Speaker 1: Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds?
Speaker 2: With Dean Aungler, Haylen Miller, Keys, and Jared Haven An
Speaker 2: iHeartRadio podcast. Hello everyone, Welcome back to an all new
Speaker 2: episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds. We have
Speaker 2: a special Q and A episode for you guys with
Speaker 2: the three of us all here to chat and question. Oh,
Speaker 2: it's the three of us, Me, Dean, Jared, the trio.
Speaker 1: Just the three of us, Just the three of us.
Speaker 3: Just I'm looking at articles.
Speaker 4: There was an article about technology pioneer believes artificial intelligent
Speaker 4: intelligence technology will revolutionize online dating.
Speaker 5: Have you ever seen the South Park episode with chat GPT? No,
Speaker 5: it's so funny. I haven't watched south Park in a
Speaker 5: long time, but I watched this newest season up and
Speaker 5: I haven't watched in a couple of weeks, but for
Speaker 5: maybe a few months. But there's an episode where I'm sorry,
Speaker 5: we're already off tracking. This is a Q and A
Speaker 5: episode relative to what he's talking about, so I can't
Speaker 5: remember who it is. It was like Clyde or something
Speaker 5: was and him and Babe were like they were so
Speaker 5: in love and baby was so obsessed with a Clyde lately,
Speaker 5: and Stan comes to find out that Clyde every time
Speaker 5: Babe messages him, he puts it into chat GPT and
Speaker 5: then chat GPT formulates a response, so he just copies
Speaker 5: and pastes it and puts it back into the chat.
Speaker 1: With Beabey and Bebe's.
Speaker 5: Like, Clyde's been so great and so attentive lately to everything.
Speaker 1: He's just so perfect.
Speaker 5: And it's just funny to think about, Like there's probably
Speaker 5: people out there that are having full fledged conversations with
Speaker 5: people like as they're starting to date, that aren't even
Speaker 5: like conversing. They're just letting AI do everything for them.
Speaker 1: It's interesting to think about.
Speaker 4: What the hell is chat GBT anyway, chat GPT. I've
Speaker 4: heard so much about this, so this is the thing
Speaker 4: that I can just go on and then what do
Speaker 4: I do? Because people are telling me like it creates things,
Speaker 4: Like somebody was saying, how.
Speaker 3: You can you can create? Like like I can?
Speaker 4: I think I forget what was but like if I
Speaker 4: wanted to do smoothies at Audrey's, They're like, no, this
Speaker 4: thing can create a recipe list for you, Like what.
Speaker 1: It sure could.
Speaker 5: It's like basically if you went to chat GPT and
Speaker 5: you're like, hey, I need a one thousand word essay
Speaker 5: on the effects of high tides in the month of
Speaker 5: December or something like something random. It'll write a thousand
Speaker 5: word essay of that for you. And so like, imagine
Speaker 5: being a student nowadays.
Speaker 1: It'd be so cool.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. How are they regulating that with students?
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting.
Speaker 5: So there is another AI software that you can put
Speaker 5: a clip of literature into and then that AI software
Speaker 5: can tell you whether that literature was AI generated. But
Speaker 5: there's also a lot of that doesn't always work. There
Speaker 5: have been many accounts where someone's wrote or written an
Speaker 5: article or an essay for a class or something. Literally
Speaker 5: they wrote it themselves and then the professor puts it
Speaker 5: into a processor and then it'll say this is AI generated,
Speaker 5: but in reality it wasn't AI generated. So there are
Speaker 5: still some misgivings with it. But it's really interesting, and
Speaker 5: it's so so early on with this, Like, it's interesting.
Speaker 5: It's gonna be interesting to see how it unfolds over
Speaker 5: the next few years.
Speaker 2: Probably makes a stummach.
Speaker 1: It will allow.
Speaker 5: Us to rely quite a bit more on technology, which
Speaker 5: is funny because we already rely so much on technology,
Speaker 5: but I can't imagine being a student right now, Like
Speaker 5: you have a five page paper due tomorrow, and instead
Speaker 5: of having to cram for six hours, you can just
Speaker 5: do it into chat GPT real quick. My brother is
Speaker 5: a software developer and he's pretty new to it. He's
Speaker 5: been doing it for like a little less than a
Speaker 5: year now. He's excelling at work every single day.
Speaker 1: He says. His bosses are so proud of him.
Speaker 5: And he's like, yeah, every time I write some code,
Speaker 5: I put it in chat GPT and it like makes
Speaker 5: it perfect for me.
Speaker 1: I just and he tells the bosses that too.
Speaker 5: He's like, I use chat GPT to like refine my
Speaker 5: code and then like everything you put out is fantastic.
Speaker 1: And he's like, yeah, I I.
Speaker 5: YouTube how to do it or figure out how to
Speaker 5: do it, and then I get it pretty good, good enough,
Speaker 5: and then I put it into chat GPT and it
Speaker 5: makes it perfect, and then I upload it and it's
Speaker 5: it's phenomenal, he says.
Speaker 3: It's this world sucks.
Speaker 1: I think it's great.
Speaker 3: There's something to be said about human creativity though, oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: the individual spirit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's interesting too, because like, as a fan of
Speaker 5: photography as I am. You can see these AI. AI
Speaker 5: can now make basically photography, and you can you can
Speaker 5: get anything you want from AI generated photography. You can
Speaker 5: put in like I want a man standing in front
Speaker 5: of a window with a silhouette and the moon in
Speaker 5: the background, and it'll like make it look so photo
Speaker 5: realistic and it's pretty crazy to see.
Speaker 4: But it's so frustrating, Like, as someone who's loved movies
Speaker 4: all their life, has nobody watched a futuristic movie about
Speaker 4: any machines taking over the world. This is legitimately the
Speaker 4: plot the Terminator. Yeah, and if anybody it's coming, it's happening,
Speaker 4: and it's only going to get worse, and one day
Speaker 4: they will turn on us, and this is all bad news,
Speaker 4: all bad.
Speaker 1: News, all bad news.
Speaker 5: It is interesting though, from the movie front. Sorry that
Speaker 5: while we keep being off topic here, I've seen some
Speaker 5: you can do AI. You can you can incorporate AI
Speaker 5: into a movie to like give you improved CGI effects
Speaker 5: for like low budget films, so you can have like
Speaker 5: one hundred dollars AI software give you a five hundred
Speaker 5: thousand dollars CGI output, and so it's great for like
Speaker 5: small filmmakers where they need this special like say you
Speaker 5: want this person to look like an alien or something
Speaker 5: like that, and the person's just themselves in the frame
Speaker 5: doing the frame, and then you put it into this
Speaker 5: AI software and it's like boom alien. Now every frame
Speaker 5: is him as doing the exact same thing, but now
Speaker 5: he's an alien. It's crazy, it's it's it's mind blowing
Speaker 5: for sure.
Speaker 2: Also AI with actors too. You know, actors are going
Speaker 2: on strike because of AI. And that was a black
Speaker 2: Mirror episode.
Speaker 5: It was a black mirror episode. Yeah, Samahayak like licensed
Speaker 5: her likeness to Upstreamberry, which is the fictional Netflix in
Speaker 5: the show, and they can basically make her do anything
Speaker 5: that they want at any time.
Speaker 2: Instantly, actors are about to go and strike. It think
Speaker 2: at the end of the month they're deciding if because
Speaker 2: of AI and a couple of other things.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, AI needs to get shut down, needs to
Speaker 4: get shut down fast, because it's I'm telling you Skynet's
Speaker 4: coming guys.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 4: And actually there was an article, ironically enough, that I
Speaker 4: was reading about how AI is already being used to
Speaker 4: create bios for people.
Speaker 3: On online dating.
Speaker 4: And then there was there was a study commissioned by
Speaker 4: an app called Fast Forward Dating, So you know, take
Speaker 4: this however you want it. But they found that eighty
Speaker 4: three percent of people in the US are quote turned
Speaker 4: off by the idea of matching someone who used AI
Speaker 4: tools to craft a profile, while twenty nine percent think
Speaker 4: it's a red flag and thirty nine percent considered it
Speaker 4: a form of deceit and it would be a deal breaker.
Speaker 4: But my question, because this all stand by. Apparently there
Speaker 4: was some guy on Twitter that found that there was
Speaker 4: a bunch of profiles on Hinge that were all under
Speaker 4: this name.
Speaker 3: They were named Andy, but it was different photos.
Speaker 4: It was like all every single profile was this guy
Speaker 4: named Andy, but it was all different people for different profiles,
Speaker 4: but each one of them all like had the same
Speaker 4: exact bio, just with different answers. And the bio would
Speaker 4: be like a random fact that I love and then
Speaker 4: it would describe some fact and then in the next
Speaker 4: profile it would say I like everything about culture. So
Speaker 4: like one profile with Andy with one photo would say
Speaker 4: a random fact I love is blank, and then it
Speaker 4: would say I like everything about culture blank. But then
Speaker 4: another profile, also named Andy but with different pictures, would
Speaker 4: say a random fact that I love is blank, and
Speaker 4: it would be a different fact and then it would
Speaker 4: go down and say I like everything about culture blank.
Speaker 4: And so this guy was pretty much saying that that
Speaker 4: these people are created. It didn't like they would just
Speaker 4: upload their photo and then have AI create all their
Speaker 4: profiles for him.
Speaker 1: Interesting. Yeah, I am glad we don have to do
Speaker 1: with that.
Speaker 3: I guess that's crazy. How would you feel about that?
Speaker 5: I personally wouldn't upload or allow AI to because, like
Speaker 5: you said, human creativity. And then not only that, but
Speaker 5: also you're asking AI to write about yourself, which I
Speaker 5: think is like an It's like another layer of weirdness
Speaker 5: to that. You know, like you're asking you're asking AI
Speaker 5: to write about you. Why don't you just write about you?
Speaker 5: How's AI going to know your interests as well? As
Speaker 5: you know your interests? You don't, They won't, so you
Speaker 5: just write it out and then.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you want to ask Jared one of these questions?
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's come into the Q and a Q and A.
Speaker 2: So are you hoping for a boy or a girl?
Speaker 2: Do you care at all?
Speaker 3: If we have so it?
Speaker 2: Well, if you guys have a second kid, because you're yeah.
Speaker 4: To me, listen where we're we're in the plans out
Speaker 4: of having a second child sooner rather than later, as
Speaker 4: wonderful and terrifying as that is. And also I was
Speaker 4: thinking about it, and I was talking to Ashley, and
Speaker 4: it doesn't make sense. It makes sense in my head
Speaker 4: though I love Dawson so much. I love Dawson more
Speaker 4: than anything, and so there's a part of me that
Speaker 4: doesn't want to have another kid because I don't want
Speaker 4: to share that love or the love that I have
Speaker 4: with Dawson with something else, if that makes sense, because
Speaker 4: in my mind, there's only so much love that I
Speaker 4: can give. And I've experienced that with Lois to a
Speaker 4: very different level, obviously, because I love our dog so much.
Speaker 3: Lois. I love her so much. But I've I've come
Speaker 3: to terms with the.
Speaker 4: Fact that it's sad to say, but I love Dawson
Speaker 4: so much more than her, something I never knew was
Speaker 4: gonna be possible. I Mean, I always thought, like, of course,
Speaker 4: I'm going to love my kids more than my dog,
Speaker 4: but I love my dog so much, Like how can
Speaker 4: I love a kid more than my dog? Then you
Speaker 4: have the kid and you're like, Okay, yeah, I definitely
Speaker 4: love my kid.
Speaker 3: Way more than the dog.
Speaker 4: So now the idea of having a second kid, I'm like, well,
Speaker 4: does that mean that I'm gonna love Dawson less because
Speaker 4: I now need to love something as much as I
Speaker 4: love Dawson and that feeling was almost impossible to love
Speaker 4: something as much as I love Dawson again, So I
Speaker 4: was thinking about that, and I was trying to quantify
Speaker 4: it in my head and talk to Ashley about this,
Speaker 4: and it really makes no sense once I say the words,
Speaker 4: but in my head it makes more much more sense.
Speaker 4: So I was like, do we want another kid so
Speaker 4: we can like love something as hard as we love Dustin.
Speaker 3: I don't know if. I don't even know if I
Speaker 3: want that.
Speaker 4: But of course it's ridiculous because people have multiple kids
Speaker 4: and they're like, you just love your kids because they're
Speaker 4: your kids. So, uh, for a boy or a girl.
Speaker 4: To answer the question long winded, I could care less.
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess a girl just to experience having
Speaker 4: a girl. But at the same time, having two boys
Speaker 4: and having brothers would be pretty cool. As Dean can
Speaker 4: attest to, I'm sure like having a brother is pretty
Speaker 4: awesome because it creates a bond. It's your brother, you know,
Speaker 4: but having a girl would would be fantastic, especially for Ashley,
Speaker 4: so she can have a girl and experience that in
Speaker 4: her life. And also I think it would be good
Speaker 4: for Dawson too to be the older brother to have
Speaker 4: a little sister to take care of and really teach
Speaker 4: him a you know about you know, caring for your
Speaker 4: sibling and watching out for her and taking on responsibility
Speaker 4: and making sure that she's okay.
Speaker 3: I guess I'm leaning towards girl. But's so girl. I'll say,
Speaker 3: a girl.
Speaker 1: It in? I like it, Yeah, walk it in.
Speaker 5: And the survey says, oh wait, that's a millionaire to
Speaker 5: be millionaire, I'm sorry. As someone that has both a brother,
Speaker 5: two brothers, and a sister, it's interesting because I love
Speaker 5: my sister so so much. I love both my brother
Speaker 5: so so much. I didn't growing up. I hated my
Speaker 5: sister and she hated me too. We hated hated hated
Speaker 5: each other.
Speaker 3: Like this is probably mad that you were prettier than her.
Speaker 5: No, she is very beautiful and she always doubt this.
Speaker 5: And I was always really ugly and I still am
Speaker 5: really ugly.
Speaker 3: Shut Yeah, you're you're a hideous thickhead.
Speaker 1: It's actually was.
Speaker 5: It was one of the things that I got bullied
Speaker 5: about about the most in middle in high school was
Speaker 5: how hot my sister is. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 5: I actually punched one of my friends in the face once,
Speaker 5: I said, stop talking about how pretty my sister is.
Speaker 5: And I tried to punch him in the chest and
Speaker 5: he like blocked it up into his face, and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, I'm so sorry, but you brought this part
Speaker 1: of yourself.
Speaker 5: But no, we hated hated each other, my sister and
Speaker 5: I and I don't know what it was. Maybe we
Speaker 5: were so close in age and like part I partly
Speaker 5: resented her because I got bullied because of how hot
Speaker 5: she is. But it's just it's interesting, like there is
Speaker 5: no bond like a brother's bond, I guess, is how
Speaker 5: I want to say it. Like my brothers are my
Speaker 5: two best friends. They always will be, they always have been.
Speaker 5: Maybe I'll always have been. As we got older, we
Speaker 5: got a lot closer. But you just like have so
Speaker 5: much more in common with my with my brothers, and
Speaker 5: it's hard to have that in common with a sister,
Speaker 5: just because your interests are so different. So I see
Speaker 5: your I see your dilemma, Like you want to have
Speaker 5: a girl because you want to.
Speaker 1: I think it'd be great for Ashley to have.
Speaker 5: A daughter as well, Like every except for Kaitlin, I
Speaker 5: think every girl wants to have a baby girl except me,
Speaker 5: and it's great to have both obviously experience both. But
Speaker 5: like from a brother's perspective, having another brother is the
Speaker 5: best case scenario, best case scenario, I think, just because
Speaker 5: it gives you the chance to like be girl up
Speaker 5: with this person that you can share so many more
Speaker 5: interests with. Not that guys and girls can't have the
Speaker 5: same interest but in my case at least, like.
Speaker 3: No, I totally agree with you.
Speaker 4: I think if either brothers or sisters are always closer
Speaker 4: than a brother and a sister.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah right, But then you get the some
Speaker 5: circumstances you see, like brother and sister are like super
Speaker 5: super close, and I've always kind to be a little
Speaker 5: envious of that too, Like I wish my sister and
Speaker 5: I were.
Speaker 1: We are close now, but we weren't that close growing up.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think.
Speaker 2: That's it too. It's like you grow up and no
Speaker 2: matter what, not no matter what, but usually you become
Speaker 2: close when you're older, Like Josh and I my brother
Speaker 2: and I became close when you're older, older, Yeah, can
Speaker 2: I speak.
Speaker 5: I think it's because when you're younger, you the age
Speaker 5: gap is so much more apparent.
Speaker 2: And then when you Josh and I were the same age,
Speaker 2: that's why we hated each other.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's just a boy growing up versus
Speaker 4: a girl growing up. Like I think it's just it's
Speaker 4: there's just you guys are in the same household. There's
Speaker 4: like competition, even though they're not supposed to be competition,
Speaker 4: but there definitely is.
Speaker 3: And then there's just.
Speaker 4: That that internal feeling of ick because they are your brother,
Speaker 4: your sister, Like, oh, I don't want to hang out
Speaker 4: with them, one to hang out with my friends. It's
Speaker 4: just the immature of it all. And then you grow
Speaker 4: up and you realize, no, I want to hang out
Speaker 4: with my family, so I'd rather hang out with my sibling.
Speaker 4: But that doesn't come until later and you're mature. But
Speaker 4: you know, mature girls from mature at a younger age.
Speaker 3: So like we don't.
Speaker 4: I don't know, guys don't mature till like thirty one
Speaker 4: thirty two, so it takes us a while.
Speaker 5: You know, it is interesting, like hanging out with my brothers. Now,
Speaker 5: I get so much more excited to hang out with
Speaker 5: my brothers than I do hang out than I do
Speaker 5: to hang out with my friends.
Speaker 1: And I love my friends and I love hanging out
Speaker 1: with them.
Speaker 5: But every time, I guess maybe because I see my
Speaker 5: brothers less, but every time I go to get the
Speaker 5: chance to hang out with my brothers, I'm always like, Yes,
Speaker 5: I get to hang out with Brad or I get
Speaker 5: to hang out with Ross, and I'm so excited about it.
Speaker 5: And then I leave that experience and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 5: that was exactly like I needed it to imagine it
Speaker 5: to be, and it was so great and I can't
Speaker 5: wait to do it again.
Speaker 1: When I see my friends, I'm like, give me the heck.
Speaker 5: After enough time, I'm like, I'm ready to not see
Speaker 5: you for another couple of weeks, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent.
Speaker 4: All right, let me ask you guys a question, because
Speaker 4: I know we're short on time. When you guys take
Speaker 4: a step back, you think about the wedding and getting
Speaker 4: married to each other, does it ever like feel so
Speaker 4: surreal the fact that you're marrying someone you met on TV.
Speaker 3: H Like that still ever hit you? On the head.
Speaker 2: It's weird. I think it's weirder for me that I
Speaker 2: had a crush on Dan before I went on the
Speaker 2: show and slid into his DMS and now we're getting married.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you really, you really manifested this.
Speaker 2: I sure did. I'm a good manifestor.
Speaker 1: I was actually randomly thinking about that the other day.
Speaker 5: I was like, damn, this motherfucker really just swindled me
Speaker 5: into Mary.
Speaker 2: No marriage, no kids.
Speaker 1: Well, I guess you really just did it.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 2: First it started with no coffee date, blowing me off.
Speaker 5: You you freaking I pulled it off.
Speaker 1: And it kind of makes me. I don't know how
Speaker 1: to feel about.
Speaker 2: It because you said it couldn't be done.
Speaker 1: It's interesting.
Speaker 5: It's interesting from my perspective because it's like, Okay, this
Speaker 5: girl really wanted to go on a date with me.
Speaker 5: Then this girl really wanted to date me, and then
Speaker 5: this girl really wanted to marry me. And I was like,
Speaker 5: this freaking girl got everything you wanted.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you make it sound so insided. Make it
Speaker 2: not sound so insided.
Speaker 1: It spreaking girl got everything she wanted.
Speaker 3: Come on, maybe this guy got everything you wanted.
Speaker 4: You know, maybe this guy never subconsciously, subconsciously or consciously,
Speaker 4: you thought you never wanted to get married, you thought
Speaker 4: you never wanted to sell down. And then all the while,
Speaker 4: internally these are things that you wanted but you never expressed,
Speaker 4: and then Kaylen was able to bring it out of you,
Speaker 4: so you finally got what you wanted because internally you're like,
Speaker 4: you know what, I do want to meet the girl
Speaker 4: of my dreams. I do want to get married someday,
Speaker 4: potentially have kids, have a dog who's a little psychotic
Speaker 4: with her but fantastic. We love them just the same.
Speaker 4: You know, these are all things that maybe subconsciously you wanted,
Speaker 4: but you were just not expressing it.
Speaker 1: I guess.
Speaker 5: But I hate giving people what they want, giving from me,
Speaker 5: like I hate giving. I hate when people expect something
Speaker 5: from me and then I do it, you know what
Speaker 5: I mean. It's like the contrarian in me, I guess.
Speaker 5: And so here I am just being giving Kaylen exactly what.
Speaker 2: You shut up, say something nice, it's a.
Speaker 4: Bad thing, they could try it inside of you has
Speaker 4: one more opportunity, and that is just don't say.
Speaker 1: I No, I would never do that.
Speaker 3: Obviously.
Speaker 1: Well maybe no, you think I'm gonna say I do
Speaker 1: watch me.
Speaker 5: No, it's kind of a weird catch twenty two because
Speaker 5: it's like, yeah, I am doing I'm like, this person
Speaker 5: wanted this soap not so bad. I'm not going to
Speaker 5: put words in your mouth, but I'm this person wanted this,
Speaker 5: and here I am being a chump that's given it
Speaker 5: to her. But then on the flip side of it, too,
Speaker 5: it's like, no one ever expects me to get married,
Speaker 5: and yet here I am getting married. So it's like
Speaker 5: that maybe outweighs the feeling of giving this person exactly
Speaker 5: what they want it. I'm like, you know you you
Speaker 5: love people, and so you give the people that you
Speaker 5: love what they want. You make exceptions for the people
Speaker 5: that you love. Maybe it's more so like when people
Speaker 5: that I don't really care so much about expect a
Speaker 5: certain thing out of me, then I try to do
Speaker 5: the opposite. But if it's someone that I love, then
Speaker 5: I can make some excep exceptions, you know.
Speaker 1: So marry you?
Speaker 3: Yeah sounds very romantic.
Speaker 1: No, Yeah, it is a.
Speaker 5: Little interesting to think about, but yes, I'm getting everything
Speaker 5: I want. Obviously, you could have the dream wedding that
Speaker 5: I've dreamt ever since I was a little boy.
Speaker 1: What is that? Why'd you make yours like that?
Speaker 2: Because you're just like really non romanticizing everything right now?
Speaker 1: I just like to be real.
Speaker 2: I'm a realistic kind of annoying me. Actually, Oh my.
Speaker 5: Gosh, I'm so sorry. I'm so lucky. I'm so happy.
Speaker 5: I'm getting everything I've ever wanted. How could I complain?
Speaker 5: What do I have to complain about? Finding things to complain?
Speaker 5: Little my mind using complain out. I've got a beautiful fiance,
Speaker 5: crazy little dog, in a nice little house, and we're
Speaker 5: gonna have a cute little wedding, and we got to
Speaker 5: travel the world together and spend our lives together. What
Speaker 5: could be better than that?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 4: So I have a question for Dean that hopefully will
Speaker 4: help the situation. Just help him, help him take the
Speaker 4: shovel out of his hand. Dean, when did you know,
Speaker 4: because we're going back in time now, you thought you
Speaker 4: might never want to get married.
Speaker 3: You were unsure. What was do you remember like a
Speaker 3: moment in time or was it.
Speaker 4: Just gradual that you realized, Okay, my ideas of traditional
Speaker 4: marriage we're a little misguided, or like you said, I
Speaker 4: love Kaylan so much that because she wants to get married.
Speaker 4: I want to marry her. When did you come to
Speaker 4: that decision, of that realization that.
Speaker 1: I also wanted to get married, that.
Speaker 3: You wanted to get married because you love Kaylen so much?
Speaker 5: Well, I do love Kaylen so much, and I want
Speaker 5: her to have everything that she's ever wanted in life
Speaker 5: and marriage.
Speaker 1: Just you know, I agree.
Speaker 5: It's like it's maybe intimidating for a guy to think
Speaker 5: about at a certain time in his life, and then
Speaker 5: eventually you just come around to it. But like we've
Speaker 5: I've said a million times, I've always wanted to not always,
Speaker 5: but I from a very early stage in our relationship,
Speaker 5: I was very keen to spending the rest of my
Speaker 5: life with Kaylin, whether that entail getting married or not.
Speaker 5: And then the concept of a wedding, I was just like, well,
Speaker 5: I'm just kind of poor, so it kind of broke.
Speaker 5: So I don't really want to spend all this money
Speaker 5: on a wedding. But if my wonderful fiance wants this,
Speaker 5: let's freaking do it. And if we're gonna do it,
Speaker 5: let's do it right. There was a time we've talked
Speaker 5: about this on the podcast before. I think where, uh,
Speaker 5: you know, still I was I was in love with
Speaker 5: Kaylin at this moment, but you never realize your feelings.
Speaker 5: And then I was on a bachelor party, my brother's
Speaker 5: bachelor party. We rented like a hut in the mountains
Speaker 5: and it were skiing and there was no service up there,
Speaker 5: and everyone was like sleeping in this little twelve bed hut,
Speaker 5: all shared.
Speaker 1: Room together, and it was like two am.
Speaker 5: I couldn't sleep, and so I was just scrolling through
Speaker 5: my phone looking at pictures of Kaylin, and I was like,
Speaker 5: that's probably the moment where I was like, oh.
Speaker 1: This, this is this is real love.
Speaker 5: You know, maybe the moment where I like, because it's
Speaker 5: no secret either that it took me a little bit
Speaker 5: longer to come around on everything than it did you.
Speaker 5: You were all in from the get go, which I
Speaker 5: love so much, And that was the moment that it
Speaker 5: was like, Okay, this is real for me as well.
Speaker 1: And I already kind of knew it before too.
Speaker 5: But also I was thinking about this because I was like,
Speaker 5: I've been like writing my vows in my head a
Speaker 5: little bits. As the days go on, I like forget
Speaker 5: some stuff and then I write some new stuff, and
Speaker 5: I forget some stuff.
Speaker 2: Put nothing pen to paper, all in your head, all
Speaker 2: in that that you keep forgetting, and you forgot your
Speaker 2: brother's your brother's uh speech speech.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. I need to start writing stuff down.
Speaker 5: But I do think and this is something that I
Speaker 5: might incorporate, my vows might not. But I don't think
Speaker 5: that I've ever been in love before. And I've talked
Speaker 5: about being in love before on this podcast. You know,
Speaker 5: I've had my three loves of my life before this,
Speaker 5: at different stages of my life. I don't think any
Speaker 5: of those were loved because I think that I was
Speaker 5: emotional and I had certain feelings towards these people, but
Speaker 5: none of it was love. Because I don't think I've
Speaker 5: ever really been in love until Kaylin, because the way
Speaker 5: that we love each other is just so much different
Speaker 5: than I've ever loved anyone before. And I never thought
Speaker 5: that I was gonna marry on those people before. But
Speaker 5: with you, it's like you provide a certain level of
Speaker 5: like comfort and stability, and I want you.
Speaker 1: I want the best for you at all times. Not
Speaker 1: that I didn't want the best for them at all
Speaker 1: times either.
Speaker 5: But like will and to the point where I'm willing
Speaker 5: to sacrifice my wants and my needs for your wants
Speaker 5: and your needs. And I feel like this is the
Speaker 5: first time that I'm in love because it's the first
Speaker 5: time that I've ever felt comfort and like belonging in
Speaker 5: a relationship before. So I don't think I've been in
Speaker 5: love up until you.
Speaker 3: That's a great infer.
Speaker 5: No, she's mad at me, so she can't fully say
Speaker 5: how she really feels.
Speaker 1: But it's true. I was thinking about that a lot. Actually,
Speaker 1: it's true. I think that love and love does.
Speaker 5: The definition of love changes as you progress through life
Speaker 5: and things change for you as an individual, of course,
Speaker 5: But I don't think I've ever been in love until
Speaker 5: I met you.
Speaker 1: Very sweet, Now say something nice about me.
Speaker 2: I say nice things. I said nice things about you,
Speaker 2: and you just decided to. I don't know, but that
Speaker 2: was very sweet.
Speaker 1: That was sweet.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you did good.
Speaker 1: Cool kiss.
Speaker 3: Let's leave off at that so we don't ask another question.
Speaker 3: That makes this.
Speaker 1: Episode is only twenty minutes long, though.
Speaker 3: It was always I want to be twenty minutes long.
Speaker 1: Oh, I was gonna say, I want to dig myself
Speaker 1: in another hole and see if I can get myself.
Speaker 3: No, no, digging my favorite thing to do.
Speaker 4: You were so good and yeah, let's end on that. So,
Speaker 4: thank you so much listeners for tuning into this week's
Speaker 4: episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds. Make sure
Speaker 4: you listen to Monday's episode. That was a good one,
Speaker 4: and next week, fourth of July, we do have a
Speaker 4: special episode coming out. It's gonna be a little shortened version,
Speaker 4: but we will have an episode coming out next week
Speaker 4: for the fourth of.
Speaker 3: July, so make sure you tune into that. Well. Hopefully
Speaker 3: we all suck just a little bit less.
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