Speaker 1: As smooth as a baseline, and I got hopes and dreams,
Speaker 1: So chase yours, and I'm a chase man. In the daytime,
Speaker 1: Mama was laid low. Platten on how to come up
Speaker 1: on some change so I can throw the homie gain
Speaker 1: the rain drover. Two pays here, So the game's over
Speaker 1: for all the clowns.
Speaker 2: I didn't think of.
Speaker 1: Agle to shut the ship down. They didn't know that
Speaker 1: I could give down like a motherfucking pool. I'm cooled
Speaker 1: as a band, and I'm a fan of the man
Speaker 1: that blesses me with the recipee to teach the mess.
Speaker 2: It's it's up one of.
Speaker 1: My glasses and get down the breast tax s. It's
Speaker 1: a rap and it's a wrap. Shut the fucking page.
Speaker 1: You might see like your dick con. I'm pretty sick though, piplos.
Speaker 1: I got a buddy that flips those that CALLI drove.
Speaker 1: You don't live in Cali in the valley though, but
Speaker 1: you know we get a very young deck life valley.
Speaker 1: Go oh, it's Ironica's pay ain't paid it all hardly?
Speaker 2: Get a's what's up? We're back, We're hey, Hey, Hey,
Speaker 2: what's up? It's good. Prince advisory. Are we still doing mu?
Speaker 3: Should we just throw it out like we got a break?
Speaker 3: I think we're just good Mom's bad choice.
Speaker 2: Why didn't no one get back on it? No one cares.
Speaker 2: We got to make the executive decison.
Speaker 4: Okay, good Mom's bad choices, So fort Advisories out, it's out.
Speaker 3: We got to like contact iTunes and I just feel
Speaker 3: like it's too many words.
Speaker 2: It is to me words.
Speaker 4: Okay, so hey, welcome back. It's good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 4: I'm Erica, I'm Nila, and this is our podcast pitches.
Speaker 5: We're back, bitches. We took a it's been two weeks.
Speaker 2: Three.
Speaker 5: I don't think we've I think it's been two.
Speaker 2: Well, I know that they're like, mathematically there's four weeks
Speaker 2: and every month.
Speaker 3: But we posted another one when we were gone just one.
Speaker 2: You're right, three, So we've been gone three weeks. Listen,
Speaker 2: look into our logic. Every month has one, two, three,
Speaker 2: four weeks.
Speaker 4: So we've been gone three weeks. We've missed you guys
Speaker 4: a lot.
Speaker 3: Really, I feel i've been I was like, I need
Speaker 3: to get back to this. I know it's like therapy.
Speaker 3: I was like, I need to get back to this.
Speaker 2: I was feeling like.
Speaker 3: We're in my room by the way right now, because
Speaker 3: it's four hundred degrees in the valley and so my
Speaker 3: room has air conditioning.
Speaker 5: So that's my watch going off. You heard that.
Speaker 2: Welcome to this very intimate place where the magic happens.
Speaker 2: This is my bed. Remember in cribs, always be like,
Speaker 2: this is where the magic happen.
Speaker 3: You see the silk pillows I have here and this
Speaker 3: plush champagne colored velvet throat very coordinating.
Speaker 4: And for all of you listening, you gotta go on
Speaker 4: YouTube as soon as we ever eventually post these visuals.
Speaker 2: I swear we record our episodes, we just we forget
Speaker 2: to post them because we're high. Oh man, Yeah, anyway,
Speaker 2: that's another thing. We got high and we just lost.
Speaker 3: Oh. By the way, that song that you just heard
Speaker 3: was by Ryan Spencer. He submitted some music to us.
Speaker 3: We are taking music submissions. If you have if you
Speaker 3: play the violin, or you or you sing, or you
Speaker 3: play the guitar, or clarinet, clarinet spoken word, I'm maybe
Speaker 3: else have been our first one.
Speaker 2: Do it?
Speaker 3: You can submit a test uh parental advisory.
Speaker 4: So everything's gonna change except our email because now it's
Speaker 4: permanent Prinal Advisory GMBC at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: Right, okay, so Ryan Spencer, Yeah, I was kind of
Speaker 2: feeling it.
Speaker 5: I mean I like that.
Speaker 3: I mean it's not a sample. He literally took the
Speaker 3: coffee Brown Beat and wrapped over.
Speaker 2: It after the party. That's girls somewhere.
Speaker 4: Something like that. But yeah, you know what, because it
Speaker 4: is just like that song. It reminded me, Hey, Spencer,
Speaker 4: where's the fucking chorus?
Speaker 2: I liked it.
Speaker 5: I was liked stuff.
Speaker 2: We ain't got stuff. I was like, is that gonna
Speaker 2: come now? Yeah? So you don't girls like to sing along?
Speaker 2: You need a chorus, dude, Yeah, for you need that chorus.
Speaker 2: But thank you. We appreciate it. But I liked it.
Speaker 5: It was like chill like it got me like and.
Speaker 2: I think there was a couple of LA references.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you shout out the valley hey, And I think
Speaker 3: Titty is Marti Gras or something like that.
Speaker 5: I'm about Yeah, we ago that's the next plan after
Speaker 5: this trip. I don't know if we have.
Speaker 2: It's in February.
Speaker 5: This trip I just got off of. I don't know
Speaker 5: if I need to go anywhere.
Speaker 4: So speaking of it, we've been gone for three weeks
Speaker 4: because Erica has been When we were in New York
Speaker 4: and we.
Speaker 2: Saw that that was our last episode.
Speaker 5: With Wheezy Horrible Decisions.
Speaker 4: Hey hey, if you didn't listen to it, you should,
Speaker 4: but shout out to Whezy.
Speaker 5: She like I love watching her stories and.
Speaker 4: Her She is fucking funny. That's the type of girl
Speaker 4: you can'tnot like.
Speaker 2: Ever not I like you. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So that was the last episode, and after that, Erica
Speaker 4: here went on a full Spanish Spain tour. I did,
Speaker 4: and I know she has lots of juice to tell us.
Speaker 2: I was in New York, but mine was not as
Speaker 2: fun as this girl.
Speaker 3: I just it's my first like girls trip with well,
Speaker 3: I guess it's my but like, I've never been to
Speaker 3: another country.
Speaker 5: Well my birthday was kind of that, but I don't know.
Speaker 2: This was just different the last oh you did? Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: but it was a little bit more. The baby came.
Speaker 2: It was a less time, right, are we gone this time?
Speaker 2: Twelve days?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Two weeks, two weeks with any even a week with anyone?
Speaker 5: Twelve days, three girls.
Speaker 2: This is sae, let's hear about it. It was dope.
Speaker 3: We went to Barcelona first and that was beautiful and
Speaker 3: we then we we had we had a really good time.
Speaker 3: I ran into a friend, my friend out there randomly.
Speaker 3: I felt really like, oh, this.
Speaker 5: Is what I do. But no, it's not right.
Speaker 2: You know what.
Speaker 4: Actually we have a mutual friend kind of who was
Speaker 4: in a visa like one day the same as your
Speaker 4: in visa and they kind.
Speaker 2: Of know you.
Speaker 4: But he was like, I don't know if she'll remember me.
Speaker 4: I saw she's out here. I was like, okay, never mind,
Speaker 4: who was it.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Should I say Troy, No, Troy, Where do I wan
Speaker 4: know I'm from?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 5: Figure it out.
Speaker 3: He should have hit me up girl visa So okay.
Speaker 3: So Barcelona was dope.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: We went out there, had a little how it was
Speaker 3: warm up or warm up city? We definitely had fun.
Speaker 3: What was your up city in Barcelona? Okay, that's where
Speaker 3: we warmed up?
Speaker 2: You know, we drank.
Speaker 4: I heard like the inner like where it's not at
Speaker 4: the coast, is a little more calm, more mild.
Speaker 3: We were in the city like it was We're in
Speaker 3: the center of city like in Barcelona. So but we
Speaker 3: were there for like two days basically, and then we
Speaker 3: went to a visa, and we were in a visa
Speaker 3: for like three and a half days, and no one
Speaker 3: should be allowed to.
Speaker 2: Stay in a visa for three and a half days.
Speaker 2: Oh shit.
Speaker 5: If we like people were there had been there for
Speaker 5: like two weeks, I'm like, how.
Speaker 2: The fuck isn't really that intense?
Speaker 5: I mean, you can escape and it's it is really beautiful.
Speaker 3: You can escape if you can have a different different
Speaker 3: types of experiences there, because I know what I mean,
Speaker 3: Like you can have your party experience that it's known for, right,
Speaker 3: like it's hardcore already nowadays. Yeah, it's for sure, like
Speaker 3: it's like the Vegas of Europe.
Speaker 2: Some shit on the island.
Speaker 3: It's still beautiful and not like polluted yet oh wo yet, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean.
Speaker 3: And then we went to Abisa, which yeah, so a visa.
Speaker 3: Then we went to Madrid and then we ended at
Speaker 3: in San Sebastian, which is on the coast right. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's like it's in the south and it's like the
Speaker 3: food mecca of Europe.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 2: So we had the oysters and ship that was Madrid.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, but Madrid has mom food too.
Speaker 3: They have like three Michelin star restaurants there, which is
Speaker 3: really rare and like, yeah, but I got stick out there.
Speaker 3: But girl, I definitely have a hurry from Spain. I
Speaker 3: can't wait to share it later in the episode. And
Speaker 3: I definitely felt like I fell in lust in Spain.
Speaker 4: So there was that because Erica always I feel like
Speaker 4: you and trembling lip. They is they're like constant on
Speaker 4: like random vacation is not on purpose but by mistake.
Speaker 2: Together. You met him on the ski slope.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so I met him, so me and uh
Speaker 3: uh yeah.
Speaker 5: I trembling lips.
Speaker 2: Wet.
Speaker 5: We're done by the way, we're done, so that we're
Speaker 5: done dating.
Speaker 3: This is my This is like I guess, like not important,
Speaker 3: but it's like the first time I've like dated someone
Speaker 3: and now it's over, you know, since my relationships. So
Speaker 3: it's like, oh, I feel like very mature. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm a real dater, like a wonderful person. Completely broken up,
Speaker 3: well not broken, but no, it's true.
Speaker 4: It is.
Speaker 2: He's one situation down.
Speaker 3: I have popped my fucking dating chair now officially officially.
Speaker 2: Well, you kind of also broke up with the couple.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, what did I tell you about that?
Speaker 2: How like?
Speaker 5: Because oh my god.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so the couple, So the couple, I just I
Speaker 3: can't something I can't do all the time.
Speaker 2: It's just I'm not interested in doing all the time.
Speaker 2: And also like you know, like I'm trying to have
Speaker 2: my daity, like to write this is something he's like.
Speaker 2: I thought, was like, why do we have to always schedule?
Speaker 3: I don't know? But husband couple split into Jamila's d
Speaker 3: MS and I brought it to his attention.
Speaker 2: You did, Hell, yeah I did.
Speaker 5: I was like, that's whack.
Speaker 2: Like like, I just feel like, did I say that
Speaker 2: in New York?
Speaker 5: I don't remember when you told me.
Speaker 2: I think it was before that, but you know, I
Speaker 2: was thinking, I liked podcast think we are?
Speaker 3: What do you think that said? You're just gonna you
Speaker 3: are my pup? You're gonna hop and skip up here.
Speaker 3: I know I'm into that. You know you I supposed
Speaker 3: to tell you.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't think this is allowed. I
Speaker 2: don't know good. I was really bad. But now he apologized.
Speaker 2: He was like, yeah, I thought about that.
Speaker 3: I realized, like I thought you were done and moved
Speaker 3: on from us.
Speaker 2: So we moved on.
Speaker 3: So I did that Like that was that was thirsty?
Speaker 3: I shouldn't I should have done that. It wasn't her,
Speaker 3: It wasn't the wife.
Speaker 5: It was the husband. Men can't help but be thirsty.
Speaker 2: They really can't.
Speaker 4: They got a shoot, they cannot help but be thirsty.
Speaker 4: I thought it was funny. So even if you're a
Speaker 4: couple and you're dating someone, the we're honestame.
Speaker 2: Will still apply.
Speaker 3: Okay, there's no unless I say so, yeah, unless yeah,
Speaker 3: but then you say so first exactly.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm just in the space where I just like transparency
Speaker 3: about everything, maybe to like, oh, like an extreme at
Speaker 3: this point, but it's just working really well for me.
Speaker 3: I just expect it from people and I give it
Speaker 3: to them, and then you don't. I'm like, Caroline, just
Speaker 3: be honest. Let's just be I know, you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm being honest.
Speaker 4: The thing is that, though I just noticed, I'm really
Speaker 4: into transparency too.
Speaker 5: I think you planned the seed in me.
Speaker 2: But you know, this sounds terrible.
Speaker 4: But as I get like closer with young boy dab
Speaker 4: he we're actually official now as my boyfriend, I.
Speaker 3: Feel like, I know, I didn't know breaking, I had
Speaker 3: no idea as a boyfriend.
Speaker 2: I mean, I assume so, but but I feel like
Speaker 2: the transparency.
Speaker 4: My willingness to be transparent is like I'm more scared,
Speaker 4: like I'm more scared of being judged, and you.
Speaker 2: Feel like, okay, these are real feelings now, yeah, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, I don't like that part.
Speaker 4: I'm not feeling this because I don't want to be
Speaker 4: like a facad either, but clearly it's this is what
Speaker 4: you get.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I understand. I feel the same way.
Speaker 4: Transparency is so important and you live free or you
Speaker 4: feel lighter, like this is what it is.
Speaker 2: I take it or leave it, you know.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm open take it or leave it, but
Speaker 3: I'm still open to change and like acknowledging if I'm
Speaker 3: wrong and growing, you know what I mean. Because some
Speaker 3: people are like, this is who I am, and this
Speaker 3: is who I am. But my dad is kind of
Speaker 3: like that, like I'm being honest about who I am.
Speaker 2: Don't try to change me, right, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: It's just kind of respectable, respectable.
Speaker 3: But that's sometimes I'm like, well, I'm just combat but
Speaker 3: maybe that part of you has sucks and that's why
Speaker 3: everybody could read and that's why everyone keeps.
Speaker 2: Telling because that part sucks.
Speaker 4: Okay, you know that's true, you also have to, you know,
Speaker 4: the honesty to self, like like who's the Commons denominator
Speaker 4: in this situation? But I think we just get like
Speaker 4: twenty seven topics, I know, but because we have to
Speaker 4: catch up.
Speaker 3: We're like, you're like live catching up with us because
Speaker 3: we've like talked of course through the last three weeks,
Speaker 3: but like not really not really like in depth. Like
Speaker 3: I'll be like I'll call her like, girl, I got
Speaker 3: to tell you real quick what just happened, because it's
Speaker 3: a bullshit should be like girl, okay.
Speaker 2: Bye, but yeah, like two weeks later, bitch even hang
Speaker 2: around Hey hey okay bye.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah that happened too. Oh yeah, Like I
Speaker 3: had a huge launch, which is amazing for beauty Blender.
Speaker 3: If you know beauty Blender, then you should know. We're
Speaker 3: the pink egg. We just lunch foundation ship.
Speaker 2: I know. I found a picture that they posted a
Speaker 2: youe of like you with him. I was like, DM,
Speaker 2: try it out.
Speaker 4: I almost got mad today. I tried to cover the
Speaker 4: cover effect. She got me because I.
Speaker 2: Used it too dark. It is it is lit too dark,
Speaker 2: but you can return.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, oh this, bitch, get me this and
Speaker 3: not the fucking bounce's so right.
Speaker 2: I think wart cover effects. Anyway, I'm like, why was
Speaker 2: she thinking? I was getting upset? Oh my god?
Speaker 3: Literally yeah, wow, that's very true. But I didn't have
Speaker 3: the color that no, I know, it wasn't even it
Speaker 3: was like.
Speaker 2: Prey have the entire collection of our thirty two shades yet,
Speaker 2: so I will definitely get you.
Speaker 3: I think you are a four point six. That's someone
Speaker 3: to guess that's what shade are in our shading.
Speaker 2: Where were we? Where were we?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 2: Me? And okay?
Speaker 4: So yeah, so back to trembling a babe. You she
Speaker 4: saw him insane.
Speaker 2: We had an amazing we It's like my first vacation.
Speaker 2: But I didn't like accidental vacation, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: Like he happened to be in an amazing place at
Speaker 3: the same time as me, and it was.
Speaker 2: Like even more amazing that you had to like be
Speaker 2: comfortable with somebody.
Speaker 3: And yeah, well many things help that, like alcohol and.
Speaker 5: Many things.
Speaker 2: So speaking of many things, you don't have to be into detail.
Speaker 2: But like with the many things hard to find in Spain, there.
Speaker 5: Were always many things around.
Speaker 2: So no many things.
Speaker 4: Around, like cause cause you were f with amongst a
Speaker 4: network of people.
Speaker 6: We actually so so cause it's the things I want
Speaker 6: to know when I travel, like how many things should
Speaker 6: I bring?
Speaker 3: So let Bay was there for like five days before me. Okay,
Speaker 3: so he established the lay of the land, you know
Speaker 3: and everything like what bars, where to go to, like
Speaker 3: da da da, and so yeah, when we got there,
Speaker 3: but I already kind of had a plan, like I know,
Speaker 3: I wanted to get on a boat. I knew I
Speaker 3: wanted to just go to this one beach and I
Speaker 3: didn't really care as far.
Speaker 2: As to choose mess and everything else will figure out.
Speaker 2: So we did.
Speaker 3: We rented a fucking boat, and yeah, it was just
Speaker 3: so beautiful out there. You don't wear on vacation and everything.
Speaker 3: Everything's good and you're isolated and like, my kid isn't there.
Speaker 3: I kind of feel like kid who has a kid? Nine,
Speaker 3: I'm just living.
Speaker 2: My best life.
Speaker 3: Not that I dealt with her, but this is a
Speaker 3: whole love. This is like former care free, former best life,
Speaker 3: and that's what it is. It's a fantasy.
Speaker 5: It's not real.
Speaker 3: You gonna be backing your real hot ass house two weeks.
Speaker 5: So yeah, we just had an amazing.
Speaker 2: Time and me and.
Speaker 5: My friends had an amazing time.
Speaker 3: We had a pre do you like it was like
Speaker 3: the hangover one night, like literally every single one of
Speaker 3: us got mess like every single person at different times,
Speaker 3: Like she was over there, I was over here with him,
Speaker 3: they were there. This was like it was crazy, like
Speaker 3: we all call each other because we were all different
Speaker 3: places at them in the morning and I was like,
Speaker 3: so what happened.
Speaker 2: She's like, girl, what happened? Girl?
Speaker 5: I'm like.
Speaker 2: Everybody like super beautiful people.
Speaker 3: It's like a mixture because it's like a mixture of
Speaker 3: people from.
Speaker 2: All over the paper are also vacation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say that there's like a lot of
Speaker 3: young people there too, like younger than me. This scene
Speaker 3: there is like intense, like we went to this one
Speaker 3: in visa and a visa, but we went to this
Speaker 3: one club bar not club, not bar, sorry, like major
Speaker 3: club hotel I think it's called. And we saw David
Speaker 3: Guetta because and there were like thousands of people there.
Speaker 3: It's just insane, Like it was insane.
Speaker 5: But yeah, so after I left.
Speaker 2: The visa, after I had that amazing time, I.
Speaker 3: Felt really confused when I left because I was like
Speaker 3: missed him, and you know, like I've been kind of
Speaker 3: like distancing myself from this person, not for any particular reason,
Speaker 3: I think, just cause I was like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: I'm not sure.
Speaker 4: Cause naturally the next thing is like if we have
Speaker 4: to be in a relationship, and I was nowhere near there,
Speaker 4: r nowhere near there.
Speaker 2: Really, I just wasn't.
Speaker 3: I was just finding reasons not to like him, I
Speaker 3: think out of fear and also because I think I
Speaker 3: just need to follow my gut. I was like, I
Speaker 3: was like rejecting how I was feeling like I was
Speaker 3: trying to like him. And I was like, there's something
Speaker 3: about it. It's not vibing right, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: But a piece of change that I like left there.
Speaker 3: And I was like, I think I'm in lust. And
Speaker 3: I was like I couldn't sleep. I was stressed. And
Speaker 3: finally we talked about it and we you know, agreed
Speaker 3: that you know, obviously we're both not ready for that,
Speaker 3: but like we acknowledged our feelings.
Speaker 2: Okay, cause he agreed.
Speaker 3: It was like I feel mind, yeah, like we're like
Speaker 3: on the same page. I love how transparent we are.
Speaker 3: I knew that he was sleeping with multiple people. He
Speaker 3: was just honest with me about that, and yes, it
Speaker 3: did hurt a little bit. But what I've realized, and
Speaker 3: what I've realized this whole situation has show me, is
Speaker 3: that I'm purely I'm so driven by my ego because
Speaker 3: I don't it's not that I even care, because I didn't.
Speaker 3: I don't even I wasn't even really feeling this person.
Speaker 3: The moment he started telling me he was sleeping with people,
Speaker 3: I felt myself feeling like what, like I liked it
Speaker 3: and not liked.
Speaker 2: It, but I was happy to being honest.
Speaker 3: And then it also gave me like this feeling of
Speaker 3: like jealousy, jealousy or like I'm gonna win.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, yes, I'm gonna conquer you. I'm gonna get
Speaker 4: This is now a fucking competition.
Speaker 2: And even though like I don't know if I thought
Speaker 2: about it like that, but.
Speaker 4: You do, you you, and you you immediately are like,
Speaker 4: oh there's others not better than me.
Speaker 2: Absolutely yes, you know.
Speaker 4: And then even to the point where I'll ask a
Speaker 4: guy something, get to get to get to like the truth.
Speaker 2: And then I'll ask like was it good?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 4: I then went details because I went like nah, it again,
Speaker 4: and then immediately I feel my release, like like so
Speaker 4: is the person says something negative about the other person
Speaker 4: or like not as great as me. I'm like, I'm
Speaker 4: kind of satisfied with with I can I can want
Speaker 4: to be more satisfied, which is really sick and gross
Speaker 4: than no.
Speaker 2: I totally understand. It's ego.
Speaker 3: I'm like, we have we had really intense sex all
Speaker 3: the time, and especially out there, like.
Speaker 2: It was really beautiful vacation by your intents, and I
Speaker 2: think that can confuse it too. Yes, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, So you.
Speaker 3: Know, and not to say that I didn't care about
Speaker 3: this person, cause I do and I still do and
Speaker 3: actually like, okay, so let me get to the film,
Speaker 3: let me finish the story.
Speaker 2: So anyway, let me just fast forward. We had a
Speaker 2: great time I left.
Speaker 3: We had a great conversation about my anxieties and his
Speaker 3: and our insecurities and our relationships and why we do
Speaker 3: what we do. Like he says he's didn't get a
Speaker 3: lot of attention in his last piece, or he didn't
Speaker 3: feel wanted in his previous relationship, and so now he
Speaker 3: feels more wanted than ever by multiple women, and it's
Speaker 3: he It feels good to feel.
Speaker 2: To feel wanted, and that's normal.
Speaker 3: I get that, but he also said, I know that
Speaker 3: I'm how the rate that I'm doing it is unhealthy,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: So I was like, well, damn.
Speaker 3: I mean if you have, if you have that much
Speaker 3: self awareness, like that's pretty fucking good.
Speaker 4: I'm all about being self aware because the worst thing
Speaker 4: is a motherfucker who doesn't know what the fuck is
Speaker 4: wrong with them and why where it's rooted in.
Speaker 2: I mean, there's I have.
Speaker 3: I mean, I and you know, I have self awareness
Speaker 3: of certain things that I'm still not working on, you
Speaker 3: know what I mean.
Speaker 2: That's just how like, yeah, you gotta get to what
Speaker 2: you can say you.
Speaker 4: Constant, it's a constant battle, it's a constant you gotta
Speaker 4: do it like it's work every day.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: So anyway, so I was like, okay, like maybe I
Speaker 3: do like this person, and like I realized that my
Speaker 3: feelings that were give me anxiety and like all these
Speaker 3: they were these all these confused feelings that I was like,
Speaker 3: what is this? It was just that, oh, you really
Speaker 3: like this person, Like you feel like you've opened up
Speaker 3: to this person. And I haven't had that feeling in
Speaker 3: so long, probably seven years, Because that's a want I
Speaker 3: was in another deeply emotionally invested relationship that I forgot
Speaker 3: what that feeling was and it like confused me.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, oh, that's what that shit is.
Speaker 2: I like you.
Speaker 3: I've decided I like you. I'm like excited, and so
Speaker 3: I think I expressed that to him, We expressed that
Speaker 3: to each other.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 3: So then we get back to I go and we
Speaker 3: leave each other. We go to different parts of Europe.
Speaker 5: At that point we separate. I know he's going with
Speaker 5: actually went to.
Speaker 2: Another city with another girl. I think she's from there.
Speaker 3: And he was honest about it, super honest all I've
Speaker 3: ever asked for, like seriously, like I couldn't have asked for,
Speaker 3: Like I know that most people probably aren't capable even
Speaker 3: of what he gave me, and so sh yeah, that's
Speaker 3: what I think was exciting about it. I was like, damn,
Speaker 3: I want to but now that I know, but all
Speaker 3: that I now that I know that it's a possibility
Speaker 3: and it really does exist. It's something that I'm definitely
Speaker 3: is like kind of a deal breaker for me going
Speaker 3: into anything.
Speaker 2: If you're unable to do even just dating me, you
Speaker 2: just have to we have to start this way. Ain't
Speaker 2: no reason, I uh so.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So then I got back.
Speaker 3: Well, I went to New York, had my amazing event,
Speaker 3: went into d the HSN thing exhausted, flew in during
Speaker 3: rush hour traffic, and so he lives by the airport,
Speaker 3: so I went and saw him. It was the first
Speaker 3: time I'd seen him since Abisa. Had like a great time,
Speaker 3: you know, at least I thought we did. But I
Speaker 3: have to say, in my heart there was some sort
Speaker 3: of like that's still hesitation there, but I was more
Speaker 3: but I was more open than I was ever. I
Speaker 3: felt more open, but I still had a hesitation, but
Speaker 3: I still wanted to win. Yeah, that's what was driving me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my ego was driving me.
Speaker 3: Oh god, That's when I realized that my ego was
Speaker 3: driving me because I'm like, what, there's something in there
Speaker 3: still that's not right. Even though you had this amazing connection,
Speaker 3: but I was I was willing to ignore it. And
Speaker 3: that's scary. That's how I know I have more work
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 2: So oh yeah.
Speaker 3: Then the next day he told me he was gonna
Speaker 3: have a talk with a girl that he's been seeing,
Speaker 3: Like I guess she was upset about him being she's
Speaker 3: been trying to lock him down for a while he's
Speaker 3: upset about her him seeing me and him out there,
Speaker 3: and I'm sure like she knew he was the other
Speaker 3: woman out there cause he was and uh, he was
Speaker 3: like I need to talk to her. I'm we're gonna
Speaker 3: have a talk. And I was like, cool, you know,
Speaker 3: do what you gotta do. Something in me told me
Speaker 3: that the result was gonna be something like this. Really
Speaker 3: then he told me it was like I ran into
Speaker 3: my girlfriend yesterday with her boyfriend, and he was like
Speaker 3: it was totally cool, Like I was caught off guard,
Speaker 3: but like everything was cool, like I'm so happy she's happy.
Speaker 3: And I was like, you know what, you're just a
Speaker 3: little too, like everything is perfect all the time. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know you felt some shit, right, Like everybody feels
Speaker 3: a little something.
Speaker 5: Like or are we wrong? Do they not?
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's maybe people who've done a lot of
Speaker 2: work for themselves. I don't think.
Speaker 5: I don't think.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying he's not an involved person and he's
Speaker 3: but I don't think whatever you.
Speaker 4: Can feel nothing, I don't. Oh shit, she looked really happy.
Speaker 2: She looked really happy.
Speaker 5: I was really happy for her.
Speaker 2: She looked genuinely happy, Like.
Speaker 3: Okay, So then He's like, I'm gonna have to talk
Speaker 3: with the girl. This girl he's been dating, Like, so,
Speaker 3: what was while he's been dating me? So he's I
Speaker 3: guess he's dated her on and off a little bit
Speaker 3: while we've been dating.
Speaker 2: Da da da. She's more wants something serious.
Speaker 3: I'm more just like maybe I'm just like the fun girl, right, fine, bitch.
Speaker 3: So the next day he calls, he texts me and
Speaker 3: tells me that he's decided that he's they will They've
Speaker 3: David decided that they want to explore deeper emotional a
Speaker 3: deeper emotional connection with the like in the hopes of
Speaker 3: l a long term connection.
Speaker 5: Basically, they're they're working towards being boys for their girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Right. So I was just like, oh, this is like
Speaker 2: literally two days after I just saw him, right like okay,
Speaker 2: So I was like, you're breaking up.
Speaker 3: We're not freaking up. But just like I was just like,
Speaker 3: she chose somebody else. Yeah, And that's when the ego thing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and I but that's what I realized, this is so
Speaker 3: not about you, Erica, It's about him.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And do you want somebody who wants something that you
Speaker 2: don't want?
Speaker 3: Well, he just told me you didn't know what you wanted,
Speaker 3: like unless you were lying, unless you weren't being transparent.
Speaker 3: But I really felt like we were being genuine. He's like,
Speaker 3: I don't know what I want. I'm confused, da da da.
Speaker 3: And I think that what triggered him was seeing his
Speaker 3: ex girlfriend with somebody, and that want, that need to
Speaker 3: feel wanted, seeing her being wanted.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I could probably be digging deeper into this than I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 2: I think I'm right whatever, I'm an Sammy.
Speaker 3: I think I think all these things play a factor.
Speaker 3: And this girl for sure wants to be with him.
Speaker 3: I'm not a guarantee, I'm we both are just like whatever,
Speaker 3: not whatever, Like we definitely have a connection like that
Speaker 3: I felt was deeper than I've had with any one else.
Speaker 4: But you have you don't want to You're not necessarily
Speaker 4: discussing an endpoint like working towards something like or that
Speaker 4: you're gonna stop dating other people to No.
Speaker 5: No, we didn't. We didn't establish it a point.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 5: But anyway, so we're done. We're done, and Tier.
Speaker 3: Tears it's okay if I'm okay, totally not totally fine,
Speaker 3: But what I'm so happy this happened.
Speaker 5: And I know time is always the greatest neutralizers.
Speaker 3: My mom has always taught me, and it's like the
Speaker 3: truest thing ever, and it's what makes me like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm like upset in this moment, but like two weeks
Speaker 3: from now and this is gonna be like okay, but
Speaker 3: not even two weeks from now, Like literally, it's been
Speaker 3: like two days, and I'm really strangely at peace with it.
Speaker 3: I feel like he did me a favor. I feel
Speaker 3: like I wish him the best and her the best
Speaker 3: if that even you know, transpires. But most importantly, I
Speaker 3: feel like it was like a big lesson in my
Speaker 3: ego because I realized that my feelings were not hurt.
Speaker 2: It was my ego that was hurt. And it's a
Speaker 2: difference and taking things personally, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: And because I think reading the Four Agreements, like those
Speaker 3: two things just like I immediately linked them because I'm
Speaker 3: reading this book and I'm like, oh shit, like this
Speaker 3: is crazy right now. And what was amazing about that
Speaker 3: is that, Okay, I'm like, over the last nine or
Speaker 3: ten months, it's my breakup. I've been working on, like
Speaker 3: trying to like have tools for dealing with shit and
Speaker 3: like not react the way that like I normally would
Speaker 3: react in the situation that upset me or I felt
Speaker 3: overlooked or insecure about.
Speaker 2: It, and so not entertaining the drama. I was really
Speaker 2: like I was like talking to myself in the car.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, bitch, this is one of these
Speaker 3: moments like this is right now. This is when it's
Speaker 3: you apply everything that you know and you've tried to
Speaker 3: like train yourself your brain to think right now, this
Speaker 3: is an opportunity.
Speaker 5: And so I've just been doing that, and of course
Speaker 5: it's not perfect.
Speaker 3: Of course, I like talk shit in my head every
Speaker 3: like five ave minutes, but like there's ten minutes where
Speaker 3: I'm not, and I'm like yeah, and that's like where
Speaker 3: you start, you know what I mean. And so it's
Speaker 3: been like I'm excited for this month to just focus
Speaker 3: really on myself, on checking my ego. It's even like
Speaker 3: starting to change my relationship with my baby daddy slowly.
Speaker 5: I'm like I think I'm learning forgiveness.
Speaker 3: Because I've tried to forgive him for like I like
Speaker 3: have like a week where I'm like, Okay, I forgive him.
Speaker 3: I forgive him, and then like something comes up and
Speaker 3: I'm like, fuck you, you know, like fuck you, I
Speaker 3: don't forgive you. You're like, oh, you didn't forgive him.
Speaker 3: You really didn't forgive it though.
Speaker 2: That was awsalon.
Speaker 3: So I'm excited for this journey and of course, like
Speaker 3: I know, it's like a lifelong journey of uh, you know,
Speaker 3: peeling away or the layers of your ego. Girl, but
Speaker 3: I'm actually like thankful for this, for this situation.
Speaker 2: I am.
Speaker 3: Do I want to talk to him right now? No,
Speaker 3: I don't feel like he handled it well. He could
Speaker 3: have called me, yeah, because then after he told me
Speaker 3: then he was like, if you don't mind like a
Speaker 3: few like later this week, once I like figure all
Speaker 3: this out in my head, can I give you a call?
Speaker 2: No, don't, don't.
Speaker 4: Don't don't get into your confusing, conflicting conversation with self.
Speaker 3: I'm good right, Like, no, I don't exactly exactly, And
Speaker 3: I just felt like you just want to make sure
Speaker 3: that you that were okay, so you feel better about
Speaker 3: this pituation. That's what I feel realized like slowly that
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what's happening, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Of course, we all have we all get pulled into
Speaker 4: that because there's this want of approval, this want to
Speaker 4: be liked.
Speaker 2: You know, that's the fucking problems like that.
Speaker 4: You know, everybody is supposed to please everybody, but you can't,
Speaker 4: and that's how you get confused with what it did
Speaker 4: you actually want because you're so used to like pleasing
Speaker 4: other people.
Speaker 5: It's true, I'm just I'm just I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's just so crazy how I could have such an
Speaker 3: intense experience and then it just be like and I
Speaker 3: read my horoscope this month and it was like in July,
Speaker 3: like you need to wrap up all the loose ends,
Speaker 3: like don't bring any unla like uneasy feelings into August.
Speaker 3: And those are uneasy feelings I have I've been having.
Speaker 5: I liked him.
Speaker 2: I didn't like him at all one second.
Speaker 3: Then I went to a beast and I was like,
Speaker 3: I loved him, and then I'm like I like him,
Speaker 3: and I'm like do.
Speaker 2: I I'm crish, no, you know exactly. It's just so dramatic.
Speaker 4: Well, speaking of astrology, we did have like a lot
Speaker 4: of we had a full moon lunary clips.
Speaker 2: I missed. I missed it.
Speaker 3: When I was with him, I literally him in the
Speaker 3: car and I was like, fuck I missed. It was
Speaker 3: like a blood mood, a blood moon.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And also Mars was as bright as it's ever been
Speaker 4: in like eighty two years. Yeah, So there's definitely a shift.
Speaker 4: There's definitely a shift and energy. It's like the rebirth
Speaker 4: of I mean, it's like a time to recenter, rebirth.
Speaker 4: Like you said, shut off old things. If you felt
Speaker 4: an an energetic shift, that's why. Because I certainly felt it,
Speaker 4: So that shit is real.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're so right.
Speaker 5: I really did feel it too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you pay attention, like it makes a difference. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So I did read a bit about it. I was
Speaker 2: gonna tell you about ego.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I just feel like.
Speaker 2: Before this, I was working on expectation and I'm still
Speaker 2: worrying on that.
Speaker 5: I'm still am working on that.
Speaker 2: That's a really hard one.
Speaker 4: What was gonna I was gonna say, Also, the important
Speaker 4: thing about situations like this and like encounters like this,
Speaker 4: when you stop, when you start shifting the dialogue and
Speaker 4: saying like oh shit, like this is really forcing me
Speaker 4: to come out of myself, like what am I supposed
Speaker 4: to take from this situation? Then this hurt or pain
Speaker 4: or whatever temporary emotion you think you're feeling can really
Speaker 4: shift your perspective to feel differently. Because I've had things
Speaker 4: happened to me like this last couple of months, and
Speaker 4: I'm like at one point like sobbing, crying, and then
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, this person's forcing me to
Speaker 4: face myself. This person's forcing needed.
Speaker 2: To hurt, to change, to grow, And then and then
Speaker 2: I don't care anymore. I was like I could laugh
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 4: You know, So's you know, these are important things, and
Speaker 4: it's not just for you know, like he obviously confused
Speaker 4: and has a lot of shit to figure out, but
Speaker 4: even that plays a part and you a looking at
Speaker 4: yourself and you know, just growing.
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's a good thing.
Speaker 5: No, it's definitely a good situation.
Speaker 2: I'm glad.
Speaker 3: I'm actually really grateful for his honesty because I always said,
Speaker 3: like for me, like when I started getting lied to
Speaker 3: a lot in my relationship, I realized I just felt
Speaker 3: like robbed of my my options, and so I really
Speaker 3: like kind of like now live by that, Like I
Speaker 3: just not lived by that.
Speaker 2: But I just feel like when you lie to.
Speaker 3: Someone, you take away their choice, like you know, like
Speaker 3: I don't want to be here because you're doing X
Speaker 3: Y and Z.
Speaker 2: If you want to do X, Y and Z, then
Speaker 2: do X Y and Z, right, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Or maybe communicate with me because you never know what
Speaker 3: I could be open to, you know, because that's really
Speaker 3: what it came down to my relationship. Like he ever asked, right,
Speaker 3: you know, I would tell him, he would still just
Speaker 3: be sneaky yea, because he wanted he could sell it.
Speaker 2: She wanted to do you want to have to take
Speaker 2: to and have you a certain one? Yeah, I have
Speaker 2: no If you.
Speaker 4: If you know my how free I am, you're gonna
Speaker 4: you're gonna, you know, mimic what I'm doing.
Speaker 2: And I don't want that, right yeah, which is fucked up.
Speaker 3: But I will say like that was really refreshing, and
Speaker 3: I do appreciate his transparency.
Speaker 4: Like don't because another thing in the fore agreements, because
Speaker 4: I'm also reading it is like saying, don't make assumptions.
Speaker 4: And I think people assume if I tell her the truth,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna hurt her.
Speaker 3: She can't handle the truth. I mean, because I've done that,
Speaker 3: you know, like just me being But who are we?
Speaker 3: And that's but who are we to say what.
Speaker 2: You can handle exactly, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: I mean, but I do it all the time.
Speaker 2: We all do. Yeah, So to be impeccable with your way,
Speaker 2: you make choices for people. Yes, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 3: Because I don't think you can handle it, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make that choice for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's been like a really eye opening experience. So I'm
Speaker 3: really grateful. I feel like I learned a lot on
Speaker 3: this trip. I just it was a really amazing trip.
Speaker 3: I mean, minus the fact that good guys, if you
Speaker 3: guys go to Abisa, like, seriously, be careful out there,
Speaker 3: because my friend got drugged out there, and let me
Speaker 3: tell you, like, apparently it's really normal out there, really Yeah,
Speaker 3: Like our airbnb host was like, oh, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: It happens all the time.
Speaker 3: Oh shit, I know, I nus you guys, when you
Speaker 3: just travel in general, just be careful.
Speaker 2: Like, just just be careful cause you just.
Speaker 3: I had to remind myself, like, shit, I need to
Speaker 3: be more aware of shit, Like I'm out here just chilling.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't this is not my environment.
Speaker 4: Yea.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's pretty important. Yeah, like was everything.
Speaker 3: And my friend's really beautiful and has like a lot
Speaker 3: of tattoos, so she's like a target.
Speaker 2: You know, she's like just a target. People are drawn
Speaker 2: to her. Everywhere we go.
Speaker 5: They're either staring cause.
Speaker 3: They're like whoa, or they're like, oh, yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: we're gonna was it expensive?
Speaker 2: Like the food it was like here, yeah you know, yeah,
Speaker 2: I was maybe.
Speaker 3: A little less in different places. I actually spent less
Speaker 3: money than I thought. Yeah, I thought I wasn't spend
Speaker 3: a lot more money, but it wasn't cheap. Like we
Speaker 3: didn't skim like try and get skimpy on prices. Like
Speaker 3: we stayed in cool spots.
Speaker 2: You can't get skimpy.
Speaker 3: And we ate what we wanted to eat, and we
Speaker 3: did what we wanted to do, and the boat had
Speaker 3: to happen.
Speaker 2: I was like, look, we don't make the boat work. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we must get on a boat.
Speaker 3: Everyone on Instagram is doing everyone we as matter of fact,
Speaker 3: we won't do the sugar.
Speaker 2: Challenge on the boats. Okay, so we're gonna practice. Isn't
Speaker 2: social media motivates? You're like, this will be a good picture.
Speaker 5: Wait.
Speaker 3: After that, my friend was like we should level up
Speaker 3: the challenge in our apartment.
Speaker 2: And I was like, bitch, I got my challenge.
Speaker 3: I'm like, first of all, I cannot dance really. First
Speaker 3: of all, okay, you know what, No, I know how
Speaker 3: to shake my ass real goods. So people be thinking
Speaker 3: I can, but a bitch has no rhythm.
Speaker 4: So have you seen the level video? I got a
Speaker 4: fucking cramp watching like I.
Speaker 3: Just like, I just felt like you just twist your
Speaker 3: arm a lot and then you dive.
Speaker 2: Who has enough energy for them?
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm jealous that people can do. I want
Speaker 3: to know how to do. That's for people under eighteen.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I kind of wish I knew how to dance.
Speaker 3: Like it's one of those things of like a talent
Speaker 3: I wish I had. Maybe I could have it if
Speaker 3: I worked at it.
Speaker 2: A dance class together. Do you get to hip hop dance?
Speaker 2: Whould you go? I do? Oh my god? I dance,
Speaker 2: Oh my god? And I don't want to go. I
Speaker 2: mean in high school, bitch, it's like a muscle No. No,
Speaker 2: not really not.
Speaker 4: You could like build up to remember, but we could
Speaker 4: go to a beginner's class. Also, I just had recent
Speaker 4: thoughts that I want to be a pull dancing superstar.
Speaker 2: Oh, I can see that. I was to pull dancing classes.
Speaker 3: I went to a pull dancing class. I went like two.
Speaker 3: They were fine. They were hard though.
Speaker 5: It's really hard to get your ass up on that poll.
Speaker 2: It's all like, I know, an army time for one class.
Speaker 2: The next day, I was like, what the fuck does
Speaker 2: and like you would get her cruises? Like cruise first.
Speaker 2: I think your body dancers to dance, Yeah, they do,
Speaker 2: but dancers, Yeah, that she was painful.
Speaker 4: I danced like two nights in three nights in my
Speaker 4: life and it was hard work.
Speaker 2: Oh, we want to do an episode with a dancer
Speaker 2: who's a mom? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Does anybody know any dancers that are also mothers?
Speaker 2: And in the LA area call us nude dancers.
Speaker 4: Let's specific, like, yeah, she danced for Britney Erotic danceing
Speaker 4: erotic dancers.
Speaker 5: That our mama's holler?
Speaker 2: What else?
Speaker 5: Oh did you want to what about you?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: How was your.
Speaker 2: Jersey? Was really fun? I have been I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't know. After like my birthday, I felt like
Speaker 2: a shift.
Speaker 4: I've been like partying less and so I haven't really
Speaker 4: been drinking a lot and just been like smoking and chilling.
Speaker 2: So for me, Jersey is like my friend has.
Speaker 4: Like this awesome beautiful property. There's like apple trees and
Speaker 4: blackberries going yeah, deers and.
Speaker 2: Rabbits, yes there are Okay.
Speaker 4: So there's a place in Jersey that Thomas Edison, his
Speaker 4: house is there. But they built a community in that place.
Speaker 4: It's like a secret enchanted for.
Speaker 2: It's called Edison Valley. It's called Llewellyn Park.
Speaker 4: So it's this beautiful community and literally there's just like
Speaker 4: prancing deers and they're just looking at you, and there's chipmunks.
Speaker 2: And it's just beautiful. But my friend has like they
Speaker 2: grow all.
Speaker 4: These trees and corn and lettuce and mint and shit,
Speaker 4: and there's a pool.
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, my friend doesn't have shit to do.
Speaker 4: So we like to smoke weed and watch daytime TV
Speaker 4: and walk around barefoot and chill.
Speaker 3: Stretch stretch. I didn't say one yoga video.
Speaker 4: I didn't strut. It was like I should realise this opportunity.
Speaker 4: I told my friend took some naked pictures in the garden. Okay,
Speaker 4: So I really have been chilling and in this period
Speaker 4: I don't know if it's like the shift because I
Speaker 4: just turned thirty the New Moon.
Speaker 2: But I've been really I don't know, talking.
Speaker 4: To myself a lot, and just same thing, exploring ego
Speaker 4: and feelings that I probably repressed. And like even like
Speaker 4: since I started taking my young boy got serious.
Speaker 2: Like I said, like.
Speaker 4: Before, I was so transparent, I didn't give a fuck
Speaker 4: because it's like there's no we have no expect I
Speaker 4: don't care if you're pleased or not.
Speaker 3: You know, it's still like a game. Yeah, like you
Speaker 3: want like the game is over. You guys got each other.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, oh my god, you wan yeah, And.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I'm not necessarily serious and that's kind
Speaker 2: of scary.
Speaker 4: And then I'm like, am I am I having hesitations?
Speaker 4: Because like am I having hesitations because I'm scarred from
Speaker 4: like the trauma of my last relationship? Am I having?
Speaker 4: And then I even thinking about like the relationship I
Speaker 4: saw my parents have and all these weird fucking things
Speaker 4: I've never really thought about.
Speaker 2: But again, this.
Speaker 4: Is like the first real thing I'm I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 4: doing since my baby daddy, So it is weird. And
Speaker 4: then even like having Luna around him, I mean, I
Speaker 4: mean she's been around him, but like.
Speaker 3: But now, like you guys are officials, Yeah, like this
Speaker 3: is the person that's in my life.
Speaker 4: Yes, and you know, I'm like Mom's boyfriend. I'm like
Speaker 4: so weird and like just just dealing with all these
Speaker 4: new things. And then also really I told maybe Daddy
Speaker 4: like I'm in a relationship and dealing.
Speaker 2: And and just acknowledge.
Speaker 4: I mean, like fifty seven text messages later, you know,
Speaker 4: it's the same shit.
Speaker 3: It's always like a I mean he's like, now he's
Speaker 3: like who cares he lives in Jersey?
Speaker 4: You know, like how often is she going to be
Speaker 4: around him so you can meet him? He's like he's like,
Speaker 4: how he's out here with you? I was like it
Speaker 4: could be arranged, but he's like, I can FaceTime FaceTime.
Speaker 2: But it's just all that's weird.
Speaker 4: Like I just feel like very adults but also very
Speaker 4: childlike because they're so I'm realizing like there's a lot
Speaker 4: of parts of me.
Speaker 2: I'm not really I don't really know what the fuck is.
Speaker 2: Like I hadn't thought about all this. Am I playing game?
Speaker 3: Am I?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 2: Am I not? Do I want something serious? Am I scared?
Speaker 2: Am I scared to be something serious?
Speaker 4: Like he's such a good guy. He's like a stand
Speaker 4: up guy, he's mature, he's very for the most molt
Speaker 4: self aware.
Speaker 2: But then he's like super Haitian.
Speaker 4: And like, first of all, I'm such a super fucking hippie,
Speaker 4: so I can't expect anyone to just like walk in
Speaker 4: my life and be super fucking hippie too.
Speaker 2: So it's just like little things like.
Speaker 3: The Haitians are pretty like they have certain very like
Speaker 3: certain things they don't fuck with. Yeah, like homophobia, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: there's like yeah.
Speaker 2: And then I'm just I just.
Speaker 4: Feel myself judging a lot and getting like abrasive. But
Speaker 4: I'm like that's not fair either, you know. And then
Speaker 4: like Luna was like, when you're.
Speaker 3: Like look at it as like a learning experience, maybe
Speaker 3: you're not supposed to be everyone's teacher, but like hopefully
Speaker 3: he's open to and he and.
Speaker 4: That's the thing, Like sometimes I'm like find myself getting irritated,
Speaker 4: but I'm like I know that he's still listening, and
Speaker 4: I'm like.
Speaker 2: Asking him, are you listening? Are you are I'm telling
Speaker 2: you this because this means a lot to me. Are
Speaker 2: you absorbing this?
Speaker 4: I want you to understand because we got into a
Speaker 4: conversation about there's some stupid fucking interviewee who goes to
Speaker 4: the slut walk and is like interviewing girls.
Speaker 2: He's like a disrespectful old man. I don't even know
Speaker 2: who he is.
Speaker 4: But so the talk about like feminism in the world's
Speaker 4: the word slut and women came up, and like I
Speaker 4: was just kind of taken aback by his like perspective,
Speaker 4: and I was just like, what the.
Speaker 2: Fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 4: And I found this getting like really judgmental and annoy
Speaker 4: But then I'm like I had to like.
Speaker 2: Come down if you not.
Speaker 4: Just even like Luna like has an attachment to my boob,
Speaker 4: so if we're in public, her hands is here, her
Speaker 4: hand is here, her hand always, and he was like
Speaker 4: moving her hand and I was like, why are you
Speaker 4: getting so annoyed by it?
Speaker 2: And he was just like it's inappropriate.
Speaker 4: She's almost she's four, Like she's three, she's three and
Speaker 4: a half, and like it's a comfort, it's like a pacifier.
Speaker 2: Like she's like, well, what do you think other people think?
Speaker 4: And I was like, who gives a fuck what other
Speaker 4: people think, That's the last thing on my mind. So
Speaker 4: there's like little things that bother me, but I do.
Speaker 4: You're right, it's a learning process and you know, teach
Speaker 4: and then, but I.
Speaker 3: Get it, especially when it comes to your kid and
Speaker 3: how what you guys share. It's like when someone tries
Speaker 3: to test your relationship, you're like, whoa, They're literally like
Speaker 3: this is he and he's like you're like what actually,
Speaker 3: Like this is my child with my baby's hand.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I said.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I said to common, like her hand makes
Speaker 4: more sense of being there than yours. Yeah, And he
Speaker 4: was like offended, Like I'm like, what do you think
Speaker 4: my breasts are for motherfucking milk?
Speaker 2: And shit?
Speaker 4: Like I don't like, stop sexualizing me. And he's like
Speaker 4: talking about woman being dressing a certain way, and I
Speaker 4: was like, how crazy do you sound? Like if you
Speaker 4: if you have a boy, like a son, you guys
Speaker 4: tell him like, oh you know, that's just how boys
Speaker 4: are us. Grab that ass, like no, everybody needs to
Speaker 4: keep your fucking hands to yourself.
Speaker 2: And that's it doesn't matter what anybody. If I'm walking
Speaker 2: around badass naked, it's not for you. So there's just
Speaker 2: little things that I mean. I guess it's also age.
Speaker 2: I'm older than him.
Speaker 4: And then I think I'm just trying to find shit
Speaker 4: because I am scared, but I can't really find anything
Speaker 4: wrong with them, so you know, it's it's it's cool though,
Speaker 4: and I'm grateful for this time being a little bit sober,
Speaker 4: because a little bit sober kind.
Speaker 2: Of son, I'm high right now.
Speaker 4: No, But I realized, like I guess a lot of
Speaker 4: my energy comes from tequila. I went out a couple
Speaker 4: of times and I was like kicking in and chilling,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh my god, I just mostly fun
Speaker 4: when I'm drinking tequila. It's like, it's it because I'm
Speaker 4: drunk that I'm so fun. I mean, I was having fun,
Speaker 4: but like maybe I was also tired.
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's different. It's different.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like if you're you know, if you drink pretty
Speaker 3: often to when you socialize that when you don't, it's different.
Speaker 3: You're just absolutely not the same. You're going to be
Speaker 3: more in an enhanced version or like a right. So yeah,
Speaker 3: just different, especially tequila, A different person tequila.
Speaker 2: Like I drink tequila.
Speaker 3: Tequila can go good or bad for me. You know
Speaker 3: me too, I keep drinking it though I know me too.
Speaker 3: It's mostly good it's bad. It's bad, it's fun time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So yeah, just like, oh my god, who am I
Speaker 4: not drinking? You know, which is also scary thought, But
Speaker 4: like I still like myself.
Speaker 2: I'm just like that fun yet.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think you go to things that you
Speaker 3: actually enjoy when you don't drink.
Speaker 2: You're actually having fun, right, right, it's a different You
Speaker 2: actually know when you're having fun and you actually remember that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because that's what I realized even too, when I like,
Speaker 3: when I've taken breaks, I'm like, this is not fun,
Speaker 3: and it's not fun because I'm not drunk, and if
Speaker 3: I have to be drunk to enjoy this, then it's
Speaker 3: not fun.
Speaker 2: Right. You have ever been somewhere like this fucking sucks?
Speaker 2: I had so much fun that was amazing. Sucks, but
Speaker 2: it was all I'm like, yeah, so that's just where
Speaker 2: I've been right now.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I drink probably more than I have in
Speaker 3: a very long time.
Speaker 2: In Spain, like I was borderline alcoholic.
Speaker 3: Something about being on vacation, like any whenever I was hungover,
Speaker 3: I was like.
Speaker 2: I think I need another drink, Like I just need
Speaker 2: to even this out.
Speaker 4: But it works, Yeah, Like hey, shot, you have oh
Speaker 4: My favorite hangover alcohol remedy is bloody Mary's.
Speaker 5: I hate blame. It makes you want to throw up.
Speaker 2: You don't like spicy magartas I do, but enough for
Speaker 2: a hangover? No, not for it? Do you like spicy
Speaker 2: margarita for a hangover though?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Also it's supposed to be good and it's shot
Speaker 4: because it's bubbling.
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh shot.
Speaker 2: I don't know about that.
Speaker 5: But yeah, no, that's great.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's good.
Speaker 3: I mean I I encourage you to try to keep
Speaker 3: on it because you know, I feel like I've done
Speaker 3: a lot of self discovery when I've been more sober,
Speaker 3: because and I honestly like when I'm not home, I smoke,
Speaker 3: but like not all the time. And then I don't
Speaker 3: they drink that much. I mostly smoke. But drinking literally
Speaker 3: drinking and smoking a pair of your judgment period. It's
Speaker 3: really hard to quit both. It's hard for me to
Speaker 3: do both ones smoking right now, smoking.
Speaker 4: Not really drinking it enterns my judgment way less liquor.
Speaker 4: I'm like, super oh deep, friendly.
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Speaker 3: Hi ladies, I just on your podcast and I've been
Speaker 3: listening NonStop all week.
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Speaker 5: I'm a single.
Speaker 3: Mom, mom of a brilliant nine year old little girl.
Speaker 3: Her father and I were high school sweethearts. We have
Speaker 3: not been together in years. He texted me last night
Speaker 3: to tell me he has another child and she was
Speaker 3: born three days before our daughter's ninth birthday. The baby
Speaker 3: is three months old. I don't know how to feel
Speaker 3: about it. I'm twenty six, single and dating if that matters.
Speaker 4: I just I read this before, but I just realized
Speaker 4: the time frame.
Speaker 3: Wait, we have not Last night he told the baby's
Speaker 3: three months old, and she's just.
Speaker 2: Yeah, why did he wait till? Wait? When's the last
Speaker 2: time you saw your daughter? Why did she not know?
Speaker 2: And why did he probably was hiding it? Yeah, but then,
Speaker 2: but how do you hide it from nine year old?
Speaker 2: Would definitely fuel her mom? Have you not seen her since.
Speaker 3: She's He has a baby with another old woman?
Speaker 2: Like, maybe they don't live together?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I live together the girl get around, picks up
Speaker 3: his daughter, and when she's not with her.
Speaker 2: It's hard. That shit is hard because.
Speaker 4: Again the ego thing, and also like when you have
Speaker 4: a baby with someone, especially if it's your first child together,
Speaker 4: it's a fucking thing.
Speaker 3: Thing shared that thing with them. You don't want to
Speaker 3: share that with anybody.
Speaker 2: Else, and it's hard.
Speaker 4: It's a hard thing, Like you don't even have to
Speaker 4: have feelings for that person. There's like just something there's there's.
Speaker 3: There's something territorial about it. Yes, it's like you aren't
Speaker 3: that territory. You shared that space. I get it, you know.
Speaker 4: And then there's this odd like I guess everybody has
Speaker 4: that thing where you like, maybe they'll get back together
Speaker 4: the future and maybe like maybe I'll be this happy
Speaker 4: like Brady bunch of Fams.
Speaker 3: Then when that happens, it kind of makes you feel like, oh,
Speaker 3: we're not doing that.
Speaker 2: It's not it's never gonna happen.
Speaker 4: All of it though it is based in ego and
Speaker 4: not in love and not.
Speaker 3: In like I know, I know, I know that, I
Speaker 3: know that in my mind, but like something deep within me,
Speaker 3: which is probably like the deepest part of my ego,
Speaker 3: like can't accept it.
Speaker 2: You know, I think because it's personal to like my
Speaker 2: situation too, that I feel like I just feel like.
Speaker 3: She might not even feel that way. It's nine years out.
Speaker 3: Maybe she just feels a little strange about it. I
Speaker 3: think I even responded to her and she was like,
Speaker 3: oh fucking and take a screenshot of the whole thing.
Speaker 5: I don't know. I think I would be hurt.
Speaker 3: I think i'd be hurt even more so if it
Speaker 3: was like three months later, like I found.
Speaker 2: Out, Yeah, it's an't been together this, mom. Why can't
Speaker 2: we just be honest?
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could say, like, damn, im not just tell
Speaker 4: me here this three months later. But also we don't
Speaker 4: know what their relationship is, Like.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's hard for me to gauge it.
Speaker 2: You know, maybe they don't talk at all.
Speaker 4: I don't know it. It's hard my favorite day talking
Speaker 4: about guys. Somebody might be pregnant whatever, Like who's also
Speaker 4: my my high school seetheart I've known for fifteen years
Speaker 4: and I don't know he's crazy, So he could be
Speaker 4: going to get to piss me off and make me
Speaker 4: feel some type of way. It could be true, but
Speaker 4: either way, I'm trying to be prepared.
Speaker 2: But then on the flip side, imagine how they feel
Speaker 2: when we get pregnant again.
Speaker 4: What do you mean, like, imagine when we are about
Speaker 4: to have another baby, cause we will probably have other kids,
Speaker 4: not with our m first baby, Saddy, cause.
Speaker 2: That doesn't count. Just kidding.
Speaker 3: Wait, but do you think when he told you that
Speaker 3: were you was your instinct like jealousy or ego? It
Speaker 3: has to be right or no or no? Are you
Speaker 3: over it to the point where you were just like whatever?
Speaker 2: I think because I know he's sometimes so full of shit.
Speaker 2: It was like, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 4: But I think that if it happened for sure and
Speaker 4: I had to like proof and there was a baby
Speaker 4: and I I I I would, it would take me
Speaker 4: aback because again I'm known for so long. We did
Speaker 4: share this shit together for the first time as m
Speaker 4: much as I know it won't it doesn't work.
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. But then I again, I have.
Speaker 4: To be like, if you can make somebody else happy,
Speaker 4: cause you couldn't make me happy. You couldn't get it together,
Speaker 4: more fucking power to you. I mean I have other
Speaker 4: concerns too, like you need to be in a position.
Speaker 3: To have multiple kids, right, yeah, you start, you start, No,
Speaker 3: I immediately would think about my situation. How does this
Speaker 3: jeopardize my situation? What is this person gonna take away
Speaker 3: from what I'm what you're writing from our child?
Speaker 2: Right? I can't help but think that way sometimes.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, well, that's your motherly instinct, like you
Speaker 6: need to do what you need to do for the
Speaker 6: baby you got, right, the one you meant to have.
Speaker 6: Right not to say that all babies are not, yes, but.
Speaker 3: Yes they are, okay, Eric, Oh could you hear that
Speaker 3: spite in my voice?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: I could.
Speaker 4: I mean, but I guess the best way to look
Speaker 4: at it, honestly is to say, one day you're gonna
Speaker 4: move forward.
Speaker 3: It won't be It's true. And you know what, it's
Speaker 3: true because even I want kids. I want other kids.
Speaker 3: I do. I want to have other kids, And you
Speaker 3: know how how can I totally be upset? I mean,
Speaker 3: I think it's more so because like you want to
Speaker 3: be the first one, or like, at least as women don't.
Speaker 3: Normally we're like, okay, we want to have kids. Men
Speaker 3: like all these men, I don't, I don't know, I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 2: What I'm saying.
Speaker 4: What the fuck's that?
Speaker 7: When they don't just oh my god, I'm in a
Speaker 7: black hole. Oh wait, what were you trying to do?
Speaker 7: And now I'm curious, like I was trying.
Speaker 2: To get it.
Speaker 3: I was just saying that I don't know, it doesn't
Speaker 3: make sense, but.
Speaker 2: It made sense in my brain. And then when I
Speaker 2: was about to say it, I was like, don't say that.
Speaker 2: It doesn't make it make sense.
Speaker 4: What I was gonna say is I'm trying to say
Speaker 4: it right, like, Okay, so obviously young boy doesn't have
Speaker 4: any kids, and I mean, of course we talk about
Speaker 4: all types of.
Speaker 2: Shit because now we're official.
Speaker 4: So so obviously, like I think, I'm also it's like
Speaker 4: it's it's not cool because this is how it's supposed
Speaker 4: to be that someone, because I think as women, you
Speaker 4: want to like be the first one have someone's kid.
Speaker 4: So for someone to want to have a kid with
Speaker 4: me and I already have a kid, and like it's
Speaker 4: your first time experiencing it, I think I think that's
Speaker 4: that's a thing and that's cool because I think sometimes
Speaker 4: women are like I don't want to have a.
Speaker 2: Kid with a guy who already has kids, even though
Speaker 2: I mean.
Speaker 3: I prefer now no, yeah yeah, now because you have
Speaker 3: a kid. Yeah, yeah, I'm like now for gets you
Speaker 3: a baby before you come home.
Speaker 2: So I know you're responding you got to lose, yeah,
Speaker 2: but so.
Speaker 5: You know, no, yeah, I get yeah, no, for sure.
Speaker 3: Even I have friends Like my girlfriend she was like,
Speaker 3: met this guy on bumble, but he has like three kids.
Speaker 3: I think he has like four kids, And she was like,
Speaker 3: I already don't want to date anyone with a kids.
Speaker 3: Like I realized that those expectations kind of like are
Speaker 3: like taking me out of the running of finding like
Speaker 3: maybe a great guy because he has a kid, but
Speaker 3: I just want to share that with someone.
Speaker 2: And that's how I used to think.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, also, yeah, you're right, we aren't like
Speaker 3: twenty five anymore.
Speaker 2: So you have to kind of yeah, take it.
Speaker 4: Guys usually have kids, people who have kids by and now.
Speaker 3: Everyone, but it is more likely yeah, you know, like
Speaker 3: I think, like, damn, how many like well maybe not now,
Speaker 3: but like I how many like great guys might she
Speaker 3: missed out on because she is not. But people know
Speaker 3: what they want, but three kids, it was kind of
Speaker 3: a lot.
Speaker 2: I don't especially if you're not a mom with a
Speaker 2: different baby mama for each one.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, I kind of feel oh yeah, yeah, like
Speaker 3: I feel had one kid.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, you know what.
Speaker 4: Honestly, even now right now, I would not date a
Speaker 4: god Oh my god, I can't say this. I was
Speaker 4: gonna say, like, no, I wouldn't have guy with three
Speaker 4: kids and three baby mamas. But like it happens, like
Speaker 4: look at fucking Rakubadu, Like it could happen.
Speaker 2: But she's coolers so cool, and she can afford all.
Speaker 3: Those kids, true rich, she can afford seven and Mars
Speaker 3: and whoever you know, like she she.
Speaker 4: Got that also for me, my, I just I realized
Speaker 4: this recently. My absolute biggest fear of life is ending.
Speaker 4: This sounds bad because this is not even the worst
Speaker 4: ship that can happen, but like being a single mom
Speaker 4: of two that is so it just sounds like it
Speaker 4: sounds really scary. And then having two baby daddies, even
Speaker 4: though does it with grace, it's such a fucking stigma.
Speaker 4: And I'm not trying to say this fund anybody, because
Speaker 4: I know how amazing mothers.
Speaker 2: I mean, my mom has two.
Speaker 3: My mom has two baby daddies, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: she's still with one of them.
Speaker 2: My grandma got.
Speaker 3: You make it work. That's the thing about women though,
Speaker 3: like we are resilient and life goes it might you
Speaker 3: might have taken you might take the harder path, but
Speaker 3: you'll figure that ship out, you know, because that's just
Speaker 3: what we do.
Speaker 2: That's just what the fuck? Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: But I was just like, God, like, that's such a.
Speaker 4: That's such a like is that the worst thing, like
Speaker 4: be blacklisted from last It's not.
Speaker 5: It's absolutely not the worst thing. Babies are gifts from.
Speaker 3: The gods, from the God.
Speaker 4: From godies are gifts from God. I was like some
Speaker 4: Instagram Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's hear your next question. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, here's the gif before her and your daughter
Speaker 4: kills you don't.
Speaker 2: Okay, here's a good question.
Speaker 4: Do you guys think there's a difference between boy moms
Speaker 4: and girl moms?
Speaker 2: Like when we try to make mom friends, should we
Speaker 2: look to match? I didn't see this question. Did you
Speaker 2: read this?
Speaker 4: Would you just count a possible mom friendship because their
Speaker 4: child is the opposite sex of yours?
Speaker 2: That se no?
Speaker 3: No, I mean, well, I'm more concerned is actually.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't.
Speaker 3: But I'd be like, oh, okay, that's different, Like if
Speaker 3: I a little boy want to go over and play
Speaker 3: with Irey right now? Really, and like she only had
Speaker 3: boyfriends at like age three. I mean she was not boyfriends,
Speaker 3: but male friends.
Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's good.
Speaker 3: I mean I don't think it's not good, but it would.
Speaker 3: It's it's just something that like you always pay the
Speaker 3: same sex, can get together to play play dates with girls,
Speaker 3: play dates with boy Well you teach.
Speaker 4: Me, yeah, yeah, I guess you're saying, if you're going
Speaker 4: to look for a friend, specifically as a kid, you're
Speaker 4: probably likely gravitated to someone who has the same sex.
Speaker 4: But also for me, because I have to be able
Speaker 4: to stand your ass, like I'm going to go to
Speaker 4: the cool mom. But or if you have or if
Speaker 4: you had a friend, you guys are pre friends and
Speaker 4: then she has a son. If we're best friends for
Speaker 4: life and upset, it's gonna be automatic. But speaking of this,
Speaker 4: because now I know what you're going, Okay, this is quick. Luna,
Speaker 4: Like a year ago, like she was two, we went
Speaker 4: up north to see my friend and there was this
Speaker 4: kid there.
Speaker 2: He was like six, and he's like since next to
Speaker 2: name with Landa. He's like, what's her name? I was
Speaker 2: like that's Luna. What's your name?
Speaker 4: And he's like Isaiah, And then I just kept talking
Speaker 4: so because she wasn't really talking that much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, so, I'm like, when's your birthday?
Speaker 4: He's like November twenty seventh, which is my daughter's birthday.
Speaker 4: I was like, that's really interesting that you gravitated over
Speaker 4: here and that you guys have the same birthday.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So later, so this is.
Speaker 4: Like up in this hippie town up north. It's like
Speaker 4: all these black crosses, white Roster's and chip. So we're
Speaker 4: having this like crazy, like cool chill party. The kids
Speaker 4: are running around and I just see her like just
Speaker 4: following him around. I'm like, oh my god, this little
Speaker 4: bitch have a crush. So like a year later, we
Speaker 4: go on another like family trip with my friend who's
Speaker 4: friends with the family with the kid, and.
Speaker 2: They're just like chasing each other. Keep in mind, he's
Speaker 2: like seven now, you know, she's like three. Like, I'm like,
Speaker 2: where is Luna? And I say it. I go in
Speaker 2: the room. They're in the mirror holding hands. Girl like
Speaker 2: looking in the mirror holding hands. I was like, hold
Speaker 2: the fuck, this is so strange. So my friend's like,
Speaker 2: you betta. Watch her. She only your child, you know,
Speaker 2: she's so child's.
Speaker 4: Like, oh my god, I have to like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 4: I have to think about these things. Then he tells
Speaker 4: his mom later like I want to babysits onone Mom,
Speaker 4: I want a babysit.
Speaker 2: Maybe he has a maternal instinct. You may have to
Speaker 2: be maternal.
Speaker 4: The whole thing is, the truth of the matter is
Speaker 4: at no matter what age, like our soul are still
Speaker 4: people like energy.
Speaker 2: How I care for each other and make sure nurture
Speaker 2: you're okay. There is like the energy doesn't matter.
Speaker 4: How you can't deny when there's like boy or girl
Speaker 4: or female like there's all there's things. There's cosmic things
Speaker 4: that magnet like are were magnet to each other and gravitate.
Speaker 2: To each other.
Speaker 4: And I just had to like kind of respect it,
Speaker 4: but also like be aware of that.
Speaker 5: Right, No, it's true, but you felt weird about it.
Speaker 2: I did.
Speaker 5: And you know why.
Speaker 3: I think what I just had to realize in this
Speaker 3: moment is that because yeah, I encourage my daughter to
Speaker 3: have like girl dates, you know, and I don't even
Speaker 3: realize it because as society we separate men and women
Speaker 3: and it just becomes like ingrained in you that you
Speaker 3: don't even notice it anymore, right, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like that part of like why why am I doing that?
Speaker 3: Like why I already like when I'm watching stuff, I.
Speaker 2: Was like, that's for boys. I'm like, no, it's not. Oh,
Speaker 2: I always do that.
Speaker 4: Even one time I said to me, oh, like something pink,
Speaker 4: it's for girls. And I was like, that's who told
Speaker 4: you that? That's absolutely not true. Even I was like
Speaker 4: she was trying to put makeup on a boy and
Speaker 4: boys on my makeup and I was like some boys
Speaker 4: did let me park that real quick, like some boys to.
Speaker 2: Do wear make up? Yeah, because like you have, you've
Speaker 2: we've been ingrained that way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I guess it's true. Like I guess, yes,
Speaker 3: I do more normally do that with Iri. It's encouraged
Speaker 3: girl mom dates or I can not even I mean,
Speaker 3: there's not a lot of I don't I don't know
Speaker 3: any single dads that are.
Speaker 2: Like as a boy a boyfriend, I mean not a boyfriend,
Speaker 2: but a friend. It's a boy uh Cairo. Yeah.
Speaker 3: But like even though I shouldn't see them a lot,
Speaker 3: I'm mostly but now that I'm aware of it, I'm
Speaker 3: going to do better about that.
Speaker 5: Because because I don't know why I do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't even mean to, but I guess yeah,
Speaker 2: I just got to be more aware of it.
Speaker 4: There's another question, also unrelated. A lot of my older
Speaker 4: clients tell me the gripes I have with my baby
Speaker 4: daddy are basically just stupid men things and it won't.
Speaker 2: Change from one man to the next.
Speaker 4: Also, this is this is our homegirl shout out to
Speaker 4: Nelly underscore the Ninja with an ag. She's always showing
Speaker 4: us love, showing us mom love, and she's in the
Speaker 4: Florida area, in the Clearwater area.
Speaker 2: I think if you want to get you heard, then
Speaker 2: he's a hair silence. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 4: Anyway, So all my clients are telling me basically just
Speaker 4: stupid men things that it won't change from one man
Speaker 4: to the next. Thing is like putting his boxers in
Speaker 4: the fucking hamper and not the floor, or not having
Speaker 4: to ask to take the garbage out. Obviously, I have
Speaker 4: other issues for another day, but I feel like these
Speaker 4: little things being done right would streamline my attitude life.
Speaker 4: My question is, when do you know you got a
Speaker 4: good one and just put up with the little shit.
Speaker 2: Mm shit, girl, I don't know. Oh wait, there's more.
Speaker 4: Sorry, Or do you walk away with the hope of
Speaker 4: there being a man out there who will gladly take
Speaker 4: the heavy grocery bags out of your hands and put
Speaker 4: this plate in the think not the fucking counter.
Speaker 3: Well, it's like you might find like your dream man,
Speaker 3: but he might not fucking even put his ship in
Speaker 3: the counter. Or you might find a man that does
Speaker 3: all that shit and then he's a fucking asshole, so ha.
Speaker 4: Like he doesn't fuck you like you're a slut, you know, yeah,
Speaker 4: or he like his dick doesn't stay hard, or you know, like, yeah,
Speaker 4: there's gonna be no people.
Speaker 3: His pheromones, you know like that, because that's the whole thing.
Speaker 5: That's a real thing. Pheromones.
Speaker 2: That is a thing.
Speaker 3: You know, Like I've like made out with people and
Speaker 3: be like, oh, I don't know about that smell and
Speaker 3: it's not like a stinky smell.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just doesn't mesh with it, you know what.
Speaker 4: I've thought that at one time, and I googled it.
Speaker 2: You're like smell, psychic sense of smell. It's a thing.
Speaker 2: It is, of course it is.
Speaker 3: I My ax is fair Like I was obsessed with
Speaker 3: his pheromone like I would want to, like I would
Speaker 3: put his nose like on his cheek and smell him,
Speaker 3: and he'd be like, what are you doing.
Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't know what it feels good.
Speaker 2: But I don't know.
Speaker 4: You you know what you could put up with and
Speaker 4: what you can't put up with, because even with like.
Speaker 3: Five minutes, it's gonna be like ten minutes, maybe fifteen.
Speaker 4: What was I gonna say, Oh, because baby Daddy didn't
Speaker 4: deal lot of shit.
Speaker 2: And then I noticed, like young boy is a much
Speaker 2: more aware, and.
Speaker 4: It's like, oh my god, I don't have to fucking
Speaker 4: say the same thing four million times.
Speaker 5: Oh, you just do it.
Speaker 2: That's people do that. Oh you just do it before
Speaker 2: I ask you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what you can handle when you can't handle? Yeah,
Speaker 4: if I'm absolutely And a lot of times, the biggest
Speaker 4: thing with me saying that is a lot of times
Speaker 4: the small things will only be.
Speaker 2: Heightened the big things are bad. Yeah, because there's other shit.
Speaker 3: That's really That's what I was gonna say. I was like,
Speaker 3: if those are like almost deal breakers for you, there's
Speaker 3: something bigger happening than just that you're in denial of
Speaker 3: you're Yeah, you're like there's water under the bridge that
Speaker 3: you haven't dealt with, or that there's too much and
Speaker 3: you should.
Speaker 2: Just move on. Yeah, if it's excessive, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Because there's I feel like I feel like that, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: sometimes your relationship is beyond repair, and then little dumb
Speaker 3: shit that shouldn't bother you bothers you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because you're just super hyper fucking annoyed right.
Speaker 2: Or over it.
Speaker 3: So to answer your question, if that exists, I mean, yes,
Speaker 3: I do think it exists. I think that once you're
Speaker 3: if you find yourself in a relationship that you know
Speaker 3: you are genuinely where you feel overall happy, and then
Speaker 3: those type of things probably won't bother you as much
Speaker 3: unless you're extremely OCD and that's like a real problem
Speaker 3: for you.
Speaker 4: I used to wish for like like low key OCD
Speaker 4: man because I can be kind of messy. I'm not
Speaker 4: dirty because I feel like I'll get annoyed with myself,
Speaker 4: but I'm kind of messy and if I found somebody who's
Speaker 4: like slightly OCD, it would be good for me.
Speaker 3: But now I'm like, I also think that if you're
Speaker 3: in a real partnership with someone like they'll they'll they
Speaker 3: might not be perfect at it, but at least they'll try.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what I mean, And so that will.
Speaker 6: And you don't want to be better because you want
Speaker 6: to make that person.
Speaker 5: And I don't want a dirty house.
Speaker 2: You're right, You're right. I should want me account like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I will do what do you need me to do?
Speaker 5: And this is what I need you to do? So
Speaker 5: can we compromise?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I think that's where it's all about communications, compromise. Relationships
Speaker 3: are about compromise, but only to a certain extent.
Speaker 2: You can't compromise everything. You can't come with who you are. No, go,
Speaker 2: are we gonna do horries? Now?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 4: Should do the kind of dramatic one trying to come
Speaker 4: dramatic horse story?
Speaker 2: Are you going to do yours?
Speaker 5: What is this one?
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, let's not.
Speaker 5: Let's save this one for another time. Should we do
Speaker 5: the what do we have to talk about?
Speaker 2: The girl with the photo?
Speaker 3: Oh, we're gonna post her, uh picture. We'll be posting
Speaker 3: this photo at the evidence the receipts of her horri
Speaker 3: tonight tonight on our Insta story?
Speaker 2: Where is this story? Okay?
Speaker 4: She's funny, Okay, Okay, just getting caught up and here's
Speaker 4: my horri Also, please don't mind that come.
Speaker 5: By the way, there's come on the bed. Pick the
Speaker 5: picture that she's sent.
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's from us or what. I
Speaker 2: don't want to think about it.
Speaker 4: So I met this dude in the cab over the weekend,
Speaker 4: a cab my friend stole from this man and some
Speaker 4: On the drive back to the hotel, he convinced me
Speaker 4: and my vodka to go to his house.
Speaker 2: So basically he was about to give in the.
Speaker 4: Cab and they jumped in with him. I remember having okay,
Speaker 4: So he got her to not go to the hotel
Speaker 4: and convinced me to go back to his house. My
Speaker 4: vodka hit her and her vodka, not just her. I
Speaker 4: remember having good sacks and he got me off. My
Speaker 4: regular tender bait hasn't done that yet. But I woke
Speaker 4: up to him wearing my underwear. Those underwear are easily
Speaker 4: ten years old and have period stains, bleech crotch, bottom
Speaker 4: of the barrel. I'm thirty now, not going to fuck
Speaker 4: when I go I'm thirty now not going to fuck
Speaker 4: when I go out underwear and.
Speaker 2: This man is asleep in them. I had to.
Speaker 4: Wake him up to ask him how to get out,
Speaker 4: and he asked me if I got his number as
Speaker 4: he pointed where to go, and my ass said yep,
Speaker 4: I'll call you later and ran out. Never got his number,
Speaker 4: and I'm dead. Every time I see this picture in
Speaker 4: my phone stream, he he ill, please don't judge me
Speaker 4: by this picture. Focus on the butt, yo, This fucking
Speaker 4: picture is so what do you think he thought when
Speaker 4: he woke up and looked at me, He didn't think
Speaker 4: she wait, there's oh, there's still more to the thought. Okay.
Speaker 2: I looked at it and it was full of oh okay,
Speaker 2: so okay.
Speaker 4: So also in the picture, I said, oh my god,
Speaker 4: there was like a fish tank.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so the.
Speaker 4: Picture, I said, I can't okay. I said, it's too
Speaker 4: fucking funny. Oh my god, Now I see. How the
Speaker 4: fuck did he get his ass in those damn panties?
Speaker 2: Is the question? She said, I was wasted visiting my hometown.
Speaker 2: No idea.
Speaker 4: Oh so her hometown's Reno, California. And I said, what's
Speaker 4: his elabric? Fish chink and filter, Because there's a fish
Speaker 4: tank in the ficture, she said. I looked at it
Speaker 4: and it was full of meno type things. I'm also
Speaker 4: pretty sure his kids were asleep on the couch in
Speaker 4: the living room.
Speaker 2: Star we were in the garage, I was, yes, so.
Speaker 3: Please tune in to it's a mean okay, she thought
Speaker 3: in the garage he has her underwear on, it's.
Speaker 2: And his kids are possibly sleep on the couch.
Speaker 4: Yo, And then what is there's like a whole filter
Speaker 4: system and a fishing Oh, we're going to post this
Speaker 4: for has in a row, So every day we're going
Speaker 4: to post this in case anybody misses it. He need
Speaker 4: to check the instant story and if anyone else has
Speaker 4: a whore with a fucking picture, please.
Speaker 2: Please please send it. Wait, I think there's an update
Speaker 2: at the bottom too. Oh my god, she has a lot.
Speaker 5: Update.
Speaker 4: An update is he's a normal, nice, hot guy who
Speaker 4: works and takes care of his kids and would be
Speaker 4: fun if I lived there.
Speaker 2: Also, how'd you find out? You gonna get his number?
Speaker 2: Find you?
Speaker 4: Also, a whole house of people saw him in my
Speaker 4: panties because he woke up drunk and didn't realize.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: We chalked for like a week and then my capricorn
Speaker 4: bait came all the way around, so I'm doing that now.
Speaker 5: I know I love capricorns to.
Speaker 4: At least we know that he's kind of He's totally normal,
Speaker 4: except the fact that he likes to put on the
Speaker 4: chicken cakes.
Speaker 3: And panties, which can be say it's hilarious that he
Speaker 3: woke up in the morning, probably stumbled in the kitchen,
Speaker 3: like get some water, and he.
Speaker 2: Had her panty pink. They're pink. The panties are pink
Speaker 2: and like her worst fannies. I think it's hilarious. Did
Speaker 2: you think we were his? So yes, are you gonna
Speaker 2: tell your horri Should I say it for next week?
Speaker 2: I don't know? That's so funny. I feel we can
Speaker 2: save it. When When when?
Speaker 5: Because next week you're gonna definitely want to tune into.
Speaker 2: My her ho Spine edition. Oh my god, I have
Speaker 2: a few, So.
Speaker 3: It's gonna be like all month, all month extravaganza Erica's
Speaker 3: horror Stories.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, did we miss her? Didn't we have a
Speaker 2: conference call? Oh? Ship? What time is it? Fuck?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: This he's gonna think we're playing games. Did we announce
Speaker 2: our guests? That's because we need to confirm it first.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, we have a really like special possibly two
Speaker 3: guest situation coming on and.
Speaker 2: It's gonna be good. But we're missing we're missing our appointment.
Speaker 3: We should got to make it work anyway, we should
Speaker 3: actually we should what toap.
Speaker 5: Him after this?
Speaker 2: Maybe face time will suffice. Oh my god, I don't
Speaker 2: know why I made that face. I don't know. Okay, anyway,
Speaker 2: never mind not.
Speaker 3: Okay, we ain't a time for that?
Speaker 2: Is that it? I think that's it. Yeah. We didn't
Speaker 2: do any current events. He didn't do any card events.
Speaker 3: I just want to touch on the one card event
Speaker 3: that I felt like we talked about really quickly, which
Speaker 3: was the baseball player that lost his realized his mom
Speaker 3: had passed away while he was playing a game.
Speaker 4: And their names are Ozzie Albi's and Ronald Junior.
Speaker 3: And I guess was I think it was Ronald Acuna
Speaker 3: his dad or his mother died?
Speaker 2: Was it her?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I believe so.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And he was obviously upset, and his teammate was
Speaker 3: consoling him, and like he was like kind of like
Speaker 3: straddling around his waist and like petting his head to
Speaker 3: try to console him.
Speaker 2: I heard he he actually found out at the game
Speaker 2: when she had passed.
Speaker 3: That's what they were in their fucking uniforms like in
Speaker 3: like the dugout.
Speaker 4: Anyway, the commentary was so fucking homophobic and so fucking disgusting.
Speaker 4: It just made me sick, honestly, because like, damn are
Speaker 4: we not allowed to like as men? Like what are
Speaker 4: we instilling in our men that you cannot express yourself?
Speaker 2: You cannot have emotions.
Speaker 4: It's so unhealthy, it's so disgusting, and like for any
Speaker 4: parents who are raising boys, don't do that shit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really sad like he was having he
Speaker 3: was has lost his mother, that is like part of
Speaker 3: his connection to this world, like.
Speaker 2: To make it something so like shallow, it was just
Speaker 2: and even if he is.
Speaker 3: Gay, who the fuck cares, you know? And who knows
Speaker 3: if he is who he was having a moment and
Speaker 3: nothing to do with sex.
Speaker 4: It had to do with like a brother, like a
Speaker 4: partnership and a friendship and apparently they're they're childhood friends.
Speaker 4: But it's just I felt sad for our community that
Speaker 4: like this is like where we like where we jump
Speaker 4: to and something.
Speaker 5: So yeah, because white people do gay shit.
Speaker 3: I'm just putting up apostrophes around that because gay gay
Speaker 3: shit all the time and it's just normal. It's just like, oh,
Speaker 3: their buddies haa, they play football, they're patting each other
Speaker 3: on the ass.
Speaker 2: Ha ha. That's all you're doing.
Speaker 3: But when black or brown or like brown and black people,
Speaker 3: when they do things that are just being comfortable with
Speaker 3: who they are expressing their emotion, it's considered it's like
Speaker 3: a negative. It's negative you're automatically gay, you autifately let
Speaker 3: you automatically dick.
Speaker 2: They're immediately demasculated. Yeah, and it's sad.
Speaker 4: And I hope those fucking commentary commentators get fined or
Speaker 4: fired because check the fuck up. You obviously are releasing
Speaker 4: some undercover homophobic feelings.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I hope we can do better somehow someway,
Speaker 5: but there's a.
Speaker 2: Lot going on.
Speaker 5: We got a lot to work on. Anyway.
Speaker 3: I hope that you take this month. I think everybody
Speaker 3: if you're listening in the tune this and I encourage
Speaker 3: you this month to kind of take something to work towards.
Speaker 3: I've been trying to do that.
Speaker 2: I want yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, obviously, you forget you're not gonna be perfect, You're
Speaker 3: not gonna work on it every day.
Speaker 2: Let's just be real, like, so don't be disappointed. Don't
Speaker 2: get scared to take.
Speaker 3: On something because you think you have to like do
Speaker 3: it perfect, because I know I've done. I'm that in
Speaker 3: my life and it's paralyzed me from working on.
Speaker 2: Myself because if I'm not doing it perfectly, I can't
Speaker 2: do it. Let me just try later.
Speaker 3: I'll try next month, you know, try to sweet, just
Speaker 3: start tomorrow because it just feels it just it gives
Speaker 3: you purpose. And why don't you want Why wouldn't you
Speaker 3: want to work on yourself? I mean, I'm learning. I
Speaker 3: have to remind myself that every day, but I know
Speaker 3: that when I do, I just feel better. And I've
Speaker 3: been feeling good even through a lot of challenging situations
Speaker 3: throwing my way in the last week, so that I'm
Speaker 3: probably not gonna share on here because they're just a
Speaker 3: little too personal at the moment. But I just I
Speaker 3: think working on yourself and learning how to cope with
Speaker 3: shit because shit is always going.
Speaker 2: To happen, it's so important.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you just so we can walk with love and
Speaker 3: feel at peace. And that's how I want to live
Speaker 3: my life.
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, especially with yourself.
Speaker 4: And you know what I found like talking to you guys,
Speaker 4: and talking to you Erica really reminds me to hold
Speaker 4: myself accountable and pushes me to grow because you're like
Speaker 4: I'm doing this, and I'm like, you're right, that's that's no.
Speaker 3: But you too, and you give me good advice all
Speaker 3: the time. I'm seriously this, I really missed.
Speaker 5: I missed this.
Speaker 2: I know you, I really did.
Speaker 3: Like I was like, I need I need to I
Speaker 3: need to go pod, I need to go pod.
Speaker 2: Connect I do.
Speaker 3: I need needs to hear my stories, like talk about
Speaker 3: our ship, Like, so d m me if you have.
Speaker 4: Like yeah, we're always welcome to like where I talk
Speaker 4: to a lot of girls, like yeah.
Speaker 2: We like we have.
Speaker 5: Like I love the community we have.
Speaker 3: It's small, but it's growing and you guys are fucking
Speaker 3: also like awesome, and I love engaging with you guys,
Speaker 3: and like some of you guys send us like video
Speaker 3: talks and like I love.
Speaker 2: It and I feel like I have like way more
Speaker 2: girlfriends I know for sure.
Speaker 4: Also, we want to do we want to make a
Speaker 4: do a meet up like a happy hour or something.
Speaker 4: So if anybody has any bar suggestions or you know
Speaker 4: homide who has a bar that wants all of us
Speaker 4: to come tell us.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we should do like a poll on
Speaker 3: our instra stories, like how many people live in La.
Speaker 3: I mean, first of all, because it's gonna be like
Speaker 3: it's quite I'm down to take the five people.
Speaker 5: Look, I'm like antisocial. I can't handle twenty people.
Speaker 2: I'll be like, yeah, please, I don't know. How are you?
Speaker 1: You're good?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 2: Grade you okay? What are you having fun? Are you
Speaker 2: having fun? Like? Yeah, I mean, yeah, we should see
Speaker 2: how many people are here. But if all else fails,
Speaker 2: we can our friends.
Speaker 5: That's true.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very true.
Speaker 3: Oh and if you are in La August seventh, I'm
Speaker 3: doing I'm speaking on a single mom panel. It's gonna
Speaker 3: it's hosted by uh the okay real and it's at Loom,
Speaker 3: which is in La somewhere. It's like a really cool
Speaker 3: center for like toddler education. Oh yeah, it's really it's.
Speaker 2: Like bring the fleet. Yeah we can bring cool.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: It's at eleven a m. Tuesday, August seventh.
Speaker 3: Me and I think it's four other really amazing women
Speaker 3: are gonna just be talking about being a single parent
Speaker 3: or four at eleven am being a single parent or
Speaker 3: being raised by a single parent and like how uh
Speaker 3: you know the challenges we face and then how do
Speaker 3: we come together, like how other single women, other single
Speaker 3: parent moms or dads.
Speaker 5: Come together and support each other? You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: And or don't you know? It's like a big, bigger conversation.
Speaker 3: So cool, come out, come out.
Speaker 2: I'll be there.
Speaker 5: I'll post the fire on our insta. I did did
Speaker 5: on our stories.
Speaker 3: I'll post it on our insta like maybe like in
Speaker 3: the next few days, closer to the day.
Speaker 2: But yeah, is that it? That's it. It's nice catching
Speaker 2: up with y'all.
Speaker 3: If you have any more horries, email us because obviously
Speaker 3: it's all they care about.
Speaker 4: Tell us about yourself.
Speaker 5: I'm done with mine. I'm like retiring from sex.
Speaker 2: That's a lie, that's a line.
Speaker 5: All right, Well, we'll catch you next week and we'll
Speaker 5: close my.
Speaker 2: Nice que. Letting go a body.
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