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Speaker 1: got it for all you. Here. It is the strong

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Speaker 1: very letter subject fifty and falling. Here's Stephen Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: always hear you talking about this fifty and fit. Well,

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Speaker 1: I am fifty and falling. How can I join your club? Anyways?

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Speaker 1: I am a fifty year old Hispanic female and I'm

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Speaker 1: I had two secretly secretly have behind his back, and

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Speaker 1: they said that I'm way too old for him, and

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Speaker 1: then I need to leave him alone. But he loves

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Speaker 1: me and I love him, so I don't care about

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Speaker 1: what they say. I've raised four boys and two men.

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Speaker 1: Even though he's thirty three and I am fifty. My

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Speaker 1: boys ages seventeen and fifteen, like him. We are all happy.

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Speaker 1: Another thing is that he won't take me out in

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Speaker 1: public because he and he is embarrassed to be seen

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Speaker 1: with me. I bet you want to know why he

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Speaker 1: is embarrassed to be seen with me. It is because

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Speaker 1: he says that my breast sag too much and that

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Speaker 1: I am too old and wrinkly. He won't let me

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Speaker 1: go shopping. I feel like a caged animal. He even

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Speaker 1: wants me to have his children. But what he can't

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Speaker 1: ain't no way, no way I can have any more

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Speaker 1: me for me. I don't want to change just for

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Speaker 1: someone to marry me. I just don't understand him. Also,

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Speaker 1: in my culture, I am not allowed to date younger

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Speaker 1: men than mere, men younger than me and outside of

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Speaker 1: my race, but I don't care. Love is love, and

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm looking for. Love. Please help me. Kisses

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Speaker 1: fifty and falling, do fifty and fall ling um. This

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Speaker 1: letter is very confusing. Either this man loves you or

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Speaker 1: he doesn't love you. But but I'll start right here

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Speaker 1: to get uh to fifty and flies. What you've been

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Speaker 1: at what you were asking about. It's about what you

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Speaker 1: eat and what you do. So you know you can

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Speaker 1: absolutely do this. Just cut back on you're eating, get

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Speaker 1: into the gym, walk, ride your bike, you know, just

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Speaker 1: get it moving if you wanna, uh you know, lose

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Speaker 1: do it. I mean Steve has proven that for sure. Um.

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Speaker 1: But any changes you make, I gotta tell you this,

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Speaker 1: please make them for yourself and not because this man

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Speaker 1: down to it, this man is not your man. He

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Speaker 1: he doesn't love you. Um. He won't take you out.

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Speaker 1: He says your breast sag and you're too old and wrinkly.

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Speaker 1: Now please tell me where the love is in that?

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Speaker 1: And the ultimate He won't let you go shopping. You

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Speaker 1: feel like a caged animal. Um, you know what you're

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Speaker 1: looking for is love. This is not love. If he

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Speaker 1: these things, or he would encourage you and support you,

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Speaker 1: all of this stuff. And um, you know your friends

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Speaker 1: are probably right you should leave this man alone. And

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Speaker 1: they see more into it than you do. Because they're

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Speaker 1: You know, relationships just really shouldn't be like this. They

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Speaker 1: looking for is love. It's not with this man. So

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Speaker 1: I suggest you leave. Yeah, I am right now. I

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Speaker 1: need to read this letter. Gain read it. Stephen Shell.

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Speaker 1: I always hear you talking about this fifty and well,

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Speaker 1: But he loves me and I love him, so I

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Speaker 1: be seen with me isn't because he says that my

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Speaker 1: But what he can't seem to understand is that I'm

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Speaker 1: I want to go, and a man who wants to

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Speaker 1: for someone to marry me. I just don't understand him. Also,

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Speaker 1: in my culture, I'm not allowed to date me and

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Speaker 1: don't care. Love is love, and that's when I'm looking

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Speaker 1: for love. Please help me. Kisses fifty and falling. You

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Speaker 1: should have changed the subject of his letter. From fifty

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Speaker 1: and falling to fifty and totally confused. And now we

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Speaker 1: are confused. Your whole letter is a letter of contradiction.

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Speaker 1: In my culture, I am not allowed to date men

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Speaker 1: younger than me and outside my race, where you ain't

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Speaker 1: in your culture, no mote in. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: latino you are Hispanic female, but quit telling people you're

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Speaker 1: Hispanic female because you're dating somebody younger than you and

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Speaker 1: out show race. Now, if that's in your culture, then

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Speaker 1: you ain't in the culture, no mode, you are an alien?

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Speaker 1: Or could you be another African American and don't know

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Speaker 1: it because you're dating somebody younger than you and outside

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Speaker 1: Are you really as you say, his spanning? Or I

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Speaker 1: thought the term now was latino. I'm a little confused

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Speaker 1: right there. I don't know what to call you. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what you're doing today. You're very confused. You

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Speaker 1: either Bobby queuing or you just roast in the hall today.

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Speaker 1: I don't really don't know what you're doing on this

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Speaker 1: blessed day. Confused. But when I come back, I'll tell

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Speaker 1: just had to cover that ground. We'll be back with

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Speaker 1: what I think is really happened, all right, Steve, Let's

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Speaker 1: the refuse Latino Hispanic woman who in her culture is

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Speaker 1: She is not only dating a man younger, she's dating

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Speaker 1: an African American man, which now makes her be in

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Speaker 1: considerate of her culture. If that's true, you can make

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Speaker 1: in the white culture too, you're not supposed to marry

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Speaker 1: been out the one news for a bunch of years now.

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Speaker 1: I just want to inform you that we have been

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Speaker 1: mixing it up with each other for a long time now, hallo.

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Speaker 1: So I just want you to know that that you know, dad,

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Speaker 1: how you feel about I don't have problem with it,

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Speaker 1: So I don't have a problem do it. Do what

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Speaker 1: you're gonna do to make sure it was real. Now,

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Speaker 1: you lady, who are fifty dating is thirty three year

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Speaker 1: old man who has nothing but issues with you totally.

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Speaker 1: He don't like the way your breast look. He don't

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Speaker 1: like the way your stomach look. He ain't don't take

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Speaker 1: you nowhere because you're too old and too wrinkly, will

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Speaker 1: not be seen in public with you. You went to

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Speaker 1: your friends about this, that you had to have secretly

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Speaker 1: behind it back because he don't live friends. They said

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Speaker 1: that I am way too old for him and I

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Speaker 1: need to leave him alone. But he loves me and

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Speaker 1: I love him, so I don't care about face saying okay,

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Speaker 1: right there, hold on, hold on, Your friends are merely

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Speaker 1: repeating what he has already told me. You too old

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Speaker 1: for him. That's what your friends say. Did not Mr

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Speaker 1: other day? Didn't he just tell you that? So now

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Speaker 1: how you mad at your friends for just telling you

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Speaker 1: what African then already told Africa I would just call

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Speaker 1: him Africans because he ain't got no name, so his

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Speaker 1: name is African. African controlled you. He don't like you

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Speaker 1: because you're too old. Your breasts said you need to time.

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Speaker 1: It took and it ain't gonna marry you now. You

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Speaker 1: and your stupid mind then said, but I want to

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Speaker 1: marry him, but I don't want to get a breast

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Speaker 1: implant just for somebody else. Okay, now hold on, help

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Speaker 1: help help me out. I just want to change for

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Speaker 1: someone who doesn't want to marry her. I don't see

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Speaker 1: nowhere in the letter where he wants to marry you.

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Speaker 1: Don't see you want to marry him. And you think

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Speaker 1: he hadn't already told you. He man you because you

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get no brush job and a time it took. Listen,

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Speaker 1: if you need to be pushed out in the top

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Speaker 1: and pushed in in the middle, you got a lot

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Speaker 1: of stuff going some ways that nature ain't going right now.

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Speaker 1: And on top of that, you fifty, and he didn't

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Speaker 1: your kids. He wants you to have his kids, but

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Speaker 1: you said you fifty, and there ain't no way I

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Speaker 1: can have any more kids than I already got. You

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Speaker 1: just want a man who will let me go where

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Speaker 1: you want to go on, a man who wants to

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Speaker 1: marry me for me. I don't want to change just

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Speaker 1: for someone to marry me. Well, listen to this breast

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Speaker 1: implants ten thousand tummy tuck set, the five whoa leaving

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Speaker 1: your breast alone and leting your good hangout fars. It

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Speaker 1: won't to price. You ain't got to sit up here

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Speaker 1: and deal with tests. I don't know where you're going

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Speaker 1: to get all this money from for all these adjustments

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Speaker 1: that you obviously don't want to get, and when you

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Speaker 1: get them, I would strongly suggest when you get your

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Speaker 1: new breasts and your tummy tuck, take that new look

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Speaker 1: and get yourself a new man. And he won't let

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Speaker 1: you go shopping. Now you're gonna have all the clothes

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Speaker 1: in that it ain't gonna fit no more because you

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Speaker 1: got bigger chest and now your stomach gone. He won't

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Speaker 1: let you go shopping. Now you're definitely be at the

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Speaker 1: hot walking around kitchen, cooking neck and it won't let

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Speaker 1: you go nowhere. And you still ain't did nothing about

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Speaker 1: the Marines. Li oh, another thirty times him? All right,

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Speaker 1: thank you guys, we gotta go. You know we do.

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