Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to Reasonably Shady.
Speaker 1: I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up? What's up everyone? This
Speaker 1: is Robin Dixon. Thank you once again for being here. Yes,
Speaker 1: we are still rocking and rolling. I know, I know.
Speaker 1: And I just told Robin I would never get sick
Speaker 1: of her, and she just informed me she can't say
Speaker 1: the same. I just saidn't mind, just have to put
Speaker 1: her like on mute or pause. I mean, how rude
Speaker 1: is that? I know? I mean, because she's just sometimes
Speaker 1: it's a lot. I can't. I can't be a lot sometimes.
Speaker 1: I understand that. And Robin gets a lot of me. Okay,
Speaker 1: she really really does. Even my kids be like my
Speaker 1: team too much from you anyway, moving on, UM, we
Speaker 1: would like to talk about our reasonably Shady moment of
Speaker 1: the week. Do you have one? Yeah? Okay, okay, you
Speaker 1: go for um okay, So this is gonna be a
Speaker 1: little tam I for the squeamish guys out here. You
Speaker 1: know where this is going. You know, my little friend,
Speaker 1: my period came and um, my shady moment goes to
Speaker 1: the tampon shortage that's going on in in this world? Like
Speaker 1: when you started, I did not know you were going there.
Speaker 1: There is a tampon shortage, is there really? Literally? Yes?
Speaker 1: Like okay, you can go in and get like the
Speaker 1: light and the regular, No, bitch, I need the ultras
Speaker 1: like I need like heavy duty. Yes, I need super
Speaker 1: Plus and Ultra and you cannot find them anywhere. Like
Speaker 1: next next time you go on the store, look at
Speaker 1: the shelves. They're bare, like the tampon Maxi pat shouts,
Speaker 1: they are so bare. There in my gym. There's plethora
Speaker 1: in my gym, but I don't want those. Those are
Speaker 1: probably like regularly and they don't help me. Yes, So
Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm over here like hoping that I'm not
Speaker 1: walking around with some um with a leakage. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: don't want to see any leakage either. So you need
Speaker 1: you need an Ultra? What do we have now regular?
Speaker 1: Right now? I was. I was able to, you know,
Speaker 1: scrounge up some superpluses, but I had to double it
Speaker 1: up with a Maxi pad just to like I never
Speaker 1: have to wear pads, but like I had to like
Speaker 1: put a pad on it. Okay, sorry guys, seeing too
Speaker 1: much for the guys. But yeah, but um, but seriously,
Speaker 1: they'n I go on Amazon to buy my ultra tampons. Nope?
Speaker 1: Really nope. Wow, yeah, there's a tampon shortage. There's a
Speaker 1: there's a and I heard that there was like a
Speaker 1: peanut butter shortage. Is that true? Really? Maybe I made
Speaker 1: that up? I made that up. Okay, there was a
Speaker 1: shortage of something that I needed and I can't remember
Speaker 1: what it was. I'm gonna remember in like twenty minutes.
Speaker 1: But anyway, let me give you my reasonably shady moment
Speaker 1: other week. So one is tampons, the other is we're
Speaker 1: back to talking about my trainer. Okay, his name is Tyrone.
Speaker 1: So Tyrone has informed me that, you know, my moments
Speaker 1: with him in the gym are just moments. But what
Speaker 1: he really wants me to do is adopt a lifestyle.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, of course, otherwise you're wasting your time, right,
Speaker 1: And so he has gotten me to eat salads, that's
Speaker 1: his what he wants me to do, like eat a
Speaker 1: salad every goddamn day with protein in it. Not necessarily
Speaker 1: he wants he's looking more for vegetables to be in
Speaker 1: my system. Okay, so you know, if you start eating
Speaker 1: salads all the time, you just want something else to eat?
Speaker 1: Is it's s boring? Yes, So I have decided, and
Speaker 1: I'm not going to tell Tyrone. So y'all don't tell
Speaker 1: him either. By the way, Tyrone is the shady moment.
Speaker 1: Tyrone is probably listening to Tyrone better not be listening
Speaker 1: to this part, because what I have to say is fine,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat my damn salads and cookies, and I
Speaker 1: have decided my new drink is nineteen forty two. So
Speaker 1: that is my diet salads, cookies, and nineteen forty two.
Speaker 1: So you know at this point, you're just wasting your
Speaker 1: money with Tyrone, right right? You know Tyrone is good
Speaker 1: for me, Yeah, but if you're going to eat cookies
Speaker 1: and drink, yeah, you're wasting your time. So from what
Speaker 1: I understand. From what I understand, nineteen forty two isn't
Speaker 1: a cove. I've done my research or basically somebody told
Speaker 1: me this, and it metabolizes in your system very differently
Speaker 1: than like a vodka or a wine or a gin. Okay,
Speaker 1: so it's it's basically no sugar in your body. That's
Speaker 1: how I metabolizes. Are you sure about that. No, it
Speaker 1: just makes you drunk, that's all. And you know sometimes
Speaker 1: you like to be drawn a little drunk, and drunk
Speaker 1: is good. Yes, So that's where I am. Tyrone, suck it, Okay,
Speaker 1: get over it the end. Luck with that special diet.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Okay, So we have we have some
Speaker 1: things to go over. Okay, first and foremost, they are
Speaker 1: canceling all of our black shows out here in the streets.
Speaker 1: I know, and I don't think I like it. Yes,
Speaker 1: I was actually quite so. Okay, there was there's a rumor,
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's confirmed or not at this time,
Speaker 1: um that The Real has been canceled or it's not
Speaker 1: being renewed, which really really that that kind of like
Speaker 1: bothered me and hurt me because I actually enjoy watching
Speaker 1: The Real. Absolutely. Those girls are fire and they're all
Speaker 1: very opinionated, and they're smart, and I just you know,
Speaker 1: you like to watch something and you feel like you
Speaker 1: could be sitting in a room with them and have
Speaker 1: fun with them exactly, and and they have a great dynamic.
Speaker 1: And so when there was a report that they were canceled,
Speaker 1: and then Lonnie Love said something where you know, hold
Speaker 1: hold your horses, not so fast, you know. There. They
Speaker 1: haven't anything yet, so I'm not quite sure where they
Speaker 1: are with it, but I'm hoping that they're not canceled
Speaker 1: because I think they are a great show. Um, and
Speaker 1: I'm hoping they figure out how to make it work. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and we we were on there, yes, and I and
Speaker 1: and I'm not even saying it's just because we were
Speaker 1: on there. Like I've I watched The Real, you know, religiously.
Speaker 1: If I'm at home and it's twelve o'clock, the Real
Speaker 1: is on my TV. So I'm hoping that they can
Speaker 1: find and make it work and keep the ladies on
Speaker 1: on because I don't know, I mean, I just when
Speaker 1: I think about daytime or you know, the TV in
Speaker 1: the morning, morning TV, daytime TV. Um, I feel like
Speaker 1: they represent us the most for sure. I love you know,
Speaker 1: people had commentary about Garcel being added to the group,
Speaker 1: but I thought she has brought like a great mixed
Speaker 1: to them. Um. I love some Adrian Bellion. Is that
Speaker 1: how you say her last name? By Alon? Bylon Bellion? Okay,
Speaker 1: I love Adrian and Jennie. You know, we've seen Jennie
Speaker 1: say she'd never get married again. To get married, I
Speaker 1: don't want any kids. So now she has a child,
Speaker 1: like we've seen the growth of Jane. Yeah, absolutely, yes, absolutely,
Speaker 1: so you know, so we we are asking the reel
Speaker 1: to remain on. I don't know if that's going to help.
Speaker 1: But also Nick Cannon, sir, he didn't last long out
Speaker 1: here in the streets. He did it, and I thought
Speaker 1: he was gonna I really thought that he was at
Speaker 1: least going to make it past one season because I
Speaker 1: actually I don't watch his show all the time, but
Speaker 1: I find it to be lighthearted. Yes, and you know
Speaker 1: when I do watch it, I enjoy it. But you know,
Speaker 1: I think it's just rough out of here to make
Speaker 1: these daytime talk shows. Yes, I think it. You know,
Speaker 1: they're looking for a certain number as it relates to ratings.
Speaker 1: It's all ratings driven. Um. I do think Nick's pants
Speaker 1: might have been a little too tight. He just was
Speaker 1: you know, when he was sitting down, he was always
Speaker 1: standing up. Then he was sitting down standing. No his fans. Now,
Speaker 1: I like Nick, and to be honest with you, I
Speaker 1: was feeling like, you know, his hope. Remember he had
Speaker 1: like a panel of men. That's something that we don't
Speaker 1: see on television, especially like daytime television men, a bunch
Speaker 1: of men giving their opinion on things. I enjoyed that.
Speaker 1: So I wonder if the men aren't really driving things,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, because if you think about it,
Speaker 1: there really aren't what other male talk shows are there
Speaker 1: out there right now, like none, none really, So it's
Speaker 1: like maybe the men just don't drive the day time
Speaker 1: TV stuff. And so maybe they thought Nick was going
Speaker 1: to bring enough of like the female audience, um, which
Speaker 1: I think he does, but um, I was, you know,
Speaker 1: disappointed to hear that for him. But you know, he's
Speaker 1: going to be okay because we know that he has
Speaker 1: so many different you know, businesses and things that he
Speaker 1: has going on and jobs, and so he's fine. We're
Speaker 1: gonna tell you to see him on our TV. Nick's
Speaker 1: show was his side hustle. Right, He's probably relieved, you
Speaker 1: know what. They might have canceled it because he was
Speaker 1: probably like, I'm bad it is. Let me let me
Speaker 1: do something else. Let me let's not feel sorry for
Speaker 1: Nick Cannon because he no, no, we're not feeling, not
Speaker 1: feeling wants a better thing. Okay. So, Robin, I think
Speaker 1: Apple or somebody just dropped Apple just dropped a bunch
Speaker 1: of new emojis. Oh, I know, have you seen them?
Speaker 1: So I have. I haven't seen all of them, but
Speaker 1: I'm I'm enjoying the ones that I've seen. Okay, first
Speaker 1: and foremost, do you like emojis? Because emojis have been
Speaker 1: around forever and people some people use them all the time,
Speaker 1: so people don't use them right, So I remember when
Speaker 1: they kind of like first came out, I was like,
Speaker 1: what the hell is it? Like I was confused, like
Speaker 1: what is this? And why? You know, it's just like
Speaker 1: why do we need this? But now it's like, yes,
Speaker 1: I definitely text with emojis. Um, you know, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't like overdo it, but you know, and then
Speaker 1: of course you have like your your go to one. Yes, Um,
Speaker 1: I like the ones holding you're looking at something. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like that, I pulled it up but y'all can't
Speaker 1: see it. But but we will describe to you the
Speaker 1: emojis that we like kind of love. I like the
Speaker 1: ones with the finger pointing at you, Like, I think
Speaker 1: that's kind of like a three When when would you
Speaker 1: use that? Like what what would be? What would you
Speaker 1: be saying? Like not it? Like you know what I'm
Speaker 1: saying like you're it. Yeah, okay, I like that, Like
Speaker 1: who's who's going to go to the grocery store? You okay,
Speaker 1: I'm feeling that. By the way, you know, we we
Speaker 1: are Potoma Girls and our emoji is the it's like
Speaker 1: a pink it looks like a cherry blossom flower. So
Speaker 1: that's like quintessential to the Real Housewives of Tone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: definitely use that, so we use that. I like the one, Um,
Speaker 1: it's like the face. It's a face, he's covering the face,
Speaker 1: but like what look peeking through with the you know,
Speaker 1: peeking through like a peek a boo eye, like a
Speaker 1: pickle boo eye. Yeah. I like that, And that's kind
Speaker 1: of like, you know, like watching a train wreck type thing.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes, yes, yes, you're watching the train Wreck.
Speaker 1: I like, Um, okay, there's some that's like a white
Speaker 1: hand and a black hand and they're shaking hands. I
Speaker 1: don't know when I would use that. I mean, I
Speaker 1: feel like that requires too much thought, Like you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, so you would use that when
Speaker 1: you're talking to a white person and you're happy about
Speaker 1: what they said, and you would then I guess I'm
Speaker 1: coming I guess it's okay, Like if you're like, all right,
Speaker 1: so if you had a friend, and if you had
Speaker 1: a white friend, and y'all were making plans on where
Speaker 1: to eat for dinner, and then y'all y'all come to
Speaker 1: your yes deal, right, so you're like, all right, deal.
Speaker 1: So then you got your shaking hands with your light
Speaker 1: skin hands and her and her white hand. Do they
Speaker 1: have a light skin hand in the white hand? Yeah?
Speaker 1: They do. There you go like this one, this would
Speaker 1: be good, okay. And then there's a bunch of it's
Speaker 1: like so many, so many, And then there's I guess
Speaker 1: because of little nas X, there's a bunch of men
Speaker 1: that are pregnant, pregnant man, pregnant man. Very interesting. Um,
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to figure out when when would you
Speaker 1: send that one? I don't, I don't know, okay, alright,
Speaker 1: moving on, I do like, okay, so there's there's three
Speaker 1: kidney beans. What is that for? That are together? Can
Speaker 1: be used for several different things, really, like you can
Speaker 1: send it to a guy and be like, so does
Speaker 1: this look familiar? Like if you haven't had sex with
Speaker 1: him and you want to know if his stuff is
Speaker 1: the size of a kidney beans, so would send it
Speaker 1: to him and you would know an advance. Really he's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, yes, that would just like me. No,
Speaker 1: he should send you back an eggplan and that would
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, this is gonna be it's gonna be good.
Speaker 1: But if he's like, yeah, I like kidney beans, you
Speaker 1: know it's gonna be. There any other reason we need
Speaker 1: the kidney beans. No, there's no other reason. Um, there's
Speaker 1: there's someone were so random, like the slide like this,
Speaker 1: like the ladder with the like a sliding board going
Speaker 1: into the pool or even just a playground like makes
Speaker 1: no sense to me. Um, the biting lip that's sexy?
Speaker 1: Which one is? Oh this one? Yeah? Oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: gotta send that one out. Okay, I do like because
Speaker 1: me and so for just f y mean Grace. Like
Speaker 1: if I see if we're at church, mean Grace and
Speaker 1: she's like not sitting near me and I look at her,
Speaker 1: She'll give me like half of a heart and then
Speaker 1: I'll give her the other half. Very cute, I know.
Speaker 1: So I like the hands, the hands that form a heart. Yes,
Speaker 1: very cute. I'm gonna be sitting those out. Okay, So
Speaker 1: so apple te gud so I I wish. Okay, so
Speaker 1: for me, um, you know, I'm in a sorority. I'm
Speaker 1: a Delta and our animal is an elephant. They don't
Speaker 1: have elephant. They have an elephant, but the elephant, the
Speaker 1: elephants trunk needs to be facing up like for it
Speaker 1: to be like, we want our trunk to be up.
Speaker 1: So I hate that I have to use this elephant
Speaker 1: with the trunk down and curled under because we only
Speaker 1: want the elephant trunk to be up. And I wish
Speaker 1: I could somehow just ask them to revise it and
Speaker 1: give me an elephant trunk facing for the for the Deltas. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: well I feel like i'm doing like I'm I'm violating
Speaker 1: some sort of like sorority code when I use this
Speaker 1: elephant of big and it's trunk is not up, so
Speaker 1: they have no choice. Okay, but y'all have y'all also
Speaker 1: do the pyramid? Right? Yeah? So is there like there's
Speaker 1: a red triangle the red triangle? Okay, so I'll use
Speaker 1: that sometimes, but I like the elephant. Okay, I'm here
Speaker 1: for you. Now. Can we talk about Tyler the Creator? Why?
Speaker 1: Because okay, first of all, my children, Tyler the creator.
Speaker 1: I think is very creative. I don't know the record.
Speaker 1: I don't have no idea who this person is. Really.
Speaker 1: He's extremely popular with the young folks. Okay, but why, Like,
Speaker 1: what does he do? He has music? He's yes, he's
Speaker 1: a he's a rapper. He's got a clothing line, golf
Speaker 1: clothing line, Jenny's, which is an ice cream store. Every
Speaker 1: summer they give him his own flavor, okay, which you
Speaker 1: know is small potatoes in comparison to his world. He
Speaker 1: is best friends with Jaden Smith. Okay, not that that
Speaker 1: matters either. I mean he's he's just a creative dude. Okay,
Speaker 1: google him. By the way, I want to talk about him,
Speaker 1: not because he's till of the creative, but because of
Speaker 1: what he said, because it resonated with me. Because he's
Speaker 1: about to go on tour. Right, So he put out
Speaker 1: a tweet to the world and it says something like this, Yo,
Speaker 1: if someone invites you to a show, don't effing be like,
Speaker 1: can I get five passes? No is the answer. Okay,
Speaker 1: come with your one guest and show some fin respect.
Speaker 1: Don't e and ask for a family amount of tickets.
Speaker 1: And you think this is a charity who raised you.
Speaker 1: People know you're ef in place. You ain't special. Somebody
Speaker 1: pissed him off, somebody made him real mad. But guess
Speaker 1: what this I feel is an anthem. Anytime we have
Speaker 1: a party or an event, a social gathering, there's always
Speaker 1: that one right that brings the whole cruel crew. Leave
Speaker 1: your crew on home. Your crew is not invited, Okay,
Speaker 1: leave them something called home. But do you know what
Speaker 1: closed mouths don't get fed. Right, So if the answer
Speaker 1: is no, then fine, I would be embarrassed to even ask.
Speaker 1: But I be like, yo, Okay, I told my friends
Speaker 1: I was going, and now everybody want to go. You
Speaker 1: got can? I can so and so and so and okay,
Speaker 1: But his show is just like the callous for this conversation.
Speaker 1: The conversation is, aren't you tired of people feeling like
Speaker 1: they can bring Lottie Dotty and everybody. No, Lottie Dotty
Speaker 1: and everybody first of all don't know how to act,
Speaker 1: and not feeding them. I don't want them around. Well,
Speaker 1: I think, okay, see that's where we differ, right, that's
Speaker 1: where we differ. I just feel like it doesn't hurt
Speaker 1: to ask, right number one. Number two, The more the
Speaker 1: merrier depending on the scenario. It depends on what it is.
Speaker 1: Like if okay, if it's a birthday dinner and I'm
Speaker 1: paying for everyone, you know, and I bring in the
Speaker 1: whole crew. But if it's like a birthday party and
Speaker 1: it's you know, it's gonna be fifty people, they're already, Well,
Speaker 1: what difference is fifty five? Mate? No? Them five need
Speaker 1: to stay at home. And I don't like when people
Speaker 1: feel like I don't know your friends and just because
Speaker 1: your friends are friends with you does not mean their
Speaker 1: friends with me. Well, right, I mean that's true. It's
Speaker 1: just I mean, I feel like it's it just depends
Speaker 1: on the scenario. It doesn't hurt to ask, So like
Speaker 1: if he says no, then okay, all right, I'm coming
Speaker 1: by myself right now, I'm coming, right, Yes, I'm coming.
Speaker 1: But how many? But I've I've been. There's been so
Speaker 1: many scenarios in which I could have been, like, yo,
Speaker 1: can I bring three more people or five more people
Speaker 1: or eight more people? I would never do that, I mean, right,
Speaker 1: And who wants to roll that deep? Anyway? Yes? And
Speaker 1: if you got to be a response, and then y'all
Speaker 1: have to coordinate, y'all got to wear matching socks. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's just gets to be too much. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I personally just don't want to
Speaker 1: roll that deep because that's just it's just too much.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, pick your one or two. I mean some
Speaker 1: times you might want to bring it a second person, right,
Speaker 1: you know, no, not really just one. No, like we okay,
Speaker 1: for instance, like me and Robin we roll deep, we
Speaker 1: gotta squeeze Carly and sometimes and you know, sometimes we
Speaker 1: don't want to, like, well, we gotta squeeze her in.
Speaker 1: So it's like I guess we we are at fault too.
Speaker 1: There you go, there you go. We gotta you know,
Speaker 1: we ain't hurt no body. No, we didn't, but you know,
Speaker 1: cheeze Louise. But somebody pissed them off right before then.
Speaker 1: But you know what, it's funny. It reminds me of
Speaker 1: like when Sean was playing in the n b A
Speaker 1: and you know, people would be like, hey, can I
Speaker 1: get tickets? And I'm like, uh, the box office is
Speaker 1: not closed, right, the box office is open opens that eight.
Speaker 1: You're a ticket, go by it. It's just like it
Speaker 1: would it would just be like I don't know, I
Speaker 1: mean certain scenarios, yeah, because maybe they're sold out and
Speaker 1: you know, you only have you know, all the players
Speaker 1: get their four tickets, so it doesn't hurt to ask.
Speaker 1: But then sometimes it's just like when you know the
Speaker 1: games aren't sold out, you know what I mean, when
Speaker 1: it's like okay, and and if it's like a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of people trying to come, somebody needs are just yes.
Speaker 1: Now I can't say that I have done this speaking
Speaker 1: of tickets. Um for instance, like Erica's has been Kevin,
Speaker 1: he has access to tickets. So I'll say, look, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna pay for my tickets, but I just wanted two
Speaker 1: good seats right at your price? Right? Yeah? Well no, no,
Speaker 1: well yeah, but I mean I don't I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't mind spending my money, but I would never be like, yo,
Speaker 1: you know my people want to roll through. Well yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: not cool. Okay, this this is this is kind of
Speaker 1: off topic really quickly, but I want to read this
Speaker 1: because it's kind of actually happened to me. So a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago, we Um talked about people and
Speaker 1: how they knew that the person that they were dealing
Speaker 1: with was not the one. Okay, So this one one woman,
Speaker 1: Megan Thomas, she wrote in and she said he was
Speaker 1: gone one weekend for a quote family reunion. Then he
Speaker 1: came back and told me so nonchalantly that he got
Speaker 1: engaged and wanted to show me the damn ring. Why
Speaker 1: so your boo goes away for our family reunion, he
Speaker 1: comes back and he's engaged. What Okay, there's like a
Speaker 1: whole big part of this story that we're missing. That's
Speaker 1: all she gave us. That's all she gave us. But
Speaker 1: I can say that Gizelle was dating this dude casually,
Speaker 1: right casually, And let's say I was. I was with
Speaker 1: him on a particular weekend. Ten days later he was
Speaker 1: engaged really to someone else. He told you this when
Speaker 1: you found out, like through the news or something. I
Speaker 1: found announcement. I found out, but it wasn't I wasn't mad,
Speaker 1: Like I mean, I would have never married this dude.
Speaker 1: Like we were just kicking it. But like he could
Speaker 1: have said something right, But at that so at the
Speaker 1: time your cash really dating him, you had no clue
Speaker 1: that that was that he was even in a relationship. No, wow,
Speaker 1: I knew that. The So the girl that he ended
Speaker 1: up marrying I knew that they had dated prior, like
Speaker 1: a long time ago. I didn't know they're back together
Speaker 1: and he Ba hall Ring, Oh my god, crazy. Did
Speaker 1: you talk to him after you found out? I did
Speaker 1: with I mean, I wished him well. I was like congratulations.
Speaker 1: I didn't even it was all it's like nothing at
Speaker 1: no point and even like getting mad, because I wasn't
Speaker 1: even mad. The only part that I was kind of
Speaker 1: like whoa. It was like you, I was just what
Speaker 1: you do? You could have told me this, but then
Speaker 1: maybe maybe you were like the last hurrah, I think so,
Speaker 1: which has happened to me four times? Okay, by the way, okay,
Speaker 1: there's four dudes that came back around like, yo, I'm
Speaker 1: about to get married, and I was just wonder if
Speaker 1: we could, like, you know, spend some time together before
Speaker 1: I get married. I promise you four times about to
Speaker 1: get married, not about to get engaged, about to get married,
Speaker 1: like the wedding was like you know, the next weekend,
Speaker 1: and what was your answer? I I cannot tell that
Speaker 1: on this podcast because it depends on how it was
Speaker 1: when we would have got you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: you know, it depends on if it was an eggplant
Speaker 1: or Okay, So that means the answer was not no.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, but guess what I think, get married,
Speaker 1: you off limits. I say you are single until you
Speaker 1: get married. Okay, anyway, moving on to you. Don't you
Speaker 1: don't feel bad about being like somebody's like scraps? Well no,
Speaker 1: because I look at it like maybe I wanted to
Speaker 1: see you one more time before or off the market. Yes,
Speaker 1: and I really wasn't was our side piece at the time.
Speaker 1: I guess for that night. Maybe. Okay, we're changing the subject.
Speaker 1: This is terrible. This is back in my twenties. Okay, okay, fine,
Speaker 1: it was last week anyway, going on so weeks ago,
Speaker 1: we talked about um, God bless her soul, Chestlee Chris,
Speaker 1: who committed suicide. She's just abuse beautiful specimen, a beautiful
Speaker 1: human being. Everything that we saw publicly right just she
Speaker 1: was like a court Um, what do you call those people?
Speaker 1: Queen responded, she was a correspondent, she was she was
Speaker 1: a pageant queen, and she just seemed like like so lighthearted, beautiful,
Speaker 1: beautiful spirit, always positive, and then she committed suicide. So
Speaker 1: we were asking you guys to give us your stories
Speaker 1: and your thoughts on depression and maybe even give us
Speaker 1: some tools that we can help provide so that this
Speaker 1: does not happen again. And and I want to forewarn
Speaker 1: I guess this is a trigger warning for some. So
Speaker 1: if this is a topic that you know is very
Speaker 1: delicate for you, this is a trigger warning, and you
Speaker 1: can turn off. But I hope everyone listens, and um,
Speaker 1: here's listens to people's stories and listens to ways to
Speaker 1: be supportive of others who are who are in this
Speaker 1: situation and how to overcome. I'm not going to give
Speaker 1: the person I'm gonna read a story. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: give the person's name just for her anonymity, but she says, Hi,
Speaker 1: Robin and Giselle, I wanted to share my depression story
Speaker 1: that almost led to suicide. I had severe depression as
Speaker 1: a team due to bullying both at school and at home.
Speaker 1: I felt like there was no release or safe space,
Speaker 1: and having no release, I began cutting. I tried to
Speaker 1: find a release in writing poetry, but my mother took
Speaker 1: that and used it against me with my therapist and
Speaker 1: repeatedly told me I was crazy. Then I began cutting
Speaker 1: deeper and more frequently, and ultimately decided there was no
Speaker 1: way out, so I cut my face, my wrists, and stomach,
Speaker 1: and then locked myself in the bathroom, hoping I could
Speaker 1: die in peace. Thankfully, thankfully, my mother found me passed out,
Speaker 1: and I was taken to the emergency room and did
Speaker 1: a two week stint in the psych ward. During this time,
Speaker 1: all I was looking for was someone to love me,
Speaker 1: someone to tell me just because was different or bigger,
Speaker 1: that I wasn't fat, I wasn't ugly. I was exactly
Speaker 1: as God intended me to be. When you're depressed, reassurance
Speaker 1: and praise go a long way. Oftentimes, depressed people don't
Speaker 1: want to talk about what they are going through because
Speaker 1: they don't want to burden others. I felt that exact way,
Speaker 1: and I still do, and I'm thankful that I was
Speaker 1: able to grow past oppression and get to a place
Speaker 1: where I truly believe I am awesome. And then she
Speaker 1: says that she thinks that it's great that Rob and
Speaker 1: I are using our platform to talk about this. Um,
Speaker 1: this is actually a great story because she got to
Speaker 1: the other side right and um, you know, it sounds
Speaker 1: like in her story she didn't have the support. You know,
Speaker 1: she mentioned her mother, she didn't really have she wasn't
Speaker 1: getting the love that she needed maybe from her mother,
Speaker 1: or her mother wasn't taking her needs seriously. And we're
Speaker 1: no expert here and now you know, so we're just
Speaker 1: trying to talk through. But UM, I just think anyone
Speaker 1: just sharing, just giving love to anyone around you is
Speaker 1: so important. And I think people don't realize how important
Speaker 1: it is for people to feel loved and to feel
Speaker 1: acknowledged and listen and heard and recognized. And so you know,
Speaker 1: just as you are in your daily lives with your
Speaker 1: family and your friends, UM, make sure the people are
Speaker 1: around you who spend their time with you know that
Speaker 1: you love them and that you care for them. UM.
Speaker 1: And you just never know how how much of a
Speaker 1: world of a difference you can make for them. UM.
Speaker 1: I want to offer some resources as we read these, UM,
Speaker 1: just for people to look up. UM website this the
Speaker 1: American Association of Suicideology that's www Dot suicide Alogy dot org.
Speaker 1: The American Foundation of Suicide Prevention that's www Dot a
Speaker 1: f SP dot org. UM, and we're going to read
Speaker 1: another one and offer some more resources. UM. Hey, Robin
Speaker 1: and Gisel. First off, I want to say, I love
Speaker 1: your podcast and I love the two of you. You
Speaker 1: guys are such a beautiful example of female friendship and
Speaker 1: it's so freaking refreshing. I feel like I'm hanging out
Speaker 1: with my girlfriends when I listen to your show. Thanks
Speaker 1: for being hilarious and inspiring. Um, thank you for that.
Speaker 1: On a more serious note, I wanted to reply to
Speaker 1: your question in the last episode regarding depression, suicide, and
Speaker 1: self harm. I've struggled with depression for about twelve years now,
Speaker 1: been on antidepressants for most of that time, and although
Speaker 1: I'm happy to say that I'm doing very well most
Speaker 1: of the time, I still get hit with bouts of
Speaker 1: it now and again. My grandfather committed suicide before I
Speaker 1: was born, so it's always been something my family has
Speaker 1: discussed openly, which I really appreciate. I learned from a
Speaker 1: young age that people who commit suicide are not bad
Speaker 1: people or have something to hide. They are just hurting
Speaker 1: and tired. I've never attempted suicide, thankfully, but I've definitely
Speaker 1: gone through times where I considered it. On those days,
Speaker 1: the world feel so dark. It's like a cloud that
Speaker 1: hangs over you that you can't see your way through,
Speaker 1: no matter what anyone else says, no matter what you
Speaker 1: know to be true. For me, it's like the hurt
Speaker 1: and darkness is so deep that you just wanted to end,
Speaker 1: Like you've just got to escape it, and you can't
Speaker 1: see any other way. When I was younger, I used
Speaker 1: to deal with that pain by cutting. Somehow it felt
Speaker 1: like I could transfer the emotional pain into physical pain,
Speaker 1: and that was somehow easier to bear. But I'm happy
Speaker 1: to say that I haven't cut one single time since
Speaker 1: two thousand eighteen. The letter goes on, but I wanted
Speaker 1: to pause and say, I think this is so important
Speaker 1: to hear um someone actually describing you know, what is
Speaker 1: going through their their mind or their thought process when
Speaker 1: they are considering suicide. UM. And just know, you know
Speaker 1: if you get to these places where it's dark and
Speaker 1: that you feel like a cloud is hanging over over you,
Speaker 1: that you can get through to it. UM. I want
Speaker 1: to continue with the letter. For me, the most importive
Speaker 1: thing that the people around me can do is to
Speaker 1: not judge and not and to not act scared of me.
Speaker 1: If I tell a friend that I've been struggling or
Speaker 1: had suicidal thoughts, It's important that they stay calm and
Speaker 1: talk it through with me. If they start hyperventilating and
Speaker 1: freaking out all over the place, I'm just not going
Speaker 1: to share it with them. In the situation will get worse.
Speaker 1: On the other hand, if a friend treats me like
Speaker 1: when I'm a normal human being who's having a hard time,
Speaker 1: I'll be much more apt to open up and actually
Speaker 1: be able to see away through that dark cloud. I
Speaker 1: also think it's really important that we don't judge people
Speaker 1: for taking medication that helps them stay balanced. The world
Speaker 1: is getting better about this, but I still get jabbed
Speaker 1: sometimes from friends saying things like, oh, I would never
Speaker 1: take pills, as though doing so somehow makes me lesser.
Speaker 1: It's basically saying I didn't try hard enough, which is
Speaker 1: a pretty shitty thing to say to a friend, even
Speaker 1: if they mean well. I'm also a huge fan of therapy,
Speaker 1: a yoga teacher, and I've tried every meditation practice under
Speaker 1: the sun, but those things alone weren't enough in my case.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just need medications anyway. Thank you for reading
Speaker 1: this novel of an answer. Thank you for using your
Speaker 1: platform to talk about these kinds of issues and help
Speaker 1: bring more understanding to people. It can be an uncomfortable
Speaker 1: topics are really come into both of you for taking on.
Speaker 1: Thanks for all you do. Yeah, I And we've talked
Speaker 1: about therapy on this show before and how important it
Speaker 1: is and how I'm happy that, Like now, I feel
Speaker 1: like culture and society has gotten to a place where
Speaker 1: it's not like a bad word, and it's not looked
Speaker 1: upon as like something that is not common. It's very common.
Speaker 1: The more people I talked to, the more people I meet,
Speaker 1: the more people I know are in therapy. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, it's so funny. I was. I was out
Speaker 1: to dinner the other day with um. It might have
Speaker 1: been seven of us at the table. Carly, So you
Speaker 1: and Carl went out and didn't invite me. It was
Speaker 1: like five other people there, and well, if we invited
Speaker 1: you and they would have been looking at us like
Speaker 1: how you want to invite another perfect thing? I could
Speaker 1: have been a plus one. Okay, okay, but anyway, Yes,
Speaker 1: So Carly and I went to school together, so we
Speaker 1: were there with our our friends from Maryland, our girlfriends
Speaker 1: from Maryland. So as we're like talking, everyone is going
Speaker 1: around the table talking about Well, when I talked to
Speaker 1: my therapist and when I really therapist. And I talked
Speaker 1: to my therapist and I literally asked the question, I'm like,
Speaker 1: so everybody here goes to therapy, and you were like,
Speaker 1: but I'm not a therapy, maybe I should be a therapy.
Speaker 1: It was like me and one other person and we
Speaker 1: were both like, soy in there. But but especially from
Speaker 1: everybody's says that's true, that's true. Yeah, So so it's
Speaker 1: really cool. I mean, I I do feel like the
Speaker 1: stigma of going to therapy and taking medication and all
Speaker 1: of that is slowly getting lifted. And you know, I
Speaker 1: think and I think it's just good to hear from
Speaker 1: um the recent letter I just read, like, you know,
Speaker 1: if someone expresses whatever it is that they're going to
Speaker 1: that as a friend, you just be a listening ear.
Speaker 1: Just don't judge, don't overreact, don't make it seem you know,
Speaker 1: you know, if you hear a friend of suicidal, you
Speaker 1: might want to panic, right, and but you got to
Speaker 1: figure out how to make how to not make the
Speaker 1: situation worse for them. And I have to say that
Speaker 1: I personally had to work on that. Like I would
Speaker 1: hear my girlfriend's problems, would hear how they're feeling and
Speaker 1: would be judgmental, right, and would like give a judgmental
Speaker 1: response as opposed to just shutting the hell up and
Speaker 1: just listening and being a friend, because you're probably coming
Speaker 1: from a point of how you know what you would
Speaker 1: do or how you would handle things, or you know,
Speaker 1: would you even be experiencing that, versus how can I help?
Speaker 1: How can I help? What can I do? And actually
Speaker 1: my kids have taught me. They didn't know they taught
Speaker 1: me this, but like sometimes they just want me to listen.
Speaker 1: There they are venting, they're going to hell off on
Speaker 1: just like their day, what happened, how they're feeling. And
Speaker 1: my kids are able to express their feelings a lot,
Speaker 1: whereas when I was their age, I could not express
Speaker 1: my feelings. I didn't have feelings. I didn't know what
Speaker 1: I still don't have feelings. But that's a whole another story.
Speaker 1: But all they want me to do, and I think
Speaker 1: one of them said, Mom, we just want you to listen.
Speaker 1: Like all they want me to do is listen and
Speaker 1: not be so quick about trying to because I'm all
Speaker 1: about like trying to find a solution and trying to
Speaker 1: find the best way to make make things better. Um,
Speaker 1: they don't. They don't. They don't. They don't want that.
Speaker 1: People don't necessarily want that. They just want you to
Speaker 1: know that they are supported and that you listen and
Speaker 1: that no matter what, you love them. So I've personally
Speaker 1: had to work on that on my side of it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's good. And I feel like I'm the same because
Speaker 1: I am. I am a very like tough, thick skinned person.
Speaker 1: And when I do have friends that are like going
Speaker 1: through stuff, you know, I kind of don't you staying like,
Speaker 1: well just ignore it, just keep it moving, Like why
Speaker 1: can't you just let it go? You know? But I
Speaker 1: have to say like, okay, well how can I help you,
Speaker 1: you know, get through this? Or um, you know what
Speaker 1: can I do for you? Or you know, what do
Speaker 1: you want me to say? You know what I mean,
Speaker 1: like what do you what do you want from me?
Speaker 1: Do you want me to listen? Do you want me
Speaker 1: to offer you what I would do? Do you want
Speaker 1: me to you know, maybe find someone for you to
Speaker 1: talk to? You know? So I think sometimes I think,
Speaker 1: but I think it's good. That's good Robin that you're asking,
Speaker 1: You're asking them what they need um as opposed to
Speaker 1: just jumping in and and and thinking that you know
Speaker 1: what they need. Yeah, because we can't assume that everyone
Speaker 1: is going to handle things the same way. Um So,
Speaker 1: another person emailed us UM some resources, a really good resource,
Speaker 1: another resource. Her name is Mara Wheeler and Mara UM
Speaker 1: I appreciate you. You know I do, because she posted
Speaker 1: something really nice about UM about us in the podcast.
Speaker 1: But Mara works for a nonprofit called Minding Your Mind
Speaker 1: and their website is minding your Mind dot org. Um
Speaker 1: It provides mental health education and suicide prevention training in schools, communities,
Speaker 1: and workplaces across the country. So they have a program
Speaker 1: called Changing Minds Story Over Stigma, where young adults who
Speaker 1: have lived through mental health crisis share their personal stories
Speaker 1: with an audience. So you can actually hear from, you know,
Speaker 1: people who are like um our listeners who have emailed
Speaker 1: in UM and they share their stories about their mental
Speaker 1: health challenges and challenges with suicide and everything. Um So,
Speaker 1: the goal is to start teaching kids as young as
Speaker 1: kindergarten how to talk about their emotions and to build resilience.
Speaker 1: Resilience that ends the stigma around being open and honest
Speaker 1: about mental health. Love that yes, so, she says, everyone
Speaker 1: talks about a broken bone, heart, disease, cancer, why don't
Speaker 1: they talk about other illnesses that you know, impact the
Speaker 1: brain and so important. So this is a great website
Speaker 1: to go to um and then she gives a very
Speaker 1: interesting stat about suicide. She says research has shown that
Speaker 1: of those who die from suicide have an undiagnosed or
Speaker 1: untreated mental health disorder. The CDC estimates that for every
Speaker 1: completed suicide, there are twenty five attempts when someone in
Speaker 1: crisis is identified and guide it to receive help. Eighty
Speaker 1: two of people that seek treatment for depression are treated
Speaker 1: successfully using therapy and or medication. So teaching people how
Speaker 1: to talk about their feelings and mental health saves lives.
Speaker 1: So that says to me, so the people are committing
Speaker 1: suicide haven't even been treated for depression, so they haven't
Speaker 1: even had a chance to even talk it through or
Speaker 1: to get on medication. And so you know, once again,
Speaker 1: it's like if you find yourself in that dark place
Speaker 1: and you don't know why, and that cloud is hanging
Speaker 1: over you, just pause and say, let me talk to somebody,
Speaker 1: because you could save your life, and you know, or
Speaker 1: hopefully someone can save your life by talking to you. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's really strong. So I want to play audio voice
Speaker 1: men with that. We received on mental health really quickly,
Speaker 1: but I think she just kind of hit the nail
Speaker 1: on the head. Yes, yes, the nail on the head
Speaker 1: at the tone. Please record your message. When you have
Speaker 1: finished recording, you may hang up or press one for
Speaker 1: more options. Hi Rovin, Hi Jazelle. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for addressing this important topic on your podcast. I love
Speaker 1: the show in the podcast and it definitely helped me
Speaker 1: to relieve a lot of stress in the past. Um,
Speaker 1: so thank you again. Just as background on myself on
Speaker 1: I am a wife and a mother. I was raised
Speaker 1: by my mother, who at the time had an undiagnosed
Speaker 1: mental illness, and they suffered some emotional movies there. I've
Speaker 1: suffered with depression and anxiety since I was a teenager,
Speaker 1: and I was diagnosed with postpartum depression right after I
Speaker 1: had my son, and that's when I began taking antidepressants
Speaker 1: and I've been taking them ever since. They helped me
Speaker 1: a lot. I know that not everyone wants to take medication,
Speaker 1: but they helped me a lot. My husband has just
Speaker 1: been diagnosed as bipolar. UM some things that helped me personally.
Speaker 1: I can't speak for everyone is taking my medication. I
Speaker 1: appreciate the reminders from my support system, including my husband,
Speaker 1: to take my medication at the proper time and to
Speaker 1: not forget it. Going to the gym and getting outside
Speaker 1: helps me a lot, and of course playing with my son.
Speaker 1: My son inspired me to go to therapy. I've been
Speaker 1: in therapy for six months, and to anyone who is
Speaker 1: nervous about starting medication or speaking with a doctor, I
Speaker 1: would definitely suggest seeing a therapist because talking about past trauma,
Speaker 1: past issues, current issues can really help to resolve some
Speaker 1: past issues might have and also has given me a
Speaker 1: lot of clarity of my current life. In the past
Speaker 1: six months of going to therapy, I have learned so
Speaker 1: much about myself and I've become a lot more confident
Speaker 1: and I am less depressed um overall, so I hope
Speaker 1: this helps. Thank you again for bringing awareness to this
Speaker 1: topic in our community. There's so much stigma and this
Speaker 1: is my true passion in life, is bringing mental health
Speaker 1: resources and education to those and underserved communities. Thank you again,
Speaker 1: have a good day. I love that. I love that
Speaker 1: she you know for a couple of things. One she
Speaker 1: talked about postpartum depression, which, by the way, I feel
Speaker 1: like I had after Grace and it was like confused,
Speaker 1: like what is wrong with me? And couldn't get out
Speaker 1: of it. Right. I just recently, Um, not to bring
Speaker 1: up the genders, but Kylie Jenner just said that you know,
Speaker 1: she's suffering. She's going through it way different from giving
Speaker 1: birth to her first job, right, and so that says
Speaker 1: like it doesn't matter who you are, how much money
Speaker 1: you have, where you come from, like the depression and
Speaker 1: does not escape people. And she she talked about the
Speaker 1: gym like that's actually the thing that I feel like
Speaker 1: helps me so much is the jam just like sometimes
Speaker 1: you just have to get out of your your headspace, yeah,
Speaker 1: to just release it, Yeah, and do whatever it is
Speaker 1: that that you know helps you to release that. I
Speaker 1: think it was great just to hear put like a voice,
Speaker 1: so you know, it's great to read the emails, but
Speaker 1: to like actually hear her voice. You can hear the
Speaker 1: vulnerability in her voice and hopefully for people listening it,
Speaker 1: you know, resonated with somebody. Just anything that we've said, Um,
Speaker 1: we're not experts here, We're just trying to you know,
Speaker 1: have a conversation and hopefully we've enlightened somebody and whether
Speaker 1: it's someone that is struggling or someone that is going
Speaker 1: is supportive of somebody that's struggling. But um, you know,
Speaker 1: let's just just try to be a little more gentler
Speaker 1: with each other. Now. I know you have eight tips,
Speaker 1: eight tips out here in these streets to boost self confidence. Yes,
Speaker 1: so we're gonna end on a on a motivational, yes,
Speaker 1: positive note. I came across this really great um Instagram
Speaker 1: page that offers all these types of like just great
Speaker 1: motivational thing, so I'll be sharing more. We I think
Speaker 1: we always leave on a positive note. You think so,
Speaker 1: I think so. I mean we try to, like you know,
Speaker 1: I'm sure most of the time we're laughing and joking
Speaker 1: about something, right, Yes, alright, So I have eight easy
Speaker 1: tricks to boost your confidence. One walk faster, throw your
Speaker 1: shoulders back, lift up your head, move ahead a little faster,
Speaker 1: and feel that self confidence grow. I think that's how
Speaker 1: I walk right now. Yeah you do? Okay, alright, So
Speaker 1: walk like Gisel. Yes, talk slowly. People who feel they
Speaker 1: aren't worthy of being listened to tend to talk quickly.
Speaker 1: So ensure that you aren't rushing. Okay. Now there's talking slowly,
Speaker 1: and then it's talking like my dad. Okay, my dad
Speaker 1: very slows, I mean gall So how are the girls? Okay?
Speaker 1: That drives me inside. No, I know, and I feel
Speaker 1: like that's how my parents are too. My mother takes
Speaker 1: forever to tell a story, like she has to tell you.
Speaker 1: So if the story is about the grocery store, like okay,
Speaker 1: I went to the grocery store and I bought grapes,
Speaker 1: she has to tell you that she first stopped at
Speaker 1: the red light and there was a homeless man and
Speaker 1: she gave him two dollars, and then, you know, and
Speaker 1: then she drove, you know, two blocks down the street
Speaker 1: and she saw a woman with a cute dress on.
Speaker 1: You know, Like she has to tell you, like the
Speaker 1: whole story, every little detail. And then I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, get to the point to the point where
Speaker 1: I feel like I communicate. I get for the most part,
Speaker 1: get like straight to the point. It's no like fluff.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, this is it? By what else?
Speaker 1: You like? I don't. I don't. I don't elaborate a
Speaker 1: ton on my stories that you use no adjectives, right, Okay,
Speaker 1: you straight to the point. Yeah, because my mom. Because
Speaker 1: I sit there and listen to my mom and I'm like,
Speaker 1: this cannot be Okay, it just can't. Okay, So talk slow,
Speaker 1: but not that slow exactly, all right. Three Accomplish small goals.
Speaker 1: Try making your bed in the morning. You will feel
Speaker 1: accomplished and that will pave the way for achieving bigger goals.
Speaker 1: So whether it's you know, making your bed or making
Speaker 1: breakfast or you know, just something that you don't normally do. Um,
Speaker 1: but just you know, instead of saying, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I got a solve world peace or whatever, like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's fine to have little small goals and feel that
Speaker 1: you accomplish something. And that goes also for like starting
Speaker 1: a business. Don't try to start the business all in
Speaker 1: one day. It's baby steps, okay. Yes, And my advice
Speaker 1: I always give this advice to business owners, like, don't
Speaker 1: expect to two tho dollars in your first day or
Speaker 1: in your first month. Just be happy with two hundred
Speaker 1: dollars in your first month and then make your next
Speaker 1: goal to be you know, so set small goals that
Speaker 1: you know can that you can feel accomplished by. Okay. Um.
Speaker 1: Number four dressed nicely. Yes, this may come across as cliche,
Speaker 1: but when you dressed nicely, you will most likely feel
Speaker 1: more confident. Yes, and ladies put some lip gloss on
Speaker 1: and you know, and I hate to say it because
Speaker 1: they hate them. But wearing heels, oh my god, that
Speaker 1: definitely does something. You can't tell me a thing. I
Speaker 1: got some heels on, something, my little strappy time forwards.
Speaker 1: You can't tell me nothing. But I hate wearing him.
Speaker 1: I know it's a situation. I digress really quickly. I
Speaker 1: had on some heels is when I was in Miami
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago. I had drinks too much, but
Speaker 1: I could walk to the bathroom with those heels on.
Speaker 1: And I, for the life of me, was asking God
Speaker 1: why he did that to us? I was like, why
Speaker 1: did you do this to the to the ways, Hey,
Speaker 1: why do we have to do that? Yeah, and it's
Speaker 1: so crazy. I feel like as I get older, if
Speaker 1: I drink anything, oh it's over, my feet are swelling
Speaker 1: up like instantly. Yeah, and you can't walk, But anyway,
Speaker 1: you take forever to get through these things. Number five,
Speaker 1: empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself in general is one
Speaker 1: of the best strategies for building confidence. Yes, so read books,
Speaker 1: read articles all that. My mother's number one saying, you
Speaker 1: know how your mother has like a media saying, she'd
Speaker 1: be like, knowledge is power to sell. Knowledge is power.
Speaker 1: And I used to hate that, and now I tell
Speaker 1: my kids knowledge power. I'll be like, O, study knowledge
Speaker 1: is power. Yes, but it's so true. It's so true.
Speaker 1: Be a front seater. Ever noticed in meetings how the
Speaker 1: back seats? Philip First, the reason is lack of confidence, really,
Speaker 1: or you don't know the answer, or you don't like
Speaker 1: if you're cool, you're sitting in the backcause you'll know
Speaker 1: the answer. I don't know, you don't do the homework.
Speaker 1: I mean I always like to sit in the back.
Speaker 1: I like to sit in the back of the bus.
Speaker 1: But like, like if I'm on a bus, was on
Speaker 1: a bus recently because we were on we were on
Speaker 1: Maryland's campus and we take on a shuttle bus from
Speaker 1: like one part of the campus to the other podcast
Speaker 1: and just instantly you get on and you just instantly
Speaker 1: go to the back of the bus. Or if I'm
Speaker 1: like like on a bus from like an airport shuttle,
Speaker 1: I just instantly walked all the way to the back,
Speaker 1: but in a classroom and seeing in a classroom, it's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going in the back because I'm going to sleep. Well,
Speaker 1: we know, we know how you graduated from the University
Speaker 1: of Maryland. That was episode I think anyway we're going
Speaker 1: but no, but I get it. Yes, if you're sitting
Speaker 1: in the front, you have no choice but to be alert,
Speaker 1: engage and confident. Yes, that is so true. Number seven
Speaker 1: practice making eye contact. Oh yes, yes, yes. Me and
Speaker 1: Robin look at each other's eyes all the time. Now
Speaker 1: I can say that when some he doesn't look me
Speaker 1: in the eye. Yeah. Yeah, it's weird. It's okay, it's
Speaker 1: it's what Carly, she's talking about our friend. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: y'all have okay, they have a single side joke hurt
Speaker 1: you know, Okay, we'll tell I'll tell you, Okay, you
Speaker 1: go tell me now. No, okay, okay, So I had
Speaker 1: there's another. Um. If I'm out and a woman doesn't
Speaker 1: like look at me in my eye and I'm like
Speaker 1: saying something, I always feel like you up to something. Really,
Speaker 1: I just i'm you're sleeping with somebody's man. I'll convince
Speaker 1: any woman that does won't look you and I they're
Speaker 1: sleeping with somebody's eyes. I mean it could be or
Speaker 1: they could just lack confidence. Okay, they could just lack
Speaker 1: confidence okay, or they're like ashamed because they know what
Speaker 1: they did a week ago to your husband, or because
Speaker 1: they're thinking about what they want to do. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: that that could be in too, Okay, all right, yes,
Speaker 1: But and even due weak handshakes, yeah, we can the worst.
Speaker 1: And dudes that like, I like talk to you and
Speaker 1: they like don't really look you in the eye because
Speaker 1: and then they're like, oh yeah, as it's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: I just have a hard time staring into them. Boy,
Speaker 1: you're the worst. Get out of here. Why how did
Speaker 1: how did this this list? Let's start? Okay, anyway, what's
Speaker 1: the last on one? Robert? Okay, practice speaking up at
Speaker 1: every meeting. When you're in a meeting, speak, comment, make
Speaker 1: a suggestion, ask a question. Okay, I don't I don't
Speaker 1: agree with this. You don't know. I let me tell
Speaker 1: you why. And we know this from the meetings that
Speaker 1: we have to do that. A lot of times people
Speaker 1: feel that way, so they phrase their hand, they say
Speaker 1: dumb shit, and you're just wasting everybody's time. But you're
Speaker 1: dumb ship Well, okay, don't speak up and say dumb
Speaker 1: shit like but they think, oh, I've got to say something,
Speaker 1: so and I'm gonna speak like this because the person
Speaker 1: I'm referring to talks like this. She's very grand and
Speaker 1: she'll say something and it's like we didn't need that, Karen.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's like, you know, sometimes just say nothing. No,
Speaker 1: I mean that's true, that's true. Yeah, I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm definitely of the type that's I speak when it's necessary,
Speaker 1: like I'm not talking just to be talking, and don't
Speaker 1: ask dumb questions. But but don't be intimidated to speak
Speaker 1: up in a meeting or presentation or you know whatever.
Speaker 1: Just you know, if you have something that's constructive to
Speaker 1: add to the conversation, yes, speak up. Yes, okay, this
Speaker 1: was good. This was good stuff. We helped Actually, all
Speaker 1: jokes aside. We hope we helped at least one person. Um,
Speaker 1: don't forget if you are feeling dark, if you are blue,
Speaker 1: don't think that you can't reach out to somebody to
Speaker 1: ask for help. Therapy is a great thing. Try to
Speaker 1: find an outlet and just know that tomorrow will be
Speaker 1: better than the day that you're in. Yes, absolutely, all right,
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, I think I think you did that well,
Speaker 1: I did that well. Thank you, thank you ing because
Speaker 1: because at the beginning of this episode she was ready
Speaker 1: to get rid of me, So thank you, Robert. Anyway,
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