WEBVTT - Tossing the Q&A Bouquet 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.560 Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:05.600 With Dean Aungler, Haylen Miller, Keys, and Jared Haven An 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:11.200 iHeartRadio podcast. Hello everyone, Welcome back to an all new 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:14.440 episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds. We have 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.159 a special Q and A episode for you guys with 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:23.079 the three of us all here to chat and question. Oh, 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:27.480 it's the three of us, Me, Dean, Jared, the trio. 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:33.400 Just the three of us, Just the three of us. 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:36.600 Just I'm looking at articles. 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:40.320 There was an article about technology pioneer believes artificial intelligent 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:44.800 intelligence technology will revolutionize online dating. 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:50.839 Have you ever seen the South Park episode with chat GPT? No, 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:53.720 it's so funny. I haven't watched south Park in a 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:56.040 long time, but I watched this newest season up and 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:58.000 I haven't watched in a couple of weeks, but for 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:01.320 maybe a few months. But there's an episode where I'm sorry, 0:01:01.320 --> 0:01:03.200 we're already off tracking. This is a Q and A 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:07.240 episode relative to what he's talking about, so I can't 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:08.919 remember who it is. It was like Clyde or something 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:12.399 was and him and Babe were like they were so 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:15.080 in love and baby was so obsessed with a Clyde lately, 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:18.360 and Stan comes to find out that Clyde every time 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.800 Babe messages him, he puts it into chat GPT and 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:24.639 then chat GPT formulates a response, so he just copies 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:26.360 and pastes it and puts it back into the chat. 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:29.400 With Beabey and Bebe's. 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:33.480 Like, Clyde's been so great and so attentive lately to everything. 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:34.600 He's just so perfect. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:37.000 And it's just funny to think about, Like there's probably 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:39.720 people out there that are having full fledged conversations with 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.000 people like as they're starting to date, that aren't even 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:45.560 like conversing. They're just letting AI do everything for them. 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:47.240 It's interesting to think about. 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:52.360 What the hell is chat GBT anyway, chat GPT. I've 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.760 heard so much about this, so this is the thing 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:56.320 that I can just go on and then what do 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:59.680 I do? Because people are telling me like it creates things, 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:01.640 Like somebody was saying, how. 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:06.120 You can you can create? Like like I can? 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:08.600 I think I forget what was but like if I 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:11.520 wanted to do smoothies at Audrey's, They're like, no, this 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:15.359 thing can create a recipe list for you, Like what. 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:16.040 It sure could. 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:18.160 It's like basically if you went to chat GPT and 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:21.560 you're like, hey, I need a one thousand word essay 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:26.160 on the effects of high tides in the month of 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.000 December or something like something random. It'll write a thousand 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:32.000 word essay of that for you. And so like, imagine 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:32.920 being a student nowadays. 0:02:32.960 --> 0:02:33.480 It'd be so cool. 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.560 That's the thing. How are they regulating that with students? 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:36.400 Well, it's interesting. 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:38.919 So there is another AI software that you can put 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:43.440 a clip of literature into and then that AI software 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:47.560 can tell you whether that literature was AI generated. But 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:50.760 there's also a lot of that doesn't always work. There 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.640 have been many accounts where someone's wrote or written an 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.640 article or an essay for a class or something. Literally 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:58.760 they wrote it themselves and then the professor puts it 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:02.320 into a processor and then it'll say this is AI generated, 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.359 but in reality it wasn't AI generated. So there are 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:06.960 still some misgivings with it. But it's really interesting, and 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:10.320 it's so so early on with this, Like, it's interesting. 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:12.520 It's gonna be interesting to see how it unfolds over 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:13.320 the next few years. 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:14.880 Probably makes a stummach. 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:16.960 It will allow. 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.000 Us to rely quite a bit more on technology, which 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:21.400 is funny because we already rely so much on technology, 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:23.120 but I can't imagine being a student right now, Like 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.480 you have a five page paper due tomorrow, and instead 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:27.680 of having to cram for six hours, you can just 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.120 do it into chat GPT real quick. My brother is 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:33.560 a software developer and he's pretty new to it. He's 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:35.200 been doing it for like a little less than a 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:38.280 year now. He's excelling at work every single day. 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:39.880 He says. His bosses are so proud of him. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:41.440 And he's like, yeah, every time I write some code, 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.240 I put it in chat GPT and it like makes 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:44.000 it perfect for me. 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:46.280 I just and he tells the bosses that too. 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:48.400 He's like, I use chat GPT to like refine my 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:51.120 code and then like everything you put out is fantastic. 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:52.960 And he's like, yeah, I I. 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:54.600 YouTube how to do it or figure out how to 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:57.240 do it, and then I get it pretty good, good enough, 0:03:57.280 --> 0:03:58.880 and then I put it into chat GPT and it 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:00.760 makes it perfect, and then I upload it and it's 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:02.200 it's phenomenal, he says. 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:03.880 It's this world sucks. 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:05.680 I think it's great. 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.880 There's something to be said about human creativity though, oh yeah, yeah, 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:11.160 the individual spirit. 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.680 Yeah, it's interesting too, because like, as a fan of 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:17.400 photography as I am. You can see these AI. AI 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:20.120 can now make basically photography, and you can you can 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:22.800 get anything you want from AI generated photography. You can 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:24.800 put in like I want a man standing in front 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.440 of a window with a silhouette and the moon in 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.520 the background, and it'll like make it look so photo 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:31.320 realistic and it's pretty crazy to see. 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:36.320 But it's so frustrating, Like, as someone who's loved movies 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:42.480 all their life, has nobody watched a futuristic movie about 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:46.400 any machines taking over the world. This is legitimately the 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:52.600 plot the Terminator. Yeah, and if anybody it's coming, it's happening, 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:55.920 and it's only going to get worse, and one day 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:59.080 they will turn on us, and this is all bad news, 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:00.440 all bad. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:01.599 News, all bad news. 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.919 It is interesting though, from the movie front. Sorry that 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:06.560 while we keep being off topic here, I've seen some 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:10.120 you can do AI. You can you can incorporate AI 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:14.960 into a movie to like give you improved CGI effects 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.160 for like low budget films, so you can have like 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:20.800 one hundred dollars AI software give you a five hundred 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.880 thousand dollars CGI output, and so it's great for like 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.599 small filmmakers where they need this special like say you 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.719 want this person to look like an alien or something 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:32.520 like that, and the person's just themselves in the frame 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:34.000 doing the frame, and then you put it into this 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.960 AI software and it's like boom alien. Now every frame 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.240 is him as doing the exact same thing, but now 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:43.000 he's an alien. It's crazy, it's it's it's mind blowing 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:43.360 for sure. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:46.640 Also AI with actors too. You know, actors are going 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:48.200 on strike because of AI. And that was a black 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:48.760 Mirror episode. 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.960 It was a black mirror episode. Yeah, Samahayak like licensed 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:57.040 her likeness to Upstreamberry, which is the fictional Netflix in 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.640 the show, and they can basically make her do anything 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:01.520 that they want at any time. 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.440 Instantly, actors are about to go and strike. It think 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.000 at the end of the month they're deciding if because 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:08.560 of AI and a couple of other things. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.440 Yeah, yeah, AI needs to get shut down, needs to 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:15.320 get shut down fast, because it's I'm telling you Skynet's 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:16.120 coming guys. 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:16.800 Uh. 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.480 And actually there was an article, ironically enough, that I 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:23.680 was reading about how AI is already being used to 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.000 create bios for people. 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:27.520 On online dating. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:32.800 And then there was there was a study commissioned by 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:36.479 an app called Fast Forward Dating, So you know, take 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.279 this however you want it. But they found that eighty 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:43.279 three percent of people in the US are quote turned 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.640 off by the idea of matching someone who used AI 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:50.800 tools to craft a profile, while twenty nine percent think 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:53.480 it's a red flag and thirty nine percent considered it 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.600 a form of deceit and it would be a deal breaker. 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:01.320 But my question, because this all stand by. Apparently there 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:06.440 was some guy on Twitter that found that there was 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:10.679 a bunch of profiles on Hinge that were all under 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:11.200 this name. 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:14.320 They were named Andy, but it was different photos. 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.800 It was like all every single profile was this guy 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:21.640 named Andy, but it was all different people for different profiles, 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.440 but each one of them all like had the same 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:27.400 exact bio, just with different answers. And the bio would 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:30.040 be like a random fact that I love and then 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:33.680 it would describe some fact and then in the next 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:36.360 profile it would say I like everything about culture. So 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:39.160 like one profile with Andy with one photo would say 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:41.120 a random fact I love is blank, and then it 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.200 would say I like everything about culture blank. But then 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:47.800 another profile, also named Andy but with different pictures, would 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:49.960 say a random fact that I love is blank, and 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:51.840 it would be a different fact and then it would 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:54.440 go down and say I like everything about culture blank. 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:58.120 And so this guy was pretty much saying that that 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:02.200 these people are created. It didn't like they would just 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:05.280 upload their photo and then have AI create all their 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:06.040 profiles for him. 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.400 Interesting. Yeah, I am glad we don have to do 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:10.720 with that. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:14.080 I guess that's crazy. How would you feel about that? 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:18.560 I personally wouldn't upload or allow AI to because, like 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:21.800 you said, human creativity. And then not only that, but 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:25.040 also you're asking AI to write about yourself, which I 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:29.240 think is like an It's like another layer of weirdness 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:31.440 to that. You know, like you're asking you're asking AI 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:33.600 to write about you. Why don't you just write about you? 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:36.319 How's AI going to know your interests as well? As 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:38.720 you know your interests? You don't, They won't, so you 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.000 just write it out and then. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:41.800 I don't know. 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:56.679 Yeah, do you want to ask Jared one of these questions? 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:59.920 Yeah, let's come into the Q and a Q and A. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:03.839 So are you hoping for a boy or a girl? 0:09:03.880 --> 0:09:04.559 Do you care at all? 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.760 If we have so it? 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:10.360 Well, if you guys have a second kid, because you're yeah. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.640 To me, listen where we're we're in the plans out 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:17.480 of having a second child sooner rather than later, as 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:23.680 wonderful and terrifying as that is. And also I was 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:26.880 thinking about it, and I was talking to Ashley, and 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:29.439 it doesn't make sense. It makes sense in my head 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:32.400 though I love Dawson so much. I love Dawson more 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:35.640 than anything, and so there's a part of me that 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.520 doesn't want to have another kid because I don't want 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:41.200 to share that love or the love that I have 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:44.319 with Dawson with something else, if that makes sense, because 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.240 in my mind, there's only so much love that I 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:49.000 can give. And I've experienced that with Lois to a 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:53.360 very different level, obviously, because I love our dog so much. 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:56.240 Lois. I love her so much. But I've I've come 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:57.120 to terms with the. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:10:01.520 Fact that it's sad to say, but I love Dawson 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:04.600 so much more than her, something I never knew was 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:06.959 gonna be possible. I Mean, I always thought, like, of course, 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:08.360 I'm going to love my kids more than my dog, 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:09.760 but I love my dog so much, Like how can 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:12.120 I love a kid more than my dog? Then you 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:14.280 have the kid and you're like, Okay, yeah, I definitely 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:14.800 love my kid. 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:16.400 Way more than the dog. 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:19.200 So now the idea of having a second kid, I'm like, well, 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.680 does that mean that I'm gonna love Dawson less because 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:24.760 I now need to love something as much as I 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.760 love Dawson and that feeling was almost impossible to love 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:31.640 something as much as I love Dawson again, So I 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:33.400 was thinking about that, and I was trying to quantify 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:35.560 it in my head and talk to Ashley about this, 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:37.800 and it really makes no sense once I say the words, 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:39.760 but in my head it makes more much more sense. 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.960 So I was like, do we want another kid so 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.839 we can like love something as hard as we love Dustin. 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:47.600 I don't know if. I don't even know if I 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:48.160 want that. 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:52.160 But of course it's ridiculous because people have multiple kids 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:54.560 and they're like, you just love your kids because they're 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:57.880 your kids. So, uh, for a boy or a girl. 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:02.360 To answer the question long winded, I could care less. 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:04.720 I mean, I guess a girl just to experience having 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:08.080 a girl. But at the same time, having two boys 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:11.760 and having brothers would be pretty cool. As Dean can 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:15.680 attest to, I'm sure like having a brother is pretty 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.960 awesome because it creates a bond. It's your brother, you know, 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:24.719 but having a girl would would be fantastic, especially for Ashley, 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.040 so she can have a girl and experience that in 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.120 her life. And also I think it would be good 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.600 for Dawson too to be the older brother to have 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:33.600 a little sister to take care of and really teach 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:38.320 him a you know about you know, caring for your 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:41.599 sibling and watching out for her and taking on responsibility 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.440 and making sure that she's okay. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:49.760 I guess I'm leaning towards girl. But's so girl. I'll say, 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:50.280 a girl. 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.960 It in? I like it, Yeah, walk it in. 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.760 And the survey says, oh wait, that's a millionaire to 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:02.880 be millionaire, I'm sorry. As someone that has both a brother, 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:06.200 two brothers, and a sister, it's interesting because I love 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:08.440 my sister so so much. I love both my brother 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:12.040 so so much. I didn't growing up. I hated my 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:15.280 sister and she hated me too. We hated hated hated 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:15.720 each other. 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:18.520 Like this is probably mad that you were prettier than her. 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:23.360 No, she is very beautiful and she always doubt this. 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.240 And I was always really ugly and I still am 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:26.760 really ugly. 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:29.360 Shut Yeah, you're you're a hideous thickhead. 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:30.800 It's actually was. 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:32.080 It was one of the things that I got bullied 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:34.760 about about the most in middle in high school was 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.280 how hot my sister is. And I was like, oh, 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:39.080 I actually punched one of my friends in the face once, 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.200 I said, stop talking about how pretty my sister is. 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:43.480 And I tried to punch him in the chest and 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:45.240 he like blocked it up into his face, and I. 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:47.400 Was like, I'm so sorry, but you brought this part 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:47.880 of yourself. 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:51.240 But no, we hated hated each other, my sister and 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.120 I and I don't know what it was. Maybe we 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:56.200 were so close in age and like part I partly 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.280 resented her because I got bullied because of how hot 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:02.480 she is. But it's just it's interesting, like there is 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:06.240 no bond like a brother's bond, I guess, is how 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:07.800 I want to say it. Like my brothers are my 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.480 two best friends. They always will be, they always have been. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:12.840 Maybe I'll always have been. As we got older, we 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:16.160 got a lot closer. But you just like have so 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.480 much more in common with my with my brothers, and 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:20.160 it's hard to have that in common with a sister, 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:23.840 just because your interests are so different. So I see 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.480 your I see your dilemma, Like you want to have 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:27.960 a girl because you want to. 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.079 I think it'd be great for Ashley to have. 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:32.679 A daughter as well, Like every except for Kaitlin, I 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:35.000 think every girl wants to have a baby girl except me, 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.240 and it's great to have both obviously experience both. But 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:43.880 like from a brother's perspective, having another brother is the 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:47.640 best case scenario, best case scenario, I think, just because 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.600 it gives you the chance to like be girl up 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.160 with this person that you can share so many more 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:53.920 interests with. Not that guys and girls can't have the 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:56.000 same interest but in my case at least, like. 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:57.440 No, I totally agree with you. 0:13:57.520 --> 0:14:02.439 I think if either brothers or sisters are always closer 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:03.560 than a brother and a sister. 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:05.920 Yeah, yeah, yeah right, But then you get the some 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.280 circumstances you see, like brother and sister are like super 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:10.400 super close, and I've always kind to be a little 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:11.959 envious of that too, Like I wish my sister and 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:12.319 I were. 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:14.640 We are close now, but we weren't that close growing up. 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:16.160 But yeah, I think. 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.240 That's it too. It's like you grow up and no 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:21.240 matter what, not no matter what, but usually you become 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:23.200 close when you're older, Like Josh and I my brother 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:26.240 and I became close when you're older, older, Yeah, can 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:26.720 I speak. 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:28.880 I think it's because when you're younger, you the age 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:30.080 gap is so much more apparent. 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:32.040 And then when you Josh and I were the same age, 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:33.240 that's why we hated each other. 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:39.080 Yeah, I think it's just a boy growing up versus 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:42.360 a girl growing up. Like I think it's just it's 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:44.960 there's just you guys are in the same household. There's 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:47.560 like competition, even though they're not supposed to be competition, 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:48.440 but there definitely is. 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:49.520 And then there's just. 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:55.720 That that internal feeling of ick because they are your brother, 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:57.600 your sister, Like, oh, I don't want to hang out 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.280 with them, one to hang out with my friends. It's 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:01.160 just the immature of it all. And then you grow 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:02.520 up and you realize, no, I want to hang out 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.720 with my family, so I'd rather hang out with my sibling. 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:07.120 But that doesn't come until later and you're mature. But 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:09.680 you know, mature girls from mature at a younger age. 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:10.440 So like we don't. 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:12.760 I don't know, guys don't mature till like thirty one 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:15.320 thirty two, so it takes us a while. 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:19.040 You know, it is interesting, like hanging out with my brothers. Now, 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:21.240 I get so much more excited to hang out with 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.120 my brothers than I do hang out than I do 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:24.360 to hang out with my friends. 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:26.080 And I love my friends and I love hanging out 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:26.600 with them. 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:28.320 But every time, I guess maybe because I see my 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.520 brothers less, but every time I go to get the 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:32.480 chance to hang out with my brothers, I'm always like, Yes, 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:34.120 I get to hang out with Brad or I get 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:35.960 to hang out with Ross, and I'm so excited about it. 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:37.720 And then I leave that experience and I'm like, oh, 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:40.520 that was exactly like I needed it to imagine it 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:41.880 to be, and it was so great and I can't 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:42.600 wait to do it again. 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:44.560 When I see my friends, I'm like, give me the heck. 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.080 After enough time, I'm like, I'm ready to not see 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:48.680 you for another couple of weeks, you know what I mean? 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:50.160 Yeah, one hundred percent. 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:52.480 All right, let me ask you guys a question, because 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.640 I know we're short on time. When you guys take 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:59.040 a step back, you think about the wedding and getting 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:03.000 married to each other, does it ever like feel so 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:07.360 surreal the fact that you're marrying someone you met on TV. 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:11.400 H Like that still ever hit you? On the head. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.520 It's weird. I think it's weirder for me that I 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.240 had a crush on Dan before I went on the 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:18.600 show and slid into his DMS and now we're getting married. 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:21.160 Yeah, you really, you really manifested this. 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.440 I sure did. I'm a good manifestor. 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:25.920 I was actually randomly thinking about that the other day. 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:29.120 I was like, damn, this motherfucker really just swindled me 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.000 into Mary. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:31.960 No marriage, no kids. 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:34.000 Well, I guess you really just did it. 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:34.200 Well. 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.760 First it started with no coffee date, blowing me off. 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:42.880 You you freaking I pulled it off. 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.800 And it kind of makes me. I don't know how 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:45.600 to feel about. 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:47.200 It because you said it couldn't be done. 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:48.560 It's interesting. 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:51.160 It's interesting from my perspective because it's like, Okay, this 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:53.280 girl really wanted to go on a date with me. 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:54.800 Then this girl really wanted to date me, and then 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:56.760 this girl really wanted to marry me. And I was like, 0:16:56.800 --> 0:17:00.520 this freaking girl got everything you wanted. 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:03.120 Yeah, but you make it sound so insided. Make it 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:04.280 not sound so insided. 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.080 It spreaking girl got everything she wanted. 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:09.679 Come on, maybe this guy got everything you wanted. 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:14.240 You know, maybe this guy never subconsciously, subconsciously or consciously, 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:16.640 you thought you never wanted to get married, you thought 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.600 you never wanted to sell down. And then all the while, 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.160 internally these are things that you wanted but you never expressed, 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.000 and then Kaylen was able to bring it out of you, 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:26.919 so you finally got what you wanted because internally you're like, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:28.280 you know what, I do want to meet the girl 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.439 of my dreams. I do want to get married someday, 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:33.400 potentially have kids, have a dog who's a little psychotic 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:35.879 with her but fantastic. We love them just the same. 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:38.399 You know, these are all things that maybe subconsciously you wanted, 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:39.959 but you were just not expressing it. 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:40.880 I guess. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:45.119 But I hate giving people what they want, giving from me, 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:48.359 like I hate giving. I hate when people expect something 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:50.520 from me and then I do it, you know what 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:52.639 I mean. It's like the contrarian in me, I guess. 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:56.919