1 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:37,279 Speaker 1: Take a deep breath in through your nose. Hold it now, 2 00:00:37,360 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: release slowly again, deep in, helle hold release, repeating internally 3 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: to yourself as you connect to my voice. I am 4 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: deeply deep well. I am deeply well. I am deeply well. 5 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast. 6 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: Welcome to Deeply Well, a soft place to land in 7 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: your journey. A podcast for those that are curious, creative, 8 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: and ready to expand in higher consciousness and self care. 9 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: I'm your host, Wie Brown. This is where we heal, 10 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: this is where we transcend. If you're watching this show 11 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: on YouTube, then I'm just kind of settling into place 12 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: right now. Hello, And if you're listening, I am lighting 13 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: a little bit of sage, filling the room, clearing the energy. 14 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: I'm in my workshop doing this show. I'm doing my 15 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: show in here every episode this season, which feels really good. 16 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: I already felt like some of the shift taking place 17 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: the last couple of episodes we have done for this 18 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: new season. All right, welcome to another episode of Deeply Well. Today, 19 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: we are diving deep into this subject of integrity. Really 20 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 1: excited that one of the things I shared last episode 21 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: is that as we explore this season, I've really found 22 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,519 Speaker 1: that so many of the people connecting to this show 23 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: that have shared with me their thoughts and feelings are 24 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 1: connecting deeply to the soul work and some of the 25 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 1: self processing that we're able to do when we look 26 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 1: at sometimes a core component of our being through a 27 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: few different lenses in a few different ways. When we 28 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: cleanse the lens of perception, so much opens up. So 29 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: you know, when I think about integrity, I teach to 30 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: integrity a lot in my work, and I believe that 31 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: it's the foundation of how we move through life, and 32 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: ultimately it's the foundation of everything we tend to create 33 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: an experience in our lives. And I want to say 34 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: that with a tremendous amount of compassion for the fact 35 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: that sometimes having like high integrity actually feels like a luxury. 36 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: A story that I share in my upcoming book Living 37 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: Wisdom is I remember I was I was creating a 38 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: lot of like integrity content last year, and I remember 39 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: a lot of people were really connecting with it. It 40 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: felt good to say and to share. And then someone 41 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: sent me this comment and they're really upset. And I'm 42 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: not gonna cuss right now, because it's a lot. It's 43 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: kind of early in the morning for me, but I'm 44 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 1: trying to convey it. But basically, you know, the person 45 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: that saw this particular post said, shut the f up, 46 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:30,559 Speaker 1: I don't have time to think about integrity. Don't nobody 47 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: have time to think about integrity when you're struggling. And 48 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: when I read that comment, like, I just really got it, 49 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: like I really felt what he was saying, and it's like, 50 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,720 Speaker 1: take away, you know, any I'm not offended by that, 51 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,159 Speaker 1: Like take away any perceived rudeness. Like he used a 52 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: lot of colorful language, it was a lot, but I 53 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: really got that right. Because it's like, unless we are 54 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: able to zoom out enough, which very often takes time 55 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: or just a lot of foundational crafting, being alive is hard, 56 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: Being on earth is hard, and a lot of things 57 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: happen to us, and for some people a lot more 58 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 1: than most, and so it takes a while to zoom 59 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: out to be able to hold that so many things 60 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: can be true at once, and one of those things 61 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:26,239 Speaker 1: is that on a spiritual level, depending on your belief, 62 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: but based on my belief, we are incarnating in this 63 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: lifetime and we have a variety of experiences that we're 64 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: going to move through and our experiences are rooted in 65 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: our soul curriculum, our agreements with God, our karma in 66 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: this lifetime and other lifetimes. And you know, it just 67 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 1: it gets even more you know, incomprehensible, the more zoomed 68 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: out you get. But that is a huge part of 69 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: my foundation of belief. And so I think that's one 70 00:05:56,680 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: of the reasons I hold integrity as a behavior, as 71 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: an action, as a way of living in the way 72 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 1: that I do, and I kind of study it and 73 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 1: think of it in that way and observe it in 74 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: others because that's what upholds everything else, and that's what 75 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: shifts karma. And it isn't always the best feeling to 76 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: have to be this quote unquote bigger person or the 77 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:27,360 Speaker 1: one that does things you know more so, as an example, 78 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 1: doesn't always feel great. It can feel confusing. But if 79 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: you are living with the desire to transcend your current experiences, 80 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:45,479 Speaker 1: to open up a more miraculous nature in your life, 81 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: and to just really transcend some of the hardship you 82 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: and the people in your family may have faced and 83 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: some of the experiences, it's just paramount. It's the only 84 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: way to do it. It's the cure, you know, and 85 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:05,280 Speaker 1: you're not right or wrong depending on how much you 86 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: choose to connect to that. Ultimately it's between you and God. 87 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 1: But that is kind of the way I look at it. 88 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: And we're all going to drop the ball always. We're human. 89 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: We are silly and ridiculous and very bizarre, and we 90 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: have constant amnesia. We are constantly forgetting everything that we 91 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: learn and then having to relearn it. And so you know, 92 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: and myself included, it's like there is no perfection. Christ's 93 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: example was the only one of perfection, and Christ was 94 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: made perfect in mastery as the living example of all 95 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: of the values that allow one to transcend and be 96 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: as close as possible to God. But all right, so integrity. 97 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: That is why I want to stay my team into 98 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 1: this because I think once you figure out how to 99 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: really use integrity and better choice make as a cure 100 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: for some of the hardship and challenges you experience in life, 101 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: life gets really pleasurable, fun interesting. You feel like you're 102 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: in participation with it and it's not just happening to you. 103 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: You feel like there is a co creation happening with 104 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: you and God. And part of being able to really 105 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: dive into that ability to alchemize and transform and transcend 106 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 1: one's life or you know, manifest or whatever ways. You know, 107 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: we want to really call in those laws of attraction, 108 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: that ability to really magnetize things, being able to figure 109 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: out where your levees are and what your cures are 110 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: for things, and being able to find a lot of 111 00:08:54,360 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 1: strength and dignity in walking an authentic path. I think 112 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: that's what we are really taking it to the studs. 113 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: You know, it's the most authentic path possible. So in 114 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: this episode, kind of our part two episode of Integrity, 115 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,720 Speaker 1: I want to dive into so many of the areas 116 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: that it shows up last episode. If you haven't listened yet, 117 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: take a second. Also, don't forget we have our workbook 118 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: for integrity this month, our Soul work book. So if 119 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 1: you're sign up to the newsletter or you go on 120 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: the website Debbie Brown dot com to do both, you 121 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: can download a pdf and every month we're going to 122 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: share soul work in this way, you can download it 123 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: pretty easily to your computer to print it in all 124 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 1: the things, and you can use it as your journal work. 125 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: So I hope you find it useful. Do that get 126 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: Comfy Let's dive. In last episode, we really tracked into 127 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 1: what are some of the leading definitions of how that 128 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: word is meant to be understood and applied foundationally. When 129 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 1: we are changing things in our lives and making new choices, 130 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: it's really important to look at how do we relate 131 00:10:14,400 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: to our emotional world and to the words that we 132 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: use sometimes, and then what is the actual truth of 133 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 1: those words or what are the ways that other people 134 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: are using them and relating to them. I'm always going 135 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: to kind of root it in what's our working foundational 136 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 1: definition for the work that we're doing together. So let's 137 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 1: talk about integrity in a few facets, and if you 138 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 1: have your journal with you for this episode, consider jotting 139 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: just a couple quick thoughts down. But none of this 140 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 1: work is meant to be done in the thirty to 141 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: ninety minutes that you're going to be in an episode 142 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: with me. None of it's meant to be done in 143 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: just the week. And so I don't believe in tips 144 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:58,000 Speaker 1: and tricks. I don't believe in hacks. It's process, it's devotion, 145 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 1: it's joyful discipline, and it's creating new pathways for yourself 146 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: and all that just takes patient, beautiful time, and each 147 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: of us can do it, and the slowing down is 148 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: usually the hardest part. So just know that everything that 149 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: we're exploring now, you don't have to get to the 150 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 1: end of it by the end of this episode. I 151 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:19,439 Speaker 1: really invite you to listen back, to write things down, 152 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 1: to just explore wherever your beautiful mind and heart take you, 153 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: because you know the way. So today we're going to 154 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 1: dive into in the way that it shows up integrity 155 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 1: in relationships and friendships and even in the context of 156 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 1: what is happening around us in the world. Because as 157 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: above so below, when we have big themes that are 158 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: happening in life, like right now what seems to be 159 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: very much integrity versus not an integrity, we can almost 160 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: assuredly find certain patterns and themes are showing up in 161 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: our personal life too, right around the same time, because 162 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:00,199 Speaker 1: it just helps you get the work done faster, get 163 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 1: to maximize the energetic potential of the moment. You know, 164 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: kill two birds with one stone sounds awful, but you 165 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: know that's saying due to things at once if you 166 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: can and get the best benefit out of it. So 167 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 1: we have it coming at us in a lot of 168 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: different ways. So one of the first ways that I 169 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: want to bring integrity forward right now and just start 170 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,640 Speaker 1: kind of like expanding your heart and mind to see 171 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 1: where this could fit in. If you're not driving, I 172 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 1: recommend take a few deep breaths right now. If that 173 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: feels comfortable, we can do that together, doing it slowly 174 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:44,440 Speaker 1: and through the nose, slow and full out through an 175 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:57,800 Speaker 1: open mouth. Let all the air and breath really release 176 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: from your body as we do that last one in 177 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 1: and out. I find it really nice to do that 178 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:17,240 Speaker 1: throughout my day in a few different ways. Even just 179 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 1: before starting a new thought or new story with someone, 180 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:23,319 Speaker 1: just taking a few deep breaths can really open up 181 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: for us and clear the way to have thoughts that 182 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 1: are more useful to what's in front of us. So 183 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: one of the first pathways that I want to take 184 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: us in this episode to think about how integrity is 185 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 1: showing up in our lives. And again, as we dive 186 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,079 Speaker 1: into some of this work, lean a little bit less 187 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:44,599 Speaker 1: into the self judgment. I really would ask that you 188 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: try to release it entirely, at least from this moment. 189 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: You know, we have a lot of time that we 190 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: spend in our heads being hard on ourselves. Maybe this 191 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 1: time together is one of the places we don't have 192 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,600 Speaker 1: to do that. This is a safe zone, this is 193 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:05,679 Speaker 1: a no fly zone. Just try to take that piece 194 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: out of it, but observe and bring up for a 195 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: review how you relate to the theme of spiritual integrity 196 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: given our baseline definition of the word, and where it 197 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:22,800 Speaker 1: really lands for you, and how you experience spirit in 198 00:14:22,840 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 1: your life, religion in your life, religious practice, ritual in 199 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: your life, or your connection to the creator, the Divine God, 200 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: the universe, and so in the world of spiritual work, 201 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 1: integrity is really all about alignment, all about alignment, alignment 202 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:53,200 Speaker 1: with your truth, with your purpose, and with the principles 203 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 1: that are guiding to you. So one of the ways 204 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 1: that I think we have started, which I really love 205 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: because it's so powerful looking at your life through the 206 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: lens of your value system. Right, I think looking at 207 00:15:06,960 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 1: your life through the lens of your integrity system and 208 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 1: all of these facets can be a deepening of any 209 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: value system work you may have already done. Because our 210 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:20,160 Speaker 1: values are kind of those bigger, loftier things that we're 211 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 1: resting our life on, and we don't always truly know 212 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 1: the fullness of what our values are and what they 213 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: represent until we do some of the deeper crevice work 214 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 1: within ourselves. So this deeper kind of layer of integrity, 215 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,960 Speaker 1: I think can really get you even more deeply clear 216 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,560 Speaker 1: on how purpose moves in your life and what your 217 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 1: value system is for your family, for your work, for 218 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: all the things. So in the spiritual work, integrity again 219 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 1: it's really really about alignment. It is about where you 220 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 1: are with your truth, with your personal belief, with the 221 00:15:58,160 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 1: way that you connect to your inner world and inner experiences. 222 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: And this may be one of the most private ways 223 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: that we experience integrity because when we experience integrity in 224 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:13,160 Speaker 1: the public facing world, whether people are right or wrong, 225 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 1: there's a projection. Right when we're experiencing integrity and friendship, 226 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: which we're going to get too soon, there's projection when 227 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: we experience our integrity and relationships. There's always a certain 228 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 1: level of feedback that's available to us. It always kind 229 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:32,479 Speaker 1: of relies on a give and receive and a participatory experience. 230 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: But when we talk about spiritual integrity, it's one of 231 00:16:36,480 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: the things that we're really our only source for feedback 232 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: and the things that seem to be happening around us 233 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 1: are how God provides the direct feedback for us on 234 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 1: how much of alignment we may be in in any 235 00:16:51,160 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 1: particular season or lifetime. And so when we're thinking about 236 00:16:56,600 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: spiritual integrity, it really asks are you you showing up 237 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 1: authentically in your practice in your inner world? Is who 238 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:09,920 Speaker 1: you're saying you are outside matching the internal way that 239 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:15,800 Speaker 1: you experience yourself and experience God. Spiritual integrity is especially 240 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 1: important to think about if you're listening to this and 241 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: you may hold any what's being called right now religious trauma, 242 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 1: or if you've had experience where God or your belief 243 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:29,880 Speaker 1: system has been weaponized against you, either in your greater 244 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:33,199 Speaker 1: community or within your family, or if maybe you've just 245 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:38,159 Speaker 1: had certain things indoctrinated into you that you've come to 246 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:43,080 Speaker 1: now understand don't really align with the way that you 247 00:17:43,320 --> 00:17:46,919 Speaker 1: experience God and your life and your values and the 248 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:51,119 Speaker 1: things that you believe. And so in spiritual integrity can 249 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,920 Speaker 1: really it's one of the most potent ways to start 250 00:17:54,920 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 1: exploring yourself because it can really open things up from 251 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: the inside out, and it's also going to become kind 252 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: of the unshakable foundation that everything else we discuss in 253 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:13,200 Speaker 1: this series gets stacked upon. So this is the private work. 254 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 1: This is the deepest of the crevice work, and this 255 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:19,119 Speaker 1: is the work that is most intimately connected to how 256 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:22,880 Speaker 1: you know yourself and how you behave as a person, 257 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: as a spirit, as a child of God. And so 258 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,880 Speaker 1: you know, another thing that spiritual integrity asks is are 259 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 1: you living what you teach? Whether you're a healer, a guide, 260 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:37,920 Speaker 1: or simply someone that is on a spiritual path with others. 261 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 1: This integrity is essential to the work. It's about ensuring 262 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,480 Speaker 1: that the work we do for ourselves mirrors the work 263 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 1: that we're doing for others. It also means some of 264 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:50,679 Speaker 1: that self care for self, you got to pour into 265 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:58,440 Speaker 1: your self and your connection with God relentlessly, consistently, continuously. 266 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: Example of spiritual integrity is really seeing committed to your 267 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 1: daily practices, especially when no one is watching. Are you praying? 268 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:10,119 Speaker 1: Are you talking to God? Are you building relationship with 269 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 1: your life? You know, sometimes I talk to God all 270 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:16,639 Speaker 1: day every day. But another thing that you're talking to 271 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 1: is I talk to my house a lot. I really 272 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,639 Speaker 1: experienced my house, and I know I shared this on 273 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 1: the show before, but my nickname for my house is 274 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 1: the Sacred medicine house. I experience like my home as 275 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: some of God's divine protection in my life, and it's 276 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,919 Speaker 1: the nourishment of my family. So you know, as I 277 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: say like, thank you God for my life, thank you 278 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 1: God for my life, I'm always like, thank you Home 279 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,720 Speaker 1: for your love, thank you Home for caring for us, 280 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 1: thank you Home for protecting us, for filling our life 281 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 1: with beauty. But it's really been in this kind of active, open, 282 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:58,920 Speaker 1: blooming becoming relationship with the things that are most deeply 283 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 1: connected to the intimacies of who and what you are 284 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: as a person deeply well. So the next pillar within integrity, 285 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: another lens to experience it within is integrity and friendship. 286 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 1: We've been talking about this a lot, which is so exciting. 287 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:29,120 Speaker 1: I shared this last episode. I love hearing how curious 288 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: people are about how to have better friendships. I think 289 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: it's something our society has really needed to understand for 290 00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: a lot a long time. And as someone that like 291 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:42,400 Speaker 1: loves being a good friend, I remember, like a few 292 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: years ago, I had a prayer where I was just like, God, 293 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 1: please help me be a better like give me opportunities 294 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:51,239 Speaker 1: to better serve my friends, And that actually opened up 295 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 1: divine opportunity to see some friends leave my life and 296 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 1: some new friends come into my life. But it always 297 00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:01,480 Speaker 1: deepened how far I could go with someone. And so, 298 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:04,960 Speaker 1: you know, I think a lot of people are looking 299 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: for more than just a photo op these days the 300 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: last fifteen years, in large part due to the pervasiveness 301 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: of the social media lens that we view ourselves and 302 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 1: our worth and our life through. You know, a lot 303 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,159 Speaker 1: of people just thought those open mouth photo ops of 304 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: like performative joy was friendship or just sometimes leaving the 305 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 1: comment which is so great and beautiful, like don't take 306 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: away from that believing the comment or alike on a 307 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: person's post like that that equated intimacy or depth or 308 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: an ability to really count on someone. And I think 309 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,359 Speaker 1: it's really beautiful that a lot of people are craving 310 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:48,080 Speaker 1: and longing and looking for more. They may have realized that, hey, 311 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 1: I can go deeper than that, and I'm ready to. 312 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,359 Speaker 1: And so as we look at that, it's important to 313 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 1: get foundational about friendship. I think sometimes we disregard as 314 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:05,720 Speaker 1: a society friendship in just a really disrespectful and bizarre way. 315 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: You know, Like a lot of people I'll see sometimes 316 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: will have so much more grace for a romantic connection 317 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 1: they just met and don't really know than they will 318 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 1: for like a lifelong friend. And it's strange, you know, 319 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,159 Speaker 1: It's like those seem to be the area sometimes where 320 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:31,280 Speaker 1: people can really play out some of their trauma and 321 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,800 Speaker 1: play out some of their family systems and get into 322 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: those authoritative dynamics or passive aggressive dynamics or sometimes cruel dynamics. 323 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 1: And so as you look to broaden your friendship life 324 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 1: as if that's where you are in this moment in time, 325 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:50,080 Speaker 1: really let integrity be one of the measuring sticks you 326 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 1: use to notice if it's mutually beneficial or not. So 327 00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 1: integrity and friendship means really showing up, honestly, being there 328 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 1: when you say you will, communicating openly and openly, especially 329 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 1: when things are good and when things feel off. I've 330 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:14,399 Speaker 1: noticed sometimes in friendships, when I'm leading groups or workshops 331 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: where we're kind of diving into this concept, a lot 332 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,399 Speaker 1: of friends won't even share their happiness or joy about 333 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:25,240 Speaker 1: friendship with the friend they're spending time with because there's 334 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:28,760 Speaker 1: this fear. There's a fear of abandonment or rejection or 335 00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: being considered weak or soft, depending on what your background 336 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 1: looks like, or depending on what your friend betrayal may 337 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,360 Speaker 1: have been in the past, because friend betrayal is an 338 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: incredibly deep and significant and painful trauma. But not being 339 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,640 Speaker 1: open enough to communicate the happiness, and not being open 340 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 1: enough to communicate the disappointment, the disappointment and the sadness 341 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 1: sometimes and you know, or the frustration or the anger, 342 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,920 Speaker 1: and it's like, all of it is welcome in relationship. 343 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 1: If we expect to be in a relationship with anything. 344 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: It's reflected in the relationships we have with God and Spirit. 345 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: It's reflected in the relationships we have with our families. 346 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:11,920 Speaker 1: It's reflected in the relationships that we have with our lovers, 347 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 1: with our significant others, and the relationships we have with 348 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 1: our children. All emotions are a part of all relationships, 349 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:23,040 Speaker 1: and so not saying that it's possible to do with 350 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:26,119 Speaker 1: all friends, especially depending on how many you have, you know, 351 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 1: but having a couple at least one where you are 352 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: able to be that authentic self, You're able to voice 353 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: when you're let down. You're also able to stomach when 354 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 1: you've let someone else down and be honest and accountable 355 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:46,119 Speaker 1: about it. It's incredibly important you know, not just the 356 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,280 Speaker 1: good times, but like, can you just be quiet together? 357 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,880 Speaker 1: Can you just spend time next to someone and not 358 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,760 Speaker 1: fill it with relentless conversation. There's time for that too. 359 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 1: But you know, I judge a lot of my friendships 360 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: and how comfortable are we when we can just sit 361 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:07,679 Speaker 1: next to each other and be completely disconnected from performance 362 00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 1: and just be in the nature of one another's energy. 363 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 1: I love feeling that with people that I feel strongly 364 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,880 Speaker 1: connected to. So, you know, think about you know, how 365 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: does someone make you feel like really in your bones, 366 00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:25,399 Speaker 1: like really in your body, intuitively trust yourself? Do you 367 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 1: feel on edge around people? Do you feel like you're 368 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:31,600 Speaker 1: walking on eggshells? Are you noticing that you make other 369 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,679 Speaker 1: people feel that way or they may be having that 370 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 1: projected reaction to you for other reasons? Are there opportunities 371 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,679 Speaker 1: to open in conversation about any of it? You know, 372 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 1: start getting curious, ask questions. Are you asking your friends 373 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 1: enough questions? Are they asking enough questions about you? Are 374 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 1: they asking follow up questions to stories you've told and 375 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,879 Speaker 1: things that you've shared. All of these things are the 376 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,760 Speaker 1: nature of what being in relationship is. So when these 377 00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: things are missing, we can't necessarily be in the deepest 378 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:04,639 Speaker 1: level of intimacy with friends, of connection, of support, or 379 00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:11,680 Speaker 1: integrity with our friendships. Integrity and friendship is about being present, 380 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 1: even in moments of discomfort, even in moments when things 381 00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: get tough. You know, how often are we showing up 382 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 1: as who we know ourselves to be? How often are 383 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 1: we looking to take opportunity? Like maybe if we're hearing 384 00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,679 Speaker 1: something a friend says and we know that doesn't actually 385 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,600 Speaker 1: align with who we know them to be or with 386 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: their values, are we speaking up? Are we nervous about it? 387 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 1: We're nervous about it, and we don't do it. We 388 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: might be dropping our ball on the agreement we've made 389 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: spiritually to our friends. You know, it's like, are you 390 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 1: able to tell the truth in this connection? And is 391 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 1: someone able to tell the truth with you? The answer 392 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,160 Speaker 1: to all the things that I'm asking, by the way, 393 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: is not going to be universally. Yes, that doesn't mean 394 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 1: drop the friendship. It might for some I trust you'll 395 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 1: explore that and you'll follow your gut. But sometimes it's 396 00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:12,800 Speaker 1: about having the conversation and then giving yourselves the time 397 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,640 Speaker 1: in the space to explore a new mode of communication 398 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:20,240 Speaker 1: with each other that is possible. So a good example 399 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,680 Speaker 1: might be again like having a tough conversation with a friend, 400 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,959 Speaker 1: telling them something they need to hear, even if it's difficult. 401 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:32,199 Speaker 1: Because integrity does not always mean harmony. Integrity does not 402 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:38,239 Speaker 1: always mean pleasant. It means truth, it means respect, it 403 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:45,680 Speaker 1: means presence with what is Yeah, And just another little 404 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 1: thing I'd love to add for people exploring new friendship 405 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: with people, really start noticing if you're able to be 406 00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:02,159 Speaker 1: kind of like not just deep you, but like the 407 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,680 Speaker 1: silly flirty you. You know, what is the lightest form 408 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:10,160 Speaker 1: of who you are as long as it's authentic. That 409 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:13,439 Speaker 1: is so necessary in friendship, not just like kind of 410 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:17,399 Speaker 1: rehashing the worries and the tragedies sometimes or you know, 411 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,320 Speaker 1: the kind of both being mad at somebody together, but like, 412 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 1: how light can you authentically be with another person? Not evasive, 413 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,879 Speaker 1: but how light can you be with someone? That adds 414 00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 1: so much pleasure in a connection. So another facet to 415 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:38,560 Speaker 1: look at integrity. This is our third one is integrity 416 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:46,160 Speaker 1: in relationships, especially romantic loving relationships. It is so so 417 00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 1: so so important. This is a huge one. This is 418 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:55,200 Speaker 1: the one that creates very often generational legacy and how 419 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: you're showing up in your intimate relationships. So when we 420 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,280 Speaker 1: talk about integrity of love, it is not just about 421 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 1: being necessarily faithful in the traditional sense. It's about being 422 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: faithful to the emotional, spiritual, and physical aspects of the relationship. 423 00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: Are you being transparent about who you are, what your 424 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,040 Speaker 1: needs are? And when we talk about needs, it's so 425 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 1: important to understand and identify how do we even define 426 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,239 Speaker 1: that word for ourselves and how do we see it 427 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,320 Speaker 1: defined other places. We're gonna have to do a whole 428 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: other month deep dive podcast situation on needs alone. We 429 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 1: can't do that all right now, but I will say, 430 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 1: you know, the more work I've done on myself, the 431 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 1: more I've really realized and fallen in love with the 432 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:51,840 Speaker 1: fact that I meet so many of my own needs effortlessly, 433 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:57,400 Speaker 1: especially the emotional ones, and so a deep need I 434 00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 1: often haven't. Relationship is like connecting to people that see 435 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,440 Speaker 1: the world similarly, that have a heart like mine, that 436 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,240 Speaker 1: see beauty in the planet the way that I do, 437 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 1: that have a playfulness with life in the way that 438 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 1: I do, that have fascinations and interests, perhaps with the 439 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 1: same level of intensity. There is a respect for service 440 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:27,719 Speaker 1: and for beauty and for empathy. That's a deep need. Like, 441 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 1: if that's not present for me in a relationship, it 442 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: would be very hard for me to be in the 443 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,520 Speaker 1: relationship and give the way that I want to give 444 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,960 Speaker 1: in the relationship because that is such a core need 445 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 1: for me. But especially because I'm not really in as 446 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 1: much requirement for as many of the other things, I 447 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 1: feel really good in those areas. But I think for 448 00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:52,600 Speaker 1: each of us those are different. Right. For some it 449 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 1: may be I need someone who has a tremendous amount 450 00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,280 Speaker 1: of sensitivity to my emotional life. And that's what we 451 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:03,200 Speaker 1: have to identify when we're establishing What is integrity and 452 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,360 Speaker 1: a relationship? To me, what is the way that I 453 00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:09,000 Speaker 1: show up in integrity for another? So are you being 454 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 1: transparent about those needs? Are you showing up as your 455 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 1: full self? Are you giving your partner the space to 456 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: do the same. Integrity and relationship means being very clear 457 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:26,680 Speaker 1: about your boundaries, having expectations not just for the other person, 458 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 1: but expectations and really codes of conduct for your own 459 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,800 Speaker 1: behavior and not just your behavior in the world, your 460 00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:39,080 Speaker 1: behavior when you're with other people. You may be attracted to, 461 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 1: but like what is the core of your behavior, because 462 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,600 Speaker 1: my expectation and relationships is that your character is bringing 463 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: as much goodwill into our dynamic as mine is. Like 464 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,120 Speaker 1: I live my life in such a way that my 465 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:58,920 Speaker 1: hope and tention and desire is that I'm bringing good fortune, 466 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:03,400 Speaker 1: protect community, and care to my children and my grandchildren 467 00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:06,400 Speaker 1: even when I'm not on the planet. And if you 468 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 1: are in relationship with someone that has a strong level 469 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: of integrity, you'll notice that that happens in your love 470 00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 1: relationship too, when you are given the benefit of the 471 00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,000 Speaker 1: doubt by other people, or you're given goodwill or having 472 00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 1: good luck in other areas, because the person you're an intimate, 473 00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:27,640 Speaker 1: deep connection and relationship with is magnetizing those experiences to 474 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:31,520 Speaker 1: themselves too. You know, integrity isn't just this code of conduct, 475 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 1: it's also sometimes this antenna that goes out and brings 476 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: so much into your life effortlessly integrity and relationships. Are 477 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:52,240 Speaker 1: you communicating with love, respect, compassion, honesty. A good question 478 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 1: to ask yourself when you're in communication with another person 479 00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,240 Speaker 1: in your own mind and heart, especially if it's a 480 00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:02,280 Speaker 1: challenging one. What would unconditional love do? What would unconditional 481 00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:07,240 Speaker 1: love say? What would someone in Mastery of Love do 482 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 1: or say so? An example of integrity and relationships could 483 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 1: be very clear and honest about who and what you are, 484 00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:20,640 Speaker 1: your boundaries very early in a relationship, sticking to them most, 485 00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:25,520 Speaker 1: especially when it's uncomfortable and when things get intense, and 486 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: staying true to the agreements that you've made with your 487 00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:34,720 Speaker 1: partner and yourself and really you know, those areas I 488 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:44,360 Speaker 1: think where those foundational beliefs, you know, especially in Christ's teaching, 489 00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 1: come forward, like do unto others is you'd have done 490 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,760 Speaker 1: unto you? The golden rule. You know, that is something 491 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 1: we say it was such pleasantry, and very often it's 492 00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,080 Speaker 1: been said in environments that maybe it wasn't. Also the 493 00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:04,240 Speaker 1: behaviored in matter, but the fundamental core of that is integrity. 494 00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: Do unto others is you'd have them do unto you, 495 00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:13,960 Speaker 1: especially and also when they're not behaving as good as 496 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: you are, can you still keep that high level of 497 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:26,520 Speaker 1: personal behavior too? Sometimes it's yes, sometimes it's no, that's life, 498 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:31,040 Speaker 1: but that is the goal. So that is integrity and relationships. 499 00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: So the three ways we've kind of looked at integrity 500 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:36,799 Speaker 1: today just to recap for us as you do some 501 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,560 Speaker 1: soul work around this and kind of deepen in the 502 00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 1: way that you want to carve this out for you 503 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:46,480 Speaker 1: and your life and your beliefs. Is where are you 504 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:50,759 Speaker 1: in your spiritual integrity? Where are you in your friendship integrity? 505 00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 1: And then where are you in your relationship integrity? Relationship 506 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:59,719 Speaker 1: integrity in terms of those intimate, romantic, true loving connections 507 00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:04,560 Speaker 1: and the intimacy of those familial connections, the intimacy of 508 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:09,319 Speaker 1: parental connections with your parents or with your kids. How 509 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:13,400 Speaker 1: does your integrity operate in those containers? A few ways 510 00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:15,640 Speaker 1: for you to kind of reflect on now, how integrity 511 00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 1: shows up. Integrity shows up in the small things. It's 512 00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 1: when you decide to make the right choice even when 513 00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:27,439 Speaker 1: no one is watching. It's when you decide to make 514 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,600 Speaker 1: the right choice for yourself, right like, are you having 515 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:33,960 Speaker 1: integrity for you some of those deeper things? Are you 516 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 1: staying in things too long and letting yourself delude yourself 517 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,880 Speaker 1: sometimes into thinking that it's righteous to do so or 518 00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:48,600 Speaker 1: that it somehow equates goodness when it's self punishment and fear. 519 00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,279 Speaker 1: You know, only we can decide what those things are 520 00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:55,160 Speaker 1: for ourself, but bring it up for a review. It's 521 00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:59,040 Speaker 1: when you show up to keep your word, when you 522 00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:02,480 Speaker 1: honor your commitment, when you choose to act with honesty 523 00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,560 Speaker 1: even when it's not convenient. And this is in every 524 00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:10,600 Speaker 1: facet at work. Are you showing up at home? Are 525 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:14,239 Speaker 1: you showing up for yourself? Privately? Are you showing up? 526 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,959 Speaker 1: I think about integrity personally every day in my work 527 00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,319 Speaker 1: and how I show up for my team, for myself 528 00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:25,319 Speaker 1: and for those that God calls me to serve. It's 529 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 1: about staying aligned. So a lot of my integrity for 530 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 1: myself is really being who I say I am in 531 00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:35,600 Speaker 1: my daily practice and the privacy of my own home 532 00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:39,840 Speaker 1: and life, like meditating every day even when I'm having 533 00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:43,520 Speaker 1: a really challenging day or I'm having an anxious day. 534 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:48,319 Speaker 1: It's doing the things that really support my body and 535 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,440 Speaker 1: the health and the vibrancy I want to have even 536 00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:53,839 Speaker 1: when it's annoying, even when I don't want to. It's 537 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:57,480 Speaker 1: writing reminders everywhere in my house, so I will do 538 00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 1: these things that I know allow me to be the 539 00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:06,840 Speaker 1: person that I say I am. It's about being aligned 540 00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:10,480 Speaker 1: with my purpose, being transparent in all aspects of my life. 541 00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:18,080 Speaker 1: So often, integrity isn't loud or flashy Integrity is truly subtle, 542 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:25,400 Speaker 1: it's quiet, and it's deeply lived experience. I'm going to 543 00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:29,600 Speaker 1: say that one more time for everyone. Integrity is not 544 00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:39,800 Speaker 1: loud or flashy. Integrity is subtle, it's dignified, it's quiet, 545 00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: and it's lived and embodied. We're a couple weeks away 546 00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,400 Speaker 1: here in the US if you're listening in the States 547 00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,279 Speaker 1: to what will be our twenty twenty four election, and 548 00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,480 Speaker 1: so as you continue to reflect that inner work of 549 00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 1: integrity that you're doing, where it's showing up around you 550 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,839 Speaker 1: and the people that are in your life, do those 551 00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,359 Speaker 1: soul work questions that are in that download Debbie Brown 552 00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:11,279 Speaker 1: dot com at Deeply Well pod at Debbie Brown on Instagram. 553 00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,160 Speaker 1: The election is a few weeks away. Integrity is going 554 00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:18,359 Speaker 1: to play a crucial role in how leaders show up. 555 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,880 Speaker 1: We must demand require it, we must look at the 556 00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:24,719 Speaker 1: historic proof of it. It's essential on how we show 557 00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:29,319 Speaker 1: up as voters. Integrity in this aspect means staying informed, 558 00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:33,080 Speaker 1: not just following the crowd or choosing based on convenience. 559 00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:35,960 Speaker 1: And by not just following the crowd, it doesn't also 560 00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,319 Speaker 1: mean just be a devil's advocate or just be a 561 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:42,440 Speaker 1: contrarian and do the opposite. It means sit in the 562 00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:45,440 Speaker 1: tenets of everything that we're talking about. What does the 563 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:49,400 Speaker 1: position really require and what are people capable of doing? 564 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,160 Speaker 1: You know, and take this false ideal again. I'm going 565 00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,399 Speaker 1: to say it again, it's not about who you can 566 00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,719 Speaker 1: trust the most. We don't really know. We don't know 567 00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 1: these people. You don't know. There's a lot of people 568 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,880 Speaker 1: in your day to day life and in your families 569 00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,480 Speaker 1: you can't and don't trust. Who can do the job, 570 00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:14,120 Speaker 1: Who has the excellence, who has the historical evidence of 571 00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:16,480 Speaker 1: doing the job, Who can be accountable, who can do 572 00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:18,439 Speaker 1: it when they don't feel like doing it, Who can 573 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:22,719 Speaker 1: put the responsibility of what's at hand ahead of their 574 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:27,279 Speaker 1: own gain, need for pleasure, need for recognition. Who can 575 00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,279 Speaker 1: do it with integrity and in a way that allows 576 00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:34,960 Speaker 1: us to show up powerfully in the world, in true power, 577 00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:38,440 Speaker 1: not performative power. It's really important to be thinking that way. 578 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:42,920 Speaker 1: With those principles in mind. We'll see integrity in how 579 00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:47,520 Speaker 1: candidates honor their promises or they don't, and we'll see 580 00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:50,319 Speaker 1: it in how we hold them accountable and how we 581 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:56,000 Speaker 1: engage with the political process ourselves. Democracy thrives on integrity 582 00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:02,719 Speaker 1: it thrives on the inte of the people participating in it. 583 00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:08,040 Speaker 1: So something to think about, as we kind of in 584 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:13,880 Speaker 1: this episode. Just yeah, continue to savor. Sink your teeth 585 00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 1: into this conversation. See how it's showing up for you 586 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:24,960 Speaker 1: uniquely and your beautifully divinely designed an aligned life, and 587 00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,080 Speaker 1: let me know, let me know how it's feeling, how 588 00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,839 Speaker 1: it's flowing. Share this episode with a friend and write 589 00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:36,520 Speaker 1: someone else into this conversation. Journal journal, journal, Meditate, Meditate, Meditate, 590 00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:45,320 Speaker 1: Take a deep breath with me here, beautiful. Next episode, 591 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,359 Speaker 1: we're going to dive into it even more deeply. 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