1 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. We're black, We're blah blah 2 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:20,479 Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah buh buh b brown, ambition and. 3 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 2: Ambition, ambition, ambishing. 4 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:26,800 Speaker 1: Hey a Manda, how you holling? 5 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 2: I'm all right. I had a long, lovely long weekend. 6 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: What about you? 7 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: You went a little upstate? 8 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: I did. By the time this came out comes out, 9 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 1: it will be my birthday? Is your birthday? It's your 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: birthday October sixteenth, the big four or five? Yeah, I 11 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 1: know it's not crazy. I'm like, forty five? What the hell? 12 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: Who's that? Oh my god, it sounds bananas. Like my 13 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: sixteen year old self is like you, oh well, she's 14 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: like she said hey, because she hasn't figured out her 15 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:02,279 Speaker 1: brows yet. 16 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 2: Ain't nothing but a number. Well, how are you feeling about? 17 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:08,680 Speaker 1: Yeah? 18 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 2: I mean forty five? Like, how are you feeling? 19 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: I don't know. Here's the thing. I don't feel forty 20 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: five whatever that means. I feel grown and you know 21 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like I do feel like a full 22 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: fledged adult, like. 23 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 2: I think, you know, likes and it happens. Okay, I know. 24 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: I want to say it was like my mid to 25 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 1: late thirties when like I made the transition to like, oh, 26 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: I actually feel grown. For the longest time, I still 27 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: felt like my second gradeself, like girl, why do they 28 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: let me drive? But no, no, I feel like an adult. 29 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: And I will say for me, I know for a 30 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,320 Speaker 1: lot of people's birthdays kind of represent kind of like 31 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: what you haven't done. Oh, I wish I would have 32 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: done this. I wish I have to say by the 33 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: time I hit forty, I could look around and say 34 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: kind of like if I look at my journal and 35 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: then had like my big dreams written down, for the 36 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: most part, achieve those things, so my birthdays don't come 37 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: with it. What I haven't done is kind of like 38 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:08,239 Speaker 1: what the hell how did I get here? So I 39 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:10,919 Speaker 1: don't know. They're time for reflection in a good way. 40 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't feel a sense of like, oh man, 41 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: I thought by this age i'd be data. I want 42 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: to say I stopped that by forty. 43 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:20,399 Speaker 2: Mmm, that's good. 44 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: I mean. 45 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 2: Just once day. I don't wait. I don't wait to 46 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:26,959 Speaker 2: I don't wait just once a year to do that 47 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 2: once a day the way that I'm like, dang, I 48 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 2: wish I would washed those dishes last night. I wish 49 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 2: I would have put my clothes in the dryer like 50 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:37,679 Speaker 2: I meant to you last night. Now I got to 51 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 2: rewash them. 52 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,359 Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna lie. I gotta get back like 53 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,799 Speaker 1: in the cause they do say like especially now like 54 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 1: I have to start lifting weights again. I used to, like, 55 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:47,679 Speaker 1: you know, do weight training and not even for like 56 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: the you know, so you could be all tight and slim, 57 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: because you know, I'm entering into this perymenopause. I still 58 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: get my cycle. Sorry man, So I guess I don't know. 59 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: I think you can still get your take on Perry. 60 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm still but I do know that the 61 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 1: older you get, you really are supposed to build muscle 62 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: and it helps with like osteoporosis. So you know, I've 63 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: just been like mindfula tiphany. Honestly, you need to hit 64 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,799 Speaker 1: the gym and like do more weight training because I'm 65 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: just entering into this age where you know, like if 66 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: you don't, you really put your just your general health 67 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 1: at risk. I'm like, I know what osteoporosis. 68 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 2: You know, listen, good, look it sucks. It's not fun. 69 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 2: I've been I think I hit like the two month 70 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 2: mark with my trainer, Gary Awa. I said his name 71 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 2: out loud. He doesn't deserve that free press. 72 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: Why do we love hate? Our Trainers're like, I hate, 73 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: but thank you. 74 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 2: What a terrible job. I don't know why a trainer 75 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 2: trains like no one's happy to see you, you know. 76 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 2: And it's not like he's training like elite athletes. He's 77 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 2: here in the suburbs, training like busy moms, and he 78 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 2: like he. And also what I like about my trainer 79 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 2: is that like we're kind of rude to each other, 80 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 2: like I don't have to like you're gonna see me 81 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 2: at six thirty before coffee, like I'm not giving you. 82 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: I'm not giving you, And it's like a dentist thankless. 83 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, so you feel you feel skinny of your pants 84 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 2: fitting looser, I'm like, I'm here, okay, that's the only question, 85 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 2: no questions. But I don't feel like physically that like 86 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 2: I've had that big transformation but obviously so much stronger, 87 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 2: like that is definitely the benefit. But then today I 88 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 2: was like, god, damn, I'm just gonna have to do 89 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 2: this three days a week forever. When does it stop? 90 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 2: I know, But you're a good reminder of why I'm 91 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 2: doing it now. Yeah, to prepare myself. 92 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: No and a good way. 93 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 2: Sorry. The tone was not giving what my brain. 94 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: No. 95 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 2: I just mean like, you know, start small, like start 96 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:03,159 Speaker 2: building these abbits early. But the way that I desperately 97 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 2: want to stop, I'm just like three, I've been doing 98 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 2: it three days a week and I think. I think 99 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 2: I'm just tired, tired of waking up. And I don't 100 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. Something's got to I 101 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 2: don't want to. I don't want to quit, but my 102 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 2: body is like, m can we have a little woos off? 103 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 2: And so I don't know what the right balance. 104 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like that's the point where you actually have 105 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: to push past. I can know it is, and I 106 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: mean as someone who girl, Remember I was on my 107 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: jump rope craze until my knees were like who and 108 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: I thought I had authoritis you know, Arthur and idis 109 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: at each of my knees. The doctor was like, girl, no, 110 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: you just need to exercise. Because my nise was like, 111 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: oh my niece is giving up and She's like yeah, 112 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 1: like basically I have to strengthen the then the the 113 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 1: you know, the muscle around my knees, and I'm like so. 114 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: Then I was walking a lot and honestly, I still 115 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: really do love walking. I just have not hit the 116 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: road jack like I've had before. And honestly, walking is 117 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: still not weight training, and I know that like I 118 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 1: need to wait train. It doesn't even have to be 119 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: weight to weights. It could just be your own body. 120 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:09,040 Speaker 1: So that's like the stage I'm mentoring into. You know, 121 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: I'm taking all of November off, which I do now 122 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: because I learned from my therapist that November for me, 123 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: I mean I knew it, but I didn't feel it's 124 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: so triggering because that's the monster ill passed away. And 125 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:21,720 Speaker 1: so I told myself that's going to be like I'm 126 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: not going anywhere I'm traveling. I'm just going to I 127 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: almost like reclaim my health in November. Like I wanted 128 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: to do my first like drip vitamin drip. I've never 129 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: done that before. 130 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:35,040 Speaker 2: Oh, like were they actually hook you up to an 131 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 2: IV Yeah, like rich people do after their parties. 132 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: So my friend Linda does does that and she was 133 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: just like she'd gets it quarterly and she just like 134 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:48,360 Speaker 1: she just swears by it. 135 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 2: What goes in you? 136 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 3: Like, what is it? 137 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 1: You can kind of cheose, so you could do vitamin 138 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:55,600 Speaker 1: B because I tend to get a cold every November, 139 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: so I want to get see. I know I'm vitamin 140 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: D deficient maybe some bee. So I'm just these are 141 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: kind of conversations I'm going to have. Like I'm like, 142 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: okay that I'm debating whether maybe I'll join a gym. 143 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: I actually used to not mind going to the gym. 144 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: I haven't decided because also too, when it gets really 145 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: really cold, an't nobody leaving the house. But that's what 146 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: it is. 147 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 2: I think that's what it is. I think it's the 148 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 2: colder weather. I'm just like, thank god I can pre 149 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 2: warm my car. I mean, for y'all who just. 150 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: Like, how do you don't even know? Right now? I'm 151 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: during my dad, my mom's twenty five year old Mercedes 152 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: Benz like she has a bet she had a bench 153 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: twenty five years ago. 154 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 2: The millennium Benz, I'm hen of the century. 155 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: When they got that bit, it was first of all, 156 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: she has heated seats, I said, not Sylvia stunting on 157 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: the ground twenty five years ago? Do you know? She was? Yeah? 158 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: But no, because you know they hit Durrell's car, and 159 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 1: so I got the money and bought Alyssa. 160 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 2: Not your parents someone hit but not your parents. Yeah, 161 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 2: that way you said that made it seem like. 162 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: Yes, and so I used that They gave me, like, 163 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: I'm around fifteen thousand dollars and I used it to 164 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,120 Speaker 1: get a Listen's car, which is like sixteen thousand. And 165 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: so now I'm debating, and maybe you know, we could 166 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: talk about. 167 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:06,160 Speaker 2: This episode made a nice car for yourself. 168 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: I am, but I'm debating least versus by that's a 169 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: debate right now. But I mean we can talk about 170 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: it maybe the next session to talk about the pros 171 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: and cons as I make my decision because I don't 172 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: drive that much. But yeah, so I'm just November, it's 173 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: going to be like I want to get a massage, 174 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: I want to get like a routine going of an exercise, 175 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: you know, I want to sleep late. Yeah. Just it's 176 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 1: going to be like, yeah, just kind of like regain 177 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: health a month. I mean, I'm not unhealthy. I mean, 178 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,959 Speaker 1: you know, I just but I just feel like, you know, 179 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: I have to be more intentional. You know. It's not 180 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: like I'm like, oh, girl, forty five ain't what it 181 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:43,319 Speaker 1: used to be. 182 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 2: Well, it's also just like, I mean, you're holding space 183 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:47,959 Speaker 2: for your grief at the same time too. So I 184 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 2: hope that it's just that you don't have too much 185 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 2: on your to do list and that you. 186 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: Can you know, yeah, everything is very if I feel 187 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: like it, which I like. 188 00:08:57,760 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're giving yourself a soft place to land. 189 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,839 Speaker 1: And also said, I just want to feel I don't know, 190 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:05,719 Speaker 1: I feel like we're in this pivotal moment where it's like, 191 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: if you don't take care of yourself physically, it's hard 192 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: to come back harder, you know. And so I'm just 193 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:14,839 Speaker 1: like Tiffany, I'm not even I'm not trying to be 194 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: some muscle woman, which nothing's wrong with that, but I 195 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: just want to be like, oh, I've got a gentle routine, 196 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,719 Speaker 1: you know that, Like my body's in good shape. As 197 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: far as I feel strong, I can get up off 198 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: the floor without having to do the Okay, now I 199 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: roll to the side. 200 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 3: This need I got a trick shoulder, shoulder I haven't 201 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 3: got already live these days. Damn well, you looked. 202 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:43,679 Speaker 2: A real good live and in color at me a 203 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 2: live live? What do we say about our live show? 204 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 2: Our first ever? 205 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:55,079 Speaker 1: Lie? It was, first of all, I don't know what 206 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:58,599 Speaker 1: I was expecting. First of all, packed house. Okay, the 207 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: house was packed, but to sing our ba qa song 208 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: and our opening song and to have people sing it, 209 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: you know, I'm just so used to like I'm talking 210 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: about my friend Mandy, I'm talking about girl Mandy. That's 211 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: my sister Mandy. And I'm like, wait, I forgot that 212 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:14,320 Speaker 1: y'all are listening because y'all sang it along with us, 213 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, that was so real. 214 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: That was the most surreal moment for me. When people 215 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: saying like it's. 216 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 2: Time, it was like, it was so fun. Honestly, what 217 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 2: if we just took the audio from that, like fifty 218 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 2: women singing that song with us and just you said 219 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 2: as our you should true, yeah, I know you should. 220 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,839 Speaker 1: That's fun for you. No, I didn't think about that. 221 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: I love that, And because we always said we never 222 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: had like a you know, yeah, oh my god, but 223 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: it was and to meet people. 224 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 2: People flew in they really did from Savannah. God, and 225 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,719 Speaker 2: she didn't just fly from Savannah. Courtney has just been 226 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: you know, it's just really special when people will follow 227 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 2: along with the show four years. I mean it just 228 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:06,360 Speaker 2: like the way that you guys leave us comments and 229 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 2: messages on Insta like it matters, and I recognize y'all 230 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 2: like friends in my head. So to see Courtney in 231 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 2: person so cute. She was even wearing the lip bar 232 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:18,199 Speaker 2: color that I wear rich Auntie that we talked about before. 233 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 2: Everyone was just so happy to be there, and I'm 234 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 2: just I'm just I feel proud, immensely proud, and and 235 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 2: to the venue source of Knowledge bookstore in Newark. You 236 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 2: always said it was special, but I mean, I think 237 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 2: I still. I think the smell of incense is still 238 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:41,079 Speaker 2: kind of like burned. 239 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 1: I was like, all right, we getting y'all my cyluses, 240 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:49,599 Speaker 1: but it wasn't magical, yes, because I don't know that. 241 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 1: I've been to black bookstores obviously, but this is not 242 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 1: just a black bookstore, like owned by black people. It's 243 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:59,719 Speaker 1: a black book black and brown well, a black bookstore 244 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: that exclusively carries books and resources and literature focused on 245 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: black and brown people. Like I know, Mandy, you're looking 246 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: for a children's book that was like bilingual, that had Spanish. 247 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 2: And and didn't have to look far. I'm a whole 248 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 2: all of them. Yes, I was like, I never knew 249 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 2: these books existed. 250 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: Yes, the children's section alone will blow you away. So 251 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: many brown faces. You're like, all these books exist out here. 252 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:30,079 Speaker 2: Wow, it was beautiful. And to Patrese and Masani and 253 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 2: Patresea's little grand baby. He was running around. He's Rio's age, 254 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:35,680 Speaker 2: and I was just like, oh you're you're I'm adopting 255 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,839 Speaker 2: you for this evening because it just felt right to 256 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 2: have a little boy running around. 257 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: Oh, foods by Nisha. The girls were tearing Abnicia's food. 258 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yeah, it just was. 259 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: And then we have to thank Chris for Oh my god, 260 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: Chris from Popcorn Finance. 261 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 2: Yes, for if you're a podcaster and you ever need well, 262 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,839 Speaker 2: if you never need someone to fly cross country, just 263 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 2: befriend Chris and we'll just do it. He will. No, 264 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 2: but what a gem of a human being. And yeah, 265 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 2: and thank you so much Chris for like planning everything. 266 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 2: And even our producer Tanya came out. I know that 267 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:13,719 Speaker 2: she was getting some cute like she was doing some 268 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 2: Q and A in the audience to see how people 269 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,839 Speaker 2: were feeling. And I'm really glad that we got I 270 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: know that this is you know, we're nearing the end. 271 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 2: You're taking November off, so I'm just like it's just 272 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 2: cutting into our time. But but no, I'm just to 273 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,319 Speaker 2: go out like that, to have an experience like that, 274 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:33,319 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm just really really grateful that we just 275 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 2: like did it. It was very stressful, but we did it. 276 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 2: It happened, and thank you be a fan for showing up. 277 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 2: What more can what more can we say? 278 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 1: We did? 279 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 2: You guys will hear the episode? So when is that 280 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 2: gonna live? When when is that gonna Airmandy, we weren't there. 281 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,080 Speaker 2: When can we listen to it? I think we decided 282 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 2: November we'll be airing a two part yeah, two parter. 283 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 2: But it was really fun. We know, we talked a 284 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 2: lot about our personal growth, the year of the pivot 285 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:05,199 Speaker 2: when we call it the Great Pivot, the pivot, and 286 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 2: then we did some trivia, some trivia with the VF 287 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 2: that was fun. 288 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:15,200 Speaker 1: It was it was can I tell you that Tracy 289 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 1: gave me the best compliment. She was like, because you know, 290 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 1: sisters don't be listening. She was like, wait, is that 291 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: how the podcast goes? I'm like, what do you mean? 292 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: She was like, it was so great. She said something 293 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: that Mandy said about you know, you had said something 294 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:35,000 Speaker 1: about mediocrity. She said, it just touched me so much, 295 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 1: and I was like, is this is this how it goes? 296 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: She's like, what I hear I've been missing out. 297 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 2: And I know her family does not want to hear 298 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:45,520 Speaker 2: us talk. 299 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 1: They're they're missing out. Yes, she was like, honestly, she said, 300 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 1: it's one thing. Oh I'm going to my sister a 301 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: half find Andy. But She's like, honestly, I was really 302 00:14:55,040 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 1: engaged and it was really good, and she was just like, Wow, 303 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: what an amazing podcast. And Tracy's not the system that 304 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 1: compliments nice, you know, but she was like, that was amazing. 305 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: She'd let me add that to my list of podcasts. 306 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, well that's great, so I just have this. 307 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: We got Tracy approves, which is a huge approval. 308 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 2: Thank you. And your sisters showing up and I know me, 309 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 2: me and Roman were not having it, but they rolled 310 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 2: up the show was happening. 311 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 1: She's somebody signed the books. She's like, one day I'm 312 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 1: going to sign books. 313 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 2: You will, Oh my goodness. I just can't wait. She's 314 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 2: like the Malia and the Sasha of the podcast, I 315 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 2: feel like. 316 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: And Roman was just on his roebucks of rodbox girl. 317 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: I don't even know what the kids be doing. Roadblocks. 318 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 1: I couldn't tell you. 319 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 2: I could not tell you. But yeah, so look forward 320 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 2: to a two part series. We'll be airing the b 321 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 2: A live in November. All right, but we got to 322 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:54,680 Speaker 2: get into some well let's just like, I mean, like 323 00:15:54,880 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 2: one buzzy brown buzz buzzworthy news item today is future 324 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 2: vice President, future president, future black, first black female president 325 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 2: and Asian president in American history is putting out put 326 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 2: out a specific plan to basically woo black male voters 327 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 2: because I guess black men have been leaning more towards 328 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 2: the side of Trump, which I can understand sadly. 329 00:16:28,640 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 1: I can. 330 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:31,480 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not like, I don't know in your circles, Tift, 331 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 2: do you feel like with your family, cousins, neighbors, Like 332 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 2: are you hearing that in new work? Do you feel 333 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 2: like black men are just a little bit less persuaded 334 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 2: or excited about Kamala. 335 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: If I'd be honest, Well, One, I have all sisters, 336 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: our girl friends, and so I have not I don't 337 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 1: have a ton of black male friends. And I'm like 338 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: not now that Jerell's not here, so not like in 339 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 1: the normal mix where maybe his boys are talking about 340 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So because honestly, Like, my 341 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 1: closest black male friend is Cabraw, and it's different. Cabraw 342 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:08,119 Speaker 1: is gay black men, and I you know, all his 343 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: mostly his friends are gay black men, and so there's 344 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 1: a different energy. So I can also I can say 345 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 1: I'm kind of out of the loop to like what 346 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: like the average black man, not to say, you know, 347 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: if you're gay in a average but you know what 348 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 1: I mean, like like I'm just out of the loop 349 00:17:22,320 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: of like what black men in general are thinking about 350 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,399 Speaker 1: kamalos just because I just don't have them in my 351 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 1: circle as much. 352 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I feel like what I hear from 353 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 2: neighbors and extended relatives is like there's this sense of like, 354 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 2: and we should probably get someone who can speak to 355 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:47,240 Speaker 2: the black male experience on the show. But what I've 356 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:51,679 Speaker 2: felt like is that deep sense of nothing really changes 357 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:55,159 Speaker 2: for me no matter what happens. And I think unlike 358 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 2: women of color, like black women, I think there's just 359 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 2: this real sense of it doesn't matter, you know, like 360 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 2: no one's really speaking for me, no one speaking to me, 361 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 2: And so I know that there's tons of I think 362 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 2: that from both sides, there's criticism, there's excitement about this plan. 363 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 2: But I thought we could just like talk about it 364 00:18:15,119 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 2: point by point because honestly, everything in this plan, and 365 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,639 Speaker 2: this is the real thing about any kind of economic 366 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 2: plan that is put together to serve black communities, it 367 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 2: serves all of us at the end of the day. 368 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 2: But there's stuff here, like legalizing recreational marijuana at the 369 00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:32,080 Speaker 2: federal level. 370 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:36,879 Speaker 1: Opportunities for Black Americans to succeed in this new policy 371 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: because they're legalized. It's you know, it's legalized, for example 372 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:43,359 Speaker 1: in New Jersey. But that's not who has the dispensaries. 373 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 2: They're all at Where are they at in California and Colorado? 374 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 1: No? Meaning like folks who own the dispensaries are there 375 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:51,440 Speaker 1: are no? I mean it's black folks that over represent 376 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:53,920 Speaker 1: in jail for Mariana, but the dispensaries are not owned 377 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 1: by black folks, you know. 378 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 2: Oh okay mm hmm, all right, So providing but what 379 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 2: are those opportunity? So what I want to get into 380 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 2: the details. So what does that mean, like are black 381 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:07,920 Speaker 2: are they going to give like startup capital to Black 382 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 2: Americans who want to start their own dispensaries or get 383 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 2: into the business. 384 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 1: Let me see, because she does have if you go 385 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: on KamalaHarris dot com. Also like, oh my gosh, there's 386 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:23,399 Speaker 1: so many points to this. There's like expanded pathways for 387 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:25,440 Speaker 1: black men to get good paying jobs whether or not 388 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 1: they have a college degree. This, I will say, I've 389 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 1: here heard a lot from the black men that I 390 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:33,200 Speaker 1: am connected to. They're like, yo, I cannot find a 391 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,200 Speaker 1: good paying job and I do have a college degree, 392 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 1: Like it's really hard. Providing more pathways for black men 393 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:45,119 Speaker 1: to become teachers and school leaders. This one. One of 394 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 1: my friends is the CEO of a nonprofit, so I 395 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:53,920 Speaker 1: love this one. It says something about HBCUs and and 396 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 1: providing a pathway for them to have access to like 397 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: to become physicians. I think that's what I read, which 398 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: I love because my friend Micheline, she used to be 399 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: the state Treasurer of New Jersey and then she was 400 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:11,440 Speaker 1: the CEO of one of our largest hospital systems here 401 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 1: in New Jersey, and now she's the CEO of this 402 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 1: nonprofit organization. It's the number one, like I want to say, 403 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: provider of black physicians. So it's like this program think 404 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 1: of like eof you know, for those of you who 405 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: aren't familiar. Oh maybe I don't know, I don't have 406 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,199 Speaker 1: it an EOF as an economic opportunity fund. Basically, if 407 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: you are black or brown, and I wouldn't say back 408 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: or brown, but if you are struggling financially and maybe 409 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:43,639 Speaker 1: the school that you came from was like okay, but 410 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,159 Speaker 1: you want to go to school, you have all the 411 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:48,280 Speaker 1: potential in New Jersey anyway, EOF. It's kind of like 412 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 1: the bridge program between high school and college. So you 413 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: do the program in the summertime to kind of prepare 414 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 1: you for college, and then they follow you throughout college. 415 00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: They help financially, they help with tutoring, they help with 416 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 1: all the stuff. And it's so she kind of provides 417 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: this bridge program through her through the nonprofit. She's not 418 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: the owner for black physicians because oftentimes it's like they 419 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 1: have all the intelligence but none of the access, you know, like, 420 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: you know, how do I get someone to pay for 421 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:18,760 Speaker 1: lodging for me? How do I Because you know, so 422 00:21:19,280 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: black doctors are so critically important. Black maternal health is 423 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 1: more Black women die unnecessarily during childbirth because of the 424 00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:30,439 Speaker 1: lack of access to doctors that understand us. 425 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:34,479 Speaker 2: And so I feel something that parent like Kamala has 426 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 2: actually been quite vocal about, especially during her run as VP. Okay, 427 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 2: so thank goodness for just a good old PDF because 428 00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 2: these news reports. Also, it's interesting, you know how the 429 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 2: media will take something like this and the first, the 430 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 2: first sentence in their story is legalizing marijuana. But that 431 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 2: is not at all. It's number five on this five 432 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 2: point plan. So let's just break it down, okay. So 433 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:00,400 Speaker 2: the agenda from a high level is number one, providing 434 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 2: one million loans that are fully forgivable to black entrepreneurs 435 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,200 Speaker 2: and others to start a business up to twenty thousand dollars. 436 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 2: I wonder if that's on top of the fifty thousand 437 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 2: dollars loan that or grants or something. It's probably on 438 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 2: top of the fifty thousand dollars tax credit excuse me 439 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 2: that she talked about for entrepreneurs small business owners. All right, 440 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:26,440 Speaker 2: So Number two championing education, training, and mentorship programs that 441 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,760 Speaker 2: help black men get good paying jobs in high demand 442 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 2: industries and lead their communities, including pathways to become teachers. Oh, 443 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 2: we love that. Number three supporting a regulatory framework for 444 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 2: cryptocurrency and other digital assets so black men who invest 445 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 2: in and own these assets are protected. Okay, that's very 446 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 2: welcome back to that, Okay. Okay. Number four launching a 447 00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 2: national Health Equity Initiative focused on Black men that addresses 448 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:02,320 Speaker 2: sickle cell disease, diabetes, mental health, prostate cancer, and other 449 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 2: health challenges that disproportionately impact them. And number five legalizing 450 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 2: recreational marijuana and creating opportunities for Black Americans to succeed 451 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:14,800 Speaker 2: in this new industry. 452 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,920 Speaker 1: And they really goes deep. I mean, if you really 453 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 1: start to look at some of the bullet points she 454 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,399 Speaker 1: talks from. Everybody, talks about everybody, from black farmers to 455 00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:31,120 Speaker 1: expanding access to bank accounts, lending to black to help 456 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:33,600 Speaker 1: black men build wealth, and so those are kind of 457 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,960 Speaker 1: like the high level bullets. But if you really dig. 458 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:37,680 Speaker 2: Like, well, let's do that now. Yeah, that's what I 459 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 2: want to do. Okay, So which one do you want 460 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 2: to start with? Which one jumps out at you? 461 00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:45,119 Speaker 1: I would say the one that jumps out at me 462 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 1: most is this. I mean, because we talk about finances. 463 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 1: Number three supporting regulatory framework for crypto and other digital assets, Well, 464 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: I guess it's the financial component. How do we give 465 00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 1: more access to black men when it comes to dances? Okay, 466 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: it's all forgivable loan twenty thousand dollars. 467 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, okay, so it does detail. This is 468 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 2: on top of the small business tax deduction, from which 469 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,560 Speaker 2: has already been tenfold increased from five to fifty thousand dollars. 470 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 2: She says the money needed to start your own business 471 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 2: is not acceptable for many Black Americans. She's proposing a 472 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,920 Speaker 2: new initiative, a partnership with the SBA, the Small Business Administration, 473 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 2: to do those twenty thousand dollars forgivable loans to entrepreneurs 474 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 2: who have a good idea but don't have the resources, connections, 475 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:42,400 Speaker 2: or access to capital. These loans can help entrepreneurs rent 476 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:47,000 Speaker 2: office space and software to launch a cybersecurity company, pay 477 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:50,040 Speaker 2: for permitting fees, and purchase a van for a catering business. 478 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 2: All these different examples of what you can use that 479 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:56,920 Speaker 2: money for, by chair space for barbershop, by lawnmowers for 480 00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:01,119 Speaker 2: landscaping business. She'll also work with the private sector and 481 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:04,280 Speaker 2: call for additional funding to expand on proven ways to 482 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 2: break down barriers and provide financing and venture capital to 483 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:13,159 Speaker 2: entrepreneurs and small business owners in black communities, Expanding access 484 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:18,080 Speaker 2: to bank accounts and lending to help black men build wealth. 485 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 2: That's a big one because of high fees that tend 486 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,560 Speaker 2: to and again it's like, I mean, my thing with 487 00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 2: this plan is that all these things are great for everybody, 488 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 2: just like the black community in general. But it's the 489 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 2: targeting of like we're doing this for black men that 490 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 2: is like that for me, is a little bit of 491 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 2: marketing spin on policies I really benefit all of us. 492 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 2: I'm not mad at it, but it's like, great, the 493 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 2: black community in general needs access to bank accounts that 494 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 2: are not vertable with high fees, you know, so they 495 00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 2: can build credit, save invest, that kind of thing. 496 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: And someone who like taught in Newark and saw parents 497 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: come in who were like, I still go to check 498 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,119 Speaker 1: castrom because there's no bank around here, and they're losing 499 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: three four percent of their check at the check cashing place. 500 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,879 Speaker 1: So this is real for some people. Are like banks 501 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,879 Speaker 1: are everywhere, No, they're not, Just like supermarkets are not everywhere. 502 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,760 Speaker 1: There's literally places called flood deserts we can go. There's 503 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: only corner stores available. The people who live in this 504 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 1: kind of environment, it makes it very difficult to keep 505 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 1: your money, even if you are trying to live frugally 506 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:18,440 Speaker 1: because of these. 507 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, so this one the cryptocurrency thing. So this 508 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,639 Speaker 2: for me, this is for anyone who owns cryptocurrency. I 509 00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,960 Speaker 2: don't know how they would just target this for Black Americans, 510 00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 2: but cryptocurrency is unregulated right now in a large extent. 511 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,120 Speaker 2: I mean, obviously we've had like iconic crypto bros who've 512 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 2: gone to jail for defrauding investors, like sample is blank 513 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 2: man or I don't know whatever, he's in jail. But 514 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,640 Speaker 2: this does acknowledge the fact that, especially during the recession, 515 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,199 Speaker 2: I mean sorry, during the pandemic, more Black Americans we're 516 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 2: investing in crypto. 517 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:55,520 Speaker 1: Twenty percent of us own That's what it says here. 518 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: I was like, I did, honestly, I think about this 519 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,280 Speaker 1: is not praise nor say. I think about like Earnier Leisure. 520 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 1: I think about my friend Terry trade and travel. I 521 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 1: think about there was this huge uptick in which I think, 522 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: in general is good of like really getting black folks invested. 523 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:14,480 Speaker 1: There was a remember that article we talked about it. 524 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,080 Speaker 1: I thought, this huge uptick in like black people are 525 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: really investing in the market. But you know, whenever we 526 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 1: get into something, that's when lots of predators also come 527 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 1: and so I guess she's like, you know what, the 528 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:29,760 Speaker 1: fact remains that twenty percent of Black Americans are invested, 529 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:34,720 Speaker 1: which means likely in the cryptocurrency, which means the unregular, 530 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 1: unfettered access to folks who might not be as sophisticated 531 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,359 Speaker 1: as an investor, you know, because maybe they just learned 532 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: in the last couple of years, you know, Can we 533 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: put some barriers in place to protect these kind of 534 00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:52,600 Speaker 1: like newer investors. And so that's why she's like Black 535 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:55,960 Speaker 1: Americans because she's like, girl, like twenty percent, that's a lot. 536 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,199 Speaker 1: It went from hardly anybody in our community was investing 537 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:02,879 Speaker 1: to twenty percent investing in Cristo cryptocur see assets. That's tremendous. 538 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,840 Speaker 2: Like stresses me out too, because I'm like, yeah, I 539 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,240 Speaker 2: mean it is very similar to the stock market. You 540 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 2: don't know if you're going to make any wins, but 541 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,920 Speaker 2: it's like if you're going to have you know, communities 542 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,000 Speaker 2: investing in crypto but not other types of assets that 543 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,439 Speaker 2: are a bit less risky, then it's just a lot 544 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:22,400 Speaker 2: that you're gambling with. So that's good. So what caught 545 00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:26,159 Speaker 2: my eye also is the barriers to employment for black men. 546 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:30,399 Speaker 2: So this one acknowledges the fact that black men are 547 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 2: more likely to have criminal records and poor credit that 548 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,600 Speaker 2: holds them back from some jobs. So it talks about 549 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,600 Speaker 2: how she's gonna work with employers or maybe introduce legislation 550 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 2: that will require businesses to limit the use of unnecessary 551 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 2: criminal arrest histories, convictions, and credit scores and their employment decisions. 552 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:53,200 Speaker 1: You might say, well, you shouldn't have done the crime. 553 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,480 Speaker 1: Do you know what happens when you over police a place. 554 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,600 Speaker 1: If you watch your kid twenty four to seven, you're 555 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: gonna ca them so not I think because I hate 556 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 1: what I hear people say, like, well, that's what happens. 557 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 1: Black people are more more likely to be criminals. No, 558 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:13,920 Speaker 1: it's because if you've got so much policing in a place, 559 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna catch every nukle crate. I lived in an 560 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:20,120 Speaker 1: old white neighborhood. When I tell you that was going down, girl, 561 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:21,920 Speaker 1: I remember I was only talking. I was like, there 562 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 1: was a kid in middle school who used to come 563 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,640 Speaker 1: to school with liquor in his Gatorway bottle. I'm like, 564 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 1: what the hell was Ben going through? 565 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,280 Speaker 2: There's always a Ben. It's always a Bend or a 566 00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:32,680 Speaker 2: Britain you know, and. 567 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 1: Then parents literally buying alcohol for the kids because they 568 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,560 Speaker 1: could be the cool house girl, the stuff that was 569 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 1: going down in Westfield, New Jersey. But and I remember 570 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 1: just think it was this one young man, Rashid, and 571 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 1: this other man I don't know, his name was Jared. 572 00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:50,320 Speaker 1: While she was black, Jared was white. They're both selling 573 00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: weed in high school and they both got caught. But 574 00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,040 Speaker 1: Jared was white and his parents had money and Rashi's 575 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 1: I think it was from I don't know if I'm 576 00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:01,760 Speaker 1: a single mother household. She didn't, and he, you know, 577 00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:03,840 Speaker 1: I don't know that he went to jail, but juvie 578 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,240 Speaker 1: or whatever. And then some years later I was feeding 579 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,120 Speaker 1: the homeless on Thanksgiving in there he was do you 580 00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: think Jared is? Do you think he's there? So how 581 00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 1: was that? Like he's not more guilty, he had just 582 00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: more access for help and so yeah, so I'm just 583 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,400 Speaker 1: saying all that to say, like this is why the 584 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,040 Speaker 1: evening of the playing field is not about like, oh, 585 00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 1: well you shouldn't have done the crime, yes, but people 586 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,240 Speaker 1: do because they have access. 587 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,200 Speaker 2: Paid your time, Like if you paid your dues, you've 588 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 2: done your time. Like it just it never made sense 589 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,800 Speaker 2: to me and it's just like a long, long lived issue. 590 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:41,080 Speaker 2: It never made sense to me why we put people 591 00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:43,479 Speaker 2: through the criminal justice system and then spit them back 592 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:45,600 Speaker 2: out and say, well, you can't have access to any 593 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,280 Speaker 2: of these things to give you the tools to not 594 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,960 Speaker 2: go back, you know. So I'm glad to see that. 595 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 2: And I think this is also where you're seeing like 596 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:55,080 Speaker 2: her experience as a prosecutor really coming out because she's 597 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 2: been on the other side. She knows, like and I mean, 598 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,800 Speaker 2: you can talk. I know there's a lot of criticism 599 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,600 Speaker 2: of her record as a prosecutor, and it's like, at 600 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:05,920 Speaker 2: the end of the day, you know, she's there. Criminals 601 00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:08,680 Speaker 2: have done things, she puts them behind bars because that 602 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,160 Speaker 2: is her job as a prosecutor. But this is her 603 00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:13,200 Speaker 2: I think, really getting at the root of what sends 604 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 2: these people, what sends us into situations where desperate situations 605 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 2: where we are committing crimes. I thought it was cool. 606 00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:24,920 Speaker 2: I love to see that. One of her initiatives here 607 00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 2: is to incentivize businesses to do more profit sharing, like 608 00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:32,120 Speaker 2: to do more employee stock ownership plans, because for me personally, 609 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 2: that was a huge contributor to my wealth building, was 610 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 2: the fact that I had access to stocks in the 611 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:41,440 Speaker 2: companies that I worked for. Let's see, there's so much 612 00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 2: I love. The teacher one. Only one percent of public 613 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 2: school teachers are black men, so Harris wants to work 614 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 2: with HBCUs to create a pipeline. Never my pe teacher 615 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 2: in the eighth grade, ninth grade. I remember he said 616 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 2: that I was one of the hardest working girls on 617 00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,040 Speaker 2: the team because I never complained about my period. Oh 618 00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:06,680 Speaker 2: my god, not in the team. 619 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:10,120 Speaker 1: The class I had one he taught, which is crazy 620 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: African American Studies, but they only they only had like 621 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:15,240 Speaker 1: every other year or whatever, of course, because Westfield was 622 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: so white and so yeah, I can't remember his name, 623 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 1: but yes, mister Harry, mister Perry, I don't remember, but 624 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,880 Speaker 1: I think that was my first and only. 625 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 2: There's a black male teacher at Remy's daycare, and I 626 00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:33,120 Speaker 2: try not to like be weird whenever I see him. 627 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:36,680 Speaker 1: I love that. 628 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:39,840 Speaker 2: Can I talk to your mom and just congratulate her 629 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 2: on raising I'm just but that's amazing. And I love ABD. 630 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:47,520 Speaker 2: Elementary is my favorite show, and I love that episode 631 00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 2: where what's the teacher's name, Eddie? 632 00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 1: Mister Eddie, Oh, the one that everybody has Chris that 633 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:55,240 Speaker 1: character please. 634 00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:59,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's so cute anyway, where his students 635 00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,680 Speaker 2: like draw pictures of him and it's like, you know, 636 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:04,719 Speaker 2: a black male teacher and he really understands the impact 637 00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 2: that he's having and then he puts them all over 638 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:07,560 Speaker 2: his rooms. 639 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:09,400 Speaker 1: So you love that she has this thing about investing 640 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,280 Speaker 1: in programs for mentorship. One of my friends owns a 641 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:17,760 Speaker 1: company called Black Male Mental Health on IG and that 642 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:21,200 Speaker 1: is his core thing that, like, mentorship is so critical 643 00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,920 Speaker 1: for everybody, but especially black boys. And I love how 644 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 1: she even shouts out like support programs like My Brother's 645 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:31,680 Speaker 1: Keeper in HBCUs to provide more opportunities for black men 646 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,600 Speaker 1: to develop leadership skills through their development. But having a 647 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:37,480 Speaker 1: really good mentor and sponsor is really critical. 648 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,640 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I think that's all. It just all is 649 00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:45,120 Speaker 2: like let's make sure the root of these lives that 650 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,360 Speaker 2: we are creating, Like she's actually this is something that 651 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,120 Speaker 2: it's like, Oh, let's take care of the people that 652 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,360 Speaker 2: we already have and make sure that they can succeed. 653 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 2: Because I mean, all this to me is just like 654 00:33:55,520 --> 00:34:00,920 Speaker 2: adding like the right growth conditions for people to thrive. 655 00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 2: And when you help black men, you help black families, 656 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 2: you help communities, and it goes for women too, black women, 657 00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,239 Speaker 2: So this to me doesn't feel like an affront or 658 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:12,840 Speaker 2: like leaving behind women of color at all. This to 659 00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,239 Speaker 2: me just feels like great, Like let's I mean, if 660 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,359 Speaker 2: she has a plan for Asian Americans, or she had 661 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 2: a plan for you know, for LGBTQ Americans, like bring 662 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:25,799 Speaker 2: it on, because I think all these different communities could 663 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:30,360 Speaker 2: have different you know, definitely more attention and or you know, 664 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:35,280 Speaker 2: accessor or increase create a plan for Americans who are disabled, 665 00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 2: you know, like there's all sorts of communities that need support. 666 00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 2: So but I get it. I think black men and 667 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,719 Speaker 2: specifically haven't really been spoken to in a long time 668 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,880 Speaker 2: by the leaders in the country, and I'm happy to 669 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:51,440 Speaker 2: see something so specific, like let's just say it, this 670 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:52,359 Speaker 2: is for black men. 671 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:53,840 Speaker 1: So thank you. 672 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:59,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks, I was gonna say thank you, Tiffany what 673 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 2: but this was a I don't we don't have time 674 00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 2: to read the whole thing, but we are going to 675 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,800 Speaker 2: post I really encourage you to read the whole documents 676 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:08,800 Speaker 2: only nine pages. But you know, the media is not 677 00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:11,440 Speaker 2: going to post this thing in their entirety. They're going 678 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 2: to just pull out the highlights, but read it. We'll 679 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 2: post it in the show notes, share it. I mean, 680 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:20,000 Speaker 2: this is the kind of thing that I'd print out 681 00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:23,400 Speaker 2: and highlight and bring it to every you know, every election, 682 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 2: every like, every debate, every event where you're talking about politics, 683 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,400 Speaker 2: and just remind these legislators like, didn't you say you 684 00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,560 Speaker 2: were gonna and whatever happened to this? Because these are ideas, 685 00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,919 Speaker 2: they're not actually policies that are input And it's also 686 00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:37,480 Speaker 2: ain't none of that's getting done if we lose the 687 00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:41,200 Speaker 2: House and Senate. So don't forget to vote down the 688 00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,520 Speaker 2: ballot as well. When you guys show up an election date, 689 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,359 Speaker 2: it's not just about the president. It's about who we're 690 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,799 Speaker 2: electing into the House in Congress. And it's looking tight. 691 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,239 Speaker 2: It's looking very tight for Democrats right now. 692 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:56,480 Speaker 1: I told myself, I'm like, I'm not, I'm not. I'm invested, 693 00:35:56,719 --> 00:36:00,840 Speaker 1: but I'm not as viscerally did as I was the 694 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 1: first because it I mean, I almost lost my mind 695 00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 1: because remember it wasn't until like January, well even January 696 00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,880 Speaker 1: we had you know, the the insurrection. It was a 697 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,480 Speaker 1: my heart, didn't I don't think I calmed down till March, 698 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,120 Speaker 1: and I said, yeah, I'm just gonna do my part, 699 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:18,320 Speaker 1: but I don't know if I'm going to do my 700 00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,400 Speaker 1: part in this. Like the social media component of it 701 00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,839 Speaker 1: all was too much. So I've been like I did 702 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:25,560 Speaker 1: my baby toe in, read a little bit of something 703 00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:29,080 Speaker 1: and did back out because it's just Chad like they 704 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,320 Speaker 1: want to stretch us the hell out with this election, 705 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:32,800 Speaker 1: and I just it was like I got to protect 706 00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,960 Speaker 1: my mental health while also trying to help to save 707 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:35,520 Speaker 1: the free world. 708 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,440 Speaker 2: Right. Well, I think Brown Ambition like this is what 709 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:40,640 Speaker 2: we're this is the perfect platform for us to just 710 00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,880 Speaker 2: sit here and let's just like calmly read through some 711 00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 2: ideas and you know, and that's what I think. At 712 00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,440 Speaker 2: the end of the day. It's all this heightened emotional 713 00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:52,919 Speaker 2: element like that it's what they want you to feel. 714 00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,279 Speaker 2: But let's just like get down to the nitty gritty. Yeah, 715 00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,040 Speaker 2: so Ba fam, let us know how you're feeling about 716 00:36:58,040 --> 00:36:59,879 Speaker 2: the election. Don't forget to go to Brown Ambition pod 717 00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:05,319 Speaker 2: dot com and fill out our annual our annual brandnabish 718 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 2: and listener survey because I ask all, well, we ask 719 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,680 Speaker 2: all kinds of questions about where you're at what issues 720 00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,319 Speaker 2: are important to you, and we'd love to hear from 721 00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:19,640 Speaker 2: you as well. Break I'm going to do a boost 722 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:22,480 Speaker 2: and it's I know, man, where's the book? I guess 723 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,239 Speaker 2: I keep carrying this book up and down the stairs. 724 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:26,600 Speaker 2: I can't find it. But I've been reading this really 725 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:30,120 Speaker 2: incredible book, and I'm it's one of the books that's 726 00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:32,880 Speaker 2: there's like three books recently that have changed my that 727 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:36,120 Speaker 2: have been like deeply helpful to me. One of them 728 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,480 Speaker 2: was Attached that we talked about before. The second one 729 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,880 Speaker 2: was a book called Borderline by my new therapist Alex 730 00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 2: because yes, I read his book and I was like, 731 00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 2: I'm making that man my therapist because I found out 732 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,080 Speaker 2: he's local to me, and so now he is, and 733 00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 2: that's why I got to go in two minutes. The 734 00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 2: third one is Boy Mom and Reimagining parent I think 735 00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,320 Speaker 2: it's reimagining parenting in the Age of Me Too or 736 00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:00,439 Speaker 2: something like that. And it's by this author called Ruth 737 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,520 Speaker 2: who's a British lady, but she lives in California or 738 00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,320 Speaker 2: the West Coast somewhere. And if you're a parent of boys, 739 00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,720 Speaker 2: I don't I say parent, but mother, father, whatever, guardian 740 00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 2: of boys it's a really it's like it is the 741 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,400 Speaker 2: answer to every little anxiety or fear that I have 742 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:19,800 Speaker 2: raising boys in the society and just feeling like this 743 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:25,560 Speaker 2: huge responsibility to create good men who are compassionate and 744 00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:29,840 Speaker 2: empathetic and you know, changing the idea of masculinity. So 745 00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,360 Speaker 2: it's not it moves away from toxicity and to like 746 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,160 Speaker 2: just a better place so that they can, yeah, just 747 00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:40,000 Speaker 2: bring love and joy and yes, strengths and all those 748 00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:43,560 Speaker 2: great things to their communities, but just in a different way. 749 00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,719 Speaker 2: So she uses all kinds of research and data. I mean, 750 00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:50,160 Speaker 2: she travels across the country, she goes to she really 751 00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:54,120 Speaker 2: gets on the ground with communities and organizations that are 752 00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:57,200 Speaker 2: making sure that little boys are getting off the phone 753 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:01,439 Speaker 2: and building friendships and building relationship And for me, data 754 00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:05,279 Speaker 2: is everything. I love research. And she really blows up 755 00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:08,799 Speaker 2: myths around is it the phone or is it lack 756 00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,160 Speaker 2: of social engagement that hurts boys? What does turn boys 757 00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,560 Speaker 2: into you know, school shooters or drives them to have 758 00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:15,840 Speaker 2: the highest suicide rates? 759 00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:17,440 Speaker 1: You know? 760 00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,640 Speaker 2: And what happens to boys who are accused of sexual 761 00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:24,400 Speaker 2: assault in school because they don't understand consent? And like 762 00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:29,200 Speaker 2: all of these really like hot button issues. Highly recommend 763 00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:32,360 Speaker 2: it again. It's called boy Mom and it's by Ruth Whitman. 764 00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:35,920 Speaker 1: Okay, real quick, I'm going to just do a break. 765 00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,920 Speaker 1: So I just got a I was like, I got 766 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,239 Speaker 1: a Treasury check in the mail from the eye of 767 00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:42,480 Speaker 1: the r of the s And I was like, what 768 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,960 Speaker 1: is this I want? It was a refund and I 769 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,560 Speaker 1: was like, but it said Tiffany Alice and Jorelle Smith. 770 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,000 Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm so annoyed because you know, 771 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,839 Speaker 1: I don't think people realize even after your partner passes away, 772 00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,120 Speaker 1: so many legal things still come in the mail regarding 773 00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,120 Speaker 1: both of y'all. So I'm looking at at it and 774 00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:03,880 Speaker 1: I'm realizing, like, because last time I checked, like this 775 00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:05,600 Speaker 1: came in the mail, took it to the bank. The 776 00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,600 Speaker 1: bank said, oh no, your partner also has to sign. 777 00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:11,800 Speaker 1: I said, he's dead. The hell I I brought everything 778 00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:14,280 Speaker 1: with us like, and they give me such a hard time, 779 00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 1: even though I have an estate like you could open 780 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:19,840 Speaker 1: up in a state account like for things like this, 781 00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:23,200 Speaker 1: and it was Wells Fargo, and they gave me such 782 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:26,760 Speaker 1: a hard time. But the saving grace was when Dorella 783 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:31,600 Speaker 1: was alive, we had a joint Wells Fargo account, and 784 00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:34,520 Speaker 1: like our Bill's account was joined and I just never 785 00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:35,960 Speaker 1: closed it, you know, and I never even thought to 786 00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:39,040 Speaker 1: take his name off. And I was like, well, they said, 787 00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,360 Speaker 1: he said, either they have to sign it or you. 788 00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,839 Speaker 1: It has to go an account that both of y'all 789 00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:46,080 Speaker 1: are on. I'm like, well, I have a joint Bill's account. 790 00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: They're like, okay, but can you imagine that that is 791 00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:51,520 Speaker 1: more legal to have a joint account with someone who's 792 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,120 Speaker 1: no longer here. But girl, whatever, I deposited it. And 793 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,640 Speaker 1: so this check. And I say all this to say like, 794 00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:59,520 Speaker 1: if you have a partner and you don't have at 795 00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:01,960 Speaker 1: least onejoint account, even if you don't use it, please 796 00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,600 Speaker 1: do because things like this is so annoying. Because I 797 00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,440 Speaker 1: looked on this check. This was from a refund check 798 00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,839 Speaker 1: from twenty eighteen, so obviously the IRS is just now 799 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:14,120 Speaker 1: going through taxes, so this is a refund, so meaning 800 00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:16,600 Speaker 1: that their IRS is not going to reissue me likely 801 00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,080 Speaker 1: a check because essentially it is for Drell and I 802 00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:21,799 Speaker 1: because we were married, we filed jointly. Because this is like, oh, 803 00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,680 Speaker 1: here's your money from twenty eighteen. So I just say 804 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,600 Speaker 1: all that to say, I'm just so grateful for our 805 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:27,880 Speaker 1: joint savings and our joint checking that I still have, 806 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:32,239 Speaker 1: not likely keep forever because if checks come ten years late, 807 00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,000 Speaker 1: I want to still be able to access because it's 808 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:35,959 Speaker 1: not a little bit of money. So that's my little 809 00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:39,200 Speaker 1: brown break, but just a reminder of like some of 810 00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:41,479 Speaker 1: the things to do now that if some gon forbid 811 00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,120 Speaker 1: substing should happen later, you still have the ability to 812 00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:45,520 Speaker 1: access stuff with your person. 813 00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,400 Speaker 2: So it's so stuff you never think about. Girl, I 814 00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:50,360 Speaker 2: don't even know if I mean, I think enriy K 815 00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:53,120 Speaker 2: just has my login for our account that I say 816 00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,759 Speaker 2: is joint. I don't know I should look into that. 817 00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,279 Speaker 1: No, you've having literally like a joint account when both 818 00:41:58,280 --> 00:41:59,600 Speaker 1: of your names are on it. I don't care if 819 00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,319 Speaker 1: you have ten dollars in there, just so if something 820 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:03,879 Speaker 1: were to happen. Number one and this is my last 821 00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:05,120 Speaker 1: because I know you got to jump, is that. I 822 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,600 Speaker 1: remember what as soon as Joe passed away, my financial 823 00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,839 Speaker 1: advisor was like transfer he had his own I knew 824 00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,080 Speaker 1: I had login for his personal accounts too. I was 825 00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,239 Speaker 1: able to transfer his money to our joint accounts. So 826 00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,120 Speaker 1: that because the bank is going to freeze everything and 827 00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:20,320 Speaker 1: give you so much trouble, and they're so dumb that 828 00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:22,200 Speaker 1: it's like, no matter how much paperwork you bring, it's 829 00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,480 Speaker 1: just such an issue. So I was able to because 830 00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:26,440 Speaker 1: I you know, you can go from a Drarell account 831 00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:28,400 Speaker 1: to a Drell and Tiffany account easily. So I was 832 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,400 Speaker 1: able to do that, hold that money there and not 833 00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,359 Speaker 1: have to fight with that months and months and months 834 00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:34,880 Speaker 1: that it get access to money that I start to 835 00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,760 Speaker 1: have access to. So having at least one joint account 836 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,359 Speaker 1: with your person, with your partner, especially if you're married, 837 00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,120 Speaker 1: even if you're not married, and mean, like I said, 838 00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,080 Speaker 1: even if you just keep ten dollars for just worst 839 00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,600 Speaker 1: case scenario, a savings and a checking. And so I'm 840 00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,840 Speaker 1: grateful for that. So I don't have to battle with 841 00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,200 Speaker 1: the irs, which I'm probably not gonna win, and I'll 842 00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,120 Speaker 1: have to bury the Bank of America, which I'm definitely. 843 00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,160 Speaker 2: Not probably can't even get them on the phone if 844 00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:56,600 Speaker 2: you try. Okay, I'm gonna try my mail. I want 845 00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:58,680 Speaker 2: a refund. I should get a refund soon, not my. 846 00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:00,279 Speaker 1: Six year old check coming in mail. 847 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:06,279 Speaker 2: They're like, girl, you made no interest on that either. Girl. 848 00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,440 Speaker 1: All right, y'all until Friday. 849 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,800 Speaker 2: Until Friday, Thanks for listening, don't forget to leave a 850 00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,920 Speaker 2: review and then again. Brandanbission podcast dot com you can 851 00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:20,480 Speaker 2: fill out the be A Listener survey and we'll see 852 00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:21,960 Speaker 2: you guys next time. Byye