1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Ready. I am ready. We have a couple of fun 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: things to talk about today. Well let me I want 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:09,880 Speaker 1: to go in first, because it is honestly one of 4 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: my favorite things when we get feedback from listeners and 5 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: it's just like positivity and that people telling us like, oh, 6 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 1: you made my week. Or this girl just wrote in 7 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: and she said, oh my god, I'm so upset because 8 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: I didn't have I don't have work tomorrow because tomorrow's Thanksgiving. 9 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:26,799 Speaker 1: We're recording this a little early because ship's leaving town. 10 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: But she said, I'm so sad. It feels like a 11 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: Friday because I'm off tomorrow. So I went to listen 12 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: at casual but it's not and I can't. I loved 13 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: hearing stuff like that, we love that you guys wait 14 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: for this every week, or that you're laughing with us 15 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: or having the conversations with us, like it makes it 16 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: so much more fun to just good. One. I love 17 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 1: when you give these like one letters remember last week 18 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: and you were like silent and you go totally totally good. 19 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: One way to participate in the conversation. Uh. When I 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: posted last week about the podcast, I think I posted 21 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: that picture of me and a mermaid costume. Yeah, should 22 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: we talk about that a little bit. That was on 23 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: a trip we took a year ago, and unfortunately for 24 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,760 Speaker 1: the child's mermaid suit that that was I put it 25 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: on as a joke. You guys dared me and it 26 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: was like, see if you can fit barely? Remember that trip, 27 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: that's another story. But you guys dared me to do 28 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: it and it fit and we were like ha ha, 29 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: I could not move around very well, so you had 30 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,960 Speaker 1: to carry me. And then I ripped the mermaid thing. 31 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: I still hear about that from her and she's like, 32 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: remember that time you ripped from hermaid costumes? And her 33 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: mom was like when when I posted it? Her mom 34 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: was like she's still mad about it, or like she's 35 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: she's going to be pissed or something like that. And 36 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: then I was like why because we photoshopped her out 37 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: of the photo and she's like, you did why right 38 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: in the photo and she's like, Oh, you're never gonna 39 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: She's never gonna let you live this down. Did you 40 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: actually post it? I couldn't remember. We talked about it 41 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: that not at your birthday. I think I think I 42 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: just shared your post or something. Yeah, you were going 43 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: to do Instagram versus reality, which is hilarious to me. 44 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: There was somebody commented on it and said, I mean 45 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: I was drunk when I responded, Um, so I'm mad 46 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: because I said unicorn instead of mermaid. So it made 47 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: my joke not funny because he was like that, and 48 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: I was like, what is he talking about? He was like, 49 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: must be rich or something. I said, It's free to 50 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: be a unicorn, but I'm not mermaid. Half the time 51 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 1: that Hayter's hate on me, I'm like, what the funk 52 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: are you talking about? Even I guess everyone assumes that 53 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: if you're at the beach, you're rich. Yeah, maybe I 54 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: don't know. We were staying for free at a prince speech, 55 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: didn't anything, And that sunset was fake too. Don't give 56 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: up all our tricks. Oh my god, he just chigs 57 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 1: up over here on that casually. I'm acting casual with 58 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: these apps that like with photos. Yeah, so it actually 59 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:58,799 Speaker 1: is still a pretty background more mermaiding. Chipped added a 60 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: little pink to really make my tail stand out. You 61 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: haven't seen that post. It's on Instagram at Velvet's Edge. 62 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 1: And then apparently it wasn't my story, so so it's gone. 63 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: I actually just you said something about you responded when 64 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: you were drunk. That would be one of my favorite 65 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: things is to get a drunk Chip responding to me 66 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,959 Speaker 1: on Instagram. If I was a troll, that's what I 67 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:21,519 Speaker 1: would do all day. It's just troll on you until 68 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: you draw God, here we go. I'm gonna make a 69 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: fake account and start doing it. Um when I Okay, 70 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: The point of all of that was to say, when 71 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: I posted that someone said today's episode was hilarious, Chip 72 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: had me dying. Keep being amazing. Um, I wonder I 73 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: forgot what you were talking about. That was so funny 74 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: you were on last week though we were also drinking, 75 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: so you just never know. Um. But yeah, we got 76 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: a couple of those. And then there was an email 77 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:52,119 Speaker 1: in the inbox that said Dear Chip and Kelly. First, 78 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: I wanted to start with saying I tried to post 79 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: a message to your Instagram, but I'm not great at Instagram, 80 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: so I think I deleted it by accident. Hello l Anyway, 81 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: what I said is that you guys are the best 82 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: in your podcast is so funny and real. Nevertheless, I 83 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: wanted to say something that might reach you guys, so 84 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 1: I'm trying to email every week. I check in with 85 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: you guys on Spotify and you always make me laugh. 86 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 1: The topics are shocking at times, yeah, exactly, but super 87 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: funny and you give really good advice. That was like 88 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 1: the best part of this too, was like, yes, so 89 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: we actually maybe aren't. Our friends are like, why the 90 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 1: fund do y'all qualify to get this advice? Um, I 91 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: live in Ireland, so we have a fan base inholand 92 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,359 Speaker 1: this is amazing. And we are on week five of 93 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: a six week lockdown. Awful, trying to keep busy and 94 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,359 Speaker 1: having have been really grateful for living so close to 95 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: the sea. A bet great to listen to your fun 96 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,599 Speaker 1: podcast while walking. Thank you for sharing. You've helped me 97 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 1: to laugh and I'm sure lots of other people to 98 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: take care Danielle. Danielle, thank you so much. I hope 99 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 1: you're listening today, and I hope that you're surviving that wuarantine. 100 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: Oh this time I ever seen like that's so beautiful. 101 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: But I bet it's getting cold now. But yeah, I haven't, 102 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 1: but I've seen pictures. I have friends that have like 103 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:14,039 Speaker 1: gone and done big trips and it's really beautiful. I 104 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 1: still can't believe that we are still where we are. 105 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 1: Isn't that strange? Like this coronavirus thing. Do you remember 106 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: back in March when this started. I remember being like, 107 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, we have to go and lockdown for 108 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: two weeks. Yeah, like a year later, here we are 109 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: when we started this thing. I have friends in l 110 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 1: A that like, literally every night at seven pm my time, 111 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: five pm their time, we would get on a zoom 112 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 1: and literally drink wine. It was like a vacation. It 113 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: was an happy hour. We would like play these video 114 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: games and and I can remember on that, like my 115 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: friend Brittany, who works for Universal Music, got an email 116 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: that was like, um, just a quick update, like don't worry, 117 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: We're going to make sure that everybody is paid through 118 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:03,479 Speaker 1: like and this is in March, paid through June, and 119 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: she was like June. Yeah, we're not gonna be in June. Meanwhile, 120 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: like June feels like it was fourteen years. Oh my god. 121 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 1: I like thinking about the fact that it's about to 122 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:18,839 Speaker 1: be one. It blows my mind and on different levels, 123 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: like I feel like this has been the longest short year. 124 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Like it feels both super long 125 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: and also like it's I'm like, where did this year go? 126 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 1: All at the same time. It's so confusing. Yeah, I 127 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: mean it's um I I struggle anyway with like remembering 128 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: dates and like what day of the week it is 129 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 1: and those kinds of things because I just like get 130 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: up in too much, too much and um so, but 131 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 1: this is like someone reminded me of something that happened 132 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: last Thanksgiving, which shouldn't seem that long ago. It feels 133 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:54,720 Speaker 1: like for I was like that was the last year. 134 00:06:56,120 --> 00:07:00,799 Speaker 1: God is crazy. It's wild wild, which is funny because 135 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 1: things that are in the past seemed like they were 136 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: a really long time ago. But this year feels really short, 137 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,839 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Short year ever, Like it's just 138 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just because we have not 139 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,040 Speaker 1: had any normalcy and so its like in both ways 140 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: it's dragged out and gone by really fast at the 141 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: same time. But I don't know. Unfortunately, don't feel like 142 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: it's going to be like you snap your fingers here 143 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: and here we are. But I do think it's important 144 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: that like everyone's goal to be like even if you 145 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: can sort of reset the way that you're looking at 146 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: the whole thing. Sure, yeah, posted something I think I 147 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:36,640 Speaker 1: don't don't know if it was posted today, but somebody 148 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: shared an Oprah post about today and I don't have 149 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: my phone with me because I'm recording this, but um, 150 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: it was. It was basically like the inverse of like, 151 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: don't look at it negatively, like look at everything that 152 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: you've learned about yourself through it. And I thought that 153 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: was like really nice because it's so easy to be like, 154 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: here we go again. Well, it's been a lot, I 155 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: will say. I just did an interview with Rebecca Minkoff 156 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: UM on the other part of the Valvestge podcast. She 157 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: was amazing by the way, Um we just had a 158 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: quick little evie because she's so busy obviously, but it 159 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 1: was interesting to me because her perspective as a huge brand, 160 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 1: I mean, she has a global brand. And she first 161 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: started talking about just the impact negatively that it's had 162 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: on their business. She said their business was cut by 163 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: fifty in two weeks. She's like, March sixteenth happened, and 164 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: like it just died. But then she said, but and 165 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: you know the hardest part, obviously being all the layoffs 166 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:37,319 Speaker 1: and all of that stuff that we've watched a lot 167 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: of our friends have to go through. I had to 168 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: go through that like the people that we're working for me, 169 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:43,960 Speaker 1: I've had to really make some cuts and that's it's 170 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 1: hard as shit, and it really makes you have to read, 171 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 1: like really look in the mirror and be like what 172 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: do I want to do? You know, like it's been 173 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: a big redefining period for a lot of us. But 174 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: her her take was great and that she said the 175 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: business was really hard at first, but it the thing 176 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: that she wants to take into the future, which is 177 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: what I like and what I'm gonna start looking at 178 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: in my life, is that they had the people that 179 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: were left at the business had to really focus on 180 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: one thing together, so they operated as a unit in 181 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: the most like in the biggest capacity that she said 182 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: they ever have as a business. And she goes, the 183 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: weird thing was we were all working from home, like 184 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: not in the same office. But I've never felt more 185 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: united with my team, which I thought was really interesting 186 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: and just a really great outlook, like this has been 187 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: probably the most trying time in most people that like 188 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 1: in this world's lives, like this has been very difficult 189 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: for every single person rich, poor, like where it doesn't 190 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: matter where you are, we've all felt it. So what 191 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,559 Speaker 1: are you going to take with you as far as 192 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: like what was important to you, what worked for you, 193 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn 194 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 1: about the people around you? You know, I just thought 195 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 1: that was a really good insight. Yeah, I mean I 196 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 1: think it's funny too, because I wonder if this will 197 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: be something that she is a takeaway for her, Like, 198 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: you know, brand ends and corporations, they spend so much 199 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:06,079 Speaker 1: money on infrastructure in terms of office space and all 200 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:11,000 Speaker 1: of these things. Is it necessary, you know, when you 201 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: can just I would rather if I owned a big company, 202 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: I would rather make sure that I was investing in 203 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: good people and let them work from home, let them 204 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: work from where it makes sense for them to work. Well, 205 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 1: a lot of people thought that working from home wouldn't 206 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: be as productive, and I think that it's shown in 207 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 1: a lot of ways. I mean, I'm not saying this 208 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: history for everyone, but a lot of people have found 209 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:35,840 Speaker 1: like oats fine commute, it's better for the environment. It's interesting. 210 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: So anyway, maybe that's a challenge for everyone this week. 211 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 1: Listening is like, think about what you've learned in about 212 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 1: your job, about yourself, about your friends, your family, whatever 213 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: it is, and like, what do you want to take 214 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: with you in because we're starting to look at that. 215 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: Yeah and and um you know create you know, a 216 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 1: new path for the year. Right. I just think if 217 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,200 Speaker 1: like hitting a reset button is really important because it 218 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: is going to feel like it is still until this 219 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: is over. Yeah, I agree. Well, something positive that's happening 220 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 1: in Scotland and maybe this is maybe this is going 221 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: to be the thing that you and I should really 222 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: fight for it. Cause yes, I got blown up yesterday 223 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: and it made me so happy, blown up in a 224 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:24,679 Speaker 1: good way on social media from you guys. Because Scotland 225 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: became the first nation to provide free period products for all, 226 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: for for all, for all women anyone. You know, I 227 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 1: don't even know what that means for anyone who needs them, 228 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: which I thought was really weird. Yeah, I'm confused. Yeah, 229 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: but hey, if you need them, you can get them. 230 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: If your trans and you are like on a lot 231 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:53,560 Speaker 1: of hormones, do you start getting a period? That's a 232 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: good question. I don't know if you know the answer 233 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: to that. Right into us that at casual uh what 234 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: is already think it's still dot com but you would 235 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 1: still that would still be a woman, you know, Like 236 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying so the fact that it says 237 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: for all women and anyone else who needs them. It's like, 238 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 1: it's like girls and women and anyone else who needs them. 239 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: And I don't know the answer. Maybe somebody wants to 240 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: give what they like to call sanitary towels to their mom. 241 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 1: I mean, that was the other thing that wanted to 242 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 1: your sanitary Sanitary towels is the most disgusting and it's 243 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: almost huge. And then it is pats. I have not 244 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 1: worn a pad since my first period in seventh grade, 245 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 1: and I was like, I can't do this. Yeah, but 246 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: we call them sanitary napkins like to go better. But 247 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: you go from a napkin to a towel that makes 248 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: it sound like a diaper that you can, like on 249 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 1: your whole body. That's what a pad feels like, unless 250 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:49,960 Speaker 1: you're wearing like a mini but a Maxi pad that's 251 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: what it feels like. So like, I'm trying to avoid 252 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,600 Speaker 1: diapers as long as I possibly can, So so why 253 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: why would any What's I mean I've never worn either? 254 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: Obvious we don't say um, although I've like, there's been 255 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 1: so many Maxi pad jokes in my life, like, um, 256 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: we used to make them float in this puddle. We 257 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 1: used to make them float in this puddle outside of 258 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: my biology class, like when it would rain really hard, 259 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:16,959 Speaker 1: it was always get these like big puddles of water, 260 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: and um, my friend Tristan I used to throw they 261 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: have Maxi pads at school and class. No, they were 262 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 1: just your biology class give away from you know, and 263 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: we would throw them and they would sit there and float, 264 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 1: and from our biology class we would see the principle 265 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 1: out there try to give them out of the little 266 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 1: floating pond, and we thought it was the funniest thing 267 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: in the world. But um, yeah, like why would you 268 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:45,440 Speaker 1: wear a Maxi pad if you can wear a mini pad? Well, 269 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: first of all, is it about the flow? I don't 270 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: I don't really know. I personally don't wear any pads 271 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:53,840 Speaker 1: were tampons, and like that's not that fun either, But 272 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: it's just like way less. Like pad looks like it's 273 00:13:58,160 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: a half an inch thick. I mean, like, can you 274 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: see those through my pants? That's what I'm worried about, 275 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: Like they're my skinny jeans. I'm not definitely not going 276 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,439 Speaker 1: to wear a legging with a Maxi paddle, And like, 277 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:11,280 Speaker 1: oh my god, it looks so bulky. People would really 278 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:16,200 Speaker 1: be writing agast me trans question mark what that would call? 279 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: Do they call camel toe, like if you were wearing 280 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 1: like leggings or something. No, it's not camel too because 281 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 1: it's too It's like that thing. There's this there's this 282 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: new thing that chip was it you? There's these underwear 283 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 1: that have a built in camel too. But see the 284 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: difference between that and a Maxi pad. Are this is 285 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: disgusting anyway, personally, I'm not wearing any Maxi pads. I'll 286 00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 1: wear them one time for my very first period and 287 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: I was like, mom, I can't do this. Help. Yeah, 288 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 1: I feel like that, Like they're mostly for young young girls, 289 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: but like in the ads they're all like, yeah, it's 290 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 1: just that's not probably reality. I'm sure there's some people 291 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 1: who do it. But anyway, if you were a sanitarious 292 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 1: howel I mean, more power to you. Everyone has to 293 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 1: each of their own like it's just not my choice. Um, 294 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,040 Speaker 1: but let's get back to Scotland. So, Scotland has become 295 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 1: the first country in the world to provide free and 296 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: universal access to period products after a four year campaign. 297 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: It's took them that long. I thought that was so 298 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: four for your campaign. That's fundamentally shifted the public discourse 299 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: around mainistruation. Also, if you're listening to this and like, 300 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 1: why the hell do they care? We talked about this 301 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 1: last week and Chip decided that campaign He's gonna start 302 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 1: a campaign and um possibly an insurance company that offers 303 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: universal free I just don't understand, Like, it is not 304 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 1: it's not a choice. I wish I could add up 305 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 1: the cost that. Yeah, I can. I can make a 306 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: choice to like drive my car too fast, get in 307 00:15:51,360 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: an accident, and my insurance will pay for different free conduct. 308 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: To have sex. Yeah, I mean you can get your 309 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 1: You can get birth control covered, right, I don't know. 310 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: I think it planned parenthood. You can. But this is 311 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: like it befalls every single female on earth, like there 312 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 1: is no choice. At a certain age it is going 313 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 1: to happen, and a certain age it will stop happening. 314 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: I found the line in the article how they reference 315 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 1: ever it says this will make a massive difference to 316 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:26,800 Speaker 1: the lives of women, women and girls and everyone who menstrates. 317 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 1: Whose menstrates? I don't know. Should we right into the Guardian? 318 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 1: Am I saying that right? Menstruates menstruates. No, there's no you. 319 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 1: It's just ment strights. Men. You don't menstruate. Maybe I'm 320 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 1: menstruate and I need paths. You wear pad, you menstruate 321 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 1: for sure. If you were a tampon, you just men stright. 322 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: I mean, that's just the easy way to put it. 323 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:53,360 Speaker 1: Men stright. Well, I'm proud of Scotland personally. We talked 324 00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: about this last week on at Casual, So if you 325 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: guys want to go listen to that episode. It is 326 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: just so fascinating. You brought up such a good point 327 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: that we've had to pay for that. Like, I really 328 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: do want to add up what I have. How much 329 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:07,240 Speaker 1: is a box of tampons or eight or nine dollars? 330 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 1: Shut up? Yes? And you like probably you go through 331 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: one to two boxes a period. Two boxes. Yeah, that's 332 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Every month of your since you were 333 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: like twelve, isn't it weird? There's and they're shame around, 334 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:21,920 Speaker 1: like did we talk about that last week? Like, well, 335 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: I don't give a funk anymore when people I used 336 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:25,560 Speaker 1: to though, when you go to walk, like you walk 337 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 1: into walgrains and you're buying your tampons, you like sneak 338 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 1: it through right, and you're like you put it on 339 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 1: the counter. And of course there's always the hot guys 340 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: dating like right behind you, like walks up as you pain. 341 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 1: You're like, feeling is so terrible, It's like the most 342 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,359 Speaker 1: unsexy thing. You're like, Okay, well, I mean, and have 343 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 1: you ever had a boyfriend like be like, hey, when 344 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: you're going the grocer store, can you grab me some tampons? 345 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: Like have you ever asked a guy to buy something? Yeah? 346 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:52,840 Speaker 1: Because I can imagine if someone asked me, I would 347 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:55,480 Speaker 1: stand in front of all the options so many you'd 348 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:57,119 Speaker 1: be like, do I want the odor shield? Or do 349 00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 1: I want like no applicator? Yeah? Like why are there 350 00:18:00,680 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 1: so many? Well because they have plastic applicators, which are 351 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,440 Speaker 1: bad for the environments and now you know, and then 352 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:09,440 Speaker 1: or they have cardboard which is super uncomfortable to insert, 353 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,199 Speaker 1: and then they have no applicators. Right. Well, yeah, so 354 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: in high school, yes, but I used those in high school. 355 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:18,640 Speaker 1: I've told you about how you star two tampons during 356 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:22,399 Speaker 1: my basketball games? Oh my god, So are univers being 357 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 1: a pad? Well that's disgusting. How would I run around? 358 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,719 Speaker 1: And also you can side the leak from a pad? 359 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 1: You can like go over the it does have wings, 360 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:33,640 Speaker 1: but it's not fool proof. It's if you're running around 361 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,400 Speaker 1: or like lunging for a ball, like I just had 362 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: to be careful in my when I was younger, my 363 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:43,639 Speaker 1: periods were so heavy and so I, yeah, I would 364 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:46,720 Speaker 1: shove two obi tampons up there. Is it possible to 365 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:49,080 Speaker 1: get like you can get TSS If you can't get 366 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 1: one out right, is it called ts? Yeah, I'm surprised 367 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:55,920 Speaker 1: you knew that threw me? You really did it kind 368 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,000 Speaker 1: of threw me how quickly that came out of your mouth, 369 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:01,560 Speaker 1: just like float off the tip you can if that's 370 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:04,400 Speaker 1: if you leave it in too long. There's been time 371 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 1: where I've lost one up there, and that's scary, or 372 00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:10,159 Speaker 1: you forget One time I left one and this is 373 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: so disgusting. Um, one time I left one in there 374 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,240 Speaker 1: like to one. This was like five years ago, and 375 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 1: I somehow like went in and then I put another 376 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,400 Speaker 1: one in, thinking I had taken it out, and UM 377 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: realized like four days later that I hadn't said that. 378 00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:30,639 Speaker 1: I called my guyder and she's like, well, how are 379 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 1: you feeling? Because you feel when you have toxic shock 380 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 1: syndrome like it's like feels like the flu apparently, And 381 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:38,040 Speaker 1: I was like, I feel fine, but like I'm freaking out, 382 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: Like how how do you get it? I mean, dug around, Okay, 383 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,919 Speaker 1: it doesn't get so far out there that you can't. 384 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 1: It just fell out like I was peeing and it 385 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 1: came out, and I was like, oh my god, I 386 00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: would have thought that was a big old blood club 387 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,199 Speaker 1: I did. I was like, oh my god, did I 388 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: just give birth? Like it was so scary? But yeah, 389 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,120 Speaker 1: I mean I've heard so many stories of that happening 390 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 1: to two girls or like haven't have their friend Cook 391 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:07,119 Speaker 1: would be like, is there one up there? It's like 392 00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:10,160 Speaker 1: so stressful some of this ship you like, you don't 393 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: you don't feel it when you have one in No, 394 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:16,239 Speaker 1: that's why. That's why tampons are better than pads, right, 395 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 1: because they expand and just sort of fill your cavity 396 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: the word cat you No, definitely not that, but like 397 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 1: why did you even have to describe it? They just 398 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 1: fill your cavityl the right word? Or is it just vagina? 399 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 1: And now that makes me sound like I don't have 400 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: anything about my own anatomy. Wolva is not the outside right, No, 401 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:42,640 Speaker 1: that's the the why don't you google it? Oh god? 402 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: I anatomy. Are Google searches work computer? Oh god? I 403 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:50,879 Speaker 1: literally put in like something that started with a P 404 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: earlier and it was like, is porn and masturbation good 405 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 1: for a relationship? And I was like, oh my god, 406 00:20:56,760 --> 00:20:59,719 Speaker 1: these are my Google searches. The lady is the outside 407 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:08,359 Speaker 1: saru Volva's where you insert into your cavity. Okay, I 408 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,359 Speaker 1: typed in vagina parts. You know, there's all those women 409 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,399 Speaker 1: out there here are like, you don't know your own body. 410 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm sorry, they're going to tell you click okay, 411 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 1: actually matter? Um? All right, well this is enough period talk. 412 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: Well I'm proud of Scotland. And it's funny. I saw 413 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:29,960 Speaker 1: when you sent me the post um I forget, which 414 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:32,959 Speaker 1: was like good news or something like that. But um, 415 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: someone commented, UM, I'm surprised this is in New Zealand. 416 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,320 Speaker 1: They usually do things like this first, so it'll be 417 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,840 Speaker 1: interesting to see which on it, which countries pick up 418 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 1: on it. I guarantee you America will be last. I know, 419 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,200 Speaker 1: we got to really get with it. Um. This is 420 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 1: also in response to last week's podcast. This is from Danne. 421 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:54,800 Speaker 1: She said, oh my god, I just caught up on 422 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,199 Speaker 1: last week's podcast. Thank you to you and Ship for 423 00:21:57,200 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 1: getting me through my tin miler. She's prepping for a marathon, 424 00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:04,639 Speaker 1: apparently mental notes. I walked past the bathroom the other 425 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:09,399 Speaker 1: day and happened upon my boyfriend wiping front words. I 426 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,919 Speaker 1: wait a minute, I was shut. Was he shipping with 427 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,840 Speaker 1: the door open? I guess so? And wiping with it open? 428 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 1: Which is I mean, that's the bigger part of this, 429 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:24,359 Speaker 1: really really act like just like froze. She said, I'd 430 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 1: never imagine that was a thing. I too, immediately went 431 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 1: to U T I ouch, Kelly Arbor missed vomit. You 432 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:36,120 Speaker 1: graduated to boone farm of the college days. Okay. Then 433 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:40,720 Speaker 1: she goes and you've never given a blowjob underwater? That 434 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:45,040 Speaker 1: was shocking. I feel sudged. This is the same lady. 435 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,119 Speaker 1: I love that she's like taking notes while she's like 436 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 1: training for a marathon taking notes. I love. Let me 437 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 1: teach her how to do some things. Um, she said, 438 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:58,959 Speaker 1: it's totally doable. Try it. Obviously, you can't compete. Oh, 439 00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 1: complete a single breath. You've got to do other stuff 440 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:05,640 Speaker 1: and switch things up. Reverse cowgirl in the bath tub 441 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 1: works well, try platinum lube in the water. I'm just 442 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 1: full of tips over here. Um yeah, period sex verse 443 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 1: works best for me in a shower. Shower it's less messy, 444 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 1: blood acts as a lubricant, and orgasm does wonder for 445 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: the cramps. That's actually true. I've had that same experience anyway. 446 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:26,359 Speaker 1: As always, thanks for the laughs. I'm still still stuck 447 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:30,040 Speaker 1: on an underwater blow job. I don't get it. Yeah, 448 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:34,280 Speaker 1: that sounds like it's a danger. How do you breathe? Well, 449 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 1: I mean you can't. It's what if you had a snarkle. 450 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,959 Speaker 1: You know, they have a pussy snark what Okay, those 451 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,359 Speaker 1: two things you can eat pussy underwater. There's a thing 452 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 1: called a pussy snarkle and it was invented. You can 453 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: get them on Amazon. I think that country singer who 454 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,760 Speaker 1: doesn't exist anymore, wheel or Walker Jr. Used To sell them. 455 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:57,639 Speaker 1: And it's this thing that like hooks onto your nose 456 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: and goes up and I mean, I don't think it's 457 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,199 Speaker 1: necessarily meant to be used underwater, but it's so that 458 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,679 Speaker 1: you can breathe while you're eating pussy. They have a 459 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,160 Speaker 1: glow in the dark pussy snorkel. If you put it in. 460 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:11,480 Speaker 1: I'm not even joking. I just put that into my 461 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 1: Google search again. That's just I mean it has okay, 462 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: only five star and then it goes down from there. 463 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:23,439 Speaker 1: But this has great product for tossing the salad on 464 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:30,119 Speaker 1: a fat man in prison. That has to be a joke, right, 465 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:33,399 Speaker 1: I don't even know. Loved it All the reviews are funny, 466 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:37,199 Speaker 1: it says dive in. Loved it always allows you to 467 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 1: get to the work at hand without worrying about breathing, 468 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 1: concentration and focus levels reach their peak. Now, if they 469 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,679 Speaker 1: could add a head lamp, it would be perfect. So 470 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: what do you need a lamp? I don't know, I 471 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: need a picture of this thing. Oh, interesting because it 472 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 1: goes in your nose and it's got two tubes that 473 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: come on the top that look a little bit like 474 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:02,520 Speaker 1: antenna are like, like bug, what are those things called antenna's? Yeah, yeah, antennas. Okay, Oh, 475 00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:06,720 Speaker 1: it's currently unavailable unfortunately, looks like it's sold out. Well 476 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,400 Speaker 1: there's here's the one, the Crescy Adult diving dry snorkele 477 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 1: with splash guard and top valve. So this is for 478 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,679 Speaker 1: if you're going down on somebody underwater. Again, But I 479 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:19,920 Speaker 1: think you. I don't know that you this is necessary. 480 00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,320 Speaker 1: I think this can also be used on dry land. 481 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,679 Speaker 1: It's just so that you do like you can, you 482 00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,439 Speaker 1: can breathe through your nose while your mouth is doing 483 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,159 Speaker 1: all the work, you know, because your mouth is like 484 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 1: against things when you're down there. I don't know, Yeah, 485 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,600 Speaker 1: I guess, And I guess it could be a blowjob 486 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 1: snorkle too. Well, that's what I was gonna say. I'm 487 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:42,159 Speaker 1: not really like that. I don't really know what that 488 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:43,919 Speaker 1: feels like. You would know more about that than me, 489 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 1: which is a lot. Well, you don't give blow jobs. 490 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,919 Speaker 1: I'm talking about put like like, I don't know that 491 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,119 Speaker 1: your nose is like, I guess that makes sense that 492 00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,520 Speaker 1: your nose is kind of in there too. Well, yeah, 493 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess with a blowjob like your you're no, yeah, 494 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: your nose isn't necessarily pressed against the body because you're 495 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 1: moving your head back. No, exactly, but it would give 496 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:06,440 Speaker 1: you the opportunity to just like continue breathing and sucking. Yeah, 497 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 1: but let's talk about this, like I'm literally the picturing 498 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,360 Speaker 1: my boyfriend with this snorkele on the top of his head, 499 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:16,560 Speaker 1: with these like Antenna's coming out like that. It kind 500 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,040 Speaker 1: of kills the mood. But I mean, just me personally, 501 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: maybe maybe if he's doing it from behind so you 502 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 1: don't have to like look at it, that would be 503 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,280 Speaker 1: the only way that would I'm gonna get him one. 504 00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're like his birthday is coming up? 505 00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:33,760 Speaker 1: A business idea to him. He's my business partner. Do 506 00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:35,920 Speaker 1: you want to tell you you haven't? Don't tell me 507 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:44,520 Speaker 1: here or launching? You better see him that ship real fast. Well, 508 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: let's move into the new questions we have. I feel 509 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,560 Speaker 1: like we've done enough one last week's episode we did 510 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:54,040 Speaker 1: almost thirty minutes. We're so happy with Scotland. That just 511 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 1: really helped us out. Okay, this comes from a vulnerable heart. 512 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:01,000 Speaker 1: Is the name of this email? High Ship and Kelly 513 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,840 Speaker 1: quick stats. I met my boyfriend on bumble. I am 514 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: twenty nine and he is going on thirty seven. We've 515 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 1: been together for over a year. The headline seems like 516 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 1: before we became exclusive, he was all over me, and 517 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:18,440 Speaker 1: since we became exclusive, he is not initiation. Before we 518 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 1: used to both initiate. These days, I always have to initiate. 519 00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,240 Speaker 1: If I do not initiate, we can go more than 520 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:29,120 Speaker 1: two weeks without having sex rejection. There are times when 521 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,879 Speaker 1: he rejects me, which is especially hurtful since I am 522 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,679 Speaker 1: now the one always initiating and therefore the one always 523 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 1: getting rejected. Every rejection makes me question myself in every 524 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 1: which way, like am I not sexy enough? What the 525 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,960 Speaker 1: hell am I doing? And every rejection makes me less 526 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:48,640 Speaker 1: inclined to initiate. His response, he has never been much 527 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,400 Speaker 1: of an initiator and received similar feedback and past relationships, 528 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: he was more aggressive before we became exclusive to better 529 00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,560 Speaker 1: convey his interest. At this age, she has a lower 530 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: sex drive. At this age was thirty seven. He's acting 531 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:04,439 Speaker 1: like he's like sixty. At this age, he has a 532 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:09,160 Speaker 1: lower sex drive and physio physiologically, he thinks he may 533 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,400 Speaker 1: have lower testosterone levels. My response, I have never been 534 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,960 Speaker 1: much of an initiation an initiator either, but I am 535 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 1: desperately trying to step up for the both of us. 536 00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,720 Speaker 1: I've gone out of my comfort zone and trying to 537 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:24,199 Speaker 1: explore lingerie, for play, you name it. I also have 538 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:27,479 Speaker 1: tried to be understanding of his physical, mental, and emotional needs, 539 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:32,919 Speaker 1: what with athletic activity, job stresses, COVID fatigue, et cetera. 540 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 1: And never in a million years when I've fought someone 541 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: for something like a lower sex drive truly induced by 542 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,360 Speaker 1: lower tea levels. But some of this is hard to 543 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 1: swallow when he's mentioned new numerous previous sex capades like 544 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 1: having sex in a changing room, and demonstrated the ability 545 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:51,320 Speaker 1: to show up if he puts his mind to it, 546 00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 1: like he did at the beginning of our relationship. Then 547 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 1: combining that with what seems to be the average frequency 548 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 1: to have sex within couples of a similar rank at 549 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,840 Speaker 1: least two to three times a week for everyone in 550 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,400 Speaker 1: my social circle, to this podcast, to the Sex and 551 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,920 Speaker 1: the City movie. I love him, and he says he 552 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 1: loves me, but this has been and continues killing me. 553 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,560 Speaker 1: This is the most vulnerable I've been with anyone about this, 554 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,360 Speaker 1: so I hope that you can provide some perspective. Sorry, 555 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,120 Speaker 1: this is a lot to impact. I wrote this over 556 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:21,560 Speaker 1: a course of half a bottle of wine. So whoops, 557 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:26,240 Speaker 1: must love Lauren? WHOA I know? Do you have any thoughts? 558 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:30,400 Speaker 1: I mean? The first red flag for me is sorry 559 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 1: him admitting him saying that he's like this has happened 560 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 1: in other relationships, so he recognizes that it's a problem, 561 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 1: but is not choosing to do anything about it. I mean, 562 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:46,680 Speaker 1: every every excuse or reason that he's giving. There are 563 00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 1: ways to curb that or improve that stuff. But you 564 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: have to want to, even if it's taking on a 565 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 1: fucking viagra, you know, Like, I mean, there are ways 566 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:01,200 Speaker 1: just to make it work, um, but you have to 567 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,280 Speaker 1: you have to put in the effort. It sounds like 568 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: she is going above and beyond and the whole point 569 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,160 Speaker 1: of a relationship is sort of meeting in the middle, Like, 570 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: and can I say something because that's such a good point. 571 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,840 Speaker 1: And I think as women, we have the tendency to 572 00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 1: carry more of our of the load than we should, 573 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 1: you know, I mean, like that's just like what women 574 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 1: do that all my friends do that we show up 575 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: in the relationship, we're like, oh, this part of the 576 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,360 Speaker 1: relationship needs working on, so we do all the work. 577 00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 1: And I think you're exactly right that it requires you 578 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,600 Speaker 1: doing your half. But then your partner is supposed to 579 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,440 Speaker 1: meet you half way. Like I've had to sit back 580 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,400 Speaker 1: a couple of times in my relationship and allow my 581 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 1: boyfriend the opportunity to do something because I'm like, oh, 582 00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 1: I'll just fix this. You know, and like that's not healthy, 583 00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 1: and that's not gonna because the expectation is there that 584 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,320 Speaker 1: you're going to fix it every and it's long term 585 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 1: not going to make like I would end up being 586 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 1: resentful or it's just not going to make for an 587 00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: equal partnership. So I think that's a really good point. 588 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I think we could sit here all day 589 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 1: and analyze what's going on with this dude. Like, to me, 590 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 1: the part about before they were exclusive, him being all 591 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,720 Speaker 1: over her is interesting because then it seems like once 592 00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 1: you label it, it's more pressure of like intimacy and 593 00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 1: actually working on a relationship, Like you're saying, when you're 594 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 1: not exclusive, it's like a fling and it's like exciting 595 00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:19,959 Speaker 1: and fun and all of those things. But I honestly 596 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 1: don't think any of this has to do with her. 597 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,920 Speaker 1: Right from what I read this, to me, sounds like 598 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:28,800 Speaker 1: he maybe has some either like emotional issues and like 599 00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 1: is really wanting to like avoid the intimacy of a 600 00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,720 Speaker 1: real relationship and maybe that kills his sex drive or 601 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 1: there's bigger issues, But like that doesn't really do us 602 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: any good to sit here and analyze what's going on 603 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:44,240 Speaker 1: with this dude. What I think is really important is 604 00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 1: for Lauren to figure out if she's getting her needs 605 00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 1: met right. Well, you know, it's um, it seems like 606 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 1: it's he tries really hard for validation, and now that 607 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,680 Speaker 1: the validation is there, he doesn't put in the effort. 608 00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 1: And it makes me sad to hear Lauren say that 609 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:03,600 Speaker 1: it makes her feel not wanted, not pretty, not sexy, like, 610 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 1: which are all completely understandable. I mean, just from her email, 611 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 1: she sounds like a fucking boss. Yeah. You know, I 612 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:15,320 Speaker 1: have a bottle of wine and she was that succinct um. 613 00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 1: But you know, look, I think too, it's like it's 614 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,160 Speaker 1: one thing for someone to tell you that they love you. 615 00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: It's a different thing for somebody to show you that 616 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,840 Speaker 1: they love an action thing. Yeah. I love when people 617 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,440 Speaker 1: say loves a verb. Have you ever heard that? Yeah? 618 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:29,960 Speaker 1: I just like yeah, And I think it's like this 619 00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:32,560 Speaker 1: is something that I'm learning to kind of in my 620 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,000 Speaker 1: later thirties. Also, like he can go just shove it 621 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,400 Speaker 1: with that, Like it's like my later age. Oh, like 622 00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 1: I want to have sex more than I ever have now, 623 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:43,959 Speaker 1: So like I just don't think that that's true. I mean, 624 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,720 Speaker 1: I know women and men are different but like I've 625 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:48,240 Speaker 1: never I don't, I don't know. I don't mean guys 626 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,440 Speaker 1: are in their prime a little younger, but a thirty 627 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,000 Speaker 1: seven year old man, you're going to not want to 628 00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 1: have sex, right and if and if if he thinks 629 00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 1: that his tea count is low about it, you know, 630 00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 1: like he should be wanting to bone his hot thirty 631 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 1: year old girlfriend. It's not even agent, you know, um yeah, 632 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,760 Speaker 1: but I think it's like a thing where I hear 633 00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,400 Speaker 1: exactly what you're saying, Like, you know, she's putting in 634 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,560 Speaker 1: so much work to try to initiate all the time 635 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: or like keep the relationship healthy. And I sort of 636 00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:21,960 Speaker 1: wonder what would happen if she was like, hey, here's 637 00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:25,719 Speaker 1: my needs and like let him try to show up, 638 00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,720 Speaker 1: and if he's not, like kind of late, you know, 639 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: draw a line in the sand. And it doesn't mean 640 00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,800 Speaker 1: you have to break up with him. But like, if 641 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: we keep enabling certain behaviors, like they're never going to 642 00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:39,600 Speaker 1: fuck change. I'm saying this to myself, Lauren, as I 643 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: say this to you, like this is just for this 644 00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,880 Speaker 1: has been my experience and relationships to I hear this 645 00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,320 Speaker 1: in a lot of my friends, you know, and you know, 646 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,600 Speaker 1: it's never easy to ask for what you want because 647 00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 1: the scary part is that someone won't give it to you, 648 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:55,640 Speaker 1: right or yeah, or they or they twisted on you 649 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,160 Speaker 1: and they tell you that you're needy. Right, you know what, 650 00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:01,440 Speaker 1: Fuck you, We're all needy. We have. It's called having needs. 651 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 1: And what being mature is is owning your needs and 652 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,560 Speaker 1: and also being authentic because if you act like a needless, 653 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: wantless person like, that's what people interpret to be your personality, 654 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: which is what I've done for many years in relationships, 655 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,600 Speaker 1: and it never works out right, So I look, I 656 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,600 Speaker 1: think Lauren should just take stock of what it is 657 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:23,800 Speaker 1: that she does love about him, and um and figure 658 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:28,240 Speaker 1: out you know what, outweighs what she doesn't love about him? 659 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 1: You know it's and then you then you can make 660 00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 1: a decision sort of based on whether or not you 661 00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:35,560 Speaker 1: want to put up with the bullshit. Yeah, and set 662 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:39,400 Speaker 1: some boundaries around it. Yeah, see what happens. Keep was posted, Lauren, 663 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,720 Speaker 1: stop fulfilling his needs if he's not fulfilling yours. Fuck yes, 664 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:47,919 Speaker 1: I love that. Maybe invest in a good vibrator, right, Um, okay, 665 00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 1: this is that dude's not wearing a Snorkele, I'll take 666 00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,480 Speaker 1: you that much. Okay, this one comes from Casey. She said. Also, 667 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:59,319 Speaker 1: I was listen. Do not forget the beginning part. Oh, no, 668 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:01,320 Speaker 1: this is it. She must have said some other stuff 669 00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,120 Speaker 1: to me, and then she said, I was listening to 670 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,280 Speaker 1: the last question from a listener regarding her relationship with Tony. 671 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 1: Do you remember this last week? There was he was 672 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 1: the married guy that she's she couldn't get over. She 673 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,680 Speaker 1: had gotten divorced, had been hooking up with a married 674 00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:19,640 Speaker 1: guy for like ten years, and we talked about that 675 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,800 Speaker 1: in the last podcast. Um so, she said, in regarding 676 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,160 Speaker 1: her relationship with Tony, My best friend has been married 677 00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:28,400 Speaker 1: since two thousand fourteen and with her man for thirteen years. 678 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,640 Speaker 1: I recently found out that for the last year she's 679 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,800 Speaker 1: been cheating with another man who was significantly older, because 680 00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:38,240 Speaker 1: he fulfilled fulfills those needs that were lacking in her marriage. 681 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:40,600 Speaker 1: She didn't want to tell me because she felt she 682 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,440 Speaker 1: needed to protect me in any case that somehow her 683 00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:49,000 Speaker 1: husband in any case that I'm confused, sorry, somehow her 684 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,600 Speaker 1: husband had found out oh and didn't want to implicate 685 00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:54,040 Speaker 1: me in her life, so she wanted to protect her 686 00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:57,200 Speaker 1: in case her husband found up. She as recently as 687 00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 1: this well, has made the move to leave him and 688 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:04,320 Speaker 1: move out into her own place, stating that the marriage 689 00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,719 Speaker 1: has been over for a while. She's continuing to see 690 00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:11,000 Speaker 1: this older man, this other man, despite the fact that 691 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 1: she will see him, they will have passionate sex and 692 00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,960 Speaker 1: intimate conversation, and then he ghost her for sometimes a 693 00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,440 Speaker 1: week at a time. I do not think this is 694 00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,960 Speaker 1: something that he is looking to pursue long term. And 695 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:25,200 Speaker 1: I'm convinced he was just in it for the thrill 696 00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:27,680 Speaker 1: of the chase and good sex. She doesn't think that, 697 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,080 Speaker 1: and it's probably caught up in the lesson excitement. Well. 698 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:31,879 Speaker 1: I do think she made the right choice to leave 699 00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,440 Speaker 1: her husband. I do not think this is something she 700 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:39,600 Speaker 1: should continue to go after. What are your thoughts? Good God, 701 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:52,440 Speaker 1: I mean, it just sounds messy. It is messy. Um, 702 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:55,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, what do you think? Well, for me, 703 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 1: it's like I agree with her friend. I agree with 704 00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:01,839 Speaker 1: Casey here because I don't think it sounds like this 705 00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,439 Speaker 1: guy is like in love with her. I think he's 706 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:06,919 Speaker 1: just like it's probably an exciting thing, or maybe he's 707 00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:10,959 Speaker 1: like into the forbidden fruit kind of deal. I don't 708 00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:13,440 Speaker 1: think she should leave her husband for this guy if 709 00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,440 Speaker 1: she wants to get out of the marriage because she's 710 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,759 Speaker 1: not happy in the marriage and she's walking into a 711 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,400 Speaker 1: life where she knows, okay, maybe I'm on alone, Like 712 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: nothing is based on this like side gig she's got, 713 00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,160 Speaker 1: then that's you know what she should do. I don't 714 00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:29,000 Speaker 1: and I don't really think that we could sit here 715 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,839 Speaker 1: and say like, don't get divorced, get divorced or stay 716 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,799 Speaker 1: with this guy. Don't say it's like I don't know 717 00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:38,480 Speaker 1: that the dynamics of that marriage. Uh, the cheating thing, 718 00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:41,759 Speaker 1: like you know, I think that that's a common thing 719 00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,960 Speaker 1: with cheating is the excitement. And then once you get 720 00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,680 Speaker 1: in real life together, I wonder what it looks like 721 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,600 Speaker 1: like if you're just like sneaking off to these like 722 00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,960 Speaker 1: you know, these little sexual escapades, It's like that is 723 00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,320 Speaker 1: fun and exciting. I think as humans we all want 724 00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 1: that fun and excitement. But that's why you, when you're 725 00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:02,279 Speaker 1: in a relationship, have to have a bigger mind about it, like, oh, 726 00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:06,400 Speaker 1: this is just it's like a fantasy thing or something. 727 00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: It's not reality, and so make your decisions based on reality, 728 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:14,359 Speaker 1: not fantasy. Well, and if the truly the thrill is 729 00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 1: the sneak. Then you'd have to ask yourself, well, I 730 00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:19,879 Speaker 1: feel this way if I left my husband and ended 731 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 1: up with this guy, that's exactly right, Like it kind 732 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,239 Speaker 1: of brings me back to this like that they were 733 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:28,120 Speaker 1: so with Lauren our last listener email where she was 734 00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,960 Speaker 1: like when once we became exclusive, it died off, Like 735 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,560 Speaker 1: I wonder if that would kind of happened in this 736 00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:41,759 Speaker 1: sort of dynamic. Um, oh god, it's I mean, I 737 00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:49,640 Speaker 1: personally would never leave a relationship for somebody who. I mean, 738 00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,719 Speaker 1: this is me not being involved in the situation, so 739 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:56,320 Speaker 1: it's I'm looking at it from like ten thousand feet. 740 00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:59,080 Speaker 1: But I don't know that I would ever want to 741 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,000 Speaker 1: trust somebody that like was willing to break up my marriage. 742 00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:06,839 Speaker 1: Oh that's an interesting person, know what I mean? But 743 00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 1: I know that happens all the time. Also, how would 744 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,400 Speaker 1: he trust her if she cheated on her husband? Like 745 00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:15,839 Speaker 1: that's an interesting right, Yeah, I don't know. I mean 746 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:17,960 Speaker 1: that the cheating pieces that you always are going to 747 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 1: lose me a little bit there because I have such 748 00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,400 Speaker 1: triggers with cheating, like from the past, and so you know, 749 00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 1: I never think that's the answer I understand why it happens, 750 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,319 Speaker 1: and I know people are human and I've cheated back 751 00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:34,400 Speaker 1: in the day, Like I get it. However, I'm never gonna, like, 752 00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,200 Speaker 1: you know, condone that as the best thing to do. 753 00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 1: I just think that's not the mature thing to do either. 754 00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:42,359 Speaker 1: It's like, if you're not happy, then have a fucking conversation, 755 00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,279 Speaker 1: go to fucking therapy, don't and then get out of 756 00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:47,560 Speaker 1: the marriage. If it's like that's not working for you. 757 00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:51,520 Speaker 1: Are you choking your email? I can tell. I mean, 758 00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:53,239 Speaker 1: I'm sure the listeners can tell to you. And there's 759 00:39:53,280 --> 00:40:00,480 Speaker 1: long pauses and ships like right totally sorry, Yeah, oh okay, 760 00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 1: I mean, are we that boring to you over here? 761 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:08,560 Speaker 1: I me pouring hearts We're all pouring our hearts out 762 00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:12,520 Speaker 1: and ships checking is goddamn. I'm not checking my visit. 763 00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:19,239 Speaker 1: I'm not. You're on Twitter better anyway, we can wrap 764 00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:21,040 Speaker 1: it up there. But I just sort of think, yeah, 765 00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:24,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm with Casey that this guy the ghost 766 00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,640 Speaker 1: and guy you don't ghost people like you're just super 767 00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:31,479 Speaker 1: into ghosting is such a bullsh that's a whole another conversation. Look, 768 00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,200 Speaker 1: the only time you should ever go somebody is when 769 00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,640 Speaker 1: it's like a random hook up that you're like, I 770 00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:39,560 Speaker 1: just think, still, why can't we all put our big 771 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:45,839 Speaker 1: girl pennies on our your It was yeah, Like to me, 772 00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,319 Speaker 1: the only time I would not respond is I'm I'm 773 00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:51,600 Speaker 1: a big responder there, like even like with friends, if 774 00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:58,239 Speaker 1: it's just like okay, I just want to acknowledge someone received, received, noted, 775 00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:01,200 Speaker 1: got message received, like I got it. I just think 776 00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:04,279 Speaker 1: that's the respectful thing to do to anyone. I've had 777 00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,720 Speaker 1: friends tell me to hate when I say, like, gotcha, 778 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,520 Speaker 1: like and that was and just like I got it, 779 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,759 Speaker 1: you know. And I don't know if it was. I 780 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,000 Speaker 1: think it was just the particular word, but I'm like, 781 00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:17,120 Speaker 1: that was. You're just trying acknowledge. I didn't want to 782 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:23,719 Speaker 1: be like, thank you received, you received that so formally 783 00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:26,719 Speaker 1: for all time, please do. I can't wait for that. Um. 784 00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:28,800 Speaker 1: But yeah, ghosting to me is just like the pussy 785 00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:32,319 Speaker 1: way out, and it's just like grow up and just say, hey, 786 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,759 Speaker 1: this isn't I'm not in that or I don't feel that, 787 00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:36,719 Speaker 1: or hey I'm just gonna that was a fun night 788 00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,640 Speaker 1: but moving on. Blah blah blah blah blah. Um. It's 789 00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:44,960 Speaker 1: definitely godspeed, Um, you may the force speed with you. 790 00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,440 Speaker 1: But yeah, so I think this guy sounds terrible anyway, 791 00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,960 Speaker 1: Like he's like going after a married woman then he 792 00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:54,319 Speaker 1: goes for a week, Like what a dude. I just 793 00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:57,080 Speaker 1: think you can do better, whoever you are. Casey passed 794 00:41:57,120 --> 00:42:01,480 Speaker 1: on our message. What are your holiday plans? You're going 795 00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:02,920 Speaker 1: to be gone for like a month? What am I 796 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:06,920 Speaker 1: gonna do? Yeah, I am gonna go to Virginia for 797 00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,799 Speaker 1: a month, and just that way I can just sort 798 00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:11,600 Speaker 1: of hunker down with my parents and not have to 799 00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,560 Speaker 1: do the right fourth and that sounds safer with this COVID. 800 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:20,120 Speaker 1: I am worried though, if I'm being honest, like their 801 00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:24,480 Speaker 1: WiFi is really slow. Um, we don't see eyed. Politically, 802 00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:27,200 Speaker 1: It's not like I'm going to be able to like 803 00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,200 Speaker 1: escape to the bar with friends from high school. You know. 804 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:37,160 Speaker 1: I am literally going to the only people all see 805 00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:42,440 Speaker 1: are my sister, my nieces, and my parents, you know, 806 00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:48,960 Speaker 1: and I'm like thirty days. It's also like, you know, 807 00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:52,799 Speaker 1: like we said about one, like when is the next 808 00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:55,439 Speaker 1: time I will ever get to spend that much time 809 00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,239 Speaker 1: with My parents were in their mid seventies, and so 810 00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:00,360 Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of like fun thing to like 811 00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:04,480 Speaker 1: really connect with them because something about you know, my 812 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,239 Speaker 1: sister is a couple of years older than me, she's 813 00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,200 Speaker 1: basically you know, in college, she moved away and then 814 00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,680 Speaker 1: was like gone for a few years before moving back 815 00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:14,400 Speaker 1: to Virginia. But for the most part she's lived within 816 00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:18,440 Speaker 1: close proximity to my parents. Um, and I haven't like 817 00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,120 Speaker 1: two weeks after college, I moved to New York. Then 818 00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,040 Speaker 1: I moved to l a And I've been Nashville, and like, 819 00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:26,000 Speaker 1: so it's I don't see them that often. And I 820 00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:28,160 Speaker 1: mean my sister talked to my mom every day more 821 00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:30,600 Speaker 1: than once, and I talked to my mom every four 822 00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:34,360 Speaker 1: or five days. And um, so like there's a connection 823 00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,600 Speaker 1: there and I'm a little jealous of. But it's like 824 00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,000 Speaker 1: I also know that like I needed to fly the coope, 825 00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:40,960 Speaker 1: like I was never meant to be that kid to 826 00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:44,799 Speaker 1: my mom, so m or my dad. And so something 827 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:48,400 Speaker 1: I'm planning on doing is I'm going to interview them. Um, 828 00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:50,759 Speaker 1: and you know, I wouldn't know about their first date, 829 00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:54,560 Speaker 1: like things that they never really talked about because my 830 00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,799 Speaker 1: mom was very much the like I'm not your friend, 831 00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,520 Speaker 1: I'm your mother kind of mom. Whereas like most of 832 00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,839 Speaker 1: my friend who have kids are like, I'm not just 833 00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,440 Speaker 1: your mom, I'm your best friend. And it's like, so 834 00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,439 Speaker 1: there is that like kind of you Just I feel 835 00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,799 Speaker 1: like my my friends kids know their parents so much 836 00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:13,600 Speaker 1: better than I ever have. My dad fought in Vietnam 837 00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:15,360 Speaker 1: and he's never really talked about it. He might not 838 00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,760 Speaker 1: want to, but I want to give him the chance 839 00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:21,800 Speaker 1: to like put that down so that when he's gone, 840 00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:25,799 Speaker 1: those memories aren't so um. And I'm struggling with whether 841 00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,799 Speaker 1: not to tell them. I'm even recording it, um like 842 00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,000 Speaker 1: I might just put my phone on like voice note. 843 00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:32,839 Speaker 1: I think you should do that and then tell them 844 00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:37,080 Speaker 1: after because like clam up. I feel like you'll clam up. 845 00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:39,279 Speaker 1: You know, we know how that is like based off 846 00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:42,040 Speaker 1: of podcasting. It's like you put some people come in, 847 00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,759 Speaker 1: you hand them a MICNNA like WHOA, what's up everybody? 848 00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,520 Speaker 1: And then some people that you think are so outspoken, 849 00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,200 Speaker 1: you hand them a I gonna like, uh, you can't 850 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:53,560 Speaker 1: even speak and so yeah, I think if you said it, 851 00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,719 Speaker 1: because your parents don't do anything like that, they might 852 00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,680 Speaker 1: be like my dad will be like I ain't talking 853 00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:01,719 Speaker 1: about that ship, right, Yeah, that's interesting. So that's something 854 00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,640 Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna try and do like every day, 855 00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:07,120 Speaker 1: and it's like, hopefully it'll just to me. It'll feel 856 00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,680 Speaker 1: like I'm connecting with them, but I'm what I'm really 857 00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:12,960 Speaker 1: doing is an anthropological dig but while connecting with them, well, 858 00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:14,879 Speaker 1: I think it could take a relationship to a deeper level, 859 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:17,319 Speaker 1: which totally And the other thing I planned on doing 860 00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,719 Speaker 1: is so one of my nieces is almost a teenager, 861 00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,239 Speaker 1: and um, she really likes music and she's starting to 862 00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,920 Speaker 1: know about music that I don't know about, which is interesting. 863 00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,560 Speaker 1: So I think I'm going to try and spend some 864 00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:30,760 Speaker 1: like one on one time with her, just like laying 865 00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,000 Speaker 1: in the floor, be like, okay, you pick a song, 866 00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:35,080 Speaker 1: and then I'm going to pick a song and just 867 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,000 Speaker 1: go back and forth and try and connect on like 868 00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:41,440 Speaker 1: her level, while like teaching her about some music stuff 869 00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:43,759 Speaker 1: that she might not know about, like it might be old, 870 00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,600 Speaker 1: it might be new stuff, and you know, well all 871 00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:50,640 Speaker 1: over genres. So I love that. I We're gonna go 872 00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:52,759 Speaker 1: out to my boyfriend's farm this weekend. I'm such a 873 00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:56,680 Speaker 1: farm girl. I really do love it out there. I 874 00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: have not done that. The girls do that sometimes, but yeah. 875 00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:04,560 Speaker 1: I mean it's just so peaceful. We like burned fires. Yeah, 876 00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,600 Speaker 1: he'll do big bonfires and stuff. I just like the 877 00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,160 Speaker 1: quiet aspect of it. And he and I have these 878 00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:12,200 Speaker 1: rock and chairs we sit in. We talked about it 879 00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:13,839 Speaker 1: in the podcast that he did with me, but that's 880 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,840 Speaker 1: like our favorite thing. And so, you know, I don't know, 881 00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:18,600 Speaker 1: I don't really have like big plans. And my family 882 00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:20,000 Speaker 1: is not going to come up here this year because 883 00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,560 Speaker 1: we just don't feel safe and so and that's sad, 884 00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:25,040 Speaker 1: Like I'm going to miss them for sure, but I 885 00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:28,320 Speaker 1: think this year is all about finding the silver lining, 886 00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,080 Speaker 1: like we've kind of been saying, and so like, I'm 887 00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,279 Speaker 1: just really grateful to have this couple of days of 888 00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:35,000 Speaker 1: just shut down with them. It's farm living, that farm life. 889 00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:38,359 Speaker 1: So anyway, you'll have to call back in obviously because 890 00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:41,319 Speaker 1: at casual show must go on. Yes, it'll just be 891 00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:45,279 Speaker 1: via phone. And just for anyone who's wondering, I got 892 00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:49,120 Speaker 1: a COVID test yesterday. I've been tested last week. We're 893 00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:53,200 Speaker 1: very conscious. I am extremely concerned about keeping my parents 894 00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,640 Speaker 1: safe and I am going to pack enough food and 895 00:46:55,719 --> 00:46:57,320 Speaker 1: drinks that I will not have to go anywhere. And 896 00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:58,759 Speaker 1: I'm going to pee in a bottle in my car. 897 00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:01,240 Speaker 1: Oh smart, so I don't have to go in anywhere 898 00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,520 Speaker 1: on the right. Yeah, yeah, great, that's a great idea. 899 00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:05,440 Speaker 1: I do think that's like a good point too, is 900 00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:08,719 Speaker 1: everyone really is just not everyone. Most people are doing 901 00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:10,440 Speaker 1: the best they can right now. So let's all give 902 00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:12,760 Speaker 1: each other a little grace and try to stay safe 903 00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:16,239 Speaker 1: and do things with other people in mind. Right, there 904 00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:21,239 Speaker 1: are other implications of this virus beyond what the virus does. 905 00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:25,080 Speaker 1: There's mental health implication. Absolutely, there's depression. There's all these things. 906 00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:26,960 Speaker 1: So it's like, we do need to give each other 907 00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:31,120 Speaker 1: a grace, but don't be fucking stupid people and reckless. 908 00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,920 Speaker 1: It's not hard, all right. Well that's all we got 909 00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,960 Speaker 1: for you guys this week. I hope that you enjoyed it. 910 00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,839 Speaker 1: Keep the emails coming. It's at casual at Velvet's edge 911 00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,520 Speaker 1: dot com. You can also visit me on Instagram at 912 00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:47,319 Speaker 1: velvet Edge, chip is at chip dorsh spell it at 913 00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:53,120 Speaker 1: your own Legua New leg lesa. Um. You guys, keep 914 00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,560 Speaker 1: us posting on what's happening in your lives. Oh did 915 00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,280 Speaker 1: you see that I posted a video of Brittany dancing 916 00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:00,759 Speaker 1: Our girl Brittany from at Casual. I want her to 917 00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,080 Speaker 1: move to Nashville. Well, she says, as soon as this 918 00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:06,480 Speaker 1: COVID stuff as over, she's coming to visit. Um. She 919 00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:08,399 Speaker 1: reminds me a little of Reagan. We have a friend 920 00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,759 Speaker 1: named Reagan. Who is she? And I think she and 921 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:15,720 Speaker 1: Brett would be like I agree with that wholeheartedly. Um. 922 00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,279 Speaker 1: But yeah, I've been dancing. That's what I've been doing, 923 00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,880 Speaker 1: like I just have no fox left to give. Like 924 00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:24,800 Speaker 1: I posted about myself dancing in my kitchen by myself 925 00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:30,640 Speaker 1: this weekend and like, like, I mean definitely, some people 926 00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:32,719 Speaker 1: probably made fun of me. Some people love them. Let 927 00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:35,120 Speaker 1: somebody noticed the chips and salsa. I know, I was 928 00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:40,759 Speaker 1: like having a snack and got it should be my 929 00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,600 Speaker 1: life should be just like It's like my life is 930 00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:46,880 Speaker 1: a walking st But I just love all their products. 931 00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:50,759 Speaker 1: So anyway, shout out my peeps. Um, anyway, thank you 932 00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:53,279 Speaker 1: guys so much for listening. We hope you had because 933 00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:55,040 Speaker 1: this will air on Friday, so we hope you had 934 00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:58,960 Speaker 1: a great Thanksgiving and you're getting any sort of comfort. 935 00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:00,600 Speaker 1: I was going to say a family time, but I 936 00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:02,480 Speaker 1: don't know if you've got family time. My We hope 937 00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:07,320 Speaker 1: it was everybody. Yes, um, you're out of your coma 938 00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:11,440 Speaker 1: your your Turkey coma trip. I can't wait for the 939 00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:15,080 Speaker 1: food personally, but anyway, all right, you guys have a 940 00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:16,919 Speaker 1: great holidays. We'll be back next week with a new 941 00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:22,920 Speaker 1: ACT Casual ship. I just didn't It wasn't even the 942 00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:28,000 Speaker 1: right one, Okay, okay, So you guys have a great 943 00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:33,840 Speaker 1: holiday and always remember Act Casual. Was that better for you? Bye?