Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.
Speaker 2: Well, our little kit Kat is back with us this week. Okay,
Speaker 2: we missed you. I got to play Catherine. I had
Speaker 2: supposing question have to download the episode. Give us a download, girlfriend.
Speaker 3: I will because especially if you played me, I can't wait.
Speaker 2: Nervous.
Speaker 3: No, I think she would do a great me.
Speaker 2: Thank you. I actually said, I was like, I feel
Speaker 2: like you're most capable of being Cat. I was like,
Speaker 2: I have no Cat for so long. I was like,
Speaker 2: I can do this.
Speaker 1: W WKD wait, don't even tell me. I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to go listen and see what you did.
Speaker 2: It was fun, but we're glad to have you back. Thanks.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's been a minute since it's been
Speaker 2: us three. I know it feels like that for some reason. Yeah, far,
Speaker 2: but I don't know why. Well, we just missed you deeply.
Speaker 3: You're not here, thanks, guys.
Speaker 2: I I mean, I really don't have anything to uh
Speaker 2: to talk about. Wow, I know hei, guys, I do, yes, score.
Speaker 4: I might.
Speaker 2: This morning, I had my first consultation for a breastlet.
Speaker 2: It was really really wonderful, right, and I haven't made
Speaker 2: any plans, but I just really enjoyed the doctor. I
Speaker 2: felt like he was very disarming. It was so calm.
Speaker 2: The nurse also had had a lift, and so she
Speaker 2: talked to me, did she show you her boobscause people
Speaker 2: boobs like, I'm like, you want to see it? But
Speaker 2: it was just wonderful, like no pressure to implant. He
Speaker 2: was like, we can absolutely, you know, give you back some.
Speaker 2: I essentially just don't have a torso. So he just
Speaker 2: was wonderful. And I'm really excited that I did. I
Speaker 2: have rescheduled it three times because of conflicts, and I
Speaker 2: almost didn't want to go this morning because the Nashville
Speaker 2: traffic took me an hour. But I did it. That's awesome. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and stay tuned. They said, recovery is pretty easy. Preston's like,
Speaker 2: we don't need to mess with these these are They're
Speaker 2: perfect just the way they are. You said, you tell
Speaker 2: that doctor, we don't even need him. I was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: calm down, that's sweet though, love it. I know that's
Speaker 2: what the nurse did for you. She said, you you're
Speaker 2: going it's going to be so crazy. You're going to
Speaker 2: wish you did it earlier. I know someone that just
Speaker 2: did a lift as well. Without putting an implant in
Speaker 2: and she's obsessed with it. I need to know. Do
Speaker 2: I know this person? Yes, I don't know if she's
Speaker 2: publicly shared so, but yes, yeah, okay, And they just
Speaker 2: I want to know experience so much better, and I
Speaker 2: think there is some like recovery. I think with an
Speaker 2: implant might be different. I don't know, but they still
Speaker 2: wasn't no more difficult? Okay, implants are more difficult to
Speaker 2: recover from. Okay, So is.
Speaker 1: It like you decide if it's an implant as well?
Speaker 3: Do they decide like, hey, it's needed, wouldn't He said,
Speaker 3: I don't need you just don't need to.
Speaker 2: And are you going to do fat transfer or just
Speaker 2: a straight up lift? Just a lift? If I if
Speaker 2: I do it, it would be so the right guy
Speaker 2: is much not much, but it feels larger. I've never
Speaker 2: had asymmetry before and now I do post last baby.
Speaker 2: So we would the left one would set the tone
Speaker 2: and he would just it would be the same pretty
Speaker 2: much the same cup size, just up just quite a
Speaker 2: bit higher. And he said, you're a very fit person,
Speaker 2: which I mean, listen, that consultation was worth that and
Speaker 2: a nuts that he's like you're a very fit person.
Speaker 2: So I said, I feel like this feels crazy to
Speaker 2: say I feel like disorganized or sloppy, and he said
Speaker 2: it isn't. I hear that from a lot of women.
Speaker 2: You feel wider right there and you're not. And so
Speaker 2: it's giving this like misshape and kind of like feeler image.
Speaker 2: But he was lovely, that's so exciting. I feel excited.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: So the next step is just scheduling it.
Speaker 2: Huh yeah, I don't know what that will look like, see,
Speaker 2: but it just feels good to like even have. And
Speaker 2: I've heard from several people you should go to a
Speaker 2: few doctors and get a consultation just to feel it out.
Speaker 2: But I thought it was lovely. I'm so excited for you. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's been going to be Easter, Janna.
Speaker 3: It is around Eastern and then we all hang out
Speaker 3: on Easter.
Speaker 2: What's been going on here? We miss you?
Speaker 3: Oh man, it has just been a lot the last
Speaker 3: couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: I feel like, oh Kat, we needed you last week
Speaker 2: more than.
Speaker 1: That was maybe a blessing in disguise, But you know,
Speaker 1: it's hard. I'm going to be honest, it's going to
Speaker 1: be hard for me. To come on here and not
Speaker 1: talk about how my life has been the last couple
Speaker 1: of weeks, because it's been a lot and it's been
Speaker 1: very impactful for me. It's been a very emotional, but
Speaker 1: like great couple of weeks. And I think that, you know,
Speaker 1: everyone knows what's going on in the world, and I
Speaker 1: think that that's been different for everybody, but that's been
Speaker 1: very impactful for me and my family. So that's been
Speaker 1: a lot of my family the last couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: So we're just, you know, we're we're having a lot
Speaker 1: of conversations in our household. We're feeling a lot of
Speaker 1: purpose driven life stuff. And I think that that's amazing
Speaker 1: and I'll just leave it at that, but I think that,
Speaker 1: you know, I just think that it's got me really
Speaker 1: excited and happy and just you know, I think a
Speaker 1: lot of blessings can come out of a lot of
Speaker 1: evil sometimes, you know, And I just think that that's been.
Speaker 2: We talked about that last week where I said, you know,
Speaker 2: and instead of just posting things, I leaned in, I
Speaker 2: leaned into my faith, I learned in my family, and
Speaker 2: I think that at the end of the day, that's
Speaker 2: what things like that are all about is to lean
Speaker 2: in the people that you should be loving and taking
Speaker 2: care of. And there's a lot of beauty in that.
Speaker 2: Absolutely a little old school. I've appreciated just the tending
Speaker 2: to my family in my walls and my own heart
Speaker 2: and digesting and processing as I can. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been Also, I think having teenagers has been
Speaker 1: really like at first like boh, like overwhelming, and then like, wow,
Speaker 1: this is really cool just the conversations that have been had,
Speaker 1: the you know, just the transparency and a lot of things.
Speaker 1: And you know, my thirteen year olds she probably won't
Speaker 1: want me to tell this, but you know, last night,
Speaker 1: like I can't tell you the last time she did this,
Speaker 1: she came and crawled in bed with us and like
Speaker 1: hung out with us for a while and wanted to
Speaker 1: sleep with us.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: I mean, my kids don't sleep with me, you know.
Speaker 1: And like it's just been because of a lot of
Speaker 1: open dialogue and it's just been really really cool to see.
Speaker 1: It's just been a really positive in our in our homes.
Speaker 1: So I have something that just kind of sparked from
Speaker 1: you saying that. Yeah, so you guys know, I'm a
Speaker 1: big fan of doctor Aymon I follow him, love him,
Speaker 1: and you know, he came on the podcast one time
Speaker 1: and he said, spend ten minutes every day one on
Speaker 1: one with.
Speaker 2: Each one of your children. And the other day I
Speaker 2: was listening to something. Now he says, it's at twenty minutes, right,
Speaker 2: And in my brain, I'm like, like with coming home
Speaker 2: from school and then I mean, I'm rushing these kids
Speaker 2: out the door because I have, like I have to
Speaker 2: have my family dinner. So it's like we're eating dinner
Speaker 2: before we go and then we don't get back until seven.
Speaker 2: I'm like, where do you find those It's like now,
Speaker 2: I mean I'm laying in bed and having those conversations.
Speaker 2: But it's to have them pick something that they want
Speaker 2: to do. And there's a piece of me that makes
Speaker 2: me sad that we're the we're at this point where
Speaker 2: we're always just rushing and going and doing that. We
Speaker 2: can't just be like, okay, twenty minutes, Jace, come on,
Speaker 2: let's go like uno together, just you and I are
Speaker 2: what do you want to do? Or pick what you know?
Speaker 2: And it's just it kind of makes me sad because
Speaker 2: then I go, oh wait, because we're not having that
Speaker 2: twenty minutes now. Is that, Like is that bad? And
Speaker 2: then then I'm like, where are we getting these twenty minutes?
Speaker 3: It's hard.
Speaker 2: I feel like you could modify. I'm trying to, you know,
Speaker 2: I default touch such an all or nothing person that
Speaker 2: I It's like, it can still be a meaningful twenty
Speaker 2: if you're driving in the car with them, that's the
Speaker 2: game question are Yeah, even though it's not an activity
Speaker 2: that they were not just to ask them questions. That's
Speaker 2: the thing. You're supposed to just do whatever they want
Speaker 2: to do and not ask them like a single quation.
Speaker 2: But I mean, like if we have to modify it
Speaker 2: just for right now or just to be in the car,
Speaker 2: like what do they want to listen to? Or like
Speaker 2: you just chatty, I mean that's a good maybe modification.
Speaker 2: We also, I'm taking the biggies on separate trips next
Speaker 2: week because I feel that too, Like I feel like
Speaker 2: I just haven't seen love enough. She's like doing ballet
Speaker 2: now and she loves it, but I'm like I kind
Speaker 2: of miss you, you know. So We're doing a little
Speaker 2: one on one trip and then I take Legie the
Speaker 2: weekend after that, and maybe that's like a it's condensed
Speaker 2: and it's not daily, but maybe that's like little modifications.
Speaker 2: I think I get a little envious of your situation
Speaker 2: because you have them so much, and it's like, my
Speaker 2: kids are at school all day, but I don't. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I want my kids to be in school too,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, And that structure for them
Speaker 2: is what works great for them. But I do get
Speaker 2: envious sometimes of all. I like, see your thing. I'm like, oh, well,
Speaker 2: I feel like a bad mom. I'm not hanging out
Speaker 2: with my kids during the day. Oh no, well, I'm
Speaker 2: hanging out with them today and they're home. Well, but
Speaker 2: but you know, one day, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: the pod, you know, so it's I don't know, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean I do. I think it's honestly, I think,
Speaker 2: no matter how your mom, anybody feels guilty because I
Speaker 2: sometimes wish that they were busy doing school so that
Speaker 2: when I was doing the other things, I don't feel
Speaker 2: guilty for doing the other things. That makes sense, like
Speaker 2: they would be living their big enriched life. Like I
Speaker 2: feel like kids that go to school five days a
Speaker 2: week get big en riched life at school solely based
Speaker 2: on like their age groups and what they're supposed to
Speaker 2: be studying. And it's like focused, good attention, and then
Speaker 2: I feel like my kids sometimes I'm like, Okay, what
Speaker 2: am I going to do with these guys? You know,
Speaker 2: to get them through the day and feel bonded and
Speaker 2: you know, like and to make sure the school work
Speaker 2: got done, and just don't know that it's as academically
Speaker 2: enriched and focused on their age group. That does that
Speaker 2: make you feel better?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 1: Can I go back to something you said a second ago,
Speaker 1: not to I think there's positives and negatives with what
Speaker 1: you're saying to both. I think that there's guilt no
Speaker 1: matter what to that point, like homeschool or not homeschool, positives, negatives,
Speaker 1: all the.
Speaker 2: Things I have. The education guilt probably sure.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I could see that, or they're not.
Speaker 1: I mean they still kind of go to school, so
Speaker 1: maybe like the social aspect or you know whatever, there
Speaker 1: can be positive. But I want to disagree with it
Speaker 1: a little bit of what you said earlier, even though
Speaker 1: I know they say I know that I disagree with the.
Speaker 3: Not asking questions.
Speaker 1: We would not have the conversations that we have if
Speaker 1: it was not for the questions that I ask. And
Speaker 1: I see that I have read about that I have
Speaker 1: seen that, but I have found that, yes, there are
Speaker 1: times I have to stop asking questions. I know, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not getting anywhere. They don't want to talk right now,
Speaker 1: and I stop. But I also know that if I
Speaker 1: don't ask questions, especially as teenagers, they'll just keep going
Speaker 1: about their day. They're not usually going to offer it.
Speaker 3: I mean, if it's something big, you hope that they will.
Speaker 2: That.
Speaker 1: I am big on asking questions, so that to me
Speaker 1: is part too.
Speaker 2: By the way, just that twenty minute piece is where.
Speaker 3: In that twenty minute it's okay, that's.
Speaker 2: Fair because I am too. Like when we do our peeking,
Speaker 2: well yeah, when we do our like low part of
Speaker 2: the day or happy part, sad part of the day,
Speaker 2: and Julie would be like happy part the whole day.
Speaker 2: I go no, no, no, I was again, narrow it down,
Speaker 2: tell me one thing awesome at school, so that way,
Speaker 2: and then when she says what it is, I was
Speaker 2: like when she goes, okay, playing four square, and I
Speaker 2: was like, O, great, who did you play four square with?
Speaker 2: And then it and then it evolve or it makes
Speaker 2: a conversation more of a conversation, and then I get
Speaker 2: to ask more questions from there and that that I like.
Speaker 3: I love it huge on that.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's why I just wanted to like go like,
Speaker 1: I know without a shadow of a doubt that I
Speaker 1: would not get to those things if we didn't ask
Speaker 1: questions like that.
Speaker 2: Definitely agree with you and I do the same thing.
Speaker 2: It's just apparently in that twenty minutes. So I mean
Speaker 2: to ask you why, but not by them, not by us. Yes,
Speaker 2: why we ask questions we're leading.
Speaker 1: So then that's a little overwhelming because it probably needs
Speaker 1: to be on top of when we're asking questions because
Speaker 1: I've got to ask my questions, you know.
Speaker 3: But here's my question for you. When do y'all do
Speaker 3: the peek and pit?
Speaker 2: We do it at dinner, Okay.
Speaker 1: So just posing a question, is there which we we
Speaker 1: can't sit down to dinner every night, So that's where
Speaker 1: that doesn't happen.
Speaker 2: She doesn't either, She does it like too. We have
Speaker 2: dinner there. I'm just so big on the family dinner.
Speaker 3: I love it. I'm envious.
Speaker 1: I am doing better at trying to find those times
Speaker 1: that we can.
Speaker 2: I can't sucker. I can't give that up. That's why
Speaker 2: it's like, and listen, let me tell you these dinners
Speaker 2: that we're having because I get them up from the
Speaker 2: bus at four something like four oh six. What were
Speaker 2: if I don't meal prep that day before. It is
Speaker 2: hot dogs and tater tots. But it it's us down
Speaker 2: to dinner. I think together, it doesn't have's.
Speaker 1: Going to be something that your children are going to remember,
Speaker 1: they're going to bring on. I think that it is
Speaker 1: huge and amazing and I commend you, and that is
Speaker 1: probably one of the things I wish the most we
Speaker 1: could do. Having said that, we don't always, but one
Speaker 1: thing we pivoted to. But I only do it with
Speaker 1: Ramsey because she's nine. I don't do it with the
Speaker 1: thirteen and the sixteen year old. But we do that
Speaker 1: before bed right now, so that kind of becomes now
Speaker 1: I'm not home every night to put her to bed.
Speaker 1: I'm probably not home three out of seven nights to
Speaker 1: me because you're yeah, and we don't get home till
Speaker 1: ten or later. So what yeh here most nights, I mean,
Speaker 1: there's at least three nights a week we don't get
Speaker 1: home till after ten. But that time has become so
Speaker 1: to me. How I've kind of pivoted it is I
Speaker 1: might not get those. I try, but I might not
Speaker 1: get to get those ten minutes or twenty minutes, you
Speaker 1: know with Ramsey, But I try. If to me, if
Speaker 1: it's five minutes, you still have that special time, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean?
Speaker 2: I know, I think when I just heard the twenty,
Speaker 2: I got like yep, but then it was that an hour?
Speaker 2: But how is that suffocating to me? Not suffocating that's
Speaker 2: a really bad word. I mean to say, like overwhelming, yeah,
Speaker 2: because I'm like, it's twenty minutes, but yeah, that seems
Speaker 2: so overwhelming in the days that the day that we have. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's why it BOMs me up to this because the
Speaker 2: time I feel defeated, because then you already feel defeated.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what if you hit fifteen minutes? Personalities like ours
Speaker 1: are like no, god.
Speaker 3: We didn't make it to twenty, like I see it
Speaker 3: as a parent, Yeah no, I mean we spent fifteen minutes.
Speaker 2: Can we modify and just go? But today I got
Speaker 2: this special moment with that.
Speaker 4: That's how I just feel just for right now, which.
Speaker 2: Then got me to this then topic idea. Are we
Speaker 2: the generation of just tired moms? Overworked, tired, run like
Speaker 2: run down moms?
Speaker 1: I don't know that it's overworked and overtired versus other
Speaker 1: generations of being overworked and overtired, because like my mom
Speaker 1: was overworked and overtimeed right jobs they No, I think
Speaker 1: it's over stimulation on top of it. I agree, So
Speaker 1: that are emotionally exhaust on top of it. Yeah, that
Speaker 1: consumption we are, we're at max consumption and I'm already
Speaker 1: a person that has to have my alone time. So
Speaker 1: by the end of the night exhausted twenty minutes. It
Speaker 1: makes me, It gives me himes and that's terrible because
Speaker 1: we love our children, I know, you know, right, but
Speaker 1: we're just so spent.
Speaker 2: Well, that's what it made me think. I'm like, I'm exhausted. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't. I would love to play, you know,
Speaker 2: but if it went it's bedtime, I'm like, I'm tired.
Speaker 2: I want to go to bed too. Same.
Speaker 1: I do think that this is why there is such
Speaker 1: a case, even though I'm on the opposite side of
Speaker 1: the spectrum, But why there's such a case for less
Speaker 1: after school activities. Uh huh, I mean I see it.
Speaker 1: I understand the value of it. I understand we are
Speaker 1: not that family. We're the opposite of that family. But
Speaker 1: I think that this is where that comes from. It
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't be so overwhelming. It'd be pretty easy if
Speaker 1: we didn't have so many after school activities right to
Speaker 1: spend that time.
Speaker 3: Now they get older and I start thinking about my
Speaker 3: sixteen year.
Speaker 1: Old, I'm like, when do I ever get to do
Speaker 1: just that one on one time?
Speaker 3: That gets harder too, you know, But.
Speaker 2: I think we are tired, but I think our generation
Speaker 2: is turning things back around. I feel so proud of
Speaker 2: the parents we are and the kids were raising because
Speaker 2: we got to know the sweet spot. We know we
Speaker 2: have a point of reference for what was great and
Speaker 2: good and more wholesome life without all the news and noise,
Speaker 2: and we are on a I feel you collectively like
Speaker 2: there's this group of parents that is just on a
Speaker 2: mission to bring back the old school in it and
Speaker 2: to like re establish. The problem is to do that,
Speaker 2: we have to filter so much. We're so tired. I mean,
Speaker 2: even the way we buy groceries is a full time
Speaker 2: job because we have to read the labels and do
Speaker 2: the research and is organic organic? It's not organic, it's
Speaker 2: only sixty five percent organic. And then we're trying it's
Speaker 2: like just feeding. It's not even about what are you
Speaker 2: making for dinner? It's like how did you buy clean food?
Speaker 2: And do you have the means to do that? Because
Speaker 2: that costs extra. It's like a clogged filter is what
Speaker 2: I told therapist Amy, a clogged filter. And then on
Speaker 2: top of it, we are living in history and we're
Speaker 2: trying to educate our kids a little bit on what's
Speaker 2: going on, but at age appropriate levels, while we try
Speaker 2: to digest it ourselves and we're not supposed to have
Speaker 2: to digest it, right, this is a lot well just
Speaker 2: kind of kind of thing. And on like our parents' generation, Yes,
Speaker 2: they worked, My mom worked three jobs. You know your
Speaker 2: mom worked hard. They worked hard. But also you know
Speaker 2: how where they've gone now right where it's we would
Speaker 2: like them to be a little bit more uh around.
Speaker 2: But then I was thinking, what are what are we? Are?
Speaker 2: We just the tired the tired generation of being tired.
Speaker 2: But you're like, you said no emotionally yeah, but I
Speaker 2: don't because even Julie mentioned some in their days, She's like,
Speaker 2: can can you read a little extra bit? I was like, baby,
Speaker 2: mommy wants to take a shower. I'm exhausted, like yeah, hurt. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And and then I was like, she just thinks I'm
Speaker 2: going to be always tired. I'm always tired. Like is
Speaker 2: that us? Is this a generation? Are we just tired moms?
Speaker 2: We're also in toddlerhood? Yeah? And roman is yes, because
Speaker 2: it's physically taxing and emotionally taxing. Yeah. Like I I'm
Speaker 2: sometimes so hard on myself and I'm like, oh, I
Speaker 2: just I should just be able to do this one
Speaker 2: last thing with them, And I'm like, I just my
Speaker 2: baby is absolute velcro right now. So I'm just holding
Speaker 2: her and trying to soak that up because I know
Speaker 2: how fleeting that is. But also like at the baseball
Speaker 2: field trying to watch Jase yesterday and running back and
Speaker 2: forth lapse because and then some of a parent goes,
Speaker 2: does he do this all the time, all day every day? Yep?
Speaker 2: Back and forth like you know, no, no, yeah, so
Speaker 2: it's like yeah, it's it's just was interesting.
Speaker 3: Yes, would you like to take a lap please?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yep?
Speaker 2: Ladies. Do we have a wine about it? Oh? I do? Yay,
Speaker 2: I don't have to no, Okay, I'm not going to
Speaker 2: say the business because I don't want to ruin this
Speaker 2: sweet precious little town in their business, but we will.
Speaker 2: I know. We went on the little bus trip, which
Speaker 2: does not involve a lot of sleep, So I feel
Speaker 2: like I'm still catching up takes Forever Lovely Memories. I
Speaker 2: have to post an article to you guys, and it
Speaker 2: was It's ten years old, but it still rings true.
Speaker 2: It's vacation versus trip. I was on a trip. We went,
Speaker 2: Oh it's something triberty trip trip. Do you remember that?
Speaker 2: It's so good. I actually just brought it up to
Speaker 2: a mom last night. I got a post. Anyways, we
Speaker 2: went into This is gonna get tricky because people are
Speaker 2: going to know the town and then they'll figure it out.
Speaker 2: But it's a kids they do. They do little sluice.
Speaker 2: I'm going to hand it to them. Basically, we went
Speaker 2: to this kid's museum and last time we were in this
Speaker 2: location we didn't get to go, and so I thought, well,
Speaker 2: this will be wonderful, and it was not. I wouldn't
Speaker 2: call it a kid's museum. I would call it like
Speaker 2: a very overgrown play place, which was awesome, and you know,
Speaker 2: like an actual front of a jet that they could
Speaker 2: sit in and so the I mean they were in
Speaker 2: there from just living their best lives. That's not the wine.
Speaker 2: The wine is the micro management from the two old
Speaker 2: ladies running this place wore me out. I felt like
Speaker 2: my kids couldn't. First of all, we're essentially paying a
Speaker 2: fee to just come in and play. Yeah, this isn't
Speaker 2: like no one's giving us a tour, no one's educating us.
Speaker 2: This isn't like it doesn't take anything. And you know me,
Speaker 2: when I left it the grocery store was roygbibbed and
Speaker 2: color coordinated in the cans, you know, like I've I'm
Speaker 2: making sure that we leave it better than we found it.
Speaker 2: I felt like ibbib Yes, yes, Michigan school system, Michigan
Speaker 2: School System.
Speaker 3: Not from Michigan. I used roygbib still on a daily.
Speaker 2: The colors of the rainbow.
Speaker 1: I can't tell you that's how we know roy gbib
Speaker 1: never heard.
Speaker 2: Of that yellow? How they is bacon bacon bacon? Do
Speaker 2: you guys know her? She was the typewriter check in school.
Speaker 3: No, no, it's just an acronym.
Speaker 2: But I couldn't not a character, just an acronym.
Speaker 3: I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: I don't think I could still do the colors if
Speaker 1: it wasn't for Roy jibeb.
Speaker 2: Well, now I know the order of the rainbow. Thanks guys,
Speaker 2: You're welcome today, Roy gbib She's like wind down lessons. Anyways,
Speaker 2: this micromanager was just fluttering around me the whole time,
Speaker 2: and she was like, you know you're She accused Love
Speaker 2: and Remy of mixing the glitter with the whatever, and
Speaker 2: they were both just standing there without an attorney and
Speaker 2: they She was like, you did it, and then this
Speaker 2: mom offside and says, if you did that, then you're
Speaker 2: responsible for cleaning it up. The one that was responsible
Speaker 2: for doing is the one response. And I'm a mom,
Speaker 2: another random mom, and I'm like, I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 2: throw down in this fight museum, but a museum and
Speaker 2: air quotes because it's a giant play place. And I
Speaker 2: just was like, if you're not don't open this. If
Speaker 2: you don't want to deal with kids, don't work here.
Speaker 3: Uh huh yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean they were not obnoxious. I am so overly
Speaker 2: sensitive to my kids being obnoxious in public restaurants. They
Speaker 2: stay seated. I was a server. Moms and dads are
Speaker 2: on date nights like they don't. It's not cute when
Speaker 2: your kid runs over with a cup. It's not funny, like,
Speaker 2: please just stay seated. I if I'm in a play
Speaker 2: place and my kids are just playing, yeah, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: be Nancy to have a seat before, and Karen to
Speaker 2: it yeah, and Sharon to get off my shoulder, and
Speaker 2: Tiffany the random mom. It's a question, what did you do?
Speaker 2: I said, I understand the glitter is very important to you.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. If my kids did that, it wouldn't be
Speaker 2: like them. But we're happy to clean it up. And
Speaker 2: did that.
Speaker 3: It wouldn't be like them.
Speaker 2: It wouldn't be on behalf of my client. What did
Speaker 2: you do? We cleaned it up and I roygbibbed and
Speaker 2: their can section in the grocery store is perfect and
Speaker 2: all their produce is in like magic little order. And
Speaker 2: I was like, and by the way, the fake onion
Speaker 2: should go in this bin because in the real store
Speaker 2: they would get molded. And then Chris comes in. Your
Speaker 2: true wine is don't work at kids places if you
Speaker 2: don't like kids, and don't work at places you don't
Speaker 2: like your job. It's okay. I didn't like my job.
Speaker 2: I remember being a server and I remember the minute
Speaker 2: I was like, my job here is done. Oh you
Speaker 2: guys know I'd go back to TG Fridays today. I
Speaker 2: know you would all that flare. A woman sat down,
Speaker 2: she goes, do you know what I'd love? And in
Speaker 2: my head remember Ellie mcbeale, I had an Allie McBeal memory.
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, what you will love? And I
Speaker 2: thought it was probably my time to exit the serving community.
Speaker 3: Oh man.
Speaker 2: Anyways, it was frustrating. And don't accuse kids without parents, Nancy,
Speaker 2: I'm chasing a toddler. You know. I think there's something
Speaker 2: true to be said to that. And I've always and
Speaker 2: I agree with you one thousand. No, no, no, I do
Speaker 2: agree with you. I'm just going to play a little
Speaker 2: bit of Devil's Advocate. Had a feeling. No, it's okay,
Speaker 2: Nancy Junior's on, no, because I agree because I always
Speaker 2: there was the secretary in my high school. She was
Speaker 2: so mean, and I'm like, I wanted to ask her
Speaker 2: many times, why do you work here if you don't
Speaker 2: like kids? So I've always kind of wondered that, But
Speaker 2: now that I've gotten older, I'm like, because it's the
Speaker 2: job that it sometimes how do I say this without
Speaker 2: like they needed that job? But it's also they might not.
Speaker 1: It may not be exactly what they want, yes, but
Speaker 1: it is the job that it.
Speaker 2: Is, the means that they have that they have to have.
Speaker 2: And also they might not meet every requirement. I don't
Speaker 2: think you have in the to be a secretary in
Speaker 2: a school. Does it say do you love kids? You know?
Speaker 2: Can you? Are you good at your doing your job
Speaker 2: with the computer and the bookkeeping and the you know,
Speaker 2: these people are apparently good at organization, and but I
Speaker 2: agree with you that there should be Yeah, like like
Speaker 2: Ryan picked up this like stuffed animal from the gift
Speaker 2: shop and she was like she brought it over to me,
Speaker 2: and the woman was like, you have to put that back,
Speaker 2: that's the gift shop. And I said, but she would
Speaker 2: have to test drive it if we were going to
Speaker 2: pay forty two dollars for this over priced bear. So
Speaker 2: we're just going to try it on, hold it for
Speaker 2: a second, and we'll put it right back. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: the aggressive behavior. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Course, seeing a lot more aggressive behavior in general, like
Speaker 1: not even just in the job. I just think that
Speaker 1: that's because coming more norm and tolerated or something. It
Speaker 1: is like it's very like there's a way to be kind,
Speaker 1: but also be assertive, and I think that we're kind
Speaker 1: of at times losing that, which I mean we all
Speaker 1: can be guilty of it, not just certain, but we are.
Speaker 1: There's just a lot of personalities lately that I'm just like, wow,
Speaker 1: like and I can be aggressive.
Speaker 2: But I know, but then I always go to the
Speaker 2: what are they doing? That's what are they going through?
Speaker 2: I think, are they having a heart did they get
Speaker 2: a really bad diagnosis today? Did they tell you what
Speaker 2: she's about to go through? Because that's where we were headed.
Speaker 1: Well, I think that there is so much more behind it.
Speaker 1: I think there's a reason why everyone's a little bit
Speaker 1: more aggressive and a little bit more you know. And
Speaker 1: maybe it does go back to information overload and being
Speaker 1: just emotionally exhausted, you know, or whatever, but I think
Speaker 1: there's a reason for that.
Speaker 2: I think, yeah, And I think there's people that, you know.
Speaker 2: I was just having a conversation with someone over the
Speaker 2: tile and all autism debate, and she's a friend and
Speaker 2: we have very open conversations about things, and she had
Speaker 2: posted something and I just kind of slid in with
Speaker 2: something else. I'm like, what if you looked at it
Speaker 2: from this angle? And I was kind of saying something else,
Speaker 2: and she's like, I get that, but they're you know,
Speaker 2: and then she goes into her thing. But then we
Speaker 2: have a dialogue, some understanding on both sides, and I
Speaker 2: think so often, you know, in these situations, there might
Speaker 2: believing something about who you are as a mom, but
Speaker 2: that's not who you are as a mom, you know.
Speaker 2: So it's just having good dialogue. And apparently maybe she
Speaker 2: wasn't wanting to meet you there, but sometimes it can
Speaker 2: be done. Maybe a lot of people just have their
Speaker 2: own experience with these people mixing that they don't put
Speaker 2: the glitter and then it bombs all over the freaking
Speaker 2: grocery store. Mart. We had this. If anyone can relate
Speaker 2: to this chicken wanting her glitter separate from her, it's me.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, listen, you have no idea, who's here.
Speaker 2: I'm here to help you, Nancy.
Speaker 1: People assumptions come in, Like I had the most beautiful
Speaker 1: conversation with someone over a similar situation, and it is
Speaker 1: someone that we never agree on any thing, and she
Speaker 1: came in with an assumption and I said, actually, this
Speaker 1: is how I feel. And I said, and you probably
Speaker 1: shouldn't have made that assumption, and she was like, absolutely right,
Speaker 1: let's talk like you know, and we always talk.
Speaker 3: But it's like, don't just make us up, don't jump
Speaker 3: in with we all do. But like, I think that
Speaker 3: is a very.
Speaker 1: On the smaller scale, an assumption. She assumed that you
Speaker 1: were probably like me, you didn't give a crap about
Speaker 1: the glitter being mixed with and I'm sure I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Mom that she probably should have taken her aggression exactly.
Speaker 2: I will clean it up, but I'm not not putting
Speaker 2: the glitters like back Together'll.
Speaker 1: Clean it up, but I can tell you what is
Speaker 1: not happening. Roygbivving. Did it start that way? I don't know,
Speaker 1: but that's how Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I just learned. So there's no chance you're rogivving.
Speaker 1: I just thought you were going to show up with
Speaker 1: me or Jana and then I will clean it up.
Speaker 2: Though I will think I will always clean it up.
Speaker 2: I mean I will push the seats in, you know.
Speaker 3: And my kids are sitting at dinner, biggest.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's one of my biggest not judging if you
Speaker 1: don't make your kids sit, But it's always been one
Speaker 1: of my like anybody general, not judging.
Speaker 3: I get it.
Speaker 2: It's hard you guys, we had a moment. This is
Speaker 2: so like do you forget run? This is, by the way,
Speaker 2: a moment that I'm just like us three talking now
Speaker 2: at listening right now, may or may not make the cut. Actually,
Speaker 2: when we were in Flower Child, the new restaurant in
Speaker 2: oh in Franklin, freaking Roman, a sweet little boy. He
Speaker 2: had his belly, was head some like ross diapers or whatever,
Speaker 2: and then he threw up, like at the restaurant. It
Speaker 2: was his first ever throw up. I was like mortified, right,
Speaker 2: but because it's like the mom this other like lady
Speaker 2: was just staring at me. But I mean we were
Speaker 2: just like can I have the spray bot? You know
Speaker 2: what I mean, like running out trying to clean it all.
Speaker 2: I mean, it was it was such a mess. But
Speaker 2: it's like I had those moments too where it's like
Speaker 2: I will never leave, not just gonna be like peace out,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like like give me the
Speaker 2: color everything, you know, like wiping it down as much
Speaker 2: as humanly possibly can.
Speaker 1: Anyways, being just very specific that we might not take
Speaker 1: the glitter and separate it from them, but we will
Speaker 1: clean up after our are created equal.
Speaker 2: By the way, Roman will throw the food on the
Speaker 2: floor and I'm cleaning it up.
Speaker 3: I'm cleaning it up.
Speaker 1: I always do because I was a server that had
Speaker 1: to do that, so I haven't always and I and
Speaker 1: Nick is like, girl, we got to clean this up.
Speaker 3: I remember when they were little, and I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, I didn't like.
Speaker 2: It's sweet when the service say, don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I'm not leaving this here. I'm always
Speaker 2: cleaning it up, picking it up off the floor. I
Speaker 2: can't imagine my visceral reaction if I had to leave
Speaker 2: that mess behind. Oh yeah, yeah. Well anyways, and we're
Speaker 2: back to the show. Okay. Headlines zach Efron Nina Dobrev
Speaker 2: are all smiles and flirty photos while vacationing with friends
Speaker 2: in Italy. Guys, because you know, she just had a
Speaker 2: breakup of five years, I believe, and now everyone's thinking they're,
Speaker 2: you know, getting back together or sorry that they're they're
Speaker 2: you know, is this too soon to be in a relationship.
Speaker 2: The rumors, the whole flo all the stuff. But I'm like,
Speaker 2: can't friends just be friends on a yacht? I mean,
Speaker 2: I'm smiling, Yeah, you're gonna catch me looking all sorts
Speaker 2: of things.
Speaker 1: If I'm on it, and if you're just out of
Speaker 1: a breakup, you're gonna go on the yacht.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and smile on It doesn't matter what comes up
Speaker 2: automatically after your breaks. I will tell you what. He
Speaker 2: is still one of my good friends. Yes, he was great,
Speaker 2: he's lovely. We yeah, it was it was again, hello,
Speaker 2: we're not we're not, we're recording. But it was good. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but like this was great. We were in Miami and
Speaker 2: Miami Pam came out and you know she She's like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to get us on a yacht this weekend.
Speaker 2: It was it was supposed to be my seven year
Speaker 2: wedding anniversary and instead it was a divorce trip. And
Speaker 2: we met this lovely entrepreneur man and his friends and
Speaker 2: they're like, you should come on our yacht. We end
Speaker 2: up going on a different yacht, which is funny because
Speaker 2: we're like no, the thanks or whatever, and we like
Speaker 2: wave to them and are yacht when they were on his.
Speaker 3: Like I still tell the story of the.
Speaker 2: Yacht, like I was like, we choose the wrong rock literally,
Speaker 2: like the mile long the Titanic goes. You gotta he
Speaker 2: gotta play like hard to get and I was like, no,
Speaker 2: I want I'd like to get on.
Speaker 1: I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, how do we
Speaker 1: get from me this yacht and that yacht thanks for
Speaker 1: getting us on the.
Speaker 2: Yacht things that are not relatable. And then we ended
Speaker 2: up going and meeting this person because his friends are like, oh,
Speaker 2: you should meet our friend. And that was the guy
Speaker 2: who owned the yacht. And we are still friends to
Speaker 2: this day. Yeah, oh good, I think obviously ever happened,
Speaker 2: we just realized that we were going to be friends.
Speaker 2: And he even just DMed me the other day being
Speaker 2: like so proud of you and all I was just
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you, you know, your marriage. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so let them go on the yacht.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're dating, have fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you make good friends on yachts, and maybe if
Speaker 2: you're speculating you might need a yacht trip, maybe you
Speaker 2: just have yacht envy.
Speaker 1: And let me just say, that's probably that's the only
Speaker 1: time I've ever been on a yacht. Really yeah, so
Speaker 1: that's like a really cool I'm just saying, that's like
Speaker 1: a core memory for me.
Speaker 3: If you get a chance to go on at.
Speaker 2: I'm debating with her, I tell my yacht story. It's
Speaker 2: why don't you think YadA YadA. Okay, So I'll make
Speaker 2: it fast. So we go visit friends in Fort Lauderdale,
Speaker 2: and I think these I think this friend girlfriend listens
Speaker 2: to this podcast, so this will be funny to her.
Speaker 2: So she we're visiting friends and they keep saying we're
Speaker 2: going to go on a boat day. This is going
Speaker 2: to be a boat day. And I'm like, that's exciting,
Speaker 2: you know. So I pull love and legend didn't have
Speaker 2: the baby at the time into this room at the
Speaker 2: condo and I say, you listen to me, I need to. Yes,
Speaker 2: ma'am's we are wearing every like everything known to man today.
Speaker 2: You will keep them on the entire time we are
Speaker 2: on the boat. Do not ask me to take them off.
Speaker 2: If you cannot wear them, we don't go on the boat. Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 2: We pull up and I'm like, on this episode, a
Speaker 2: below deck, a hundred foot Yeah, this isn't a boat.
Speaker 2: I'm like, we have vastly different interpretations of what a
Speaker 2: boat is. I'm thinking pontoon, you know, and there this
Speaker 2: is gorgeous. It's like four stories, five bedrooms in the
Speaker 2: belly of the ship. And we're like ten minutes and
Speaker 2: they're asking, you know, I'm kicking my shoes off, and
Speaker 2: they're like, ma'am, can I get you a drink? Can
Speaker 2: I take that bag for you? And I'm like no, no,
Speaker 2: It's so I feel like so Michigan rudy of me.
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, n I got it. I got it,
Speaker 2: you know, baby, I'm a hip whatever. And and then
Speaker 2: I look at Love and Legend about ten minutes in
Speaker 2: and you guys they're just like stuck there like little
Speaker 2: puffer fish with and I go, hey, so I was wrong.
Speaker 2: I didn't realize we were boarding an apartment complex and
Speaker 2: you're free to take off your flotation devices for the day.
Speaker 3: That's funny.
Speaker 2: And they swam on a swimming pool on a boat,
Speaker 2: and they still to this day are like, well are
Speaker 2: we going on a boat that has a swimming pool?
Speaker 2: And like, please don't say that in public to anybody else.
Speaker 3: See, they really beat me out. I haven't done that before.
Speaker 2: You guys really want to do one of the those
Speaker 2: rent one of those yachts, like we need to go
Speaker 2: on an Italian vacation or somewhere, and they have one
Speaker 2: of those yachts that have those swimming pools on there,
Speaker 2: but you can actually rent him for the full week.
Speaker 2: So you just it's crazy dock out by Capri or
Speaker 2: Positano and it's incredible. The crew is like incredible, They say,
Speaker 2: rent your book, run him as front, you know, and
Speaker 2: then you just chip it all in. Yeah, okay, sorry
Speaker 2: that was it off. Wow we just apology.
Speaker 3: Good for them.
Speaker 2: Then they're yeah, start saving up the next ten years.
Speaker 3: Are we doing this?
Speaker 2: Yes, it's fifty on a boot. We be yachting, Okay,
Speaker 2: I mean it. Clutes shares an emotional message to Charlie
Speaker 2: Kirk's widow, Erica, you have a purpose. She shared on
Speaker 2: the podcast. She said, my late mother in law, Nick's
Speaker 2: mother told me when Nick was in the hospital. She said,
Speaker 2: your son Elvis will save you, and his smile every
Speaker 2: day will make you want to get up and live.
Speaker 2: It's true, Clutes shared in a preview, and that's what
Speaker 2: I would tell Erica that your kids you have a purpose.
Speaker 2: She said. You know you will go through this time
Speaker 2: when you're like, what's my purpose? Why did this happen?
Speaker 2: She recalled. I told Nick when he died. I was like,
Speaker 2: I will be the best mom to this kid. I
Speaker 2: will show him the world and Amanda. I just I
Speaker 2: love Amanda so much and I've just we've DMed over
Speaker 2: the years, and she really has just shown up in
Speaker 2: such a beautiful way for Elvis, and just all their
Speaker 2: vacations and their trips they take together are so beautiful
Speaker 2: and like, what a truly beautiful thing that you know,
Speaker 2: she's giving him joy and it's such a sad, sad remembrance,
Speaker 2: you know, it's as awful.
Speaker 1: It's just amazing how when such tragic things happen, how
Speaker 1: so much beauty can come out of it, you know.
Speaker 1: And to me reading this on the rundown, I was like, man,
Speaker 1: you know, God was really in that story. And I
Speaker 1: know it's trauma and it's awful and it's tear but
Speaker 1: to be able to see the beauty on the other
Speaker 1: side of it and to be able to have this
Speaker 1: may be her purpose. I mean, I understand that, you know,
Speaker 1: whether Erica sees what she says or not, But to
Speaker 1: be able to pass that on and to be one
Speaker 1: of few people who can really relate and to be
Speaker 1: able to give that to someone else, I just think
Speaker 1: it's just absolutely beautiful. Whether that just makes her feel,
Speaker 1: you know, like she's got a purpose or just that
Speaker 1: there's some the beauty and the trauma and the traumatic experience,
Speaker 1: and I.
Speaker 2: Think it's a beautiful thing to hear from someone who's
Speaker 2: walked in your shoes before. You know, That's one of
Speaker 2: the reasons why I share my stuff. It's why you guys,
Speaker 2: girls share your things. It's yeah, I get help and
Speaker 2: hope from people that have walked before me. And so
Speaker 2: if I can, you know, give that back, and Amanda's
Speaker 2: doing that for Erica and I you know, it's it's
Speaker 2: it's awful and it's tragic, and you're also seeing Amanda
Speaker 2: the light that she has now even with you know,
Speaker 2: her missing her for her late husband. And there's a
Speaker 2: lot of widows out I can't even imagine. I can't
Speaker 2: I can't even imagine. No, it's we have friends who
Speaker 2: are going through like a health issue. The husband's going
Speaker 2: through a health issue, and the wife just like finally
Speaker 2: had her moment where she cried and she was like,
Speaker 2: I'm just overwhelmed. And he's a little bit older than her,
Speaker 2: so I think that's always been in the back of
Speaker 2: her mind anyways, and I just we just had this
Speaker 2: moment where I was like, listen, we're going to stop.
Speaker 2: And I don't want you to spiral. I know that's
Speaker 2: easy to do, but it's just, you know, I think
Speaker 2: coming off the heels of this, everything just gets different weights.
Speaker 2: And so my favorite, one of my favorite quotes of
Speaker 2: all time is we're all just walking each other home,
Speaker 2: and that just I feel like that's Amanda in a nutshell.
Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah. Well, I mean I even think too.
Speaker 2: I mean, just how much your kids do for for
Speaker 2: you, you know, And it's like going when you go through
Speaker 2: hard time, It's like I'll never forget when I was
Speaker 2: going through my divorce, I'm like, I have no choice
Speaker 2: but to show up for my kids. Like Catherine, you
Speaker 2: know that I wrote about this in my book. But
Speaker 2: she's like, you have to get up and take your
Speaker 2: kids to school. And I'm like, a dah, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean, like a gang go, you know, and
Speaker 2: she's like you have to, you will and you'll be fine.
Speaker 2: And it's like it's like you just have to put
Speaker 2: one foot in front of again. I'm not trying to
Speaker 2: compare because it's total two different things, right, but you know,
Speaker 2: when it comes to this being with your kids, it's
Speaker 2: like you have to show up and for your kids
Speaker 2: and it's well.
Speaker 1: And the kids will also show up for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that was a part of that with you. I
Speaker 1: knew that your kids and her kids and her that
Speaker 1: is also.
Speaker 3: A healing for the widow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or the person who's been divorced or the person
Speaker 1: like your kids. You're not just doing it for your kids.
Speaker 1: Your kids can also do it for you, right, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? They will show you what you need.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean I remember looking back and photos
Speaker 2: like when I go back, and you know, I'll post
Speaker 2: things from back then in twenty twenty one. I'll I
Speaker 2: know how hurt I was inside, but I have got
Speaker 2: the photo of me and the kids like smiling because
Speaker 2: it's like they're the ones that brought put the smile
Speaker 2: on my face that day. Yeap, nobody else could have
Speaker 2: done that. Sid's my kids, absolutely so and just yeah,
Speaker 2: continuingly praying for Ericauner kids and it's awful. This was
Speaker 2: this next one. Tom Brady confuses TV viewers of puzzling
Speaker 2: common and very slamming a helmet to kicking a dog. Listen,
Speaker 2: you know, Peta announced peta. Peta hates me. Those little
Speaker 2: start right there. I go to zoos. I love zoos.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm big on what they dolphins and yeah,
Speaker 2: those ones. Yes, but I am the person that will
Speaker 2: do that. Okay, I do see the benefits of their
Speaker 2: conservattory whatever all these things. But listen, I think he
Speaker 2: was honestly taking things out of It was a taken
Speaker 2: out of context. He's obviously not going to kick a dog,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. It's like, it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: you're so cute, I could eat you, like about a baby.
Speaker 2: Like remember we talked to army hammer army hammers. She's like,
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, you can't actually con bear cannibalism to
Speaker 2: actually because this is bad. But that was funny. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but like not in that context of an army hammer
Speaker 2: inn you, and it would be always just I just
Speaker 2: eat you. But obviously that is also Guys, how much
Speaker 2: do we misspeak? I mean I know that all of
Speaker 2: the time. I mean bound to misspeak.
Speaker 1: You can't anymore though, it's like you you can't. Everything
Speaker 1: is completely scrutinized, and you know, I mean that's what
Speaker 1: I took from the story.
Speaker 3: I'm like, are we really worried about the dog? Like
Speaker 3: maybe we are.
Speaker 2: I don't know if he really does want to kick
Speaker 2: a dog, but I think it's just the expression kick
Speaker 2: the dog. Yes, it's like kick the can, right or
Speaker 2: no one other and one is a woman.
Speaker 1: Yes it is kick a dog when it's down. It's
Speaker 1: like kicking a dog when it's down. Yes, it is insane,
Speaker 1: it is right. Yes, and horse, but I'm not going
Speaker 1: to go beat a horse exactly. Do you have horses?
Speaker 2: No, we just.
Speaker 3: Little to these days. There's too much of.
Speaker 2: A magnifying glass and every word every like Tom Brady
Speaker 2: look at him with his perfect teeth. He probably I
Speaker 2: don't suspect he kicks dogs. I think he just likes
Speaker 2: the same and I bet he really regrets it. And
Speaker 2: I think we don't need to go check on tom
Speaker 2: Brady's dogs. I'm sure they have their best meal. Ever.
Speaker 2: I think shortly we will see a headline that says
Speaker 2: Tom Brady donates an X amount to humane society.
Speaker 3: But like he didn't.
Speaker 2: Like it's ridiculous. No, I know.
Speaker 1: Now we will retract this. If there is one that
Speaker 1: says Tom Brady kicks.
Speaker 2: His dog, we will go back and say does it
Speaker 2: like we're wrong, because you know that some of them
Speaker 2: do those underground dog fights and like that. You know
Speaker 2: NFL players didn't charged? Yes, good for me. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: think it was big. It was thick, right, I'm pretty
Speaker 2: sure it was. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Now that's messed up.
Speaker 2: That's awful. He can't say that saying no.
Speaker 1: No, no, Maybe no one really should.
Speaker 2: But it was out of acts. I really don't. I'm
Speaker 2: not dividing. Should someone say eating a baby like so cute?
Speaker 2: I could just bite you?
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: We should not be this sensitive to all of this.
Speaker 3: Thank you. People have got to be able to say
Speaker 3: things and not take it too literal.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, amen Save Tom Brady.
Speaker 4: Hi.
Speaker 2: I'm a mom of a kindergartener with autism and we're
Speaker 2: trying to navigate the school system for the first time.
Speaker 2: One issue that's really weighing on me right now is
Speaker 2: with his pe teacher. This is her first year teaching,
Speaker 2: and she's made it clear that students are graded based
Speaker 2: on ten specific rules. According to her, my son is
Speaker 2: only meeting one of them, and she's expressed this in
Speaker 2: a way that felt really cold and lacking understanding of
Speaker 2: his needs. Our interactions have been tense, and she seems
Speaker 2: to have very little patience for him, and frankly has
Speaker 2: been pretty rude in our communications. I'm trying to advocate
Speaker 2: for my son without being labeled that parent. But I'm
Speaker 2: at a loss. How can I approach this in a
Speaker 2: way that supports my son, encourages some understanding from the teacher,
Speaker 2: and hopefully opens up a better line of communication. What
Speaker 2: are my options when a teacher just doesn't seem willing
Speaker 2: to accommodate or even understand.
Speaker 3: Shouldn't his shouldn't he already have some kind of like
Speaker 3: an IEP like what we have here.
Speaker 1: I don't know what that'd be, but some kind of
Speaker 1: accommodations already.
Speaker 3: That's my biggest special Yeah.
Speaker 2: So, like Jolie is technically in special ED for her dyslexia,
Speaker 2: and she within her special Ed, she has a IEP
Speaker 2: teacher that comes and meets with her. She also has
Speaker 2: or a language teacher as well that comes and pulls
Speaker 2: through out a class. Those times when it comes to pe,
Speaker 2: That's where I'm like, I don't know, I don't know
Speaker 2: that world. But I would say, first and foremost, ask
Speaker 2: for a meeting with the principal and sit down and
Speaker 2: get ahead of it. And and it kills me that
Speaker 2: she said that parent, because I'm like, you're already trying
Speaker 2: to label yourself as that when you're you are doing
Speaker 2: what you need to be doing and advocating for your son,
Speaker 2: who I believe it's a son son. Yeah, And that's
Speaker 2: exactly you should be that parents. It's not about being
Speaker 2: that parent, you are being a parent period. Like call
Speaker 2: a meeting, exactly, call me. I mean meetings I had
Speaker 2: with you know, Jolie's school, making sure everyone you know,
Speaker 2: and everyone was kind in those meetings and understood as
Speaker 2: I'm like bawling and sad, and it's like, you need
Speaker 2: to call a meeting for the principal. I shouldn't say
Speaker 2: you need to. What I would recommend is call the school,
Speaker 2: ask for a meeting with the principal vice principal and
Speaker 2: have that, you know, then maybe the next meeting, have
Speaker 2: them tell them what's going on, and then they can
Speaker 2: talk to the pe teacher and then you guys have
Speaker 2: another meeting where you sit down and you talk about,
Speaker 2: you know, how your son's feeling, how you're feeling, what
Speaker 2: can be done to accommodate because you can't treat them.
Speaker 2: This is going to sound. People are gonna get mad.
Speaker 2: At me for saying this, but it's true that let's
Speaker 2: just say my Jolie's situation. You can't treat Joli the
Speaker 2: same way as someone who doesn't have dyslexia. She fails
Speaker 2: miserably if she does not have the help right to
Speaker 2: help accommodate her. Someone with autism needs someone else to
Speaker 2: help them. You can't treat them the same. And I
Speaker 2: know people will be like that, but they're same, and
Speaker 2: maybe I'll get hate for that, but you can't.
Speaker 1: No, And that's why there's accommodations in the school systems,
Speaker 1: at least where we live, and I would assume there
Speaker 1: are accommodations.
Speaker 2: Where she lives as well if.
Speaker 1: Not, and I would get educated on that to see
Speaker 1: what her rights are and what the accommodation should be,
Speaker 1: because I can promise you this is probably not living
Speaker 1: up to what that is supposed to be. I mean
Speaker 1: there's laws for this and states. So yes, again, I
Speaker 1: don't know exactly what this pe teacher is going against,
Speaker 1: but there are things in place for this very reason.
Speaker 1: So meetings one hundred percent couldn't agree. And like you said,
Speaker 1: be that parent, be the parent, yeah, I mean, drop
Speaker 1: that and just be the parent, be the parent. I mean,
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you're not gonna know
Speaker 1: these people for very long, but you're gonna have your
Speaker 1: child for the rest of their life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and this is good. Shake them because if they're
Speaker 2: if they're treating listen, this is and I feel really
Speaker 2: it actually made me sad. I just did a conference
Speaker 2: with Jace's teacher and he was reading in like the
Speaker 2: eighty six percentile. Jolie is at like the fifth like
Speaker 2: is she is if you're comparing the two. One has dyslexia,
Speaker 2: one does not right, And so you can't talk to
Speaker 2: them in the way like Jace's teacher was talking to me.
Speaker 2: The teacher that tells me Jolie's scoring and what she's
Speaker 2: doing has to come at it from a softer angle,
Speaker 2: knowing the stuff, the disability that she has within her
Speaker 2: learning that's right and she should not be made to
Speaker 2: feel stupid or unlike the other kids. So, you know,
Speaker 2: I think you have to have that that careful thing,
Speaker 2: because they're going to start if they feel any different,
Speaker 2: which they are, but if they feel that and internalize that,
Speaker 2: that is when the issue of them feeling I'm stupid,
Speaker 2: I'm you know, I'm I'm less than and then they're
Speaker 2: gonna then carry that into their adolescence and adulthood, and
Speaker 2: that's where it becomes a big problem. Absolutely, the people
Speaker 2: start into that. Yeah, ineg and yeah, those early years
Speaker 2: are just about confidence building anyways. He just needs to
Speaker 2: feel capable of whatever capacity that is for him.
Speaker 3: I mean, even when there's not a disability involved. All
Speaker 3: children are different, and it's a good teacher, a good coach,
Speaker 3: a good parent notices that every child is different and
Speaker 3: there are different Now, there might be standards you have
Speaker 3: to have MPE, but I still think that you can
Speaker 3: recognize when some people might not be able to meet
Speaker 3: those standards.
Speaker 2: Listening, it wasn't able to do the pull ups or
Speaker 2: whatever kind of rope in my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're going to have the natural athlete exactly.
Speaker 2: All three of us will have different Absolutely, Yes, things
Speaker 2: we can do, you know, and we'd be great on
Speaker 2: the game show. And if it doesn't work out for
Speaker 2: this pe teacher, I know a children's museum that can
Speaker 2: hire high.
Speaker 3: We just came full circle, just ended with that.
Speaker 2: I was trying to say that about them being different,
Speaker 2: like absolutely, but I but I also like to devil's
Speaker 2: advocate that that's the problem. Then making them not feel.
Speaker 1: Well, that's where it gets tricky in the school system.
Speaker 1: But that's why this stuff is in place. There is
Speaker 1: a way to Yes, they have to be treated and
Speaker 1: you know, differently, but really it's just teaching differently. It's
Speaker 1: not treating differently. You're still treating them the same. But
Speaker 1: they have to have accommodations in place to help them out.
Speaker 2: And what are these ten commandments? That's what's crazy. There's
Speaker 2: like ten rules. I'm like, Okay, the dude was in
Speaker 2: your belly fy years ago. Let me just take the
Speaker 2: big old thing. What's that big thing? They do the
Speaker 2: best pop and popcorn? Yes, please, please.
Speaker 1: Please, please, though, look into what your states accommodations are
Speaker 1: because you're just now in kindergarten and this is going
Speaker 1: to get.
Speaker 3: So much more important as you.
Speaker 2: Please please do not feel bad for advocating for your child,
Speaker 2: and don't feel guilty, and don't let anybody you get
Speaker 2: right in there. Amen. Oh guys, we had a lot
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