WEBVTT - Getting Juicy with Amara 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:11.720 All right, guys, buen and welcome to your show, my show, 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.360 Exactly A Mada. This is your girl, Adela, and I 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:19.200 am so grateful that you guys tune in every Thursday. 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:21.800 UM and this obviously is a production of my heart. 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:26.880 I am so great. You guys are sharing, You guys 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:30.760 are subscribing, you guys are leaving comments, um, and I 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:33.000 love the fact that I read comments all the time 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:34.600 where you're like, oh my god, I can relate to 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:37.360 the story, or I have a friend that's going through it, 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:40.120 or whatever the case may be. I love that. So 0:00:40.200 --> 0:00:42.720 give me all the feedback. Let me know. How are 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:48.440 you enjoying exactly A modem Because I do this show, UM, 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:52.800 I have become completely vulnerable on the show. I've given 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:57.639 you all of me. I've been completely honest, transparent, and 0:00:57.720 --> 0:00:59.600 that's what I love. I love being able to tell 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:01.840 you the truth with about me. Everything is not as 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:05.080 perfect as it may seem on social media, because here 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:07.840 you really get the tea about me. So y'all tell 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:11.080 us and subscribe, rate us, and share this podcast. I 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:14.679 want to continue to grow the Exactly A Matter family, UM, 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.200 and you guys are helping me do that. So Anyways, 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:22.119 today's topic is one of the most important topics um 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:24.160 that I've ever done on the show, because I really 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:26.319 felt that it was important for you guys to know 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:30.200 what is happening down in my kiddy cat, which is nothing. 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:35.559 I am currently not having sex. Okay, So today's topic 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.880 is juicy with a mata, which it should actually be 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:44.600 dry with spider webs with a mata. Um. And you 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:46.679 know what, but I don't say well because I know 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:49.200 that he was the one helping me, helping me break 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:52.480 this down biddle before I get to it. Um my producer, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:56.440 friend banda, Amigo, Coole and all that good stuff. Alex 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:59.640 had to come through to help me, um go through 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:02.080 this because I'm I'm really going through it right now, 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.720 you know what I'm saying, Like I wanted to be juicy, 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:08.760 and it's juicy right now, but nobody's getting it. Alex. 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:11.799 Where you at, bro, I'm over here in Jersey just 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:18.239 keeping it, keeping it man, keeping it, yo, Yeah, Alex, 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.360 Like this is hard. I really thought that now that 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:22.520 I'm pregnant, this would have been like the perfect time 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:25.880 because this is a perfect time for you to get 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:29.560 it in and get freaky and and you know you 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:31.760 have nine months where you can't get pregnant because you're 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:35.040 ready pregnant, so you don't live your best life and 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:39.560 get it in. Bat I haven't gotten it in. I 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:42.760 haven't gotten it in, and I'm so sad about it. 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.119 And is it my choice for you? What's going on here? 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.280 The the audience would really like to know for a 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:51.120 mad because you're a very good looking woman, You've got 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.520 it going on, you have a great career, you have 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.680 a lot of things going for you. Is this my 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:59.000 choice or are you being very selective? Like what is 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:03.800 going on? So? Because what happened was when I before 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:07.040 I got pregnant, I had a man, and then I 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.160 got pregnant and I didn't have man. So then I 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.880 just had to do myself. But that's fine though, because 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:15.000 I played DJ all the time, because let me tell 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.200 you something, I do be horny. I'd be hornie all 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:19.120 the time. I just have to wander, wake and wink 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:22.560 and handle second play DJ. That is the very first 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:24.520 time I've been on this earth for a very long time, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:28.200 and this is the first I'd be like winking and 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.919 I just handled it myself. I'd be scratching the tables. 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:34.120 You know, and I'll be doing it to myself. What 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:36.720 am I supposed to do? I'm not gonna be out 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.800 here in these streets giving up my good you know 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.760 what I'm saying, giving up to the people now, not 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:43.840 to men, to the fact that now as a mother, 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:47.280 because I am a mother, i am protecting the temple 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.400 of my children, and I'm just gonna let anybody come 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:54.560 stick it to me, Helena. So better safe than sorry 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:58.080 and eat rank. Like you know, do I have my moments, 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:01.400 my freaking moments. Of course, I'm a woman, regardless of 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:04.080 being pregnant or not. You know, I have my moments 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.360 where I'm like, I want to be sexually active. And 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.680 it's not just sexually. I think it's more the intimacy 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.000 part that I miss, Like I want to be cut 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:13.960 on me, So let's play foot season. Lie to me, 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:15.960 because that's what men do. Not all of them, but 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.120 most of them. Lie to me. Tell me I'm beautiful 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:20.240 that you never love to be like me? I'm really, 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:23.120 Oh my god, I love it. Yes, So that's what 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:27.760 I missed the most. Fat Other than that, then the doctor, 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:33.000 the doctor told me something, Hey, look, don't memink and 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:36.960 I one of my placenta is actually dropped towards my uterus, 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:41.640 So I'm not supposed to be getting it in because 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.599 I can bleed or it can affect the uterus. Blah 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.480 blah blah. So not even that. My girls won't even 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:50.640 let me get freaking go for the questions. Let's get 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.799 juicy on this show. We get freaky, we get crazy. 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:56.400 We understand this is the nature of the show. But 0:04:56.640 --> 0:05:00.479 there's certain questions that we have not answered. This is 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.480 one of them. What doesn't mean to be good in bed? 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:05.800 What does it mean to be good in bed? I 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:09.120 think that good is being able to find that connection 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:12.279 with your partner. And when I mean connection, it doesn't 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:15.479 necessarily have to be emotional, because now we're talking about 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:19.159 being good in bed specifically, it's just the chemistry. It's 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:22.680 important to have sexual chemistry. Um, that's why I don't 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:26.840 like people. Oh I have the best big and I'm 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.760 gonna tear yourself and all these things I'm gonna do 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:33.080 to you. Shut up. First of all, shut up, because 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:36.600 if the chemistry sexually is not there, I feel like 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.279 it's like it's like a key and a key lock. 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.480 You gotta find the right key that fits to you. 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.200 So that's just what it is. Some girls like, oh, 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.000 I have the best do though whatever is, and that 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:49.440 you may have a good dought to someone that has 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:53.839 a very big penis, for example, but for someone that 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.520 has a little one, you maybe too white, like it's 0:05:56.640 --> 0:05:59.560 you may be loots like you know, she said the 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:02.520 right key for you have to find the right key. 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.640 Once you find it, that's what makes it good, you know. 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:08.560 And some people like to please, some people like to 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:12.120 be pleased. It's just finding that connection when you're in 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:16.560 that space. Um, And I've definitely had a not a lot, 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.760 but I've had some people that are not good in bed, 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:21.440 and I've had something that are good. And let me 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:24.000 tell you something. If I were to find my perfect 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:27.560 man and he wasn't to be the gay, the perfect 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:29.880 key to my luck, oh my god, this is so corny. 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:31.599 That's what I'm trying to be my best behavior. And 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.760 I say, you know, but if he weren't to be 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:37.520 the perfect key to my to my situation, meaning like 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:39.840 if he wasn't he rude, to be small, whatever, I 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:42.680 wouldn't leave him. I was still rock. I was still 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:44.920 right right with him. Because I think there's another thing, 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.760 especially now, in this generation and with society these days, 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.080 we're so concerned just about the sexual part that we 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.120 forget all the amazing other things that we're supposed to 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.440 look for in a partner. You know, it's not just 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:57.000 about the sex. Yes, it's sex important, we obviously know 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:59.640 that there is, but sex is not just about you know, 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:02.440 stick it in and just banging it out. There's intimacy, 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:11.880 there's many other things that you can do. And then 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:14.240 you know that leads me right to my next question. 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:18.920 No matter what, does your ideal one night stand look like? 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.000 I'm are you? Are you a one nice stand type 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:26.920 of girl? Like? Has that ever happened? Shout outs, shout 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.960 outs judgment free zone, my mom, judgment free zone by 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:31.800 the girls that you know what, I'm gonna go out 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:33.600 to the club tonight. I'm gonna finally like I'm gonna 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:36.480 get stabbed with it battle. In my case, I'm not 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:38.560 a one nice stand girl. You gotta lie to me 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:43.520 like me like they all do. Come tell me, take 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:47.520 me out to lunch, to dinner, buy me flowers, buy 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:52.320 me a bag, do something you know and don't say. 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:54.760 The more you do, the more my legs open like 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:57.640 a scissor right and don't say it is there battle? 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.840 Oh how you These days you don't even ask what 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:05.000 people's names are. It's just like, oh, you're hot too. 0:08:05.000 --> 0:08:08.160 Instagram handle, that's what I know you buy. I'm not 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:12.080 exactly what's what's your Instagram? No, I'm not doing it 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.760 so personally, I don't think I have like a dream 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:19.160 one night stand because that's just not me I should afterwards, 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.240 I'm gonna feel dirty. What's your what's your ideal date? Then? Like? 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:24.680 What what gets you all worked up? And you're like, 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.840 all right, let's do this? Man? Like, are you the 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:30.400 type of person that needs super extravagant you know dinners 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.760 like you know you need to go out to the 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:35.800 best restaurants? Are you more low key where you just 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:37.520 want to have fun and get to know the person 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:41.640 one on one? I if I really like you, um, 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:43.880 you don't have to do all the craziness, of course 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:47.959 I want. My biggest thing is always effort. When I know, like, 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:49.640 if you don't get it like that, but I know 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:52.120 that you went out of your way. I love that. 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:55.160 Now if you get it like that, don't be taking 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:58.199 me to the around the corner. No, No, I want 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.480 to see you billys in what your your bill should 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.640 be my rent? And then I'd be like Guancho if 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:09.080 Devomina he's serious, Okay, let's go for But I like 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:11.160 I like efforts. So so a Manna comes over to 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.440 New York to do some business and let's go, let's 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.480 go grab Let's go grab some dinner, right, and I 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.800 take you out to a a really nice pizzeria. You know, 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.520 we just have a slice and hang out and talk. 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.800 Is that you like? Is that something? Is that it 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:26.079 might not be the best effort in the world, but 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:29.000 the person is still having effort in wanting to see 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.160 you and talk to you and get to know you're 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.439 still Is that still good enough for you? Yeah, that's 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.360 still That's definitely still good enough for me. I just 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:37.080 think I'm in a different place in life where I'm 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:39.440 not looking for all the extra extra bougie stuff. I 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.319 just want to know if this is real, like this 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.000 is gonna go anywhere? Do you feel that? And what 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.920 I definitely have learned for my past experience is I'm 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:49.680 no longer doing build a bay. I'm not building a bay. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:52.000 If you don't get your stuff together, faba is a 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.120 rap I feel like we're gonna do this together. Are 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:57.360 we're gonna fight for love together? No, baba, the days 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:00.080 is over. We're in the pandemic time meta, the what 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.319 are dying? We don't have time for this seems to 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.640 be the most reoccurring thing here. People are dying. Let's 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:10.640 get this on, Let's get this Okay, what is uh? Now? 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.920 You know, if you haven't, if you're not really into 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:16.400 the into the one night standing, are you into the 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:19.200 hookup scene? Like? What was what has been the most 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.280 embarrassing thing that has happened to you while hooking up? 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:25.240 If you know, because I'm pretty sure, so you know, 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.240 make making out, you know, getting a little frisky, doesn't 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:30.880 you don't go all the way right? Maybe second base 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:35.280 into third base? Has anything embarrassing has happened to you 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:38.400 while you're making that transition from like okay, cool, put 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:41.160 your hand on my lap too full on making out 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:45.640 or whatever. I've definitely had like bad kissers. That's like 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.800 an embarrassing moment to me because you automatically expected, if 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.560 you really like someone, you have these high expectations of 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:54.480 what it is going to be like to kiss them, 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:56.720 to have sex with them, how they're gonna smell, how 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.559 they're going to touch you, all these things, and sometimes 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:01.960 it doesn't it not to be that way. Um, I've 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:07.720 had really slimy kissers. I hate it. Can you explain 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.600 to the crowd who's listening right now so intensely, like 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:15.679 into their headsets, can you explain to us what what sloppy? 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:20.600 You know, slobbery kissing? I've had cold kissers. The cold 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.120 kissers are the people that kiss you and their mouth 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:27.360 is so cold, like they just ate like a frozen juice. Yeah, 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:29.800 Like why is your blood temperature so cold? What is 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:34.480 wrong with you? Like no, or maybe I'm too hot, 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:41.160 So that's a no. Slimy kissers like that saliva and 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:42.680 they say they be trying to do the most just 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.520 and then you have to wipe the bottom of your 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:50.120 child and the top of your lip, like, watch, don't 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:52.680 do it. You don't have to do all of those things. 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.160 There's a lot of grown people that don't know how 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:55.920 to kiss. There's a lot of grown people that don't 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:58.960 know how to touch you, caress you properly. You know, 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:01.000 these are things that you learn in high school. Where 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:03.559 were you, I don't know. Anyways, a lot of just 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:06.920 sloppin us. They want to spend There's there's a place 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:12.720 in time for that. Um, that's right, Alex. You know 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:16.600 what I'm talking do you do you want to know 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:19.520 how many sexual partners someone you're dating has had. I 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:22.720 know we kind of talked about this once before, but 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.439 it's become more of a recent topic where people were 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:30.160 kind of like they don't care. Some that do are 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.320 looking for that marriage material, so they want to know, 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:35.440 you know, how much, how many miles has been traveled basically, 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.480 but you know, for you is that is that a 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.959 deal breaker? I don't want to know how many sexual 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:45.800 points you've had. You know what I'm saying going out 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.040 with how long we can make it happen. We can survive, 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:50.040 you know what I'm saying. If you have some soap 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.720 and water, we can survive. You know, and you're dangling, 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.280 it's not gonna break. I don't want to know how 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.560 many people you stuck it to. Don't tell me. I 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.480 don't you know what I'm saying, Like, I just don't 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.520 um out. What I do want to know is like, 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:05.920 if for any reason we're somewhere and there's someone you smashed, 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:09.800 it would be nice if you know the little be like, oh, 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:11.280 by the way, you don't feel no type of way, 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:13.960 but I used to date this person. You're okay with that, 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.720 You're okay with the whole communication, Like, all right, that's 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:21.920 a girl that I know, she's gonna be her back out. 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.520 You can just you can just let me know that 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:25.880 that's cool. You know what I'm saying, because I never 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:27.600 wanted it to feel like she has the upper hand 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:30.760 on from far away, she's giving you winksy and I'm like, 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.560 what's going on? No, But I don't want to know 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.320 the guy. And that's another thing. I think it's such 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:41.040 a horrible question. Guys, think listen to me. Whatever you do, 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:44.960 stop being so insecure and so crunchy asking the gay. 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:48.720 Oh so, how many guys have you been before me? Yo, 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.600 with the whole neighborhood, with everybody. I don't think I've 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:54.800 ever asked that question, man, And you know, like, I 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:59.240 don't think I've ever even cared. That's immature to me, 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.800 because like, before you existed, there was other people in 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:05.560 my life and that should be fine. The only thing 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:07.840 that you should be concerned is that I'm clean. That 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:09.680 there's nothing you know that if you stick it to me, 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:13.120 you're gonna you're gonna survive, you're gonna be okay, and 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:15.240 that's it. But other than that, I don't think those 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.480 should be questions that should be asked. Now, flip the script. 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:21.320 What if they ask you, are you like open to 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.680 saying yeah, this is how many people have been or 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.440 do you just diet it right then? And you're like, listen, 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.680 I don't want anything about this. I did it because 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:29.760 I don't want you to judge me. If I'm like, oh, 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.080 I've been with guys, I don't want to be like, 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:36.800 oh my gosh, you're a hort Like maybe I would 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.920 never because then they want you to lie. Then they 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:41.240 want you to lie, and I don't want to. Like 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:42.960 if I had to start a relationship lying, I don't 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:44.680 want to do it. Like how many guys have you 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:48.280 been with? Oh, I've only been with five guys? M 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:52.480 you mean that year in a couple of months. Wait, 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.280 I don't understand. I've even seen someone say like, oh, 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:59.360 you know, like after they hooked up and had sex 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.720 for the first time, they were like, you know, they 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:07.520 were like, oh, you're you're my third Like whoa or second? Yeah? Yeah, 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.040 how do you feel about that like if the guy 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:10.880 were to like turn around and tell you, oh my god, 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:12.120 that was great. You know, I just want to tell 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.360 you right now you you're my third one I've ever 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.040 had in my life. Like what would you Would you 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:18.920 be like, oh, um, great, like whatever, or you'd just 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.520 be like, let's not talk about that, bro Um. I 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.320 would probably not want to talk about it. And if 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.440 I am your third in life, that could be like 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:30.600 a turn off to me. Wow, Okay, that's a little 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:32.680 bit of a turnoff, only because I feel like I 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:34.400 have to teach you a lot of things. It could 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:35.960 be good or it could be bad. It could be 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:37.440 good because I can feel like I can mold you. 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:39.080 I'm gonna fee I'm gonna show you all the things 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:42.400 I like. That's right, And but I'm being you don't 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:43.880 have too much experience. And if you don't have too 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:45.320 much experience, that means you still have a lot of 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:46.800 sucking to do. And I need you to get it 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:50.080 out of your system. I'm out of the cougar. Yeah, 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.000 I want you to go out there and have sex 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.600 with everybody. Jo I like guys that are older. That 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:58.320 means you've already been around the world. Yeah, Yeah, yeah, 0:15:58.280 --> 0:15:59.720 I know, you're the first one to say that. I 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:03.920 know lots of females that love their men, you know. 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:06.880 And I went to college late in my life, right, 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:08.880 I was a marine, so I spent a lot of time, 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:12.240 you know, thank you, between between being in a war 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:15.240 and coming back and being a parent. Um, you know. 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:18.400 So I went to college late, and I noticed that 0:16:18.440 --> 0:16:21.920 a lot. I noticed that a lot girls in college 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:25.240 are like, they could be with the buff you know, 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:29.640 whatever dudes that play football, whatever, soccer, but they see 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:32.360 an older dude, you know, but dad, Bob, they don't 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:42.280 mind jumping on them. Yeah, I don't mind because it's 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:44.920 less stressed. They've already been there, done that. They already 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:46.880 know how to treat you because they've already been around 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.640 you already, you know. And that's another thing, not for nothing, 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:51.720 but if you're with somebody that works from far away, 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:53.560 let's say you're with a marine, or you're with somebody 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:56.440 that that hasn't had a chance to really get it in, 0:16:56.760 --> 0:16:59.160 that's a tough one too. You know. I want you 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.840 to go out there and go funk the whole neighborhood, 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:04.399 and then when you're tired, then we can do this 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:07.240 because you still have you still have some things to 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.359 get out of your system. The same thing goes for women. 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:11.440 If a woman, if a woman dates you and she 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:15.359 just had finished a relationship, they had viva soda. If 0:17:15.600 --> 0:17:18.000 if he just got divorced, he needs to get some 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.000 things out of his system that he's been holding in 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.159 for you know what I'm saying. I think people need 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.800 to go through their stages in life. Wow, that's uh, 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:29.879 that's pretty good, you know. UM. Now for you, for you, 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:35.040 do you how or have you ever, oh my goodness, UM, 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:39.720 been interrupted while doing the deed with a gentleman. Has 0:17:39.760 --> 0:17:42.520 anybody ever walked in on you, whether a parent or 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:47.040 a family member, or or a friend or anything? How 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.159 do you? How do you handle that at that moment? 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:52.480 My mom's in my life all day, every day since 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.040 the day that Um, I you know, she gave birth 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:57.120 to me. What she hasn't cut down political cord yet. 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:59.239 Let me saying something. I love her to the end 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:02.600 of me, but UM, sometimes it's a little bit hard 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.920 because I want to have my privacy and she's never 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:08.560 literally opened the door because I've locked it. But she's 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:11.760 tried to open the door without knowing or she'll be 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:17.520 like ahma or whatever. She would just like kill the mood. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:20.400 And then I obviously already know that for the most 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.320 part in my life, I've always had to have sex 0:18:22.359 --> 0:18:25.000 on mute. So I've always had to do the put 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:29.520 the TV or whatever. And then sometimes my partner doesn't 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:31.320 want to have the TV. You know, you want to 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:32.960 hear it. You want to hear the you know what 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:34.399 I'm saying. Do you want to do? You want to 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:41.720 do the sound effects? He wants to and don't say 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:43.760 if you want to hear so you can get excited. 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:45.280 I'm like, bah blah, I can't do it right now 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:47.480 because as usual, my mom's right next door, so you 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:50.080 have to be like a mute all the time. So 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:53.280 I've learned and let me use some that's kind of bad. 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.920 It's kind of bad. And I realized the more I've 0:18:56.960 --> 0:19:01.840 gone older, I realized how not having the correct intimacy 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:06.680 and being able to feel free sexually vocally, Um, can 0:19:06.680 --> 0:19:11.000 I not come even It makes you not feel completely 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:15.720 sexually open, and that's not good either. So um, so yeah, 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:19.239 have you have you ever been on a date or 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:21.679 not feeling someone you're out with them and lied to 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:26.119 that person? So you can go see someone else. Yeah, yeah, 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:29.040 I did it. I did it. I did it. Is 0:19:29.040 --> 0:19:32.520 that do you do you feel differently now or would 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:34.359 you like go back in time and tell yourself like 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:38.920 hey man, or like hey listen, live life, go get that. Well. 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:42.480 I I left just because I was over it, um 0:19:42.600 --> 0:19:44.359 and I felt more interested in the other person I 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:46.359 was gonna go see, but not because I was like 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:48.000 having sex with one person. Then was either or no. 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.359 But I have You know, I'm a very nice person, 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:54.360 and sometimes it's hard for me to say no, especially 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:57.679 if I see you're very sweet, and it's like, oh, 0:19:57.840 --> 0:19:59.600 I'm gonna have to take advantage of that whenever we 0:19:59.640 --> 0:20:04.720 have to cord I'm so nice. Let's record today. So 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:08.440 um so, Yeah, I've done it. But at the same time, 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:10.240 I haven't felt bad because I'm sure they've done it 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:13.080 to me too. You know. Yeah, that's that's a tough one, 0:20:13.160 --> 0:20:14.800 right when you flip the script and you're trying to 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:17.679 figure things out yourself. You know, these guys do it 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:19.840 to girls all the time. Oh I gotta go, I 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:22.560 gotta go to work, or you know, something just happened. 0:20:23.040 --> 0:20:24.960