WEBVTT - Everyone's in Love with Me with Chelsea and Catherine 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.240 Hi, Hi Catherine. Oh hi Chelsea, Hi, I still have 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:07.560 deep throat boys. Oh my gosh, Chelsea, where are you now? 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:08.280 Well? 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.040 I just did a road trip mm hmm with my 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:13.240 new dog, Mochi, who's a five year old child. 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.440 I saw a picture of him and he is pretty 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:17.560 much the cutest thing I've ever seen. 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.720 He's a big, fat baby. He's seventy pounds, so it's 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:22.720 exactly my body type. And I took him and Bernice 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:25.840 and he had never flown before, so his family didn't 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:27.840 want him anymore because they had a baby or something. 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:29.840 So I had to pick him up. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:31.760 And he had never been on a plane, so I 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:33.680 didn't want to freak him out because you know, like 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:36.000 and fly him up to Whistler. But no one in 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:38.280 my family thought I could do it. Everyone's like, do 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:41.000 not go on a road trip from LA to Whistler, Chelsea, 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:44.320 like yourself with Bernice and Mochi meeting for the first 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:46.839 time and then in a car together for I mean 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:47.600 two days. 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:50.120 Basically, I went through to San Francisco. 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:52.239 I stayed with my sister one night, and then my 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:54.360 friend Kelly from Whistler was like, let me come down 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:57.880 and meet you. You're not competent enough to drive yourself 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.080 to Whistler. And I was like, no, because all I 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.680 wanted to do was be alone and bond with my dogs. 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:05.440 But you can't really bond with a new dog when 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:08.760 you're driving, right. Bernie's is a good girl, and I 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.759 was gonna leave her behind this winter because my Belle. 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.920 She's happy at my Bell's and she's got Felix, her boyfriend, who's. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.640 Our dog guy at the house. But she's just been 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:18.760 looking so cute lately. 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:21.160 I just couldn't bear this might be her last year 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:24.760 with us. She's older, but she's so cute. 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:25.920 She's really scrumpshot. 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:27.080 So I had to take her. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:28.800 I had to take her, and if she doesn't, I'm 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:31.240 going to stay until I've towed the Critics' Choice Awards. Oh, 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.800 by the way, I just announced new dates in Australia, everybody, 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:36.640 and New Zealand, so take a look at those on 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:37.959 Chelseahandler dot com. 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:39.840 And I am coming to Salt Lake City. 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:42.360 There are tickets for that, and all my Canadian dates 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:45.960 are this winter, so you know, follow me and you'll 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:47.240 find out anyway. 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.360 Bernice is she's a good traveler. 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:51.960 She is, actually she doesn't want any trouble. She just 0:01:52.040 --> 0:01:53.960 like wants to mind her business. And she's good with 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:57.760 other dogs. Yeah, she gets annoyed if they like, you know, come. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.360 Like bother her, but she's good. 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:00.000 Yeah. 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:02.559 So I have a new family and we'll see how long. 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:04.440 And oh what I was saying is if it doesn't 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.240 work out like with Brinice doesn't like Whistler and she's 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:08.880 not into the snow. There's not a lot of snow 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.840 here yet, m m, then I will take her back 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:12.919 in January when I come. 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:13.399 Back to the beach. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:13.840 Choice. 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:16.080 But Mochi's going to stay with me, and they'll keep 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:18.359 each other company when I'm skiing and doing my bad 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:19.520 parenting exactly. 0:02:19.560 --> 0:02:22.360 They can be each other's pack. Well, Chelsea, I know 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:24.680 you usually do family stuff for the holidays. Is there 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:26.080 anything you're looking forward to? 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:27.400 Oh, you know what's happening this year. 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:29.560 I'm moving out of my house so I can move 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:31.200 into a bigger house that I had to rent for 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:31.840 my family. 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:34.160 So that's what I'm doing. You're a new house that 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:36.120 just got finished or no, your house was no, no. 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:38.120 No, because that's never going to be finished. 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.519 That's in la. I just saw that house. 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.600 And it's still not done. Just although it's going to 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:44.720 be gorgeous, just in time for me to move to 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:45.400 New York City. 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:46.040 Excellent. 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:48.960 But I've already lost interest in that house. It's taken 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:49.320 so long. 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:52.360 Anytime anything takes long, I can't I've lost interest. 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:54.280 I don't care. Well, it's hard to be like, have 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.959 the same passion for something that you had three years ago. 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:59.440 I bought that I ordered the floors for that house 0:02:59.440 --> 0:02:59.960 two years ago. 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:04.320 That is years ago, so obviously, like, but Carla is 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.080 staying back and she is battening down the hatches. 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:09.120 She's whipping everyone into shape. 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.000 So there's been more progress progress, I'm saying because I'm 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.280 saying it like that now because I'm in Canada, and 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:16.640 there's been more progress since she's been staying behind, So 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:17.440 that's been helpful. 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:17.760 Good. 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.160 Yeah, I think she'll whip everybody into shape and gets 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:20.880 shipped done. 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:23.880 So my family arrives momentarily, you know, in a couple 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:25.440 of days, and then we have a house for a week, 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:28.200 and then they leave and then I have like three 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:31.480 weeks off before my next date in Vancouver or Kelowna 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:33.720 or Edmonton, wherever the hell I'm going next. 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:37.360 Yeah, it sounds like I do need it. 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:39.320 I do need it, get into bed and then like 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:41.280 not move for at least a week of that. I 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:42.640 know that's I can't wait. 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.280 I need sleep and skis and skis skis will rejuvenate me. 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.280 Today is our holiday episode, Chelsea. 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:50.640 Which holiday are we celebrating. 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:54.920 We're celebrating all of them, Kanza, Christmas, all the things Anica. 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:59.320 We have some holiday themed questions. Some callers talking about 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.760 the new year. Okay, great, Yes, So my fifteen year 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.440 old nephew and I'm not sure if anyone else in 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:09.520 my family realizes what he has asked for. And he's like, 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:13.320 not into drugs whatever, but he asked for a book 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:17.599 on finding psilocybin mushrooms in the forest. You know that, 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.119 the mushroom guy, Paul Stamitz. He asked for a book 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:22.360 from him, and I was like, I told my sister, 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:23.800 I'm like, oh, I'm going to get that for him, 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:26.279 thinking she didn't know what it was. And she's like, oh, no, 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:28.760 Grandma's gonna get that for him. So he wants a 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:33.039 psilocybin book and everyone's fine, that's. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:35.800 Fine, who cares, I mean, let everybody. The more educated 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:37.040 people are about drugs the better. 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:39.640 I kind of agree, and I said, I would like 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:43.080 to supplement that with How to Change Your Mind. Yeah, 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:46.640 that's a good book, right, which is by Michael polland 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:51.279 Michael Pollin. Yeah, by Michael Pollan. And then my sister 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:53.719 was like, no, wait till he's twenty. I'm like, but 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.839 it's not something that makes you want to do drugs. 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:59.000 It's just everybody, no, exactly, it's good to be educated. Also, 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.640 that's what I gave everybody. That's Christmas. I gave everybody 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:04.200 two books. That's what I sent out for Christmas gifts, 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:06.240 The Great Alone and Atomic Habits. 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:08.720 Oh fantastic, very different books. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:11.159 So that, yeah, that's my gift to everyone. I'm just 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:12.520 only giving books out from now on. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:13.800 Yeah, I think that's good. 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:14.320 M hmm. 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:16.239 I'm still reading Tomorrow, Tomorrow, tomorrow. 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:18.120 But I mean, I'm just not that interested in that book, 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:19.600 even though everyone else loves it so much. 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.560 Oh see, I started it and I'm very into it. 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:23.640 Really, it was so interesting about it, you know. 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.520 What, I because I knew you said this a couple 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:26.320 of weeks ago. 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.440 And I've never taken It's never taken me longer to 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:30.440 read a book. But that's also really writing my book. 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:33.120 So I'm writing a book, so my focus is really there, 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:34.560 and then in between I read. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:37.240 Yeah, I feel like it reads a little like a 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:41.240 genreving book, where it's really just about the character development 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.839 and sort of their interaction. I don't know. I like it. 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.919 But it's about gaming. It's it's all about gaming. Everyone 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:49.359 kept saying, it's not that. Don't worry, it's not about gaming. 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:50.279 It's all about gaming. 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.040 Yeah, I'm only about a quarter of the way through, 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.040 but like it's sort of about I don't know. I 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:57.680 feel like it's about games as informs their relationship. That's 0:05:57.720 --> 0:05:59.360 what I'm getting from. But I'm also only a quarter 0:05:59.400 --> 0:05:59.760 of the way through. 0:05:59.839 --> 0:06:01.440 Yeah, I mean, I don't know how far I am. 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.760 I don't think i'm more than halfway through either, but 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:04.920 I guess i'll finish it. 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.280 Well, that's on everyone else's your endless but we'll not 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:09.320 put it on your year end list. No, no, no, no, 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:09.800 I know. 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.280 Yeah, but the grade alone I will always recommend and 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:15.480 circ Yeah, yeah, you love that one. 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:16.880 I have that book. I'm going to read that again. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.159 I haven't read it. I picked it up in a 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:21.800 bookstore the other day and I just I read a 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:23.680 few pages and I didn't know if like the prose 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.000 was for me. But I don't know. 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.839 Maybe I should give it a try. Oh from the beginning, Yeah, 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:30.200 it's you got to get into it. That's like a 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.480 fantasy book. Yeah, Greek mythology. 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:34.280 But I'm not into that either. But I loved it. 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:36.800 I love the use her just her writing is so powerful, 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:38.960 like she just knows how to finish a sentence or 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:39.760 write a sentence. 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.520 Speaking of your end lists, are there any like movies, 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:46.080 TV books that you experience this year that you love 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:46.880 and want to recommend? 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.720 Well, I need to watch all those movies for the Critics' 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:50.279 Choice Awards. 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:52.000 I haven't seen any of the movies yet. I only 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:53.000 saw My Maestro. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.920 Yeah, yeah, I saw that at a friend's house because 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:56.640 she was screening it. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:57.920 And that was really good. 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:00.960 That Carrie Mulligan, it's fucking awesome. 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:05.880 She is just a yeah she is. Yeah, she's in 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.560 it and she's so good too. I love a period 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:11.440 piece Sarah Silverman, like she was in Masters of Sex. 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:14.120 I'm like dressed all nineteen fifties and yeah. 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:15.840 Yeah, she does some good movie choices. 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:20.840 Yeah, she's fantastic. I did watch May December, which is 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:21.480 how is that. 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:23.160 I've heard mixed reviews about that. 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:28.920 It's very camp, but it's really interesting and I think 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.680 like it's very interesting to watch from like an acting standpoint, 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:35.040 and the story is really good. It's a lot about manipulation. 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.280 It's interesting too because you have all these like incredible 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:43.920 actors and yet the music is almost like TV movie music, 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.240 Like it's very dunt dun dun duh, and it's a 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:48.679 very chousic is off. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:51.360 That's what they said, that it doesn't add up to 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:51.880 the movies. 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:54.880 Yeah, but see, I I loved that choice because there's 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:56.960 sort of like a revelation at the end. You understand 0:07:57.040 --> 0:07:59.880 why they sort of made that sort of cheesy choice. 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.960 But the acting is incredible, the story is really good. 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:06.120 There's a lot of manipulation and you kind of like 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:09.800 power dynamics shifting and it's really cool. Yea's really cool. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:11.480 Well, I've been watching a lot of TV, but I 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:12.880 can't even remember what I'm watching. 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:14.440 I'm watching The Gilded Age. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.480 That what I'm watching. I haven't seen the second season yet, 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:19.720 but I don't even know what I'm watching half the time. 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:20.360 I Mean, I just. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:20.800 Don't even know. 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.400 Yeah, I mean, sometimes I'm paying attention. Sometimes I'm not. 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:25.880 When I came home from my last dight in Ottawa, 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:29.080 which was so fun, Toronto crowds were so awesome, Otta 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:31.920 was I was so awesome. I landed on a Sunday, 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:34.920 went out thinking I was dying. 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:36.280 On the Sunday, I'm dying. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.200 I was like, oh my god, No, I was so sick, 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.600 and I had two Christmas things to go do, and 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:43.000 I was like, I kept trying to get out of 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:44.840 both of them. I ended up getting home at two 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:48.160 am Sunday night at two am, this is last week. 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.920 Then Monday, I had another thing. I had a goop 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.840 thing for Gwyneth, and then I had another thing, and 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.440 then we went out to dinner, and I and I 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:59.360 went out again, and then it's just it was non stop. 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:00.920 Give yourself a bedtime. 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:03.240 I know, I don't know what I think I'm doing anymore. 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:05.520 I'm like, I think I'm thirty thirty years old and 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.800 I'm not thirty years old, and I need like I 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:10.840 need to I need like a pump of adrenaline or something. Yeah, 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:13.680 you know, but you know I need a shot of energy. 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.000 The best thing to give you that is just. 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:17.800 Like a ball is what I need? I need an 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:19.520 eight ball? Who has an eight ball? 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:19.839 No? 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.079 You know what you got to do the suburban speedball, 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.840 which is like your first drink is an espresso Martini 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:26.000 and then you do something out. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.320 Espresso Martini's fucking work. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:31.080 They wake you up, They wake you up, and then 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.320 you have a butt and it's great. 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:34.000 Uh huh. 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.920 You can't do too many of that because then you'll 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:38.000 be up all night or your heart could explode. Like 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.160 these people who drank these extreme lemonades. Have you heard 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:40.559 about this? 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:40.760 Who? 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.360 Yes, at this particular fast food chain. I'm not going 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:47.720 to say which one, but two people have died after 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:51.280 drinking these cafinated lemonades. Is it like a red bull? 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:53.000 It's like a red so they had a heart attack. 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:55.480 Yep, he had a heart attack and died. Two people 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:56.520 have died after drinking men. 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.160 Did they take they recall them? 0:09:58.440 --> 0:09:58.520 No? 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.560 I don't think Yeah, I don't think they've it yet. 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.720 We don't know if that was what caused it. But 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:08.480 they died. Doesn't sound like a positive situation. Oh, it's 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:14.240 all crazy anyway, don't drink over caffee to drinks everybody. Okay, well, 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:17.240 should we go to some callers. I also have some 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:20.880 follow ups. Okay, so Chelsea, you know, we have our 0:10:21.080 --> 0:10:25.040 NYC girls who are child free and have been chatting, 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:28.280 and I've been putting them all together. They started like 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.080 a WhatsApp group and they're all chatting. Well, they got 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.400 together for the first time and we got a really 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:37.720 sweet email from them. I love it. Yes, and Courtney 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.720 was the one who sent this in. She said, thank 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:42.800 you so much for taking the time to connect this 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:45.200 group of women, and it was so energizing to meet 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.360 for brunch in NYC this past weekend. Turns out we 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.640 all feel like black sheep, oftentimes for more reasons than 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:54.839 just choosing to be child free or single. We're all 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:58.080 independent and successful in our own right. Some have partners 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:01.040 and others are struggling in the dating scene. We're often 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.040 the ones paving various paths away from the norms we 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:07.160 come from, and uniting for brunch today felt like a 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:10.360 new home. It's so refreshing to have a community that 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.520 we rather seamlessly fit into, and we all thank you 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:17.160 and Chelsea for uniting us via her podcast. That meeting 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:20.880 launched plans to travel, to play sports, have trivia nights, 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:23.640 to help promote each other and our businesses to drink 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:27.080 and eat together from here. Thank you and happy holidays. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:31.120 Love the NYC Child Free Crew. You've united. Ps. The 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.880 table behind us had maybe twenty people, at least half 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.680 were toddlers. And of course this was a total shit show. 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:39.240 We couldn't help but realize the sheer comedy of it all. 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:43.480 No regrets, how is wee? Oh wow, I know, look 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:44.640 at these fabulous women. 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:48.800 Oh my god, No, that's so cool. 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:51.920 Very happy for them. There have been a couple ladies 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:54.160 who've reached out about Chicago. So Chicago, if you want 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:56.440 to start a group, let me know, and then I 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:59.720 have one other. This feels like a fun holiday surprise, 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.360 though it's not exactly holiday. But Brooke had written in 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.520 way back on our Jamie Green Burke ep and she 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.520 was struggling with infertility and looking for ways to be positive. 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.559 So you and Jamie gave her some really good advice. 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:17.840 She says, You're Chelsea. I wanted to thank you for 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:20.360 taking the time to chat with me, offer advice and 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:22.680 let me share the story of my miscarriage. It was 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:25.280 so helpful to hear the perspectives from three different women. 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:28.080 Jamie I'd especially like to thank you for sharing your 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:31.160 personal story as well. Since we talked, I'm happy to 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:34.199 report I have good news to share. My rainbow baby 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.240 girl is finally here. She was born in March a 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:40.520 Pisces like you, ladies, which we love, and Chelsea, I 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:42.520 know you'll be proud of me. For the first time ever, 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.240 I started speaking to a therapist on a weekly basis 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:49.520 who specialize in perinatal and maternal anxiety. It's been helpful 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.240 to gain tools for helping myself de escalate and relax 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:54.800 in my times of spiraling, and I know that toning 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.240 down my overthinking mind is good for both me and 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:00.920 the baby. So I'm doing everything i can. The meditation 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:03.320 thing I'm still working on, but I've come to love 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:06.960 long walking meditations with my daughter and the stroller. Thank 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:09.000 you again. I can't get enough of your podcast and 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.600 still tune in every week. Keep doing what you're doing. 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:17.679 Brook, That's great, Yes, Jamie, Jamie listens to every podcast, 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.720 So Jamie, way to go, Jamie. 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.320 You finally have contributed something to the world. You you 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:24.720 ladies got Brooke pregnant. 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.960 Jamie's recently got kicked off of her own daughter's softball 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:30.160 team because she's in one of those sideline moms. 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:31.960 Well she didn't get kicked off, but. 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:35.000 She has to stop going to games for her daughter's 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.920 mental health. She's she's such an asshole. At the games 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:40.800 that she had. Her daughter was like, she goes, I 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:42.360 don't think I'm going to come to any games anymore, 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:43.840 and her daughter's like, I think that's best. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:52.000 Oh no, I think old is so ridiculous. She's so competitive. 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.520 Oh my god. I knew she really enjoyed going to these, 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.160 but I didn't know it was like that. Yeah, I know, 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:01.839 I guess. Yeah, we love Jamie. Well, let's take a 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:04.360 quick break and we'll come back with some questions. OK, guys, 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:13.560 and we're back. So our first caller today, Chelsea, is Lauren. 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:17.400 She lives right here in California and says, Dear Chelsea, 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:20.640 I am a child free woman who has three adult 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:24.160 step children ranging from thirty five to forty three years old. 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.480 I've been with my husband for twenty nine years. I've 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:29.680 given my all to being a good step parent, but 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:33.320 my step children expect a lot from me and don't reciprocate. 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.480 They do nothing for me for Mother's Day or my birthday. 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:39.440 But expect me to put on a Norman Rockwell holidays 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:42.120 for them while they don't contribute or do so minimally. 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.160 They also blame me, not their dad when they don't 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:47.080 get their way, such as when their dad and I 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:50.080 visit my family for one of the holidays. I've grown 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.960 resentful and don't want to be the family lightning rod anymore. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:55.320 I've tried to communicate with them, but it has not 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:58.320 gone well. My thought is to disengage from them, but 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:01.240 that would be tricky. Been a supportive of me, but 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:03.040 he too is at a loss of what to do. 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.320 I'm again dreading the holidays this year, which really sucks. 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:09.240 I would appreciate any advice you have. Thank you. Lauren. 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.160 Hi Hi, Lauren, Hi, Hi. 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:13.760 How are you? 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:15.600 I'm doing well? 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.000 How are you just hanging on by a thread like 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:19.680 we all are during the holiday season? 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:21.280 Yes, truly. 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:24.280 So it sounds like you don't know you're not looking 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:25.840 forward to your holidays. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:32.080 Well, I haven't the last few years and kind of 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:34.760 been doing a lot of soul searching about letting other 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.360 people decide what I'm going to be doing kind of 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:41.160 with my time, and you know, kind of need to 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:44.560 wanted to take back, like the joy you know of it, 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.000 and just feeling like sometimes you get kind of stuck 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:52.040 into what people think you should do. So you know, 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.000 there's a lot of expectations, which you know, you've talked 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.560 about with women about what we're supposed. 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:57.800 To be doing. 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:02.160 And you know, I'm a step pa and kind of 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:06.000 always been responsible person with my family and others. 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:07.640 How many step children do you have? 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:08.880 Three? 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:09.240 Three? 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.320 And how old were they when you guys got married. 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:12.560 How old were the kids? 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.000 Well, when I met my husband, we dated for quite 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:18.200 a while, but they were six eleven, fourteen and now 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:18.880 they're grown. 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.200 So do they think of you as a parent figure? 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:22.320 What's the dynamic? 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:22.640 Like? 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:27.400 Well, they do, but I feel like, and I know 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:29.720 I'm not ever going to be like at the level 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.320 of their parents, you know. I mean, I just feel 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:33.960 like I can take it for granted, it's not a 0:16:33.960 --> 0:16:38.280 big deal. On my birthday or Mother's Day, they don't 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:41.480 plan anything, they don't do anything. I mean, I might 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:44.240