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Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you

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Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe

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Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with

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Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how

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Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you.

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Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're

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Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help

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Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and

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Speaker 2: My question is what do you do in a relationship

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Speaker 2: when you feel that you are now in an a

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Speaker 2: routine and you might love this person, however it's not

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Speaker 2: the same.

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Speaker 1: No more straight to the point, Cilita, I like that. Okay, Look,

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Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever been in a relationship that long.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how many years you've been with your

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Speaker 1: fall into a routine. I think it is important on

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Speaker 1: wanting to spice things up, with having constant conversations with

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Speaker 1: having date nights, talking, communicating with each other like Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm missing this. I want a little bit more of this.

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Speaker 1: I think it's important to explain to your partner what

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Speaker 1: it is that you're missing. Communication solves everything, you guys,

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Speaker 1: well most of everything, not everything, or it can help

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Speaker 1: you discover things. You know, maybe you guys fell out

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Speaker 1: of love. Maybe there is a chance try couples therapy.

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Speaker 1: I think it's super important to have therapy. You guys know,

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Speaker 1: I love therapy as an individual and also for couples therapy,

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Speaker 1: premarital counseling, all that stuff. So I would suggest you

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Speaker 1: having a deep conversation and talking to your partner and saying, hey,

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Speaker 1: I feel like something's missing. What can we do? Can

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Speaker 1: we save this? Can we I don't know, spice things up,

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Speaker 1: Like there's so many different things that you guys can

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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, because there's nothing worse than just

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Speaker 1: one way or another. So that is my advice to you.

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Speaker 1: Definitely communicating with your partner and both of you finding

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Speaker 1: because there's a reason why you, guys fell in love

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Speaker 1: in the first place, So don't forget that, all right,

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Speaker 1: So we're going to move on to our next question,

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Speaker 1: and that is from Marcella all.

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Speaker 4: Persona m this tempo tengo pensando.

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Speaker 5: Asses conto contoso kias is conto camp closet, quias is

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Speaker 1: Well, guys, for those of you that don't speak Spanish,

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Speaker 1: Marcella is asking me. She says she loves my style,

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Speaker 4: Do I donate?

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Speaker 1: Do I have garage shells? She's suggesting for me to

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Speaker 1: And I just answered, Marcella, you guys. I just told

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Speaker 1: So now what I'm doing is not spending so much

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Speaker 1: Marcella's question and that was my response, and Marcella STANDO

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Speaker 3: How do you feel when people bring up the past,

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Speaker 3: the arguments between you and your mom? How do you

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Speaker 3: handle that? I am very pond of you, and I

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Speaker 3: to say, you look one like your mom on stage.

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Speaker 3: I admire you, and I feel for you. I'm always

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Speaker 4: Ah, Maria, You're so sweet.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna make me cry. Thank you so much. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for your prayers. Thank you for praying for me

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Speaker 4: For so many reasons.

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Speaker 1: You know, I pray for my siblings all the time

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Speaker 1: guys send me. Maria, thank you send my family, and

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Speaker 1: I appreciate it, you know what. I've learned to accept

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm healed from that part of my life.

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Speaker 1: and this is why I have Cheeky's and chill because

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Speaker 1: I want to be able to express the things that

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Speaker 4: It's a huge part of it. Actually.

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Speaker 1: In order to change lives the way that I feel

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Speaker 1: I meant to change lives, I need to be willing

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Speaker 1: and I hope that answered the question that you had.

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Speaker 1: And again, Maria, thank you so much. I'm sending you

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Speaker 1: for you. Thank you for your love and guys. This

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