WEBVTT - Second Cup: Routines are like a rose garden

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Today's tip is that routines are like rose gardens. Even

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<v Speaker 3>the best routines need tending from time to time, so

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<v Speaker 3>it is best not to expect that you can ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Set it and forget it. This episode is first airing

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<v Speaker 2>in the middle of summer, at least in the Northern Hemisphere,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's a time when for many of us our

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<v Speaker 2>routines look a little different. Sometimes that's great, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>it's more frustrating. If you had a great routine of

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<v Speaker 2>exercising after your kid got on the school bus in

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<v Speaker 2>the morning, now she's in a camp where you need

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<v Speaker 2>to drive her each day. It changes the routine. Even

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<v Speaker 2>if you enjoy the time with your kid, it was

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<v Speaker 2>probably not easy to build that exercise routine. Seeing it

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<v Speaker 2>disappear can make you worry if you'll ever be able

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<v Speaker 2>to take it back up again. I know I have

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<v Speaker 2>struggled with this. My work routines involved mostly doing focused

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<v Speaker 2>work when the kids are out of the house, which

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<v Speaker 2>they were for many hours during the school year. Not

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<v Speaker 2>everyone is in camp every week during the summer. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I have to rethink what is possible to do

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<v Speaker 2>with more people around. So it goes. I love reading

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<v Speaker 2>about routines and studying the routines of successful people, but

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<v Speaker 2>every time I read about some great routine, I have

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<v Speaker 2>to remember that this is just a snapshot in time.

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<v Speaker 2>Very few people can maintain the exact same routine every day,

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<v Speaker 2>or even five days a week for long stretches of time.

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<v Speaker 2>People change jobs or move to different homes. They have

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<v Speaker 2>new babies, or see babies grow up and graduate, kids

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<v Speaker 2>change schools, or decide to start or end different activities.

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<v Speaker 2>You can have a great routine working out with a friend,

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<v Speaker 2>and then that friend unfortunately moves nor gets injured. Since

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<v Speaker 2>all of these changes are to some degree inevitable, it

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<v Speaker 2>is best to view routines more like we view a

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<v Speaker 2>rose garden. We have some beautiful roses blooming all summer

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<v Speaker 2>by my house. Planting them and getting them to grow

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<v Speaker 2>requires a reasonable amount of work. After that, it's more

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<v Speaker 2>pruning and watering. But again it's not nothing. No one

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<v Speaker 2>plants a garden and says, hey, good, I'll never have

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<v Speaker 2>to touch that thing again. Instead, the regular tending is

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<v Speaker 2>part of the process. You don't need to plant a

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<v Speaker 2>new garden every day by any means. Even after the winter,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a lot that's still there that you can work with.

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<v Speaker 2>But you do have to do a little work here

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<v Speaker 2>and there to make sure that things still bloom, and

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<v Speaker 2>you need to replace the occasional plant. If animals are

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<v Speaker 2>drought or anything else has worked.

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<v Speaker 3>Its mischief.

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<v Speaker 2>When you expect routines to change over time, you can

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<v Speaker 2>simply appreciate them while they are working. Then when they

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<v Speaker 2>stop working, or when life forces a change, you can

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<v Speaker 2>simply acknowledge that such change is inevitable. It is not

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<v Speaker 2>that anything was wrong. Something worked for a while, and

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<v Speaker 2>now you do something else. The roses will still be beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>They just need some effort from time to time. In

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<v Speaker 2>the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 2>to making the.

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