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Speaker 1: by it through faith. The faith is also a gift.

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Speaker 1: That's the tricky part. You are saved by grace through faith,

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Speaker 1: you believe. I don't think I don't think I need

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Speaker 1: to say it a fifth time. I think I'm clear. Now.

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Speaker 1: After faith, after after your faith, you you will repent,

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Speaker 1: you will ask for forgiveness. You will hate your sin slowly.

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Speaker 1: That's called sanctification. I'm gonna I'm just gonna go ahead

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Speaker 1: and say these things again. Even though I said it

432
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: earlier on this podcast, I want to say it one

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Speaker 1: more time, just to make make sure that this question

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Speaker 1: is heard. Becky, and I think it's a great question,

435
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: by the way. I think it's it's a it's a

436
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 1: great question, and it's it's very understandable because it's easy

437
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:54,959
Speaker 1: to think, Wait a minute, you're saying you did. I

438
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 1: hear you say you're saved by grace through faith. But

439
00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: what about murder. Let's I could just go out and

440
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:04,120
Speaker 1: kill somebody tomorrow. You could just I could just go

441
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: I could say, yeah, I believe in Jesus, and I

442
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 1: go kill somebody and I still go to heaven. You

443
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 1: won't want to you won't want to. And as we

444
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 1: said earlier, James too says faith without works is dead.

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00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,639
Speaker 1: What he means is the works as a result of

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Speaker 1: the faith. And if if you don't have the works,

447
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Speaker 1: then you have to consider, maybe I don't have the

448
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Speaker 1: faith to begin with. If I'm willing to go out

449
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Speaker 1: and murder and be and not care and not be,

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Speaker 1: not be have a repentful mind about it, If I'm

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Speaker 1: willing to do that over and over and over, then

452
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: you probably didn't have the faith that it required to

453
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Speaker 1: begin with. Right, It probably wasn't real. As James says,

454
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Speaker 1: it was probably dead. And that's that's a that's a

455
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Speaker 1: good sign for you. That's a good that's a good

456
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Speaker 1: barometer because because and I could speak for myself in

457
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Speaker 1: my life, it's you can't just say I believe. You

458
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: can't just say it. You can't just say it and

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Speaker 1: it's done right. You can't be fifteen years old and

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Speaker 1: you go to your church and you get baptized, and

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00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: you go they say do you believe in Jesus? And

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Speaker 1: you say yes. They said, do you accept Jesus into

463
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Speaker 1: your heart? You say yes, and it's just lip service,

464
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: and then you go out the next day and you're like,

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Speaker 1: you're like pickpocketing people for cash and going buying and

466
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: selling drugs and paying prostitutes. Okay, then obviously when you

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00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: said that at church, it wasn't real. It wasn't from

468
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Speaker 1: your heart. You haven't dove into the word and and

469
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Speaker 1: craving the word, like diving in and praying our fervent prayer,

470
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Speaker 1: like God, God, God, save me, poor your spirit in

471
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Speaker 1: to let me trust you, let me believe you, let

472
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Speaker 1: me know this. Increase my faith. My faith is wavering here.

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Speaker 1: I'd feel unbalanced. I don't know if this whole thing

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Speaker 1: is real for me or not. Increase that. Show yourself,

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Speaker 1: be present to me. These are things that you see

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Speaker 1: in the Bible. David says, this kind of stuff in

477
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Speaker 1: the Psalms a lot. You see this, you see you

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Speaker 1: see show yourself. Don't hide your face from me. Pour

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Speaker 1: your spirit Him into me God. So these are things

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Speaker 1: that you need to be saying if you have doubt

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Speaker 1: and if you are still what did you say a

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Speaker 1: rapist and a murder in a child molester? Because the

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Speaker 1: answer is to you, is a rapist, a child molester,

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Speaker 1: a murder forgivable? The answer is absolutely yes, yes, and

485
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Speaker 1: all the ears of the podcast said, ouch, did he

486
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Speaker 1: really just say that? Yes, because we're all sinners, we're

487
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Speaker 1: all dead in our trespasses. We all need to be reborn,

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Speaker 1: we all need the grace of God to save us.

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Speaker 1: And we can't rank ourselves as sinners. We can't rak

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Speaker 1: ourselves and go, well, I mean, yes, I'm a sinner

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Speaker 1: every once in a while to tell a lie. Okay,

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Speaker 1: every once in a while, I'll steal a song on

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Speaker 1: the internet, I'll download a free song. But at least

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Speaker 1: I'm not a rapist like God. God hates the rapist.

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00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: So I steal, like I lie a little bit, like

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Speaker 1: I break the first commandment, which is put God first,

497
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: basically put God above all. There are no other gods

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Speaker 1: above him. Well, I mean, I really love my job,

499
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: and I really love this and that. But you know,

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Speaker 1: at least I'm not a murderer, so God doesn't rank us.

501
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: He looks at us all as broken sinners and then

502
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Speaker 1: we're saved by grace through faith. And so I hope.

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Speaker 1: I wish Becky we could have a back and forth

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Speaker 1: a little bit, so then you could ask me your

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00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 1: second question. It's hard for me just to answer your

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00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: question one time and not hear what you're gonna say back,

507
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: but the people going to hell. To answer your question, So,

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00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 1: who is going to hell? That's what you asked. The

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Speaker 1: people that weren't saved by grace through faith, that's it.

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00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 1: Those are the people going to hell, the people that

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00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,719
Speaker 1: weren't saved by grace through faith, not the people that

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Speaker 1: committed the least amount of murder or the people that

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00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: never got into child molesting. Like, well, those people are

514
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 1: definitely going to hell, and I never did that, So

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00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: I guess I'm good. No, No, you and me are

516
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: just as bad. And God is God. In God I

517
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: God's eyes, Me and you are just as bad is

518
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Speaker 1: the child molester. Can you believe that? That's it's crazy.

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00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 1: We've broken all these commandments. We are rebellious people. And

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Speaker 1: that's the beauty of grace. It's unmerited gift. He saved

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Speaker 1: us when we didn't even deserve to be saved, and

522
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: that's why we worship. That's why we say God, thank you.

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00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: That was a sinner undeserving of salvation, and you saved

524
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: me anyway, And I'll worship you forever because of that,

525
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Speaker 1: because you rescued me. I had no hope. Some people say, well,

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Speaker 1: it's like God throws you a life life raft and

527
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 1: you got to go swim and grab it, and then

528
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 1: God pulls you in. I don't believe that. I believe

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Speaker 1: it's more like you're at the bottom of the ocean dead.

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Speaker 1: You're dead. That's what dead in your trespassage means. You

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Speaker 1: didn't have a chance to swim to a life raft,

532
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: because if you did, that would be a work like

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00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: that would be you're making the effort. You're dead. He

534
00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 1: grabs you the bottom of the ocean and plops you

535
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: out on the beach and then breathe life back into you.

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Speaker 1: That's salvation. You're saved by grace through faith. It is

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00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:17,879
Speaker 1: not by works. I'm just basically bouncing off of Ephesians two,

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Speaker 1: eight and nine. Look it up Ephesians two, verse eight

539
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: and nine. I'm bouncing that just like versions of that

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00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: back and forth because it keeps popping into my mind. Becky,

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Speaker 1: thank you for this question. All right, man, where are

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00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: we going? Now? Bring up the inbox and you never

543
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:44,399
Speaker 1: know where we're going? Right? How about this subjectline says

544
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: decision making about a relationship. Hey, grangeer, I'm a new

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00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 1: listener of your podcast and has opened me up and

546
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: to see what the positives are in life. That's interesting.

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Speaker 1: My name is Drew. I'm nineteen years old from Illinois.

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Speaker 1: My question is I've broken up with a girl I

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00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,760
Speaker 1: met in high school about three months ago. The breakup

550
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: was mutual, but I still have feelings for her and

551
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 1: we still talk to this day. The reason we broke

552
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: up was because of the lack of time to hang

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00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: out and her going to college far away from where

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00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 1: I'm at. I've had a lot of time to think

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00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:21,400
Speaker 1: about it, but I would like to date her again.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that's a good idea if we go

557
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: out again, or if I should just move on? And

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00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: if so, what's the best way to ask her about

559
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 1: what I'm feeling. Okay, Drew shout out to Illinois. Thank

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00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,800
Speaker 1: you for the for the question. Here here's my thoughts

561
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Speaker 1: on this. We're back to my opinions. Okay, this is

562
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: not facts, this is my opinions here, brother, she broke

563
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 1: up with you, well, you say that, you say it

564
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 1: was mutual, but she's going away to college and you

565
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: guys didn't have time to hang out and her college

566
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: is far away. I don't think it's hard without you here.

567
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 1: But I don't think she thinks this is mutual. And

568
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 1: that's my guess, is the reason you emailed me is

569
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,400
Speaker 1: because you're not sure if she thinks the getting back

570
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: together thing is mutual. Maybe the breakup was mutual, but

571
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: the getting back together this sounds like she's going to

572
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 1: college and needs some space. What you're feeling is totally

573
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: natural to have this relationship and then you break and

574
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 1: then you're thinking, was this a mistake? Maybe I shouldn't

575
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: have done this, Maybe I need her back. All I

576
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: think about is her. Everyone listening right now has been

577
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 1: through this where you're like at that rebound stage, and

578
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 1: you know, the first time you want to rebound, it's

579
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: always to the original person, Like you always want to

580
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:06,439
Speaker 1: rebound to the person that you just broke up with,

581
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 1: and then when you find out that's not gonna work,

582
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: you rebound to somebody else. That's always what happens. So

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00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: I got a bad feeling about this, Drew. I got

584
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 1: a bad feeling that she's off to college and far away,

585
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 1: and you guys didn't have time, and neither one of

586
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 1: those two things is fixed yet. So you broke up

587
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: for a reason two reasons, and neither one of those

588
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 1: reasons have resolved. But your feelings are that you should

589
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: get back with her, and you're gonna end up right

590
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 1: back in the same situation on once that newness wears

591
00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 1: off again, once that infatuation starts dolling down a little

592
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 1: bit when you're back with her, because in our minds,

593
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,800
Speaker 1: we just have this, we have this feeling of the chase,

594
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 1: like we want the chase, we want to get the girl.

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00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:57,919
Speaker 1: I want to get the girl. But so many times

596
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: when we get them, that's when you find out what's

597
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: really going on is when you get them, when the

598
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 1: chase is over, then what then does the feeling get stronger?

599
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 1: Are you? It's the chase over and it's kind of

600
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Speaker 1: no more cat and mouse, Like I got her and

601
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: now we're back to talking about we don't have time

602
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: and she lives far away, so I got a bad

603
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: feeling about it. Drew, I'd pump the brakes on this one.

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00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 1: I'd hold off a little bit. If you want to

605
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: talk to her about it. You guys were in a relationship.

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00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with calling her and

607
00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 1: just saying can I talk to you about something? I

608
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: just I still have feelings for you. I'd love to

609
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: go on another date and just read her like read reader,

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00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: take her temperature on this right and if she's like,

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00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, I mean we still don't have time,

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00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 1: then you need to mentally then go yeah, yeah, I

613
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: don't think she's into it right now. I got a

614
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: bad feeling about it, Drew. I would hold tight. I

615
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: would hold tight. She's going to come home from college.

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00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: I'm thinking she's going to come home for and then

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00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: you're going to get some extra time together and you'll

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Speaker 1: find out more than Thanks for the question, brother, All right,

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Speaker 1: back to the inbox. Subject line here is depression and death.

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Speaker 1: Hey Granger. First, sorry if I misspell any words or

621
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 1: a bad grammar. No worries, brother. I love your music

622
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 1: and YouTube and podcast. The second part of the question

623
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 1: is I lost my mom five years ago. My daughter

624
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 1: started going into depression after my mom died. She's fifteen now.

625
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: Three years ago she started to smoke weed. Two years ago,

626
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: she started drinking. My wife and I have tried so

627
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 1: hard to support her, taking her to counselors and doctors,

628
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 1: till a week ago she tried to commit suicide. It

629
00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 1: was very scary since that happened. My wife and I

630
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: are going back to church. How can I support her?

631
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm banging my head against the wall.

632
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 1: I too, have been struggling since the death of my mom.

633
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Speaker 1: It scares me the thought of leaving my family again.

634
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Speaker 1: My wife and I have gone back to church, and

635
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 1: I feel lost. I've tried to hide this from my

636
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 1: family and so I could be a rock for them,

637
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 1: but it's hard. Give it to me straight, I could

638
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: take it. Thanks for any help, Sincerely, Jeff Lansing, Michigan. Okay,

639
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:38,919
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm sorry that you lost your mom five

640
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 1: years ago. Your daughter, your daughter needs to go with

641
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 1: you to church. You took her to counselors, you took

642
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: her to doctors. I need you to, I need you

643
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 1: to take her along. I need you to I need

644
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: you to dive into the Bible. I need you to

645
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 1: read the Bible. Why. Well, besides the fact that it's

646
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: the Word of God and it's our instruction manual as humans,

647
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:12,359
Speaker 1: but second of all, you're gonna find suffering, You're gonna

648
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: find death, You're gonna find anxiety, You're gonna find restoration,

649
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,879
Speaker 1: you're gonna find grace, you're gonna find rebuilding, You're gonna

650
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 1: find restoring, You're gonna find the love of God transparent

651
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 1: through all of that heartache, through all of that death

652
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: and depression and anxiety and pain, you're gonna see this

653
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 1: overwhelming lining through it. God doesn't eliminate suffering. He ordains

654
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: it and takes us through the fire so that we

655
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: can come out the other side with him. That's the

656
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 1: power of God. There's no power in God of just

657
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: helping us miss the suffering, like helping us avoid it

658
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 1: or deleting it from our lives. Instead, when He walks

659
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: us through it and we come out the other side

660
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 1: with him, we realize that's the power of God. We

661
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: made it, and we now we feel peace and hope

662
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: and rest and love. These are things that you could

663
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:15,680
Speaker 1: learn through those pages in the Bible. Church is a

664
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 1: good thing to start with. It's a good it's a

665
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 1: good kickstart taking Taking your daughter. You guys praying together,

666
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 1: you said, look, you said, give it to me straight.

667
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: I could take it. I would take her in. You

668
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:30,759
Speaker 1: didn't say her name. I would take her in with

669
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Speaker 1: your wife, the three of you in your living room,

670
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: and I would put I'd put my hands. I would

671
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: make a circle out of the three of you, hands

672
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: on each other and just say God, we're lost. Since

673
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: Mom died, we're lost and my daughter is going through

674
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 1: a rough time. We don't know what to do. We're

675
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 1: we're looking for answers. Where can we find them? God,

676
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: give us, give us, give us your peace, give us

677
00:42:57,080 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: your direction. Show us that your purpose matters. This path

678
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 1: that we're on is leading to something. Show us that

679
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 1: this struggle and this pain is not worthless. It's meaning full,

680
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 1: not meaning less. Show us that the death of Mom

681
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 1: wasn't an accident, that is that just is a mistake.

682
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:20,279
Speaker 1: Show us that it matters. Show us that this pain,

683
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 1: in these tears that we've had for her and for

684
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 1: my daughter and through the struggle, Show us that these

685
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:30,919
Speaker 1: tears are not wasted. They're affecting us. They're growing us,

686
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 1: They're building us for a purpose that only you have

687
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 1: painted this beautiful picture of Do that in your living

688
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: room with your hands on each other, and then see

689
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:50,720
Speaker 1: what happens. Let's grab another one here. This one says

690
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: subject line picking where to start my career? Hey Grangeard,

691
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: my name is Josh I'm eighteen, just graduated high school.

692
00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 1: Earlier in a year. I am now being asked by

693
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 1: so many people what am I going to do to

694
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: start my career? And I say nothing right now. To

695
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 1: be honest, I just don't know where to start. I

696
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 1: don't know if I should start with something simple like

697
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 1: work at the gas station or fast food, or just

698
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: somewhere plain and easy and to get the money flowing.

699
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 1: I guess what I'm getting at is I don't know

700
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 1: where to go from here, and I could use some advice.

701
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 1: Josh Brother, thank you for the question. I love this question,

702
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: and I wish you were with me at the campfire

703
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:32,239
Speaker 1: right now, because I would say, bro, here, take this

704
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 1: seat right next to me, let's talk. You're eighteen, you

705
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:42,240
Speaker 1: just graduated high school, and what to do now? Well,

706
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 1: I would start immediately immediately, and I would if this

707
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,839
Speaker 1: was me, I'd get a pen and paper and I'd

708
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 1: start writing stuff out. What do I like? What do

709
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: I enjoy in life? And maybe one of the answers

710
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: is I just like to be around Pete. I like

711
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: to be around people that are like me. I like

712
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: to grow. I like to grow and learn something new. Man.

713
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:11,760
Speaker 1: I like I like hunting, I like I love food.

714
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: He man I like, I got a kind of a

715
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: wild side to me. I like working security or some

716
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 1: kind of law enforcement. Hey, man, I uh, I kind

717
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: of I'm up for a world traveling adventure. The Army,

718
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: the Marine Corps, the Navy, which, by the way, yeah,

719
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: just saying, buddy, you know the Army, the Marines, the Navy,

720
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 1: you know these, You know they have recruiters that are

721
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,799
Speaker 1: looking for people just like you that are going, Man,

722
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 1: I'm Josh, and I'm I've just graduated and I'm looking

723
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: I don't have an answer to where I go next,

724
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: And they go, we got an answer for you, just

725
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: saying there's a local recruiter around you right now. But

726
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: other than that, And I secretly hope you do that, Josh,

727
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 1: and then email me back and say, and I went

728
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 1: to the Army. But whatever you do, wherever you go,

729
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:06,800
Speaker 1: and that that pen and paper that you have and

730
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 1: you've you've written down these ideas. Take those ideas, circle,

731
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 1: circle a few options, and you get online and you

732
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 1: start looking at some one ads, or you just go

733
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:19,839
Speaker 1: go to some businesses and just go are you guys,

734
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: are you guys taking applications for new employees? Maybe it

735
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:25,839
Speaker 1: is fast food, Maybe it is the gas station. Walk

736
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 1: to the gas station, say are you looking for h

737
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:33,320
Speaker 1: are you hiring? Say it. They'll say yeah, we're we're hiring,

738
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: and you go, well, here's my resume. I love to

739
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 1: talk about this job. But whatever you do and wherever

740
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: you go, do your best. Edit if you if you go,

741
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: say you go fast food, You're gonna go to Burger

742
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 1: King and you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna start at

743
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 1: the desk and you're you're taking orders, and then you're

744
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 1: gonna graduate to flipping burgers. Crush it, Josh, crush it.

745
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 1: Don't ski it for around, don't be late, stay a

746
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: little bit later than you're supposed to get there, a

747
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,720
Speaker 1: little bit earlier than you're supposed to be nice to everyone,

748
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:13,799
Speaker 1: and just crush it. Crush it. Count the money right,

749
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:18,320
Speaker 1: get the register closed out, make sure you're you you're sweeping.

750
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: If don't, don't ever be sitting around doing nothing, stay

751
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:24,359
Speaker 1: off of your phone. Grab a grab a mop. If

752
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: if you're not doing anything, grab a mop and start

753
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 1: working until your boss comes in and goes what are

754
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,400
Speaker 1: you doing? And go, oh, sorry, boss, I had a

755
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 1: little extra time, so I thought i'd mop right here.

756
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: He'd say, Josh, well that I didn't ask you to

757
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: mop mop Mopping is not part of your job. And

758
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: you go, yes, sir, Well, if you don't need me to,

759
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:41,480
Speaker 1: I won't. But I just I want to. I want

760
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 1: this place clean. I just want to be the best

761
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: I can for you. Hey, buddy, it's not a kiss

762
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: up to do that. A kiss up is when you

763
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: do that and you don't really mean it, and you're

764
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: not really doing it. But if you mean it and

765
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 1: and your heart is in it, like you actually do

766
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 1: care about keeping that floor clean. That's not a kid.

767
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,760
Speaker 1: And that guy your boss is going to go, Man,

768
00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:07,840
Speaker 1: I'm only paying this guy minimum wage, and I could

769
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: easily lose him to any other job. I better start

770
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 1: thinking about giving him a raise, and I better start

771
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 1: thinking about some kind of management position for him. I'm

772
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: just saying you could work your way up from burger

773
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 1: king to owning your franchise. It is definitely possible with

774
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:28,439
Speaker 1: that kind of attitude. Be there early, stay there late,

775
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: never sit around, don't be caught on your phone, be

776
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:34,799
Speaker 1: nice to everyone. Keep your clothes clean, keep your shirt

777
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: tucked in whatever your uniform you're wearing. Keep your shoes clean.

778
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 1: Don't track mud in there, sweep up, wipe the counters.

779
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: Do your best. Be someone that they cannot replace. I've

780
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,439
Speaker 1: said that before on this podcast. Be the guy that

781
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 1: they can't replace. And so when he has some kind

782
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:54,879
Speaker 1: of budget cut and he's looking to cut some people out,

783
00:48:55,320 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: he's like, well, not Josh. I'm definitely not cutting Josh.

784
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: He's my best guy. And when he's not working the

785
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 1: cash register, he's sweeping. When he's not sweeping, he's taking

786
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 1: out the trash. When he's not taking out the trash,

787
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:08,879
Speaker 1: he's wiping off tables. And I don't even ask him

788
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 1: to do that kind of stuff. Not Josh. Josh is

789
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 1: my best guy. Be the best guy. That's your deal, Josh,

790
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:21,440
Speaker 1: that's what you're gonna do. I appreciate you guys. Thank

791
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 1: you for listening. We'll see you next Monday. Yeegee, thanks

792
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate all

793
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:30,240
Speaker 1: of you guys. You could help me out by rating

794
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,920
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795
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797
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798
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Speaker 1: like me to answer. Email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Yige