Speaker 1: Hey, what's up. We're back. It's slip service, I mean
Speaker 1: as lay. I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm g G McGuire and
Speaker 1: we have our sex Bert Michelle Hope. What's up everybody?
Speaker 1: Hey girl, we need your help. You know. We start
Speaker 1: off with the tip of the day. All right, today's tip.
Speaker 1: How do you have sex with a guy with a
Speaker 1: small penis? Now, let's be clear, we're trying to help
Speaker 1: you small penis guys out there as well. Right, we're
Speaker 1: not at all, but it's a little different. I think
Speaker 1: having sex with a guy with a small one, well,
Speaker 1: I think that what we have to remember is, first
Speaker 1: and foremost, there is no nerve endings inside of the vagina.
Speaker 1: I've always said to all these men out here talking
Speaker 1: about you're gonna blow my back out where you might
Speaker 1: really slip a disk. So let's not do that, and
Speaker 1: let's focus where my pleasure point is, which my claturus. Alright,
Speaker 1: so so you don't have to have a big dig
Speaker 1: to reach the clatorius motion in the ocean bubble Kidi,
Speaker 1: not the size of the ship because that Titanic went down, Okay,
Speaker 1: but also you have to remember that your g spot
Speaker 1: is only an inch to an inch and a half
Speaker 1: inside the vagina on the upper part right, So that
Speaker 1: does not make me want an inch long penis, no, hell, okay,
Speaker 1: but I would suggest the crossover. I'm a big fan
Speaker 1: of the crossover move. Somebody can't see me, but like
Speaker 1: where you're kind of scissoring each other's legs and he
Speaker 1: got you right here and he might be spanking it.
Speaker 1: That's a really great move for let me see scissoring.
Speaker 1: So that's basically your legs are kind of closed, right,
Speaker 1: so like he might be like this and like one
Speaker 1: of your legs, so if he's standing, one of your
Speaker 1: legs would go in between. Isn't that how lesbians have sex?
Speaker 1: So basically a guy with the small penis is a lesbian.
Speaker 1: Similarly they have the trip, you have the trip, oh
Speaker 1: my god, and men with small penis should eat it
Speaker 1: and should eat it. But in particularly if you have
Speaker 1: a small penis, you gotta start up with that, let
Speaker 1: her come from that, and then slide in right or
Speaker 1: take it to the booty back door. Betty it that
Speaker 1: always works too. You know, I'm so scared. It ain't
Speaker 1: all no matter what size it is, right, But if
Speaker 1: a guy have you ever had sex with a guy
Speaker 1: with it's my penis? Yes? Okay, So what is your
Speaker 1: recommendation to make that I don't know. I need help
Speaker 1: because I don't I feel like I feel like my
Speaker 1: best sexual experiences are guys were bigger dicks, and you know,
Speaker 1: like a small dick is like I feel like I
Speaker 1: can't like bounce on it the way because it might
Speaker 1: you might slide out, Like you have to get grind it,
Speaker 1: like you have to grind it, and I don't feel
Speaker 1: like guys like to get grinded on you, Like I
Speaker 1: can't move too much because it might not so it's
Speaker 1: like a little short bound. The only way for me
Speaker 1: to rise is like a first cow girl, Like you
Speaker 1: have to be like sitting up and like I have
Speaker 1: to be like on my knees and reverse, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. But that seems like you might move
Speaker 1: up too far and then have to come back down
Speaker 1: and then you can't see it. Are you doing your
Speaker 1: kegel exercises while you're having didn't like my key goes
Speaker 1: because he has a small PENI that's not my fault
Speaker 1: because one time I had a man with a small
Speaker 1: penis during sex. Say to me oh, you're trying to clench.
Speaker 1: I wanted to stop the whole show right there. In
Speaker 1: my mind, I was like, I kind of need to
Speaker 1: trying to feel something right. Doesn't have nothing to do
Speaker 1: with me, because my vagina is not a hallway. But
Speaker 1: what you got is a baby Karen, all right, well
Speaker 1: do you have you you've been with a small penis guy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've actually had a small penis boyfriend. And so what's
Speaker 1: your tip for two women dealing with that and for man?
Speaker 1: What can you do to make the experience more pleasurable? Well,
Speaker 1: we had a lot of anal. There was a lot
Speaker 1: of oral. Um. I didn't hate. I didn't hate like
Speaker 1: just regular vaginal sex with him, um, but it was
Speaker 1: kind of, you know, not fulfilling, to say the least. Okay,
Speaker 1: um man, So he had to do other stuff. Basically,
Speaker 1: vibrators are great. Sometimes I can't He use his finger,
Speaker 1: and well I don't. I'm personally not a fan of fingers.
Speaker 1: But some times guys that are that have smaller penis is,
Speaker 1: if they know what they're doing with it, because like
Speaker 1: you said, what the g spot is, it can be
Speaker 1: a good time. They just gotta know how to work
Speaker 1: that little thing, and they gotta think it. They gotta
Speaker 1: think rationally because most guys don't think that their penis
Speaker 1: is the smallest they actually is, so they don't study
Speaker 1: think and they study thinking they need a magnum. Stop
Speaker 1: where Oh my god, that's the worst. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Instead of trying to put a sagnum on that little
Speaker 1: tiny thing, you should just embrace the fact that you
Speaker 1: have a small penis and learn how to work with
Speaker 1: if you have. That would be my advice to a man.
Speaker 1: And you know, we were talking about this earlier, but
Speaker 1: a lot of times guys, if they have a small penis,
Speaker 1: they're not trying to have sex with you. And you
Speaker 1: were saying, who said one of their friends had a
Speaker 1: problem with a guy not wanting to have stout. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one of my close friends. Um, she's in a new
Speaker 1: relationship and he won't have sex with her. Well, they
Speaker 1: did eventually, but it took a while and she like
Speaker 1: tried a couple of times and he kind of like,
Speaker 1: don't touch my penis now, and then when they finally
Speaker 1: did do it, it was like a guy's a big
Speaker 1: dick as soon as you're working proud exactly, but it
Speaker 1: is belly would you round her a long that's funny,
Speaker 1: A long pencil dick, shorter, girthier, yeah, right, not too short.
Speaker 1: I like my man short and thick, like my men
Speaker 1: like they're win. No, not too short though, you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: not too short. I like girfie penuts. But I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I do like I do like a bigger dick.
Speaker 1: I really do like it. Have you ever had it?
Speaker 1: We all like it, but I like pain. Okay, have
Speaker 1: you ever had a penis so big? He turned it down?
Speaker 1: I did, yes, yes, a couple of times, like I
Speaker 1: don't think they can fit in mouth? No in your mouth?
Speaker 1: But oh no, no no. I went somewhere. I was
Speaker 1: somewhere out and I'd been kind of dating this guy,
Speaker 1: and you know, it came to shoot or get off
Speaker 1: the pot, and we was making I was like, tonight
Speaker 1: the night he's so fine. Girl. He pulled that out,
Speaker 1: I said, lights came on real fast. I was like,
Speaker 1: is that a baby? Four? Are like, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: I can't do it? But you could put it in
Speaker 1: and I put it in the whole way. No, girl,
Speaker 1: I could not tip one fitting. Furthermore, I was like,
Speaker 1: what did you want me to do with it. Look
Speaker 1: at like an ice cream cone because it's not fitting
Speaker 1: any orifice on this body. Oh he was, it was massive. Well,
Speaker 1: let's because somebody asked on Instagram and we asked if
Speaker 1: they had questions. Naturally, Ari wantston ow. Can you talk
Speaker 1: about what to do when you get sore from too
Speaker 1: much sex? But he still wants it? Well, I would
Speaker 1: need to know what the pain is because when you
Speaker 1: start to talk about pain during sex, there are some
Speaker 1: health things that I would worry about, and some things
Speaker 1: that could be associated with if infection or an s
Speaker 1: t I um, because things like HPV or human papal
Speaker 1: lomba virus that can cause displasia on the cervix or
Speaker 1: what we know is cervical cancer. Somebody getting an abnormal paps.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I saw that on Survivor's Remorse. The
Speaker 1: girl had HPV and she had to tell him that
Speaker 1: she had HPV. What happened? Yeah, what did happen? Did
Speaker 1: they break up? Um? I mean I don't think it
Speaker 1: was a relationship, but she had to tell him. He
Speaker 1: had to go get tested, but he couldn't tell if
Speaker 1: he had it or not. Well, that's very true. Can't
Speaker 1: men so men are usually carriers and there are no
Speaker 1: side effects. But when you would have something like cervical
Speaker 1: displasia or something like cervical cancer, the beginning signs it's
Speaker 1: usually pain during intercourse. Now, but on the flip side
Speaker 1: of that, you know, just saw it from too much,
Speaker 1: too much pounding. You can get bruising inside the vagina,
Speaker 1: which is very normal. You can get, um, something called
Speaker 1: Fisher tears, which is at the bottom of the vagina.
Speaker 1: It tears just a little bit because it's kind of
Speaker 1: like when you would get an psotomy. Now, that will
Speaker 1: heal quickly. Um. But what I can suggest is loop
Speaker 1: it up, loop it up, loop it up. Also, if
Speaker 1: you're using condoms and you're having a lot of sex
Speaker 1: with condoms and you're not using lube, that latex can
Speaker 1: kind of irritate the inside of your vagina. So if
Speaker 1: you don't have a loube first of all, if you're
Speaker 1: using condoms, please don't go to the kitchen like, oh baby,
Speaker 1: I got some coconut because that will compromise. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: great for lo but not for your vagina because it
Speaker 1: will compromise the integrity of a condom. Is there something
Speaker 1: wrong now? I have a friend who uses loop and
Speaker 1: she says she can't get wet. She's like very dry,
Speaker 1: but she said that she sneaks and does it. Is
Speaker 1: it embarrassing you thing to have to use the loups?
Speaker 1: Very embarrassing. I think you gotta because also, you know,
Speaker 1: one of the things of the pussy being good is
Speaker 1: that it's all we see. So yeah, but oftentimes what
Speaker 1: men fail to remember is that it takes a woman
Speaker 1: about fifteen to twenty minutes to go through bossi congestion,
Speaker 1: which is the process where we get wet. So in men,
Speaker 1: bossio congestion is where all the blood rushes to their
Speaker 1: genital areas. They get the seconds right, yes, like very quickly.
Speaker 1: But for women, what is happening is the blood rushes
Speaker 1: to our vagina or volva area. It engorges the tissue,
Speaker 1: which then expresses moisture. So that's what that wetnesses. So
Speaker 1: it takes fifteen to twenty minutes. So if you're like
Speaker 1: you got them, you have to preheat that oven, you know.
Speaker 1: So I always advise a lot of four play and
Speaker 1: you know, lick it before you stick it, and then
Speaker 1: if you got to spit on it, telling you guys,
Speaker 1: you got to play, you know. Yeah, you can't just
Speaker 1: be like, come here and just jump on my dick
Speaker 1: like something you feel like, I just want to jump
Speaker 1: on your dick. That's not lick a nipple. But it
Speaker 1: does four play for you. He does four play for you.
Speaker 1: Ladies start in the bedroom because for me, like I'm
Speaker 1: somebody who gets off on intellect and like smart people.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, I want it to start at dinner.
Speaker 1: Will you pick me up? Yes? I get to that
Speaker 1: as soon as I get to the guy that I'm
Speaker 1: fucking's house, like I'm leaking right yeah. But if you're
Speaker 1: not at that point and um, he's ready to go
Speaker 1: for it, I definitely recommend some for a plague because right,
Speaker 1: ain't nothing more irritating than a guy trying to put
Speaker 1: especially with an especially without a condom, trying to put
Speaker 1: a penis in a dry as with giant. But what
Speaker 1: I have heard a lot of times in talking to
Speaker 1: people I work with is it's like, especially women, so
Speaker 1: a man doesn't wait to get them warmed up. Then
Speaker 1: they have sex, and a man can only have one orgasm,
Speaker 1: right then they have to go through this refractor period
Speaker 1: where they're being some of them, you know, keep going.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people's refractor periods is very quick, so it could
Speaker 1: be like a minute. But as you get older men,
Speaker 1: that refractor period becomes longer and longer. However, you know,
Speaker 1: there have been women who have said, oh, well, my
Speaker 1: boy a friend has sex with me, and then after
Speaker 1: the first time, now I'm super wet because they didn't
Speaker 1: take the time to warm my son. Now he's done,
Speaker 1: and you're wet. You haven't gotten off, and now you
Speaker 1: have turquoise ovaries. Like that's the exact same thing as
Speaker 1: blue balls said. Turquoise sounds prettier, doesn't. But just brought
Speaker 1: that up though that as men get older, because young
Speaker 1: men like they can just go less nut go again.
Speaker 1: But now I was saying to you'all earlier, it seems
Speaker 1: like there's this trend of older women with younger men.
Speaker 1: Clar we look at like Tammy Roman her boyfriend fiance,
Speaker 1: he's a lot younger, obviously, women Riah Carey was Nick Cannon.
Speaker 1: They're allegedly they're saying Halle Berry is dating Chris Webby.
Speaker 1: He's a young twenty seven year old rapper, you know,
Speaker 1: and that's like the new in thing. All these older
Speaker 1: women with younger men, do you think that, um, these
Speaker 1: guys are at their peak? I know they say men
Speaker 1: sexual peak a lot younger than women do, and they
Speaker 1: know they definitely do. And I think for some of
Speaker 1: these women and the women you're naming, these are all
Speaker 1: women in their forties, So erectile dysfunction happens to a
Speaker 1: large majority of men being forty, right. It's very very common,
Speaker 1: and it's very normal, and unfortunately we oftentimes we're not
Speaker 1: talking in our relationships about things like this. There's stigma
Speaker 1: around a man having e D and having these kinds
Speaker 1: of things because then you feel as that women like damn,
Speaker 1: I couldn't get him hired, and then he's embarrassed, right,
Speaker 1: so and then communication breaks down and now all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, here you are happy, um with younger men.
Speaker 1: I think that. I think the idea of being like
Speaker 1: this mothery hen thing comes in. But the problem is,
Speaker 1: oftentimes these men haven't developed the skill set to be
Speaker 1: an adult relationship, or you're just trying to get your
Speaker 1: rocks off. And as women get older, they become more inhibited.
Speaker 1: So women don't really reach their sexual peak until about
Speaker 1: thirty three till like forty, and then once you go
Speaker 1: pass forty, you just don't give a fuck anymore. So
Speaker 1: you're like, I'm I'm bread to go. And I have
Speaker 1: heard from a lot of women who have come to
Speaker 1: me and said, I'm more horny now in my mid
Speaker 1: forties than I've ever been in my life. And then
Speaker 1: those young guys are just right, they're ready. And then
Speaker 1: younger guys in here that makes it perfect. Can I
Speaker 1: put my hand down further? But who attracts younger guys
Speaker 1: in here? I attract them too, I think we all do.
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't like younger guys before. One of
Speaker 1: the best, some of the best sex I've ever had
Speaker 1: was with ae year old man. But lately, no, I
Speaker 1: mean there are some I mean, there's the benefits of
Speaker 1: a younger guy. He can bust in that and then
Speaker 1: and then bust another net. Right, they have stamina, they
Speaker 1: can keep it going. But what's their minds? Everything that
Speaker 1: comes along with that. It's just like right, like when
Speaker 1: they said you got text mus is like what's up?
Speaker 1: And you're like, w y D, Yeah, you do what
Speaker 1: you're doing. But they don't have the wherewithal to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: can I take you to dinner, they'll just be like
Speaker 1: what up? Because I actually ended up in a young
Speaker 1: situation with a younger man about ten years younger than me,
Speaker 1: and he'd be like what up? And I'd be like
Speaker 1: what up? But then the conversation. But a worseman is
Speaker 1: like a forty five year old man like what up?
Speaker 1: And You're like, hey, you're forty five year old? Would
Speaker 1: not have my phone. Well, online dating, now, Michell, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you brought that up. You ended up in this situation. Now,
Speaker 1: I know we've discussed this. You've done online dating because
Speaker 1: I did a lot of you. How do you vet
Speaker 1: people out on on? Because I know there's a stigma
Speaker 1: attached to it. I know a lot of people that
Speaker 1: have found like their husband or their long term boyfriend
Speaker 1: on No keep going because I don't want to discuss
Speaker 1: I know some people that have has worked for but
Speaker 1: I know some people who also feel like, oh, I
Speaker 1: can't do that. It's weird, it's crazy. There's some weirdos
Speaker 1: on there. Get out there and meet somebody. What's your take.
Speaker 1: I think that you're gonna meet weirdos anywhere you go
Speaker 1: right one too. I don't want to discredit dating apps,
Speaker 1: um too severely because I've how friends that have have
Speaker 1: seen some of my writing about dating apps are seeing
Speaker 1: another radio segment or something about dating apps and they
Speaker 1: were like, but I met this great person. Um. Dating
Speaker 1: apps are like a sheep or a wolf in sheep's clothing. Right,
Speaker 1: So you know you have casual contact or casual encounters
Speaker 1: on Craigslist and all these things, and people they are
Speaker 1: really honest about what they want. They're like, I'm looking
Speaker 1: for a woman to come over and give me a
Speaker 1: sloppy blow job, right, Yeah, I really want a woman
Speaker 1: to put a stop on on and but they're still
Speaker 1: paying for that because it's not they're not it's just
Speaker 1: people connecting. And there are other websites where people are
Speaker 1: connecting sexually. What we're starting to see is that these
Speaker 1: dating apps are sexual hookup sites, right, but they're kind
Speaker 1: of mask and this idea of oh, it's gonna be
Speaker 1: a relationship. Um, So I think that it's a false
Speaker 1: sense of security. Um. I've met some crazys on these
Speaker 1: dating apps, and you really kind of what do you
Speaker 1: mean back crazy? So one time I was on a
Speaker 1: dating app and this was supposed to be an elite
Speaker 1: dating app. I'm not going to say what it is. Okay,
Speaker 1: you have to pay, but they said no, you didn't
Speaker 1: have to pay. You had to be vetted and there
Speaker 1: was a waiting list. So there are not a lot
Speaker 1: that are waiting right, And so this was supposed to
Speaker 1: be an elite person. And on the date, do you
Speaker 1: know that this man wanted to ask me multiple questions
Speaker 1: about what the largest penis I've been with was? Wow,
Speaker 1: first date, I don't know what he's doing. First date.
Speaker 1: I just looked at him and was like, but did
Speaker 1: he have a really big penis? Girl? I did not
Speaker 1: find out that night. But did I find out? Ever,
Speaker 1: that's either my first date? And asked me about the
Speaker 1: man's penis. You're asking and then you can explain it,
Speaker 1: and then started texting me, asked me if I had
Speaker 1: photographs and if I would penises of penises. He was
Speaker 1: by that's so weird. I don't know. I was in
Speaker 1: a relationship where it was open and my partner wanted
Speaker 1: to know when and how and all the deats about
Speaker 1: what I did outside of the relationships. Did he want
Speaker 1: to watch, No, but he did want to listen one time.
Speaker 1: That's cock holding that's what it's called. It's called cock holding.
Speaker 1: So a cock hold doesn't even sound holding somebody. Cock
Speaker 1: hold is someone who gets off on their partner having
Speaker 1: sex with another person. It's it's a it's a So
Speaker 1: all these sexual things that we do revolve around power
Speaker 1: and control, and that is a sense of relinquishing power
Speaker 1: but still kind of being in control because you've kind
Speaker 1: of given permission to do that. So you know, there's
Speaker 1: some all kinds of we can talk about all kinds
Speaker 1: of Never have been with a guy who asked me
Speaker 1: about another guy's penis trying to think the guys don't
Speaker 1: want to know the guy's really he don't want to
Speaker 1: know about other guys like Eve don't want to hear
Speaker 1: about it. Yeah, And even when I've gotten caught with
Speaker 1: other guys got it like a question, was not were like,
Speaker 1: oh was it good that? Than never asked me that either,
Speaker 1: But would you guys? Would you want to know if
Speaker 1: your man cheated on you? Would you be like? Where
Speaker 1: was it? I would never ask hibody that. At the
Speaker 1: end of the day, I don't need to because my responses.
Speaker 1: When you're done with the rest, you can come back
Speaker 1: to the best. Maybe that's what I really didn't like. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know that. Yeah, I mean I remember I
Speaker 1: um my son's father. He didn't he didn't get caught
Speaker 1: cheating on me, but he was with somebody that I knew.
Speaker 1: And I asked him, wasn't good and he was like,
Speaker 1: it wasn't better than yours. I was like, that was
Speaker 1: answer exactly. That's what. I cried the whole time, or
Speaker 1: never I thought I was listening the time. The man
Speaker 1: did cry when he was he was just like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, it's so good and would be really creepy.
Speaker 1: And I think we're when my wather was like one
Speaker 1: years old, I'm cried during sex. But if a god
Speaker 1: women can do it, men probably would love it for
Speaker 1: you to cry during sex. That's the woman. Oh no,
Speaker 1: the guy that I'm sucking right now made me cry
Speaker 1: the other day during sex. How because it was so good.
Speaker 1: I started crying. Happened to me? See the guys like that? Now,
Speaker 1: what if it was he started crying? Is that weird?
Speaker 1: That would be weird? That would be weird. But I
Speaker 1: liked sex with on the T shirt. I've had sex. Um,
Speaker 1: I had sex and where we were both crying what's
Speaker 1: weird that sounds like we were going through emotional ship makeup. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're in love and everything and you're both crying. Now,
Speaker 1: we weren't gonna see, I'm not gonna lie that a
Speaker 1: guy crying. It has to be like a real reason.
Speaker 1: Yeah we were up, No, because but I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: The sex was really good, but we were both like
Speaker 1: we were both just in a bad place. Because you
Speaker 1: could bring that ship up later. You could be like, oh,
Speaker 1: don't act like you wasn't crying with your bit I
Speaker 1: have later. I'm telling you're not. Your tears were lubricating out,
Speaker 1: you know. You say that when he was crying in
Speaker 1: this pussy. I really some type of way like the
Speaker 1: sex birth slash sex cologist has a much more tame
Speaker 1: sex life than you love the lag. How do you
Speaker 1: feel about a man crying during sex? I wish a
Speaker 1: mother would, because that's what I'm saying. I haven't had that.
Speaker 1: I haven't had that experience I have. It was just emotional,
Speaker 1: you know, it was just a time and so sex
Speaker 1: for you emotional. No, we were just sad and man,
Speaker 1: we were in love, you know, I mean, sex is emotional.
Speaker 1: I'm a woman. So I do feel emotional towards every
Speaker 1: person I've had sex. Wo, I definitely don't, at least
Speaker 1: at least at least at least that they counted. So
Speaker 1: four out of the total five, yes, four out of
Speaker 1: five fives for su All right, now, somebody else asked
Speaker 1: us a question on Instagram. Amum, this is big ace,
Speaker 1: little deuce. He wants to know. I don't even know.
Speaker 1: Maybe this is a woman. Yeah, she said emotional cheating,
Speaker 1: So don't believe it happens, or better yet that their participants.
Speaker 1: What do you think about emotional cheating? Is that a
Speaker 1: real thing? Not physically not physically cheating, but maybe having
Speaker 1: a bond with somebody that's it's it's cheating totally. I
Speaker 1: would rather I would rather you have a one. So
Speaker 1: this is the thing. So I have some perspectives on coupling.
Speaker 1: I would identify slightly closer to polyamorous, whereas I need
Speaker 1: a little space. I want to retain my autonomy. I
Speaker 1: think that sometimes dating other people when you're in a
Speaker 1: relationship can sometimes remind you why you love the person
Speaker 1: that you're in a committed relationship with. UM and I
Speaker 1: don't necessarily connect as much emotion to sex as some people.
Speaker 1: But um, I think if I was gonna get married tomorrow,
Speaker 1: I would want to have a two week break, and
Speaker 1: you have your two week vacation before you get married,
Speaker 1: like annually. Okay, But um, that two week break cannot
Speaker 1: be taken with the same person. You better not know
Speaker 1: her birthday, you better not know her favorite color. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to know you're okay with your man
Speaker 1: for two weeks. I'd rather be a different girl every day. No,
Speaker 1: that's a must, But I'd rather a different girl every
Speaker 1: day versus you creating some type of closeness or bond
Speaker 1: with someone else. I think that that kind of thing
Speaker 1: your hopes, your dreams, your ambitions, that's mine. If we're
Speaker 1: in a committed relationship sexually, we're sexual beings. Our bodies
Speaker 1: are designed to do four things, eat, sleep, ship, and procreate,
Speaker 1: not in that order, hopefully, but you know that's what
Speaker 1: our bodies are designed to do. So all this like
Speaker 1: thinking and processing, and that's things we've given. My dude,
Speaker 1: No two weeks either you you ain't. You can't be
Speaker 1: with nobody else. We got married, that's it. I'll put
Speaker 1: a wig on, like switch it up. I'll do some
Speaker 1: new exercises, maybe get a little more flexible. I have
Speaker 1: sex somewhere new way, act like you don't know each
Speaker 1: other meeting. But all right, now here's the next question
Speaker 1: from DJ Plug. He said, did your girl guy be
Speaker 1: willing to have sex whenever you went to or do
Speaker 1: you have to be considered? What's the point of being
Speaker 1: in a relationship if the smash ain't guarantee whenever you
Speaker 1: want it? I think that, Um, I think when you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship, yeah, you should. You should be able
Speaker 1: to get it whenever you want it. For sure. The
Speaker 1: only times I would say no to sex is if,
Speaker 1: like I'm not feeling well. Yeah, unless she's sick and
Speaker 1: it's not God forbid, somebody really out of you. Right,
Speaker 1: even though even though when I am when I'm sick,
Speaker 1: I still I'll still have sex as long as I'm
Speaker 1: not throwing up. If my man wants to have sex,
Speaker 1: it makes me want to have sex, right, even if
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it at first, you know, But
Speaker 1: are these things that we should talk about as we're
Speaker 1: getting into the relationship, Like when you're like, I'm somebody
Speaker 1: on a date and maybe this is why I'm single, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm like, so in a relationship, how many times a week? Like,
Speaker 1: what do you think it's a good amount of times?
Speaker 1: I will ask that, But what do I think it's
Speaker 1: It's varies for the couple, Like there are some couples
Speaker 1: that don't feel like actual intercourse is a part of
Speaker 1: intimacy and maybe we just want to cuddle. And maybe
Speaker 1: I'm somebody who just really likes to cuddle and I
Speaker 1: only want sex one night a week, or you know,
Speaker 1: maybe I'd like it every day the ends and y,
Speaker 1: I think every day except that you had a week
Speaker 1: off when you have your period. It ain't stopping me
Speaker 1: because actually, did you know that during your menstrual cycle
Speaker 1: you are more aroused? And I know that you know
Speaker 1: that you can get blood all over your sheets and
Speaker 1: your math. I'm not doing or hopping the shower. Listen,
Speaker 1: that's my week off. I agree, I mean, I mean
Speaker 1: week yeah, and I like giving every day. But I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. The guy's willing to run the red light.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, you whatever you or the last two days,
Speaker 1: because yeah, I would rather heavy than the last two
Speaker 1: days because I'm not feeling so like I feel like
Speaker 1: the aroma on heavy because when you look like when
Speaker 1: you turn the light on it. But I think in
Speaker 1: a blood clot Yeah, that's funny. I think the only
Speaker 1: time I would say, the only time in a relationship
Speaker 1: or something of this nature that I would say sex
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be every day or whatever is you have
Speaker 1: to be much more mindful when you're in your first
Speaker 1: trimester of pregnancy. Yeah, very mindful. Um. And I think
Speaker 1: in that situation first trimester of pregnancy, if a woman
Speaker 1: is like, you know, I'm not really feeling well or whatever,
Speaker 1: you don't want to have um intercourse because there are
Speaker 1: some things that can happen to the fetus born fetus. Also,
Speaker 1: oral sex during pregnancy, especially that first trimester, you have
Speaker 1: to be very very careful because you don't want to
Speaker 1: get you don't want to get what an air bubble
Speaker 1: in your uterus because that can cause extreme complications. Right. Um. So,
Speaker 1: if a woman is pregnant and you're in your first
Speaker 1: trimester and your partner wants to have sex and you're like,
Speaker 1: or you start to have sex and then sex becomes uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: you need to stop having sex because it can really
Speaker 1: impact your pregnancy. Um. But those are conversations you should have, like, oh,
Speaker 1: can I give you a blowjob instead, I'm kind of
Speaker 1: having some morning sickness, or I'm not really feeling bad,
Speaker 1: feeling good, or I'm having some cramping, uh due to
Speaker 1: the pregnancy. You want to try to like that. You
Speaker 1: have to listen to your body whenever I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm like my body doesn't want to have dick in
Speaker 1: my vagina. I'm definitely kind of first time messages jergraph
Speaker 1: on me. I don't think whatever I think, you cannot
Speaker 1: just give you hit. I think I just give head
Speaker 1: until they come and don't stop, and then they're exactly
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. If you ever get a
Speaker 1: head and don't have sex like as women do, we
Speaker 1: absolute la. I see it out and then I dismissed
Speaker 1: someone like no, because I like how to get up,
Speaker 1: like I like to make a I like to make
Speaker 1: a guy come with my mouth. So yeah, I definitely
Speaker 1: without having sex, but I want a new person now
Speaker 1: I'm talking about this. He go down on you and
Speaker 1: you come, and then you're like, Okay, no sex, Oh no,
Speaker 1: not for me, because I want to dick after a
Speaker 1: call right after you come. There's no better feeling than
Speaker 1: you come and and that boom. I like it, Dili, Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. I want it. There's nothing better than the
Speaker 1: guy that's like, let me just take care of you,
Speaker 1: do this for you and then but then I'm like,
Speaker 1: why don't you want to suck me? What you're gonna
Speaker 1: go for the next bit? I didn't even do that
Speaker 1: for you and be rewarded for that. No, I was.
Speaker 1: I was acting as I wanted them. What's the reward
Speaker 1: if you've going down on me? And I'm I'm feeling like, oh,
Speaker 1: I need to reward you. What's a reward if you don't?
Speaker 1: Don't we do it for guys though, Yeah, like just
Speaker 1: take care of them and no, no, no, I take no,
Speaker 1: not for a reward. I just want to reclaim power
Speaker 1: and remind you like who you with. I just want
Speaker 1: to reclaim But I just want to snitch that all
Speaker 1: right now, let me ask you this. Say you're dating
Speaker 1: a guy. Things are going great, he's really into you,
Speaker 1: You're really into him, perfect man. Right before y'all have
Speaker 1: sex for the first time, he tells you, just so
Speaker 1: you know, it's hard for me to tell you I
Speaker 1: have herpes. You know that never goes away. But a
Speaker 1: lot of people have it. Yeah, a lot of people
Speaker 1: have it. Probably most of the people you slept with.
Speaker 1: You don't even know they have it, and they don't
Speaker 1: know that. Hey, if I'm not having an outbreak, it's fine.
Speaker 1: You can't get able to protect ourselves. What do you do? No,
Speaker 1: I'm not having sex with you. I'm sorry, past, thanks
Speaker 1: for telling me. Thanks for telling me. What do you
Speaker 1: have to say about Okay, so, um, I'm not having
Speaker 1: sex with somebody knowing they have herpes. That girl, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now, you've had sex with someone
Speaker 1: knowing they've had herpes. They just didn't tell you. No,
Speaker 1: I didn't know. They have not ever had sex with
Speaker 1: somebody that has herpes. You don't know that. You know.
Speaker 1: I know. I'm telling because i know what it looks like.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. You know that break is. Here's
Speaker 1: here's the thing. People have herpes. I just want to
Speaker 1: say very clearly now because there's six of us and somebody,
Speaker 1: I just want to say clearly. I just want to
Speaker 1: say this very clear. I just want to say this
Speaker 1: very clearly while we're recording. I have not ever had
Speaker 1: sex with somebody that has her know that I don't
Speaker 1: have herpes. I do people have STDs, and I can
Speaker 1: count on one hand how many people have I've gone
Speaker 1: royal with so and with that without skin to skin.
Speaker 1: I was. I was dating a guy before and and
Speaker 1: I went, I was in like snooping in his bathroom
Speaker 1: and I found Valt trucks and I found something Valt
Speaker 1: track and yeah, and I kind of ended it after that. Really,
Speaker 1: but you already had had sex with him? No, you
Speaker 1: had it? Yeah, I think I saved myself from maybe
Speaker 1: getting it. Well, now you tell us Michell was a
Speaker 1: sex sex pert? Okay, when you can, you should? You
Speaker 1: would you have sex with some money that is that
Speaker 1: has herpes? Okay? So I want to kind of really
Speaker 1: give you, um some facts. First and foremost, a person
Speaker 1: can have herpes, right, I hate to break your heart. No,
Speaker 1: you're not breaking my heart. I know for sure, because
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't. I don't just I know the
Speaker 1: people that don't have a sex. I know for sure
Speaker 1: that I have not had sex with somebody. Okay, So
Speaker 1: herpies first and foremost can lay dormant in your system
Speaker 1: for twenty I'm not taking that there's no way I'm
Speaker 1: taking out right. So I just got a call from Africa.
Speaker 1: Somebody saw me speaking in a number way and a
Speaker 1: girl calls me. She's like, I just tested positive for
Speaker 1: an I g G for HVS two. So an I
Speaker 1: g G is a blood test that they can take.
Speaker 1: First of all, I want everyone that is listening to
Speaker 1: know when you go to the doctor to get a
Speaker 1: check up and you get tested for STDs, herpes is
Speaker 1: not a test that they do. It is a test
Speaker 1: you have to ask for. It is not great. You
Speaker 1: will not know unless you have an outbreak. If you
Speaker 1: think you have herpies. What a clinic will tell you
Speaker 1: is they'll say, you know what, we need you to
Speaker 1: come back when you're having an outbreak so we can
Speaker 1: test the fluid. If you get a blood test and
Speaker 1: you've had chicken pox. And this is why they don't
Speaker 1: test for herpes via blood test because you get a
Speaker 1: lot of false positives. Right now, an I g G test,
Speaker 1: which is a blood test about chicken pox. No, chicken
Speaker 1: pox is herpies. It's a it's herpies has a bunch
Speaker 1: of different pos twice. Isn't that like herpes? They well,
Speaker 1: you're not probably gonna get chicken pox twice. Now, what's
Speaker 1: the other thing. It's chicken pox, and it's shingles, oral herpies.
Speaker 1: It is herpies and it's oral herpies, and it's so
Speaker 1: of the adult American population has oral herpes, has HVS one.
Speaker 1: They get cold source. So that's one I I don't have,
Speaker 1: y'all y'all know me a minute, y'all know two years.
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever seen me with anything on my mouth
Speaker 1: one time? No? That's not me. No, And that's and
Speaker 1: that's great, right. But also what you have to understand
Speaker 1: the dormant thank you, not in me, maybe in y'all,
Speaker 1: not me, nerpies. Her can lay dormant in your system forever.
Speaker 1: Like you can have the herpies virus and never will
Speaker 1: never get an outbreak because your immune system is strong
Speaker 1: enough to fight it off. Now, what herpies really is
Speaker 1: is a really inconvenient fucking virus, okay, because and it's
Speaker 1: a barometer of your health. Because if you've been exposed
Speaker 1: to herpies and you have the herpies complex virus in
Speaker 1: your system, and you are healthy and you have a
Speaker 1: strong immune system, you will not get an outbreak. You'll
Speaker 1: never get an outbreak, but um, and I've had gynecologists
Speaker 1: and um, you know, eurologists talk to me about herpes.
Speaker 1: Is kind of barometer for your health. If you get
Speaker 1: an outbreak, that means your immune system is not where
Speaker 1: it is so weak it cannot fight off the outbreak.
Speaker 1: You see an emergency emergency up honey or valtrack or lycing.
Speaker 1: So lysing is an over the counter amino acid that
Speaker 1: you can buy at the drug store, all right, and
Speaker 1: lycing you can add to your daily vitamin regiment. And
Speaker 1: if you have either been exposed to her pies or
Speaker 1: you're dating someone, if you're dating somebody who has disclosed
Speaker 1: to you that they have herpes, I would immediately tell
Speaker 1: you to start taking lycene because it will fight off.
Speaker 1: It will fight off your body getting um an outbreak.
Speaker 1: And then to understand that there are the times that
Speaker 1: someone is most contagious is the the few days prior
Speaker 1: to an outbreak. And people who have herpies, no, because
Speaker 1: they're gonna get a tingling sensation. It's a nerve it's
Speaker 1: a nerve virus, so your nerves it's gonna tingle in
Speaker 1: the spot where the outbreak will come, not A, not a.
Speaker 1: It's gonna itch and tingle and then you're gonna get
Speaker 1: the outbreak. So if you have a strong enough immune system,
Speaker 1: you cannot have I actually had a gynecologist I worked
Speaker 1: with once who said, my my husband, I've been with
Speaker 1: him twenty two years, he is HBS too positive. He
Speaker 1: has herpies. I have had two children with him, and
Speaker 1: she has never had an outbreak. Right, So it was
Speaker 1: her that really explained to me the understanding. Off you
Speaker 1: keep your immune system healthy, you will not have outbreaks.
Speaker 1: It is an inconvenience. Chlamydia, gnarrhea, if that is not treated,
Speaker 1: that can kill you and make you sterile. Right, herpies,
Speaker 1: and it's just yes, and make it juice out green stuff.
Speaker 1: You know, dicks don't start dripping. Great, but herpes is
Speaker 1: not gonna kill you. It's just super inconvenient. Right. And
Speaker 1: And I think that I think statistically, and I'm trying
Speaker 1: to look it up on my phone so I don't
Speaker 1: sound like an idiot. I want to say it's like
Speaker 1: one in three sexually active adults in America has herpes.
Speaker 1: And we're not even talking about minority or a a
Speaker 1: minority demographic because yeah, we're talking about gen pop. But
Speaker 1: if we looked at ethnic into ethnic people of ethnic
Speaker 1: backgrounds Latino African American, the numbers would be like two
Speaker 1: out of three. You somebody with harpies everything or not.
Speaker 1: I'm I don't funk with these. Disgusted already as God's father,
Speaker 1: I was with my son's father, checked this out. I
Speaker 1: was with my son's father for almost a decade and
Speaker 1: then even cheating on him. I'm like, I don't go raw,
Speaker 1: I don't play game has herpes, but we are steping
Speaker 1: her out. Not is making me never want to have
Speaker 1: sex again. I swear to God, I'm a very paranoid person.
Speaker 1: Well think about it. Like, so here's the deal. Use
Speaker 1: a condom, but the condom doesn't always protect you against
Speaker 1: her pies because it's skin to skin and more times
Speaker 1: than not, herpies and genital warts they don't grow on
Speaker 1: the penis shaft. You can get them in that space
Speaker 1: between the penis and the testicles. The taint that it
Speaker 1: can grow there, or it can grow like on the
Speaker 1: pubist moand which is right above pictures of like I
Speaker 1: remember seeing a picture of a baby who got a
Speaker 1: herpie all over that because as somebody a family member
Speaker 1: like kiss the baby. Yes, never like, yes, I should
Speaker 1: not herpies all over his back. It was so often,
Speaker 1: it's awful. So you should never let strangers kiss your babies.
Speaker 1: No please. I was so paranoidal with my son. I
Speaker 1: didn't even let anybody my family members to kiss my
Speaker 1: baby or touched my baby. I'm like, go wash your hands,
Speaker 1: don't breathe on him. You can only home for about
Speaker 1: fifteen seconds. But you know the best way to kind
Speaker 1: of prevent herpies or even HPV because that's also a
Speaker 1: skin to skin You don't need a body fluid for that.
Speaker 1: You could fingerpop somebody and give them herpes or that. Um. So,
Speaker 1: if you're going to do intercourse, female or internal condoms
Speaker 1: are the best because they sit outside of um the
Speaker 1: vagina and kind of cover. I mean, you can use them.
Speaker 1: Have you used I am familiar with how they work
Speaker 1: and might have a used one. I am familiar with
Speaker 1: how they work, and I can tell you that they
Speaker 1: are a big cumbersome when you first start using them.
Speaker 1: But you have to remember a female condom and be
Speaker 1: put in eight hours prior to sex, and the longer
Speaker 1: it's in the vagina the way it starts to mold
Speaker 1: to a woman's walls. So I have had clients who
Speaker 1: have said that it is much more enjoyable for a
Speaker 1: man and for women. You're safer, you're more protected because
Speaker 1: your volva, the outer area is covered by the outer
Speaker 1: part of the How many people really use people see
Speaker 1: they don't. I don't know if it's because they don't know,
Speaker 1: or it does sometimes make a sound during sex like sound.
Speaker 1: It's not a farting sound. It's kind of a it's
Speaker 1: you know, what's what I wish I would have known
Speaker 1: we were going here because I have my vagina and
Speaker 1: my penis and my condoms in my bag. Girl, I
Speaker 1: brought shoot, I brought Rhonda with me. Loving it. It
Speaker 1: does make a little it makes a little bit of
Speaker 1: a kind of sound, squashy sound. It makes a little
Speaker 1: bit of a sound, but makes a squashy song. You
Speaker 1: want to like it because literally it's no mess, no fuss,
Speaker 1: no muss, you can use, you can yo red wings.
Speaker 1: You don't even have to worry about a mess. Because
Speaker 1: that's interesting. Yeah, what should pussy smell like? We were
Speaker 1: talking early and we like, you know, people be like
Speaker 1: pussy stings. But pussy should have a sent. It definitely
Speaker 1: should have a sent. So it should have aroma a roma,
Speaker 1: right like, So we give our pheromones and we give
Speaker 1: off these kinds of different smells. I used to call
Speaker 1: that freemones. Yes, honey, get your freemones on. We could
Speaker 1: bottle freemones. We got over here. That could be your freemones.
Speaker 1: We could bottle yo freemons and start selling it. Um,
Speaker 1: but you're you wanted to have, it's gonna have a scent,
Speaker 1: it's going to have an a roma. Um. You want
Speaker 1: it to be not fishy. If it's fishy, you got
Speaker 1: a problem, Give it a doctor. It's fishy. There's a
Speaker 1: high likelihood of bacterial vaginosis, which is phoebe um. Sometimes
Speaker 1: yeast infections can cause a little bit of a smell.
Speaker 1: It probably won't be fishy, right, but what's not fresh?
Speaker 1: But that's gonna come along with a cottage cheesy discharge
Speaker 1: and and some itching and burning and swelling. Um. If
Speaker 1: it smells like something has died in your pussy, bitch,
Speaker 1: check your tampon. Do you have a tampon? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: you know they happened to one of my friends. Sometimes
Speaker 1: people did. She was having she started dating a new
Speaker 1: guy and they were about to have sex and it
Speaker 1: smells so bad. She was humiliated and embarrassed. He didn't
Speaker 1: know what was going on. He was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: you need to find out what's the problem. She forgot
Speaker 1: its tampon. I know, but do you understand that that
Speaker 1: you can get very, very sick from that toxic That
Speaker 1: can kill you. So if you smell like rotting carcass,
Speaker 1: you need you might have a tamp you might have
Speaker 1: left that obi in there. And if you smell like
Speaker 1: garlic or oniony or something like that, take a shower, yeah,
Speaker 1: like a body. And then also as women, you really
Speaker 1: need to tune into the fact that you are what
Speaker 1: you eat. So if you eat high amounts of garlic,
Speaker 1: your vagina could smell like garlic um. And you know, water,
Speaker 1: eat eat, drinking a lot of water, flushing your system.
Speaker 1: You a lot of fruits. That pineapple, If you drink pineapple,
Speaker 1: your vagina is gonna taste good. That's really not the
Speaker 1: essence of that things. It's like, hey and perfect, I'm
Speaker 1: glad kettle one doesn't have a taste. Vodka doesn't have
Speaker 1: a taste. Um, but yeah, so you want to smell,
Speaker 1: but it should and it probably will smell musty but
Speaker 1: kind of sweet. It should have it. And for men,
Speaker 1: because I think that this is important. Men, your sperm
Speaker 1: or your male ejaculation should smell like bleach or ammonia
Speaker 1: because it's a base. If it smells like if it
Speaker 1: smells like weeds, I love the backwards down. You should
Speaker 1: clean things your no, and I think it's good. Like
Speaker 1: you know, you're good when you um. When a guy
Speaker 1: goes down on you and then you kiss him, you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: i'd tastes pretty good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that happens a lot.
Speaker 1: And I drink so much water. I drink like a lot.
Speaker 1: I drink like a gallon of water a day, drink water.
Speaker 1: I drink mad water. I mean Hennessey has to come
Speaker 1: from water, right, yeah, and it's like in it and
Speaker 1: you see the ice is melted, so now it's water.
Speaker 1: Therefore there's water in me. Well that's good. Can guys
Speaker 1: be like taste nasty and stuff? Yes, sunk, sunk, funky spunk. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you are what you eat when you swallow and it
Speaker 1: you want to throw it right back up because it
Speaker 1: tasted gross going down. Yeah, it should be sweet too,
Speaker 1: because seminal fluid. So semen right there like little individual tadpoles, right,
Speaker 1: they have to have the energy to swim to the
Speaker 1: egg and it's it's a journey, okay. So for them
Speaker 1: to have energy, they have to eat something. So when um,
Speaker 1: the semen goes through the epididymus and the vast deference,
Speaker 1: it passes through the prostate, which we can move on
Speaker 1: to prostate next. Um, when it goes through the prostate,
Speaker 1: it picks up like prosthetic fluid and all these extra fluids.
Speaker 1: Some of the fluid is fruitcost which is sugar. Because
Speaker 1: sperm has to eat to have energy. So sperm should
Speaker 1: taste sweet. It should smell kind of bleachy or ammonia eat,
Speaker 1: but it should have a sweeter taste. But I should
Speaker 1: not be bitter. Me and my booie sat there, we
Speaker 1: were eating a bunch of sour pasts kids and then
Speaker 1: I sucked a zick and swallow his comba and it
Speaker 1: tasted like sugar. I was like, what all that mean?
Speaker 1: Does he probably doesn't do drugs or drink a lot
Speaker 1: of alcohol. Then that's why, because that prostate fluid, that's
Speaker 1: helping that seemen get to where it's gonna go. It's
Speaker 1: supposed to be fruit. Was it like a yellow sour
Speaker 1: patch kid? Or all? Right? Now we have another question
Speaker 1: on my instagram, m La mont Bobwin wants to know
Speaker 1: can holeness be deleted? What is hohleness? You know, it's
Speaker 1: like you used to be at home, but now you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship and all of that. Can we forget
Speaker 1: my past and move on? I mean, I guess you
Speaker 1: have to ask not only your partner but also yourself,
Speaker 1: because I think a lot of times what we do
Speaker 1: as individuals is we don't allow time to forgive ourselves.
Speaker 1: So then we go ahead and we sabotage the relationships
Speaker 1: because we're still living in that space of quote unquote honess,
Speaker 1: and we're letting all of these negative things that all
Speaker 1: the shitty relationships we were in before cloud this individual
Speaker 1: who's here, who's accepting me for everything that you're saying? Okay,
Speaker 1: So I was reading about this interview that Lara Galoora
Speaker 1: did a Global grind. You know, she was getting she
Speaker 1: read that right they broke up, and she was saying
Speaker 1: part of the issue the first time they broke up
Speaker 1: was that there was a picture she posted she was
Speaker 1: in the strip club where she worked with Meek Mill,
Speaker 1: and that pictures circulated everywhere. And then there were some
Speaker 1: old tweets she posted about other rappers. You know that
Speaker 1: she loved quote unquote loved or whatever when she was
Speaker 1: seventeen years old, and she was like, the first time
Speaker 1: we broke up, I didn't think he could. She was like,
Speaker 1: it was hard for him because everybody was tagging him
Speaker 1: and all of this stuff, and she felt like he
Speaker 1: couldn't handle it. And then they ended up getting back together,
Speaker 1: but ultimately it didn't work out. But I think that
Speaker 1: in that that's her not leaving the past in the past.
Speaker 1: But it's hard when everyone keeps bringing it up and
Speaker 1: tagging your man in it. But but was but Whendy,
Speaker 1: But was she with her man when she brought up
Speaker 1: all this old stuff. Well, she didn't bring it up.
Speaker 1: I think everybody else did a lot of other people
Speaker 1: were digging it up. She said, it was a publicly relationship,
Speaker 1: and you know, people don't want to see you happy,
Speaker 1: so you started posting stuff and then there everybody's trying
Speaker 1: to embarrass you. Going on you kind of be degrading
Speaker 1: it's hard for a guy to handle something like that,
Speaker 1: it would be hard for a woman. That's part of
Speaker 1: the reason why. And we've had this conversation before. Um
Speaker 1: part of the reason why I kind of uh put
Speaker 1: myself out there with my guy in the beginning because
Speaker 1: I never wanted anything to come back and haunt me.
Speaker 1: I never wanted anybody to come back and throw anything
Speaker 1: in his face. And if anything ever came up about
Speaker 1: my past, I wanted him to have an idea of
Speaker 1: it already or kind of already knowew what's going on? Nothing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so anybody anything that, anything anybody said to him, it
Speaker 1: don't matter because it's already know. You're not telling me
Speaker 1: nothing already know, so we know if you can handle
Speaker 1: it or not. From the beginning. If you can't handle it, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm sorry. Not me. I feel like nobody
Speaker 1: ship because I've experienced it, and I'm telling you'll be
Speaker 1: dating guy and somebody comes on the radio and they're like, nah,
Speaker 1: you know, I have a friend like what they want
Speaker 1: to bring it up. I have a a friend on
Speaker 1: the radio changed the channel. I have a friend who
Speaker 1: is in a relationship now when she just had a
Speaker 1: baby with her boyfriend who's just a regular mega guy,
Speaker 1: and and um, she told him about a couple of
Speaker 1: you know, maybe rappers or whoever in her past, and
Speaker 1: it's been thrown up in her face, crying like I
Speaker 1: just I wish he would just leave it alone, Like
Speaker 1: I'm with you now, we have a baby, we have
Speaker 1: a family. Feel like she wishes she wouldn't have told
Speaker 1: him she does because he would have never found out, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how And that's how I feel like. If I'm
Speaker 1: dating someone and I see that they're hanging out with
Speaker 1: somebody that I slept with, I'll be like, hey, you
Speaker 1: know x y Z happened, right, But see the difference
Speaker 1: in her situation. Need to be dating someone who doesn't
Speaker 1: even work in entertainment. I told them, Hey, I stopped
Speaker 1: with x y Z. That does x y Z and entertainment.
Speaker 1: That's what I was feeling. Every time that guy comes,
Speaker 1: I feel like the radio on the TV. He's feeling
Speaker 1: away for no reason because he would have never found
Speaker 1: out about that anyway, Right, And that's the main reason
Speaker 1: why I told my guys, because he's in the entertainment.
Speaker 1: So I feel like, you know these people, or you
Speaker 1: might know these people, or you might come across some
Speaker 1: of these people, and I don't want it to be
Speaker 1: an issue. Now, if he was a regular guy, I
Speaker 1: probably would not have told him, because you're never gonna
Speaker 1: find out you don't know the person unless I tell you.
Speaker 1: But I feel like even because it wasn't like anything,
Speaker 1: but it could be something that ends up on the
Speaker 1: bloods and he finds out about it, and maybe you know,
Speaker 1: I walk like the catburg I keep. I mean, I
Speaker 1: just and now today I feel like, even with me
Speaker 1: dating guys and entertainment, I still don't feel like it's
Speaker 1: any of their business. I wouldn't want anybody who has
Speaker 1: slept with me to tell whoever they're dating that they
Speaker 1: were with me. You know what I mean. And I'm
Speaker 1: going to keep it to myself. Now, if like you said,
Speaker 1: something comes out on the blog, is that true or
Speaker 1: is it not true? Yes, it's true and not moving forward,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? But what if they ask you,
Speaker 1: like listen before I find out anything about you, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't know what I do. I will observe the situation
Speaker 1: and see who he knows and who he doesn't. I
Speaker 1: tell you what you feel like he needs to know
Speaker 1: exactly he's arrested myself. You don't know, won't hurt you
Speaker 1: full disclosure or no. I mean, I'm always a full
Speaker 1: disclosure person. But I don't have as exciting of a
Speaker 1: sex life as you guys do, So I mean, it's
Speaker 1: never gonna come up like, oh you was with that one. However,
Speaker 1: there have been moments where I've been with like a
Speaker 1: regular guy. I tend to like kind of nerdy guys,
Speaker 1: and I'm like sitting and we're watching a TV show
Speaker 1: and after living in l A for ten years, there's
Speaker 1: like actors on and I just start cracking up on
Speaker 1: the screen and they're like what And I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I dated that guy. I just think it's funny. But
Speaker 1: I mean they're so square bots. I mean, I date
Speaker 1: squares and the oka whatever I do. Why do you
Speaker 1: date squares? What is it? What is it about squares?
Speaker 1: If you feel like I mean, I would identify myself
Speaker 1: as sapio sexual, which is someone who, yeah, I'm really
Speaker 1: attracted to people mentally. UM. I also have come to
Speaker 1: the conclusion with my experiences that most people are bad
Speaker 1: in bed, so I'm going to have to make it good. Um.
Speaker 1: And so I don't look at it like and then
Speaker 1: I've never like and don't think I haven't been out
Speaker 1: to the parties into this into that. I just ballers
Speaker 1: are not nobody's ever like, I'm not that smart with
Speaker 1: who people are. Like. I think I've had basketball players
Speaker 1: or football players try to talk to me, but you know,
Speaker 1: I'm so like, so you feel like the ballers are dumb. Well,
Speaker 1: I think they just think I'm snobby, is what like
Speaker 1: they kind of think, and I'm not like, I'm trill.
Speaker 1: I'm still like the ground that I gotta be a
Speaker 1: trial nigga. What people don't always what I present, so
Speaker 1: people think Honestly, I find that, um, you know, dating
Speaker 1: uh rapper or basketball player a football player. You know
Speaker 1: a lot of times you know, rappers are a really
Speaker 1: good with words, so they're they're smart, they're intellectual. And
Speaker 1: then you know the basketball players and the football players
Speaker 1: there they went to college, so of course, but I'm
Speaker 1: also but I'm also i feel like it's these drug
Speaker 1: dealer niggas that are dumb that you really like, they
Speaker 1: don't love, but they definitely don't like me. But even
Speaker 1: that they don't like me, I'm also not that time
Speaker 1: like them to like call people like, I'm like, if
Speaker 1: you're not, like, if you're not calling me, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't do that. I'm not I'm not calling you. Nobody likes.
Speaker 1: Let's just be real. I'm not gonna end up the
Speaker 1: cat lady. That's that's what it's gonna be. No, what's
Speaker 1: wrong with the regular guy? What's wrong with and I like, Um,
Speaker 1: what's a regular guy? What is that? Somebody that works?
Speaker 1: You know? Have you ever been in a boring relationship? No?
Speaker 1: You think boring is good? You're boring is great. No,
Speaker 1: because even my even my son's father is not a square.
Speaker 1: But drama. Drama is not gonna get you a thirty
Speaker 1: year marriage. Yeah, No, I mean I think with um.
Speaker 1: With Derek and I, we didn't have a lot of
Speaker 1: dramas for the end when I started acting crazy. But
Speaker 1: with the last one, the last one, it was just
Speaker 1: it was a mess. We were fighting all the time.
Speaker 1: We loved each other, are added to the fighting? No,
Speaker 1: I hate it. It's awful. Do you what's that? Miserable?
Speaker 1: You were miserable. But I also feel like some people
Speaker 1: think that when you argue and fight all the time,
Speaker 1: that's what love is. It's passion. He's so passible. Really
Speaker 1: believe that. Some people don't know any other way other
Speaker 1: than I'm in a relationship. This is what we do.
Speaker 1: He loves me, and that's why we fight all the time.
Speaker 1: I check your phone, You're gonna check my phone? Like that?
Speaker 1: All that a lot of people. No, that's one thing
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not a digger. I feel like, if
Speaker 1: you're looking for a song, you'll find oh, of course.
Speaker 1: But like, I have a girlfriend who dated athletes, who
Speaker 1: did all this, and then she found this nice guy.
Speaker 1: She had, like this nice dude she was dating, and
Speaker 1: she would call me and be like, he's boring, ring,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, girl, since we've been in high school,
Speaker 1: we've been running drama on your boyfriend's whether it was
Speaker 1: stealing a dog or beating up somebody's girl. But so
Speaker 1: she got so used to the drama and identifying that
Speaker 1: the drama was loved. That's not love. Love is sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch on a Tuesday night after somebody cooked dinner,
Speaker 1: arguing over not even Netflix. Even more boring, arguing over
Speaker 1: who the best voice was on the voice tonight. I
Speaker 1: just feel like, for me, athlete is a regular guys.
Speaker 1: Everybody's aular girl. Everybody's regular because that's her. I don't
Speaker 1: think dating an athlete is dating an average guy, you know.
Speaker 1: I don't think dating a rapper or R and B
Speaker 1: singer is an average person. But I think they're regular. Okay,
Speaker 1: So let me ask you a question. So let me
Speaker 1: ask you a question. Let me ask a question. Would
Speaker 1: you rather an NBA player or a man who graduated
Speaker 1: from Yale Law School? Assumed to come laude. Is he
Speaker 1: a lawyer if you graduated? Listen, I don't care about
Speaker 1: what a guy does, because I'm gonna do good for
Speaker 1: myself no matter what, whoever's gonna treat me right, say,
Speaker 1: everything was the same except one the NBA player, and
Speaker 1: one went to Yale and his lawyer and a lawyer
Speaker 1: or has his own business he has. I mean, if
Speaker 1: I had to choose NBA, everything is the same as
Speaker 1: the same character, the same type of perfect one one
Speaker 1: plays basketball, one as a lawyer. I would take the
Speaker 1: lawyer just because I know the lawyer is probably gonna
Speaker 1: have more time for me. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: You busy lawyers are, But I mean he's not going
Speaker 1: to be traveling. No, that's no, not only trying not
Speaker 1: to be honest with you. I have wait, I have
Speaker 1: dated UM, and in my mind, I'm thinking of someone
Speaker 1: specifically who went to Yale Law School and UM has
Speaker 1: their own business. That man is on the road seventy
Speaker 1: five percent of the time. Literally, it's the same. It's
Speaker 1: literally it's the exact same. But the difference is what
Speaker 1: the experiences when we're together. Like so for us trying
Speaker 1: to squeeze time in might have been, Hey, let's wake
Speaker 1: up at six in the morning and go to the
Speaker 1: gym together, or I see the face I wish you
Speaker 1: could see. Hi. No, I would do that with my
Speaker 1: athletic boyfriend. I'm just saying, like, if I had an
Speaker 1: athletic boyfriend, I would do that with him. I would
Speaker 1: do his workout with him in the morning. And the
Speaker 1: attorney's workouts are way easier. Yes, that I don't know.
Speaker 1: And you know. The thing with a lawyer, and the
Speaker 1: difference between a lawyer and a basketball player is that
Speaker 1: a basketball player is going to have a lot of
Speaker 1: groupies because he's really famous. But you don't think, Okay,
Speaker 1: so I had to break it to you, he's gonna
Speaker 1: have groupies too. But it's not gonna be it's it's
Speaker 1: not no word like. That's one thing about dating and
Speaker 1: entertainment is that if I take somebody entertainment, he's gonna understand.
Speaker 1: He's gonna understand all the guys, all the groupies I have,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, the naturally Yeah, just just
Speaker 1: me living my life. I feel like anybody has you
Speaker 1: would understand why you have guys, the guys that are
Speaker 1: not in entertainment. There my last boyfriend, if I took
Speaker 1: a picture with a promoter, he was taking my head off.
Speaker 1: I couldnt post photos with promoters who pay me to
Speaker 1: show up out their event, right, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Dating and entertaining, It's like, but that's because he has
Speaker 1: a little penis. No, I'm not gonna say all of that. Well,
Speaker 1: that means he's insecure about something. What I'm saying, I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, you know, um, dating and entertainment. A guy
Speaker 1: dating me and entertainment, it's gonna know like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: she took a picture with two chains, or she took
Speaker 1: a picture with this one because they just took a
Speaker 1: picture together, not because she's like fucking the nigga. You know.
Speaker 1: But sometimes it's haired to for guys in entertainment because
Speaker 1: those are their peers. So it was like me, look crazy, dude,
Speaker 1: Yes some of them are yes pictures. Are you on
Speaker 1: your knees in the picture? What I'm saying, No, I was.
Speaker 1: I was accused of dating somebody because or having slept
Speaker 1: with somebody because we took a picture and that person
Speaker 1: had their arm around me and try to wrap it.
Speaker 1: My gosh, I can't And I literally just sat down
Speaker 1: for the picture like let's take a pick, click, and
Speaker 1: kept it moving. But the picture looked like it was
Speaker 1: so much more that he really accused me, like, oh
Speaker 1: did I definitely did that, experienced definitely dated a guy
Speaker 1: who got mad about every picture and told me that, okay,
Speaker 1: when you take pictures with people, you can't do this.
Speaker 1: You can't do that. You can was this was this
Speaker 1: pures with these rappers? That? Yeah, because that's see again,
Speaker 1: all of these relationships revolve around power and control, and
Speaker 1: it also makes me look at you crazy like that insecure, right,
Speaker 1: it's not that that security is not attractive, but it's
Speaker 1: not always If I take if I take a picture
Speaker 1: dribbing a guy's crotch or you know, licking his face,
Speaker 1: then you have a reason to questions. But if I
Speaker 1: take a picture with somebody in his hand ends up
Speaker 1: on my lap for the picture, that quick doesn't mean.
Speaker 1: But I think that what again, I want to go
Speaker 1: back to power and control. All of our relationships are
Speaker 1: run by power and control, roll and everything I just
Speaker 1: heard all of you ladies speak on was men trying
Speaker 1: to use their power to control you as a woman.
Speaker 1: And and again, perhaps this is why I am squeal
Speaker 1: because I don't play that like. You ain't putting no
Speaker 1: money in my bank account, you ain't signing no checks, right.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, I came in
Speaker 1: this motherfucker alone and I'm gonna end up going alone.
Speaker 1: So at this point, I love you. I want to
Speaker 1: be with you, but I need you to recognize that
Speaker 1: I have my life and my autonomy and and the
Speaker 1: other thing is called it's what I need. But the
Speaker 1: other thing is called the pig the Pigmailia effect. So
Speaker 1: there's this idea of the Pigmailia effects. So a man
Speaker 1: likes you, Stephanie for this fearce wild wow, so underground
Speaker 1: and she's gotta be a trip right right, But then
Speaker 1: what happens is when they get you in a relationship,
Speaker 1: they want you to become that demure wife they want
Speaker 1: you to make, and they try to turn you into
Speaker 1: this other person who you're not. And then let's say
Speaker 1: that you do end up be coming the person that
Speaker 1: they want you to be. Next thing, you know, they're
Speaker 1: cheating on you with the girl you were right, she's
Speaker 1: just got a new name, right, So we have to
Speaker 1: be aware of that. I don't play that. You're either
Speaker 1: gonna take it or you ain't gonna take it. Because
Speaker 1: and even with my last even within my last relationship,
Speaker 1: like you know, he and I knew each other for years,
Speaker 1: but when he got with me, he knew what was
Speaker 1: going on in my life, you know, and just a
Speaker 1: couple of months down the line, I had to make
Speaker 1: a lot of changes and adjustments. Right, Stephany was like,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about my ex. No one here we are,
Speaker 1: good morning. I see a new man about your ex
Speaker 1: like any guys you're dating, not at all. I don't
Speaker 1: talking about him at all. The only reason we're talking
Speaker 1: about him now that's relevant. Yeah, it's relevant to our conversation.
Speaker 1: But please, new man about one thing, nothing, nothing, nothing,
Speaker 1: whether or not that's it, that's all or that's great
Speaker 1: exactly with my last relationship, and if you compare them
Speaker 1: to what's going on in my life now to the
Speaker 1: guys that I'm getting to know now, there's no interest there.
Speaker 1: It's it's like, well, you say, I'm proud of Stephanie
Speaker 1: because before she was like, that's it. I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: with him. I'm gonna wait till they can whatever. And
Speaker 1: I love him. I'm not doing anything and all my heart.
Speaker 1: I always love him for the rest of my life.
Speaker 1: But but but I mean compared to what I got
Speaker 1: going for me, for me to be talking about this
Speaker 1: man with the guy that I'm sleeping with now, it's
Speaker 1: a waste of time because I'm just making myself look crazy.
Speaker 1: I think that's again not allowing yourself forgiveness for whatever
Speaker 1: went wrong in that relationship. So you're bringing it up
Speaker 1: in your new relationship, trying to overcompensate, to be like,
Speaker 1: I don't want this to happen in our relationships, so
Speaker 1: I want to tell you all about this and what
Speaker 1: happened in our relationship and our last couldn't possibly happen exactly.
Speaker 1: But if you plant seeds, you might see some type
Speaker 1: of variant. So really, I think leaving the past and
Speaker 1: in the past the past. Al right, two thousand sixteen,
Speaker 1: let's do it. Well, they're thank you so much for
Speaker 1: coming back this same time Residents sex Birt for lips service. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this was really really educational for me today. That's definitely
Speaker 1: rather she wants to admit it or not found out
Speaker 1: that she has not. I'm not. It's impossible. I am not. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm most it's imposible, but in your world impossible, let
Speaker 1: me tell you. And I usually brag about my mute system,
Speaker 1: but later, your lip's nothing. I'm always is always bare.
Speaker 1: Ain't nothing on my mouth, you know all the time, Stephanie.
Speaker 1: Stephanie's mouth is her favorite part of her that's right
Speaker 1: at my it is my other favorite parts. And I
Speaker 1: take a little both SuDS. She either doesn't have her
Speaker 1: peace or it's dormant. Yes, let me tell you what
Speaker 1: we're seeing my my mune system. And I usually think
Speaker 1: my new sun's really good. But I got sick already.
Speaker 1: I moved into my new apartment. I've been sick in
Speaker 1: that apartment already three times. Well, if one day you
Speaker 1: get the chills and the shivers, and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden you've got some itching and burning and one spot
Speaker 1: in your vagina. I will be dead because I will
Speaker 1: seeing get you some light seeing and somebody. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: kill myself straight the funk up if my pussy doesn't
Speaker 1: work no more. I'm just gonna It's like it's like
Speaker 1: a man for his penis, if you shoot his penis,
Speaker 1: or if he's gonna want to die. No one is
Speaker 1: shooting up your a jay. That's how it sounds like.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I don't just scare her like that.
Speaker 1: It heels after seven days. No, man, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to you know what. God bless everybody
Speaker 1: who has her piece. I know. God, if you know
Speaker 1: one of my good friends has it, and God, but
Speaker 1: you know, I just I don't want that in my life,
Speaker 1: you know what. But you know what's funny. A baby
Speaker 1: mama can kill you, herpies cannot. And a baby mama
Speaker 1: can make your man broke as hell, but herpies cannot.
Speaker 1: You can fuck a baby mom's up, you can't fuck
Speaker 1: herpies up. You can't with some val All right, Well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much Michelle again. Ge Hey, we'll be
Speaker 1: back next week, we're back. I officially live back in
Speaker 1: New York. I'm not missing any more episodes. Somebody's boot here,
Speaker 1: I'm here to start. Yes, let's service