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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, welcome back to this

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Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapod. You guys asked and we are delivering

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Speaker 1: the number one topic you guys wanted me to discuss

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Speaker 1: was eating disorders. So it's a sensitive topic, but it's

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Speaker 1: also something I truly believe talking about helps you continue

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Speaker 1: to heal and working on UM I had. I never

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Speaker 1: really had a great relationship with food until after my

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Speaker 1: son was born. So that's about five years ago. Um,

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Speaker 1: not about five years. I know how old my son is, guys,

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Speaker 1: he's five and a half. So that's how many years ago.

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Speaker 1: That's when all in by Teddy was formed. But leading

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Speaker 1: back to even when I was a child, I started

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Speaker 1: riding horses from a very young age. And I remember

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Speaker 1: when I was about ten years old. UM, somebody said

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Speaker 1: to me, oh, you should you need to switch your underwear.

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Speaker 1: You need to wear a thong because you can see

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Speaker 1: your underwear line through your riding pants. For those of

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Speaker 1: you don't know, if you compete UM as an equestrian,

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Speaker 1: you are wearing skin tight beige pants. And that's when

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Speaker 1: I started becoming aware of my body, UM in a

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Speaker 1: way that wasn't just like a regular kid, in my opinion,

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Speaker 1: and I started realizing that food was something I wanted

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Speaker 1: to control. And I noticed that my sister and I

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Speaker 1: were developing differently, Like I would just start to gain

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Speaker 1: a little bit of weight, and my sister was always

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Speaker 1: tiny and she could kind of eat whatever, and you know,

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Speaker 1: I just that wasn't the case for me. And I

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Speaker 1: just remember being aware of it so much younger than

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Speaker 1: I would have thought that it would happen. So around

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Speaker 1: the age of play seventh or eighth grade is when

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Speaker 1: I started creating an unhealthy relationship with food. And it

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Speaker 1: became something where I will eat enough to get by,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not feeding myself the proper nutrition to do

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Speaker 1: it well. So I would be at a horse show

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Speaker 1: all day long and have something like two diet dr

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Speaker 1: peppers and to string cheese and maybe an apple, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, that's good, good enough, and I'm winning

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Speaker 1: so awesome, and people are noticing that I look different

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Speaker 1: and this is a win win, and it became sort

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Speaker 1: of this evil like reward slash. I started feeling like

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Speaker 1: pride and when people would say to me, you're doing okay,

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Speaker 1: like you look all right, you know. As I got older,

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Speaker 1: and then it became something that I couldn't keep up with.

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Speaker 1: So there would be years where I would really limit

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Speaker 1: my food and then I kind of be like, I'm

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Speaker 1: sick of this, and then I would go the other direction.

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Speaker 1: And that was kind of my entire high school life.

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Speaker 1: And it really became around you know, how can I

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Speaker 1: do it together, and it just it became an obsession.

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Speaker 1: And you know, it wasn't to the point where I

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Speaker 1: the point that it consumed a large part of my thinking.

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Speaker 1: And I started revolving my good days around how little

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Speaker 1: I could eat, and if I still one in the

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Speaker 1: competition that day, then it was a good day. Or

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Speaker 1: if I felt too weak and I made a mistake,

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Speaker 1: I started calculating my every move. So that was kind

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Speaker 1: of my youth. And then I at seventeen, I had

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Speaker 1: best year yet riding horses, and I had gotten a

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Speaker 1: college scholarship to go riding, and I told my parents,

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Speaker 1: I need a break. I don't want to live in

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Speaker 1: go to college if you want, but I'm not going

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Speaker 1: under the riding scholarship. Well news flash, no colleges wanted

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna move to California. My parents said, great, you

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Speaker 1: can go. We'll help you move across the country, but

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Speaker 1: I gained over eighty pounds. And it was complete emotional eating.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't binging, like I wasn't going and hiding it.

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Speaker 1: I just was constantly grazing, and I was constantly eating,

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Speaker 1: even ask such a question, gen like what what you

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Speaker 1: don't like me? How I am? Take me or leave me?

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Speaker 1: And that's not what they were asking. I was putting

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Speaker 1: all of my own and securities and own you know what,

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Speaker 1: I would self sabotaging behavior. I was putting it on them.

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Speaker 1: And you know, it wasn't until years and years later

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Speaker 1: I was like that for you know, probably five years

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Speaker 1: I um started riding horses again, and I went right

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Speaker 1: back to my old habits that I had as a kid,

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Speaker 1: as a you know, growing up I just started eating

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Speaker 1: or my body image. But I was getting results and compliments.

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Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, you know what, this is great.

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Speaker 1: And I meet my husband and I remember on about

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Speaker 1: our third date, I took him on a like a

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Speaker 1: birthday dinner. And you know when you're at a birthday

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Speaker 1: dinner and there's like thirty people there, and a guy

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Speaker 1: was a guy sitting there and I said, Hi, I'm

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Speaker 1: Teddy blah blah blah, and this is my friend Edwyn

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Speaker 1: and he goes, Teddy, h I knew a Teddy that

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Speaker 1: just like my heart sinking and feeling like, oh my god. One,

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Speaker 1: I can't believe he said that, And to what is

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Speaker 1: Edwin going to think? And three I've never told you know.

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Speaker 1: It was like this deep, dirty secret that I thought

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Speaker 1: became one of those things. I would go home for

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Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. I think I was ashamed

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Speaker 1: But these crazy fat diets or starvation diets are fasting

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Speaker 1: sad that that's a thing. Um. But once I had

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Speaker 1: but that was fine, that's you know, I was happy

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Speaker 1: and I was on all these IVF and blood thinners

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Speaker 1: my life. And I started learning and educating myself on

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Speaker 1: good things to fuel your body, on exercise and being

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Speaker 1: things that you've eaten. And it became my life's mission

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Speaker 1: But if you're open with yourself, if you're open with others,

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Speaker 1: So I'm super excited. Today we have guests from all

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Speaker 1: So stay tuned for that. And um, we're gonna come

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Speaker 1: right back with Jessica Clark to share her story with us. Hi.

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Speaker 1: Now we're on with Jessica Clark. How are you, Jessica,

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Speaker 1: I'm doing great. How are you? I'm good? Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you for coming on and sharing your story.

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Speaker 1: I was just talking a little bit about mine and

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Speaker 1: I was saying, the biggest thing for me has been

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Speaker 1: being open and vulnerable and sharing and that's been the

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Speaker 1: and then we can kind of dig into some questions. Yeah. Absolutely, Um,

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Speaker 1: I totally agree with that. I think a lot of

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Speaker 1: the healing that I've experienced and a lot of kind

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Speaker 1: sharing it. So I definitely agree with that. Um. So

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Speaker 1: I in high school, I was a super competitive athlete.

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Speaker 1: how all the different runners looked. And I think so

432
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: often times we are comparing ourselves to others instead of

433
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: looking at ourselves and actually loving ourselves. And that's the

434
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,640
Speaker 1: hardest thing about this world that we live in now.

435
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 1: Of comparison. Oh yeah, I mean comparisons the thief of joy.

436
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 1: I feel like people say that all the time, but

437
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: it is so true. It really is. If if I

438
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: didn't compare myself to anybody else, then I would probably

439
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: be so content. But seeing what everyone else is doing, definitely,

440
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: and how everyone else looks and having something that you

441
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,880
Speaker 1: don't have, and it really takes away from the joy

442
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 1: that you should be feeling in that moment. And what

443
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 1: would you say some of the tools you could give

444
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:57,479
Speaker 1: our listeners if they're hearing this and they're relating to

445
00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 1: your story, what could you what advice need to get them?

446
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: My biggest piece is seek professional help. Even if you

447
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 1: don't think that you have a fall on eating disorder anything. Um,

448
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: there's no shame in going to a therapist at all.

449
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: I think it's the best thing ever um either a

450
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 1: therapist or a dietitian, I think it's huge. I think

451
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: being intentional to spend time with other people face to

452
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: face and putting your phone down and really like have

453
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 1: a three hour long dinner with your best friends at

454
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 1: your house and have no phones and just enjoy the

455
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:35,920
Speaker 1: people around you rather than looking to the internet and

456
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 1: influencers and all these things that you're seeing every day.

457
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 1: I think that's huge. And then really just listening to

458
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: your body, like flowing down and not being in a

459
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 1: rush and listening to what your body needs that day.

460
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: It might be a glass of water instead of another snack,

461
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 1: where it might be another snack or whatever. But I

462
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: don't think that we pay enough attention to what our

463
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,479
Speaker 1: bodies are saying. And usually our bodies are right. Yeah,

464
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,159
Speaker 1: that's true, And it's day by day, you know, I

465
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: think if you wake up and and also a big

466
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: thing for me has been preparing myself for things that

467
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: are and especially now that I'm pregnant, but preparing myself

468
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 1: with healthy foods that make me and my baby feel good.

469
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 1: And there's no shame in bringing snacks with you. Yeah,

470
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: I mean, for sure, because the worst thing you I

471
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: could you know, I used to would be like I

472
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: would be angry, and then I would make decisions based

473
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 1: on you know, I need this, write this, as opposed

474
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: to being like, oh wow, no, I have all these

475
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: perfectly great snacks that are going to fuel me and

476
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: make me feel good and then not set off red

477
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 1: flags of some past issues. Yeah, no, definitely. Well, I

478
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: cannot thank you enough for talking to us. And how

479
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 1: do people reach out to you if they want to

480
00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: speak to you and kind of get some more tools? Um,

481
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: they can message me on Instagram. Instagram is Jess Clark

482
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 1: underscore and Clark hasn't e at the end. But I'm

483
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: really bad at checking my messages. So on your profile

484
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 1: there's the email button and I check my email more

485
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: often and that's really meat too, So emailing there from

486
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 1: my Instagram perfect. Thank you so much, of course, thank you.

487
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: Bye bye. So, guys who got to tune in after

488
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: the break because we have Jackie gold Schneider coming on.

489
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 1: She is a real housewife of New Jersey who has

490
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: openly struggled with her and arexia, and she is willing

491
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 1: to share her story with us. Hey Jackie, how are you? Hey? Patty,

492
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: how are you good? Thank you? Can you pronounce your

493
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 1: last name for me? I'm a hot mess express always

494
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 1: gold perfect. Thank you so much for coming on and

495
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: sharing your story with us. I just got off the

496
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: phone with Jessica Clark, who had been talking to us

497
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: about binging and purging, and it's starting at kind of

498
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: a young age because she had set herself on an

499
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 1: eating plan and it was all due to wanting a

500
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: runner's body and being a successful runner. And I think

501
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 1: that oftentimes it is linked to sports, but it's also

502
00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: so much more And I would love to hear kind

503
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: of your background and your story I think helps so

504
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 1: many of our listeners. Yeah, I think mine so I

505
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 1: never binged and purged. I never had um bolimia. I

506
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: was anorexic, and um mine wasn't linked to sports. Mine

507
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: was just having no concept of healthy eating. I mean,

508
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: it's not really something my parents taught me. Um So

509
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: mine was that I got very heavy and then suddenly

510
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: like the impulse to lose weight was like like I

511
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: had was like do or die, Like I had to

512
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: get all the weight off because that suddenly I felt

513
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 1: so terrible about myself, and so I just took the quicken. Um,

514
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: I was sixteen years old. Okay, sorry to cut you off, Yeah, no,

515
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: no problem. And so I think I just I got

516
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: involved with some really unhealthy eating habits and I would

517
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 1: my weight would fluctuate constantly, and then I figured out

518
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: that really the less I ate, the more I was

519
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 1: going to lose. And I just once I started in

520
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: my mid twenties, I just couldn't let go of it.

521
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: And it really it takes you on a really downward

522
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: spiral where you're just afraid of putting any weight back,

523
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: and you know, got really bad for me and what

524
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: we're When did you start realizing that it was taking

525
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 1: a toll on your life? Um? I think when some

526
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: of my habits. So I went through a really tough

527
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: time for about ten years, and I think, UM, when

528
00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: some of my habits began, um taking life of their

529
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 1: own when I couldn't when I couldn't stop myself from

530
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 1: you know, bringing a food scale to a restaurant or

531
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 1: from um, little things like just just terrible habits that

532
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 1: I had when I couldn't stop them, when I couldn't

533
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,959
Speaker 1: talk myself out of them. Then I knew that I

534
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: was that it was becoming dangerous and my weight started

535
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: getting very low. Um, I had almost I had like

536
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: eight percent body fat. Little things. I lost my period,

537
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: I I never got it back. I you know, I

538
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 1: ended up with fertility problems. UM, a lot of things.

539
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: I realized along the way that it was bad, and

540
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 1: I still couldn't stop. Yeah, and do you think that.

541
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: I mean for our listeners out there that aren't sure

542
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: if they are developing, you know, a sickness. So some

543
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 1: of the red flags for you or you were bringing

544
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: a scale to restaurants, Yeah, I mean there had a

545
00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: lot of red flags. I knew. I knew that the

546
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 1: way I was eating wasn't wasn't healthy. I mean, if

547
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: you're ever if you ever feel compelled to really restrict

548
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: yourself so much, it's not a natural way to lose weight.

549
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: I would say, if it's not a lifestyle, then it's

550
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 1: probably not a good idea. I think, Um, I think

551
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: you know whether or not something is healthy for you.

552
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 1: I mean I was substituting regular food with diets up

553
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: to suits like any chance I could, Um, if it's

554
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: if it's too artificial, if it's you know, I would say,

555
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: if you if you have a question about it, really

556
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 1: try to see a nutritionist, you know, because they'll tell

557
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: you whether or not it's a healthy habit. UM. You know,

558
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 1: I wish I had done that sooner. And what kind

559
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: of led you to the place that you finally did? UM?

560
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: I somebody referred me to I was really bad, and

561
00:33:55,640 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: somebody had referred me to UM, a nutritionist who specialized

562
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 1: in eating disorders, and they said, just see her one time,

563
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: and if you don't, if you don't like her, then

564
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 1: you don't have to go back. And the minute I

565
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: saw her, she she understood what I was going through,

566
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: and I knew that she could be the person to

567
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: help me. But when she told me the ways that

568
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 1: I was behaving, that we're impacting my children, then I

569
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 1: was like, that's it. When I saw so, I was

570
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: weighing my children's food to UM, and it was just

571
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 1: like all encompassing, like I couldn't I couldn't stop controlling

572
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: what they were eating. Also, And once I realized that

573
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 1: I was doing that, I said, this is done. I

574
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: have to be done. It's so crazy that you said that,

575
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: because that was it was. It took me to get

576
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 1: pregnant to finally change my life to say I I

577
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: can't live like this anymore. I have no idea what

578
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 1: I'm doing. I have to educate myself. I have to

579
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: start healing because now I have kids and I can't

580
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 1: possibly let them see what I'm doing to myself on

581
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: a daily basis, right, And that's that's the thing. You

582
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: have to get to the place where you have that breakthrough,

583
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 1: you know, like people can't force it on you. Um,

584
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: which is terrible because a lot of a lot of

585
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 1: people want to help you when you're struggling, and it

586
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 1: really has to be something that you want to do

587
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: for yourself. I mean, that's what I found for myself.

588
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 1: And this is a controversial topic. But in your opinion,

589
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 1: does you're eating disorder go away? Oh? No, definitely not.

590
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: I mean I'm work. I consider myself recovered, but I

591
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:37,439
Speaker 1: still have lingering, like terrible anxiety over food sometimes, which

592
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: is so strange because I really don't have anxiety, and

593
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 1: I consider myself confidence and like have everything under control.

594
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: But when it comes to food and eating, I get

595
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 1: like I get the urge to restrict myself more than

596
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,320
Speaker 1: I need to. Well, it's interesting that you use the

597
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: word control because that's the one of the biggest triggers

598
00:35:57,080 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 1: when it comes to you know, it's something we in control.

599
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 1: Um yeah, definitely. So what when you're feeling when you're

600
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: feeling it coming back, or you're feeling like you're in

601
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 1: a place where your your anxieties high because of it,

602
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: what are some of the tools that you do to

603
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: combat it? Now? Um? Well, I first I remind myself

604
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: that that my children are watching me, and I have

605
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: a daughter. I mean I have three boys and they

606
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: watched me too, But I have a daughter and I

607
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: don't want her to experience any of this. Um I Also,

608
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: you know, in those moments, then I remind myself that,

609
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: like what I went through with such torture, and I

610
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 1: can never do that again. So even if I skip

611
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 1: a meal today, I'm not going to be able to

612
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: go back to what I was because it wasn't a life.

613
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: It was not a life. All I thought about was

614
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: food and my my wedding. All I thought about was

615
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: what I was eating or wasn't eating. I mean, that

616
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 1: was terrible to spend your wedding like that, you know,

617
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: So I just remind myself that, like, it's not worth it.

618
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: I'm not going to go back to that. I could

619
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 1: never go back to that, so you know, you talk

620
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 1: yourself out of it, but it's hard. It's still hard.

621
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 1: I still have a problem when I step on the

622
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: scale and I'm a pound heavier tooth sons heavier. It's hard.

623
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 1: And what would you say to our listeners out there

624
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: that have a loved one like your husband at your wedding, Like,

625
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 1: do you think he was aware of that? What's the

626
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 1: best way to support one if they're going through this.

627
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,520
Speaker 1: You know, my husband, I feel bad because he had

628
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: no idea what to do with me, and he would

629
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 1: always tell me how beautiful I was and like suggest

630
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: me share something, and I always turned it away. Um.

631
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 1: I think it's a lot to put on your loved

632
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: ones to expect them to know what to do. But

633
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 1: for a loved one who does want to help, I

634
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 1: would suggest, you know, don't give up and keep trying

635
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: to get Uh. The person who's struggling to see somebody professional, Um,

636
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 1: be it a therapist or a nutritionist who specializes in

637
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: eating disorders. Um, don't try to do it yourself, you know,

638
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:58,760
Speaker 1: don't try to tell them to just eat. It doesn't

639
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: really work like that. But I would I would really

640
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 1: try to take them to see somebody who's specialized in this,

641
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 1: because that, I mean, that's the same exact thing Jessica

642
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: set as well. And that's how I feel. If if

643
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 1: you're struggling, if if you know that you need to

644
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 1: seek professional help, there's you don't win an award for

645
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: for grin and bearing it. And the percussions are huge. Um. Also,

646
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: I'm curious do you think that your kids, because it

647
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: happened at the beginning, to think they have any idea

648
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 1: or No. I don't because I stopped. I started eating

649
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: again when they were they were pretty little, so they

650
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: were Um. I have two sets of twins, so my

651
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: older ones were four. My my babies were too, So

652
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 1: I don't think they remember any of it. Um. And

653
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 1: I make a real show of making sure they see me,

654
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: you know, share things with them and eat like heavy food.

655
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: You know. I also make them see me, you know,

656
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:58,280
Speaker 1: be healthy. And they see mommy and daddy exercise almost

657
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 1: every day. UM, so they know they know healthy. They

658
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 1: don't just see eating crap. You know. They we teach

659
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,800
Speaker 1: them healthy habits when we make sure they're always active

660
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 1: and physical. And you know, my goal isn't just to

661
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,400
Speaker 1: show them that I eat it's to show them how

662
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: to be healthy so they don't ever have to go

663
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: through the struggle. But I went through I know. I mean,

664
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: I of course I think the same way, you know,

665
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 1: like I want to show my kids as much balanced

666
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 1: as I possibly can. I try to we try to

667
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,720
Speaker 1: do active things together because we live in the world

668
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: now where kids want to get on iPads or you know,

669
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: social media or Nintendo switch or whatever the new thing is.

670
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,560
Speaker 1: And for me, it's like, no, let's go out. And

671
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 1: I'm not saying let's go run up, but like run

672
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's go play soccer, Let's have a Kurtwheel

673
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:47,240
Speaker 1: competition or whatever it may be. So that we're doing

674
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,080
Speaker 1: active things as a family and it doesn't know I

675
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 1: have a punishment. Important. I mean, it's really important to

676
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 1: show them both. I mean they say that obesity, the

677
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: obesity epidemic right now is because kids don't go outside anymore. Yeah.

678
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 1: And do you think, just kind of in closing, do

679
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 1: you think there's one trigger that really hits you that

680
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 1: then you have to really like dig into or do

681
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 1: you think that or it just comes up randomly, like

682
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 1: does it come from stress or being busy? Um? No,

683
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 1: I would say, I'm most triggered by the scale, which

684
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 1: is why I really try to stay off of it now.

685
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: I used to weigh myself every single day, and if

686
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: I was if I like straight more than like a

687
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: half pound from what I was, I wouldn't know what

688
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 1: to do with myself. And now I probably weighed myself

689
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 1: three times a year. I try to go more by

690
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: my clothing, um, because I just get it just makes

691
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: me a little crazy. So when I see numbers on

692
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: the scale, that triggers me. Um, So I try to

693
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 1: stay away from that. Yeah. I think that's the biggest thing.

694
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: You You learn what your triggers are, You learn what

695
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 1: works for you what doesn't, and then you know, I

696
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,719
Speaker 1: think even us being able to have this conversation is

697
00:40:56,760 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 1: something that didn't happen ten years ago. Yeah, absolutely, so right.

698
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for sharing your story with us,

699
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: Thank you for for calling in, for letting me, you know,

700
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 1: have this opportunity. It was great talking to you. Great

701
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: talking to you too. Okay, I'm looking forward to bringing

702
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: Christie on because there are so many of us who

703
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 1: are struggling with our relationships with food, but we don't

704
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: realize are we binging and purging, Um, is it anorexia?

705
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: Is it body dysmorphia? As it self? Hate? And my

706
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: emotional eating? What's going on? So? I I think having

707
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 1: her lay it all out for us and give us

708
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 1: some tools UM is a great way for our listeners

709
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: to connect and also figure out what support groups they

710
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: should be reaching out to. Hi, we're on with Christie Morrale.

711
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: She is a registered dietitian. She's also a sports dietitian

712
00:41:56,920 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: at the USC and for the l A Kings. So

713
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: we're so happy to pick your brain. Thank you so much,

714
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 1: thank you. No, I'm happy to be here, absolutely so.

715
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: Earlier on in this episode, we had on somebody who

716
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: had a history of binging and purging, and then somebody

717
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 1: who on and off has had an active anorexia disorder.

718
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,800
Speaker 1: And for the people listening who don't understand the difference

719
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:26,840
Speaker 1: on all these englisht orders, can you kind of explain

720
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: them and then also the effects they have on our

721
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:33,720
Speaker 1: body long term? Sure? I mean there are many different

722
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: days and can start with anorexia. Obviously, it's starving the body,

723
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:40,320
Speaker 1: so it's not to be your body and your brain

724
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,439
Speaker 1: enough nutrients. And I mean I've been doing the eating

725
00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 1: disorder work for almost twenty years now, and I will

726
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: say that there are long term effects. For example, I

727
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 1: had an AX clients who are seeing in her teens,

728
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: and she made a full recovery, which is awesome, but

729
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 1: she was walking down a flight of stairs then missed

730
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 1: her step and then literally broke her hip. And she

731
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 1: was only at that time, I think twenty two. So

732
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: the challenges when you're young and you develop an eating disorder,

733
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 1: your bones and your body it just doesn't grow properly

734
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 1: and you can have a lot of long term effects

735
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 1: with possibly getting pregnant or having very brutal bones and

736
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: you know, your hair may never grow the way that

737
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:28,800
Speaker 1: it should have or um, you know your your skin,

738
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: and there's so many different effects that way. So the

739
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 1: restriction is probably the most dangerous because you can you

740
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 1: can die and um, when you don't give your body

741
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: enough food, it pulls from your organs and which is

742
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: why some matter extits you passed away won't a heart

743
00:43:45,760 --> 00:43:49,800
Speaker 1: attack because of that. So that's the most fear UM

744
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 1: and at that point they're in in treatment in a

745
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: hospital or getting the type of help that they need. UM.

746
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: But they're all types of restriction. I mean you can

747
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:05,280
Speaker 1: be functioning and be analytics um, and there are plenty. Unfortunately,

748
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: I see that a lot in the way because everybody

749
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 1: tries to be a lot leaner than probably what their

750
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 1: body set point should be. So there are sort of

751
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:17,720
Speaker 1: in a state of restriction um and obsessive compulsive thinking

752
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:21,120
Speaker 1: about it all the time throughout another a whole kind

753
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 1: of area of restriction. And then binge eating is um

754
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 1: somebody who could bend but not necessarily perched, and so

755
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: they would just have a bench eating disorder, or they're

756
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: not doing anything to counteractive enging, but they may restrict

757
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: all day, which is what I see often, and then

758
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: trying to be good quote unquote or trying to diet

759
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 1: but then not able to us sustain that, and then

760
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: come up, come home at night and binge and eat

761
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 1: you know, three or four thousand calories um, and then

762
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: the cycle starts all over. And then they get up

763
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 1: in the morning and they try to be good and

764
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:56,760
Speaker 1: then they restrict. So that's that's a that's a common

765
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 1: cycle and see often. And then of course being me

766
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 1: is somebody who binges em purges, but not always like

767
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:07,480
Speaker 1: some people will not necessarily binge and then perch. You

768
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:11,479
Speaker 1: could have somebody who just is terrifying terrified of beaning weight,

769
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 1: so they may just eat a normal sized meal, but

770
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to keep that in them, so then

771
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:20,919
Speaker 1: they'll part that. So that's another whole level. And then

772
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 1: the other line is orthorexia, which is an obsession with

773
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 1: eating healthy. Um, so that was really interesting because it's

774
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:33,439
Speaker 1: it's people who don't eat, but they only will eat

775
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:36,840
Speaker 1: things with no processed sugar and only certain ingredients and

776
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 1: are over the top healthy. And I think again that

777
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 1: one is very common to get away with an alley

778
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 1: because people are almost crazed for eating healthy. And I

779
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 1: think that in itself is actually kind of dangerous because um,

780
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: we're almost like, oh my gosh, you have some of

781
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,879
Speaker 1: health controller you're so great. But really what they are

782
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 1: is completely obsessed and taken over by looking at ingredients,

783
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: been watching everything. They put no body. So all of

784
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: these disorders are very like they're just not present in life.

785
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: They're very controlled and obsessed. I'm thinking about all of

786
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: that all the time, and that's also another level of

787
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: dangerous for that too. And do you think there's a

788
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: root cause of this happening? And do you think the

789
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: root cause can change by disorder. Oh absolutely, there's so

790
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 1: many that I wouldn't say there's one in particular root

791
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: cause there's so many different levels. But I would say

792
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: from my experience of being in l A specifically with

793
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,359
Speaker 1: all the young kids that I see, because I also

794
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 1: specialize in adolescents adolescents, and I think that the main

795
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 1: issue is this constant pressure of looking good and eating healthy,

796
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:54,359
Speaker 1: like over the top healthy and um and the parents.

797
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: I think a lot of the young kids that I

798
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 1: see are very much like that. You know, you can

799
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 1: exercise healthily and you can eat healthfully, but when you

800
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 1: are cutting out things and exercising its obsessively and talking

801
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: about it. When that young child, whether it's a bloy

802
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:12,960
Speaker 1: or girl, because I definitely have some bloyers in my

803
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: practice now too, see that and then they could attach

804
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: that type of eating and lifestyle and that's how it is.

805
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: I feel it affects the younger the younger kids, and

806
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 1: I would say with my teenagers that I see, it's

807
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: very much so. The Instagram world his has has impacted

808
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: the way they feel about their bodies, how they should

809
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 1: be eating. But they're not eating clean enough, or they're

810
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 1: not exercising as much, or I don't how they might

811
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: not have those apps like so and so has on Instagram.

812
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 1: So I think there are many, many different levels to this, UM,

813
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: and I think that it's just I don't see where

814
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: it's getting better. And I think that's where it's a

815
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: little frustrating, UM, being in this practice. So what would

816
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:58,840
Speaker 1: you say that? So I have little kids, and I have,

817
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: you know, consistently had issues surrounding food and body image

818
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 1: until after I had my kids. And the biggest thing

819
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 1: for me and why I decided I need to actively

820
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 1: work on changing my life and I created a business

821
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 1: from it and all types of things because I'm so

822
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: passionate about it is because I want my kids to

823
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 1: have a healthy relationship with food. So I want to

824
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 1: make sure that I'm doing the right things. And I

825
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 1: you know, something that we do in our house is

826
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: we try to do active things together. But I'm not

827
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:36,959
Speaker 1: like saying, hey, you ate that, so now you gotta

828
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 1: go run around. I'm like, you know, I we try

829
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 1: to do family hikes together, we play sports, we do

830
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: things that are activities. UM. And then when we're in

831
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: the house, we all, you know, we eat healthy foods,

832
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 1: but if we're out to dinner, everybody picks what they

833
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: want to eat, But what would you say kind of

834
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: the best ground rules for having your family kind of

835
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 1: follow so you're not leading your kids into some of

836
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 1: the same issues that you've once had. Yeah. Absolutely, Now

837
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 1: I think that's a great question, because I do think

838
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:11,080
Speaker 1: and I get this asked a lot by parents pressing. Foremost,

839
00:49:11,239 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: it's creating a healthy relationship, your stuff of food, what

840
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: you're doing, So it's the dynamic arabs and that there's

841
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: many like not bad, this is good kind of scenario. Um.

842
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: I think eating together as a family, which I see

843
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,320
Speaker 1: a lot missing, and I get that my kids aren't sports,

844
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: parents are busy, but when you can eating together as

845
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 1: a family, it's also role modeling what is healthy, what

846
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: is normal, how everybody eats, not that the I see

847
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: a lot of kids have dad eats one thing the moment,

848
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 1: it's one thing. Everybody's like, you know, the mom like

849
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: steam spinach and you know, egg whites, and the dad's

850
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: eating it's just laster disordered. So trying to eat in

851
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 1: a more unified way, I think it's very important, and

852
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 1: then having conversations about it, you know, you can say

853
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,839
Speaker 1: obviously when you're both a party today, you don't need

854
00:49:56,840 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 1: to be having you know, something after lunch and I

855
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: know them for the birthday party and probably have skating

856
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 1: or something that that's okay to have this conversation that

857
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:07,839
Speaker 1: helps them understand why not that you're saying you're better

858
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 1: leave this monthday party then and have nothing because you

859
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 1: already have lemonade with lunch, Like that's not useful. It's

860
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 1: it's not gonna be mad at them. It's really engaging

861
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: them and helping them because at the end of the day,

862
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 1: they're gonna not always be decide you and they're gonna

863
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:26,200
Speaker 1: have to make right decisions. And so you can educate

864
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:29,840
Speaker 1: them on why, you know, how we create balance, Like

865
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: you know what, you really had pizza and French fries yesterday.

866
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 1: We're gonna try to do something a little bit different today.

867
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: Let's try not to have human I mean, and if

868
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: you help them understand it's balance that I think is

869
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:43,399
Speaker 1: incredibly beneficial for young kids because I think they can

870
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 1: understand like, yeah, that doesn't mean I feel good when

871
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:47,960
Speaker 1: I eat fried foods every day. So I'm going to

872
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: add in something coold, you know, because yesterday I ate

873
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: a bunch of you know, fried food or whatever. So

874
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:57,399
Speaker 1: I think it's it's talking with your kids, educating them

875
00:50:57,400 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: on the why and balance is really and I know

876
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: for my son, he really loves like if I'm like,

877
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 1: you know, spinach is going to make you strong? Or

878
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 1: this chicken, you know, because if it was up to him,

879
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: he would eat like want processed cheese at every meal

880
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: like you feeling, Can I have agony and cheese for breakfast?

881
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: And for la Can I have a grilled cheese? You know?

882
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 1: Like he just loves all of that type of things.

883
00:51:18,480 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: But the second that I make it fun and I'm like, well,

884
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:25,120
Speaker 1: you know, Popeye love spinach because it made his muscles

885
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: really big, He's like, MoMA, it's so important. Especially the

886
00:51:31,080 --> 00:51:33,720
Speaker 1: you know, sports dietician team and I talk a lot about,

887
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: you know, the nu trands that your body needs to

888
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 1: grow strong to you know, maximize your health whatever you um, yeah,

889
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: maximize or health, but also grows. Pauls we're going to

890
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 1: be right, so we all have a step point of

891
00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:49,359
Speaker 1: where we're supposed to be hepe wise. But if you

892
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: undernurish yourself and you're not doing the right proper things

893
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 1: like that, that can technically stunt grows. So yes, you

894
00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 1: want to make sure that you're incorporating fruits and vegetables

895
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:02,879
Speaker 1: and lots of him tramp dempse foods and explain them why,

896
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,760
Speaker 1: you know, the muscle and being strong. And I always

897
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 1: talk about health like it's no fun on a big

898
00:52:08,080 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: soccer game to be sick. So it's important to get

899
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 1: a lot of anti accidents into your body so you

900
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 1: can hopefully, you know, not get as sick as as

901
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 1: other kids. Um So I think that's important too. I

902
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 1: mean getting them involved in cooking. You know, I have

903
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:24,080
Speaker 1: this whole conversation with parents and their lunches. You know,

904
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: their kids will come home for lunch and not lunches.

905
00:52:28,080 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 1: That happens to me sometimes. But when they pick, they

906
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:35,240
Speaker 1: pick like not lunch, they pick like fifty four snacks

907
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:37,520
Speaker 1: and they're like this seems like a good choice, and

908
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're not this. You can't have raisins and

909
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 1: right right right right. So it's really a struggle. Yeah,

910
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: it is. I mean it's not easy and there's not

911
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 1: one way doing this, Like every family has to kind

912
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: of figure out what works for them. But if you

913
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: sit down and you're like, okay, I gotta like have

914
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 1: a things of carbohydrates, where is that? Where is your

915
00:52:58,040 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: sons of protein? Where is your where a rishable? It

916
00:53:01,120 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 1: might look a little, you know, decopartmentalized like in a

917
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 1: in a snack type of it isn't like all the

918
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:10,239
Speaker 1: components are there. You're fine, and they look like a

919
00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:14,319
Speaker 1: traditional sandwich, sticks and fruit or something. But you want

920
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:16,279
Speaker 1: them to make sure that they're eating something. So that's

921
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 1: when from getting the kids involved, because ultimately they're going

922
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:21,839
Speaker 1: to open their lunch box and either tune to eat

923
00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:23,600
Speaker 1: it or not. And I'd rather eat it to have

924
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: energy and to be able to concentrate and focus in

925
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 1: class versus well, I tell my mom, I did not

926
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 1: because you do so much. And I'm still not gonna

927
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 1: eat a sand much, you know. So it's it's almost

928
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:37,319
Speaker 1: you feel better about today's lunch because lunch looks like

929
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: a shrikuderie tray. Fine about that? I actually am like,

930
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:44,400
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think there's anything wrong with it

931
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 1: as young as they're going to eat it, honestly. And

932
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 1: so some reader questions in regards to family, friends and parenting,

933
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:57,520
Speaker 1: what are your thoughts on parents pointing out children's weight

934
00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:00,839
Speaker 1: gains and losses to their own you mean, to your

935
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: own child, or to their sister or their father or

936
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 1: their you know child. However, however, the dynamic is so

937
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:12,120
Speaker 1: I guess, let me see poll just on this correctly.

938
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 1: So let's say your sister's child or gaining weight and

939
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,799
Speaker 1: you're noticing that. No, your sister's gaining weight and you're

940
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,720
Speaker 1: noticing that, or your child's gaining weight, and you're noticing

941
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 1: that that. That's a common question that people are having

942
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:28,280
Speaker 1: because if they're noticing it, what do they do? Okay,

943
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 1: great questions. Okay, so this one is do we really

944
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:34,920
Speaker 1: really important? Because this is where the hang up gets

945
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,359
Speaker 1: started to like kind of go down a disordered path.

946
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: I always tell parents to put it on the putrition

947
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 1: because then you're out of it. Just say, honey, we're

948
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 1: gonna take you. You haven't had a check up in

949
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:49,879
Speaker 1: a while. We're going to take you to the pediutrition.

950
00:54:50,360 --> 00:54:52,720
Speaker 1: Just make sure all is good. I mean, that's pretty typical.

951
00:54:52,760 --> 00:54:55,640
Speaker 1: That doesn't feel like anything's wrong with that. Right then

952
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 1: you call ahead to pedu trition and you're like, look,

953
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 1: I noticed that, you know, whatever she has pull un

954
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,480
Speaker 1: some way. I feel like she's and I just don't

955
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:06,840
Speaker 1: want you know, I'm gonna prevent anything that can possibly

956
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 1: cause like no diabetes or any health related issues, and

957
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:11,880
Speaker 1: so I want you to be able to have a

958
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:15,000
Speaker 1: conversation with her. It's kind of a dynamic of the

959
00:55:15,080 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 1: parent and the child. I feel like when parents approached

960
00:55:18,760 --> 00:55:22,360
Speaker 1: the child. But again depends on the kid, but I

961
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 1: it's sometimes can go sideways pretty quickly, and then there's this.

962
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:29,200
Speaker 1: Then they feel watched. Then they feel like they have

963
00:55:29,280 --> 00:55:31,800
Speaker 1: to sleep eat because now their parents known has that

964
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 1: they're gaining weight. And if the child comes to that's different.

965
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:38,520
Speaker 1: If if she says or he says, well, I feel

966
00:55:38,520 --> 00:55:41,560
Speaker 1: like I'm gaining weight, like like my stomach or whatever.

967
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,160
Speaker 1: That's a conversation, like you know what I mean. And

968
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: if you're feeling that way, like, let's look at what

969
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 1: do you think you could do differently? You know, I've

970
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 1: noticed that you've not been as acting. Maybe we could

971
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: just start doing that. Be very gentle. This isn't like

972
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 1: let's send you to a weight last person. Let's let's

973
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 1: I think it's the conversation and really snaing with some

974
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 1: passion that's important. But when you're noticing and they they

975
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: don't say anything to you. I always want to mend

976
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:10,239
Speaker 1: that's a perfect opportunity to have the pediatrician because when

977
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:12,719
Speaker 1: the parents and again you have to really know your

978
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:15,840
Speaker 1: own child. If that's the best direction. Some parents can

979
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: go to their child and say, you know, honey, I've

980
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:22,800
Speaker 1: noticed that you know your parents have gotten smaller and

981
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 1: and I just want to make sure, like you know,

982
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:28,200
Speaker 1: do you see that too? And see but again it's

983
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 1: such a so you know, I mean, because always better

984
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:37,799
Speaker 1: when you the pediatrician is such That's what I've had

985
00:56:37,880 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 1: most parents who call me and like, look, I've noticed this.

986
00:56:40,040 --> 00:56:42,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, right, you have a good relationship with your pedisician,

987
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 1: just awesome talk to them, has them have that conversation.

988
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 1: They can ask the questions of while are you having that?

989
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:53,400
Speaker 1: Are you? You know? Because when the parent gets involved,

990
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, it's typically doesn't go well. So what

991
00:56:57,239 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 1: are like some not twos like what are things to do? Well,

992
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 1: there's a lot of not tunes for parents. Um, not

993
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,200
Speaker 1: to a never have a scale that's visible in the

994
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:13,200
Speaker 1: battom um. The parents should be very aware of their

995
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:19,040
Speaker 1: own body talk of language. Um, if you know, again,

996
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 1: like I think saying, you know, let's say your daughter

997
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 1: comes to you and so I want to start eating sugar.

998
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: Could not be like, oh, I mean, that's such a

999
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 1: great idea. Let's do that. I think, you know, like

1000
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: I think encouraging them to be like well like always

1001
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 1: let's have a conversation about that versus you've noticed that

1002
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 1: your daughter starts to your son like had out things.

1003
00:57:38,920 --> 00:57:41,160
Speaker 1: And I think as parents, as an idea of like,

1004
00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 1: I've had many parents I've time to me be like,

1005
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 1: how I wish I would have known like I was

1006
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:49,600
Speaker 1: praising them for eating healthy and calculating their calories, and

1007
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:53,040
Speaker 1: you know, I just thought they were being healthy. And

1008
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:55,640
Speaker 1: that's the problem. You could have two people go on

1009
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 1: a healthy track, one develops a significant eating deferdo and

1010
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 1: the other one and um, you know, um to sign

1011
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 1: like thisses a few pounds and feels great, or change

1012
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: her lifestyle and felt amazing. But you just want to

1013
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 1: be really careful of that. Um. You know, an eating

1014
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: disorder can occur occur no matter which way you were raised.

1015
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: That is, it can and there's no there's no guarantee. Right,

1016
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:30,200
Speaker 1: you can have very you know, healthy parents who are

1017
00:58:30,320 --> 00:58:32,600
Speaker 1: very normal and healthy food in their bodies and still

1018
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: have a child who again. And that's why I think

1019
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 1: Instagram world in school becomes very challenging because they talk

1020
00:58:40,640 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 1: about it. That's the reality that's nice for meeting. I

1021
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 1: think the parents would tack about like, hey, I mean,

1022
00:58:46,040 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 1: you know, if a girl comes home and be like,

1023
00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, still says on the sign and she

1024
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:52,439
Speaker 1: lost so much way it looks so good. I don't

1025
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 1: want to like have a conversation. Stop what you're doing

1026
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:56,640
Speaker 1: and it will give me. But like those are the

1027
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 1: moments where like, what do you think about that, honey,

1028
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 1: because maybe she's gonna she's about to jump on board

1029
00:59:01,880 --> 00:59:03,920
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, that's great, and you kind of

1030
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:07,960
Speaker 1: just you know, don't even think twice. But it's really

1031
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:11,040
Speaker 1: listening to your kids about, you know, what's going on

1032
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:14,200
Speaker 1: at school. What are the conversations like even if you

1033
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:19,040
Speaker 1: feel like your daughter son would be that they're totally fine, um,

1034
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 1: because it can it can sneak up in ways that

1035
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:24,360
Speaker 1: you don't even realize if you're not paying attention to

1036
00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 1: those kinds of comments, you know. Um. But yeah, I

1037
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 1: think that that the dynamic at home just needs to

1038
00:59:32,000 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 1: be very open dialogue about that in particular, and watch

1039
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 1: the way they're dressing. I think that's another sign to Um.

1040
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 1: I've had a lot of girls where moms are like,

1041
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:48,320
Speaker 1: I didn't even walk still wearing baggy clothes and I

1042
00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 1: got any spail and she was pun pounds down like

1043
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: in two months from being at the pediatrician's office. The

1044
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:55,440
Speaker 1: mom was just like, how did I not notice? And

1045
00:59:56,320 --> 00:59:59,360
Speaker 1: you know, so I think there are certain things that

1046
01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 1: can go on that you just you just have to

1047
01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: kind of know what are the warning signs and just

1048
01:00:05,560 --> 01:00:10,400
Speaker 1: communicating as much as you can. Yeah, and how would

1049
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 1: you know if some if you're struggling with body dysmorphia, Um,

1050
01:00:15,920 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 1: it's hold a daughter or just yourself in general for anybody, well,

1051
01:00:21,280 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 1: I think, um, that's a fulso big one because I

1052
01:00:24,080 --> 01:00:26,880
Speaker 1: think a lot of people see themselves not as there

1053
01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 1: because they're comparing themselves to somebody who looks better than them.

1054
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: So they always still sat and they feel like I'm

1055
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:36,080
Speaker 1: still not skinny enough because I'm comparing myself too. So

1056
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 1: and so we're somebody on Instagram. Um, the obsession is

1057
01:00:40,960 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: really where the danger is when they're looking in the

1058
01:00:43,240 --> 01:00:46,400
Speaker 1: mirror like look. Also, girls like take out this, go

1059
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:48,280
Speaker 1: to the stower, you put your clothes on, you go

1060
01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 1: to the next thing. If you're sitting in examinating yourselves,

1061
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 1: like literally spending more than a couple of minutes, you're

1062
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 1: you're going down at Catchers Road. So why did the more?

1063
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 1: It comes from the lack of self esteem and typically

1064
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:07,920
Speaker 1: a comparison factor. And um, it's a tough one to

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Speaker 1: get get through because if they're seeing themselves differently than

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Speaker 1: what is that? Obviously there's where the psychological help is needed.

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Speaker 1: So I don't see any client unless you're seeing a therapist.

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Speaker 1: So it is that. Yeah, it's much bigger than that. Right.

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Speaker 1: So in closing, if one of our listeners or one

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Speaker 1: of our listeners loved ones is currently struggling, what is

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Speaker 1: your recommendation, Like how do they seek help? If they

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Speaker 1: think I don't have money or I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I have a problem, where do they start? Um, While

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of like I would say, the big UM,

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Speaker 1: you know, the help with eating disorder, there's lots of

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Speaker 1: websites like I know that, Um, all the eating disorder

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Speaker 1: treatment fatilities have websites that you can go on and

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Speaker 1: they have like typical questions and you can they can

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Speaker 1: ask um so in questions like Eating Disorder Center of

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Speaker 1: California months meeting. There's are big ones. Um there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of different places here. And then you can even

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Speaker 1: just have reach out to you know, a specialized dietician

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Speaker 1: like myself or a therapist and just say can I

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Speaker 1: have a consult like I need to figure out what

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Speaker 1: path I need to do? You know, because sometimes it

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Speaker 1: is an outpatient setting and sometimes they at a place

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Speaker 1: where they really need more intensive by treatment. UM So

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Speaker 1: I guess I would start there. But the TEENA trucition

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Speaker 1: is such a good fallback, Like a lot of pediatricians

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Speaker 1: are far to me because that's they they know, you know,

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Speaker 1: typically where to um to have the parents reach out

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Speaker 1: and and seek help. But that's always a safe place

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Speaker 1: to start because you can kind of see the trends

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Speaker 1: like okay, they've lost a lot of weight, or I've

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Speaker 1: seen kids where their heights starts to deplase and that

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Speaker 1: gets really worrisome. So the pediatrician, I would say start there,

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Speaker 1: and then if they want to go online and look

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Speaker 1: at some astraining facility that they can help be helpful

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Speaker 1: to just answering some questions well, thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for taking the time with us today. We really happy

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Speaker 1: to absolutely have a good day. Okay, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: So guys, I know we didn't even get through half

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Speaker 1: of the questions that you'll have, so honestly, please, we

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Speaker 1: want to keep getting these answers to you. Email them

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Speaker 1: to us or d M at Teddy Teapot. If there's

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Speaker 1: something that you feel that we have missed that you

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Speaker 1: want us to cover, we'll get back to you, will

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Speaker 1: send you the resources that you need. And you know,

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Speaker 1: once again, in closing, like what every person here said

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Speaker 1: was comparison. Comparison takes away your joy. Comparison makes you

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Speaker 1: believe something that's not true, So really focus on yourself,

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Speaker 1: focus on what makes you feel your best. And honestly,

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Speaker 1: the game changer for me was talking to someone, being open,

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Speaker 1: sharing my story, being okay that I'm not perfect. And

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Speaker 1: once I was able to do those things, everything shifted.

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Speaker 1: There will always be weird moments or uncomfortable moments or

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Speaker 1: stressful times where you know the red flag will be raised,

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Speaker 1: but I'm able to talk about it now, and I'm

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Speaker 1: able to have a place where I feel safe, and

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Speaker 1: the fact that I can even talk to you guys

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Speaker 1: about it right now. That is helping me heal, so

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Speaker 1: it never goes away. But you're not alone, and you

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Speaker 1: know what we're here for you. Thanks for listening. Subscribe

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Speaker 1: to to any Teapot on her radio or wherever you

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Speaker 1: listen to podcasts.