Speaker 1: Second data day. If there's a cute girl and she's
Speaker 1: on a dating app, okay, you can imagine she's probably
Speaker 1: being hit on by what a hundred guys a day? Oh,
Speaker 1: two hundred guys a day? Yea, even just not a
Speaker 1: dating app. If you're like on social media and you're cute, yeah,
Speaker 1: you probably have or just two hundred ms from Jose alone.
Speaker 1: You see it. You know it's gonna be a lot.
Speaker 1: And Jose, I mean, in your experience, how do you
Speaker 1: cut through to make yourself stand out from all the
Speaker 1: other guys? Like what do you say? You say like, oh,
Speaker 1: I think I found your wallet. No, that's actually a
Speaker 1: good idea. Yeah, I like that something that works. You're
Speaker 1: really basic. I have a blue check mark. So people
Speaker 1: just tend to be like, oh, who are you? Don't
Speaker 1: know who I am? You can just say hi, look
Speaker 1: at my blue check mark. No, I'm just like hi
Speaker 1: this wy don't you know? You're beautiful? And then most
Speaker 1: girls will go, thanks, leave me alone. Okay, so it's working. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: they respond. Apparently something worked on one of our listeners
Speaker 1: that made a guy stand out to her, and now
Speaker 1: she's on the phone with us looking to get back
Speaker 1: in touch with him. Her name's Ashley. Ashley, how are
Speaker 1: you doing? Heyam, I'm good. How are you? I think
Speaker 1: I found your wallet? By the way, would you like
Speaker 1: it back? You can keep it. I'm so curious with
Speaker 1: this guy saying to get your attention, what's his name?
Speaker 1: His name is Benjamin. We have to ask, well, I
Speaker 1: didn't meet him like on Tony, I mean him, I
Speaker 1: met him on a dating app, that's right, my bas
Speaker 1: so what did what did he do to stand out
Speaker 1: from everybody else? So basically he was talking about how like,
Speaker 1: oh I'm so beautiful, there's no ambryum, like you got
Speaker 1: to be a catfish, and so we face times like
Speaker 1: immediately it's like it's like reverse psychology. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: you want to prove to him, no, I am real.
Speaker 1: See look at my boot. Yeah that's pretty stereotypical. Yea.
Speaker 1: You feel like kind of negging you and and bating
Speaker 1: you into I don't know, basically talking day. Yeah. It's
Speaker 1: almost like being like I don't even want you to
Speaker 1: reply to this. Yeah, yeah, I guess I'm too competitive.
Speaker 1: So I was immediately like I would challenge accepted. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's crazy that you FaceTime? Yeah, what did he look
Speaker 1: like he's really cute, he's cold, he's got dark hair,
Speaker 1: blue eyes, like all the things I'm into. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: so that's good, and you know he's real too. What
Speaker 1: do you guys do for a date? We decided to
Speaker 1: go to a bar. All right. Yeah, it was great.
Speaker 1: We had a good time, but so one thing happened.
Speaker 1: It was like kind of embarrassing, but I don't think
Speaker 1: he was really upset by it. But we're sitting there
Speaker 1: talking like we've been on the date for a thirty
Speaker 1: minutes at this point, and one of my girlfriends came
Speaker 1: into the bar and she came over to say hi,
Speaker 1: and I completely forgot his name. Oh no, oh, And
Speaker 1: it's like happens when you're mid sentence. This is oh
Speaker 1: my god, and you delight. Oh man. He must have
Speaker 1: just been mortified, Like what what was his reaction? Well?
Speaker 1: I felt terrible and I was super embarrassed that he
Speaker 1: kind of laughed it off and was cool about it,
Speaker 1: and then we just like kept going and had a
Speaker 1: really good night. He was able to brush it off.
Speaker 1: You guys, he's only thirty minutes into a date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but still, it's just a shot to the ego. I know,
Speaker 1: like I totally gived, but honestly, like he's the one
Speaker 1: that brought it up later in the date, like joking around. Okay,
Speaker 1: everyone was like he wait, what's your name? Again? Not
Speaker 1: passive aggressive, two really old people at breakfast, like what's
Speaker 1: your name? Who are you? He's been serious, He's like, no,
Speaker 1: what time is it? I don't know. I guess that's
Speaker 1: romantic in away? Is that how you felt about it?
Speaker 1: I was really embarrassed at first, but then like he
Speaker 1: made me feel more comfortable and he, like I said,
Speaker 1: he poked on at it later in the date, and
Speaker 1: so I felt like it was fine. Yeah, because like
Speaker 1: I know, like I know, the rest of the date
Speaker 1: went well because after the day we left and we
Speaker 1: walked around for a little bit and then he called
Speaker 1: an aber for me, and like literally right as I
Speaker 1: was like welcome to the uber and like this is
Speaker 1: gonna sound so corny and so cheesy, and I know it,
Speaker 1: but I swear it happened. I was looking up and
Speaker 1: it's like the clouds was just kind of cleared away
Speaker 1: and like you could see like the stars. So it
Speaker 1: was like super sweet and romantic, and like right then
Speaker 1: is when he went in and kissed me good night,
Speaker 1: oh buddy, and you like thanks Dylan, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Well thank god I didn't call him that name, like
Speaker 1: that would have been even more affairit thing. All right,
Speaker 1: that's sweet. I mean, like you have this sweet moment,
Speaker 1: you already have an inside joke together, Like you sound connected.
Speaker 1: I'm guessing you were totally expecting to call back from him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so like we've been texting and like I've been
Speaker 1: very slurty with my text and like obviously like dropping
Speaker 1: his tense. Hey, I'm definitely interested, but like he hasn't
Speaker 1: been as kind of talkative back with his text and
Speaker 1: he hasn't called me or asked me for another date.
Speaker 1: And it's been a week now. Are you missing any
Speaker 1: teeth you could have felt with his tongue while he
Speaker 1: was in there and he wouldn't notice that earlier. Well
Speaker 1: it could be in the back brook Okay, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I thought you were a catfish. You didn't have
Speaker 1: any teeth. Us. I have all of my teeth. Thank
Speaker 1: you got to the bottom of that mystery. I think
Speaker 1: he may have met somebody else or something. Maybe it
Speaker 1: was Ashley's friend that she was introduced to Oh, go
Speaker 1: to her, Dude, I definitely want to get that tea.
Speaker 1: If that's the case. Yeah, let's find down. I'm going
Speaker 1: to play a song, will come back. We're gonna call
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Speaker 1: We're talking with one of our listeners, Ashley, who's worried
Speaker 1: that maybe her date Benjamin is ghosting her because she
Speaker 1: accidentally blanked on his name thirty minutes into their first day.
Speaker 1: And Ashley, I know that makes you feel bad and
Speaker 1: probably kind of embarrassed, but if it's any consolation, Brooke
Speaker 1: has gone to bed with hundreds of men without ever
Speaker 1: knowing their names, So you're in really good company right now,
Speaker 1: ash I just didn't think it was that important. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, that's not why I was there, so save
Speaker 1: that for more useful information. Anyway, Benjamin was a really
Speaker 1: good sport about it, and they even had a kiss
Speaker 1: at the very end of the night as the clouds
Speaker 1: parted and the stars came out, which is why it's
Speaker 1: such a mystery why Benjamin has been kind of avoiding her,
Speaker 1: still texting, but not asking her out on another date.
Speaker 1: So we're going to help he figure out the reason
Speaker 1: why that would be awesome. Yeah, I mean I'm just
Speaker 1: worried that. I mean, he just almost sounds like too smooth.
Speaker 1: Like that's why I think that maybe there's somebody I'll
Speaker 1: always talking about a few girls exactly, like it's just
Speaker 1: like it's too good. We'll see. I'm gonna dial Benjamin's
Speaker 1: number right now, though, and we're going to try and
Speaker 1: get you your second date Update. Are you ready? Oh gosh,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yes, okay, yes, you're ready. You're ready?
Speaker 1: This will be good. Okay, are you sure because we
Speaker 1: don't have to do this? No, no, no no, do it? Okay,
Speaker 1: just like all right before here we go. I'm down
Speaker 1: on the number right now. Hello, Hey, is this Benjamin?
Speaker 1: This Benjamin? Who's this? My name's Jeff from the radio
Speaker 1: show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. What are you
Speaker 1: talking about? Radio? It's a form of entertainment that a
Speaker 1: lot of people listen to and we do a morning
Speaker 1: show on it. And one thing that we do on
Speaker 1: our show is this segment called a second Date Update.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, y'all like a podcast, right, yeah. If
Speaker 1: that makes it easier for you to understand than sure, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's but something that we do on this radio podcasts. Yeah,
Speaker 1: is we help our listeners reach out to people that
Speaker 1: they've been on a date with when they can't get
Speaker 1: back in touch with them. Okay, and you went out
Speaker 1: with a woman recently, Ashley. Yeah, absolutely, Ashley. That sounds
Speaker 1: like a good memory that just popped into your head.
Speaker 1: Of Ashley. We spoke to Ashley about you, and there
Speaker 1: were some pretty positive reviews. She says, you're a really
Speaker 1: nice guy, attractive and kind of a smooth talker. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I could be a leagues killer. Oh yeah, did you
Speaker 1: like Ashley a lot um? In the words of Shakespeare,
Speaker 1: I would say it was the best of times and
Speaker 1: the worst of times. Oh I don't think that was Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was a far reach, you know, but you ended
Speaker 1: up going out. You must have had a good time
Speaker 1: on the date then, right, it without a doubt, man,
Speaker 1: I had a blast, you know even I even loved
Speaker 1: the part when she almost forgot my name like thirty
Speaker 1: minutes into the date. Didn't bother you, no, I mean, hey, like,
Speaker 1: you know, just were meeting people. It's not like how
Speaker 1: it used to be, just like speed dating on steroids. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the vibe is very chill. You seem very positive about everything,
Speaker 1: so I guess I'm a little bit confused why you're
Speaker 1: not talking to Ashley anymore? All right, So here's the
Speaker 1: worst of times. Okay. So she let me know where
Speaker 1: she worked at. So two days after I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm gonna pop up on her with
Speaker 1: some roses at work. So when I went to our
Speaker 1: office talk to the receptionist, she said, yeah, are you Dave?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, I am not Dave. Wait is
Speaker 1: this a joke that she's playing because she's gotten through
Speaker 1: the wrong name on your date too. But it was
Speaker 1: a receptionist that said this. So then then she went
Speaker 1: to go check and then she said, oh yeah, she
Speaker 1: already went to lunch with Dave already. Oh wow, so
Speaker 1: she had a lunch date with Dave. Yeah, And then
Speaker 1: the receptionists had this weird looked on her face, like
Speaker 1: kind of like she didn't want to tell me that
Speaker 1: obviously you're like standing there holding flowers, but you're not
Speaker 1: in a relationship, like you're both open and free to
Speaker 1: date right now. After a cletely amazing date like that,
Speaker 1: she's the only woman on my mind. I can't like,
Speaker 1: you know, for twenty four hours later, she's on another
Speaker 1: date with another Do you that, like, Yeah, that's crazy
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, I mean I don't know, Like it's
Speaker 1: like she could have had it planned way before. You
Speaker 1: don't really like it sounds like a boyfriend thing to
Speaker 1: take it up to lunch them. Do you think it's
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. I think it sounds like she just had
Speaker 1: another lunch date. She's like dating right now. Well, let's
Speaker 1: just ask her then, because Benjamin, I gotta let you
Speaker 1: know that Ashley has been on the other line listening
Speaker 1: this entire time. She wants to talk to you. What. Yeah, Ashley,
Speaker 1: you there. Oh I'm so embarrassed. Oh why are you embarrassed?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, benj them Like, I
Speaker 1: just want you to know that I did feel the
Speaker 1: same way, like accardy, you were the only man on
Speaker 1: my mind too. So so who's Dave. Yeah, Like, he's
Speaker 1: not my boyfriend, there's nothing serious. He's just a guy.
Speaker 1: Like I just I wish you would have told me
Speaker 1: that you were coming, Ashley, to be honest. That's not
Speaker 1: good enough, man, And you gotta be a little bit
Speaker 1: more honest and upfront if you know you want to
Speaker 1: move forward or hang out with me. I mean, actually
Speaker 1: you're saying two different things. You're saying after the date,
Speaker 1: I had no other guy in mind, and then literally
Speaker 1: the next day you're with another guy twenty four hours later.
Speaker 1: I am sorry. All of you need to get off
Speaker 1: of her back. Okay. When I met my husband, I
Speaker 1: was like seeing other dudes. I was hanging out with
Speaker 1: an ex because I had another date on the side,
Speaker 1: and like, you know, telling your husband you're the only
Speaker 1: guy that I'm thinking about right now on the very
Speaker 1: first date. No, I wasn't telling him that. Brook. She's
Speaker 1: saying that to us right now. She's saying that Benjamin
Speaker 1: is the only person that I want to see, but
Speaker 1: I also want to see Dave. Yeah, but you can
Speaker 1: actually be out on a date with Dave and still
Speaker 1: be thinking about Benjamin, like maybe it was already planned. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you could be right. The only way to
Speaker 1: know is by asking Ashley, Hey, who is Dave? What
Speaker 1: is his relationship? See just another guy that you're also
Speaker 1: seeing or is there something more? Have you guys hooked up?
Speaker 1: You don't have to get that far, but is it romantic?
Speaker 1: You know what? I don't want to go into all
Speaker 1: kind of details about I will just tell you this
Speaker 1: and like, seas, do you not over react? But he's
Speaker 1: just sugar daddy, Like what that's all good? Okay, now
Speaker 1: it makes sense. I was worried this was a big deal. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so we're fine, okay, but listen, I just like Benjamin,
Speaker 1: like please just listening for a second. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like y'all are not getting right image of what this is.
Speaker 1: Like he to like stuff like that, like nothing else.
Speaker 1: That's literally the extent of our relationship. Like you know
Speaker 1: more about me in the one date that we have
Speaker 1: than he does, and we have like you and I
Speaker 1: have a real connection, all right, So like so he
Speaker 1: does all that nice stuff for you, and but do
Speaker 1: y'all do anything more than it or any more stuff?
Speaker 1: I just I feel like we're getting really far away
Speaker 1: from it. And the point is that, like I care
Speaker 1: about you. Oh I want an answer to that, Oh
Speaker 1: you don't. We don't need an answer, sugar daddy for free.
Speaker 1: But you can stop the sugar daddy and can't you
Speaker 1: can't you just like cut her off. I'm saying she
Speaker 1: could just end that and then she could be into
Speaker 1: relationship with you, Benjamin. She made a mistake going to
Speaker 1: a no sugar dating diet. You guys are making such
Speaker 1: a huge deal of this, and it's like it's not
Speaker 1: a big deal. All of my friends have these, and
Speaker 1: like it's expensive being a single woman paying for is
Speaker 1: women can't have it all. It's not like you, like,
Speaker 1: we can have somebody that we care about, and we
Speaker 1: can have somebody that pays our bills. I wish I
Speaker 1: could have that. Okay, So what you would keep the
Speaker 1: sugar daddy and you would get you'd have it all.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, we can do that. Well, what do
Speaker 1: you think about the idea of Benjamin giving you both
Speaker 1: just splitting them into two people. Benjamin can be the
Speaker 1: guy that gives you things and is also romantically connected
Speaker 1: to you at the same time like a boyfriend. Let's
Speaker 1: not get too crazy. Can you do that? Like that's
Speaker 1: a lot for one person? What do you think? I
Speaker 1: just think for me, I feel like it's her loss.
Speaker 1: You know why, because for one, I make good money.
Speaker 1: I'm a millionaire. Oh. Second point is that the first
Speaker 1: gesture I did anything nice to you to show my
Speaker 1: my romance or my positive affirmations towards you, I come
Speaker 1: to your job you with a whole Another dude, I
Speaker 1: learned on this phone call that's your sugar daddy. I'm
Speaker 1: okay at all I heard was that he's a millionaire,
Speaker 1: and then my eyes went completely blank. And I don't
Speaker 1: know how Ashley feels about it. Ashley, what do you
Speaker 1: think now, knowing that he is an extremely successful, extremely
Speaker 1: rich guy that's also of smooth talker, would you want
Speaker 1: to see him again? And we would pay for that date?
Speaker 1: I mean, I just feel like that like solves all
Speaker 1: of our problems. Like I feel like we don't really
Speaker 1: have a problem here, Like, oh no, actually I think
Speaker 1: I think a good paying job for yourself and being
Speaker 1: an independent you're disgusting can be good on your help.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, Benjamin, we had a
Speaker 1: really good time together. I don't see why they has
Speaker 1: to stop. I could see why I could stop. It's
Speaker 1: called trust. I mean, look, Benjamin, she's seeing the air
Speaker 1: of her ways here. Obviously, I could see this relationship
Speaker 1: working out, especially if you're willing to pay a little
Speaker 1: bit more money on your dates. And you won't even
Speaker 1: have to on this first one because we're gonna pay
Speaker 1: for it. Come on, Benjamin, one more chance, might as
Speaker 1: well take the frame. Come on, it'll be fine. Now
Speaker 1: we're gonna have with all your money. Remember, you're the
Speaker 1: only one that she's been thinking about since your dates.
Speaker 1: Those are her words. I'm gonna say, I'm okay, I'm not,
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm good on the second dude. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just feel like all really judging me
Speaker 1: really hard right now. Oh I'm not ask your daddy
Speaker 1: if you wants two babies. Jeffrey in the morning, text
Speaker 1: into seven eight five nine to tell us did Brooke
Speaker 1: get owned or really? Okay, listen, they were in a relationship,
Speaker 1: but the sugar daddy thing threw me for a loop. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that dude, I don't know what to do with that.
Speaker 1: I don't think any of us knew what to do
Speaker 1: with it. But it was extremely hypocritical of her. If
Speaker 1: you ask me to literally come on here and tell
Speaker 1: us that she wasn't thinking about anybody else after their
Speaker 1: date and then within twenty four hours going on another
Speaker 1: date with a different guy a business exchange, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean it's lunch like, she doesn't think about other guy
Speaker 1: until her venmo goes off. Yeah, exactly, So yike. Even
Speaker 1: though we I want to say we tried, I did try.
Speaker 1: I don't think I still don't think that she's doing
Speaker 1: anything wrong. No oh, I just think that, like it
Speaker 1: just is really complicated and her life would be a
Speaker 1: lot more simple if she just made her own money work.
Speaker 1: Yeah true, Yeah, I don't like that. But texting in
Speaker 1: seventy five nine two, tell us what you thought about
Speaker 1: the second date up date, and remember, if you want
Speaker 1: to get one for yourself, you can always email the
Speaker 1: show and we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.