WEBVTT - Ep 87 "Six Flags Over #WTB"

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<v Speaker 1>We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. He

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<v Speaker 1>talks back back. Yeah, what's up y'all? Thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back,

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<v Speaker 1>a show dedicated to these niggas. And you host, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what's your co host? A J what's up? Team?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey y'all. Hey everybody, it's your girl, Tam Bam. I

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<v Speaker 1>love y'all. Thank y'all once again for coming to see us.

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<v Speaker 1>And we got a guest house today. Yeah. Hey, I'm sure,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm and I'm just excited to be here because I

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<v Speaker 1>love y'all. Show somebody to talk back and talk some ship. Hey, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Shawnji is my my Instagram friend. I don't know when

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<v Speaker 1>we started following each other, but she's a super dope

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<v Speaker 1>artist Okay from Brooklyn. Yeah, tell our listeners a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit about yourself, what you got going on. I paint

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<v Speaker 1>like a lot of vaginas. I think other things too,

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<v Speaker 1>but I mostly known from my vaginas. Take them to

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<v Speaker 1>look like really pretty and just nice and ship like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And I like to paint things that's like from like

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<v Speaker 1>my life story. So that's basically where most of my

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<v Speaker 1>art comes is probably why I like, I painted a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of giants at the time when I was paying

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<v Speaker 1>the collection, you know, so what you like pussy like that,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the thing. Everybody asked me that, but I really don't,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm strictly dicky, but it's just like I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's like the power in it, I'll say, and like

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<v Speaker 1>the power that it possessed, and like from painting that

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of realized, like even like posting on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>like my dms were looking at so crazy, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>like I barely post myself strictly from artwork. So I'm like, okay, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I went to your Instagram page and those pussies do

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<v Speaker 1>look like flowers. Oh no, my look like it though

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<v Speaker 1>look a little different than that. Everybody's gran look different,

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<v Speaker 1>but I promise you was gonna looks like a beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>flower to the right person. And it's crazy because when

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<v Speaker 1>I started paying them, I didn't even look at mine,

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<v Speaker 1>and then then I was painting with it. I was like, oh, ship,

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<v Speaker 1>because this isn't such like an odd place like you

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<v Speaker 1>asked people like, have you ever actually seen it? You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. That's like when people do like

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<v Speaker 1>an no bleaching. I'm like, but have you even seen

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<v Speaker 1>You're asking nobody to be bleached even know what it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like. Yeah, so Sean Sean is gonna be co

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<v Speaker 1>hosting with us today, so let's get into our weekends.

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<v Speaker 1>What the hell y'all had going on? Again? I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do much in nothing. I just hung out. I did

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<v Speaker 1>go out to dinner. Um, I'm dating, that's what the

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<v Speaker 1>funk I'd be doing, lying always like I ain't do nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she her weekend be fools. It's not foolish.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just me doing regular things and sometimes I might

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<v Speaker 1>do it with somebody else, but other than that, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just what I'm saying. That's that's not true. But not

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend, I had afro punk and like this was

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<v Speaker 1>this was like the first time doing afro punk in Brooklyn.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it maybe like two years, so it was

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<v Speaker 1>like it come back afro punk and it was fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we met a lot of dope people. And then I,

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<v Speaker 1>like Loki Hokey, like ran into like Burning Boy's wife

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<v Speaker 1>because like she came to her booth and when she

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<v Speaker 1>was like talking us and ship and I was just

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<v Speaker 1>like talking her up. So I was like oh um,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like because she was eating, so I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh what is I was like, She's like, no, I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta the b I P. And I was like oh,

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<v Speaker 1>like um, she was like yeah, but I hate festivals.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, why are you here? She was like

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<v Speaker 1>fro my husband. I was like, oh, what's it your husband?

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<v Speaker 1>She was like he's bird of boy and I said really.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, I'm happy to know that he's

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<v Speaker 1>actually gonna be here. Because I had went to gonna

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<v Speaker 1>see him in Atlanta, he didn't show up. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like I was like mad excited to see him, but

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<v Speaker 1>it was like every time I went to gonna see

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<v Speaker 1>him eating, this show up. So I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>get excited for Africa. I was I'm not gonnacited. So

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<v Speaker 1>I see him soon. So when I see her, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, wow, this is your head and me

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, he's really here, He's really gonna perform. So

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<v Speaker 1>now he performed it it was like a dope b

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<v Speaker 1>asst it was. I was happy he was there. I

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<v Speaker 1>was happy to trying to get to see him. So

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't he with uh Stefan Stefan DN? So he was

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<v Speaker 1>married then or he's married after because I know just

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<v Speaker 1>recently he was um some other Jamaican rapper or artists

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<v Speaker 1>a woman UM took like little sneaky pictures of him

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<v Speaker 1>in the bed with her. Yeah. Yeah, I was like

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<v Speaker 1>you miss, I was saying, it's like, is that really him?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I had googled it later. But then I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know how sometime I can't have multiple ways because

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<v Speaker 1>I repeated it to her and she didn't look crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, you know, like sometimes I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe it's like one of his wives, and she'd just

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<v Speaker 1>be like incongnigo. She was like, yeah, I hate coming

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<v Speaker 1>to festivals, its like, and she like really wasn't the

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<v Speaker 1>because we were crossing from the v I P. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like maybe she was working with me. But

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<v Speaker 1>he did perform what you had going on town, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't do ship this weekend. I didn't have uh

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<v Speaker 1>nothing going. Oh I'm lying. My mama birthday, I went

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<v Speaker 1>to Columbia. Damn, I sun that up. I'm sorry, Mama.

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<v Speaker 1>Friday night I didn't go nowhere because I was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to recoup my money from uh bawling out in Jamaica

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<v Speaker 1>last week. So I had to chill this weekend. It

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<v Speaker 1>was either chill I go on a date. And I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't feel like being bothered with no dates, so I

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<v Speaker 1>just chilled. And then Saturday, I went down to Columbia,

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<v Speaker 1>South Carolina. It was my mom thirty seventh birthday and said,

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<v Speaker 1>thirty seven. That's what she said. I had that. I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to do the kick in my head. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, thirty that's what we were celebrating, y'all. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what to tell you. That's what she said.

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<v Speaker 1>I respected so right, And you said that ship so

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<v Speaker 1>casually like it was right right, it was correct. And

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<v Speaker 1>we watched um, the new Top Gun movie or the

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<v Speaker 1>newer Top Gun movie that came out. That ship was

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<v Speaker 1>so good. I was on the edge of my seat. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all gotta watch it. Actually really really good. Because I

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<v Speaker 1>chose to go see um Doctor Strange over that that

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<v Speaker 1>was probably good too, but not Top Gun is something else.

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<v Speaker 1>I really enjoyed it. So we sat there and let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell you what I did. I made a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, why don't have nets sweet for your birthday? Y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>We need to get some dessert. I was like, take

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<v Speaker 1>mama to go get her some doughnuts or cake or something.

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<v Speaker 1>So my sister and my mom went to go get

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<v Speaker 1>some dous so I could. I did that so I

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<v Speaker 1>could smoke a joint outside. Why didn't gone like y'all

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<v Speaker 1>need to get about it? It is we really, God

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<v Speaker 1>is the same thing. When I go to visit my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and at lasts and I know you know, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>just smoke, I like open the window in my bedroom,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know she know i'd be highest. I try

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<v Speaker 1>to be respectful at least not smoking in front of

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<v Speaker 1>her rights exactly. That's all. I'm in a hotel and

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<v Speaker 1>like steam it out and ship. But I think they

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<v Speaker 1>caught me on the ring camera anyway, So I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>wan't fooling nobody, y'all. So let's let's get into stupid

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<v Speaker 1>internet news, all right. So I wanted to start with

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<v Speaker 1>the purge, the so called purge that's supposedly happening in Illinois.

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<v Speaker 1>Had y'all seen that they're calling this something like a purge, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not really a purge. So apparently they're getting

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<v Speaker 1>rid of their cash bonds system um in Illinois. So

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<v Speaker 1>what that means is people can get out of jail

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<v Speaker 1>until the right So I don't know why they're calling

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<v Speaker 1>it a purge. I take offense to it personally because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, y'all, y'all think about your nigga is

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<v Speaker 1>about to get out the niggas that can'tform bond about

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<v Speaker 1>to get out of jail. Yeah, that's exactly what it is,

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<v Speaker 1>because there are no more criminals than the rich people

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<v Speaker 1>are people who can't afford their bond who get out

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<v Speaker 1>of jail and still be on the street to commit

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<v Speaker 1>crime until they go to court. It's the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the crazy part about it. All right, here's

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<v Speaker 1>the list of offenses for which Illinois law enforcement cannot

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<v Speaker 1>detain criminals. So you can commit aggravated battery, aggravated d UI,

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<v Speaker 1>aggravated fleeing, arson, burger burglary, drug induced homicide, intimidation, kidnapping, robbery,

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<v Speaker 1>second degree murder, and threatening a public official and then

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<v Speaker 1>go home. What did drunk induce homicide? Though? Like, you

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<v Speaker 1>get high and killed somebody and go right, O, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you know you or you supplied them You supplied them

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<v Speaker 1>with the drugs that caused him to die. Oh snap,

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<v Speaker 1>I think you're right, because now I said you got

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<v Speaker 1>high and they killed somebody. I think you're right. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I found to I'm like, man, I like

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<v Speaker 1>making motherfucker's crazy. No, so stupid. Yeah, so um. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that the cash bond system should have been revamped

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<v Speaker 1>a long time ago because you know, it kind of

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<v Speaker 1>plagues the lower income communities, people who can't afford. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you all a perfect example. Do y'all

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<v Speaker 1>know who text tone is? And we actually he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>have a bond at all, so I can't really talk

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<v Speaker 1>about him, but he has literally been in county jail

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<v Speaker 1>for six years, waiting on court. So if they're they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have a cashless uh, if they're gonna get rid

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<v Speaker 1>of cash bonds, they need to really really do speedy trials.

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<v Speaker 1>So if somebody belongs in prison, you'll need to hurry

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<v Speaker 1>up and convict them. There's no reason why somebody should

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<v Speaker 1>be sitting in county jail because they won either don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a bond or can't afford the bond, and they're

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<v Speaker 1>waiting on waiting for court. Because as far as I'm concern,

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<v Speaker 1>if they sitting jail to three or four years, you've

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<v Speaker 1>already convicted them time serves. No, it's true something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>My home girl's sister, her name was Lane Lean, and

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<v Speaker 1>she actually passed away at Rikers Island. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>basically like the same thing. Yeah, it was. It was

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<v Speaker 1>a big thing. Like they ended up suing the city.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they finally got their settlements, so like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really happy for her, but like yeah, like, um, she

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<v Speaker 1>was in just she started having like a seizure or

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<v Speaker 1>something and the thing. But it was like it was

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<v Speaker 1>the same thing. It was like cash bond. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it was like five dollars something like that, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was like for something real stupid. But you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>that's how the city be taking money from people. It's

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<v Speaker 1>really some bullshit. Like I'm really happy that they're finally

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<v Speaker 1>closing on Rikers Island because there'd be people in there

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<v Speaker 1>waiting for a court dating there for like months. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like they're kidnapping people off the streets. It's

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<v Speaker 1>lynn concern. Yeah, we're not your slavery because you really

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<v Speaker 1>don't in county jail and stuff. You're not working. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you get this lazy. It's like we're just it's just

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<v Speaker 1>so Rikers Island was a county jail, it's not it's

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<v Speaker 1>a jail because can your city is kind of different.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't want to I don't know if it's

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily county, but I know it's like a holding place,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's not a prison. So it's so I think

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<v Speaker 1>like it would basically be considered in a sense like

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<v Speaker 1>a county jail because it's not. It's not a president

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<v Speaker 1>it's really just like a holding place until you're ready

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<v Speaker 1>to go to court. Yeah. So yeah, So I mean

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<v Speaker 1>by holding people family members in a county jail, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you're forcing the family now to pay for phone calls,

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<v Speaker 1>to play for canteen and all these things when they

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<v Speaker 1>have an event actually been convicted of a crime yet.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like you're punishing, punishing the person in prison

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<v Speaker 1>and the family and know all that ship too, but

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<v Speaker 1>everybody just it's just it's just sucked up. So the

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<v Speaker 1>state is what is still making money, the county is

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<v Speaker 1>still making money off that. So you agree with this

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<v Speaker 1>new law as long as the trousers speedy, Yes, And

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<v Speaker 1>you know it was brought forth by the Black Caucus,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's a part of like prison reform supposedly, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I just don't like how they're putting the

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<v Speaker 1>titles out there like it's now going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>purge like black people just because that's who it is.

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<v Speaker 1>That's who ends up stuck in prison waiting for bond

0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:32.520
<v Speaker 1>because white people commit the same crimes, but they're not

0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.440
<v Speaker 1>sitting in prison, you know what I'm saying, because they

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<v Speaker 1>can bond out majority of them or other people. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't just want to say white people. But in America,

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<v Speaker 1>so y'all know. Yeah, So I don't think it's just

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<v Speaker 1>abouty a perth situation. I also but on the other side,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that niggas should just be getting a

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<v Speaker 1>ticket for Arson. Yeah, Arson, but niggas don't really do

0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:53.760
<v Speaker 1>niggas really coming with Arsenal? When I say niggas, I

0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:59.960
<v Speaker 1>don't really just be talking about black people, I mean everybody. So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't agree with that ship. I mean, excuse me.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with them kidnapping though, Like kidnapping, somebody doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>snatch your ass up and then they find you and

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<v Speaker 1>they take you home and then they have to let

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<v Speaker 1>him go after he didn't kidnap you till he go

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<v Speaker 1>to court. I feel like on the type of kidnapping though,

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<v Speaker 1>because like you know, like if you do like a

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<v Speaker 1>home invasion, they'll consider that kidnapping because like if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't let someone leave the vicinity. So sometimes now you

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<v Speaker 1>like you tie somebody up and through them in some ship,

0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:29.680
<v Speaker 1>it's like literally like they'll be like, oh, you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>let me leave, So they'll just be adding they add

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<v Speaker 1>more charges to you just to try to figure out

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<v Speaker 1>what that he gets to stick. Yeah, but do they

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<v Speaker 1>determine which one is worse? You know, I would hope, So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. We'll see what else comes out of that,

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<v Speaker 1>but for now, that's what's happening in Illinois. So I

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<v Speaker 1>saw a video online. I think it might have been

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<v Speaker 1>on Jasmine Brand and I had to go pull it

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<v Speaker 1>up to see exactly what it was. But it was

0:12:57.760 --> 0:13:04.480
<v Speaker 1>Chelsey um Hillary Elsie and Hillary Clinton talking to um

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<v Speaker 1>Meg the Stallion about essentially, when's the last time y'all

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<v Speaker 1>seeing Hillary Clinton? Because she had house in her bag

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<v Speaker 1>on the breakfast club. She always trying to be down

0:13:18.960 --> 0:13:22.680
<v Speaker 1>to somebody like she's go away, She's trying to work

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<v Speaker 1>on the black vote. That's what it is, Tammy. It's

0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:27.520
<v Speaker 1>always that's what they're trying to do and then they

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<v Speaker 1>get in the office and you don't do ship for

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<v Speaker 1>us anyways, but it looks so fake though. Yeah, so

0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:38.280
<v Speaker 1>they were talking about right, so this was um. Evidently

0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:40.680
<v Speaker 1>they have a show now her and her daughter Apple

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<v Speaker 1>TV is a series called guts Um. They debuted on

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<v Speaker 1>Friday with this Meg the Stallion episode and the idea

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<v Speaker 1>of the of the two of them going across the

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<v Speaker 1>country on a road trip to talk to different women

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<v Speaker 1>who they think are like inspiring in some type of way. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So they started with Meg the Stallion. But I do

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<v Speaker 1>think it's pandering to black people for that vote. We

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<v Speaker 1>I believe she's about to try to run for president.

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<v Speaker 1>Show is to make Hillary Hillary Clinton palatable for people

0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.720
<v Speaker 1>because people like she don't have no personality that most

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<v Speaker 1>of us like. She just doesn't seem like. I think

0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:17.559
<v Speaker 1>that's what they're trying to do, and they're gonna use

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<v Speaker 1>go through every culture to try to get their vote.

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<v Speaker 1>And they started with because like black women are like

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<v Speaker 1>popping out or like everywhere, because even like it's crazy

0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:30.720
<v Speaker 1>when I'll be going to the city and just looking

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<v Speaker 1>at like the billboards and stuff like that, it's so

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<v Speaker 1>many black women on billboards were like natural here, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like we're like we're popping right now. So I

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<v Speaker 1>just feel like, like like you said, it's like pander into

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<v Speaker 1>the vote, like you know what I'm saying, Like people

0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:42.680
<v Speaker 1>are starting to realize that you need the black vote,

0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:44.560
<v Speaker 1>like you need black people. And it's so crazy for

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<v Speaker 1>me because I started as a sneak artist and um

0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:49.720
<v Speaker 1>I had did some sneakers for it was an exclusive

0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.400
<v Speaker 1>for urban outfitters. I would have to be like twenty

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<v Speaker 1>two at the time, and the first thing I did

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<v Speaker 1>was like a girl with the afrol and that lady.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll never forgetting that white lady came to me and

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<v Speaker 1>said I can't sell that because because black people weren't marketable.

0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.360
<v Speaker 1>She's your dad as told me that, and I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>she's old, like she's so you're thinking like later, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, But that's so not like to

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<v Speaker 1>see it now. And that's why I like, even with

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<v Speaker 1>my brand, I only use black models because I will

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<v Speaker 1>never forget on that lady said that's to me, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're literally gonna tell me my skin isn't marketable, Like

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<v Speaker 1>that's crazy. Yeah, that's wild. And when have black women

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<v Speaker 1>not been Yeah I have not been popping, yes, yeah,

0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:25.400
<v Speaker 1>but it's only cool when somebody else is doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>So how do y'all feel about that? Though? How do

0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:31.960
<v Speaker 1>y'all feel about Because to me, oftentimes, when they want

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<v Speaker 1>to speak to the black community and when they want

0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.760
<v Speaker 1>to speak to the black collective, they go to music artists,

0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.360
<v Speaker 1>they go to entertainers. They don't go to black people

0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:43.480
<v Speaker 1>who are in politics oftentimes, like that's not who they

0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:45.400
<v Speaker 1>put on the forefront. They go to people like CARDIV

0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:49.040
<v Speaker 1>who knows nothing about politics. No, it's true. And even

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<v Speaker 1>like when um, what's his name? And he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not black if you don't vote for me, Like

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<v Speaker 1>in that one little second, it shows you, like what

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<v Speaker 1>they really think about. It's like you y'all really think

0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:58.880
<v Speaker 1>we're mindless, Like yeah, you know what I'm saying, because,

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<v Speaker 1>like you said, why don't you guys going to the

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<v Speaker 1>black politics? You guys are coming to so like what

0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.760
<v Speaker 1>like pop culture? You know? Like like they think that

0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.920
<v Speaker 1>we don't pay attention to these other things when we do,

0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:11.200
<v Speaker 1>we do. But our pop culture does fuel our our

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<v Speaker 1>society in a way. Like people listen to artists and

0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:17.800
<v Speaker 1>rappers and musicians more than they're listening to the Stacy Abrams.

0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.680
<v Speaker 1>You know, they're not going to her, they're not on

0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:24.200
<v Speaker 1>her Instagram live waiting to see what Stacy Abrams gotta say.

0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:27.120
<v Speaker 1>But we also have some artists that a little bit more.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they can go to a care, they can

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<v Speaker 1>go to they if they want to go that route.

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<v Speaker 1>There are still some men, and I would like for

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<v Speaker 1>it to be a black man. How about that that

0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.240
<v Speaker 1>they go to and and have a sit down conversation with.

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<v Speaker 1>They're trying to get that young vote, that young as twenty,

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<v Speaker 1>these young people, that young vote, that's who they're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get with WOP. They're not trying to get tr fans.

0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:56.040
<v Speaker 1>They're already probably already secured their vote. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>that like even with them trying to get the younger

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<v Speaker 1>bo I feel like they're like not, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>they're telling their short, their self short. Because even as

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about it right now, even feel like the

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<v Speaker 1>younger kids, I feel like they see what they're doing,

0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:08.000
<v Speaker 1>like I see you, you know what I'm saying. Like

0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:09.920
<v Speaker 1>I feel like this younger generation is a lot smarter.

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<v Speaker 1>So even though like it's true, like like those are

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<v Speaker 1>the people that they listen to. I think you kind

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<v Speaker 1>of have to come harder than talking about who on

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<v Speaker 1>this show, like like, treat me like I'm intelligent, MEGANA

0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Stallion And I didn't see it, so I don't know

0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:21.840
<v Speaker 1>what she said to MEGANA Starian has a whole last degree,

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<v Speaker 1>Like teach to treat her like she's intelligent. Talk to

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<v Speaker 1>her about some real ship. You know what I'm saying,

0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:26.520
<v Speaker 1>Because you just want people to vot, because it could

0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:28.400
<v Speaker 1>you tell people making this DOLLI You're like, what are

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<v Speaker 1>your what's the word I'm looking for? Like when they

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<v Speaker 1>put an outline of all the stuff that's important to them,

0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:37.600
<v Speaker 1>like what are your like what are we your political agenda? Exactly? Agenda?

0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:39.000
<v Speaker 1>Like if you want to come sit down with Megan

0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:41.440
<v Speaker 1>the Stallion talk about that, then, like give these kids

0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:46.040
<v Speaker 1>more credit, right, But this motherfucking TikTok and ask motherfucker's

0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:54.080
<v Speaker 1>be stupid sometimes, like you know, like I mean one

0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:57.199
<v Speaker 1>of them is that's smart, but that's true. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want them to put some respect on the

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<v Speaker 1>black community. Yeah, me, That's what I need them to

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<v Speaker 1>do today, not tomorrow, and not after. We don't vote.

0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:07.600
<v Speaker 1>I need them to put some respect on the black community.

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<v Speaker 1>But um, yeah, yes, ray J down went wild. Did

0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:18.719
<v Speaker 1>y'all check that out that I missed that I'm missing?

0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:23.320
<v Speaker 1>I was tuned in. Okay, screenshot and all types of ship.

0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:29.520
<v Speaker 1>I feel y'all in know what happened screen recording Like, sorry,

0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:31.439
<v Speaker 1>ray J, I needed to see them TEX messages up

0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:35.160
<v Speaker 1>close and personal. So ray J is pissed at Chris

0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:38.040
<v Speaker 1>J general at the whole conduct Kardashian family, Kim and

0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:42.880
<v Speaker 1>Chris um for the most part, because you know, they

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<v Speaker 1>did the sex tape. How many years ago now about

0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.880
<v Speaker 1>twenty years ago, they did a sex tape. And what

0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:49.720
<v Speaker 1>ray J is trying to do now is clear his

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<v Speaker 1>name because the Kardashians have been, you know, slandering him

0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.439
<v Speaker 1>on the backside as far as business goals, as far

0:18:57.480 --> 0:19:01.199
<v Speaker 1>as based on what he's saying. So he's trying to

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<v Speaker 1>clear his name because there it's out there as if

0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.639
<v Speaker 1>ray J put a flick out of them having sex

0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.720
<v Speaker 1>and that's not what happened. Ray J showed the contract

0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:13.280
<v Speaker 1>that they both signed for four hundred thousand dollars a piece,

0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:21.040
<v Speaker 1>the production contract. Yeah m hmm, with Kimmy's handwriting on it.

0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:23.480
<v Speaker 1>When I tell y'all, ray J had all this ship

0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:27.880
<v Speaker 1>up on the rector, He had the receiver dector screen

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<v Speaker 1>in a mansion and a Dominican of public going through

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<v Speaker 1>all this ship. Now how somebody put that on YouTube?

0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:38.359
<v Speaker 1>I have to smoke a joy and watch it. So

0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:41.199
<v Speaker 1>what was the initial narrative that came out with the

0:19:41.200 --> 0:19:44.560
<v Speaker 1>six tape? Does anybody know that? Because what was it?

0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:46.720
<v Speaker 1>What did they agree to? Because I know that it

0:19:46.720 --> 0:19:51.760
<v Speaker 1>didn't come out like Kim Kardashian does porn like will.

0:19:52.520 --> 0:19:54.920
<v Speaker 1>They made it seem like she was Yeah, they made

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<v Speaker 1>it seem like she was victim of elite intimate moment

0:19:57.640 --> 0:20:02.000
<v Speaker 1>with her boyfriend, that she was leaked right and say

0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:04.160
<v Speaker 1>that like, um, she sewed them or something like that.

0:20:05.359 --> 0:20:08.200
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm. I can't remember that. It was so long ago.

0:20:08.200 --> 0:20:10.360
<v Speaker 1>I saw that on on TMZ. You never even got

0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:11.879
<v Speaker 1>to see it. I was too young to watch that

0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:14.000
<v Speaker 1>when it came out. No, not. That's why when y'all

0:20:14.000 --> 0:20:15.439
<v Speaker 1>said twenty years ago, I had to say back, like

0:20:15.560 --> 0:20:17.760
<v Speaker 1>damn that SHI made me feel old, But yeah, that

0:20:17.840 --> 0:20:20.000
<v Speaker 1>really was twenty years ago. I didn't maybe even though

0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:23.320
<v Speaker 1>I can't say because I was already watching nat Ship

0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:27.280
<v Speaker 1>at that age. Sorry guys, but I didn't watch that

0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:31.359
<v Speaker 1>one because so it wasn't like, because you know, this

0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.480
<v Speaker 1>is before you know what I'm like, and it's like,

0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:35.240
<v Speaker 1>oh oh J Trials and I was like, what five,

0:20:35.320 --> 0:20:36.800
<v Speaker 1>So it wasn't like, you know what I'm saying, It

0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:40.440
<v Speaker 1>didn't really need much to like, okay, right, So Chris

0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:43.240
<v Speaker 1>Strip so recently, Chris Jenner, she took a lie deteck

0:20:43.320 --> 0:20:47.639
<v Speaker 1>to test to prove that it wasn't a production. She

0:20:47.760 --> 0:20:51.879
<v Speaker 1>had some fake guy, some actor basically performed this lie

0:20:51.960 --> 0:20:54.480
<v Speaker 1>deteck to test. How don't we know he was an actor?

0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:59.320
<v Speaker 1>Ray J posted Demand's YouTube page like ray J posted

0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:05.760
<v Speaker 1>receipt ship. Yes this is a fake a fake person. Yeah,

0:21:05.960 --> 0:21:10.360
<v Speaker 1>ray J did that. Yeah, because you know Kim Kim Kardashians.

0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:12.359
<v Speaker 1>So what happened was this is how the ship all started.

0:21:12.640 --> 0:21:14.919
<v Speaker 1>So Kim was crying because the kid pulled up on

0:21:15.000 --> 0:21:17.240
<v Speaker 1>him with the Roadblocks ship right pulled up on her

0:21:17.320 --> 0:21:24.720
<v Speaker 1>with roadblocks, a roadblocks porn of her, right, which son

0:21:24.760 --> 0:21:27.840
<v Speaker 1>did sent it to the child because I think it

0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:29.760
<v Speaker 1>was like an ad or something on Roadblocks that he

0:21:29.840 --> 0:21:35.040
<v Speaker 1>was playing. Yes, so Roadblocks even said that that isn't possible.

0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:40.359
<v Speaker 1>So even that scene could have been created, even that

0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:45.360
<v Speaker 1>scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians was probably fake, yes,

0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:49.320
<v Speaker 1>probably fabricating. So that's how the ship started. So ray

0:21:49.400 --> 0:21:51.520
<v Speaker 1>J is feeling like, you know this to all these years,

0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:53.960
<v Speaker 1>y'all have been putting his narrative out there as if

0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:57.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm the one or somebody associated with me was the

0:21:57.040 --> 0:21:59.879
<v Speaker 1>person who leaked the video. If it's me and you

0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:02.560
<v Speaker 1>with a video and our plan is to leak it,

0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:05.439
<v Speaker 1>then that's one thing. But they have been, you know,

0:22:06.000 --> 0:22:10.040
<v Speaker 1>making it edit as if ray J and whoever leaked

0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:13.480
<v Speaker 1>this porn of Kim K. So now ray J is

0:22:13.520 --> 0:22:16.520
<v Speaker 1>just basically trying to exonerate himself and let everybody know

0:22:16.840 --> 0:22:18.800
<v Speaker 1>it was a production. Her mama was on it, and

0:22:18.920 --> 0:22:21.280
<v Speaker 1>on it. Her mom actually watched one of the videos

0:22:21.560 --> 0:22:23.840
<v Speaker 1>and said, no, let's go with the other one because

0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:27.080
<v Speaker 1>it makes Kim look better. All these things. That's a

0:22:27.200 --> 0:22:32.320
<v Speaker 1>real weird I Spur Slim Mama pimp ship. But that

0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:34.679
<v Speaker 1>family not for nothing. That family always been kind of

0:22:34.720 --> 0:22:37.119
<v Speaker 1>iffy to me. I ain't even gonna lie like and

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<v Speaker 1>I just I feel like, honestly, because ray J's I

0:22:39.000 --> 0:22:40.360
<v Speaker 1>don't know if y'all seen that clip from the Winny

0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:42.359
<v Speaker 1>william Show, but ray J's mom told him not to

0:22:42.359 --> 0:22:44.360
<v Speaker 1>do that ship like you're a black man, Like you're

0:22:44.440 --> 0:22:46.399
<v Speaker 1>not gonna like you're a man and you're black, Like

0:22:46.480 --> 0:22:49.520
<v Speaker 1>you're not gonna do yourself. That's not gonna happen for you.

0:22:49.560 --> 0:22:51.520
<v Speaker 1>And that's exactly what happened. I mean, granted, he's still

0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:54.560
<v Speaker 1>a millionaire and I'm still here, but like I think

0:22:54.600 --> 0:23:01.320
<v Speaker 1>home Girls like a billionaire now mm hmm, yeah, yeah,

0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:02.720
<v Speaker 1>now you want to be mad, but it's kind of

0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:05.879
<v Speaker 1>like you should have been smarter, like and I get him,

0:23:05.920 --> 0:23:07.639
<v Speaker 1>and I like really versed out, like people were like,

0:23:07.960 --> 0:23:10.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I think nobody's really gonna like I'm

0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:14.639
<v Speaker 1>just gonna change like the success of the Kardashians. I

0:23:14.680 --> 0:23:17.800
<v Speaker 1>hope it does. I hope that when we're here on

0:23:17.880 --> 0:23:20.119
<v Speaker 1>that I really hope it does, because then ain't gonna

0:23:20.119 --> 0:23:23.160
<v Speaker 1>do ship just about two weeks. They're gonna be onto

0:23:23.200 --> 0:23:25.440
<v Speaker 1>something else and people ain't gonna care about what because

0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:28.280
<v Speaker 1>then he posted the unfortunately he posted d ms that

0:23:28.320 --> 0:23:29.560
<v Speaker 1>he had. It came a couple of months ago, and

0:23:29.600 --> 0:23:33.240
<v Speaker 1>nobody cared about that ship. Yeah, nobody cared for real. Yeah,

0:23:33.680 --> 0:23:36.840
<v Speaker 1>I guess it's because we can't see any new fucking

0:23:36.960 --> 0:23:39.800
<v Speaker 1>like this old ship nobody, you know what I'm saying, Like,

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:45.040
<v Speaker 1>do y'all think that maybe now maybe they'll be okay

0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:48.640
<v Speaker 1>because they don't need the black community anymore. Did y'all

0:23:48.640 --> 0:23:52.280
<v Speaker 1>see Kim Kai's most recent photo shoot, The American Dream?

0:23:52.400 --> 0:23:57.320
<v Speaker 1>She has these blonde eyebrows. Blonde, Yeah, Now they're transitioning

0:23:57.359 --> 0:24:00.680
<v Speaker 1>over Yeah. Yeah, So that's why I don't. I don't

0:24:00.680 --> 0:24:02.760
<v Speaker 1>think they really can't. I think like they like just

0:24:02.840 --> 0:24:05.480
<v Speaker 1>transition now. I don't don't, but I hope he gets

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:08.719
<v Speaker 1>to clear his name and you know, like get his

0:24:08.800 --> 0:24:15.000
<v Speaker 1>deals right there, but like, get your money, black man,

0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:18.120
<v Speaker 1>get your money. I listen, all right, y'all, we're gonna

0:24:18.160 --> 0:24:22.440
<v Speaker 1>take a break and we're gonna get into uh today's topic.

0:24:22.520 --> 0:24:29.600
<v Speaker 1>We'll be right back, so listen. I put a post

0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:33.600
<v Speaker 1>online um on the podcast stage to try and get

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:37.360
<v Speaker 1>women to engage a little bit. So I basically posed

0:24:37.359 --> 0:24:41.040
<v Speaker 1>a question to women, asking, you know, what are some

0:24:41.720 --> 0:24:45.719
<v Speaker 1>things about yourself that men may consider red flags? And

0:24:45.760 --> 0:24:50.880
<v Speaker 1>I intentionally did not ask men what some women's red

0:24:50.960 --> 0:24:54.560
<v Speaker 1>flags are because maybe I want to point out the

0:24:54.600 --> 0:24:59.879
<v Speaker 1>biggest one women may have, which be which would be accountability.

0:25:00.040 --> 0:25:01.879
<v Speaker 1>If we can't point out what's wrong with us and

0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:06.280
<v Speaker 1>what our own bullshit is, that's some accountability issue. So anyway,

0:25:06.400 --> 0:25:10.000
<v Speaker 1>I'll start, Okay, I'll start. We're gonna go into some

0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.879
<v Speaker 1>general ship that you know, people responding with, even some guys,

0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:18.159
<v Speaker 1>but I'll start with one of my can I just

0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:22.320
<v Speaker 1>can I just say this start shine you next, and

0:25:22.359 --> 0:25:24.480
<v Speaker 1>then we're gonna just move on with life because I

0:25:24.560 --> 0:25:33.280
<v Speaker 1>really don't be doing shop girl bite anyway. All right,

0:25:33.320 --> 0:25:35.280
<v Speaker 1>so lesten y'all. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. One

0:25:35.320 --> 0:25:41.320
<v Speaker 1>of my big red flags would be deflection. Okay, So

0:25:41.359 --> 0:25:43.520
<v Speaker 1>like in the midst of an argument, I may bring

0:25:43.600 --> 0:25:46.600
<v Speaker 1>up something you did in the past to justify my

0:25:46.720 --> 0:25:51.880
<v Speaker 1>current behavior, right, And I've recognized over time that's not okay,

0:25:52.040 --> 0:25:54.720
<v Speaker 1>especially if I supposedly got over that thing you did.

0:25:55.359 --> 0:25:57.560
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like the reason why I do that

0:25:57.640 --> 0:25:59.639
<v Speaker 1>is because I like to think of myself as a

0:25:59.680 --> 0:26:03.399
<v Speaker 1>really forgiving person. Right, So then if I do some ship,

0:26:03.480 --> 0:26:06.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to feel like you're dragging me about it. Yeah,

0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:09.480
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't want to feel dragged about some ship. Right,

0:26:09.560 --> 0:26:12.200
<v Speaker 1>So now if I'm I feel like, damn we even now, right,

0:26:12.280 --> 0:26:16.520
<v Speaker 1>why are you dripping? Like get over it now? And

0:26:17.520 --> 0:26:21.720
<v Speaker 1>that's not fair. That's why we're moving forward. Yes, I

0:26:21.720 --> 0:26:23.480
<v Speaker 1>feel like we even, Like why can't I get the

0:26:23.520 --> 0:26:26.640
<v Speaker 1>same grace I gave you for the same thing. What's

0:26:26.680 --> 0:26:30.680
<v Speaker 1>the problem? Because you ain't them and they ain't you? Right,

0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:35.800
<v Speaker 1>I understand that, but I'm still a working progress. Got

0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:40.560
<v Speaker 1>ain't through with you yet. That's my John. What's one

0:26:40.560 --> 0:26:44.080
<v Speaker 1>of yours? Is like I like free food, and I like,

0:26:44.160 --> 0:26:46.399
<v Speaker 1>literally tell you that. So like if they're like he's like,

0:26:46.400 --> 0:26:47.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, trying to talk to me, like trying to

0:26:48.040 --> 0:26:49.600
<v Speaker 1>I'd like cool, Like I like free food. And then

0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:51.320
<v Speaker 1>I realized that they think I like them, but it's

0:26:51.320 --> 0:26:53.200
<v Speaker 1>like I don't like you, but you offered me free food,

0:26:53.240 --> 0:26:54.680
<v Speaker 1>so I'm gonna go out with you to have this meal.

0:26:55.520 --> 0:26:59.119
<v Speaker 1>So like your opportunity, that's it. I'm an opportunity. If

0:26:59.119 --> 0:27:03.720
<v Speaker 1>there's not food, be they're taking it. That's a food tunist.

0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:06.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm an opportunist. If there's no I'm definitely taking it.

0:27:06.800 --> 0:27:08.600
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I was, and I have some pictuations with

0:27:08.720 --> 0:27:10.600
<v Speaker 1>niggas giving me free food because that's really what I

0:27:10.600 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 1>call it, Like it's free food. And like then they

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:14.880
<v Speaker 1>started acting crazy after like this one do he um

0:27:14.880 --> 0:27:16.600
<v Speaker 1>he gave me free food because like I know he

0:27:16.640 --> 0:27:18.919
<v Speaker 1>gave me the frue food today that I met him,

0:27:19.080 --> 0:27:21.280
<v Speaker 1>Like he came and sat down while I was eating

0:27:21.600 --> 0:27:23.760
<v Speaker 1>and was like, oh, you're cute and like buying me

0:27:23.840 --> 0:27:25.720
<v Speaker 1>drinks and everything like that. And then I'm like, it's

0:27:25.720 --> 0:27:27.719
<v Speaker 1>free food and I'm going after that. This one who

0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:29.280
<v Speaker 1>was blown on my phone acting all types of crazy

0:27:29.320 --> 0:27:30.560
<v Speaker 1>and I guess because I didn't ask my phone he

0:27:30.600 --> 0:27:32.200
<v Speaker 1>was feeling the type of way. And then let's saying

0:27:32.200 --> 0:27:34.440
<v Speaker 1>I know he's texting me like oh it's over for you,

0:27:34.560 --> 0:27:36.399
<v Speaker 1>and was like that that's like threatening me and acting

0:27:36.440 --> 0:27:38.880
<v Speaker 1>crazy like I know you snitched on me, all types

0:27:38.880 --> 0:27:43.560
<v Speaker 1>of ship and then he's like yeah, he's like wrong number.

0:27:43.800 --> 0:27:46.760
<v Speaker 1>He was like wrong number, but um, I ain't heard

0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:48.000
<v Speaker 1>from you. What how you doing? And I'm like does

0:27:48.040 --> 0:27:49.960
<v Speaker 1>he think that she is cute? Like I think you're something, nigga.

0:27:49.960 --> 0:27:52.600
<v Speaker 1>You're working crazy and I would not be calling you

0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:54.320
<v Speaker 1>like I like that nigga on everything. He's still be

0:27:54.359 --> 0:27:56.359
<v Speaker 1>trying to trying to hit me up through other numbers

0:27:56.400 --> 0:27:59.480
<v Speaker 1>and like other Instagram pages, you're fucking crazy. So I

0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:02.000
<v Speaker 1>guess I was like by slapping the face back from

0:28:02.000 --> 0:28:03.560
<v Speaker 1>me being a person who likes free food. But that

0:28:03.600 --> 0:28:05.800
<v Speaker 1>definitely is my red flag. I like free food. It's

0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:14.240
<v Speaker 1>not about liking free food, though. Come on through a therapist, Tammy,

0:28:15.880 --> 0:28:18.360
<v Speaker 1>come on through a therapist. Please please break it down

0:28:18.359 --> 0:28:22.760
<v Speaker 1>to her what that is exactly? That to us, you

0:28:22.800 --> 0:28:26.200
<v Speaker 1>are using people for what you want, yes, free food.

0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:28.480
<v Speaker 1>So that would make you an opportunitist or a user

0:28:28.560 --> 0:28:31.280
<v Speaker 1>at times, and that's not uncommon. Women do that. Women

0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:34.000
<v Speaker 1>like free ship, and sometimes we will obtain it from

0:28:34.000 --> 0:28:37.000
<v Speaker 1>people who want more from us and knowing that we

0:28:37.040 --> 0:28:39.760
<v Speaker 1>don't want more from them, and that is definitely a

0:28:39.800 --> 0:28:47.640
<v Speaker 1>red flag. That's my good dinner whore. I should put

0:28:47.640 --> 0:28:53.160
<v Speaker 1>that on a T shirt dinner wore. Okay, So I

0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:55.640
<v Speaker 1>guess if we're gonna do this, I guess, then apports

0:28:56.160 --> 0:28:59.320
<v Speaker 1>and I just make up something so y'all don't feel

0:28:59.360 --> 0:29:07.480
<v Speaker 1>left out. Um, I'll say one of minds is overreacting.

0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:15.160
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes ship don't call for level twenty. It could just

0:29:15.240 --> 0:29:18.640
<v Speaker 1>be a ten level issue. And I'll go from zero

0:29:18.640 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 1>to one hundred in a matter of moments and it's like,

0:29:21.920 --> 0:29:25.000
<v Speaker 1>did you like, damn, can you be a niggas piece,

0:29:25.240 --> 0:29:29.040
<v Speaker 1>Like just calm down and listen and don't respond. So

0:29:29.240 --> 0:29:32.720
<v Speaker 1>when just quick to respond and just go off the

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:34.960
<v Speaker 1>deep end. That's one of mine. I know I do

0:29:35.080 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 1>that ship and I like, damn, my shipping up broke

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:44.160
<v Speaker 1>your window. Huh window that don't be be calling and

0:29:44.200 --> 0:29:56.120
<v Speaker 1>hanging up. You know, I love your mom, Andy. Look

0:29:56.160 --> 0:29:59.080
<v Speaker 1>that goes into one of my other red flags. I

0:29:59.120 --> 0:30:04.160
<v Speaker 1>don't like niggas with mamma's or sisters. Like that's a

0:30:04.200 --> 0:30:08.880
<v Speaker 1>red flag for me with men, and a red flag

0:30:08.920 --> 0:30:15.000
<v Speaker 1>for yourself your mama alive. I can't do this, you know, no,

0:30:15.160 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 1>you want to know what I guess I say, Like,

0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:17.840
<v Speaker 1>that's a red flag for me to like, I don't

0:30:17.840 --> 0:30:19.720
<v Speaker 1>like me nobody's mom. Like I'm not trying to meet

0:30:19.720 --> 0:30:21.160
<v Speaker 1>your mom like like you got kids, I do not

0:30:21.200 --> 0:30:22.880
<v Speaker 1>want to see your child Like I like, I'm not

0:30:22.920 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna beet that mama. Don't care. Just but your seafood

0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 1>dinner and your sausage dinner and go home. That's all

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:31.240
<v Speaker 1>I need. Give me a good meal. We could you

0:30:31.320 --> 0:30:33.960
<v Speaker 1>up for about five minutes after and I'm bead. No,

0:30:34.120 --> 0:30:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. You want to come meet? No, like

0:30:36.160 --> 0:30:38.120
<v Speaker 1>your mom's gonna be home. No, Nick, I'm not coming over.

0:30:38.400 --> 0:30:40.400
<v Speaker 1>They're like, your my mom's nice. Yeah, your mom's like

0:30:40.440 --> 0:30:43.760
<v Speaker 1>said every girl you bring there, No, I'm coming. And

0:30:43.800 --> 0:30:48.000
<v Speaker 1>that's what your mama. I love mama's I'd be trying

0:30:48.000 --> 0:30:50.800
<v Speaker 1>to win mama's. I like to I like, by the

0:30:50.800 --> 0:30:52.880
<v Speaker 1>time I get done with your mama, she's gonna like

0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:55.080
<v Speaker 1>be more than you. That's how I'll be wanting to

0:30:55.080 --> 0:30:58.080
<v Speaker 1>do it. Did y'all see this meme online? What's not

0:30:58.120 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 1>a meme? Sorry it's I forgot what Paul cast it was.

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:04.120
<v Speaker 1>But the guy, one of the guys on the podcast

0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:07.120
<v Speaker 1>pose a question like, so, who who sits in the

0:31:07.160 --> 0:31:10.520
<v Speaker 1>front seat, your your wife, your girl, or your mom?

0:31:11.400 --> 0:31:13.840
<v Speaker 1>And the guy here asked it was like, my girl,

0:31:14.080 --> 0:31:17.520
<v Speaker 1>Like if my girl, you know, arbitrarily volunteers, like give

0:31:17.560 --> 0:31:19.440
<v Speaker 1>up the front seat to my mom, that's her business.

0:31:19.480 --> 0:31:21.560
<v Speaker 1>But I would never put her in a position to

0:31:21.680 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 1>have to just get out the car get in the

0:31:23.480 --> 0:31:25.560
<v Speaker 1>back seat because my mama getting in the car. She

0:31:25.640 --> 0:31:27.480
<v Speaker 1>was like, it's nothing wrong with that back seat, Like

0:31:27.520 --> 0:31:30.000
<v Speaker 1>my mama can sit back there. But we know that

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:32.640
<v Speaker 1>that might be a thing for some mama's, and I

0:31:32.680 --> 0:31:37.160
<v Speaker 1>think that's because mama's, especially black mamas in particular, maybe

0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 1>having his son husbands, I would move from Mars's mom

0:31:41.680 --> 0:31:43.760
<v Speaker 1>to sit in the front. It would just it would

0:31:43.800 --> 0:31:47.280
<v Speaker 1>just be my personality to respect his mom to say,

0:31:47.600 --> 0:31:49.680
<v Speaker 1>same way, I put my own mama in the front.

0:31:49.880 --> 0:31:52.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna put your mama there too. Now I can't front.

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:55.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I will move. I'm not based in

0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:59.240
<v Speaker 1>the back. I'm not moving me because it's not like

0:31:59.520 --> 0:32:01.680
<v Speaker 1>if I if she was already in the front seat

0:32:01.680 --> 0:32:03.560
<v Speaker 1>and they're picking me up from somewhere, I wouldn't have

0:32:03.600 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 1>her move from me next to him. I would just

0:32:05.920 --> 0:32:08.280
<v Speaker 1>get in the back. So I would never expect for

0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:10.920
<v Speaker 1>her or my husband to then expect me to move

0:32:11.080 --> 0:32:13.440
<v Speaker 1>because his mom is getting in the car. You know,

0:32:13.600 --> 0:32:17.600
<v Speaker 1>once you get married, especially like that's your media family,

0:32:17.960 --> 0:32:20.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry your wife, Like if she's not going good

0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:23.000
<v Speaker 1>between you and your wife, like the whole family ship

0:32:23.160 --> 0:32:26.240
<v Speaker 1>dynamic going to fall apart. So things have to always

0:32:26.240 --> 0:32:27.800
<v Speaker 1>be good between you and your wife. You're gonna let

0:32:27.800 --> 0:32:32.280
<v Speaker 1>your your mama come in between that. But showing his

0:32:32.360 --> 0:32:34.720
<v Speaker 1>mama respect and treating her the same, with the same

0:32:34.800 --> 0:32:38.520
<v Speaker 1>respect as you treat your own. I sat your dick.

0:32:38.920 --> 0:32:40.600
<v Speaker 1>Your mama can't do that. I need a little bit

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:45.200
<v Speaker 1>more respect. I'm sorry your mama could do that. But oh,

0:32:46.120 --> 0:32:52.680
<v Speaker 1>you know where were living here? Like ship going on? Man? Yeah, man,

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:55.760
<v Speaker 1>it's a weird ship going on outside seeing that. I've

0:32:55.760 --> 0:32:58.040
<v Speaker 1>seen a video where a girl says she did have

0:32:58.120 --> 0:33:01.120
<v Speaker 1>a threesome with a guy and his mom. What I

0:33:01.200 --> 0:33:06.400
<v Speaker 1>see that ship? No, No, that's disgusting. But that's that's

0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:10.000
<v Speaker 1>not insett. It's definitely inset. I guess it depends on

0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:14.000
<v Speaker 1>how you actually have the three something what I mean

0:33:14.080 --> 0:33:17.680
<v Speaker 1>likes the way to do it. The mom has sucked

0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:24.200
<v Speaker 1>her son's dick. That's the different positions in the three something. No, yeah,

0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 1>there's they need therapy for real, Like right, yeah, that's

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:31.400
<v Speaker 1>not okay. But no, even if I'm still like, if

0:33:31.440 --> 0:33:33.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm sucking your dick or whatever, that means, I like

0:33:33.400 --> 0:33:35.080
<v Speaker 1>you a lot. If I'm putting your dick in my mouth,

0:33:35.360 --> 0:33:37.120
<v Speaker 1>and if I love you and ship, then I'm gonna

0:33:37.120 --> 0:33:39.840
<v Speaker 1>love your mama too, like I'm gonna try to. I am.

0:33:39.920 --> 0:33:42.560
<v Speaker 1>I love you so much. I love your mama for

0:33:42.680 --> 0:33:44.800
<v Speaker 1>making you, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna be good

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:46.480
<v Speaker 1>to her too. I don't be almost making you, but

0:33:46.480 --> 0:33:47.880
<v Speaker 1>I can still love about she in the back seat.

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:49.680
<v Speaker 1>The car is clean. I'm not gonna get up, especially

0:33:49.720 --> 0:33:52.360
<v Speaker 1>my feet her. I'm not getting up. Get up for that, lady,

0:33:52.440 --> 0:33:56.840
<v Speaker 1>get your I think it's necessarily don It's like I

0:33:56.880 --> 0:33:59.040
<v Speaker 1>don't have that much ego in it. It's that's an

0:33:59.040 --> 0:34:02.840
<v Speaker 1>ego thing, y'all. That's not an evil thing. The fact

0:34:02.840 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 1>that like the car is playing, you could say in

0:34:04.120 --> 0:34:05.840
<v Speaker 1>the back I shouldn't have to get up and move

0:34:05.920 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 1>for you. What if she's like on a cane, And

0:34:12.480 --> 0:34:13.920
<v Speaker 1>but if she's in the can, she probably belongs in

0:34:13.920 --> 0:34:15.359
<v Speaker 1>the back. So you probably gotta get a sprint of man,

0:34:19.960 --> 0:34:26.160
<v Speaker 1>every reason, every reason to keep yours right, you bigger Carniggs.

0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:31.759
<v Speaker 1>Your mama needs space back there, all right? Listen for me.

0:34:31.920 --> 0:34:34.880
<v Speaker 1>I do have a couple of a couple more of

0:34:35.000 --> 0:34:37.320
<v Speaker 1>my own red flags, and we can get it to

0:34:37.440 --> 0:34:40.520
<v Speaker 1>some of the red flags that, um, you know, some

0:34:40.560 --> 0:34:43.600
<v Speaker 1>women responded with some other ones I came up with,

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:47.520
<v Speaker 1>but these are mine, right, Um, I probably offered too

0:34:47.600 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>much information about myself too soon because I'm an open

0:34:50.120 --> 0:34:51.799
<v Speaker 1>book and I don't really care who I talked to

0:34:51.880 --> 0:34:54.120
<v Speaker 1>about my life for real. That's why we have a podcast.

0:34:54.280 --> 0:34:57.279
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm gonna say whatever it is. So if you

0:34:57.480 --> 0:34:59.319
<v Speaker 1>can't handle that, then you probably not the person for

0:34:59.360 --> 0:35:01.400
<v Speaker 1>me anyway. I do want to be in a relationship

0:35:01.480 --> 0:35:04.440
<v Speaker 1>with somebody that I could be myself all the time,

0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:06.440
<v Speaker 1>Like that's really really important to me. So if I

0:35:06.480 --> 0:35:10.800
<v Speaker 1>find myself having to omit things high things about myself,

0:35:11.080 --> 0:35:13.920
<v Speaker 1>you probably ain't for me anyway. So whatever, but that

0:35:13.960 --> 0:35:15.480
<v Speaker 1>could be a red flag for some men like you

0:35:15.600 --> 0:35:21.880
<v Speaker 1>oversharing um. Also, in the past, I have had a

0:35:21.920 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 1>tendency to share relationship trauma like should I might have

0:35:26.040 --> 0:35:29.200
<v Speaker 1>went through in another relationship with somebody I'm currently talking to,

0:35:29.280 --> 0:35:31.680
<v Speaker 1>because things just be relative, Like you're having a conversation,

0:35:31.719 --> 0:35:33.440
<v Speaker 1>you'd be like, oh man, yeah, my ex such is

0:35:33.440 --> 0:35:37.919
<v Speaker 1>said is such. But men, I have had somebody point

0:35:37.960 --> 0:35:39.840
<v Speaker 1>that out to me that I do that, right, But

0:35:39.920 --> 0:35:43.640
<v Speaker 1>then I then started, you know, making sure I'm listening

0:35:43.680 --> 0:35:45.520
<v Speaker 1>to when they're talking and they do the same thing.

0:35:45.560 --> 0:35:47.520
<v Speaker 1>It's just different. They can just see what You can

0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:50.239
<v Speaker 1>always see what somebody else doing, but not what you're doing. Yeah,

0:35:50.239 --> 0:35:52.600
<v Speaker 1>because the same way I think, like that's probably like

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:54.120
<v Speaker 1>one of my my red flag too, is like I

0:35:54.239 --> 0:35:56.959
<v Speaker 1>overshare and the oversharing I give a lot of times

0:35:56.960 --> 0:35:58.840
<v Speaker 1>it's like crazy stories. So I think, like, so I

0:35:58.880 --> 0:36:00.719
<v Speaker 1>try to like stop doing something like I used it.

0:36:00.800 --> 0:36:02.360
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's be like yo, this bitch is crazy,

0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:04.279
<v Speaker 1>and they just be ready to write to write me off,

0:36:04.320 --> 0:36:06.640
<v Speaker 1>because like my one, it does get kind of crazy,

0:36:06.680 --> 0:36:08.120
<v Speaker 1>like I got like stories for days, like I've been

0:36:08.120 --> 0:36:10.200
<v Speaker 1>telling about times when I like dow tables on people

0:36:10.600 --> 0:36:13.000
<v Speaker 1>and like may season. I mean, I don't alway start

0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 1>trying not to do that no more. You know, I'm

0:36:14.320 --> 0:36:17.000
<v Speaker 1>trying to be a changed person. But like there, but

0:36:17.040 --> 0:36:18.640
<v Speaker 1>I had to realize that I need to stop telling

0:36:18.680 --> 0:36:20.080
<v Speaker 1>nigg is that because they're gonna be like, yo, what

0:36:20.080 --> 0:36:21.600
<v Speaker 1>the fund is wrong? But and like keep it pushing.

0:36:22.000 --> 0:36:23.640
<v Speaker 1>As long as you don't act crazy, you won't get

0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:25.480
<v Speaker 1>that type of reaction from me. Like I just be

0:36:25.560 --> 0:36:27.759
<v Speaker 1>matching energy. But it's like my thing is always like

0:36:27.760 --> 0:36:29.120
<v Speaker 1>if we have we have, If we're here, we're here.

0:36:29.160 --> 0:36:30.520
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Like it's like go hard

0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:32.239
<v Speaker 1>to go home. So we get to that point I'm

0:36:32.239 --> 0:36:33.879
<v Speaker 1>gonna go to go hard to go home, and I'm

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:35.880
<v Speaker 1>not gonna go home, so I'm gonna go hard. So

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:42.320
<v Speaker 1>you're one upper flag, so you can't bow out gracefully.

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:44.759
<v Speaker 1>Now I don't bow out gracefully. We see, I see

0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:46.400
<v Speaker 1>the collection I'm out to drop like in the summer

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:50.399
<v Speaker 1>about this one nigga. Oh girl, I met the whole

0:36:50.400 --> 0:36:52.720
<v Speaker 1>coloring book about that dirty dig nigger, A whole color.

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm make sure to saying, y'all, Si, yeah, send me word.

0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:01.880
<v Speaker 1>I see y'all. Because they just need to learn shiveries.

0:37:01.880 --> 0:37:03.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get some in a nice coloring book. They

0:37:03.440 --> 0:37:05.200
<v Speaker 1>want to be a little fun niggers, but a nice

0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:09.400
<v Speaker 1>color you could color that bit you and learn sugary

0:37:09.440 --> 0:37:11.560
<v Speaker 1>like I'll need something this all the time. Like my

0:37:11.640 --> 0:37:14.200
<v Speaker 1>pettiness knows no bounce. I don't even trying to go

0:37:14.239 --> 0:37:22.399
<v Speaker 1>there with people because another flag. Yeah yeah, this conversation

0:37:22.600 --> 0:37:31.200
<v Speaker 1>is riddled and sucking red flags. Who I ain't gotta

0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:35.480
<v Speaker 1>say ship right, all right, all right, No, I got

0:37:35.440 --> 0:37:39.160
<v Speaker 1>all right. So here's one of mine that sometimes I'm

0:37:39.200 --> 0:37:43.120
<v Speaker 1>sure men can can be off putting by me doing this.

0:37:43.360 --> 0:37:47.399
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I will let my personal insecurities get the best

0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:54.920
<v Speaker 1>of me and require constant validation from my partner at times,

0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:59.880
<v Speaker 1>like just needing too much of them to lift me

0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:02.560
<v Speaker 1>that I'm not lifting myself and I'm just requiring that

0:38:02.640 --> 0:38:04.840
<v Speaker 1>too much of them, And I know that can be

0:38:04.880 --> 0:38:07.040
<v Speaker 1>a red flag. I'd be like I look fat in

0:38:07.120 --> 0:38:10.919
<v Speaker 1>this like this and just like all this, and nigga like, girl,

0:38:11.000 --> 0:38:14.200
<v Speaker 1>I eat you right now in front of all these people, relaxed,

0:38:14.239 --> 0:38:16.640
<v Speaker 1>Like why you don't see yourself like I see you? Right?

0:38:17.320 --> 0:38:20.120
<v Speaker 1>You know that's a problem, you know sometimes that's something

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:21.960
<v Speaker 1>that I have to work on, you know not let

0:38:21.960 --> 0:38:23.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we all have our insecurities, but you just

0:38:24.040 --> 0:38:26.480
<v Speaker 1>can't allow them to get the best of you and

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:30.600
<v Speaker 1>use your mate as the source of your validation, you know, right.

0:38:30.840 --> 0:38:33.560
<v Speaker 1>And I think that everybody wants a confident made right,

0:38:34.400 --> 0:38:37.279
<v Speaker 1>So if you're always just like pointing out your insecurities,

0:38:37.320 --> 0:38:40.040
<v Speaker 1>that's not really confident. So men like confident women too,

0:38:40.120 --> 0:38:41.920
<v Speaker 1>So baby like, yeah, you want to lose some weight,

0:38:41.960 --> 0:38:44.239
<v Speaker 1>then go do it and stop talking about it. So

0:38:44.560 --> 0:38:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I have had But if a nigga say that to me,

0:38:48.200 --> 0:38:50.359
<v Speaker 1>that's a problem, Like, don't address me that way. Well,

0:38:50.360 --> 0:38:52.480
<v Speaker 1>they may not say it in that way maybe he's

0:38:52.480 --> 0:38:56.360
<v Speaker 1>a little bit nicer. I'm just saying that sometimes. Yeah,

0:38:57.160 --> 0:38:58.520
<v Speaker 1>like I work out with you and you want to

0:38:58.560 --> 0:39:01.399
<v Speaker 1>go out at you, I'll be good. Yes, I want

0:39:01.880 --> 0:39:05.239
<v Speaker 1>Sheriff Troy from uh with your Scott you know, you

0:39:05.320 --> 0:39:09.799
<v Speaker 1>know be that way with me, Troy. You got all

0:39:09.840 --> 0:39:14.200
<v Speaker 1>the movie references. Yeah, because I had a guy told

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:16.080
<v Speaker 1>tell me one time, like, that's one of the things

0:39:16.080 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 1>even like about women is that, you know, getting naked

0:39:18.800 --> 0:39:20.560
<v Speaker 1>and then you start talking about the things about your

0:39:20.560 --> 0:39:23.680
<v Speaker 1>body you don't like you want to know. It's crazy

0:39:23.680 --> 0:39:25.920
<v Speaker 1>when I got clothes on, But when I'm naked, I'm

0:39:25.960 --> 0:39:30.319
<v Speaker 1>feeling my element. I'd be like, that's the only time.

0:39:30.719 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 1>What's I'm naked? It's all the way on. Baby, it

0:39:33.840 --> 0:39:36.440
<v Speaker 1>looks like you want to be stuffing. I'm about to

0:39:36.480 --> 0:39:39.279
<v Speaker 1>give it to you. Yeah, that's where a god I'd

0:39:39.320 --> 0:39:42.960
<v Speaker 1>be feeling powerful is fuck naked. I bet your strippers

0:39:43.000 --> 0:39:46.279
<v Speaker 1>feel like that too, probably, yep, ye got to like

0:39:46.640 --> 0:39:48.920
<v Speaker 1>it's with clothes on it I'll be feeling like, is

0:39:49.000 --> 0:39:53.200
<v Speaker 1>this cute? I look right but naked, I'm good. I'm

0:39:53.239 --> 0:39:59.799
<v Speaker 1>goot your baby, teach your face right here, put your

0:39:59.840 --> 0:40:02.080
<v Speaker 1>head it right here. So Sean you got one more

0:40:02.080 --> 0:40:05.040
<v Speaker 1>before we get into this list. Are you good? I

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:07.120
<v Speaker 1>think I'm good, but I might come up with something. Yeah,

0:40:07.160 --> 0:40:13.399
<v Speaker 1>I gave us like five good don't scare. Don't scare

0:40:13.440 --> 0:40:16.719
<v Speaker 1>the niggas all the way off Sean, don't stop talking

0:40:16.760 --> 0:40:21.520
<v Speaker 1>to much about myself crazy. Okay, So look, I do

0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:27.000
<v Speaker 1>have one more exes having access, so I do not

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:29.239
<v Speaker 1>really exces, but people I've dealt with in the past,

0:40:29.280 --> 0:40:31.160
<v Speaker 1>Like say, for instance, you're talking to somebody and you

0:40:31.280 --> 0:40:34.239
<v Speaker 1>realize y'all realize it's mutual, right, y'all realize y'all are

0:40:34.239 --> 0:40:37.719
<v Speaker 1>better office friends. I have to discard these friends because

0:40:37.719 --> 0:40:40.839
<v Speaker 1>I get into a serious relationship with a man. Yes,

0:40:41.400 --> 0:40:42.959
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you should have to do that, because

0:40:42.960 --> 0:40:45.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't require that for my mate. I don't require

0:40:45.000 --> 0:40:47.160
<v Speaker 1>you to cut off good people. Do you see what

0:40:47.200 --> 0:40:49.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? If it's somebody who was like sucking your

0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:51.560
<v Speaker 1>life up and who's gonna be a liability when we

0:40:51.560 --> 0:40:55.080
<v Speaker 1>really when we really get ship popping, like no no

0:40:55.160 --> 0:40:58.759
<v Speaker 1>liabilities now. But I know a lot of assets, and

0:40:58.760 --> 0:41:00.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't just want to cut people off just because

0:41:01.040 --> 0:41:03.799
<v Speaker 1>you have an insecurity. Yeah, I don't want you to

0:41:03.840 --> 0:41:06.920
<v Speaker 1>be communicating with no woman that you used to fuck

0:41:07.320 --> 0:41:09.040
<v Speaker 1>like and y'all just be talking on the phone and

0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:10.719
<v Speaker 1>when you mad at me, let me tell you what

0:41:10.760 --> 0:41:13.080
<v Speaker 1>Timmy did. No, don't be telling nobody who had yo

0:41:13.200 --> 0:41:15.879
<v Speaker 1>dick in day mouth what I did. But what if

0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:18.200
<v Speaker 1>it's like it's like they just like friendly, like, oh,

0:41:18.440 --> 0:41:20.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm just checking in, see how you're doing. Like, oh,

0:41:20.520 --> 0:41:25.520
<v Speaker 1>happy birthday man and Christmas like that, bitches, birthday already

0:41:25.520 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 1>happy because I'm here now. I don't like outside the

0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:32.960
<v Speaker 1>one day who I'm doing the artwork about my track

0:41:33.000 --> 0:41:34.799
<v Speaker 1>record for like the last four or five years has

0:41:34.840 --> 0:41:36.520
<v Speaker 1>been really good. Like every nigga that I've been with,

0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:38.799
<v Speaker 1>like we're like still cool, like we're friends, and like

0:41:38.840 --> 0:41:40.760
<v Speaker 1>even if they have a girlfriend, we're still like friendly.

0:41:41.080 --> 0:41:43.520
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And I'm not talking

0:41:43.520 --> 0:41:47.080
<v Speaker 1>about like somebody you're a constant contact with, just like occasionally,

0:41:47.080 --> 0:41:49.120
<v Speaker 1>like I gotta change my phone number because I got

0:41:49.200 --> 0:41:51.200
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship with you. That's a problem for me.

0:41:52.239 --> 0:41:54.280
<v Speaker 1>But some men may do that as a red flag

0:41:54.320 --> 0:41:58.319
<v Speaker 1>that I have that that people I've been with um

0:41:59.200 --> 0:42:01.560
<v Speaker 1>are still still have my number, I still have access

0:42:01.600 --> 0:42:04.000
<v Speaker 1>to me. Even with social media. You could be with

0:42:04.040 --> 0:42:06.839
<v Speaker 1>somebody who has a problem with men liking stuff and

0:42:07.280 --> 0:42:09.400
<v Speaker 1>sending U d M messages like that? How do you

0:42:09.600 --> 0:42:11.600
<v Speaker 1>do nothing about that? We can't live in a world

0:42:11.600 --> 0:42:13.360
<v Speaker 1>like that, So how can you live in a relationship

0:42:13.440 --> 0:42:17.520
<v Speaker 1>like that? No, it's true, and I and also tell me,

0:42:17.520 --> 0:42:19.240
<v Speaker 1>I see what you're saying. But I think it's different

0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:23.200
<v Speaker 1>with women because women have a little bit more integrity

0:42:23.280 --> 0:42:26.319
<v Speaker 1>than men, and then we also know other women. Right,

0:42:26.680 --> 0:42:31.160
<v Speaker 1>So I don't think a man can have female friends,

0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:33.880
<v Speaker 1>but I think women can have male friends. Well, how

0:42:33.960 --> 0:42:37.680
<v Speaker 1>that's gonna What I'm saying is is that a woman

0:42:37.719 --> 0:42:40.439
<v Speaker 1>can maintain male friendships and not want to have sex

0:42:40.440 --> 0:42:43.759
<v Speaker 1>with those guys. Right, But those same guys if she

0:42:43.880 --> 0:42:45.279
<v Speaker 1>called him and be like, hey, you want to get

0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:47.040
<v Speaker 1>this pussy, even if you ain't never fun with him

0:42:47.040 --> 0:42:50.080
<v Speaker 1>in twenty years, he's probably gonna say yes. And that's

0:42:50.120 --> 0:42:54.239
<v Speaker 1>why we can't do this. That's why you can't all together. Right,

0:42:54.680 --> 0:42:57.839
<v Speaker 1>I hate to kill everybody, to shoot everybody. I'm gonna

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:00.040
<v Speaker 1>take you all right on down to Illinois. Come, I

0:43:00.160 --> 0:43:06.919
<v Speaker 1>take a trip to guy out every my friend, your friend.

0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:12.439
<v Speaker 1>That's all go. But like, but you think it goes

0:43:12.480 --> 0:43:14.319
<v Speaker 1>both ways with like man, because I have guys that

0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:16.319
<v Speaker 1>like I'm friends, Man, I would never have sex with them,

0:43:16.320 --> 0:43:18.200
<v Speaker 1>and I feel like they would never have sex with me.

0:43:18.600 --> 0:43:20.080
<v Speaker 1>Like I feel like it really is like a brother

0:43:20.239 --> 0:43:21.680
<v Speaker 1>sister type of thing. I think if I was like

0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:23.600
<v Speaker 1>to be like, yo, what the funk? I think it

0:43:23.600 --> 0:43:25.960
<v Speaker 1>were like like like a curveball for them, Like what

0:43:26.000 --> 0:43:27.960
<v Speaker 1>the fund is happening? Like what? Like you know what

0:43:28.000 --> 0:43:30.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying because we've been so friendly, right, so those

0:43:31.000 --> 0:43:34.919
<v Speaker 1>are actual friends people you've not been intimate with. Yeah, yeah,

0:43:34.960 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 1>so that red flag that I said is what it

0:43:37.239 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 1>was excess still having access? Well no, I know for

0:43:40.480 --> 0:43:41.719
<v Speaker 1>like the red flag, but as far as like men

0:43:41.760 --> 0:43:45.120
<v Speaker 1>and women being friends, right, yeah, absolutely should be able

0:43:45.120 --> 0:43:50.520
<v Speaker 1>to have friends of the opposite sex, but but not excess.

0:43:50.520 --> 0:43:52.239
<v Speaker 1>Well it's not like an exit just somebody that you

0:43:52.280 --> 0:43:56.080
<v Speaker 1>have sex with. No, no, sean no. So it's like

0:43:56.120 --> 0:43:57.640
<v Speaker 1>I was just gonna make it in any great shape

0:43:57.680 --> 0:44:01.840
<v Speaker 1>or form. I It's like just no, no, no, is

0:44:01.880 --> 0:44:05.440
<v Speaker 1>that realistic? It's not just gotta keep it to yourself.

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:10.040
<v Speaker 1>That's what I feel like, Yeah, you're gonna have too,

0:44:10.080 --> 0:44:11.759
<v Speaker 1>because I'm not gonna be okay with it. What are

0:44:11.760 --> 0:44:15.520
<v Speaker 1>you What are y'all talking about? Why are y'all still talking?

0:44:15.560 --> 0:44:18.319
<v Speaker 1>Like what y'all got to talk about? Still? I don't

0:44:18.360 --> 0:44:20.960
<v Speaker 1>know to carry your asks, you need to go on somewhere.

0:44:21.760 --> 0:44:24.680
<v Speaker 1>I guess I'm not that possessive and I like and

0:44:24.840 --> 0:44:27.200
<v Speaker 1>we talk about open relationships all the time. I'm not

0:44:27.239 --> 0:44:29.200
<v Speaker 1>saying like that's what I would that's the type of

0:44:29.239 --> 0:44:32.080
<v Speaker 1>situation I want, But I want my man to be

0:44:32.160 --> 0:44:34.880
<v Speaker 1>able to tell me whatever the funk it is, whatever

0:44:34.920 --> 0:44:37.920
<v Speaker 1>they got going on. No, I'm not okay with you

0:44:38.040 --> 0:44:41.399
<v Speaker 1>talking to a bit who probably still wants you about me.

0:44:41.719 --> 0:44:44.560
<v Speaker 1>I have a problem with that. Yeah, yeah, And I

0:44:44.640 --> 0:44:46.279
<v Speaker 1>feel like you have to be friendly and not talking

0:44:46.280 --> 0:44:48.479
<v Speaker 1>about our relationship, Like y'all can talk about other guys,

0:44:49.440 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 1>current events, policy time, aside from taking your ass to Chicago.

0:44:55.640 --> 0:45:00.600
<v Speaker 1>If y'all play with and something like like they would

0:45:00.600 --> 0:45:02.560
<v Speaker 1>know like no, like his girl, don't play that like

0:45:02.600 --> 0:45:04.200
<v Speaker 1>she's sucking crazy, you know what I'm saying, Like I

0:45:04.239 --> 0:45:05.960
<v Speaker 1>feel like, yo, like, don't play for his girl like that,

0:45:06.000 --> 0:45:08.359
<v Speaker 1>like we're just friends because I feel like we just

0:45:08.400 --> 0:45:11.640
<v Speaker 1>don't care about that. I feel like like you like

0:45:11.719 --> 0:45:14.759
<v Speaker 1>you just like you like you be having friends like yeah,

0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:16.360
<v Speaker 1>that she used to like with like with there a

0:45:16.360 --> 0:45:19.600
<v Speaker 1>good connection and they always look out for you. Still, right,

0:45:20.280 --> 0:45:22.800
<v Speaker 1>this just be like girl, Johnny got a new girlfriend,

0:45:22.880 --> 0:45:24.799
<v Speaker 1>but I talked to that Nick all the time. I

0:45:24.800 --> 0:45:26.680
<v Speaker 1>could take him right now if I wanted. That's because

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:31.680
<v Speaker 1>that's probably how you be saying, bitch, no, no, I

0:45:31.680 --> 0:45:35.239
<v Speaker 1>don't want these houmes. Man, I did not want these homes. Man.

0:45:35.800 --> 0:45:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Look as I'm looking at this list, I'm like picking

0:45:38.680 --> 0:45:41.600
<v Speaker 1>up on my other my other red flags. Okay, so

0:45:41.719 --> 0:45:44.239
<v Speaker 1>look after X is still having access to you here,

0:45:44.320 --> 0:45:47.440
<v Speaker 1>I have noted. Okay, and this could I could, it

0:45:47.440 --> 0:45:51.440
<v Speaker 1>could beat me healthy conflict resolution. I'd be ready to go,

0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:54.319
<v Speaker 1>That's what I noted. And I do be ready to go.

0:45:55.760 --> 0:45:57.520
<v Speaker 1>So what you mean, like and like when you get

0:45:57.560 --> 0:46:00.919
<v Speaker 1>into an argument that's just so deep, I'd be ready

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:03.080
<v Speaker 1>to just dip out, like I wanna, I want to

0:46:03.160 --> 0:46:05.279
<v Speaker 1>leave the relationship. So you don't want to be too

0:46:05.520 --> 0:46:07.719
<v Speaker 1>you want to leave the relationship, I'd be ready to

0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:12.320
<v Speaker 1>leave the relationship. I'd be ready the conversation is too vulnerable,

0:46:12.560 --> 0:46:15.040
<v Speaker 1>not the conversation, but if we're we're in the midst

0:46:15.080 --> 0:46:17.239
<v Speaker 1>of like an argument that I just feel like it's

0:46:17.280 --> 0:46:22.120
<v Speaker 1>just like you know how I guess the comprehension thing, right,

0:46:22.200 --> 0:46:24.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not comprehending you. You're not comprehending me. So that's

0:46:24.960 --> 0:46:27.359
<v Speaker 1>why there's a disagreement. We're going back and forth about

0:46:27.400 --> 0:46:30.400
<v Speaker 1>the same thing. I'd be ready to end the relationship

0:46:30.480 --> 0:46:35.759
<v Speaker 1>because of that, because we don't under yes, when it

0:46:36.000 --> 0:46:38.880
<v Speaker 1>is that's always made for me, I do be running.

0:46:39.120 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 1>I'd be ready to get the funk about it there,

0:46:40.719 --> 0:46:43.360
<v Speaker 1>because if we're not understanding each other, how can we

0:46:43.400 --> 0:46:48.279
<v Speaker 1>have a relationship. That's what the work that's putting you

0:46:48.320 --> 0:46:50.239
<v Speaker 1>gotta do the work. And maybe that's why I don't

0:46:50.239 --> 0:46:51.719
<v Speaker 1>have a man now because I'll be putting in work.

0:46:52.000 --> 0:46:54.120
<v Speaker 1>I just I don't like like you know what I'm saying,

0:46:54.160 --> 0:46:59.440
<v Speaker 1>Like yeah, because we come up from an instant gratification society,

0:46:59.520 --> 0:47:02.080
<v Speaker 1>and like if things ain't good, we're ready to move

0:47:02.120 --> 0:47:05.200
<v Speaker 1>on to the next thing or just be by myself.

0:47:05.280 --> 0:47:07.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't even be ready to move on. I just

0:47:07.719 --> 0:47:10.680
<v Speaker 1>be ready to just have a little peace because I

0:47:10.760 --> 0:47:12.719
<v Speaker 1>just be thinking about like, um, are you even mad?

0:47:12.760 --> 0:47:15.120
<v Speaker 1>Black woman? And idea I could do bad by myself

0:47:15.440 --> 0:47:16.839
<v Speaker 1>like that, you know what I'm saying, Like if I'm

0:47:16.840 --> 0:47:18.640
<v Speaker 1>like constantly like, are you gonna find with somebody? I

0:47:18.760 --> 0:47:20.080
<v Speaker 1>like? Like Like you said, I could just be by myself.

0:47:20.120 --> 0:47:21.600
<v Speaker 1>It's like, listen, I can had a tent in some

0:47:21.640 --> 0:47:23.799
<v Speaker 1>batteries for all this, Like it's not that deep. It's

0:47:23.800 --> 0:47:27.919
<v Speaker 1>not worth the stress, right, ain't nothing like no real

0:47:28.040 --> 0:47:30.600
<v Speaker 1>dick and somebody holding you at nice It's nothing like it.

0:47:30.640 --> 0:47:33.799
<v Speaker 1>But like not if you're stressing me, like I wanna

0:47:33.800 --> 0:47:35.560
<v Speaker 1>be stressed out over there, at least you can follow

0:47:35.640 --> 0:47:38.640
<v Speaker 1>up with some You just gotta find out what you like.

0:47:38.719 --> 0:47:41.680
<v Speaker 1>I just feel like you have to decide what stress

0:47:41.760 --> 0:47:43.600
<v Speaker 1>you're willing to put up with when it comes to

0:47:43.640 --> 0:47:46.240
<v Speaker 1>these men, Like you're not just gonna find no fucking

0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:49.799
<v Speaker 1>perfect as nigga who's just gonna come perfectly healed and

0:47:49.920 --> 0:47:53.040
<v Speaker 1>just perfect for you, and he ain't gonna never stress you,

0:47:53.120 --> 0:47:55.680
<v Speaker 1>and she ain't never gonna get hard, and like that's

0:47:55.719 --> 0:47:59.319
<v Speaker 1>gonna happen in any relationship. And why are we going

0:47:59.360 --> 0:48:02.960
<v Speaker 1>back to men? Y'all? See what happened? Do you see

0:48:03.000 --> 0:48:06.160
<v Speaker 1>what happened? Why are we talking about minute? All? Right? Now?

0:48:07.320 --> 0:48:11.440
<v Speaker 1>That's exactly and that's why I wanted to have this

0:48:11.560 --> 0:48:15.399
<v Speaker 1>conversation because it's y'all fault. Goddamn it. I don't care

0:48:15.840 --> 0:48:19.839
<v Speaker 1>I said it because it almost seems like we can pinpoint,

0:48:20.040 --> 0:48:23.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, every single issue about men, but when it's

0:48:23.640 --> 0:48:27.440
<v Speaker 1>time to look at our own ships, we just it's

0:48:27.480 --> 0:48:30.839
<v Speaker 1>almost like I'm like this because of that. I'm like

0:48:30.920 --> 0:48:34.799
<v Speaker 1>this because this person did that. Your energy, right, I

0:48:34.840 --> 0:48:37.319
<v Speaker 1>want to stay I want to stay clear that this

0:48:37.480 --> 0:48:40.000
<v Speaker 1>next one might be number one on the list for

0:48:40.080 --> 0:48:44.000
<v Speaker 1>a lot of women. Uh, it's fallen in love too fast.

0:48:44.080 --> 0:48:49.520
<v Speaker 1>We all think about that. M hmm. I think it's true.

0:48:49.840 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying not to think about it because you know,

0:48:53.320 --> 0:48:55.040
<v Speaker 1>I in love like in my head, but I try

0:48:55.080 --> 0:48:56.880
<v Speaker 1>not to say anything because because I know it's like

0:48:56.920 --> 0:48:59.080
<v Speaker 1>a thing. I like remind myself that, like you know,

0:48:59.120 --> 0:49:01.040
<v Speaker 1>you're just romantic in this person, you really don't know

0:49:01.120 --> 0:49:03.040
<v Speaker 1>him like that. So I'll do like all the ship.

0:49:03.160 --> 0:49:04.759
<v Speaker 1>But like as fact as I could quote for fall

0:49:04.760 --> 0:49:05.880
<v Speaker 1>in love, it is, I can fall out of love

0:49:05.880 --> 0:49:07.560
<v Speaker 1>because they in my head already know that, like it's

0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:11.520
<v Speaker 1>just me not me. I like to keep myself in check.

0:49:12.000 --> 0:49:14.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm a cancer. So as soon as I fall in love,

0:49:14.280 --> 0:49:17.360
<v Speaker 1>I turned in the fucking Marry Poppins snow white in

0:49:17.400 --> 0:49:20.640
<v Speaker 1>the seven doors, and the birds be chirping in the

0:49:20.640 --> 0:49:22.839
<v Speaker 1>the be singing in my ear and ship and then

0:49:22.880 --> 0:49:26.120
<v Speaker 1>the nigga hurt my feelings. Then I'll be mad at myself.

0:49:26.640 --> 0:49:29.520
<v Speaker 1>You did it again? To me, you did it again?

0:49:29.560 --> 0:49:34.480
<v Speaker 1>You know, fail for this ship? Right, I've been there

0:49:34.520 --> 0:49:36.440
<v Speaker 1>so many times. That's why now I'd be like sean thro,

0:49:36.560 --> 0:49:39.880
<v Speaker 1>tell yourself a dreams, like don't say God talk to you,

0:49:40.440 --> 0:49:42.920
<v Speaker 1>but you might be manifesting it not to work when

0:49:42.920 --> 0:49:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you do that. And sometimes I think that too, Like

0:49:45.600 --> 0:49:48.520
<v Speaker 1>sometimes I think maybe I'm being too pessimistic. So it's

0:49:48.520 --> 0:49:50.440
<v Speaker 1>like weird, because nobody wants to be played, you know

0:49:50.440 --> 0:49:52.359
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, Like, nobody wants to feel played. Because

0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:53.719
<v Speaker 1>it's even like you know, like when you crost me

0:49:53.760 --> 0:49:55.440
<v Speaker 1>here answer and it's like what do I call him? Again?

0:49:55.480 --> 0:49:56.920
<v Speaker 1>Like I know he's seen a miscall, you know what

0:49:57.000 --> 0:49:59.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, Like those type of stories in your head.

0:50:00.040 --> 0:50:01.919
<v Speaker 1>That's not my man. I don't either, but I feel

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:06.560
<v Speaker 1>like maybe that's the problem. Well, okay, so here's the thing.

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:09.359
<v Speaker 1>Maybe in my twenties I probably would have looked at

0:50:09.360 --> 0:50:11.359
<v Speaker 1>this a little bit different, but nowadays I really don't

0:50:11.360 --> 0:50:13.040
<v Speaker 1>got time to play with you. I'm gonna say exactly

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:15.960
<v Speaker 1>what I want, exactly how I'm feeling, exactly how I

0:50:15.960 --> 0:50:19.400
<v Speaker 1>feel about you, and then you can go on if

0:50:19.440 --> 0:50:22.080
<v Speaker 1>that's not if you're not winning none of that ship. Right,

0:50:22.480 --> 0:50:24.759
<v Speaker 1>So I might even tell you because late you know what,

0:50:25.000 --> 0:50:30.000
<v Speaker 1>I love you. If you ain't with that, you probably

0:50:30.040 --> 0:50:34.120
<v Speaker 1>should leave me to fu alone, right, say this pussy

0:50:34.200 --> 0:50:38.080
<v Speaker 1>or not not even just the pussy. It is everything

0:50:38.080 --> 0:50:42.600
<v Speaker 1>that come with exactly. So um yeah, So it's it's

0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:45.759
<v Speaker 1>possible that women we do have those attachment issues we've

0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:48.880
<v Speaker 1>talked about in the past, falling in love too quick

0:50:49.320 --> 0:50:52.720
<v Speaker 1>and expecting the person to be at the same space

0:50:53.000 --> 0:50:55.240
<v Speaker 1>in the relationship that you are at the same time.

0:50:55.280 --> 0:50:58.399
<v Speaker 1>It's almost inevitable because a lot of times two people

0:50:58.440 --> 0:51:01.239
<v Speaker 1>are not in love at the same time. It's just

0:51:01.360 --> 0:51:03.239
<v Speaker 1>for whatever reason, it's that way. And I guess when

0:51:03.239 --> 0:51:05.080
<v Speaker 1>you do find somebody that you're in love with at

0:51:05.080 --> 0:51:06.520
<v Speaker 1>the same time, and I'll get married and I'll do

0:51:06.560 --> 0:51:09.480
<v Speaker 1>all the little things. I don't know. Do you think's

0:51:09.480 --> 0:51:11.400
<v Speaker 1>like my grandmother. She's always telling me, like, never love

0:51:11.480 --> 0:51:13.319
<v Speaker 1>someone more than they love you, and if you do,

0:51:13.320 --> 0:51:16.200
<v Speaker 1>don't show it, like she always. Yeah, So that's what

0:51:16.280 --> 0:51:19.600
<v Speaker 1>women are told because we think that's that's how relationships work.

0:51:19.640 --> 0:51:22.839
<v Speaker 1>But then that's also how you create stalkers. Okay, when

0:51:22.840 --> 0:51:24.920
<v Speaker 1>this man is so in love at you, he loves

0:51:24.920 --> 0:51:27.040
<v Speaker 1>you more than he loves itself at this damn point,

0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:29.920
<v Speaker 1>you love so now you that that comes out that

0:51:31.080 --> 0:51:33.239
<v Speaker 1>I would think that if I love somebody more than

0:51:33.280 --> 0:51:36.799
<v Speaker 1>they love me, it's gonna kinda uh I mean, excuse me.

0:51:37.280 --> 0:51:40.200
<v Speaker 1>If this man loves me then more than I love him,

0:51:40.360 --> 0:51:43.680
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna kind of show in the relationship and the

0:51:43.760 --> 0:51:45.920
<v Speaker 1>things that we do to each other, you know what

0:51:46.000 --> 0:51:49.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. So somebody's gonna be lacking. It's gonna be

0:51:49.120 --> 0:51:55.560
<v Speaker 1>a lack somewhere. But right, But do you think most

0:51:55.560 --> 0:51:57.399
<v Speaker 1>relationships are like that where it's like one person loves

0:51:57.400 --> 0:52:00.000
<v Speaker 1>someone more than the other, even if it's like uh

0:52:00.239 --> 0:52:05.279
<v Speaker 1>fifty three right. Yeah. I don't think so either. I

0:52:05.280 --> 0:52:07.680
<v Speaker 1>don't think it's ever I think like like they're showing

0:52:07.680 --> 0:52:09.319
<v Speaker 1>in different ways like in a yan yang, and I

0:52:09.320 --> 0:52:11.440
<v Speaker 1>feel like that's when it's like that's probably like your person.

0:52:11.920 --> 0:52:14.280
<v Speaker 1>But I don't think it's ever like equal. There's always

0:52:14.280 --> 0:52:18.359
<v Speaker 1>one person chasing another and y'all flip flop sometime. Yeah,

0:52:18.400 --> 0:52:19.920
<v Speaker 1>that's how I feel too. I feel like it might

0:52:19.960 --> 0:52:23.799
<v Speaker 1>be like different moments where like yeah, but it's never

0:52:23.920 --> 0:52:28.279
<v Speaker 1>like a smooth just like you know, fifty situations. Attitude

0:52:29.360 --> 0:52:34.200
<v Speaker 1>attitude problems ladies who got an attitude? Black women, that's

0:52:34.200 --> 0:52:36.239
<v Speaker 1>across the board for us, we're just born with one.

0:52:36.600 --> 0:52:41.000
<v Speaker 1>We're born with our middle finger up like what, yeah,

0:52:41.040 --> 0:52:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I'll be feeling like it's even had a whole situation

0:52:42.719 --> 0:52:44.160
<v Speaker 1>at Afro Functions now was one of the guys like

0:52:44.160 --> 0:52:45.600
<v Speaker 1>I simply had because I had to move my stuff,

0:52:45.600 --> 0:52:47.400
<v Speaker 1>you know, always telling you I was like moving my stuff.

0:52:47.600 --> 0:52:49.040
<v Speaker 1>So I had asked to some of the people have

0:52:49.120 --> 0:52:50.920
<v Speaker 1>like cars and you know, like you can't drive your

0:52:50.960 --> 0:52:53.120
<v Speaker 1>car on the thing. So I just like, I'm high,

0:52:53.120 --> 0:52:55.600
<v Speaker 1>it's impossible that someone can help me, Um, you know,

0:52:55.680 --> 0:52:58.360
<v Speaker 1>move my stuff. This man's gonna say, not me. You

0:52:58.360 --> 0:53:00.719
<v Speaker 1>could go over there, And I said, okay, like what

0:53:00.840 --> 0:53:02.239
<v Speaker 1>you said it like that because I'm like, like the

0:53:02.280 --> 0:53:04.600
<v Speaker 1>attitude doesn't even called for. So then I went and

0:53:04.600 --> 0:53:06.839
<v Speaker 1>I asked when else this same motherfucker's gonna pull up

0:53:07.040 --> 0:53:09.560
<v Speaker 1>and be like, oh he gotta do. So I thought,

0:53:09.600 --> 0:53:11.200
<v Speaker 1>like I was trying to keep myself calm because I

0:53:11.239 --> 0:53:13.080
<v Speaker 1>was like, now I feel like you're catching the attitude

0:53:13.120 --> 0:53:14.719
<v Speaker 1>with me for no reason. I'm like, I literally just

0:53:14.719 --> 0:53:17.399
<v Speaker 1>asked the question. It said yes and no question. He's like, oh, well,

0:53:17.480 --> 0:53:19.120
<v Speaker 1>we gotta do ours that I said. I see. Now

0:53:19.160 --> 0:53:21.320
<v Speaker 1>we're still talking just so catch your fucking attitude me.

0:53:21.360 --> 0:53:22.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, you like, just say no. I just

0:53:23.000 --> 0:53:24.759
<v Speaker 1>asked to kid, someone help me. That's it. But it's

0:53:24.760 --> 0:53:26.359
<v Speaker 1>but I feel like it's like they're waiting for us

0:53:26.360 --> 0:53:28.080
<v Speaker 1>to have an attitude for no reason. Like I just

0:53:28.120 --> 0:53:31.280
<v Speaker 1>asked the question. I see what you're saying. So basically

0:53:31.280 --> 0:53:33.880
<v Speaker 1>it's almost like black women are expected to have this attitude,

0:53:33.920 --> 0:53:38.200
<v Speaker 1>so we're always um. People always come to us, you

0:53:38.200 --> 0:53:44.880
<v Speaker 1>know with the it's like yeah, like they feel like

0:53:44.920 --> 0:53:46.839
<v Speaker 1>they have to have their guards up from like Jump

0:53:46.840 --> 0:53:48.440
<v Speaker 1>Street and it's like, bro, like I live and I

0:53:48.640 --> 0:53:50.160
<v Speaker 1>was mad nice. I was like, excuse me. I didn't

0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:51.320
<v Speaker 1>even ask him if you could do I was like,

0:53:51.360 --> 0:53:53.080
<v Speaker 1>it's it possible I could get somebody to help me.

0:53:53.200 --> 0:53:54.799
<v Speaker 1>I didn't even so when he was like not me,

0:53:54.840 --> 0:53:56.359
<v Speaker 1>but you who goes, I was like, I'm not even

0:53:56.440 --> 0:53:58.239
<v Speaker 1>arguing with you because the attitude wasn't even called for us.

0:53:58.239 --> 0:53:59.680
<v Speaker 1>I was like okay, and I just moved to the

0:53:59.680 --> 0:54:01.600
<v Speaker 1>other feel now I'm on the other field, and you

0:54:01.680 --> 0:54:03.440
<v Speaker 1>still find and then you're sitting there looking at me

0:54:03.480 --> 0:54:04.799
<v Speaker 1>like you want to start saying like what the fund

0:54:04.840 --> 0:54:07.040
<v Speaker 1>is your problem? You're waiting for a problem, like that's

0:54:07.040 --> 0:54:09.279
<v Speaker 1>what is you want a confrontation. If the answer is no,

0:54:09.360 --> 0:54:11.400
<v Speaker 1>then't cool. I'm just gonna go ask somebody else, you

0:54:11.440 --> 0:54:15.959
<v Speaker 1>know what. UM Like you know another uh time where

0:54:15.960 --> 0:54:18.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like black women are treated like we're going

0:54:18.120 --> 0:54:21.560
<v Speaker 1>to have an attitude, so I'm gonna give you poor service.

0:54:21.800 --> 0:54:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes when people are of other races are serving black

0:54:24.680 --> 0:54:27.120
<v Speaker 1>women at the table, we don't get the best service

0:54:27.160 --> 0:54:28.800
<v Speaker 1>because they'll be like they're gonna have an attitude and

0:54:28.840 --> 0:54:33.480
<v Speaker 1>they're not gonna too Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, y'all. So,

0:54:33.560 --> 0:54:36.839
<v Speaker 1>like we already talked about accountability or the inability like

0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:41.440
<v Speaker 1>thereof accountability, um to see our own bullshit, you know,

0:54:42.680 --> 0:54:46.919
<v Speaker 1>UM assisting that men excuse me while insisting that men

0:54:47.520 --> 0:54:51.600
<v Speaker 1>take accountability for the ship. So those are red that's

0:54:51.600 --> 0:54:57.759
<v Speaker 1>a red flag. UM shutting down, ignoring, or lack of

0:54:57.880 --> 0:55:01.239
<v Speaker 1>conflict resolution. I think we talked about that. M hm.

0:55:01.320 --> 0:55:04.040
<v Speaker 1>Actually we didn't talk about shutting down. So, you know,

0:55:04.200 --> 0:55:07.359
<v Speaker 1>not being able to communicate with a woman. So you're

0:55:07.360 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 1>a grown man, you have communication skills, but you're with

0:55:11.680 --> 0:55:15.880
<v Speaker 1>a woman who lacks communication and comprehension skills. You know,

0:55:16.040 --> 0:55:18.080
<v Speaker 1>what do you do? That's just not something that's solely

0:55:18.360 --> 0:55:21.640
<v Speaker 1>um male trade. We know men don't like you can talk,

0:55:21.680 --> 0:55:23.520
<v Speaker 1>but there are some men who are who do well,

0:55:23.560 --> 0:55:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I mean communicate, but then you end up with somebody

0:55:25.560 --> 0:55:30.960
<v Speaker 1>who can't communicate. Right. Another one somebody wrote down was um,

0:55:31.280 --> 0:55:35.680
<v Speaker 1>just say another personal just put that down one or

0:55:35.760 --> 0:55:40.160
<v Speaker 1>nine I personalized ship that don't have anything to do

0:55:40.239 --> 0:55:42.359
<v Speaker 1>with me. A lot of women do that. We'll take

0:55:42.360 --> 0:55:45.440
<v Speaker 1>some ship that is his ship and make it our

0:55:45.480 --> 0:55:48.719
<v Speaker 1>ship and make it about us with the I I

0:55:48.960 --> 0:55:53.800
<v Speaker 1>I I I I M. I'm going through this and

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<v Speaker 1>you're making it about you right now, right, I can

0:55:57.520 --> 0:55:59.160
<v Speaker 1>give you all of it. Well, I won't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me just go to the next one. I was

0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:02.800
<v Speaker 1>ready a second with got a perfect example of that,

0:56:03.040 --> 0:56:07.200
<v Speaker 1>but I won't. Um. I saw a comment from someone

0:56:07.280 --> 0:56:10.640
<v Speaker 1>that said they ignore people, so I comment back to

0:56:10.680 --> 0:56:12.680
<v Speaker 1>her and I asked her, what does she mean by that,

0:56:12.800 --> 0:56:15.399
<v Speaker 1>And I said, like ignoring in a relationship. She said yes,

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<v Speaker 1>So I may be guilty of that too, Like we're

0:56:18.040 --> 0:56:19.799
<v Speaker 1>getting into it. I may not answer my phone for

0:56:19.840 --> 0:56:21.839
<v Speaker 1>your ask for the rest of the day, you know,

0:56:22.000 --> 0:56:26.759
<v Speaker 1>because I don't feel like you're calling me to um,

0:56:26.880 --> 0:56:30.080
<v Speaker 1>let's move on. Maybe if you're calling me to continue

0:56:30.120 --> 0:56:32.359
<v Speaker 1>on with the ship bullshit from earlier, I don't want

0:56:32.360 --> 0:56:35.640
<v Speaker 1>to talk to you. So I know that I've ignored

0:56:35.719 --> 0:56:39.080
<v Speaker 1>somebody for a while two weeks. I ain't know people too,

0:56:39.080 --> 0:56:40.439
<v Speaker 1>because I feel like I don't want to say anything

0:56:40.440 --> 0:56:42.120
<v Speaker 1>I can't take back. So that's like the best way

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<v Speaker 1>for me to handle it. And I know that's probably

0:56:43.520 --> 0:56:45.319
<v Speaker 1>not like the best thing, but at the toss up

0:56:45.320 --> 0:56:47.840
<v Speaker 1>of the two, it's like I'd rather just do ignoring

0:56:48.040 --> 0:56:49.640
<v Speaker 1>than like saying some ship we're like, you know what

0:56:49.680 --> 0:56:51.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, and I can't take that ship back. But

0:56:51.400 --> 0:56:53.319
<v Speaker 1>I shouldn't be more mature than that, Like that is

0:56:53.360 --> 0:56:55.080
<v Speaker 1>something I need to work on, because it's not like

0:56:55.160 --> 0:56:57.719
<v Speaker 1>the best way of communication. See, if someone does that

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<v Speaker 1>to me, it will triggered my abandiment issues and then

0:57:00.360 --> 0:57:03.560
<v Speaker 1>I overreact. Then you ignore me, and now you win.

0:57:03.600 --> 0:57:10.480
<v Speaker 1>Shill missing you know, you ignore me. Now you'll got

0:57:10.480 --> 0:57:19.960
<v Speaker 1>no wish you consequences. Consequences. Procrastination was another. Oh, that's

0:57:20.560 --> 0:57:24.600
<v Speaker 1>that's one of mine. I feel like that's just humans. Yeah,

0:57:25.920 --> 0:57:28.640
<v Speaker 1>Like a red flag of my everyday life is procrastination. Yes,

0:57:28.720 --> 0:57:30.320
<v Speaker 1>and it's like I can't even do the things I

0:57:30.360 --> 0:57:35.720
<v Speaker 1>want to do? What the fund is my problem? Right? Um? Okay,

0:57:35.760 --> 0:57:38.480
<v Speaker 1>So apparently men consider a single woman with their ship

0:57:38.520 --> 0:57:43.600
<v Speaker 1>together red flag because something has to be wrong with you. Yeah.

0:57:43.600 --> 0:57:45.520
<v Speaker 1>One of my girl friends said that one of my

0:57:45.600 --> 0:57:50.200
<v Speaker 1>red flags was that I ain't got nobody yet, Like,

0:57:50.240 --> 0:57:52.000
<v Speaker 1>how you ain't got nobody? You see me to have

0:57:52.080 --> 0:57:56.320
<v Speaker 1>your ship together? You're attractive, you funny, Like, why are

0:57:56.360 --> 0:57:59.360
<v Speaker 1>you single? Something's wrong with you? That's eating meaning money

0:57:59.400 --> 0:58:02.600
<v Speaker 1>more I began, But then it's like, but then, why

0:58:02.640 --> 0:58:06.200
<v Speaker 1>are you single? Because we're both sitting here. Okay, that's

0:58:06.200 --> 0:58:10.520
<v Speaker 1>a whole another episode. Uh, Because I think that, you know,

0:58:10.680 --> 0:58:12.840
<v Speaker 1>for the most part, I believe that women want love.

0:58:13.120 --> 0:58:16.120
<v Speaker 1>Women want to be loved. We don't want to be single.

0:58:17.040 --> 0:58:20.080
<v Speaker 1>I believe that men thrive when they're single. They may

0:58:20.120 --> 0:58:23.120
<v Speaker 1>not realize, well they may not. Actually, I feel like

0:58:23.360 --> 0:58:25.640
<v Speaker 1>married men thrive a little bit more than single men.

0:58:25.840 --> 0:58:28.080
<v Speaker 1>You know, some people can do it being single, but

0:58:28.520 --> 0:58:33.280
<v Speaker 1>most married, most successful men are married. Right. But we're

0:58:33.320 --> 0:58:35.600
<v Speaker 1>living in it. I think we're living in a time where,

0:58:35.680 --> 0:58:37.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, if we're in the black community, we want

0:58:37.960 --> 0:58:39.959
<v Speaker 1>to talk about the black community. A lot of people

0:58:39.960 --> 0:58:41.840
<v Speaker 1>don't put a lot of black men don't see the

0:58:41.880 --> 0:58:47.320
<v Speaker 1>importance of marriage or relationships. I think men like they

0:58:47.360 --> 0:58:48.959
<v Speaker 1>want to be loved too, but they try to front

0:58:49.000 --> 0:58:50.680
<v Speaker 1>like they like they don't like they don't want to

0:58:50.680 --> 0:58:52.200
<v Speaker 1>be like it's whatever, you know what I'm saying. And

0:58:52.240 --> 0:58:54.480
<v Speaker 1>sometimes I think because I think like in the media,

0:58:54.640 --> 0:58:56.560
<v Speaker 1>that's like how they I mean, they change it now,

0:58:56.600 --> 0:58:57.680
<v Speaker 1>but I feel like in the media that's a lot

0:58:57.680 --> 0:58:59.360
<v Speaker 1>of times how they put trade black men, and then

0:58:59.400 --> 0:59:01.280
<v Speaker 1>because that's what they see you on television, they try

0:59:01.320 --> 0:59:03.520
<v Speaker 1>to like, you know, like marry that because they feel

0:59:03.520 --> 0:59:04.760
<v Speaker 1>like that's what it is to be a black man.

0:59:04.800 --> 0:59:06.080
<v Speaker 1>Like even like in the music and ship like that.

0:59:06.080 --> 0:59:07.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's a lot of marrying and not

0:59:07.840 --> 0:59:09.280
<v Speaker 1>them like really like being who they are. Because I

0:59:09.320 --> 0:59:10.919
<v Speaker 1>feel like to be loved, it's like a normal human

0:59:10.920 --> 0:59:13.880
<v Speaker 1>trait I think everyone wants because it's a good feeling.

0:59:13.920 --> 0:59:16.200
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. So even like we're like,

0:59:16.280 --> 0:59:18.240
<v Speaker 1>how like black man cheating and ship like that, I

0:59:18.280 --> 0:59:19.640
<v Speaker 1>feel like a lot of it, even though like I

0:59:19.640 --> 0:59:21.680
<v Speaker 1>feel like something just can't keep the di they dig together.

0:59:21.880 --> 0:59:23.560
<v Speaker 1>But like sometimes I think, like, no, I think you're

0:59:23.600 --> 0:59:25.160
<v Speaker 1>just cheating because you feel like you're supposed to when

0:59:25.160 --> 0:59:27.320
<v Speaker 1>you think it's okay, Like it's not even necessarily because

0:59:27.360 --> 0:59:29.160
<v Speaker 1>you really you know what I'm saying. It's just like

0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:30.840
<v Speaker 1>because like you just feel like, oh, I'm a man

0:59:30.920 --> 0:59:33.000
<v Speaker 1>and this is what men men do, so you just

0:59:33.040 --> 0:59:36.440
<v Speaker 1>go out and do whatever. Right, so biblically, because biblically,

0:59:36.600 --> 0:59:38.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, people like to go back to the Bible

0:59:38.200 --> 0:59:40.920
<v Speaker 1>and talk about women and blah blah blah. But the

0:59:40.920 --> 0:59:43.400
<v Speaker 1>Bible doesn't mention anything about if you want to do that,

0:59:43.400 --> 0:59:45.840
<v Speaker 1>because that's a lot of reference. God's people use the

0:59:45.840 --> 0:59:49.160
<v Speaker 1>Bible as right, especially when trying to dictate what women

0:59:49.200 --> 0:59:53.040
<v Speaker 1>need to be doing. The Bible says the man can't

0:59:53.040 --> 0:59:55.280
<v Speaker 1>be alone. They didn't say anything about women not being

0:59:55.360 --> 0:59:58.200
<v Speaker 1>able to be alone. And the Bible also says man

0:59:58.240 --> 1:00:00.840
<v Speaker 1>should love women as Christ love the Church and don't

1:00:00.840 --> 1:00:06.160
<v Speaker 1>say shit about women loving men. But y'all, we need love.

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<v Speaker 1>Women need stand out numbers. I mean we out number men. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>for another reason too, m hmm. I feel like somebody

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<v Speaker 1>meant to be alone. Yeah. I feel like even that

1:00:18.080 --> 1:00:20.840
<v Speaker 1>statistics is fake because I mean, we got to calculate

1:00:20.880 --> 1:00:22.960
<v Speaker 1>on how many men are incocerateds. So we're talking about

1:00:22.960 --> 1:00:25.640
<v Speaker 1>available men on the streets. Some things we just can't control,

1:00:26.480 --> 1:00:28.200
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. They could very well be

1:00:29.520 --> 1:00:31.919
<v Speaker 1>damn in the same amount of women as there are men.

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<v Speaker 1>We would never know. And as long as men think

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<v Speaker 1>that it's less of them and more of us, and

1:00:39.440 --> 1:00:41.640
<v Speaker 1>that means that's why they should have five or six

1:00:41.680 --> 1:00:44.920
<v Speaker 1>different women, they'll continue to do that ship. But we

1:00:45.080 --> 1:00:46.960
<v Speaker 1>have to put our fun down to be like n nigger,

1:00:47.520 --> 1:00:52.000
<v Speaker 1>it's equal playing grounds, equal playing field. Stop playing. Picked

1:00:52.040 --> 1:00:55.040
<v Speaker 1>a woman and get married. I want one, like I

1:00:55.120 --> 1:00:57.640
<v Speaker 1>want to be in a relationship with like women and

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<v Speaker 1>just me, but maybe beyond fifteen years down on line,

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<v Speaker 1>let's add somebody so I can they can share the load.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's add somebody because that's still and that's what women

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<v Speaker 1>don't think take into consideration. That's a big job being married.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know, I realized being single down that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some days I don't eat. I just go to sleep.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you got a family, you're responsible for their nourishments.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I gotta make sure you and your kids,

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<v Speaker 1>or if we got kids again, I gotta make sure

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<v Speaker 1>everybody eat every single day. Like that is stressful. Trying

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out just yes, that is very stressful when

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<v Speaker 1>that's the tip of the iceberg, exactly, Sean. At least

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<v Speaker 1>people what the fun. They can find you at John

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<v Speaker 1>This one's my good pussy T shirt. Hear me? We

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<v Speaker 1>need I got you? I'm an, said some nuncs of y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying you'all some slides too. I seen you have

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<v Speaker 1>the two pieces. I'm saying you have a whole good

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<v Speaker 1>pussy set. Tell me the good pussy they go with

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<v Speaker 1>the good pussy said, already got all right, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>can find me on instagrams. Also, um, y'all, keep them

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<v Speaker 1>dumb bit stories coming in SA series. That's a dumb friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me, ask a dumb friend, ask a black friend.

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<v Speaker 1>All that good ship? Tamn? What you got? Oh that's all?

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't really got ship? Oh, y'all following me on

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram official tam bam and once again, I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank y'all for tuning in. Remember to speak now and

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<v Speaker 1>never hole yo piece y'all. We're talking to y'all. By bye,