v Speaker 1>We did?

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<v Speaker 2>You guys will hear the episode? So when is that

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<v Speaker 2>gonna live? When when is that gonna Airmandy, we weren't there.

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<v Speaker 2>When can we listen to it? I think we decided

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<v Speaker 2>November we'll be airing a two part yeah, two parter.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was really fun. We know, we talked a

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<v Speaker 2>lot about our personal growth, the year of the pivot

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<v Speaker 2>when we call it the Great Pivot, the pivot, and

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<v Speaker 2>then we did some trivia, some trivia with the VF

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<v Speaker 2>that was fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It was it was can I tell you that Tracy

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<v Speaker 1>gave me the best compliment. She was like, because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sisters don't be listening. She was like, wait, is that

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<v Speaker 1>how the podcast goes? I'm like, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, it was so great. She said something

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<v Speaker 1>that Mandy said about you know, you had said something

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<v Speaker 1>about mediocrity. She said, it just touched me so much,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, is this is this how it goes?

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, what I hear I've been missing out.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know her family does not want to hear

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<v Speaker 2>us talk.

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<v Speaker 1>They're they're missing out. Yes, she was like, honestly, she said,

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<v Speaker 1>it's one thing. Oh I'm going to my sister a

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<v Speaker 1>half find Andy. But She's like, honestly, I was really

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<v Speaker 1>engaged and it was really good, and she was just like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>what an amazing podcast. And Tracy's not the system that

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<v Speaker 1>compliments nice, you know, but she was like, that was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>She'd let me add that to my list of podcasts.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, well that's great, so I just have this.

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<v Speaker 1>We got Tracy approves, which is a huge approval.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. And your sisters showing up and I know me,

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<v Speaker 2>me and Roman were not having it, but they rolled

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<v Speaker 2>up the show was happening.

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<v Speaker 1>She's somebody signed the books. She's like, one day I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to sign books.

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<v Speaker 2>You will, Oh my goodness. I just can't wait. She's

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<v Speaker 2>like the Malia and the Sasha of the podcast, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like.

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<v Speaker 1>And Roman was just on his roebucks of rodbox girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know what the kids be doing. Roadblocks.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>I could not tell you. But yeah, so look forward

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<v Speaker 2>to a two part series. We'll be airing the b

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<v Speaker 2>A live in November. All right, but we got to

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<v Speaker 2>get into some well let's just like, I mean, like

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<v Speaker 2>one buzzy brown buzz buzzworthy news item today is future

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<v Speaker 2>vice President, future president, future black, first black female president

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<v Speaker 2>and Asian president in American history is putting out put

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<v Speaker 2>out a specific plan to basically woo black male voters

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<v Speaker 2>because I guess black men have been leaning more towards

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<v Speaker 2>the side of Trump, which I can understand sadly.

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<v Speaker 1>I can.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm not like, I don't know in your circles, Tift,

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<v Speaker 2>do you feel like with your family, cousins, neighbors, Like

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<v Speaker 2>are you hearing that in new work? Do you feel

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<v Speaker 2>like black men are just a little bit less persuaded

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<v Speaker 2>or excited about Kamala.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'd be honest, Well, One, I have all sisters,

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<v Speaker 1>our girl friends, and so I have not I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a ton of black male friends. And I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>not now that Jerell's not here, so not like in

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<v Speaker 1>the normal mix where maybe his boys are talking about

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. So because honestly, Like, my

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<v Speaker 1>closest black male friend is Cabraw, and it's different. Cabraw

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<v Speaker 1>is gay black men, and I you know, all his

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<v Speaker 1>mostly his friends are gay black men, and so there's

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<v Speaker 1>a different energy. So I can also I can say

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of out of the loop to like what

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<v Speaker 1>like the average black man, not to say, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're gay in a average but you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like like I'm just out of the loop

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<v Speaker 1>of like what black men in general are thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>kamalos just because I just don't have them in my

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<v Speaker 1>circle as much.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I feel like what I hear from

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<v Speaker 2>neighbors and extended relatives is like there's this sense of like,

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<v Speaker 2>and we should probably get someone who can speak to

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<v Speaker 2>the black male experience on the show. But what I've

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<v Speaker 2>felt like is that deep sense of nothing really changes

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<v Speaker 2>for me no matter what happens. And I think unlike

0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:58.200
<v Speaker 2>women of color, like black women, I think there's just

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<v Speaker 2>this real sense of it doesn't matter, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>no one's really speaking for me, no one speaking to me,

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<v Speaker 2>And so I know that there's tons of I think

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<v Speaker 2>that from both sides, there's criticism, there's excitement about this plan.

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<v Speaker 2>But I thought we could just like talk about it

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<v Speaker 2>point by point because honestly, everything in this plan, and

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<v Speaker 2>this is the real thing about any kind of economic

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<v Speaker 2>plan that is put together to serve black communities, it

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<v Speaker 2>serves all of us at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's stuff here, like legalizing recreational marijuana at the

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<v Speaker 2>federal level.

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<v Speaker 1>Opportunities for Black Americans to succeed in this new policy

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<v Speaker 1>because they're legalized. It's you know, it's legalized, for example

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<v Speaker 1>in New Jersey. But that's not who has the dispensaries.

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<v Speaker 2>They're all at Where are they at in California and Colorado?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Meaning like folks who own the dispensaries are there

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<v Speaker 1>are no? I mean it's black folks that over represent

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<v Speaker 1>in jail for Mariana, but the dispensaries are not owned

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<v Speaker 1>by black folks, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay mm hmm, all right, So providing but what

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<v Speaker 2>are those opportunity? So what I want to get into

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<v Speaker 2>the details. So what does that mean, like are black

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<v Speaker 2>are they going to give like startup capital to Black

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<v Speaker 2>Americans who want to start their own dispensaries or get

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<v Speaker 2>into the business.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me see, because she does have if you go

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<v Speaker 1>on KamalaHarris dot com. Also like, oh my gosh, there's

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<v Speaker 1>so many points to this. There's like expanded pathways for

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<v Speaker 1>black men to get good paying jobs whether or not

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<v Speaker 1>they have a college degree. This, I will say, I've

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<v Speaker 1>here heard a lot from the black men that I

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<v Speaker 1>am connected to. They're like, yo, I cannot find a

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<v Speaker 1>good paying job and I do have a college degree,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's really hard. Providing more pathways for black men

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<v Speaker 1>to become teachers and school leaders. This one. One of

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<v Speaker 1>my friends is the CEO of a nonprofit, so I

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<v Speaker 1>love this one. It says something about HBCUs and and

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<v Speaker 1>providing a pathway for them to have access to like

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<v Speaker 1>to become physicians. I think that's what I read, which

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<v Speaker 1>I love because my friend Micheline, she used to be

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<v Speaker 1>the state Treasurer of New Jersey and then she was

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<v Speaker 1>the CEO of one of our largest hospital systems here

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<v Speaker 1>in New Jersey, and now she's the CEO of this

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<v Speaker 1>nonprofit organization. It's the number one, like I want to say,

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<v Speaker 1>provider of black physicians. So it's like this program think

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<v Speaker 1>of like eof you know, for those of you who

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<v Speaker 1>aren't familiar. Oh maybe I don't know, I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>it an EOF as an economic opportunity fund. Basically, if

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<v Speaker 1>you are black or brown, and I wouldn't say back

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<v Speaker 1>or brown, but if you are struggling financially and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>the school that you came from was like okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go to school, you have all the

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<v Speaker 1>potential in New Jersey anyway, EOF. It's kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>the bridge program between high school and college. So you

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<v Speaker 1>do the program in the summertime to kind of prepare

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<v Speaker 1>you for college, and then they follow you throughout college.

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<v Speaker 1>They help financially, they help with tutoring, they help with

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<v Speaker 1>all the stuff. And it's so she kind of provides

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<v Speaker 1>this bridge program through her through the nonprofit. She's not

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<v Speaker 1>the owner for black physicians because oftentimes it's like they

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<v Speaker 1>have all the intelligence but none of the access, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, how do I get someone to pay for

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<v Speaker 1>lodging for me? How do I Because you know, so

0:21:19.280 --> 0:21:22.560
<v Speaker 1>black doctors are so critically important. Black maternal health is

0:21:23.560 --> 0:21:28.000
<v Speaker 1>more Black women die unnecessarily during childbirth because of the

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<v Speaker 1>lack of access to doctors that understand us.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I feel something that parent like Kamala has

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<v Speaker 2>actually been quite vocal about, especially during her run as VP. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so thank goodness for just a good old PDF because

0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:46.080
<v Speaker 2>these news reports. Also, it's interesting, you know how the

0:21:46.160 --> 0:21:48.280
<v Speaker 2>media will take something like this and the first, the

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<v Speaker 2>first sentence in their story is legalizing marijuana. But that

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<v Speaker 2>is not at all. It's number five on this five

0:21:55.359 --> 0:21:57.240
<v Speaker 2>point plan. So let's just break it down, okay. So

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<v Speaker 2>the agenda from a high level is number one, providing

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<v Speaker 2>one million loans that are fully forgivable to black entrepreneurs

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<v Speaker 2>and others to start a business up to twenty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if that's on top of the fifty thousand

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<v Speaker 2>dollars loan that or grants or something. It's probably on

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<v Speaker 2>top of the fifty thousand dollars tax credit excuse me

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<v Speaker 2>that she talked about for entrepreneurs small business owners. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>So Number two championing education, training, and mentorship programs that

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<v Speaker 2>help black men get good paying jobs in high demand

0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:33.840
<v Speaker 2>industries and lead their communities, including pathways to become teachers. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>we love that. Number three supporting a regulatory framework for

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<v Speaker 2>cryptocurrency and other digital assets so black men who invest

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<v Speaker 2>in and own these assets are protected. Okay, that's very

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<v Speaker 2>welcome back to that, Okay. Okay. Number four launching a

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<v Speaker 2>national Health Equity Initiative focused on Black men that addresses

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<v Speaker 2>sickle cell disease, diabetes, mental health, prostate cancer, and other

0:23:02.440 --> 0:23:08.639
<v Speaker 2>health challenges that disproportionately impact them. And number five legalizing

0:23:08.760 --> 0:23:13.040
<v Speaker 2>recreational marijuana and creating opportunities for Black Americans to succeed

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<v Speaker 2>in this new industry.

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<v Speaker 1>And they really goes deep. I mean, if you really

0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:21.560
<v Speaker 1>start to look at some of the bullet points she

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<v Speaker 1>talks from. Everybody, talks about everybody, from black farmers to

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<v Speaker 1>expanding access to bank accounts, lending to black to help

0:23:31.160 --> 0:23:33.600
<v Speaker 1>black men build wealth, and so those are kind of

0:23:33.640 --> 0:23:35.960
<v Speaker 1>like the high level bullets. But if you really dig.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, well, let's do that now. Yeah, that's what I

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<v Speaker 2>want to do. Okay, So which one do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to start with? Which one jumps out at you?

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<v Speaker 1>I would say the one that jumps out at me

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<v Speaker 1>most is this. I mean, because we talk about finances.

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<v Speaker 1>Number three supporting regulatory framework for crypto and other digital assets, Well,

0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:56.760
<v Speaker 1>I guess it's the financial component. How do we give

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<v Speaker 1>more access to black men when it comes to dances? Okay,

0:24:02.600 --> 0:24:05.359
<v Speaker 1>it's all forgivable loan twenty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so yeah, okay, so it does detail. This is

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<v Speaker 2>on top of the small business tax deduction, from which

0:24:14.280 --> 0:24:17.560
<v Speaker 2>has already been tenfold increased from five to fifty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>She says the money needed to start your own business

0:24:22.119 --> 0:24:25.800
<v Speaker 2>is not acceptable for many Black Americans. She's proposing a

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<v Speaker 2>new initiative, a partnership with the SBA, the Small Business Administration,

0:24:31.000 --> 0:24:35.000
<v Speaker 2>to do those twenty thousand dollars forgivable loans to entrepreneurs

0:24:35.040 --> 0:24:38.040
<v Speaker 2>who have a good idea but don't have the resources, connections,

0:24:38.160 --> 0:24:42.400
<v Speaker 2>or access to capital. These loans can help entrepreneurs rent

0:24:42.520 --> 0:24:47.000
<v Speaker 2>office space and software to launch a cybersecurity company, pay

0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:50.040
<v Speaker 2>for permitting fees, and purchase a van for a catering business.

0:24:50.320 --> 0:24:53.119
<v Speaker 2>All these different examples of what you can use that

0:24:53.240 --> 0:24:56.920
<v Speaker 2>money for, by chair space for barbershop, by lawnmowers for

0:24:57.160 --> 0:25:01.119
<v Speaker 2>landscaping business. She'll also work with the private sector and

0:25:01.200 --> 0:25:04.280
<v Speaker 2>call for additional funding to expand on proven ways to

0:25:04.359 --> 0:25:08.280
<v Speaker 2>break down barriers and provide financing and venture capital to

0:25:08.560 --> 0:25:13.159
<v Speaker 2>entrepreneurs and small business owners in black communities, Expanding access

0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:18.080
<v Speaker 2>to bank accounts and lending to help black men build wealth.

0:25:19.560 --> 0:25:23.000
<v Speaker 2>That's a big one because of high fees that tend

0:25:23.080 --> 0:25:26.560
<v Speaker 2>to and again it's like, I mean, my thing with

0:25:26.640 --> 0:25:28.960
<v Speaker 2>this plan is that all these things are great for everybody,

0:25:29.520 --> 0:25:31.320
<v Speaker 2>just like the black community in general. But it's the

0:25:31.400 --> 0:25:34.320
<v Speaker 2>targeting of like we're doing this for black men that

0:25:34.560 --> 0:25:36.760
<v Speaker 2>is like that for me, is a little bit of

0:25:36.840 --> 0:25:39.639
<v Speaker 2>marketing spin on policies I really benefit all of us.

0:25:39.640 --> 0:25:42.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm not mad at it, but it's like, great, the

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:45.560
<v Speaker 2>black community in general needs access to bank accounts that

0:25:45.640 --> 0:25:48.040
<v Speaker 2>are not vertable with high fees, you know, so they

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:50.000
<v Speaker 2>can build credit, save invest, that kind of thing.

0:25:50.920 --> 0:25:53.080
<v Speaker 1>And someone who like taught in Newark and saw parents

0:25:53.119 --> 0:25:55.280
<v Speaker 1>come in who were like, I still go to check

0:25:55.320 --> 0:25:58.119
<v Speaker 1>castrom because there's no bank around here, and they're losing

0:25:58.200 --> 0:26:00.760
<v Speaker 1>three four percent of their check at the check cashing place.

0:26:00.800 --> 0:26:02.879
<v Speaker 1>So this is real for some people. Are like banks

0:26:02.920 --> 0:26:05.879
<v Speaker 1>are everywhere, No, they're not, Just like supermarkets are not everywhere.

0:26:05.920 --> 0:26:08.760
<v Speaker 1>There's literally places called flood deserts we can go. There's

0:26:08.800 --> 0:26:11.840
<v Speaker 1>only corner stores available. The people who live in this

0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:14.680
<v Speaker 1>kind of environment, it makes it very difficult to keep

0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:16.920
<v Speaker 1>your money, even if you are trying to live frugally

0:26:17.800 --> 0:26:18.440
<v Speaker 1>because of these.

0:26:18.560 --> 0:26:22.560
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so this one the cryptocurrency thing. So this

0:26:22.720 --> 0:26:25.639
<v Speaker 2>for me, this is for anyone who owns cryptocurrency. I

0:26:25.680 --> 0:26:27.960
<v Speaker 2>don't know how they would just target this for Black Americans,

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:31.800
<v Speaker 2>but cryptocurrency is unregulated right now in a large extent.

0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:35.120
<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously we've had like iconic crypto bros who've

0:26:35.119 --> 0:26:39.600
<v Speaker 2>gone to jail for defrauding investors, like sample is blank

0:26:39.640 --> 0:26:42.080
<v Speaker 2>man or I don't know whatever, he's in jail. But

0:26:43.680 --> 0:26:46.640
<v Speaker 2>this does acknowledge the fact that, especially during the recession,

0:26:46.760 --> 0:26:50.199
<v Speaker 2>I mean sorry, during the pandemic, more Black Americans we're

0:26:50.240 --> 0:26:51.119
<v Speaker 2>investing in crypto.

0:26:51.359 --> 0:26:55.520
<v Speaker 1>Twenty percent of us own That's what it says here.

0:26:55.560 --> 0:26:58.480
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I did, honestly, I think about this

0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:02.280
<v Speaker 1>is not praise nor say. I think about like Earnier Leisure.

0:27:02.440 --> 0:27:05.280
<v Speaker 1>I think about my friend Terry trade and travel. I

0:27:05.359 --> 0:27:08.840
<v Speaker 1>think about there was this huge uptick in which I think,

0:27:09.080 --> 0:27:12.760
<v Speaker 1>in general is good of like really getting black folks invested.

0:27:12.840 --> 0:27:14.480
<v Speaker 1>There was a remember that article we talked about it.

0:27:14.880 --> 0:27:17.080
<v Speaker 1>I thought, this huge uptick in like black people are

0:27:17.119 --> 0:27:19.840
<v Speaker 1>really investing in the market. But you know, whenever we

0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:23.000
<v Speaker 1>get into something, that's when lots of predators also come

0:27:23.680 --> 0:27:25.600
<v Speaker 1>and so I guess she's like, you know what, the

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:29.760
<v Speaker 1>fact remains that twenty percent of Black Americans are invested,

0:27:30.040 --> 0:27:34.720
<v Speaker 1>which means likely in the cryptocurrency, which means the unregular,

0:27:34.960 --> 0:27:39.520
<v Speaker 1>unfettered access to folks who might not be as sophisticated

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 1>as an investor, you know, because maybe they just learned

0:27:43.400 --> 0:27:45.600
<v Speaker 1>in the last couple of years, you know, Can we

0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:48.040
<v Speaker 1>put some barriers in place to protect these kind of

0:27:48.119 --> 0:27:52.600
<v Speaker 1>like newer investors. And so that's why she's like Black

0:27:52.600 --> 0:27:55.960
<v Speaker 1>Americans because she's like, girl, like twenty percent, that's a lot.

0:27:56.080 --> 0:27:58.199
<v Speaker 1>It went from hardly anybody in our community was investing

0:27:58.440 --> 0:28:02.879
<v Speaker 1>to twenty percent investing in Cristo cryptocur see assets. That's tremendous.

0:28:03.320 --> 0:28:05.840
<v Speaker 2>Like stresses me out too, because I'm like, yeah, I

0:28:05.920 --> 0:28:08.240
<v Speaker 2>mean it is very similar to the stock market. You

0:28:08.240 --> 0:28:09.600
<v Speaker 2>don't know if you're going to make any wins, but

0:28:09.680 --> 0:28:12.920
<v Speaker 2>it's like if you're going to have you know, communities

0:28:13.000 --> 0:28:16.000
<v Speaker 2>investing in crypto but not other types of assets that

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:18.439
<v Speaker 2>are a bit less risky, then it's just a lot

0:28:18.480 --> 0:28:22.400
<v Speaker 2>that you're gambling with. So that's good. So what caught

0:28:22.440 --> 0:28:26.159
<v Speaker 2>my eye also is the barriers to employment for black men.

0:28:26.280 --> 0:28:30.399
<v Speaker 2>So this one acknowledges the fact that black men are

0:28:30.440 --> 0:28:33.080
<v Speaker 2>more likely to have criminal records and poor credit that

0:28:33.240 --> 0:28:35.600
<v Speaker 2>holds them back from some jobs. So it talks about

0:28:35.600 --> 0:28:39.600
<v Speaker 2>how she's gonna work with employers or maybe introduce legislation

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 2>that will require businesses to limit the use of unnecessary

0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:50.480
<v Speaker 2>criminal arrest histories, convictions, and credit scores and their employment decisions.

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:53.200
<v Speaker 1>You might say, well, you shouldn't have done the crime.

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:55.480
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what happens when you over police a place.

0:28:56.600 --> 0:28:59.600
<v Speaker 1>If you watch your kid twenty four to seven, you're

0:28:59.640 --> 0:29:03.200
<v Speaker 1>gonna ca them so not I think because I hate

0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 1>what I hear people say, like, well, that's what happens.

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:08.520
<v Speaker 1>Black people are more more likely to be criminals. No,

0:29:09.120 --> 0:29:13.920
<v Speaker 1>it's because if you've got so much policing in a place,

0:29:14.000 --> 0:29:16.480
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna catch every nukle crate. I lived in an

0:29:16.480 --> 0:29:20.120
<v Speaker 1>old white neighborhood. When I tell you that was going down, girl,

0:29:20.520 --> 0:29:21.920
<v Speaker 1>I remember I was only talking. I was like, there

0:29:21.960 --> 0:29:24.000
<v Speaker 1>was a kid in middle school who used to come

0:29:24.040 --> 0:29:26.640
<v Speaker 1>to school with liquor in his Gatorway bottle. I'm like,

0:29:26.680 --> 0:29:28.320
<v Speaker 1>what the hell was Ben going through?

0:29:28.960 --> 0:29:31.280
<v Speaker 2>There's always a Ben. It's always a Bend or a

0:29:31.320 --> 0:29:32.680
<v Speaker 2>Britain you know, and.

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:36.320
<v Speaker 1>Then parents literally buying alcohol for the kids because they

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:38.560
<v Speaker 1>could be the cool house girl, the stuff that was

0:29:38.600 --> 0:29:41.480
<v Speaker 1>going down in Westfield, New Jersey. But and I remember

0:29:41.560 --> 0:29:44.720
<v Speaker 1>just think it was this one young man, Rashid, and

0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:46.600
<v Speaker 1>this other man I don't know, his name was Jared.

0:29:47.040 --> 0:29:50.320
<v Speaker 1>While she was black, Jared was white. They're both selling

0:29:50.360 --> 0:29:53.440
<v Speaker 1>weed in high school and they both got caught. But

0:29:53.600 --> 0:29:56.040
<v Speaker 1>Jared was white and his parents had money and Rashi's

0:29:56.440 --> 0:29:57.720
<v Speaker 1>I think it was from I don't know if I'm

0:29:57.720 --> 0:30:01.760
<v Speaker 1>a single mother household. She didn't, and he, you know,

0:30:01.960 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know that he went to jail, but juvie

0:30:03.880 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>or whatever. And then some years later I was feeding

0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:09.120
<v Speaker 1>the homeless on Thanksgiving in there he was do you

0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:13.080
<v Speaker 1>think Jared is? Do you think he's there? So how

0:30:13.280 --> 0:30:16.200
<v Speaker 1>was that? Like he's not more guilty, he had just

0:30:16.280 --> 0:30:20.360
<v Speaker 1>more access for help and so yeah, so I'm just

0:30:20.400 --> 0:30:22.400
<v Speaker 1>saying all that to say, like this is why the

0:30:22.840 --> 0:30:25.040
<v Speaker 1>evening of the playing field is not about like, oh,

0:30:25.440 --> 0:30:27.760
<v Speaker 1>well you shouldn't have done the crime, yes, but people

0:30:27.920 --> 0:30:30.240
<v Speaker 1>do because they have access.

0:30:29.960 --> 0:30:32.200
<v Speaker 2>Paid your time, Like if you paid your dues, you've

0:30:32.280 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 2>done your time. Like it just it never made sense

0:30:35.440 --> 0:30:38.800
<v Speaker 2>to me and it's just like a long, long lived issue.

0:30:38.880 --> 0:30:41.080
<v Speaker 2>It never made sense to me why we put people

0:30:41.160 --> 0:30:43.479
<v Speaker 2>through the criminal justice system and then spit them back

0:30:43.520 --> 0:30:45.600
<v Speaker 2>out and say, well, you can't have access to any

0:30:45.600 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 2>of these things to give you the tools to not

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:49.960
<v Speaker 2>go back, you know. So I'm glad to see that.

0:30:50.000 --> 0:30:51.600
<v Speaker 2>And I think this is also where you're seeing like

0:30:51.760 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 2>her experience as a prosecutor really coming out because she's

0:30:55.120 --> 0:30:57.920
<v Speaker 2>been on the other side. She knows, like and I mean,

0:30:57.960 --> 0:31:00.800
<v Speaker 2>you can talk. I know there's a lot of criticism

0:31:00.880 --> 0:31:03.600
<v Speaker 2>of her record as a prosecutor, and it's like, at

0:31:03.640 --> 0:31:05.920
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, you know, she's there. Criminals

0:31:05.960 --> 0:31:08.680
<v Speaker 2>have done things, she puts them behind bars because that

0:31:08.800 --> 0:31:11.160
<v Speaker 2>is her job as a prosecutor. But this is her

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:13.200
<v Speaker 2>I think, really getting at the root of what sends

0:31:13.240 --> 0:31:17.880
<v Speaker 2>these people, what sends us into situations where desperate situations

0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:21.480
<v Speaker 2>where we are committing crimes. I thought it was cool.

0:31:21.600 --> 0:31:24.920
<v Speaker 2>I love to see that. One of her initiatives here

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:28.520
<v Speaker 2>is to incentivize businesses to do more profit sharing, like

0:31:28.600 --> 0:31:32.120
<v Speaker 2>to do more employee stock ownership plans, because for me personally,

0:31:32.240 --> 0:31:34.360
<v Speaker 2>that was a huge contributor to my wealth building, was

0:31:34.480 --> 0:31:37.640
<v Speaker 2>the fact that I had access to stocks in the

0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:41.440
<v Speaker 2>companies that I worked for. Let's see, there's so much

0:31:41.760 --> 0:31:44.640
<v Speaker 2>I love. The teacher one. Only one percent of public

0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:47.800
<v Speaker 2>school teachers are black men, so Harris wants to work

0:31:47.800 --> 0:31:55.080
<v Speaker 2>with HBCUs to create a pipeline. Never my pe teacher

0:31:55.200 --> 0:31:59.840
<v Speaker 2>in the eighth grade, ninth grade. I remember he said

0:31:59.840 --> 0:32:02.280
<v Speaker 2>that I was one of the hardest working girls on

0:32:02.400 --> 0:32:05.040
<v Speaker 2>the team because I never complained about my period. Oh

0:32:05.120 --> 0:32:06.680
<v Speaker 2>my god, not in the team.

0:32:06.760 --> 0:32:10.120
<v Speaker 1>The class I had one he taught, which is crazy

0:32:10.480 --> 0:32:13.200
<v Speaker 1>African American Studies, but they only they only had like

0:32:13.280 --> 0:32:15.240
<v Speaker 1>every other year or whatever, of course, because Westfield was

0:32:15.320 --> 0:32:19.160
<v Speaker 1>so white and so yeah, I can't remember his name,

0:32:19.240 --> 0:32:23.080
<v Speaker 1>but yes, mister Harry, mister Perry, I don't remember, but

0:32:23.280 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 1>I think that was my first and only.

0:32:26.560 --> 0:32:29.360
<v Speaker 2>There's a black male teacher at Remy's daycare, and I

0:32:30.080 --> 0:32:33.120
<v Speaker 2>try not to like be weird whenever I see him.

0:32:36.200 --> 0:32:36.680
<v Speaker 1>I love that.

0:32:37.560 --> 0:32:39.840
<v Speaker 2>Can I talk to your mom and just congratulate her

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:44.800
<v Speaker 2>on raising I'm just but that's amazing. And I love ABD.

0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:47.520
<v Speaker 2>Elementary is my favorite show, and I love that episode

0:32:47.520 --> 0:32:50.520
<v Speaker 2>where what's the teacher's name, Eddie?

0:32:51.200 --> 0:32:54.320
<v Speaker 1>Mister Eddie, Oh, the one that everybody has Chris that

0:32:54.440 --> 0:32:55.240
<v Speaker 1>character please.

0:32:55.160 --> 0:32:59.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's so cute anyway, where his students

0:32:59.280 --> 0:33:01.680
<v Speaker 2>like draw pictures of him and it's like, you know,

0:33:01.760 --> 0:33:04.719
<v Speaker 2>a black male teacher and he really understands the impact

0:33:04.720 --> 0:33:06.240
<v Speaker 2>that he's having and then he puts them all over

0:33:06.360 --> 0:33:07.560
<v Speaker 2>his rooms.

0:33:07.680 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 1>So you love that she has this thing about investing

0:33:09.440 --> 0:33:12.280
<v Speaker 1>in programs for mentorship. One of my friends owns a

0:33:12.400 --> 0:33:17.760
<v Speaker 1>company called Black Male Mental Health on IG and that

0:33:17.960 --> 0:33:21.200
<v Speaker 1>is his core thing that, like, mentorship is so critical

0:33:21.280 --> 0:33:23.920
<v Speaker 1>for everybody, but especially black boys. And I love how

0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:26.800
<v Speaker 1>she even shouts out like support programs like My Brother's

0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:31.680
<v Speaker 1>Keeper in HBCUs to provide more opportunities for black men

0:33:31.760 --> 0:33:34.600
<v Speaker 1>to develop leadership skills through their development. But having a

0:33:34.640 --> 0:33:37.480
<v Speaker 1>really good mentor and sponsor is really critical.

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:41.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I think that's all. It just all is

0:33:41.800 --> 0:33:45.120
<v Speaker 2>like let's make sure the root of these lives that

0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:47.360
<v Speaker 2>we are creating, Like she's actually this is something that

0:33:47.440 --> 0:33:49.120
<v Speaker 2>it's like, Oh, let's take care of the people that

0:33:49.200 --> 0:33:52.360
<v Speaker 2>we already have and make sure that they can succeed.

0:33:52.760 --> 0:33:55.200
<v Speaker 2>Because I mean, all this to me is just like

0:33:55.520 --> 0:34:00.920
<v Speaker 2>adding like the right growth conditions for people to thrive.

0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:03.840
<v Speaker 2>And when you help black men, you help black families,

0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:06.640
<v Speaker 2>you help communities, and it goes for women too, black women,

0:34:06.840 --> 0:34:10.239
<v Speaker 2>So this to me doesn't feel like an affront or

0:34:10.560 --> 0:34:12.840
<v Speaker 2>like leaving behind women of color at all. This to

0:34:12.960 --> 0:34:16.239
<v Speaker 2>me just feels like great, Like let's I mean, if

0:34:16.280 --> 0:34:18.359
<v Speaker 2>she has a plan for Asian Americans, or she had

0:34:18.360 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 2>a plan for you know, for LGBTQ Americans, like bring

0:34:23.640 --> 0:34:25.799
<v Speaker 2>it on, because I think all these different communities could

0:34:25.800 --> 0:34:30.360
<v Speaker 2>have different you know, definitely more attention and or you know,

0:34:30.840 --> 0:34:35.280
<v Speaker 2>accessor or increase create a plan for Americans who are disabled,

0:34:35.320 --> 0:34:37.960
<v Speaker 2>you know, like there's all sorts of communities that need support.

0:34:38.080 --> 0:34:41.000
<v Speaker 2>So but I get it. I think black men and

0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 2>specifically haven't really been spoken to in a long time

0:34:44.960 --> 0:34:47.880
<v Speaker 2>by the leaders in the country, and I'm happy to

0:34:47.920 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 2>see something so specific, like let's just say it, this

0:34:51.600 --> 0:34:52.359
<v Speaker 2>is for black men.

0:34:52.560 --> 0:34:53.840
<v Speaker 1>So thank you.

0:34:55.200 --> 0:34:59.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thanks, I was gonna say thank you, Tiffany what

0:35:01.120 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 2>but this was a I don't we don't have time

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:04.480
<v Speaker 2>to read the whole thing, but we are going to

0:35:04.520 --> 0:35:06.800
<v Speaker 2>post I really encourage you to read the whole documents

0:35:06.880 --> 0:35:08.800
<v Speaker 2>only nine pages. But you know, the media is not

0:35:08.880 --> 0:35:11.440
<v Speaker 2>going to post this thing in their entirety. They're going

0:35:11.520 --> 0:35:15.080
<v Speaker 2>to just pull out the highlights, but read it. We'll

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:18.520
<v Speaker 2>post it in the show notes, share it. I mean,

0:35:18.600 --> 0:35:20.000
<v Speaker 2>this is the kind of thing that I'd print out

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<v Speaker 2>and highlight and bring it to every you know, every election,

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<v Speaker 2>every like, every debate, every event where you're talking about politics,

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<v Speaker 2>and just remind these legislators like, didn't you say you

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<v Speaker 2>were gonna and whatever happened to this? Because these are ideas,

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<v Speaker 2>they're not actually policies that are input And it's also

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<v Speaker 2>ain't none of that's getting done if we lose the

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<v Speaker 2>House and Senate. So don't forget to vote down the

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<v Speaker 2>ballot as well. When you guys show up an election date,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not just about the president. It's about who we're

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<v Speaker 2>electing into the House in Congress. And it's looking tight.

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<v Speaker 2>It's looking very tight for Democrats right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I told myself, I'm like, I'm not, I'm not. I'm invested,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm not as viscerally did as I was the

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<v Speaker 1>first because it I mean, I almost lost my mind

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<v Speaker 1>because remember it wasn't until like January, well even January

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<v Speaker 1>we had you know, the the insurrection. It was a

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<v Speaker 1>my heart, didn't I don't think I calmed down till March,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, yeah, I'm just gonna do my part,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know if I'm going to do my

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<v Speaker 1>part in this. Like the social media component of it

0:36:21.440 --> 0:36:23.839
<v Speaker 1>all was too much. So I've been like I did

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<v Speaker 1>my baby toe in, read a little bit of something

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<v Speaker 1>and did back out because it's just Chad like they

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<v Speaker 1>want to stretch us the hell out with this election,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just it was like I got to protect

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<v Speaker 1>my mental health while also trying to help to save

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<v Speaker 1>the free world.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. Well, I think Brown Ambition like this is what

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<v Speaker 2>we're this is the perfect platform for us to just

0:36:40.680 --> 0:36:42.880
<v Speaker 2>sit here and let's just like calmly read through some

0:36:43.080 --> 0:36:47.279
<v Speaker 2>ideas and you know, and that's what I think. At

0:36:47.280 --> 0:36:50.440
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day. It's all this heightened emotional

0:36:50.600 --> 0:36:52.919
<v Speaker 2>element like that it's what they want you to feel.

0:36:52.960 --> 0:36:55.279
<v Speaker 2>But let's just like get down to the nitty gritty. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so Ba fam, let us know how you're feeling about

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<v Speaker 2>the election. Don't forget to go to Brown Ambition pod

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<v Speaker 2>dot com and fill out our annual our annual brandnabish

0:37:05.320 --> 0:37:08.000
<v Speaker 2>and listener survey because I ask all, well, we ask

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:10.680
<v Speaker 2>all kinds of questions about where you're at what issues

0:37:10.719 --> 0:37:13.319
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0:37:13.360 --> 0:37:19.640
<v Speaker 2>you as well. Break I'm going to do a boost

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<v Speaker 2>and it's I know, man, where's the book? I guess

0:37:22.560 --> 0:37:24.239
<v Speaker 2>I keep carrying this book up and down the stairs.

0:37:24.280 --> 0:37:26.600
<v Speaker 2>I can't find it. But I've been reading this really

0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:30.120
<v Speaker 2>incredible book, and I'm it's one of the books that's

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<v Speaker 2>there's like three books recently that have changed my that

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<v Speaker 2>have been like deeply helpful to me. One of them

0:37:36.239 --> 0:37:38.480
<v Speaker 2>was Attached that we talked about before. The second one

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<v Speaker 2>was a book called Borderline by my new therapist Alex

0:37:41.920 --> 0:37:43.520
<v Speaker 2>because yes, I read his book and I was like,

0:37:43.880 --> 0:37:46.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm making that man my therapist because I found out

0:37:46.080 --> 0:37:48.080
<v Speaker 2>he's local to me, and so now he is, and

0:37:48.120 --> 0:37:50.200
<v Speaker 2>that's why I got to go in two minutes. The

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<v Speaker 2>third one is Boy Mom and Reimagining parent I think

0:37:55.120 --> 0:37:57.320
<v Speaker 2>it's reimagining parenting in the Age of Me Too or

0:37:57.480 --> 0:38:00.439
<v Speaker 2>something like that. And it's by this author called Ruth

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<v Speaker 2>who's a British lady, but she lives in California or

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:07.320
<v Speaker 2>the West Coast somewhere. And if you're a parent of boys,

0:38:07.640 --> 0:38:10.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't I say parent, but mother, father, whatever, guardian

0:38:10.800 --> 0:38:14.120
<v Speaker 2>of boys it's a really it's like it is the

0:38:14.200 --> 0:38:17.400
<v Speaker 2>answer to every little anxiety or fear that I have

0:38:17.640 --> 0:38:19.800
<v Speaker 2>raising boys in the society and just feeling like this

0:38:19.960 --> 0:38:25.560
<v Speaker 2>huge responsibility to create good men who are compassionate and

0:38:25.680 --> 0:38:29.840
<v Speaker 2>empathetic and you know, changing the idea of masculinity. So

0:38:29.920 --> 0:38:33.360
<v Speaker 2>it's not it moves away from toxicity and to like

0:38:33.560 --> 0:38:36.160
<v Speaker 2>just a better place so that they can, yeah, just

0:38:36.239 --> 0:38:40.000
<v Speaker 2>bring love and joy and yes, strengths and all those

0:38:40.120 --> 0:38:43.560
<v Speaker 2>great things to their communities, but just in a different way.

0:38:43.640 --> 0:38:46.719
<v Speaker 2>So she uses all kinds of research and data. I mean,

0:38:46.840 --> 0:38:50.160
<v Speaker 2>she travels across the country, she goes to she really

0:38:50.200 --> 0:38:54.120
<v Speaker 2>gets on the ground with communities and organizations that are

0:38:54.239 --> 0:38:57.200
<v Speaker 2>making sure that little boys are getting off the phone

0:38:57.400 --> 0:39:01.439
<v Speaker 2>and building friendships and building relationship And for me, data

0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:05.279
<v Speaker 2>is everything. I love research. And she really blows up

0:39:05.600 --> 0:39:08.799
<v Speaker 2>myths around is it the phone or is it lack

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:12.160
<v Speaker 2>of social engagement that hurts boys? What does turn boys

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<v Speaker 2>into you know, school shooters or drives them to have

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<v Speaker 2>the highest suicide rates?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>And what happens to boys who are accused of sexual

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<v Speaker 2>assault in school because they don't understand consent? And like

0:39:24.600 --> 0:39:29.200
<v Speaker 2>all of these really like hot button issues. Highly recommend

0:39:29.239 --> 0:39:32.360
<v Speaker 2>it again. It's called boy Mom and it's by Ruth Whitman.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, real quick, I'm going to just do a break.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just got a I was like, I got

0:39:39.000 --> 0:39:41.239
<v Speaker 1>a Treasury check in the mail from the eye of

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:42.480
<v Speaker 1>the r of the s And I was like, what

0:39:42.640 --> 0:39:45.960
<v Speaker 1>is this I want? It was a refund and I

0:39:46.120 --> 0:39:49.560
<v Speaker 1>was like, but it said Tiffany Alice and Jorelle Smith.

0:39:49.960 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I'm so annoyed because you know,

0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:54.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't think people realize even after your partner passes away,

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:58.120
<v Speaker 1>so many legal things still come in the mail regarding

0:39:58.200 --> 0:40:01.120
<v Speaker 1>both of y'all. So I'm looking at at it and

0:40:01.480 --> 0:40:03.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm realizing, like, because last time I checked, like this

0:40:04.000 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 1>came in the mail, took it to the bank. The

0:40:05.640 --> 0:40:08.600
<v Speaker 1>bank said, oh no, your partner also has to sign.

0:40:08.640 --> 0:40:11.800
<v Speaker 1>I said, he's dead. The hell I I brought everything

0:40:11.840 --> 0:40:14.280
<v Speaker 1>with us like, and they give me such a hard time,

0:40:14.880 --> 0:40:17.680
<v Speaker 1>even though I have an estate like you could open

0:40:17.800 --> 0:40:19.840
<v Speaker 1>up in a state account like for things like this,

0:40:20.040 --> 0:40:23.200
<v Speaker 1>and it was Wells Fargo, and they gave me such

0:40:23.200 --> 0:40:26.760
<v Speaker 1>a hard time. But the saving grace was when Dorella

0:40:26.840 --> 0:40:31.600
<v Speaker 1>was alive, we had a joint Wells Fargo account, and

0:40:32.480 --> 0:40:34.520
<v Speaker 1>like our Bill's account was joined and I just never

0:40:34.600 --> 0:40:35.960
<v Speaker 1>closed it, you know, and I never even thought to

0:40:36.000 --> 0:40:39.040
<v Speaker 1>take his name off. And I was like, well, they said,

0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:41.360
<v Speaker 1>he said, either they have to sign it or you.

0:40:41.600 --> 0:40:43.839
<v Speaker 1>It has to go an account that both of y'all

0:40:43.840 --> 0:40:46.080
<v Speaker 1>are on. I'm like, well, I have a joint Bill's account.

0:40:46.080 --> 0:40:48.480
<v Speaker 1>They're like, okay, but can you imagine that that is

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<v Speaker 1>more legal to have a joint account with someone who's

0:40:51.560 --> 0:40:55.120
<v Speaker 1>no longer here. But girl, whatever, I deposited it. And

0:40:55.280 --> 0:40:57.640
<v Speaker 1>so this check. And I say all this to say like,

0:40:57.920 --> 0:40:59.520
<v Speaker 1>if you have a partner and you don't have at

0:40:59.600 --> 0:41:01.960
<v Speaker 1>least onejoint account, even if you don't use it, please

0:41:02.040 --> 0:41:04.600
<v Speaker 1>do because things like this is so annoying. Because I

0:41:04.719 --> 0:41:07.440
<v Speaker 1>looked on this check. This was from a refund check

0:41:07.480 --> 0:41:09.839
<v Speaker 1>from twenty eighteen, so obviously the IRS is just now

0:41:09.920 --> 0:41:14.120
<v Speaker 1>going through taxes, so this is a refund, so meaning

0:41:14.239 --> 0:41:16.600
<v Speaker 1>that their IRS is not going to reissue me likely

0:41:16.920 --> 0:41:19.080
<v Speaker 1>a check because essentially it is for Drell and I

0:41:19.160 --> 0:41:21.799
<v Speaker 1>because we were married, we filed jointly. Because this is like, oh,

0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:23.680
<v Speaker 1>here's your money from twenty eighteen. So I just say

0:41:23.680 --> 0:41:25.600
<v Speaker 1>all that to say, I'm just so grateful for our

0:41:25.680 --> 0:41:27.880
<v Speaker 1>joint savings and our joint checking that I still have,

0:41:28.400 --> 0:41:32.239
<v Speaker 1>not likely keep forever because if checks come ten years late,

0:41:32.440 --> 0:41:34.000
<v Speaker 1>I want to still be able to access because it's

0:41:34.000 --> 0:41:35.959
<v Speaker 1>not a little bit of money. So that's my little

0:41:36.000 --> 0:41:39.200
<v Speaker 1>brown break, but just a reminder of like some of

0:41:39.239 --> 0:41:41.479
<v Speaker 1>the things to do now that if some gon forbid

0:41:41.480 --> 0:41:44.120
<v Speaker 1>substing should happen later, you still have the ability to

0:41:44.440 --> 0:41:45.520
<v Speaker 1>access stuff with your person.

0:41:45.680 --> 0:41:48.400
<v Speaker 2>So it's so stuff you never think about. Girl, I

0:41:48.440 --> 0:41:50.360
<v Speaker 2>don't even know if I mean, I think enriy K

0:41:50.600 --> 0:41:53.120
<v Speaker 2>just has my login for our account that I say

0:41:53.239 --> 0:41:55.759
<v Speaker 2>is joint. I don't know I should look into that.

0:41:55.920 --> 0:41:58.279
<v Speaker 1>No, you've having literally like a joint account when both

0:41:58.280 --> 0:41:59.600
<v Speaker 1>of your names are on it. I don't care if

0:41:59.600 --> 0:42:02.319
<v Speaker 1>you have ten dollars in there, just so if something

0:42:02.360 --> 0:42:03.879
<v Speaker 1>were to happen. Number one and this is my last

0:42:03.880 --> 0:42:05.120
<v Speaker 1>because I know you got to jump, is that. I

0:42:05.200 --> 0:42:07.600
<v Speaker 1>remember what as soon as Joe passed away, my financial

0:42:07.600 --> 0:42:10.839
<v Speaker 1>advisor was like transfer he had his own I knew

0:42:10.880 --> 0:42:13.080
<v Speaker 1>I had login for his personal accounts too. I was

0:42:13.120 --> 0:42:16.239
<v Speaker 1>able to transfer his money to our joint accounts. So

0:42:16.360 --> 0:42:18.120
<v Speaker 1>that because the bank is going to freeze everything and

0:42:18.120 --> 0:42:20.320
<v Speaker 1>give you so much trouble, and they're so dumb that

0:42:20.400 --> 0:42:22.200
<v Speaker 1>it's like, no matter how much paperwork you bring, it's

0:42:22.280 --> 0:42:24.480
<v Speaker 1>just such an issue. So I was able to because

0:42:24.520 --> 0:42:26.440
<v Speaker 1>I you know, you can go from a Drarell account

0:42:26.440 --> 0:42:28.400
<v Speaker 1>to a Drell and Tiffany account easily. So I was

0:42:28.440 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>able to do that, hold that money there and not

0:42:31.560 --> 0:42:33.359
<v Speaker 1>have to fight with that months and months and months

0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:34.880
<v Speaker 1>that it get access to money that I start to

0:42:34.880 --> 0:42:37.760
<v Speaker 1>have access to. So having at least one joint account

0:42:37.840 --> 0:42:40.359
<v Speaker 1>with your person, with your partner, especially if you're married,

0:42:40.400 --> 0:42:42.120
<v Speaker 1>even if you're not married, and mean, like I said,

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:44.080
<v Speaker 1>even if you just keep ten dollars for just worst

0:42:44.120 --> 0:42:46.600
<v Speaker 1>case scenario, a savings and a checking. And so I'm

0:42:46.640 --> 0:42:48.840
<v Speaker 1>grateful for that. So I don't have to battle with

0:42:48.880 --> 0:42:51.200
<v Speaker 1>the irs, which I'm probably not gonna win, and I'll

0:42:51.239 --> 0:42:53.120
<v Speaker 1>have to bury the Bank of America, which I'm definitely.

0:42:52.840 --> 0:42:54.160
<v Speaker 2>Not probably can't even get them on the phone if

0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:56.600
<v Speaker 2>you try. Okay, I'm gonna try my mail. I want

0:42:56.640 --> 0:42:58.680
<v Speaker 2>a refund. I should get a refund soon, not my.

0:42:58.800 --> 0:43:00.279
<v Speaker 1>Six year old check coming in mail.

0:43:00.320 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 2>They're like, girl, you made no interest on that either. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all until Friday.

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