Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. He
Speaker 1: talks back back. Yeah, what's up y'all? Thank you for
Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back,
Speaker 1: a show dedicated to these niggas. And you host, you
Speaker 1: know what's your co host? A J what's up? Team?
Speaker 1: Hey y'all. Hey everybody, it's your girl, Tam Bam. I
Speaker 1: love y'all. Thank y'all once again for coming to see us.
Speaker 1: And we got a guest house today. Yeah. Hey, I'm sure,
Speaker 1: I'm and I'm just excited to be here because I
Speaker 1: love y'all. Show somebody to talk back and talk some ship. Hey, y'all.
Speaker 1: Shawnji is my my Instagram friend. I don't know when
Speaker 1: we started following each other, but she's a super dope
Speaker 1: artist Okay from Brooklyn. Yeah, tell our listeners a little
Speaker 1: bit about yourself, what you got going on. I paint
Speaker 1: like a lot of vaginas. I think other things too,
Speaker 1: but I mostly known from my vaginas. Take them to
Speaker 1: look like really pretty and just nice and ship like that.
Speaker 1: And I like to paint things that's like from like
Speaker 1: my life story. So that's basically where most of my
Speaker 1: art comes is probably why I like, I painted a
Speaker 1: lot of giants at the time when I was paying
Speaker 1: the collection, you know, so what you like pussy like that,
Speaker 1: that's the thing. Everybody asked me that, but I really don't,
Speaker 1: like I'm strictly dicky, but it's just like I think
Speaker 1: it's like the power in it, I'll say, and like
Speaker 1: the power that it possessed, and like from painting that
Speaker 1: I kind of realized, like even like posting on Instagram,
Speaker 1: like my dms were looking at so crazy, and it's
Speaker 1: like I barely post myself strictly from artwork. So I'm like, okay, yes,
Speaker 1: I went to your Instagram page and those pussies do
Speaker 1: look like flowers. Oh no, my look like it though
Speaker 1: look a little different than that. Everybody's gran look different,
Speaker 1: but I promise you was gonna looks like a beautiful
Speaker 1: flower to the right person. And it's crazy because when
Speaker 1: I started paying them, I didn't even look at mine,
Speaker 1: and then then I was painting with it. I was like, oh, ship,
Speaker 1: because this isn't such like an odd place like you
Speaker 1: asked people like, have you ever actually seen it? You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. That's like when people do like
Speaker 1: an no bleaching. I'm like, but have you even seen
Speaker 1: You're asking nobody to be bleached even know what it
Speaker 1: looks like. Yeah, so Sean Sean is gonna be co
Speaker 1: hosting with us today, so let's get into our weekends.
Speaker 1: What the hell y'all had going on? Again? I don't
Speaker 1: do much in nothing. I just hung out. I did
Speaker 1: go out to dinner. Um, I'm dating, that's what the
Speaker 1: funk I'd be doing, lying always like I ain't do nothing,
Speaker 1: and then she her weekend be fools. It's not foolish.
Speaker 1: It's just me doing regular things and sometimes I might
Speaker 1: do it with somebody else, but other than that, it's
Speaker 1: just what I'm saying. That's that's not true. But not
Speaker 1: this weekend, I had afro punk and like this was
Speaker 1: this was like the first time doing afro punk in Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: I think it maybe like two years, so it was
Speaker 1: like it come back afro punk and it was fun.
Speaker 1: Like we met a lot of dope people. And then I,
Speaker 1: like Loki Hokey, like ran into like Burning Boy's wife
Speaker 1: because like she came to her booth and when she
Speaker 1: was like talking us and ship and I was just
Speaker 1: like talking her up. So I was like oh um,
Speaker 1: you know, like because she was eating, so I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh what is I was like, She's like, no, I
Speaker 1: gotta the b I P. And I was like oh,
Speaker 1: like um, she was like yeah, but I hate festivals.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, why are you here? She was like
Speaker 1: fro my husband. I was like, oh, what's it your husband?
Speaker 1: She was like he's bird of boy and I said really.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm happy to know that he's
Speaker 1: actually gonna be here. Because I had went to gonna
Speaker 1: see him in Atlanta, he didn't show up. It was
Speaker 1: like I was like mad excited to see him, but
Speaker 1: it was like every time I went to gonna see
Speaker 1: him eating, this show up. So I didn't want to
Speaker 1: get excited for Africa. I was I'm not gonnacited. So
Speaker 1: I see him soon. So when I see her, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, wow, this is your head and me
Speaker 1: He's like, he's really here, He's really gonna perform. So
Speaker 1: now he performed it it was like a dope b
Speaker 1: asst it was. I was happy he was there. I
Speaker 1: was happy to trying to get to see him. So
Speaker 1: wasn't he with uh Stefan Stefan DN? So he was
Speaker 1: married then or he's married after because I know just
Speaker 1: recently he was um some other Jamaican rapper or artists
Speaker 1: a woman UM took like little sneaky pictures of him
Speaker 1: in the bed with her. Yeah. Yeah, I was like
Speaker 1: you miss, I was saying, it's like, is that really him?
Speaker 1: Because I had googled it later. But then I was like,
Speaker 1: you know how sometime I can't have multiple ways because
Speaker 1: I repeated it to her and she didn't look crazy,
Speaker 1: So I was like, you know, like sometimes I was like,
Speaker 1: maybe it's like one of his wives, and she'd just
Speaker 1: be like incongnigo. She was like, yeah, I hate coming
Speaker 1: to festivals, its like, and she like really wasn't the
Speaker 1: because we were crossing from the v I P. And
Speaker 1: I was like maybe she was working with me. But
Speaker 1: he did perform what you had going on town, y'all.
Speaker 1: I didn't do ship this weekend. I didn't have uh
Speaker 1: nothing going. Oh I'm lying. My mama birthday, I went
Speaker 1: to Columbia. Damn, I sun that up. I'm sorry, Mama.
Speaker 1: Friday night I didn't go nowhere because I was trying
Speaker 1: to recoup my money from uh bawling out in Jamaica
Speaker 1: last week. So I had to chill this weekend. It
Speaker 1: was either chill I go on a date. And I
Speaker 1: ain't feel like being bothered with no dates, so I
Speaker 1: just chilled. And then Saturday, I went down to Columbia,
Speaker 1: South Carolina. It was my mom thirty seventh birthday and said,
Speaker 1: thirty seven. That's what she said. I had that. I
Speaker 1: was trying to do the kick in my head. I
Speaker 1: was like, thirty that's what we were celebrating, y'all. I
Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you. That's what she said.
Speaker 1: I respected so right, And you said that ship so
Speaker 1: casually like it was right right, it was correct. And
Speaker 1: we watched um, the new Top Gun movie or the
Speaker 1: newer Top Gun movie that came out. That ship was
Speaker 1: so good. I was on the edge of my seat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: y'all gotta watch it. Actually really really good. Because I
Speaker 1: chose to go see um Doctor Strange over that that
Speaker 1: was probably good too, but not Top Gun is something else.
Speaker 1: I really enjoyed it. So we sat there and let
Speaker 1: me tell you what I did. I made a big deal.
Speaker 1: I was like, why don't have nets sweet for your birthday? Y'all?
Speaker 1: We need to get some dessert. I was like, take
Speaker 1: mama to go get her some doughnuts or cake or something.
Speaker 1: So my sister and my mom went to go get
Speaker 1: some dous so I could. I did that so I
Speaker 1: could smoke a joint outside. Why didn't gone like y'all
Speaker 1: need to get about it? It is we really, God
Speaker 1: is the same thing. When I go to visit my
Speaker 1: mom and at lasts and I know you know, I'll
Speaker 1: just smoke, I like open the window in my bedroom,
Speaker 1: and I know she know i'd be highest. I try
Speaker 1: to be respectful at least not smoking in front of
Speaker 1: her rights exactly. That's all. I'm in a hotel and
Speaker 1: like steam it out and ship. But I think they
Speaker 1: caught me on the ring camera anyway, So I ain't
Speaker 1: wan't fooling nobody, y'all. So let's let's get into stupid
Speaker 1: internet news, all right. So I wanted to start with
Speaker 1: the purge, the so called purge that's supposedly happening in Illinois.
Speaker 1: Had y'all seen that they're calling this something like a purge, right,
Speaker 1: but it's not really a purge. So apparently they're getting
Speaker 1: rid of their cash bonds system um in Illinois. So
Speaker 1: what that means is people can get out of jail
Speaker 1: until the right So I don't know why they're calling
Speaker 1: it a purge. I take offense to it personally because
Speaker 1: I feel like, y'all, y'all think about your nigga is
Speaker 1: about to get out the niggas that can'tform bond about
Speaker 1: to get out of jail. Yeah, that's exactly what it is,
Speaker 1: because there are no more criminals than the rich people
Speaker 1: are people who can't afford their bond who get out
Speaker 1: of jail and still be on the street to commit
Speaker 1: crime until they go to court. It's the same thing.
Speaker 1: But here's the crazy part about it. All right, here's
Speaker 1: the list of offenses for which Illinois law enforcement cannot
Speaker 1: detain criminals. So you can commit aggravated battery, aggravated d UI,
Speaker 1: aggravated fleeing, arson, burger burglary, drug induced homicide, intimidation, kidnapping, robbery,
Speaker 1: second degree murder, and threatening a public official and then
Speaker 1: go home. What did drunk induce homicide? Though? Like, you
Speaker 1: get high and killed somebody and go right, O, man,
Speaker 1: you know you or you supplied them You supplied them
Speaker 1: with the drugs that caused him to die. Oh snap,
Speaker 1: I think you're right, because now I said you got
Speaker 1: high and they killed somebody. I think you're right. Now,
Speaker 1: that's what I found to I'm like, man, I like
Speaker 1: making motherfucker's crazy. No, so stupid. Yeah, so um. I
Speaker 1: think that the cash bond system should have been revamped
Speaker 1: a long time ago because you know, it kind of
Speaker 1: plagues the lower income communities, people who can't afford. Like
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you all a perfect example. Do y'all
Speaker 1: know who text tone is? And we actually he doesn't
Speaker 1: have a bond at all, so I can't really talk
Speaker 1: about him, but he has literally been in county jail
Speaker 1: for six years, waiting on court. So if they're they're
Speaker 1: gonna have a cashless uh, if they're gonna get rid
Speaker 1: of cash bonds, they need to really really do speedy trials.
Speaker 1: So if somebody belongs in prison, you'll need to hurry
Speaker 1: up and convict them. There's no reason why somebody should
Speaker 1: be sitting in county jail because they won either don't
Speaker 1: have a bond or can't afford the bond, and they're
Speaker 1: waiting on waiting for court. Because as far as I'm concern,
Speaker 1: if they sitting jail to three or four years, you've
Speaker 1: already convicted them time serves. No, it's true something like that.
Speaker 1: My home girl's sister, her name was Lane Lean, and
Speaker 1: she actually passed away at Rikers Island. But it was
Speaker 1: basically like the same thing. Yeah, it was. It was
Speaker 1: a big thing. Like they ended up suing the city.
Speaker 1: I think they finally got their settlements, so like I'm
Speaker 1: really happy for her, but like yeah, like, um, she
Speaker 1: was in just she started having like a seizure or
Speaker 1: something and the thing. But it was like it was
Speaker 1: the same thing. It was like cash bond. I think
Speaker 1: it was like five dollars something like that, and it
Speaker 1: was like for something real stupid. But you know, like
Speaker 1: that's how the city be taking money from people. It's
Speaker 1: really some bullshit. Like I'm really happy that they're finally
Speaker 1: closing on Rikers Island because there'd be people in there
Speaker 1: waiting for a court dating there for like months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like they're kidnapping people off the streets. It's
Speaker 1: lynn concern. Yeah, we're not your slavery because you really
Speaker 1: don't in county jail and stuff. You're not working. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you get this lazy. It's like we're just it's just
Speaker 1: so Rikers Island was a county jail, it's not it's
Speaker 1: a jail because can your city is kind of different.
Speaker 1: So I don't want to I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: necessarily county, but I know it's like a holding place,
Speaker 1: like it's not a prison. So it's so I think
Speaker 1: like it would basically be considered in a sense like
Speaker 1: a county jail because it's not. It's not a president
Speaker 1: it's really just like a holding place until you're ready
Speaker 1: to go to court. Yeah. So yeah, So I mean
Speaker 1: by holding people family members in a county jail, right,
Speaker 1: you're forcing the family now to pay for phone calls,
Speaker 1: to play for canteen and all these things when they
Speaker 1: have an event actually been convicted of a crime yet.
Speaker 1: So it's like you're punishing, punishing the person in prison
Speaker 1: and the family and know all that ship too, but
Speaker 1: everybody just it's just it's just sucked up. So the
Speaker 1: state is what is still making money, the county is
Speaker 1: still making money off that. So you agree with this
Speaker 1: new law as long as the trousers speedy, Yes, And
Speaker 1: you know it was brought forth by the Black Caucus,
Speaker 1: so it's a part of like prison reform supposedly, and
Speaker 1: you know, I just don't like how they're putting the
Speaker 1: titles out there like it's now going to be a
Speaker 1: purge like black people just because that's who it is.
Speaker 1: That's who ends up stuck in prison waiting for bond
Speaker 1: because white people commit the same crimes, but they're not
Speaker 1: sitting in prison, you know what I'm saying, because they
Speaker 1: can bond out majority of them or other people. I
Speaker 1: don't just want to say white people. But in America,
Speaker 1: so y'all know. Yeah, So I don't think it's just
Speaker 1: abouty a perth situation. I also but on the other side,
Speaker 1: I don't think that niggas should just be getting a
Speaker 1: ticket for Arson. Yeah, Arson, but niggas don't really do
Speaker 1: niggas really coming with Arsenal? When I say niggas, I
Speaker 1: don't really just be talking about black people, I mean everybody. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't agree with that ship. I mean, excuse me.
Speaker 1: I agree with them kidnapping though, Like kidnapping, somebody doesn't
Speaker 1: snatch your ass up and then they find you and
Speaker 1: they take you home and then they have to let
Speaker 1: him go after he didn't kidnap you till he go
Speaker 1: to court. I feel like on the type of kidnapping though,
Speaker 1: because like you know, like if you do like a
Speaker 1: home invasion, they'll consider that kidnapping because like if you
Speaker 1: don't let someone leave the vicinity. So sometimes now you
Speaker 1: like you tie somebody up and through them in some ship,
Speaker 1: it's like literally like they'll be like, oh, you didn't
Speaker 1: let me leave, So they'll just be adding they add
Speaker 1: more charges to you just to try to figure out
Speaker 1: what that he gets to stick. Yeah, but do they
Speaker 1: determine which one is worse? You know, I would hope, So, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll see what else comes out of that,
Speaker 1: but for now, that's what's happening in Illinois. So I
Speaker 1: saw a video online. I think it might have been
Speaker 1: on Jasmine Brand and I had to go pull it
Speaker 1: up to see exactly what it was. But it was
Speaker 1: Chelsey um Hillary Elsie and Hillary Clinton talking to um
Speaker 1: Meg the Stallion about essentially, when's the last time y'all
Speaker 1: seeing Hillary Clinton? Because she had house in her bag
Speaker 1: on the breakfast club. She always trying to be down
Speaker 1: to somebody like she's go away, She's trying to work
Speaker 1: on the black vote. That's what it is, Tammy. It's
Speaker 1: always that's what they're trying to do and then they
Speaker 1: get in the office and you don't do ship for
Speaker 1: us anyways, but it looks so fake though. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: they were talking about right, so this was um. Evidently
Speaker 1: they have a show now her and her daughter Apple
Speaker 1: TV is a series called guts Um. They debuted on
Speaker 1: Friday with this Meg the Stallion episode and the idea
Speaker 1: of the of the two of them going across the
Speaker 1: country on a road trip to talk to different women
Speaker 1: who they think are like inspiring in some type of way. Right,
Speaker 1: So they started with Meg the Stallion. But I do
Speaker 1: think it's pandering to black people for that vote. We
Speaker 1: I believe she's about to try to run for president.
Speaker 1: Show is to make Hillary Hillary Clinton palatable for people
Speaker 1: because people like she don't have no personality that most
Speaker 1: of us like. She just doesn't seem like. I think
Speaker 1: that's what they're trying to do, and they're gonna use
Speaker 1: go through every culture to try to get their vote.
Speaker 1: And they started with because like black women are like
Speaker 1: popping out or like everywhere, because even like it's crazy
Speaker 1: when I'll be going to the city and just looking
Speaker 1: at like the billboards and stuff like that, it's so
Speaker 1: many black women on billboards were like natural here, and
Speaker 1: it's like we're like we're popping right now. So I
Speaker 1: just feel like, like like you said, it's like pander into
Speaker 1: the vote, like you know what I'm saying, Like people
Speaker 1: are starting to realize that you need the black vote,
Speaker 1: like you need black people. And it's so crazy for
Speaker 1: me because I started as a sneak artist and um
Speaker 1: I had did some sneakers for it was an exclusive
Speaker 1: for urban outfitters. I would have to be like twenty
Speaker 1: two at the time, and the first thing I did
Speaker 1: was like a girl with the afrol and that lady.
Speaker 1: I'll never forgetting that white lady came to me and
Speaker 1: said I can't sell that because because black people weren't marketable.
Speaker 1: She's your dad as told me that, and I'm like
Speaker 1: she's old, like she's so you're thinking like later, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, But that's so not like to
Speaker 1: see it now. And that's why I like, even with
Speaker 1: my brand, I only use black models because I will
Speaker 1: never forget on that lady said that's to me, like
Speaker 1: you're literally gonna tell me my skin isn't marketable, Like
Speaker 1: that's crazy. Yeah, that's wild. And when have black women
Speaker 1: not been Yeah I have not been popping, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's only cool when somebody else is doing it.
Speaker 1: So how do y'all feel about that? Though? How do
Speaker 1: y'all feel about Because to me, oftentimes, when they want
Speaker 1: to speak to the black community and when they want
Speaker 1: to speak to the black collective, they go to music artists,
Speaker 1: they go to entertainers. They don't go to black people
Speaker 1: who are in politics oftentimes, like that's not who they
Speaker 1: put on the forefront. They go to people like CARDIV
Speaker 1: who knows nothing about politics. No, it's true. And even
Speaker 1: like when um, what's his name? And he was like,
Speaker 1: you're not black if you don't vote for me, Like
Speaker 1: in that one little second, it shows you, like what
Speaker 1: they really think about. It's like you y'all really think
Speaker 1: we're mindless, Like yeah, you know what I'm saying, because,
Speaker 1: like you said, why don't you guys going to the
Speaker 1: black politics? You guys are coming to so like what
Speaker 1: like pop culture? You know? Like like they think that
Speaker 1: we don't pay attention to these other things when we do,
Speaker 1: we do. But our pop culture does fuel our our
Speaker 1: society in a way. Like people listen to artists and
Speaker 1: rappers and musicians more than they're listening to the Stacy Abrams.
Speaker 1: You know, they're not going to her, they're not on
Speaker 1: her Instagram live waiting to see what Stacy Abrams gotta say.
Speaker 1: But we also have some artists that a little bit more.
Speaker 1: You know, they can go to a care, they can
Speaker 1: go to they if they want to go that route.
Speaker 1: There are still some men, and I would like for
Speaker 1: it to be a black man. How about that that
Speaker 1: they go to and and have a sit down conversation with.
Speaker 1: They're trying to get that young vote, that young as twenty,
Speaker 1: these young people, that young vote, that's who they're trying
Speaker 1: to get with WOP. They're not trying to get tr fans.
Speaker 1: They're already probably already secured their vote. But I think
Speaker 1: that like even with them trying to get the younger
Speaker 1: bo I feel like they're like not, I feel like
Speaker 1: they're telling their short, their self short. Because even as
Speaker 1: we're talking about it right now, even feel like the
Speaker 1: younger kids, I feel like they see what they're doing,
Speaker 1: like I see you, you know what I'm saying. Like
Speaker 1: I feel like this younger generation is a lot smarter.
Speaker 1: So even though like it's true, like like those are
Speaker 1: the people that they listen to. I think you kind
Speaker 1: of have to come harder than talking about who on
Speaker 1: this show, like like, treat me like I'm intelligent, MEGANA
Speaker 1: Stallion And I didn't see it, so I don't know
Speaker 1: what she said to MEGANA Starian has a whole last degree,
Speaker 1: Like teach to treat her like she's intelligent. Talk to
Speaker 1: her about some real ship. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Because you just want people to vot, because it could
Speaker 1: you tell people making this DOLLI You're like, what are
Speaker 1: your what's the word I'm looking for? Like when they
Speaker 1: put an outline of all the stuff that's important to them,
Speaker 1: like what are your like what are we your political agenda? Exactly? Agenda?
Speaker 1: Like if you want to come sit down with Megan
Speaker 1: the Stallion talk about that, then, like give these kids
Speaker 1: more credit, right, But this motherfucking TikTok and ask motherfucker's
Speaker 1: be stupid sometimes, like you know, like I mean one
Speaker 1: of them is that's smart, but that's true. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just want them to put some respect on the
Speaker 1: black community. Yeah, me, That's what I need them to
Speaker 1: do today, not tomorrow, and not after. We don't vote.
Speaker 1: I need them to put some respect on the black community.
Speaker 1: But um, yeah, yes, ray J down went wild. Did
Speaker 1: y'all check that out that I missed that I'm missing?
Speaker 1: I was tuned in. Okay, screenshot and all types of ship.
Speaker 1: I feel y'all in know what happened screen recording Like, sorry,
Speaker 1: ray J, I needed to see them TEX messages up
Speaker 1: close and personal. So ray J is pissed at Chris
Speaker 1: J general at the whole conduct Kardashian family, Kim and
Speaker 1: Chris um for the most part, because you know, they
Speaker 1: did the sex tape. How many years ago now about
Speaker 1: twenty years ago, they did a sex tape. And what
Speaker 1: ray J is trying to do now is clear his
Speaker 1: name because the Kardashians have been, you know, slandering him
Speaker 1: on the backside as far as business goals, as far
Speaker 1: as based on what he's saying. So he's trying to
Speaker 1: clear his name because there it's out there as if
Speaker 1: ray J put a flick out of them having sex
Speaker 1: and that's not what happened. Ray J showed the contract
Speaker 1: that they both signed for four hundred thousand dollars a piece,
Speaker 1: the production contract. Yeah m hmm, with Kimmy's handwriting on it.
Speaker 1: When I tell y'all, ray J had all this ship
Speaker 1: up on the rector, He had the receiver dector screen
Speaker 1: in a mansion and a Dominican of public going through
Speaker 1: all this ship. Now how somebody put that on YouTube?
Speaker 1: I have to smoke a joy and watch it. So
Speaker 1: what was the initial narrative that came out with the
Speaker 1: six tape? Does anybody know that? Because what was it?
Speaker 1: What did they agree to? Because I know that it
Speaker 1: didn't come out like Kim Kardashian does porn like will.
Speaker 1: They made it seem like she was Yeah, they made
Speaker 1: it seem like she was victim of elite intimate moment
Speaker 1: with her boyfriend, that she was leaked right and say
Speaker 1: that like, um, she sewed them or something like that.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I can't remember that. It was so long ago.
Speaker 1: I saw that on on TMZ. You never even got
Speaker 1: to see it. I was too young to watch that
Speaker 1: when it came out. No, not. That's why when y'all
Speaker 1: said twenty years ago, I had to say back, like
Speaker 1: damn that SHI made me feel old, But yeah, that
Speaker 1: really was twenty years ago. I didn't maybe even though
Speaker 1: I can't say because I was already watching nat Ship
Speaker 1: at that age. Sorry guys, but I didn't watch that
Speaker 1: one because so it wasn't like, because you know, this
Speaker 1: is before you know what I'm like, and it's like,
Speaker 1: oh oh J Trials and I was like, what five,
Speaker 1: So it wasn't like, you know what I'm saying, It
Speaker 1: didn't really need much to like, okay, right, So Chris
Speaker 1: Strip so recently, Chris Jenner, she took a lie deteck
Speaker 1: to test to prove that it wasn't a production. She
Speaker 1: had some fake guy, some actor basically performed this lie
Speaker 1: deteck to test. How don't we know he was an actor?
Speaker 1: Ray J posted Demand's YouTube page like ray J posted
Speaker 1: receipt ship. Yes this is a fake a fake person. Yeah,
Speaker 1: ray J did that. Yeah, because you know Kim Kim Kardashians.
Speaker 1: So what happened was this is how the ship all started.
Speaker 1: So Kim was crying because the kid pulled up on
Speaker 1: him with the Roadblocks ship right pulled up on her
Speaker 1: with roadblocks, a roadblocks porn of her, right, which son
Speaker 1: did sent it to the child because I think it
Speaker 1: was like an ad or something on Roadblocks that he
Speaker 1: was playing. Yes, so Roadblocks even said that that isn't possible.
Speaker 1: So even that scene could have been created, even that
Speaker 1: scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians was probably fake, yes,
Speaker 1: probably fabricating. So that's how the ship started. So ray
Speaker 1: J is feeling like, you know this to all these years,
Speaker 1: y'all have been putting his narrative out there as if
Speaker 1: I'm the one or somebody associated with me was the
Speaker 1: person who leaked the video. If it's me and you
Speaker 1: with a video and our plan is to leak it,
Speaker 1: then that's one thing. But they have been, you know,
Speaker 1: making it edit as if ray J and whoever leaked
Speaker 1: this porn of Kim K. So now ray J is
Speaker 1: just basically trying to exonerate himself and let everybody know
Speaker 1: it was a production. Her mama was on it, and
Speaker 1: on it. Her mom actually watched one of the videos
Speaker 1: and said, no, let's go with the other one because
Speaker 1: it makes Kim look better. All these things. That's a
Speaker 1: real weird I Spur Slim Mama pimp ship. But that
Speaker 1: family not for nothing. That family always been kind of
Speaker 1: iffy to me. I ain't even gonna lie like and
Speaker 1: I just I feel like, honestly, because ray J's I
Speaker 1: don't know if y'all seen that clip from the Winny
Speaker 1: william Show, but ray J's mom told him not to
Speaker 1: do that ship like you're a black man, Like you're
Speaker 1: not gonna like you're a man and you're black, Like
Speaker 1: you're not gonna do yourself. That's not gonna happen for you.
Speaker 1: And that's exactly what happened. I mean, granted, he's still
Speaker 1: a millionaire and I'm still here, but like I think
Speaker 1: home Girls like a billionaire now mm hmm, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: now you want to be mad, but it's kind of
Speaker 1: like you should have been smarter, like and I get him,
Speaker 1: and I like really versed out, like people were like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think nobody's really gonna like I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna change like the success of the Kardashians. I
Speaker 1: hope it does. I hope that when we're here on
Speaker 1: that I really hope it does, because then ain't gonna
Speaker 1: do ship just about two weeks. They're gonna be onto
Speaker 1: something else and people ain't gonna care about what because
Speaker 1: then he posted the unfortunately he posted d ms that
Speaker 1: he had. It came a couple of months ago, and
Speaker 1: nobody cared about that ship. Yeah, nobody cared for real. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess it's because we can't see any new fucking
Speaker 1: like this old ship nobody, you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: do y'all think that maybe now maybe they'll be okay
Speaker 1: because they don't need the black community anymore. Did y'all
Speaker 1: see Kim Kai's most recent photo shoot, The American Dream?
Speaker 1: She has these blonde eyebrows. Blonde, Yeah, Now they're transitioning
Speaker 1: over Yeah. Yeah, So that's why I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: think they really can't. I think like they like just
Speaker 1: transition now. I don't don't, but I hope he gets
Speaker 1: to clear his name and you know, like get his
Speaker 1: deals right there, but like, get your money, black man,
Speaker 1: get your money. I listen, all right, y'all, we're gonna
Speaker 1: take a break and we're gonna get into uh today's topic.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, so listen. I put a post
Speaker 1: online um on the podcast stage to try and get
Speaker 1: women to engage a little bit. So I basically posed
Speaker 1: a question to women, asking, you know, what are some
Speaker 1: things about yourself that men may consider red flags? And
Speaker 1: I intentionally did not ask men what some women's red
Speaker 1: flags are because maybe I want to point out the
Speaker 1: biggest one women may have, which be which would be accountability.
Speaker 1: If we can't point out what's wrong with us and
Speaker 1: what our own bullshit is, that's some accountability issue. So anyway,
Speaker 1: I'll start, Okay, I'll start. We're gonna go into some
Speaker 1: general ship that you know, people responding with, even some guys,
Speaker 1: but I'll start with one of my can I just
Speaker 1: can I just say this start shine you next, and
Speaker 1: then we're gonna just move on with life because I
Speaker 1: really don't be doing shop girl bite anyway. All right,
Speaker 1: so lesten y'all. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. One
Speaker 1: of my big red flags would be deflection. Okay, So
Speaker 1: like in the midst of an argument, I may bring
Speaker 1: up something you did in the past to justify my
Speaker 1: current behavior, right, And I've recognized over time that's not okay,
Speaker 1: especially if I supposedly got over that thing you did.
Speaker 1: But I feel like the reason why I do that
Speaker 1: is because I like to think of myself as a
Speaker 1: really forgiving person. Right, So then if I do some ship,
Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like you're dragging me about it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to feel dragged about some ship. Right,
Speaker 1: So now if I'm I feel like, damn we even now, right,
Speaker 1: why are you dripping? Like get over it now? And
Speaker 1: that's not fair. That's why we're moving forward. Yes, I
Speaker 1: feel like we even, Like why can't I get the
Speaker 1: same grace I gave you for the same thing. What's
Speaker 1: the problem? Because you ain't them and they ain't you? Right,
Speaker 1: I understand that, but I'm still a working progress. Got
Speaker 1: ain't through with you yet. That's my John. What's one
Speaker 1: of yours? Is like I like free food, and I like,
Speaker 1: literally tell you that. So like if they're like he's like,
Speaker 1: you know, trying to talk to me, like trying to
Speaker 1: I'd like cool, Like I like free food. And then
Speaker 1: I realized that they think I like them, but it's
Speaker 1: like I don't like you, but you offered me free food,
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna go out with you to have this meal.
Speaker 1: So like your opportunity, that's it. I'm an opportunity. If
Speaker 1: there's not food, be they're taking it. That's a food tunist.
Speaker 1: I'm an opportunist. If there's no I'm definitely taking it.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I was, and I have some pictuations with
Speaker 1: niggas giving me free food because that's really what I
Speaker 1: call it, Like it's free food. And like then they
Speaker 1: started acting crazy after like this one do he um
Speaker 1: he gave me free food because like I know he
Speaker 1: gave me the frue food today that I met him,
Speaker 1: Like he came and sat down while I was eating
Speaker 1: and was like, oh, you're cute and like buying me
Speaker 1: drinks and everything like that. And then I'm like, it's
Speaker 1: free food and I'm going after that. This one who
Speaker 1: was blown on my phone acting all types of crazy
Speaker 1: and I guess because I didn't ask my phone he
Speaker 1: was feeling the type of way. And then let's saying
Speaker 1: I know he's texting me like oh it's over for you,
Speaker 1: and was like that that's like threatening me and acting
Speaker 1: crazy like I know you snitched on me, all types
Speaker 1: of ship and then he's like yeah, he's like wrong number.
Speaker 1: He was like wrong number, but um, I ain't heard
Speaker 1: from you. What how you doing? And I'm like does
Speaker 1: he think that she is cute? Like I think you're something, nigga.
Speaker 1: You're working crazy and I would not be calling you
Speaker 1: like I like that nigga on everything. He's still be
Speaker 1: trying to trying to hit me up through other numbers
Speaker 1: and like other Instagram pages, you're fucking crazy. So I
Speaker 1: guess I was like by slapping the face back from
Speaker 1: me being a person who likes free food. But that
Speaker 1: definitely is my red flag. I like free food. It's
Speaker 1: not about liking free food, though. Come on through a therapist, Tammy,
Speaker 1: come on through a therapist. Please please break it down
Speaker 1: to her what that is exactly? That to us, you
Speaker 1: are using people for what you want, yes, free food.
Speaker 1: So that would make you an opportunitist or a user
Speaker 1: at times, and that's not uncommon. Women do that. Women
Speaker 1: like free ship, and sometimes we will obtain it from
Speaker 1: people who want more from us and knowing that we
Speaker 1: don't want more from them, and that is definitely a
Speaker 1: red flag. That's my good dinner whore. I should put
Speaker 1: that on a T shirt dinner wore. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: guess if we're gonna do this, I guess, then apports
Speaker 1: and I just make up something so y'all don't feel
Speaker 1: left out. Um, I'll say one of minds is overreacting.
Speaker 1: Sometimes ship don't call for level twenty. It could just
Speaker 1: be a ten level issue. And I'll go from zero
Speaker 1: to one hundred in a matter of moments and it's like,
Speaker 1: did you like, damn, can you be a niggas piece,
Speaker 1: Like just calm down and listen and don't respond. So
Speaker 1: when just quick to respond and just go off the
Speaker 1: deep end. That's one of mine. I know I do
Speaker 1: that ship and I like, damn, my shipping up broke
Speaker 1: your window. Huh window that don't be be calling and
Speaker 1: hanging up. You know, I love your mom, Andy. Look
Speaker 1: that goes into one of my other red flags. I
Speaker 1: don't like niggas with mamma's or sisters. Like that's a
Speaker 1: red flag for me with men, and a red flag
Speaker 1: for yourself your mama alive. I can't do this, you know, no,
Speaker 1: you want to know what I guess I say, Like,
Speaker 1: that's a red flag for me to like, I don't
Speaker 1: like me nobody's mom. Like I'm not trying to meet
Speaker 1: your mom like like you got kids, I do not
Speaker 1: want to see your child Like I like, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna beet that mama. Don't care. Just but your seafood
Speaker 1: dinner and your sausage dinner and go home. That's all
Speaker 1: I need. Give me a good meal. We could you
Speaker 1: up for about five minutes after and I'm bead. No,
Speaker 1: I don't know. You want to come meet? No, like
Speaker 1: your mom's gonna be home. No, Nick, I'm not coming over.
Speaker 1: They're like, your my mom's nice. Yeah, your mom's like
Speaker 1: said every girl you bring there, No, I'm coming. And
Speaker 1: that's what your mama. I love mama's I'd be trying
Speaker 1: to win mama's. I like to I like, by the
Speaker 1: time I get done with your mama, she's gonna like
Speaker 1: be more than you. That's how I'll be wanting to
Speaker 1: do it. Did y'all see this meme online? What's not
Speaker 1: a meme? Sorry it's I forgot what Paul cast it was.
Speaker 1: But the guy, one of the guys on the podcast
Speaker 1: pose a question like, so, who who sits in the
Speaker 1: front seat, your your wife, your girl, or your mom?
Speaker 1: And the guy here asked it was like, my girl,
Speaker 1: Like if my girl, you know, arbitrarily volunteers, like give
Speaker 1: up the front seat to my mom, that's her business.
Speaker 1: But I would never put her in a position to
Speaker 1: have to just get out the car get in the
Speaker 1: back seat because my mama getting in the car. She
Speaker 1: was like, it's nothing wrong with that back seat, Like
Speaker 1: my mama can sit back there. But we know that
Speaker 1: that might be a thing for some mama's, and I
Speaker 1: think that's because mama's, especially black mamas in particular, maybe
Speaker 1: having his son husbands, I would move from Mars's mom
Speaker 1: to sit in the front. It would just it would
Speaker 1: just be my personality to respect his mom to say,
Speaker 1: same way, I put my own mama in the front.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put your mama there too. Now I can't front.
Speaker 1: I don't think I will move. I'm not based in
Speaker 1: the back. I'm not moving me because it's not like
Speaker 1: if I if she was already in the front seat
Speaker 1: and they're picking me up from somewhere, I wouldn't have
Speaker 1: her move from me next to him. I would just
Speaker 1: get in the back. So I would never expect for
Speaker 1: her or my husband to then expect me to move
Speaker 1: because his mom is getting in the car. You know,
Speaker 1: once you get married, especially like that's your media family,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry your wife, Like if she's not going good
Speaker 1: between you and your wife, like the whole family ship
Speaker 1: dynamic going to fall apart. So things have to always
Speaker 1: be good between you and your wife. You're gonna let
Speaker 1: your your mama come in between that. But showing his
Speaker 1: mama respect and treating her the same, with the same
Speaker 1: respect as you treat your own. I sat your dick.
Speaker 1: Your mama can't do that. I need a little bit
Speaker 1: more respect. I'm sorry your mama could do that. But oh,
Speaker 1: you know where were living here? Like ship going on? Man? Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: it's a weird ship going on outside seeing that. I've
Speaker 1: seen a video where a girl says she did have
Speaker 1: a threesome with a guy and his mom. What I
Speaker 1: see that ship? No, No, that's disgusting. But that's that's
Speaker 1: not insett. It's definitely inset. I guess it depends on
Speaker 1: how you actually have the three something what I mean
Speaker 1: likes the way to do it. The mom has sucked
Speaker 1: her son's dick. That's the different positions in the three something. No, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's they need therapy for real, Like right, yeah, that's
Speaker 1: not okay. But no, even if I'm still like, if
Speaker 1: I'm sucking your dick or whatever, that means, I like
Speaker 1: you a lot. If I'm putting your dick in my mouth,
Speaker 1: and if I love you and ship, then I'm gonna
Speaker 1: love your mama too, like I'm gonna try to. I am.
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I love your mama for
Speaker 1: making you, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna be good
Speaker 1: to her too. I don't be almost making you, but
Speaker 1: I can still love about she in the back seat.
Speaker 1: The car is clean. I'm not gonna get up, especially
Speaker 1: my feet her. I'm not getting up. Get up for that, lady,
Speaker 1: get your I think it's necessarily don It's like I
Speaker 1: don't have that much ego in it. It's that's an
Speaker 1: ego thing, y'all. That's not an evil thing. The fact
Speaker 1: that like the car is playing, you could say in
Speaker 1: the back I shouldn't have to get up and move
Speaker 1: for you. What if she's like on a cane, And
Speaker 1: but if she's in the can, she probably belongs in
Speaker 1: the back. So you probably gotta get a sprint of man,
Speaker 1: every reason, every reason to keep yours right, you bigger Carniggs.
Speaker 1: Your mama needs space back there, all right? Listen for me.
Speaker 1: I do have a couple of a couple more of
Speaker 1: my own red flags, and we can get it to
Speaker 1: some of the red flags that, um, you know, some
Speaker 1: women responded with some other ones I came up with,
Speaker 1: but these are mine, right, Um, I probably offered too
Speaker 1: much information about myself too soon because I'm an open
Speaker 1: book and I don't really care who I talked to
Speaker 1: about my life for real. That's why we have a podcast.
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna say whatever it is. So if you
Speaker 1: can't handle that, then you probably not the person for
Speaker 1: me anyway. I do want to be in a relationship
Speaker 1: with somebody that I could be myself all the time,
Speaker 1: Like that's really really important to me. So if I
Speaker 1: find myself having to omit things high things about myself,
Speaker 1: you probably ain't for me anyway. So whatever, but that
Speaker 1: could be a red flag for some men like you
Speaker 1: oversharing um. Also, in the past, I have had a
Speaker 1: tendency to share relationship trauma like should I might have
Speaker 1: went through in another relationship with somebody I'm currently talking to,
Speaker 1: because things just be relative, Like you're having a conversation,
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh man, yeah, my ex such is
Speaker 1: said is such. But men, I have had somebody point
Speaker 1: that out to me that I do that, right, But
Speaker 1: then I then started, you know, making sure I'm listening
Speaker 1: to when they're talking and they do the same thing.
Speaker 1: It's just different. They can just see what You can
Speaker 1: always see what somebody else doing, but not what you're doing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because the same way I think, like that's probably like
Speaker 1: one of my my red flag too, is like I
Speaker 1: overshare and the oversharing I give a lot of times
Speaker 1: it's like crazy stories. So I think, like, so I
Speaker 1: try to like stop doing something like I used it.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's be like yo, this bitch is crazy,
Speaker 1: and they just be ready to write to write me off,
Speaker 1: because like my one, it does get kind of crazy,
Speaker 1: like I got like stories for days, like I've been
Speaker 1: telling about times when I like dow tables on people
Speaker 1: and like may season. I mean, I don't alway start
Speaker 1: trying not to do that no more. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to be a changed person. But like there, but
Speaker 1: I had to realize that I need to stop telling
Speaker 1: nigg is that because they're gonna be like, yo, what
Speaker 1: the fund is wrong? But and like keep it pushing.
Speaker 1: As long as you don't act crazy, you won't get
Speaker 1: that type of reaction from me. Like I just be
Speaker 1: matching energy. But it's like my thing is always like
Speaker 1: if we have we have, If we're here, we're here.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like it's like go hard
Speaker 1: to go home. So we get to that point I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go to go hard to go home, and I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna go home, so I'm gonna go hard. So
Speaker 1: you're one upper flag, so you can't bow out gracefully.
Speaker 1: Now I don't bow out gracefully. We see, I see
Speaker 1: the collection I'm out to drop like in the summer
Speaker 1: about this one nigga. Oh girl, I met the whole
Speaker 1: coloring book about that dirty dig nigger, A whole color.
Speaker 1: I'm make sure to saying, y'all, Si, yeah, send me word.
Speaker 1: I see y'all. Because they just need to learn shiveries.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some in a nice coloring book. They
Speaker 1: want to be a little fun niggers, but a nice
Speaker 1: color you could color that bit you and learn sugary
Speaker 1: like I'll need something this all the time. Like my
Speaker 1: pettiness knows no bounce. I don't even trying to go
Speaker 1: there with people because another flag. Yeah yeah, this conversation
Speaker 1: is riddled and sucking red flags. Who I ain't gotta
Speaker 1: say ship right, all right, all right, No, I got
Speaker 1: all right. So here's one of mine that sometimes I'm
Speaker 1: sure men can can be off putting by me doing this.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I will let my personal insecurities get the best
Speaker 1: of me and require constant validation from my partner at times,
Speaker 1: like just needing too much of them to lift me
Speaker 1: that I'm not lifting myself and I'm just requiring that
Speaker 1: too much of them, And I know that can be
Speaker 1: a red flag. I'd be like I look fat in
Speaker 1: this like this and just like all this, and nigga like, girl,
Speaker 1: I eat you right now in front of all these people, relaxed,
Speaker 1: Like why you don't see yourself like I see you? Right?
Speaker 1: You know that's a problem, you know sometimes that's something
Speaker 1: that I have to work on, you know not let
Speaker 1: I mean, we all have our insecurities, but you just
Speaker 1: can't allow them to get the best of you and
Speaker 1: use your mate as the source of your validation, you know, right.
Speaker 1: And I think that everybody wants a confident made right,
Speaker 1: So if you're always just like pointing out your insecurities,
Speaker 1: that's not really confident. So men like confident women too,
Speaker 1: So baby like, yeah, you want to lose some weight,
Speaker 1: then go do it and stop talking about it. So
Speaker 1: I have had But if a nigga say that to me,
Speaker 1: that's a problem, Like, don't address me that way. Well,
Speaker 1: they may not say it in that way maybe he's
Speaker 1: a little bit nicer. I'm just saying that sometimes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I work out with you and you want to
Speaker 1: go out at you, I'll be good. Yes, I want
Speaker 1: Sheriff Troy from uh with your Scott you know, you
Speaker 1: know be that way with me, Troy. You got all
Speaker 1: the movie references. Yeah, because I had a guy told
Speaker 1: tell me one time, like, that's one of the things
Speaker 1: even like about women is that, you know, getting naked
Speaker 1: and then you start talking about the things about your
Speaker 1: body you don't like you want to know. It's crazy
Speaker 1: when I got clothes on, But when I'm naked, I'm
Speaker 1: feeling my element. I'd be like, that's the only time.
Speaker 1: What's I'm naked? It's all the way on. Baby, it
Speaker 1: looks like you want to be stuffing. I'm about to
Speaker 1: give it to you. Yeah, that's where a god I'd
Speaker 1: be feeling powerful is fuck naked. I bet your strippers
Speaker 1: feel like that too, probably, yep, ye got to like
Speaker 1: it's with clothes on it I'll be feeling like, is
Speaker 1: this cute? I look right but naked, I'm good. I'm
Speaker 1: goot your baby, teach your face right here, put your
Speaker 1: head it right here. So Sean you got one more
Speaker 1: before we get into this list. Are you good? I
Speaker 1: think I'm good, but I might come up with something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I gave us like five good don't scare. Don't scare
Speaker 1: the niggas all the way off Sean, don't stop talking
Speaker 1: to much about myself crazy. Okay, So look, I do
Speaker 1: have one more exes having access, so I do not
Speaker 1: really exces, but people I've dealt with in the past,
Speaker 1: Like say, for instance, you're talking to somebody and you
Speaker 1: realize y'all realize it's mutual, right, y'all realize y'all are
Speaker 1: better office friends. I have to discard these friends because
Speaker 1: I get into a serious relationship with a man. Yes,
Speaker 1: I don't think you should have to do that, because
Speaker 1: I don't require that for my mate. I don't require
Speaker 1: you to cut off good people. Do you see what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? If it's somebody who was like sucking your
Speaker 1: life up and who's gonna be a liability when we
Speaker 1: really when we really get ship popping, like no no
Speaker 1: liabilities now. But I know a lot of assets, and
Speaker 1: I don't just want to cut people off just because
Speaker 1: you have an insecurity. Yeah, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: be communicating with no woman that you used to fuck
Speaker 1: like and y'all just be talking on the phone and
Speaker 1: when you mad at me, let me tell you what
Speaker 1: Timmy did. No, don't be telling nobody who had yo
Speaker 1: dick in day mouth what I did. But what if
Speaker 1: it's like it's like they just like friendly, like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm just checking in, see how you're doing. Like, oh,
Speaker 1: happy birthday man and Christmas like that, bitches, birthday already
Speaker 1: happy because I'm here now. I don't like outside the
Speaker 1: one day who I'm doing the artwork about my track
Speaker 1: record for like the last four or five years has
Speaker 1: been really good. Like every nigga that I've been with,
Speaker 1: like we're like still cool, like we're friends, and like
Speaker 1: even if they have a girlfriend, we're still like friendly.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about like somebody you're a constant contact with, just like occasionally,
Speaker 1: like I gotta change my phone number because I got
Speaker 1: in a relationship with you. That's a problem for me.
Speaker 1: But some men may do that as a red flag
Speaker 1: that I have that that people I've been with um
Speaker 1: are still still have my number, I still have access
Speaker 1: to me. Even with social media. You could be with
Speaker 1: somebody who has a problem with men liking stuff and
Speaker 1: sending U d M messages like that? How do you
Speaker 1: do nothing about that? We can't live in a world
Speaker 1: like that, So how can you live in a relationship
Speaker 1: like that? No, it's true, and I and also tell me,
Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. But I think it's different
Speaker 1: with women because women have a little bit more integrity
Speaker 1: than men, and then we also know other women. Right,
Speaker 1: So I don't think a man can have female friends,
Speaker 1: but I think women can have male friends. Well, how
Speaker 1: that's gonna What I'm saying is is that a woman
Speaker 1: can maintain male friendships and not want to have sex
Speaker 1: with those guys. Right, But those same guys if she
Speaker 1: called him and be like, hey, you want to get
Speaker 1: this pussy, even if you ain't never fun with him
Speaker 1: in twenty years, he's probably gonna say yes. And that's
Speaker 1: why we can't do this. That's why you can't all together. Right,
Speaker 1: I hate to kill everybody, to shoot everybody. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: take you all right on down to Illinois. Come, I
Speaker 1: take a trip to guy out every my friend, your friend.
Speaker 1: That's all go. But like, but you think it goes
Speaker 1: both ways with like man, because I have guys that
Speaker 1: like I'm friends, Man, I would never have sex with them,
Speaker 1: and I feel like they would never have sex with me.
Speaker 1: Like I feel like it really is like a brother
Speaker 1: sister type of thing. I think if I was like
Speaker 1: to be like, yo, what the funk? I think it
Speaker 1: were like like like a curveball for them, Like what
Speaker 1: the fund is happening? Like what? Like you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying because we've been so friendly, right, so those
Speaker 1: are actual friends people you've not been intimate with. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: so that red flag that I said is what it
Speaker 1: was excess still having access? Well no, I know for
Speaker 1: like the red flag, but as far as like men
Speaker 1: and women being friends, right, yeah, absolutely should be able
Speaker 1: to have friends of the opposite sex, but but not excess.
Speaker 1: Well it's not like an exit just somebody that you
Speaker 1: have sex with. No, no, sean no. So it's like
Speaker 1: I was just gonna make it in any great shape
Speaker 1: or form. I It's like just no, no, no, is
Speaker 1: that realistic? It's not just gotta keep it to yourself.
Speaker 1: That's what I feel like, Yeah, you're gonna have too,
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna be okay with it. What are
Speaker 1: you What are y'all talking about? Why are y'all still talking?
Speaker 1: Like what y'all got to talk about? Still? I don't
Speaker 1: know to carry your asks, you need to go on somewhere.
Speaker 1: I guess I'm not that possessive and I like and
Speaker 1: we talk about open relationships all the time. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying like that's what I would that's the type of
Speaker 1: situation I want, But I want my man to be
Speaker 1: able to tell me whatever the funk it is, whatever
Speaker 1: they got going on. No, I'm not okay with you
Speaker 1: talking to a bit who probably still wants you about me.
Speaker 1: I have a problem with that. Yeah, yeah, And I
Speaker 1: feel like you have to be friendly and not talking
Speaker 1: about our relationship, Like y'all can talk about other guys,
Speaker 1: current events, policy time, aside from taking your ass to Chicago.
Speaker 1: If y'all play with and something like like they would
Speaker 1: know like no, like his girl, don't play that like
Speaker 1: she's sucking crazy, you know what I'm saying, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like, yo, like, don't play for his girl like that,
Speaker 1: like we're just friends because I feel like we just
Speaker 1: don't care about that. I feel like like you like
Speaker 1: you just like you like you be having friends like yeah,
Speaker 1: that she used to like with like with there a
Speaker 1: good connection and they always look out for you. Still, right,
Speaker 1: this just be like girl, Johnny got a new girlfriend,
Speaker 1: but I talked to that Nick all the time. I
Speaker 1: could take him right now if I wanted. That's because
Speaker 1: that's probably how you be saying, bitch, no, no, I
Speaker 1: don't want these houmes. Man, I did not want these homes. Man.
Speaker 1: Look as I'm looking at this list, I'm like picking
Speaker 1: up on my other my other red flags. Okay, so
Speaker 1: look after X is still having access to you here,
Speaker 1: I have noted. Okay, and this could I could, it
Speaker 1: could beat me healthy conflict resolution. I'd be ready to go,
Speaker 1: That's what I noted. And I do be ready to go.
Speaker 1: So what you mean, like and like when you get
Speaker 1: into an argument that's just so deep, I'd be ready
Speaker 1: to just dip out, like I wanna, I want to
Speaker 1: leave the relationship. So you don't want to be too
Speaker 1: you want to leave the relationship, I'd be ready to
Speaker 1: leave the relationship. I'd be ready the conversation is too vulnerable,
Speaker 1: not the conversation, but if we're we're in the midst
Speaker 1: of like an argument that I just feel like it's
Speaker 1: just like you know how I guess the comprehension thing, right,
Speaker 1: I'm not comprehending you. You're not comprehending me. So that's
Speaker 1: why there's a disagreement. We're going back and forth about
Speaker 1: the same thing. I'd be ready to end the relationship
Speaker 1: because of that, because we don't under yes, when it
Speaker 1: is that's always made for me, I do be running.
Speaker 1: I'd be ready to get the funk about it there,
Speaker 1: because if we're not understanding each other, how can we
Speaker 1: have a relationship. That's what the work that's putting you
Speaker 1: gotta do the work. And maybe that's why I don't
Speaker 1: have a man now because I'll be putting in work.
Speaker 1: I just I don't like like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like yeah, because we come up from an instant gratification society,
Speaker 1: and like if things ain't good, we're ready to move
Speaker 1: on to the next thing or just be by myself.
Speaker 1: I don't even be ready to move on. I just
Speaker 1: be ready to just have a little peace because I
Speaker 1: just be thinking about like, um, are you even mad?
Speaker 1: Black woman? And idea I could do bad by myself
Speaker 1: like that, you know what I'm saying, Like if I'm
Speaker 1: like constantly like, are you gonna find with somebody? I
Speaker 1: like? Like Like you said, I could just be by myself.
Speaker 1: It's like, listen, I can had a tent in some
Speaker 1: batteries for all this, Like it's not that deep. It's
Speaker 1: not worth the stress, right, ain't nothing like no real
Speaker 1: dick and somebody holding you at nice It's nothing like it.
Speaker 1: But like not if you're stressing me, like I wanna
Speaker 1: be stressed out over there, at least you can follow
Speaker 1: up with some You just gotta find out what you like.
Speaker 1: I just feel like you have to decide what stress
Speaker 1: you're willing to put up with when it comes to
Speaker 1: these men, Like you're not just gonna find no fucking
Speaker 1: perfect as nigga who's just gonna come perfectly healed and
Speaker 1: just perfect for you, and he ain't gonna never stress you,
Speaker 1: and she ain't never gonna get hard, and like that's
Speaker 1: gonna happen in any relationship. And why are we going
Speaker 1: back to men? Y'all? See what happened? Do you see
Speaker 1: what happened? Why are we talking about minute? All? Right? Now?
Speaker 1: That's exactly and that's why I wanted to have this
Speaker 1: conversation because it's y'all fault. Goddamn it. I don't care
Speaker 1: I said it because it almost seems like we can pinpoint,
Speaker 1: you know, every single issue about men, but when it's
Speaker 1: time to look at our own ships, we just it's
Speaker 1: almost like I'm like this because of that. I'm like
Speaker 1: this because this person did that. Your energy, right, I
Speaker 1: want to stay I want to stay clear that this
Speaker 1: next one might be number one on the list for
Speaker 1: a lot of women. Uh, it's fallen in love too fast.
Speaker 1: We all think about that. M hmm. I think it's true.
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to think about it because you know,
Speaker 1: I in love like in my head, but I try
Speaker 1: not to say anything because because I know it's like
Speaker 1: a thing. I like remind myself that, like you know,
Speaker 1: you're just romantic in this person, you really don't know
Speaker 1: him like that. So I'll do like all the ship.
Speaker 1: But like as fact as I could quote for fall
Speaker 1: in love, it is, I can fall out of love
Speaker 1: because they in my head already know that, like it's
Speaker 1: just me not me. I like to keep myself in check.
Speaker 1: I'm a cancer. So as soon as I fall in love,
Speaker 1: I turned in the fucking Marry Poppins snow white in
Speaker 1: the seven doors, and the birds be chirping in the
Speaker 1: the be singing in my ear and ship and then
Speaker 1: the nigga hurt my feelings. Then I'll be mad at myself.
Speaker 1: You did it again? To me, you did it again?
Speaker 1: You know, fail for this ship? Right, I've been there
Speaker 1: so many times. That's why now I'd be like sean thro,
Speaker 1: tell yourself a dreams, like don't say God talk to you,
Speaker 1: but you might be manifesting it not to work when
Speaker 1: you do that. And sometimes I think that too, Like
Speaker 1: sometimes I think maybe I'm being too pessimistic. So it's
Speaker 1: like weird, because nobody wants to be played, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, nobody wants to feel played. Because
Speaker 1: it's even like you know, like when you crost me
Speaker 1: here answer and it's like what do I call him? Again?
Speaker 1: Like I know he's seen a miscall, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like those type of stories in your head.
Speaker 1: That's not my man. I don't either, but I feel
Speaker 1: like maybe that's the problem. Well, okay, so here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Maybe in my twenties I probably would have looked at
Speaker 1: this a little bit different, but nowadays I really don't
Speaker 1: got time to play with you. I'm gonna say exactly
Speaker 1: what I want, exactly how I'm feeling, exactly how I
Speaker 1: feel about you, and then you can go on if
Speaker 1: that's not if you're not winning none of that ship. Right,
Speaker 1: So I might even tell you because late you know what,
Speaker 1: I love you. If you ain't with that, you probably
Speaker 1: should leave me to fu alone, right, say this pussy
Speaker 1: or not not even just the pussy. It is everything
Speaker 1: that come with exactly. So um yeah, So it's it's
Speaker 1: possible that women we do have those attachment issues we've
Speaker 1: talked about in the past, falling in love too quick
Speaker 1: and expecting the person to be at the same space
Speaker 1: in the relationship that you are at the same time.
Speaker 1: It's almost inevitable because a lot of times two people
Speaker 1: are not in love at the same time. It's just
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, it's that way. And I guess when
Speaker 1: you do find somebody that you're in love with at
Speaker 1: the same time, and I'll get married and I'll do
Speaker 1: all the little things. I don't know. Do you think's
Speaker 1: like my grandmother. She's always telling me, like, never love
Speaker 1: someone more than they love you, and if you do,
Speaker 1: don't show it, like she always. Yeah, So that's what
Speaker 1: women are told because we think that's that's how relationships work.
Speaker 1: But then that's also how you create stalkers. Okay, when
Speaker 1: this man is so in love at you, he loves
Speaker 1: you more than he loves itself at this damn point,
Speaker 1: you love so now you that that comes out that
Speaker 1: I would think that if I love somebody more than
Speaker 1: they love me, it's gonna kinda uh I mean, excuse me.
Speaker 1: If this man loves me then more than I love him,
Speaker 1: it's gonna kind of show in the relationship and the
Speaker 1: things that we do to each other, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So somebody's gonna be lacking. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: a lack somewhere. But right, But do you think most
Speaker 1: relationships are like that where it's like one person loves
Speaker 1: someone more than the other, even if it's like uh
Speaker 1: fifty three right. Yeah. I don't think so either. I
Speaker 1: don't think it's ever I think like like they're showing
Speaker 1: in different ways like in a yan yang, and I
Speaker 1: feel like that's when it's like that's probably like your person.
Speaker 1: But I don't think it's ever like equal. There's always
Speaker 1: one person chasing another and y'all flip flop sometime. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how I feel too. I feel like it might
Speaker 1: be like different moments where like yeah, but it's never
Speaker 1: like a smooth just like you know, fifty situations. Attitude
Speaker 1: attitude problems ladies who got an attitude? Black women, that's
Speaker 1: across the board for us, we're just born with one.
Speaker 1: We're born with our middle finger up like what, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll be feeling like it's even had a whole situation
Speaker 1: at Afro Functions now was one of the guys like
Speaker 1: I simply had because I had to move my stuff,
Speaker 1: you know, always telling you I was like moving my stuff.
Speaker 1: So I had asked to some of the people have
Speaker 1: like cars and you know, like you can't drive your
Speaker 1: car on the thing. So I just like, I'm high,
Speaker 1: it's impossible that someone can help me, Um, you know,
Speaker 1: move my stuff. This man's gonna say, not me. You
Speaker 1: could go over there, And I said, okay, like what
Speaker 1: you said it like that because I'm like, like the
Speaker 1: attitude doesn't even called for. So then I went and
Speaker 1: I asked when else this same motherfucker's gonna pull up
Speaker 1: and be like, oh he gotta do. So I thought,
Speaker 1: like I was trying to keep myself calm because I
Speaker 1: was like, now I feel like you're catching the attitude
Speaker 1: with me for no reason. I'm like, I literally just
Speaker 1: asked the question. It said yes and no question. He's like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: we gotta do ours that I said. I see. Now
Speaker 1: we're still talking just so catch your fucking attitude me.
Speaker 1: I don't know, you like, just say no. I just
Speaker 1: asked to kid, someone help me. That's it. But it's
Speaker 1: but I feel like it's like they're waiting for us
Speaker 1: to have an attitude for no reason. Like I just
Speaker 1: asked the question. I see what you're saying. So basically
Speaker 1: it's almost like black women are expected to have this attitude,
Speaker 1: so we're always um. People always come to us, you
Speaker 1: know with the it's like yeah, like they feel like
Speaker 1: they have to have their guards up from like Jump
Speaker 1: Street and it's like, bro, like I live and I
Speaker 1: was mad nice. I was like, excuse me. I didn't
Speaker 1: even ask him if you could do I was like,
Speaker 1: it's it possible I could get somebody to help me.
Speaker 1: I didn't even so when he was like not me,
Speaker 1: but you who goes, I was like, I'm not even
Speaker 1: arguing with you because the attitude wasn't even called for us.
Speaker 1: I was like okay, and I just moved to the
Speaker 1: other feel now I'm on the other field, and you
Speaker 1: still find and then you're sitting there looking at me
Speaker 1: like you want to start saying like what the fund
Speaker 1: is your problem? You're waiting for a problem, like that's
Speaker 1: what is you want a confrontation. If the answer is no,
Speaker 1: then't cool. I'm just gonna go ask somebody else, you
Speaker 1: know what. UM Like you know another uh time where
Speaker 1: I feel like black women are treated like we're going
Speaker 1: to have an attitude, so I'm gonna give you poor service.
Speaker 1: Sometimes when people are of other races are serving black
Speaker 1: women at the table, we don't get the best service
Speaker 1: because they'll be like they're gonna have an attitude and
Speaker 1: they're not gonna too Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, y'all. So,
Speaker 1: like we already talked about accountability or the inability like
Speaker 1: thereof accountability, um to see our own bullshit, you know,
Speaker 1: UM assisting that men excuse me while insisting that men
Speaker 1: take accountability for the ship. So those are red that's
Speaker 1: a red flag. UM shutting down, ignoring, or lack of
Speaker 1: conflict resolution. I think we talked about that. M hm.
Speaker 1: Actually we didn't talk about shutting down. So, you know,
Speaker 1: not being able to communicate with a woman. So you're
Speaker 1: a grown man, you have communication skills, but you're with
Speaker 1: a woman who lacks communication and comprehension skills. You know,
Speaker 1: what do you do? That's just not something that's solely
Speaker 1: um male trade. We know men don't like you can talk,
Speaker 1: but there are some men who are who do well,
Speaker 1: I mean communicate, but then you end up with somebody
Speaker 1: who can't communicate. Right. Another one somebody wrote down was um,
Speaker 1: just say another personal just put that down one or
Speaker 1: nine I personalized ship that don't have anything to do
Speaker 1: with me. A lot of women do that. We'll take
Speaker 1: some ship that is his ship and make it our
Speaker 1: ship and make it about us with the I I
Speaker 1: I I I I M. I'm going through this and
Speaker 1: you're making it about you right now, right, I can
Speaker 1: give you all of it. Well, I won't do that.
Speaker 1: Let me just go to the next one. I was
Speaker 1: ready a second with got a perfect example of that,
Speaker 1: but I won't. Um. I saw a comment from someone
Speaker 1: that said they ignore people, so I comment back to
Speaker 1: her and I asked her, what does she mean by that,
Speaker 1: And I said, like ignoring in a relationship. She said yes,
Speaker 1: So I may be guilty of that too, Like we're
Speaker 1: getting into it. I may not answer my phone for
Speaker 1: your ask for the rest of the day, you know,
Speaker 1: because I don't feel like you're calling me to um,
Speaker 1: let's move on. Maybe if you're calling me to continue
Speaker 1: on with the ship bullshit from earlier, I don't want
Speaker 1: to talk to you. So I know that I've ignored
Speaker 1: somebody for a while two weeks. I ain't know people too,
Speaker 1: because I feel like I don't want to say anything
Speaker 1: I can't take back. So that's like the best way
Speaker 1: for me to handle it. And I know that's probably
Speaker 1: not like the best thing, but at the toss up
Speaker 1: of the two, it's like I'd rather just do ignoring
Speaker 1: than like saying some ship we're like, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, and I can't take that ship back. But
Speaker 1: I shouldn't be more mature than that, Like that is
Speaker 1: something I need to work on, because it's not like
Speaker 1: the best way of communication. See, if someone does that
Speaker 1: to me, it will triggered my abandiment issues and then
Speaker 1: I overreact. Then you ignore me, and now you win.
Speaker 1: Shill missing you know, you ignore me. Now you'll got
Speaker 1: no wish you consequences. Consequences. Procrastination was another. Oh, that's
Speaker 1: that's one of mine. I feel like that's just humans. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like a red flag of my everyday life is procrastination. Yes,
Speaker 1: and it's like I can't even do the things I
Speaker 1: want to do? What the fund is my problem? Right? Um? Okay,
Speaker 1: So apparently men consider a single woman with their ship
Speaker 1: together red flag because something has to be wrong with you. Yeah.
Speaker 1: One of my girl friends said that one of my
Speaker 1: red flags was that I ain't got nobody yet, Like,
Speaker 1: how you ain't got nobody? You see me to have
Speaker 1: your ship together? You're attractive, you funny, Like, why are
Speaker 1: you single? Something's wrong with you? That's eating meaning money
Speaker 1: more I began, But then it's like, but then, why
Speaker 1: are you single? Because we're both sitting here. Okay, that's
Speaker 1: a whole another episode. Uh, Because I think that, you know,
Speaker 1: for the most part, I believe that women want love.
Speaker 1: Women want to be loved. We don't want to be single.
Speaker 1: I believe that men thrive when they're single. They may
Speaker 1: not realize, well they may not. Actually, I feel like
Speaker 1: married men thrive a little bit more than single men.
Speaker 1: You know, some people can do it being single, but
Speaker 1: most married, most successful men are married. Right. But we're
Speaker 1: living in it. I think we're living in a time where,
Speaker 1: you know, if we're in the black community, we want
Speaker 1: to talk about the black community. A lot of people
Speaker 1: don't put a lot of black men don't see the
Speaker 1: importance of marriage or relationships. I think men like they
Speaker 1: want to be loved too, but they try to front
Speaker 1: like they like they don't like they don't want to
Speaker 1: be like it's whatever, you know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: sometimes I think because I think like in the media,
Speaker 1: that's like how they I mean, they change it now,
Speaker 1: but I feel like in the media that's a lot
Speaker 1: of times how they put trade black men, and then
Speaker 1: because that's what they see you on television, they try
Speaker 1: to like, you know, like marry that because they feel
Speaker 1: like that's what it is to be a black man.
Speaker 1: Like even like in the music and ship like that.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a lot of marrying and not
Speaker 1: them like really like being who they are. Because I
Speaker 1: feel like to be loved, it's like a normal human
Speaker 1: trait I think everyone wants because it's a good feeling.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So even like we're like,
Speaker 1: how like black man cheating and ship like that, I
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of it, even though like I
Speaker 1: feel like something just can't keep the di they dig together.
Speaker 1: But like sometimes I think, like, no, I think you're
Speaker 1: just cheating because you feel like you're supposed to when
Speaker 1: you think it's okay, Like it's not even necessarily because
Speaker 1: you really you know what I'm saying. It's just like
Speaker 1: because like you just feel like, oh, I'm a man
Speaker 1: and this is what men men do, so you just
Speaker 1: go out and do whatever. Right, so biblically, because biblically,
Speaker 1: you know, people like to go back to the Bible
Speaker 1: and talk about women and blah blah blah. But the
Speaker 1: Bible doesn't mention anything about if you want to do that,
Speaker 1: because that's a lot of reference. God's people use the
Speaker 1: Bible as right, especially when trying to dictate what women
Speaker 1: need to be doing. The Bible says the man can't
Speaker 1: be alone. They didn't say anything about women not being
Speaker 1: able to be alone. And the Bible also says man
Speaker 1: should love women as Christ love the Church and don't
Speaker 1: say shit about women loving men. But y'all, we need love.
Speaker 1: Women need stand out numbers. I mean we out number men. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for another reason too, m hmm. I feel like somebody
Speaker 1: meant to be alone. Yeah. I feel like even that
Speaker 1: statistics is fake because I mean, we got to calculate
Speaker 1: on how many men are incocerateds. So we're talking about
Speaker 1: available men on the streets. Some things we just can't control,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. They could very well be
Speaker 1: damn in the same amount of women as there are men.
Speaker 1: We would never know. And as long as men think
Speaker 1: that it's less of them and more of us, and
Speaker 1: that means that's why they should have five or six
Speaker 1: different women, they'll continue to do that ship. But we
Speaker 1: have to put our fun down to be like n nigger,
Speaker 1: it's equal playing grounds, equal playing field. Stop playing. Picked
Speaker 1: a woman and get married. I want one, like I
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship with like women and
Speaker 1: just me, but maybe beyond fifteen years down on line,
Speaker 1: let's add somebody so I can they can share the load.
Speaker 1: Let's add somebody because that's still and that's what women
Speaker 1: don't think take into consideration. That's a big job being married.
Speaker 1: Like you know, I realized being single down that you know,
Speaker 1: some days I don't eat. I just go to sleep.
Speaker 1: But when you got a family, you're responsible for their nourishments.
Speaker 1: And now I gotta make sure you and your kids,
Speaker 1: or if we got kids again, I gotta make sure
Speaker 1: everybody eat every single day. Like that is stressful. Trying
Speaker 1: to figure out just yes, that is very stressful when
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