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Speaker 2: If they do, they gonna start laughing at your ass

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Speaker 2: because they're nobody gonna be scared. You don't tap your

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Speaker 1: It's gonna distract them.

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Speaker 2: I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,

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Speaker 2: because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody

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Speaker 2: like though I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna tap my feet.

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Speaker 1: So somebody called me the N word, you wouldn't get

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Speaker 2: I would tap my feet while you come from off. Okay,

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Speaker 2: either white, We in this together. And then once you

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Speaker 2: got them down, once you knock them down, me and

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Speaker 2: I'll probably we gotta lot together. We got them together.

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Speaker 2: Worry God, I got your bag.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: You got a pay what's up, y'all? It's your girl

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Speaker 2: les Pete, and it's your girls.

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Speaker 3: Dread in the call.

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Speaker 1: Now you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine.

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Speaker 2: We're a drunk mind speaks sober.

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Speaker 1: But we ain't got no guests today. We ain't got

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Speaker 3: We didn't today. Not the bankhead bounce.

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Speaker 2: We we ain't in bank here, but we close. We're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's crazy. When I was younger, I

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Speaker 2: I wanted to be in Atlanta real bad. When they

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Speaker 2: and I was like, I hate being from Houston. From Warren,

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Speaker 2: I was like, Houston ain't got nobody representing on the.

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Speaker 1: Trade, not representing on the trade. And I remember when

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Speaker 1: what was that.

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Speaker 2: Group called was it Cherish? I just thought they were

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Speaker 3: What was the other group? Remember VCO Soul Boston.

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Speaker 2: So you're like me Area, Yeah that was my song.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that was a good song. But yeah, Atlanta. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: back in the day, I feel like this was probably

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Speaker 1: That was when you heard that tagline it.

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Speaker 2: Rock never Well, I found you, miss Snooks.

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Speaker 1: I was a six that was a hit. Bubba Sparks

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Speaker 2: I wonder what he doing now. I wonder if he's

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Speaker 2: still in college Parks.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna get drug to hell for this.

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Speaker 1: But in twenty twenty five, if I had to pick

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Speaker 1: in eminem, I'm choosing Bubba Sparks every time.

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Speaker 2: But you don't. You're not gonna have that many songs.

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Speaker 2: It don't matter at least what Buba Sparks said, because

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Speaker 1: Song when I look extra slick at as Nautica and

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Speaker 2: That don't blame me. I got a few Bubba Sports.

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Speaker 2: Why do you know that you Bubba Sparkles track in

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Speaker 2: Park was fun. I'm can't no lie. Bubba Sparks first

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Speaker 1: Remember Ugly remem.

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Speaker 2: Oh. I do remember that song because it reminded me

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Speaker 1: But what I'll say for me personally, his music didn't

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Speaker 2: A Detroit legend, who is listening to that.

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Speaker 1: Me, you're listening to just lose it in the car.

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Speaker 1: In the car when oh baby, come on, I'm.

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Speaker 2: About to listen to toy Shoulder. Oh heard it that sense

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Speaker 2: A little judgement, girl, I just a little judgement. What

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Speaker 1: Now if somebody turned on Superman, I listen to Superman.

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Speaker 1: But I do know one thing though, they come there,

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Speaker 2: That line was so hard Drakehead to receave. He did.

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Speaker 2: He had to make a whole little new song anyways,

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Speaker 1: But like I said, that's you.

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Speaker 2: You bet I'm back. No no, no, no, no no no

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Speaker 2: thought me, Like, yeah, he begged him. It's vague, that's all.

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Speaker 2: That is how you introduce yourself. No, I don't. When

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Speaker 2: you meet people, no I don't, you do You'll be like, Hi,

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Speaker 2: my name is Lexi, Why lex By? No? We don't

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Speaker 2: slim shady? Oh no respect? Where did the slim shady

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Speaker 2: come from? Though?

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Speaker 1: Because he was slim and shady he used to throw

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Speaker 1: Aguilera is so bad.

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Speaker 2: But he was slim shady before that.

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Speaker 1: No, he's always been shady.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying, where did the name slim shady from? Does

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Speaker 3: Room now He's not.

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Speaker 2: Says that it emerged from a moment of inspiration while

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Speaker 2: he was on the toilet, setting that it just popped

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Speaker 2: I can't see that song you love that man bad.

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Speaker 2: I think I'll get you. I think, yeah, because Chicago,

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Speaker 2: she can't go a day without breathing this man up.

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Speaker 2: You need to become his pen pal. He's gonna get

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Speaker 2: the little though and be like, you're too old.

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Speaker 3: I'm not like, I'm not joining in on this party.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not doing it. Thirty discuss, You got a

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Speaker 2: little fool. Okay. At this point they should know we

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Speaker 1: Okay, but I will say, damn, I forgot what I

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Speaker 1: I was saying no disrespect to that man.

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Speaker 3: His music just didn't age well for me.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You don't got not one

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Speaker 2: song beside Superman, I promise y'all.

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Speaker 1: This is when I had to give up on eminem.

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Speaker 1: doing like the BT ciphers and stuff. This man, I

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Speaker 1: bar after. But he said, that's an awfully hot coffee pot.

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Speaker 2: I mean, okay, you cap you are so cap bro.

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Speaker 2: Coffee pots do be hot, do they not?

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Speaker 1: Girl?

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Speaker 2: No, there's nothing so in the day. If you touching,

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Speaker 2: you deserve to get burned. Is not talking about Okay,

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Speaker 2: what was he talking about? I don't know, but it

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Speaker 2: was that it did not eat. He said, I can't

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Speaker 2: He said that if you can't get a boo, you

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Speaker 1: So talking about, you know, the Atlanta days. But yes,

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Speaker 1: I used to want to be in Atlanta so bad.

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Speaker 1: But I used to want to be in Houston so bad.

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Speaker 2: So are you?

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Speaker 1: I was looking at y'all still tipping you.

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Speaker 2: Wasn't looking at me? Yes, I want nowhere to be fine. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he was in class like this tipping. He was like,

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Speaker 2: of that expedition. Why are you trying to be funny?

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Speaker 2: That was my best friend cousin, Like, for real, I'm

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Speaker 2: not even being funny. That was really her cousin. She

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Speaker 2: was so proud. She was in Nabby. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: she was so fish. She was very thick for the

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Speaker 2: song shout out to her sickness. But she was definitely

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Speaker 2: with Webby and Buy and Bet she five foot seventh.

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Speaker 2: Give me that, Yeah, give me that. She wasn't gimme

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Speaker 2: now she in't give me that, and she couldn't wait

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Speaker 1: Well, in her defense though, back then being a video bay.

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Speaker 2: No, it was because I was like, oh my god.

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Speaker 2: I was. I was like, oh my god, that is

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Speaker 3: So you gotta think about it.

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Speaker 2: Though.

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Speaker 3: Being a video girl during those times was iconic.

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Speaker 1: It was somebody had posted a clip of Big Boys video.

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Speaker 1: I like the way you moved, Yes, and do y'all

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Speaker 1: remember the girl that was standing with him, and she

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Speaker 1: but I just remember.

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Speaker 2: She had these legs.

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Speaker 1: You could tell she worked out in this bubble butt

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Speaker 1: now she.

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Speaker 2: Was doing She was that little CVD shite. Today we

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Speaker 2: got fifty. I'm gonna make it feel the devil. You

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Speaker 2: will not win. No, But for real, out of video

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Speaker 2: girls did used to be fine. I mean they still

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Speaker 1: No don't legs, they don't. They don't be cute deleting,

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Speaker 1: all right.

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Speaker 2: I think the problem is that everybody looks like the day.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Back in the day, like people were unique, looky like

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Speaker 2: when I popped out that pool, I was a unique

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Speaker 2: looking Okay, I was I was very unique. Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: may shout out to zero new talent when he saw it,

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Speaker 2: I mean he was on something. The funny thing is

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Speaker 3: What I'm saying humble beginning.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's just like being a video video girl

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Speaker 2: It doesn't matter who video you in. That's a humble beginning.

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Speaker 1: If you imagine if you were in Big Pimping video

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Speaker 2: I doubt, y, I highly doubt. Let me stop. I

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Speaker 2: Why would you say that?

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Speaker 2: We need to stop playing with that lady like this, okay,

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Speaker 2: because that ain't plunny.

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Speaker 3: It's not funny, but it's real.

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Speaker 1: People had lies before you saw them be these great people.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. But the beautiful thing about

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Speaker 1: Snapchat got it? Thought of a lot of my stuff.

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Speaker 2: Snapchat do got it?

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Speaker 1: Sure. That's why I want to never delete my Snapchat.

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Speaker 1: It's so many good videos on there.

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Speaker 2: Oh she did got out to Meredith Gray.

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Speaker 1: And it was so funny because the reason I said, like,

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Speaker 1: Because it's like, you don't think that these people be

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Speaker 1: I said it's very possible that Valladay was possibly did

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Speaker 1: the music video not necessarily.

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Speaker 2: A rap video.

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Speaker 1: It could have been jazz and blues classical. They have

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Speaker 1: music videos, they do, yes, they do.

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Speaker 2: Bb King had video.

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Speaker 3: Bb King definitely had videos. I saw one.

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Speaker 2: And you see how you be talking about you don't

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Speaker 2: A Verry White dude. Oh you just keep oh, you

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Speaker 3: Keep telling me.

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Speaker 2: I thought the record was skippy, and I was like, damn,

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Speaker 1: The first big nigga that was showing you, big niggas,

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Speaker 2: Better listen to what I'm talking about now. Very White,

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Speaker 2: I mean he was giving like nineteen seventies records.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: That was before it wasn't No, this was before Biggie,

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Speaker 1: This was before heavy D. This was before all that shit.

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Speaker 1: Oh you just keep oh, but very hand.

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Speaker 2: His wife was beautiful. Okay, we see, Yeah, you like that.

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Speaker 2: That's why she had to turn her hand. You bless me.

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Speaker 2: Imagine if you open the door your man say that,

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Speaker 2: I'm probably closing. Oh you're not turn around. No, you

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Speaker 2: You just keep up. No, I'm gonna keep on walking

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Speaker 2: what I'm going man, excuse me. I've always said that

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Speaker 2: I would like to date somebody that could sing. No

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Speaker 2: I do. I think I would not not sing like that.

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Speaker 1: No, No, I'm talking about I think people who can

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Speaker 3: Be singers are so annoying.

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Speaker 2: Oh why would I date somebody who haven't made it?

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Speaker 1: Well, No, I'm saying, like say they have, they're successful

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Speaker 3: But they want to know. They want everybody to know

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Speaker 2: No, if I'm a date a singer, I want to

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: They be like, I get discovered because they don't know

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Speaker 2: But I'm not mad at it because I mean, you

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Speaker 1: I know people was losing the plot when we did

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Speaker 2: We did what's the Karaoke show we do?

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Speaker 1: We just having fun and it was like people poor

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Speaker 1: lex Man, listen, my baby mama, my baby mama.

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Speaker 1: of course, everything. I never had to pay any bills.

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00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 1: I didn't pay all of my bills one hundred percent

441
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: by myself until I moved to Atlanta because even when

442
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 1: I was in college, my mom was paying half of

443
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: my rent, she was paying.

444
00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:20,440
Speaker 3: My cell phone bill, all of that stuff.

445
00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: So while that did help me as far as I

446
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 1: didn't have to stress about work so much because I

447
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:29,880
Speaker 1: was able to still have that college experience and stuff,

448
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: it didn't teach me what I really needed to know

449
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:35,120
Speaker 1: about managing money. Yeah, so I feel like, I don't

450
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 1: necessarily think you need to put that pressure on a

451
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 1: child to pay a bill, but I think you need

452
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,880
Speaker 1: to show them how to save money. Okay, you know what,

453
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,399
Speaker 1: let me teach you about this. Put half of your

454
00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 1: paycheck right here, a thirty percent of your paycheck. Teach

455
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,119
Speaker 1: them money management. Don't just give your Let your kids

456
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 1: take their paycheck and just do whatever with it. So

457
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 1: I don't think necessarily they should be paying bills, but

458
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:55,879
Speaker 1: I think they.

459
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Speaker 3: Need to learn about money management.

460
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. I definitely think that it's more so

461
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 2: to me. You should be teaching your children how to say,

462
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 2: how to in best like make them accountable for Okay,

463
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 2: you get a paycheck every two weeks. Every two weeks

464
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 2: when you get paid, you need to put five hundred

465
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 2: dollars into a stock account because in ten years it's

466
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 2: going to be quadruple that amount that can put in

467
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 2: there that you invested in there. Like teach them the

468
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 2: importance of things like that. But I just think asking

469
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 2: your child to pay a bill, it's giving you short

470
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 2: on the rentment. And I don't like that because I

471
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 2: feel like children are supposed to be brought into the

472
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 2: world because you want the child to be here. I

473
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 2: just think putting responsibilities like that on them sometimes In

474
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 2: a lot of ways, I think parents try to use

475
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:51,199
Speaker 2: their children to help them overcome struggles and stuff that

476
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 2: they have going on, just like when parents be using

477
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,159
Speaker 2: their kids social Security numbers to put bills in their

478
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 2: name and stuff like that. Oh, because I couldn't get

479
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 2: it in my name, now I'm gonna put it in

480
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: my child name. And then when your child turn eighteen

481
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 2: and they're trying to get their first credit card or

482
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 2: get their first apartment or whatever the case, maybe they

483
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 2: credit is shite and they can't get shit in they

484
00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 2: name because you fucked they should. I think that that's

485
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 2: fucked up, and I think, unfortunately, especially in a black community,

486
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 2: a lot of parents do that. And they tried to

487
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: play it off as Oh, I'm trying to teach you

488
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 2: responsibility by getting you to pay the light billch No,

489
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: this is your life, this is the lights in your home.

490
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 2: I live here because you birth me. I didn't ask

491
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 2: to be here. Why should I have to pay a

492
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: light bill? You know what I mean? I do feel

493
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 2: like you're right as far as not fucking your money off, Yeah,

494
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 2: every week, because my mom definitely when I got a job,

495
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 2: hear and my dad they didn't make me pay no bills. Well,

496
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 2: I definitely just used to do what I wanted with

497
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 2: my money too, And I feel like it didn't teach

498
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 2: me any type of responsibility. It's other ways that you

499
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 2: could teach your children responsibility when it comes to their money,

500
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: outside of having them pay your household bills for you.

501
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 1: So, how do y'all feel about when that child eighteen though,

502
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,239
Speaker 1: and they're still in their parents' home, do you think

503
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: they should be helping then? If they're graduate, if they're

504
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 1: out of high school, and.

505
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: If they're in college or not in college.

506
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 1: If they're eighteen, they're out of high school and now

507
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: they're technically an adult and they're still in their parents' house,

508
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: should they be helping with the bills?

509
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,199
Speaker 2: I think it depended on the circumstance, like what are

510
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 2: you doing? Are you working? Are you trying to figure

511
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: out what you want to do with your life? Are

512
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 2: you in school? If you're in school, I'm not going

513
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 2: to ask you to pay for anything. But if you

514
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 2: think you just about to be in my house with

515
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 2: no plan, doing nothing, then yeah, you gonna have to

516
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,400
Speaker 2: contribute some kind of way. Because you're grown now and

517
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 2: living here. Having to help pay a bill is better

518
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 2: than you having to go get your own apartment and

519
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: pay for everything. But if you have a plan, you

520
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 2: in school, you going to a trade school. Excuse me,

521
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:48,439
Speaker 2: you're trying to figure out what you want to do

522
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 2: with your life. I'm not going to make you pay

523
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 2: for anything, cause you're trying to figure it out and

524
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 2: life is hard enough. What you think, sal Yeah, I

525
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: was gonna say, I agree. I feel like if they're

526
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:58,719
Speaker 2: if I'm in college and I'm just coming home on

527
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 2: holidays maybe the summer, maybe it's my responsibility to get

528
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,400
Speaker 2: a job so I can pay for gas or help

529
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,439
Speaker 2: around the house. But having a bill for that child,

530
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 2: I think you should just be able to set them

531
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 2: up so that they have they're able to save their money.

532
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 2: Again to your point, making sure they know what to

533
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 2: do with it, how to save it, but not necessarily

534
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 2: putting things in their name and having these big grown

535
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 2: up responsibilities until it's that time.

536
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 3: If you're living.

537
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 2: There three sixty five all year, you're not going to school, Yeah,

538
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 2: you need to get a job and you need to

539
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 2: definitely be helping out around here.

540
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 1: So I do think too, it's crazy because I always

541
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: regret not paying attention in school. I had a teacher,

542
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: it was I think my geography teacher. He took one

543
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 1: not semester, but like a six week period, we didn't

544
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:45,719
Speaker 1: learn any geography.

545
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 2: He took that whole six week period to teach.

546
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: Us about stocks, and I remember none of us were

547
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 1: paying attention.

548
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 3: We were just like, why do we need to learn this?

549
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 1: And I feel as an adult as thirty five years

550
00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: old now I'm thinking back to my sixteen year old

551
00:27:59,119 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: So I'm.

552
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:00,679
Speaker 3: Like, girl, why you did and listen?

553
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: Because imagine if I would have listened and just took

554
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: a little fifty dollars from my paycheck and figured out

555
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: how to Oh, mom, can I do this? But again,

556
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: my mom didn't know about you know, stocks and bonds

557
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: and things like that.

558
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 3: So I think a lot.

559
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: Of the time we need to switch up the curriculum

560
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: in the schools. I think there's a lot of things

561
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: like why, And I think I've said this before. Why

562
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 1: am I learning about credit when I turn eighteen?

563
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 2: Why am I?

564
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 1: Why are kids learning that their credit is shot because

565
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 1: this and that happened to them. They don't even know

566
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: nothing about credit? Why don't we know how to purchase properties?

567
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: That these are all life skills that we need to learn.

568
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: We should know about taxes, stocks and bond We should

569
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 1: learn about all this stuff like skills that we're actually

570
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: gonna need as adults. So unfortunately, in the black community,

571
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 1: I feel like they can only teach us so much

572
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: because a lot of it's a lot of financial literacy

573
00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: in our community, because unfortunately, my mom didn't teach me

574
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: these things because she probably really didn't know. My mom

575
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: was fortunate enough to have an amazing job, so she

576
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: made a lot of money. And you know, when my

577
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 1: dad passed, he left her a lot of money, so

578
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 1: she was able. She was just not lucky, but that's

579
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: the cards that she was dealt.

580
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 3: So we were always just taken care of.

581
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: But if my mom would have liked something would have happened,

582
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: if she would have lost her job or something like that,

583
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 1: she probably would.

584
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 3: Have known what to do, you know what I'm saying.

585
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: And I feel like we really have to teach our

586
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: youth about managing money because a lot of times their

587
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: parents don't know and they do need to help.

588
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: And not saying that it's right or that it's wrong.

589
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: But that's why it's like we don't know nothing about

590
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: generation No. Well, you know, you see us having these

591
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: conversations about fifty to fifty. Why are we talking about

592
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: fifty fifty when we need to talk about how can

593
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: we pass this on to our kids and we can

594
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 1: build something together. Y'all talking about splitting rent? Who cares

595
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 1: who pays the bills? Bro, let's get the bills paid,

596
00:29:56,200 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 1: but let's invest in something, Let's save something. Who All

597
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: these conversations are so silly, and even us we have

598
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: indulging these conversations before. But like I said, as I

599
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: get older, I realized, there is a bigger picture here

600
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: that we are all missing.

601
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 3: You are if your purpose is telling your.

602
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: Child, hey, pay the light bill because you don't got it,

603
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 1: that's different from hey, put it on this light bill

604
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: because I'm trying to show you, or you know, whatever

605
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: the case may be. So I feel like, no matter

606
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: what you're doing with that money.

607
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, because then I was gonna say, or maybe you

608
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 2: could be telling them that, But then the whole time,

609
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 2: you're creating an account for them, and then when they

610
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 2: turn eighteen or when they turn twenty one, you're giving

611
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 2: the money back to them. Right, the purpose was to

612
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 2: teach them responsibility exactly, But I just think, yeah, using

613
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 2: the money to pay your bills as a parent, that's

614
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 2: just crazy. Wow to crazy? But do y'all think that

615
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: a lot of parents do that to try to teach

616
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: their children like teamwork and family responsibility.

617
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 1: Now, I do think, you know, things are different, cause,

618
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: like I said, financially right now, we are in a

619
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,959
Speaker 1: very very tough economy. And you know, if you do

620
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: have a household, if you have like you know, a

621
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: single mom or a single dad, and you have a

622
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: child that's sixteen seventeen and they are working, you know,

623
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: if you even if they're only taking two hundred dollars

624
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 1: from the kid, that probably would help, you know, if

625
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: that's somebody who's not making a lot of money. So

626
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 1: I think it could be a good lesson in that

627
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: as well, contribute, to learn how to contribute and not

628
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: just being for self. But like I said, it's a

629
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 1: very thin line with that. It's a very fucking thin

630
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 1: line because I am all for community and helping each other,

631
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: but I'm also not for a sixteen year old stressing

632
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: themselves out to pay bills.

633
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say. I just feel like,

634
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 2: as a teenager, why am I responsible for the family?

635
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 3: Right right?

636
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 2: Right? You know? And unfortunately that kind of goes back

637
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 2: into what I was saying earlier. I really wish it's

638
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 2: kind of off topic, but I feel like sometimes people

639
00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 2: be having children to help them help with other and

640
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 2: help them help with like family responsibilities. So that shouldn't

641
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 2: be the reason why you having a child and bringing

642
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 2: a child into these worlds. It's to help you with

643
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 2: where you're lacking.

644
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: And I think that's what a lot that we're missing

645
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: in the black community. I feel like that's why we

646
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: need family units again.

647
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

648
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 1: We used to have neighborhoods where neighbors helping everybody, pitching it,

649
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, like it takes a village. We don't have

650
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: villages no more. You know how many times I get

651
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: online and I see a woman or a man crime

652
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: because they don't have any help, Like what happened to community? Like,

653
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie y'all. Growing up in my neighborhood,

654
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,719
Speaker 1: my mom sometimes would have to leave for work, but

655
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: we had our neighbors were right there and they'd be like, hey,

656
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: if y'all need anything, come over, and they would come over,

657
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: knock on the door, y'all good. You know, they would

658
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: order pizza for us and make sure we straight. But

659
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 1: it was a neighborhood like everybody knew each other, you

660
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It was like it was really

661
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 1: taking a village even now our neighbor because like, you know,

662
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 1: my mom has passed away, so my neighbors on the

663
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: other side, they have literally turned their camera to my

664
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: mom's house just to make sure nobody breaks in the

665
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: house or no, you know what I'm saying. So it's

666
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: like they're like, Okay, we making sure that nobody comes

667
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 1: in the house since nobody's there anymore. So I feel

668
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 1: like that sense of neighborhood of helping each other out

669
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 1: is very important. But that's why a lot of these

670
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: parents are relying on.

671
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 2: Their kids, cause people don't help folks out no more.

672
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 3: It's a lot of shame. It's a lot of shame of.

673
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: Well, you didn't do good in life and you're only

674
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: making minimum wage and you and you know, it's a

675
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 1: lot of shame in that too.

676
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 3: So I think it's a lot.

677
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I just feel like, if you don't know

678
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 2: how to handle your money, you need to learn how

679
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 2: to handle your money. You don't need to put the

680
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 2: responsibility off on other people. Because I feel like if

681
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 2: you're putting a responsibility off on other people to help

682
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 2: you every time you get in a buying where's the

683
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 2: listening being learned as an adult as I've grown up

684
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 2: adult as a parent. If you are always counting on

685
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 2: other people to help you, you're never going to who

686
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 2: learned the importance of saving, investing all of these things yourself,

687
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 2: or just not living above your means. I hate to

688
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 2: say stuff like these cause I feel like it's a

689
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,720
Speaker 2: little bit harsh, but like back in the day, people

690
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 2: was having thirteen kids fourteen keys because the cost of

691
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 2: living was cheap. It's hell, Like no, literally, the cost

692
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 2: of living was so fucking cheap, Like you could literally

693
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 2: feed a family of ten. You can go get some

694
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: steaks for like twenty dollars and it will feed a

695
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,440
Speaker 2: family of ten for like two weeks, you know what

696
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 2: I mean. That's just not how things are anymore. So

697
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 2: I feel like, also, if you can't afford to take

698
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:39,800
Speaker 2: care of all of these kids, why are you having

699
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: all of these kids?

700
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 3: And that's a sensitive topic.

701
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 2: Too, it is, and I understand that it is, but

702
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: like even I'm just looking at it from a standpoint

703
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 2: of like my mom, like I said, my parents didn't

704
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 2: make me pay any bills when I got a job,

705
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 2: My money was just for me. They still paid my

706
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 2: car note, they still paid my cell phone bill. I

707
00:34:57,680 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 2: think I did start paying my cell phone bill like

708
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 2: my senior year high school. But my parents paid all

709
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: of my bills. But my mom said, the reason that

710
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 2: she wanted to be that way with me is because

711
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:09,280
Speaker 2: her dad was not that way with them. My grandfather,

712
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 2: he actually owned a whole bunch of restaurants in Houston

713
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 2: back in the day, like in like the seventies, sixties

714
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 2: and seventies and eighties, and of course my mom and

715
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 2: all her siblings would work at the restaurants. And she

716
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 2: basically was telling me like, he didn't used to pay them,

717
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 2: and when he did used to pay them, like and

718
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 2: they used to work part time hours, twenty hours, thirty

719
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:31,879
Speaker 2: hours a week. He didn't used to pay them because

720
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,919
Speaker 2: he felt like y' all my kids, of course y'all

721
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 2: gonna work here. And then when he did pay them,

722
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 2: my mom said, they used to have to help him

723
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 2: pay the bills. And so as soon as all of

724
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 2: them turned eighteen, they hauled ass and got the heel

725
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 2: up out the house. They didn't want to stay there

726
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 2: no more because it's like, yeah, because it's crazy. And

727
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 2: I said that to say, but my mom also had

728
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 2: a big family, like it was like six of them

729
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 2: so all together in the household. Then with my grandparents,

730
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 2: a's eight people. Why you had six kids and you

731
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,879
Speaker 2: couldn't take care of I just kind of be looking

732
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 2: at stuff like that too, because it's not your children responsibility,

733
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 2: Like you decided to start these restaurants. And I love

734
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:11,919
Speaker 2: my green daddy Rip damn. Yeah. I mean he died

735
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: at an old age though, like he didn't die young.

736
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 2: He was like eighty five, right, okay, okay, But I

737
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 2: loved my grandaddy. He was super sweet before what my

738
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 2: mom to me before when my mom used to tell

739
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 2: me he was something else when they was like growing up.

740
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,959
Speaker 2: And I just think that that is a crazy responsibility

741
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 2: to put off on your children. I started these businesses,

742
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 2: these businesses are not flourishing the way that I would

743
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 2: like them to, or I can't afford to hire the

744
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 2: appropriate help, so I'm just gonna have my kids work

745
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:40,320
Speaker 2: here and not pay them.

746
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 1: I also think too, now we also have access to

747
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: a lot of knowledge that we weren't able to know

748
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: about in when your mom was younger, and right, there's

749
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:53,080
Speaker 1: a lot of information. You know, there used to be

750
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 1: the same and I don't want to fee anybody.

751
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:55,399
Speaker 3: But it was real.

752
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: There was like, if this is a black community, black

753
00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 1: people talking to other black people, They're like, if you

754
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 1: want a high something from black people, put it in

755
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,720
Speaker 1: the book. You know what I'm saying, because they knew,

756
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: like we would just go off of whatever and just

757
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 1: believe whatever people told us.

758
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,719
Speaker 2: But it's crazy because at one point we used to

759
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 2: love to read because we could eat like it was forbidding, right, right.

760
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: So I think now the fact that we have access

761
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 1: to I mean, there's so many young women, young men

762
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 1: on the internet that literally teach you, Hey, if you

763
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: only have X, y Z to invest or save, let

764
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: me show you how to do it.

765
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 3: Let me show you how to make your money grow.

766
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 1: That's how I started saving my money. Like when I

767
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:34,359
Speaker 1: started making money, I said, I don't want to lose

768
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:36,839
Speaker 1: this money. So what happens if you know, knock on wood,

769
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 1: poor minds falls apart. How can I make sure if

770
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,320
Speaker 1: I have no income coming in that I can.

771
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,720
Speaker 2: Last for at least a year or two and be straight.

772
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:49,840
Speaker 1: I got on YouTube, you know, I did some research.

773
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,000
Speaker 1: I talked to people. So the fact that we have

774
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 1: access to things. So I know a lot of y'all

775
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: listening like, okay, but you know, if I'm you know,

776
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 1: working from paycheck to paycheck, I under I do under

777
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: staying that, but coming from somebody who was working from

778
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 1: paycheck to paycheck, and I figured it out. And even

779
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 1: though I was looking, I had three dollars, I did,

780
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 1: but I was learning how to take my money and

781
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 1: invest a little bit of money I did have into

782
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,920
Speaker 1: my business and little and taking little things here and there.

783
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 1: There are small things that you can do. But we

784
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 1: have access to so much information, y'all.

785
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:22,359
Speaker 2: We really really do.

786
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: And I truly believe that we are now in the

787
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 1: day and age where anything has always been possible, but

788
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 1: today anything is possible. You have people online who are

789
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:34,479
Speaker 1: learning how to do digital marketing who don't know nothing

790
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:35,479
Speaker 1: about a computer, but they.

791
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 3: Just sat there and figured it out.

792
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: You got people who do day trading who didn't know

793
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 1: how to do it, but they figured it out and

794
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 1: they're literally, you know, making a thousand dollars a day

795
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: figuring all that stuff out. So I think, if you

796
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: have the time and the patience and you really are

797
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 1: thirsty for knowledge, you can do better for your household

798
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: to create something that's long lasting. Because one thing my

799
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:56,399
Speaker 1: mom said to me, though she always said, I didn't

800
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: do everything right, but I'm gonna make sure you get

801
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: it right, you know what I'm saying. That's what I

802
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: always tell people that Lexp went through that, so you

803
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 1: ain't got to go through that.

804
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 3: Yeah.

805
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,240
Speaker 2: So I don't think you should make your kids pay bills.

806
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 2: I don't think so either. And I think like, if

807
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 2: you are going through a financial hardship, are you going

808
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 2: through something and you do have to ask your kids

809
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 2: to help you with something that's understandable because it's like

810
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 2: if it's between the lights getting turned off, are you

811
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 2: asking your kid, can you please help me Patty's bill?

812
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 2: That's fine, but I feel like you should definitely get

813
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 2: him back the money. Oh yeah, yeah, when you get

814
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 2: back on your fee, you should get him the two

815
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 2: hundred dollars big or they three hundred dollars big. And

816
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 2: I was just gonna say, I know that that is

817
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:36,719
Speaker 2: a touchy subject when we start talking about like how

818
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 2: many kids people are having and stuff like that, But

819
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just a very strong advocate for

820
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:46,879
Speaker 2: children are not your child is not supposed to come

821
00:39:46,960 --> 00:39:50,479
Speaker 2: into this world and be responsible for you or live

822
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:51,800
Speaker 2: a life of struggle.

823
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 1: No, And I said that because I know it's a

824
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,359
Speaker 1: sense of subject.

825
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: But I agree with you.

826
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I remember one time your best friend Lean

827
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: had tweeted something, Oh, I'm not gonna beat.

828
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but Len is crazy.

829
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,239
Speaker 1: But i mean everybody was just eating her up, and

830
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, why are y'all doing her? She's right?

831
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 2: Am? I feel like, if.

832
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: You are not comfortable yourself and you are waking up

833
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: and you were crying and you were struggling, why would

834
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: you want to bring a child into that.

835
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just don't understand.

836
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that you gotta be a millionaire, right,

837
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: you at least have a community around you. I mean,

838
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 1: things happen, Accidents happen. I'm not saying that, and I'm

839
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 1: not I just think that.

840
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 3: We should be careful.

841
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,399
Speaker 2: I mean because it's because this is a thing too.

842
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 2: Like you said, sometimes things happen. And I can understand. Okay,

843
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 2: you get pregnant, you like I'm pregnant. I love the

844
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:41,359
Speaker 2: person that I'm we I'm gonna have the baby. Having five, though,

845
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:45,800
Speaker 2: is a choice when your situation have been changed having one, Okay,

846
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 2: I get it, having five out and you still in

847
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 2: the same situation and you still struggling. I just feel

848
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: like that's like a choice. And then when your children

849
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 2: get old enough to work, you're expecting them to contribute

850
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: to the household. Like, no, this is never gonna see

851
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,919
Speaker 2: right with my and I don't really care who would

852
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 2: have been right. And that's why I said, speaking of

853
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 2: because don't do your keys.

854
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: Like getting pregnant and stuff like that in the black community.

855
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: I want y'all, before y'all be eating us up, just

856
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: stay tuned to the bed topic today because I'm gonna

857
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: tell y'all why things y'all are worried about the wrong things.

858
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 3: But we're gonna get med to that later. So all

859
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 3: in all, I.

860
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 1: Think we all agree, Yeah, teach your kids money management,

861
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: but stop making them pay.

862
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 2: Your bill's strife absolutely.

863
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, Tom, what we drinking today?

864
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 2: Okay? So this is our solo episode and we've had

865
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 2: a lot of guests. Yes, we're gonna call this one

866
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:40,279
Speaker 2: the Girl's Girl, all right, cause we're behind here, all right.

867
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 2: So for this one, you can do any spirit of choice.

868
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 2: You can keep it a mocktail, or make it into

869
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 2: a cocktail. I've added some passion fruit. We have a

870
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 2: little bit of grapefruit, a little bit of lemon. I

871
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: made a bagel, honey, a little bit of ginger beer,

872
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 2: and then I used honey mango. So it's really good.

873
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: It was a little bit tard. I don't know, it

874
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 2: wasn't ripe enough good, but it was really good. I

875
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 2: really thought y'all would like it because it has that

876
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 2: tartness to it, and I think it goes really well

877
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,720
Speaker 2: with the passion fruit and a grapefruit too. This mango

878
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 2: is juicy as hair. Yes, that's the honey mango garnish.

879
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 2: The honey mango is garnish. And then a little bit

880
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 2: of basil in there, just to get a little give

881
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 2: it a little color to it. Oh but oh, you

882
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 2: just I see what you mean by the tartness. So

883
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 2: my eyes, it's good though, So we're gonna play with

884
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 2: that a little bit more. But that this is the

885
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:35,439
Speaker 2: girl's girl. Thank you. Gus. Of course, realm another little

886
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 2: CBD shops. I know you was cursing a lot.

887
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: He was like, because, motherfucker, because fuck that, because the

888
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: fucking motherfucker.

889
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 2: When the fu fucking it. Fucked, it got fucked on

890
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 2: the to be like bleed bleed, bleed bleed. I'm sorry,

891
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 2: and I didn't realize that I had some potty mouth.

892
00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 2: You couldn't weigh an episode normally because normally I be

893
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 2: trying to wait until like the five minutes past. You

894
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 2: couldn't wait to be working booty by, say Booty Park College.

895
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 2: That's what they're laying. It is low.

896
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 1: It is the booty parks. This lady that walks around midtown. Okay,

897
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about. Maybe she got the

898
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: biggest wagon I have ever seen, and she be walking fast.

899
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 2: Where does she be going? So she's usually around the.

900
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 1: Target said, it's me surprised she'd be walking around like target,

901
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,880
Speaker 1: the target area. And I mean that thing is so

902
00:43:40,960 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 1: and she'd be walking fast.

903
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, she walks really fast.

904
00:43:45,560 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 3: She has headphones on.

905
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: She's always in like a T shirt, some you know,

906
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,360
Speaker 1: workout pants see all the time.

907
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 2: And that booty is just so rotan. I love a

908
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 2: rotund booty.

909
00:43:57,800 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 3: It's so rotun.

910
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 1: But like shout out to huhout out.

911
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:08,439
Speaker 2: To the queen. In meantime, shout out of it. Oh,

912
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 2: y'all said that on this song, it's me surprise. Why

913
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 2: did he say that? Do you ever just be listening

914
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 2: to the.

915
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: Songs sometimes with surprise. Jock's first album was a masterpiece,

916
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:24,719
Speaker 1: and he was robbed of the Grammys he deserved.

917
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 2: Now he definitely deserves some Grammys for that. It was.

918
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:35,399
Speaker 2: It was definitely a mess. I'm trying to We gotta

919
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 2: stop cussing so much. We never gonna become a We

920
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 2: never gonna become legit say nigga and pussy too much.

921
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:49,319
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, we are to cross over, but that

922
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:51,760
Speaker 2: be leg saying but busy.

923
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 1: Bussy is a crossover word though, that in the other community,

924
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 1: because you know, we said, we're trying to bring in

925
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:02,480
Speaker 1: the latinas the White, the Indians. We want everybody to

926
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 1: tune in. Bussy is a universal word that that is

927
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: in the LGBTQ community. They all use it.

928
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 2: I say bussy occasionally, like when it's feeding for the topic.

929
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 2: You'll just be saying bussy just to say busy. I

930
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 2: think you like mine. It's like, I'm not mad at

931
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 2: it because I know what it represents. And no, Miguel

932
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 2: didn't say bussy. He said, tell me that that pussy

933
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 2: is mine.

934
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 3: The p word is not universal.

935
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 2: Though I like the p words, some people don't like

936
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 2: I don't like it. I like it pussy that pussy

937
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 2: real not that all out too. But yeah, I don't

938
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 2: know bussy is universal. I understand what it represents, and

939
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm glad that they have a word to represent what

940
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,799
Speaker 2: they needed to represent. I don't like it, though I

941
00:45:56,840 --> 00:46:02,799
Speaker 2: do bussy. It's remind me too much of buto. And

942
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 2: then so when I think of butdh sy, I think

943
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 2: of something that's stained. And I know all bussies don't stain,

944
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: don't I know all?

945
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 3: Have you ever smelled the bussy?

946
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 2: I smelled my bussy? You gotta everyone has a bussy

947
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 2: if you're using it for their purpose. I mean I

948
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 2: do have.

949
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying, have you ever smelt somebody else's bussy?

950
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 2: Perhaps?

951
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:37,240
Speaker 1: Never mind, I don't know why that it was a girl.

952
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:38,839
Speaker 1: I don't care if it was a girl.

953
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 2: A burrol, I feel like I had to clarify. I'm

954
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: just this is not a burrel. I've never slept with

955
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 2: a burrel. Oh my gosh, what do we call a burrow?

956
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 2: On our show? Okay? Rolling rolling up? Okay, come back

957
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 2: on the show. I can say I've never slept with

958
00:46:58,440 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 2: a burrow a shim.

959
00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 3: I think shim is actually offensive.

960
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 2: You think so, I think they.

961
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: I think like burrel is cute and funny, but I

962
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: think that that one is like because people use that

963
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:11,760
Speaker 1: to be offensive. Really this women and sis men assistment.

964
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 2: See, I didn't think that. So I apologize if that's

965
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 2: an offensive word or direction. I don't know if I

966
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 2: just made that up as well. Okay, see you apologizing it.

967
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:24,080
Speaker 2: You don't even know. But no, because I said that. Yeah,

968
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 2: I don't mind apologizing because I don't want to offend anybody.

969
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 2: But I said it because when I think of shim,

970
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 2: I just think of like she and him mixed together,

971
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 2: just like girls boy and girl mixed together.

972
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 1: But I feel like, I know I'm but I'm not

973
00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 1: trying to be funny. I feel like I've seen a

974
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: comment or something that somebody said it was offensive, but

975
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if that person was offended or it

976
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 1: was offending the community, you know, gotty gotty, Well, I'm

977
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 1: just like a difference with like the E R and

978
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: the A.

979
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:54,840
Speaker 2: Mmm. You know, and that bothers me too, because people

980
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,400
Speaker 2: love to think that that word is universal and it

981
00:47:57,480 --> 00:48:02,760
Speaker 2: is indeed not what A or E R both. Yeah,

982
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,879
Speaker 2: you shouldn't be saying none of them if you look

983
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,919
Speaker 2: like this, you know I love her? Good? Yeah, why

984
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 2: are you saying it?

985
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,440
Speaker 3: They want to say it bad, too.

986
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 2: Real bad, And that may even go for some of

987
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 2: our mulatto brothers and sisters. Y'all should not say it either,

988
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 2: because if we can't look at you until you just

989
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 2: shouldn't say you should just not say.

990
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 3: Brothers and sisters.

991
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 2: You know, I agree, because I feel like if I

992
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 2: have to look at you and be like, are you

993
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:41,479
Speaker 2: sure you can say that, just don't say ah, don't

994
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:41,879
Speaker 2: say it.

995
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's but you know what, I'm getting to

996
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: that age where I like, I don't know, like I

997
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 1: am trying to really remove it from my vocabulary.

998
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 2: Me too, That's what I was saying. I really, I

999
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,359
Speaker 2: can't wait till the day that we just don't say

1000
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: that word anymore on the shop, you know what. I've

1001
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 2: already had for a time.

1002
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 1: I know, but you know, it's actually harder for me

1003
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: not to say now it's not.

1004
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,720
Speaker 2: The A, S, E R no, because you have a problem.

1005
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 2: I do, because I've never used the hardy do I

1006
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 2: use it a lot.

1007
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 3: You know that's me and Laura.

1008
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 2: It's too traumatizing.

1009
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 3: You know that's me and Lauren's nicknames for each other.

1010
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 2: I know, hey, little yeah, y'all be calling each other day.

1011
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:27,320
Speaker 2: Y'all are so weird. You, you and Lauren are so strange.

1012
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 1: That when we entered the phone and wrong, she'd be like,

1013
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I just felt like I

1014
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: took the power back.

1015
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 2: You didn't take the power back, so like, I feel

1016
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: like it is so offensive to our incenses. They fought

1017
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 2: so hard for us to not be called no.

1018
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 1: They fought hard for our freedom to do what we

1019
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 1: want and to live on.

1020
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 2: This be called that anymore. But I took the I'm

1021
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 2: not letting nobody else call me that. I'm letting my move.

1022
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:58,399
Speaker 2: What you're gonna do if they do, they're gonna start

1023
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 2: laughing at your ass because they don't gonna be scared.

1024
00:50:04,480 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: You don't tap your feet like that.

1025
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,439
Speaker 1: It's gonna distract them.

1026
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,400
Speaker 2: I hope you steal off on them. Why you're doing that,

1027
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:17,800
Speaker 2: because that's that is a good distructions that. Imagine somebody

1028
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 2: doing that and you looking down at the steal off

1029
00:50:20,239 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 2: like I'm doing that. What are y'all gonna come from

1030
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 2: the side, y'all, I'm not coming. I'm not gonna started

1031
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:32,359
Speaker 2: doing that. Ain't they called you that? If anything, I'm

1032
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:38,799
Speaker 2: gonna tap my feet. So somebody called me the N word.

1033
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 2: You wouldn't get out there with me. I would tap

1034
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 2: my feet. Why you come from Okay, either white? We

1035
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 2: in this together. And then once you got them down,

1036
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 2: once you knock them down, me and I'll probably were together.

1037
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:55,359
Speaker 2: You gotta them together. You don't worry. God, I got

1038
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 2: your man, That's what I'm saying. But then afterwards, I

1039
00:50:58,640 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 2: would give you a last she.

1040
00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:03,839
Speaker 3: Now that's race.

1041
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 2: Doctor Umar say that one thousand last years. I would

1042
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 2: give you one thousand last years after because you be

1043
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 2: saying it. That's why they probably thought they could.

1044
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:20,399
Speaker 1: Say you have said it on poor mind, you.

1045
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 2: Have said the herd e R. I would go find

1046
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 2: the club and I would get inserty hobby inserted right

1047
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:31,279
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1048
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:35,240
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1077
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1078
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1079
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1084
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1085
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1086
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1087
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Speaker 1: Yes, y'all ask us for so much. Well, we've been

1088
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: to give it to y'all every single Monday, and it's

1089
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 1: gonna be a time. Y'all know Poor Minds has grown

1090
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,840
Speaker 1: into its own little entity. Well, we're gonna have a

1091
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 1: lot of fun still over here at Poor Chronicles. So

1092
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 1: make sure y'all tune in September second.

1093
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:36,280
Speaker 3: It's going down.

1094
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: Thanks having your friends back and fighting with your friends.

1095
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 1: We want to talk about constantly being your friends therapists

1096
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,759
Speaker 1: while they're in a toxic relationship.

1097
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,560
Speaker 2: Please pass the my tomato. Tomato.

1098
00:53:57,960 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 3: We don't like that.

1099
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 2: No, after a while. No, in the beginning years, for sure,

1100
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:08,880
Speaker 2: everybody need a soundboard, everybody needs somebody to be to.

1101
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 2: Everybody needs somebody to talk to. But after a while, though,

1102
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 2: if you are still in a toxic situation, or you're

1103
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,439
Speaker 2: complaining about this person all the time, but you don't

1104
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,480
Speaker 2: want to leave, especially if it's not like.

1105
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: A, I don't want to leave it, leave it.

1106
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 2: It was good? Because what made him go in the

1107
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:40,800
Speaker 2: studio that day, if they stacked to hold your down?

1108
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 2: But what made him say, I ain't my leave it.

1109
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 1: I'm afraid on your neck for the rest of your life.

1110
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 1: Ho and me, it's not good. It's never been good.

1111
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 2: When we really think about it, and we're not. Maybe

1112
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 2: we'll get into this for the bop signy, but Trey

1113
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 2: songs you just said a few questionable things. Get into

1114
00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 2: that anyway if you don't want to. But if you yeah,

1115
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 2: if you don't want to leave the situation, especially if

1116
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:26,479
Speaker 2: it's not like ZV. I don't want to hear about

1117
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 2: these because I can understand when women be in domestic

1118
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:33,880
Speaker 2: abuse and violent situations where they be afraid for their life.

1119
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 2: Believe that's completely different. That's not what we're talking about.

1120
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 2: I'm talking about you just being a stupid bed and

1121
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 2: you just want to talk to me about it all

1122
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 2: the time. After a year or two that you've been

1123
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 2: with these persons, I have ran out of my capacity

1124
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 2: to listen. I truly have. And I feel like for

1125
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:54,239
Speaker 2: some people that's probably gonna sound a little harsh, but

1126
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 2: I think that these days that's what we have therapies for.

1127
00:55:57,360 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 2: You should us talk to your therapies because as a friend,

1128
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 2: and I feel like lex kin ofticities, you can come

1129
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 2: and talk to me about stuff, and I'm gonna try

1130
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 2: to not be judge me, so I'm gonna listen to

1131
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 2: what you have to say. I'm not gonna tell you

1132
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:11,399
Speaker 2: what I'm not sure. I'm gonna try because I am

1133
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:17,879
Speaker 2: because sometime when it comes to niggas, damn again, when

1134
00:56:17,920 --> 00:56:19,759
Speaker 2: it comes to these when it comes to these men,

1135
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie when it comes to situations with

1136
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 2: my friends with me, and this is what I will say.

1137
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:26,080
Speaker 2: I do feel like you can come and talk to

1138
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 2: me about whatever, and I'm not gonna say nyhing. I'm

1139
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:30,320
Speaker 2: gonna just listen to you. I'm gonna hear you out

1140
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 2: and unless you ask me for my opinion, that's the

1141
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 2: only time I'm gonna just give you my opinion or

1142
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:39,800
Speaker 2: tell you what I think you should do. But after

1143
00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:42,800
Speaker 2: a certain period of time, I just don't want to

1144
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:44,879
Speaker 2: hear the sheet no more because I am that type

1145
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 2: of friend who I'm just gonna let you be into me.

1146
00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:48,320
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you talk to me. I'm not gonna

1147
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 2: give you my unbiased opinion for no reason. So after

1148
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 2: a while, especially if you ask me and I tell you, friend,

1149
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:56,440
Speaker 2: I don't really think this is the best situation for you.

1150
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 2: I don't really feel like the love and the energies

1151
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:02,760
Speaker 2: being reciprocated by him. What you're giving into the relationship,

1152
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:04,560
Speaker 2: it's not what you're getting back out of it. And

1153
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 2: if I tell you that stuff any you still choose

1154
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 2: to stay, and you steady keep coming back to me

1155
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 2: talking to you out the same stuff. I just don't

1156
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 2: got the energy no more talk to your therapy.

1157
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 1: So I one hundred percent understand where you're coming from,

1158
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,680
Speaker 1: because it does get aggravated. But I'm a little bit

1159
00:57:19,720 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 1: on the opposite end. I think you know that about me.

1160
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: I don't give a damn how many times you taking

1161
00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: the man back. Sometimes people have to keep going back

1162
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 1: till they're tired. And you're gonna keep going back until

1163
00:57:33,120 --> 00:57:35,120
Speaker 1: you get tired. So I'm the friend that's like, I'm

1164
00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: gonna listen, I'm gonna be here. But I will say

1165
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 1: I'm not the friend that's I'm just gonna be a

1166
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 1: listening ear. I'm finna tell you how bad he sucks.

1167
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 1: I don't like him. I'm gonna give you my opinion,

1168
00:57:45,640 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: whether you ask for it or now. See, I try

1169
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:51,520
Speaker 1: not to tell I'm finna eat him up every time. Now,

1170
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: there are two situations that I don't play with. There's

1171
00:57:55,080 --> 00:57:59,160
Speaker 1: two things that that's. This is when I get mad

1172
00:57:59,560 --> 00:58:02,680
Speaker 1: because you have to cut him off and it's no hands,

1173
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 1: it's or butts about it. If he put his hands

1174
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: on you, and if he have a baby on you.

1175
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 1: Those are two things that I'm not tolerating that for

1176
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: any of my friends. Now, if it's like a cheating situation,

1177
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: or you know, he's not being as attentive, you know

1178
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: the other relationship problems which are are as bad too,

1179
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 1: Like I can handle you talking to me about that

1180
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:24,280
Speaker 1: over and over again, and I'm be like, hey, look

1181
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 1: what we're doing today, how we feeling today? Are we

1182
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 1: crying today? Are we sad today? Are we happy today?

1183
00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:30,919
Speaker 1: Let me be here in any capacity that I can.

1184
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: But I will say now, I am a vocal person.

1185
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: Hey friend, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm going

1186
00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: through something today. I'm having a day. I can't take

1187
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 1: that today. I don't have the capacity to listen to

1188
00:58:41,200 --> 00:58:43,680
Speaker 1: this today. But my friends know that about me, so

1189
00:58:43,720 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 1: they're like, okay, friend, I understand.

1190
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 2: I'll call you tomorrow.

1191
00:58:45,720 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. My friends know my boundary.

1192
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:50,960
Speaker 1: So hey, les, you good? Can you talk? I got

1193
00:58:50,960 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 1: this going on? Oh yeah, what's up? What's going on?

1194
00:58:52,800 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So, but like I said, now,

1195
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 1: if this man that had a baby on you, are

1196
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 1: he gonna put his hands on you?

1197
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah? You getting them? You getting them lashings. You

1198
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,600
Speaker 2: gonna get them fucking lashes If you talking to me

1199
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 2: about a cheating man too, I don't want to hear

1200
00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 2: you talking to me about a man they keep I

1201
00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 2: don't care to he not putting his hands on you.

1202
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:12,520
Speaker 2: I don't care if he didn't go have a baby

1203
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:14,480
Speaker 2: on you. He keep cheating on you, and you think

1204
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 2: you about to keep calling me talking to me about it?

1205
00:59:17,120 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 2: Absolutely not, are you so.

1206
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 1: I will say my friend's gonna get tired or talking

1207
00:59:21,720 --> 00:59:23,640
Speaker 1: to me about them. I'm not finna be like, girl,

1208
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:25,560
Speaker 1: I hear you, but I'm gonna be like, you're dumb.

1209
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 2: But that's the thing too, I feel like that's fair

1210
00:59:28,000 --> 00:59:31,400
Speaker 2: to say. Eventually people will get tired. Sometimes people just

1211
00:59:31,480 --> 00:59:33,840
Speaker 2: don't get tired. That's when you have to just draw

1212
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:37,440
Speaker 2: the line of I'm not least right, I just don't.

1213
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 2: I don't want to. I'm here for you, like you

1214
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 2: know what I mean. If you need me or if

1215
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 2: you decide to work up with him, you need somebody

1216
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:48,800
Speaker 2: to be there for you. Cool, but I just don't

1217
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 2: want to hear you calling me telling me about the

1218
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:54,200
Speaker 2: same thing as men keep doing to you over and

1219
00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 2: over and over, and you won't leave when you have

1220
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 2: free will.

1221
00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 3: Cause I'm not gonna lie I'm a safe space. But

1222
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 3: I'm not.

1223
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:04,560
Speaker 2: I'm not either, not like that because I'm not gonna talk.

1224
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:05,080
Speaker 2: We not about it.

1225
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you know this ain't it. We're not

1226
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:10,480
Speaker 1: about to talk. We're not about to keep talking about it.

1227
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:13,920
Speaker 1: I'll say this, I'm a safe space. I'm not gonna

1228
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,240
Speaker 1: tell your business. But I'm not a safe space if

1229
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:17,600
Speaker 1: you think you're fnna vent to me, and I'm not

1230
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: gonna have an opinion like you do a good job

1231
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 1: of like not having an opinion and just listening. I'm

1232
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:25,280
Speaker 1: not gonna do that. I'm gonna tell you you're better than this,

1233
01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 1: and I can't believe that you're actually dealing with this.

1234
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 2: Ain't shit man, until though, don't forget to until until

1235
01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:34,680
Speaker 2: what I do a good job of doing it, until

1236
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:36,560
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear the shot no more. Like

1237
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 2: after a while, I definitely get to a point where

1238
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 2: I just be having to tell my friends, like give

1239
01:00:42,160 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 2: them my unsolicity opinion. If you have been talking to

1240
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 2: you about these men for seven months, a year and

1241
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 2: evening the same stuff, I'm gonna be like, okay, because

1242
01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 2: I can even give people grace. I feel like you

1243
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:54,720
Speaker 2: can give a man. You can give your friend grace.

1244
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 2: We'll talking to you about a situation for like a

1245
01:00:57,280 --> 01:01:00,720
Speaker 2: good six months, maybe even the first year. But then

1246
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 2: if after a year, now, yere's.

1247
01:01:02,480 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 3: A long time. I didn't know we were talking about.

1248
01:01:04,840 --> 01:01:07,959
Speaker 2: This territory what you mean like territory, but a year,

1249
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, what are you talking about though, are you

1250
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:12,440
Speaker 2: talking about like like say, okay.

1251
01:01:12,160 --> 01:01:14,640
Speaker 1: For example, say it's a man who's cheating. Oh, you

1252
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:16,000
Speaker 1: ain't about to talk to me about that?

1253
01:01:16,040 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 2: Four month?

1254
01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 3: Oh a month, so you have a month you.

1255
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 2: Can talk to I'm playing maybe not a month. But

1256
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:24,040
Speaker 2: I just don't staying with somebody that's cheating on you

1257
01:01:24,080 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 2: as a choice, right right of course, especially like I said,

1258
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 2: if you're not in an abusive relationship, you're choosing to

1259
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 2: stay there, you could go find you a man that's faithful.

1260
01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 2: I just don't really have a capacity to hear you

1261
01:01:36,240 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 2: complain about these men when you are not leaving or

1262
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 2: you are not setting any boundaries, and it's not no

1263
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 2: changes being made on his behalf. I just want I'll

1264
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 2: just be wanting better for my friends, and I think

1265
01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:51,320
Speaker 2: sometimes that can come off judgmental, and that's okay. I'm

1266
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 2: cool with looking judge if that's the reason why I

1267
01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 2: look judgy to you, because I want you to do better.

1268
01:01:56,600 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 1: I think the thing is it takes some people longer

1269
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 1: to walk away than it does others.

1270
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 3: But I will say this.

1271
01:02:01,720 --> 01:02:06,520
Speaker 2: For me, I'll really be trying to take these Like

1272
01:02:06,520 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 2: you said.

1273
01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: I keep had one thing that I worked on in

1274
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 1: these past three years. We have to learn to find

1275
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:19,760
Speaker 1: this happiness within the problem. This is the problem. I'm

1276
01:02:19,760 --> 01:02:22,800
Speaker 1: gonna rouffle some feathers with this one. When you have

1277
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:26,640
Speaker 1: low self esteem and not a lot of confidence about yourself,

1278
01:02:27,320 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: you stay in situations that are bad for your mental health. Now,

1279
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:33,360
Speaker 1: if you're in a situation a man is cheating, or

1280
01:02:33,360 --> 01:02:35,800
Speaker 1: maybe he's not taking you on dates, whatever the issue is,

1281
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:38,080
Speaker 1: if you don't feel like it's taking a toll on you,

1282
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,080
Speaker 1: and you're like, okay, I'm trying to figure it out,

1283
01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 1: then cool. But if you start you're crying every night.

1284
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 1: Your confidence is shot. You're losing your sparkle, you're losing

1285
01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:50,800
Speaker 1: your glow. You need to look within because your confidence

1286
01:02:50,840 --> 01:02:52,240
Speaker 1: is tied into this person.

1287
01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 3: If you had confidence about.

1288
01:02:56,240 --> 01:03:00,280
Speaker 1: Yourself, you would be okay with walking away. You are

1289
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 1: this amazing woman that you know that you are, that

1290
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:05,040
Speaker 1: you truly believe that you are, you would be okay

1291
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 1: with walking away.

1292
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 3: And I'm not talking shit.

1293
01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 1: That's something that I had to learn, not in this

1294
01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 1: last relationship I was in, but the one before that, right,

1295
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 1: I stayed in that because I let this person break.

1296
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 3: Me down, so where I felt like Oh.

1297
01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:19,520
Speaker 1: I have to because nobody else is gonna want me,

1298
01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:21,560
Speaker 1: and I let that person do that to me.

1299
01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:23,360
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, billions of people in the world,

1300
01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:26,360
Speaker 2: it's already it's always somebody else who's gonna want you.

1301
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:31,640
Speaker 1: Especially if you I'm really hurt period. Unfortunately for these men,

1302
01:03:31,680 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 1: I'm really her. So walking away from a situation is

1303
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 1: really not that hard for me anymore. So I know

1304
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 1: all the ladies and all my friends are not there.

1305
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 1: So that's why I say I do have a little

1306
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:44,800
Speaker 1: patience because I was that girl before, so I think

1307
01:03:44,840 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 1: I have a little bit more patience for it. But

1308
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 1: I will say, you're not finna get up. Oh I understand,

1309
01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 1: Oh yes, well this is no You're finna get it, bitch,

1310
01:03:53,880 --> 01:03:55,840
Speaker 1: You're finna get it. But you now, you and your

1311
01:03:55,880 --> 01:03:58,840
Speaker 1: friends are all like that. I feel, I can honestly say.

1312
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:02,480
Speaker 2: Because when you tell because it's been times where you

1313
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:06,000
Speaker 2: have told me stuff that they have said to you

1314
01:04:06,160 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 2: about people that you dated and stuff, and it made

1315
01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 2: me med. Remember, because I just be like, they don't

1316
01:04:11,840 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 2: need to tell you that all the time. Because I

1317
01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 2: do feel like that. I feel like, if you know

1318
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 2: somebody is going through a messed up situation. You don't

1319
01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 2: need to keep throwing it in their face that they're

1320
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:25,960
Speaker 2: stupid or that they need to leave. I needed that though,

1321
01:04:26,440 --> 01:04:28,520
Speaker 2: I did you, Yes.

1322
01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 1: But I feel I'm not a tough love person, but

1323
01:04:31,440 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 1: my heart is so big, and you know me, I

1324
01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 1: will give anybody the shirt off my fucking back. And

1325
01:04:36,280 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 1: sometimes it's like, hey, Lex, this person is using you,

1326
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:40,960
Speaker 1: this is not good for you.

1327
01:04:41,080 --> 01:04:43,520
Speaker 2: Wake the fuck up. But it's different when I think

1328
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 2: people don't know, like you really have women out here

1329
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 2: that are just naive and stupid. You not naiven stupid. Yeah,

1330
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:54,480
Speaker 2: you knew and I always knew you knew that that

1331
01:04:54,520 --> 01:04:57,640
Speaker 2: particular person wasn't she, and like you could do better

1332
01:04:57,680 --> 01:05:00,560
Speaker 2: than you knew that because it would be many times

1333
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:02,280
Speaker 2: where you would be meaning to me about him and

1334
01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:04,120
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even have to say nothing and you would

1335
01:05:04,120 --> 01:05:06,959
Speaker 2: say yeah, So I feel like you knew. You don't

1336
01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:09,880
Speaker 2: need me pounding on you like les, yeah, he ain't

1337
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,160
Speaker 2: shitting you stupid for staying with him, right. I would

1338
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 2: rather just tell you, don't talk to me about it,

1339
01:05:14,800 --> 01:05:15,440
Speaker 2: go talk too.

1340
01:05:15,760 --> 01:05:18,400
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. I'm so aware of myself now

1341
01:05:18,440 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 1: now as you say that. Therapy is getting harder for

1342
01:05:21,040 --> 01:05:23,400
Speaker 1: me because my therapists really can't tell me.

1343
01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 3: She's like you already know.

1344
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 2: And also too cybor and it's it's not to try

1345
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 2: to be shady, but it was always also giving pot

1346
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:35,400
Speaker 2: meets kittle. What when you would tell me, oh, oh yeah,

1347
01:05:35,440 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 2: the stuff that some people would tell you it like

1348
01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 2: And that's because that's the thing for me too. I

1349
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:41,640
Speaker 2: can I can say this is a problem I have.

1350
01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 2: Can't nobody come tell me what the fuck I need

1351
01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:46,400
Speaker 2: to do When I'm looking at what you do and

1352
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:48,840
Speaker 2: what you're doing is not any better than what I'm doing.

1353
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:50,280
Speaker 2: Why should I take your advice?

1354
01:05:50,360 --> 01:05:52,680
Speaker 1: Because look at who you are dealing with, right, I think,

1355
01:05:52,720 --> 01:05:54,800
Speaker 1: But it's easier on the outside looking in.

1356
01:05:55,000 --> 01:05:57,040
Speaker 3: That's why I say I don't care what. I don't

1357
01:05:57,040 --> 01:05:58,160
Speaker 3: care what you got going on.

1358
01:05:58,760 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 2: Sometimes I know.

1359
01:05:59,720 --> 01:06:00,640
Speaker 3: I need to hear something.

1360
01:06:00,680 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: I need to hear that for me, that's what I

1361
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:08,000
Speaker 1: need to hear. Like you have done everything you could do, girl,

1362
01:06:08,160 --> 01:06:10,880
Speaker 1: walk away. This person is not good for you because honestly,

1363
01:06:11,400 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 1: in that situation, because it was around the time my

1364
01:06:13,480 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 1: mom passed, if I didn't have them beating it into

1365
01:06:17,160 --> 01:06:20,520
Speaker 1: my head like that, it could have went somewhere where

1366
01:06:20,520 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 1: it didn't need to go, you know what I'm saying,

1367
01:06:22,120 --> 01:06:25,080
Speaker 1: because the mental state I was in, That's what I'm saying.

1368
01:06:25,200 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 2: So I think for me though, I'm just such a

1369
01:06:27,760 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 2: different person now what you was about to say about therapy, but.

1370
01:06:31,120 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 1: In therapy, therapy is getting harder for me because I'm

1371
01:06:33,840 --> 01:06:38,920
Speaker 1: so emotionally aware of who i am. So half the

1372
01:06:38,960 --> 01:06:41,000
Speaker 1: time when I'm talking to my therapists, I'm like, because this,

1373
01:06:41,120 --> 01:06:43,120
Speaker 1: and I know and I needed to because but if

1374
01:06:43,160 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 1: I did this, She's like, I can't tell you anything

1375
01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: because you already know.

1376
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:48,640
Speaker 2: What to do. That's how my therapist be with me,

1377
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:51,400
Speaker 2: so she it really just be me talking yeah all

1378
01:06:51,400 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 2: the time, because she'd be like, well.

1379
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:56,640
Speaker 1: She's like because she's telling me, She's like, look at

1380
01:06:56,760 --> 01:06:59,440
Speaker 1: the progress you've made. Because it used to be like,

1381
01:06:59,640 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 1: oh and I don't know what to do. She's like,

1382
01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 1: you have the answers, do it. You know what I'm saying.

1383
01:07:06,040 --> 01:07:07,240
Speaker 1: So it's like now my therapy.

1384
01:07:07,080 --> 01:07:10,480
Speaker 2: Sessions is really just be me talking, like I'm really.

1385
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:12,160
Speaker 3: Just like I have to say things out loud.

1386
01:07:12,320 --> 01:07:15,520
Speaker 1: But I've become so emotionally intelligent, and I think that's

1387
01:07:15,560 --> 01:07:18,200
Speaker 1: what it takes too confidence emotional intelligence.

1388
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 2: But I'm not gonna lie. I am that friend. We here.

1389
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:25,720
Speaker 1: I'ma be here until you're ready to walk away. Whenever

1390
01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 1: you're ready to move, let's move. If he's hitting you

1391
01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:29,959
Speaker 1: and if he had a baby on you, we moving

1392
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:32,840
Speaker 1: right now. But if it's other situations, I am I

1393
01:07:32,920 --> 01:07:34,360
Speaker 1: am that friend. I'll be a listener here.

1394
01:07:34,680 --> 01:07:37,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna be here. You could talk to me

1395
01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:40,440
Speaker 2: about I gid you. No relationship is perfect, Like everybody's

1396
01:07:40,520 --> 01:07:42,880
Speaker 2: gonna go through stuff in their relationship. I am being

1397
01:07:42,920 --> 01:07:46,360
Speaker 2: through stuff in my relationships. I understand that people need

1398
01:07:46,640 --> 01:07:51,520
Speaker 2: to talk to somebody, but it's just certain things, like

1399
01:07:52,080 --> 01:07:53,640
Speaker 2: you're not about to keep talking to me about no

1400
01:07:53,760 --> 01:07:58,200
Speaker 2: cheating as men. I'm sorry, Like if y'all haven't misunderstandings

1401
01:07:58,360 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 2: or disagreements about things that y'all both want for y'all future,

1402
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:08,200
Speaker 2: or even if y'all living together and y'all having miscommunication,

1403
01:08:08,360 --> 01:08:10,480
Speaker 2: or you hate that he don't never be washing his

1404
01:08:10,640 --> 01:08:13,040
Speaker 2: clothes or throwing his clothes on the side of the

1405
01:08:13,120 --> 01:08:15,360
Speaker 2: dirty dirty clothes him instead of putting them in there,

1406
01:08:15,600 --> 01:08:17,600
Speaker 2: and now y'all into it, and y'all haven't talked for

1407
01:08:17,720 --> 01:08:20,519
Speaker 2: a week. Like, I understand people are gonna go through stuff,

1408
01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:23,960
Speaker 2: but it's just certain things I want better from my

1409
01:08:24,120 --> 01:08:30,160
Speaker 2: friends because one thing about people is men can sniff

1410
01:08:30,280 --> 01:08:33,599
Speaker 2: out women who have low self esteem and who don't

1411
01:08:33,680 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 2: value theyselves. And a man is never going to walk

1412
01:08:36,520 --> 01:08:39,400
Speaker 2: away from you if you're allowing him to have his way,

1413
01:08:39,880 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 2: if you just putting up with what he dishing out

1414
01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:43,720
Speaker 2: and you just happy to be there and have a man,

1415
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:46,680
Speaker 2: he's never gonna walk away. So it's up to you

1416
01:08:47,000 --> 01:08:49,280
Speaker 2: to want better for yourself because you steady coming to

1417
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 2: me complaining to me about these men, and he like, well,

1418
01:08:51,280 --> 01:08:53,080
Speaker 2: I feel like he loved me because he hadn't left me.

1419
01:08:53,439 --> 01:08:55,719
Speaker 2: He haven't left you. Not because he loved you, haven't

1420
01:08:55,760 --> 01:08:59,640
Speaker 2: left you. Because they never believe they begsdune me. They

1421
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:07,280
Speaker 2: never They never gonna leave the woman who let them. No,

1422
01:09:07,400 --> 01:09:09,880
Speaker 2: you're right, but they never gonna leave the woman that

1423
01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 2: is gonna let them have their way. It doesn't have

1424
01:09:12,080 --> 01:09:14,760
Speaker 2: anything to do with love, yes, And I feel like

1425
01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:17,640
Speaker 2: as a woman, you have to know that you have

1426
01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:19,639
Speaker 2: to have that sense of self worth. And I feel

1427
01:09:19,640 --> 01:09:22,479
Speaker 2: like we're getting too old for this live too. I

1428
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:26,679
Speaker 2: know that we shouldn't try to use age because age

1429
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:32,559
Speaker 2: is just the number. But at the same time, careful

1430
01:09:32,640 --> 01:09:37,600
Speaker 2: you keep that man. But seriously though, like I know,

1431
01:09:37,880 --> 01:09:40,680
Speaker 2: because in life it doesn't matter what age you are.

1432
01:09:41,080 --> 01:09:44,680
Speaker 2: We're always constantly learning, evolving, growing, and you never too

1433
01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:47,640
Speaker 2: old to learn a new list. However, though, I have

1434
01:09:47,800 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 2: wayless tolerance at thirty three for certain things that my

1435
01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 2: friends come talk to me about than I had when

1436
01:09:53,160 --> 01:09:55,360
Speaker 2: we was twenty three. Yeah, no, I'm because at this

1437
01:09:55,520 --> 01:09:58,840
Speaker 2: point it's just kind of like figure it out. I

1438
01:09:59,000 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 2: know you this with the last five dudes that you dated,

1439
01:10:02,479 --> 01:10:05,000
Speaker 2: how many times we got to talk about the same situation.

1440
01:10:05,760 --> 01:10:08,519
Speaker 2: When you're gonna realize what the fuck going on and

1441
01:10:08,760 --> 01:10:09,759
Speaker 2: get together?

1442
01:10:10,160 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 1: I do believe to you picking the wrong men, it

1443
01:10:12,280 --> 01:10:14,720
Speaker 1: ain't their fault no more, it's yours. I also think

1444
01:10:14,760 --> 01:10:17,040
Speaker 1: that goes into a lot of like women don't know

1445
01:10:17,120 --> 01:10:18,320
Speaker 1: how to be the one that got away.

1446
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:21,200
Speaker 3: It's so much power in them, and I love being.

1447
01:10:21,800 --> 01:10:27,920
Speaker 2: I'm the one that got away, So that's my fuck.

1448
01:10:29,840 --> 01:10:33,040
Speaker 2: You do what I say.

1449
01:10:33,640 --> 01:10:35,519
Speaker 3: But yes, I think there's so much.

1450
01:10:36,200 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 1: When I tell y'all, and you can't take away.

1451
01:10:43,439 --> 01:10:44,680
Speaker 3: You can't take that away from me.

1452
01:10:44,800 --> 01:10:46,760
Speaker 1: How much I love myself, how much I know my worth,

1453
01:10:46,840 --> 01:10:49,880
Speaker 1: my value, and how much I know people love me.

1454
01:10:50,479 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 1: I'm so loved and I'm not talking about me, and

1455
01:10:53,120 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 1: I'm talking about my friends, my family.

1456
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:57,559
Speaker 3: I am so loved.

1457
01:10:57,840 --> 01:11:00,320
Speaker 1: So if you think you're finna come into my life

1458
01:11:00,360 --> 01:11:03,720
Speaker 1: and not love me right, you can go because I'm

1459
01:11:03,760 --> 01:11:07,120
Speaker 1: not gonna notice that you're gone, because I'm so loved,

1460
01:11:07,160 --> 01:11:09,679
Speaker 1: because I'm a good person and I know my worst

1461
01:11:09,720 --> 01:11:11,400
Speaker 1: and I know what I deserve, and when it comes

1462
01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:13,840
Speaker 1: down to it, I may be crying right now, but

1463
01:11:13,960 --> 01:11:16,120
Speaker 1: later on down on the road, you will never forget

1464
01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:16,479
Speaker 1: about me.

1465
01:11:16,760 --> 01:11:17,240
Speaker 2: You're gonna be.

1466
01:11:17,280 --> 01:11:19,639
Speaker 1: Laying in bed with that bitch, think about what lex

1467
01:11:19,720 --> 01:11:22,559
Speaker 1: P doing you could you gonna never ever, you could

1468
01:11:22,760 --> 01:11:25,639
Speaker 1: never get over this, Leo Queen. You're gonna be walking

1469
01:11:25,720 --> 01:11:28,600
Speaker 1: down the owl to your wife wishing it was me.

1470
01:11:28,960 --> 01:11:31,639
Speaker 1: I'm not wishing that you would have did it right.

1471
01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:34,800
Speaker 3: I agree, So I'm and I'm okay with that because

1472
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:35,880
Speaker 3: I do right by people.

1473
01:11:35,960 --> 01:11:37,960
Speaker 2: And I wouldn't even care because once I'm doing with you,

1474
01:11:38,080 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 2: I don't care who you be thinking about. You could

1475
01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:41,960
Speaker 2: think about me, you could be thinking about the next beach.

1476
01:11:42,000 --> 01:11:44,240
Speaker 2: I don't give it in because I walked away, right,

1477
01:11:44,400 --> 01:11:46,760
Speaker 2: I live in the great part about walking away. Yes,

1478
01:11:46,880 --> 01:11:48,880
Speaker 2: And it's like you just gotta know when you need

1479
01:11:49,200 --> 01:11:51,600
Speaker 2: to walk away, and the girls notna be knowing. I

1480
01:11:51,720 --> 01:11:54,200
Speaker 2: hate when people be like, oh my god, I don't

1481
01:11:54,240 --> 01:11:56,080
Speaker 2: understand why he would treat me like these. I don't

1482
01:11:56,160 --> 01:11:58,080
Speaker 2: understand why he would do me like these? Or why

1483
01:11:58,200 --> 01:12:01,160
Speaker 2: is he wasting my time? You are wasting your time.

1484
01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:04,720
Speaker 2: You are wasting your time because you could leave. He

1485
01:12:04,800 --> 01:12:07,600
Speaker 2: can't waste your time if you ain't there, and he

1486
01:12:07,680 --> 01:12:09,599
Speaker 2: can't do you like that if you're not letting him.

1487
01:12:09,600 --> 01:12:11,320
Speaker 2: Do you like that? You know what I mean? Like,

1488
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 2: it's a choice. It's a choice to get mistreated. And

1489
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:17,519
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I'm not standing for no mistreatment when he

1490
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:19,560
Speaker 2: comes to any man. I'm not letting a man mistreat me.

1491
01:12:19,800 --> 01:12:21,720
Speaker 2: And I don't want my friends to be letting me

1492
01:12:21,760 --> 01:12:24,160
Speaker 2: in out here be this treat mistreating them. And y'all

1493
01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:28,000
Speaker 2: shouldn't let people mistreat y'all period. Man, woman, borrow, I

1494
01:12:28,000 --> 01:12:31,120
Speaker 2: don't care who stand on business by yrself? Okay, what

1495
01:12:31,280 --> 01:12:35,600
Speaker 2: you think? Time I've cut off friends though, for like

1496
01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:38,840
Speaker 2: the one really have that choose the same man over

1497
01:12:39,040 --> 01:12:41,800
Speaker 2: and over and over again because it's not gonna end

1498
01:12:41,840 --> 01:12:43,760
Speaker 2: well for you. And now if I have if there's

1499
01:12:44,000 --> 01:12:46,759
Speaker 2: a DV situation that I have to feel like I'm involved,

1500
01:12:46,800 --> 01:12:49,040
Speaker 2: I have to come rescue you. Like some of those

1501
01:12:49,120 --> 01:12:52,320
Speaker 2: things I don't have a capacity for. And maybe when

1502
01:12:52,360 --> 01:12:55,920
Speaker 2: I was younger I could, I had more capacity. We

1503
01:12:56,040 --> 01:13:01,880
Speaker 2: were learning and growing. But now nearing forty, no, hon, yeah,

1504
01:13:01,960 --> 01:13:02,600
Speaker 2: we can't do that.

1505
01:13:02,880 --> 01:13:03,600
Speaker 3: No, I can't do that.

1506
01:13:03,760 --> 01:13:04,759
Speaker 2: You gotta love yourself.

1507
01:13:04,880 --> 01:13:07,440
Speaker 3: You have to love yourself, and that's the common denominator.

1508
01:13:07,560 --> 01:13:08,600
Speaker 2: But I realized in me.

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01:13:10,240 --> 01:13:11,040
Speaker 3: When I was in like I.

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01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:12,840
Speaker 1: Said, this is not my last relationship. I'm talking about

1511
01:13:12,840 --> 01:13:15,760
Speaker 1: the one before I didn't love myself. I completely had

1512
01:13:15,840 --> 01:13:18,120
Speaker 1: left myself go. But I was also going through something

1513
01:13:18,320 --> 01:13:21,120
Speaker 1: very fucking devastating as well, you know, And I truly

1514
01:13:21,160 --> 01:13:22,680
Speaker 1: feel like I'll say that to today I die.

1515
01:13:22,680 --> 01:13:23,160
Speaker 3: I felt like this.

1516
01:13:23,200 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 1: Person took advantage of the mental state I was in.

1517
01:13:25,920 --> 01:13:28,280
Speaker 1: But I say that because I lost all hope and everything.

1518
01:13:28,320 --> 01:13:30,759
Speaker 1: And like you said, men can sniff out that confidence.

1519
01:13:31,080 --> 01:13:33,680
Speaker 1: Because I would say this, Andre, you can attest for this.

1520
01:13:34,200 --> 01:13:36,040
Speaker 1: Of all the years of dealing with that man, he

1521
01:13:36,120 --> 01:13:38,160
Speaker 1: had never had me down bad like that. Every time

1522
01:13:38,200 --> 01:13:39,880
Speaker 1: we would kind of fall out. I was in a

1523
01:13:39,960 --> 01:13:41,960
Speaker 1: country with the next dude or I was doing I was.

1524
01:13:41,960 --> 01:13:44,879
Speaker 2: Like, oh yeah, yeah, you would always I would go, always,

1525
01:13:45,000 --> 01:13:45,439
Speaker 2: go and do.

1526
01:13:46,960 --> 01:13:48,720
Speaker 1: He never had me down bad, but it was like

1527
01:13:48,840 --> 01:13:51,679
Speaker 1: he caught me at the most vulnerable time in my life.

1528
01:13:52,120 --> 01:13:55,000
Speaker 3: And that's when I knew this is what women are going.

1529
01:13:54,840 --> 01:13:56,639
Speaker 1: Through when they can't get out of these situations because

1530
01:13:56,640 --> 01:13:58,560
Speaker 1: you're not loving yourself, you know. I felt like in

1531
01:13:58,640 --> 01:14:00,760
Speaker 1: that moment, I had lost everything, So I was just

1532
01:14:00,800 --> 01:14:05,360
Speaker 1: trying to attach myself onto anything anybody that was around. So, yeah,

1533
01:14:05,439 --> 01:14:07,639
Speaker 1: bitch ass nigga, you call me slippingever again?

1534
01:14:08,880 --> 01:14:10,080
Speaker 3: Yees he was.

1535
01:14:11,920 --> 01:14:15,599
Speaker 2: I was like, excuse me, girl. But when I tore

1536
01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:18,320
Speaker 2: it up to the function and I seen him, I said, oh,

1537
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:21,320
Speaker 2: but let me tell you how God works, because now

1538
01:14:21,360 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 2: we can talk about it because by the time this

1539
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,360
Speaker 2: episode drugs, let me tell how God works. When I

1540
01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:27,439
Speaker 2: got out this relationship, and I'm telling you all this

1541
01:14:27,520 --> 01:14:29,959
Speaker 2: because this is why it's important to pour into yourself.

1542
01:14:30,479 --> 01:14:35,680
Speaker 1: When I got off that relationship, poor minds, it was

1543
01:14:35,680 --> 01:14:40,439
Speaker 1: already going up. Poor minds went up. Okay, I made

1544
01:14:40,880 --> 01:14:43,360
Speaker 1: the next year. I have made the most money I

1545
01:14:43,479 --> 01:14:46,360
Speaker 1: ever made. After I have really dropped that relationship, and

1546
01:14:46,400 --> 01:14:48,920
Speaker 1: then in twenty twenty four that was made even more money,

1547
01:14:49,280 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 1: and now in twenty twenty five, we're finna be on

1548
01:14:51,120 --> 01:14:52,320
Speaker 1: BT with a travel show.

1549
01:14:52,400 --> 01:14:55,960
Speaker 2: Amen. Because it's a testament that God will reward you

1550
01:14:56,040 --> 01:14:59,559
Speaker 2: for being obedient. Hello, And I was obedient to the Lord. No, Yeah,

1551
01:14:59,600 --> 01:15:01,519
Speaker 2: because I I feel like God had been shown you

1552
01:15:01,640 --> 01:15:03,879
Speaker 2: signs that you needed to walk away from this situation.

1553
01:15:04,000 --> 01:15:06,960
Speaker 2: And God will tell you he will not only direction

1554
01:15:07,479 --> 01:15:09,479
Speaker 2: that he wants you to go, And if you keep

1555
01:15:09,520 --> 01:15:11,880
Speaker 2: me in d sobedient, your life is going to be

1556
01:15:11,920 --> 01:15:13,839
Speaker 2: your reflection of that. But as soon as you decide

1557
01:15:13,920 --> 01:15:15,960
Speaker 2: to listen to him and take heed to what he's

1558
01:15:15,960 --> 01:15:18,000
Speaker 2: trying to show you and get on the path that

1559
01:15:18,080 --> 01:15:20,080
Speaker 2: he wants you to be on, your blessings is going over.

1560
01:15:20,120 --> 01:15:22,240
Speaker 2: And I feel like that's what happened.

1561
01:15:22,400 --> 01:15:24,000
Speaker 3: My faith is always stronger than my doubt.

1562
01:15:24,600 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 1: And then I said what Beyonce said, the best revenge

1563
01:15:27,520 --> 01:15:31,360
Speaker 1: is your paper treated somebody like complete shit. And now

1564
01:15:31,479 --> 01:15:33,200
Speaker 1: you got to turn on the TV and see my face.

1565
01:15:33,360 --> 01:15:35,720
Speaker 1: You can never escape me, baby, because my blessings are

1566
01:15:35,800 --> 01:15:38,960
Speaker 1: rolling in. And I'm not saying that was my motivation

1567
01:15:39,080 --> 01:15:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about him. I'm just saying how much

1568
01:15:42,120 --> 01:15:46,400
Speaker 1: my life elevated when I walked away. There is power

1569
01:15:46,520 --> 01:15:49,320
Speaker 1: in walking away. There is so much power in walking

1570
01:15:49,320 --> 01:15:50,519
Speaker 1: away because I know he looking like.

1571
01:15:51,600 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 2: Damn and some people in your life to be distractions, yes, man,

1572
01:15:56,600 --> 01:15:58,200
Speaker 2: you know, but you have to have that spirit of

1573
01:15:58,240 --> 01:16:00,840
Speaker 2: discernment to be able to walk away cut it off,

1574
01:16:01,000 --> 01:16:03,640
Speaker 2: no matter how painful or stressful you feel like it

1575
01:16:03,760 --> 01:16:07,000
Speaker 2: might be or hard to walk away from that as soon.

1576
01:16:07,120 --> 01:16:08,880
Speaker 2: I've experienced it so many times. As soon as you

1577
01:16:09,000 --> 01:16:11,960
Speaker 2: dropped that dead weight, the blessings like, like you said,

1578
01:16:12,080 --> 01:16:16,680
Speaker 2: you're rewarded for paying attention, for getting yourself for what

1579
01:16:16,800 --> 01:16:19,280
Speaker 2: do we say with the Lord dang on a space

1580
01:16:19,360 --> 01:16:24,160
Speaker 2: out what not? Obedience? It's another word that we use

1581
01:16:24,240 --> 01:16:26,800
Speaker 2: for like like you're actually listening to what the Lord

1582
01:16:26,920 --> 01:16:28,880
Speaker 2: is saying, like you're doing his will. Sorry I messed

1583
01:16:28,880 --> 01:16:29,639
Speaker 2: it up, but no, it's.

1584
01:16:29,560 --> 01:16:31,519
Speaker 3: Okay because I get what you're saying.

1585
01:16:31,560 --> 01:16:33,360
Speaker 1: Because this is the thing though, I think a lot

1586
01:16:33,400 --> 01:16:35,720
Speaker 1: of times we pray to God to guide us, Yeah,

1587
01:16:35,840 --> 01:16:37,720
Speaker 1: but we don't pay attention to the signs that he

1588
01:16:37,800 --> 01:16:38,240
Speaker 1: gives us.

1589
01:16:38,680 --> 01:16:43,320
Speaker 2: I literally, God is the type of God that if

1590
01:16:43,439 --> 01:16:46,280
Speaker 2: you ask him for a specific sign. He will literally

1591
01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:51,000
Speaker 2: seen the specific sign, and people still ignore the specific

1592
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:55,760
Speaker 2: sign that you asked for. Hold on, that's not what

1593
01:16:55,880 --> 01:16:56,400
Speaker 2: I asked for it.

1594
01:16:56,479 --> 01:16:59,040
Speaker 1: But now I've learned to pay attention. Hey, God, is

1595
01:16:59,080 --> 01:17:00,280
Speaker 1: this what I'm supposed to do? A what am I

1596
01:17:00,280 --> 01:17:01,600
Speaker 1: supposed to do? Please just guide me?

1597
01:17:02,240 --> 01:17:02,400
Speaker 2: Man?

1598
01:17:02,840 --> 01:17:07,400
Speaker 1: Oh, it just be so crazy. I seriously, I'm so

1599
01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:10,439
Speaker 1: specific with my praise. You have to be And every

1600
01:17:10,600 --> 01:17:13,280
Speaker 1: morning I'll be waking up and it's like what I

1601
01:17:13,520 --> 01:17:17,320
Speaker 1: asked for. It's just like the simplest things I be

1602
01:17:17,360 --> 01:17:21,680
Speaker 1: asking for. He's like, and it just be man. And

1603
01:17:21,760 --> 01:17:24,320
Speaker 1: that's why I say. The fact that we have a

1604
01:17:24,439 --> 01:17:25,479
Speaker 1: travel show right.

1605
01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:32,120
Speaker 2: Now, like what now? And I probably don't remember when.

1606
01:17:32,000 --> 01:17:34,120
Speaker 1: I had my show with my old roommate Jazz and

1607
01:17:34,200 --> 01:17:37,479
Speaker 1: Lex Where to Next? So it's like doing this is

1608
01:17:37,640 --> 01:17:43,240
Speaker 1: like exactly we manifested this for ourselves. We y'all so

1609
01:17:43,400 --> 01:17:45,599
Speaker 1: worried about looking on other people play and you worried

1610
01:17:45,600 --> 01:17:48,240
Speaker 1: about this, man, you worried about this. Focus on God

1611
01:17:48,720 --> 01:17:51,799
Speaker 1: and focus on your blessings. I'm telling you I focused

1612
01:17:51,880 --> 01:17:55,400
Speaker 1: on myself. I got back into church, and I'm telling

1613
01:17:55,439 --> 01:17:57,440
Speaker 1: you it just started for everything.

1614
01:17:57,360 --> 01:18:00,040
Speaker 2: Because I just spoke a word when she said some

1615
01:18:00,320 --> 01:18:04,120
Speaker 2: people are meant to be distraction or it's a test,

1616
01:18:04,320 --> 01:18:06,840
Speaker 2: like sometimes God is just testing you, you know, And

1617
01:18:06,960 --> 01:18:07,920
Speaker 2: y'all be feeling.

1618
01:18:07,680 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 3: The tests I passed with flying tell us.

1619
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:11,640
Speaker 2: Not y'all be feeling them tests because y'all will not

1620
01:18:11,800 --> 01:18:18,000
Speaker 2: leave these mgg A are y'all, but I'm not gonna

1621
01:18:18,040 --> 01:18:20,320
Speaker 2: call them to all right, all right, okay, so now

1622
01:18:21,520 --> 01:18:24,200
Speaker 2: my ancestors nam about to be rolling in. We gotta

1623
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Speaker 2: googling with you. What's up, y'all? Is your girl XP

1624
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Speaker 2: and it's sugarl draining the call.

1625
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1627
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1628
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Speaker 1: and you need a one stop shop.

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Speaker 1: bow the bow d B Bow Bow Bow Bow.

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Speaker 2: That'd being a theme song. It is just crazy, it's

1682
01:21:09,040 --> 01:21:10,760
Speaker 2: a good I'm like, how did we even come up

1683
01:21:10,800 --> 01:21:13,160
Speaker 2: with it. You know what's crazy.

1684
01:21:13,439 --> 01:21:14,599
Speaker 3: It's on episode one.

1685
01:21:15,400 --> 01:21:17,759
Speaker 2: I know, but I'm like, how did it even come about?

1686
01:21:17,960 --> 01:21:18,960
Speaker 3: I don't know, I swear.

1687
01:21:20,120 --> 01:21:22,320
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about a little sexual health

1688
01:21:22,439 --> 01:21:24,960
Speaker 1: for a minute and how it impacts your mental health.

1689
01:21:25,000 --> 01:21:27,200
Speaker 1: But I also wanted to tie that into the conversation

1690
01:21:27,280 --> 01:21:28,360
Speaker 1: we were having having earlier.

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Speaker 3: Like I said, So I went to this thing. It

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Speaker 3: was called It's a risky It's called Risky Dinner.

1693
01:21:33,920 --> 01:21:35,560
Speaker 1: On my phone died. I can't look it up to

1694
01:21:35,600 --> 01:21:37,760
Speaker 1: shout the hostyle. I think her name is Koya. I'm

1695
01:21:37,800 --> 01:21:40,240
Speaker 1: so sorry if I got her name wrong. But it's

1696
01:21:40,280 --> 01:21:44,760
Speaker 1: called Risky Dinner. Weezy hosts it with her. Shout out

1697
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:47,479
Speaker 1: to Weezy, I had an amazing time. So basically, it's

1698
01:21:47,520 --> 01:21:50,960
Speaker 1: a dinner and they go around just letting black women

1699
01:21:51,080 --> 01:21:54,280
Speaker 1: know like the statistics in their state of like HIV,

1700
01:21:54,640 --> 01:21:58,760
Speaker 1: you know, STDs and things like that, because although you know,

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01:22:00,000 --> 01:22:03,120
Speaker 1: black women are we our population is really low, not

1702
01:22:03,280 --> 01:22:06,680
Speaker 1: compared to other ones. Our percentage of having HIV and

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01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:10,400
Speaker 1: a's is really high. Yeah, they talk with Coya talks

1704
01:22:10,520 --> 01:22:13,040
Speaker 1: with Koya, Yes, and she hosts something called Risky Dinner.

1705
01:22:13,120 --> 01:22:16,559
Speaker 1: So it's basically, you know, an open table, open mic

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01:22:16,600 --> 01:22:18,680
Speaker 1: where black women just get to sit and talk. They

1707
01:22:18,760 --> 01:22:22,040
Speaker 1: talk about prep how to protect yourself, opening up conversations

1708
01:22:22,080 --> 01:22:24,280
Speaker 1: with your partner about getting tested and things like that.

1709
01:22:24,840 --> 01:22:27,880
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about this because I wanted

1710
01:22:27,920 --> 01:22:30,439
Speaker 1: to read this fact for you. Black women account for

1711
01:22:30,479 --> 01:22:37,040
Speaker 1: the largest share of new HIV diagnosis among women twenty two,

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01:22:37,200 --> 01:22:40,240
Speaker 1: as well as the largest share of all women living

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01:22:40,320 --> 01:22:44,320
Speaker 1: with HIV. The rate of new diagnosis among Black women

1714
01:22:44,600 --> 01:22:48,160
Speaker 1: is ten times the rate among white women and three

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01:22:48,280 --> 01:22:52,439
Speaker 1: times the rate among Latinas that that number is scary,

1716
01:22:53,080 --> 01:22:56,400
Speaker 1: and the numbers in Atlanta, she would obviously she was

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01:22:56,439 --> 01:22:58,439
Speaker 1: talking about specifically in Georgia because the dinner, because they

1718
01:22:58,479 --> 01:23:02,519
Speaker 1: travel around, the numbers and Georgia are even scarier, you guys.

1719
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:05,439
Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about that because it's so

1720
01:23:05,640 --> 01:23:09,760
Speaker 1: crazy how growing up my mom was always like, don't

1721
01:23:09,800 --> 01:23:11,840
Speaker 1: get pregnant, don't get pregnant. I think that's what they

1722
01:23:11,880 --> 01:23:13,840
Speaker 1: do in the black community, even as we're like, don't

1723
01:23:13,880 --> 01:23:15,639
Speaker 1: y'all keep having these kids and you ain't got enough

1724
01:23:15,640 --> 01:23:19,120
Speaker 1: money'll keep up. But more importantly, we are not protecting

1725
01:23:19,160 --> 01:23:20,560
Speaker 1: ourselves from these diseases.

1726
01:23:20,880 --> 01:23:24,080
Speaker 2: Let me tell you some. My mama was definitely showing

1727
01:23:24,160 --> 01:23:27,040
Speaker 2: me the photos of comedy people with comedia got the rea,

1728
01:23:27,400 --> 01:23:31,400
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, yes, but I agree with you.

1729
01:23:31,560 --> 01:23:34,320
Speaker 2: I think that people are definitely people raise their children

1730
01:23:34,400 --> 01:23:37,519
Speaker 2: and talk about the fears or the scares of getting

1731
01:23:37,600 --> 01:23:40,600
Speaker 2: pregnant rather often than actually talking about the diseases that

1732
01:23:40,680 --> 01:23:42,720
Speaker 2: are out here, and more specifically the ones that you

1733
01:23:42,800 --> 01:23:47,720
Speaker 2: can't get rid of because HIV herpes there's no cure hepatiites, right,

1734
01:23:47,760 --> 01:23:51,200
Speaker 2: there's no cure for these things. And these days with

1735
01:23:51,880 --> 01:23:56,360
Speaker 2: things like prep available, which we didn't have twenty years ago,

1736
01:23:56,520 --> 01:23:58,679
Speaker 2: thirty years ago, I just feel like it's no excuse

1737
01:23:58,760 --> 01:24:02,640
Speaker 2: to be out here living risky. Okay, I like how

1738
01:24:02,680 --> 01:24:05,560
Speaker 2: you did that, but yeah, it's no excuse to be

1739
01:24:05,680 --> 01:24:11,120
Speaker 2: out here creating risky behavior and doing risky stuff, putting

1740
01:24:11,160 --> 01:24:14,240
Speaker 2: yourself in scary situations when you can literally prevent it

1741
01:24:14,360 --> 01:24:16,600
Speaker 2: from happening. Yeah, you can prevent it.

1742
01:24:17,120 --> 01:24:18,760
Speaker 1: And I think what's scariest too, is like a lot

1743
01:24:18,840 --> 01:24:21,559
Speaker 1: of times people don't like getting excuse me, they don't

1744
01:24:21,600 --> 01:24:22,360
Speaker 1: like getting tested.

1745
01:24:22,680 --> 01:24:23,240
Speaker 2: They're at that.

1746
01:24:23,920 --> 01:24:26,680
Speaker 1: Now you can literally do it with your partner. You

1747
01:24:26,720 --> 01:24:28,719
Speaker 1: can get tested at home for HIV.

1748
01:24:30,040 --> 01:24:32,840
Speaker 2: I mean it is, especially when you be that be

1749
01:24:32,920 --> 01:24:35,640
Speaker 2: the long it's fifteen minutes of your life. You'd be like,

1750
01:24:36,160 --> 01:24:38,120
Speaker 2: but I'll say this, and it don't seem like every

1751
01:24:38,200 --> 01:24:41,960
Speaker 2: time every time you go get tested or you waited

1752
01:24:42,000 --> 01:24:44,240
Speaker 2: for some six results, all you see is HIV.

1753
01:24:44,439 --> 01:24:48,960
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yay. That little billboard scary, but you

1754
01:24:49,120 --> 01:24:51,960
Speaker 1: have to do it. That billboard's about a cookout, you

1755
01:24:52,040 --> 01:24:52,880
Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about.

1756
01:24:53,400 --> 01:24:55,960
Speaker 2: I hate that damn billboard. I'll be like, yes, I'm

1757
01:24:56,000 --> 01:24:58,800
Speaker 2: telling you, but it's it's necessary though, like we're we're

1758
01:24:58,840 --> 01:25:00,880
Speaker 2: trying to make it a little light, but for real.

1759
01:25:00,760 --> 01:25:03,320
Speaker 1: Though, y'all need to go get TIS. But also because

1760
01:25:03,320 --> 01:25:05,280
Speaker 1: it's better to know than not, because y'all have to realize.

1761
01:25:05,320 --> 01:25:08,680
Speaker 1: We are so advanced with the medicines and stuff that

1762
01:25:08,800 --> 01:25:10,240
Speaker 1: are available, so.

1763
01:25:10,479 --> 01:25:12,880
Speaker 2: When people are going undetectable, yeah, so it's like you

1764
01:25:13,000 --> 01:25:14,800
Speaker 2: can live with it, but it's like you have to.

1765
01:25:14,920 --> 01:25:17,519
Speaker 1: Know before it's too late, because once it's too late,

1766
01:25:18,240 --> 01:25:18,840
Speaker 1: it's too late.

1767
01:25:18,920 --> 01:25:20,000
Speaker 3: There's no going back.

1768
01:25:20,479 --> 01:25:22,800
Speaker 1: So I just think that the numbers when I went

1769
01:25:22,840 --> 01:25:26,040
Speaker 1: to this dinner of the statistics of black women who

1770
01:25:26,080 --> 01:25:29,720
Speaker 1: are being exposed to this who don't know, and it's

1771
01:25:29,800 --> 01:25:30,320
Speaker 1: really sad.

1772
01:25:30,400 --> 01:25:32,040
Speaker 3: It really breaks my heart because.

1773
01:25:31,880 --> 01:25:35,360
Speaker 1: As black men, when we just go through so much bruh,

1774
01:25:35,840 --> 01:25:38,080
Speaker 1: it's like the dating is hard for us, then we

1775
01:25:38,160 --> 01:25:40,160
Speaker 1: have to deal with stuff like this. Then we gotta

1776
01:25:40,200 --> 01:25:43,599
Speaker 1: deal with, you know, being single mothers, being the most unweeded.

1777
01:25:43,760 --> 01:25:45,519
Speaker 1: It's just like it's so much on us. And I

1778
01:25:45,600 --> 01:25:48,360
Speaker 1: think that's why it ties into all of this. It

1779
01:25:48,439 --> 01:25:52,160
Speaker 1: goes back to loving yourself, protecting yourself. Nobody is gonna

1780
01:25:52,200 --> 01:25:54,960
Speaker 1: protect us like us, So it's important that we all

1781
01:25:55,080 --> 01:25:58,160
Speaker 1: gather and we have these uncomfortable conversations because if we

1782
01:25:58,240 --> 01:26:00,599
Speaker 1: don't have it among us, nobody else is gonna protect us.

1783
01:26:00,720 --> 01:26:03,559
Speaker 2: And carry your own condom, you know. They be trying

1784
01:26:03,560 --> 01:26:05,360
Speaker 2: to say that you, as a woman, you're not supposed

1785
01:26:05,360 --> 01:26:07,479
Speaker 2: to carry your own country me and be saying that

1786
01:26:07,600 --> 01:26:09,560
Speaker 2: they they gonna judge you, like if they come to

1787
01:26:09,640 --> 01:26:12,520
Speaker 2: your house and you got y'all don't care, they gonnaud.

1788
01:26:12,479 --> 01:26:14,200
Speaker 1: Honestly in the way I am right now, Like I'm

1789
01:26:14,200 --> 01:26:17,560
Speaker 1: not in a relationship, Like I'm cool, Like I'm not like,

1790
01:26:17,680 --> 01:26:20,599
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I need to have sex, Like I'm

1791
01:26:20,640 --> 01:26:22,360
Speaker 1: not gonna be out here, like I'm not looking at

1792
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:25,920
Speaker 1: what we call grow, Yes, cause I used to be horny.

1793
01:26:26,160 --> 01:26:29,479
Speaker 2: You need that deep, you need that more than the

1794
01:26:29,520 --> 01:26:31,560
Speaker 2: air you breath. I thought I did, but you know,

1795
01:26:31,720 --> 01:26:35,240
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just so so that is real growth.

1796
01:26:35,560 --> 01:26:36,960
Speaker 3: I don't know what got into me.

1797
01:26:37,520 --> 01:26:39,439
Speaker 2: The Holy ghost, it's the Holy girl.

1798
01:26:39,520 --> 01:26:39,920
Speaker 3: I'm telling you.

1799
01:26:40,000 --> 01:26:42,040
Speaker 2: Lord, I'm I don't know, very proud of you.

1800
01:26:42,280 --> 01:26:44,439
Speaker 3: Yes, but I'm not even like worried about that.

1801
01:26:44,600 --> 01:26:47,320
Speaker 1: Like I found so much peace and just being alone,

1802
01:26:47,720 --> 01:26:51,640
Speaker 1: like I'm getting everything I ever wanted. Like I know

1803
01:26:51,720 --> 01:26:53,160
Speaker 1: I keep saying that, but bro, I'm gonna be on

1804
01:26:53,479 --> 01:26:56,800
Speaker 1: t B like this is what I've been fighting for

1805
01:26:56,960 --> 01:26:57,960
Speaker 1: my whole life.

1806
01:26:58,680 --> 01:27:00,760
Speaker 2: Like I get to go home and go to.

1807
01:27:00,760 --> 01:27:04,479
Speaker 1: Sleep, and I don't ain't nobody's son stressing me out. Yeah,

1808
01:27:04,560 --> 01:27:06,880
Speaker 1: I ain't gotta cook for nobody. I ain't got nothing now,

1809
01:27:06,960 --> 01:27:10,080
Speaker 1: don't get it twisted. Do I want partnership one day? Yeah,

1810
01:27:10,560 --> 01:27:12,360
Speaker 1: but when God is ready to send me my man,

1811
01:27:12,400 --> 01:27:15,080
Speaker 1: He's gonna send it to me. So it's just like

1812
01:27:16,120 --> 01:27:18,640
Speaker 1: and not a day late. So I'm not worried about it.

1813
01:27:18,720 --> 01:27:19,880
Speaker 2: I know the woman I am.

1814
01:27:20,000 --> 01:27:21,639
Speaker 3: But like I said, going.

1815
01:27:21,479 --> 01:27:26,000
Speaker 1: Back to this, I know that I have to protect myself.

1816
01:27:26,240 --> 01:27:28,400
Speaker 1: Nobody's gonna protect me. Nobody's gonna look out for me

1817
01:27:29,000 --> 01:27:32,000
Speaker 1: but us. Y'all, you have to go get tested. Me

1818
01:27:32,120 --> 01:27:34,840
Speaker 1: and black men out there. Stop thinking because she got

1819
01:27:34,920 --> 01:27:36,840
Speaker 1: tested and she don't got nothing that you don't got nothing.

1820
01:27:36,920 --> 01:27:39,880
Speaker 2: It does not work like that, cause that be their

1821
01:27:39,960 --> 01:27:44,640
Speaker 2: favorite line. You ain't gonna yeah, but are you?

1822
01:27:45,479 --> 01:27:47,360
Speaker 3: Y'all have to pay attention. If your man is throwing

1823
01:27:47,400 --> 01:27:49,519
Speaker 3: your bav off, stop fucking him immediately.

1824
01:27:50,640 --> 01:27:51,080
Speaker 2: Probably.

1825
01:27:51,520 --> 01:27:53,559
Speaker 1: If you wake up and you feel like a fish

1826
01:27:53,640 --> 01:27:57,200
Speaker 1: fry on a Friday night, stop having sex.

1827
01:27:57,040 --> 01:28:00,720
Speaker 2: With that man. Hey, we're keeping it real. I know

1828
01:28:00,840 --> 01:28:03,200
Speaker 2: we are. That's why I say you're gonna be a

1829
01:28:03,280 --> 01:28:04,000
Speaker 2: freaky frog.

1830
01:28:04,280 --> 01:28:08,599
Speaker 1: That's carry your own condoms fish from. If you wake

1831
01:28:08,720 --> 01:28:11,000
Speaker 1: up and you fish fries be lingering like.

1832
01:28:11,120 --> 01:28:13,759
Speaker 2: After you fire, after you fry some fish in your house,

1833
01:28:14,240 --> 01:28:17,679
Speaker 2: your clothes be smelling like your couch, it be lingering.

1834
01:28:18,920 --> 01:28:21,479
Speaker 2: The fish fry is not what you want to smell like.

1835
01:28:23,280 --> 01:28:24,880
Speaker 2: So yeah, I just specially not no cat.

1836
01:28:27,200 --> 01:28:31,200
Speaker 3: But it was just so eye opening. I went home.

1837
01:28:31,280 --> 01:28:32,840
Speaker 3: They gave us a little at home kids, Babe.

1838
01:28:32,880 --> 01:28:33,240
Speaker 2: I went home.

1839
01:28:33,280 --> 01:28:36,160
Speaker 3: I took that test so quick? Is that what these

1840
01:28:36,240 --> 01:28:36,600
Speaker 3: mix like?

1841
01:28:37,120 --> 01:28:40,040
Speaker 2: It looks like a kid, like a box and unboxing.

1842
01:28:40,080 --> 01:28:42,080
Speaker 2: I was looking at their yegram. They have some of

1843
01:28:42,200 --> 01:28:44,800
Speaker 2: them where you can get you got to send in

1844
01:28:44,880 --> 01:28:46,639
Speaker 2: the results. And then some of them they have where

1845
01:28:46,800 --> 01:28:49,560
Speaker 2: you know you can wait and they you know, the fifeste.

1846
01:28:50,040 --> 01:28:52,280
Speaker 1: So but yeah, y'all just please just go get tested,

1847
01:28:52,400 --> 01:28:54,880
Speaker 1: especially my black women. It's so many, like literally ninety

1848
01:28:54,920 --> 01:28:58,080
Speaker 1: nine of our listeners are black women, y'all. Please, these

1849
01:28:58,200 --> 01:29:00,880
Speaker 1: numbers are crazy. Do some more researcher stuff. Y'all please

1850
01:29:00,960 --> 01:29:03,800
Speaker 1: go get tested. Yes, y'all, please protect yourself. Please stop

1851
01:29:03,880 --> 01:29:07,200
Speaker 1: listening to people. And y'all know this is what we

1852
01:29:07,320 --> 01:29:09,920
Speaker 1: learned at risky Dinner too. Do y'all know they have

1853
01:29:10,080 --> 01:29:13,640
Speaker 1: people creating fake my charts for people nowadays.

1854
01:29:15,240 --> 01:29:21,960
Speaker 2: Hobby because what they are what hobby? It is grave

1855
01:29:23,800 --> 01:29:27,800
Speaker 2: random ship they're creating. No, I said, but my tie

1856
01:29:27,800 --> 01:29:30,160
Speaker 2: had exit of my charteys, like you know, basically when

1857
01:29:30,160 --> 01:29:34,000
Speaker 2: you go online and he shows you your Yeah, they're

1858
01:29:34,080 --> 01:29:38,120
Speaker 2: copying that like their their their photo.

1859
01:29:38,680 --> 01:29:43,040
Speaker 1: That they have negative test results. So again, ladies, go

1860
01:29:43,160 --> 01:29:47,320
Speaker 1: get tested. Protect yourself, even in a relationship, protect yourself.

1861
01:29:47,400 --> 01:29:50,479
Speaker 1: Unless y'all are constantly going get tested together. There was

1862
01:29:50,479 --> 01:29:52,320
Speaker 1: a lady there who was actually married, and she said, yes,

1863
01:29:52,400 --> 01:29:54,280
Speaker 1: me and my husband, we still go get tested. We

1864
01:29:54,360 --> 01:29:57,439
Speaker 1: go get tested, like because you know how many women

1865
01:29:58,400 --> 01:30:02,000
Speaker 1: get STDs that are from their husband and their husbands

1866
01:30:02,040 --> 01:30:03,880
Speaker 1: are you know, even vice versa. I don't, oh, you

1867
01:30:04,000 --> 01:30:06,240
Speaker 1: the one doing to be doing the bandage job.

1868
01:30:06,320 --> 01:30:08,080
Speaker 2: That's no, that's what she said in the movie, because

1869
01:30:08,080 --> 01:30:09,599
Speaker 2: she got HIV from her husband.

1870
01:30:10,080 --> 01:30:10,240
Speaker 3: Yep.

1871
01:30:10,479 --> 01:30:12,720
Speaker 1: And then that's another misconception to a lot of people

1872
01:30:12,760 --> 01:30:14,400
Speaker 1: think oh, it's just high and this and that because

1873
01:30:14,439 --> 01:30:17,000
Speaker 1: of the DM men. That is another thing that's like

1874
01:30:17,040 --> 01:30:18,599
Speaker 1: out the window. At the end of the day, it's us.

1875
01:30:18,800 --> 01:30:21,200
Speaker 1: We have the highest rate of it. You know what

1876
01:30:21,240 --> 01:30:23,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's not like we are only sleeping with

1877
01:30:23,439 --> 01:30:26,799
Speaker 1: DM men. We're sleeping with men of all races, all everything.

1878
01:30:26,960 --> 01:30:29,800
Speaker 1: So we have to protect yourself and.

1879
01:30:29,880 --> 01:30:33,080
Speaker 2: If you engage in in risky behaviors, to make sure

1880
01:30:33,240 --> 01:30:37,120
Speaker 2: that you're Like, if you did something crazy last week,

1881
01:30:37,880 --> 01:30:41,200
Speaker 2: definitely go test yourself. But then just always be mindful

1882
01:30:41,280 --> 01:30:43,400
Speaker 2: that you have to test yourself again in ninety that

1883
01:30:44,240 --> 01:30:46,960
Speaker 2: because your results might not be accurate. If you just

1884
01:30:47,040 --> 01:30:49,680
Speaker 2: did something last week, I just thought I would throw it.

1885
01:30:50,800 --> 01:30:54,040
Speaker 3: I'm just gaking my thing a lot lot for a while.

1886
01:30:54,400 --> 01:30:57,559
Speaker 2: Give it to the Lord. Yea, let the Lord handily?

1887
01:30:57,920 --> 01:31:00,439
Speaker 1: All right, item of the week. You well, I know

1888
01:31:00,520 --> 01:31:03,360
Speaker 1: y'all see the orange tresses. They have been freaking out

1889
01:31:03,400 --> 01:31:04,280
Speaker 1: about this little hair.

1890
01:31:04,360 --> 01:31:04,880
Speaker 3: Little girl.

1891
01:31:05,439 --> 01:31:06,960
Speaker 2: It's cute, you know what I'm saying.

1892
01:31:07,120 --> 01:31:08,960
Speaker 1: I haven't done color in a long time. So I

1893
01:31:09,040 --> 01:31:12,160
Speaker 1: got this custom unit from rich Look Hair dot Com.

1894
01:31:12,600 --> 01:31:14,599
Speaker 1: Shout out to my girl DD. It's a custom color.

1895
01:31:14,600 --> 01:31:16,200
Speaker 1: If y'all want this same unit, you just go hit

1896
01:31:16,200 --> 01:31:17,679
Speaker 1: her up and look like it's coming from the scout.

1897
01:31:17,840 --> 01:31:20,559
Speaker 1: But also she has units that are like ready made

1898
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Speaker 1: to go.

1899
01:31:21,439 --> 01:31:23,040
Speaker 3: You can order it. She's send the sea house. You

1900
01:31:23,160 --> 01:31:23,920
Speaker 3: just pop it on and go.

1901
01:31:24,040 --> 01:31:26,400
Speaker 1: I think everybody needs to have a week to throw

1902
01:31:26,479 --> 01:31:29,679
Speaker 1: on their head. Yeah, between hairstyles. So I'm really trying

1903
01:31:29,680 --> 01:31:31,920
Speaker 1: to grow my hair out right now. So I'm trying

1904
01:31:32,000 --> 01:31:36,240
Speaker 1: to marry Ruth's hair growth multi vitamin little juice stuff.

1905
01:31:36,479 --> 01:31:38,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let y'all know how it goes because I'm

1906
01:31:38,000 --> 01:31:40,120
Speaker 1: gonna keep my glueless units on for a while because

1907
01:31:40,120 --> 01:31:41,680
Speaker 1: i want to really try to grow my hair back

1908
01:31:41,720 --> 01:31:42,720
Speaker 1: out and see what it do.

1909
01:31:43,040 --> 01:31:45,160
Speaker 3: So yeah, Rich Look Hair shout out to d D.

1910
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Speaker 3: That's where I got my hair from.

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1917
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Speaker 2: So yeah, and what's my lipcombos today? I have on

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1919
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1921
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Speaker 2: Y'all know.

1922
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Speaker 3: We have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of

1923
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1924
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1925
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1926
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Speaker 2: the week PM at gmail dot com. That's I T

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Speaker 2: E M O F T H E W E E

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Speaker 2: K PM at gmail dot com. Send us an email

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01:32:58,680 --> 01:33:00,479
Speaker 2: and we'll work it out. We gonna figgur it out.

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01:33:00,880 --> 01:33:04,519
Speaker 2: Get your product, get yall business sponsored, and yeah, make

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Speaker 2: you some money. We love to some more.

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Speaker 3: A small business man.

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Speaker 2: And a black business said that, but I mean discriminade.

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Speaker 2: Any business is welcome, all right.

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Speaker 1: So now it's time to get into the by the

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Speaker 1: bye bow the how bow bow Bow bow bow.

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Speaker 2: You know what I found? This good song.

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Speaker 1: I love TikTok. TikTok always puts me on the good jam.

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Speaker 1: So it's a song called Ordinary. It's about this guy.

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Speaker 1: His name is Alex Warren. It's a good pop ballad.

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Speaker 1: I feel like the pop boys are coming back. They're

1948
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Speaker 1: making a comeback and it's just a love song. And

1949
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Speaker 1: what it is is the reason this song is so

1950
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Speaker 1: intriguing to me is because his actual wife is in

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Speaker 1: the video.

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Speaker 3: And like, there's a trend on TikTok right now.

1953
01:33:51,160 --> 01:33:53,840
Speaker 1: Everybody's showing themselves in relationships or they're showing like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm made of love. And this is why I'm so

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Speaker 1: patient because I know that one day I'm going to

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Speaker 1: find a man that can write a song like this

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Speaker 1: about me. It's such a beautiful song. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I haven't heard a good love ballad like this in.

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Speaker 2: A long time. Really.

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Speaker 1: It kind of gives me, like, you know how like

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Speaker 1: white people's church music sounds.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you know what. I I don't know if that's

1963
01:34:17,920 --> 01:34:20,040
Speaker 2: making me want to go listen, But no, white people

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01:34:20,120 --> 01:34:22,400
Speaker 2: be getting down in the church. They do. They be

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Speaker 2: having a little white boy on a piano and it's like, Oh,

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Speaker 2: God is good. You know.

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Speaker 1: I thought she was more so something about Oh, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about That's what I thought she was talking about. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm not you talking about the you're getting into the

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Speaker 1: Catholic I'm talking about the white Baptist church. They get

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Speaker 1: down a little bit now, Okay, Okay, it is giving.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling y'all, it is such a good song. If

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01:34:49,960 --> 01:34:52,840
Speaker 1: y'all listen to Alex Warren ordinary it sounds like a

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Speaker 1: church song, like a white church song. But he is

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Speaker 1: singing down you know what.

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Speaker 2: That's fear do I'm want to be listening to. I

1977
01:34:58,080 --> 01:35:02,479
Speaker 2: think he's ninety nine point three in Houston. My mom

1978
01:35:02,520 --> 01:35:05,040
Speaker 2: would listen to their station all the time, y'all, and

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Speaker 2: it's a gospel station. But all they play is like

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Speaker 2: a white contemporary crest, and it sounds good.

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Speaker 1: Any duet on there. I will not lie, That's what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. I wasn't being funny.

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Speaker 3: It sounds like like white.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say it's black, because you know, black church

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Speaker 1: music is soulful. It's not a soulful song. Let me

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Speaker 1: make sure I say the right ring.

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Speaker 3: But it's a beautiful ballad, and I'm.

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Speaker 2: Ready to get a beautiful bad It's a beautiful ballad.

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Speaker 3: Let's get back to the love songs.

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Speaker 2: I'm tired of.

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Speaker 1: Like I said in the past, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: wet the back up. I don't want to beat that

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Speaker 1: pussy up no more. Okay, tired.

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Speaker 3: Somebody said, all right, Drea, what's your bob?

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Speaker 2: I don't wait. Let me make sure I see it.

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Speaker 2: This same the right station.

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Speaker 3: You think they're gonna give you an interview?

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01:35:47,680 --> 01:35:49,400
Speaker 2: No, but I just want to if people live in

1999
01:35:49,479 --> 01:35:52,639
Speaker 2: Houston and they are looking for it's eighty nine point three,

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01:35:53,320 --> 01:35:56,880
Speaker 2: I said, ninety nine point it's eighty No, what do

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01:35:56,960 --> 01:35:59,920
Speaker 2: you mean eighty nine point three FM. The Good State

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01:36:00,040 --> 01:36:02,360
Speaker 2: should be like ninety because they're ninety five and up.

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01:36:02,360 --> 01:36:04,360
Speaker 2: Because you know how every station got the theme, they'd

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01:36:04,400 --> 01:36:09,920
Speaker 2: be like eighty nine point three Spache. Let's how I go.

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01:36:10,479 --> 01:36:16,360
Speaker 2: So anyway, listening to the station. So if y'all are

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01:36:16,439 --> 01:36:20,599
Speaker 2: looking for a good Christian channel that plays contemporary Christian

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Speaker 2: music and y'all live in Houston, check.

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Speaker 3: Out three Period eighty nine point three.

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Speaker 2: Amen. So my Bob because now we're about to get

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01:36:31,120 --> 01:36:37,719
Speaker 2: into some heathing music. But my Bob is an old song.

2011
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Speaker 2: I was listening to My Savages earlier today, my future

2012
01:36:43,800 --> 01:36:47,840
Speaker 2: and that is just what was I mean, he's still

2013
01:36:47,960 --> 01:36:51,200
Speaker 2: on his little No, I'm talking about his about that yeah,

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Speaker 2: like twenty eleven to like twenty seventeen, Real Sisters dropped

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Speaker 2: my life. Real, this was about my Savages, was about

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01:37:03,320 --> 01:37:07,439
Speaker 2: Pea Coats about I mean, I could really keep going

2017
01:37:07,479 --> 01:37:09,960
Speaker 2: because I was really in my future bag making them days.

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01:37:10,000 --> 01:37:13,559
Speaker 2: But anyways, I was listening to My Savages earlier today

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01:37:13,640 --> 01:37:17,920
Speaker 2: and I was just like, wow, now this is hood gospel. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: A preacher is what he was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, apparature is a deacon, a deacon to our community,

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01:37:25,200 --> 01:37:29,240
Speaker 2: and he really said some profound words in that song.

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01:37:29,439 --> 01:37:33,120
Speaker 2: I said, wow much my spirit because I felt that,

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01:37:33,280 --> 01:37:40,680
Speaker 2: because that's how I feel about you know what on TikTok.

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Speaker 3: That lady and he was arguing with on Twitter.

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Speaker 1: I mean yeah, on TikTok Okay, he was on the

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01:37:47,680 --> 01:37:51,000
Speaker 1: phone screaming okay because he was getting that word up.

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Speaker 2: But now and I just feel like, like I was saying,

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Speaker 2: I just feel like, as I'm as, we're continuing to

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01:37:56,280 --> 01:37:59,040
Speaker 2: grow and poor Minds is getting bigger and bigger. That

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01:37:59,160 --> 01:38:01,439
Speaker 2: is really how I feel about my friends and stuff.

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01:38:01,720 --> 01:38:04,360
Speaker 2: Because you can't let the money get between us. You

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01:38:04,439 --> 01:38:06,400
Speaker 2: can't let the fame give between You can't let these

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01:38:06,439 --> 01:38:10,840
Speaker 2: beaches and these niggas get between us. That's what he

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01:38:10,960 --> 01:38:13,840
Speaker 2: said on the song. He said, this is a little

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01:38:13,880 --> 01:38:17,000
Speaker 2: for my dogs. How we let this money get between us,

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01:38:17,439 --> 01:38:19,840
Speaker 2: How we let these bitches get between us? How we

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01:38:20,080 --> 01:38:24,599
Speaker 2: let these niggas get between us? A word I got

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Speaker 2: love for all my savages with fingers fingers another head

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay out because that was the head I

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01:38:37,760 --> 01:38:42,000
Speaker 2: must say big good times. When it came out, we

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01:38:42,160 --> 01:38:45,439
Speaker 2: was young and rich and reckless. Life was it was

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01:38:45,840 --> 01:38:49,880
Speaker 2: now we're still old and older. Oh we're not old,

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01:38:50,000 --> 01:38:50,599
Speaker 2: we're older.

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Speaker 1: We live a little little bit of So now we're

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Speaker 1: getting into our favorite segment of the week. If you

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01:38:56,320 --> 01:38:57,680
Speaker 1: want your question to answer on the show, and make

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01:38:57,720 --> 01:38:59,960
Speaker 1: sure you email us at ask poor Minds at gmail.

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01:39:00,479 --> 01:39:02,840
Speaker 1: If you're a Patreon member, please put that in the

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Speaker 1: subject line and you will get to skip the line.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you want to go first, you want me go first,

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01:39:08,439 --> 01:39:09,280
Speaker 3: I'll go first. Okay.

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01:39:10,560 --> 01:39:12,640
Speaker 2: I've been with my girlfriend for a few years now

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Speaker 2: and we have a baby together. Everything was good until

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01:39:15,439 --> 01:39:17,479
Speaker 2: about six months ago when I logg on the social

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Speaker 2: media and saw a picture of my child on her

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Speaker 2: ex's page, with him claiming the baby as his. I

2058
01:39:23,000 --> 01:39:25,960
Speaker 2: confronted her, and she swore he was just being spiteful,

2059
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Speaker 2: trying to ruin our relationship. She even offered a DNA test,

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01:39:29,360 --> 01:39:31,240
Speaker 2: but I'm scared to take you because I don't believe

2061
01:39:31,360 --> 01:39:34,880
Speaker 2: things like these happen by coincidents. So, as two women,

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01:39:35,240 --> 01:39:37,519
Speaker 2: what do y'all think? Am I overthinking? Or is there

2063
01:39:37,600 --> 01:39:40,200
Speaker 2: something I need to do? I think you need to confirm.

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Speaker 1: Was it a picture that he took off of her

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01:39:41,760 --> 01:39:44,240
Speaker 1: social media or was it a picture he him holding

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01:39:44,280 --> 01:39:44,639
Speaker 1: the baby?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: Because if she brought the baby around him and it's

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01:39:47,520 --> 01:39:49,880
Speaker 1: a picture that he took, you need to get that

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01:39:50,000 --> 01:39:50,559
Speaker 1: DNA test.

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Speaker 2: Well, I feel like I would get the DNA test

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01:39:52,840 --> 01:39:56,080
Speaker 2: either way if she offering, If she like, oh we

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01:39:56,120 --> 01:39:57,840
Speaker 2: can get a DNA test, I will take her up

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Speaker 2: on the offer.

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Speaker 1: Why I feel so comfortable doing that? Are they still

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01:40:02,320 --> 01:40:05,679
Speaker 1: having conversations? Are they still talking? Because I could imagine

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01:40:05,800 --> 01:40:08,280
Speaker 1: just somebody out the blue just posting a random baby

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Speaker 1: from a random ax and being like, oh, this is

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Speaker 1: my baby, and.

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Speaker 2: I just I don't know. I think in situations like that,

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01:40:15,240 --> 01:40:17,800
Speaker 2: if I was presented with that type of information, if

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01:40:17,800 --> 01:40:19,640
Speaker 2: I was a man and I was presenting with that

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Speaker 2: type of information for my own peace of mind, now

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01:40:23,760 --> 01:40:25,960
Speaker 2: I just need to know. Yeah, I need to know

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01:40:26,160 --> 01:40:28,280
Speaker 2: so I could sleep will at night, because it's always

2086
01:40:28,360 --> 01:40:29,600
Speaker 2: gonna be I feel like, if you don't get the

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01:40:29,720 --> 01:40:32,799
Speaker 2: DNA test, it's still gonna always be something that's lingering

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Speaker 2: in the back of your mind. As this child is

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01:40:35,080 --> 01:40:37,000
Speaker 2: growing up, you gonna always feel like, ah, it's a

2090
01:40:37,080 --> 01:40:39,600
Speaker 2: possibility that this might not be my baby. Just do

2091
01:40:39,720 --> 01:40:42,720
Speaker 2: it for your own peace of mind, and hopefully we're

2092
01:40:42,760 --> 01:40:46,880
Speaker 2: gonna pray did he show baby. But if even if

2093
01:40:46,920 --> 01:40:49,800
Speaker 2: it's not, at least now you know, you know what

2094
01:40:49,880 --> 01:40:52,960
Speaker 2: I mean. At least now you know, and you could

2095
01:40:52,960 --> 01:40:53,519
Speaker 2: say good.

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Speaker 1: Readings to that, because, like I said, she's offering a

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Speaker 1: DNA test. I think you need that DNA test for

2098
01:40:58,560 --> 01:41:00,840
Speaker 1: peace of mind. I know you're afraid, but there's nothing

2099
01:41:00,920 --> 01:41:01,840
Speaker 1: better than peace of mind.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 1: All right, Hey, ladies, I'm twenty seven and I need

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01:41:05,479 --> 01:41:08,400
Speaker 1: advice from my big homies because maybe I'm tripping. I

2103
01:41:08,520 --> 01:41:10,599
Speaker 1: was dating this guy for three months. The first two

2104
01:41:10,720 --> 01:41:13,080
Speaker 1: he was checking all my boxes, but in month three

2105
01:41:13,200 --> 01:41:16,200
Speaker 1: I started noticing red flags his views on women, lack

2106
01:41:16,240 --> 01:41:17,320
Speaker 1: of accountability, etc.

2107
01:41:17,880 --> 01:41:19,760
Speaker 2: I was already debating cutting him off.

2108
01:41:19,840 --> 01:41:22,320
Speaker 1: Then one day on FaceTime, I responded with a little

2109
01:41:22,400 --> 01:41:24,479
Speaker 1: sass and he said it sounded like you want to

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01:41:24,520 --> 01:41:28,360
Speaker 1: get head budded. Instantly, I felt uneasy since I've been

2111
01:41:28,400 --> 01:41:31,800
Speaker 1: in an abusive relationships before, which he knew. I asked

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01:41:31,880 --> 01:41:33,840
Speaker 1: him to repeat it. He refused and tried to play

2113
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Speaker 1: it off. Laughed and called me crazy and said I

2114
01:41:36,600 --> 01:41:39,559
Speaker 1: was making him the villain. Then he admitted I heard right,

2115
01:41:39,600 --> 01:41:41,680
Speaker 1: but claimed it was a joke and I was overreacting.

2116
01:41:42,040 --> 01:41:44,640
Speaker 1: I hung up texting him how I felt and he

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01:41:44,880 --> 01:41:47,880
Speaker 1: never responded. Did I doubt dodge a bullet? Or am

2118
01:41:48,040 --> 01:41:50,080
Speaker 1: I projecting because of my past?

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Speaker 2: Love? Y'all? Deep? What have you said?

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Speaker 3: As fuck?

2121
01:41:57,840 --> 01:41:59,880
Speaker 2: Yeah? Because I just feel like you don't joke like

2122
01:42:01,000 --> 01:42:03,360
Speaker 2: to me. That's not like if you say something like that,

2123
01:42:03,640 --> 01:42:05,880
Speaker 2: I am under the impression that you will actually do

2124
01:42:06,040 --> 01:42:08,639
Speaker 2: it one day. Why you don't You shouldn't even play

2125
01:42:08,720 --> 01:42:09,960
Speaker 2: like that. Do you want to get head?

2126
01:42:10,040 --> 01:42:14,160
Speaker 1: But especially with somebody who has been in an abusive relationship,

2127
01:42:14,280 --> 01:42:17,880
Speaker 1: but even period, even if she wasn't in an abusive relationship,

2128
01:42:17,960 --> 01:42:20,040
Speaker 1: you just shouldn't even play with no woman like this

2129
01:42:20,240 --> 01:42:22,920
Speaker 1: saying something like well, the reason I say especially because

2130
01:42:22,920 --> 01:42:25,519
Speaker 1: she's been an abusive relationship before because she's told you

2131
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Speaker 1: and that's.

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Speaker 2: A trigger for her.

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Speaker 1: So instead of you being, hey, understanding, I'm so sorry,

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Speaker 1: I won't joke like that. I didn't mean like that.

2135
01:42:33,320 --> 01:42:36,960
Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking you're saying that she's over, you're gaslighting her.

2136
01:42:37,720 --> 01:42:40,160
Speaker 1: I hate when people tell somebody how something made them

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01:42:40,240 --> 01:42:42,559
Speaker 1: feel and you're like, well, you're being stupid.

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01:42:42,640 --> 01:42:44,200
Speaker 2: You can't tell people how to feel.

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01:42:43,960 --> 01:42:46,760
Speaker 1: About something that you said to them and how it

2140
01:42:46,880 --> 01:42:48,439
Speaker 1: makes them feel that's crazy to me.

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Speaker 2: So you're not wrong.

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Speaker 1: You dodged a bullet because, like I said, I think

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Speaker 1: that's somebody will joking's laugh and like that, he said.

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Speaker 3: His first reaction went through his mind.

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01:42:58,680 --> 01:43:06,240
Speaker 2: I't nothing funny about being joking about. I've never like

2146
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Speaker 2: like I'll just use my like my last relationship.

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Speaker 3: He ain't never said nothing like, yeah, I choke your ass?

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Speaker 3: What No, No, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: List he's during six. It's a little all right, that's

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Speaker 2: a little different. No, I like a little choke. Okay,

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Speaker 2: that's the only one's a different. Uh cbd, that's the

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Speaker 1: There is one Twitter account that is connected to poor Minds.

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Speaker 3: It's p O.

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Speaker 1: You are underscore in my nds. Y'all are tagging the

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Speaker 1: wrong poor Minds page. If you see at poor minds

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Speaker 1: with no underscore, that is at fake page. Do not

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Speaker 1: follow that page. Okay, they block me Andrea and the

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Speaker 1: poor Minds page on both so we only have one Instagram,

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Speaker 1: one Twitter, one TikTok.

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Speaker 2: It is PO you are underscore in my nds, all right,

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Speaker 2: and we gotta hell a fake Facebook page on the

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Speaker 2: Facebook pages it's our face. The crazy thing is our

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Speaker 2: Facebook page actually have the least amount of file.

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Speaker 1: So if you're on Facebook, one that's ours got the

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Speaker 1: least amount.

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Speaker 2: Of FI, but one that's not us got like two

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Speaker 2: hundred and fifty.

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Speaker 1: Make if you actually look at the content, because the

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Speaker 1: caption is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because

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Speaker 1: their captures.

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Speaker 2: Are like bumba claude? Should men? Should men pay bill?

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Speaker 2: Should men pay bill?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 2: No? Check answer below block block Like that's literally what

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Speaker 2: the captions. I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba claude,

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Speaker 2: bumba claude.

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Speaker 3: Savages.

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Speaker 2: My savage is my savage is my savage? Stressing pressure

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Speaker 2: in a manure. I grew up in a ruthless environment.

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Speaker 2: I'm on the phone with y'all. I asked them how

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Speaker 2: to trial in thirty five Rex is how my day

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Speaker 2: would spend. I gotta cocky back, That's how my day

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Speaker 2: would get Gonna be thinking all these bitches at official

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01:46:09,600 --> 01:46:12,080
Speaker 2: the way you acting, you must don't respect the real

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Speaker 2: niggas her on a post some syrup. They try to

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Speaker 2: infiltray us and then betray us. I told you way

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Speaker 2: before what happened. They was hating on us. Hey, you

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01:46:22,520 --> 01:46:25,479
Speaker 2: know we was jogging for it. They was mad at us. Hey,

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01:46:25,560 --> 01:46:27,880
Speaker 2: it's a little for my dogs. How we let this

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01:46:28,040 --> 01:46:31,400
Speaker 2: money get between us? How we let these bitches get

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01:46:31,479 --> 01:46:34,800
Speaker 2: between us? How we let these niggas get between us? Yeah?

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01:46:35,000 --> 01:46:37,839
Speaker 2: I got love for all my savages with ishi fingers.

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Speaker 2: I got love, buddy. It ain't like the love I

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Speaker 2: got for India. She be that one I was broke.

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01:46:43,080 --> 01:46:47,320
Speaker 2: I got us to Infinity cast some murdered girl gonna.

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Speaker 2: I know you feeling me r ip. My granddad Quickie

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Speaker 2: should have seen this shit. Twenty was of soft support.

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Speaker 2: I seen this shit roding wrong with all them choppers

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01:47:00,040 --> 01:47:02,680
Speaker 2: don't seen this sheep. These rappers mad at me. But

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01:47:02,880 --> 01:47:06,240
Speaker 2: these niggas ain't doing sh sh and I found a cushlo.

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01:47:06,400 --> 01:47:08,640
Speaker 2: I can smoke this ship and when it's fit to

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01:47:08,760 --> 01:47:11,559
Speaker 2: half a ticket at the dealer ship ship the famous

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01:47:11,640 --> 01:47:14,840
Speaker 2: doing a lot of dammite my free ship. If it's

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01:47:15,680 --> 01:47:19,679
Speaker 2: me jump ship and it's a love from my fans.

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01:47:19,760 --> 01:47:28,439
Speaker 2: Got me still here. Monster say I'm a lumin natty.

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Speaker 2: They trying to fake me catch your body. I don't

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01:47:33,479 --> 01:47:35,400
Speaker 2: know what I'm a flip nigga. Give me some codin

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Speaker 2: and Nigga Big Masail wiping Nigga knows Big Masai Wiping

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01:47:39,040 --> 01:47:41,479
Speaker 2: Nigga knows my girl shirts locking the dogs or by

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01:47:41,560 --> 01:47:43,639
Speaker 2: this ship pulling up a fall. Ain't falling in love

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Speaker 2: with no hole.

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Speaker 1: I had.

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01:47:50,080 --> 01:47:51,920
Speaker 2: I hate to fuck with any of you niggas. That's

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01:47:51,960 --> 01:47:55,800
Speaker 2: my only regret. Drada Mink on the floor on my

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Speaker 2: whole home. Would have thought we was Paul. Paul would

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Speaker 2: think we was oh money, laying on the floor on

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Speaker 2: some holes with me. She al pro so. She never

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Speaker 2: met another nigga, not another another nigga like me. Even

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Speaker 2: if he got a million dollars, he can't make her

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01:48:12,080 --> 01:48:18,400
Speaker 2: come like me. We're calling men. She like me. I

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01:48:18,439 --> 01:48:26,800
Speaker 2: don't know, I have lesson fi I was. That was

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Speaker 2: good clig. That was really a right man. See y'all

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01:48:31,960 --> 01:49:03,680
Speaker 2: next week, bring all my niggas in carcarratio.