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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Abodi here. You are listening to an

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Speaker 1: extra special episode of Hurdle.

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Speaker 2: A wellness focused podcast.

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Speaker 1: Reconnect with everyone from your favorite athletes to top experts

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Speaker 1: and industry CEOs about their highest highs, toughest moments, and

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Speaker 1: everything in between. We all go through hurdles in life,

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Speaker 1: and my goal through these discussions is to empower you

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Speaker 1: you can stride towards your own big potential and of

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Speaker 1: course have some fun along the way. And fun is

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Speaker 1: exactly what we are going to be having today. I

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Speaker 1: asked some of my dearest friends and family to hit

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Speaker 2: That's right. It's a little.

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Speaker 1: Bit different than your standard listener questions episode because these

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Speaker 1: talking to my parents, I'm talking my oldest friends, I'm

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Speaker 2: You name it.

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Speaker 1: And so we're getting into it today. We're getting a

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Speaker 1: experiment that you enjoy. In today's episode, I'm answering questions

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Speaker 1: about upcoming projects, perhaps my favorite pizza. I'm talking about

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Speaker 1: lot of good stuff on deck this week. And then

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Speaker 1: beyond that, let's see what else are we talking about

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Speaker 1: here favorite or in my apartment? The habits that make

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Speaker 1: me me? And some best practice advice on how to

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Speaker 1: get out of a rut, and so much more. Make sure,

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Speaker 1: if you're not yet doing so, you're following along with

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Speaker 1: Hurdle over on social It's at Hurdle podcast. I am

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Speaker 1: over at Emily Avadi and without any further delay, let's

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Speaker 3: Hey m it is t Drew And my question for

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Speaker 3: you is what are your habits? Can be two, can

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Speaker 3: you currently are? And also, I guess these will be

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Speaker 3: the same habits that will allow you to get to

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Speaker 2: Habits. I love some habits.

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Speaker 1: And you know it's interesting in this question, Teader, you

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Speaker 1: going to say that my habits in my morning routine

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Speaker 1: I would say the most foundational habits in my life

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Speaker 1: But I do one of opens classes for between three

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Speaker 4: Good morning, m I hope you made it safely to

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Speaker 1: If I'm traveling for work, if I look at my

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Speaker 1: Wherever I'm going what will be available to me, whether

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Speaker 5: here's my listener question, Emily, when are you going to

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Speaker 2: Oh? My god? Is my dad? Like the biggest nerd

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Speaker 1: I would say, what am I getting back to Connecticut

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Speaker 1: I'll go from at April. If that's cool, we can

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Speaker 2: What's the worst date you've ever been on?

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Speaker 1: I forget where I was going, but I he was

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Speaker 1: He gives me his AMX and he says, feel free

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Speaker 1: So I believe what I did was I like looked

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Speaker 1: And I forget what else he said in that moment,

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Speaker 2: Ever.

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Speaker 6: Every day I pull a card from the self reflection

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Speaker 6: deck for we're not really strangers, and today's question is

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Speaker 6: you as well, which is what have I outgrown recently?

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Speaker 1: Love this question, my friend Sean, She's so insightful. I

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Speaker 1: would say, what have I outgrown recently? Recently? I, because

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Speaker 4: Hi Emily, I have a very hard hitting question for you,

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Speaker 6: Is what is your favorite pen that you use for journaling?

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Speaker 2: No shade.

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Speaker 1: I get this question a lot in my DMS because

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Speaker 1: I have I think like three of the exact same pen.

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Speaker 1: It's a Penel pen. It's a Penel pen. I will

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Speaker 1: Am I lame that I have a favorite pet? I digress,

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Speaker 1: you know what. That's fine with me. I think that's

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