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Speaker 1: Go oh, it's Ironica's pay ain't paid it all hardly?

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Speaker 2: Get a's what's up? We're back, We're hey, Hey, Hey,

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Speaker 2: what's up? It's good. Prince advisory. Are we still doing mu?

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Speaker 3: Should we just throw it out like we got a break?

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Speaker 3: I think we're just good Mom's bad choice.

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Speaker 2: Why didn't no one get back on it? No one cares.

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Speaker 2: We got to make the executive decison.

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Speaker 4: Okay, good Mom's bad choices, So fort Advisories out, it's out.

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Speaker 3: We got to like contact iTunes and I just feel

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Speaker 4: Okay, so hey, welcome back. It's good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 4: I'm Erica, I'm Nila, and this is our podcast pitches.

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Speaker 5: We're back, bitches. We took a it's been two weeks.

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Speaker 2: Three.

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Speaker 5: I don't think we've I think it's been two.

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Speaker 3: But we posted another one when we were gone just one.

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Speaker 4: So we've been gone three weeks. We've missed you guys

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Speaker 3: Really, I feel i've been I was like, I need

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Speaker 3: We're in my room by the way right now, because

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Speaker 5: So that's my watch going off. You heard that.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to this very intimate place where the magic happens.

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Speaker 2: This is my bed. Remember in cribs, always be like,

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Speaker 3: You see the silk pillows I have here and this

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Speaker 4: And for all of you listening, you gotta go on

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Speaker 4: YouTube as soon as we ever eventually post these visuals.

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Speaker 2: I swear we record our episodes, we just we forget

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Speaker 2: to post them because we're high. Oh man, Yeah, anyway,

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Speaker 2: Well, you kind of also broke up with the couple.

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Speaker 2: It's just I'm not interested in doing all the time.

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Speaker 2: Bye, but yeah, like two weeks later, bitch even hang

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Speaker 2: Used it too dark. It is it is lit too dark,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, oh this, bitch, get me this and

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Speaker 2: I think wart cover effects. Anyway, I'm like, why was

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Speaker 4: So yeah, so back to trembling a babe. You she

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Speaker 2: We had an amazing we It's like my first vacation.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, well many things help that, like alcohol and.

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Speaker 2: So speaking of many things, you don't have to be into detail.

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Speaker 2: My best life.

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Speaker 3: Not that I dealt with her, but this is a

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Speaker 5: It's not real.

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Speaker 3: And then it also gave me like this feeling of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, yes, I'm gonna conquer you. I'm gonna get

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Speaker 2: And even though like I don't know if I thought

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Speaker 2: think that can confuse it too. Yes, you know what

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00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:25,680
Speaker 2: I mean, So you.

450
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:27,120
Speaker 3: Know, and not to say that I didn't care about

451
00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:28,840
Speaker 3: this person, cause I do and I still do and

452
00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:31,840
Speaker 3: actually like, okay, so let me get to the film,

453
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:32,919
Speaker 3: let me finish the story.

454
00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,280
Speaker 2: So anyway, let me just fast forward. We had a

455
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:35,960
Speaker 2: great time I left.

456
00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 3: We had a great conversation about my anxieties and his

457
00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:41,720
Speaker 3: and our insecurities and our relationships and why we do

458
00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,440
Speaker 3: what we do. Like he says he's didn't get a

459
00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:46,880
Speaker 3: lot of attention in his last piece, or he didn't

460
00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,080
Speaker 3: feel wanted in his previous relationship, and so now he

461
00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,520
Speaker 3: feels more wanted than ever by multiple women, and it's

462
00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:56,320
Speaker 3: he It feels good to feel.

463
00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,320
Speaker 2: To feel wanted, and that's normal.

464
00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:59,679
Speaker 3: I get that, but he also said, I know that

465
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:03,000
Speaker 3: I'm how the rate that I'm doing it is unhealthy,

466
00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:03,720
Speaker 3: you know.

467
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:05,200
Speaker 2: So I was like, well, damn.

468
00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:06,920
Speaker 3: I mean if you have, if you have that much

469
00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,920
Speaker 3: self awareness, like that's pretty fucking good.

470
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 4: I'm all about being self aware because the worst thing

471
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:13,560
Speaker 4: is a motherfucker who doesn't know what the fuck is

472
00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,040
Speaker 4: wrong with them and why where it's rooted in.

473
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:15,919
Speaker 2: I mean, there's I have.

474
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,520
Speaker 3: I mean, I and you know, I have self awareness

475
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,000
Speaker 3: of certain things that I'm still not working on, you

476
00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:21,440
Speaker 3: know what I mean.

477
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,159
Speaker 2: That's just how like, yeah, you gotta get to what

478
00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 2: you can say you.

479
00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,800
Speaker 4: Constant, it's a constant battle, it's a constant you gotta

480
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:33,080
Speaker 4: do it like it's work every day.

481
00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:33,440
Speaker 2: Right.

482
00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 3: So anyway, so I was like, okay, like maybe I

483
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 3: do like this person, and like I realized that my

484
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,840
Speaker 3: feelings that were give me anxiety and like all these

485
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:44,359
Speaker 3: they were these all these confused feelings that I was like,

486
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:48,479
Speaker 3: what is this? It was just that, oh, you really

487
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 3: like this person, Like you feel like you've opened up

488
00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:52,800
Speaker 3: to this person. And I haven't had that feeling in

489
00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,879
Speaker 3: so long, probably seven years, Because that's a want I

490
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,760
Speaker 3: was in another deeply emotionally invested relationship that I forgot

491
00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 3: what that feeling was and it like confused me.

492
00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,800
Speaker 2: And then I was like, oh, that's what that shit is.

493
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:03,800
Speaker 2: I like you.

494
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 3: I've decided I like you. I'm like excited, and so

495
00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,440
Speaker 3: I think I expressed that to him, We expressed that

496
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:12,880
Speaker 3: to each other.

497
00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:13,160
Speaker 2: Whatever.

498
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,119
Speaker 3: So then we get back to I go and we

499
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 3: leave each other. We go to different parts of Europe.

500
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 5: At that point we separate. I know he's going with

501
00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 5: actually went to.

502
00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 2: Another city with another girl. I think she's from there.

503
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 3: And he was honest about it, super honest all I've

504
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 3: ever asked for, like seriously, like I couldn't have asked for,

505
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 3: Like I know that most people probably aren't capable even

506
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:40,000
Speaker 3: of what he gave me, and so sh yeah, that's

507
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 3: what I think was exciting about it. I was like, damn,

508
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,439
Speaker 3: I want to but now that I know, but all

509
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,480
Speaker 3: that I now that I know that it's a possibility

510
00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,360
Speaker 3: and it really does exist. It's something that I'm definitely

511
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 3: is like kind of a deal breaker for me going

512
00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 3: into anything.

513
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 2: If you're unable to do even just dating me, you

514
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 2: just have to we have to start this way. Ain't

515
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 2: no reason, I uh so.

516
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

517
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 5: So then I got back.

518
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,000
Speaker 3: Well, I went to New York, had my amazing event,

519
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 3: went into d the HSN thing exhausted, flew in during

520
00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 3: rush hour traffic, and so he lives by the airport,

521
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:20,160
Speaker 3: so I went and saw him. It was the first

522
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 3: time I'd seen him since Abisa. Had like a great time,

523
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,720
Speaker 3: you know, at least I thought we did. But I

524
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,160
Speaker 3: have to say, in my heart there was some sort

525
00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: of like that's still hesitation there, but I was more

526
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 3: but I was more open than I was ever. I

527
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 3: felt more open, but I still had a hesitation, but

528
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 3: I still wanted to win. Yeah, that's what was driving me.

529
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, my ego was driving me.

530
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,679
Speaker 3: Oh god, That's when I realized that my ego was

531
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 3: driving me because I'm like, what, there's something in there

532
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,880
Speaker 3: still that's not right. Even though you had this amazing connection,

533
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 3: but I was I was willing to ignore it. And

534
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 3: that's scary. That's how I know I have more work

535
00:22:57,640 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 3: to do.

536
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 2: So oh yeah.

537
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 3: Then the next day he told me he was gonna

538
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 3: have a talk with a girl that he's been seeing,

539
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 3: Like I guess she was upset about him being she's

540
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:09,679
Speaker 3: been trying to lock him down for a while he's

541
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 3: upset about her him seeing me and him out there,

542
00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,239
Speaker 3: and I'm sure like she knew he was the other

543
00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 3: woman out there cause he was and uh, he was

544
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 3: like I need to talk to her. I'm we're gonna

545
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 3: have a talk. And I was like, cool, you know,

546
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 3: do what you gotta do. Something in me told me

547
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:28,639
Speaker 3: that the result was gonna be something like this. Really

548
00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 3: then he told me it was like I ran into

549
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,679
Speaker 3: my girlfriend yesterday with her boyfriend, and he was like

550
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 3: it was totally cool, Like I was caught off guard,

551
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 3: but like everything was cool, like I'm so happy she's happy.

552
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 3: And I was like, you know what, you're just a

553
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,160
Speaker 3: little too, like everything is perfect all the time. Yeah,

554
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 3: you know you felt some shit, right, Like everybody feels

555
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 3: a little something.

556
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:52,919
Speaker 5: Like or are we wrong? Do they not?

557
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's maybe people who've done a lot of

558
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: work for themselves. I don't think.

559
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 5: I don't think.

560
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 3: I'm not saying he's not an involved person and he's

561
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 3: but I don't think whatever you.

562
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:07,679
Speaker 4: Can feel nothing, I don't. Oh shit, she looked really happy.

563
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:09,200
Speaker 2: She looked really happy.

564
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 5: I was really happy for her.

565
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 2: She looked genuinely happy, Like.

566
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 3: Okay, So then He's like, I'm gonna have to talk

567
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 3: with the girl. This girl he's been dating, Like, so,

568
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:25,199
Speaker 3: what was while he's been dating me? So he's I

569
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 3: guess he's dated her on and off a little bit

570
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 3: while we've been dating.

571
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:30,439
Speaker 2: Da da da. She's more wants something serious.

572
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 3: I'm more just like maybe I'm just like the fun girl, right, fine, bitch.

573
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 3: So the next day he calls, he texts me and

574
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 3: tells me that he's decided that he's they will They've

575
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 3: David decided that they want to explore deeper emotional a

576
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 3: deeper emotional connection with the like in the hopes of

577
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 3: l a long term connection.

578
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 5: Basically, they're they're working towards being boys for their girlfriend.

579
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:03,439
Speaker 2: Right. So I was just like, oh, this is like

580
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 2: literally two days after I just saw him, right like okay,

581
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 2: So I was like, you're breaking up.

582
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 3: We're not freaking up. But just like I was just like,

583
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 3: she chose somebody else. Yeah, And that's when the ego thing. Yeah,

584
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,879
Speaker 3: and I but that's what I realized, this is so

585
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 3: not about you, Erica, It's about him.

586
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

587
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 2: And do you want somebody who wants something that you

588
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 2: don't want?

589
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 3: Well, he just told me you didn't know what you wanted,

590
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 3: like unless you were lying, unless you weren't being transparent.

591
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,919
Speaker 3: But I really felt like we were being genuine. He's like,

592
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 3: I don't know what I want. I'm confused, da da da.

593
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:31,720
Speaker 3: And I think that what triggered him was seeing his

594
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 3: ex girlfriend with somebody, and that want, that need to

595
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,360
Speaker 3: feel wanted, seeing her being wanted.

596
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 5: I don't know.

597
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 3: I could probably be digging deeper into this than I

598
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 3: don't know.

599
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 2: I think I'm right whatever, I'm an Sammy.

600
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 3: I think I think all these things play a factor.

601
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 3: And this girl for sure wants to be with him.

602
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,719
Speaker 3: I'm not a guarantee, I'm we both are just like whatever,

603
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 3: not whatever, Like we definitely have a connection like that

604
00:25:56,560 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 3: I felt was deeper than I've had with any one else.

605
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 4: But you have you don't want to You're not necessarily

606
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 4: discussing an endpoint like working towards something like or that

607
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 4: you're gonna stop dating other people to No.

608
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 5: No, we didn't. We didn't establish it a point.

609
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 2: I don't know.

610
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 5: But anyway, so we're done. We're done, and Tier.

611
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 3: Tears it's okay if I'm okay, totally not totally fine,

612
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 3: But what I'm so happy this happened.

613
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 5: And I know time is always the greatest neutralizers.

614
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 3: My mom has always taught me, and it's like the

615
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: truest thing ever, and it's what makes me like, Okay,

616
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 3: I'm like upset in this moment, but like two weeks

617
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 3: from now and this is gonna be like okay, but

618
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 3: not even two weeks from now, Like literally, it's been

619
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 3: like two days, and I'm really strangely at peace with it.

620
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,879
Speaker 3: I feel like he did me a favor. I feel

621
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 3: like I wish him the best and her the best

622
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:53,199
Speaker 3: if that even you know, transpires. But most importantly, I

623
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 3: feel like it was like a big lesson in my

624
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 3: ego because I realized that my feelings were not hurt.

625
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 2: It was my ego that was hurt. And it's a

626
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: difference and taking things personally, you know what I mean.

627
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 3: And because I think reading the Four Agreements, like those

628
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 3: two things just like I immediately linked them because I'm

629
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 3: reading this book and I'm like, oh shit, like this

630
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 3: is crazy right now. And what was amazing about that

631
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 3: is that, Okay, I'm like, over the last nine or

632
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 3: ten months, it's my breakup. I've been working on, like

633
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 3: trying to like have tools for dealing with shit and

634
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 3: like not react the way that like I normally would

635
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: react in the situation that upset me or I felt

636
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 3: overlooked or insecure about.

637
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 2: It, and so not entertaining the drama. I was really

638
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 2: like I was like talking to myself in the car.

639
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:39,920
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, bitch, this is one of these

640
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:43,360
Speaker 3: moments like this is right now. This is when it's

641
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 3: you apply everything that you know and you've tried to

642
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 3: like train yourself your brain to think right now, this

643
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: is an opportunity.

644
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 5: And so I've just been doing that, and of course

645
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 5: it's not perfect.

646
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 3: Of course, I like talk shit in my head every

647
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 3: like five ave minutes, but like there's ten minutes where

648
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 3: I'm not, and I'm like yeah, and that's like where

649
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 3: you start, you know what I mean. And so it's

650
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 3: been like I'm excited for this month to just focus

651
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 3: really on myself, on checking my ego. It's even like

652
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 3: starting to change my relationship with my baby daddy slowly.

653
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 5: I'm like I think I'm learning forgiveness.

654
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 3: Because I've tried to forgive him for like I like

655
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 3: have like a week where I'm like, Okay, I forgive him.

656
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 3: I forgive him, and then like something comes up and

657
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 3: I'm like, fuck you, you know, like fuck you, I

658
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 3: don't forgive you. You're like, oh, you didn't forgive him.

659
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 3: You really didn't forgive it though.

660
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 2: That was awsalon.

661
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 3: So I'm excited for this journey and of course, like

662
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 3: I know, it's like a lifelong journey of uh, you know,

663
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: peeling away or the layers of your ego. Girl, but

664
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 3: I'm actually like thankful for this, for this situation.

665
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 2: I am.

666
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 3: Do I want to talk to him right now? No,

667
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 3: I don't feel like he handled it well. He could

668
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 3: have called me, yeah, because then after he told me

669
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 3: then he was like, if you don't mind like a

670
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 3: few like later this week, once I like figure all

671
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 3: this out in my head, can I give you a call?

672
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 2: No, don't, don't.

673
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 4: Don't don't get into your confusing, conflicting conversation with self.

674
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 3: I'm good right, Like, no, I don't exactly exactly, And

675
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: I just felt like you just want to make sure

676
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 3: that you that were okay, so you feel better about

677
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 3: this pituation. That's what I feel realized like slowly that

678
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what's happening, you know what I mean?

679
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 4: Of course, we all have we all get pulled into

680
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 4: that because there's this want of approval, this want to

681
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 4: be liked.

682
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 2: You know, that's the fucking problems like that.

683
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 4: You know, everybody is supposed to please everybody, but you can't,

684
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 4: and that's how you get confused with what it did

685
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 4: you actually want because you're so used to like pleasing

686
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 4: other people.

687
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 5: It's true, I'm just I'm just I don't know.

688
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,239
Speaker 3: It's just so crazy how I could have such an

689
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 3: intense experience and then it just be like and I

690
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: read my horoscope this month and it was like in July,

691
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 3: like you need to wrap up all the loose ends,

692
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 3: like don't bring any unla like uneasy feelings into August.

693
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 3: And those are uneasy feelings I have I've been having.

694
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 5: I liked him.

695
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: I didn't like him at all one second.

696
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 3: Then I went to a beast and I was like,

697
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 3: I loved him, and then I'm like I like him,

698
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 3: and I'm like do.

699
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 2: I I'm crish, no, you know exactly. It's just so dramatic.

700
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 4: Well, speaking of astrology, we did have like a lot

701
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 4: of we had a full moon lunary clips.

702
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 2: I missed. I missed it.

703
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 3: When I was with him, I literally him in the

704
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 3: car and I was like, fuck I missed. It was

705
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 3: like a blood mood, a blood moon.

706
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:31,959
Speaker 2: Yeah.

707
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 4: And also Mars was as bright as it's ever been

708
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 4: in like eighty two years. Yeah, So there's definitely a shift.

709
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 4: There's definitely a shift and energy. It's like the rebirth

710
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 4: of I mean, it's like a time to recenter, rebirth.

711
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 4: Like you said, shut off old things. If you felt

712
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 4: an an energetic shift, that's why. Because I certainly felt it,

713
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 4: So that shit is real.

714
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're so right.

715
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 5: I really did feel it too.

716
00:30:56,240 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you pay attention, like it makes a difference. Yeah.

717
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 2: So I did read a bit about it. I was

718
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 2: gonna tell you about ego.

719
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I just feel like.

720
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 2: Before this, I was working on expectation and I'm still

721
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 2: worrying on that.

722
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 5: I'm still am working on that.

723
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 2: That's a really hard one.

724
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 4: What was gonna I was gonna say, Also, the important

725
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 4: thing about situations like this and like encounters like this,

726
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 4: when you stop, when you start shifting the dialogue and

727
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 4: saying like oh shit, like this is really forcing me

728
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 4: to come out of myself, like what am I supposed

729
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 4: to take from this situation? Then this hurt or pain

730
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 4: or whatever temporary emotion you think you're feeling can really

731
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 4: shift your perspective to feel differently. Because I've had things

732
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 4: happened to me like this last couple of months, and

733
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 4: I'm like at one point like sobbing, crying, and then

734
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, this person's forcing me to

735
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 4: face myself. This person's forcing needed.

736
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:03,959
Speaker 2: To hurt, to change, to grow, And then and then

737
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 2: I don't care anymore. I was like I could laugh

738
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 2: about it.

739
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 4: You know, So's you know, these are important things, and

740
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 4: it's not just for you know, like he obviously confused

741
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,480
Speaker 4: and has a lot of shit to figure out, but

742
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 4: even that plays a part and you a looking at

743
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 4: yourself and you know, just growing.

744
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's a good thing.

745
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 5: No, it's definitely a good situation.

746
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 2: I'm glad.

747
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 3: I'm actually really grateful for his honesty because I always said,

748
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 3: like for me, like when I started getting lied to

749
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 3: a lot in my relationship, I realized I just felt

750
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 3: like robbed of my my options, and so I really

751
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 3: like kind of like now live by that, Like I

752
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 3: just not lived by that.

753
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 2: But I just feel like when you lie to.

754
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 3: Someone, you take away their choice, like you know, like

755
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 3: I don't want to be here because you're doing X

756
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: Y and Z.

757
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 2: If you want to do X, Y and Z, then

758
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 2: do X Y and Z, right, you know what I mean?

759
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 3: Or maybe communicate with me because you never know what

760
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 3: I could be open to, you know, because that's really

761
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 3: what it came down to my relationship. Like he ever asked, right,

762
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 3: you know, I would tell him, he would still just

763
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 3: be sneaky yea, because he wanted he could sell it.

764
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 2: She wanted to do you want to have to take

765
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 2: to and have you a certain one? Yeah, I have

766
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 2: no If you.

767
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 4: If you know my how free I am, you're gonna

768
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 4: you're gonna, you know, mimic what I'm doing.

769
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 2: And I don't want that, right yeah, which is fucked up.

770
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 3: But I will say like that was really refreshing, and

771
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 3: I do appreciate his transparency.

772
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 4: Like don't because another thing in the fore agreements, because

773
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 4: I'm also reading it is like saying, don't make assumptions.

774
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 4: And I think people assume if I tell her the truth,

775
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 4: I'm gonna hurt her.

776
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 3: She can't handle the truth. I mean, because I've done that,

777
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 3: you know, like just me being But who are we?

778
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 3: And that's but who are we to say what.

779
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: You can handle exactly, you know what I mean.

780
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 5: I mean, but I do it all the time.

781
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 2: We all do. Yeah, So to be impeccable with your way,

782
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 2: you make choices for people. Yes, that's what I'm saying.

783
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:52,239
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you.

784
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 3: Because I don't think you can handle it, I'm gonna

785
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make that choice for you.

786
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

787
00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 3: It's been like a really eye opening experience. So I'm

788
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 3: really grateful. I feel like I learned a lot on

789
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 3: this trip. I just it was a really amazing trip.

790
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 3: I mean, minus the fact that good guys, if you

791
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:13,919
Speaker 3: guys go to Abisa, like, seriously, be careful out there,

792
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 3: because my friend got drugged out there, and let me

793
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 3: tell you, like, apparently it's really normal out there, really Yeah,

794
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 3: Like our airbnb host was like, oh, I'm so sorry.

795
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 2: It happens all the time.

796
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:28,319
Speaker 3: Oh shit, I know, I nus you guys, when you

797
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 3: just travel in general, just be careful.

798
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 2: Like, just just be careful cause you just.

799
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 3: I had to remind myself, like, shit, I need to

800
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 3: be more aware of shit, Like I'm out here just chilling.

801
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't this is not my environment.

802
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 4: Yea.

803
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's pretty important. Yeah, like was everything.

804
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 3: And my friend's really beautiful and has like a lot

805
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 3: of tattoos, so she's like a target.

806
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 2: You know, she's like just a target. People are drawn

807
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 2: to her. Everywhere we go.

808
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 5: They're either staring cause.

809
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: They're like whoa, or they're like, oh, yeah, you know,

810
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 3: we're gonna was it expensive?

811
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: Like the food it was like here, yeah you know, yeah,

812
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:08,280
Speaker 2: I was maybe.

813
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 3: A little less in different places. I actually spent less

814
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 3: money than I thought. Yeah, I thought I wasn't spend

815
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 3: a lot more money, but it wasn't cheap. Like we

816
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,640
Speaker 3: didn't skim like try and get skimpy on prices. Like

817
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:19,720
Speaker 3: we stayed in cool spots.

818
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:20,760
Speaker 2: You can't get skimpy.

819
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 3: And we ate what we wanted to eat, and we

820
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 3: did what we wanted to do, and the boat had

821
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:25,959
Speaker 3: to happen.

822
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 2: I was like, look, we don't make the boat work. Yeah,

823
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:31,760
Speaker 2: we must get on a boat.

824
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 3: Everyone on Instagram is doing everyone we as matter of fact,

825
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 3: we won't do the sugar.

826
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 2: Challenge on the boats. Okay, so we're gonna practice. Isn't

827
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 2: social media motivates? You're like, this will be a good picture.

828
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 5: Wait.

829
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 3: After that, my friend was like we should level up

830
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 3: the challenge in our apartment.

831
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: And I was like, bitch, I got my challenge.

832
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 3: I'm like, first of all, I cannot dance really. First

833
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 3: of all, okay, you know what, No, I know how

834
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 3: to shake my ass real goods. So people be thinking

835
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,919
Speaker 3: I can, but a bitch has no rhythm.

836
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 4: So have you seen the level video? I got a

837
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,839
Speaker 4: fucking cramp watching like I.

838
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,319
Speaker 3: Just like, I just felt like you just twist your

839
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 3: arm a lot and then you dive.

840
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 2: Who has enough energy for them?

841
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm jealous that people can do. I want

842
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,320
Speaker 3: to know how to do. That's for people under eighteen.

843
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 3: I'm like, I kind of wish I knew how to dance.

844
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:17,800
Speaker 3: Like it's one of those things of like a talent

845
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 3: I wish I had. Maybe I could have it if

846
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 3: I worked at it.

847
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 2: A dance class together. Do you get to hip hop dance?

848
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 2: Whould you go? I do? Oh my god? I dance,

849
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 2: Oh my god? And I don't want to go. I

850
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 2: mean in high school, bitch, it's like a muscle No. No,

851
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 2: not really not.

852
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 4: You could like build up to remember, but we could

853
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 4: go to a beginner's class. Also, I just had recent

854
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 4: thoughts that I want to be a pull dancing superstar.

855
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 2: Oh, I can see that. I was to pull dancing classes.

856
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 3: I went to a pull dancing class. I went like two.

857
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 3: They were fine. They were hard though.

858
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,000
Speaker 5: It's really hard to get your ass up on that poll.

859
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 2: It's all like, I know, an army time for one class.

860
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 2: The next day, I was like, what the fuck does

861
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: and like you would get her cruises? Like cruise first.

862
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 2: I think your body dancers to dance, Yeah, they do,

863
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: but dancers, Yeah, that she was painful.

864
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 4: I danced like two nights in three nights in my

865
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 4: life and it was hard work.

866
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:15,760
Speaker 2: Oh, we want to do an episode with a dancer

867
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 2: who's a mom? Yeah?

868
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,280
Speaker 5: Does anybody know any dancers that are also mothers?

869
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 2: And in the LA area call us nude dancers.

870
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 4: Let's specific, like, yeah, she danced for Britney Erotic danceing

871
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 4: erotic dancers.

872
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 5: That our mama's holler?

873
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:36,719
Speaker 2: What else?

874
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 5: Oh did you want to what about you?

875
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 2: Oh?

876
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:40,479
Speaker 3: How was your.

877
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 2: Jersey? Was really fun? I have been I don't know,

878
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 2: I don't know. After like my birthday, I felt like

879
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 2: a shift.

880
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 4: I've been like partying less and so I haven't really

881
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 4: been drinking a lot and just been like smoking and chilling.

882
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 2: So for me, Jersey is like my friend has.

883
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 4: Like this awesome beautiful property. There's like apple trees and

884
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 4: blackberries going yeah, deers and.

885
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:12,240
Speaker 2: Rabbits, yes there are Okay.

886
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 4: So there's a place in Jersey that Thomas Edison, his

887
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,439
Speaker 4: house is there. But they built a community in that place.

888
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 4: It's like a secret enchanted for.

889
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: It's called Edison Valley. It's called Llewellyn Park.

890
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 4: So it's this beautiful community and literally there's just like

891
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 4: prancing deers and they're just looking at you, and there's chipmunks.

892
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 2: And it's just beautiful. But my friend has like they

893
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 2: grow all.

894
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 4: These trees and corn and lettuce and mint and shit,

895
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 4: and there's a pool.

896
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, my friend doesn't have shit to do.

897
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 4: So we like to smoke weed and watch daytime TV

898
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 4: and walk around barefoot and chill.

899
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 3: Stretch stretch. I didn't say one yoga video.

900
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 4: I didn't strut. It was like I should realise this opportunity.

901
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:57,800
Speaker 4: I told my friend took some naked pictures in the garden. Okay,

902
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 4: So I really have been chilling and in this period

903
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 4: I don't know if it's like the shift because I

904
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 4: just turned thirty the New Moon.

905
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: But I've been really I don't know, talking.

906
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 4: To myself a lot, and just same thing, exploring ego

907
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 4: and feelings that I probably repressed. And like even like

908
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 4: since I started taking my young boy got serious.

909
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 2: Like I said, like.

910
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 4: Before, I was so transparent, I didn't give a fuck

911
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 4: because it's like there's no we have no expect I

912
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 4: don't care if you're pleased or not.

913
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 3: You know, it's still like a game. Yeah, like you

914
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 3: want like the game is over. You guys got each other.

915
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

916
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, oh my god, you wan yeah, And.

917
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I'm not necessarily serious and that's kind

918
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 2: of scary.

919
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 4: And then I'm like, am I am I having hesitations?

920
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 4: Because like am I having hesitations because I'm scarred from

921
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 4: like the trauma of my last relationship? Am I having?

922
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 4: And then I even thinking about like the relationship I

923
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 4: saw my parents have and all these weird fucking things

924
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 4: I've never really thought about.

925
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 2: But again, this.

926
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 4: Is like the first real thing I'm I'm gonna I'm

927
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 4: doing since my baby daddy, So it is weird. And

928
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 4: then even like having Luna around him, I mean, I

929
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 4: mean she's been around him, but like.

930
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 3: But now, like you guys are officials, Yeah, like this

931
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:23,160
Speaker 3: is the person that's in my life.

932
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 4: Yes, and you know, I'm like Mom's boyfriend. I'm like

933
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:31,399
Speaker 4: so weird and like just just dealing with all these

934
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 4: new things. And then also really I told maybe Daddy

935
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 4: like I'm in a relationship and dealing.

936
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 2: And and just acknowledge.

937
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 4: I mean, like fifty seven text messages later, you know,

938
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 4: it's the same shit.

939
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 3: It's always like a I mean he's like, now he's

940
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 3: like who cares he lives in Jersey?

941
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:50,360
Speaker 4: You know, like how often is she going to be

942
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 4: around him so you can meet him? He's like he's like,

943
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 4: how he's out here with you? I was like it

944
00:40:54,160 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 4: could be arranged, but he's like, I can FaceTime FaceTime.

945
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 2: But it's just all that's weird.

946
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 4: Like I just feel like very adults but also very

947
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 4: childlike because they're so I'm realizing like there's a lot

948
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 4: of parts of me.

949
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 2: I'm not really I don't really know what the fuck is.

950
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: Like I hadn't thought about all this. Am I playing game?

951
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 3: Am I?

952
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 4: Like?

953
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 2: Am I not? Do I want something serious? Am I scared?

954
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: Am I scared to be something serious?

955
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 4: Like he's such a good guy. He's like a stand

956
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 4: up guy, he's mature, he's very for the most molt

957
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 4: self aware.

958
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 2: But then he's like super Haitian.

959
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 4: And like, first of all, I'm such a super fucking hippie,

960
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 4: so I can't expect anyone to just like walk in

961
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 4: my life and be super fucking hippie too.

962
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 2: So it's just like little things like.

963
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 3: The Haitians are pretty like they have certain very like

964
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 3: certain things they don't fuck with. Yeah, like homophobia, Yeah, yeah,

965
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 3: there's like yeah.

966
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 2: And then I'm just I just.

967
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 4: Feel myself judging a lot and getting like abrasive. But

968
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 4: I'm like that's not fair either, you know. And then

969
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,040
Speaker 4: like Luna was like, when you're.

970
00:41:59,920 --> 00:42:01,959
Speaker 3: Like look at it as like a learning experience, maybe

971
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 3: you're not supposed to be everyone's teacher, but like hopefully

972
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 3: he's open to and he and.

973
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 4: That's the thing, Like sometimes I'm like find myself getting irritated,

974
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 4: but I'm like I know that he's still listening, and

975
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 4: I'm like.

976
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: Asking him, are you listening? Are you are I'm telling

977
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 2: you this because this means a lot to me. Are

978
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 2: you absorbing this?

979
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 4: I want you to understand because we got into a

980
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 4: conversation about there's some stupid fucking interviewee who goes to

981
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 4: the slut walk and is like interviewing girls.

982
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 2: He's like a disrespectful old man. I don't even know

983
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: who he is.

984
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:32,320
Speaker 4: But so the talk about like feminism in the world's

985
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 4: the word slut and women came up, and like I

986
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 4: was just kind of taken aback by his like perspective,

987
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 4: and I was just like, what the.

988
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 2: Fuck are you talking about?

989
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 4: And I found this getting like really judgmental and annoy

990
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 4: But then I'm like I had to like.

991
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 2: Come down if you not.

992
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 4: Just even like Luna like has an attachment to my boob,

993
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 4: so if we're in public, her hands is here, her

994
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 4: hand is here, her hand always, and he was like

995
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 4: moving her hand and I was like, why are you

996
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 4: getting so annoyed by it?

997
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 2: And he was just like it's inappropriate.

998
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 4: She's almost she's four, Like she's three, she's three and

999
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 4: a half, and like it's a comfort, it's like a pacifier.

1000
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 2: Like she's like, well, what do you think other people think?

1001
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 4: And I was like, who gives a fuck what other

1002
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 4: people think, That's the last thing on my mind. So

1003
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 4: there's like little things that bother me, but I do.

1004
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 4: You're right, it's a learning process and you know, teach

1005
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 4: and then, but I.

1006
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:17,879
Speaker 3: Get it, especially when it comes to your kid and

1007
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,479
Speaker 3: how what you guys share. It's like when someone tries

1008
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:24,400
Speaker 3: to test your relationship, you're like, whoa, They're literally like

1009
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,800
Speaker 3: this is he and he's like you're like what actually,

1010
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,879
Speaker 3: Like this is my child with my baby's hand.

1011
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I said.

1012
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 4: I'm like, I said to common, like her hand makes

1013
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 4: more sense of being there than yours. Yeah, And he

1014
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 4: was like offended, Like I'm like, what do you think

1015
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,280
Speaker 4: my breasts are for motherfucking milk?

1016
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 2: And shit?

1017
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 4: Like I don't like, stop sexualizing me. And he's like

1018
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 4: talking about woman being dressing a certain way, and I

1019
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 4: was like, how crazy do you sound? Like if you

1020
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 4: if you have a boy, like a son, you guys

1021
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 4: tell him like, oh you know, that's just how boys

1022
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 4: are us. Grab that ass, like no, everybody needs to

1023
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 4: keep your fucking hands to yourself.

1024
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:03,919
Speaker 2: And that's it doesn't matter what anybody. If I'm walking

1025
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:07,080
Speaker 2: around badass naked, it's not for you. So there's just

1026
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 2: little things that I mean. I guess it's also age.

1027
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 2: I'm older than him.

1028
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:12,359
Speaker 4: And then I think I'm just trying to find shit

1029
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:17,400
Speaker 4: because I am scared, but I can't really find anything

1030
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 4: wrong with them, so you know, it's it's it's cool though,

1031
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 4: and I'm grateful for this time being a little bit sober,

1032
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 4: because a little bit sober kind.

1033
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 2: Of son, I'm high right now.

1034
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 4: No, But I realized, like I guess a lot of

1035
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 4: my energy comes from tequila. I went out a couple

1036
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:36,320
Speaker 4: of times and I was like kicking in and chilling,

1037
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 4: and I'm like, oh my god, I just mostly fun

1038
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 4: when I'm drinking tequila. It's like, it's it because I'm

1039
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 4: drunk that I'm so fun. I mean, I was having fun,

1040
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 4: but like maybe I was also tired.

1041
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's different. It's different.

1042
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, like if you're you know, if you drink pretty

1043
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 3: often to when you socialize that when you don't, it's different.

1044
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 3: You're just absolutely not the same. You're going to be

1045
00:44:56,120 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 3: more in an enhanced version or like a right. So yeah,

1046
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 3: just different, especially tequila, A different person tequila.

1047
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:07,720
Speaker 2: Like I drink tequila.

1048
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 3: Tequila can go good or bad for me. You know

1049
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 3: me too, I keep drinking it though I know me too.

1050
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 3: It's mostly good it's bad. It's bad, it's fun time.

1051
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1052
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 4: So yeah, just like, oh my god, who am I

1053
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 4: not drinking? You know, which is also scary thought, But

1054
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 4: like I still like myself.

1055
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:27,839
Speaker 2: I'm just like that fun yet.

1056
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I think you go to things that you

1057
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 3: actually enjoy when you don't drink.

1058
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 2: You're actually having fun, right, right, it's a different You

1059
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 2: actually know when you're having fun and you actually remember that.

1060
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, because that's what I realized even too, when I like,

1061
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 3: when I've taken breaks, I'm like, this is not fun,

1062
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 3: and it's not fun because I'm not drunk, and if

1063
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 3: I have to be drunk to enjoy this, then it's

1064
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 3: not fun.

1065
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 2: Right. You have ever been somewhere like this fucking sucks?

1066
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 2: I had so much fun that was amazing. Sucks, but

1067
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 2: it was all I'm like, yeah, so that's just where

1068
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 2: I've been right now.

1069
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 3: But yeah, I drink probably more than I have in

1070
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 3: a very long time.

1071
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 2: In Spain, like I was borderline alcoholic.

1072
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:16,240
Speaker 3: Something about being on vacation, like any whenever I was hungover,

1073
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 3: I was like.

1074
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 2: I think I need another drink, Like I just need

1075
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 2: to even this out.

1076
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:22,759
Speaker 4: But it works, Yeah, Like hey, shot, you have oh

1077
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:25,760
Speaker 4: My favorite hangover alcohol remedy is bloody Mary's.

1078
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 5: I hate blame. It makes you want to throw up.

1079
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 2: You don't like spicy magartas I do, but enough for

1080
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 2: a hangover? No, not for it? Do you like spicy

1081
00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:35,879
Speaker 2: margarita for a hangover though?

1082
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 4: Yeah? Also it's supposed to be good and it's shot

1083
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 4: because it's bubbling.

1084
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh shot.

1085
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 2: I don't know about that.

1086
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 5: But yeah, no, that's great.

1087
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:46,959
Speaker 2: I mean, that's good.

1088
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 3: I mean I I encourage you to try to keep

1089
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 3: on it because you know, I feel like I've done

1090
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:54,800
Speaker 3: a lot of self discovery when I've been more sober,

1091
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 3: because and I honestly like when I'm not home, I smoke,

1092
00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:59,959
Speaker 3: but like not all the time. And then I don't

1093
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 3: they drink that much. I mostly smoke. But drinking literally

1094
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,359
Speaker 3: drinking and smoking a pair of your judgment period. It's

1095
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 3: really hard to quit both. It's hard for me to

1096
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:11,919
Speaker 3: do both ones smoking right now, smoking.

1097
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 4: Not really drinking it enterns my judgment way less liquor.

1098
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 4: I'm like, super oh deep, friendly.

1099
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 2: Mommy things, I'm almost done.

1100
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 5: Floor for sure.

1101
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 2: Center in her to ask me that, oh see, I

1102
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 2: got to stick up. Oh wait, we have some questions.

1103
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 3: So we have got some questions from you guys over

1104
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 3: the last three weeks, and I want to answer some

1105
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:39,720
Speaker 3: of them because we had some really good ones.

1106
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Speaker 2: We also we have we have are getting better, Like keep.

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Speaker 3: Sending them please because they're getting good. Girl, I won't

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00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 3: send us photo. Someone sent us photos evidence. If you've

1109
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 3: got evidence. If you get receipts, it's even better. Sus

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00:47:58,920 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 3: the receipt.

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00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:03,320
Speaker 4: So stay on our instance story because we're posting this photo.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we're gonna post the photo of this horri.

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Speaker 3: After we after this episode goes live, so you have

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Speaker 3: twenty four hours to see this amazing horri picture that

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00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 3: you will die.

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00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 2: It's so funny. Can we you read it now?

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00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 3: Wait?

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00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,440
Speaker 2: Do you want to go to the questions or horries? Okay?

1119
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 2: Can we feel questions first?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll say the horry for last Okay, good. I

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00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 5: also have a horry.

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00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 2: To your guys that is just out of control, hilarious,

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Speaker 2: just playing.

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Speaker 3: I was telling Jamila this horry yesterday in the car

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00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,240
Speaker 3: and she was dying laughing. She was like, wait, what

1126
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 3: when did this happen? It was so fun Day one Barcelona,

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00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 3: it was day one.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, questions.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I think I text them to you.

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00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:51,640
Speaker 4: Oh okay, okay, okay, we have Oh this one, this

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Speaker 4: one was a good one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Hi lady, Okay, So this is from anonymous.

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00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 3: Hi ladies, I just on your podcast and I've been

1134
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 3: listening NonStop all week.

1135
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: Thanks girl.

1136
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 5: I'm a single.

1137
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:07,280
Speaker 3: Mom, mom of a brilliant nine year old little girl.

1138
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:10,000
Speaker 3: Her father and I were high school sweethearts. We have

1139
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 3: not been together in years. He texted me last night

1140
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 3: to tell me he has another child and she was

1141
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:17,760
Speaker 3: born three days before our daughter's ninth birthday. The baby

1142
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 3: is three months old. I don't know how to feel

1143
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 3: about it. I'm twenty six, single and dating if that matters.

1144
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,800
Speaker 4: I just I read this before, but I just realized

1145
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 4: the time frame.

1146
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 3: Wait, we have not Last night he told the baby's

1147
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 3: three months old, and she's just.

1148
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, why did he wait till? Wait? When's the last

1149
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:41,880
Speaker 2: time you saw your daughter? Why did she not know?

1150
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,799
Speaker 2: And why did he probably was hiding it? Yeah, but then,

1151
00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 2: but how do you hide it from nine year old?

1152
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 2: Would definitely fuel her mom? Have you not seen her since.

1153
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 3: She's He has a baby with another old woman?

1154
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 2: Like, maybe they don't live together?

1155
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I live together the girl get around, picks up

1156
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 3: his daughter, and when she's not with her.

1157
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 2: It's hard. That shit is hard because.

1158
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:07,239
Speaker 4: Again the ego thing, and also like when you have

1159
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 4: a baby with someone, especially if it's your first child together,

1160
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 4: it's a fucking thing.

1161
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 3: Thing shared that thing with them. You don't want to

1162
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 3: share that with anybody.

1163
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 2: Else, and it's hard.

1164
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:18,920
Speaker 4: It's a hard thing, Like you don't even have to

1165
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 4: have feelings for that person. There's like just something there's there's.

1166
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 3: There's something territorial about it. Yes, it's like you aren't

1167
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 3: that territory. You shared that space. I get it, you know.

1168
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 4: And then there's this odd like I guess everybody has

1169
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,880
Speaker 4: that thing where you like, maybe they'll get back together

1170
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 4: the future and maybe like maybe I'll be this happy

1171
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 4: like Brady bunch of Fams.

1172
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Speaker 3: Then when that happens, it kind of makes you feel like, oh,

1173
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:40,359
Speaker 3: we're not doing that.

1174
00:50:40,600 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 2: It's not it's never gonna happen.

1175
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 4: All of it though it is based in ego and

1176
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 4: not in love and not.

1177
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 3: In like I know, I know, I know that, I

1178
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 3: know that in my mind, but like something deep within me,

1179
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:56,240
Speaker 3: which is probably like the deepest part of my ego,

1180
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 3: like can't accept it.

1181
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Speaker 2: You know, I think because it's personal to like my

1182
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 2: situation too, that I feel like I just feel like.

1183
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 3: She might not even feel that way. It's nine years out.

1184
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 3: Maybe she just feels a little strange about it. I

1185
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 3: think I even responded to her and she was like,

1186
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 3: oh fucking and take a screenshot of the whole thing.

1187
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Speaker 5: I don't know. I think I would be hurt.

1188
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:24,759
Speaker 3: I think i'd be hurt even more so if it

1189
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 3: was like three months later, like I found.

1190
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,959
Speaker 2: Out, Yeah, it's an't been together this, mom. Why can't

1191
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 2: we just be honest?

1192
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could say, like, damn, im not just tell

1193
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:35,359
Speaker 4: me here this three months later. But also we don't

1194
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 4: know what their relationship is, Like.

1195
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's hard for me to gauge it.

1196
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 2: You know, maybe they don't talk at all.

1197
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 4: I don't know it. It's hard my favorite day talking

1198
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 4: about guys. Somebody might be pregnant whatever, Like who's also

1199
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Speaker 4: my my high school seetheart I've known for fifteen years

1200
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 4: and I don't know he's crazy, So he could be

1201
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 4: going to get to piss me off and make me

1202
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 4: feel some type of way. It could be true, but

1203
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 4: either way, I'm trying to be prepared.

1204
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,800
Speaker 2: But then on the flip side, imagine how they feel

1205
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 2: when we get pregnant again.

1206
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:07,240
Speaker 4: What do you mean, like, imagine when we are about

1207
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:09,840
Speaker 4: to have another baby, cause we will probably have other kids,

1208
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 4: not with our m first baby, Saddy, cause.

1209
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:13,880
Speaker 2: That doesn't count. Just kidding.

1210
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 3: Wait, but do you think when he told you that

1211
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 3: were you was your instinct like jealousy or ego? It

1212
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:23,360
Speaker 3: has to be right or no or no? Are you

1213
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,280
Speaker 3: over it to the point where you were just like whatever?

1214
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 2: I think because I know he's sometimes so full of shit.

1215
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 2: It was like, yeah, whatever.

1216
00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 4: But I think that if it happened for sure and

1217
00:52:33,600 --> 00:52:35,720
Speaker 4: I had to like proof and there was a baby

1218
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:37,800
Speaker 4: and I I I I would, it would take me

1219
00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:40,719
Speaker 4: aback because again I'm known for so long. We did

1220
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 4: share this shit together for the first time as m

1221
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 4: much as I know it won't it doesn't work.

1222
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. But then I again, I have.

1223
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:51,760
Speaker 4: To be like, if you can make somebody else happy,

1224
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,280
Speaker 4: cause you couldn't make me happy. You couldn't get it together,

1225
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 4: more fucking power to you. I mean I have other

1226
00:52:56,719 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 4: concerns too, like you need to be in a position.

1227
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Speaker 3: To have multiple kids, right, yeah, you start, you start, No,

1228
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 3: I immediately would think about my situation. How does this

1229
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 3: jeopardize my situation? What is this person gonna take away

1230
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:13,280
Speaker 3: from what I'm what you're writing from our child?

1231
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,400
Speaker 2: Right? I can't help but think that way sometimes.

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00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, well, that's your motherly instinct, like you

1233
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 6: need to do what you need to do for the

1234
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,319
Speaker 6: baby you got, right, the one you meant to have.

1235
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 6: Right not to say that all babies are not, yes, but.

1236
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:31,719
Speaker 3: Yes they are, okay, Eric, Oh could you hear that

1237
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:33,760
Speaker 3: spite in my voice?

1238
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 2: Yes?

1239
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 3: I could.

1240
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 4: I mean, but I guess the best way to look

1241
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 4: at it, honestly is to say, one day you're gonna

1242
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 4: move forward.

1243
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 3: It won't be It's true. And you know what, it's

1244
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,520
Speaker 3: true because even I want kids. I want other kids.

1245
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 3: I do. I want to have other kids, And you

1246
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:51,239
Speaker 3: know how how can I totally be upset? I mean,

1247
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 3: I think it's more so because like you want to

1248
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:57,919
Speaker 3: be the first one, or like, at least as women don't.

1249
00:53:57,960 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 3: Normally we're like, okay, we want to have kids. Men

1250
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 3: like all these men, I don't, I don't know, I

1251
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:03,479
Speaker 3: don't know.

1252
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 2: What I'm saying.

1253
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:08,000
Speaker 4: What the fuck's that?

1254
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 7: When they don't just oh my god, I'm in a

1255
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 7: black hole. Oh wait, what were you trying to do?

1256
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 7: And now I'm curious, like I was trying.

1257
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 2: To get it.

1258
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 3: I was just saying that I don't know, it doesn't

1259
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 3: make sense, but.

1260
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 2: It made sense in my brain. And then when I

1261
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 2: was about to say it, I was like, don't say that.

1262
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:35,959
Speaker 2: It doesn't make it make sense.

1263
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 4: What I was gonna say is I'm trying to say

1264
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 4: it right, like, Okay, so obviously young boy doesn't have

1265
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:47,440
Speaker 4: any kids, and I mean, of course we talk about

1266
00:54:47,560 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 4: all types of.

1267
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,960
Speaker 2: Shit because now we're official.

1268
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 4: So so obviously, like I think, I'm also it's like

1269
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:56,160
Speaker 4: it's it's not cool because this is how it's supposed

1270
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:58,840
Speaker 4: to be that someone, because I think as women, you

1271
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:00,799
Speaker 4: want to like be the first one have someone's kid.

1272
00:55:01,120 --> 00:55:02,360
Speaker 4: So for someone to want to have a kid with

1273
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:03,839
Speaker 4: me and I already have a kid, and like it's

1274
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:06,800
Speaker 4: your first time experiencing it, I think I think that's

1275
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 4: that's a thing and that's cool because I think sometimes

1276
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 4: women are like I don't want to have a.

1277
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 2: Kid with a guy who already has kids, even though

1278
00:55:15,080 --> 00:55:15,439
Speaker 2: I mean.

1279
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,719
Speaker 3: I prefer now no, yeah yeah, now because you have

1280
00:55:18,760 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 3: a kid. Yeah, yeah, I'm like now for gets you

1281
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 3: a baby before you come home.

1282
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 2: So I know you're responding you got to lose, yeah,

1283
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:27,640
Speaker 2: but so.

1284
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:30,439
Speaker 5: You know, no, yeah, I get yeah, no, for sure.

1285
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 3: Even I have friends Like my girlfriend she was like,

1286
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,439
Speaker 3: met this guy on bumble, but he has like three kids.

1287
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 3: I think he has like four kids, And she was like,

1288
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:39,320
Speaker 3: I already don't want to date anyone with a kids.

1289
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 3: Like I realized that those expectations kind of like are

1290
00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 3: like taking me out of the running of finding like

1291
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 3: maybe a great guy because he has a kid, but

1292
00:55:47,200 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 3: I just want to share that with someone.

1293
00:55:49,160 --> 00:55:50,200
Speaker 2: And that's how I used to think.

1294
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 3: But I'm like, also, yeah, you're right, we aren't like

1295
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 3: twenty five anymore.

1296
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 2: So you have to kind of yeah, take it.

1297
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 4: Guys usually have kids, people who have kids by and now.

1298
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:00,759
Speaker 3: Everyone, but it is more likely yeah, you know, like

1299
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,680
Speaker 3: I think, like, damn, how many like well maybe not now,

1300
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 3: but like I how many like great guys might she

1301
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,719
Speaker 3: missed out on because she is not. But people know

1302
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:12,239
Speaker 3: what they want, but three kids, it was kind of

1303
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:12,520
Speaker 3: a lot.

1304
00:56:12,560 --> 00:56:14,400
Speaker 2: I don't especially if you're not a mom with a

1305
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 2: different baby mama for each one.

1306
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 3: Oh oh, I kind of feel oh yeah, yeah, like

1307
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:20,839
Speaker 3: I feel had one kid.

1308
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, you know what.

1309
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 4: Honestly, even now right now, I would not date a

1310
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 4: god Oh my god, I can't say this. I was

1311
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 4: gonna say, like, no, I wouldn't have guy with three

1312
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:31,839
Speaker 4: kids and three baby mamas. But like it happens, like

1313
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,280
Speaker 4: look at fucking Rakubadu, Like it could happen.

1314
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 2: But she's coolers so cool, and she can afford all.

1315
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 3: Those kids, true rich, she can afford seven and Mars

1316
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 3: and whoever you know, like she she.

1317
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 4: Got that also for me, my, I just I realized

1318
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:56,959
Speaker 4: this recently. My absolute biggest fear of life is ending.

1319
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,280
Speaker 4: This sounds bad because this is not even the worst

1320
00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 4: ship that can happen, but like being a single mom

1321
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:06,239
Speaker 4: of two that is so it just sounds like it

1322
00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 4: sounds really scary. And then having two baby daddies, even

1323
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:13,800
Speaker 4: though does it with grace, it's such a fucking stigma.

1324
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:15,919
Speaker 4: And I'm not trying to say this fund anybody, because

1325
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 4: I know how amazing mothers.

1326
00:57:17,480 --> 00:57:18,520
Speaker 2: I mean, my mom has two.

1327
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 3: My mom has two baby daddies, you know what I mean,

1328
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 3: she's still with one of them.

1329
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 2: My grandma got.

1330
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 3: You make it work. That's the thing about women though,

1331
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 3: like we are resilient and life goes it might you

1332
00:57:30,800 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 3: might have taken you might take the harder path, but

1333
00:57:33,160 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 3: you'll figure that ship out, you know, because that's just

1334
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 3: what we do.

1335
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 2: That's just what the fuck? Do you know what I mean?

1336
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 2: But I was just like, God, like, that's such a.

1337
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 4: That's such a like is that the worst thing, like

1338
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 4: be blacklisted from last It's not.

1339
00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 5: It's absolutely not the worst thing. Babies are gifts from.

1340
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 3: The gods, from the God.

1341
00:57:56,280 --> 00:58:00,440
Speaker 4: From godies are gifts from God. I was like some

1342
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:01,959
Speaker 4: Instagram Oh my god.

1343
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:05,400
Speaker 2: Okay, let's hear your next question. Oh my gosh.

1344
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, here's the gif before her and your daughter

1345
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 4: kills you don't.

1346
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 2: Okay, here's a good question.

1347
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 4: Do you guys think there's a difference between boy moms

1348
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 4: and girl moms?

1349
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:17,160
Speaker 2: Like when we try to make mom friends, should we

1350
00:58:17,200 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 2: look to match? I didn't see this question. Did you

1351
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 2: read this?

1352
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 4: Would you just count a possible mom friendship because their

1353
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:24,520
Speaker 4: child is the opposite sex of yours?

1354
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:27,840
Speaker 2: That se no?

1355
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 3: No, I mean, well, I'm more concerned is actually.

1356
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 2: I wouldn't.

1357
00:58:36,240 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 3: But I'd be like, oh, okay, that's different, Like if

1358
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 3: I a little boy want to go over and play

1359
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:43,480
Speaker 3: with Irey right now? Really, and like she only had

1360
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 3: boyfriends at like age three. I mean she was not boyfriends,

1361
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:49,680
Speaker 3: but male friends.

1362
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's good.

1363
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:53,479
Speaker 3: I mean I don't think it's not good, but it would.

1364
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:56,120
Speaker 3: It's it's just something that like you always pay the

1365
00:58:56,160 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 3: same sex, can get together to play play dates with girls,

1366
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 3: play dates with boy Well you teach.

1367
00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 4: Me, yeah, yeah, I guess you're saying, if you're going

1368
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 4: to look for a friend, specifically as a kid, you're

1369
00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 4: probably likely gravitated to someone who has the same sex.

1370
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 4: But also for me, because I have to be able

1371
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:10,880
Speaker 4: to stand your ass, like I'm going to go to

1372
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 4: the cool mom. But or if you have or if

1373
00:59:13,080 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 4: you had a friend, you guys are pre friends and

1374
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 4: then she has a son. If we're best friends for

1375
00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:21,520
Speaker 4: life and upset, it's gonna be automatic. But speaking of this,

1376
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 4: because now I know what you're going, Okay, this is quick. Luna,

1377
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:27,760
Speaker 4: Like a year ago, like she was two, we went

1378
00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:29,440
Speaker 4: up north to see my friend and there was this

1379
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 4: kid there.

1380
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 2: He was like six, and he's like since next to

1381
00:59:33,600 --> 00:59:35,320
Speaker 2: name with Landa. He's like, what's her name? I was

1382
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 2: like that's Luna. What's your name?

1383
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 4: And he's like Isaiah, And then I just kept talking

1384
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 4: so because she wasn't really talking that much.

1385
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, so, I'm like, when's your birthday?

1386
00:59:47,480 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 4: He's like November twenty seventh, which is my daughter's birthday.

1387
00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:53,400
Speaker 4: I was like, that's really interesting that you gravitated over

1388
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,880
Speaker 4: here and that you guys have the same birthday.

1389
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:57,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. So later, so this is.

1390
00:59:57,520 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 4: Like up in this hippie town up north. It's like

1391
00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:01,840
Speaker 4: all these black crosses, white Roster's and chip. So we're

1392
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:04,560
Speaker 4: having this like crazy, like cool chill party. The kids

1393
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 4: are running around and I just see her like just

1394
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:10,600
Speaker 4: following him around. I'm like, oh my god, this little

1395
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:13,400
Speaker 4: bitch have a crush. So like a year later, we

1396
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 4: go on another like family trip with my friend who's

1397
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 4: friends with the family with the kid, and.

1398
01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 2: They're just like chasing each other. Keep in mind, he's

1399
01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 2: like seven now, you know, she's like three. Like, I'm like,

1400
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:27,120
Speaker 2: where is Luna? And I say it. I go in

1401
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:30,080
Speaker 2: the room. They're in the mirror holding hands. Girl like

1402
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 2: looking in the mirror holding hands. I was like, hold

1403
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 2: the fuck, this is so strange. So my friend's like,

1404
01:00:38,280 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 2: you betta. Watch her. She only your child, you know,

1405
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 2: she's so child's.

1406
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:42,880
Speaker 4: Like, oh my god, I have to like, oh my gosh,

1407
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 4: I have to think about these things. Then he tells

1408
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:47,439
Speaker 4: his mom later like I want to babysits onone Mom,

1409
01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 4: I want a babysit.

1410
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 2: Maybe he has a maternal instinct. You may have to

1411
01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 2: be maternal.

1412
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,800
Speaker 4: The whole thing is, the truth of the matter is

1413
01:00:57,960 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 4: at no matter what age, like our soul are still

1414
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 4: people like energy.

1415
01:01:02,480 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 2: How I care for each other and make sure nurture

1416
01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 2: you're okay. There is like the energy doesn't matter.

1417
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 4: How you can't deny when there's like boy or girl

1418
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 4: or female like there's all there's things. There's cosmic things

1419
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:16,280
Speaker 4: that magnet like are were magnet to each other and gravitate.

1420
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:16,280
Speaker 2: To each other.

1421
01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 4: And I just had to like kind of respect it,

1422
01:01:18,480 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 4: but also like be aware of that.

1423
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 5: Right, No, it's true, but you felt weird about it.

1424
01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 2: I did.

1425
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:26,360
Speaker 5: And you know why.

1426
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 3: I think what I just had to realize in this

1427
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:31,080
Speaker 3: moment is that because yeah, I encourage my daughter to

1428
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 3: have like girl dates, you know, and I don't even

1429
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:36,440
Speaker 3: realize it because as society we separate men and women

1430
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 3: and it just becomes like ingrained in you that you

1431
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 3: don't even notice it anymore, right, you know what I mean?

1432
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:43,720
Speaker 3: Like that part of like why why am I doing that?

1433
01:01:44,080 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 3: Like why I already like when I'm watching stuff, I.

1434
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:49,080
Speaker 2: Was like, that's for boys. I'm like, no, it's not. Oh,

1435
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 2: I always do that.

1436
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 4: Even one time I said to me, oh, like something pink,

1437
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 4: it's for girls. And I was like, that's who told

1438
01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 4: you that? That's absolutely not true. Even I was like

1439
01:01:56,240 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 4: she was trying to put makeup on a boy and

1440
01:01:57,680 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 4: boys on my makeup and I was like some boys

1441
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:02,480
Speaker 4: did let me park that real quick, like some boys to.

1442
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:04,640
Speaker 2: Do wear make up? Yeah, because like you have, you've

1443
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 2: we've been ingrained that way.

1444
01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I guess it's true. Like I guess, yes,

1445
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,320
Speaker 3: I do more normally do that with Iri. It's encouraged

1446
01:02:11,400 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 3: girl mom dates or I can not even I mean,

1447
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:15,640
Speaker 3: there's not a lot of I don't I don't know

1448
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 3: any single dads that are.

1449
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:19,280
Speaker 2: Like as a boy a boyfriend, I mean not a boyfriend,

1450
01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:21,920
Speaker 2: but a friend. It's a boy uh Cairo. Yeah.

1451
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 3: But like even though I shouldn't see them a lot,

1452
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 3: I'm mostly but now that I'm aware of it, I'm

1453
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 3: going to do better about that.

1454
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 5: Because because I don't know why I do that.

1455
01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:31,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't even mean to, but I guess yeah,

1456
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 2: I just got to be more aware of it.

1457
01:02:32,840 --> 01:02:37,800
Speaker 4: There's another question, also unrelated. A lot of my older

1458
01:02:37,840 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 4: clients tell me the gripes I have with my baby

1459
01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:43,160
Speaker 4: daddy are basically just stupid men things and it won't.

1460
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:44,440
Speaker 2: Change from one man to the next.

1461
01:02:45,840 --> 01:02:48,440
Speaker 4: Also, this is this is our homegirl shout out to

1462
01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 4: Nelly underscore the Ninja with an ag. She's always showing

1463
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 4: us love, showing us mom love, and she's in the

1464
01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:58,000
Speaker 4: Florida area, in the Clearwater area.

1465
01:02:58,040 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 2: I think if you want to get you heard, then

1466
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 2: he's a hair silence. Yeah, okay.

1467
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:04,400
Speaker 4: Anyway, So all my clients are telling me basically just

1468
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 4: stupid men things that it won't change from one man

1469
01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:07,760
Speaker 4: to the next. Thing is like putting his boxers in

1470
01:03:07,760 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 4: the fucking hamper and not the floor, or not having

1471
01:03:10,080 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 4: to ask to take the garbage out. Obviously, I have

1472
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:14,439
Speaker 4: other issues for another day, but I feel like these

1473
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:17,440
Speaker 4: little things being done right would streamline my attitude life.

1474
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:20,080
Speaker 4: My question is, when do you know you got a

1475
01:03:20,120 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 4: good one and just put up with the little shit.

1476
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:27,280
Speaker 2: Mm shit, girl, I don't know. Oh wait, there's more.

1477
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:29,560
Speaker 4: Sorry, Or do you walk away with the hope of

1478
01:03:29,640 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 4: there being a man out there who will gladly take

1479
01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:33,919
Speaker 4: the heavy grocery bags out of your hands and put

1480
01:03:33,920 --> 01:03:35,640
Speaker 4: this plate in the think not the fucking counter.

1481
01:03:36,280 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 3: Well, it's like you might find like your dream man,

1482
01:03:39,520 --> 01:03:41,600
Speaker 3: but he might not fucking even put his ship in

1483
01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 3: the counter. Or you might find a man that does

1484
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:45,760
Speaker 3: all that shit and then he's a fucking asshole, so ha.

1485
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:49,040
Speaker 4: Like he doesn't fuck you like you're a slut, you know, yeah,

1486
01:03:49,160 --> 01:03:52,800
Speaker 4: or he like his dick doesn't stay hard, or you know, like, yeah,

1487
01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:53,960
Speaker 4: there's gonna be no people.

1488
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 3: His pheromones, you know like that, because that's the whole thing.

1489
01:03:57,440 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 5: That's a real thing. Pheromones.

1490
01:03:59,000 --> 01:03:59,640
Speaker 2: That is a thing.

1491
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 3: You know, Like I've like made out with people and

1492
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 3: be like, oh, I don't know about that smell and

1493
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 3: it's not like a stinky smell.

1494
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just doesn't mesh with it, you know what.

1495
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:12,320
Speaker 4: I've thought that at one time, and I googled it.

1496
01:04:12,480 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 2: You're like smell, psychic sense of smell. It's a thing.

1497
01:04:17,200 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 2: It is, of course it is.

1498
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 3: I My ax is fair Like I was obsessed with

1499
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 3: his pheromone like I would want to, like I would

1500
01:04:24,360 --> 01:04:27,720
Speaker 3: put his nose like on his cheek and smell him,

1501
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 3: and he'd be like, what are you doing.

1502
01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't know what it feels good.

1503
01:04:34,440 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 2: But I don't know.

1504
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:37,080
Speaker 4: You you know what you could put up with and

1505
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 4: what you can't put up with, because even with like.

1506
01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:52,360
Speaker 3: Five minutes, it's gonna be like ten minutes, maybe fifteen.

1507
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:59,720
Speaker 4: What was I gonna say, Oh, because baby Daddy didn't

1508
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:00,680
Speaker 4: deal lot of shit.

1509
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:03,520
Speaker 2: And then I noticed, like young boy is a much

1510
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 2: more aware, and.

1511
01:05:05,040 --> 01:05:06,400
Speaker 4: It's like, oh my god, I don't have to fucking

1512
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 4: say the same thing four million times.

1513
01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 5: Oh, you just do it.

1514
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:11,760
Speaker 2: That's people do that. Oh you just do it before

1515
01:05:11,760 --> 01:05:12,400
Speaker 2: I ask you.

1516
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what you can handle when you can't handle? Yeah,

1517
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:18,480
Speaker 4: if I'm absolutely And a lot of times, the biggest

1518
01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:21,000
Speaker 4: thing with me saying that is a lot of times

1519
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 4: the small things will only be.

1520
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 2: Heightened the big things are bad. Yeah, because there's other shit.

1521
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 3: That's really That's what I was gonna say. I was like,

1522
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:30,880
Speaker 3: if those are like almost deal breakers for you, there's

1523
01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:35,120
Speaker 3: something bigger happening than just that you're in denial of

1524
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:37,480
Speaker 3: you're Yeah, you're like there's water under the bridge that

1525
01:05:37,520 --> 01:05:39,880
Speaker 3: you haven't dealt with, or that there's too much and

1526
01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:40,480
Speaker 3: you should.

1527
01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 2: Just move on. Yeah, if it's excessive, Yeah.

1528
01:05:42,120 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 3: Because there's I feel like I feel like that, like, yeah,

1529
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 3: sometimes your relationship is beyond repair, and then little dumb

1530
01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 3: shit that shouldn't bother you bothers you.

1531
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:54,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, because you're just super hyper fucking annoyed right.

1532
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:55,120
Speaker 2: Or over it.

1533
01:05:56,440 --> 01:06:00,439
Speaker 3: So to answer your question, if that exists, I mean, yes,

1534
01:06:00,520 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 3: I do think it exists. I think that once you're

1535
01:06:03,080 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 3: if you find yourself in a relationship that you know

1536
01:06:05,720 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 3: you are genuinely where you feel overall happy, and then

1537
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 3: those type of things probably won't bother you as much

1538
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:14,800
Speaker 3: unless you're extremely OCD and that's like a real problem

1539
01:06:14,840 --> 01:06:15,080
Speaker 3: for you.

1540
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:20,480
Speaker 4: I used to wish for like like low key OCD

1541
01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 4: man because I can be kind of messy. I'm not

1542
01:06:22,600 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 4: dirty because I feel like I'll get annoyed with myself,

1543
01:06:24,880 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 4: but I'm kind of messy and if I found somebody who's

1544
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:29,000
Speaker 4: like slightly OCD, it would be good for me.

1545
01:06:29,080 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 3: But now I'm like, I also think that if you're

1546
01:06:30,880 --> 01:06:34,560
Speaker 3: in a real partnership with someone like they'll they'll they

1547
01:06:34,600 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 3: might not be perfect at it, but at least they'll try.

1548
01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know what I mean, And so that will.

1549
01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:40,560
Speaker 6: And you don't want to be better because you want

1550
01:06:40,560 --> 01:06:41,240
Speaker 6: to make that person.

1551
01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:43,560
Speaker 5: And I don't want a dirty house.

1552
01:06:43,920 --> 01:06:47,520
Speaker 2: You're right, You're right. I should want me account like, Okay,

1553
01:06:47,560 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 2: I will do what do you need me to do?

1554
01:06:50,120 --> 01:06:51,280
Speaker 5: And this is what I need you to do? So

1555
01:06:51,320 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 5: can we compromise?

1556
01:06:52,040 --> 01:06:52,240
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1557
01:06:52,240 --> 01:06:55,720
Speaker 3: I think that's where it's all about communications, compromise. Relationships

1558
01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:57,479
Speaker 3: are about compromise, but only to a certain extent.

1559
01:06:57,520 --> 01:07:00,400
Speaker 2: You can't compromise everything. You can't come with who you are. No, go,

1560
01:07:02,160 --> 01:07:03,320
Speaker 2: are we gonna do horries? Now?

1561
01:07:03,400 --> 01:07:03,640
Speaker 3: Okay?

1562
01:07:08,600 --> 01:07:12,600
Speaker 4: Should do the kind of dramatic one trying to come

1563
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:13,439
Speaker 4: dramatic horse story?

1564
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:14,240
Speaker 2: Are you going to do yours?

1565
01:07:14,480 --> 01:07:15,040
Speaker 5: What is this one?

1566
01:07:15,360 --> 01:07:16,120
Speaker 2: Oh no, no, let's not.

1567
01:07:16,200 --> 01:07:18,840
Speaker 5: Let's save this one for another time. Should we do

1568
01:07:18,840 --> 01:07:19,880
Speaker 5: the what do we have to talk about?

1569
01:07:19,880 --> 01:07:20,600
Speaker 2: The girl with the photo?

1570
01:07:21,200 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 3: Oh, we're gonna post her, uh picture. We'll be posting

1571
01:07:26,520 --> 01:07:29,240
Speaker 3: this photo at the evidence the receipts of her horri

1572
01:07:29,760 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 3: tonight tonight on our Insta story?

1573
01:07:34,440 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 2: Where is this story? Okay?

1574
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:43,240
Speaker 4: She's funny, Okay, Okay, just getting caught up and here's

1575
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:46,280
Speaker 4: my horri Also, please don't mind that come.

1576
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:49,200
Speaker 5: By the way, there's come on the bed. Pick the

1577
01:07:49,200 --> 01:07:50,280
Speaker 5: picture that she's sent.

1578
01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's from us or what. I

1579
01:07:53,400 --> 01:07:54,840
Speaker 2: don't want to think about it.

1580
01:07:55,320 --> 01:07:57,320
Speaker 4: So I met this dude in the cab over the weekend,

1581
01:07:57,600 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 4: a cab my friend stole from this man and some

1582
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:02,080
Speaker 4: On the drive back to the hotel, he convinced me

1583
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:04,200
Speaker 4: and my vodka to go to his house.

1584
01:08:04,400 --> 01:08:05,760
Speaker 2: So basically he was about to give in the.

1585
01:08:05,800 --> 01:08:09,960
Speaker 4: Cab and they jumped in with him. I remember having okay,

1586
01:08:10,040 --> 01:08:11,760
Speaker 4: So he got her to not go to the hotel

1587
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 4: and convinced me to go back to his house. My

1588
01:08:13,960 --> 01:08:16,800
Speaker 4: vodka hit her and her vodka, not just her. I

1589
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:18,840
Speaker 4: remember having good sacks and he got me off. My

1590
01:08:18,920 --> 01:08:21,120
Speaker 4: regular tender bait hasn't done that yet. But I woke

1591
01:08:21,160 --> 01:08:25,759
Speaker 4: up to him wearing my underwear. Those underwear are easily

1592
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:29,000
Speaker 4: ten years old and have period stains, bleech crotch, bottom

1593
01:08:29,040 --> 01:08:31,439
Speaker 4: of the barrel. I'm thirty now, not going to fuck

1594
01:08:31,640 --> 01:08:34,559
Speaker 4: when I go I'm thirty now not going to fuck

1595
01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:36,040
Speaker 4: when I go out underwear and.

1596
01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:38,680
Speaker 2: This man is asleep in them. I had to.

1597
01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:40,639
Speaker 4: Wake him up to ask him how to get out,

1598
01:08:40,680 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 4: and he asked me if I got his number as

1599
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:45,080
Speaker 4: he pointed where to go, and my ass said yep,

1600
01:08:45,920 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 4: I'll call you later and ran out. Never got his number,

1601
01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 4: and I'm dead. Every time I see this picture in

1602
01:08:51,240 --> 01:08:54,680
Speaker 4: my phone stream, he he ill, please don't judge me

1603
01:08:54,760 --> 01:08:59,439
Speaker 4: by this picture. Focus on the butt, yo, This fucking

1604
01:08:59,520 --> 01:09:03,840
Speaker 4: picture is so what do you think he thought when

1605
01:09:03,880 --> 01:09:07,080
Speaker 4: he woke up and looked at me, He didn't think

1606
01:09:07,120 --> 01:09:09,320
Speaker 4: she wait, there's oh, there's still more to the thought. Okay.

1607
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:13,400
Speaker 2: I looked at it and it was full of oh okay,

1608
01:09:13,400 --> 01:09:13,840
Speaker 2: so okay.

1609
01:09:13,840 --> 01:09:16,920
Speaker 4: So also in the picture, I said, oh my god,

1610
01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 4: there was like a fish tank.

1611
01:09:18,280 --> 01:09:18,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so the.

1612
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:20,880
Speaker 4: Picture, I said, I can't okay. I said, it's too

1613
01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:22,600
Speaker 4: fucking funny. Oh my god, Now I see. How the

1614
01:09:22,600 --> 01:09:24,439
Speaker 4: fuck did he get his ass in those damn panties?

1615
01:09:24,560 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 2: Is the question? She said, I was wasted visiting my hometown.

1616
01:09:27,000 --> 01:09:27,479
Speaker 2: No idea.

1617
01:09:28,080 --> 01:09:31,519
Speaker 4: Oh so her hometown's Reno, California. And I said, what's

1618
01:09:31,560 --> 01:09:34,720
Speaker 4: his elabric? Fish chink and filter, Because there's a fish

1619
01:09:34,800 --> 01:09:36,519
Speaker 4: tank in the ficture, she said. I looked at it

1620
01:09:36,560 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 4: and it was full of meno type things. I'm also

1621
01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:40,920
Speaker 4: pretty sure his kids were asleep on the couch in

1622
01:09:40,960 --> 01:09:41,920
Speaker 4: the living room.

1623
01:09:42,320 --> 01:09:47,080
Speaker 2: Star we were in the garage, I was, yes, so.

1624
01:09:47,439 --> 01:09:49,920
Speaker 3: Please tune in to it's a mean okay, she thought

1625
01:09:50,000 --> 01:09:54,080
Speaker 3: in the garage he has her underwear on, it's.

1626
01:09:53,520 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 2: And his kids are possibly sleep on the couch.

1627
01:09:56,560 --> 01:09:59,880
Speaker 4: Yo, And then what is there's like a whole filter

1628
01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:02,479
Speaker 4: system and a fishing Oh, we're going to post this

1629
01:10:02,520 --> 01:10:04,920
Speaker 4: for has in a row, So every day we're going

1630
01:10:05,000 --> 01:10:08,080
Speaker 4: to post this in case anybody misses it. He need

1631
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,599
Speaker 4: to check the instant story and if anyone else has

1632
01:10:10,600 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 4: a whore with a fucking picture, please.

1633
01:10:12,640 --> 01:10:16,160
Speaker 2: Please please send it. Wait, I think there's an update

1634
01:10:16,200 --> 01:10:20,000
Speaker 2: at the bottom too. Oh my god, she has a lot.

1635
01:10:22,479 --> 01:10:22,799
Speaker 5: Update.

1636
01:10:23,880 --> 01:10:26,920
Speaker 4: An update is he's a normal, nice, hot guy who

1637
01:10:26,920 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 4: works and takes care of his kids and would be

1638
01:10:28,720 --> 01:10:29,759
Speaker 4: fun if I lived there.

1639
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:31,960
Speaker 2: Also, how'd you find out? You gonna get his number?

1640
01:10:32,479 --> 01:10:32,920
Speaker 2: Find you?

1641
01:10:33,720 --> 01:10:35,479
Speaker 4: Also, a whole house of people saw him in my

1642
01:10:35,520 --> 01:10:37,920
Speaker 4: panties because he woke up drunk and didn't realize.

1643
01:10:38,120 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1644
01:10:39,479 --> 01:10:41,960
Speaker 4: We chalked for like a week and then my capricorn

1645
01:10:41,960 --> 01:10:44,639
Speaker 4: bait came all the way around, so I'm doing that now.

1646
01:10:45,640 --> 01:10:47,120
Speaker 5: I know I love capricorns to.

1647
01:10:47,200 --> 01:10:50,559
Speaker 4: At least we know that he's kind of He's totally normal,

1648
01:10:50,680 --> 01:10:52,240
Speaker 4: except the fact that he likes to put on the

1649
01:10:52,280 --> 01:10:53,160
Speaker 4: chicken cakes.

1650
01:10:52,920 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 3: And panties, which can be say it's hilarious that he

1651
01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:58,040
Speaker 3: woke up in the morning, probably stumbled in the kitchen,

1652
01:10:58,200 --> 01:10:59,160
Speaker 3: like get some water, and he.

1653
01:10:59,160 --> 01:11:03,120
Speaker 2: Had her panty pink. They're pink. The panties are pink

1654
01:11:03,200 --> 01:11:06,880
Speaker 2: and like her worst fannies. I think it's hilarious. Did

1655
01:11:06,880 --> 01:11:11,080
Speaker 2: you think we were his? So yes, are you gonna

1656
01:11:11,080 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 2: tell your horri Should I say it for next week?

1657
01:11:14,479 --> 01:11:16,040
Speaker 2: I don't know? That's so funny. I feel we can

1658
01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:17,600
Speaker 2: save it. When When when?

1659
01:11:18,920 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 5: Because next week you're gonna definitely want to tune into.

1660
01:11:21,160 --> 01:11:24,000
Speaker 2: My her ho Spine edition. Oh my god, I have

1661
01:11:24,040 --> 01:11:24,639
Speaker 2: a few, So.

1662
01:11:24,600 --> 01:11:29,559
Speaker 3: It's gonna be like all month, all month extravaganza Erica's

1663
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:30,200
Speaker 3: horror Stories.

1664
01:11:30,280 --> 01:11:32,720
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, did we miss her? Didn't we have a

1665
01:11:32,760 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 2: conference call? Oh? Ship? What time is it? Fuck?

1666
01:11:37,360 --> 01:11:37,599
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1667
01:11:37,680 --> 01:11:40,639
Speaker 2: This he's gonna think we're playing games. Did we announce

1668
01:11:40,640 --> 01:11:43,280
Speaker 2: our guests? That's because we need to confirm it first.

1669
01:11:43,280 --> 01:11:46,760
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, we have a really like special possibly two

1670
01:11:46,800 --> 01:11:49,560
Speaker 3: guest situation coming on and.

1671
01:11:50,040 --> 01:11:54,839
Speaker 2: It's gonna be good. But we're missing we're missing our appointment.

1672
01:11:55,120 --> 01:11:56,719
Speaker 3: We should got to make it work anyway, we should

1673
01:11:56,720 --> 01:11:57,799
Speaker 3: actually we should what toap.

1674
01:11:57,680 --> 01:11:58,160
Speaker 5: Him after this?

1675
01:11:59,680 --> 01:12:02,840
Speaker 2: Maybe face time will suffice. Oh my god, I don't

1676
01:12:02,840 --> 01:12:06,040
Speaker 2: know why I made that face. I don't know. Okay, anyway,

1677
01:12:07,880 --> 01:12:08,400
Speaker 2: never mind not.

1678
01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:13,400
Speaker 3: Okay, we ain't a time for that?

1679
01:12:13,439 --> 01:12:16,479
Speaker 2: Is that it? I think that's it. Yeah. We didn't

1680
01:12:16,479 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 2: do any current events. He didn't do any card events.

1681
01:12:17,960 --> 01:12:19,400
Speaker 3: I just want to touch on the one card event

1682
01:12:19,439 --> 01:12:21,320
Speaker 3: that I felt like we talked about really quickly, which

1683
01:12:21,400 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 3: was the baseball player that lost his realized his mom

1684
01:12:25,439 --> 01:12:27,880
Speaker 3: had passed away while he was playing a game.

1685
01:12:28,080 --> 01:12:33,280
Speaker 4: And their names are Ozzie Albi's and Ronald Junior.

1686
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:36,439
Speaker 3: And I guess was I think it was Ronald Acuna

1687
01:12:36,560 --> 01:12:37,880
Speaker 3: his dad or his mother died?

1688
01:12:37,920 --> 01:12:38,240
Speaker 2: Was it her?

1689
01:12:38,320 --> 01:12:38,519
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1690
01:12:38,520 --> 01:12:39,000
Speaker 2: I believe so.

1691
01:12:39,120 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, And he was obviously upset, and his teammate was

1692
01:12:42,400 --> 01:12:44,920
Speaker 3: consoling him, and like he was like kind of like

1693
01:12:44,960 --> 01:12:47,600
Speaker 3: straddling around his waist and like petting his head to

1694
01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:48,599
Speaker 3: try to console him.

1695
01:12:48,640 --> 01:12:50,599
Speaker 2: I heard he he actually found out at the game

1696
01:12:50,640 --> 01:12:51,559
Speaker 2: when she had passed.

1697
01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:54,479
Speaker 3: That's what they were in their fucking uniforms like in

1698
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:55,759
Speaker 3: like the dugout.

1699
01:12:55,960 --> 01:13:00,760
Speaker 4: Anyway, the commentary was so fucking homophobic and so fucking disgusting.

1700
01:13:00,880 --> 01:13:05,720
Speaker 4: It just made me sick, honestly, because like, damn are

1701
01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:07,920
Speaker 4: we not allowed to like as men? Like what are

1702
01:13:07,960 --> 01:13:11,879
Speaker 4: we instilling in our men that you cannot express yourself?

1703
01:13:11,920 --> 01:13:13,040
Speaker 2: You cannot have emotions.

1704
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:16,639
Speaker 4: It's so unhealthy, it's so disgusting, and like for any

1705
01:13:16,680 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 4: parents who are raising boys, don't do that shit.

1706
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:21,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really sad like he was having he

1707
01:13:21,600 --> 01:13:24,840
Speaker 3: was has lost his mother, that is like part of

1708
01:13:24,880 --> 01:13:27,160
Speaker 3: his connection to this world, like.

1709
01:13:28,040 --> 01:13:31,880
Speaker 2: To make it something so like shallow, it was just

1710
01:13:31,960 --> 01:13:32,720
Speaker 2: and even if he is.

1711
01:13:32,680 --> 01:13:35,679
Speaker 3: Gay, who the fuck cares, you know? And who knows

1712
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:37,640
Speaker 3: if he is who he was having a moment and

1713
01:13:37,720 --> 01:13:38,679
Speaker 3: nothing to do with sex.

1714
01:13:38,800 --> 01:13:40,600
Speaker 4: It had to do with like a brother, like a

1715
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:45,439
Speaker 4: partnership and a friendship and apparently they're they're childhood friends.

1716
01:13:45,880 --> 01:13:48,560
Speaker 4: But it's just I felt sad for our community that

1717
01:13:48,760 --> 01:13:51,120
Speaker 4: like this is like where we like where we jump

1718
01:13:51,200 --> 01:13:52,200
Speaker 4: to and something.

1719
01:13:52,320 --> 01:13:54,719
Speaker 5: So yeah, because white people do gay shit.

1720
01:13:54,880 --> 01:13:59,639
Speaker 3: I'm just putting up apostrophes around that because gay gay

1721
01:13:59,640 --> 01:14:02,760
Speaker 3: shit all the time and it's just normal. It's just like, oh,

1722
01:14:02,800 --> 01:14:05,599
Speaker 3: their buddies haa, they play football, they're patting each other

1723
01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:06,120
Speaker 3: on the ass.

1724
01:14:06,120 --> 01:14:07,519
Speaker 2: Ha ha. That's all you're doing.

1725
01:14:07,560 --> 01:14:10,400
Speaker 3: But when black or brown or like brown and black people,

1726
01:14:10,400 --> 01:14:12,760
Speaker 3: when they do things that are just being comfortable with

1727
01:14:12,800 --> 01:14:16,360
Speaker 3: who they are expressing their emotion, it's considered it's like

1728
01:14:16,400 --> 01:14:19,320
Speaker 3: a negative. It's negative you're automatically gay, you autifately let

1729
01:14:19,360 --> 01:14:20,439
Speaker 3: you automatically dick.

1730
01:14:21,439 --> 01:14:24,280
Speaker 2: They're immediately demasculated. Yeah, and it's sad.

1731
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:28,439
Speaker 4: And I hope those fucking commentary commentators get fined or

1732
01:14:28,479 --> 01:14:32,120
Speaker 4: fired because check the fuck up. You obviously are releasing

1733
01:14:32,160 --> 01:14:35,439
Speaker 4: some undercover homophobic feelings.

1734
01:14:35,520 --> 01:14:38,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I hope we can do better somehow someway,

1735
01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:38,880
Speaker 5: but there's a.

1736
01:14:38,840 --> 01:14:39,320
Speaker 2: Lot going on.

1737
01:14:39,360 --> 01:14:41,240
Speaker 5: We got a lot to work on. Anyway.

1738
01:14:41,320 --> 01:14:43,240
Speaker 3: I hope that you take this month. I think everybody

1739
01:14:43,240 --> 01:14:44,759
Speaker 3: if you're listening in the tune this and I encourage

1740
01:14:44,800 --> 01:14:47,200
Speaker 3: you this month to kind of take something to work towards.

1741
01:14:47,479 --> 01:14:48,360
Speaker 3: I've been trying to do that.

1742
01:14:48,400 --> 01:14:49,160
Speaker 2: I want yourself.

1743
01:14:49,240 --> 01:14:51,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, obviously, you forget you're not gonna be perfect, You're

1744
01:14:51,640 --> 01:14:52,720
Speaker 3: not gonna work on it every day.

1745
01:14:52,800 --> 01:14:55,479
Speaker 2: Let's just be real, like, so don't be disappointed. Don't

1746
01:14:55,479 --> 01:14:56,559
Speaker 2: get scared to take.

1747
01:14:56,400 --> 01:14:58,120
Speaker 3: On something because you think you have to like do

1748
01:14:58,200 --> 01:15:00,280
Speaker 3: it perfect, because I know I've done. I'm that in

1749
01:15:00,360 --> 01:15:01,960
Speaker 3: my life and it's paralyzed me from working on.

1750
01:15:02,000 --> 01:15:04,280
Speaker 2: Myself because if I'm not doing it perfectly, I can't

1751
01:15:04,320 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 2: do it. Let me just try later.

1752
01:15:05,240 --> 01:15:07,000
Speaker 3: I'll try next month, you know, try to sweet, just

1753
01:15:07,040 --> 01:15:10,880
Speaker 3: start tomorrow because it just feels it just it gives

1754
01:15:10,880 --> 01:15:13,000
Speaker 3: you purpose. And why don't you want Why wouldn't you

1755
01:15:13,000 --> 01:15:15,280
Speaker 3: want to work on yourself? I mean, I'm learning. I

1756
01:15:15,280 --> 01:15:16,800
Speaker 3: have to remind myself that every day, but I know

1757
01:15:16,840 --> 01:15:18,519
Speaker 3: that when I do, I just feel better. And I've

1758
01:15:18,520 --> 01:15:21,640
Speaker 3: been feeling good even through a lot of challenging situations

1759
01:15:21,640 --> 01:15:24,639
Speaker 3: throwing my way in the last week, so that I'm

1760
01:15:24,760 --> 01:15:26,600
Speaker 3: probably not gonna share on here because they're just a

1761
01:15:26,600 --> 01:15:30,800
Speaker 3: little too personal at the moment. But I just I

1762
01:15:30,840 --> 01:15:33,920
Speaker 3: think working on yourself and learning how to cope with

1763
01:15:33,960 --> 01:15:35,719
Speaker 3: shit because shit is always going.

1764
01:15:35,640 --> 01:15:37,240
Speaker 2: To happen, it's so important.

1765
01:15:37,320 --> 01:15:40,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, you just so we can walk with love and

1766
01:15:40,560 --> 01:15:43,360
Speaker 3: feel at peace. And that's how I want to live

1767
01:15:43,400 --> 01:15:43,639
Speaker 3: my life.

1768
01:15:43,640 --> 01:15:45,599
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, especially with yourself.

1769
01:15:45,640 --> 01:15:48,000
Speaker 4: And you know what I found like talking to you guys,

1770
01:15:48,080 --> 01:15:50,559
Speaker 4: and talking to you Erica really reminds me to hold

1771
01:15:50,600 --> 01:15:54,080
Speaker 4: myself accountable and pushes me to grow because you're like

1772
01:15:54,160 --> 01:15:57,880
Speaker 4: I'm doing this, and I'm like, you're right, that's that's no.

1773
01:15:57,960 --> 01:15:59,680
Speaker 3: But you too, and you give me good advice all

1774
01:15:59,720 --> 01:16:01,920
Speaker 3: the time. I'm seriously this, I really missed.

1775
01:16:01,960 --> 01:16:02,519
Speaker 5: I missed this.

1776
01:16:02,800 --> 01:16:04,920
Speaker 2: I know you, I really did.

1777
01:16:05,240 --> 01:16:07,320
Speaker 3: Like I was like, I need I need to I

1778
01:16:07,360 --> 01:16:09,560
Speaker 3: need to go pod, I need to go pod.

1779
01:16:11,400 --> 01:16:12,559
Speaker 2: Connect I do.

1780
01:16:12,640 --> 01:16:15,719
Speaker 3: I need needs to hear my stories, like talk about

1781
01:16:15,720 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 3: our ship, Like, so d m me if you have.

1782
01:16:17,840 --> 01:16:21,439
Speaker 4: Like yeah, we're always welcome to like where I talk

1783
01:16:21,479 --> 01:16:23,719
Speaker 4: to a lot of girls, like yeah.

1784
01:16:23,600 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 2: We like we have.

1785
01:16:24,520 --> 01:16:26,640
Speaker 5: Like I love the community we have.

1786
01:16:26,720 --> 01:16:29,160
Speaker 3: It's small, but it's growing and you guys are fucking

1787
01:16:29,520 --> 01:16:32,519
Speaker 3: also like awesome, and I love engaging with you guys,

1788
01:16:32,760 --> 01:16:35,440
Speaker 3: and like some of you guys send us like video

1789
01:16:35,479 --> 01:16:37,000
Speaker 3: talks and like I love.

1790
01:16:36,800 --> 01:16:38,360
Speaker 2: It and I feel like I have like way more

1791
01:16:38,400 --> 01:16:39,840
Speaker 2: girlfriends I know for sure.

1792
01:16:40,479 --> 01:16:42,479
Speaker 4: Also, we want to do we want to make a

1793
01:16:42,720 --> 01:16:44,800
Speaker 4: do a meet up like a happy hour or something.

1794
01:16:44,800 --> 01:16:46,720
Speaker 4: So if anybody has any bar suggestions or you know

1795
01:16:46,760 --> 01:16:48,400
Speaker 4: homide who has a bar that wants all of us

1796
01:16:48,400 --> 01:16:50,320
Speaker 4: to come tell us.

1797
01:16:50,600 --> 01:16:52,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we should do like a poll on

1798
01:16:52,640 --> 01:16:55,400
Speaker 3: our instra stories, like how many people live in La.

1799
01:16:55,479 --> 01:16:56,960
Speaker 3: I mean, first of all, because it's gonna be like

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01:16:57,439 --> 01:16:59,360
Speaker 3: it's quite I'm down to take the five people.

1801
01:16:59,400 --> 01:17:01,760
Speaker 5: Look, I'm like antisocial. I can't handle twenty people.

1802
01:17:01,800 --> 01:17:04,760
Speaker 2: I'll be like, yeah, please, I don't know. How are you?

1803
01:17:04,880 --> 01:17:05,280
Speaker 1: You're good?

1804
01:17:05,280 --> 01:17:05,559
Speaker 5: Okay?

1805
01:17:05,560 --> 01:17:10,280
Speaker 2: Grade you okay? What are you having fun? Are you

1806
01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:14,599
Speaker 2: having fun? Like? Yeah, I mean, yeah, we should see

1807
01:17:14,600 --> 01:17:16,320
Speaker 2: how many people are here. But if all else fails,

1808
01:17:16,320 --> 01:17:17,160
Speaker 2: we can our friends.

1809
01:17:17,240 --> 01:17:17,639
Speaker 5: That's true.

1810
01:17:17,720 --> 01:17:19,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very true.

1811
01:17:19,760 --> 01:17:22,280
Speaker 3: Oh and if you are in La August seventh, I'm

1812
01:17:22,320 --> 01:17:25,639
Speaker 3: doing I'm speaking on a single mom panel. It's gonna

1813
01:17:25,680 --> 01:17:30,479
Speaker 3: it's hosted by uh the okay real and it's at Loom,

1814
01:17:30,520 --> 01:17:33,719
Speaker 3: which is in La somewhere. It's like a really cool

1815
01:17:35,000 --> 01:17:38,200
Speaker 3: center for like toddler education. Oh yeah, it's really it's.

1816
01:17:38,080 --> 01:17:41,400
Speaker 2: Like bring the fleet. Yeah we can bring cool.

1817
01:17:41,520 --> 01:17:41,720
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1818
01:17:41,720 --> 01:17:44,320
Speaker 5: It's at eleven a m. Tuesday, August seventh.

1819
01:17:44,880 --> 01:17:47,599
Speaker 3: Me and I think it's four other really amazing women

1820
01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:50,120
Speaker 3: are gonna just be talking about being a single parent

1821
01:17:50,200 --> 01:17:53,720
Speaker 3: or four at eleven am being a single parent or

1822
01:17:53,760 --> 01:17:57,759
Speaker 3: being raised by a single parent and like how uh

1823
01:17:58,160 --> 01:17:59,920
Speaker 3: you know the challenges we face and then how do

1824
01:18:00,080 --> 01:18:04,360
Speaker 3: we come together, like how other single women, other single

1825
01:18:04,439 --> 01:18:06,200
Speaker 3: parent moms or dads.

1826
01:18:06,200 --> 01:18:08,200
Speaker 5: Come together and support each other? You know what I mean?

1827
01:18:08,760 --> 01:18:11,840
Speaker 3: And or don't you know? It's like a big, bigger conversation.

1828
01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:14,320
Speaker 3: So cool, come out, come out.

1829
01:18:14,520 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 2: I'll be there.

1830
01:18:15,200 --> 01:18:18,599
Speaker 5: I'll post the fire on our insta. I did did

1831
01:18:18,880 --> 01:18:19,519
Speaker 5: on our stories.

1832
01:18:19,720 --> 01:18:21,800
Speaker 3: I'll post it on our insta like maybe like in

1833
01:18:21,920 --> 01:18:23,599
Speaker 3: the next few days, closer to the day.

1834
01:18:24,000 --> 01:18:28,479
Speaker 2: But yeah, is that it? That's it. It's nice catching

1835
01:18:28,560 --> 01:18:28,960
Speaker 2: up with y'all.

1836
01:18:29,000 --> 01:18:32,040
Speaker 3: If you have any more horries, email us because obviously

1837
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:33,120
Speaker 3: it's all they care about.

1838
01:18:34,479 --> 01:18:35,320
Speaker 4: Tell us about yourself.

1839
01:18:36,800 --> 01:18:39,000
Speaker 5: I'm done with mine. I'm like retiring from sex.

1840
01:18:40,520 --> 01:18:43,600
Speaker 2: That's a lie, that's a line.

1841
01:18:43,880 --> 01:18:47,040
Speaker 5: All right, Well, we'll catch you next week and we'll

1842
01:18:47,080 --> 01:18:47,519
Speaker 5: close my.

1843
01:18:50,280 --> 01:19:04,280
Speaker 2: Nice que. Letting go a body.

1844
01:19:08,720 --> 01:19:11,960
Speaker 8: Let's pull somewhere and finish ruppy start.

1845
01:19:13,600 --> 01:19:15,599
Speaker 2: Right from the beginning hour.

1846
01:19:15,960 --> 01:19:21,920
Speaker 8: Un I know your frumpies past, you know about your past.

1847
01:19:22,400 --> 01:19:28,280
Speaker 8: To bottle me up about the death he let me

1848
01:19:28,920 --> 01:19:35,000
Speaker 8: has a ball? Just ut does your love window?

1849
01:19:36,400 --> 01:19:38,160
Speaker 2: Tell your boss and.

1850
01:19:40,840 --> 01:19:43,800
Speaker 4: Be all rounding a power.

1851
01:19:45,120 --> 01:19:50,360
Speaker 2: Make that stuff baby. Do your p stop a music

1852
01:19:51,160 --> 01:19:51,400
Speaker 2: from

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01:19:55,640 --> 01:20:04,439
Speaker 3: Bing had a They most start