WEBVTT - Wellness as a Human Right 0:00:02.360 --> 0:00:09.200 Welcome, Welcome, guys, Dia Amada and you're listening to Exactly Amada, 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:11.720 a production of Ihearts. Thank you so much for tuning 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:12.920 in as usual, and don't. 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:14.320 Forget to give us those five stars. 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:17.840 Subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast platform. 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:20.520 We say yo me dah. It's just so much drama 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:21.079 happening right now. 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:23.840 Between taking care of my girls, I'm doing my podcast, 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.560 working on my real estate, trying to be the best 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.319 mother I can be, trying to be the best daughter 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:28.720 I can be. 0:00:29.200 --> 0:00:30.760 I mean, and every day I'm trying to come up 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:31.480 with a new project. 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:33.919 Now I want to do like a salon or a 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:37.280 restaurant or I don't know why am I such a hustler? 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.400 Is that like a Latino thing that you can't just 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:41.599 have one job. You always feel the need to have 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:43.280 several things going on in your life. 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:44.800 I don't know. Maybe I need to slow down. 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:47.559 But you know who can help me balance out my 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:53.640 mind is my friend, my co host sometimes producer. He 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:55.240 puts up with all my nonsense. 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:56.400 Alex is in the house. 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:58.200 I want to say, I put up with your nonsense. 0:00:58.320 --> 0:00:59.639 I mean, I'm here and I love it. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:02.720 I thank you. I know this. Sometimes I can be 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.559 a lot. Sometimes I'm you. 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:09.200 Know, say yo, I get upset, I get angry, I'm happy, 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:12.240 I be depressed, I'm excited, I be all over the place. 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:13.319 Sometimes you don't think so. 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.760 You wouldn't be exactly a matter if you weren't. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.040 Oooh yeah, love the answer, and you know what, talking 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:23.120 about my craziness in life. I need to zen my 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:26.640 ass down somewhere. I need to have the energy that 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:29.319 our guest has because even though she's the party and 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.160 her energy is so flowy and just good vibes, and 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.640 she always has the best advice, and I just love 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:40.039 how she just handles life. I need more friends like 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:43.480 her that can zend me down and be like a Mada. 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:45.679 You might be going too fast, or you might just 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.920 be having too much coffee, Alex hol do we have today? 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:54.080 Today's special guest is Clear Fountain. She's joining the conversation. 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:58.520 She is a multi talented psychotherapist, yoga instructor, and writer 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:02.000 who brings a unique an honest approach to health and 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.240 well being. With years of experience teaching yoga and working 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:09.880 with top athletes, musicians, and major brands. Player's an expert 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:13.000 in the intersection of well being. Oh, I'm trauma healing, 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:17.680 somatic healing and self worth as a human right, ladies 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:22.920 and gentlemen. As I mentioned before, Claire Founday, I. 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.200 Am so happy to have you on my podcast exactly. 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:28.040 I'm ada because usually my podcast is. 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:30.760 Super you know, late and hype and this and that, 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:34.520 and I always do think it's important to have moments 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:37.680 where we don't necessarily need to be talking about sex 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:40.799 and the you know, raunchy, naughty way, but more. 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:42.200 In an educational aspect. 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:44.480 And I know that you and I had an opportunity 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.600 of meeting and working together at one point. We reconnected 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:51.120 because God's tending is so perfect. We reconnected at the 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:52.160 cheesecake factory. 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:52.680 We did. 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:57.800 We had some great, great conversations. We had a little 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:00.800 cotail here and there. And I invited to to my 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.919 podcast because I just think that you have so much 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:06.919 to offer. Tell me about being a yoga instructor, first 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:08.600 of all, because I definitely need some of that. 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:12.280 Yeah, yoga started a really long time ago. I started 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:14.520 doing yoga when I was in high school because of 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:17.720 depression and anxiety. And I had an aunt from California 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.519 and I just she told me about yoga and I 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:22.520 thought this could maybe help me feel better. And the 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:25.320 things I learned in the relationship with my body and 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:27.160 the amount of feeling I was able to do through 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:30.080 this practice was a bit life changing. And then in 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:33.240 two thousand and nine I started actually teaching, and there 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:35.880 I say, the rest is history. But it's been something 0:03:35.880 --> 0:03:37.960 that I practiced, like on the map, but also off 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:38.360 the mat. 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:42.920 Had you always been this chill, this zen, this relax 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:45.360 about life or do you think you went through a 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.280 stage in life or did anything impactful happen that made 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.440 you transition into you know what? 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:52.480 I just need this this evolution. 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:55.520 I think I was always really a pensive and thoughtful, 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.280 but I had a lot of anxiety when I was younger, 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:03.520 so much anxiety, ruminating thoughts, fixation on body. Just couldn't 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.400 calm down. And then once I got more into the practice, 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.440 I just knew there was another way. I know there 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:09.440 was another way to live. 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:12.120 Your work right now already does focus a lot on 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.280 the intersection of well being, trauma, healing, self worth and 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.320 all these other things. Can you tell us more about 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:24.360 how you bring these elements together in together for your clients? 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.160 Yeah, I don't think we can really separate it. For 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:28.880 a long time, I was thinking, well, maybe I do 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:30.560 this one thing, or maybe I do that one thing, 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.279 And then I realized it's all connected. Right. We can't 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:35.919 separate our mind and our body and our spirit, and 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.279 we can't separate the environments that we're in. We can't 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.600 separate the things happening around us. So I take a 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:44.480 very holistic approach, and I think we're all a sum 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:46.760 of many stories, and we have to look at all 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.560 our stories as a way to possibly feel better or 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:51.000 more so, get better at ceiling. 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.720 You'll get us some achievement. I want to know the gossip, 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:55.920 I forget about that. 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:56.320 Listen. 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:59.880 And I know that you've worked with ath leads, with Ladis, 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:02.440 with all these people you know say in power they 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:06.320 got all that stuff. Can you tell me, like, what 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.800 is their trauma looking like? What is you know like 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.400 do you find that they have similar things in common? 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:13.360 Is healing a little bit. 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.400 More difficult for these people because they are in the 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.400 spotlight or a lot of people expect a lot out 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:21.320 of them. How do you help them, specifically those that 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:23.960 are in the spotlight consistently, how do you help them 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.440 heal from these traumas that they've had in their past. 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.640 Yeah, I mean this adds another layer, right, any public 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:31.919 facing persona and like, can you mail this? There's a 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:35.240 lot of expectation. There's a lot of people projecting, and 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.880 the Internet has given everyone a space to say whatever 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:42.520 they want about whatever they want. Yeah, And it's like, 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.560 I think it can be really dehumanizing. They don't think 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.800 you're a real person, they don't think you have feelings, 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.080 and that can weigh on people. And I know there's 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.560 also this voice of well, you chose this profession, and 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.040 it's not that simple because that means to say, well, 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.080 you don't get to have feelings because you chose this. 0:05:57.279 --> 0:06:00.440 That's not fair. That's not fair. And I realize, like 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.640 humans are humans, right, We have feelings, and our feelings 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:07.279 can get hurt, and when people say nasty things about us, 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:10.000 it's hard to just let it bounce off, you know. 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:11.960 And so it's great, I work a lot. It's how 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.320 can we process that and separate, you know, truth from fiction? 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:17.239 How can we stand in our truth? 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.160 Well, no, do me a therapy right now, because let 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:21.080 me tell you something about me. 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:22.080 What's going on? 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.200 Girl? Let me tell you what the people have said 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.159 that I had heard because it's the truth. But it 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:29.400 really ain't the truth, but the people it's making it 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:30.440 see I it's the truth. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:33.600 There's so obviously you know that me being. 0:06:33.800 --> 0:06:37.120 In the public eye reality TV, a lot of people 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:39.080 believe one hundred percent of the things that they see. 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:43.120 In many occasions, they forget that this is a reality show, 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:44.240 pint pint. 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:48.880 Some things are blown out of proportion, and by the 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:51.640 time something really happens, by the time they hear it 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:55.120 out of the tenth person, the story has already changed. 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:59.400 And in many occasions, my feelings do get hurt. And 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:00.880 I know that I am in the public guy, and 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:02.560 I'm supposed to just suck it up and. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:03.400 Act like it's all good. 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:07.760 But how am I supposed to deal with the commons 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:12.680 of society being judged, rumors created on you. 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:15.360 Know about me? How do I deal with this in 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:16.040 a way. 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:18.920 That it doesn't affect me personally? And I still have 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.200 to deal with it because it's part of my job, 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:22.840 is part of what I do for a living. 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:26.120 Yeah, that's so true, And that's so honest that your work, 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.040 it does. It really kind of stings sometimes, I've sound 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.920 Usually the stuff that stings the most is attached to 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:35.280 deeper stuff that's happened to us, right, So if it's 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:37.840 someone could say something that just doesn't affect us, right 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:39.800 like nah this and that and know, yeah, we'll bounce 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:42.160 it off not really real. But the stuff that maybe 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:47.000 touches at our worthiness, our lovability, our physical appearance. I 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.920 feel like that we've got our worried about that. Media 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.080 loves to go in about how we look or how 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.040 our body was shaped, or who we loved or who 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:56.160 we weren't block with. So a lot of it is 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:59.400 really thinking about what's the core, like when did this happen? 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:01.560 And it may have been long before this profession. 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:11.840 I've realized as an only child, this is an only 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.720 child's syndrome. And if you're out here listening, I know 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.120 that you've been through this. I've realized that it works 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:19.920 for me when I go to my bathroom, when I'm 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.280 in the shower, I cry, I talk to myself, I 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:26.240 give myself advice. Sometimes I give myself words of encouragement. 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:28.520 Sometimes you got to do that, whether you look at 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:30.440 yourself in the mirror, whether you go into that shower 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:31.560 and you cry a little bit and get it out 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:34.200 of your system, because sometimes you hold in so much information, 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.160 so much feelings and emotions inside. 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:37.600 You don't have anybody to talk to. 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:40.280 You feel like everybody's going to judge you. You may 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:42.280 not know exactly how to go about it, and you 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:44.160 need to get it out of your system. If not, 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:48.560 there comes these occasions where people become super angry. There 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:53.599 they're you know, extremely frustrated. And I give myself affirmations 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.120 all the time. You are a Babbage, You're smart. I'm 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:58.520 so proud of you. You've come such a long way. 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:02.080 Like I look at all the things compass. Sometimes you 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.560 need to be able to be your own hype person 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:07.840 when nobody is doing it for you. And I think 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.160 that this conversation is important because a lot of people 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:14.200 feel so lonely these days. Everybody's so caught up in 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:16.600 their own world, and everybody has so many traumas and 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.320 things that they're going through that they have no one 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:22.360 to communicate with honestly, if they find a professional like yourself. 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:25.720 But when you don't have that, what are some things 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:28.600 that you can do to help yourself heal. I know 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:30.880 that yoga is one of those ways. I know that 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:33.199 physical activity, whether it is that you like pilate is 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:35.280 dy like running day, Like, what are some of the 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:36.320 things that you recommend. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.679 I think you've had great examples, Like I would say 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:41.280 the same thing. It gets stuck in your body. We 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:43.920 get angry, we snap on people, we get sick, we 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:46.679 wonder why our bodies ache. The body will speak in 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:48.880 so many ways and so we've got to get that 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:51.440 stuff out. And you're right, I think taking a shower 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:54.439 that can be a massive redset. I'm going to cleanse 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.080 what's happening. I'm going to talk to myself. Having a 0:09:57.120 --> 0:10:00.400 conversation with yourself is great. I mean, having trusted friend's 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:03.600 family walk once is also wonderful. Leaning into community it's great, 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.960 But like you said, sometimes that doesn't feel so safe. 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:10.559 Having informations, keeping a journal, just hyping yourself up, having 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:13.560 a conversation. What would younger you want to hear? How 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:15.559 would you talk to younger you? How would you talk 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:17.960 to someone you love and then talk to yourself? That 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.520 way that reset can change a walk. 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:28.360 I like what you said about about the showering part, 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:31.559 because that is soothing. Another thing is like I'm the 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.080 type of person who like I'm up till super late, 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:36.439 But that's just because of my own trauma with a 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:38.920 PTS and everything, Like, I can't sleep at night, so 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:42.400 that is one thing I do, Like I'm about two 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.920 thirty three o'clock in the morning, go take a shower, 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.480 and it just like calms me down and just it's 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:48.160 time for bed. 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:51.160 It can be totally rounding exercise too. 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:54.600 You know, having issues with your sleep does affect your system, 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:57.600 your nervous system, in many different ways, and that also 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.000 can create a lot of things. I'm one of those 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:02.840 people that have issues, especially now with my daughters that 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.840 are up you know, inconsistently and and now like sometimes 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:09.240 that wake up being angry for no reason but nothing 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:13.880 has even happened, and that's just the sleep deprivation, huh. 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:17.160 Does does affect a lot. So by the way, talking 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:19.240 about showers, you know that I gotta be exactly myself. 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:22.560 Sometimes you might not even just have to, like, you know, 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:27.040 masturbate sometimes, especially for men, in many occasions, if you 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.440 just think, like do what you gotta do, boom, you 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:31.840 feel more happy when you get out of there, life 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:32.760 seems to be better. 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:34.680 Sometimes not just about crying. 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.679 Sometimes it's just about getting whatever it is out of 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.560 your body, out of your system, and those are the 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:42.480 things that nobody wants to talk about. But I do 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.520 think that it's the truth and it's important. And I 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.440 want to ask you, Claire, as a sex positive, sexuality 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:53.199 gender kinky, affirmative and body liberational, you know, a counselor, 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:56.760 you have a very unique perspective on the importance of 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.680 body image and sexual trauma. Can you speak a little 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:03.760 bit about ways in which these issues impact the mental 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:05.400 and physical health and. 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.480 How do you navigate that with your clients. 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.840 Well, it's like everything, I mean, every story is different, right, 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.440 No two people have the same experience exactly in the 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.720 same history, or the same environment, or the same cultural 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:18.480 idea of body and sect and all these pieces. But 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:21.440 the impact is like a ripple effect, right. But I 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.640 think not just about healing, but also about having pleasure, 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:26.800 being able to feel good in our bodies and whole 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:30.800 in our bodies and not shaming or pathologizing anything like that. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:34.000 I agree. I think masturbation and a connection with one's 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:37.640 own body is an amazing stress reduction. It's also a 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:39.720 way to connect back to self. And like you were saying, 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:41.840 who's going to love me more than me? What's one 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.600 of the most loving. Things we can do is find 0:12:44.600 --> 0:12:46.280 a way that we can feel safe and empowered in 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:49.079 our bodies, especially if that has been taken from us. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:51.800 I mean, I know women as actually before, our bodies 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:54.480 are not our own. They go onto everyone but us. 0:12:55.280 --> 0:12:57.920 And so it's a really big moment to say all 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.679 these things might have happened in society, things in our 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.600 environments have happened. But I can take my body back. 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:05.920 I can be the leader and the driver's seat of 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:07.679 my body and things. 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:09.920 And who knows you more than you? 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.800 You know, I definitely know me. I can do me 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.280 in five seconds. And that's what I love about me. 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.800 I've taken enough time forget to know. 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:21.960 Oh Jesus, Oh Jesus. 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.640 No, that's grateful. I think it's wonderful. 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:29.400 What are some boundaries that you know, our listeners are people, 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:33.280 oh raw can put in order to conserve their their peace. 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:36.480 What are those boundaries that you consider people should implement. 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.800 Yeah, I mean boundaries are for us. They're not about 0:13:39.800 --> 0:13:42.200 the other person. It's not you won't do this, it's 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.600 I won't. I'm not going to tolerate this or I 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:48.040 don't go in these spaces. So boundaries will protect us. 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:49.600 Yeah, and so really it's. 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:52.600 Anything like we can give something a silent blessing and 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:54.160 be like, you know what, this isn't going to work, 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.560 and then we can move along. So I think boundaries 0:13:57.600 --> 0:13:59.680 are a really good way to just again, like you said, 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:01.480 you get to a place where you're like, I've seen 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.760 what I needed to see. The lenses are cleared, and 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:06.720 I don't want this type of energy around them. 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.840 I've always wondered when you are a therapist, a counselor 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:16.200 when when whenever you're helping, whenever you're that soul that 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:20.240 you know that I feel that God has selected to 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.800 give you that power of being able to be that 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:26.760 healing heart for other people? How do you deal with 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.560 all that pressure? And I don't want to say negativity, 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.400 but when you're that person, it's like an attorney. An 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.680 attorney wakes up knowing that you got to deal with 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:37.560 everybody's shit. You got to deal with everybody's problems the 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.960 same way that a doctor does. A doctor has to 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:43.080 heal with everybody's illness. How do you how do you 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:47.360 yourself as a person not overwhelm yourself with everybody's issues 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:51.000 because you have to be healing, you know, for them. 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:54.440 Yeah, it's like I've done so much of my own work, 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:57.080 right It's like training. It's like when you train for 0:14:57.160 --> 0:14:58.800 a sport and we think, oh my god, I could 0:14:58.840 --> 0:15:01.400 never run as much a soccer player's run. Well, they 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.600 train for it. Does that make sen I trained for 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.600 this work. I take a lot of care of myself. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.440 I do a lot of practices. It's like, my shoulders 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:11.960 are strong right to hold this and to be able 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:13.640 to hold a space for people. And it's like, have 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:16.320 I not seen some of the darkness of life? I 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.040 don't know if I could do this. So it's like 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:21.120 because of my life experiences, because of things I've been through, it, 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:23.840 I can hold more. And that feels good. It feels like, 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:25.880 let me do this. And then if I ever need 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.280 to take a moment and take a break because I 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.040 can't hold as much space, I do that. 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:30.520 You know. 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:32.800 That's like an offering more. I'm like, hey, I can't 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:35.320 hold as much right now. But yeah, it's just a 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.440 lot of care, a lot of care and keeping of self. 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:40.880 And I also don't see it all as negative. It's 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:42.320 more like the human experience. 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.240 When you think of the word human rights, what does 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:46.200 that mean to you? 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:48.400 The human rights. 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:50.120 Oh, kind of my idea, but like everybody has a 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.080 right to wellness. But it's also looking at like systemic 0:15:53.120 --> 0:16:01.040 issues and environments that don't serve everyone. 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:06.400 With the way things are going in the world right now, fundamentally, 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:12.160 people need mental health, people need closure, people need some 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:17.520 type of boundaries where they can attach themselves to like 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:20.280 minded people to help each other out. That is a 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:25.040 human right, you know, to be able to take care 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:28.040 of each other without judgment man, because right now the 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.760 world seems to be always wanting to judge you for 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:33.240 every single thing that you try to do to help 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:35.080 yourself out. It's hard. 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:35.680 It's hard. 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:39.920 Well, we all want dignity, we all want safety, we 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:41.680 all want to feel connected and like we have a 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:45.320 sense of belonging and we all deserve we should all 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.440 be able to access that and to feel our most 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:51.800 optimal selves. And again, optimal self is really subjective. What's 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:54.360 optimal for you? What's optimize else? But you get to 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:56.000 define that, and that I think is. 0:16:56.080 --> 0:17:00.000 Like we all I just think that when we talk 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.920 about human rights, in my eyes, there's just two versions 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.880 of it. It's like what we deserve, what we are 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.160 supposed to have, just in nature and then here comes 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:12.240 the government. We are failing each other and I think 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.760 that in many occasions, nobody wants to talk about it. 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:16.800 That's why I love this podcast because we talk about 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.160 the things that we may all think but don't want 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:20.160 to talk about. 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:22.119 How can we heal? 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.440 Because if we heal, we pass that energy onto someone else. 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:28.920 Or even just watching you become a better human being 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.679 makes me reflect on the fact that I need to 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:34.840 do better with my life and myself. You know, I 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:37.680 think that's super important. And like I said, nobody wants 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:39.080 to talk about it. But I just feel like we're 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:40.720 feeling each other as humans right now. 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:42.919 And that's why you have Claire, and that's why you 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:46.960 have her, you know, speaking the good word and helping 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:50.119 so many people out because someone like her has taken 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:54.440 the a chance on helping others. 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:59.040 And talking about, you know, helping and changing others. Claire 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:02.240 has a really big following on social media. How do 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:06.160 you use your platform or social media to help those 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:07.480 that are following you. 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:10.000 To some extent? I feel like a professional helper, like 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:12.720 a help we need a resource finess. I got you. 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:14.800 You want to talk about a subject matter that you 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:16.879 don't hear somebody talking about I got you, let me 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:21.320 talk about it. Just a way to share resources, a 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:23.800 way to bring people together, a way to connect people. 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:26.119 Because I think we were talking about like humanity has 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:28.320 been a bit lost, and I would agree, but there 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:31.240 is a lot of strength and like minded, loving people 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:33.840 coming together, and we can always move in a way 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:35.760 of compassion. You know, we can stand up COVID to 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:38.680 right and still move in compassion. And I think we've 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.320 got each other right. Well, people come together, there can 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:43.560