WEBVTT - This Is My Moment

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not letting nobody else call me that. I'm letting

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<v Speaker 1>mama what you're gonna do.

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<v Speaker 2>If they do, they gonna start laughing at your ass

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<v Speaker 2>because they're nobody gonna be scared. You don't tap your

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<v Speaker 2>feet like this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna distract them.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody

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<v Speaker 2>doing that and you looking down at them, just still

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<v Speaker 2>like though I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come

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<v Speaker 2>from the side, y'all, I'm not coming. I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 2>starting doing that. Ain't they called you that? If anything,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna tap my feet.

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<v Speaker 1>So somebody called me the N word, you wouldn't get

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<v Speaker 1>out there with me.

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<v Speaker 2>I would tap my feet while you come from off. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>either white, We in this together. And then once you

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<v Speaker 2>got them down, once you knock them down, me and

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<v Speaker 2>I'll probably we gotta lot together. We got them together.

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<v Speaker 2>Worry God, I got your bag.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>You got a pay what's up, y'all? It's your girl

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<v Speaker 2>les Pete, and it's your girls.

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<v Speaker 3>Dread in the call.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine.

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<v Speaker 2>We're a drunk mind speaks sober.

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<v Speaker 1>But we ain't got no guests today. We ain't got

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<v Speaker 1>no guests today. You know, we usually do a good

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<v Speaker 1>job of coordinating.

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<v Speaker 3>We didn't today. Not the bankhead bounce.

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<v Speaker 2>We we ain't in bank here, but we close. We're

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<v Speaker 2>in the same city.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what's crazy. When I was younger, I

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<v Speaker 1>used to want to be in Atlanta so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to be in Atlanta real bad. When they

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<v Speaker 2>came out we Welcome to Atlanta, Oh my gosh. And

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<v Speaker 2>then they had then they did the remix and had

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<v Speaker 2>all in reference on the they have nobody from Houston,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, I hate being from Houston. From Warren,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Houston ain't got nobody representing on the.

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<v Speaker 1>Trade, not representing on the trade. And I remember when

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<v Speaker 1>what was that.

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<v Speaker 2>Group called was it Cherish? I just thought they were

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<v Speaker 2>just like so cool. They had Cherish?

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<v Speaker 3>What was the other group? Remember VCO Soul Boston.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're like me Area, Yeah that was my song.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah that was a good song. But yeah, Atlanta. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>back in the day, I feel like this was probably

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<v Speaker 2>the best city to live in. Like when Atlanta. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not in Atlanta when at L came out. Yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 2>what I really wanted to live out here.

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<v Speaker 1>That was when you heard that tagline it.

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<v Speaker 2>Rock never Well, I found you, miss Snooks.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a six that was a hit. Bubba Sparks

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<v Speaker 1>was before his time, and I'm not gonna lie if.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder what he doing now. I wonder if he's

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<v Speaker 2>still in college Parks.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna get drug to hell for this.

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<v Speaker 1>But in twenty twenty five, if I had to pick

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<v Speaker 1>a white rapper or listen to out of Bubba Sparks

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<v Speaker 1>in eminem, I'm choosing Bubba Sparks every time.

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<v Speaker 2>But you don't. You're not gonna have that many songs.

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<v Speaker 2>It don't matter at least what Buba Sparks said, because

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<v Speaker 2>name another.

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<v Speaker 1>Song when I look extra slick at as Nautica and

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<v Speaker 1>just to think it was you that she bought a fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>That don't blame me. I got a few Bubba Sports.

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<v Speaker 2>Why do you know that you Bubba Sparkles track in

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<v Speaker 2>my pocket? Bro? That's concerning because I only know Colli

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<v Speaker 2>Park was fun. I'm can't no lie. Bubba Sparks first

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<v Speaker 2>album was good. He has some hits on now. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know you.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember Ugly remem.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh. I do remember that song because it reminded me

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<v Speaker 2>of something that Missy Elliott would make. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>good song produced. That's probably why. Yeah, so that makes

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<v Speaker 2>sense because it definitely sounded like Missy Elliot is. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so you're right, Bubba Sparks did have his Now me,

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<v Speaker 2>I am still a little partial to Eminem. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>care what nobody's saying. Eminem had he he did have.

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<v Speaker 2>Especially if you was like in middle school and you

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<v Speaker 2>was going through that rebellion space, he had you feeling

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<v Speaker 2>like fuck, everybody probably gonna have to do a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of bleepy.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, first, I feel like this Eminem. I'm never taking

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<v Speaker 1>away from his artistry. So I know they're gonna clip

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<v Speaker 1>this and drag me because Eminem has crazy sings.

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<v Speaker 2>He does, I mean, and he has crazy he but

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<v Speaker 2>he does.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I'll say for me personally, his music didn't

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<v Speaker 1>age well for me.

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<v Speaker 2>A Detroit legend, who is listening to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, you're listening to just lose it in the car.

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<v Speaker 1>In the car when oh baby, come on, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>About to listen to toy Shoulder. Oh heard it that sense

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<v Speaker 2>A little judgement, girl, I just a little judgement. What

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<v Speaker 2>I listened to in the comfort of my own car

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<v Speaker 2>is my beasties.

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<v Speaker 1>Now if somebody turned on Superman, I listen to Superman.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do know one thing though, they come there,

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<v Speaker 1>go do Sunday Monday.

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<v Speaker 2>That line was so hard Drakehead to receave. He did.

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<v Speaker 2>He had to make a whole little new song anyways,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel you.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I said, that's you.

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<v Speaker 2>You bet I'm back. No no, no, no, no no no

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<v Speaker 2>no no, no, sir, because he wanted the Philly No no no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>no no no, Like, what are we doing here? Felthy

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<v Speaker 2>thought me, Like, yeah, he begged him. It's vague, that's all.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, my name is what nobody is listening to that

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<v Speaker 1>in twenty twenty five, Bro.

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<v Speaker 2>That is how you introduce yourself. No, I don't. When

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<v Speaker 2>you meet people, no I don't, you do You'll be like, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>my name is Lexi, Why lex By? No? We don't

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<v Speaker 2>slim shady? Oh no respect? Where did the slim shady

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<v Speaker 2>come from? Though?

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<v Speaker 1>Because he was slim and shady he used to throw

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<v Speaker 1>teeth in shade. Remember how I used to this, Christina

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<v Speaker 1>Aguilera is so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>But he was slim shady before that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, he's always been shady.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, where did the name slim shady from? Does

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<v Speaker 2>anybody in the.

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<v Speaker 3>Room now He's not.

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<v Speaker 2>Says that it emerged from a moment of inspiration while

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<v Speaker 2>he was on the toilet, setting that it just popped

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<v Speaker 2>into his head and he immediately thought of rhymes for

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<v Speaker 2>it while he was on the toilet. I came up

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<v Speaker 2>with a lot of good ideas on the toilet. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean the toilet. The toilet is a great place to think. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't see that song you love that man bad.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'll get you. I think, yeah, because Chicago,

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<v Speaker 2>she can't go a day without breathing this man up.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to become his pen pal. He's gonna get

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<v Speaker 2>the little though and be like, you're too old.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not like, I'm not joining in on this party.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm not doing it. Thirty discuss, You got a

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<v Speaker 2>little fool. Okay. At this point they should know we

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<v Speaker 2>have dark humor.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but I will say, damn, I forgot what I

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna say. No, we was talking about Eminem and

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying no disrespect to that man.

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<v Speaker 3>His music just didn't age well for me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying. You don't got not one

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<v Speaker 2>song beside Superman, I promise y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>This is when I had to give up on eminem.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like around that time where like they were

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<v Speaker 1>doing like the BT ciphers and stuff. This man, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't remember the bar before and I don't remember the

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<v Speaker 1>bar after. But he said, that's an awfully hot coffee pot.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, okay, you cap you are so cap bro.

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<v Speaker 2>Coffee pots do be hot, do they not?

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<v Speaker 1>Girl?

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<v Speaker 2>No, there's nothing so in the day. If you touching,

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<v Speaker 2>you deserve to get burned. Is not talking about Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>what was he talking about? I don't know, but it

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<v Speaker 2>was that it did not eat. He said, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>even get a yeah or who or a boo. Promise.

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<v Speaker 2>He said that if you can't get a boo, you

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<v Speaker 2>fuck girl. Y'all can get it me in a booth.

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<v Speaker 1>So talking about, you know, the Atlanta days. But yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to want to be in Atlanta so bad.

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<v Speaker 1>But I used to want to be in Houston so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>So are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking at y'all still tipping you.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't looking at me? Yes, I want nowhere to be fine. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he was in class like this tipping. He was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you was probably dancing just like that girl in front

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<v Speaker 2>of that expedition. Why are you trying to be funny?

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<v Speaker 2>That was my best friend cousin, Like, for real, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not even being funny. That was really her cousin. She

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<v Speaker 2>was so proud. She was in Nabby. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>she was so fish. She was very thick for the

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<v Speaker 2>song shout out to her sickness. But she was definitely

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<v Speaker 2>in that video. And then she was in that video

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<v Speaker 2>with Webby and Buy and Bet she five foot seventh.

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<v Speaker 2>Give me that, Yeah, give me that. She wasn't gimme

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<v Speaker 2>that because my friend was so proud. She was like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, my cousin, she was instilled tipping, and

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<v Speaker 2>now she in't give me that, and she couldn't wait

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<v Speaker 2>to show me the video.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, in her defense though, back then being a video bay.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it was because I was like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>I was. I was like, oh my god, that is

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<v Speaker 2>so crazy. I don't got no famous people in my family.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't got no I did. I did think she

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<v Speaker 2>was fighting. I was like, I have no famous people

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<v Speaker 2>in my ma family.

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<v Speaker 3>So you gotta think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Though.

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<v Speaker 3>Being a video girl during those times was iconic.

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<v Speaker 1>It was somebody had posted a clip of Big Boys video.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the way you moved, Yes, and do y'all

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<v Speaker 1>remember the girl that was standing with him, and she

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<v Speaker 1>had the bikini on, and I never I didn't. Her

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<v Speaker 1>name is Ka Toy. Of course y'all know I google everything,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just remember.

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<v Speaker 2>She had these legs.

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<v Speaker 1>You could tell she worked out in this bubble butt

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<v Speaker 1>in this small waist and it was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>now she.

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<v Speaker 2>Was doing She was that little CVD shite. Today we

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<v Speaker 2>got fifty. I'm gonna make it feel the devil. You

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<v Speaker 2>will not win. No, But for real, out of video

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<v Speaker 2>girls did used to be fine. I mean they still

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<v Speaker 2>be luky.

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<v Speaker 1>No don't legs, they don't. They don't be cute deleting,

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<v Speaker 1>all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the problem is that everybody looks like the day.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Back in the day, like people were unique, looky like

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<v Speaker 2>when I popped out that pool, I was a unique

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<v Speaker 2>looking Okay, I was I was very unique. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>you really came up. I thought, waking through the outside

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<v Speaker 2>may shout out to zero new talent when he saw it,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean he was on something. The funny thing is

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<v Speaker 2>that you really think about that type of stuff. So

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<v Speaker 2>like Zero could tell people I had lex Peed in

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<v Speaker 2>my video before she was lex Speed oscar. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>I had my promise.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna shout Zero and I'll be like, yeah, Zero

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<v Speaker 1>gave me my first break, first big break. That was

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<v Speaker 1>the first time I was like on not on camera,

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<v Speaker 1>but like on a professional camera.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Thanks shout out to the people that believed in

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<v Speaker 2>this before we believed in ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>What I'm saying humble beginning.

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<v Speaker 2>Humble beginning, not really though, because it's humble beginnings being

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<v Speaker 2>in the Zero video. Like humble beginning is when people

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<v Speaker 2>be not lost in videos, for like artists that don't

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<v Speaker 2>have no name.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah I almost say somebody's name, but I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to offend people.

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<v Speaker 2>Who was you gonna say? When I think of like

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<v Speaker 2>humble beginnings, I think of like if you were in

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<v Speaker 2>my video, Yeah, like if you had a song, you

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<v Speaker 2>you did have a song. Yeah, Lex had a song.

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<v Speaker 2>So like if I would have been in Le's music video,

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<v Speaker 2>that would have been a humble beginning. I was saying,

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<v Speaker 2>like humble beginnings.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's just like being a video video girl

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<v Speaker 1>is a humble beginning period.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't matter who video you in. That's a humble beginning.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Big pimping don't sound that bad. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a humble beginning. Though.

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<v Speaker 1>If you imagine if you were in Big Pimping video

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<v Speaker 1>and you go off to be an Oscar Award winning actress,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a humble beginning because you used to just be

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<v Speaker 1>on the yacht pop and pussy. You see what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a humble beginning. I don't care who video it is.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna be the first, I think, because I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think it was anybody that was. I think somebody did

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<v Speaker 2>videos before and they want to Oscar her.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think we'll have to look into it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure we can see Viola David somewhere doing something.

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<v Speaker 2>I doubt, y, I highly doubt. Let me stop. I

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<v Speaker 2>love you doubt that that lady was still cheaping anywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would you say that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know because I love her so much, so

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<v Speaker 1>I hope nobody sends that to her because it would

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<v Speaker 1>break my heart.

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<v Speaker 3>I would never want to offend her.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm serious, No, because you about to offend her. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not because I said that because everybody was.

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<v Speaker 1>Young once, and that's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>We need to stop playing with that lady like this, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>because that ain't plunny.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not funny, but it's real.

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<v Speaker 1>People had lies before you saw them be these great people.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying. But the beautiful thing about

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<v Speaker 2>our generation is a lot of it was not documenting.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like the newer generation everything every Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>I lived a lot of lives. Y'all don't know about

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<v Speaker 2>it though.

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<v Speaker 1>Snapchat got it? Thought of a lot of my stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>Snapchat do got it?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure. That's why I want to never delete my Snapchat.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so many good videos on there.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh. So real.

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<v Speaker 1>Quick side note, So Ellen Pompeo just did call her daddy.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh she did got out to Meredith Gray.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was so funny because the reason I said, like,

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<v Speaker 1>people have lives because she was talking about Serena and

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<v Speaker 1>Cordell from Love Island and she was like, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>That my people.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's like, you don't think that these people be

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<v Speaker 1>tuned in and knowing what's going on. So That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I said it's very possible that Valladay was possibly did

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<v Speaker 1>the music video not necessarily.

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<v Speaker 2>A rap video.

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<v Speaker 1>It could have been jazz and blues classical. They have

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<v Speaker 1>music videos, they do, yes, they do.

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<v Speaker 2>Bb King had video.

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<v Speaker 3>Bb King definitely had videos. I saw one.

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<v Speaker 2>What was he doing in the video? You don't even

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<v Speaker 2>play the flue? You just be lying for no reason.

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<v Speaker 2>And you see how you be talking about you don't

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<v Speaker 2>be lying no more. I was playing the flu.

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<v Speaker 1>Bebe can't definitely have music videos, though, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>was more so like.

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<v Speaker 2>A Verry White dude. Oh you just keep oh, you

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<v Speaker 2>just keep oh, you just.

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<v Speaker 3>Keep telling me.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought the record was skippy, and I was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>chopped and screw baby, and he had that good healthy

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<v Speaker 2>They had a parn and it was laid and curled tight.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the first big fine had relax. That was

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<v Speaker 2>the Barry White was.

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<v Speaker 1>The first big nigga that was showing you, big niggas,

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<v Speaker 1>I can we can get bitches too. I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 1>he was the first big nigga that really had that

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<v Speaker 1>swag for real. I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>Better listen to what I'm talking about now. Very White,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean he was giving like nineteen seventies records.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>That was before it wasn't No, this was before Biggie,

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<v Speaker 1>This was before heavy D. This was before all that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you just keep oh, but very hand.

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<v Speaker 2>His wife was beautiful. Okay, we see, Yeah, you like that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why she had to turn her hand. You bless me.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine if you open the door your man say that,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm probably closing. Oh you're not turn around. No, you

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<v Speaker 2>not that. That's why are you saying that to me? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>You just keep up. No, I'm gonna keep on walking

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm going man, excuse me. I've always said that

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to date somebody that could sing. No

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<v Speaker 2>I do. I think I would not not sing like that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, I'm talking about I think people who can

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<v Speaker 1>sing like you. I think people who can really sing,

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<v Speaker 1>but like haven't made it to what they want to

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<v Speaker 1>do if they want to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be singers are so annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh why would I date somebody who haven't made it?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, No, I'm saying, like say they have, they're successful

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<v Speaker 1>in like whatever they do, but they're not a singer.

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<v Speaker 3>But they want to know. They want everybody to know

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<v Speaker 3>they can sing.

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<v Speaker 2>No, if I'm a date a singer, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>date a singer like somebody that actually really say the

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<v Speaker 2>people that be like, oh, it's your birthday and they

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<v Speaker 2>be like happy everybody like no, you're right though. People

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<v Speaker 2>who can sing, who like never reach their full potential

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<v Speaker 2>of singing this really do this all the time, just

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<v Speaker 2>like the humming. They be like.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>They be like, I get discovered because they don't know

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<v Speaker 2>who around. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it really do be like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm not mad at it because I mean, you

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<v Speaker 2>could get discovered that way. Hey, you never know the

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<v Speaker 2>CEO of an A or A and R is in

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<v Speaker 2>a room missed opportunity. I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I know people was losing the plot when we did

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<v Speaker 1>the when.

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<v Speaker 2>We did what's the Karaoke show we do?

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<v Speaker 1>We just having fun and it was like people poor

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<v Speaker 1>soul and they're not even contestant. It was like people

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<v Speaker 1>in the audience afterwards like walking to us like singing, hey, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>lex Man, listen, my baby mama, my baby mama.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna make you my wife.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, sir, I can't help you.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't what's interesting? I feel like things like that

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<v Speaker 2>happened to you. I don't know why walk up. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what you be talking about. You got that ear?

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<v Speaker 1>Them in.

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<v Speaker 2>Music? They want you to plug them. They said, she

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<v Speaker 2>got that ear. This is my moment. This is my

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<v Speaker 2>mom their moment to shine. Okay, this is the one time,

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<v Speaker 2>I know a call and I can't get you know

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<v Speaker 2>exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>let's talk about it. Do y'all think that it's okay

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<v Speaker 2>for parents to have their children pay bills while they're

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<v Speaker 2>still living in their house. Like, if you get your

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<v Speaker 2>okay for your parents to give you the responsibility of

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<v Speaker 2>the child responsibility or do you think that it's some bullshits,

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<v Speaker 2>So cause, yeah, I know what I think. I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>That your parents' responsibility to teach you the value of

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 3>My mom did not do that for me.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I had a job, I've been working since

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<v Speaker 1>I was fifteen, she us just let me have whatever

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<v Speaker 1>and do whatever with my paycheck. She paid my phone bill,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, everything. I never had to pay any bills.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't pay all of my bills one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 1>by myself until I moved to Atlanta because even when

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<v Speaker 1>I was in college, my mom was paying half of

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<v Speaker 1>my rent, she was paying.

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<v Speaker 3>My cell phone bill, all of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So while that did help me as far as I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have to stress about work so much because I

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<v Speaker 1>was able to still have that college experience and stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't teach me what I really needed to know

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<v Speaker 1>about managing money. Yeah, so I feel like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily think you need to put that pressure on a

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<v Speaker 1>child to pay a bill, but I think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to show them how to save money. Okay, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>let me teach you about this. Put half of your

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<v Speaker 1>paycheck right here, a thirty percent of your paycheck. Teach

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<v Speaker 1>them money management. Don't just give your Let your kids

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<v Speaker 1>take their paycheck and just do whatever with it. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think necessarily they should be paying bills, but

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<v Speaker 1>I think they.

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<v Speaker 3>Need to learn about money management.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree. I definitely think that it's more so

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<v Speaker 2>to me. You should be teaching your children how to say,

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<v Speaker 2>how to in best like make them accountable for Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you get a paycheck every two weeks. Every two weeks

0:24:10.960 --> 0:24:14.600
<v Speaker 2>when you get paid, you need to put five hundred

0:24:14.600 --> 0:24:17.880
<v Speaker 2>dollars into a stock account because in ten years it's

0:24:17.920 --> 0:24:20.560
<v Speaker 2>going to be quadruple that amount that can put in

0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:22.520
<v Speaker 2>there that you invested in there. Like teach them the

0:24:22.520 --> 0:24:25.840
<v Speaker 2>importance of things like that. But I just think asking

0:24:25.880 --> 0:24:29.680
<v Speaker 2>your child to pay a bill, it's giving you short

0:24:29.720 --> 0:24:32.679
<v Speaker 2>on the rentment. And I don't like that because I

0:24:32.720 --> 0:24:37.439
<v Speaker 2>feel like children are supposed to be brought into the

0:24:37.480 --> 0:24:41.000
<v Speaker 2>world because you want the child to be here. I

0:24:41.080 --> 0:24:44.760
<v Speaker 2>just think putting responsibilities like that on them sometimes In

0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:46.760
<v Speaker 2>a lot of ways, I think parents try to use

0:24:46.840 --> 0:24:51.199
<v Speaker 2>their children to help them overcome struggles and stuff that

0:24:51.240 --> 0:24:53.400
<v Speaker 2>they have going on, just like when parents be using

0:24:53.400 --> 0:24:56.159
<v Speaker 2>their kids social Security numbers to put bills in their

0:24:56.240 --> 0:24:58.639
<v Speaker 2>name and stuff like that. Oh, because I couldn't get

0:24:58.680 --> 0:25:00.800
<v Speaker 2>it in my name, now I'm gonna put it in

0:25:00.840 --> 0:25:03.200
<v Speaker 2>my child name. And then when your child turn eighteen

0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:05.720
<v Speaker 2>and they're trying to get their first credit card or

0:25:05.720 --> 0:25:09.320
<v Speaker 2>get their first apartment or whatever the case, maybe they

0:25:09.400 --> 0:25:12.000
<v Speaker 2>credit is shite and they can't get shit in they

0:25:12.080 --> 0:25:14.720
<v Speaker 2>name because you fucked they should. I think that that's

0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:17.440
<v Speaker 2>fucked up, and I think, unfortunately, especially in a black community,

0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:19.560
<v Speaker 2>a lot of parents do that. And they tried to

0:25:19.680 --> 0:25:21.840
<v Speaker 2>play it off as Oh, I'm trying to teach you

0:25:22.000 --> 0:25:25.480
<v Speaker 2>responsibility by getting you to pay the light billch No,

0:25:25.720 --> 0:25:28.040
<v Speaker 2>this is your life, this is the lights in your home.

0:25:28.280 --> 0:25:30.560
<v Speaker 2>I live here because you birth me. I didn't ask

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:32.240
<v Speaker 2>to be here. Why should I have to pay a

0:25:32.320 --> 0:25:34.800
<v Speaker 2>light bill? You know what I mean? I do feel

0:25:34.800 --> 0:25:39.280
<v Speaker 2>like you're right as far as not fucking your money off, Yeah,

0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:42.160
<v Speaker 2>every week, because my mom definitely when I got a job,

0:25:42.400 --> 0:25:45.399
<v Speaker 2>hear and my dad they didn't make me pay no bills. Well,

0:25:45.400 --> 0:25:46.919
<v Speaker 2>I definitely just used to do what I wanted with

0:25:47.000 --> 0:25:48.680
<v Speaker 2>my money too, And I feel like it didn't teach

0:25:48.720 --> 0:25:51.720
<v Speaker 2>me any type of responsibility. It's other ways that you

0:25:51.720 --> 0:25:54.520
<v Speaker 2>could teach your children responsibility when it comes to their money,

0:25:54.520 --> 0:25:57.480
<v Speaker 2>outside of having them pay your household bills for you.

0:25:58.040 --> 0:26:01.160
<v Speaker 1>So, how do y'all feel about when that child eighteen though,

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:03.239
<v Speaker 1>and they're still in their parents' home, do you think

0:26:03.280 --> 0:26:06.000
<v Speaker 1>they should be helping then? If they're graduate, if they're

0:26:06.000 --> 0:26:07.440
<v Speaker 1>out of high school, and.

0:26:07.400 --> 0:26:09.359
<v Speaker 3>If they're in college or not in college.

0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:12.880
<v Speaker 1>If they're eighteen, they're out of high school and now

0:26:12.920 --> 0:26:15.600
<v Speaker 1>they're technically an adult and they're still in their parents' house,

0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 1>should they be helping with the bills?

0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:19.199
<v Speaker 2>I think it depended on the circumstance, like what are

0:26:19.240 --> 0:26:23.840
<v Speaker 2>you doing? Are you working? Are you trying to figure

0:26:23.840 --> 0:26:25.480
<v Speaker 2>out what you want to do with your life? Are

0:26:25.520 --> 0:26:27.280
<v Speaker 2>you in school? If you're in school, I'm not going

0:26:27.320 --> 0:26:29.280
<v Speaker 2>to ask you to pay for anything. But if you

0:26:29.359 --> 0:26:30.800
<v Speaker 2>think you just about to be in my house with

0:26:30.920 --> 0:26:33.560
<v Speaker 2>no plan, doing nothing, then yeah, you gonna have to

0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:36.400
<v Speaker 2>contribute some kind of way. Because you're grown now and

0:26:36.440 --> 0:26:38.720
<v Speaker 2>living here. Having to help pay a bill is better

0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:40.520
<v Speaker 2>than you having to go get your own apartment and

0:26:40.600 --> 0:26:43.600
<v Speaker 2>pay for everything. But if you have a plan, you

0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:47.119
<v Speaker 2>in school, you going to a trade school. Excuse me,

0:26:47.119 --> 0:26:48.439
<v Speaker 2>you're trying to figure out what you want to do

0:26:48.480 --> 0:26:50.000
<v Speaker 2>with your life. I'm not going to make you pay

0:26:50.000 --> 0:26:51.639
<v Speaker 2>for anything, cause you're trying to figure it out and

0:26:51.680 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 2>life is hard enough. What you think, sal Yeah, I

0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:56.480
<v Speaker 2>was gonna say, I agree. I feel like if they're

0:26:56.680 --> 0:26:58.719
<v Speaker 2>if I'm in college and I'm just coming home on

0:26:58.840 --> 0:27:02.119
<v Speaker 2>holidays maybe the summer, maybe it's my responsibility to get

0:27:02.160 --> 0:27:04.400
<v Speaker 2>a job so I can pay for gas or help

0:27:04.440 --> 0:27:07.439
<v Speaker 2>around the house. But having a bill for that child,

0:27:07.760 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 2>I think you should just be able to set them

0:27:09.560 --> 0:27:11.879
<v Speaker 2>up so that they have they're able to save their money.

0:27:12.320 --> 0:27:14.439
<v Speaker 2>Again to your point, making sure they know what to

0:27:14.480 --> 0:27:17.200
<v Speaker 2>do with it, how to save it, but not necessarily

0:27:17.240 --> 0:27:20.359
<v Speaker 2>putting things in their name and having these big grown

0:27:20.520 --> 0:27:22.960
<v Speaker 2>up responsibilities until it's that time.

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:24.159
<v Speaker 3>If you're living.

0:27:23.920 --> 0:27:27.920
<v Speaker 2>There three sixty five all year, you're not going to school, Yeah,

0:27:27.960 --> 0:27:29.240
<v Speaker 2>you need to get a job and you need to

0:27:29.280 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 2>definitely be helping out around here.

0:27:31.400 --> 0:27:34.000
<v Speaker 1>So I do think too, it's crazy because I always

0:27:34.040 --> 0:27:37.840
<v Speaker 1>regret not paying attention in school. I had a teacher,

0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:41.080
<v Speaker 1>it was I think my geography teacher. He took one

0:27:41.800 --> 0:27:44.640
<v Speaker 1>not semester, but like a six week period, we didn't

0:27:44.680 --> 0:27:45.719
<v Speaker 1>learn any geography.

0:27:45.760 --> 0:27:47.800
<v Speaker 2>He took that whole six week period to teach.

0:27:47.760 --> 0:27:50.639
<v Speaker 1>Us about stocks, and I remember none of us were

0:27:50.680 --> 0:27:51.320
<v Speaker 1>paying attention.

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:53.400
<v Speaker 3>We were just like, why do we need to learn this?

0:27:54.000 --> 0:27:57.280
<v Speaker 1>And I feel as an adult as thirty five years

0:27:57.320 --> 0:27:59.080
<v Speaker 1>old now I'm thinking back to my sixteen year old

0:27:59.119 --> 0:27:59.520
<v Speaker 1>So I'm.

0:27:59.359 --> 0:28:00.679
<v Speaker 3>Like, girl, why you did and listen?

0:28:01.320 --> 0:28:04.000
<v Speaker 1>Because imagine if I would have listened and just took

0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:06.600
<v Speaker 1>a little fifty dollars from my paycheck and figured out

0:28:06.640 --> 0:28:08.800
<v Speaker 1>how to Oh, mom, can I do this? But again,

0:28:08.840 --> 0:28:11.200
<v Speaker 1>my mom didn't know about you know, stocks and bonds

0:28:11.200 --> 0:28:11.960
<v Speaker 1>and things like that.

0:28:12.240 --> 0:28:13.600
<v Speaker 3>So I think a lot.

0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:16.960
<v Speaker 1>Of the time we need to switch up the curriculum

0:28:16.960 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 1>in the schools. I think there's a lot of things

0:28:20.119 --> 0:28:22.680
<v Speaker 1>like why, And I think I've said this before. Why

0:28:22.720 --> 0:28:24.920
<v Speaker 1>am I learning about credit when I turn eighteen?

0:28:25.800 --> 0:28:26.240
<v Speaker 2>Why am I?

0:28:26.359 --> 0:28:29.359
<v Speaker 1>Why are kids learning that their credit is shot because

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:31.399
<v Speaker 1>this and that happened to them. They don't even know

0:28:31.480 --> 0:28:35.760
<v Speaker 1>nothing about credit? Why don't we know how to purchase properties?

0:28:36.440 --> 0:28:38.920
<v Speaker 1>That these are all life skills that we need to learn.

0:28:39.000 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 1>We should know about taxes, stocks and bond We should

0:28:43.800 --> 0:28:45.840
<v Speaker 1>learn about all this stuff like skills that we're actually

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:49.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna need as adults. So unfortunately, in the black community,

0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:53.160
<v Speaker 1>I feel like they can only teach us so much

0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:56.160
<v Speaker 1>because a lot of it's a lot of financial literacy

0:28:56.320 --> 0:29:00.800
<v Speaker 1>in our community, because unfortunately, my mom didn't teach me

0:29:00.920 --> 0:29:03.120
<v Speaker 1>these things because she probably really didn't know. My mom

0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:05.960
<v Speaker 1>was fortunate enough to have an amazing job, so she

0:29:06.080 --> 0:29:08.160
<v Speaker 1>made a lot of money. And you know, when my

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:10.760
<v Speaker 1>dad passed, he left her a lot of money, so

0:29:10.800 --> 0:29:13.560
<v Speaker 1>she was able. She was just not lucky, but that's

0:29:13.600 --> 0:29:15.000
<v Speaker 1>the cards that she was dealt.

0:29:15.040 --> 0:29:17.360
<v Speaker 3>So we were always just taken care of.

0:29:17.440 --> 0:29:20.120
<v Speaker 1>But if my mom would have liked something would have happened,

0:29:20.120 --> 0:29:21.880
<v Speaker 1>if she would have lost her job or something like that,

0:29:23.160 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 1>she probably would.

0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:25.280
<v Speaker 3>Have known what to do, you know what I'm saying.

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:29.960
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like we really have to teach our

0:29:30.440 --> 0:29:33.200
<v Speaker 1>youth about managing money because a lot of times their

0:29:33.240 --> 0:29:35.280
<v Speaker 1>parents don't know and they do need to help.

0:29:35.280 --> 0:29:37.200
<v Speaker 3>And not saying that it's right or that it's wrong.

0:29:37.640 --> 0:29:40.440
<v Speaker 1>But that's why it's like we don't know nothing about

0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:43.040
<v Speaker 1>generation No. Well, you know, you see us having these

0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:46.000
<v Speaker 1>conversations about fifty to fifty. Why are we talking about

0:29:46.000 --> 0:29:47.960
<v Speaker 1>fifty fifty when we need to talk about how can

0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:50.160
<v Speaker 1>we pass this on to our kids and we can

0:29:50.200 --> 0:29:53.720
<v Speaker 1>build something together. Y'all talking about splitting rent? Who cares

0:29:53.760 --> 0:29:56.160
<v Speaker 1>who pays the bills? Bro, let's get the bills paid,

0:29:56.200 --> 0:30:01.560
<v Speaker 1>but let's invest in something, Let's save something. Who All

0:30:01.640 --> 0:30:04.760
<v Speaker 1>these conversations are so silly, and even us we have

0:30:04.920 --> 0:30:07.640
<v Speaker 1>indulging these conversations before. But like I said, as I

0:30:07.680 --> 0:30:10.960
<v Speaker 1>get older, I realized, there is a bigger picture here

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:12.600
<v Speaker 1>that we are all missing.

0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:15.520
<v Speaker 3>You are if your purpose is telling your.

0:30:15.520 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 1>Child, hey, pay the light bill because you don't got it,

0:30:19.880 --> 0:30:22.600
<v Speaker 1>that's different from hey, put it on this light bill

0:30:23.160 --> 0:30:26.360
<v Speaker 1>because I'm trying to show you, or you know, whatever

0:30:26.400 --> 0:30:29.000
<v Speaker 1>the case may be. So I feel like, no matter

0:30:29.040 --> 0:30:30.640
<v Speaker 1>what you're doing with that money.

0:30:30.440 --> 0:30:32.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because then I was gonna say, or maybe you

0:30:32.160 --> 0:30:34.520
<v Speaker 2>could be telling them that, But then the whole time,

0:30:34.840 --> 0:30:37.360
<v Speaker 2>you're creating an account for them, and then when they

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:40.080
<v Speaker 2>turn eighteen or when they turn twenty one, you're giving

0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:42.000
<v Speaker 2>the money back to them. Right, the purpose was to

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:45.880
<v Speaker 2>teach them responsibility exactly, But I just think, yeah, using

0:30:45.960 --> 0:30:48.800
<v Speaker 2>the money to pay your bills as a parent, that's

0:30:48.920 --> 0:30:51.880
<v Speaker 2>just crazy. Wow to crazy? But do y'all think that

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:54.720
<v Speaker 2>a lot of parents do that to try to teach

0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:58.560
<v Speaker 2>their children like teamwork and family responsibility.

0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:03.800
<v Speaker 1>Now, I do think, you know, things are different, cause,

0:31:03.800 --> 0:31:06.280
<v Speaker 1>like I said, financially right now, we are in a

0:31:06.400 --> 0:31:09.959
<v Speaker 1>very very tough economy. And you know, if you do

0:31:10.040 --> 0:31:11.480
<v Speaker 1>have a household, if you have like you know, a

0:31:11.520 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 1>single mom or a single dad, and you have a

0:31:14.440 --> 0:31:17.440
<v Speaker 1>child that's sixteen seventeen and they are working, you know,

0:31:17.600 --> 0:31:20.280
<v Speaker 1>if you even if they're only taking two hundred dollars

0:31:20.320 --> 0:31:22.360
<v Speaker 1>from the kid, that probably would help, you know, if

0:31:22.360 --> 0:31:24.520
<v Speaker 1>that's somebody who's not making a lot of money. So

0:31:24.720 --> 0:31:26.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it could be a good lesson in that

0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:29.200
<v Speaker 1>as well, contribute, to learn how to contribute and not

0:31:29.640 --> 0:31:31.760
<v Speaker 1>just being for self. But like I said, it's a

0:31:31.840 --> 0:31:34.480
<v Speaker 1>very thin line with that. It's a very fucking thin

0:31:34.600 --> 0:31:38.240
<v Speaker 1>line because I am all for community and helping each other,

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:40.760
<v Speaker 1>but I'm also not for a sixteen year old stressing

0:31:40.760 --> 0:31:42.840
<v Speaker 1>themselves out to pay bills.

0:31:43.040 --> 0:31:44.800
<v Speaker 2>That's what I was gonna say. I just feel like,

0:31:45.040 --> 0:31:47.800
<v Speaker 2>as a teenager, why am I responsible for the family?

0:31:47.840 --> 0:31:48.640
<v Speaker 3>Right right?

0:31:49.320 --> 0:31:52.200
<v Speaker 2>Right? You know? And unfortunately that kind of goes back

0:31:52.240 --> 0:31:54.400
<v Speaker 2>into what I was saying earlier. I really wish it's

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:56.600
<v Speaker 2>kind of off topic, but I feel like sometimes people

0:31:56.640 --> 0:32:01.000
<v Speaker 2>be having children to help them help with other and

0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:04.400
<v Speaker 2>help them help with like family responsibilities. So that shouldn't

0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:06.200
<v Speaker 2>be the reason why you having a child and bringing

0:32:06.200 --> 0:32:09.200
<v Speaker 2>a child into these worlds. It's to help you with

0:32:09.320 --> 0:32:10.280
<v Speaker 2>where you're lacking.

0:32:12.040 --> 0:32:14.480
<v Speaker 1>And I think that's what a lot that we're missing

0:32:14.480 --> 0:32:17.120
<v Speaker 1>in the black community. I feel like that's why we

0:32:17.240 --> 0:32:19.280
<v Speaker 1>need family units again.

0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:21.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

0:32:21.160 --> 0:32:24.360
<v Speaker 1>We used to have neighborhoods where neighbors helping everybody, pitching it,

0:32:24.400 --> 0:32:26.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, like it takes a village. We don't have

0:32:26.640 --> 0:32:29.760
<v Speaker 1>villages no more. You know how many times I get

0:32:29.800 --> 0:32:32.520
<v Speaker 1>online and I see a woman or a man crime

0:32:32.600 --> 0:32:36.680
<v Speaker 1>because they don't have any help, Like what happened to community? Like,

0:32:36.760 --> 0:32:39.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie y'all. Growing up in my neighborhood,

0:32:40.720 --> 0:32:42.719
<v Speaker 1>my mom sometimes would have to leave for work, but

0:32:42.760 --> 0:32:44.880
<v Speaker 1>we had our neighbors were right there and they'd be like, hey,

0:32:45.400 --> 0:32:47.800
<v Speaker 1>if y'all need anything, come over, and they would come over,

0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:50.120
<v Speaker 1>knock on the door, y'all good. You know, they would

0:32:50.160 --> 0:32:51.960
<v Speaker 1>order pizza for us and make sure we straight. But

0:32:52.240 --> 0:32:56.120
<v Speaker 1>it was a neighborhood like everybody knew each other, you

0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:58.440
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. It was like it was really

0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:02.760
<v Speaker 1>taking a village even now our neighbor because like, you know,

0:33:02.840 --> 0:33:04.720
<v Speaker 1>my mom has passed away, so my neighbors on the

0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:07.400
<v Speaker 1>other side, they have literally turned their camera to my

0:33:07.480 --> 0:33:09.920
<v Speaker 1>mom's house just to make sure nobody breaks in the

0:33:09.920 --> 0:33:11.760
<v Speaker 1>house or no, you know what I'm saying. So it's

0:33:11.800 --> 0:33:13.840
<v Speaker 1>like they're like, Okay, we making sure that nobody comes

0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:16.480
<v Speaker 1>in the house since nobody's there anymore. So I feel

0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:18.960
<v Speaker 1>like that sense of neighborhood of helping each other out

0:33:19.080 --> 0:33:21.760
<v Speaker 1>is very important. But that's why a lot of these

0:33:21.800 --> 0:33:23.000
<v Speaker 1>parents are relying on.

0:33:22.960 --> 0:33:25.720
<v Speaker 2>Their kids, cause people don't help folks out no more.

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:29.240
<v Speaker 3>It's a lot of shame. It's a lot of shame of.

0:33:29.600 --> 0:33:31.880
<v Speaker 1>Well, you didn't do good in life and you're only

0:33:31.880 --> 0:33:34.960
<v Speaker 1>making minimum wage and you and you know, it's a

0:33:34.960 --> 0:33:36.160
<v Speaker 1>lot of shame in that too.

0:33:36.240 --> 0:33:37.200
<v Speaker 3>So I think it's a lot.

0:33:37.680 --> 0:33:39.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, But I just feel like, if you don't know

0:33:39.800 --> 0:33:42.000
<v Speaker 2>how to handle your money, you need to learn how

0:33:42.000 --> 0:33:43.880
<v Speaker 2>to handle your money. You don't need to put the

0:33:43.920 --> 0:33:46.200
<v Speaker 2>responsibility off on other people. Because I feel like if

0:33:46.200 --> 0:33:48.440
<v Speaker 2>you're putting a responsibility off on other people to help

0:33:48.480 --> 0:33:50.560
<v Speaker 2>you every time you get in a buying where's the

0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:53.800
<v Speaker 2>listening being learned as an adult as I've grown up

0:33:54.040 --> 0:33:57.520
<v Speaker 2>adult as a parent. If you are always counting on

0:33:57.600 --> 0:34:00.200
<v Speaker 2>other people to help you, you're never going to who

0:34:00.680 --> 0:34:04.240
<v Speaker 2>learned the importance of saving, investing all of these things yourself,

0:34:04.360 --> 0:34:07.400
<v Speaker 2>or just not living above your means. I hate to

0:34:07.400 --> 0:34:08.920
<v Speaker 2>say stuff like these cause I feel like it's a

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:11.720
<v Speaker 2>little bit harsh, but like back in the day, people

0:34:11.800 --> 0:34:15.719
<v Speaker 2>was having thirteen kids fourteen keys because the cost of

0:34:15.719 --> 0:34:19.160
<v Speaker 2>living was cheap. It's hell, Like no, literally, the cost

0:34:19.160 --> 0:34:21.960
<v Speaker 2>of living was so fucking cheap, Like you could literally

0:34:22.000 --> 0:34:25.960
<v Speaker 2>feed a family of ten. You can go get some

0:34:26.120 --> 0:34:28.120
<v Speaker 2>steaks for like twenty dollars and it will feed a

0:34:28.160 --> 0:34:31.440
<v Speaker 2>family of ten for like two weeks, you know what

0:34:31.440 --> 0:34:34.200
<v Speaker 2>I mean. That's just not how things are anymore. So

0:34:34.320 --> 0:34:37.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel like, also, if you can't afford to take

0:34:37.719 --> 0:34:39.800
<v Speaker 2>care of all of these kids, why are you having

0:34:39.880 --> 0:34:41.000
<v Speaker 2>all of these kids?

0:34:42.200 --> 0:34:43.839
<v Speaker 3>And that's a sensitive topic.

0:34:43.560 --> 0:34:45.960
<v Speaker 2>Too, it is, and I understand that it is, but

0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:48.000
<v Speaker 2>like even I'm just looking at it from a standpoint

0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:50.040
<v Speaker 2>of like my mom, like I said, my parents didn't

0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:52.200
<v Speaker 2>make me pay any bills when I got a job,

0:34:52.920 --> 0:34:55.120
<v Speaker 2>My money was just for me. They still paid my

0:34:55.200 --> 0:34:57.680
<v Speaker 2>car note, they still paid my cell phone bill. I

0:34:57.680 --> 0:34:59.319
<v Speaker 2>think I did start paying my cell phone bill like

0:34:59.320 --> 0:35:01.920
<v Speaker 2>my senior year high school. But my parents paid all

0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:03.920
<v Speaker 2>of my bills. But my mom said, the reason that

0:35:03.960 --> 0:35:05.880
<v Speaker 2>she wanted to be that way with me is because

0:35:06.480 --> 0:35:09.280
<v Speaker 2>her dad was not that way with them. My grandfather,

0:35:09.400 --> 0:35:12.040
<v Speaker 2>he actually owned a whole bunch of restaurants in Houston

0:35:12.080 --> 0:35:15.120
<v Speaker 2>back in the day, like in like the seventies, sixties

0:35:15.160 --> 0:35:18.360
<v Speaker 2>and seventies and eighties, and of course my mom and

0:35:18.360 --> 0:35:21.160
<v Speaker 2>all her siblings would work at the restaurants. And she

0:35:21.320 --> 0:35:23.759
<v Speaker 2>basically was telling me like, he didn't used to pay them,

0:35:24.239 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 2>and when he did used to pay them, like and

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:29.520
<v Speaker 2>they used to work part time hours, twenty hours, thirty

0:35:29.520 --> 0:35:31.879
<v Speaker 2>hours a week. He didn't used to pay them because

0:35:31.880 --> 0:35:34.919
<v Speaker 2>he felt like y' all my kids, of course y'all

0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 2>gonna work here. And then when he did pay them,

0:35:37.680 --> 0:35:39.399
<v Speaker 2>my mom said, they used to have to help him

0:35:39.400 --> 0:35:41.160
<v Speaker 2>pay the bills. And so as soon as all of

0:35:41.200 --> 0:35:44.000
<v Speaker 2>them turned eighteen, they hauled ass and got the heel

0:35:44.040 --> 0:35:45.719
<v Speaker 2>up out the house. They didn't want to stay there

0:35:45.760 --> 0:35:49.040
<v Speaker 2>no more because it's like, yeah, because it's crazy. And

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 2>I said that to say, but my mom also had

0:35:50.920 --> 0:35:53.520
<v Speaker 2>a big family, like it was like six of them

0:35:53.840 --> 0:35:56.320
<v Speaker 2>so all together in the household. Then with my grandparents,

0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:59.600
<v Speaker 2>a's eight people. Why you had six kids and you

0:35:59.640 --> 0:36:02.879
<v Speaker 2>couldn't take care of I just kind of be looking

0:36:02.880 --> 0:36:05.560
<v Speaker 2>at stuff like that too, because it's not your children responsibility,

0:36:05.600 --> 0:36:07.719
<v Speaker 2>Like you decided to start these restaurants. And I love

0:36:07.760 --> 0:36:11.919
<v Speaker 2>my green daddy Rip damn. Yeah. I mean he died

0:36:11.960 --> 0:36:14.120
<v Speaker 2>at an old age though, like he didn't die young.

0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:18.000
<v Speaker 2>He was like eighty five, right, okay, okay, But I

0:36:18.040 --> 0:36:20.719
<v Speaker 2>loved my grandaddy. He was super sweet before what my

0:36:20.760 --> 0:36:23.359
<v Speaker 2>mom to me before when my mom used to tell

0:36:23.400 --> 0:36:25.799
<v Speaker 2>me he was something else when they was like growing up.

0:36:26.080 --> 0:36:28.959
<v Speaker 2>And I just think that that is a crazy responsibility

0:36:29.040 --> 0:36:32.320
<v Speaker 2>to put off on your children. I started these businesses,

0:36:32.400 --> 0:36:34.680
<v Speaker 2>these businesses are not flourishing the way that I would

0:36:34.680 --> 0:36:36.759
<v Speaker 2>like them to, or I can't afford to hire the

0:36:36.840 --> 0:36:39.279
<v Speaker 2>appropriate help, so I'm just gonna have my kids work

0:36:39.320 --> 0:36:40.320
<v Speaker 2>here and not pay them.

0:36:41.200 --> 0:36:44.600
<v Speaker 1>I also think too, now we also have access to

0:36:44.640 --> 0:36:47.759
<v Speaker 1>a lot of knowledge that we weren't able to know

0:36:47.840 --> 0:36:51.520
<v Speaker 1>about in when your mom was younger, and right, there's

0:36:51.520 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 1>a lot of information. You know, there used to be

0:36:53.120 --> 0:36:55.239
<v Speaker 1>the same and I don't want to fee anybody.

0:36:54.960 --> 0:36:55.399
<v Speaker 3>But it was real.

0:36:55.440 --> 0:36:57.680
<v Speaker 1>There was like, if this is a black community, black

0:36:57.719 --> 0:36:59.400
<v Speaker 1>people talking to other black people, They're like, if you

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:01.360
<v Speaker 1>want a high something from black people, put it in

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:03.720
<v Speaker 1>the book. You know what I'm saying, because they knew,

0:37:03.760 --> 0:37:06.360
<v Speaker 1>like we would just go off of whatever and just

0:37:06.440 --> 0:37:07.799
<v Speaker 1>believe whatever people told us.

0:37:07.840 --> 0:37:10.719
<v Speaker 2>But it's crazy because at one point we used to

0:37:10.719 --> 0:37:14.200
<v Speaker 2>love to read because we could eat like it was forbidding, right, right.

0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:16.960
<v Speaker 1>So I think now the fact that we have access

0:37:17.239 --> 0:37:21.480
<v Speaker 1>to I mean, there's so many young women, young men

0:37:21.560 --> 0:37:24.080
<v Speaker 1>on the internet that literally teach you, Hey, if you

0:37:24.120 --> 0:37:26.719
<v Speaker 1>only have X, y Z to invest or save, let

0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:27.440
<v Speaker 1>me show you how to do it.

0:37:27.520 --> 0:37:28.879
<v Speaker 3>Let me show you how to make your money grow.

0:37:29.239 --> 0:37:32.759
<v Speaker 1>That's how I started saving my money. Like when I

0:37:32.800 --> 0:37:34.359
<v Speaker 1>started making money, I said, I don't want to lose

0:37:34.360 --> 0:37:36.839
<v Speaker 1>this money. So what happens if you know, knock on wood,

0:37:36.880 --> 0:37:39.520
<v Speaker 1>poor minds falls apart. How can I make sure if

0:37:39.520 --> 0:37:42.320
<v Speaker 1>I have no income coming in that I can.

0:37:42.200 --> 0:37:45.720
<v Speaker 2>Last for at least a year or two and be straight.

0:37:46.200 --> 0:37:49.840
<v Speaker 1>I got on YouTube, you know, I did some research.

0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:52.000
<v Speaker 1>I talked to people. So the fact that we have

0:37:52.160 --> 0:37:53.680
<v Speaker 1>access to things. So I know a lot of y'all

0:37:53.680 --> 0:37:56.080
<v Speaker 1>listening like, okay, but you know, if I'm you know,

0:37:56.640 --> 0:38:00.120
<v Speaker 1>working from paycheck to paycheck, I under I do under

0:38:00.120 --> 0:38:02.040
<v Speaker 1>staying that, but coming from somebody who was working from

0:38:02.080 --> 0:38:05.000
<v Speaker 1>paycheck to paycheck, and I figured it out. And even

0:38:05.000 --> 0:38:07.719
<v Speaker 1>though I was looking, I had three dollars, I did,

0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:10.560
<v Speaker 1>but I was learning how to take my money and

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:12.879
<v Speaker 1>invest a little bit of money I did have into

0:38:12.920 --> 0:38:15.920
<v Speaker 1>my business and little and taking little things here and there.

0:38:15.960 --> 0:38:18.400
<v Speaker 1>There are small things that you can do. But we

0:38:18.520 --> 0:38:21.279
<v Speaker 1>have access to so much information, y'all.

0:38:21.360 --> 0:38:22.359
<v Speaker 2>We really really do.

0:38:22.480 --> 0:38:24.680
<v Speaker 1>And I truly believe that we are now in the

0:38:24.719 --> 0:38:27.360
<v Speaker 1>day and age where anything has always been possible, but

0:38:27.480 --> 0:38:32.120
<v Speaker 1>today anything is possible. You have people online who are

0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:34.479
<v Speaker 1>learning how to do digital marketing who don't know nothing

0:38:34.480 --> 0:38:35.479
<v Speaker 1>about a computer, but they.

0:38:35.400 --> 0:38:36.600
<v Speaker 3>Just sat there and figured it out.

0:38:36.719 --> 0:38:39.440
<v Speaker 1>You got people who do day trading who didn't know

0:38:39.440 --> 0:38:40.840
<v Speaker 1>how to do it, but they figured it out and

0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:43.080
<v Speaker 1>they're literally, you know, making a thousand dollars a day

0:38:43.120 --> 0:38:45.120
<v Speaker 1>figuring all that stuff out. So I think, if you

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:47.160
<v Speaker 1>have the time and the patience and you really are

0:38:47.280 --> 0:38:50.000
<v Speaker 1>thirsty for knowledge, you can do better for your household

0:38:50.080 --> 0:38:53.319
<v Speaker 1>to create something that's long lasting. Because one thing my

0:38:53.400 --> 0:38:56.399
<v Speaker 1>mom said to me, though she always said, I didn't

0:38:56.440 --> 0:38:58.040
<v Speaker 1>do everything right, but I'm gonna make sure you get

0:38:58.040 --> 0:39:00.239
<v Speaker 1>it right, you know what I'm saying. That's what I

0:39:00.280 --> 0:39:02.160
<v Speaker 1>always tell people that Lexp went through that, so you

0:39:02.160 --> 0:39:03.080
<v Speaker 1>ain't got to go through that.

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:03.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:06.240
<v Speaker 2>So I don't think you should make your kids pay bills.

0:39:06.360 --> 0:39:08.279
<v Speaker 2>I don't think so either. And I think like, if

0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:11.080
<v Speaker 2>you are going through a financial hardship, are you going

0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:13.160
<v Speaker 2>through something and you do have to ask your kids

0:39:13.160 --> 0:39:15.520
<v Speaker 2>to help you with something that's understandable because it's like

0:39:15.520 --> 0:39:17.840
<v Speaker 2>if it's between the lights getting turned off, are you

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:20.520
<v Speaker 2>asking your kid, can you please help me Patty's bill?

0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:23.080
<v Speaker 2>That's fine, but I feel like you should definitely get

0:39:23.120 --> 0:39:25.319
<v Speaker 2>him back the money. Oh yeah, yeah, when you get

0:39:25.360 --> 0:39:27.480
<v Speaker 2>back on your fee, you should get him the two

0:39:27.560 --> 0:39:30.520
<v Speaker 2>hundred dollars big or they three hundred dollars big. And

0:39:31.360 --> 0:39:33.640
<v Speaker 2>I was just gonna say, I know that that is

0:39:33.680 --> 0:39:36.719
<v Speaker 2>a touchy subject when we start talking about like how

0:39:36.719 --> 0:39:39.080
<v Speaker 2>many kids people are having and stuff like that, But

0:39:39.120 --> 0:39:42.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I'm just a very strong advocate for

0:39:43.440 --> 0:39:46.879
<v Speaker 2>children are not your child is not supposed to come

0:39:46.960 --> 0:39:50.479
<v Speaker 2>into this world and be responsible for you or live

0:39:50.680 --> 0:39:51.800
<v Speaker 2>a life of struggle.

0:39:51.880 --> 0:39:53.360
<v Speaker 1>No, And I said that because I know it's a

0:39:53.360 --> 0:39:54.359
<v Speaker 1>sense of subject.

0:39:54.080 --> 0:39:55.000
<v Speaker 2>But I agree with you.

0:39:55.080 --> 0:39:57.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I remember one time your best friend Lean

0:39:58.040 --> 0:40:00.880
<v Speaker 1>had tweeted something, Oh, I'm not gonna beat.

0:40:01.320 --> 0:40:03.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but Len is crazy.

0:40:03.239 --> 0:40:05.239
<v Speaker 1>But i mean everybody was just eating her up, and

0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:07.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why are y'all doing her? She's right?

0:40:07.040 --> 0:40:08.840
<v Speaker 2>Am? I feel like, if.

0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:12.480
<v Speaker 1>You are not comfortable yourself and you are waking up

0:40:12.520 --> 0:40:15.000
<v Speaker 1>and you were crying and you were struggling, why would

0:40:15.040 --> 0:40:16.440
<v Speaker 1>you want to bring a child into that.

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:18.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just don't understand.

0:40:18.680 --> 0:40:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying that you gotta be a millionaire, right,

0:40:20.719 --> 0:40:23.040
<v Speaker 1>you at least have a community around you. I mean,

0:40:23.080 --> 0:40:25.399
<v Speaker 1>things happen, Accidents happen. I'm not saying that, and I'm

0:40:25.400 --> 0:40:26.360
<v Speaker 1>not I just think that.

0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:29.120
<v Speaker 3>We should be careful.

0:40:29.400 --> 0:40:31.399
<v Speaker 2>I mean because it's because this is a thing too.

0:40:31.920 --> 0:40:34.759
<v Speaker 2>Like you said, sometimes things happen. And I can understand. Okay,

0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:37.480
<v Speaker 2>you get pregnant, you like I'm pregnant. I love the

0:40:37.520 --> 0:40:41.359
<v Speaker 2>person that I'm we I'm gonna have the baby. Having five, though,

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:45.800
<v Speaker 2>is a choice when your situation have been changed having one, Okay,

0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:49.000
<v Speaker 2>I get it, having five out and you still in

0:40:49.040 --> 0:40:51.399
<v Speaker 2>the same situation and you still struggling. I just feel

0:40:51.400 --> 0:40:53.920
<v Speaker 2>like that's like a choice. And then when your children

0:40:53.960 --> 0:40:56.840
<v Speaker 2>get old enough to work, you're expecting them to contribute

0:40:56.840 --> 0:40:59.600
<v Speaker 2>to the household. Like, no, this is never gonna see

0:40:59.640 --> 0:41:01.919
<v Speaker 2>right with my and I don't really care who would

0:41:01.920 --> 0:41:04.080
<v Speaker 2>have been right. And that's why I said, speaking of

0:41:04.320 --> 0:41:05.680
<v Speaker 2>because don't do your keys.

0:41:05.480 --> 0:41:08.000
<v Speaker 1>Like getting pregnant and stuff like that in the black community.

0:41:08.000 --> 0:41:09.920
<v Speaker 1>I want y'all, before y'all be eating us up, just

0:41:09.960 --> 0:41:13.520
<v Speaker 1>stay tuned to the bed topic today because I'm gonna

0:41:13.520 --> 0:41:17.680
<v Speaker 1>tell y'all why things y'all are worried about the wrong things.

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:20.040
<v Speaker 3>But we're gonna get med to that later. So all

0:41:20.080 --> 0:41:20.520
<v Speaker 3>in all, I.

0:41:20.440 --> 0:41:23.480
<v Speaker 1>Think we all agree, Yeah, teach your kids money management,

0:41:23.600 --> 0:41:24.640
<v Speaker 1>but stop making them pay.

0:41:24.480 --> 0:41:27.239
<v Speaker 2>Your bill's strife absolutely.

0:41:26.719 --> 0:41:29.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right, Tom, what we drinking today?

0:41:29.840 --> 0:41:33.200
<v Speaker 2>Okay? So this is our solo episode and we've had

0:41:33.200 --> 0:41:36.279
<v Speaker 2>a lot of guests. Yes, we're gonna call this one

0:41:36.480 --> 0:41:40.279
<v Speaker 2>the Girl's Girl, all right, cause we're behind here, all right.

0:41:40.800 --> 0:41:42.960
<v Speaker 2>So for this one, you can do any spirit of choice.

0:41:42.960 --> 0:41:44.680
<v Speaker 2>You can keep it a mocktail, or make it into

0:41:44.680 --> 0:41:48.200
<v Speaker 2>a cocktail. I've added some passion fruit. We have a

0:41:48.239 --> 0:41:50.360
<v Speaker 2>little bit of grapefruit, a little bit of lemon. I

0:41:50.440 --> 0:41:53.640
<v Speaker 2>made a bagel, honey, a little bit of ginger beer,

0:41:54.560 --> 0:41:58.440
<v Speaker 2>and then I used honey mango. So it's really good.

0:41:58.480 --> 0:42:00.200
<v Speaker 2>It was a little bit tard. I don't know, it

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:02.279
<v Speaker 2>wasn't ripe enough good, but it was really good. I

0:42:02.320 --> 0:42:03.880
<v Speaker 2>really thought y'all would like it because it has that

0:42:03.960 --> 0:42:06.000
<v Speaker 2>tartness to it, and I think it goes really well

0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:08.720
<v Speaker 2>with the passion fruit and a grapefruit too. This mango

0:42:08.920 --> 0:42:13.040
<v Speaker 2>is juicy as hair. Yes, that's the honey mango garnish.

0:42:13.120 --> 0:42:15.040
<v Speaker 2>The honey mango is garnish. And then a little bit

0:42:15.080 --> 0:42:16.600
<v Speaker 2>of basil in there, just to get a little give

0:42:16.600 --> 0:42:20.880
<v Speaker 2>it a little color to it. Oh but oh, you

0:42:21.280 --> 0:42:24.440
<v Speaker 2>just I see what you mean by the tartness. So

0:42:24.560 --> 0:42:28.800
<v Speaker 2>my eyes, it's good though, So we're gonna play with

0:42:28.840 --> 0:42:31.040
<v Speaker 2>that a little bit more. But that this is the

0:42:31.080 --> 0:42:35.439
<v Speaker 2>girl's girl. Thank you. Gus. Of course, realm another little

0:42:35.440 --> 0:42:39.319
<v Speaker 2>CBD shops. I know you was cursing a lot.

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:43.319
<v Speaker 1>He was like, because, motherfucker, because fuck that, because the

0:42:43.320 --> 0:42:44.200
<v Speaker 1>fucking motherfucker.

0:42:44.239 --> 0:42:48.080
<v Speaker 2>When the fu fucking it. Fucked, it got fucked on

0:42:48.160 --> 0:42:55.400
<v Speaker 2>the to be like bleed bleed, bleed bleed. I'm sorry,

0:42:55.520 --> 0:42:57.960
<v Speaker 2>and I didn't realize that I had some potty mouth.

0:42:58.280 --> 0:43:02.480
<v Speaker 2>You couldn't weigh an episode normally because normally I be

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:05.319
<v Speaker 2>trying to wait until like the five minutes past. You

0:43:05.320 --> 0:43:13.640
<v Speaker 2>couldn't wait to be working booty by, say Booty Park College.

0:43:16.280 --> 0:43:17.480
<v Speaker 2>That's what they're laying. It is low.

0:43:17.800 --> 0:43:21.360
<v Speaker 1>It is the booty parks. This lady that walks around midtown. Okay,

0:43:21.520 --> 0:43:24.799
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm talking about. Maybe she got the

0:43:24.840 --> 0:43:28.600
<v Speaker 1>biggest wagon I have ever seen, and she be walking fast.

0:43:28.600 --> 0:43:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Where does she be going? So she's usually around the.

0:43:31.640 --> 0:43:38.720
<v Speaker 1>Target said, it's me surprised she'd be walking around like target,

0:43:38.800 --> 0:43:40.880
<v Speaker 1>the target area. And I mean that thing is so

0:43:40.960 --> 0:43:42.360
<v Speaker 1>and she'd be walking fast.

0:43:44.239 --> 0:43:45.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she walks really fast.

0:43:45.560 --> 0:43:46.600
<v Speaker 3>She has headphones on.

0:43:46.719 --> 0:43:49.960
<v Speaker 1>She's always in like a T shirt, some you know,

0:43:50.120 --> 0:43:53.360
<v Speaker 1>workout pants see all the time.

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:56.640
<v Speaker 2>And that booty is just so rotan. I love a

0:43:56.760 --> 0:43:57.680
<v Speaker 2>rotund booty.

0:43:57.800 --> 0:43:58.680
<v Speaker 3>It's so rotun.

0:43:59.239 --> 0:44:03.200
<v Speaker 1>But like shout out to huhout out.

0:44:03.120 --> 0:44:08.439
<v Speaker 2>To the queen. In meantime, shout out of it. Oh,

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:13.759
<v Speaker 2>y'all said that on this song, it's me surprise. Why

0:44:13.760 --> 0:44:15.840
<v Speaker 2>did he say that? Do you ever just be listening

0:44:15.880 --> 0:44:16.000
<v Speaker 2>to the.

0:44:16.040 --> 0:44:22.520
<v Speaker 1>Songs sometimes with surprise. Jock's first album was a masterpiece,

0:44:22.560 --> 0:44:24.719
<v Speaker 1>and he was robbed of the Grammys he deserved.

0:44:24.920 --> 0:44:27.680
<v Speaker 2>Now he definitely deserves some Grammys for that. It was.

0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:35.399
<v Speaker 2>It was definitely a mess. I'm trying to We gotta

0:44:35.440 --> 0:44:40.880
<v Speaker 2>stop cussing so much. We never gonna become a We

0:44:41.160 --> 0:44:45.520
<v Speaker 2>never gonna become legit say nigga and pussy too much.

0:44:45.640 --> 0:44:49.319
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, we are to cross over, but that

0:44:49.440 --> 0:44:51.760
<v Speaker 2>be leg saying but busy.

0:44:52.040 --> 0:44:56.320
<v Speaker 1>Bussy is a crossover word though, that in the other community,

0:44:56.320 --> 0:44:58.040
<v Speaker 1>because you know, we said, we're trying to bring in

0:44:58.080 --> 0:45:02.480
<v Speaker 1>the latinas the White, the Indians. We want everybody to

0:45:02.520 --> 0:45:07.080
<v Speaker 1>tune in. Bussy is a universal word that that is

0:45:07.120 --> 0:45:09.520
<v Speaker 1>in the LGBTQ community. They all use it.

0:45:09.600 --> 0:45:12.800
<v Speaker 2>I say bussy occasionally, like when it's feeding for the topic.

0:45:13.360 --> 0:45:16.040
<v Speaker 2>You'll just be saying bussy just to say busy. I

0:45:16.080 --> 0:45:24.359
<v Speaker 2>think you like mine. It's like, I'm not mad at

0:45:24.360 --> 0:45:27.480
<v Speaker 2>it because I know what it represents. And no, Miguel

0:45:27.560 --> 0:45:30.520
<v Speaker 2>didn't say bussy. He said, tell me that that pussy

0:45:30.640 --> 0:45:31.080
<v Speaker 2>is mine.

0:45:31.280 --> 0:45:33.360
<v Speaker 3>The p word is not universal.

0:45:33.360 --> 0:45:36.080
<v Speaker 2>Though I like the p words, some people don't like

0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:39.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't like it. I like it pussy that pussy

0:45:39.800 --> 0:45:46.839
<v Speaker 2>real not that all out too. But yeah, I don't

0:45:46.880 --> 0:45:50.759
<v Speaker 2>know bussy is universal. I understand what it represents, and

0:45:50.800 --> 0:45:53.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm glad that they have a word to represent what

0:45:53.400 --> 0:45:56.799
<v Speaker 2>they needed to represent. I don't like it, though I

0:45:56.840 --> 0:46:02.799
<v Speaker 2>do bussy. It's remind me too much of buto. And

0:46:02.840 --> 0:46:05.080
<v Speaker 2>then so when I think of butdh sy, I think

0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:10.040
<v Speaker 2>of something that's stained. And I know all bussies don't stain,

0:46:10.880 --> 0:46:11.600
<v Speaker 2>don't I know all?

0:46:12.520 --> 0:46:13.600
<v Speaker 3>Have you ever smelled the bussy?

0:46:13.760 --> 0:46:17.880
<v Speaker 2>I smelled my bussy? You gotta everyone has a bussy

0:46:18.440 --> 0:46:20.960
<v Speaker 2>if you're using it for their purpose. I mean I

0:46:21.000 --> 0:46:21.319
<v Speaker 2>do have.

0:46:21.640 --> 0:46:32.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, have you ever smelt somebody else's bussy?

0:46:33.320 --> 0:46:33.920
<v Speaker 2>Perhaps?

0:46:34.280 --> 0:46:37.240
<v Speaker 1>Never mind, I don't know why that it was a girl.

0:46:37.719 --> 0:46:38.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't care if it was a girl.

0:46:38.920 --> 0:46:44.560
<v Speaker 2>A burrol, I feel like I had to clarify. I'm

0:46:44.719 --> 0:46:48.960
<v Speaker 2>just this is not a burrel. I've never slept with

0:46:49.000 --> 0:46:51.800
<v Speaker 2>a burrel. Oh my gosh, what do we call a burrow?

0:46:51.920 --> 0:46:55.839
<v Speaker 2>On our show? Okay? Rolling rolling up? Okay, come back

0:46:55.840 --> 0:46:58.400
<v Speaker 2>on the show. I can say I've never slept with

0:46:58.440 --> 0:46:59.480
<v Speaker 2>a burrow a shim.

0:47:00.560 --> 0:47:02.160
<v Speaker 3>I think shim is actually offensive.

0:47:02.280 --> 0:47:03.440
<v Speaker 2>You think so, I think they.

0:47:03.640 --> 0:47:05.759
<v Speaker 1>I think like burrel is cute and funny, but I

0:47:05.800 --> 0:47:07.880
<v Speaker 1>think that that one is like because people use that

0:47:07.920 --> 0:47:11.760
<v Speaker 1>to be offensive. Really this women and sis men assistment.

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 2>See, I didn't think that. So I apologize if that's

0:47:14.440 --> 0:47:16.319
<v Speaker 2>an offensive word or direction. I don't know if I

0:47:16.400 --> 0:47:19.840
<v Speaker 2>just made that up as well. Okay, see you apologizing it.

0:47:19.920 --> 0:47:24.080
<v Speaker 2>You don't even know. But no, because I said that. Yeah,

0:47:24.080 --> 0:47:27.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't mind apologizing because I don't want to offend anybody.

0:47:27.160 --> 0:47:29.160
<v Speaker 2>But I said it because when I think of shim,

0:47:29.239 --> 0:47:31.960
<v Speaker 2>I just think of like she and him mixed together,

0:47:32.600 --> 0:47:35.120
<v Speaker 2>just like girls boy and girl mixed together.

0:47:35.360 --> 0:47:37.440
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like, I know I'm but I'm not

0:47:37.440 --> 0:47:39.040
<v Speaker 1>trying to be funny. I feel like I've seen a

0:47:39.080 --> 0:47:41.120
<v Speaker 1>comment or something that somebody said it was offensive, but

0:47:41.120 --> 0:47:43.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that person was offended or it

0:47:43.520 --> 0:47:46.359
<v Speaker 1>was offending the community, you know, gotty gotty, Well, I'm

0:47:46.400 --> 0:47:48.640
<v Speaker 1>just like a difference with like the E R and

0:47:48.680 --> 0:47:49.000
<v Speaker 1>the A.

0:47:50.640 --> 0:47:54.840
<v Speaker 2>Mmm. You know, and that bothers me too, because people

0:47:54.960 --> 0:47:57.400
<v Speaker 2>love to think that that word is universal and it

0:47:57.480 --> 0:48:02.760
<v Speaker 2>is indeed not what A or E R both. Yeah,

0:48:03.560 --> 0:48:05.879
<v Speaker 2>you shouldn't be saying none of them if you look

0:48:05.960 --> 0:48:08.919
<v Speaker 2>like this, you know I love her? Good? Yeah, why

0:48:08.920 --> 0:48:09.680
<v Speaker 2>are you saying it?

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:11.440
<v Speaker 3>They want to say it bad, too.

0:48:12.800 --> 0:48:15.239
<v Speaker 2>Real bad, And that may even go for some of

0:48:15.239 --> 0:48:18.440
<v Speaker 2>our mulatto brothers and sisters. Y'all should not say it either,

0:48:18.440 --> 0:48:21.120
<v Speaker 2>because if we can't look at you until you just

0:48:21.120 --> 0:48:24.920
<v Speaker 2>shouldn't say you should just not say.

0:48:26.760 --> 0:48:28.040
<v Speaker 3>Brothers and sisters.

0:48:28.760 --> 0:48:33.160
<v Speaker 2>You know, I agree, because I feel like if I

0:48:33.200 --> 0:48:36.719
<v Speaker 2>have to look at you and be like, are you

0:48:36.760 --> 0:48:41.479
<v Speaker 2>sure you can say that, just don't say ah, don't

0:48:41.480 --> 0:48:41.879
<v Speaker 2>say it.

0:48:42.400 --> 0:48:46.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's it's but you know what, I'm getting to

0:48:46.680 --> 0:48:51.200
<v Speaker 1>that age where I like, I don't know, like I

0:48:51.239 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 1>am trying to really remove it from my vocabulary.

0:48:53.840 --> 0:48:55.880
<v Speaker 2>Me too, That's what I was saying. I really, I

0:48:55.920 --> 0:48:58.359
<v Speaker 2>can't wait till the day that we just don't say

0:48:58.360 --> 0:49:00.239
<v Speaker 2>that word anymore on the shop, you know what. I've

0:49:00.280 --> 0:49:01.600
<v Speaker 2>already had for a time.

0:49:01.640 --> 0:49:03.319
<v Speaker 1>I know, but you know, it's actually harder for me

0:49:03.400 --> 0:49:04.640
<v Speaker 1>not to say now it's not.

0:49:04.560 --> 0:49:07.720
<v Speaker 2>The A, S, E R no, because you have a problem.

0:49:07.760 --> 0:49:11.600
<v Speaker 2>I do, because I've never used the hardy do I

0:49:11.680 --> 0:49:12.239
<v Speaker 2>use it a lot.

0:49:12.400 --> 0:49:13.279
<v Speaker 3>You know that's me and Laura.

0:49:13.360 --> 0:49:14.560
<v Speaker 2>It's too traumatizing.

0:49:14.680 --> 0:49:16.520
<v Speaker 3>You know that's me and Lauren's nicknames for each other.

0:49:16.600 --> 0:49:20.200
<v Speaker 2>I know, hey, little yeah, y'all be calling each other day.

0:49:20.719 --> 0:49:27.320
<v Speaker 2>Y'all are so weird. You, you and Lauren are so strange.

0:49:26.840 --> 0:49:30.719
<v Speaker 1>That when we entered the phone and wrong, she'd be like,

0:49:32.680 --> 0:49:34.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think I just felt like I

0:49:34.360 --> 0:49:35.239
<v Speaker 1>took the power back.

0:49:35.320 --> 0:49:38.120
<v Speaker 2>You didn't take the power back, so like, I feel

0:49:38.120 --> 0:49:41.160
<v Speaker 2>like it is so offensive to our incenses. They fought

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:42.960
<v Speaker 2>so hard for us to not be called no.

0:49:43.160 --> 0:49:45.360
<v Speaker 1>They fought hard for our freedom to do what we

0:49:45.440 --> 0:49:46.279
<v Speaker 1>want and to live on.

0:49:46.239 --> 0:49:50.239
<v Speaker 2>This be called that anymore. But I took the I'm

0:49:50.280 --> 0:49:52.960
<v Speaker 2>not letting nobody else call me that. I'm letting my move.

0:49:53.040 --> 0:49:58.399
<v Speaker 2>What you're gonna do if they do, they're gonna start

0:49:58.480 --> 0:50:00.920
<v Speaker 2>laughing at your ass because they don't gonna be scared.

0:50:04.480 --> 0:50:05.960
<v Speaker 2>You don't tap your feet like that.

0:50:06.280 --> 0:50:09.439
<v Speaker 1>It's gonna distract them.

0:50:11.239 --> 0:50:13.400
<v Speaker 2>I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,

0:50:13.480 --> 0:50:17.800
<v Speaker 2>because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody

0:50:17.840 --> 0:50:20.160
<v Speaker 2>doing that and you looking down at the steal off

0:50:20.239 --> 0:50:23.520
<v Speaker 2>like I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come from

0:50:23.520 --> 0:50:28.520
<v Speaker 2>the side, y'all, I'm not coming. I'm not gonna started

0:50:28.680 --> 0:50:32.359
<v Speaker 2>doing that. Ain't they called you that? If anything, I'm

0:50:32.360 --> 0:50:38.799
<v Speaker 2>gonna tap my feet. So somebody called me the N word.

0:50:38.800 --> 0:50:41.200
<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't get out there with me. I would tap

0:50:41.280 --> 0:50:45.440
<v Speaker 2>my feet. Why you come from Okay, either white? We

0:50:45.560 --> 0:50:47.839
<v Speaker 2>in this together. And then once you got them down,

0:50:48.000 --> 0:50:51.200
<v Speaker 2>once you knock them down, me and I'll probably were together.

0:50:51.560 --> 0:50:55.359
<v Speaker 2>You gotta them together. You don't worry. God, I got

0:50:55.400 --> 0:50:58.640
<v Speaker 2>your man, That's what I'm saying. But then afterwards, I

0:50:58.640 --> 0:50:59.719
<v Speaker 2>would give you a last she.

0:51:02.880 --> 0:51:03.839
<v Speaker 3>Now that's race.

0:51:05.600 --> 0:51:10.160
<v Speaker 2>Doctor Umar say that one thousand last years. I would

0:51:10.200 --> 0:51:12.960
<v Speaker 2>give you one thousand last years after because you be

0:51:13.040 --> 0:51:15.000
<v Speaker 2>saying it. That's why they probably thought they could.

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:20.399
<v Speaker 1>Say you have said it on poor mind, you.

0:51:20.440 --> 0:51:23.080
<v Speaker 2>Have said the herd e R. I would go find

0:51:23.120 --> 0:51:28.160
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0:51:28.440 --> 0:51:31.279
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<v Speaker 1>Thanks having your friends back and fighting with your friends.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to talk about constantly being your friends therapists

0:53:51.120 --> 0:53:53.759
<v Speaker 1>while they're in a toxic relationship.

0:53:54.640 --> 0:53:57.560
<v Speaker 2>Please pass the my tomato. Tomato.

0:53:57.960 --> 0:53:58.600
<v Speaker 3>We don't like that.

0:53:58.800 --> 0:54:04.560
<v Speaker 2>No, after a while. No, in the beginning years, for sure,

0:54:05.239 --> 0:54:08.880
<v Speaker 2>everybody need a soundboard, everybody needs somebody to be to.

0:54:09.000 --> 0:54:12.640
<v Speaker 2>Everybody needs somebody to talk to. But after a while, though,

0:54:13.600 --> 0:54:17.719
<v Speaker 2>if you are still in a toxic situation, or you're

0:54:17.760 --> 0:54:20.439
<v Speaker 2>complaining about this person all the time, but you don't

0:54:20.480 --> 0:54:22.480
<v Speaker 2>want to leave, especially if it's not like.

0:54:22.480 --> 0:54:31.200
<v Speaker 1>A, I don't want to leave it, leave it.

0:54:31.200 --> 0:54:36.840
<v Speaker 2>It was good? Because what made him go in the

0:54:36.880 --> 0:54:40.800
<v Speaker 2>studio that day, if they stacked to hold your down?

0:54:41.400 --> 0:54:50.880
<v Speaker 2>But what made him say, I ain't my leave it.

0:54:51.400 --> 0:54:54.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm afraid on your neck for the rest of your life.

0:54:54.480 --> 0:54:58.880
<v Speaker 1>Ho and me, it's not good. It's never been good.

0:55:03.120 --> 0:55:05.080
<v Speaker 2>When we really think about it, and we're not. Maybe

0:55:05.120 --> 0:55:08.439
<v Speaker 2>we'll get into this for the bop signy, but Trey

0:55:08.600 --> 0:55:13.759
<v Speaker 2>songs you just said a few questionable things. Get into

0:55:13.800 --> 0:55:18.080
<v Speaker 2>that anyway if you don't want to. But if you yeah,

0:55:18.080 --> 0:55:22.200
<v Speaker 2>if you don't want to leave the situation, especially if

0:55:22.239 --> 0:55:26.479
<v Speaker 2>it's not like ZV. I don't want to hear about

0:55:26.520 --> 0:55:30.200
<v Speaker 2>these because I can understand when women be in domestic

0:55:30.239 --> 0:55:33.880
<v Speaker 2>abuse and violent situations where they be afraid for their life.

0:55:33.920 --> 0:55:36.879
<v Speaker 2>Believe that's completely different. That's not what we're talking about.

0:55:37.360 --> 0:55:40.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about you just being a stupid bed and

0:55:40.080 --> 0:55:41.600
<v Speaker 2>you just want to talk to me about it all

0:55:41.640 --> 0:55:44.920
<v Speaker 2>the time. After a year or two that you've been

0:55:44.960 --> 0:55:48.279
<v Speaker 2>with these persons, I have ran out of my capacity

0:55:48.400 --> 0:55:50.880
<v Speaker 2>to listen. I truly have. And I feel like for

0:55:50.960 --> 0:55:54.239
<v Speaker 2>some people that's probably gonna sound a little harsh, but

0:55:54.320 --> 0:55:56.719
<v Speaker 2>I think that these days that's what we have therapies for.

0:55:57.360 --> 0:56:01.200
<v Speaker 2>You should us talk to your therapies because as a friend,

0:56:01.480 --> 0:56:04.120
<v Speaker 2>and I feel like lex kin ofticities, you can come

0:56:04.120 --> 0:56:05.799
<v Speaker 2>and talk to me about stuff, and I'm gonna try

0:56:05.920 --> 0:56:07.520
<v Speaker 2>to not be judge me, so I'm gonna listen to

0:56:07.600 --> 0:56:09.160
<v Speaker 2>what you have to say. I'm not gonna tell you

0:56:09.200 --> 0:56:11.399
<v Speaker 2>what I'm not sure. I'm gonna try because I am

0:56:11.440 --> 0:56:17.879
<v Speaker 2>because sometime when it comes to niggas, damn again, when

0:56:17.920 --> 0:56:19.759
<v Speaker 2>it comes to these when it comes to these men,

0:56:19.840 --> 0:56:21.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie when it comes to situations with

0:56:21.719 --> 0:56:23.520
<v Speaker 2>my friends with me, and this is what I will say.

0:56:23.880 --> 0:56:26.080
<v Speaker 2>I do feel like you can come and talk to

0:56:26.080 --> 0:56:28.279
<v Speaker 2>me about whatever, and I'm not gonna say nyhing. I'm

0:56:28.280 --> 0:56:30.320
<v Speaker 2>gonna just listen to you. I'm gonna hear you out

0:56:31.239 --> 0:56:33.840
<v Speaker 2>and unless you ask me for my opinion, that's the

0:56:33.880 --> 0:56:35.759
<v Speaker 2>only time I'm gonna just give you my opinion or

0:56:35.760 --> 0:56:39.800
<v Speaker 2>tell you what I think you should do. But after

0:56:39.920 --> 0:56:42.800
<v Speaker 2>a certain period of time, I just don't want to

0:56:42.840 --> 0:56:44.879
<v Speaker 2>hear the sheet no more because I am that type

0:56:44.880 --> 0:56:46.680
<v Speaker 2>of friend who I'm just gonna let you be into me.

0:56:46.680 --> 0:56:48.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna let you talk to me. I'm not gonna

0:56:48.320 --> 0:56:51.160
<v Speaker 2>give you my unbiased opinion for no reason. So after

0:56:51.239 --> 0:56:53.960
<v Speaker 2>a while, especially if you ask me and I tell you, friend,

0:56:54.280 --> 0:56:56.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't really think this is the best situation for you.

0:56:56.719 --> 0:56:59.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't really feel like the love and the energies

0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:02.760
<v Speaker 2>being reciprocated by him. What you're giving into the relationship,

0:57:02.760 --> 0:57:04.560
<v Speaker 2>it's not what you're getting back out of it. And

0:57:04.640 --> 0:57:06.680
<v Speaker 2>if I tell you that stuff any you still choose

0:57:06.760 --> 0:57:08.520
<v Speaker 2>to stay, and you steady keep coming back to me

0:57:08.560 --> 0:57:10.759
<v Speaker 2>talking to you out the same stuff. I just don't

0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:13.120
<v Speaker 2>got the energy no more talk to your therapy.

0:57:13.480 --> 0:57:16.640
<v Speaker 1>So I one hundred percent understand where you're coming from,

0:57:16.640 --> 0:57:19.680
<v Speaker 1>because it does get aggravated. But I'm a little bit

0:57:19.720 --> 0:57:21.640
<v Speaker 1>on the opposite end. I think you know that about me.

0:57:22.480 --> 0:57:25.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't give a damn how many times you taking

0:57:25.800 --> 0:57:30.520
<v Speaker 1>the man back. Sometimes people have to keep going back

0:57:30.560 --> 0:57:33.080
<v Speaker 1>till they're tired. And you're gonna keep going back until

0:57:33.120 --> 0:57:35.120
<v Speaker 1>you get tired. So I'm the friend that's like, I'm

0:57:35.120 --> 0:57:38.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna listen, I'm gonna be here. But I will say

0:57:38.160 --> 0:57:39.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not the friend that's I'm just gonna be a

0:57:39.960 --> 0:57:43.400
<v Speaker 1>listening ear. I'm finna tell you how bad he sucks.

0:57:43.480 --> 0:57:45.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't like him. I'm gonna give you my opinion,

0:57:45.640 --> 0:57:47.680
<v Speaker 1>whether you ask for it or now. See, I try

0:57:47.720 --> 0:57:51.520
<v Speaker 1>not to tell I'm finna eat him up every time. Now,

0:57:52.160 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 1>there are two situations that I don't play with. There's

0:57:55.080 --> 0:57:59.160
<v Speaker 1>two things that that's. This is when I get mad

0:57:59.560 --> 0:58:02.680
<v Speaker 1>because you have to cut him off and it's no hands,

0:58:02.680 --> 0:58:05.240
<v Speaker 1>it's or butts about it. If he put his hands

0:58:05.280 --> 0:58:06.960
<v Speaker 1>on you, and if he have a baby on you.

0:58:07.680 --> 0:58:10.000
<v Speaker 1>Those are two things that I'm not tolerating that for

0:58:10.080 --> 0:58:13.200
<v Speaker 1>any of my friends. Now, if it's like a cheating situation,

0:58:13.720 --> 0:58:16.120
<v Speaker 1>or you know, he's not being as attentive, you know

0:58:16.200 --> 0:58:19.000
<v Speaker 1>the other relationship problems which are are as bad too,

0:58:19.160 --> 0:58:21.440
<v Speaker 1>Like I can handle you talking to me about that

0:58:21.680 --> 0:58:24.280
<v Speaker 1>over and over again, and I'm be like, hey, look

0:58:24.320 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 1>what we're doing today, how we feeling today? Are we

0:58:26.440 --> 0:58:28.480
<v Speaker 1>crying today? Are we sad today? Are we happy today?

0:58:28.720 --> 0:58:30.919
<v Speaker 1>Let me be here in any capacity that I can.

0:58:31.040 --> 0:58:33.840
<v Speaker 1>But I will say now, I am a vocal person.

0:58:34.080 --> 0:58:35.880
<v Speaker 1>Hey friend, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm going

0:58:35.880 --> 0:58:37.600
<v Speaker 1>through something today. I'm having a day. I can't take

0:58:37.640 --> 0:58:41.200
<v Speaker 1>that today. I don't have the capacity to listen to

0:58:41.200 --> 0:58:43.680
<v Speaker 1>this today. But my friends know that about me, so

0:58:43.720 --> 0:58:44.920
<v Speaker 1>they're like, okay, friend, I understand.

0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:45.640
<v Speaker 2>I'll call you tomorrow.

0:58:45.720 --> 0:58:48.960
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. My friends know my boundary.

0:58:49.080 --> 0:58:50.960
<v Speaker 1>So hey, les, you good? Can you talk? I got

0:58:50.960 --> 0:58:52.760
<v Speaker 1>this going on? Oh yeah, what's up? What's going on?

0:58:52.800 --> 0:58:55.560
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. So, but like I said, now,

0:58:55.600 --> 0:58:57.640
<v Speaker 1>if this man that had a baby on you, are

0:58:57.640 --> 0:58:58.800
<v Speaker 1>he gonna put his hands on you?

0:58:59.480 --> 0:59:02.520
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah? You getting them? You getting them lashings. You

0:59:02.640 --> 0:59:04.600
<v Speaker 2>gonna get them fucking lashes If you talking to me

0:59:04.640 --> 0:59:07.440
<v Speaker 2>about a cheating man too, I don't want to hear

0:59:07.480 --> 0:59:09.000
<v Speaker 2>you talking to me about a man they keep I

0:59:09.000 --> 0:59:10.760
<v Speaker 2>don't care to he not putting his hands on you.

0:59:10.960 --> 0:59:12.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't care if he didn't go have a baby

0:59:12.560 --> 0:59:14.480
<v Speaker 2>on you. He keep cheating on you, and you think

0:59:14.520 --> 0:59:16.560
<v Speaker 2>you about to keep calling me talking to me about it?

0:59:17.120 --> 0:59:19.240
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely not, are you so.

0:59:19.520 --> 0:59:21.720
<v Speaker 1>I will say my friend's gonna get tired or talking

0:59:21.720 --> 0:59:23.640
<v Speaker 1>to me about them. I'm not finna be like, girl,

0:59:23.720 --> 0:59:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I hear you, but I'm gonna be like, you're dumb.

0:59:25.680 --> 0:59:27.880
<v Speaker 2>But that's the thing too, I feel like that's fair

0:59:28.000 --> 0:59:31.400
<v Speaker 2>to say. Eventually people will get tired. Sometimes people just

0:59:31.480 --> 0:59:33.840
<v Speaker 2>don't get tired. That's when you have to just draw

0:59:33.960 --> 0:59:37.440
<v Speaker 2>the line of I'm not least right, I just don't.

0:59:38.120 --> 0:59:41.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to. I'm here for you, like you

0:59:41.280 --> 0:59:43.760
<v Speaker 2>know what I mean. If you need me or if

0:59:43.800 --> 0:59:46.920
<v Speaker 2>you decide to work up with him, you need somebody

0:59:46.960 --> 0:59:48.800
<v Speaker 2>to be there for you. Cool, but I just don't

0:59:48.800 --> 0:59:51.040
<v Speaker 2>want to hear you calling me telling me about the

0:59:51.080 --> 0:59:54.200
<v Speaker 2>same thing as men keep doing to you over and

0:59:54.360 --> 0:59:57.080
<v Speaker 2>over and over, and you won't leave when you have

0:59:57.360 --> 0:59:58.360
<v Speaker 2>free will.

0:59:58.920 --> 1:00:00.880
<v Speaker 3>Cause I'm not gonna lie I'm a safe space. But

1:00:00.920 --> 1:00:01.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm not.

1:00:01.560 --> 1:00:04.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm not either, not like that because I'm not gonna talk.

1:00:04.600 --> 1:00:05.080
<v Speaker 2>We not about it.

1:00:05.120 --> 1:00:08.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna let you know this ain't it. We're not

1:00:08.880 --> 1:00:10.480
<v Speaker 1>about to talk. We're not about to keep talking about it.

1:00:10.600 --> 1:00:13.920
<v Speaker 1>I'll say this, I'm a safe space. I'm not gonna

1:00:13.960 --> 1:00:16.240
<v Speaker 1>tell your business. But I'm not a safe space if

1:00:16.240 --> 1:00:17.600
<v Speaker 1>you think you're fnna vent to me, and I'm not

1:00:17.640 --> 1:00:19.720
<v Speaker 1>gonna have an opinion like you do a good job

1:00:19.760 --> 1:00:22.760
<v Speaker 1>of like not having an opinion and just listening. I'm

1:00:22.840 --> 1:00:25.280
<v Speaker 1>not gonna do that. I'm gonna tell you you're better than this,

1:00:25.720 --> 1:00:28.520
<v Speaker 1>and I can't believe that you're actually dealing with this.

1:00:28.600 --> 1:00:32.600
<v Speaker 2>Ain't shit man, until though, don't forget to until until

1:00:32.600 --> 1:00:34.680
<v Speaker 2>what I do a good job of doing it, until

1:00:34.840 --> 1:00:36.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to hear the shot no more. Like

1:00:37.480 --> 1:00:40.000
<v Speaker 2>after a while, I definitely get to a point where

1:00:40.040 --> 1:00:42.080
<v Speaker 2>I just be having to tell my friends, like give

1:00:42.160 --> 1:00:44.360
<v Speaker 2>them my unsolicity opinion. If you have been talking to

1:00:44.400 --> 1:00:46.640
<v Speaker 2>you about these men for seven months, a year and

1:00:46.720 --> 1:00:49.720
<v Speaker 2>evening the same stuff, I'm gonna be like, okay, because

1:00:50.000 --> 1:00:51.840
<v Speaker 2>I can even give people grace. I feel like you

1:00:51.880 --> 1:00:54.720
<v Speaker 2>can give a man. You can give your friend grace.

1:00:54.800 --> 1:00:57.280
<v Speaker 2>We'll talking to you about a situation for like a

1:00:57.280 --> 1:01:00.720
<v Speaker 2>good six months, maybe even the first year. But then

1:01:00.760 --> 1:01:02.680
<v Speaker 2>if after a year, now, yere's.

1:01:02.480 --> 1:01:05.000
<v Speaker 3>A long time. I didn't know we were talking about.

1:01:04.840 --> 1:01:07.959
<v Speaker 2>This territory what you mean like territory, but a year,

1:01:08.000 --> 1:01:10.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking, what are you talking about though, are you

1:01:10.360 --> 1:01:12.440
<v Speaker 2>talking about like like say, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, say it's a man who's cheating. Oh, you

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<v Speaker 1>ain't about to talk to me about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Four month?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh a month, so you have a month you.

1:01:19.200 --> 1:01:21.040
<v Speaker 2>Can talk to I'm playing maybe not a month. But

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't staying with somebody that's cheating on you

1:01:24.080 --> 1:01:27.040
<v Speaker 2>as a choice, right right of course, especially like I said,

1:01:27.040 --> 1:01:30.760
<v Speaker 2>if you're not in an abusive relationship, you're choosing to

1:01:30.800 --> 1:01:33.520
<v Speaker 2>stay there, you could go find you a man that's faithful.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't really have a capacity to hear you

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<v Speaker 2>complain about these men when you are not leaving or

1:01:39.600 --> 1:01:41.760
<v Speaker 2>you are not setting any boundaries, and it's not no

1:01:41.880 --> 1:01:46.160
<v Speaker 2>changes being made on his behalf. I just want I'll

1:01:46.200 --> 1:01:47.920
<v Speaker 2>just be wanting better for my friends, and I think

1:01:47.960 --> 1:01:51.320
<v Speaker 2>sometimes that can come off judgmental, and that's okay. I'm

1:01:51.320 --> 1:01:54.000
<v Speaker 2>cool with looking judge if that's the reason why I

1:01:54.000 --> 1:01:56.160
<v Speaker 2>look judgy to you, because I want you to do better.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the thing is it takes some people longer

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<v Speaker 1>to walk away than it does others.

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<v Speaker 3>But I will say this.

1:02:01.720 --> 1:02:06.520
<v Speaker 2>For me, I'll really be trying to take these Like

1:02:06.520 --> 1:02:07.200
<v Speaker 2>you said.

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<v Speaker 1>I keep had one thing that I worked on in

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<v Speaker 1>these past three years. We have to learn to find

1:02:15.200 --> 1:02:19.760
<v Speaker 1>this happiness within the problem. This is the problem. I'm

1:02:19.760 --> 1:02:22.800
<v Speaker 1>gonna rouffle some feathers with this one. When you have

1:02:23.200 --> 1:02:26.640
<v Speaker 1>low self esteem and not a lot of confidence about yourself,

1:02:27.320 --> 1:02:31.560
<v Speaker 1>you stay in situations that are bad for your mental health. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're in a situation a man is cheating, or

1:02:33.360 --> 1:02:35.800
<v Speaker 1>maybe he's not taking you on dates, whatever the issue is,

1:02:36.120 --> 1:02:38.080
<v Speaker 1>if you don't feel like it's taking a toll on you,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, okay, I'm trying to figure it out,

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<v Speaker 1>then cool. But if you start you're crying every night.

1:02:43.680 --> 1:02:47.080
<v Speaker 1>Your confidence is shot. You're losing your sparkle, you're losing

1:02:47.080 --> 1:02:50.800
<v Speaker 1>your glow. You need to look within because your confidence

1:02:50.840 --> 1:02:52.240
<v Speaker 1>is tied into this person.

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<v Speaker 3>If you had confidence about.

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<v Speaker 1>Yourself, you would be okay with walking away. You are

1:03:00.320 --> 1:03:02.440
<v Speaker 1>this amazing woman that you know that you are, that

1:03:02.480 --> 1:03:05.040
<v Speaker 1>you truly believe that you are, you would be okay

1:03:05.080 --> 1:03:05.720
<v Speaker 1>with walking away.

1:03:05.760 --> 1:03:06.800
<v Speaker 3>And I'm not talking shit.

1:03:07.040 --> 1:03:08.920
<v Speaker 1>That's something that I had to learn, not in this

1:03:09.040 --> 1:03:11.400
<v Speaker 1>last relationship I was in, but the one before that, right,

1:03:11.720 --> 1:03:14.480
<v Speaker 1>I stayed in that because I let this person break.

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<v Speaker 3>Me down, so where I felt like Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to because nobody else is gonna want me,

1:03:19.600 --> 1:03:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and I let that person do that to me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying, billions of people in the world,

1:03:23.400 --> 1:03:26.360
<v Speaker 2>it's already it's always somebody else who's gonna want you.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially if you I'm really hurt period. Unfortunately for these men,

1:03:31.680 --> 1:03:35.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm really her. So walking away from a situation is

1:03:36.200 --> 1:03:38.440
<v Speaker 1>really not that hard for me anymore. So I know

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<v Speaker 1>all the ladies and all my friends are not there.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why I say I do have a little

1:03:42.760 --> 1:03:44.800
<v Speaker 1>patience because I was that girl before, so I think

1:03:44.840 --> 1:03:47.120
<v Speaker 1>I have a little bit more patience for it. But

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<v Speaker 1>I will say, you're not finna get up. Oh I understand,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, well this is no You're finna get it, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>You're finna get it. But you now, you and your

1:03:55.880 --> 1:03:58.840
<v Speaker 1>friends are all like that. I feel, I can honestly say.

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<v Speaker 2>Because when you tell because it's been times where you

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<v Speaker 2>have told me stuff that they have said to you

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<v Speaker 2>about people that you dated and stuff, and it made

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<v Speaker 2>me med. Remember, because I just be like, they don't

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<v Speaker 2>need to tell you that all the time. Because I

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<v Speaker 2>do feel like that. I feel like, if you know

1:04:15.440 --> 1:04:18.760
<v Speaker 2>somebody is going through a messed up situation. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>need to keep throwing it in their face that they're

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<v Speaker 2>stupid or that they need to leave. I needed that though,

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<v Speaker 2>I did you, Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>But I feel I'm not a tough love person, but

1:04:31.440 --> 1:04:33.400
<v Speaker 1>my heart is so big, and you know me, I

1:04:33.400 --> 1:04:36.160
<v Speaker 1>will give anybody the shirt off my fucking back. And

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it's like, hey, Lex, this person is using you,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Wake the fuck up. But it's different when I think

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<v Speaker 2>people don't know, like you really have women out here

1:04:46.920 --> 1:04:51.680
<v Speaker 2>that are just naive and stupid. You not naiven stupid. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you knew and I always knew you knew that that

1:04:54.520 --> 1:04:57.640
<v Speaker 2>particular person wasn't she, and like you could do better

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<v Speaker 2>than you knew that because it would be many times

1:05:00.560 --> 1:05:02.280
<v Speaker 2>where you would be meaning to me about him and

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't even have to say nothing and you would

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<v Speaker 2>say yeah, So I feel like you knew. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>need me pounding on you like les, yeah, he ain't

1:05:09.920 --> 1:05:12.160
<v Speaker 2>shitting you stupid for staying with him, right. I would

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<v Speaker 2>rather just tell you, don't talk to me about it,

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<v Speaker 2>go talk too.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what's crazy. I'm so aware of myself now

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<v Speaker 1>now as you say that. Therapy is getting harder for

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<v Speaker 1>me because my therapists really can't tell me.

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<v Speaker 3>She's like you already know.

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<v Speaker 2>And also too cybor and it's it's not to try

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<v Speaker 2>to be shady, but it was always also giving pot

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<v Speaker 2>meets kittle. What when you would tell me, oh, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the stuff that some people would tell you it like

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<v Speaker 2>And that's because that's the thing for me too. I

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<v Speaker 2>can I can say this is a problem I have.

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<v Speaker 2>Can't nobody come tell me what the fuck I need

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<v Speaker 2>to do When I'm looking at what you do and

1:05:46.520 --> 1:05:48.840
<v Speaker 2>what you're doing is not any better than what I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Why should I take your advice?

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<v Speaker 1>Because look at who you are dealing with, right, I think,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's easier on the outside looking in.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I say I don't care what. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>care what you got going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I need to hear something.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to hear that for me, that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>need to hear. Like you have done everything you could do, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>walk away. This person is not good for you because honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>in that situation, because it was around the time my

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<v Speaker 1>mom passed, if I didn't have them beating it into

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<v Speaker 1>my head like that, it could have went somewhere where

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't need to go, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>because the mental state I was in, That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think for me though, I'm just such a

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<v Speaker 2>different person now what you was about to say about therapy, but.

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<v Speaker 1>In therapy, therapy is getting harder for me because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so emotionally aware of who i am. So half the

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<v Speaker 1>time when I'm talking to my therapists, I'm like, because this,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know and I needed to because but if

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<v Speaker 1>I did this, She's like, I can't tell you anything

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<v Speaker 1>because you already know.

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<v Speaker 2>What to do. That's how my therapist be with me,

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<v Speaker 2>so she it really just be me talking yeah all

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<v Speaker 2>the time, because she'd be like, well.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like because she's telling me, She's like, look at

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<v Speaker 1>the progress you've made. Because it used to be like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh and I don't know what to do. She's like,

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<v Speaker 1>you have the answers, do it. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like now my therapy.

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<v Speaker 2>Sessions is really just be me talking, like I'm really.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like I have to say things out loud.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've become so emotionally intelligent, and I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>what it takes too confidence emotional intelligence.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm not gonna lie. I am that friend. We here.

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<v Speaker 1>I'ma be here until you're ready to walk away. Whenever

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<v Speaker 1>you're ready to move, let's move. If he's hitting you

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<v Speaker 1>and if he had a baby on you, we moving

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<v Speaker 1>right now. But if it's other situations, I am I

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<v Speaker 1>am that friend. I'll be a listener here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm gonna be here. You could talk to me

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<v Speaker 2>about I gid you. No relationship is perfect, Like everybody's

1:07:40.520 --> 1:07:42.880
<v Speaker 2>gonna go through stuff in their relationship. I am being

1:07:42.920 --> 1:07:46.360
<v Speaker 2>through stuff in my relationships. I understand that people need

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to somebody, but it's just certain things, like

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<v Speaker 2>you're not about to keep talking to me about no

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<v Speaker 2>cheating as men. I'm sorry, Like if y'all haven't misunderstandings

1:07:58.360 --> 1:08:03.880
<v Speaker 2>or disagreements about things that y'all both want for y'all future,

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<v Speaker 2>or even if y'all living together and y'all having miscommunication,

1:08:08.360 --> 1:08:10.480
<v Speaker 2>or you hate that he don't never be washing his

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<v Speaker 2>clothes or throwing his clothes on the side of the

1:08:13.120 --> 1:08:15.360
<v Speaker 2>dirty dirty clothes him instead of putting them in there,

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<v Speaker 2>and now y'all into it, and y'all haven't talked for

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<v Speaker 2>a week. Like, I understand people are gonna go through stuff,

1:08:20.640 --> 1:08:23.960
<v Speaker 2>but it's just certain things I want better from my

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<v Speaker 2>friends because one thing about people is men can sniff

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<v Speaker 2>out women who have low self esteem and who don't

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<v Speaker 2>value theyselves. And a man is never going to walk

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<v Speaker 2>away from you if you're allowing him to have his way,

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<v Speaker 2>if you just putting up with what he dishing out

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<v Speaker 2>and you just happy to be there and have a man,

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<v Speaker 2>he's never gonna walk away. So it's up to you

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<v Speaker 2>to want better for yourself because you steady coming to

1:08:49.320 --> 1:08:51.280
<v Speaker 2>me complaining to me about these men, and he like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like he loved me because he hadn't left me.

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<v Speaker 2>He haven't left you. Not because he loved you, haven't

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<v Speaker 2>left you. Because they never believe they begsdune me. They

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<v Speaker 2>never They never gonna leave the woman who let them. No,

1:09:07.400 --> 1:09:09.880
<v Speaker 2>you're right, but they never gonna leave the woman that

1:09:10.000 --> 1:09:11.960
<v Speaker 2>is gonna let them have their way. It doesn't have

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<v Speaker 2>anything to do with love, yes, And I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>as a woman, you have to know that you have

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<v Speaker 2>to have that sense of self worth. And I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like we're getting too old for this live too. I

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<v Speaker 2>know that we shouldn't try to use age because age

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<v Speaker 2>is just the number. But at the same time, careful

1:09:32.640 --> 1:09:37.600
<v Speaker 2>you keep that man. But seriously though, like I know,

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<v Speaker 2>because in life it doesn't matter what age you are.

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<v Speaker 2>We're always constantly learning, evolving, growing, and you never too

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<v Speaker 2>old to learn a new list. However, though, I have

1:09:47.800 --> 1:09:51.080
<v Speaker 2>wayless tolerance at thirty three for certain things that my

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<v Speaker 2>friends come talk to me about than I had when

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<v Speaker 2>we was twenty three. Yeah, no, I'm because at this

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<v Speaker 2>point it's just kind of like figure it out. I

1:09:59.000 --> 1:10:02.360
<v Speaker 2>know you this with the last five dudes that you dated,

1:10:02.479 --> 1:10:05.000
<v Speaker 2>how many times we got to talk about the same situation.

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<v Speaker 2>When you're gonna realize what the fuck going on and

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<v Speaker 2>get together?

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<v Speaker 1>I do believe to you picking the wrong men, it

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<v Speaker 1>ain't their fault no more, it's yours. I also think

1:10:14.760 --> 1:10:17.040
<v Speaker 1>that goes into a lot of like women don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how to be the one that got away.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so much power in them, and I love being.

1:10:21.800 --> 1:10:27.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm the one that got away, So that's my fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>You do what I say.

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<v Speaker 3>But yes, I think there's so much.

1:10:36.200 --> 1:10:43.360
<v Speaker 1>When I tell y'all, and you can't take away.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't take that away from me.

1:10:44.800 --> 1:10:46.760
<v Speaker 1>How much I love myself, how much I know my worth,

1:10:46.840 --> 1:10:49.880
<v Speaker 1>my value, and how much I know people love me.

1:10:50.479 --> 1:10:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm so loved and I'm not talking about me, and

1:10:53.120 --> 1:10:55.439
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about my friends, my family.

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<v Speaker 3>I am so loved.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you think you're finna come into my life

1:11:00.360 --> 1:11:03.720
<v Speaker 1>and not love me right, you can go because I'm

1:11:03.760 --> 1:11:07.120
<v Speaker 1>not gonna notice that you're gone, because I'm so loved,

1:11:07.160 --> 1:11:09.679
<v Speaker 1>because I'm a good person and I know my worst

1:11:09.720 --> 1:11:11.400
<v Speaker 1>and I know what I deserve, and when it comes

1:11:11.439 --> 1:11:13.840
<v Speaker 1>down to it, I may be crying right now, but

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<v Speaker 1>later on down on the road, you will never forget

1:11:16.160 --> 1:11:16.479
<v Speaker 1>about me.

1:11:16.760 --> 1:11:17.240
<v Speaker 2>You're gonna be.

1:11:17.280 --> 1:11:19.639
<v Speaker 1>Laying in bed with that bitch, think about what lex

1:11:19.720 --> 1:11:22.559
<v Speaker 1>P doing you could you gonna never ever, you could

1:11:22.760 --> 1:11:25.639
<v Speaker 1>never get over this, Leo Queen. You're gonna be walking

1:11:25.720 --> 1:11:28.600
<v Speaker 1>down the owl to your wife wishing it was me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not wishing that you would have did it right.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree, So I'm and I'm okay with that because

1:11:34.800 --> 1:11:35.880
<v Speaker 3>I do right by people.

1:11:35.960 --> 1:11:37.960
<v Speaker 2>And I wouldn't even care because once I'm doing with you,

1:11:38.080 --> 1:11:39.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't care who you be thinking about. You could

1:11:39.760 --> 1:11:41.960
<v Speaker 2>think about me, you could be thinking about the next beach.

1:11:42.000 --> 1:11:44.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't give it in because I walked away, right,

1:11:44.400 --> 1:11:46.760
<v Speaker 2>I live in the great part about walking away. Yes,

1:11:46.880 --> 1:11:48.880
<v Speaker 2>And it's like you just gotta know when you need

1:11:49.200 --> 1:11:51.600
<v Speaker 2>to walk away, and the girls notna be knowing. I

1:11:51.720 --> 1:11:54.200
<v Speaker 2>hate when people be like, oh my god, I don't

1:11:54.240 --> 1:11:56.080
<v Speaker 2>understand why he would treat me like these. I don't

1:11:56.160 --> 1:11:58.080
<v Speaker 2>understand why he would do me like these? Or why

1:11:58.200 --> 1:12:01.160
<v Speaker 2>is he wasting my time? You are wasting your time.

1:12:02.000 --> 1:12:04.720
<v Speaker 2>You are wasting your time because you could leave. He

1:12:04.800 --> 1:12:07.600
<v Speaker 2>can't waste your time if you ain't there, and he

1:12:07.680 --> 1:12:09.599
<v Speaker 2>can't do you like that if you're not letting him.

1:12:09.600 --> 1:12:11.320
<v Speaker 2>Do you like that? You know what I mean? Like,

1:12:11.880 --> 1:12:14.680
<v Speaker 2>it's a choice. It's a choice to get mistreated. And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry. I'm not standing for no mistreatment when he

1:12:17.600 --> 1:12:19.560
<v Speaker 2>comes to any man. I'm not letting a man mistreat me.

1:12:19.800 --> 1:12:21.720
<v Speaker 2>And I don't want my friends to be letting me

1:12:21.760 --> 1:12:24.160
<v Speaker 2>in out here be this treat mistreating them. And y'all

1:12:24.200 --> 1:12:28.000
<v Speaker 2>shouldn't let people mistreat y'all period. Man, woman, borrow, I

1:12:28.000 --> 1:12:31.120
<v Speaker 2>don't care who stand on business by yrself? Okay, what

1:12:31.280 --> 1:12:35.600
<v Speaker 2>you think? Time I've cut off friends though, for like

1:12:35.680 --> 1:12:38.840
<v Speaker 2>the one really have that choose the same man over

1:12:39.040 --> 1:12:41.800
<v Speaker 2>and over and over again because it's not gonna end

1:12:41.840 --> 1:12:43.760
<v Speaker 2>well for you. And now if I have if there's

1:12:44.000 --> 1:12:46.759
<v Speaker 2>a DV situation that I have to feel like I'm involved,

1:12:46.800 --> 1:12:49.040
<v Speaker 2>I have to come rescue you. Like some of those

1:12:49.120 --> 1:12:52.320
<v Speaker 2>things I don't have a capacity for. And maybe when

1:12:52.360 --> 1:12:55.920
<v Speaker 2>I was younger I could, I had more capacity. We

1:12:56.040 --> 1:13:01.880
<v Speaker 2>were learning and growing. But now nearing forty, no, hon, yeah,

1:13:01.960 --> 1:13:02.600
<v Speaker 2>we can't do that.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I can't do that.

1:13:03.760 --> 1:13:04.759
<v Speaker 2>You gotta love yourself.

1:13:04.880 --> 1:13:07.440
<v Speaker 3>You have to love yourself, and that's the common denominator.

1:13:07.560 --> 1:13:08.600
<v Speaker 2>But I realized in me.

1:13:10.240 --> 1:13:11.040
<v Speaker 3>When I was in like I.

1:13:11.040 --> 1:13:12.840
<v Speaker 1>Said, this is not my last relationship. I'm talking about

1:13:12.840 --> 1:13:15.760
<v Speaker 1>the one before I didn't love myself. I completely had

1:13:15.840 --> 1:13:18.120
<v Speaker 1>left myself go. But I was also going through something

1:13:18.320 --> 1:13:21.120
<v Speaker 1>very fucking devastating as well, you know, And I truly

1:13:21.160 --> 1:13:22.680
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'll say that to today I die.

1:13:22.680 --> 1:13:23.160
<v Speaker 3>I felt like this.

1:13:23.200 --> 1:13:25.400
<v Speaker 1>Person took advantage of the mental state I was in.

1:13:25.920 --> 1:13:28.280
<v Speaker 1>But I say that because I lost all hope and everything.

1:13:28.320 --> 1:13:30.759
<v Speaker 1>And like you said, men can sniff out that confidence.

1:13:31.080 --> 1:13:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Because I would say this, Andre, you can attest for this.

1:13:34.200 --> 1:13:36.040
<v Speaker 1>Of all the years of dealing with that man, he

1:13:36.120 --> 1:13:38.160
<v Speaker 1>had never had me down bad like that. Every time

1:13:38.200 --> 1:13:39.880
<v Speaker 1>we would kind of fall out. I was in a

1:13:39.960 --> 1:13:41.960
<v Speaker 1>country with the next dude or I was doing I was.

1:13:41.960 --> 1:13:44.879
<v Speaker 2>Like, oh yeah, yeah, you would always I would go, always,

1:13:45.000 --> 1:13:45.439
<v Speaker 2>go and do.

1:13:46.960 --> 1:13:48.720
<v Speaker 1>He never had me down bad, but it was like

1:13:48.840 --> 1:13:51.679
<v Speaker 1>he caught me at the most vulnerable time in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's when I knew this is what women are going.

1:13:54.840 --> 1:13:56.639
<v Speaker 1>Through when they can't get out of these situations because

1:13:56.640 --> 1:13:58.560
<v Speaker 1>you're not loving yourself, you know. I felt like in

1:13:58.640 --> 1:14:00.760
<v Speaker 1>that moment, I had lost everything, So I was just

1:14:00.800 --> 1:14:05.360
<v Speaker 1>trying to attach myself onto anything anybody that was around. So, yeah,

1:14:05.439 --> 1:14:07.639
<v Speaker 1>bitch ass nigga, you call me slippingever again?

1:14:08.880 --> 1:14:10.080
<v Speaker 3>Yees he was.

1:14:11.920 --> 1:14:15.599
<v Speaker 2>I was like, excuse me, girl. But when I tore

1:14:15.680 --> 1:14:18.320
<v Speaker 2>it up to the function and I seen him, I said, oh,

1:14:19.160 --> 1:14:21.320
<v Speaker 2>but let me tell you how God works, because now

1:14:21.360 --> 1:14:23.000
<v Speaker 2>we can talk about it because by the time this

1:14:23.080 --> 1:14:25.360
<v Speaker 2>episode drugs, let me tell how God works. When I

1:14:25.400 --> 1:14:27.439
<v Speaker 2>got out this relationship, and I'm telling you all this

1:14:27.520 --> 1:14:29.959
<v Speaker 2>because this is why it's important to pour into yourself.

1:14:30.479 --> 1:14:35.680
<v Speaker 1>When I got off that relationship, poor minds, it was

1:14:35.680 --> 1:14:40.439
<v Speaker 1>already going up. Poor minds went up. Okay, I made

1:14:40.880 --> 1:14:43.360
<v Speaker 1>the next year. I have made the most money I

1:14:43.479 --> 1:14:46.360
<v Speaker 1>ever made. After I have really dropped that relationship, and

1:14:46.400 --> 1:14:48.920
<v Speaker 1>then in twenty twenty four that was made even more money,

1:14:49.280 --> 1:14:51.040
<v Speaker 1>and now in twenty twenty five, we're finna be on

1:14:51.120 --> 1:14:52.320
<v Speaker 1>BT with a travel show.

1:14:52.400 --> 1:14:55.960
<v Speaker 2>Amen. Because it's a testament that God will reward you

1:14:56.040 --> 1:14:59.559
<v Speaker 2>for being obedient. Hello, And I was obedient to the Lord. No, Yeah,

1:14:59.600 --> 1:15:01.519
<v Speaker 2>because I I feel like God had been shown you

1:15:01.640 --> 1:15:03.879
<v Speaker 2>signs that you needed to walk away from this situation.

1:15:04.000 --> 1:15:06.960
<v Speaker 2>And God will tell you he will not only direction

1:15:07.479 --> 1:15:09.479
<v Speaker 2>that he wants you to go, And if you keep

1:15:09.520 --> 1:15:11.880
<v Speaker 2>me in d sobedient, your life is going to be

1:15:11.920 --> 1:15:13.839
<v Speaker 2>your reflection of that. But as soon as you decide

1:15:13.920 --> 1:15:15.960
<v Speaker 2>to listen to him and take heed to what he's

1:15:15.960 --> 1:15:18.000
<v Speaker 2>trying to show you and get on the path that

1:15:18.080 --> 1:15:20.080
<v Speaker 2>he wants you to be on, your blessings is going over.

1:15:20.120 --> 1:15:22.240
<v Speaker 2>And I feel like that's what happened.

1:15:22.400 --> 1:15:24.000
<v Speaker 3>My faith is always stronger than my doubt.

1:15:24.600 --> 1:15:27.479
<v Speaker 1>And then I said what Beyonce said, the best revenge

1:15:27.520 --> 1:15:31.360
<v Speaker 1>is your paper treated somebody like complete shit. And now

1:15:31.479 --> 1:15:33.200
<v Speaker 1>you got to turn on the TV and see my face.

1:15:33.360 --> 1:15:35.720
<v Speaker 1>You can never escape me, baby, because my blessings are

1:15:35.800 --> 1:15:38.960
<v Speaker 1>rolling in. And I'm not saying that was my motivation

1:15:39.080 --> 1:15:41.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not thinking about him. I'm just saying how much

1:15:42.120 --> 1:15:46.400
<v Speaker 1>my life elevated when I walked away. There is power

1:15:46.520 --> 1:15:49.320
<v Speaker 1>in walking away. There is so much power in walking

1:15:49.320 --> 1:15:50.519
<v Speaker 1>away because I know he looking like.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn and some people in your life to be distractions, yes, man,

1:15:56.600 --> 1:15:58.200
<v Speaker 2>you know, but you have to have that spirit of

1:15:58.240 --> 1:16:00.840
<v Speaker 2>discernment to be able to walk away cut it off,

1:16:01.000 --> 1:16:03.640
<v Speaker 2>no matter how painful or stressful you feel like it

1:16:03.760 --> 1:16:07.000
<v Speaker 2>might be or hard to walk away from that as soon.

1:16:07.120 --> 1:16:08.880
<v Speaker 2>I've experienced it so many times. As soon as you

1:16:09.000 --> 1:16:11.960
<v Speaker 2>dropped that dead weight, the blessings like, like you said,

1:16:12.080 --> 1:16:16.680
<v Speaker 2>you're rewarded for paying attention, for getting yourself for what

1:16:16.800 --> 1:16:19.280
<v Speaker 2>do we say with the Lord dang on a space

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<v Speaker 2>out what not? Obedience? It's another word that we use

1:16:24.240 --> 1:16:26.800
<v Speaker 2>for like like you're actually listening to what the Lord

1:16:26.920 --> 1:16:28.880
<v Speaker 2>is saying, like you're doing his will. Sorry I messed

1:16:28.880 --> 1:16:29.639
<v Speaker 2>it up, but no, it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay because I get what you're saying.

1:16:31.560 --> 1:16:33.360
<v Speaker 1>Because this is the thing though, I think a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of times we pray to God to guide us, Yeah,

1:16:35.840 --> 1:16:37.720
<v Speaker 1>but we don't pay attention to the signs that he

1:16:37.800 --> 1:16:38.240
<v Speaker 1>gives us.

1:16:38.680 --> 1:16:43.320
<v Speaker 2>I literally, God is the type of God that if

1:16:43.439 --> 1:16:46.280
<v Speaker 2>you ask him for a specific sign. He will literally

1:16:46.360 --> 1:16:51.000
<v Speaker 2>seen the specific sign, and people still ignore the specific

1:16:51.120 --> 1:16:55.760
<v Speaker 2>sign that you asked for. Hold on, that's not what

1:16:55.880 --> 1:16:56.400
<v Speaker 2>I asked for it.

1:16:56.479 --> 1:16:59.040
<v Speaker 1>But now I've learned to pay attention. Hey, God, is

1:16:59.080 --> 1:17:00.280
<v Speaker 1>this what I'm supposed to do? A what am I

1:17:00.280 --> 1:17:01.600
<v Speaker 1>supposed to do? Please just guide me?

1:17:02.240 --> 1:17:02.400
<v Speaker 2>Man?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, it just be so crazy. I seriously, I'm so

1:17:07.560 --> 1:17:10.439
<v Speaker 1>specific with my praise. You have to be And every

1:17:10.600 --> 1:17:13.280
<v Speaker 1>morning I'll be waking up and it's like what I

1:17:13.520 --> 1:17:17.320
<v Speaker 1>asked for. It's just like the simplest things I be

1:17:17.360 --> 1:17:21.680
<v Speaker 1>asking for. He's like, and it just be man. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I say. The fact that we have a

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<v Speaker 1>travel show right.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, like what now? And I probably don't remember when.

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<v Speaker 2>That'd being a theme song. It is just crazy, it's

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<v Speaker 2>a good I'm like, how did we even come up

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<v Speaker 3>It's on episode one.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but I'm like, how did it even come about?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, I swear.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to talk about a little sexual health

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<v Speaker 1>for a minute and how it impacts your mental health.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also wanted to tie that into the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>we were having having earlier.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I said, So I went to this thing. It

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<v Speaker 3>was called It's a risky It's called Risky Dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>On my phone died. I can't look it up to

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<v Speaker 1>shout the hostyle. I think her name is Koya. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry if I got her name wrong. But it's

1:21:40.280 --> 1:21:44.760
<v Speaker 1>called Risky Dinner. Weezy hosts it with her. Shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to Weezy, I had an amazing time. So basically, it's

1:21:47.520 --> 1:21:50.960
<v Speaker 1>a dinner and they go around just letting black women

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<v Speaker 1>know like the statistics in their state of like HIV,

1:21:54.640 --> 1:21:58.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, STDs and things like that, because although you know,

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<v Speaker 1>black women are we our population is really low, not

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<v Speaker 1>compared to other ones. Our percentage of having HIV and

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<v Speaker 1>a's is really high. Yeah, they talk with Coya talks

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<v Speaker 1>with Koya, Yes, and she hosts something called Risky Dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's basically, you know, an open table, open mic

1:22:16.600 --> 1:22:18.680
<v Speaker 1>where black women just get to sit and talk. They

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<v Speaker 1>talk about prep how to protect yourself, opening up conversations

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<v Speaker 1>with your partner about getting tested and things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to talk about this because I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to read this fact for you. Black women account for

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<v Speaker 1>the largest share of new HIV diagnosis among women twenty two,

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<v Speaker 1>as well as the largest share of all women living

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<v Speaker 1>with HIV. The rate of new diagnosis among Black women

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<v Speaker 1>is ten times the rate among white women and three

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<v Speaker 1>times the rate among Latinas that that number is scary,

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<v Speaker 1>and the numbers in Atlanta, she would obviously she was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about specifically in Georgia because the dinner, because they

1:22:58.479 --> 1:23:02.519
<v Speaker 1>travel around, the numbers and Georgia are even scarier, you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to talk about that because it's so

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<v Speaker 1>crazy how growing up my mom was always like, don't

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<v Speaker 1>get pregnant, don't get pregnant. I think that's what they

1:23:11.880 --> 1:23:13.840
<v Speaker 1>do in the black community, even as we're like, don't

1:23:13.880 --> 1:23:15.639
<v Speaker 1>y'all keep having these kids and you ain't got enough

1:23:15.640 --> 1:23:19.120
<v Speaker 1>money'll keep up. But more importantly, we are not protecting

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves from these diseases.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you some. My mama was definitely showing

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<v Speaker 2>me the photos of comedy people with comedia got the rea,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh, yes, but I agree with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that people are definitely people raise their children

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<v Speaker 2>and talk about the fears or the scares of getting

1:23:37.600 --> 1:23:40.600
<v Speaker 2>pregnant rather often than actually talking about the diseases that

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<v Speaker 2>are out here, and more specifically the ones that you

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<v Speaker 2>can't get rid of because HIV herpes there's no cure hepatiites, right,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no cure for these things. And these days with

1:23:51.880 --> 1:23:56.360
<v Speaker 2>things like prep available, which we didn't have twenty years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>thirty years ago, I just feel like it's no excuse

1:23:58.760 --> 1:24:02.640
<v Speaker 2>to be out here living risky. Okay, I like how

1:24:02.680 --> 1:24:05.560
<v Speaker 2>you did that, but yeah, it's no excuse to be

1:24:05.680 --> 1:24:11.120
<v Speaker 2>out here creating risky behavior and doing risky stuff, putting

1:24:11.160 --> 1:24:14.240
<v Speaker 2>yourself in scary situations when you can literally prevent it

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<v Speaker 2>from happening. Yeah, you can prevent it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think what's scariest too, is like a lot

1:24:18.840 --> 1:24:21.559
<v Speaker 1>of times people don't like getting excuse me, they don't

1:24:21.600 --> 1:24:22.360
<v Speaker 1>like getting tested.

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<v Speaker 2>They're at that.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you can literally do it with your partner. You

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<v Speaker 1>can get tested at home for HIV.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it is, especially when you be that be

1:24:32.920 --> 1:24:35.640
<v Speaker 2>the long it's fifteen minutes of your life. You'd be like,

1:24:36.160 --> 1:24:38.120
<v Speaker 2>but I'll say this, and it don't seem like every

1:24:38.200 --> 1:24:41.960
<v Speaker 2>time every time you go get tested or you waited

1:24:42.000 --> 1:24:44.240
<v Speaker 2>for some six results, all you see is HIV.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, yay. That little billboard scary, but you

1:24:49.120 --> 1:24:51.960
<v Speaker 1>have to do it. That billboard's about a cookout, you

1:24:52.040 --> 1:24:52.880
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm talking about.

1:24:53.400 --> 1:24:55.960
<v Speaker 2>I hate that damn billboard. I'll be like, yes, I'm

1:24:56.000 --> 1:24:58.800
<v Speaker 2>telling you, but it's it's necessary though, like we're we're

1:24:58.840 --> 1:25:00.880
<v Speaker 2>trying to make it a little light, but for real.

1:25:00.760 --> 1:25:03.320
<v Speaker 1>Though, y'all need to go get TIS. But also because

1:25:03.320 --> 1:25:05.280
<v Speaker 1>it's better to know than not, because y'all have to realize.

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<v Speaker 1>We are so advanced with the medicines and stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>are available, so.

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<v Speaker 2>When people are going undetectable, yeah, so it's like you

1:25:13.000 --> 1:25:14.800
<v Speaker 2>can live with it, but it's like you have to.

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<v Speaker 1>Know before it's too late, because once it's too late,

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<v Speaker 1>it's too late.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no going back.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just think that the numbers when I went

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<v Speaker 1>to this dinner of the statistics of black women who

1:25:26.080 --> 1:25:29.720
<v Speaker 1>are being exposed to this who don't know, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>really sad.

1:25:30.400 --> 1:25:32.040
<v Speaker 3>It really breaks my heart because.

1:25:31.880 --> 1:25:35.360
<v Speaker 1>As black men, when we just go through so much bruh,

1:25:35.840 --> 1:25:38.080
<v Speaker 1>it's like the dating is hard for us, then we

1:25:38.160 --> 1:25:40.160
<v Speaker 1>have to deal with stuff like this. Then we gotta

1:25:40.200 --> 1:25:43.599
<v Speaker 1>deal with, you know, being single mothers, being the most unweeded.

1:25:43.760 --> 1:25:45.519
<v Speaker 1>It's just like it's so much on us. And I

1:25:45.600 --> 1:25:48.360
<v Speaker 1>think that's why it ties into all of this. It

1:25:48.439 --> 1:25:52.160
<v Speaker 1>goes back to loving yourself, protecting yourself. Nobody is gonna

1:25:52.200 --> 1:25:54.960
<v Speaker 1>protect us like us, So it's important that we all

1:25:55.080 --> 1:25:58.160
<v Speaker 1>gather and we have these uncomfortable conversations because if we

1:25:58.240 --> 1:26:00.599
<v Speaker 1>don't have it among us, nobody else is gonna protect us.

1:26:00.720 --> 1:26:03.559
<v Speaker 2>And carry your own condom, you know. They be trying

1:26:03.560 --> 1:26:05.360
<v Speaker 2>to say that you, as a woman, you're not supposed

1:26:05.360 --> 1:26:07.479
<v Speaker 2>to carry your own country me and be saying that

1:26:07.600 --> 1:26:09.560
<v Speaker 2>they they gonna judge you, like if they come to

1:26:09.640 --> 1:26:12.520
<v Speaker 2>your house and you got y'all don't care, they gonnaud.

1:26:12.479 --> 1:26:14.200
<v Speaker 1>Honestly in the way I am right now, Like I'm

1:26:14.200 --> 1:26:17.560
<v Speaker 1>not in a relationship, Like I'm cool, Like I'm not like,

1:26:17.680 --> 1:26:20.599
<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, I need to have sex, Like I'm

1:26:20.640 --> 1:26:22.360
<v Speaker 1>not gonna be out here, like I'm not looking at

1:26:22.360 --> 1:26:25.920
<v Speaker 1>what we call grow, Yes, cause I used to be horny.

1:26:26.160 --> 1:26:29.479
<v Speaker 2>You need that deep, you need that more than the

1:26:29.520 --> 1:26:31.560
<v Speaker 2>air you breath. I thought I did, but you know,

1:26:31.720 --> 1:26:35.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I'm just so so that is real growth.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what got into me.

1:26:37.520 --> 1:26:39.439
<v Speaker 2>The Holy ghost, it's the Holy girl.

1:26:39.520 --> 1:26:39.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>Lord, I'm I don't know, very proud of you.

1:26:42.280 --> 1:26:44.439
<v Speaker 3>Yes, but I'm not even like worried about that.

1:26:44.600 --> 1:26:47.320
<v Speaker 1>Like I found so much peace and just being alone,

1:26:47.720 --> 1:26:51.640
<v Speaker 1>like I'm getting everything I ever wanted. Like I know

1:26:51.720 --> 1:26:53.160
<v Speaker 1>I keep saying that, but bro, I'm gonna be on

1:26:53.479 --> 1:26:56.800
<v Speaker 1>t B like this is what I've been fighting for

1:26:56.960 --> 1:26:57.960
<v Speaker 1>my whole life.

1:26:58.680 --> 1:27:00.760
<v Speaker 2>Like I get to go home and go to.

1:27:00.760 --> 1:27:04.479
<v Speaker 1>Sleep, and I don't ain't nobody's son stressing me out. Yeah,

1:27:04.560 --> 1:27:06.880
<v Speaker 1>I ain't gotta cook for nobody. I ain't got nothing now,

1:27:06.960 --> 1:27:10.080
<v Speaker 1>don't get it twisted. Do I want partnership one day? Yeah,

1:27:10.560 --> 1:27:12.360
<v Speaker 1>but when God is ready to send me my man,

1:27:12.400 --> 1:27:15.080
<v Speaker 1>He's gonna send it to me. So it's just like

1:27:16.120 --> 1:27:18.640
<v Speaker 1>and not a day late. So I'm not worried about it.

1:27:18.720 --> 1:27:19.880
<v Speaker 2>I know the woman I am.

1:27:20.000 --> 1:27:21.639
<v Speaker 3>But like I said, going.

1:27:21.479 --> 1:27:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Back to this, I know that I have to protect myself.

1:27:26.240 --> 1:27:28.400
<v Speaker 1>Nobody's gonna protect me. Nobody's gonna look out for me

1:27:29.000 --> 1:27:32.000
<v Speaker 1>but us. Y'all, you have to go get tested. Me

1:27:32.120 --> 1:27:34.840
<v Speaker 1>and black men out there. Stop thinking because she got

1:27:34.920 --> 1:27:36.840
<v Speaker 1>tested and she don't got nothing that you don't got nothing.

1:27:36.920 --> 1:27:39.880
<v Speaker 2>It does not work like that, cause that be their

1:27:39.960 --> 1:27:44.640
<v Speaker 2>favorite line. You ain't gonna yeah, but are you?

1:27:45.479 --> 1:27:47.360
<v Speaker 3>Y'all have to pay attention. If your man is throwing

1:27:47.400 --> 1:27:49.519
<v Speaker 3>your bav off, stop fucking him immediately.

1:27:50.640 --> 1:27:51.080
<v Speaker 2>Probably.

1:27:51.520 --> 1:27:53.559
<v Speaker 1>If you wake up and you feel like a fish

1:27:53.640 --> 1:27:57.200
<v Speaker 1>fry on a Friday night, stop having sex.

1:27:57.040 --> 1:28:00.720
<v Speaker 2>With that man. Hey, we're keeping it real. I know

1:28:00.840 --> 1:28:03.200
<v Speaker 2>we are. That's why I say you're gonna be a

1:28:03.280 --> 1:28:04.000
<v Speaker 2>freaky frog.

1:28:04.280 --> 1:28:08.599
<v Speaker 1>That's carry your own condoms fish from. If you wake

1:28:08.720 --> 1:28:11.000
<v Speaker 1>up and you fish fries be lingering like.

1:28:11.120 --> 1:28:13.759
<v Speaker 2>After you fire, after you fry some fish in your house,

1:28:14.240 --> 1:28:17.679
<v Speaker 2>your clothes be smelling like your couch, it be lingering.

1:28:18.920 --> 1:28:21.479
<v Speaker 2>The fish fry is not what you want to smell like.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I just specially not no cat.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was just so eye opening. I went home.

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<v Speaker 3>They gave us a little at home kids, Babe.

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<v Speaker 2>I went home.

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<v Speaker 3>I took that test so quick? Is that what these

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<v Speaker 3>mix like?

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<v Speaker 2>It looks like a kid, like a box and unboxing.

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<v Speaker 2>I was looking at their yegram. They have some of

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<v Speaker 2>them where you can get you got to send in

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<v Speaker 2>the results. And then some of them they have where

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<v Speaker 2>you know you can wait and they you know, the fifeste.

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<v Speaker 1>So but yeah, y'all just please just go get tested,

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<v Speaker 1>especially my black women. It's so many, like literally ninety

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<v Speaker 1>nine of our listeners are black women, y'all. Please, these

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<v Speaker 1>numbers are crazy. Do some more researcher stuff. Y'all please

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<v Speaker 1>go get tested. Yes, y'all, please protect yourself. Please stop

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<v Speaker 1>listening to people. And y'all know this is what we

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<v Speaker 1>learned at risky Dinner too. Do y'all know they have

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<v Speaker 1>people creating fake my charts for people nowadays.

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<v Speaker 2>Hobby because what they are what hobby? It is grave

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<v Speaker 2>random ship they're creating. No, I said, but my tie

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<v Speaker 2>had exit of my charteys, like you know, basically when

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<v Speaker 2>you go online and he shows you your Yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 2>copying that like their their their photo.

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<v Speaker 1>That they have negative test results. So again, ladies, go

1:29:43.160 --> 1:29:47.320
<v Speaker 1>get tested. Protect yourself, even in a relationship, protect yourself.

1:29:47.400 --> 1:29:50.479
<v Speaker 1>Unless y'all are constantly going get tested together. There was

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<v Speaker 1>a lady there who was actually married, and she said, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>me and my husband, we still go get tested. We

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<v Speaker 1>go get tested, like because you know how many women

1:29:58.400 --> 1:30:02.000
<v Speaker 1>get STDs that are from their husband and their husbands

1:30:02.040 --> 1:30:03.880
<v Speaker 1>are you know, even vice versa. I don't, oh, you

1:30:04.000 --> 1:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>the one doing to be doing the bandage job.

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<v Speaker 2>That's no, that's what she said in the movie, because

1:30:08.080 --> 1:30:09.599
<v Speaker 2>she got HIV from her husband.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>And then that's another misconception to a lot of people

1:30:12.760 --> 1:30:14.400
<v Speaker 1>think oh, it's just high and this and that because

1:30:14.439 --> 1:30:17.000
<v Speaker 1>of the DM men. That is another thing that's like

1:30:17.040 --> 1:30:18.599
<v Speaker 1>out the window. At the end of the day, it's us.

1:30:18.800 --> 1:30:21.200
<v Speaker 1>We have the highest rate of it. You know what

1:30:21.240 --> 1:30:23.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. It's not like we are only sleeping with

1:30:23.439 --> 1:30:26.799
<v Speaker 1>DM men. We're sleeping with men of all races, all everything.

1:30:26.960 --> 1:30:29.800
<v Speaker 1>So we have to protect yourself and.

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<v Speaker 2>If you engage in in risky behaviors, to make sure

1:30:33.240 --> 1:30:37.120
<v Speaker 2>that you're Like, if you did something crazy last week,

1:30:37.880 --> 1:30:41.200
<v Speaker 2>definitely go test yourself. But then just always be mindful

1:30:41.280 --> 1:30:43.400
<v Speaker 2>that you have to test yourself again in ninety that

1:30:44.240 --> 1:30:46.960
<v Speaker 2>because your results might not be accurate. If you just

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<v Speaker 2>did something last week, I just thought I would throw it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just gaking my thing a lot lot for a while.

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<v Speaker 2>Give it to the Lord. Yea, let the Lord handily?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, item of the week. You well, I know

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<v Speaker 2>Any business is welcome, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So now it's time to get into the by the

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<v Speaker 1>bye bow the how bow bow Bow bow bow.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I found? This good song.

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<v Speaker 1>I love TikTok. TikTok always puts me on the good jam.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's a song called Ordinary. It's about this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>His name is Alex Warren. It's a good pop ballad.

1:33:37.680 --> 1:33:39.599
<v Speaker 1>I feel like the pop boys are coming back. They're

1:33:39.640 --> 1:33:42.800
<v Speaker 1>making a comeback and it's just a love song. And

1:33:42.920 --> 1:33:44.800
<v Speaker 1>what it is is the reason this song is so

1:33:44.920 --> 1:33:47.800
<v Speaker 1>intriguing to me is because his actual wife is in

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<v Speaker 1>the video.

1:33:48.880 --> 1:33:51.040
<v Speaker 3>And like, there's a trend on TikTok right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody's showing themselves in relationships or they're showing like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm made of love. And this is why I'm so

1:33:57.120 --> 1:33:59.280
<v Speaker 1>patient because I know that one day I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>find a man that can write a song like this

1:34:01.120 --> 1:34:05.040
<v Speaker 1>about me. It's such a beautiful song. Oh my gosh,

1:34:05.160 --> 1:34:08.240
<v Speaker 1>I haven't heard a good love ballad like this in.

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<v Speaker 2>A long time. Really.

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<v Speaker 1>It kind of gives me, like, you know how like

1:34:12.240 --> 1:34:14.280
<v Speaker 1>white people's church music sounds.

1:34:15.200 --> 1:34:17.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay, you know what. I I don't know if that's

1:34:17.920 --> 1:34:20.040
<v Speaker 2>making me want to go listen, But no, white people

1:34:20.120 --> 1:34:22.400
<v Speaker 2>be getting down in the church. They do. They be

1:34:22.479 --> 1:34:24.920
<v Speaker 2>having a little white boy on a piano and it's like, Oh,

1:34:26.520 --> 1:34:31.160
<v Speaker 2>God is good. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought she was more so something about Oh, no, no,

1:34:37.320 --> 1:34:40.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about That's what I thought she was talking about. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not you talking about the you're getting into the

1:34:42.320 --> 1:34:44.920
<v Speaker 1>Catholic I'm talking about the white Baptist church. They get

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<v Speaker 1>down a little bit now, Okay, Okay, it is giving.

1:34:48.200 --> 1:34:49.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm telling y'all, it is such a good song. If

1:34:49.960 --> 1:34:52.840
<v Speaker 1>y'all listen to Alex Warren ordinary it sounds like a

1:34:53.000 --> 1:34:55.200
<v Speaker 1>church song, like a white church song. But he is

1:34:55.280 --> 1:34:56.360
<v Speaker 1>singing down you know what.

1:34:56.520 --> 1:34:58.040
<v Speaker 2>That's fear do I'm want to be listening to. I

1:34:58.080 --> 1:35:02.479
<v Speaker 2>think he's ninety nine point three in Houston. My mom

1:35:02.520 --> 1:35:05.040
<v Speaker 2>would listen to their station all the time, y'all, and

1:35:05.120 --> 1:35:07.000
<v Speaker 2>it's a gospel station. But all they play is like

1:35:07.040 --> 1:35:09.400
<v Speaker 2>a white contemporary crest, and it sounds good.

1:35:10.120 --> 1:35:13.120
<v Speaker 1>Any duet on there. I will not lie, That's what

1:35:13.160 --> 1:35:14.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I wasn't being funny.

1:35:14.400 --> 1:35:15.400
<v Speaker 3>It sounds like like white.

1:35:15.479 --> 1:35:17.400
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say it's black, because you know, black church

1:35:17.479 --> 1:35:19.760
<v Speaker 1>music is soulful. It's not a soulful song. Let me

1:35:19.800 --> 1:35:20.760
<v Speaker 1>make sure I say the right ring.

1:35:20.880 --> 1:35:23.960
<v Speaker 3>But it's a beautiful ballad, and I'm.

1:35:23.880 --> 1:35:26.599
<v Speaker 2>Ready to get a beautiful bad It's a beautiful ballad.

1:35:26.680 --> 1:35:28.120
<v Speaker 3>Let's get back to the love songs.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm tired of.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said in the past, I don't want to

1:35:31.120 --> 1:35:32.840
<v Speaker 1>wet the back up. I don't want to beat that

1:35:32.960 --> 1:35:37.000
<v Speaker 1>pussy up no more. Okay, tired.

1:35:37.120 --> 1:35:40.760
<v Speaker 3>Somebody said, all right, Drea, what's your bob?

1:35:40.960 --> 1:35:42.400
<v Speaker 2>I don't wait. Let me make sure I see it.

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<v Speaker 2>This same the right station.

1:35:45.760 --> 1:35:47.439
<v Speaker 3>You think they're gonna give you an interview?

1:35:47.680 --> 1:35:49.400
<v Speaker 2>No, but I just want to if people live in

1:35:49.479 --> 1:35:52.639
<v Speaker 2>Houston and they are looking for it's eighty nine point three,

1:35:53.320 --> 1:35:56.880
<v Speaker 2>I said, ninety nine point it's eighty No, what do

1:35:56.960 --> 1:35:59.920
<v Speaker 2>you mean eighty nine point three FM. The Good State

1:36:00.040 --> 1:36:02.360
<v Speaker 2>should be like ninety because they're ninety five and up.

1:36:02.360 --> 1:36:04.360
<v Speaker 2>Because you know how every station got the theme, they'd

1:36:04.400 --> 1:36:09.920
<v Speaker 2>be like eighty nine point three Spache. Let's how I go.

1:36:10.479 --> 1:36:16.360
<v Speaker 2>So anyway, listening to the station. So if y'all are

1:36:16.439 --> 1:36:20.599
<v Speaker 2>looking for a good Christian channel that plays contemporary Christian

1:36:20.680 --> 1:36:23.200
<v Speaker 2>music and y'all live in Houston, check.

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<v Speaker 3>Out three Period eighty nine point three.

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<v Speaker 2>Amen. So my Bob because now we're about to get

1:36:31.120 --> 1:36:37.719
<v Speaker 2>into some heathing music. But my Bob is an old song.

1:36:39.160 --> 1:36:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I was listening to My Savages earlier today, my future

1:36:43.800 --> 1:36:47.840
<v Speaker 2>and that is just what was I mean, he's still

1:36:47.960 --> 1:36:51.200
<v Speaker 2>on his little No, I'm talking about his about that yeah,

1:36:51.680 --> 1:36:59.120
<v Speaker 2>like twenty eleven to like twenty seventeen, Real Sisters dropped

1:36:59.160 --> 1:37:03.120
<v Speaker 2>my life. Real, this was about my Savages, was about

1:37:03.320 --> 1:37:07.439
<v Speaker 2>Pea Coats about I mean, I could really keep going

1:37:07.479 --> 1:37:09.960
<v Speaker 2>because I was really in my future bag making them days.

1:37:10.000 --> 1:37:13.559
<v Speaker 2>But anyways, I was listening to My Savages earlier today

1:37:13.640 --> 1:37:17.920
<v Speaker 2>and I was just like, wow, now this is hood gospel. Yeah.

1:37:18.760 --> 1:37:19.880
<v Speaker 3>A preacher is what he was.

1:37:20.120 --> 1:37:24.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, apparature is a deacon, a deacon to our community,

1:37:25.200 --> 1:37:29.240
<v Speaker 2>and he really said some profound words in that song.

1:37:29.439 --> 1:37:33.120
<v Speaker 2>I said, wow much my spirit because I felt that,

1:37:33.280 --> 1:37:40.680
<v Speaker 2>because that's how I feel about you know what on TikTok.

1:37:41.920 --> 1:37:44.040
<v Speaker 3>That lady and he was arguing with on Twitter.

1:37:44.439 --> 1:37:47.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean yeah, on TikTok Okay, he was on the

1:37:47.680 --> 1:37:51.000
<v Speaker 1>phone screaming okay because he was getting that word up.

1:37:51.200 --> 1:37:53.200
<v Speaker 2>But now and I just feel like, like I was saying,

1:37:53.280 --> 1:37:56.120
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like, as I'm as, we're continuing to

1:37:56.280 --> 1:37:59.040
<v Speaker 2>grow and poor Minds is getting bigger and bigger. That

1:37:59.160 --> 1:38:01.439
<v Speaker 2>is really how I feel about my friends and stuff.

1:38:01.720 --> 1:38:04.360
<v Speaker 2>Because you can't let the money get between us. You

1:38:04.439 --> 1:38:06.400
<v Speaker 2>can't let the fame give between You can't let these

1:38:06.439 --> 1:38:10.840
<v Speaker 2>beaches and these niggas get between us. That's what he

1:38:10.960 --> 1:38:13.840
<v Speaker 2>said on the song. He said, this is a little

1:38:13.880 --> 1:38:17.000
<v Speaker 2>for my dogs. How we let this money get between us,

1:38:17.439 --> 1:38:19.840
<v Speaker 2>How we let these bitches get between us? How we

1:38:20.080 --> 1:38:24.599
<v Speaker 2>let these niggas get between us? A word I got

1:38:24.720 --> 1:38:31.240
<v Speaker 2>love for all my savages with fingers fingers another head

1:38:32.200 --> 1:38:37.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, okay out because that was the head I

1:38:37.760 --> 1:38:42.000
<v Speaker 2>must say big good times. When it came out, we

1:38:42.160 --> 1:38:45.439
<v Speaker 2>was young and rich and reckless. Life was it was

1:38:45.840 --> 1:38:49.880
<v Speaker 2>now we're still old and older. Oh we're not old,

1:38:50.000 --> 1:38:50.599
<v Speaker 2>we're older.

1:38:51.200 --> 1:38:54.519
<v Speaker 1>We live a little little bit of So now we're

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<v Speaker 1>getting into our favorite segment of the week. If you

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, you want to go first, you want me go first,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll go first. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been with my girlfriend for a few years now

1:39:12.720 --> 1:39:15.439
<v Speaker 2>and we have a baby together. Everything was good until

1:39:15.439 --> 1:39:17.479
<v Speaker 2>about six months ago when I logg on the social

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<v Speaker 2>media and saw a picture of my child on her

1:39:19.520 --> 1:39:22.880
<v Speaker 2>ex's page, with him claiming the baby as his. I

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<v Speaker 2>confronted her, and she swore he was just being spiteful,

1:39:26.040 --> 1:39:29.280
<v Speaker 2>trying to ruin our relationship. She even offered a DNA test,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm scared to take you because I don't believe

1:39:31.360 --> 1:39:34.880
<v Speaker 2>things like these happen by coincidents. So, as two women,

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<v Speaker 2>what do y'all think? Am I overthinking? Or is there

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<v Speaker 2>something I need to do? I think you need to confirm.

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<v Speaker 1>Was it a picture that he took off of her

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<v Speaker 1>social media or was it a picture he him holding

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<v Speaker 1>the baby?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Because if she brought the baby around him and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a picture that he took, you need to get that

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<v Speaker 1>DNA test.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I feel like I would get the DNA test

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<v Speaker 2>either way if she offering, If she like, oh we

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<v Speaker 2>can get a DNA test, I will take her up

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<v Speaker 2>on the offer.

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<v Speaker 1>Why I feel so comfortable doing that? Are they still

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<v Speaker 1>having conversations? Are they still talking? Because I could imagine

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<v Speaker 1>just somebody out the blue just posting a random baby

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<v Speaker 1>from a random ax and being like, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 1>my baby, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I don't know. I think in situations like that,

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<v Speaker 2>if I was presented with that type of information, if

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<v Speaker 2>I was a man and I was presenting with that

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<v Speaker 2>type of information for my own peace of mind, now

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<v Speaker 2>I just need to know. Yeah, I need to know

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<v Speaker 2>so I could sleep will at night, because it's always

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be I feel like, if you don't get the

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<v Speaker 2>DNA test, it's still gonna always be something that's lingering

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<v Speaker 2>in the back of your mind. As this child is

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<v Speaker 2>growing up, you gonna always feel like, ah, it's a

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<v Speaker 2>possibility that this might not be my baby. Just do

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<v Speaker 2>it for your own peace of mind, and hopefully we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna pray did he show baby. But if even if

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<v Speaker 2>it's not, at least now you know, you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean. At least now you know, and you could

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<v Speaker 2>say good.

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<v Speaker 1>Readings to that, because, like I said, she's offering a

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<v Speaker 1>DNA test. I think you need that DNA test for

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<v Speaker 1>peace of mind. I know you're afraid, but there's nothing

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<v Speaker 1>better than peace of mind.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Hey, ladies, I'm twenty seven and I need

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<v Speaker 1>advice from my big homies because maybe I'm tripping. I

1:41:08.520 --> 1:41:10.599
<v Speaker 1>was dating this guy for three months. The first two

1:41:10.720 --> 1:41:13.080
<v Speaker 1>he was checking all my boxes, but in month three

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<v Speaker 1>I started noticing red flags his views on women, lack

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<v Speaker 1>of accountability, etc.

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<v Speaker 2>I was already debating cutting him off.

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<v Speaker 1>Then one day on FaceTime, I responded with a little

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<v Speaker 1>sass and he said it sounded like you want to

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<v Speaker 1>get head budded. Instantly, I felt uneasy since I've been

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<v Speaker 1>in an abusive relationships before, which he knew. I asked

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<v Speaker 1>him to repeat it. He refused and tried to play

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<v Speaker 1>it off. Laughed and called me crazy and said I

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<v Speaker 1>was making him the villain. Then he admitted I heard right,

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<v Speaker 1>but claimed it was a joke and I was overreacting.

1:41:42.040 --> 1:41:44.640
<v Speaker 1>I hung up texting him how I felt and he

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<v Speaker 1>never responded. Did I doubt dodge a bullet? Or am

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<v Speaker 1>I projecting because of my past?

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<v Speaker 2>Love? Y'all? Deep? What have you said?

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<v Speaker 3>As fuck?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Because I just feel like you don't joke like

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<v Speaker 2>to me. That's not like if you say something like that,

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<v Speaker 2>I am under the impression that you will actually do

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<v Speaker 2>it one day. Why you don't You shouldn't even play

1:42:08.720 --> 1:42:09.960
<v Speaker 2>like that. Do you want to get head?

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<v Speaker 1>But especially with somebody who has been in an abusive relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>but even period, even if she wasn't in an abusive relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>you just shouldn't even play with no woman like this

1:42:20.240 --> 1:42:22.920
<v Speaker 1>saying something like well, the reason I say especially because

1:42:22.920 --> 1:42:25.519
<v Speaker 1>she's been an abusive relationship before because she's told you

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<v Speaker 1>and that's.

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<v Speaker 2>A trigger for her.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead of you being, hey, understanding, I'm so sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I won't joke like that. I didn't mean like that.

1:42:33.320 --> 1:42:36.960
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't thinking you're saying that she's over, you're gaslighting her.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate when people tell somebody how something made them

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<v Speaker 1>feel and you're like, well, you're being stupid.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't tell people how to feel.

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<v Speaker 1>About something that you said to them and how it

1:42:46.880 --> 1:42:48.439
<v Speaker 1>makes them feel that's crazy to me.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're not wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>You dodged a bullet because, like I said, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's somebody will joking's laugh and like that, he said.

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<v Speaker 3>His first reaction went through his mind.

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<v Speaker 2>I't nothing funny about being joking about. I've never like

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<v Speaker 2>like I'll just use my like my last relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>He ain't never said nothing like, yeah, I choke your ass?

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<v Speaker 3>What No, No, that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>List he's during six. It's a little all right, that's

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<v Speaker 2>a little different. No, I like a little choke. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the only one's a different. Uh cbd, that's the

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<v Speaker 2>only that's the only appropriate time to say that. All right, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>one Twitter, one TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>Facebook pages it's our face. The crazy thing is our

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<v Speaker 2>Facebook page actually have the least amount of file.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you're on Facebook, one that's ours got the

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<v Speaker 1>least amount.

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<v Speaker 2>Of FI, but one that's not us got like two

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>Make if you actually look at the content, because the

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<v Speaker 1>caption is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because

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<v Speaker 1>their captures.

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<v Speaker 2>Are like bumba claude? Should men? Should men pay bill?

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<v Speaker 2>Should men pay bill?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Check answer below block block Like that's literally what

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<v Speaker 2>the captions. I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba claude,

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<v Speaker 2>bumba claude.

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<v Speaker 3>Savages.

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<v Speaker 2>My savage is my savage is my savage? Stressing pressure

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<v Speaker 2>in a manure. I grew up in a ruthless environment.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on the phone with y'all. I asked them how

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<v Speaker 2>to trial in thirty five Rex is how my day

1:46:02.160 --> 1:46:05.439
<v Speaker 2>would spend. I gotta cocky back, That's how my day

1:46:05.479 --> 1:46:09.320
<v Speaker 2>would get Gonna be thinking all these bitches at official

1:46:09.600 --> 1:46:12.080
<v Speaker 2>the way you acting, you must don't respect the real

1:46:12.280 --> 1:46:16.040
<v Speaker 2>niggas her on a post some syrup. They try to

1:46:16.200 --> 1:46:19.639
<v Speaker 2>infiltray us and then betray us. I told you way

1:46:19.720 --> 1:46:22.320
<v Speaker 2>before what happened. They was hating on us. Hey, you

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<v Speaker 2>know we was jogging for it. They was mad at us. Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a little for my dogs. How we let this

1:46:28.040 --> 1:46:31.400
<v Speaker 2>money get between us? How we let these bitches get

1:46:31.479 --> 1:46:34.800
<v Speaker 2>between us? How we let these niggas get between us? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I got love for all my savages with ishi fingers.

1:46:38.320 --> 1:46:40.200
<v Speaker 2>I got love, buddy. It ain't like the love I

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<v Speaker 2>got for India. She be that one I was broke.

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<v Speaker 2>I got us to Infinity cast some murdered girl gonna.

1:46:50.280 --> 1:46:53.280
<v Speaker 2>I know you feeling me r ip. My granddad Quickie

1:46:53.320 --> 1:46:56.759
<v Speaker 2>should have seen this shit. Twenty was of soft support.

1:46:56.840 --> 1:46:59.799
<v Speaker 2>I seen this shit roding wrong with all them choppers

1:47:00.040 --> 1:47:02.680
<v Speaker 2>don't seen this sheep. These rappers mad at me. But

1:47:02.880 --> 1:47:06.240
<v Speaker 2>these niggas ain't doing sh sh and I found a cushlo.

1:47:06.400 --> 1:47:08.640
<v Speaker 2>I can smoke this ship and when it's fit to

1:47:08.760 --> 1:47:11.559
<v Speaker 2>half a ticket at the dealer ship ship the famous

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<v Speaker 2>doing a lot of dammite my free ship. If it's

1:47:15.680 --> 1:47:19.679
<v Speaker 2>me jump ship and it's a love from my fans.

1:47:19.760 --> 1:47:28.439
<v Speaker 2>Got me still here. Monster say I'm a lumin natty.

1:47:30.000 --> 1:47:33.439
<v Speaker 2>They trying to fake me catch your body. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what I'm a flip nigga. Give me some codin

1:47:35.439 --> 1:47:38.960
<v Speaker 2>and Nigga Big Masail wiping Nigga knows Big Masai Wiping

1:47:39.040 --> 1:47:41.479
<v Speaker 2>Nigga knows my girl shirts locking the dogs or by

1:47:41.560 --> 1:47:43.639
<v Speaker 2>this ship pulling up a fall. Ain't falling in love

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<v Speaker 2>with no hole.

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<v Speaker 1>I had.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate to fuck with any of you niggas. That's

1:47:51.960 --> 1:47:55.800
<v Speaker 2>my only regret. Drada Mink on the floor on my

1:47:55.880 --> 1:48:00.280
<v Speaker 2>whole home. Would have thought we was Paul. Paul would

1:48:00.320 --> 1:48:04.080
<v Speaker 2>think we was oh money, laying on the floor on

1:48:04.200 --> 1:48:07.080
<v Speaker 2>some holes with me. She al pro so. She never

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<v Speaker 2>met another nigga, not another another nigga like me. Even

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<v Speaker 2>if he got a million dollars, he can't make her

1:48:12.080 --> 1:48:18.400
<v Speaker 2>come like me. We're calling men. She like me. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I have lesson fi I was. That was

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<v Speaker 2>good clig. That was really a right man. See y'all

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<v Speaker 2>next week, bring all my niggas in carcarratio.