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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you, Strawberry letter. Thank you. Nephew's

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Speaker 1: subject to blame it on the bourbon or not. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, My husband and I are both thirty seven

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Speaker 1: years old and we moved to my hometown to be

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Speaker 1: closer to my family. He's a very sociable person, so

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Speaker 1: it didn't take long for him to make a few

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Speaker 1: new friends. We hang out with my sister and her

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Speaker 1: husband and I don't drink at all, but the three

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Speaker 1: of them do. If we have dinner and drinks at

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Speaker 1: my sister's house, we might spend the night, depending on

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Speaker 1: how much he's had to drink. One of our childhood

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Speaker 1: friends had Earthday party and everyone was drunk. I even

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Speaker 1: had a couple of glasses of champagne. My husband went

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Speaker 1: to sleep. As we drove back to my sister's house

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Speaker 1: for the night, I ran into the house so I

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Speaker 1: could tinkle, and my sister and brother in law said

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Speaker 1: they'd get my husband out of the car. When I

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Speaker 1: got back outside, my sister was bent down on the

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Speaker 1: back seat, and as I got closer, I could see

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Speaker 1: that she and my husband were face to face. I

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Speaker 1: stood there because they were so drunk they didn't hear me.

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Speaker 1: He was slurring some kind of some kind of affectionate

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Speaker 1: words to her because she said she felt the same

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Speaker 1: way about him. I stepped up and offered to help

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Speaker 1: her get out of the car, and he told me

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Speaker 1: inside into the house. I called for my brother in

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Speaker 1: law and he was headed toward the car. My husband

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Speaker 1: told both me and my brother in law that he

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Speaker 1: only wanted my sister to help him because she knows

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Speaker 1: how to handle him. He told my sister that her

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Speaker 1: hands were soft and her lips looked soft too. My

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Speaker 1: brother in law burst out laughing, but I didn't I

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Speaker 1: think my sister was enjoying it. This was an awkward

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Speaker 1: incident and I am not okay with it? It is

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Speaker 1: alcohol a truth cerem or? Should I let this go?

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Speaker 1: Does he really want my huh? Would you say that bourbon?

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Speaker 1: Does he really want my sister? You know, I'm just

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Speaker 1: surprised that all this happened and and no one got

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Speaker 1: hurt or anything, you know, not physically or anything. This

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Speaker 1: is some craziness right here. You ask, is alcohol a

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Speaker 1: truth ceram or should you let it go? Does he

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Speaker 1: really want your sister? It could be a bit of both,

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Speaker 1: because yes, he was drunk, and he said out of

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Speaker 1: his mouth that he wanted he only wanted her to

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Speaker 1: help him out of the car. He said a few

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Speaker 1: other things, but he did say that, and you witnessed it,

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Speaker 1: so did her husband. Yes he was drunk, but he

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Speaker 1: sounded like he knew exactly what he was saying, and

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Speaker 1: he wanted your sister. I mean wrong either way, drunk

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Speaker 1: or sober. The really shocking thing, though, is that her

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Speaker 1: husband just bursted out laughing when he saw the two

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Speaker 1: fight immediately, you know, upon seeing this, when your sister

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Speaker 1: was when your sister's husband saw them in each other's faces,

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Speaker 1: all he could do was laugh. I don't know. Maybe

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Speaker 1: brother in law gave him a break because he was

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Speaker 1: so sloppy drunk at this point. I think the three

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Speaker 1: of them have a different kind of relationships since they

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Speaker 1: all hang out and get drunk together. I mean, that's

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Speaker 1: what they do. They hang out, they get drunk. You're there,

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Speaker 1: but you don't drink wifey. But regardless of all of this,

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Speaker 1: your husband overstepped tonight and your sister did too. I

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Speaker 1: mean you did say she was enjoying it, So I

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Speaker 1: would be mad at both of them and her husband

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Speaker 1: for laughing and not being mad. I mean, why was

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Speaker 1: they mad? I don't get that. They need to stop

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Speaker 1: hanging out and drinking together before your sister and your

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Speaker 1: husband act on whatever these feelings were they were having

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Speaker 1: this night when he was drunk and whispering to her. Steve,

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Speaker 1: the subject of this letter is blaming on the bourbon

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Speaker 1: or not. These three people in this letter is a

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Speaker 1: clear sign that they have got to switch from brown

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Speaker 1: liquor to clear liquor. They have got to switch. These

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Speaker 1: three people have got to stop drinking brown because it

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Speaker 1: affects them. They are going to have to go with

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Speaker 1: gen tequila or vocal. They have got to get out

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Speaker 1: the Brown family. I have seen brown liquor up close

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Speaker 1: my entire life, and it is not for the faint

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Speaker 1: of heart. Brown liquor different. I don't know what it

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Speaker 1: is because I don't drink it like that, but I

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Speaker 1: do know it's different. And when brown look at have

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Speaker 1: you doing what these people doing in this letter? Clearly

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Speaker 1: it is time for them to switch to clear Now

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Speaker 1: let me tell you why. Now you and your husband

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Speaker 1: thirty seven, they hang out with your sister and help

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Speaker 1: her husband. They all drank and you don't drink at all.

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Speaker 1: That we got that got the biggest problem right there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because see, you'll never truly understand, truly you will not

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Speaker 1: understand all the elements of alcoholism. Not being an alcoholic. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's fair. One of our childhood friends had a birthday

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Speaker 1: party and at this party everyone was drunk. Accept this

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Speaker 1: lady writing a letter. What did I tell you? When

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Speaker 1: we come back, I'm gonna just walk you through why

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Speaker 1: we have got to all switch to clear alcohol. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: hang on. We'll have part two of Steve's response coming

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Speaker 1: up in twenty three minutes after the hour subjects up

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter, blame it on the bourbon or not?

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Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter the subject on

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Speaker 1: the bourbon or not. Now, I'm gonna do this real quick,

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Speaker 1: because we're about to do a reenactment. Uh. This couple

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Speaker 1: of thirty seven they go over her the lady wrote

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Speaker 1: this letter, her and her husband, the thirty seven they

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Speaker 1: go over their sister's house from his husband, and they

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Speaker 1: all drink except her, and they drank bourbon. The moral

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Speaker 1: of this whole story is they have got to stop

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Speaker 1: drinking brown liquor because it's not working out for anybody

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Speaker 1: in this group. Right here, everybody drunk the other night.

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Speaker 1: And then she said, if we have dinner and drinks

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Speaker 1: on how much he has had to drink. Then she said,

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Speaker 1: one of my childhood friends had a birthday party and

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Speaker 1: everybody was drunk. Everybody at the party were drunk except her.

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Speaker 1: I even made I even had a couple of glasses

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Speaker 1: in champagne where you was on your way too, my husband.

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Speaker 1: This is how drunk he get My husband went to sleep.

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Speaker 1: As we drove back to my sister's house for the night.

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Speaker 1: I ran into the house so I could tinkle because

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Speaker 1: the glass of champagne made you had to bee. And

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Speaker 1: my sister and brother in law said they're getting my

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Speaker 1: husband out the car now right there, two people said

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Speaker 1: they got to go get his ass out to call.

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Speaker 1: He dranking too damn much? You in this alcoholic ass,

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Speaker 1: husband and yours. When I got back outside, my sister

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Speaker 1: was bent down on the back seat, and I got closer,

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Speaker 1: I could see she and my husband was face to face.

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Speaker 1: I stood that because they were so drunk, they ain't

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Speaker 1: hear me. He was slaring some kind of affectionate words

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Speaker 1: get out to call. She told me, you get your

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Speaker 1: hands back inside, and I don't want I want her

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Speaker 1: to help me to get into the house. I called

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Speaker 1: my brother in law. He headed towards the car. My

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Speaker 1: husband told me and my brother in law, I wanted

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Speaker 1: the sisters to help me. She don't handled me. He

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Speaker 1: told my sister that her hands were soft and her

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Speaker 1: lips looked soft too. You know how drunk you got

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Speaker 1: to be to say that to your wife? Or do

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Speaker 1: you know how toe down you are right now with

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Speaker 1: her husband watching right? You have no dish regard for

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Speaker 1: personal safety future alliss right, your marriage, your violes, nothing

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Speaker 1: that damn bourbon. My brother in law bust out, laughing,

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Speaker 1: his stupid ass so drunk this the world. I didn't

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Speaker 1: think mine, I don't, and I think my sister was

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Speaker 1: enjoying it. This was an awkward incident and I'm not

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Speaker 1: okay with it. Is alcohol and truth, sim or should

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Speaker 1: I just let it go? Is alcohol and truth? Sim.

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Speaker 1: If you want to find out anything about yourself and

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Speaker 1: anything about how a person feel, ask them when they drunk. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's a truth, sil. Does he really want my sister? Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And your brother in law don't right? Oh, listen, I

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Speaker 1: want to kiss you in your look? Go ahead, you

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Speaker 1: want you? It ain't what you're thinking is now? Surely

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Speaker 1: here's the re enactment. I'm the drunk dude and you

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Speaker 1: the sober wife, and you can ask me anything about

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Speaker 1: this anything. Ready, go honey, what are you doing? Huh?

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Speaker 1: Come on, it's late, It ain't too late. The TV

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Speaker 1: is on the TV. Is not on. We're in the car,

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Speaker 1: were in a car and her husband watching something. What

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Speaker 1: were you saying to her? Because she said she said

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Speaker 1: she felt she tried. No, you're wait a minute. Why

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Speaker 1: as you out here? Because I'm your wife and I

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Speaker 1: want you to come home. Let's go in. I'm not

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Speaker 1: going in the house with you. I'm gonna going in

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Speaker 1: the house. Well, huh, we were sleeping out here in No,

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Speaker 1: you're not get up. We're I want you and I

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Speaker 1: want you to come in the house. Honey, you're drunk.

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Speaker 1: And this is the car, not the b and who're drunk?

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Speaker 1: You're drunk. You're drunk, very drunk. I'm I'm gonna say it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it's one more time for you, for

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Speaker 1: you to listen. This is for you for here. No, baby,

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Speaker 1: what are you saying to her? I was telling, I was,

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Speaker 1: I was, I was hissing, I was whispering so sweet. Nothing.

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Speaker 1: I ain't saying nothing. And what was she saying to you?

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Speaker 1: Because she said she doesn't say telling you she's sleeping baby,

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Speaker 1: she's not shan Do you realize her husband is right here?

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Speaker 1: What's funny you're talking to his wife? Oh, I'm ever

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Speaker 1: why if you don't get your drunk hands on that car?

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Speaker 1: If you laugh, you were in the playing all the

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Speaker 1: bills in here, and what are you laughing at? What

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Speaker 1: is so funny? That's your wife, Oh girl. They do

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Speaker 1: this all time. See you don't, Drake don't know whatever.

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