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Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back,

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Speaker 1: a show dedicated to these niggas. And you host, you

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Speaker 1: know what's your co host? A J what's up? Team?

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Speaker 1: Hey y'all. Hey everybody, it's your girl, Tam Bam. I

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Speaker 1: love y'all. Thank y'all once again for coming to see us.

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Speaker 1: And we got a guest house today. Yeah. Hey, I'm sure,

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Speaker 1: I'm and I'm just excited to be here because I

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Speaker 1: love y'all. Show somebody to talk back and talk some ship. Hey, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Shawnji is my my Instagram friend. I don't know when

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Speaker 1: we started following each other, but she's a super dope

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Speaker 1: artist Okay from Brooklyn. Yeah, tell our listeners a little

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Speaker 1: bit about yourself, what you got going on. I paint

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Speaker 1: like a lot of vaginas. I think other things too,

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Speaker 1: but I mostly known from my vaginas. Take them to

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Speaker 1: And I like to paint things that's like from like

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Speaker 1: lot of giants at the time when I was paying

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Speaker 1: the collection, you know, so what you like pussy like that,

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Speaker 1: that's the thing. Everybody asked me that, but I really don't,

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Speaker 1: look like flowers. Oh no, my look like it though

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Speaker 1: an no bleaching. I'm like, but have you even seen

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Speaker 1: You're asking nobody to be bleached even know what it

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Speaker 1: looks like. Yeah, so Sean Sean is gonna be co

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Speaker 1: What the hell y'all had going on? Again? I don't

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Speaker 1: do much in nothing. I just hung out. I did

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Speaker 1: go out to dinner. Um, I'm dating, that's what the

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Speaker 1: and then she her weekend be fools. It's not foolish.

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Speaker 1: It's just me doing regular things and sometimes I might

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Speaker 1: just what I'm saying. That's that's not true. But not

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Speaker 1: this weekend, I had afro punk and like this was

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Speaker 1: like it come back afro punk and it was fun.

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Speaker 1: But here's the crazy part about it. All right, here's

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Speaker 1: Ray J posted Demand's YouTube page like ray J posted

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Speaker 1: So what happened was this is how the ship all started.

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00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,919
Speaker 1: So Kim was crying because the kid pulled up on

423
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,240
Speaker 1: him with the Roadblocks ship right pulled up on her

424
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 1: with roadblocks, a roadblocks porn of her, right, which son

425
00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 1: did sent it to the child because I think it

426
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 1: was like an ad or something on Roadblocks that he

427
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:35,040
Speaker 1: was playing. Yes, so Roadblocks even said that that isn't possible.

428
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:40,359
Speaker 1: So even that scene could have been created, even that

429
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 1: scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians was probably fake, yes,

430
00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 1: probably fabricating. So that's how the ship started. So ray

431
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,520
Speaker 1: J is feeling like, you know this to all these years,

432
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 1: y'all have been putting his narrative out there as if

433
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 1: I'm the one or somebody associated with me was the

434
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 1: person who leaked the video. If it's me and you

435
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 1: with a video and our plan is to leak it,

436
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,439
Speaker 1: then that's one thing. But they have been, you know,

437
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 1: making it edit as if ray J and whoever leaked

438
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: this porn of Kim K. So now ray J is

439
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 1: just basically trying to exonerate himself and let everybody know

440
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 1: it was a production. Her mama was on it, and

441
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,280
Speaker 1: on it. Her mom actually watched one of the videos

442
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 1: and said, no, let's go with the other one because

443
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: it makes Kim look better. All these things. That's a

444
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: real weird I Spur Slim Mama pimp ship. But that

445
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,679
Speaker 1: family not for nothing. That family always been kind of

446
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,119
Speaker 1: iffy to me. I ain't even gonna lie like and

447
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 1: I just I feel like, honestly, because ray J's I

448
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:40,360
Speaker 1: don't know if y'all seen that clip from the Winny

449
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,359
Speaker 1: william Show, but ray J's mom told him not to

450
00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:44,360
Speaker 1: do that ship like you're a black man, Like you're

451
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:46,399
Speaker 1: not gonna like you're a man and you're black, Like

452
00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:49,520
Speaker 1: you're not gonna do yourself. That's not gonna happen for you.

453
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 1: And that's exactly what happened. I mean, granted, he's still

454
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 1: a millionaire and I'm still here, but like I think

455
00:22:54,600 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 1: home Girls like a billionaire now mm hmm, yeah, yeah,

456
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 1: now you want to be mad, but it's kind of

457
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 1: like you should have been smarter, like and I get him,

458
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:07,639
Speaker 1: and I like really versed out, like people were like,

459
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think nobody's really gonna like I'm

460
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:14,639
Speaker 1: just gonna change like the success of the Kardashians. I

461
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 1: hope it does. I hope that when we're here on

462
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,119
Speaker 1: that I really hope it does, because then ain't gonna

463
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 1: do ship just about two weeks. They're gonna be onto

464
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 1: something else and people ain't gonna care about what because

465
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: then he posted the unfortunately he posted d ms that

466
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 1: he had. It came a couple of months ago, and

467
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 1: nobody cared about that ship. Yeah, nobody cared for real. Yeah,

468
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 1: I guess it's because we can't see any new fucking

469
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: like this old ship nobody, you know what I'm saying, Like,

470
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 1: do y'all think that maybe now maybe they'll be okay

471
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:48,640
Speaker 1: because they don't need the black community anymore. Did y'all

472
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: see Kim Kai's most recent photo shoot, The American Dream?

473
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: She has these blonde eyebrows. Blonde, Yeah, Now they're transitioning

474
00:23:57,359 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 1: over Yeah. Yeah, So that's why I don't. I don't

475
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 1: think they really can't. I think like they like just

476
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: transition now. I don't don't, but I hope he gets

477
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,719
Speaker 1: to clear his name and you know, like get his

478
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: deals right there, but like, get your money, black man,

479
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:18,120
Speaker 1: get your money. I listen, all right, y'all, we're gonna

480
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 1: take a break and we're gonna get into uh today's topic.

481
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, so listen. I put a post

482
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: online um on the podcast stage to try and get

483
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:37,360
Speaker 1: women to engage a little bit. So I basically posed

484
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 1: a question to women, asking, you know, what are some

485
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:45,719
Speaker 1: things about yourself that men may consider red flags? And

486
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 1: I intentionally did not ask men what some women's red

487
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: flags are because maybe I want to point out the

488
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:59,879
Speaker 1: biggest one women may have, which be which would be accountability.

489
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 1: If we can't point out what's wrong with us and

490
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 1: what our own bullshit is, that's some accountability issue. So anyway,

491
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: I'll start, Okay, I'll start. We're gonna go into some

492
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 1: general ship that you know, people responding with, even some guys,

493
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 1: but I'll start with one of my can I just

494
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: can I just say this start shine you next, and

495
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,480
Speaker 1: then we're gonna just move on with life because I

496
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: really don't be doing shop girl bite anyway. All right,

497
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: so lesten y'all. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. One

498
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: of my big red flags would be deflection. Okay, So

499
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: like in the midst of an argument, I may bring

500
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: up something you did in the past to justify my

501
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 1: current behavior, right, And I've recognized over time that's not okay,

502
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: especially if I supposedly got over that thing you did.

503
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: But I feel like the reason why I do that

504
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 1: is because I like to think of myself as a

505
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 1: really forgiving person. Right, So then if I do some ship,

506
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like you're dragging me about it. Yeah,

507
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to feel dragged about some ship. Right,

508
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 1: So now if I'm I feel like, damn we even now, right,

509
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: why are you dripping? Like get over it now? And

510
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 1: that's not fair. That's why we're moving forward. Yes, I

511
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 1: feel like we even, Like why can't I get the

512
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:26,640
Speaker 1: same grace I gave you for the same thing. What's

513
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 1: the problem? Because you ain't them and they ain't you? Right,

514
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: I understand that, but I'm still a working progress. Got

515
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: ain't through with you yet. That's my John. What's one

516
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: of yours? Is like I like free food, and I like,

517
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,399
Speaker 1: literally tell you that. So like if they're like he's like,

518
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: you know, trying to talk to me, like trying to

519
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: I'd like cool, Like I like free food. And then

520
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 1: I realized that they think I like them, but it's

521
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: like I don't like you, but you offered me free food,

522
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna go out with you to have this meal.

523
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 1: So like your opportunity, that's it. I'm an opportunity. If

524
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: there's not food, be they're taking it. That's a food tunist.

525
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 1: I'm an opportunist. If there's no I'm definitely taking it.

526
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 1: So yeah, I was, and I have some pictuations with

527
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 1: niggas giving me free food because that's really what I

528
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: call it, Like it's free food. And like then they

529
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:14,880
Speaker 1: started acting crazy after like this one do he um

530
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: he gave me free food because like I know he

531
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 1: gave me the frue food today that I met him,

532
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: Like he came and sat down while I was eating

533
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: and was like, oh, you're cute and like buying me

534
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: drinks and everything like that. And then I'm like, it's

535
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:27,719
Speaker 1: free food and I'm going after that. This one who

536
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: was blown on my phone acting all types of crazy

537
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: and I guess because I didn't ask my phone he

538
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: was feeling the type of way. And then let's saying

539
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 1: I know he's texting me like oh it's over for you,

540
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 1: and was like that that's like threatening me and acting

541
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 1: crazy like I know you snitched on me, all types

542
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: of ship and then he's like yeah, he's like wrong number.

543
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 1: He was like wrong number, but um, I ain't heard

544
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 1: from you. What how you doing? And I'm like does

545
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: he think that she is cute? Like I think you're something, nigga.

546
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: You're working crazy and I would not be calling you

547
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 1: like I like that nigga on everything. He's still be

548
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: trying to trying to hit me up through other numbers

549
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 1: and like other Instagram pages, you're fucking crazy. So I

550
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: guess I was like by slapping the face back from

551
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 1: me being a person who likes free food. But that

552
00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: definitely is my red flag. I like free food. It's

553
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: not about liking free food, though. Come on through a therapist, Tammy,

554
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:18,360
Speaker 1: come on through a therapist. Please please break it down

555
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: to her what that is exactly? That to us, you

556
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: are using people for what you want, yes, free food.

557
00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 1: So that would make you an opportunitist or a user

558
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: at times, and that's not uncommon. Women do that. Women

559
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 1: like free ship, and sometimes we will obtain it from

560
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 1: people who want more from us and knowing that we

561
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: don't want more from them, and that is definitely a

562
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: red flag. That's my good dinner whore. I should put

563
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 1: that on a T shirt dinner wore. Okay, So I

564
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 1: guess if we're gonna do this, I guess, then apports

565
00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: and I just make up something so y'all don't feel

566
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: left out. Um, I'll say one of minds is overreacting.

567
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: Sometimes ship don't call for level twenty. It could just

568
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: be a ten level issue. And I'll go from zero

569
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 1: to one hundred in a matter of moments and it's like,

570
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: did you like, damn, can you be a niggas piece,

571
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 1: Like just calm down and listen and don't respond. So

572
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: when just quick to respond and just go off the

573
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: deep end. That's one of mine. I know I do

574
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: that ship and I like, damn, my shipping up broke

575
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 1: your window. Huh window that don't be be calling and

576
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 1: hanging up. You know, I love your mom, Andy. Look

577
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: that goes into one of my other red flags. I

578
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: don't like niggas with mamma's or sisters. Like that's a

579
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: red flag for me with men, and a red flag

580
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: for yourself your mama alive. I can't do this, you know, no,

581
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: you want to know what I guess I say, Like,

582
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: that's a red flag for me to like, I don't

583
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 1: like me nobody's mom. Like I'm not trying to meet

584
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: your mom like like you got kids, I do not

585
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: want to see your child Like I like, I'm not

586
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: gonna beet that mama. Don't care. Just but your seafood

587
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: dinner and your sausage dinner and go home. That's all

588
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 1: I need. Give me a good meal. We could you

589
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 1: up for about five minutes after and I'm bead. No,

590
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. You want to come meet? No, like

591
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: your mom's gonna be home. No, Nick, I'm not coming over.

592
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: They're like, your my mom's nice. Yeah, your mom's like

593
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: said every girl you bring there, No, I'm coming. And

594
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: that's what your mama. I love mama's I'd be trying

595
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: to win mama's. I like to I like, by the

596
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: time I get done with your mama, she's gonna like

597
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: be more than you. That's how I'll be wanting to

598
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: do it. Did y'all see this meme online? What's not

599
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 1: a meme? Sorry it's I forgot what Paul cast it was.

600
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 1: But the guy, one of the guys on the podcast

601
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: pose a question like, so, who who sits in the

602
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: front seat, your your wife, your girl, or your mom?

603
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: And the guy here asked it was like, my girl,

604
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: Like if my girl, you know, arbitrarily volunteers, like give

605
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: up the front seat to my mom, that's her business.

606
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 1: But I would never put her in a position to

607
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 1: have to just get out the car get in the

608
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: back seat because my mama getting in the car. She

609
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 1: was like, it's nothing wrong with that back seat, Like

610
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 1: my mama can sit back there. But we know that

611
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: that might be a thing for some mama's, and I

612
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: think that's because mama's, especially black mamas in particular, maybe

613
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: having his son husbands, I would move from Mars's mom

614
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: to sit in the front. It would just it would

615
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: just be my personality to respect his mom to say,

616
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: same way, I put my own mama in the front.

617
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put your mama there too. Now I can't front.

618
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 1: I don't think I will move. I'm not based in

619
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: the back. I'm not moving me because it's not like

620
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 1: if I if she was already in the front seat

621
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: and they're picking me up from somewhere, I wouldn't have

622
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: her move from me next to him. I would just

623
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: get in the back. So I would never expect for

624
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: her or my husband to then expect me to move

625
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 1: because his mom is getting in the car. You know,

626
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: once you get married, especially like that's your media family,

627
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm sorry your wife, Like if she's not going good

628
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: between you and your wife, like the whole family ship

629
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: dynamic going to fall apart. So things have to always

630
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 1: be good between you and your wife. You're gonna let

631
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 1: your your mama come in between that. But showing his

632
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 1: mama respect and treating her the same, with the same

633
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: respect as you treat your own. I sat your dick.

634
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 1: Your mama can't do that. I need a little bit

635
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: more respect. I'm sorry your mama could do that. But oh,

636
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: you know where were living here? Like ship going on? Man? Yeah, man,

637
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: it's a weird ship going on outside seeing that. I've

638
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: seen a video where a girl says she did have

639
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 1: a threesome with a guy and his mom. What I

640
00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: see that ship? No, No, that's disgusting. But that's that's

641
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: not insett. It's definitely inset. I guess it depends on

642
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: how you actually have the three something what I mean

643
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 1: likes the way to do it. The mom has sucked

644
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:24,200
Speaker 1: her son's dick. That's the different positions in the three something. No, yeah,

645
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: there's they need therapy for real, Like right, yeah, that's

646
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 1: not okay. But no, even if I'm still like, if

647
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 1: I'm sucking your dick or whatever, that means, I like

648
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: you a lot. If I'm putting your dick in my mouth,

649
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: and if I love you and ship, then I'm gonna

650
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: love your mama too, like I'm gonna try to. I am.

651
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I love your mama for

652
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: making you, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna be good

653
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: to her too. I don't be almost making you, but

654
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: I can still love about she in the back seat.

655
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: The car is clean. I'm not gonna get up, especially

656
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: my feet her. I'm not getting up. Get up for that, lady,

657
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: get your I think it's necessarily don It's like I

658
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: don't have that much ego in it. It's that's an

659
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: ego thing, y'all. That's not an evil thing. The fact

660
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 1: that like the car is playing, you could say in

661
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: the back I shouldn't have to get up and move

662
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: for you. What if she's like on a cane, And

663
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 1: but if she's in the can, she probably belongs in

664
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 1: the back. So you probably gotta get a sprint of man,

665
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 1: every reason, every reason to keep yours right, you bigger Carniggs.

666
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:31,759
Speaker 1: Your mama needs space back there, all right? Listen for me.

667
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,880
Speaker 1: I do have a couple of a couple more of

668
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:37,320
Speaker 1: my own red flags, and we can get it to

669
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: some of the red flags that, um, you know, some

670
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 1: women responded with some other ones I came up with,

671
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: but these are mine, right, Um, I probably offered too

672
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: much information about myself too soon because I'm an open

673
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 1: book and I don't really care who I talked to

674
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 1: about my life for real. That's why we have a podcast.

675
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna say whatever it is. So if you

676
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 1: can't handle that, then you probably not the person for

677
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,400
Speaker 1: me anyway. I do want to be in a relationship

678
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: with somebody that I could be myself all the time,

679
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 1: Like that's really really important to me. So if I

680
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 1: find myself having to omit things high things about myself,

681
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 1: you probably ain't for me anyway. So whatever, but that

682
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 1: could be a red flag for some men like you

683
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:21,880
Speaker 1: oversharing um. Also, in the past, I have had a

684
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: tendency to share relationship trauma like should I might have

685
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 1: went through in another relationship with somebody I'm currently talking to,

686
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:31,680
Speaker 1: because things just be relative, Like you're having a conversation,

687
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh man, yeah, my ex such is

688
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:37,919
Speaker 1: said is such. But men, I have had somebody point

689
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 1: that out to me that I do that, right, But

690
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: then I then started, you know, making sure I'm listening

691
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: to when they're talking and they do the same thing.

692
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 1: It's just different. They can just see what You can

693
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: always see what somebody else doing, but not what you're doing. Yeah,

694
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: because the same way I think, like that's probably like

695
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: one of my my red flag too, is like I

696
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,959
Speaker 1: overshare and the oversharing I give a lot of times

697
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 1: it's like crazy stories. So I think, like, so I

698
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: try to like stop doing something like I used it.

699
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 1: I feel like it's be like yo, this bitch is crazy,

700
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: and they just be ready to write to write me off,

701
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: because like my one, it does get kind of crazy,

702
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: like I got like stories for days, like I've been

703
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: telling about times when I like dow tables on people

704
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 1: and like may season. I mean, I don't alway start

705
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: trying not to do that no more. You know, I'm

706
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: trying to be a changed person. But like there, but

707
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 1: I had to realize that I need to stop telling

708
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: nigg is that because they're gonna be like, yo, what

709
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: the fund is wrong? But and like keep it pushing.

710
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: As long as you don't act crazy, you won't get

711
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: that type of reaction from me. Like I just be

712
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 1: matching energy. But it's like my thing is always like

713
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: if we have we have, If we're here, we're here.

714
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like it's like go hard

715
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 1: to go home. So we get to that point I'm

716
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:33,879
Speaker 1: gonna go to go hard to go home, and I'm

717
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: not gonna go home, so I'm gonna go hard. So

718
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 1: you're one upper flag, so you can't bow out gracefully.

719
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 1: Now I don't bow out gracefully. We see, I see

720
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: the collection I'm out to drop like in the summer

721
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:50,399
Speaker 1: about this one nigga. Oh girl, I met the whole

722
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:52,720
Speaker 1: coloring book about that dirty dig nigger, A whole color.

723
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: I'm make sure to saying, y'all, Si, yeah, send me word.

724
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 1: I see y'all. Because they just need to learn shiveries.

725
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some in a nice coloring book. They

726
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 1: want to be a little fun niggers, but a nice

727
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 1: color you could color that bit you and learn sugary

728
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 1: like I'll need something this all the time. Like my

729
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: pettiness knows no bounce. I don't even trying to go

730
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 1: there with people because another flag. Yeah yeah, this conversation

731
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 1: is riddled and sucking red flags. Who I ain't gotta

732
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 1: say ship right, all right, all right, No, I got

733
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 1: all right. So here's one of mine that sometimes I'm

734
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: sure men can can be off putting by me doing this.

735
00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:47,399
Speaker 1: Sometimes I will let my personal insecurities get the best

736
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 1: of me and require constant validation from my partner at times,

737
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 1: like just needing too much of them to lift me

738
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: that I'm not lifting myself and I'm just requiring that

739
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,840
Speaker 1: too much of them, And I know that can be

740
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: a red flag. I'd be like I look fat in

741
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,919
Speaker 1: this like this and just like all this, and nigga like, girl,

742
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: I eat you right now in front of all these people, relaxed,

743
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 1: Like why you don't see yourself like I see you? Right?

744
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: You know that's a problem, you know sometimes that's something

745
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 1: that I have to work on, you know not let

746
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 1: I mean, we all have our insecurities, but you just

747
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 1: can't allow them to get the best of you and

748
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 1: use your mate as the source of your validation, you know, right.

749
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 1: And I think that everybody wants a confident made right,

750
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 1: So if you're always just like pointing out your insecurities,

751
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: that's not really confident. So men like confident women too,

752
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 1: So baby like, yeah, you want to lose some weight,

753
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 1: then go do it and stop talking about it. So

754
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: I have had But if a nigga say that to me,

755
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 1: that's a problem, Like, don't address me that way. Well,

756
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: they may not say it in that way maybe he's

757
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: a little bit nicer. I'm just saying that sometimes. Yeah,

758
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: like I work out with you and you want to

759
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 1: go out at you, I'll be good. Yes, I want

760
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: Sheriff Troy from uh with your Scott you know, you

761
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 1: know be that way with me, Troy. You got all

762
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 1: the movie references. Yeah, because I had a guy told

763
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 1: tell me one time, like, that's one of the things

764
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 1: even like about women is that, you know, getting naked

765
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: and then you start talking about the things about your

766
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 1: body you don't like you want to know. It's crazy

767
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 1: when I got clothes on, But when I'm naked, I'm

768
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:30,319
Speaker 1: feeling my element. I'd be like, that's the only time.

769
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: What's I'm naked? It's all the way on. Baby, it

770
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 1: looks like you want to be stuffing. I'm about to

771
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,279
Speaker 1: give it to you. Yeah, that's where a god I'd

772
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: be feeling powerful is fuck naked. I bet your strippers

773
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 1: feel like that too, probably, yep, ye got to like

774
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 1: it's with clothes on it I'll be feeling like, is

775
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:53,200
Speaker 1: this cute? I look right but naked, I'm good. I'm

776
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:59,799
Speaker 1: goot your baby, teach your face right here, put your

777
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: head it right here. So Sean you got one more

778
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 1: before we get into this list. Are you good? I

779
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 1: think I'm good, but I might come up with something. Yeah,

780
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:13,399
Speaker 1: I gave us like five good don't scare. Don't scare

781
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: the niggas all the way off Sean, don't stop talking

782
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 1: to much about myself crazy. Okay, So look, I do

783
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 1: have one more exes having access, so I do not

784
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 1: really exces, but people I've dealt with in the past,

785
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: Like say, for instance, you're talking to somebody and you

786
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 1: realize y'all realize it's mutual, right, y'all realize y'all are

787
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: better office friends. I have to discard these friends because

788
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:40,839
Speaker 1: I get into a serious relationship with a man. Yes,

789
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:42,959
Speaker 1: I don't think you should have to do that, because

790
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: I don't require that for my mate. I don't require

791
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: you to cut off good people. Do you see what

792
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying? If it's somebody who was like sucking your

793
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 1: life up and who's gonna be a liability when we

794
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: really when we really get ship popping, like no no

795
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 1: liabilities now. But I know a lot of assets, and

796
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,720
Speaker 1: I don't just want to cut people off just because

797
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:03,799
Speaker 1: you have an insecurity. Yeah, I don't want you to

798
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 1: be communicating with no woman that you used to fuck

799
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: like and y'all just be talking on the phone and

800
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 1: when you mad at me, let me tell you what

801
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: Timmy did. No, don't be telling nobody who had yo

802
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:15,879
Speaker 1: dick in day mouth what I did. But what if

803
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 1: it's like it's like they just like friendly, like, oh,

804
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm just checking in, see how you're doing. Like, oh,

805
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 1: happy birthday man and Christmas like that, bitches, birthday already

806
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 1: happy because I'm here now. I don't like outside the

807
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: one day who I'm doing the artwork about my track

808
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 1: record for like the last four or five years has

809
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: been really good. Like every nigga that I've been with,

810
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 1: like we're like still cool, like we're friends, and like

811
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,760
Speaker 1: even if they have a girlfriend, we're still like friendly.

812
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And I'm not talking

813
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 1: about like somebody you're a constant contact with, just like occasionally,

814
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: like I gotta change my phone number because I got

815
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 1: in a relationship with you. That's a problem for me.

816
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,280
Speaker 1: But some men may do that as a red flag

817
00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: that I have that that people I've been with um

818
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: are still still have my number, I still have access

819
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: to me. Even with social media. You could be with

820
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 1: somebody who has a problem with men liking stuff and

821
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 1: sending U d M messages like that? How do you

822
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 1: do nothing about that? We can't live in a world

823
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:13,360
Speaker 1: like that, So how can you live in a relationship

824
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: like that? No, it's true, and I and also tell me,

825
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:19,240
Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. But I think it's different

826
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: with women because women have a little bit more integrity

827
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:26,319
Speaker 1: than men, and then we also know other women. Right,

828
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 1: So I don't think a man can have female friends,

829
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: but I think women can have male friends. Well, how

830
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: that's gonna What I'm saying is is that a woman

831
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:40,439
Speaker 1: can maintain male friendships and not want to have sex

832
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 1: with those guys. Right, But those same guys if she

833
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 1: called him and be like, hey, you want to get

834
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: this pussy, even if you ain't never fun with him

835
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 1: in twenty years, he's probably gonna say yes. And that's

836
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 1: why we can't do this. That's why you can't all together. Right,

837
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 1: I hate to kill everybody, to shoot everybody. I'm gonna

838
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,040
Speaker 1: take you all right on down to Illinois. Come, I

839
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:06,919
Speaker 1: take a trip to guy out every my friend, your friend.

840
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:12,439
Speaker 1: That's all go. But like, but you think it goes

841
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:14,319
Speaker 1: both ways with like man, because I have guys that

842
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 1: like I'm friends, Man, I would never have sex with them,

843
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: and I feel like they would never have sex with me.

844
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 1: Like I feel like it really is like a brother

845
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 1: sister type of thing. I think if I was like

846
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 1: to be like, yo, what the funk? I think it

847
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 1: were like like like a curveball for them, Like what

848
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 1: the fund is happening? Like what? Like you know what

849
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 1: I'm saying because we've been so friendly, right, so those

850
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:34,919
Speaker 1: are actual friends people you've not been intimate with. Yeah, yeah,

851
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: so that red flag that I said is what it

852
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 1: was excess still having access? Well no, I know for

853
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 1: like the red flag, but as far as like men

854
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: and women being friends, right, yeah, absolutely should be able

855
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: to have friends of the opposite sex, but but not excess.

856
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 1: Well it's not like an exit just somebody that you

857
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 1: have sex with. No, no, sean no. So it's like

858
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: I was just gonna make it in any great shape

859
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:01,840
Speaker 1: or form. I It's like just no, no, no, is

860
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: that realistic? It's not just gotta keep it to yourself.

861
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 1: That's what I feel like, Yeah, you're gonna have too,

862
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna be okay with it. What are

863
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: you What are y'all talking about? Why are y'all still talking?

864
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 1: Like what y'all got to talk about? Still? I don't

865
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: know to carry your asks, you need to go on somewhere.

866
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: I guess I'm not that possessive and I like and

867
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 1: we talk about open relationships all the time. I'm not

868
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: saying like that's what I would that's the type of

869
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: situation I want, But I want my man to be

870
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 1: able to tell me whatever the funk it is, whatever

871
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 1: they got going on. No, I'm not okay with you

872
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,399
Speaker 1: talking to a bit who probably still wants you about me.

873
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 1: I have a problem with that. Yeah, yeah, And I

874
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: feel like you have to be friendly and not talking

875
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:48,479
Speaker 1: about our relationship, Like y'all can talk about other guys,

876
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 1: current events, policy time, aside from taking your ass to Chicago.

877
00:44:55,640 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: If y'all play with and something like like they would

878
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: know like no, like his girl, don't play that like

879
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: she's sucking crazy, you know what I'm saying, Like I

880
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 1: feel like, yo, like, don't play for his girl like that,

881
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 1: like we're just friends because I feel like we just

882
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 1: don't care about that. I feel like like you like

883
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 1: you just like you like you be having friends like yeah,

884
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: that she used to like with like with there a

885
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 1: good connection and they always look out for you. Still, right,

886
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 1: this just be like girl, Johnny got a new girlfriend,

887
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: but I talked to that Nick all the time. I

888
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: could take him right now if I wanted. That's because

889
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: that's probably how you be saying, bitch, no, no, I

890
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 1: don't want these houmes. Man, I did not want these homes. Man.

891
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: Look as I'm looking at this list, I'm like picking

892
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 1: up on my other my other red flags. Okay, so

893
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 1: look after X is still having access to you here,

894
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: I have noted. Okay, and this could I could, it

895
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 1: could beat me healthy conflict resolution. I'd be ready to go,

896
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: That's what I noted. And I do be ready to go.

897
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 1: So what you mean, like and like when you get

898
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,919
Speaker 1: into an argument that's just so deep, I'd be ready

899
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 1: to just dip out, like I wanna, I want to

900
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 1: leave the relationship. So you don't want to be too

901
00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 1: you want to leave the relationship, I'd be ready to

902
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:12,320
Speaker 1: leave the relationship. I'd be ready the conversation is too vulnerable,

903
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: not the conversation, but if we're we're in the midst

904
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 1: of like an argument that I just feel like it's

905
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: just like you know how I guess the comprehension thing, right,

906
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 1: I'm not comprehending you. You're not comprehending me. So that's

907
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 1: why there's a disagreement. We're going back and forth about

908
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 1: the same thing. I'd be ready to end the relationship

909
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: because of that, because we don't under yes, when it

910
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 1: is that's always made for me, I do be running.

911
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 1: I'd be ready to get the funk about it there,

912
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 1: because if we're not understanding each other, how can we

913
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: have a relationship. That's what the work that's putting you

914
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: gotta do the work. And maybe that's why I don't

915
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: have a man now because I'll be putting in work.

916
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 1: I just I don't like like you know what I'm saying,

917
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 1: Like yeah, because we come up from an instant gratification society,

918
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: and like if things ain't good, we're ready to move

919
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 1: on to the next thing or just be by myself.

920
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: I don't even be ready to move on. I just

921
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: be ready to just have a little peace because I

922
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 1: just be thinking about like, um, are you even mad?

923
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: Black woman? And idea I could do bad by myself

924
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:16,839
Speaker 1: like that, you know what I'm saying, Like if I'm

925
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: like constantly like, are you gonna find with somebody? I

926
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: like? Like Like you said, I could just be by myself.

927
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 1: It's like, listen, I can had a tent in some

928
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 1: batteries for all this, Like it's not that deep. It's

929
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:27,919
Speaker 1: not worth the stress, right, ain't nothing like no real

930
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: dick and somebody holding you at nice It's nothing like it.

931
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 1: But like not if you're stressing me, like I wanna

932
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: be stressed out over there, at least you can follow

933
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: up with some You just gotta find out what you like.

934
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: I just feel like you have to decide what stress

935
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: you're willing to put up with when it comes to

936
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:46,240
Speaker 1: these men, Like you're not just gonna find no fucking

937
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,799
Speaker 1: perfect as nigga who's just gonna come perfectly healed and

938
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 1: just perfect for you, and he ain't gonna never stress you,

939
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 1: and she ain't never gonna get hard, and like that's

940
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 1: gonna happen in any relationship. And why are we going

941
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: back to men? Y'all? See what happened? Do you see

942
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 1: what happened? Why are we talking about minute? All? Right? Now?

943
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 1: That's exactly and that's why I wanted to have this

944
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:15,399
Speaker 1: conversation because it's y'all fault. Goddamn it. I don't care

945
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 1: I said it because it almost seems like we can pinpoint,

946
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 1: you know, every single issue about men, but when it's

947
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: time to look at our own ships, we just it's

948
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 1: almost like I'm like this because of that. I'm like

949
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:34,799
Speaker 1: this because this person did that. Your energy, right, I

950
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 1: want to stay I want to stay clear that this

951
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: next one might be number one on the list for

952
00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 1: a lot of women. Uh, it's fallen in love too fast.

953
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: We all think about that. M hmm. I think it's true.

954
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 1: I'm trying not to think about it because you know,

955
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:55,040
Speaker 1: I in love like in my head, but I try

956
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: not to say anything because because I know it's like

957
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: a thing. I like remind myself that, like you know,

958
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 1: you're just romantic in this person, you really don't know

959
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: him like that. So I'll do like all the ship.

960
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 1: But like as fact as I could quote for fall

961
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: in love, it is, I can fall out of love

962
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: because they in my head already know that, like it's

963
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 1: just me not me. I like to keep myself in check.

964
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:14,239
Speaker 1: I'm a cancer. So as soon as I fall in love,

965
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 1: I turned in the fucking Marry Poppins snow white in

966
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: the seven doors, and the birds be chirping in the

967
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,839
Speaker 1: the be singing in my ear and ship and then

968
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:26,120
Speaker 1: the nigga hurt my feelings. Then I'll be mad at myself.

969
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 1: You did it again? To me, you did it again?

970
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: You know, fail for this ship? Right, I've been there

971
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: so many times. That's why now I'd be like sean thro,

972
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 1: tell yourself a dreams, like don't say God talk to you,

973
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:42,920
Speaker 1: but you might be manifesting it not to work when

974
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: you do that. And sometimes I think that too, Like

975
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: sometimes I think maybe I'm being too pessimistic. So it's

976
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 1: like weird, because nobody wants to be played, you know

977
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:52,359
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, nobody wants to feel played. Because

978
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:53,719
Speaker 1: it's even like you know, like when you crost me

979
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: here answer and it's like what do I call him? Again?

980
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 1: Like I know he's seen a miscall, you know what

981
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like those type of stories in your head.

982
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:01,919
Speaker 1: That's not my man. I don't either, but I feel

983
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 1: like maybe that's the problem. Well, okay, so here's the thing.

984
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 1: Maybe in my twenties I probably would have looked at

985
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:11,359
Speaker 1: this a little bit different, but nowadays I really don't

986
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 1: got time to play with you. I'm gonna say exactly

987
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 1: what I want, exactly how I'm feeling, exactly how I

988
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 1: feel about you, and then you can go on if

989
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 1: that's not if you're not winning none of that ship. Right,

990
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 1: So I might even tell you because late you know what,

991
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 1: I love you. If you ain't with that, you probably

992
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 1: should leave me to fu alone, right, say this pussy

993
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: or not not even just the pussy. It is everything

994
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: that come with exactly. So um yeah, So it's it's

995
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: possible that women we do have those attachment issues we've

996
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:48,880
Speaker 1: talked about in the past, falling in love too quick

997
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:52,720
Speaker 1: and expecting the person to be at the same space

998
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,240
Speaker 1: in the relationship that you are at the same time.

999
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,399
Speaker 1: It's almost inevitable because a lot of times two people

1000
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 1: are not in love at the same time. It's just

1001
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, it's that way. And I guess when

1002
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 1: you do find somebody that you're in love with at

1003
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: the same time, and I'll get married and I'll do

1004
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 1: all the little things. I don't know. Do you think's

1005
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 1: like my grandmother. She's always telling me, like, never love

1006
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 1: someone more than they love you, and if you do,

1007
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: don't show it, like she always. Yeah, So that's what

1008
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 1: women are told because we think that's that's how relationships work.

1009
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:22,839
Speaker 1: But then that's also how you create stalkers. Okay, when

1010
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: this man is so in love at you, he loves

1011
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 1: you more than he loves itself at this damn point,

1012
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 1: you love so now you that that comes out that

1013
00:51:31,080 --> 00:51:33,239
Speaker 1: I would think that if I love somebody more than

1014
00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 1: they love me, it's gonna kinda uh I mean, excuse me.

1015
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: If this man loves me then more than I love him,

1016
00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 1: it's gonna kind of show in the relationship and the

1017
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: things that we do to each other, you know what

1018
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So somebody's gonna be lacking. It's gonna be

1019
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: a lack somewhere. But right, But do you think most

1020
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:57,399
Speaker 1: relationships are like that where it's like one person loves

1021
00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:00,000
Speaker 1: someone more than the other, even if it's like uh

1022
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 1: fifty three right. Yeah. I don't think so either. I

1023
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: don't think it's ever I think like like they're showing

1024
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:09,319
Speaker 1: in different ways like in a yan yang, and I

1025
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 1: feel like that's when it's like that's probably like your person.

1026
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,280
Speaker 1: But I don't think it's ever like equal. There's always

1027
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 1: one person chasing another and y'all flip flop sometime. Yeah,

1028
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 1: that's how I feel too. I feel like it might

1029
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 1: be like different moments where like yeah, but it's never

1030
00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:28,279
Speaker 1: like a smooth just like you know, fifty situations. Attitude

1031
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 1: attitude problems ladies who got an attitude? Black women, that's

1032
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 1: across the board for us, we're just born with one.

1033
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 1: We're born with our middle finger up like what, yeah,

1034
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: I'll be feeling like it's even had a whole situation

1035
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:44,160
Speaker 1: at Afro Functions now was one of the guys like

1036
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 1: I simply had because I had to move my stuff,

1037
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 1: you know, always telling you I was like moving my stuff.

1038
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 1: So I had asked to some of the people have

1039
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 1: like cars and you know, like you can't drive your

1040
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 1: car on the thing. So I just like, I'm high,

1041
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: it's impossible that someone can help me, Um, you know,

1042
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,360
Speaker 1: move my stuff. This man's gonna say, not me. You

1043
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: could go over there, And I said, okay, like what

1044
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 1: you said it like that because I'm like, like the

1045
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: attitude doesn't even called for. So then I went and

1046
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:06,839
Speaker 1: I asked when else this same motherfucker's gonna pull up

1047
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 1: and be like, oh he gotta do. So I thought,

1048
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 1: like I was trying to keep myself calm because I

1049
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 1: was like, now I feel like you're catching the attitude

1050
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:14,719
Speaker 1: with me for no reason. I'm like, I literally just

1051
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,399
Speaker 1: asked the question. It said yes and no question. He's like, oh, well,

1052
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 1: we gotta do ours that I said. I see. Now

1053
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:21,320
Speaker 1: we're still talking just so catch your fucking attitude me.

1054
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, you like, just say no. I just

1055
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 1: asked to kid, someone help me. That's it. But it's

1056
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:26,359
Speaker 1: but I feel like it's like they're waiting for us

1057
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: to have an attitude for no reason. Like I just

1058
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:31,280
Speaker 1: asked the question. I see what you're saying. So basically

1059
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:33,880
Speaker 1: it's almost like black women are expected to have this attitude,

1060
00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: so we're always um. People always come to us, you

1061
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 1: know with the it's like yeah, like they feel like

1062
00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 1: they have to have their guards up from like Jump

1063
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 1: Street and it's like, bro, like I live and I

1064
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 1: was mad nice. I was like, excuse me. I didn't

1065
00:53:50,160 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 1: even ask him if you could do I was like,

1066
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,080
Speaker 1: it's it possible I could get somebody to help me.

1067
00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 1: I didn't even so when he was like not me,

1068
00:53:54,840 --> 00:53:56,359
Speaker 1: but you who goes, I was like, I'm not even

1069
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: arguing with you because the attitude wasn't even called for us.

1070
00:53:58,239 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: I was like okay, and I just moved to the

1071
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: other feel now I'm on the other field, and you

1072
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 1: still find and then you're sitting there looking at me

1073
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:04,799
Speaker 1: like you want to start saying like what the fund

1074
00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:07,040
Speaker 1: is your problem? You're waiting for a problem, like that's

1075
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,279
Speaker 1: what is you want a confrontation. If the answer is no,

1076
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 1: then't cool. I'm just gonna go ask somebody else, you

1077
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:15,959
Speaker 1: know what. UM Like you know another uh time where

1078
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: I feel like black women are treated like we're going

1079
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 1: to have an attitude, so I'm gonna give you poor service.

1080
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes when people are of other races are serving black

1081
00:54:24,680 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: women at the table, we don't get the best service

1082
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 1: because they'll be like they're gonna have an attitude and

1083
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:33,480
Speaker 1: they're not gonna too Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, y'all. So,

1084
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:36,839
Speaker 1: like we already talked about accountability or the inability like

1085
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 1: thereof accountability, um to see our own bullshit, you know,

1086
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:46,919
Speaker 1: UM assisting that men excuse me while insisting that men

1087
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 1: take accountability for the ship. So those are red that's

1088
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 1: a red flag. UM shutting down, ignoring, or lack of

1089
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 1: conflict resolution. I think we talked about that. M hm.

1090
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: Actually we didn't talk about shutting down. So, you know,

1091
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:07,359
Speaker 1: not being able to communicate with a woman. So you're

1092
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 1: a grown man, you have communication skills, but you're with

1093
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: a woman who lacks communication and comprehension skills. You know,

1094
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 1: what do you do? That's just not something that's solely

1095
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 1: um male trade. We know men don't like you can talk,

1096
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 1: but there are some men who are who do well,

1097
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:25,560
Speaker 1: I mean communicate, but then you end up with somebody

1098
00:55:25,560 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 1: who can't communicate. Right. Another one somebody wrote down was um,

1099
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: just say another personal just put that down one or

1100
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: nine I personalized ship that don't have anything to do

1101
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 1: with me. A lot of women do that. We'll take

1102
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 1: some ship that is his ship and make it our

1103
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:48,719
Speaker 1: ship and make it about us with the I I

1104
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:53,800
Speaker 1: I I I I M. I'm going through this and

1105
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:57,480
Speaker 1: you're making it about you right now, right, I can

1106
00:55:57,520 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: give you all of it. Well, I won't do that.

1107
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:00,840
Speaker 1: Let me just go to the next one. I was

1108
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:02,800
Speaker 1: ready a second with got a perfect example of that,

1109
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: but I won't. Um. I saw a comment from someone

1110
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:10,640
Speaker 1: that said they ignore people, so I comment back to

1111
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 1: her and I asked her, what does she mean by that,

1112
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:15,399
Speaker 1: And I said, like ignoring in a relationship. She said yes,

1113
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 1: So I may be guilty of that too, Like we're

1114
00:56:18,040 --> 00:56:19,799
Speaker 1: getting into it. I may not answer my phone for

1115
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:21,839
Speaker 1: your ask for the rest of the day, you know,

1116
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 1: because I don't feel like you're calling me to um,

1117
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:30,080
Speaker 1: let's move on. Maybe if you're calling me to continue

1118
00:56:30,120 --> 00:56:32,359
Speaker 1: on with the ship bullshit from earlier, I don't want

1119
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:35,640
Speaker 1: to talk to you. So I know that I've ignored

1120
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 1: somebody for a while two weeks. I ain't know people too,

1121
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:40,439
Speaker 1: because I feel like I don't want to say anything

1122
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 1: I can't take back. So that's like the best way

1123
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:43,520
Speaker 1: for me to handle it. And I know that's probably

1124
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: not like the best thing, but at the toss up

1125
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:47,840
Speaker 1: of the two, it's like I'd rather just do ignoring

1126
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: than like saying some ship we're like, you know what

1127
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:51,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying, and I can't take that ship back. But

1128
00:56:51,400 --> 00:56:53,319
Speaker 1: I shouldn't be more mature than that, Like that is

1129
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,080
Speaker 1: something I need to work on, because it's not like

1130
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: the best way of communication. See, if someone does that

1131
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:00,319
Speaker 1: to me, it will triggered my abandiment issues and then

1132
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: I overreact. Then you ignore me, and now you win.

1133
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 1: Shill missing you know, you ignore me. Now you'll got

1134
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 1: no wish you consequences. Consequences. Procrastination was another. Oh, that's

1135
00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 1: that's one of mine. I feel like that's just humans. Yeah,

1136
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 1: Like a red flag of my everyday life is procrastination. Yes,

1137
00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 1: and it's like I can't even do the things I

1138
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: want to do? What the fund is my problem? Right? Um? Okay,

1139
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 1: So apparently men consider a single woman with their ship

1140
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:43,600
Speaker 1: together red flag because something has to be wrong with you. Yeah.

1141
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 1: One of my girl friends said that one of my

1142
00:57:45,600 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: red flags was that I ain't got nobody yet, Like,

1143
00:57:50,240 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 1: how you ain't got nobody? You see me to have

1144
00:57:52,080 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 1: your ship together? You're attractive, you funny, Like, why are

1145
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: you single? Something's wrong with you? That's eating meaning money

1146
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 1: more I began, But then it's like, but then, why

1147
00:58:02,640 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 1: are you single? Because we're both sitting here. Okay, that's

1148
00:58:06,200 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 1: a whole another episode. Uh, Because I think that, you know,

1149
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: for the most part, I believe that women want love.

1150
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: Women want to be loved. We don't want to be single.

1151
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: I believe that men thrive when they're single. They may

1152
00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:23,120
Speaker 1: not realize, well they may not. Actually, I feel like

1153
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:25,640
Speaker 1: married men thrive a little bit more than single men.

1154
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 1: You know, some people can do it being single, but

1155
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 1: most married, most successful men are married. Right. But we're

1156
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 1: living in it. I think we're living in a time where,

1157
00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 1: you know, if we're in the black community, we want

1158
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:39,959
Speaker 1: to talk about the black community. A lot of people

1159
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: don't put a lot of black men don't see the

1160
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 1: importance of marriage or relationships. I think men like they

1161
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:48,959
Speaker 1: want to be loved too, but they try to front

1162
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 1: like they like they don't like they don't want to

1163
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 1: be like it's whatever, you know what I'm saying. And

1164
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: sometimes I think because I think like in the media,

1165
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:56,560
Speaker 1: that's like how they I mean, they change it now,

1166
00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 1: but I feel like in the media that's a lot

1167
00:58:57,680 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 1: of times how they put trade black men, and then

1168
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 1: because that's what they see you on television, they try

1169
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 1: to like, you know, like marry that because they feel

1170
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 1: like that's what it is to be a black man.

1171
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:06,080
Speaker 1: Like even like in the music and ship like that.

1172
00:59:06,080 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a lot of marrying and not

1173
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 1: them like really like being who they are. Because I

1174
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:10,919
Speaker 1: feel like to be loved, it's like a normal human

1175
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:13,880
Speaker 1: trait I think everyone wants because it's a good feeling.

1176
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:16,200
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So even like we're like,

1177
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 1: how like black man cheating and ship like that, I

1178
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:19,640
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of it, even though like I

1179
00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 1: feel like something just can't keep the di they dig together.

1180
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: But like sometimes I think, like, no, I think you're

1181
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 1: just cheating because you feel like you're supposed to when

1182
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:27,320
Speaker 1: you think it's okay, Like it's not even necessarily because

1183
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 1: you really you know what I'm saying. It's just like

1184
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 1: because like you just feel like, oh, I'm a man

1185
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 1: and this is what men men do, so you just

1186
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: go out and do whatever. Right, so biblically, because biblically,

1187
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 1: you know, people like to go back to the Bible

1188
00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:40,920
Speaker 1: and talk about women and blah blah blah. But the

1189
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 1: Bible doesn't mention anything about if you want to do that,

1190
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 1: because that's a lot of reference. God's people use the

1191
00:59:45,840 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 1: Bible as right, especially when trying to dictate what women

1192
00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:53,040
Speaker 1: need to be doing. The Bible says the man can't

1193
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: be alone. They didn't say anything about women not being

1194
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:58,200
Speaker 1: able to be alone. And the Bible also says man

1195
00:59:58,240 --> 01:00:00,840
Speaker 1: should love women as Christ love the Church and don't

1196
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: say shit about women loving men. But y'all, we need love.

1197
01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:10,240
Speaker 1: Women need stand out numbers. I mean we out number men. Yeah,

1198
01:00:11,560 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 1: for another reason too, m hmm. I feel like somebody

1199
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 1: meant to be alone. Yeah. I feel like even that

1200
01:00:18,080 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 1: statistics is fake because I mean, we got to calculate

1201
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:22,960
Speaker 1: on how many men are incocerateds. So we're talking about

1202
01:00:22,960 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 1: available men on the streets. Some things we just can't control,

1203
01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. They could very well be

1204
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:31,919
Speaker 1: damn in the same amount of women as there are men.

1205
01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:36,040
Speaker 1: We would never know. And as long as men think

1206
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 1: that it's less of them and more of us, and

1207
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 1: that means that's why they should have five or six

1208
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:44,920
Speaker 1: different women, they'll continue to do that ship. But we

1209
01:00:45,080 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 1: have to put our fun down to be like n nigger,

1210
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:52,000
Speaker 1: it's equal playing grounds, equal playing field. Stop playing. Picked

1211
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 1: a woman and get married. I want one, like I

1212
01:00:55,120 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship with like women and

1213
01:00:57,840 --> 01:01:00,720
Speaker 1: just me, but maybe beyond fifteen years down on line,

1214
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:03,600
Speaker 1: let's add somebody so I can they can share the load.

1215
01:01:05,600 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 1: Let's add somebody because that's still and that's what women

1216
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:16,440
Speaker 1: don't think take into consideration. That's a big job being married.

1217
01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 1: Like you know, I realized being single down that you know,

1218
01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:22,360
Speaker 1: some days I don't eat. I just go to sleep.

1219
01:01:22,720 --> 01:01:25,360
Speaker 1: But when you got a family, you're responsible for their nourishments.

1220
01:01:25,360 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 1: And now I gotta make sure you and your kids,

1221
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:29,880
Speaker 1: or if we got kids again, I gotta make sure

1222
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 1: everybody eat every single day. Like that is stressful. Trying

1223
01:01:32,520 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 1: to figure out just yes, that is very stressful when

1224
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 1: that's the tip of the iceberg, exactly, Sean. At least

1225
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Speaker 1: All that good ship? Tamn? What you got? Oh that's all?

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Speaker 1: Thank y'all for tuning in. Remember to speak now and

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Speaker 1: never hole yo piece y'all. We're talking to y'all. By bye,