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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for getting a wedding canceled

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Speaker 2: What kind ooh jinx you'll make? Oke?

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Speaker 1: How tool cokes? And this is stands the question how

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Speaker 1: should you handle complications in the lead up to a wedding?

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Speaker 2: What was that reading of it?

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Speaker 1: I like to switch it up a little bit. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you were switching variety. So numerous Amba nineteen oh two

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Speaker 1: says my uncle Jay twenty eight male is marrying Mal

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Speaker 1: twenty six female. She's shy, so she never wanted a

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Speaker 1: big wedding where she has to walk down the aisle,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. He wants to elope with him and adjust

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Speaker 1: him and her and also have a traditional wedding from

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Speaker 1: her country. He's completely cool with doing things how she

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Speaker 2: Wait, so, but elope means just get married by your herself.

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Speaker 1: Right basically, But presumably it seems like she wants to

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Speaker 1: without the ceremony and everything, but it seems like maybe

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Speaker 1: she also wants after the fact, a maybe a reception

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Speaker 2: Ah, Okay, I don't know that. I'm just right. We're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but Jay's mom, Amanda wants the typical wedding. Mel

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Speaker 2: Well, but is this third wedding going to be expensive?

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Speaker 1: Though I don't know. I think she's saying she wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: Mel is saying to Amanda, Okay, well, you can have

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Speaker 2: You want to plan everything and and you know pat Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Mel the bridesmaid list. There were going to be seven bridesmaids,

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Speaker 1: and one of them was Jay's cousin, Letty twenty seven female.

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Speaker 1: Letty has been nothing but rude to Mel since the

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Speaker 2: And again, Mel is the bride.

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Speaker 1: Mel is the bride.

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Speaker 2: Yes would yeah?

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Speaker 1: So Amel does le?

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Speaker 2: Mel should get to veto anyone she doesn't want as

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Speaker 1: Amanda the mother in law is like, okay, I've chosen

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Speaker 1: Mel immediately vetoed it. Letty was in the room sitting

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Because she loves being a hater.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's a hater. Hater bro I can vouch for

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Speaker 1: Yeah, at least it's not just Mel on her own

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Speaker 2: Whoa what I mean the wedding like this this wedding,

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Speaker 2: Oh whoa the fake third wedding. Yeah, because Amanda wants

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Speaker 1: They're still getting married, but the wedding that Amanda is

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Speaker 2: Weird. Yeah, honestly weird situation to begin with, Like I

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Speaker 1: Just to have a wedding, and you have to have

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Speaker 2: What a joke?

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Speaker 1: How's that joke?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what what's the joke? Explain?

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Speaker 4: I saw something. If someone says that to you, it

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Speaker 4: You explain that? Or someone offinds you, like what do

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Speaker 1: Oh he's like, I'm gossip girl.

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Speaker 2: I've never seen Gothi girl, Okay, whatever have you seen

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Speaker 2: gothairl You've seen every show? Yeah, I've seen every show.

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Speaker 1: But I haven't seen all of them all the way through.

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Speaker 2: But you've seen a little wait of gravity falls.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't seen friend. I hated it. I hated it.

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Speaker 2: Wait, let me finish the story, holds.

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Speaker 1: It's so weird, and now a couple of family members

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Speaker 1: a hole here? Letty won't talk to me because I'm

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't think OP is being the ahole.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't think I opie sent. I don't know

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Speaker 2: I think it's just a whole weird situation to have this,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a joke, it wasn't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like, this person's gonna be a freaking pariah. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't know what she's she's on about.

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Speaker 1: Number six. Amanda isn't performatively crying. She's really nice and

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Speaker 2: The joke is that she is actually funny. She's kind

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Speaker 2: Larry David is funny and mean, but I feel like, well,

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Speaker 4: Who's that dude off of Community?

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Speaker 1: The old guy?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen Community, Chevy.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'll have to get on it just so I can

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Speaker 1: Letty did apologize after the video, but it was clearly fake.

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Speaker 1: Number ten, Letty is upset at me because I've recorded

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Speaker 1: What about it?

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Speaker 2: I'm a secret agent.

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Speaker 1: Not a great move, I know, but it's never made

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Speaker 1: I wanted to show it to Mel so we could

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Speaker 1: I felt bad. Number twelve Letty does not have a

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Speaker 2: See, that's what you say until your family does those

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Speaker 1: Also, I appreciate that Op answered all of the questions that.

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Speaker 1: Why don't we know that? And oh, people say here

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Speaker 2: Thanks right now. It's like you're recording us on the

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Speaker 2: Truman Show. It is weird that we're just we're just

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Speaker 4: Bro, things just got real right now? Can we not

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Boy boy, Sorry that was so long. The real update

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Speaker 1: is that I found out why Letty hates mel Oh boy.

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Speaker 1: She's close friends with Jay's ex, who he dated for

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Speaker 1: back on WHOA that's flopping. Letty is not a bridesmaid,

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Speaker 1: but I'm no longer going to an involve myself. Days

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Speaker 1: also coming back tomorrow, and he doesn't let anyone say

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Speaker 1: And also we're live literally.

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Speaker 2: Right now, We're literally right now. You should literally right now,

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Speaker 2: file click click it, yeah, come hang out with us

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Speaker 2: on YouTube, yeah, or right here.

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Speaker 1: But it seems like it's somewhat solved, although I think

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it also seems like Op is trying to

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Speaker 1: Of like everyone's well. It was a lot of flip

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Speaker 2: Is flip flopping. I'm almost My conspiracy theory is the

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Speaker 2: updating the reddit post to be less scathing to the family,

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Speaker 1: I think that Another scenario is Ope saw the Reddit

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Speaker 2: I saw the Reddit comments coming after the family. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: And also Reddit can be so like yeah, just aggressive,

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Speaker 2: and so in an effort to humanize them, humanize them,

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Speaker 1: Don't be too rude to damn please. But yeah, that's

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Speaker 2: Woo, am I the a hole for telling my mother

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Speaker 2: in law why I have vasiline next to my bed?

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Speaker 2: You gave me this one. This one boy, and this

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Speaker 2: also we're alive right now. If you want to get

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Speaker 2: Sorry for the new account. I don't want this associated

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Speaker 2: or actually I will start with my wife, Tara. Tara

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Speaker 2: Tara read that one book about immature adult parents, and

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Speaker 1: It's me, your mother in law. II.

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Speaker 2: You gotta done away, your mother in law.

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Speaker 1: You get it turned away, your poor, sickly mother in law.

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Speaker 2: You know who else lived rent free? You in me

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Speaker 2: for nine months?

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Speaker 1: My son, my son without me here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have this house because of me. I was

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Speaker 1: I was, I was pregnant for two years.

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Speaker 2: I looked like a wizard sleeve down there for you.

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Speaker 2: What wizard sleep? I don't know what that means, you know,

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Speaker 2: like the wizard sleep because of because the baby was

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Speaker 1: All right, what's the rest of the story anyway?

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Speaker 2: Going? This is something that is extremely unbrand for and

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Speaker 2: we just let her. Her mom, who again is not terrible,

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Speaker 1: But that's like, just to be clear, has she literally

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Speaker 2: What are you doing here? It's like, I'm here, surprise.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, that's great.

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Speaker 2: I'm God's gift to you.

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Speaker 1: She sounds pretty, he said. She's not terrible, but a

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Speaker 2: It sounds pretty terrible. So she's wandering around and comes

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Speaker 2: It's for probably, yeah, I think so, and my lips

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Speaker 2: chapped lips. I don't jerk off with vassiline.

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Speaker 4: That was pretty good.

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Speaker 2: It was pretty good. Apparently my timing was good because

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Speaker 2: At all. Take a joke, Take a joke.

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Speaker 1: You know who'd find this funny, Letty.

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Speaker 2: Letty would find this funny. Letty would be making this joke. Then,

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Speaker 1: You started it.

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Speaker 2: You started it, You picked up the lube tub.

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Speaker 1: You can't make spicy sleep joke and then expect the

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Speaker 2: Exactly, you are literally providing the lube for the joke

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Speaker 2: to enter. Your ears were up that joke, and it

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Speaker 2: you gotta be grossed again. I said over and over

444
00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:16,520
Speaker 2: that she was the one who made the joke, and

445
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:20,119
Speaker 2: her response was always yeah, but that was a joke,

446
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,639
Speaker 2: Like what I said was totally serious, and I guess

447
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 2: it was. I mean, I was telling the truth, but

448
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,200
Speaker 2: I was only bantering because she started it. I didn't

449
00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:31,800
Speaker 2: even invite her into our bedroom, which would be a

450
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 2: different story. Maybe this is the next time that was gross, Sophia,

451
00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:41,040
Speaker 2: you gotta be gross again. Let's go anyway, She brought

452
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,480
Speaker 2: it up over text to Tara, and there is a

453
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 2: subtle pressure from her to just apologize. But I don't

454
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 2: think I did anything wrong. So am I the a hole?

455
00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,679
Speaker 1: No? No, she started it. She started it and you

456
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,760
Speaker 1: finished it. And that's and that's.

457
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Speaker 2: That is a beautiful thing.

458
00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I really I gave I gave you an

459
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 1: opportunity and you didn't even take it.

460
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Speaker 2: What do you mean? I don't know what you're talking about?

461
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,880
Speaker 4: Okay, well, what is this saying that?

462
00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,199
Speaker 2: What do you mean? I have no idea what you're

463
00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,280
Speaker 2: talking about it. If you're not gonna pick me up

464
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:17,200
Speaker 2: at Penguins, then I'm gonna leave you out to die

465
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 2: and finishing. You're on an island, finish yourself.

466
00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 1: Drowning, drowning. Okay, fine, I'll say it. She started it

467
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 1: and you're gonna finish it. But you're not gonna finish

468
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 1: yourself with the vasoline.

469
00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 2: Gross.

470
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Speaker 1: There we go.

471
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Speaker 2: It's hot in here.

472
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Speaker 4: Keep your clothes on, yeah, keep on all your clothes.

473
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,920
Speaker 2: You should go watch us live. We're live right now.

474
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 2: Go hit our profile, just click it, click it, freaking

475
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:44,920
Speaker 2: hit it. But if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

476
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 1: We love you and Sitamar you freaking left me out

477
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Speaker 1: to dry again.

478
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 2: No, I whispered it. This is an episode from Deep

479
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 2: within the Archives. Time for okop relash. I'm trying to

480
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,160
Speaker 2: throw my niece in jail for messing up my coat?

481
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:02,120
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole?

482
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Speaker 5: I mean it is a coat, But I guess here

483
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Speaker 5: you will be a nice coat.

484
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Speaker 2: You know, it might be a fancy coat, might be

485
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Speaker 2: like a you know, I want to like a chinchilla coat.

486
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 2: I mean made up one hundred chinchillas.

487
00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 3: If you get my chinchilla coat dirty, I kind of

488
00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 3: have to shoot you in the face. Oh yeah, oh yeah,

489
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,640
Speaker 3: with I have to go up to a police officer,

490
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 3: pull out their gun and then shoot you and then

491
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 3: toss the gun aside like a movie.

492
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's a police officer after yeah, just for

493
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Speaker 2: good Messa. Yeah yeah. I twenty eight female, have a

494
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 2: nie sixteen female. She is my only sister's only child.

495
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 2: I like that double. Only two years ago I married

496
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 2: a very wealthy man thirty four male. Good on to you, hey, Poppy.

497
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 2: And because of the pandemic, last Christmas was my first

498
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Speaker 2: with my in laws. My mother in law gifted me

499
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Speaker 2: a coat that is worth more than twenty thousand dollars.

500
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Speaker 5: I am shocked. It's that cheap, dude.

501
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Speaker 3: Twenty thousand. That's insane. That's an insanely expensive coat.

502
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,119
Speaker 2: I saw her wearing it, asked her where she bought it,

503
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 2: and she says, it will be my Christmas gift from her.

504
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 2: You know, I guess it's like a nice Christmas gift

505
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 2: or whatever, but it's like kind of like hand me downs.

506
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Speaker 5: Oh oh oh. So she was wearing the coat and

507
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 5: then she's like, I'm going to give.

508
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Speaker 2: It to you. I mean, it is a twenty thousand

509
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 2: dollars coup.

510
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Speaker 3: If someone was like, hey, John, I'm going to give

511
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 3: you my Tesla for Christmas, I'm like, yes, okay.

512
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Speaker 2: I didn't know how much it was. I knew it

513
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 2: was expensive, but I thought maybe it's like three thousand

514
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 2: at most. Yes, yes, twenty thousand for coat is insane.

515
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 5: Absolutely.

516
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Speaker 2: I was visiting my sister last January. When my niece

517
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 2: saw it. She googled the brand and showed me how

518
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 2: much it really was. I won't lie. I didn't wear

519
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 2: it after that because I was afraid of ruining it.

520
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 2: Of course, last week I wore it while visiting my sister.

521
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 2: While I was putting it back on to leave, I

522
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 2: felt something go splat on my back. No, then my

523
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 2: niece started cackling and the smell of paint hit me.

524
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Speaker 5: Stop it.

525
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 2: You know, it's kind of like you know how like

526
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 2: hippies would throw red paint at people with fur coats. Right, yeah,

527
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 2: she probably did something like that.

528
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:09,920
Speaker 5: Interesting.

529
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,880
Speaker 2: I was so pissed off. While she was not apologetic

530
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,399
Speaker 2: at all, her mom screamed at her and said she

531
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 2: was grounded. Then she said she will pay for the

532
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: dry cleaning. While I was in my car, still shocked

533
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 2: by the way, I got an alert that my niece

534
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: posted a reel. It was of her doing a prank

535
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 2: on me, and she said, I'm going to hit my

536
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 2: aunt's twenty thousand dollars coat with a paint filled balloon.

537
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Speaker 5: To Oh my god, now that's content.

538
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 2: I saved it on my phone, sent it to her

539
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,400
Speaker 2: mom and told her that a week's grounding is not enough.

540
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,920
Speaker 2: She did not reply, but I saw that my niece

541
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 2: took it down. It got less than five years by then.

542
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 2: The next day I found out my coat cannot be saved,

543
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,120
Speaker 2: so I called my sister and told her that her

544
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 2: daughter has to pay it back the twenty thousand dollars

545
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 2: for the coat, and it was her sister, the mom

546
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 2: of the niece that did this. That's the person who

547
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 2: gave it to her in the first place, right, the

548
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 2: mom of the I think no, I think it's on

549
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 2: the other side of the family.

550
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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so this is not the yes sister's daughter.

551
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:16,479
Speaker 3: Her sister isn't the one that gave it to her.

552
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:17,439
Speaker 3: It was somebody somebody else.

553
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 2: She is my only sister's only child, right, and then

554
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:26,160
Speaker 2: she married a wealthy man. The wealthy man mother, Well,

555
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 2: we got into argument and she said that they will

556
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 2: not be paying it, and if I wanted a new one,

557
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 2: I should get my husband to buy it for me.

558
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 2: I don't think that. Let's keep going. I think I

559
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 2: think that they should pay for it. They can afford

560
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 2: to as well. In my opinion, they should sell my

561
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 2: niece's car and pay me back my money you're getting.

562
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 2: We did not reach an agreement, so I told her

563
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,359
Speaker 2: that I will be suing and reminded her that I

564
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 2: have video evidence that her daughter A did it on

565
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 2: purpose for online clout and be exactly how expensive it was,

566
00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 2: your honor, she did it for clouts she did. Dead

567
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 2: people in my life are not objective at all. Some

568
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:04,479
Speaker 2: are saying that they are the a holes for not

569
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: buying me a new one, and some are so obsessed

570
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 2: with the price of the coat that they are calling

571
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 2: me an a hole for simply owning one and wanting

572
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 2: a new one. So am I the A hole?

573
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Speaker 5: I think yes?

574
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: Because the thing, it would be a different story if

575
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,959
Speaker 3: she personally paid the twenty thousand, that's would have been

576
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,360
Speaker 3: twenty thousand out of her account.

577
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 5: This was a gift. I don't know.

578
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 3: I I wouldn't I wouldn't go that far. I wouldn't

579
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 3: say sell the car and all this stuff.

580
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 2: I will if you were gifted, maybe this is dated,

581
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 2: but if you were gifted like a like an original

582
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 2: Kanye album right right, like this is maybe you didn't

583
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 2: want that anymore. Let's go Kendrick, Let's go Kenrick, right

584
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 2: like if you were like gifted like a like a

585
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,119
Speaker 2: like a record right of like an unreleased Kendrick right album,

586
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 2: right and it's worth like it's worth like twenty thousand dollars,

587
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: right all right? And then and then someone you're you're, you're,

588
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:04,560
Speaker 2: you're sister's kid comes over and record to prank saying

589
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 2: I'm going to destroy John's twenty thousand dollars sucker and

590
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 2: smashes it on the ground. Hmmm, what would you What

591
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 2: punishment do you think would would get through to this

592
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 2: kid that that is not okay to do.

593
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 3: I honestly, I don't know why I would do, but

594
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 3: here's what I think they should do. It's it seems

595
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 3: like I don't know how direct cleaning works, but I mean,

596
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 3: is it repairable?

597
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,400
Speaker 2: Like no, they said it isn't right, Oh, they said.

598
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 3: It okay, never mind, Okay, I don't know, like it's

599
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 3: not it doesn't. The thing I think here is it's

600
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 3: not like it for me that would be sentimental and

601
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 3: dollar value.

602
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 5: So like, this is something that I don't think she

603
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 5: really like.

604
00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:49,360
Speaker 2: Let's let's say let's say she cares. Okay, all right,

605
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 2: that's tough. I mean I think it's okay, man, that's hard. Well, Eric,

606
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 2: she has a car. I think repercussions for the.

607
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 3: Actions there needs to be repercus repercussions, Right, you sell

608
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,640
Speaker 3: the car and you uh and you give the money.

609
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 3: I don't know if I will go that far, but

610
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 3: I think I think you know what I would do

611
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 3: I'd be like, you're we're going to make sure she's

612
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 3: paying me like a few hundred dollars a month or

613
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 3: whatever for the rest of her life for a while. Yeah,

614
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,679
Speaker 3: I don't know, like something like that. She needs, like

615
00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 3: you know what, pay me, like give me a thousand

616
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:25,679
Speaker 3: or like she probably doesn't have a lot of her

617
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:29,360
Speaker 3: bank account, but like like let's let's figure out what

618
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 3: let's figure out what she has give let's take out

619
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 3: a large like down payment now to be like feel

620
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 3: the pain. And she's like young, so she'll hate that

621
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: and then make her pay like a monthly for like.

622
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 5: A long time. That's probably what I would do.

623
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 2: I would have her sell the car, honestly, but like

624
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: I think like she needs, Like I think that would

625
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: that's like something taken away that actually would affect you.

626
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 5: I mean it would it would affect her.

627
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 2: I think it would affect her, and it would make

628
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: her realize like she shouldn't do shit like this fair

629
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 2: fair Like I like, like, let's say the car is

630
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 2: like fifteen thousand, I guess it have to be actually

631
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 2: twenty thousand, or like say it's even like five thousand

632
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,959
Speaker 2: or six thousand, Like what's important is you lose is something.

633
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 2: But the thing is that probably will make life just

634
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 2: terrible for the sister because then she's gonna have to

635
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 2: drive her kid around everywhere.

636
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 3: Again true, but that's kind of like at this point,

637
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 3: it's your kid that yeah, that screwed up.

638
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 2: So am I the a hole for signing off a

639
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 2: professional email with Asalama Likum after my Christian coworker said,

640
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 2: God bless you. Okop, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel Daughter

641
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 2: and I'm John Fry and we tell the funniest stories

642
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 2: on the Internet. And John, I have something that involves

643
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 2: religion and emails. Not the Prince of Nigeria, not the

644
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 2: Prince of my just asking for a ten million gold dog. Gosh,

645
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 2: am I the a hole for signing off a professional

646
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 2: email with Asalama Likum after my Christian coworker said, God

647
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: bless you.

648
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:02,280
Speaker 5: That's kind of awesome.

649
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 2: Let's let's get it. I have worked at my current

650
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 2: job for almost three years. It's a smaller company with

651
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: less than one hundred employees scattered across a handful of

652
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 2: regional offices. Because I work with people in different offices

653
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 2: quite a bit, a lot of the communication is via email.

654
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 2: There's one person in particular, who I work with, who

655
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: has a habit of signing off on emails with God

656
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 2: Bless you. He will also find ways to put Bible

657
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 2: quotes and scripture into his emails, which I think is

658
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 2: rather inappropriate work.

659
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 3: God has anointed this electronic mail message for your in

660
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Speaker 3: books in peace.

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Speaker 2: Separation of work in state, right, they said, or churchin wait. No,

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Speaker 2: it should be church and work.

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Speaker 3: And work church work, separation work, church and work, church work.

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Speaker 2: I've never been a religious person, but I was raised

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Speaker 2: by Muslim parents and have nothing against it and believe

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Speaker 2: that people should have every right to practice their religion

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Speaker 2: as they see fit. But I also believe that religion

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Speaker 2: shouldn't be forced down anyone's throat, especially in the workplace,

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Speaker 2: which I agree with too, Like I like, I know

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Speaker 2: there's a lot of evangelization that you gotta do if

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Speaker 2: you're if you're religious, but like, you know, keep it.

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Speaker 5: There's a way to be respectful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a way to be like you don't say

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Speaker 2: I a work email with like, hey Jimmy, you got

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Speaker 2: those that that memo recently? And also like have you

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Speaker 2: gotten the word of Jesus Christ? Re ord and say

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Speaker 2: here yeah, did.

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Speaker 3: You Did you get my memo on that project and

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Speaker 3: the Word of Jesus Christ.

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Speaker 5: It's a good word, the gospel, the Gospel.

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Speaker 2: After about six months at my job, I brought it

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Speaker 2: up to my boss about my coworker's email habit. He said,

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Speaker 2: he's aware of it and doesn't agree with it either,

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Speaker 2: but it's a different office and the manager of that

685
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Speaker 2: office thinks it's okay, and I should just try to

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Speaker 2: ignore it. So that's what I did. I bit my

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00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 2: tongue and tried to ignore it for almost two years.

688
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 2: I ignored it until one day, let me guess, I snapped,

689
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Speaker 2: we know you read it. Until one day this particular

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Speaker 2: coworker added some scripture to an email he sent me

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Speaker 2: after I told him I was having a rough day,

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Speaker 2: and then I snap. I understand he was just trying

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00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 2: to be helpful in his own way, but it just

694
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 2: rubbed me the wrong way, and I didn't have patience

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00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 2: for it anymore. So I wrote him an email and

696
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 2: copied my boss and his office manager on it, explaining that, well,

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Speaker 2: I appreciate the sentiment, I would prefer if he refrained

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Speaker 2: from including any religious material in any and all future correspondence.

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Speaker 2: It was very professional, succinct into the point, but also

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00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 2: very clear on what I was trying to communicate. I

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Speaker 2: then signed off on the email with asal a salamala

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Speaker 2: assalama lakem bang. How's that for a God bless you

703
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:58,719
Speaker 2: the gospel? Hiyah yah. Not even ten minutes later, I

704
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 2: was called into my boss's off He asked me what

705
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 2: the hell I was doing mocking someone else's religion like that.

706
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:08,440
Speaker 2: I told him I wasn't mocking anything. I was simply

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Speaker 2: conveying to a coworker in writing that I would prefer

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Speaker 2: to keep religion out of future correspondence. He said that

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00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 2: it sure as hell seemed like I was mocking my

710
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Speaker 2: coworkers Christianity by using a Muslim saying in the email.

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Speaker 2: I asked him if he even knew what that phrase meant,

712
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Speaker 2: and he say he didn't, So I told him it

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00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 2: means peace be unto you. I told him, if he

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Speaker 2: thinks it's okay for someone to say God bless you

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Speaker 2: in every email, it should be okay for me to

716
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: say a malakum. It should be okay for me to

717
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 2: say as it should be okay for me to say

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Speaker 2: all malakum as well. He told me to leave his

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Speaker 2: office and get back to work. A couple of days later,

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Speaker 2: there was a company wide email put out by the

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Speaker 2: CEO outlining new email policies regarding religion, politics, and other

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Speaker 2: personal views. It very clearly d out that none of

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Speaker 2: that kind of personal viewpoints should be included in any

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Speaker 2: company email, no exceptions. Shortly after that email was sent out,

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Speaker 2: my Christian coworker sent me a text to my personal

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00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 2: phone that simply said, I hope you're a happy a hole,

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Speaker 2: which is not a very Christian thing with Jesus with

728
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Speaker 2: Jesus text, hope you're happy. Hey, no, Jesus wouldn't. Jesus

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Speaker 2: would say.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 2: But gosh darn that is uh you know, that's quite

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Speaker 2: the story. I don't think religion should ever be in

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Speaker 2: in a work email, But John, what do you think

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Speaker 2: the a hole I have?

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Speaker 3: So I have consulted someone who is a not a

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Speaker 3: white cis male sweet my partner is Muslim. So I

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Speaker 3: I saw the headline of the story and I messaged

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Speaker 3: her and basically, okay, there's a few things here, but

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Speaker 3: here's I'll start off with. I like comedy and that

740
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Speaker 3: shit is hilarious. I'm sorry, bro, like this is the

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Speaker 3: problem with like when you get to a company that's

742
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Speaker 3: like that large, because it's like they have to have

743
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Speaker 3: these bureaucracies and like whatever else. And to me, like

744
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 3: if someone showed me that, I'd be like, man, he

745
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 3: he clearly communicated this thing. He made a joke like

746
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 3: maybe it was you know, I don't know. To me,

747
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Speaker 3: it's funny.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's definitely funny. But I think people are

749
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Speaker 2: really touchy around religion and get they're touchy around religion.

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Speaker 2: And also you can see the different treatment of Christianity

751
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 2: and is Muslims or Islam. You can see the different

752
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 2: you can see the different treatment of Christianity and Islam

753
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 2: and how the company responds right exactly, like you can

754
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Speaker 2: be a Christian touting God Bless you for years and

755
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 2: then assumed.

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Speaker 3: One mention of Oslam lacam, the whole company is like

757
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Speaker 3: no more religion. Also, so additional context from my girlfriend.

758
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Speaker 3: So whereas like you know, God Bless you is pretty

759
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 3: like tied to God and religion, Asalama Lakam is not

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Speaker 3: necessarily tied to Islam.

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Speaker 2: It's it's Arabic language, It's it's Arabic.

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Speaker 3: So now it is generally speaking used in the context

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Speaker 3: of like with with Islam very often. Yeah, but there

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Speaker 3: are non Muslim Arab countries that still say that as

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00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 3: a or even like the shortening of there's like a

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00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 3: shortened version of Salam, which is kind of like like

767
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Speaker 3: what's good, bro, Like Salam's bro. So it's not only

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Speaker 3: is you know. First, I'm like, it's a funny joke,

769
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Speaker 3: like let's let it fly. I'm here for funny jokes.

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Speaker 3: Second of all, it's not and to your point, like

771
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Speaker 3: this guy is Christian all the time, this guy's it's

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00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 3: OSLAMI lakem once he gets slapped on the wrist. But

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00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: it's not necessarily always tied to the religion. So there's

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Speaker 3: like multiple layers here that all point to.

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00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,359
Speaker 5: Like let it, let it ride.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like agreed, agreed, but you know what you should

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00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 2: always let ride ooh slappin' slapping that follow and subscribe

778
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 2: it slap it join the community. We want to see

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00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 2: your ears and your face watching and listening every week

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00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 2: every day, So come over here. That's right, Let's give

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00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 2: you a snuggle.

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Speaker 5: And we'll see you next time. You'll be nice and warm,