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Speaker 1: Anybody can date, but having a true, healthy partnership takes communication. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it takes honesty. Absolutely, it takes a reinforced steel cage

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Speaker 1: I'm reading the marriage contract. Brooke made her husband's side.

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Speaker 2: Did I live it on the desk again?

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Speaker 3: My bad?

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Speaker 1: I didn't mean to pick that up. But bottom line,

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Speaker 1: we all want a healthy, balanced, equal relationship and that's

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Speaker 1: exactly why one of our listeners set up a simple

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Speaker 1: agreement with his girlfriend, and now he's wondering why all

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Speaker 1: we're gonna find out if he's being reasonable or actually

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Speaker 1: crossing the line in a brand new am I the

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Speaker 1: jerk that's coming up next, Brooke. How much control do

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Speaker 2: I'm going to go with none.

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Speaker 1: Really.

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Speaker 4: I don't mean there's a little bit of influence, but honestly,

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, that's so sad. Then we don't really mean it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was assuming that you have definitely gone to

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Speaker 1: in your classic Brook tone, oh honey, no, you need

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Speaker 1: to dump that zero god because I'm one hundred satisfied

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Speaker 4: My golf.

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Speaker 1: Don't make yourself your own dinner.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, your fantasies of me are very strange.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not.

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Speaker 2: That's really far.

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Speaker 2: Support each other unless they're the ones.

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Speaker 4: If you're like, if Alexis came to me and was like,

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Speaker 1: That's the question.

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Speaker 1: I can tell you as a man, it can feel

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Speaker 1: And that's what made one of our listeners email us

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Speaker 1: for help. His name is Jonah. Okay, he agreed to

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Speaker 2: Today a while.

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Speaker 1: So let's welcome Jonah to the show. Jonah, how's it going?

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Speaker 3: Hey, I'm doing all right? How are you guys doing good.

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Speaker 1: I'm in the middle. I don't know if I want

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Speaker 2: He sounds like a nice guy so far.

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Speaker 1: You do Actually, now, is your girlfriend buddies with Brooke?

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Speaker 1: Because if so, you're starting in a hole already.

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Speaker 3: But God, I hope not.

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Speaker 1: Tell us. What's going on with you and your relationship?

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Speaker 3: Well, my girlfriend and I we've been together about a

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's always a tricky time, you know, like do

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Speaker 1: It's like ten years, like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly to set long term habits and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Early on, when we first started seeing each other, we'd

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Speaker 2: That seems pretty healthy, that's.

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Speaker 3: Normal, yeah, right, But these last few months now, as

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Speaker 4: Did she do that like slowly move in, move you know,

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Speaker 1: There's a whole new dresser in here somehow.

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Speaker 2: Wait a minute, everything's real rage.

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Speaker 3: Wait, maybe you guys have met.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so she's spending more more time over at your

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's totally fine, don't get me wrong. I

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Speaker 3: So that's great, right, you're a better situation.

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Speaker 4: So that, I mean that explains why she's always at

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Speaker 3: Uh, The issue is that every since she's been staying

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Speaker 1: That's pretty good. Okay. Do you think it's her fault?

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Speaker 4: Well, it makes sense that. I mean, you have two

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, hey, I almost boomed into a place

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Speaker 7: that was so strict. Day said, you can't have that

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Speaker 1: It kind of comes with the terrorists though, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Sure. It gets pretty pricey, and I guess my budget

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Speaker 3: didn't have that factored in. I didn't really know it

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Speaker 3: I was trying to think of solutions that were fair.

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Speaker 3: So I asked her maybe she could just drop me

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Speaker 3: four dollars for every night that she stays over, just

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Speaker 1: Four dollars per night she's over at your place.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, huh. I didn't think it was a big deal.

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Speaker 1: weird way to do it, it is. Yeah, what was her

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Speaker 3: I mean, you know, she took a minute to think

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Speaker 4: But I mean, but it adds up like twenty bucks

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Speaker 3: I mean it does. She's going to be basically living

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Speaker 1: But she said, you said she agreed to it.

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Speaker 3: She did, Yeah, she agreed to it, and everything was great.

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Speaker 3: The problem like I would tell her sometimes before we

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Speaker 4: And it just feels like such a nickel and dime

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Speaker 7: In his defense, what if there's a week she only

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Speaker 2: Do the you're gonna tell her right before bet yeah.

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Speaker 5: Good night hunting, don't forget I mean, I can't think

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Speaker 3: Sure, but it's not just before that either. I should

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Speaker 2: Right, It's like she's dating a bill collector.

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Speaker 1: You money.

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Speaker 3: Well, this is the thing. That morning when I left

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Speaker 3: that I'm super cheap and that like, is she really

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Speaker 3: if I'm charging her four dollars to stay in my place?

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Speaker 1: And like, here's the problem, Okay, here's.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's that serious, So living with me.

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Speaker 1: You know, her friends are now saying that you're a

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Speaker 3: Starting to side with them a little bit, you guys

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Speaker 3: I can feel it.

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Speaker 4: I have a feeling that it was the nagging even,

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Speaker 1: I think what makes it sound kind of cheap is

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Speaker 1: Maybe if you get a flat monthly rate, like check

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Speaker 5: Think the whole thing sounds cheap, right, that's a personality

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Speaker 1: So your girlfriend was okay with paying the four dollars

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Speaker 1: four dollars a month would have been very reasonable, four

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Speaker 2: Yeah, ever since her friend saw your bill on the table,

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Speaker 2: I said, she woke up to your notes.

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Speaker 1: So are you worried that maybe the relationship is starting

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Speaker 3: Well, there's that aspect of it, But I'm also like

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Speaker 3: keep going and everything's great, Yeah, but if we get

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Speaker 1: Does Does she still live in the apartment, is only

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Speaker 2: But I'm sure she contributes in other ways.

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Speaker 5: She pays her own rent right now, buying food, taking you, like,

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Speaker 5: splitting bills out to dinner, you know, like you stayed

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not very financially savvy. Clearly, someone needs to

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Speaker 1: be You're wondering, though, Jonah, if you're the jerk in

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Speaker 1: this situation for charging your girlfriend four dollars per night

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Speaker 1: that she stays over, or.

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Speaker 3: When you say it like that, it sounds like I'm

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Speaker 3: definitely a jerk.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you're self aware that.

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Speaker 1: How do you want me to say it?

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Speaker 3: Maybe we say, am I a jerk for expecting my

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Okay when she is causing them to go up?

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Speaker 7: More specific, charge my girlfriend four dollars every single time

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Speaker 7: she steps it? Now?

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Speaker 3: Maybe what you say, I'm open to changing the amount?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, so generous texting to seven eight five nine two.

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Speaker 1: If you think Jonah is the jerk or not in

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Speaker 1: this scenario, We're gonna come back. We'll read some of

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Speaker 1: your texts and take some palls even when we continue.

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Speaker 1: Am I the jerk? Right after this text into seven

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Speaker 1: eighty five nine to two says only four bucks a

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Speaker 1: night bro in this economy, raise that up to seven

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Speaker 4: I think you'll leave you out all the nagging that

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Speaker 1: Reminding you know, it's called reminding, yes, And now his

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's a little hard feel about that, buddy.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure he's talking about me or my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: No good point, very nice. Another text says, I'm married

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Speaker 2: I think they're probably getting grip changing them.

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Speaker 1: They're probably joking, but maybe not. Jonah. What's your reaction

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Speaker 3: I mean, for the person that has kids, I think

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Speaker 4: Let's not turn this into a parenting thing. We're barely

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Speaker 1: Let's stick with that. Yeah, we're trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: to Jonah here. Do you think he's the jerk?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I definitely agree with her friends.

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Speaker 6: He's being like a total jerk about this.

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Speaker 4: That there goes your hello, Olivia, Jonah.

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Speaker 6: If he's doing this now, it's just like a slippery slope.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: What's he going to start charging you for next?

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Speaker 3: Like toilet paper?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean she brings up a good point, Jonah.

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Speaker 3: Does she? Because I agree it is a slippery slope.

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Speaker 3: If she gets to come over and use all my

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Speaker 3: I'm just expected to pay for it, I think that's

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But here's the thing. You act like.

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Speaker 4: Your girlfriend doesn't contribute at all in your relationship.

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Speaker 3: She doesn't aside from the four dollars that I.

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Speaker 2: Asked for, she doesn't do anything for you.

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't know what you mean by anything for me.

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Speaker 1: Does she cook for you?

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Speaker 2: Does she drives?

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Speaker 1: Does she read you bedtime stories?

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Speaker 3: All of those things are true. But I also do

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Speaker 1: Okay, alexis what would you do if you're the friend

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Speaker 2: Okay. I mean there's a red a green flag.

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Speaker 9: I think the green flag is you will have money

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Speaker 2: Saving it it. Maybe your money.

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Speaker 9: That flag isn't your money. Yeah, maybe you would like

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Speaker 1: And then so what is your stance. You would support

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Speaker 9: I mean I would to tell her to you know,

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Speaker 4: She would wait to see what her girlfriend felt and

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Speaker 1: Good friend Alexis was the wrong person.

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Speaker 2: Jonah, why don't you just stay over at her house

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Speaker 3: We have a roommate and she doesn't what she wants

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Speaker 3: It's hard for me to afford all the time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe have your girlfriend and her roommate over and

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Speaker 1: you can charge the roommate as part of the firrid.

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Speaker 7: Hey, so I' just got fifty per off their bills.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's called compromise. We have more people that want

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Speaker 1: Do you think that Jonah is the jerk in the situation?

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Speaker 6: Well, it's crazy that you're talking about this because this

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Speaker 4: Really, wait, you charged him or he charged you for utilities.

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Speaker 6: So he was charging me little fees for all kinds

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Requests?

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Speaker 6: So I came up with what I think is a

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Speaker 6: So I started charging my then boyfriend now husband an

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Speaker 1: You prostituted yourself to your own boyfriend.

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Speaker 6: I didn't hear anything else about another and they haven't

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Speaker 1: Is that helpful for you? Jonah, you want to pass

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Speaker 3: Not at all. No, I'm my girlfriend intimacy bill from

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Speaker 1: We should call that intimacy company and see what they're doing.

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Speaker 1: I love your logic. It's just so pure, man. So

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Speaker 1: we're running short on time here. We've been tallying up

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Speaker 1: the text board at seven eighty five nine two. What

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Speaker 1: the jerk in this situation. You should not be charging

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Speaker 3: Friend.

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Speaker 2: Did you hear him? I think you got to give

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Speaker 1: It's actually closer than I thought. Sixty seven percent said

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Speaker 1: you're the jerk, So there's a lot of people who

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Speaker 3: It was close to half. We'll go with half.

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Speaker 2: It's not happen. If you're that good at math, you

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Speaker 2: know that's not half. I mean, you just you just

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Speaker 2: got away. What's more important? Your four dollars or the love.

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Speaker 9: Of your life and maybe a good time to mention

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Speaker 9: you're gonna have to buy her friend's dinner to make

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Speaker 3: Cool, there's something forward to Okay, thank yeah.

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Speaker 1: And I forgot to remind you, Jonah, we are charged

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Speaker 2: Okay, are we charging protects because that would be great?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, seven dollars per text. Okay, yeah, he hung up. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he's gone anyway, that's am I the Jerk. It's Brooke

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