1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental wealth podcast 2 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: build you from the inside out. Now here's Jay Glacier. 3 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: Welcome into Unbreakable mental Wealth podcast with Jay Glazer. I'm 4 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: Jay Glazer and I'm on my first wedding anniversary trip 5 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,960 Speaker 1: with my wife Rosie Glazer right now, and I think 6 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: it was a great time for us to bring back 7 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 1: our podcast of a year ago. When Rosie and I 8 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: got married, we listed twenty things on our honeymoon that 9 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: we used to find love later in life. So this 10 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: is part one. If whatever age you are, Rosie and 11 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 1: I had to do an awful lot of work. We 12 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 1: did a lot of things to figure out how to 13 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: find this love later in life. And recently we actually 14 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: ran into some of the NFL owners meeting where a 15 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: women just walked up to us and said, excuse me, 16 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: are you the couple that talks about love later in life? 17 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: So we said, man, we're onto something here. This is 18 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: great and as we're here on our honeymore our first anniversary, 19 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: we thought we'd go back. This is part one with 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: Rosie Glazer never too late to find Love. A lot 21 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: of hard work went into this for the two of 22 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,800 Speaker 1: us to find love later on life. I never knew 23 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: I was capable of feeling this level of joy until Rosie. 24 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 1: Until this, I always thought that i'd sabotage everything. I 25 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: always thought that I would grow alone. And I think 26 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: you also had kind of made it almost a decision, 27 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 1: right that, like, yeah, it's not gonna happen, and that's good. 28 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna take care everybody else in the world 29 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: except for you. Yeah. 30 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: I had always been looking for it, but I just 31 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 2: was like I was waiting. I was waiting for the 32 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 2: right person. But meanwhile I kept getting like older and older, 33 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 2: and then at some point I was like, oh my gosh, 34 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, my fifties and I still haven't 35 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 2: found it. 36 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 3: So it was really nice when I was found you, 37 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 3: and I was just preparing myself. 38 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: All right, So let's dive in here, right, We're gonna 39 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 1: go back and forth here. I think i'll kind of 40 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: you want me to read back and forth? Yeah, right? 41 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 1: So this is this is a no order, okay of 42 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: how we fell in love. 43 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 2: This is the one that I used for the principles 44 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 2: that I used when I was single and looking for love. 45 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: So first one here, good Rosie's. 46 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 2: Okay, So when you're single, it's the perfect time to 47 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 2: work on yourself so you could present the best version 48 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 2: of yourself. 49 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 3: To him or her. 50 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 2: Nothing would be worse than meeting mister Wright or meeting 51 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 2: the right person at the wrong time. So change your 52 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 2: situation by working on your body, your mind, your spirit, 53 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 2: work on your self confidence so that when the right 54 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 2: person does come along, you're a more confident and well 55 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 2: rounded person. So you can attract your soul. 56 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:38,839 Speaker 1: Name right now. So let's kind of expand on that here. 57 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people. Look again, Rosie and 58 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: I what she's talking about here. In the past, I 59 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: would have sabotaged everything, but I went and did so 60 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 1: much work, and Rosie and I broke up at one 61 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: point early on. She was you know, Rosie's for people 62 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: who don't know, she's an entrepreneur. She's owned thirty clothing 63 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 1: stores brick and mortar, and during COVID that was a 64 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: really hard time and you know, go save a lot 65 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: of brick and mortar stores. And at the time it 66 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: was really hard for me. But the best thing that 67 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: ever happened was because I wasn't the best version of myself, 68 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: I had to go work on myself become this version 69 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: that could accept this love when it was right. So 70 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 1: you did come into my life and save me at 71 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 1: that point, but I was still up to my old 72 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: tricks where I was sabotaging I was worthy, I was 73 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: pushing you away. And for people like me who my 74 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: mental health tells me you're not worthy of it, you 75 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 1: tend to sabotage because you know it's gonna end. The 76 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: living in question of when it's going to end is 77 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: more painful than an ending, so you force it to 78 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: end on your timeline. 79 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 3: Exactly. It's sabotaged, sabotage. 80 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: So I had to work do an awful lot of 81 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: work on myself to make sure when this time came 82 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: back around, we were in such a much better position 83 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: were it's. 84 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 3: Gonna be a forever love exactly and so. 85 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: But some of the stuff that you worked on also point. 86 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 2: And yeah, and at that time, when because my situation was, 87 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 2: you know, I was dealing with my business and COVID, 88 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 2: so I just like I finally had fell in love, 89 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: but then I had all these other outside circumstances that 90 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 2: I just had to go take care of. And so 91 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 2: when we did break up, that's what I was just 92 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 2: working on you know, my company and all these drama 93 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 2: with that. 94 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 3: So I did that. 95 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 2: But during that time, you did a lot of work 96 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 2: on yourself, which helped us when we got back together. 97 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,919 Speaker 4: Yes, you started doing as well, gratitude lest you started 98 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 4: doing a whole bunch of your soul. Right you you 99 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 4: really worked on different things. You made sure you worked 100 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 4: on I mean, you're always working on your body, but 101 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 4: but you kind of ramped it up and you know, 102 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 4: to help. I think the physical part helps between the 103 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 4: years also, but over time, Right, you have all these 104 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,600 Speaker 4: little notebooks to you know that you would write these 105 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 4: lists to help prepare you to get yourself ready for 106 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 4: that day. 107 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, I was always preparing myself for when I met 108 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 2: the right person so I can be the best version 109 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 2: of myself, so that I didn't have con over when 110 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 2: I was going to meet that person. But what I 111 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 2: did have control over was my actions and what I 112 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 2: could choose to focus on, because sometimes you get discouraged 113 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 2: because you're like waiting and wanting, and that's what you 114 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:14,720 Speaker 2: experienced when you're looking for your mister Wright. You're experiencing 115 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 2: wanting and waiting and all these things you have no 116 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 2: control over of when you're going to meet that person. 117 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 2: But you do have control over what you can choose 118 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 2: to focus on, which is like the stuff I had 119 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:27,799 Speaker 2: control on, which is my you know, mind, my body, 120 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,839 Speaker 2: my spirit, my career, the things I had control over, 121 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:32,039 Speaker 2: so that. 122 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: You know your own podcast is good. Right, So my 123 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:39,160 Speaker 1: first one was be Vulnerable. And you know, for years 124 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: I created this character the Good Women, right, but it 125 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 1: was a character wasn't real, so nothing was sustainable for 126 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:48,600 Speaker 1: me on TV. It was a mask. I wore, a mask. 127 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: I created this character so no one saw the pain 128 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 1: that I was in. Once I started opening up to 129 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:58,839 Speaker 1: people about my depression anxiety, that's when relationships begot and 130 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: that's the biggest thing. It's even happening. Like in football, 131 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: I know of coach is saying to me, I want 132 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: players who are vulnerable. I want a team, a team full. 133 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: So this is football players. I want a team full 134 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: of vulnerable people. But these are badasses. So once I 135 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:15,919 Speaker 1: started doing that, and then you know, when I first 136 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 1: met you, I was the glades and I just come 137 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: from this big meeting and I was trying to show 138 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: off about all the things I had done, and you 139 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: didn't really give a shit about that. You could care 140 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: less about that. Again, Rosie's done it all. Rosie had 141 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: a very very very successful career modeling. She was a 142 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: pioneer as a black model. She broke the color barrier 143 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: for Fredericks of Hollywood for the first black model Fredericks 144 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: of Hollywood Step thirty national ad campaigns. She was a 145 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: playboy's Price is Right and then she had a very 146 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: successful retail clothing company. So she didn't care about my businesses, 147 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: my television, and she did care about She saw me 148 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: life coaching veterans and players, and the vulnerability is what 149 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: got you. 150 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I first saw you, and that's what 151 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 2: I really like noticed. I was like, wow, this you 152 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 2: were doing something with MVP and you were helping all 153 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 2: these people and. 154 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 3: You were like just doing what you normally do. 155 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 2: But I was like, wow, this guy is out there 156 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 2: helping so many people, Like he's taking care of so 157 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: many people. But who's taking care of him? Is what 158 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 2: I wanted to know because you're so you've always done 159 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 2: that and that's what attracted me the most to you 160 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 2: and really like got my attention. 161 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: So the point is be real and vulnerable and raw 162 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: and let that person like, let the person sitting on 163 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: the other side of that table at whatever date or 164 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: a bar or gay whatever you're aut let them see 165 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:44,559 Speaker 1: that person, let them like and love that person, because 166 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 1: that's sustainable. And then you don't got to fake it, 167 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: you don't got to show off. It can be real, 168 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 1: right Yeah, Okay, number three here is well I love 169 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 1: this one too. 170 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 3: Oh this one was. 171 00:07:57,880 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is one that I really This is why 172 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 2: I'm still used to this day. And it's just your 173 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 2: one away. But you're just one way, one one away 174 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 2: from meeting that person who can change your life forever. 175 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 2: You're one person away from one loved way, one meeting away, 176 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 2: one dinner away, when conversation away from changing your life. 177 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, absolutely love that, right, Like you never know, 178 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: And if I could just jump in here because just 179 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: you know, Rosie and I are kind of reading down 180 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: in our notes from from our honeymoon, so we're kind 181 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 1: of going back, so a lot of it is, you know, gibberous, 182 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 1: we just kind of see, but like we didn't know 183 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: that that night all of a sudden and we met. 184 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: It's gonna change your lives And that's. 185 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 3: Me and that's exactly it could be. 186 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 2: Like, just you're just like that one evening, and that 187 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 2: one night was something that changed my life. 188 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,559 Speaker 3: I was just one away from meeting this night, from 189 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:45,439 Speaker 3: meeting you. 190 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 2: And that's what like, you have to always remember so 191 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 2: you don't get discouraged, because it's easy to get discouraged 192 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 2: when things aren't going your way and you're feeling like 193 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 2: it seems so far away, so far away, but you're 194 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 2: just literally one one chance encounter away that you're going 195 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 2: to meet that person and it all of a sudden 196 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 2: your life changes. So instead of getting discouraged, just think 197 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 2: that you know and you want to prepare yourself, which 198 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 2: I talked about earlier, so when you do meet your 199 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 2: one away, you're actually you got the best presentation of yourself. 200 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:13,599 Speaker 1: I love that when you said that to me, like 201 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:15,679 Speaker 1: just went away, and I'm like, you're right because I 202 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:17,679 Speaker 1: used to look good. I'm like, so far you got 203 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 1: to meet someone and then you got to court them, 204 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: and then you got to have everything fall in place, 205 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:25,079 Speaker 1: and you know, it's just bam, my life changing. It 206 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 1: was one conversation. You and I have a conversation about God. 207 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:29,320 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and we're. 208 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:33,559 Speaker 1: Both very spiritual book, but God people and you see 209 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 1: religion or anything like that. We're just we're vulner and 210 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: we just talked about I talked about how God's my 211 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: best friend and it took me a long time to 212 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:42,199 Speaker 1: get to where I am. And I just wouldn't ask 213 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: God to help get me a job or get me money, 214 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: or make me rich, or make this happen and make that. 215 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: It's just like, hey, I got it. Just I'm willing 216 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: to get knocked out more than but the plan, pip 217 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: me up, brush me off, and just let's keep walking 218 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: this walk together because just how our numbers. And she's like, 219 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: oh my God, that's that's great. And I said, I 220 00:09:58,440 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: wake up every day, said I love you God, because 221 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 1: easier to go about life and you have love, and 222 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 1: it just changed everything. Has one conversation. 223 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 2: It was we were to start one to wait one 224 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 2: conversation by meeting, one run one night away. 225 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 4: From our lives changing. Okay, here's my second one. Both 226 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 4: people have to change, you know. They say, oh, you 227 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 4: don't mean anybody who's. 228 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: Going to change you. That's garbage. You've got to change. 229 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: You both have to change right now, the core you. 230 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: You don't want anybody changing the core you. But you've 231 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: got to change, Like, you know, if Rosie and I 232 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: both had to h what do they call it? 233 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 4: Now? 234 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: You give it your your you meet in the middle. Compromise, 235 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,559 Speaker 1: Compromising is changing. But people are like, I don't want this. 236 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 1: I'm not going to change with this person. You gotta change. 237 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: It's two different lots, So I don't want to be 238 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: hard at it. So I realized, Okay, I've got to 239 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: change a lot of things to make it fit Rosie's life, 240 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: and Rosie has to change a lot of things to 241 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: fit my life. And that's okay, So don't be hard 242 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 1: aaded about that. So many of us we stand firm 243 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: on that, and a lot of it is ego. If 244 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: I didn't compromise, I wouldn't be here with Rosie right now. 245 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: She didn't compromise, she wouldn't be here right now. And 246 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: I think we're both happier. 247 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 2: And we have to change for each other exactly and 248 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 2: compromise and communicate, which is really good so you both 249 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 2: can get what you need out. 250 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 3: Of the relationship. 251 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: All right, here's your number three. 252 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 3: So this is when you know I was. This is 253 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 3: the third one is just say yes to opportunities. 254 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,079 Speaker 2: Opportunities instead of saying no, even if it doesn't sound 255 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 2: like seting you normally want to do. 256 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:23,160 Speaker 1: Just do it. 257 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 3: If you don't have. 258 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 2: The only people to meet her who the FedEx guy 259 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,199 Speaker 2: in the ups. That's if you don't get out of 260 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 2: your house and you don't just get out there could 261 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 2: you never know like where it could be, You could 262 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 2: be you know, wherever, but you have exactly you have to. 263 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 3: To get out. 264 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:43,679 Speaker 2: So you put yourself in situations that you normally wouldn't 265 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 2: be in so you can meet other people. Because when 266 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 2: you're alone, it's it's easy to isolate. Then you're like, oh, 267 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,079 Speaker 2: I'm just going to stay here and watch TV and 268 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: hang out with my dog. But if you're doing that, 269 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 2: you're really your chances really go down. So it's always 270 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:01,199 Speaker 2: even if you're not the nude, you know, fight that 271 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 2: isolation like your life love life depends on it, because 272 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: it I want you to say that again. So fight 273 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 2: the isolation like your love life depends on it, because 274 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 2: it actually does. 275 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: That's great, and that's yeah, a lot of us sit here. 276 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit home and I'm not going to go 277 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:17,760 Speaker 1: out and nobody's gonna like me. I don't want to 278 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: deal with it at all. And then we just the 279 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,959 Speaker 1: isolation man just more depressed, and then it seems so 280 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 1: much further away. So as Rosie saying, yeah, just there 281 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 1: was a time I said, how do you mean guys? 282 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: He said, I talked to the FedEx guy. That's what 283 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,319 Speaker 1: I said, you date the kindest guys, goes No, it's 284 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: really the only guy I see though, because he comes 285 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 1: to my business every day he drop off packages. I said, 286 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: how are you supposed to meet the guys? She's like, well, 287 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: that's why how to change? Yeah, that's why you came 288 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:42,959 Speaker 1: over that time ready to start. 289 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:45,599 Speaker 2: Coding exactly, because that was something I normally may not 290 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 2: have done because I had drive all the way across town, 291 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:51,719 Speaker 2: but I did, and so by doing so, that's what like, 292 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 2: you know, I ended up meeting you because we don't 293 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:55,439 Speaker 2: run into the same circles, we don't hang around the 294 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 2: same people, So I never would have met you had 295 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 2: I not did something different out of the norm that 296 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 2: I normal, that I wouldn't do. 297 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:03,199 Speaker 3: So that's that's what you have. 298 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 1: By the way, people are like, oh, of course she's 299 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: with your europe television this and that. Rosie does not 300 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 1: watch sports. She had no idea who I was, and 301 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: Rosie had her own money and nothing to do with it. 302 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: In fact, one of the things one of her business 303 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: was going through with COVID. My gay bab, I'm gonna 304 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: jump in. She's like, absolutely not. I'm not going to 305 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:26,120 Speaker 1: be like every other girl who's taken from you. If anything, 306 00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 1: I'll help you. You're not gonna help me, right. 307 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 2: You were operating and stuff. But I was like, you 308 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 2: know what, I got myself into this mess. I'll get 309 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 2: myself out, which I did and that felt good to work. 310 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:38,599 Speaker 3: And you know, like do what I have to do. 311 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: And by the way, the message, you know, Rose again 312 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,040 Speaker 1: had these clothing stories in COVID. Here in California, nothing 313 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: open and rent she gotta pay your rent. Really, nothing's opening. 314 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: It was just it was hard for us. I'm breakable 315 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: everywhere intown. Okay, So here's my next one. This is 316 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:57,319 Speaker 1: our six point yere be reassuring without having to be 317 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 1: asked for a shirt. So, in other words, like a 318 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: lot of times, a lot of us have these insecurities, right, 319 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:06,760 Speaker 1: and the only time a lot of us and we 320 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: get the reassurance after we melt down about it, after 321 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: we do something about it. So be proactive when you 322 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 1: are with that person, reassure, let them know how much you. 323 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 3: Love I tell you, yeah, yeah, we both do that. 324 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:22,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. And you also come to me, how you doing today? 325 00:14:22,520 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 1: What's going on with you today? And if you see 326 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: them off, Hey, what's going on with you today? You don't. 327 00:14:26,560 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: You won't wait for me to melt down. If we're 328 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 1: assure me, hey, hey, what's what's going on? Hey, let's 329 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:34,120 Speaker 1: go do something together. Hey, I got you today. So 330 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 1: even if Rosie has something else going on, she reassures 331 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: me everything is going to be okay with us. And 332 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: that was me. I had abandonment issues, which is weird. 333 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 1: I don't know why. I look, it's not my folks. 334 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: My folks didn't leave or anything like that. And I 335 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: think I kind of know why, but but she constantly 336 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: reassures me. And I think you never get tired of it, right, 337 00:14:53,560 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 1: And that's all. Don't make me feel like I'm tired 338 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: of always reassuring you. A lot of us are in 339 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: a place where, again, we're never felt that we're worthy 340 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: of being loved, So it's odd for us, and we 341 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 1: always think it's going to go away and get taken away. 342 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 1: So spend your life where you're ssuring the next person. 343 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're really good at that. 344 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: Right, spend your life doing that. And also the kind 345 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: of part of that is you're on the same team. Okay, 346 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: So the reassuring thing is we don't even win arguments, right, 347 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: we give each other multiple get out of. 348 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 2: Jail for you, and you know what, we don't hold 349 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 2: I don't hold a grudge at all. If we have 350 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 2: a disagreement or whatever, I shake it off. 351 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:33,400 Speaker 1: I don't. 352 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:34,600 Speaker 3: I don't carry it on. 353 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 2: I'm just like, you know what, I forget and forget 354 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 2: and that's how it should be so your relationship can 355 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 2: can move on. Because if you're always keeping score and 356 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:44,640 Speaker 2: always holding a grudge and always coming out at that angle, 357 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:47,200 Speaker 2: then it's really hard for the other person to get 358 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 2: off the hook. 359 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 1: And that's one of the grest things. You don't try 360 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: and win arguments. I do sometimes and then at the 361 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 1: end of it, I'm like, I'm an idiot. I'm sorry, 362 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 1: And no matter what, I make sure she's good. We 363 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:01,200 Speaker 1: never go to bed angry any show like, we always 364 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 1: make sure we talk it up, because that's part of 365 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 1: the reassurance. I can't have a night living in question 366 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 1: of oh my gonna wake up and she's gonna be gone. 367 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: Like we just make sure it ends there. That's one 368 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:12,240 Speaker 1: of the things Rosie does for me. She goes, hey, 369 00:16:12,240 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 1: I'm not going anywhere. I got you, even if she's angry, 370 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: so angry with me, she does it. And that's the 371 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: part of again not keeping score right, and so you'll 372 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,640 Speaker 1: try and break up situations for me, but at the 373 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:27,040 Speaker 1: same time with you also, like you've had some rough things, 374 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: you know, with your dog passing or your business something. 375 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 1: I always made sure that I made everything else in 376 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:33,040 Speaker 1: your life great. 377 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 3: Yea, So we can't enough. 378 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:38,720 Speaker 2: You're sure, you're definitely that's where sure, yeah, very very 379 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 2: supportive and reassuring. 380 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: So if you're your husband or wife are struggling with 381 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: work or something like that, just reassure them with your 382 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: words but also with your actions and make it every 383 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:49,240 Speaker 1: day and every night thing. 384 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: And sometimes the person just needs to communicate and talk 385 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,280 Speaker 2: and just get it all out and then you can 386 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 2: move on from there point here. 387 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: Baby. 388 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 2: So so yeah, and then like when when I was, 389 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 2: when I did get my opportunity to find date or whatever, 390 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 2: you just have to get really interested in the person 391 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,199 Speaker 2: that's sitting across from you. That's one of the biggest 392 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: turn ons is showing interest in everything you know that's you, 393 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:15,719 Speaker 2: so share the real stuff and not what you think 394 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:17,680 Speaker 2: that people want to hear. Just really, you know, get 395 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 2: to know them and you know, listen just as much 396 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 2: as you talk. So then that way they can get 397 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 2: to know you. You can get to know them, but 398 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:27,000 Speaker 2: really be interested in getting to know them. I think 399 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:27,879 Speaker 2: that's a turn on too. 400 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 1: I think the biggest takeaway from that bit is when 401 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,879 Speaker 1: we go on dates, we tend to lead with our 402 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 1: highlights and like us. So instead of talking about the 403 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:41,440 Speaker 1: other person, you're trying to lead what's so great about 404 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 1: you to the person who like you? Well, Rosie's saying 405 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:46,399 Speaker 1: the thing that she loved the most is again she 406 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:49,920 Speaker 1: didn't know anything about sports or footballer and then that 407 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:53,680 Speaker 1: although crazy part is what real here's my addin. Rosie 408 00:17:53,680 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 1: actually graduated UCLA with broadcast journalism and in turn at 409 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:01,000 Speaker 1: Fox Sports. And then I means before I ever got there, 410 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, we didn't have anybody was when you 411 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:05,439 Speaker 1: were doing Playboy. You don't have everybody in the research 412 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: department Playboy like you got to kidd me, but oh 413 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:11,240 Speaker 1: my god, But so even with that she knows nothing 414 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:15,399 Speaker 1: about sports. She so the biggest thing I could do 415 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:18,200 Speaker 1: with hers, hey tell me about you, telling about your life. 416 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 1: And she still says to me, hey, ask more about 417 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 1: me because I get self absorbed. I'm in my football 418 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: world that ask more about me. Now we're a point 419 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 1: where then we know everything about each other for the 420 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: most part, but if something does come up, I know 421 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: what she turns around the most is for me to 422 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 1: ask more about her, her family, her upbringing, her journey, 423 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: her story. So instead of leaving with all your highlights, 424 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:41,440 Speaker 1: the highlights should be that person. 425 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 3: Across from you exactly. 426 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 2: And that's that's and that's a turnout for there or 427 00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:48,120 Speaker 2: just and it's like it's attractive to if someone's really 428 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:49,680 Speaker 2: interested in you and they want to find out where 429 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: you you know, how your family was and growing up 430 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:55,480 Speaker 2: and just just anything that's it's very right, it's it's 431 00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 2: really good quality. 432 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 1: Next one here, shower your partner with compliments. 433 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:02,440 Speaker 3: You're really good at that. 434 00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 1: You do it every day every day. My job is 435 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: and lift are up. My friend jac Blick is is saying, 436 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 1: we lift while we climb, and you know that's what 437 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 1: you're doing together where you're a partner you got are 438 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:15,639 Speaker 1: climbing together. You're climbing these mountains, you're climbing these hurdles. 439 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:17,440 Speaker 1: You don't need guidebooks when things are great. 440 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's when things aren't so great that you really 441 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 3: wanted you have to do the work, So we got 442 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 3: to climb over together, exactly. 443 00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: So if you're constantly building your partner up, when the 444 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: rough stuff happens, you're both at a higher level to 445 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: jump over those, to hurdle them. If you're both sitting 446 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: there in this pit, you got a much higher level. 447 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: You got much more room to go to jump in. Yeah. 448 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 2: And sometimes you're like, when one person's life is good 449 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 2: at that time, the other one's not. So it's like, 450 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 2: you know, it's always like it's very rare that both 451 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 2: partners everything's going great at the same time. 452 00:19:51,680 --> 00:19:52,160 Speaker 1: So it's good. 453 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 3: If another person's you know, a little weak, then you 454 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,199 Speaker 3: can be strong. And it's it's given a. 455 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: Take, right, all right? 456 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 3: So number ten here, Oh I think this might be yours, 457 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:03,359 Speaker 3: but I think this is yours. This is yours. 458 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, well okay, because yes, this is not like 459 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 5: how I would talk about Yeah, I think I wrote 460 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,320 Speaker 5: it down for it, but it was your thing like 461 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 5: those well, it's the two of them. The old rules 462 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 5: like there. 463 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 3: Used to be oh yes, yes, the book. 464 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:21,320 Speaker 1: There's a book basically about how to date. And it 465 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: was like if they text, don't text back. Wait two days, wait, 466 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 1: three day. That rules have change totally. 467 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't because if you're if you're playing hard 468 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:31,840 Speaker 2: to get and you're like not if someone you know, 469 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:34,159 Speaker 2: I think those rules have changed. So if someone texts 470 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 2: you and or text you and you want to text 471 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 2: them back, text them back and respond, don't be like, oh, 472 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,400 Speaker 2: they always have to be the one to make the move, 473 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:43,679 Speaker 2: because then the guy or the girl might be like, oh, 474 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 2: they're not interested because there's so. 475 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,280 Speaker 1: Many there's tender in this and that, and then mumble 476 00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:52,159 Speaker 1: in whatever, right, well, you can just it's it's your turnerships. 477 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 1: Like back in the day, you could afford to do it, 478 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:56,480 Speaker 1: even though I don't agree with it. Then even back then, 479 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:58,359 Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna express a person and be like I 480 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: like this person I'm gonna call man like oh no, 481 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:02,120 Speaker 1: this person called too. 482 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 3: Soon exactly exactly. 483 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:04,800 Speaker 1: You know. 484 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 3: Sometimes it's nice to sit of thinking of you or whoever. 485 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 2: So the person they're on the mind because if you're 486 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 2: just making the other person do all the work that 487 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,000 Speaker 2: it really appears like they're maybe are not interested, and 488 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,879 Speaker 2: you play too hard to get, then they give up. 489 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 2: So that's a really important one is that, Yeah, don't 490 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 2: play games by not texting back right away or playing 491 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,120 Speaker 2: you know, hard to get, show interest in that you're 492 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 2: genuinely interested. If you have fun, express it, put out 493 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 2: enough to where the person is filled with hope that 494 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,240 Speaker 2: you want to they want you, guys want to see 495 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 2: each other again. Then if you're playing too hard to 496 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,640 Speaker 2: get and you're waiting for them to do all the work, 497 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,680 Speaker 2: then they just give up because it's like, oh, she's 498 00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:40,280 Speaker 2: not interested. 499 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 1: So that's like I would, I would find reasons to 500 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:46,920 Speaker 1: reach out to you now. Again, like Rosie's very successful 501 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: business career, So I was at that point, I'm like, hey, 502 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,879 Speaker 1: do you have an attorney for this or do you 503 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 1: have some different so for my business pass unbreakable and 504 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: I would just kind of come up with excuses to 505 00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: to just stay and then what I would ask her 506 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:01,639 Speaker 1: about it. We just talked for a little bit, we 507 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,479 Speaker 1: got to know each other, so I didn't and I understand, Look, 508 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 1: there's a balance of people going, oh my gosh, this 509 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: person's crazy. But also how about this for for something, 510 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:13,959 Speaker 1: if someone's texting calling, maybe they're not needy. Maybe they 511 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 1: just really like you. 512 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 2: Exactly, and that's like you If they don't call, then 513 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 2: you're like, wait, they're not calling. But when they do, 514 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 2: you have to like be you know, it goes, it 515 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 2: goes a ping pong. If you so, then you can 516 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:26,880 Speaker 2: get you know, the relationship going. 517 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,360 Speaker 1: But also like if someone is needy and you guys 518 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 1: kind of meet in this middle here, like I was 519 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 1: very neat, but you're not so much now turned into 520 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 1: away from that. 521 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, but you've changed because I've reassured you that 522 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 2: you know, I'm not going anywhere, and it's something that 523 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 2: you know through time, Like it's not you're not that 524 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:47,280 Speaker 2: way at all. 525 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 1: Right, But like my mental health issues, the depression tells 526 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 1: me that like a lot of times I wake up 527 00:22:55,080 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 1: in the morning like everybody hates me. Yeah, everybody hates me. 528 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 1: All my friends hate me, and it sucks, like can 529 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 1: I didn't sign up for this, Like I don't want 530 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,680 Speaker 1: to live life like this. I don't mean to. And 531 00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 1: here I'm fifty turning fifty four, and I still have it. 532 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 1: So if I control it, I would, but I can't. 533 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,720 Speaker 1: And it's just how I wake up. And it's like 534 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 1: it could be in the middle of a day or 535 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 1: someone doesn't call me back. A lot of times somebody 536 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,120 Speaker 1: doesn't going back. I'm like, ah, the business. But sometimes 537 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,040 Speaker 1: they I'm calling back and I just think that, oh, 538 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,920 Speaker 1: this person just hates me here, this person's angry. So 539 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,239 Speaker 1: it's something that's still there. So that's the whole thing 540 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,640 Speaker 1: of like I was very needy, but she constantly was like, Okay, 541 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 1: I'm going to work on that with him. And now 542 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 1: look what you got. 543 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're way more sure, You're right, more confident, 544 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 2: and it's something that it built over time and now 545 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:45,159 Speaker 2: you know that. 546 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:45,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 547 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:49,280 Speaker 3: Sometimes it's just right down in the moment. 548 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 1: And part of this and I'm going to jump in again. 549 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:54,120 Speaker 1: The playing field is different now, yeah than always ask 550 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:59,200 Speaker 1: me right. So there's apps, there's social media, there's I 551 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: said it playing for you. Different is people are constantly 552 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: posting their highlights or what they think you want to hear. 553 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 1: We brought that up before, where they think you want 554 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: to hear, and that isn't a connection. But also because 555 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 1: this world is so immediate. There's so many things that 556 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 1: we get so wrapped up. Data takes up so much 557 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 1: of our brain that we might get blown off or 558 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 1: pushed away. It may have nothing to do with us whatsoever. 559 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, don't take things personal, because sometimes you do, and 560 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:31,440 Speaker 2: you like think that there's something wrong with you or 561 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,560 Speaker 2: why you know, what's what's the matter with me? 562 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 3: But it's not. 563 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,720 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's not. So just that's a good advice. They 564 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,359 Speaker 2: could get someone who just don't take things personal, right, and. 565 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,200 Speaker 1: Then it just hey, thing's good. And like for Rose again, 566 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,159 Speaker 1: in the early days, it was hard for her to 567 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,760 Speaker 1: come see me a lot because she had all these 568 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 1: stores and in COVID she had everybody her roundages off 569 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,159 Speaker 1: and everybody off, so she had a bounce around all 570 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 1: over this but from Stuart to store to store, and 571 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: she didn't have the time for me. 572 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,240 Speaker 3: And I liked you. I just I was in a 573 00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:58,720 Speaker 3: situation where like during that. 574 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:02,119 Speaker 1: W like me, yes, and you're like, look, I like you. 575 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,600 Speaker 1: It's not you. I just have all these responsibilities. So really, again, 576 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,360 Speaker 1: over communicate, I really do like you. I know what's 577 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:09,920 Speaker 1: going to seem like I don't want to see you, 578 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 1: but hey, I know she would over communicate. Here's my schedule. Yeah, 579 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: I'm working eighteen hour days here I have, but also 580 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 1: you make the effort like I have one hour on 581 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,560 Speaker 1: this day and I'm one free hour and if you 582 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,120 Speaker 1: can get over here, I'd love to spend it with you. Right, 583 00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 1: do it and would sacrificed too. You'd be like, well, 584 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: I'm exhausted, but no, but I've got to put I've 585 00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:32,119 Speaker 1: got to work on this right. 586 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:35,120 Speaker 2: And sometimes life's like that. It never happens when you're 587 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,400 Speaker 2: thinking it's going to happen like that. When we met, 588 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,639 Speaker 2: it was, you know, in awper, like the timing was 589 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,040 Speaker 2: a little off, but we made it work. 590 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,159 Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed Part one of It's Never too 591 00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 1: Late to Find Love. Sorry my wife Rosie Glazer. Part 592 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 1: two will come up next week and we're here on 593 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,960 Speaker 1: our first year anniversary. I hope we're able to share 594 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 1: things with you. I can help you and you find 595 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 1: that person. No matter what point you are in life, 596 00:25:58,920 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 1: someone's out there for you.