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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, our little kit Kat is back with us this week. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we missed you. I got to play Catherine. I had

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<v Speaker 2>supposing question have to download the episode. Give us a download, girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 3>I will because especially if you played me, I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 2>Nervous.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think she would do a great me.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I actually said, I was like, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you're most capable of being Cat. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I have no Cat for so long. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I can do this.

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<v Speaker 1>W WKD wait, don't even tell me. I cannot wait

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<v Speaker 1>to go listen and see what you did.

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<v Speaker 2>It was fun, but we're glad to have you back. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's been a minute since it's been

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<v Speaker 2>us three. I know it feels like that for some reason. Yeah, far,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't know why. Well, we just missed you deeply.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not here, thanks, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I I mean, I really don't have anything to uh

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about. Wow, I know hei, guys, I do, yes, score.

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<v Speaker 4>I might.

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<v Speaker 2>This morning, I had my first consultation for a breastlet.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really really wonderful, right, and I haven't made

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<v Speaker 2>any plans, but I just really enjoyed the doctor. I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like he was very disarming. It was so calm.

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<v Speaker 2>The nurse also had had a lift, and so she

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<v Speaker 2>talked to me, did she show you her boobscause people

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<v Speaker 2>boobs like, I'm like, you want to see it? But

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<v Speaker 2>it was just wonderful, like no pressure to implant. He

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<v Speaker 2>was like, we can absolutely, you know, give you back some.

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<v Speaker 2>I essentially just don't have a torso. So he just

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<v Speaker 2>was wonderful. And I'm really excited that I did. I

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<v Speaker 2>have rescheduled it three times because of conflicts, and I

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<v Speaker 2>almost didn't want to go this morning because the Nashville

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<v Speaker 2>traffic took me an hour. But I did it. That's awesome. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and stay tuned. They said, recovery is pretty easy. Preston's like,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't need to mess with these these are They're

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<v Speaker 2>perfect just the way they are. You said, you tell

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<v Speaker 2>that doctor, we don't even need him. I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>calm down, that's sweet though, love it. I know that's

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<v Speaker 2>what the nurse did for you. She said, you you're

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<v Speaker 2>going it's going to be so crazy. You're going to

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<v Speaker 2>wish you did it earlier. I know someone that just

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<v Speaker 2>did a lift as well. Without putting an implant in

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<v Speaker 2>and she's obsessed with it. I need to know. Do

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<v Speaker 2>I know this person? Yes, I don't know if she's

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<v Speaker 2>publicly shared so, but yes, yeah, okay, And they just

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<v Speaker 2>I want to know experience so much better, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think there is some like recovery. I think with an

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<v Speaker 2>implant might be different. I don't know, but they still

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't no more difficult? Okay, implants are more difficult to

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<v Speaker 2>recover from. Okay, So is.

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<v Speaker 1>It like you decide if it's an implant as well?

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<v Speaker 3>Do they decide like, hey, it's needed, wouldn't He said,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't need you just don't need to.

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<v Speaker 2>And are you going to do fat transfer or just

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<v Speaker 2>a straight up lift? Just a lift? If I if

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<v Speaker 2>I do it, it would be so the right guy

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<v Speaker 2>is much not much, but it feels larger. I've never

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<v Speaker 2>had asymmetry before and now I do post last baby.

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<v Speaker 2>So we would the left one would set the tone

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<v Speaker 2>and he would just it would be the same pretty

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<v Speaker 2>much the same cup size, just up just quite a

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<v Speaker 2>bit higher. And he said, you're a very fit person,

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<v Speaker 2>which I mean, listen, that consultation was worth that and

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<v Speaker 2>a nuts that he's like you're a very fit person.

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<v Speaker 2>So I said, I feel like this feels crazy to

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<v Speaker 2>say I feel like disorganized or sloppy, and he said

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<v Speaker 2>it isn't. I hear that from a lot of women.

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<v Speaker 2>You feel wider right there and you're not. And so

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<v Speaker 2>it's giving this like misshape and kind of like feeler image.

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<v Speaker 2>But he was lovely, that's so exciting. I feel excited.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>So the next step is just scheduling it.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh yeah, I don't know what that will look like, see,

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<v Speaker 2>but it just feels good to like even have. And

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard from several people you should go to a

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<v Speaker 2>few doctors and get a consultation just to feel it out.

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<v Speaker 2>But I thought it was lovely. I'm so excited for you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's been going to be Easter, Janna.

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<v Speaker 3>It is around Eastern and then we all hang out

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<v Speaker 3>on Easter.

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<v Speaker 2>What's been going on here? We miss you?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh man, it has just been a lot the last

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<v Speaker 3>couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like, oh Kat, we needed you last week

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<v Speaker 2>more than.

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<v Speaker 1>That was maybe a blessing in disguise, But you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard. I'm going to be honest, it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be hard for me. To come on here and not

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<v Speaker 1>talk about how my life has been the last couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks, because it's been a lot and it's been

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<v Speaker 1>very impactful for me. It's been a very emotional, but

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<v Speaker 1>like great couple of weeks. And I think that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone knows what's going on in the world, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think that that's been different for everybody, but that's been

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<v Speaker 1>very impactful for me and my family. So that's been

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of my family the last couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're just, you know, we're we're having a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of conversations in our household. We're feeling a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>purpose driven life stuff. And I think that that's amazing

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll just leave it at that, but I think that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I just think that it's got me really

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<v Speaker 1>excited and happy and just you know, I think a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of blessings can come out of a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>evil sometimes, you know, And I just think that that's been.

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<v Speaker 2>We talked about that last week where I said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and instead of just posting things, I leaned in, I

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<v Speaker 2>leaned into my faith, I learned in my family, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think that at the end of the day, that's

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<v Speaker 2>what things like that are all about is to lean

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<v Speaker 2>in the people that you should be loving and taking

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<v Speaker 2>care of. And there's a lot of beauty in that.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely a little old school. I've appreciated just the tending

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<v Speaker 2>to my family in my walls and my own heart

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<v Speaker 2>and digesting and processing as I can. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's been Also, I think having teenagers has been

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<v Speaker 1>really like at first like boh, like overwhelming, and then like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>this is really cool just the conversations that have been had,

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<v Speaker 1>the you know, just the transparency and a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, my thirteen year olds she probably won't

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<v Speaker 1>want me to tell this, but you know, last night,

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't tell you the last time she did this,

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<v Speaker 1>she came and crawled in bed with us and like

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<v Speaker 1>hung out with us for a while and wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>sleep with us.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, my kids don't sleep with me, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And like it's just been because of a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>open dialogue and it's just been really really cool to see.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just been a really positive in our in our homes.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have something that just kind of sparked from

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<v Speaker 1>you saying that. Yeah, so you guys know, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>big fan of doctor Aymon I follow him, love him,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, he came on the podcast one time

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<v Speaker 1>and he said, spend ten minutes every day one on

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<v Speaker 1>one with.

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<v Speaker 2>Each one of your children. And the other day I

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<v Speaker 2>was listening to something. Now he says, it's at twenty minutes, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And in my brain, I'm like, like with coming home

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<v Speaker 2>from school and then I mean, I'm rushing these kids

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<v Speaker 2>out the door because I have, like I have to

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<v Speaker 2>have my family dinner. So it's like we're eating dinner

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<v Speaker 2>before we go and then we don't get back until seven.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, where do you find those It's like now,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I'm laying in bed and having those conversations.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's to have them pick something that they want

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<v Speaker 2>to do. And there's a piece of me that makes

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<v Speaker 2>me sad that we're the we're at this point where

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<v Speaker 2>we're always just rushing and going and doing that. We

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<v Speaker 2>can't just be like, okay, twenty minutes, Jace, come on,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go like uno together, just you and I are

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<v Speaker 2>what do you want to do? Or pick what you know?

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<v Speaker 2>And it's just it kind of makes me sad because

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<v Speaker 2>then I go, oh wait, because we're not having that

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<v Speaker 2>twenty minutes now. Is that, Like is that bad? And

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<v Speaker 2>then then I'm like, where are we getting these twenty minutes?

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<v Speaker 3>It's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you could modify. I'm trying to, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I default touch such an all or nothing person that

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<v Speaker 2>I It's like, it can still be a meaningful twenty

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<v Speaker 2>if you're driving in the car with them, that's the

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<v Speaker 2>game question are Yeah, even though it's not an activity

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<v Speaker 2>that they were not just to ask them questions. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the thing. You're supposed to just do whatever they want

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<v Speaker 2>to do and not ask them like a single quation.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, like if we have to modify it

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<v Speaker 2>just for right now or just to be in the car,

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<v Speaker 2>like what do they want to listen to? Or like

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<v Speaker 2>you just chatty, I mean that's a good maybe modification.

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<v Speaker 2>We also, I'm taking the biggies on separate trips next

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<v Speaker 2>week because I feel that too, Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I just haven't seen love enough. She's like doing ballet

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<v Speaker 2>now and she loves it, but I'm like I kind

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<v Speaker 2>of miss you, you know. So We're doing a little

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<v Speaker 2>one on one trip and then I take Legie the

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<v Speaker 2>weekend after that, and maybe that's like a it's condensed

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<v Speaker 2>and it's not daily, but maybe that's like little modifications.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I get a little envious of your situation

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<v Speaker 2>because you have them so much, and it's like, my

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<v Speaker 2>kids are at school all day, but I don't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I want my kids to be in school too,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, And that structure for them

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<v Speaker 2>is what works great for them. But I do get

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<v Speaker 2>envious sometimes of all. I like, see your thing. I'm like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like a bad mom. I'm not hanging out

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<v Speaker 2>with my kids during the day. Oh no, well, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>hanging out with them today and they're home. Well, but

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<v Speaker 2>but you know, one day, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>the pod, you know, so it's I don't know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I do. I think it's honestly, I think,

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<v Speaker 2>no matter how your mom, anybody feels guilty because I

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes wish that they were busy doing school so that

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<v Speaker 2>when I was doing the other things, I don't feel

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<v Speaker 2>guilty for doing the other things. That makes sense, like

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<v Speaker 2>they would be living their big enriched life. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like kids that go to school five days a

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<v Speaker 2>week get big en riched life at school solely based

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<v Speaker 2>on like their age groups and what they're supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>be studying. And it's like focused, good attention, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like my kids sometimes I'm like, Okay, what

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<v Speaker 2>am I going to do with these guys? You know,

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<v Speaker 2>to get them through the day and feel bonded and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like and to make sure the school work

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<v Speaker 2>got done, and just don't know that it's as academically

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<v Speaker 2>enriched and focused on their age group. That does that

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<v Speaker 2>make you feel better?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I go back to something you said a second ago,

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<v Speaker 1>not to I think there's positives and negatives with what

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<v Speaker 1>you're saying to both. I think that there's guilt no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what to that point, like homeschool or not homeschool, positives, negatives,

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<v Speaker 1>all the.

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<v Speaker 2>Things I have. The education guilt probably sure.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, I could see that, or they're not.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean they still kind of go to school, so

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<v Speaker 1>maybe like the social aspect or you know whatever, there

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<v Speaker 1>can be positive. But I want to disagree with it

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of what you said earlier, even though

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<v Speaker 1>I know they say I know that I disagree with the.

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<v Speaker 3>Not asking questions.

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<v Speaker 1>We would not have the conversations that we have if

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<v Speaker 1>it was not for the questions that I ask. And

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<v Speaker 1>I see that I have read about that I have

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<v Speaker 1>seen that, but I have found that, yes, there are

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<v Speaker 1>times I have to stop asking questions. I know, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not getting anywhere. They don't want to talk right now,

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<v Speaker 1>and I stop. But I also know that if I

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<v Speaker 1>don't ask questions, especially as teenagers, they'll just keep going

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<v Speaker 1>about their day. They're not usually going to offer it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, if it's something big, you hope that they will.

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<v Speaker 2>That.

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<v Speaker 1>I am big on asking questions, so that to me

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<v Speaker 1>is part too.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, just that twenty minute piece is where.

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<v Speaker 3>In that twenty minute it's okay, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Fair because I am too. Like when we do our peeking,

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<v Speaker 2>well yeah, when we do our like low part of

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<v Speaker 2>the day or happy part, sad part of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>and Julie would be like happy part the whole day.

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<v Speaker 2>I go no, no, no, I was again, narrow it down,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me one thing awesome at school, so that way,

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<v Speaker 2>and then when she says what it is, I was

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<v Speaker 2>like when she goes, okay, playing four square, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, O, great, who did you play four square with?

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<v Speaker 2>And then it and then it evolve or it makes

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<v Speaker 2>a conversation more of a conversation, and then I get

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<v Speaker 2>to ask more questions from there and that that I like.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it huge on that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's why I just wanted to like go like,

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<v Speaker 1>I know without a shadow of a doubt that I

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<v Speaker 1>would not get to those things if we didn't ask

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<v Speaker 1>questions like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely agree with you and I do the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just apparently in that twenty minutes. So I mean

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<v Speaker 2>to ask you why, but not by them, not by us. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>why we ask questions we're leading.

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<v Speaker 1>So then that's a little overwhelming because it probably needs

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<v Speaker 1>to be on top of when we're asking questions because

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<v Speaker 1>I've got to ask my questions, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>But here's my question for you. When do y'all do

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<v Speaker 3>the peek and pit?

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<v Speaker 2>We do it at dinner, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So just posing a question, is there which we we

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<v Speaker 1>can't sit down to dinner every night, So that's where

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't happen.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't either, She does it like too. We have

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<v Speaker 2>dinner there. I'm just so big on the family dinner.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it. I'm envious.

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<v Speaker 1>I am doing better at trying to find those times

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<v Speaker 1>that we can.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't sucker. I can't give that up. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, and listen, let me tell you these dinners

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<v Speaker 2>that we're having because I get them up from the

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<v Speaker 2>bus at four something like four oh six. What were

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<v Speaker 2>if I don't meal prep that day before. It is

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<v Speaker 2>hot dogs and tater tots. But it it's us down

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<v Speaker 2>to dinner. I think together, it doesn't have's.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to be something that your children are going to remember,

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to bring on. I think that it is

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<v Speaker 1>huge and amazing and I commend you, and that is

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<v Speaker 1>probably one of the things I wish the most we

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<v Speaker 1>could do. Having said that, we don't always, but one

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<v Speaker 1>thing we pivoted to. But I only do it with

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<v Speaker 1>Ramsey because she's nine. I don't do it with the

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<v Speaker 1>thirteen and the sixteen year old. But we do that

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<v Speaker 1>before bed right now, so that kind of becomes now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not home every night to put her to bed.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm probably not home three out of seven nights to

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<v Speaker 1>me because you're yeah, and we don't get home till

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<v Speaker 1>ten or later. So what yeh here most nights, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there's at least three nights a week we don't get

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<v Speaker 1>home till after ten. But that time has become so

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<v Speaker 1>to me. How I've kind of pivoted it is I

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<v Speaker 1>might not get those. I try, but I might not

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<v Speaker 1>get to get those ten minutes or twenty minutes, you

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<v Speaker 1>know with Ramsey, But I try. If to me, if

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<v Speaker 1>it's five minutes, you still have that special time, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I think when I just heard the twenty,

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<v Speaker 2>I got like yep, but then it was that an hour?

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<v Speaker 2>But how is that suffocating to me? Not suffocating that's

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<v Speaker 2>a really bad word. I mean to say, like overwhelming, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm like, it's twenty minutes, but yeah, that seems

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<v Speaker 2>so overwhelming in the days that the day that we have. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's why it BOMs me up to this because the

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<v Speaker 2>time I feel defeated, because then you already feel defeated.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what if you hit fifteen minutes? Personalities like ours

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<v Speaker 1>are like no, god.

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<v Speaker 3>We didn't make it to twenty, like I see it

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<v Speaker 3>as a parent, Yeah no, I mean we spent fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>Can we modify and just go? But today I got

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<v Speaker 2>this special moment with that.

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<v Speaker 4>That's how I just feel just for right now, which.

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<v Speaker 2>Then got me to this then topic idea. Are we

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<v Speaker 2>the generation of just tired moms? Overworked, tired, run like

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<v Speaker 2>run down moms?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that it's overworked and overtired versus other

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<v Speaker 1>generations of being overworked and overtired, because like my mom

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<v Speaker 1>was overworked and overtimeed right jobs they No, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's over stimulation on top of it. I agree, So

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<v Speaker 1>that are emotionally exhaust on top of it. Yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>consumption we are, we're at max consumption and I'm already

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<v Speaker 1>a person that has to have my alone time. So

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<v Speaker 1>by the end of the night exhausted twenty minutes. It

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<v Speaker 1>makes me, It gives me himes and that's terrible because

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<v Speaker 1>we love our children, I know, you know, right, but

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<v Speaker 1>we're just so spent.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, that's what it made me think. I'm like, I'm exhausted. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't. I would love to play, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>but if it went it's bedtime, I'm like, I'm tired.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to go to bed too. Same.

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<v Speaker 1>I do think that this is why there is such

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<v Speaker 1>a case, even though I'm on the opposite side of

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<v Speaker 1>the spectrum, But why there's such a case for less

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<v Speaker 1>after school activities. Uh huh, I mean I see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand the value of it. I understand we are

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<v Speaker 1>not that family. We're the opposite of that family. But

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<v Speaker 1>I think that this is where that comes from. It

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<v Speaker 1>probably wouldn't be so overwhelming. It'd be pretty easy if

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't have so many after school activities right to

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<v Speaker 1>spend that time.

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<v Speaker 3>Now they get older and I start thinking about my

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<v Speaker 3>sixteen year.

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<v Speaker 1>Old, I'm like, when do I ever get to do

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<v Speaker 1>just that one on one time?

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<v Speaker 3>That gets harder too, you know, But.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we are tired, but I think our generation

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<v Speaker 2>is turning things back around. I feel so proud of

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<v Speaker 2>the parents we are and the kids were raising because

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<v Speaker 2>we got to know the sweet spot. We know we

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<v Speaker 2>have a point of reference for what was great and

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<v Speaker 2>good and more wholesome life without all the news and noise,

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<v Speaker 2>and we are on a I feel you collectively like

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<v Speaker 2>there's this group of parents that is just on a

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<v Speaker 2>mission to bring back the old school in it and

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<v Speaker 2>to like re establish. The problem is to do that,

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<v Speaker 2>we have to filter so much. We're so tired. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>even the way we buy groceries is a full time

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<v Speaker 2>job because we have to read the labels and do

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<v Speaker 2>the research and is organic organic? It's not organic, it's

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<v Speaker 2>only sixty five percent organic. And then we're trying it's

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<v Speaker 2>like just feeding. It's not even about what are you

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<v Speaker 2>making for dinner? It's like how did you buy clean food?

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<v Speaker 2>And do you have the means to do that? Because

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<v Speaker 2>that costs extra. It's like a clogged filter is what

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<v Speaker 2>I told therapist Amy, a clogged filter. And then on

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<v Speaker 2>top of it, we are living in history and we're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to educate our kids a little bit on what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on, but at age appropriate levels, while we try

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<v Speaker 2>to digest it ourselves and we're not supposed to have

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<v Speaker 2>to digest it, right, this is a lot well just

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<v Speaker 2>kind of kind of thing. And on like our parents' generation, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>they worked, My mom worked three jobs. You know your

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<v Speaker 2>mom worked hard. They worked hard. But also you know

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<v Speaker 2>how where they've gone now right where it's we would

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<v Speaker 2>like them to be a little bit more uh around.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I was thinking, what are what are we? Are?

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<v Speaker 2>We just the tired the tired generation of being tired.

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<v Speaker 2>But you're like, you said no emotionally yeah, but I

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<v Speaker 2>don't because even Julie mentioned some in their days, She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>can can you read a little extra bit? I was like, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>mommy wants to take a shower. I'm exhausted, like yeah, hurt. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And and then I was like, she just thinks I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to be always tired. I'm always tired. Like is

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<v Speaker 2>that us? Is this a generation? Are we just tired moms?

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<v Speaker 2>We're also in toddlerhood? Yeah? And roman is yes, because

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<v Speaker 2>it's physically taxing and emotionally taxing. Yeah. Like I I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes so hard on myself and I'm like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>just I should just be able to do this one

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<v Speaker 2>last thing with them, And I'm like, I just my

0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:58.520
<v Speaker 2>baby is absolute velcro right now. So I'm just holding

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<v Speaker 2>her and trying to soak that up because I know

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<v Speaker 2>how fleeting that is. But also like at the baseball

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<v Speaker 2>field trying to watch Jase yesterday and running back and

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<v Speaker 2>forth lapse because and then some of a parent goes,

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<v Speaker 2>does he do this all the time, all day every day? Yep?

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<v Speaker 2>Back and forth like you know, no, no, yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's like yeah, it's it's just was interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, would you like to take a lap please?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Yep?

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<v Speaker 2>Ladies. Do we have a wine about it? Oh? I do? Yay,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have to no, Okay, I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>say the business because I don't want to ruin this

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<v Speaker 2>sweet precious little town in their business, but we will.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. We went on the little bus trip, which

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<v Speaker 2>does not involve a lot of sleep, So I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm still catching up takes Forever Lovely Memories. I

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<v Speaker 2>have to post an article to you guys, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was It's ten years old, but it still rings true.

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<v Speaker 2>It's vacation versus trip. I was on a trip. We went,

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's something triberty trip trip. Do you remember that?

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<v Speaker 2>It's so good. I actually just brought it up to

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<v Speaker 2>a mom last night. I got a post. Anyways, we

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<v Speaker 2>went into This is gonna get tricky because people are

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<v Speaker 2>going to know the town and then they'll figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's a kids they do. They do little sluice.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to hand it to them. Basically, we went

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<v Speaker 2>to this kid's museum and last time we were in this

0:20:20.119 --> 0:20:22.119
<v Speaker 2>location we didn't get to go, and so I thought, well,

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<v Speaker 2>this will be wonderful, and it was not. I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>call it a kid's museum. I would call it like

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<v Speaker 2>a very overgrown play place, which was awesome, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like an actual front of a jet that they could

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<v Speaker 2>sit in and so the I mean they were in

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<v Speaker 2>there from just living their best lives. That's not the wine.

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<v Speaker 2>The wine is the micro management from the two old

0:20:46.200 --> 0:20:50.399
<v Speaker 2>ladies running this place wore me out. I felt like

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<v Speaker 2>my kids couldn't. First of all, we're essentially paying a

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<v Speaker 2>fee to just come in and play. Yeah, this isn't

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<v Speaker 2>like no one's giving us a tour, no one's educating us.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't like it doesn't take anything. And you know me,

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<v Speaker 2>when I left it the grocery store was roygbibbed and

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<v Speaker 2>color coordinated in the cans, you know, like I've I'm

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<v Speaker 2>making sure that we leave it better than we found it.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like ibbib Yes, yes, Michigan school system, Michigan

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<v Speaker 2>School System.

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<v Speaker 3>Not from Michigan. I used roygbib still on a daily.

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<v Speaker 2>The colors of the rainbow.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't tell you that's how we know roy gbib

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<v Speaker 1>never heard.

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<v Speaker 2>Of that yellow? How they is bacon bacon bacon? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you guys know her? She was the typewriter check in school.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, it's just an acronym.

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<v Speaker 2>But I couldn't not a character, just an acronym.

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I could still do the colors if

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't for Roy jibeb.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, now I know the order of the rainbow. Thanks guys,

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<v Speaker 2>You're welcome today, Roy gbib She's like wind down lessons. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 2>this micromanager was just fluttering around me the whole time,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was like, you know you're She accused Love

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<v Speaker 2>and Remy of mixing the glitter with the whatever, and

0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:19.520
<v Speaker 2>they were both just standing there without an attorney and

0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:21.119
<v Speaker 2>they She was like, you did it, and then this

0:22:21.560 --> 0:22:25.160
<v Speaker 2>mom offside and says, if you did that, then you're

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<v Speaker 2>responsible for cleaning it up. The one that was responsible

0:22:27.920 --> 0:22:29.600
<v Speaker 2>for doing is the one response. And I'm a mom,

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<v Speaker 2>another random mom, and I'm like, I'm gonna I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>throw down in this fight museum, but a museum and

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<v Speaker 2>air quotes because it's a giant play place. And I

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<v Speaker 2>just was like, if you're not don't open this. If

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to deal with kids, don't work here.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh huh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean they were not obnoxious. I am so overly

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<v Speaker 2>sensitive to my kids being obnoxious in public restaurants. They

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<v Speaker 2>stay seated. I was a server. Moms and dads are

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<v Speaker 2>on date nights like they don't. It's not cute when

0:22:58.160 --> 0:23:00.199
<v Speaker 2>your kid runs over with a cup. It's not funny, like,

0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:04.320
<v Speaker 2>please just stay seated. I if I'm in a play

0:23:04.320 --> 0:23:07.639
<v Speaker 2>place and my kids are just playing, yeah, I'm gonna

0:23:07.680 --> 0:23:10.920
<v Speaker 2>be Nancy to have a seat before, and Karen to

0:23:11.440 --> 0:23:14.239
<v Speaker 2>it yeah, and Sharon to get off my shoulder, and

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:18.000
<v Speaker 2>Tiffany the random mom. It's a question, what did you do?

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I understand the glitter is very important to you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry. If my kids did that, it wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 2>like them. But we're happy to clean it up. And

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<v Speaker 2>did that.

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<v Speaker 3>It wouldn't be like them.

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<v Speaker 2>It wouldn't be on behalf of my client. What did

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<v Speaker 2>you do? We cleaned it up and I roygbibbed and

0:23:36.119 --> 0:23:39.040
<v Speaker 2>their can section in the grocery store is perfect and

0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:41.560
<v Speaker 2>all their produce is in like magic little order. And

0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:43.280
<v Speaker 2>I was like, and by the way, the fake onion

0:23:43.320 --> 0:23:44.840
<v Speaker 2>should go in this bin because in the real store

0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:51.600
<v Speaker 2>they would get molded. And then Chris comes in. Your

0:23:51.640 --> 0:23:54.639
<v Speaker 2>true wine is don't work at kids places if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't like kids, and don't work at places you don't

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<v Speaker 2>like your job. It's okay. I didn't like my job.

0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:00.960
<v Speaker 2>I remember being a server and I remember the minute

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, my job here is done. Oh you

0:24:03.440 --> 0:24:06.520
<v Speaker 2>guys know I'd go back to TG Fridays today. I

0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:09.360
<v Speaker 2>know you would all that flare. A woman sat down,

0:24:09.440 --> 0:24:11.480
<v Speaker 2>she goes, do you know what I'd love? And in

0:24:11.520 --> 0:24:15.240
<v Speaker 2>my head remember Ellie mcbeale, I had an Allie McBeal memory.

0:24:15.240 --> 0:24:18.639
<v Speaker 2>I was like, yeah, what you will love? And I

0:24:18.680 --> 0:24:21.240
<v Speaker 2>thought it was probably my time to exit the serving community.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh man.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, it was frustrating. And don't accuse kids without parents, Nancy,

0:24:27.560 --> 0:24:30.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm chasing a toddler. You know. I think there's something

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<v Speaker 2>true to be said to that. And I've always and

0:24:33.240 --> 0:24:35.879
<v Speaker 2>I agree with you one thousand. No, no, no, I do

0:24:35.920 --> 0:24:37.280
<v Speaker 2>agree with you. I'm just going to play a little

0:24:37.320 --> 0:24:39.520
<v Speaker 2>bit of Devil's Advocate. Had a feeling. No, it's okay,

0:24:39.760 --> 0:24:43.399
<v Speaker 2>Nancy Junior's on, no, because I agree because I always

0:24:43.440 --> 0:24:46.040
<v Speaker 2>there was the secretary in my high school. She was

0:24:46.119 --> 0:24:49.520
<v Speaker 2>so mean, and I'm like, I wanted to ask her

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<v Speaker 2>many times, why do you work here if you don't

0:24:51.240 --> 0:24:53.840
<v Speaker 2>like kids? So I've always kind of wondered that, But

0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:56.320
<v Speaker 2>now that I've gotten older, I'm like, because it's the

0:24:56.440 --> 0:24:59.639
<v Speaker 2>job that it sometimes how do I say this without

0:24:59.680 --> 0:25:04.760
<v Speaker 2>like they needed that job? But it's also they might not.

0:25:06.160 --> 0:25:08.840
<v Speaker 1>It may not be exactly what they want, yes, but

0:25:08.880 --> 0:25:09.840
<v Speaker 1>it is the job that it.

0:25:09.800 --> 0:25:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Is, the means that they have that they have to have.

0:25:13.520 --> 0:25:17.120
<v Speaker 2>And also they might not meet every requirement. I don't

0:25:17.160 --> 0:25:19.240
<v Speaker 2>think you have in the to be a secretary in

0:25:19.280 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 2>a school. Does it say do you love kids? You know?

0:25:22.080 --> 0:25:24.240
<v Speaker 2>Can you? Are you good at your doing your job

0:25:24.600 --> 0:25:27.280
<v Speaker 2>with the computer and the bookkeeping and the you know,

0:25:27.680 --> 0:25:31.600
<v Speaker 2>these people are apparently good at organization, and but I

0:25:31.600 --> 0:25:34.840
<v Speaker 2>agree with you that there should be Yeah, like like

0:25:35.000 --> 0:25:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Ryan picked up this like stuffed animal from the gift

0:25:37.920 --> 0:25:40.480
<v Speaker 2>shop and she was like she brought it over to me,

0:25:40.600 --> 0:25:42.520
<v Speaker 2>and the woman was like, you have to put that back,

0:25:42.560 --> 0:25:44.600
<v Speaker 2>that's the gift shop. And I said, but she would

0:25:44.640 --> 0:25:45.960
<v Speaker 2>have to test drive it if we were going to

0:25:46.000 --> 0:25:48.040
<v Speaker 2>pay forty two dollars for this over priced bear. So

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:49.679
<v Speaker 2>we're just going to try it on, hold it for

0:25:49.680 --> 0:25:52.440
<v Speaker 2>a second, and we'll put it right back. Yeah, it's

0:25:52.520 --> 0:25:54.000
<v Speaker 2>the aggressive behavior. Yeah.

0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:57.760
<v Speaker 1>Course, seeing a lot more aggressive behavior in general, like

0:25:57.840 --> 0:25:59.560
<v Speaker 1>not even just in the job. I just think that

0:25:59.560 --> 0:26:03.600
<v Speaker 1>that's because coming more norm and tolerated or something. It

0:26:03.640 --> 0:26:06.200
<v Speaker 1>is like it's very like there's a way to be kind,

0:26:06.680 --> 0:26:08.880
<v Speaker 1>but also be assertive, and I think that we're kind

0:26:08.920 --> 0:26:11.600
<v Speaker 1>of at times losing that, which I mean we all

0:26:11.720 --> 0:26:14.440
<v Speaker 1>can be guilty of it, not just certain, but we are.

0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:18.879
<v Speaker 1>There's just a lot of personalities lately that I'm just like, wow,

0:26:19.000 --> 0:26:20.840
<v Speaker 1>like and I can be aggressive.

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:22.119
<v Speaker 2>But I know, but then I always go to the

0:26:22.200 --> 0:26:24.800
<v Speaker 2>what are they doing? That's what are they going through?

0:26:24.880 --> 0:26:26.400
<v Speaker 2>I think, are they having a heart did they get

0:26:26.400 --> 0:26:29.560
<v Speaker 2>a really bad diagnosis today? Did they tell you what

0:26:29.600 --> 0:26:33.080
<v Speaker 2>she's about to go through? Because that's where we were headed.

0:26:33.240 --> 0:26:35.399
<v Speaker 1>Well, I think that there is so much more behind it.

0:26:35.440 --> 0:26:37.480
<v Speaker 1>I think there's a reason why everyone's a little bit

0:26:37.480 --> 0:26:39.760
<v Speaker 1>more aggressive and a little bit more you know. And

0:26:39.800 --> 0:26:42.320
<v Speaker 1>maybe it does go back to information overload and being

0:26:42.440 --> 0:26:45.679
<v Speaker 1>just emotionally exhausted, you know, or whatever, but I think

0:26:45.720 --> 0:26:46.600
<v Speaker 1>there's a reason for that.

0:26:46.800 --> 0:26:49.879
<v Speaker 2>I think, yeah, And I think there's people that, you know.

0:26:49.920 --> 0:26:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I was just having a conversation with someone over the

0:26:53.080 --> 0:26:55.919
<v Speaker 2>tile and all autism debate, and she's a friend and

0:26:55.920 --> 0:26:59.320
<v Speaker 2>we have very open conversations about things, and she had

0:26:59.359 --> 0:27:01.080
<v Speaker 2>posted something and I just kind of slid in with

0:27:01.119 --> 0:27:03.359
<v Speaker 2>something else. I'm like, what if you looked at it

0:27:03.400 --> 0:27:05.960
<v Speaker 2>from this angle? And I was kind of saying something else,

0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:09.159
<v Speaker 2>and she's like, I get that, but they're you know,

0:27:09.200 --> 0:27:10.679
<v Speaker 2>and then she goes into her thing. But then we

0:27:10.760 --> 0:27:15.240
<v Speaker 2>have a dialogue, some understanding on both sides, and I

0:27:15.280 --> 0:27:19.560
<v Speaker 2>think so often, you know, in these situations, there might

0:27:19.680 --> 0:27:22.280
<v Speaker 2>believing something about who you are as a mom, but

0:27:22.280 --> 0:27:24.040
<v Speaker 2>that's not who you are as a mom, you know.

0:27:24.480 --> 0:27:28.119
<v Speaker 2>So it's just having good dialogue. And apparently maybe she

0:27:28.200 --> 0:27:30.199
<v Speaker 2>wasn't wanting to meet you there, but sometimes it can

0:27:30.240 --> 0:27:32.640
<v Speaker 2>be done. Maybe a lot of people just have their

0:27:32.680 --> 0:27:37.440
<v Speaker 2>own experience with these people mixing that they don't put

0:27:37.440 --> 0:27:39.520
<v Speaker 2>the glitter and then it bombs all over the freaking

0:27:39.640 --> 0:27:42.280
<v Speaker 2>grocery store. Mart. We had this. If anyone can relate

0:27:42.320 --> 0:27:45.520
<v Speaker 2>to this chicken wanting her glitter separate from her, it's me.

0:27:45.800 --> 0:27:48.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yeah, listen, you have no idea, who's here.

0:27:48.720 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm here to help you, Nancy.

0:27:50.640 --> 0:27:53.680
<v Speaker 1>People assumptions come in, Like I had the most beautiful

0:27:53.720 --> 0:27:58.119
<v Speaker 1>conversation with someone over a similar situation, and it is

0:27:58.160 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 1>someone that we never agree on any thing, and she

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:03.399
<v Speaker 1>came in with an assumption and I said, actually, this

0:28:03.560 --> 0:28:05.600
<v Speaker 1>is how I feel. And I said, and you probably

0:28:05.640 --> 0:28:08.600
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't have made that assumption, and she was like, absolutely right,

0:28:08.760 --> 0:28:10.560
<v Speaker 1>let's talk like you know, and we always talk.

0:28:10.640 --> 0:28:12.920
<v Speaker 3>But it's like, don't just make us up, don't jump

0:28:12.960 --> 0:28:15.840
<v Speaker 3>in with we all do. But like, I think that

0:28:16.000 --> 0:28:16.720
<v Speaker 3>is a very.

0:28:16.680 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 1>On the smaller scale, an assumption. She assumed that you

0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:21.880
<v Speaker 1>were probably like me, you didn't give a crap about

0:28:21.920 --> 0:28:24.760
<v Speaker 1>the glitter being mixed with and I'm sure I wouldn't.

0:28:25.600 --> 0:28:28.440
<v Speaker 2>Mom that she probably should have taken her aggression exactly.

0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:30.040
<v Speaker 2>I will clean it up, but I'm not not putting

0:28:30.040 --> 0:28:31.919
<v Speaker 2>the glitters like back Together'll.

0:28:31.560 --> 0:28:32.720
<v Speaker 1>Clean it up, but I can tell you what is

0:28:32.800 --> 0:28:36.280
<v Speaker 1>not happening. Roygbivving. Did it start that way? I don't know,

0:28:36.359 --> 0:28:37.439
<v Speaker 1>but that's how Yeah.

0:28:37.320 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 2>And I just learned. So there's no chance you're rogivving.

0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:44.800
<v Speaker 1>I just thought you were going to show up with

0:28:44.840 --> 0:28:46.800
<v Speaker 1>me or Jana and then I will clean it up.

0:28:46.840 --> 0:28:48.960
<v Speaker 2>Though I will think I will always clean it up.

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:50.800
<v Speaker 2>I mean I will push the seats in, you know.

0:28:51.360 --> 0:28:53.760
<v Speaker 3>And my kids are sitting at dinner, biggest.

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:56.600
<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's one of my biggest not judging if you

0:28:56.600 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 1>don't make your kids sit, But it's always been one

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:00.840
<v Speaker 1>of my like anybody general, not judging.

0:29:00.880 --> 0:29:01.239
<v Speaker 3>I get it.

0:29:01.240 --> 0:29:03.479
<v Speaker 2>It's hard you guys, we had a moment. This is

0:29:03.520 --> 0:29:09.960
<v Speaker 2>so like do you forget run? This is, by the way,

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:12.360
<v Speaker 2>a moment that I'm just like us three talking now

0:29:13.520 --> 0:29:16.280
<v Speaker 2>at listening right now, may or may not make the cut. Actually,

0:29:16.400 --> 0:29:18.720
<v Speaker 2>when we were in Flower Child, the new restaurant in

0:29:19.200 --> 0:29:23.680
<v Speaker 2>oh in Franklin, freaking Roman, a sweet little boy. He

0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:27.680
<v Speaker 2>had his belly, was head some like ross diapers or whatever,

0:29:27.760 --> 0:29:30.320
<v Speaker 2>and then he threw up, like at the restaurant. It

0:29:30.400 --> 0:29:33.600
<v Speaker 2>was his first ever throw up. I was like mortified, right,

0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:36.720
<v Speaker 2>but because it's like the mom this other like lady

0:29:36.760 --> 0:29:38.320
<v Speaker 2>was just staring at me. But I mean we were

0:29:38.360 --> 0:29:39.840
<v Speaker 2>just like can I have the spray bot? You know

0:29:39.880 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 2>what I mean, like running out trying to clean it all.

0:29:42.280 --> 0:29:43.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it was it was such a mess. But

0:29:43.960 --> 0:29:46.920
<v Speaker 2>it's like I had those moments too where it's like

0:29:46.960 --> 0:29:49.480
<v Speaker 2>I will never leave, not just gonna be like peace out,

0:29:49.800 --> 0:29:51.400
<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, like like give me the

0:29:51.480 --> 0:29:54.720
<v Speaker 2>color everything, you know, like wiping it down as much

0:29:54.760 --> 0:29:56.560
<v Speaker 2>as humanly possibly can.

0:29:56.920 --> 0:30:00.280
<v Speaker 1>Anyways, being just very specific that we might not take

0:30:00.360 --> 0:30:02.640
<v Speaker 1>the glitter and separate it from them, but we will

0:30:02.640 --> 0:30:04.920
<v Speaker 1>clean up after our are created equal.

0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:08.320
<v Speaker 2>By the way, Roman will throw the food on the

0:30:08.320 --> 0:30:11.440
<v Speaker 2>floor and I'm cleaning it up.

0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:12.200
<v Speaker 3>I'm cleaning it up.

0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:14.680
<v Speaker 1>I always do because I was a server that had

0:30:14.680 --> 0:30:17.000
<v Speaker 1>to do that, so I haven't always and I and

0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:19.479
<v Speaker 1>Nick is like, girl, we got to clean this up.

0:30:19.480 --> 0:30:20.840
<v Speaker 3>I remember when they were little, and I'm like, oh

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:21.840
<v Speaker 3>my gosh, I didn't like.

0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:24.000
<v Speaker 2>It's sweet when the service say, don't worry about it.

0:30:24.000 --> 0:30:26.280
<v Speaker 2>But I'm like, I'm not leaving this here. I'm always

0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:28.200
<v Speaker 2>cleaning it up, picking it up off the floor. I

0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:30.840
<v Speaker 2>can't imagine my visceral reaction if I had to leave

0:30:30.840 --> 0:30:35.120
<v Speaker 2>that mess behind. Oh yeah, yeah. Well anyways, and we're

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:40.200
<v Speaker 2>back to the show. Okay. Headlines zach Efron Nina Dobrev

0:30:40.320 --> 0:30:43.200
<v Speaker 2>are all smiles and flirty photos while vacationing with friends

0:30:43.200 --> 0:30:46.360
<v Speaker 2>in Italy. Guys, because you know, she just had a

0:30:46.360 --> 0:30:51.920
<v Speaker 2>breakup of five years, I believe, and now everyone's thinking they're,

0:30:52.040 --> 0:30:54.680
<v Speaker 2>you know, getting back together or sorry that they're they're

0:30:54.880 --> 0:30:58.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, is this too soon to be in a relationship.

0:30:58.760 --> 0:31:01.400
<v Speaker 2>The rumors, the whole flo all the stuff. But I'm like,

0:31:01.440 --> 0:31:03.959
<v Speaker 2>can't friends just be friends on a yacht? I mean,

0:31:04.840 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm smiling, Yeah, you're gonna catch me looking all sorts

0:31:08.880 --> 0:31:09.120
<v Speaker 2>of things.

0:31:09.160 --> 0:31:10.760
<v Speaker 1>If I'm on it, and if you're just out of

0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:12.720
<v Speaker 1>a breakup, you're gonna go on the yacht.

0:31:12.960 --> 0:31:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and smile on It doesn't matter what comes up

0:31:16.360 --> 0:31:21.800
<v Speaker 2>automatically after your breaks. I will tell you what. He

0:31:21.920 --> 0:31:24.920
<v Speaker 2>is still one of my good friends. Yes, he was great,

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:30.120
<v Speaker 2>he's lovely. We yeah, it was it was again, hello,

0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:34.440
<v Speaker 2>we're not we're not, we're recording. But it was good. Yeah,

0:31:34.640 --> 0:31:36.760
<v Speaker 2>but like this was great. We were in Miami and

0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:40.000
<v Speaker 2>Miami Pam came out and you know she She's like,

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to get us on a yacht this weekend.

0:31:41.480 --> 0:31:43.719
<v Speaker 2>It was it was supposed to be my seven year

0:31:43.760 --> 0:31:47.560
<v Speaker 2>wedding anniversary and instead it was a divorce trip. And

0:31:48.000 --> 0:31:52.320
<v Speaker 2>we met this lovely entrepreneur man and his friends and

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:54.640
<v Speaker 2>they're like, you should come on our yacht. We end

0:31:54.720 --> 0:31:56.800
<v Speaker 2>up going on a different yacht, which is funny because

0:31:56.800 --> 0:31:59.680
<v Speaker 2>we're like no, the thanks or whatever, and we like

0:31:59.720 --> 0:32:01.600
<v Speaker 2>wave to them and are yacht when they were on his.

0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:04.400
<v Speaker 3>Like I still tell the story of the.

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:08.000
<v Speaker 2>Yacht, like I was like, we choose the wrong rock literally,

0:32:08.880 --> 0:32:12.960
<v Speaker 2>like the mile long the Titanic goes. You gotta he

0:32:13.000 --> 0:32:14.480
<v Speaker 2>gotta play like hard to get and I was like, no,

0:32:14.560 --> 0:32:15.520
<v Speaker 2>I want I'd like to get on.

0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:20.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, how do we

0:32:20.160 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 1>get from me this yacht and that yacht thanks for

0:32:22.360 --> 0:32:22.960
<v Speaker 1>getting us on the.

0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:28.000
<v Speaker 2>Yacht things that are not relatable. And then we ended

0:32:28.080 --> 0:32:31.640
<v Speaker 2>up going and meeting this person because his friends are like, oh,

0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:33.240
<v Speaker 2>you should meet our friend. And that was the guy

0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.760
<v Speaker 2>who owned the yacht. And we are still friends to

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:38.640
<v Speaker 2>this day. Yeah, oh good, I think obviously ever happened,

0:32:38.720 --> 0:32:41.880
<v Speaker 2>we just realized that we were going to be friends.

0:32:41.880 --> 0:32:45.040
<v Speaker 2>And he even just DMed me the other day being

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:46.200
<v Speaker 2>like so proud of you and all I was just

0:32:46.360 --> 0:32:49.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm so happy for you, you know, your marriage. Yeah,

0:32:49.560 --> 0:32:51.040
<v Speaker 2>so let them go on the yacht.

0:32:51.120 --> 0:32:53.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they're dating, have fun.

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:56.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you make good friends on yachts, and maybe if

0:32:56.400 --> 0:32:58.560
<v Speaker 2>you're speculating you might need a yacht trip, maybe you

0:32:58.680 --> 0:33:00.080
<v Speaker 2>just have yacht envy.

0:33:00.280 --> 0:33:02.360
<v Speaker 1>And let me just say, that's probably that's the only

0:33:02.360 --> 0:33:05.760
<v Speaker 1>time I've ever been on a yacht. Really yeah, so

0:33:05.880 --> 0:33:08.120
<v Speaker 1>that's like a really cool I'm just saying, that's like

0:33:08.160 --> 0:33:09.040
<v Speaker 1>a core memory for me.

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:11.800
<v Speaker 3>If you get a chance to go on at.

0:33:11.560 --> 0:33:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm debating with her, I tell my yacht story. It's

0:33:14.600 --> 0:33:21.880
<v Speaker 2>why don't you think YadA YadA. Okay, So I'll make

0:33:21.920 --> 0:33:25.600
<v Speaker 2>it fast. So we go visit friends in Fort Lauderdale,

0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:29.320
<v Speaker 2>and I think these I think this friend girlfriend listens

0:33:29.400 --> 0:33:31.080
<v Speaker 2>to this podcast, so this will be funny to her.

0:33:31.520 --> 0:33:35.120
<v Speaker 2>So she we're visiting friends and they keep saying we're

0:33:35.120 --> 0:33:36.320
<v Speaker 2>going to go on a boat day. This is going

0:33:36.360 --> 0:33:37.960
<v Speaker 2>to be a boat day. And I'm like, that's exciting,

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:40.160
<v Speaker 2>you know. So I pull love and legend didn't have

0:33:40.160 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 2>the baby at the time into this room at the

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 2>condo and I say, you listen to me, I need to. Yes,

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:49.800
<v Speaker 2>ma'am's we are wearing every like everything known to man today.

0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:51.680
<v Speaker 2>You will keep them on the entire time we are

0:33:51.680 --> 0:33:53.200
<v Speaker 2>on the boat. Do not ask me to take them off.

0:33:53.240 --> 0:33:56.360
<v Speaker 2>If you cannot wear them, we don't go on the boat. Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.

0:33:57.280 --> 0:34:02.200
<v Speaker 2>We pull up and I'm like, on this episode, a

0:34:02.200 --> 0:34:05.800
<v Speaker 2>below deck, a hundred foot Yeah, this isn't a boat.

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:08.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, we have vastly different interpretations of what a

0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:12.600
<v Speaker 2>boat is. I'm thinking pontoon, you know, and there this

0:34:12.680 --> 0:34:15.279
<v Speaker 2>is gorgeous. It's like four stories, five bedrooms in the

0:34:15.280 --> 0:34:18.360
<v Speaker 2>belly of the ship. And we're like ten minutes and

0:34:18.360 --> 0:34:20.160
<v Speaker 2>they're asking, you know, I'm kicking my shoes off, and

0:34:20.160 --> 0:34:21.960
<v Speaker 2>they're like, ma'am, can I get you a drink? Can

0:34:22.000 --> 0:34:23.480
<v Speaker 2>I take that bag for you? And I'm like no, no,

0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:25.840
<v Speaker 2>It's so I feel like so Michigan rudy of me.

0:34:25.880 --> 0:34:27.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, n I got it. I got it,

0:34:27.360 --> 0:34:31.319
<v Speaker 2>you know, baby, I'm a hip whatever. And and then

0:34:31.320 --> 0:34:33.000
<v Speaker 2>I look at Love and Legend about ten minutes in

0:34:33.040 --> 0:34:34.919
<v Speaker 2>and you guys they're just like stuck there like little

0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:40.040
<v Speaker 2>puffer fish with and I go, hey, so I was wrong.

0:34:40.080 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 2>I didn't realize we were boarding an apartment complex and

0:34:42.280 --> 0:34:44.919
<v Speaker 2>you're free to take off your flotation devices for the day.

0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:46.680
<v Speaker 3>That's funny.

0:34:47.600 --> 0:34:50.440
<v Speaker 2>And they swam on a swimming pool on a boat,

0:34:50.480 --> 0:34:52.680
<v Speaker 2>and they still to this day are like, well are

0:34:52.680 --> 0:34:54.000
<v Speaker 2>we going on a boat that has a swimming pool?

0:34:54.040 --> 0:34:55.680
<v Speaker 2>And like, please don't say that in public to anybody else.

0:34:56.080 --> 0:34:58.560
<v Speaker 3>See, they really beat me out. I haven't done that before.

0:34:58.640 --> 0:35:00.279
<v Speaker 2>You guys really want to do one of the those

0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:02.279
<v Speaker 2>rent one of those yachts, like we need to go

0:35:02.360 --> 0:35:06.359
<v Speaker 2>on an Italian vacation or somewhere, and they have one

0:35:06.360 --> 0:35:08.279
<v Speaker 2>of those yachts that have those swimming pools on there,

0:35:08.280 --> 0:35:10.200
<v Speaker 2>but you can actually rent him for the full week.

0:35:10.239 --> 0:35:13.279
<v Speaker 2>So you just it's crazy dock out by Capri or

0:35:13.440 --> 0:35:18.359
<v Speaker 2>Positano and it's incredible. The crew is like incredible, They say,

0:35:18.360 --> 0:35:20.520
<v Speaker 2>rent your book, run him as front, you know, and

0:35:20.520 --> 0:35:22.640
<v Speaker 2>then you just chip it all in. Yeah, okay, sorry

0:35:22.640 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 2>that was it off. Wow we just apology.

0:35:25.120 --> 0:35:25.560
<v Speaker 3>Good for them.

0:35:25.560 --> 0:35:28.560
<v Speaker 2>Then they're yeah, start saving up the next ten years.

0:35:29.719 --> 0:35:30.200
<v Speaker 3>Are we doing this?

0:35:31.760 --> 0:35:36.000
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's fifty on a boot. We be yachting, Okay,

0:35:36.120 --> 0:35:38.239
<v Speaker 2>I mean it. Clutes shares an emotional message to Charlie

0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:42.319
<v Speaker 2>Kirk's widow, Erica, you have a purpose. She shared on

0:35:43.360 --> 0:35:46.720
<v Speaker 2>the podcast. She said, my late mother in law, Nick's

0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:48.759
<v Speaker 2>mother told me when Nick was in the hospital. She said,

0:35:48.760 --> 0:35:51.919
<v Speaker 2>your son Elvis will save you, and his smile every

0:35:52.000 --> 0:35:53.719
<v Speaker 2>day will make you want to get up and live.

0:35:53.840 --> 0:35:56.080
<v Speaker 2>It's true, Clutes shared in a preview, and that's what

0:35:56.120 --> 0:35:59.880
<v Speaker 2>I would tell Erica that your kids you have a purpose.

0:36:01.680 --> 0:36:03.960
<v Speaker 2>She said. You know you will go through this time

0:36:04.000 --> 0:36:06.120
<v Speaker 2>when you're like, what's my purpose? Why did this happen?

0:36:06.600 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 2>She recalled. I told Nick when he died. I was like,

0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 2>I will be the best mom to this kid. I

0:36:11.200 --> 0:36:13.960
<v Speaker 2>will show him the world and Amanda. I just I

0:36:14.040 --> 0:36:19.080
<v Speaker 2>love Amanda so much and I've just we've DMed over

0:36:19.120 --> 0:36:22.200
<v Speaker 2>the years, and she really has just shown up in

0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:25.440
<v Speaker 2>such a beautiful way for Elvis, and just all their

0:36:25.520 --> 0:36:29.280
<v Speaker 2>vacations and their trips they take together are so beautiful

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:32.839
<v Speaker 2>and like, what a truly beautiful thing that you know,

0:36:32.920 --> 0:36:38.960
<v Speaker 2>she's giving him joy and it's such a sad, sad remembrance,

0:36:38.960 --> 0:36:40.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, it's as awful.

0:36:41.040 --> 0:36:45.800
<v Speaker 1>It's just amazing how when such tragic things happen, how

0:36:47.120 --> 0:36:49.200
<v Speaker 1>so much beauty can come out of it, you know.

0:36:49.280 --> 0:36:52.399
<v Speaker 1>And to me reading this on the rundown, I was like, man,

0:36:54.120 --> 0:36:56.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, God was really in that story. And I

0:36:56.080 --> 0:37:00.480
<v Speaker 1>know it's trauma and it's awful and it's tear but

0:37:00.600 --> 0:37:02.600
<v Speaker 1>to be able to see the beauty on the other

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:04.840
<v Speaker 1>side of it and to be able to have this

0:37:04.960 --> 0:37:07.480
<v Speaker 1>may be her purpose. I mean, I understand that, you know,

0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:10.319
<v Speaker 1>whether Erica sees what she says or not, But to

0:37:10.400 --> 0:37:12.879
<v Speaker 1>be able to pass that on and to be one

0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:15.920
<v Speaker 1>of few people who can really relate and to be

0:37:15.960 --> 0:37:18.560
<v Speaker 1>able to give that to someone else, I just think

0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:21.640
<v Speaker 1>it's just absolutely beautiful. Whether that just makes her feel,

0:37:21.800 --> 0:37:23.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, like she's got a purpose or just that

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:27.000
<v Speaker 1>there's some the beauty and the trauma and the traumatic experience,

0:37:27.080 --> 0:37:27.399
<v Speaker 1>and I.

0:37:27.320 --> 0:37:30.160
<v Speaker 2>Think it's a beautiful thing to hear from someone who's

0:37:30.200 --> 0:37:33.200
<v Speaker 2>walked in your shoes before. You know, That's one of

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:35.319
<v Speaker 2>the reasons why I share my stuff. It's why you guys,

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:41.080
<v Speaker 2>girls share your things. It's yeah, I get help and

0:37:41.120 --> 0:37:43.799
<v Speaker 2>hope from people that have walked before me. And so

0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:45.719
<v Speaker 2>if I can, you know, give that back, and Amanda's

0:37:45.760 --> 0:37:47.880
<v Speaker 2>doing that for Erica and I you know, it's it's

0:37:47.920 --> 0:37:52.240
<v Speaker 2>it's awful and it's tragic, and you're also seeing Amanda

0:37:53.200 --> 0:37:55.680
<v Speaker 2>the light that she has now even with you know,

0:37:55.680 --> 0:37:59.279
<v Speaker 2>her missing her for her late husband. And there's a

0:37:59.280 --> 0:38:02.479
<v Speaker 2>lot of widows out I can't even imagine. I can't

0:38:02.520 --> 0:38:07.239
<v Speaker 2>I can't even imagine. No, it's we have friends who

0:38:07.440 --> 0:38:09.600
<v Speaker 2>are going through like a health issue. The husband's going

0:38:09.640 --> 0:38:11.400
<v Speaker 2>through a health issue, and the wife just like finally

0:38:11.440 --> 0:38:14.200
<v Speaker 2>had her moment where she cried and she was like,

0:38:14.200 --> 0:38:16.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm just overwhelmed. And he's a little bit older than her,

0:38:17.040 --> 0:38:18.360
<v Speaker 2>so I think that's always been in the back of

0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:21.880
<v Speaker 2>her mind anyways, and I just we just had this

0:38:21.880 --> 0:38:23.360
<v Speaker 2>moment where I was like, listen, we're going to stop.

0:38:23.400 --> 0:38:24.839
<v Speaker 2>And I don't want you to spiral. I know that's

0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:27.680
<v Speaker 2>easy to do, but it's just, you know, I think

0:38:27.680 --> 0:38:30.160
<v Speaker 2>coming off the heels of this, everything just gets different weights.

0:38:30.400 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 2>And so my favorite, one of my favorite quotes of

0:38:33.200 --> 0:38:35.040
<v Speaker 2>all time is we're all just walking each other home,

0:38:36.160 --> 0:38:39.320
<v Speaker 2>and that just I feel like that's Amanda in a nutshell.

0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:41.440
<v Speaker 2>I love it. Yeah. Well, I mean I even think too.

0:38:41.440 --> 0:38:44.319
<v Speaker 2>I mean, just how much your kids do for for

0:38:44.440 --> 0:38:46.120
<v Speaker 2>you, you know, And it's like going when you go through

0:38:46.200 --> 0:38:47.759
<v Speaker 2>hard time, It's like I'll never forget when I was

0:38:47.800 --> 0:38:49.680
<v Speaker 2>going through my divorce, I'm like, I have no choice

0:38:49.719 --> 0:38:51.520
<v Speaker 2>but to show up for my kids. Like Catherine, you

0:38:51.600 --> 0:38:52.960
<v Speaker 2>know that I wrote about this in my book. But

0:38:53.080 --> 0:38:55.120
<v Speaker 2>she's like, you have to get up and take your

0:38:55.200 --> 0:38:56.920
<v Speaker 2>kids to school. And I'm like, a dah, you know

0:38:56.960 --> 0:38:58.799
<v Speaker 2>what I mean, like a gang go, you know, and

0:38:58.800 --> 0:39:01.400
<v Speaker 2>she's like you have to, you will and you'll be fine.

0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:03.960
<v Speaker 2>And it's like it's like you just have to put

0:39:03.960 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 2>one foot in front of again. I'm not trying to

0:39:06.200 --> 0:39:10.120
<v Speaker 2>compare because it's total two different things, right, but you know,

0:39:10.160 --> 0:39:12.520
<v Speaker 2>when it comes to this being with your kids, it's

0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:15.680
<v Speaker 2>like you have to show up and for your kids

0:39:15.680 --> 0:39:17.160
<v Speaker 2>and it's well.

0:39:16.960 --> 0:39:19.160
<v Speaker 1>And the kids will also show up for you. Yeah,

0:39:19.160 --> 0:39:21.759
<v Speaker 1>and that was a part of that with you. I

0:39:21.920 --> 0:39:25.200
<v Speaker 1>knew that your kids and her kids and her that

0:39:25.400 --> 0:39:26.279
<v Speaker 1>is also.

0:39:26.080 --> 0:39:28.719
<v Speaker 3>A healing for the widow.

0:39:28.600 --> 0:39:31.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, or the person who's been divorced or the person

0:39:31.440 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 1>like your kids. You're not just doing it for your kids.

0:39:33.800 --> 0:39:35.560
<v Speaker 1>Your kids can also do it for you, right, you

0:39:35.640 --> 0:39:39.279
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? They will show you what you need.

0:39:39.400 --> 0:39:41.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I mean I remember looking back and photos

0:39:41.600 --> 0:39:43.680
<v Speaker 2>like when I go back, and you know, I'll post

0:39:43.680 --> 0:39:47.960
<v Speaker 2>things from back then in twenty twenty one. I'll I

0:39:48.040 --> 0:39:50.120
<v Speaker 2>know how hurt I was inside, but I have got

0:39:50.160 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 2>the photo of me and the kids like smiling because

0:39:52.000 --> 0:39:54.080
<v Speaker 2>it's like they're the ones that brought put the smile

0:39:54.120 --> 0:39:56.680
<v Speaker 2>on my face that day. Yeap, nobody else could have

0:39:56.680 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 2>done that. Sid's my kids, absolutely so and just yeah,

0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:07.560
<v Speaker 2>continuingly praying for Ericauner kids and it's awful. This was

0:40:07.680 --> 0:40:10.320
<v Speaker 2>this next one. Tom Brady confuses TV viewers of puzzling

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:13.360
<v Speaker 2>common and very slamming a helmet to kicking a dog. Listen,

0:40:13.840 --> 0:40:17.839
<v Speaker 2>you know, Peta announced peta. Peta hates me. Those little

0:40:17.920 --> 0:40:19.880
<v Speaker 2>start right there. I go to zoos. I love zoos.

0:40:19.960 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm big on what they dolphins and yeah,

0:40:24.080 --> 0:40:27.799
<v Speaker 2>those ones. Yes, but I am the person that will

0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:30.440
<v Speaker 2>do that. Okay, I do see the benefits of their

0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:35.840
<v Speaker 2>conservattory whatever all these things. But listen, I think he

0:40:35.960 --> 0:40:38.080
<v Speaker 2>was honestly taking things out of It was a taken

0:40:38.120 --> 0:40:40.239
<v Speaker 2>out of context. He's obviously not going to kick a dog,

0:40:41.239 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. It's like, it's like, oh,

0:40:42.640 --> 0:40:45.360
<v Speaker 2>you're so cute, I could eat you, like about a baby.

0:40:45.400 --> 0:40:49.080
<v Speaker 2>Like remember we talked to army hammer army hammers. She's like,

0:40:50.120 --> 0:40:51.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, well, you can't actually con bear cannibalism to

0:40:51.840 --> 0:40:55.879
<v Speaker 2>actually because this is bad. But that was funny. Yeah,

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:59.000
<v Speaker 2>but like not in that context of an army hammer

0:40:59.719 --> 0:41:03.719
<v Speaker 2>inn you, and it would be always just I just

0:41:03.719 --> 0:41:07.359
<v Speaker 2>eat you. But obviously that is also Guys, how much

0:41:07.400 --> 0:41:11.640
<v Speaker 2>do we misspeak? I mean I know that all of

0:41:11.680 --> 0:41:14.360
<v Speaker 2>the time. I mean bound to misspeak.

0:41:15.520 --> 0:41:18.920
<v Speaker 1>You can't anymore though, it's like you you can't. Everything

0:41:19.000 --> 0:41:23.200
<v Speaker 1>is completely scrutinized, and you know, I mean that's what

0:41:23.280 --> 0:41:24.240
<v Speaker 1>I took from the story.

0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:27.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, are we really worried about the dog? Like

0:41:27.400 --> 0:41:28.040
<v Speaker 3>maybe we are.

0:41:28.200 --> 0:41:31.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if he really does want to kick

0:41:31.040 --> 0:41:33.480
<v Speaker 2>a dog, but I think it's just the expression kick

0:41:33.560 --> 0:41:36.520
<v Speaker 2>the dog. Yes, it's like kick the can, right or

0:41:36.600 --> 0:41:38.680
<v Speaker 2>no one other and one is a woman.

0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:42.319
<v Speaker 1>Yes it is kick a dog when it's down. It's

0:41:42.320 --> 0:41:44.200
<v Speaker 1>like kicking a dog when it's down. Yes, it is insane,

0:41:44.400 --> 0:41:47.600
<v Speaker 1>it is right. Yes, and horse, but I'm not going

0:41:47.680 --> 0:41:51.800
<v Speaker 1>to go beat a horse exactly. Do you have horses?

0:41:52.360 --> 0:41:53.759
<v Speaker 2>No, we just.

0:41:55.000 --> 0:41:57.759
<v Speaker 3>Little to these days. There's too much of.

0:41:57.760 --> 0:42:01.520
<v Speaker 2>A magnifying glass and every word every like Tom Brady

0:42:01.520 --> 0:42:04.120
<v Speaker 2>look at him with his perfect teeth. He probably I

0:42:04.160 --> 0:42:07.000
<v Speaker 2>don't suspect he kicks dogs. I think he just likes

0:42:07.080 --> 0:42:10.480
<v Speaker 2>the same and I bet he really regrets it. And

0:42:10.560 --> 0:42:12.200
<v Speaker 2>I think we don't need to go check on tom

0:42:12.440 --> 0:42:17.080
<v Speaker 2>Brady's dogs. I'm sure they have their best meal. Ever.

0:42:17.239 --> 0:42:19.120
<v Speaker 2>I think shortly we will see a headline that says

0:42:19.160 --> 0:42:23.240
<v Speaker 2>Tom Brady donates an X amount to humane society.

0:42:23.040 --> 0:42:24.279
<v Speaker 3>But like he didn't.

0:42:26.239 --> 0:42:28.399
<v Speaker 2>Like it's ridiculous. No, I know.

0:42:29.040 --> 0:42:31.200
<v Speaker 1>Now we will retract this. If there is one that

0:42:31.239 --> 0:42:32.480
<v Speaker 1>says Tom Brady kicks.

0:42:32.320 --> 0:42:34.880
<v Speaker 2>His dog, we will go back and say does it

0:42:35.080 --> 0:42:38.680
<v Speaker 2>like we're wrong, because you know that some of them

0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:41.920
<v Speaker 2>do those underground dog fights and like that. You know

0:42:42.840 --> 0:42:49.440
<v Speaker 2>NFL players didn't charged? Yes, good for me. Yeah, I

0:42:49.480 --> 0:42:53.080
<v Speaker 2>think it was big. It was thick, right, I'm pretty

0:42:53.080 --> 0:42:54.240
<v Speaker 2>sure it was. Yeah.

0:42:54.400 --> 0:42:55.279
<v Speaker 3>Now that's messed up.

0:42:55.520 --> 0:43:01.320
<v Speaker 2>That's awful. He can't say that saying no.

0:43:00.160 --> 0:43:03.680
<v Speaker 1>No, no, Maybe no one really should.

0:43:03.680 --> 0:43:06.040
<v Speaker 2>But it was out of acts. I really don't. I'm

0:43:06.040 --> 0:43:08.839
<v Speaker 2>not dividing. Should someone say eating a baby like so cute?

0:43:08.880 --> 0:43:09.759
<v Speaker 2>I could just bite you?

0:43:09.880 --> 0:43:10.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:11.880
<v Speaker 3>We should not be this sensitive to all of this.

0:43:12.200 --> 0:43:14.240
<v Speaker 3>Thank you. People have got to be able to say

0:43:14.239 --> 0:43:15.720
<v Speaker 3>things and not take it too literal.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Okay, amen Save Tom Brady.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a mom of a kindergartener with autism and we're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to navigate the school system for the first time.

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<v Speaker 2>One issue that's really weighing on me right now is

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<v Speaker 2>with his pe teacher. This is her first year teaching,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's made it clear that students are graded based

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<v Speaker 2>on ten specific rules. According to her, my son is

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<v Speaker 2>only meeting one of them, and she's expressed this in

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<v Speaker 2>a way that felt really cold and lacking understanding of

0:43:54.760 --> 0:43:57.440
<v Speaker 2>his needs. Our interactions have been tense, and she seems

0:43:57.440 --> 0:43:59.960
<v Speaker 2>to have very little patience for him, and frankly has

0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:03.320
<v Speaker 2>been pretty rude in our communications. I'm trying to advocate

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<v Speaker 2>for my son without being labeled that parent. But I'm

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<v Speaker 2>at a loss. How can I approach this in a

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<v Speaker 2>way that supports my son, encourages some understanding from the teacher,

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<v Speaker 2>and hopefully opens up a better line of communication. What

0:44:14.680 --> 0:44:17.240
<v Speaker 2>are my options when a teacher just doesn't seem willing

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<v Speaker 2>to accommodate or even understand.

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<v Speaker 3>Shouldn't his shouldn't he already have some kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>an IEP like what we have here.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what that'd be, but some kind of

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<v Speaker 1>accommodations already.

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<v Speaker 3>That's my biggest special Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So, like Jolie is technically in special ED for her dyslexia,

0:44:35.080 --> 0:44:40.000
<v Speaker 2>and she within her special Ed, she has a IEP

0:44:40.280 --> 0:44:42.759
<v Speaker 2>teacher that comes and meets with her. She also has

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<v Speaker 2>or a language teacher as well that comes and pulls

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<v Speaker 2>through out a class. Those times when it comes to pe,

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<v Speaker 2>That's where I'm like, I don't know, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>that world. But I would say, first and foremost, ask

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<v Speaker 2>for a meeting with the principal and sit down and

0:45:00.800 --> 0:45:03.000
<v Speaker 2>get ahead of it. And and it kills me that

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<v Speaker 2>she said that parent, because I'm like, you're already trying

0:45:06.920 --> 0:45:09.919
<v Speaker 2>to label yourself as that when you're you are doing

0:45:09.920 --> 0:45:12.839
<v Speaker 2>what you need to be doing and advocating for your son,

0:45:13.600 --> 0:45:17.680
<v Speaker 2>who I believe it's a son son. Yeah, And that's

0:45:17.719 --> 0:45:20.040
<v Speaker 2>exactly you should be that parents. It's not about being

0:45:20.080 --> 0:45:23.200
<v Speaker 2>that parent, you are being a parent period. Like call

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<v Speaker 2>a meeting, exactly, call me. I mean meetings I had

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<v Speaker 2>with you know, Jolie's school, making sure everyone you know,

0:45:30.840 --> 0:45:33.960
<v Speaker 2>and everyone was kind in those meetings and understood as

0:45:33.960 --> 0:45:36.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm like bawling and sad, and it's like, you need

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<v Speaker 2>to call a meeting for the principal. I shouldn't say

0:45:38.880 --> 0:45:42.719
<v Speaker 2>you need to. What I would recommend is call the school,

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<v Speaker 2>ask for a meeting with the principal vice principal and

0:45:46.680 --> 0:45:49.640
<v Speaker 2>have that, you know, then maybe the next meeting, have

0:45:49.760 --> 0:45:52.279
<v Speaker 2>them tell them what's going on, and then they can

0:45:52.320 --> 0:45:53.880
<v Speaker 2>talk to the pe teacher and then you guys have

0:45:53.920 --> 0:45:56.920
<v Speaker 2>another meeting where you sit down and you talk about,

0:45:57.880 --> 0:46:00.160
<v Speaker 2>you know, how your son's feeling, how you're feeling, what

0:46:00.239 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 2>can be done to accommodate because you can't treat them.

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<v Speaker 2>This is going to sound. People are gonna get mad.

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<v Speaker 2>At me for saying this, but it's true that let's

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<v Speaker 2>just say my Jolie's situation. You can't treat Joli the

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<v Speaker 2>same way as someone who doesn't have dyslexia. She fails

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<v Speaker 2>miserably if she does not have the help right to

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<v Speaker 2>help accommodate her. Someone with autism needs someone else to

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<v Speaker 2>help them. You can't treat them the same. And I

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<v Speaker 2>know people will be like that, but they're same, and

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<v Speaker 2>maybe I'll get hate for that, but you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>No, And that's why there's accommodations in the school systems,

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<v Speaker 1>at least where we live, and I would assume there

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<v Speaker 1>are accommodations.

0:46:37.840 --> 0:46:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Where she lives as well if.

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<v Speaker 1>Not, and I would get educated on that to see

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<v Speaker 1>what her rights are and what the accommodation should be,

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<v Speaker 1>because I can promise you this is probably not living

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<v Speaker 1>up to what that is supposed to be. I mean

0:46:51.440 --> 0:46:54.840
<v Speaker 1>there's laws for this and states. So yes, again, I

0:46:54.840 --> 0:46:57.720
<v Speaker 1>don't know exactly what this pe teacher is going against,

0:46:57.800 --> 0:47:00.000
<v Speaker 1>but there are things in place for this very reason.

0:47:00.400 --> 0:47:03.800
<v Speaker 1>So meetings one hundred percent couldn't agree. And like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>be that parent, be the parent, yeah, I mean, drop

0:47:06.800 --> 0:47:09.520
<v Speaker 1>that and just be the parent, be the parent. I mean,

0:47:09.560 --> 0:47:11.960
<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day, you're not gonna know

0:47:12.080 --> 0:47:13.880
<v Speaker 1>these people for very long, but you're gonna have your

0:47:13.920 --> 0:47:15.080
<v Speaker 1>child for the rest of their life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and this is good. Shake them because if they're

0:47:17.680 --> 0:47:23.160
<v Speaker 2>if they're treating listen, this is and I feel really

0:47:23.320 --> 0:47:25.680
<v Speaker 2>it actually made me sad. I just did a conference

0:47:25.760 --> 0:47:30.000
<v Speaker 2>with Jace's teacher and he was reading in like the

0:47:30.040 --> 0:47:32.440
<v Speaker 2>eighty six percentile. Jolie is at like the fifth like

0:47:32.560 --> 0:47:38.200
<v Speaker 2>is she is if you're comparing the two. One has dyslexia,

0:47:38.280 --> 0:47:42.359
<v Speaker 2>one does not right, And so you can't talk to

0:47:42.400 --> 0:47:47.279
<v Speaker 2>them in the way like Jace's teacher was talking to me.

0:47:48.000 --> 0:47:51.520
<v Speaker 2>The teacher that tells me Jolie's scoring and what she's

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<v Speaker 2>doing has to come at it from a softer angle,

0:47:54.400 --> 0:47:57.440
<v Speaker 2>knowing the stuff, the disability that she has within her

0:47:57.560 --> 0:48:00.440
<v Speaker 2>learning that's right and she should not be made to

0:48:00.480 --> 0:48:06.680
<v Speaker 2>feel stupid or unlike the other kids. So, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think you have to have that that careful thing,

0:48:10.000 --> 0:48:12.120
<v Speaker 2>because they're going to start if they feel any different,

0:48:12.239 --> 0:48:15.719
<v Speaker 2>which they are, but if they feel that and internalize that,

0:48:15.719 --> 0:48:18.280
<v Speaker 2>that is when the issue of them feeling I'm stupid,

0:48:18.560 --> 0:48:21.279
<v Speaker 2>I'm you know, I'm I'm less than and then they're

0:48:21.320 --> 0:48:24.640
<v Speaker 2>gonna then carry that into their adolescence and adulthood, and

0:48:24.640 --> 0:48:27.360
<v Speaker 2>that's where it becomes a big problem. Absolutely, the people

0:48:27.360 --> 0:48:30.640
<v Speaker 2>start into that. Yeah, ineg and yeah, those early years

0:48:30.640 --> 0:48:33.680
<v Speaker 2>are just about confidence building anyways. He just needs to

0:48:33.719 --> 0:48:36.719
<v Speaker 2>feel capable of whatever capacity that is for him.

0:48:37.200 --> 0:48:40.040
<v Speaker 3>I mean, even when there's not a disability involved. All

0:48:40.160 --> 0:48:43.320
<v Speaker 3>children are different, and it's a good teacher, a good coach,

0:48:43.560 --> 0:48:47.120
<v Speaker 3>a good parent notices that every child is different and

0:48:47.160 --> 0:48:49.600
<v Speaker 3>there are different Now, there might be standards you have

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<v Speaker 3>to have MPE, but I still think that you can

0:48:52.200 --> 0:48:56.279
<v Speaker 3>recognize when some people might not be able to meet

0:48:56.440 --> 0:48:57.200
<v Speaker 3>those standards.

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<v Speaker 2>Listening, it wasn't able to do the pull ups or

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<v Speaker 2>whatever kind of rope in my life.

0:49:02.560 --> 0:49:06.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're going to have the natural athlete exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>All three of us will have different Absolutely, Yes, things

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<v Speaker 2>we can do, you know, and we'd be great on

0:49:11.640 --> 0:49:13.920
<v Speaker 2>the game show. And if it doesn't work out for

0:49:13.920 --> 0:49:16.440
<v Speaker 2>this pe teacher, I know a children's museum that can

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<v Speaker 2>hire high.

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<v Speaker 3>We just came full circle, just ended with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was trying to say that about them being different,

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<v Speaker 2>like absolutely, but I but I also like to devil's

0:49:29.440 --> 0:49:33.000
<v Speaker 2>advocate that that's the problem. Then making them not feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's where it gets tricky in the school system.

0:49:35.200 --> 0:49:37.000
<v Speaker 1>But that's why this stuff is in place. There is

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<v Speaker 1>a way to Yes, they have to be treated and

0:49:41.160 --> 0:49:44.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, differently, but really it's just teaching differently. It's

0:49:44.239 --> 0:49:48.520
<v Speaker 1>not treating differently. You're still treating them the same. But

0:49:48.560 --> 0:49:51.680
<v Speaker 1>they have to have accommodations in place to help them out.

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<v Speaker 2>And what are these ten commandments? That's what's crazy. There's

0:49:55.160 --> 0:49:59.480
<v Speaker 2>like ten rules. I'm like, Okay, the dude was in

0:49:59.520 --> 0:50:01.840
<v Speaker 2>your belly fy years ago. Let me just take the

0:50:01.880 --> 0:50:05.680
<v Speaker 2>big old thing. What's that big thing? They do the

0:50:05.719 --> 0:50:09.600
<v Speaker 2>best pop and popcorn? Yes, please, please.

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<v Speaker 1>Please, please, though, look into what your states accommodations are

0:50:12.680 --> 0:50:14.719
<v Speaker 1>because you're just now in kindergarten and this is going

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<v Speaker 1>to get.

0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:16.480
<v Speaker 3>So much more important as you.

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<v Speaker 2>Please please do not feel bad for advocating for your child,

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<v Speaker 2>and don't feel guilty, and don't let anybody you get

0:50:22.080 --> 0:50:25.960
<v Speaker 2>right in there. Amen. Oh guys, we had a lot

0:50:26.000 --> 0:50:29.480
<v Speaker 2>to say actually today who knew you started?

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