WEBVTT - Episode 32 Ft. Michelle Hope 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:11.280 Hey, what's up. We're back. It's slip service, I mean 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:14.520 as lay. I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm g G McGuire and 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:17.760 we have our sex Bert Michelle Hope. What's up everybody? 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:20.000 Hey girl, we need your help. You know. We start 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.520 off with the tip of the day. All right, today's tip. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:24.040 How do you have sex with a guy with a 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:27.160 small penis? Now, let's be clear, we're trying to help 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:29.680 you small penis guys out there as well. Right, we're 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:33.360 not at all, but it's a little different. I think 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:35.800 having sex with a guy with a small one, well, 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:37.760 I think that what we have to remember is, first 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.919 and foremost, there is no nerve endings inside of the vagina. 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:44.080 I've always said to all these men out here talking 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.199 about you're gonna blow my back out where you might 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:48.839 really slip a disk. So let's not do that, and 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.520 let's focus where my pleasure point is, which my claturus. Alright, 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:54.520 so so you don't have to have a big dig 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:57.240 to reach the clatorius motion in the ocean bubble Kidi, 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:01.040 not the size of the ship because that Titanic went down, Okay, 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:03.800 but also you have to remember that your g spot 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:06.279 is only an inch to an inch and a half 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:10.120 inside the vagina on the upper part right, So that 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:13.280 does not make me want an inch long penis, no, hell, okay, 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:15.560 but I would suggest the crossover. I'm a big fan 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.840 of the crossover move. Somebody can't see me, but like 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:20.959 where you're kind of scissoring each other's legs and he 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:23.280 got you right here and he might be spanking it. 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:26.600 That's a really great move for let me see scissoring. 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:29.240 So that's basically your legs are kind of closed, right, 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:31.920 so like he might be like this and like one 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.160 of your legs, so if he's standing, one of your 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.720 legs would go in between. Isn't that how lesbians have sex? 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:39.400 So basically a guy with the small penis is a lesbian. 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:45.520 Similarly they have the trip, you have the trip, oh 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:51.520 my god, and men with small penis should eat it 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:53.360 and should eat it. But in particularly if you have 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:55.280 a small penis, you gotta start up with that, let 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.840 her come from that, and then slide in right or 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:01.160 take it to the booty back door. Betty it that 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.560 always works too. You know, I'm so scared. It ain't 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:06.160 all no matter what size it is, right, But if 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.320 a guy have you ever had sex with a guy 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.639 with it's my penis? Yes? Okay, So what is your 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.000 recommendation to make that I don't know. I need help 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.160 because I don't I feel like I feel like my 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:20.280 best sexual experiences are guys were bigger dicks, and you know, 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:22.240 like a small dick is like I feel like I 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.040 can't like bounce on it the way because it might 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:29.720 you might slide out, Like you have to get grind it, 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:31.359 like you have to grind it, and I don't feel 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:34.760 like guys like to get grinded on you, Like I 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.000 can't move too much because it might not so it's 0:02:37.040 --> 0:02:39.960 like a little short bound. The only way for me 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:44.120 to rise is like a first cow girl, Like you 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:46.840 have to be like sitting up and like I have 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:49.040 to be like on my knees and reverse, you know 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:50.959 what I mean. But that seems like you might move 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:53.320 up too far and then have to come back down 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:56.600 and then you can't see it. Are you doing your 0:02:56.680 --> 0:03:01.600 kegel exercises while you're having didn't like my key goes 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:03.360 because he has a small PENI that's not my fault 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:05.160 because one time I had a man with a small 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:08.840 penis during sex. Say to me oh, you're trying to clench. 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:11.560 I wanted to stop the whole show right there. In 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:13.440 my mind, I was like, I kind of need to 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:16.800 trying to feel something right. Doesn't have nothing to do 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.000 with me, because my vagina is not a hallway. But 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.240 what you got is a baby Karen, all right, well 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:24.919 do you have you you've been with a small penis guy. Yeah, 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:28.079 I've actually had a small penis boyfriend. And so what's 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.520 your tip for two women dealing with that and for man? 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.800 What can you do to make the experience more pleasurable? Well, 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.480 we had a lot of anal. There was a lot 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:41.120 of oral. Um. I didn't hate. I didn't hate like 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.800 just regular vaginal sex with him, um, but it was 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:50.120 kind of, you know, not fulfilling, to say the least. Okay, 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.800 um man, So he had to do other stuff. Basically, 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:56.720 vibrators are great. Sometimes I can't He use his finger, 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.120 and well I don't. I'm personally not a fan of fingers. 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:02.720 But some times guys that are that have smaller penis is, 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:04.800 if they know what they're doing with it, because like 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:06.440 you said, what the g spot is, it can be 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.080 a good time. They just gotta know how to work 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.600 that little thing, and they gotta think it. They gotta 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:13.240 think rationally because most guys don't think that their penis 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.680 is the smallest they actually is, so they don't study 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:18.920 think and they study thinking they need a magnum. Stop 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:27.040 where Oh my god, that's the worst. Oh my god. 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:30.359 Instead of trying to put a sagnum on that little 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.240 tiny thing, you should just embrace the fact that you 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:33.880 have a small penis and learn how to work with 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:35.960 if you have. That would be my advice to a man. 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:38.640 And you know, we were talking about this earlier, but 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:41.799 a lot of times guys, if they have a small penis, 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.120 they're not trying to have sex with you. And you 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:45.919 were saying, who said one of their friends had a 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:48.799 problem with a guy not wanting to have stout. Yeah, 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.240 one of my close friends. Um, she's in a new 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.880 relationship and he won't have sex with her. Well, they 0:04:54.880 --> 0:04:57.200 did eventually, but it took a while and she like 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:59.320 tried a couple of times and he kind of like, 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:03.920 don't touch my penis now, and then when they finally 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:08.200 did do it, it was like a guy's a big 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:13.400 dick as soon as you're working proud exactly, but it 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:18.200 is belly would you round her a long that's funny, 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:29.680 A long pencil dick, shorter, girthier, yeah, right, not too short. 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:33.120 I like my man short and thick, like my men 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:37.640 like they're win. No, not too short though, you know, yeah, 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.919 not too short. I like girfie penuts. But I'm not 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.680 gonna lie. I do like I do like a bigger dick. 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:45.800 I really do like it. Have you ever had it? 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:50.960 We all like it, but I like pain. Okay, have 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.080 you ever had a penis so big? He turned it down? 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:59.000 I did, yes, yes, a couple of times, like I 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:02.080 don't think they can fit in mouth? No in your mouth? 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.800 But oh no, no no. I went somewhere. I was 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.400 somewhere out and I'd been kind of dating this guy, 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:09.440 and you know, it came to shoot or get off 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:11.360 the pot, and we was making I was like, tonight 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.320 the night he's so fine. Girl. He pulled that out, 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:17.600 I said, lights came on real fast. I was like, 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.719 is that a baby? Four? Are like, what are you doing? 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:22.120 I can't do it? But you could put it in 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:23.680 and I put it in the whole way. No, girl, 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:26.440 I could not tip one fitting. Furthermore, I was like, 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:28.000 what did you want me to do with it. Look 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:29.920 at like an ice cream cone because it's not fitting 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:39.479 any orifice on this body. Oh he was, it was massive. Well, 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.479 let's because somebody asked on Instagram and we asked if 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:45.640 they had questions. Naturally, Ari wantston ow. Can you talk 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.000 about what to do when you get sore from too 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:51.160 much sex? But he still wants it? Well, I would 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:52.960 need to know what the pain is because when you 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.240 start to talk about pain during sex, there are some 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:58.240 health things that I would worry about, and some things 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:02.680 that could be associated with if infection or an s 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:06.440 t I um, because things like HPV or human papal 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.880 lomba virus that can cause displasia on the cervix or 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.960 what we know is cervical cancer. Somebody getting an abnormal paps. 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:16.160 Oh my god, I saw that on Survivor's Remorse. The 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.280 girl had HPV and she had to tell him that 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:22.240 she had HPV. What happened? Yeah, what did happen? Did 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.240 they break up? Um? I mean I don't think it 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:25.720 was a relationship, but she had to tell him. He 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:27.440 had to go get tested, but he couldn't tell if 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.440 he had it or not. Well, that's very true. Can't 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:33.160 men so men are usually carriers and there are no 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.360 side effects. But when you would have something like cervical 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.440 displasia or something like cervical cancer, the beginning signs it's 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:43.000 usually pain during intercourse. Now, but on the flip side 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.600 of that, you know, just saw it from too much, 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:48.400 too much pounding. You can get bruising inside the vagina, 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:50.960 which is very normal. You can get, um, something called 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:54.160 Fisher tears, which is at the bottom of the vagina. 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:59.120 It tears just a little bit because it's kind of 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.240 like when you would get an psotomy. Now, that will 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.239 heal quickly. Um. But what I can suggest is loop 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:06.760 it up, loop it up, loop it up. Also, if 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.600 you're using condoms and you're having a lot of sex 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:13.040 with condoms and you're not using lube, that latex can 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.840 kind of irritate the inside of your vagina. So if 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:17.360 you don't have a loube first of all, if you're 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:19.880 using condoms, please don't go to the kitchen like, oh baby, 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:25.720 I got some coconut because that will compromise. Yeah, it's 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:28.560 great for lo but not for your vagina because it 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:31.840 will compromise the integrity of a condom. Is there something 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:33.840 wrong now? I have a friend who uses loop and 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:36.640 she says she can't get wet. She's like very dry, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.439 but she said that she sneaks and does it. Is 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:43.559 it embarrassing you thing to have to use the loups? 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:48.360 Very embarrassing. I think you gotta because also, you know, 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.520 one of the things of the pussy being good is 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:54.480 that it's all we see. So yeah, but oftentimes what 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:57.040 men fail to remember is that it takes a woman 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:00.640 about fifteen to twenty minutes to go through bossi congestion, 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.800 which is the process where we get wet. So in men, 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:05.760 bossio congestion is where all the blood rushes to their 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:10.160 genital areas. They get the seconds right, yes, like very quickly. 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:12.959 But for women, what is happening is the blood rushes 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:16.360 to our vagina or volva area. It engorges the tissue, 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:20.080 which then expresses moisture. So that's what that wetnesses. So 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.440 it takes fifteen to twenty minutes. So if you're like 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:29.560 you got them, you have to preheat that oven, you know. 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:32.679 So I always advise a lot of four play and 0:09:32.880 --> 0:09:35.880 you know, lick it before you stick it, and then 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.959 if you got to spit on it, telling you guys, 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:42.600 you got to play, you know. Yeah, you can't just 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:44.080 be like, come here and just jump on my dick 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.640 like something you feel like, I just want to jump 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.559 on your dick. That's not lick a nipple. But it 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.880 does four play for you. He does four play for you. 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.760 Ladies start in the bedroom because for me, like I'm 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.720 somebody who gets off on intellect and like smart people. 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:00.920 That's what I'm saying, I want it to start at dinner. 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:04.199 Will you pick me up? Yes? I get to that 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.480 as soon as I get to the guy that I'm 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:17.240 fucking's house, like I'm leaking right yeah. But if you're 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:20.160 not at that point and um, he's ready to go 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:23.480 for it, I definitely recommend some for a plague because right, 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:26.600 ain't nothing more irritating than a guy trying to put 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:29.160 especially with an especially without a condom, trying to put 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:32.920 a penis in a dry as with giant. But what 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:34.880 I have heard a lot of times in talking to 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:37.400 people I work with is it's like, especially women, so 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.040 a man doesn't wait to get them warmed up. Then 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.720 they have sex, and a man can only have one orgasm, 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:44.760 right then they have to go through this refractor period 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:48.160 where they're being some of them, you know, keep going. 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.440 Sometimes people's refractor periods is very quick, so it could 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.480 be like a minute. But as you get older men, 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:58.000 that refractor period becomes longer and longer. However, you know, 0:10:58.120 --> 0:10:59.760 there have been women who have said, oh, well, my 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:02.480 boy a friend has sex with me, and then after 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:05.440 the first time, now I'm super wet because they didn't 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:09.439 take the time to warm my son. Now he's done, 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:12.600 and you're wet. You haven't gotten off, and now you 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:16.920 have turquoise ovaries. Like that's the exact same thing as 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:21.640 blue balls said. Turquoise sounds prettier, doesn't. But just brought 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:23.679 that up though that as men get older, because young 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.280 men like they can just go less nut go again. 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:29.000 But now I was saying to you'all earlier, it seems 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:32.080 like there's this trend of older women with younger men. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:37.000 Clar we look at like Tammy Roman her boyfriend fiance, 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:40.440 he's a lot younger, obviously, women Riah Carey was Nick Cannon. 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:44.160 They're allegedly they're saying Halle Berry is dating Chris Webby. 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.120 He's a young twenty seven year old rapper, you know, 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:49.240 and that's like the new in thing. All these older 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.800 women with younger men, do you think that, um, these 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:53.520 guys are at their peak? I know they say men 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:56.480 sexual peak a lot younger than women do, and they 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.400 know they definitely do. And I think for some of 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:00.240 these women and the women you're naming, these are all 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:04.480 women in their forties, So erectile dysfunction happens to a 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:08.640 large majority of men being forty, right. It's very very common, 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.199 and it's very normal, and unfortunately we oftentimes we're not 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.720 talking in our relationships about things like this. There's stigma 0:12:14.800 --> 0:12:17.560 around a man having e D and having these kinds 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:19.840 of things because then you feel as that women like damn, 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.600 I couldn't get him hired, and then he's embarrassed, right, 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.719 so and then communication breaks down and now all of 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:28.520 a sudden, here you are happy, um with younger men. 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.640 I think that. I think the idea of being like 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:34.800 this mothery hen thing comes in. But the problem is, 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:38.360 oftentimes these men haven't developed the skill set to be 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:41.640 an adult relationship, or you're just trying to get your 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.559 rocks off. And as women get older, they become more inhibited. 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:48.079 So women don't really reach their sexual peak until about 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:51.000 thirty three till like forty, and then once you go 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.320 pass forty, you just don't give a fuck anymore. So 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:56.480 you're like, I'm I'm bread to go. And I have 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.840 heard from a lot of women who have come to 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:02.000 me and said, I'm more horny now in my mid 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.679 forties than I've ever been in my life. And then 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.959 those young guys are just right, they're ready. And then 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.240 younger guys in here that makes it perfect. Can I 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.680 put my hand down further? But who attracts younger guys 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:15.880 in here? I attract them too, I think we all do. 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:18.800 I mean I didn't like younger guys before. One of 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.280 the best, some of the best sex I've ever had 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:29.400 was with ae year old man. But lately, no, I 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.480 mean there are some I mean, there's the benefits of 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:33.240 a younger guy. He can bust in that and then 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:37.640 and then bust another net. Right, they have stamina, they 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:41.560 can keep it going. But what's their minds? Everything that 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:45.439 comes along with that. It's just like right, like when 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:47.760 they said you got text mus is like what's up? 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:52.360 And you're like, w y D, Yeah, you do what 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:56.559 you're doing. But they don't have the wherewithal to be like, hey, 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:58.120 can I take you to dinner, they'll just be like 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:02.000 what up? Because I actually ended up in a young 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.280 situation with a younger man about ten years younger than me, 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.560 and he'd be like what up? And I'd be like 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:11.839 what up? But then the conversation. But a worseman is 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:13.760 like a forty five year old man like what up? 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:16.920 And You're like, hey, you're forty five year old? Would 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:22.040 not have my phone. Well, online dating, now, Michell, I'm 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:24.640 glad you brought that up. You ended up in this situation. Now, 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:28.680 I know we've discussed this. You've done online dating because 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:30.440 I did a lot of you. How do you vet 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.560 people out on on? Because I know there's a stigma 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:34.360 attached to it. I know a lot of people that 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:37.240 have found like their husband or their long term boyfriend 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:41.040 on No keep going because I don't want to discuss 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.480 I know some people that have has worked for but 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.680 I know some people who also feel like, oh, I 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:49.480 can't do that. It's weird, it's crazy. There's some weirdos 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.720 on there. Get out there and meet somebody. What's your take. 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:53.880 I think that you're gonna meet weirdos anywhere you go 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.280 right one too. I don't want to discredit dating apps, 0:14:57.560 --> 0:15:00.960 um too severely because I've how friends that have have 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:04.160 seen some of my writing about dating apps are seeing 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:06.600 another radio segment or something about dating apps and they 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:10.160 were like, but I met this great person. Um. Dating 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:15.000 apps are like a sheep or a wolf in sheep's clothing. Right, 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:18.880 So you know you have casual contact or casual encounters 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.680 on Craigslist and all these things, and people they are 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.400 really honest about what they want. They're like, I'm looking 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:26.760 for a woman to come over and give me a 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:32.320 sloppy blow job, right, Yeah, I really want a woman 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.160 to put a stop on on and but they're still 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.480 paying for that because it's not they're not it's just 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:38.640 people connecting. And there are other websites where people are 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:41.680 connecting sexually. What we're starting to see is that these 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:45.600 dating apps are sexual hookup sites, right, but they're kind 0:15:45.640 --> 0:15:48.680 of mask and this idea of oh, it's gonna be 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:51.680 a relationship. Um, So I think that it's a false 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:57.200 sense of security. Um. I've met some crazys on these 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:59.640 dating apps, and you really kind of what do you 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.880 mean back crazy? So one time I was on a 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:04.560 dating app and this was supposed to be an elite 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:06.520 dating app. I'm not going to say what it is. Okay, 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:08.320 you have to pay, but they said no, you didn't 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.240 have to pay. You had to be vetted and there 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:12.520 was a waiting list. So there are not a lot 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:15.440 that are waiting right, And so this was supposed to 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:17.360 be an elite person. And on the date, do you 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.200 know that this man wanted to ask me multiple questions 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:24.040 about what the largest penis I've been with was? Wow, 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:27.440 first date, I don't know what he's doing. First date. 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.000 I just looked at him and was like, but did 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.280 he have a really big penis? Girl? I did not 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:35.240 find out that night. But did I find out? Ever, 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:40.360 that's either my first date? And asked me about the 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:44.200 man's penis. You're asking and then you can explain it, 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:46.160 and then started texting me, asked me if I had 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:51.680 photographs and if I would penises of penises. He was 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:57.280 by that's so weird. I don't know. I was in 0:16:57.280 --> 0:17:01.440 a relationship where it was open and my partner wanted 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:04.480 to know when and how and all the deats about 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.240 what I did outside of the relationships. Did he want 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.360 to watch, No, but he did want to listen one time. 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:13.520 That's cock holding that's what it's called. It's called cock holding. 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:20.000 So a cock hold doesn't even sound holding somebody. Cock 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:24.359 hold is someone who gets off on their partner having 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:27.240 sex with another person. It's it's a it's a So 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:30.399 all these sexual things that we do revolve around power 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:34.479 and control, and that is a sense of relinquishing power 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:37.280 but still kind of being in control because you've kind 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:41.240 of given permission to do that. So you know, there's 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:42.760 some all kinds of we can talk about all kinds 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:44.719 of Never have been with a guy who asked me 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:50.280 about another guy's penis trying to think the guys don't 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.320 want to know the guy's really he don't want to 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:54.240 know about other guys like Eve don't want to hear 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.679 about it. Yeah, And even when I've gotten caught with 0:17:56.880 --> 0:18:00.320 other guys got it like a question, was not were like, 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:06.240 oh was it good that? Than never asked me that either, 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:08.640 But would you guys? Would you want to know if 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:10.920 your man cheated on you? Would you be like? Where 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:15.119 was it? I would never ask hibody that. At the 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:17.480 end of the day, I don't need to because my responses. 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:20.200 When you're done with the rest, you can come back 0:18:20.240 --> 0:18:23.400 to the best. Maybe that's what I really didn't like. Yeah, 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:26.760 I don't know that. Yeah, I mean I remember I 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.280 um my son's father. He didn't he didn't get caught 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.600 cheating on me, but he was with somebody that I knew. 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:33.479 And I asked him, wasn't good and he was like, 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:37.440 it wasn't better than yours. I was like, that was 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:42.679 answer exactly. That's what. I cried the whole time, or 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:46.760 never I thought I was listening the time. The man 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:48.480 did cry when he was he was just like, oh 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:51.919 my god, it's so good and would be really creepy. 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:54.760 And I think we're when my wather was like one 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:59.680 years old, I'm cried during sex. But if a god 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:04.199 women can do it, men probably would love it for 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:06.639 you to cry during sex. That's the woman. Oh no, 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.439 the guy that I'm sucking right now made me cry 0:19:09.480 --> 0:19:13.080 the other day during sex. How because it was so good. 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:16.520 I started crying. Happened to me? See the guys like that? Now, 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:21.160 what if it was he started crying? Is that weird? 0:19:21.280 --> 0:19:23.920 That would be weird? That would be weird. But I 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:29.440 liked sex with on the T shirt. I've had sex. Um, 0:19:30.119 --> 0:19:33.480 I had sex and where we were both crying what's 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:38.200 weird that sounds like we were going through emotional ship makeup. Yeah, 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:40.959 you're in love and everything and you're both crying. Now, 0:19:41.119 --> 0:19:43.560 we weren't gonna see, I'm not gonna lie that a 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:45.680 guy crying. It has to be like a real reason. 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:52.520 Yeah we were up, No, because but I'm not gonna lie. 0:19:52.520 --> 0:19:54.840 The sex was really good, but we were both like 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:57.480 we were both just in a bad place. Because you 0:19:57.480 --> 0:19:59.080 could bring that ship up later. You could be like, oh, 0:19:59.119 --> 0:20:01.080 don't act like you wasn't crying with your bit I 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:08.880 have later. I'm telling you're not. Your tears were lubricating out, 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:09.879 you know. You say that when he was crying in 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:14.840 this pussy. I really some type of way like the 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:18.439 sex birth slash sex cologist has a much more tame 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:22.480 sex life than you love the lag. How do you 0:20:22.480 --> 0:20:24.920 feel about a man crying during sex? I wish a 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:27.800 mother would, because that's what I'm saying. I haven't had that. 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:31.000 I haven't had that experience I have. It was just emotional, 0:20:31.320 --> 0:20:33.480 you know, it was just a time and so sex 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:36.800 for you emotional. No, we were just sad and man, 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:39.919 we were in love, you know, I mean, sex is emotional. 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:43.600 I'm a woman. So I do feel emotional towards every 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:46.160 person I've had sex. Wo, I definitely don't, at least 0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:51.159 at least at least at least that they counted. So 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:54.679 four out of the total five, yes, four out of 0:20:54.680 --> 0:20:58.960 five fives for su All right, now, somebody else asked 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.399 us a question on Instagram. Amum, this is big ace, 0:21:02.520 --> 0:21:05.280 little deuce. He wants to know. I don't even know. 0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:08.720