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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephews. Subject he

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Speaker 1: is stuck to me like glue. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: thirty nine years old and I married a man that

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Speaker 1: is very clingy. We dated for two years before we

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Speaker 1: got married, and we lived in different states, so when

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Speaker 1: we spent time together, it wasn't an issue when we

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Speaker 1: wanted to be around when he wanted to be around

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Speaker 1: me all day. He moved to my city when we

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Speaker 1: got married, and he works from home. He hasn't branched

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Speaker 1: out and made any new friends because he was focused

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Speaker 1: on me the first year of our marriage. It's our

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Speaker 1: second year now, so I need him to move around

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Speaker 1: and find something to do that does not involve hanging

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Speaker 1: around me. I suggested he hang out with some of

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Speaker 1: my friends husbands, but he said at his age, he

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Speaker 1: doesn't need new friends. I'm a homebody, but since marrying him,

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Speaker 1: I get the urge to go out more and be

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Speaker 1: with my friends. The other night, I was lying on

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Speaker 1: which made me very uncomfortable. If I'd moved or adjusted myself,

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Speaker 1: he would have been offended. He always says my body

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Speaker 1: language is off, so I'm mindful of my expressions. If

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Speaker 1: I'm in the shower, he sits and talks to me.

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Speaker 1: Some women would think it's so sweet, but I need

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Speaker 1: some space. I don't enjoy going to the mall with

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Speaker 1: him because he picks up things and suggests that I

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Speaker 1: try them on. My best friend says that maybe he

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Speaker 1: wants me to dress differently, but I don't care what

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Speaker 1: he wants anymore. Our marriage, which is too new for

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Speaker 1: me to be this annoyed with him. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to have a long intimate experience every time, but he

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Speaker 1: loves it. He really is stuck to me like glue.

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Speaker 1: Is this how all great? Husbands act. Is it cool

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Speaker 1: to tell him that's that he's smothering me? Or would

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Speaker 1: I sound ungrateful? Well, if you said, hey, you're smothering me, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you would sound ungrateful? Is it? You know? Is this

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Speaker 1: how all great husbands act? No? But it's always something.

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Speaker 1: I mean, most women are probably saying, how is this

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Speaker 1: a bad thing? Because they long for their husbands to

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Speaker 1: spend more time with them. So many couples crave that attention,

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Speaker 1: and you get it freely and you don't even want it,

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Speaker 1: and you haven't said anything negative about him except that

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Speaker 1: he's too clingy. He's not a cheater, he's not a

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Speaker 1: liar and abuser. He's not controlling. He's not dating your friends,

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Speaker 1: he's not dating your sister, he's not dating your mom.

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Speaker 1: You know, those are what we get. The kinds of

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters usually get. No, you're just mad because he

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Speaker 1: likes to be around you, in your words, way too much,

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Speaker 1: and after only two years of marriage, you've started to

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Speaker 1: resent him for this. So how do you fix this?

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Speaker 1: You know? What do you do? I mean? Because I

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Speaker 1: get it, we all need time for us, we all

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Speaker 1: need me time. I do get that concept, but I

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Speaker 1: got to ask you. You spend a lot of time together,

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Speaker 1: but it doesn't sound like you're talking or you're communicating.

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Speaker 1: You haven't said that in the letter either. Communication, you

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Speaker 1: know it very important in a relationship. Where is that

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Speaker 1: part of your marriage? You've already given up on that.

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Speaker 1: You talk to your friends, you've written us, But talk

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Speaker 1: to your man. I mean you should have told him

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Speaker 1: this long before. Now you've actually waited so long, and

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Speaker 1: you're so disgusted and angry that I hope you have

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Speaker 1: the patience to tell him nicely that you need time alone.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I say do it now, because you can't continue.

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Speaker 1: You you're not happy right here. You can't continue in

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Speaker 1: this clingy space. You will end up hating him, or worse,

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Speaker 1: you know, filing for divorce. Steve, he too much, He

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Speaker 1: too damn much. You're just a lot? What you gay now, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I like you answering because you're trying to keep your

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Speaker 1: family together. But he too much. At He's more than

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Speaker 1: a lot. He too much. This woman can't even go

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Speaker 1: I'm taking a shower, I'm laying on the couch. This

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Speaker 1: on her. He come in there, lift up, sit down,

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Speaker 1: at anybody that don't see this as a problem. I

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Speaker 1: don't care. As Shirley said, how many women would love

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Speaker 1: to have Oh you, thank you on this. But every day,

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Speaker 1: all day here he comes, touching, touching, holding, holding, lay

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Speaker 1: on my left. Do it like this here, put this

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Speaker 1: over here, hold me, walk with me. I don't want

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Speaker 1: no friend. Man, get out the house. She's thirty nine. Look,

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Speaker 1: they've been married for two years. It says to death,

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Speaker 1: do you part. I gotta do this till I die.

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Speaker 1: This is what we're doing this right here. Everybody needs

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Speaker 1: some me time. Man, too much of anything is bad

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Speaker 1: for you. You can drink too much water, as good

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Speaker 1: as water is. You can drink too much water as

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Speaker 1: good as sleep is. You can sleep too much, as

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Speaker 1: rewarding as work can be. You can work too much

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Speaker 1: as good as cake taste. You can eat too much case,

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Speaker 1: too much money. Too much money is bad for you.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know how to handle a little bit

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Speaker 1: of money. I'm telling it really really is. You're not

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Speaker 1: gonna believe it. We come back or re enact me.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling coming. Hold on, Steve, all right, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after today's Strawberry Letters. Subject is he is stuck

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Speaker 1: to me like glue. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to show. All right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he is

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Speaker 1: ut to me like glue. Here's a woman that's struggling.

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Speaker 1: Been married for two years. She's thirty nine years old.

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Speaker 1: They when they dated, they lived in different states, and

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Speaker 1: so when he came over, they're clinging to her. She

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Speaker 1: thought was cute. Well, they got married. She's moved. He's

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Speaker 1: moved to the same state they lived together. He works

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Speaker 1: He home all the time. She's a home body. She's

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Speaker 1: tried to introduce him to her girlfriend's husband's He say

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Speaker 1: at this age, he don't need no new friends. She

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Speaker 1: watching TV. He walking in that picking her head of

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Speaker 1: laying it in his lap, old hockovie. Everything is about him.

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Speaker 1: She in the shower. Here he comes sitting on the toilet.

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Speaker 1: Won'ta talk. They can't, she can't do nothing. She wants

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Speaker 1: to tell him it's too much. But he's sensitive. He said,

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Speaker 1: my body's language is off. If I'm mindful of my expressions.

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Speaker 1: If I'm in the shower, he sits and talks to me.

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Speaker 1: He just too much. Now there's a couple of things, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: He's insecure, could be or he can't believe his luck.

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Speaker 1: You the finest thing could have ever happened to him,

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Speaker 1: and he can't believe in and he trying to do

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Speaker 1: what he thinks it holds onto it. But nothing worse

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Speaker 1: than a cleaning man, because cleaning get right up against

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Speaker 1: needy if it keep on, and everybody needs some space,

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Speaker 1: some me time. Now you can get too much me time,

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Speaker 1: you can get too much faith. So I have a

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Speaker 1: sermon today. Church music please'm looking for the pastor's music.

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Speaker 1: We come to d Yeah, okay, thank you d H.

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Speaker 1: The title of today's sermon is he stuck to me

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Speaker 1: like glue. He stuck to me like h. We're not talking, heir, glue.

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Speaker 1: We're not talking almost glue. Noa not Alma, were talking

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Speaker 1: model airplane glue. M we ain't talking corpenter's glue. We

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Speaker 1: not talking. We glue now not we glue. No, but

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Speaker 1: we're talking. He stuck to me like gorilla glue. I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about the glue where there is no separation. Naha

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Speaker 1: ha ha, Well what's he going it? Don't come off

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Speaker 1: my ha don't. I'm in the shower. Yeah, he on

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Speaker 1: the tarlet talking to me. He right there, bath that's

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Speaker 1: too much. I'm I'm in the car driving. He working

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Speaker 1: the gas and the brake pedal. That's too much. I

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Speaker 1: a most profound way. Yeah. He comes in now, folding

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Speaker 1: tarlet to you, like letting me help you. That's too much.

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Speaker 1: Oh we're talking too much. Now. Yeah, in the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: out my mouth? How you rent somebody else? We're talking

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Speaker 1: too much now in here getting ready for work. I

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Speaker 1: putting my leg in my panis he put his leg

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Speaker 1: in all the hole? Wait a minute, it's just too much.

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Speaker 1: Now I think we're too close. Now we can't wear draps.

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Speaker 1: I'm putting on my braw I got one breast in

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Speaker 1: the right cup. He's gonna put his breast in the

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Speaker 1: left cup. And we're talking. He stuck to me, that's

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Speaker 1: double breasted like that, and that's exactly what he said. Tam,

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Speaker 1: that this marriage is a mistake. M Uh. We had dinner.

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Speaker 1: I'm eating my steak all right, all right. I cut

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Speaker 1: And this is too much. It's too much. You gotta

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Speaker 1: chew one, you gotta cue. Don't believe I want this

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Speaker 1: type of look too much? Yeah, ah boy. Post her

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