Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 1: I'm Mela.
Speaker 2: And it's Wednesday, it's hump Day, and it is the
Speaker 2: first week of August. Welcome to August, you guys.
Speaker 1: Welcome to August. Wow, this summer is it's almost over,
Speaker 1: almost over.
Speaker 2: Crazy, I can't believe it. So you guys know that
Speaker 2: we have been, you know, diving into themes all year
Speaker 2: and we've been reflecting, We've been sletvering, we've been celibant,
Speaker 2: we've been tribing, we've been what else, money money, all
Speaker 2: the manifesting, manifesting, and so I don't know, we've been
Speaker 2: doing all this work and I've been thinking, and Milam,
Speaker 2: I've been like, what is August? What is the vibe
Speaker 2: of August? And I'm feeling like the vibe of August
Speaker 2: is designing your own life.
Speaker 1: Yes, welcome to design your life, August.
Speaker 2: You know, me and Mila just came back from a
Speaker 2: trip of Costa Rica, which we'll get into. But I
Speaker 2: think it's really inspired us to really rethink what our
Speaker 2: lives look like. And I think we've already been kind
Speaker 2: of designing our lives in general. But like, I think
Speaker 2: we're like excited about this new part of the design.
Speaker 1: I think it's when you start to manifest your life
Speaker 1: and then you start to see it take mold. Then
Speaker 1: you're like, oh shit, I can really design this motherfucker.
Speaker 1: Couch goes there, Jack goes there. House in Brooklyn goes there.
Speaker 1: You know, like a little a new little casito over there,
Speaker 1: and jungle house over here. So like now it gets
Speaker 1: into like the specifics of the design. You know what.
Speaker 2: I just had this thought because Irie I've been like
Speaker 2: making her listen to like just old school, like you know,
Speaker 2: soul and funk, and there's this Diana Ross song that
Speaker 2: I fucking love, and like I played it for her
Speaker 2: and I'm just like gonna be really hurt if she
Speaker 2: didn't like it, because I fucking love this song. But
Speaker 2: I forgot about it. And then I recently, like in
Speaker 2: the last two days, and we're having this conversation just
Speaker 2: popped into my head. It's called it's my house, and
Speaker 2: it's like, it's my house and I live it's not house,
Speaker 2: and she's talking about like designing her house. Like see
Speaker 2: that table over there, Like I put it there, I
Speaker 2: put this shit there, I put that there, and I
Speaker 2: placed that there and everything is perfectly put where the
Speaker 2: fuck I want it.
Speaker 1: And she was talking about designing her house.
Speaker 2: She is, and she was saying, you really want to
Speaker 2: come over, you really want to come over, but you're
Speaker 2: gonna have to show me that you you're not gonna
Speaker 2: fuck my house up. And when you're thinking about designing
Speaker 2: your house, you're thinking about the guests too that you're
Speaker 2: gonna have at your house and who can set at
Speaker 2: the table. I really you know what, guys, go listen
Speaker 2: to that song. It's Bomb. I'm gonna put it in
Speaker 2: the link here. It's Bomb now.
Speaker 1: I gotta listened to it.
Speaker 2: It's really good and I re's been requesting it like
Speaker 2: this morning. She was like, can we hear like that
Speaker 2: it's my house.
Speaker 1: I was like, yes we can, but it's true. She
Speaker 1: was right, and maybe that's our affirmation for the day.
Speaker 1: My life is my house, and I design it exactly
Speaker 1: the way I mother fucking see it beautifully.
Speaker 2: Bomb. My life is my house and I designed it
Speaker 2: exactly the motherfucking way I see it beautifully. Mm hmm
Speaker 2: amen amen.
Speaker 1: So yeah, Costa Rica Inspired designed my life August and
Speaker 1: what are the.
Speaker 2: Cards gonna say about our August designing life. Ah, let's see,
Speaker 2: so I pulled the page of cups upright. Creative opportunities,
Speaker 2: intuitive messages, curiosity, possibility. The page of cups weares a
Speaker 2: blue tunic with a floral print and a beret on
Speaker 2: his head with a long flowing scarf. He stands on
Speaker 2: the shore with the wavy sea behind him, holding a
Speaker 2: cup in his right hand. Surprising, a fish pops its
Speaker 2: head out of the cup and looks at the young man.
Speaker 2: The fish and sea behind him represent the element of
Speaker 2: water and all things to do with creativity, intuition, feelings,
Speaker 2: and emotions. The page of cups suggests a new idea
Speaker 2: or opportunity has come to you out of the blue.
Speaker 2: Your creative energy is flowing, and now the question is
Speaker 2: how will you express it. Will you snap up this
Speaker 2: new idea and turn it into something, or will you
Speaker 2: let someone else bring it to fruition. It's up to you.
Speaker 2: Spend time exploring the idea to see if you want
Speaker 2: to move forward. I feel like this is like speaking
Speaker 2: to our possible shift into a network. Possibly. This card
Speaker 2: often appears when you're being called to trust your intuition
Speaker 2: and be open to the multitude of intuitive messages coming
Speaker 2: your way. Look for synchronicities. I'm when to start using
Speaker 2: that word and signs from nature that will guide you
Speaker 2: on your path. They may come from an unexpected places,
Speaker 2: or they may not even make sense to your rational mind.
Speaker 2: Be open to the possibility and ready to discover new
Speaker 2: aspects of yourself. Page of cups can indicate that you
Speaker 2: will receive an unexpected or pleasant surprise. The pages are
Speaker 2: often known as the messenger cards. My God. It says
Speaker 2: it might be the birth of a baby, relax, an
Speaker 2: engagement or marriage, a new love interest. Susan said, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna find love you guys.
Speaker 1: Susan also said that I'm going to have a really
Speaker 1: good idea in the beginning of August.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, wait she did.
Speaker 1: Oh there's a lot of pressure on me. Susan.
Speaker 2: Okay, if you guys don't know Susan is. She's a
Speaker 2: world renowned astrologer, Susan Miller, and I've been following her
Speaker 2: since like I was thirteen. Go to astrologyzone dot com.
Speaker 2: This is not an ad. This is just pure love
Speaker 2: and go reach your horoscope. She does these like monthly
Speaker 2: horoscopes or they're like nine pages long. Anyway.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, this is something you missed. Oh and maybe
Speaker 1: I just didn't hear it needs to be repeated. Open
Speaker 1: your mind to all possibilities, especially those of a creative
Speaker 1: or intuitive nature. You will be pleasantly surprised. Be ready
Speaker 1: to dream the impossible, dream and explore the magic of
Speaker 1: your fullest potential, even if it seems out of reach.
Speaker 1: Design your mother fucking life. Okay, now I've biddy said it.
Speaker 2: It must be sure.
Speaker 1: Susan said it, the card said it. I believe it
Speaker 1: tis the season. Bitches. If it's not working, leave it behind.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: Amen. Oh my god, you guys. Wow, it's been a
Speaker 1: really long time since we've sat here together alone. So
Speaker 1: much has happened. You know. Sometimes I'm like, I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously this is a divine meeting. But one of our
Speaker 1: friends told Eric on the phone the other day, like,
Speaker 1: you know, you don't live, like, say, a normal life.
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, you guys just don't live a
Speaker 1: normal life. And then Erica told me, and I was like,
Speaker 1: we don't. The shit that me and Erica get into together,
Speaker 1: I swear to God, it's the best shit ever. It's
Speaker 1: almost like God is like, you want content, you want
Speaker 1: some shit to talk about? How about now? Anyway, A
Speaker 1: long long time ago, four weeks or so ago, Erica
Speaker 1: and I decided we were going to take a journey
Speaker 1: to the jungle.
Speaker 2: And we did, and we did, we did. We journey
Speaker 2: it did. We drove hours into the deep jungle to
Speaker 2: be isolated, because that was the goal, like complete isolation.
Speaker 2: Let's go as far as we can.
Speaker 1: Yes, and who cares how we get there? Even if
Speaker 1: you spend two thousand dollars in a mental car, go
Speaker 1: through fourteen farms, three hundred fruit stands, it was all
Speaker 1: worth it. Transported an ounce of weed in nature's pocket.
Speaker 2: Only to find out that all we had to do
Speaker 2: was put it in a continer. Yeah, well that's a problem.
Speaker 2: Shout out to my pussy. True thanks pussy. The major
Speaker 2: shutdown the whole the whole ounce that Jamila put in
Speaker 2: Nature's pocket lasted the whole trip, and she was quite
Speaker 2: worried it wouldn't. But literally the last day we were there,
Speaker 2: we had enough to take with us in the car
Speaker 2: to the ride to the airport.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was perfect.
Speaker 1: It was the perfect amount of pussy weed. So how
Speaker 1: much weed can your pussy supply? You? Two weeks worth.
Speaker 2: After that, it's on you. Dog.
Speaker 1: My pussy personally can supply about two people for two
Speaker 1: weeks worth. If all the supermarkets, all the dispensaries go
Speaker 1: onto some my personal dangerous pocket two weeks impressive. No,
Speaker 1: we had a really beautiful trip. We flew to Costa Rica.
Speaker 1: That was gonna that's I almost said for sure, that's
Speaker 1: my last time flying coach, but fuck it's not. We
Speaker 1: have two coach flights booked. After those two, I'm done.
Speaker 1: It was not very comfortable. Fuck was it United? No?
Speaker 1: Was that Delta?
Speaker 2: It was No, it was United.
Speaker 1: It had but I thought we went to the special
Speaker 1: check in when we checked in, its Delta. Wow, I'm disappointed.
Speaker 2: Wow the airlines are going downhill.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know if a far. I think Delta
Speaker 1: brought it in a United plane. It was very, very small.
Speaker 1: They added a row and there was a regular sized
Speaker 1: man next to me, and I felt so bad for
Speaker 1: him because I'm like a below average small woman, and
Speaker 1: I felt like I was gonna fucking kill myself. So
Speaker 1: I was just like, God, this is like slave labor.
Speaker 1: This is not good. Relax, No, coach is not it.
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding Anyway, we made it to Costa ricad
Speaker 1: and early at six am. We thought we had thought
Speaker 1: everything through very well, but we didn't because we arrived
Speaker 1: at We arrived at six am, but we booked a
Speaker 1: flight to the other coast at three pm.
Speaker 2: We thought we were going to go explore the city,
Speaker 2: but then apparently it's not that easy.
Speaker 1: There's nothing really to do in San Jose. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: San Juan, no sand It was just like too.
Speaker 2: Risky to go there. Come back, we're gonna miss Everyone
Speaker 2: made it seem like it was just don't leave there.
Speaker 1: No, nobody made it seem like it did. Yeh. Trip
Speaker 1: Advisor said, listen, we didn't do any research until we
Speaker 1: literally were landed.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, first of all, we almost missed the flight.
Speaker 2: Just so you know, guys, if you ever go to
Speaker 2: Costa Rica, you need travel insurance. They won't let you
Speaker 2: board the flight and soil you prove that you have insurance,
Speaker 2: which we bought the insurance as the flight was born.
Speaker 1: No, we get there, the guy is talking so slow.
Speaker 1: We're checking in. He's like, oh, yeah, you need it,
Speaker 1: you need to download this thing. But I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: you guys go through for right now. And we're just
Speaker 1: like okay, but he keeps talking and so I'm like
Speaker 1: it must not be important. He's letting us through whatever.
Speaker 1: We get to the gate, We're sitting there. This is
Speaker 1: two bitches that shouldn't travel together because we don't do
Speaker 1: enough research during COVID or at all. And so we
Speaker 1: get there and we just start hearing announcements like if
Speaker 1: you do not have travelers insurance proof, you will not
Speaker 1: board this flight. I said again, if you think you're
Speaker 1: gonna get on this flight without travel able to get
Speaker 1: here and they get mad, The people get here and
Speaker 1: get mad and they have to go home because they
Speaker 1: did not get troubling it. I was like, what the
Speaker 1: so here we're gonna meet and Erica looking at each other,
Speaker 1: excuse me start did you get travel insurance to go?
Speaker 1: And he's like, oh yeah, yeah, we got that shit
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. I'm like, do you mind sharing the
Speaker 1: link with us because these two dumb bitches didn't do it.
Speaker 1: We're in there, of course, the airport WiFi is fucking
Speaker 1: up there, the line is boarding. Me and Erica are
Speaker 1: sweating because we are.
Speaker 2: Sweating, like and they're supposed to get a QR code
Speaker 2: that they like they're supposed to message you. It might
Speaker 2: take a few minutes or maybe hours, who knows, but
Speaker 2: it finally went through, literally with the last people to
Speaker 2: board the flight, like we almost didn't even make it.
Speaker 1: To air We're just looking over my shoulder, like look
Speaker 1: at the lass, like stop, relax, just your fucking yeah.
Speaker 1: We boarded the flight, only I have a fucking ounce
Speaker 1: of weed in my pussy. We almost think it off.
Speaker 1: I'm sweating bullets. Then we get on this tiny ass
Speaker 1: fucking whack ass low grade delta fucking seating. We take
Speaker 1: the Red Eye because we're gonna have the whole day there.
Speaker 1: We get there tired, tired, and for some reason, international
Speaker 1: and domestic airport is next door to each other, but
Speaker 1: not like we had to push our big ass fucking
Speaker 1: huge all of our bags from like neighboring airports, which
Speaker 1: was not fun at six am, only to get to
Speaker 1: the smaller airport to be like, are there any other
Speaker 1: flights that are not at three pm? No? No, And
Speaker 1: you can't check into this one for about four more
Speaker 1: hours because it's six am. And then there's like three
Speaker 1: sad rocking chairs in the airport. So I'm like, we're
Speaker 1: just sitting on the rocking chairs. I'm like, we can't
Speaker 1: sit here for eight hours. It's just not realistic. We
Speaker 1: read trip Advisor. When we got to the airport, everyone's like,
Speaker 1: don't leave the airport. You're gonna miss your flight. There's
Speaker 1: nothing to do. And then it's just twenty minutes away
Speaker 1: there's a mall. There's nothing to do. So we're like,
Speaker 1: fuck it, let's see if you can get a rental
Speaker 1: car and just drive. How many hours is it. It's
Speaker 1: like three and a half hours, right, So we're like, fine,
Speaker 1: fuck it, we're gonna rent a car and drive. We
Speaker 1: get the car, we have to like put somebody's credit
Speaker 1: card up.
Speaker 2: To like six thousand dollars hold on the car. It
Speaker 2: was just a lot. It was a lot, but we
Speaker 2: did it.
Speaker 1: We did there. We got in a car. Ic did
Speaker 1: all that bitching about me bringing weed, and I was like,
Speaker 1: bitch wants a blunt. Now that a bitch wants a blunt.
Speaker 2: I told you that I will be smoking that weed
Speaker 2: that I'm just not going to put it in my
Speaker 2: nature's pocket. I'm gonna let you handle that. You seemed
Speaker 2: fine with it, so I was like, Okay, what you
Speaker 2: wanna smoke alone. I knew you weren't going to smoke alone,
Speaker 2: so I knew that either way, you're gonna be pissed.
Speaker 2: I was still gonna get that wheat.
Speaker 1: Luckily we had weed for the three and a half
Speaker 1: hour trip that we It was.
Speaker 2: A beautiful drive.
Speaker 1: It's very jungle.
Speaker 2: We found like we went a night this like which
Speaker 2: stopped in this tiny town, ate breakfast and then all.
Speaker 1: These delicious fruits. Yeah, we ate at it. It was
Speaker 1: a school bus converted into highway restaurant. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: I saw the cook try the food with the spoon.
Speaker 2: That's pretty standard.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I guess. Then we drive through farms and
Speaker 1: backwoods and jungles and they were like, I'm like the GPS,
Speaker 1: oh God, the GPS says we're almost there, but I
Speaker 1: don't see any ocean. I don't see any mountains.
Speaker 2: I was like, so before we also went, we researched
Speaker 2: where like, I don't know how this came up. It
Speaker 2: was a search was like where do famous people live
Speaker 2: in Costa Rica? And it was like Juanacoste, Mel Gibson,
Speaker 2: And I was like, so Mel Gibson lives.
Speaker 1: Where we're going, Like mel Gibson has a house here.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I say.
Speaker 2: As we're driving getting closer, I'm like, this seems like
Speaker 2: where mel Gibson would live, Like it seems very mel gibsony.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, it's getting richer for sure, very rich
Speaker 2: over here, big mountains, gates I see, like I can't
Speaker 2: see the houses, but I know they're there. And then
Speaker 2: it says we've arrived, but we're at an intersection and
Speaker 2: a farm, and I'm like, where are we from? When
Speaker 2: we call the airbnb host and she's like, I don't
Speaker 2: know where the fuck you are, but if you go
Speaker 2: four miles past the palm tree, make right.
Speaker 1: Should the gas station.
Speaker 2: She's a gas station. It's on the left with a
Speaker 2: tree next to it, and you make it right, and
Speaker 2: you go down four miles and.
Speaker 1: Make Then she's like, send me a picture where you're at.
Speaker 1: It's literally just a farm.
Speaker 2: But we were about an hour and a half from
Speaker 2: where we're supposed to be.
Speaker 1: We had driven three and a half hours to nowhere,
Speaker 1: only to have to drive another hour and a half
Speaker 1: to wherever the fuck we were going because we were
Speaker 1: not in that place. So yeah, it was about a
Speaker 1: total of a six hour drive after a six hour flight,
Speaker 1: after a change of plans from a flight to a car,
Speaker 1: and but you.
Speaker 2: Know what, when we got to the fucking airbnb, it
Speaker 2: was so goddamn beautiful that it was all worth it.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, we stayed in I'm not even gonna
Speaker 2: say what town we stayed in because I don't want
Speaker 2: anyone to go, but we stayed in a really small
Speaker 2: town that no one should know about except us unless
Speaker 2: you're our friends. And we met like a lot of
Speaker 2: Canadian people. We met some really cool people. Like what
Speaker 2: I will say about Costa Rica is that no matter
Speaker 2: what side of the island it's on island, the country
Speaker 2: that you're on, there's like real sense of like peace
Speaker 2: and like community over there, like people want to help you.
Speaker 2: We met these guys that like didn't know us from
Speaker 2: a canapaign and like we're fucking assisting us in all
Speaker 2: all things possible, and I just, I don't know, just
Speaker 2: the vibe there really made me rethink too, like be
Speaker 2: appreciative of my tribe, but like how important like community
Speaker 2: is and out there like you. That's why so many
Speaker 2: people I think are moving out there too, because you
Speaker 2: don't get that here people are like like hey you people.
Speaker 1: They're like, how can I help you? What do you need? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true. And it's just quiet and chill and like
Speaker 1: you saw the same ten people every night. And we
Speaker 1: took surf lessons for the first time. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: my first time we stood up on the board. It
Speaker 1: was we had a really peaceful, chill time. I feel
Speaker 1: like a grown ass adult for sure. Was a grown up.
Speaker 1: It was like a very grown up.
Speaker 2: It was like it was like raining. One day, we
Speaker 2: like ran to a blog. I was like, I feel
Speaker 2: like Carl Thomas Summer Rain was about to start playing.
Speaker 1: Like and we're about to We're about to go. We
Speaker 1: just ran out to get wine and then we just
Speaker 1: hear like this beautiful voice calling us.
Speaker 2: A siren and the.
Speaker 1: Range and we were like about like literally back right
Speaker 1: at the car and I was like should we go
Speaker 1: in there? She was like, yeah, yeah we should. We
Speaker 1: like followed the mystical voice and then met two best friends,
Speaker 1: two girls. Could ever have Chuck and Simon, Yeah we did.
Speaker 1: Chuck and Simon were so nice to us and they
Speaker 1: talked to us.
Speaker 2: And like I danced a little bit, drove the Sirmon home.
Speaker 1: We always drove her home because she needed to ride
Speaker 1: home and it was raining so she couldn't drive her bike.
Speaker 1: We looked at property we don't have to do. We
Speaker 1: went to like a lot of adult dinners. Eric had
Speaker 1: drugg me one morning with a microdose of mushrooms along
Speaker 1: with some vitamins, and then I forgot I took them
Speaker 1: and I was like sweating at breakfast. I'm like, are
Speaker 1: you feeling weird? She's like, nah, I'm fine. And then
Speaker 1: I was like, then she gave me mushrooms. You knew it.
Speaker 1: I forgot, So that was weird. Eric, I got a
Speaker 1: happy ending.
Speaker 2: I did. It was great.
Speaker 1: And the night after that long drive, long flight, we
Speaker 1: got a massage and she went, all I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Is I look. I share the story on our episode
Speaker 2: of Horrible Decisions that actually comes out this week. So
Speaker 2: if you want to hear my massage story, go check
Speaker 2: out go check us out on Horrible Decisions. But basically,
Speaker 2: what I have confirmed is that all massages should end
Speaker 2: in coming. It's not complete unless you came, because it's
Speaker 2: the ultimate release. Why have I not known this? And
Speaker 2: I was also I was kind of drunk when it happened,
Speaker 2: but I couldn't wait to tell someone because I was like,
Speaker 2: I felt like I had like just fucking discovered gold.
Speaker 1: She thought she was in like the good old boys clubs.
Speaker 2: I did. Actually, I group text a group text that
Speaker 2: we're on with full of men because I felt like
Speaker 2: Nicka's been doing this shit forever, Like what now I'm
Speaker 2: part of the group and now I get it. I understand.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you, guys, guess what.
Speaker 1: Literally like eleven o'clock at night, Like I guess I
Speaker 1: just did, like, bitch, relax. Then she comes in like
Speaker 1: you should do it too.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh no, she was pissed because she's like,
Speaker 2: I don't want him to touch my pussy. I'm like,
Speaker 2: he's not going to touch your pussy.
Speaker 1: Relaxed, you should if you've tried, you should let him
Speaker 1: because oh it was great.
Speaker 2: It was great.
Speaker 1: So it's all drunk and all happy. I'm like, real, Las,
Speaker 1: it was great.
Speaker 2: It was you know, it was consensual and it was
Speaker 2: wonderful and I highly recommend.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to get them on the bucket list anyway,
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's a few spots here in the good
Speaker 2: old Woodland hills that can support your Yeah, the valley
Speaker 2: is the place. Is the porn massage capital.
Speaker 1: Okay, well I'll keep it there.
Speaker 2: Also is that website I can remember what it's called,
Speaker 2: like reb maps and that for women though just rub
Speaker 2: maps me. I don't think it's specify for any I'm
Speaker 2: sure mostly men around red maps, but I'm sure women
Speaker 2: can go on reb maps too and find local massage
Speaker 2: parlors that can rub it out for them.
Speaker 1: There's always those sexy massage therapists online. Now, during that
Speaker 1: all that extra shit.
Speaker 2: You can find a sexy motherfucker on Instagram that will
Speaker 2: rub it out.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if anyone knows anyone's led in, my dam.
Speaker 2: Pays them for their services. Jamila, my wife tipped him
Speaker 2: for me.
Speaker 1: I did. I was like, here you go, I'll sleep.
Speaker 1: I was rocking cass bitch. Anyway. Oh, I turned thirty.
Speaker 1: I felt very adult. We went to dinner and just
Speaker 1: chilled and it was very adult, like, very quiet and calm,
Speaker 1: and there were monkeys and lots of foliage, and it
Speaker 1: was wonderful.
Speaker 2: Mangoes on the floor, you pick up, you eat them.
Speaker 2: It's just great.
Speaker 1: I never felt like fruit was so sexual and orgasmic.
Speaker 1: I mean I did feel that way once in Mexico
Speaker 1: on acid, but this was confirmed sober that fruit is
Speaker 1: in fact next to sex yet migraine. It's very orgasmic.
Speaker 1: And then after that very chill time on the Pacific
Speaker 1: side for one week, we got back into our rental
Speaker 1: car and journeyed back to the center of the country
Speaker 1: so that we could go to the Caribbean side, which
Speaker 1: we heard that the black people were at, so you know,
Speaker 1: we had to swing over there. We took a fourteen
Speaker 1: passenger plane which was very was kind of fun but scary.
Speaker 1: It stopped on like another little island, literally the jetway on.
Speaker 2: The people were flying in like onto the water.
Speaker 1: It was beautiful. I want to get to that island,
Speaker 1: whatever the fuck island that was we stopped at. And
Speaker 1: then we made it back and we rented another.
Speaker 2: Car and this time we drove five and a half hour.
Speaker 1: This time drove five and a half hours and on
Speaker 1: a one road, one lane road, run lane road highway
Speaker 1: for five nimes and like someone had already worned. It's
Speaker 1: like it's only one road in and out of that place,
Speaker 1: and if a tree falls or oh there's a smug flide.
Speaker 2: I was like, what, I'm glad I didn't hear about
Speaker 2: this till after we did it.
Speaker 1: No, he told us before.
Speaker 2: I has not been listening.
Speaker 1: You drove five and a half hours to the Caribbean side,
Speaker 1: and it's like yeah.
Speaker 2: But when we got there, it was like we unlocked
Speaker 2: the fucking magic of Coast I mean Coast Rica's magical period.
Speaker 2: But it was like unleash the dragon. The only reference.
Speaker 1: I guess that was an amazing reference. I feel like
Speaker 1: if you missed that. So we go. First of all,
Speaker 1: there's no addresses in Costa Rica. They literally drop a pin.
Speaker 1: There's like pop number seven, and we just like drove
Speaker 1: down the road. There was a beautiful black woman greeting
Speaker 1: us in a beautiful dress, which was beautiful, and like
Speaker 1: you couldn't see the house, but bitch, when she opened
Speaker 1: up the gates to this house, you could not mot
Speaker 1: the fucking tell me, I was not princess mother fucking Jasmine. Okay,
Speaker 1: the house was motherfucking Jasmine. It was a magic carpet
Speaker 1: in that bitch. It was like the secret Garden. Jungle
Speaker 1: was like, oh, you've made it. I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, we're rich, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, how do we afford this girl? And it coastres
Speaker 2: is not that very it was very not no, it
Speaker 2: wasn't It wasn't expense it was very affordable, which was amazing.
Speaker 1: God was on our side, like literally everything.
Speaker 2: And then and then like we went out that night and.
Speaker 1: Like, no, you're like just going over so much.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: There's a beautiful, magical pool, there was a magical house.
Speaker 1: There was an outside shower. It looked like we were
Speaker 1: living in Bali. The kitchens outside, the living room's outside,
Speaker 1: it was living outside. It was sexy as fuck. And
Speaker 1: then we're like, let's go get dinner on the town.
Speaker 1: And then we're just like amazing, host who's from La,
Speaker 1: a black woman from La and she owns this beautiful house.
Speaker 1: What a lucky bitch, Like, wow, I'm so happy you
Speaker 1: own this house. Then it's true. Then we drove to
Speaker 1: the town and like as we like creep up to
Speaker 1: the town, I hear like Caribbean tunes. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I think we're on the right side of the island.
Speaker 1: I can feel that. I can just feel the jungle people.
Speaker 1: I can feel the black people in the air. I
Speaker 1: could feel them I was like, cuckck col cock co
Speaker 1: We're here. We made it. And then so like right
Speaker 1: before we get out the car, I was like really
Speaker 1: feeling it. I was like, Erica, I just hope and wish, Like, honestly,
Speaker 1: if I just get to have one's like sweaty dance
Speaker 1: with a stranger, I'll be so motherfucking happy, just like
Speaker 1: one sweaty dance.
Speaker 2: She did say this.
Speaker 1: I was just like, one just dance, it's one sweaty stranger.
Speaker 1: So of course she was just like, yeah, okay, whatever, bitch,
Speaker 1: let's go eat. We go to the beach. We watched
Speaker 1: this beautiful sunset and have this delicious to bomb ass meal.
Speaker 1: We're like in deep romance with each other. I'm staring
Speaker 1: into each other's eyes, telling each other how much we
Speaker 1: love each other and how grateful we are, like taking
Speaker 1: turns going to the beach. All we wait for our
Speaker 1: food and drink delicious cocktails. And right before we met
Speaker 1: everyone sitting next to us, including the owner of the restaurant.
Speaker 1: He gives us our check and he's like, are you
Speaker 1: guys gonna go to the party, And I'm like, what
Speaker 1: what did you say? He said, you guys going to
Speaker 1: the party next door. I was like, done, I didn't
Speaker 1: know there was a party. He's like, yeah, Johnny's that's
Speaker 1: a really good party. I was like right now, He's like, yep,
Speaker 1: about to get started right now. I was like, I
Speaker 1: am a motherfucking manifesto. Okay, And what do you know,
Speaker 1: the party just starts getting it cracking right there in
Speaker 1: front of our eyes on the beach under the full moon.
Speaker 1: And what do you see some niggas sweat and dancing. Yep, yep.
Speaker 1: I was like, haircut, I made this party happen. She
Speaker 1: was like, I know, And I sweaty danced on some strangers.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we did. We sweaty danced on some stranger. There
Speaker 2: were some fine strangers there too. There were some unexpected
Speaker 2: future friends there that we made friends with later that
Speaker 2: we were like, who are these motherfuckers?
Speaker 1: Like Gilly stood out to Gilly the gods shout out
Speaker 1: to Gilly the motherfucking god, Like we judged Gilly. We
Speaker 1: saw Gilly on the beach.
Speaker 2: She was wearing his tin had timberlands in the sand,
Speaker 2: and then he had like his like the cool trendy
Speaker 2: like wangling the dangling cross earring.
Speaker 1: You know that like and like the wife beat her
Speaker 1: with the mussels.
Speaker 2: And a girl and a grill and chains. I was like,
Speaker 2: this nigga does not live.
Speaker 1: Here, Like this nigga is visiting.
Speaker 2: He's from He's a Tami or somewhere the Bronx.
Speaker 1: He's from La for sure. And then we're also talking
Speaker 1: about this other gid. We're like, he's like the ladies
Speaker 1: man of Costa Rica. I could tell he's trying to
Speaker 1: run game and all the bitches. She was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's a fuck boy for sure. Fast forward to about
Speaker 1: twenty hours later. The next day, because the town is
Speaker 1: very small, I met up with one of my girlfriends,
Speaker 1: Oh who was on the show last month. Shout out
Speaker 1: to Monique, and then you know, the fuck boy joined
Speaker 1: us and he became our friend. Later on, Gilly the
Speaker 1: God joined us. He actually they both lived there. They're
Speaker 1: not to he's lived there for like five years. It
Speaker 1: was just pretty magical to see like young people just
Speaker 1: say up and leave America and say fuck it and
Speaker 1: like shut up shop and like this beautiful place where
Speaker 1: like it's just the things you think are important are
Speaker 1: really not important. And like when I say community, like
Speaker 1: everyone loves on each other. It's kind of like a
Speaker 1: little culty, like a culty love fest. So everyone's just
Speaker 1: like really touchy feely and really like kind to each other.
Speaker 1: I'm like, is this a cult or is this real?
Speaker 2: No, that is not a cult. I don't get cult vibes.
Speaker 2: But the one I said was a fuck boy? Who
Speaker 2: is I don't think it's a fuck boy. He's actually
Speaker 2: really sweet. He was actually in a cult, though I did,
Speaker 2: we did actually meet someone who was in.
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Speaker 1: And like even the party we went to, like there
Speaker 1: was moms on the beach with their kids. The kids
Speaker 1: are dancing, running around. That's what I love watching them.
Speaker 1: The kids are just just like the water free free,
Speaker 1: just free living their best fucking lives. And people are
Speaker 1: smoking weed. Nobody's worried about none of the shit that
Speaker 1: we'd be worried about. No one drives cars, everybody has
Speaker 1: a bike.
Speaker 2: Everyone's eating from the earth.
Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody's eating fruits and like everything's from local sourced,
Speaker 1: mothbucking places. You just feel healthy and bliss and your
Speaker 1: skin feels good. I was feeling so sexy there, I
Speaker 1: told you, Okay, like five times, I'm like, I am
Speaker 1: so sexy in Costa Rica, Like Coasta Rica makes me
Speaker 1: sexier and It's true. I was sexier there. I mean sexier.
Speaker 1: I was like, my skin was sexier. I felt kinder,
Speaker 1: kinder I did. I was happier. I was giving way
Speaker 1: more hugs. It was just great. We made a lot
Speaker 1: of friends. We thought we were locals. Even one night,
Speaker 1: I begged Erica to go to this party. We're like,
Speaker 1: they're like, yeah, Devin's parties, tonight's open. Dorian whatever you
Speaker 1: always call her name. She was kind of mean to us.
Speaker 1: She was nice later, Okay, Dorian. We went to Dorian's
Speaker 1: party because we're locals. Now we have five friends, so like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell Dorian you're coming. We met up a
Speaker 1: shout out to Island Brewja. We met up with Island Breuja,
Speaker 1: who found us before we got there. She's living in
Speaker 1: Costa Rica. She found good Moms because someone shared the
Speaker 1: hat and she liked the hat. And then like weeks later,
Speaker 1: we're going to Costa Rica. She meets up with us.
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, you can go to Dorian's. How does
Speaker 1: text her tell you're coming. I'm like, okay, I like
Speaker 1: I really don't feel like going. I'm like, come on,
Speaker 1: it's open mic night, Like in my head it was
Speaker 1: like a full going party.
Speaker 2: Eila was gonna fucking make her fucking open debut. That's
Speaker 2: what this ship was. She couldn't wait.
Speaker 1: So we drive to Jorian's in the night and I
Speaker 1: drive and we're all.
Speaker 2: Like, Lily, never happens. I don't trust remas driving.
Speaker 1: I'm a great driver. I'm a great driver. Bitch. Yeah, well, bitch,
Speaker 1: this is not my fault. So we're driving and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like there's the house. We're like a
Speaker 1: deep conversation and I'm like, there's the house right there.
Speaker 1: And literally as soon as I say right there, we
Speaker 1: drive into a ditch, but not like a regular ditch,
Speaker 1: Like the back of the.
Speaker 2: Whole car was off the ground.
Speaker 1: The back two wheels were off like the nose of
Speaker 1: the car. I don't know what kind of ditch. How
Speaker 1: was that cliff? It was like a cliff baby cloth.
Speaker 1: She's like, no boom, and I was like, we just
Speaker 1: look at this. I was like, oh my god, she's
Speaker 1: gonna kill me. I'm like, oh, no, is the car broken.
Speaker 1: This seems I'm like lifted off the car, opened the
Speaker 1: car door and it's like swinging and I have to
Speaker 1: jump down. So we're both We've put like six thousand
Speaker 1: dollars in the credit card to cover with their insurance,
Speaker 1: so we're like not saying much. It begins to rain,
Speaker 1: so then we have to go. Also, we're in the
Speaker 1: middle of the street. We're in the middle of the street.
Speaker 1: So then we have to go into Dorian's house, where
Speaker 1: we don't really know Dorian because we thought we're locals
Speaker 1: two hours ago. And we get in there so mellow,
Speaker 1: and everyone's sitting on the floor and there's like candles
Speaker 1: lit and there's like poetry going and it's like I
Speaker 1: am me, she is she, I am deep as the sea,
Speaker 1: and everyone's like and then it's like and then it
Speaker 1: really doesn't rhyme. It's like and then it's so deep
Speaker 1: because you know, I don't have any friends, but I
Speaker 1: do have friends, but I'm in Costa Rica. And then
Speaker 1: it's like a guitar playing. It's like do doo doom,
Speaker 1: do doo doo. And then here we come in, Like
Speaker 1: first we're like, who the fuck are YouTube bitches. I'm like, hi, Dorian.
Speaker 1: They're like it's like an abrupt stop to this terrible poetry,
Speaker 1: and they're like like, our our car is stuck in
Speaker 1: a ditch. Can you do you know what? Tow truck?
Speaker 1: And they're all looking at us, like a tow truck, bitch,
Speaker 1: you're in the jungle, and they're like, can you someone
Speaker 1: just I'm like this, give me someone could just come
Speaker 1: out and look at it. So two guys like no
Speaker 1: one's on any press time and coast three kids like
Speaker 1: there's nothing to do. You're literally there's nothing happening. Shul
Speaker 1: They come out, they look at it. Then I discovered
Speaker 1: that there's killer ants.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the killer ants on the floor.
Speaker 1: The rain, the killer ants. The car is in a ditch,
Speaker 1: biting our feet in the air, and these two guys
Speaker 1: are like huh yeah, like push it down a little
Speaker 1: bit to like.
Speaker 2: Barely barely tryl. I'm like, what the fuck is going on?
Speaker 1: So you know, we're like la bitches. We're like, we
Speaker 1: gotta get the fucking solution. What's the fun? Who on
Speaker 1: a tow truck? Cow? Many help us? And everyone's like.
Speaker 2: Just come sick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's like pull some card. Yeah, so let me
Speaker 1: come in. They literally do nothing, and we're like, okay, well,
Speaker 1: I guess they're like the toe check's not going to
Speaker 1: be open. On Sunday.
Speaker 2: So then someone starts honking outside because they were blocking
Speaker 2: the street. So we go back in.
Speaker 1: They proceed like nothing just fucking happened. We're not having
Speaker 1: an urgent matter. They continue the terrible fucking poetry. Someone
Speaker 1: starts honking outside, Erica goes and then she comes back
Speaker 1: and she's like, Yo, the guy said he can help us.
Speaker 1: We just had to get like ten friends, and he
Speaker 1: sees like he's seen it a hundred times. He said
Speaker 1: he can help us. I'm like, so everyone's still like
Speaker 1: and then we went to the tree the party, so.
Speaker 2: They were intentionally ignoring me. I was like, that's why I.
Speaker 1: Was getting picked. I could feel Eric's energy rising and
Speaker 1: it was stressing me out because A I forced her
Speaker 1: to come to the party. B I drove into this
Speaker 1: dumbass diage. See her credit card is on this fucking
Speaker 1: stupid ass four hundred million dollar fucking insurance and I
Speaker 1: can just feel her getting irritated. But I'm like, okay, me, no, me.
Speaker 1: I'm like trying to fill the room. I'm like, there's
Speaker 1: gonna be a perfect opportunity to rally everybody up. This
Speaker 1: is just not it. I'm like, okay, we've abruptly walked into
Speaker 1: their then zen ness, whatever the fuck is happening here,
Speaker 1: and now we're like pushing them to help us, even
Speaker 1: though they clearly don't give a fuck. But let me
Speaker 1: just go about this. I'm just trying to be the buffer.
Speaker 1: So then they pull out some fucking cards and they're
Speaker 1: like everybody feeling cards. They're like feeling hard. We're gonna
Speaker 1: pull some in a second, so as we're talking, shit,
Speaker 1: don't worry, we have some here. But then like I
Speaker 1: feel like, who's your best friend? They're like me, I
Speaker 1: am my own best friend. And I realized that I
Speaker 1: love being my own best friend because I'm best friends
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: Like sometimes I talk to myself in the line and
Speaker 2: people wonder what I'm talking to if it didn't talk
Speaker 2: to me because I'm checking with myself.
Speaker 1: And then I had this really judging I had this
Speaker 1: really judging thought at this moment. After like three cards,
Speaker 1: I'm like this costa Rica full of like American like
Speaker 1: loners because everyone's like a leone and I'm great, I'm
Speaker 1: like are you? And then Eric is pissed, like she's fuming,
Speaker 1: and I'm like trying not to look at her. Because
Speaker 1: I'm stressed. So finally I'm like, the cards get to us,
Speaker 1: and you would think that they would skip us, but no,
Speaker 1: they wanted us to go even though we're having an emergency.
Speaker 1: So Erica's cards come and she's like, oh the time.
Speaker 1: It was like, when have you felt the most the
Speaker 1: most adrenaline?
Speaker 2: Yea, the most adrenaline, and I said probably birth. And
Speaker 2: when my car got stuck in a ditch in the
Speaker 2: front of the party and no one.
Speaker 1: Helped, I'm like, if you guys could just please you guys,
Speaker 1: there's a guy out there that can help us.
Speaker 2: I really appreciate. As soon as she got the pissed,
Speaker 2: I was like, there's like seven men in this room.
Speaker 2: There was like, fuck, you're not gonna go.
Speaker 1: Total of ten people at this love.
Speaker 2: Most of them were men, get your ass up and
Speaker 2: get on this goddamn car, but.
Speaker 1: They were so zend out.
Speaker 2: I know a fuck. I was like one of them
Speaker 2: and like intentionally was purposely. I was like, is this
Speaker 2: some fake tribe shit? I was like, these motherfuckers don't
Speaker 2: want to help us. I was pissed.
Speaker 1: So she's like, the guys that if you just get
Speaker 1: nine people, I'm like, can you please, if you all
Speaker 1: can just please just come outside, everyone right now, please
Speaker 1: all at one time, if we could just just give
Speaker 1: us five minutes of your weight. So then she goes
Speaker 1: knocks on the guy's door and he's like, he's done
Speaker 1: this before, because I don't know who the fuck allowed
Speaker 1: this ditch to be this deep into the middle of
Speaker 1: the street. He comes out. We all jump on the
Speaker 1: back of this car. I'm in the front seat on
Speaker 1: the fucking reverse. So, please God, please gotta get this
Speaker 1: fucking crowd of here so I don't have to hear
Speaker 1: him out. I'm like, they're like pushing, I'm like, please God.
Speaker 1: And then finally and it fucking backs out because twenty
Speaker 1: people are sitting on the back right corner and there's
Speaker 1: not a fucking scratch on this fucking vehicle.
Speaker 2: A miracle.
Speaker 1: It was a goddamn miracle.
Speaker 2: Anyway we got out. The moral of the story is
Speaker 2: they came and helped the more of the stories. They
Speaker 2: were on some tribe shit. They were just very mellow
Speaker 2: about it. We're just pressed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the la and us was coming out really quickly.
Speaker 1: I was like, we're in Costa Rica. You gotta relax.
Speaker 2: But then like you know after leaving there and then
Speaker 2: I feel like we went from like the real jungle
Speaker 2: to the concrete jungle, back to work, back to our kids,
Speaker 2: but even still like seeing like I'm even like when
Speaker 2: I was there, I was like, Wow, I'm here with
Speaker 2: my best friend. I am, I'm putting my daughters in
Speaker 2: camp or recording, I'm following my dreams. I'm interviewing fucking
Speaker 2: dynamic guests that like who else is going to have
Speaker 2: a conversation with like a dominatrix on a Tuesday at
Speaker 2: twelve pm with her sub Like those are the kind
Speaker 2: of conversations like I want to be having, Like I
Speaker 2: wouldn't want to be doing it. I don't want to
Speaker 2: be up in an office, No offense to those that are,
Speaker 2: but that's just not the way I'm designing my life.
Speaker 2: And I'm realizing that I truly have designed my life.
Speaker 2: And I think going to Costa Rica was a reminder
Speaker 2: too of like not only like career wise, how I
Speaker 2: want to be and like my goals and you know,
Speaker 2: having access which sometimes correlates with having income, but like
Speaker 2: how I want to live, how my body to feel.
Speaker 1: Literally, that's what I kept telling. I was just like
Speaker 1: I feel my body feels better. I'm literally were naked,
Speaker 1: like ninety percent of the trip. I'm mostly peeed outside.
Speaker 1: I mostly showered outside the Eight Fruits, like I felt
Speaker 1: connected to the earth, and you know when I felt
Speaker 1: like such a powerful download, like a message of like
Speaker 1: everything that you need, there's an abundance of it. Like
Speaker 1: everything in Costa Rica is so plush and so like
Speaker 1: that you could see that so rich. You could see
Speaker 1: the earth bearing its fruit, you know, and I just
Speaker 1: felt so cared for and protected and like everything I
Speaker 1: needed right there I had, and everything else that I
Speaker 1: was worried about didn't have to be worried about. And
Speaker 1: even to the point of me manifesting a sweaty dance party,
Speaker 1: and like even you know, when we got there, we're like, God,
Speaker 1: I really want to share this experience with our community,
Speaker 1: you know, like other people have to come here. And
Speaker 1: even to the point where, after like three days, I
Speaker 1: was like, it is so fucking necessary that moms go
Speaker 1: on trips without their kids, because you know, we're moms.
Speaker 1: We were having guilt of not bringing our kids. We
Speaker 1: were having you know, the scheduling at home wasn't going smoothly,
Speaker 1: you know, niggas say they're going to show up, they
Speaker 1: don't show up, and you have to you feel guilty
Speaker 1: should I be here doing this for this extended amount
Speaker 1: of time. But I'm like, this is so fucking necessary,
Speaker 1: and honestly, like I encourage it right after you have
Speaker 1: a baby, Like it should be normalized to go on
Speaker 1: a long vacation every year without your family. You should
Speaker 1: have to do it because you have to be able
Speaker 1: to and for an extended time. Because it took Eric
Speaker 1: and I at least like four or five days to
Speaker 1: like decompress, decompress and then like really be in it,
Speaker 1: you know, And like I was even talking about, like
Speaker 1: how do we bring our community here? How do we develop,
Speaker 1: like do a trip together where we can manifest because
Speaker 1: Eric and I have had the blessing of being able
Speaker 1: to really see our manifestations come to life to the
Speaker 1: point like I'm looking over at my best friend like
Speaker 1: I can't believe, like we did this, you know, like
Speaker 1: we didn't win this on the radio. We paid for this,
Speaker 1: weird adults. And then like how do we find the
Speaker 1: best air following our dreams to follow like just being
Speaker 1: us and just like we went to New York and
Speaker 1: had these crazy conversations with our friends and we're smoking
Speaker 1: weed and we're we're interviewing a dominatrix and then we're
Speaker 1: turning it over and interviewing best friends and crying and
Speaker 1: about how much we love each.
Speaker 2: Other, out with our kids, and then we're just like,
Speaker 2: I mean, I realize. And then so you saying, like
Speaker 2: my friend was like, you guys don't live normal lives.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I mean, I think everyone's version of normal
Speaker 2: is different, but no, I don't, and I've never wanted to.
Speaker 2: And that's the life that I want to continue to live.
Speaker 1: I want to be able to be one hundred percent
Speaker 1: myself and be authentic and fuck up and cry and
Speaker 1: be vulnerable, and when I'm not being vulnerable, check myself
Speaker 1: and my friend be able to tell me, and also
Speaker 1: like just be able to put our kids in camp
Speaker 1: together and get a babysitter and you know, go to
Speaker 1: the sex party at night and laugh about it the
Speaker 1: next day, and like still be good moms and still
Speaker 1: do the things and it's such a beautiful journey and
Speaker 1: I'm just I love it here. No same, but I
Speaker 1: mean I think too, like going back to you know,
Speaker 1: being able to connect to yourself and to nature and
Speaker 1: wanting to bring our tribe there. Like I'm just so
Speaker 1: excited because we were like, how do we do this?
Speaker 1: And like, when I tell you the power of like
Speaker 1: me and Jamila's.
Speaker 2: Entity is it's something really special and like you too
Speaker 2: can have that with your friend, like with your soulmate
Speaker 2: or whatever that looks like. But me and Jamila were
Speaker 2: we were like, we need to do this, and then
Speaker 2: we met a woman and then.
Speaker 1: Literally we're like, we need to post a retreat in
Speaker 1: Costa Rica. It should be all of these things that
Speaker 1: we're experiencing. And literally, like that day, I went to
Speaker 1: go eat lunch with my friend who lives in Costa Rica, Monique,
Speaker 1: and then she introduced me to this woman. She's like, hello,
Speaker 1: you know, like I coordinate retreats. I've done it for years.
Speaker 1: I did it on a major level and like Abiza
Speaker 1: or some shit. I'm like, oh did you Well, thanks God,
Speaker 1: I'll take it, you know, And I told her. I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, it's crazy that I'm meeting you right now.
Speaker 1: Like I was just talking to my partner about this,
Speaker 1: and it's literally every single thing that we wanted that
Speaker 1: we got, like to the very small, even down to
Speaker 1: our friends when we got there, we were just talking, eh,
Speaker 1: look at them, like, and we asked for those friendships.
Speaker 1: Even in our like very small virtual manifestation full moon
Speaker 1: thing that we did, we had people come, you know,
Speaker 1: write in and say like I manifested this and this
Speaker 1: came to fruition. And I do believe there's power in
Speaker 1: doing shit together. I do like when you harness your energy, Like,
Speaker 1: first of all, femine energy is so fucking divine and goddess.
Speaker 1: It's literally creative energy. We create life. And when we
Speaker 1: put that shit together like the red tent style in
Speaker 1: a tropical holy place like Costa Rica, and you come
Speaker 1: vulnerable and you come like open and ready to connect,
Speaker 1: that shit is motherfucking powerful. So like, yeah, I'm super
Speaker 1: super excited to announce that we are doing a retreat
Speaker 1: hey in January in Costa Rica, twenty twenty two.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so excited it's January two because I feel like,
Speaker 2: I mean, we all know, like beginning of the year,
Speaker 2: we're always focusing on like, Okay, what are the things
Speaker 2: that we're reevaluating about last year ourselves, But sometimes it
Speaker 2: takes like a few weeks into January for some reason
Speaker 2: to like really like, Okay, what is it that I
Speaker 2: really want to do? You know, And like I just
Speaker 2: feel like making this commitment to yourself really and coming
Speaker 2: back to yourself and saying I'm going to do this
Speaker 2: for me, Like there's something so powerful about that and
Speaker 2: then us all coming together. I'm just really excited to
Speaker 2: meet the people that you know are committed to themselves,
Speaker 2: because those are the people I want to be attached to,
Speaker 2: those not attached but connected to.
Speaker 1: You know, well, when you're manifesting, yeah, you need people
Speaker 1: who are on the same page as you. And we
Speaker 1: need to nurture our dreams and nurture each other and
Speaker 1: like take time to do that. It's important. Even in
Speaker 1: Costa Rica, It's like it feels good to just do
Speaker 1: whatever I want, like just nurture myself, listen to my body.
Speaker 1: And the times I've experienced the most like shift in
Speaker 1: my energy and in my like in myself, like my
Speaker 1: ability to reflect and dig deeper is when I'm most
Speaker 1: silent and most in nature. So like doing that as
Speaker 1: a community is going to be nice.
Speaker 2: And there's such magical people and healers out there, you guys,
Speaker 2: I can't wait for you guys to see what's out
Speaker 2: there and meet the people out there. It's just like
Speaker 2: it's oh my god, I miss Lanie.
Speaker 1: Miss yeah, we have a Coasta Rican grandmother. Thank you
Speaker 1: Monique for retaking all your people.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
Speaker 1: We went to visit this like magical Divide. It was
Speaker 1: like going to meet God. It was like, hey, you
Speaker 1: want to come meet God, come with us, come up
Speaker 1: the mountain, then come meet her. And we did. We
Speaker 1: like the mountain. Lani sent us with her friend from
Speaker 1: Germany or Sweden. She like, we just went through like
Speaker 1: back jungles, muddy back jungles down a hill up until
Speaker 1: we found this beautiful untapped into waterfall and we just
Speaker 1: like sat there and it was just so purifying powerful.
Speaker 1: It was loud, it was and it was like you
Speaker 1: couldn't even go under it because it was just heavy,
Speaker 1: would probably break your back, and it was it just
Speaker 1: rained and we screamed and we yelled and we cried,
Speaker 1: and we just like sat in that bitch for a minute,
Speaker 1: like to absorb but like whatever energy we wanted to absorb,
Speaker 1: and it was it's powerful anyway.
Speaker 2: So should we do? Do you want to?
Speaker 1: Just?
Speaker 2: Did you do what you pull one of these cards.
Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead quickly.
Speaker 2: So we have this game. We've heard us talk about it.
Speaker 2: It's called We're Not Really Strangers. And in the spirit
Speaker 2: of designing your life, I think a lot that comes
Speaker 2: with designing your life is reflection. You must reflect, figure
Speaker 2: out what it is that you want, what it is
Speaker 2: that you need, what is that you don't need? And
Speaker 2: so there's a reflection card in here. So I'm just
Speaker 2: going to pick anyone. Hopefully it's not crazy.
Speaker 1: It's so deep.
Speaker 2: In one word, describe how you feel right now?
Speaker 1: Hi, Hi, happy, grateful. I can't do one word. I
Speaker 1: talk a lot. Where'd you pick from? This is reflection
Speaker 1: and then this is a perception and what's the middle
Speaker 1: one connection? Okay, I'm should do another reflection. Since we're
Speaker 1: designing your lives, we have to reflect. Okay, this is interesting.
Speaker 1: What can we create together? What can't we create together?
Speaker 2: Anything we want?
Speaker 1: Anything we fucking want? Oh that was a good one. Okay,
Speaker 1: Let's try another one, because that's just.
Speaker 2: That's for the enterity.
Speaker 1: This is for this is for the entitude.
Speaker 2: Okay, h.
Speaker 1: What is it a wild card? No, it's not a
Speaker 1: good one.
Speaker 2: It's good.
Speaker 1: What you admire most about me.
Speaker 2: Your capacity for love.
Speaker 1: I admire most about you. There's a lot I admire
Speaker 1: about you. I admire your ability to have boundaries.
Speaker 2: So the opposite capacity to love you, your capacity to
Speaker 2: say fuck you.
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2: It's thank you, I thank you. I receive that.
Speaker 1: Do we have it?
Speaker 2: Horri? Yeah, let's read our horri and then will if
Speaker 2: you guys.
Speaker 1: Want to hear more about things we're not going to
Speaker 1: talk about about New York. Oh, yeah, in more detail.
Speaker 1: Because we did go to a sex party, we did
Speaker 1: some field research.
Speaker 2: We went to study. It was a group study. It.
Speaker 1: We went out into the field.
Speaker 2: We got into the field.
Speaker 1: You needed to collect some data, and.
Speaker 2: She wrote some things down notes.
Speaker 1: We're journalists, so of course we had to do the
Speaker 1: research in the field.
Speaker 2: Did a lot of field work. But yeah, you can
Speaker 2: hear that on our Patreon, we talk about our experience
Speaker 2: at a party that was pretty life changing for me.
Speaker 1: It was life changing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it looks solidified some things for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I could see that. I can understand that, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's an openness that has to come with.
Speaker 2: I don't even know, I'm not even gonna refeel what
Speaker 2: it is, but just go listen to our patreon. It's
Speaker 2: patreon dot com slash Good Mom's Bad Choices. We have
Speaker 2: that little story among other stories that we don't share here,
Speaker 2: so check that shit out. But we do have a
Speaker 2: whoorry and I thought it was a good one. Let
Speaker 2: me see where is it? Who stories? Well? I thought
Speaker 2: I'd take this story to the grave, but apparently things change.
Speaker 2: I was twenty four when my first marriage ended. On
Speaker 2: the first weekend my daughter spent with her dad's family,
Speaker 2: my friends planned a girl's night so I wouldn't be sad.
Speaker 2: I put on clothes I never would have been abled
Speaker 2: to while I was with him, and we headed to
Speaker 2: the club. Two hours in. I was feeling really nice,
Speaker 2: and that's when I met him. He had thick Haitian
Speaker 2: accent that turned me on. We danced and made out
Speaker 2: like drunk lovers. At the end of the night, my
Speaker 2: scary ass tried to leave, but he gave me his ID,
Speaker 2: driver's license, and social Security cards so that I would
Speaker 2: trust him. Wow, I drove what we were going to
Speaker 2: do with those cards. If it's like you went.
Speaker 1: Missing, though, you could take a picture, you sent it
Speaker 1: to your friends.
Speaker 2: Oh, Okay, I got it, Okay, take it, okay credit Wow, Okay,
Speaker 2: that's yeah, it's a good idea. Actually, I drove to
Speaker 2: his house while he was sucking on my titties. He
Speaker 2: didn't care who saw, and I didn't either. We went
Speaker 2: back to his house and I got new Dick for
Speaker 2: the first time in six years.
Speaker 1: Who hellujah Bringham home from the club and dickham down.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, amen, I support this message. I was feeling
Speaker 2: so fucking liberated that I asked him if if his
Speaker 2: fine ass roommate wanted to fuck me too?
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: He did. At first, I was nervous because they would
Speaker 2: switch back and forth between English and French. What wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of bilingual three something happening.
Speaker 2: So yeah, speaking of speaking of the sex club, but
Speaker 2: they both found ways to cater to me without getting
Speaker 2: too close to each other. Come to think of it,
Speaker 2: that's probably what most of the talking was about. They
Speaker 2: wouldn't come close to each other or.
Speaker 1: No, maybe because it had a pleasure her. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe they were conspiring to please you, or that
Speaker 2: would be great. That's a great thought to think about.
Speaker 2: I slept over and the next morning I felt like
Speaker 2: I needed to explain that that was actually my first
Speaker 2: time doing something like that. Shame shame, creuptin the shame creeptain.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm God blessed me, verified slut. I thanked
Speaker 2: him for treating me and told him that after all
Speaker 2: I went through in my marriage, I felt so good
Speaker 2: to be free. He told me that from now on,
Speaker 2: whenever I wanted a safe space to do something new,
Speaker 2: I could call him.
Speaker 1: Wow, he's a fucking saint. I want to cry. I
Speaker 1: know that was beautiful. I'm like, look at me, I'm
Speaker 1: getting emotional. Sexual freedom is a gift.
Speaker 2: Wow, that's you know, like you know, it's safety for me.
Speaker 1: It is so important for like a man to say
Speaker 1: you're yeh feel safe like that is a good I
Speaker 1: never thought it was that word because you think of
Speaker 1: it in a different way, but it is. It feels
Speaker 1: safe to just be like the creepiest it's okay.
Speaker 2: You know that you're gonna be good there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I don't I don't care about that. I
Speaker 1: love you.
Speaker 2: We were main friends. We'd go out.
Speaker 1: She's really teario I know she's about to cry crying,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: I just feel like it makes me happy to know
Speaker 2: that exists, right.
Speaker 1: Right, there's men out there who says, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I love you enough to give you that.
Speaker 2: You know what it is too. I cry because I
Speaker 2: can't go back like I am who I am. There's
Speaker 2: no going back. I've experienced too much. I've seen too
Speaker 2: many things, and I can't go back to whatever normalcy,
Speaker 2: whatever the fuck that looks like. I just know what
Speaker 2: I like.
Speaker 1: And are you with it or not?
Speaker 2: Do you love me?
Speaker 1: Every safe? Right?
Speaker 2: Every safe? We remain friends. We'd go out to eat,
Speaker 2: set up play dates for my daughter and his son,
Speaker 2: even have sex when we were in between relationships, just
Speaker 2: us to end with others too, even though we did
Speaker 2: wild shit together. He held me in the highest regard,
Speaker 2: and I always felt like he was an ally. I
Speaker 2: recently found out that he was killed. Okay, now I'm
Speaker 2: really gonna cry.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cry too.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I'll never forget all the liberation he brought
Speaker 2: into my life. Wow, wow, I never This is a first.
Speaker 2: A horri is making me really emotional.
Speaker 1: You know what, I just feel like I know what
Speaker 1: I think for women too, and I think for free
Speaker 1: women and sexual women, it is hard to come by,
Speaker 1: and it is a gift and honestly shout out to
Speaker 1: you for fucking saying, hey, I'm gonna try something and
Speaker 1: saying it because no how many women want it, and
Speaker 1: not say it because like it's gonna be a train,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a slunt, They're gonna think I'm a hoe,
Speaker 1: like all these things. You know, it's sad that we
Speaker 1: have to live our sexuality in this quiet space. It's
Speaker 1: sad that we have to go around our sexuality wondering
Speaker 1: if it's offensive to anyone else, or if it's asking
Speaker 1: for too much attention, or if it's slutty, because men
Speaker 1: have the leeway to just sled it out even if
Speaker 1: it's fucking downright violent and disrespectful, and it's accepted and
Speaker 1: there's camaraderie around it. Like to be a woman is
Speaker 1: to be sexual. You cannot remove the sex from femininity,
Speaker 1: from the feminine from like that's who we are. So
Speaker 1: it's just so hard to come by a man who
Speaker 1: recognizes and sees who you are, is who you are,
Speaker 1: and it respects you as such. It's sad. It's almost
Speaker 1: to the point like do I have to am I
Speaker 1: supposed to be more a different way? Am I supposed
Speaker 1: to be less sexual? Am I not supposed to express
Speaker 1: my sexual fantasies because it's too much for somebody and like, no,
Speaker 1: But you do have to know that there are going
Speaker 1: to be a lot of men that shame you, and
Speaker 1: even less men that like wrap around you and love
Speaker 1: on you and can hold you to a high regard,
Speaker 1: you know, respect you and help you live out those fantasies.
Speaker 1: I'm really sad that he got killed.
Speaker 2: That's why we have to teach our sons to be
Speaker 2: good men.
Speaker 1: We have to. I think we should be a school
Speaker 1: for boys, a school for men to relearn. They're like, oh,
Speaker 1: fuck that, that's a lot of work. Jesus. It's like
Speaker 1: every man ever I've ever met anyway, that school is closed.
Speaker 2: Well, thank you for sharing that. I appreciate you sharing that, Horri.
Speaker 2: That was beautiful. But it's time for us to get
Speaker 2: out of here, guys.
Speaker 1: But one more thing I wanted to say that we
Speaker 1: missed I don't know how we fucking missed this, but
Speaker 1: in New York we had a fucking meet up.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we met up.
Speaker 1: And the horry made me think of it because the
Speaker 1: most innocent, sweetest face in the whole party. Was like,
Speaker 1: remember that the horry about the me pegging the white
Speaker 1: man of Juneteenth. I was like, that was you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was like, girl, I would have not seen this
Speaker 1: a little sweet face, never in a million years. You're
Speaker 1: so it's so nice to put faces with whole sorries
Speaker 1: you never know out here. I love you guys as
Speaker 1: stories and I love you guys. It felt so good
Speaker 1: to just like wrap my hands around you and like
Speaker 1: chill and dance and vibe and eat and break bread.
Speaker 1: And hopefully we get to do more of that in
Speaker 1: each city, more dinners. So check that out. And yeah,
Speaker 1: you know where to find us, rate and review us,
Speaker 1: and we love you, love you, Bye bye Ella Solo
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