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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 2: Well, our little kit Kat is back with us this week. Okay,

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Speaker 2: we missed you. I got to play Catherine. I had

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Speaker 2: supposing question have to download the episode. Give us a download, girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: I will because especially if you played me, I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Nervous.

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Speaker 3: No, I think she would do a great me.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. I actually said, I was like, I feel

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Speaker 2: like you're most capable of being Cat. I was like,

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Speaker 2: I have no Cat for so long. I was like,

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Speaker 2: I can do this.

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Speaker 1: W WKD wait, don't even tell me. I cannot wait

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Speaker 1: to go listen and see what you did.

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Speaker 2: It was fun, but we're glad to have you back. Thanks.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's been a minute since it's been

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Speaker 2: us three. I know it feels like that for some reason. Yeah, far,

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Speaker 2: but I don't know why. Well, we just missed you deeply.

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Speaker 3: You're not here, thanks, guys.

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Speaker 2: I I mean, I really don't have anything to uh

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Speaker 2: to talk about. Wow, I know hei, guys, I do, yes, score.

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Speaker 4: I might.

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Speaker 2: This morning, I had my first consultation for a breastlet.

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Speaker 2: It was really really wonderful, right, and I haven't made

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Speaker 2: any plans, but I just really enjoyed the doctor. I

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Speaker 2: felt like he was very disarming. It was so calm.

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Speaker 2: The nurse also had had a lift, and so she

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Speaker 2: talked to me, did she show you her boobscause people

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Speaker 2: boobs like, I'm like, you want to see it? But

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Speaker 2: it was just wonderful, like no pressure to implant. He

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Speaker 2: was like, we can absolutely, you know, give you back some.

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Speaker 2: I essentially just don't have a torso. So he just

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Speaker 2: was wonderful. And I'm really excited that I did. I

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Speaker 2: have rescheduled it three times because of conflicts, and I

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Speaker 2: almost didn't want to go this morning because the Nashville

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Speaker 2: traffic took me an hour. But I did it. That's awesome. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and stay tuned. They said, recovery is pretty easy. Preston's like,

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Speaker 2: we don't need to mess with these these are They're

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Speaker 2: perfect just the way they are. You said, you tell

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Speaker 2: that doctor, we don't even need him. I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: calm down, that's sweet though, love it. I know that's

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Speaker 2: what the nurse did for you. She said, you you're

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Speaker 2: going it's going to be so crazy. You're going to

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Speaker 2: wish you did it earlier. I know someone that just

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Speaker 2: did a lift as well. Without putting an implant in

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Speaker 2: and she's obsessed with it. I need to know. Do

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Speaker 2: I know this person? Yes, I don't know if she's

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Speaker 2: publicly shared so, but yes, yeah, okay, And they just

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Speaker 2: I want to know experience so much better, and I

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Speaker 2: think there is some like recovery. I think with an

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Speaker 2: implant might be different. I don't know, but they still

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Speaker 2: wasn't no more difficult? Okay, implants are more difficult to

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Speaker 2: recover from. Okay, So is.

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Speaker 1: It like you decide if it's an implant as well?

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Speaker 3: Do they decide like, hey, it's needed, wouldn't He said,

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Speaker 3: I don't need you just don't need to.

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Speaker 2: And are you going to do fat transfer or just

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Speaker 2: a straight up lift? Just a lift? If I if

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Speaker 2: I do it, it would be so the right guy

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Speaker 2: is much not much, but it feels larger. I've never

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Speaker 2: had asymmetry before and now I do post last baby.

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Speaker 2: So we would the left one would set the tone

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Speaker 2: and he would just it would be the same pretty

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Speaker 2: much the same cup size, just up just quite a

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Speaker 2: bit higher. And he said, you're a very fit person,

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Speaker 2: which I mean, listen, that consultation was worth that and

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Speaker 2: a nuts that he's like you're a very fit person.

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Speaker 2: So I said, I feel like this feels crazy to

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Speaker 2: say I feel like disorganized or sloppy, and he said

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Speaker 2: it isn't. I hear that from a lot of women.

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Speaker 2: You feel wider right there and you're not. And so

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Speaker 2: it's giving this like misshape and kind of like feeler image.

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Speaker 2: But he was lovely, that's so exciting. I feel excited.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 3: So the next step is just scheduling it.

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Speaker 2: Huh yeah, I don't know what that will look like, see,

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Speaker 2: but it just feels good to like even have. And

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Speaker 2: I've heard from several people you should go to a

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Speaker 2: few doctors and get a consultation just to feel it out.

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Speaker 2: But I thought it was lovely. I'm so excited for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's been going to be Easter, Janna.

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Speaker 3: It is around Eastern and then we all hang out

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Speaker 3: on Easter.

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Speaker 2: What's been going on here? We miss you?

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Speaker 3: Oh man, it has just been a lot the last

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Speaker 2: I feel like, oh Kat, we needed you last week

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Speaker 1: That was maybe a blessing in disguise, But you know,

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Speaker 1: it's hard. I'm going to be honest, it's going to

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Speaker 1: like great couple of weeks. And I think that, you know,

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Speaker 1: everyone knows what's going on in the world, and I

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Speaker 1: think that that's been different for everybody, but that's been

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Speaker 1: So we're just, you know, we're we're having a lot

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Speaker 2: We talked about that last week where I said, you know,

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Speaker 2: and instead of just posting things, I leaned in, I

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Speaker 2: leaned into my faith, I learned in my family, and

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Speaker 2: Absolutely a little old school. I've appreciated just the tending

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Speaker 2: and digesting and processing as I can. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been Also, I think having teenagers has been

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Speaker 1: And you know, my thirteen year olds she probably won't

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Speaker 1: It's just been a really positive in our in our homes.

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Speaker 1: So I have something that just kind of sparked from

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Speaker 1: you saying that. Yeah, so you guys know, I'm a

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Speaker 1: big fan of doctor Aymon I follow him, love him,

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Speaker 1: and you know, he came on the podcast one time

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Speaker 2: Each one of your children. And the other day I

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Speaker 2: And in my brain, I'm like, like with coming home

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Speaker 2: I'm like, where do you find those It's like now,

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Speaker 2: I mean I'm laying in bed and having those conversations.

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Speaker 2: can't just be like, okay, twenty minutes, Jace, come on,

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Speaker 2: let's go like uno together, just you and I are

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Speaker 2: what do you want to do? Or pick what you know?

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Speaker 2: And it's just it kind of makes me sad because

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Speaker 2: then I go, oh wait, because we're not having that

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Speaker 2: twenty minutes now. Is that, Like is that bad? And

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Speaker 2: then then I'm like, where are we getting these twenty minutes?

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Speaker 2: I feel like you could modify. I'm trying to, you know,

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Speaker 2: I It's like, it can still be a meaningful twenty

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Speaker 2: if you're driving in the car with them, that's the

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Speaker 2: game question are Yeah, even though it's not an activity

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Speaker 2: that they were not just to ask them questions. That's

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Speaker 2: But I mean, like if we have to modify it

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Speaker 2: you just chatty, I mean that's a good maybe modification.

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Speaker 2: We also, I'm taking the biggies on separate trips next

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Speaker 2: I just haven't seen love enough. She's like doing ballet

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Speaker 2: now and she loves it, but I'm like I kind

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Speaker 2: and it's not daily, but maybe that's like little modifications.

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Speaker 2: I think I get a little envious of your situation

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Speaker 2: because you have them so much, and it's like, my

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Speaker 2: but I want my kids to be in school too,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, And that structure for them

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Speaker 2: envious sometimes of all. I like, see your thing. I'm like, oh, well,

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Speaker 2: hanging out with them today and they're home. Well, but

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Speaker 2: guilty for doing the other things. That makes sense, like

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Speaker 2: I feel like my kids sometimes I'm like, Okay, what

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Speaker 2: you know, like and to make sure the school work

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Speaker 2: got done, and just don't know that it's as academically

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 1: Can I go back to something you said a second ago,

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Speaker 1: not to I think there's positives and negatives with what

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Speaker 1: you're saying to both. I think that there's guilt no

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Speaker 1: matter what to that point, like homeschool or not homeschool, positives, negatives,

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Speaker 2: Things I have. The education guilt probably sure.

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Speaker 2: my kids couldn't. First of all, we're essentially paying a

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Speaker 2: fee to just come in and play. Yeah, this isn't

433
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Speaker 2: like no one's giving us a tour, no one's educating us.

434
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Speaker 2: This isn't like it doesn't take anything. And you know me,

435
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 2: when I left it the grocery store was roygbibbed and

436
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Speaker 2: color coordinated in the cans, you know, like I've I'm

437
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Speaker 2: making sure that we leave it better than we found it.

438
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Speaker 2: I felt like ibbib Yes, yes, Michigan school system, Michigan

439
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Speaker 2: School System.

440
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Speaker 3: Not from Michigan. I used roygbib still on a daily.

441
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Speaker 2: The colors of the rainbow.

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Speaker 1: I can't tell you that's how we know roy gbib

443
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Speaker 1: never heard.

444
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Speaker 2: Of that yellow? How they is bacon bacon bacon? Do

445
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Speaker 2: you guys know her? She was the typewriter check in school.

446
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Speaker 3: No, no, it's just an acronym.

447
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 2: But I couldn't not a character, just an acronym.

448
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Speaker 3: I couldn't do it.

449
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Speaker 1: I don't think I could still do the colors if

450
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Speaker 1: it wasn't for Roy jibeb.

451
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Speaker 2: Well, now I know the order of the rainbow. Thanks guys,

452
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Speaker 2: You're welcome today, Roy gbib She's like wind down lessons. Anyways,

453
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 2: this micromanager was just fluttering around me the whole time,

454
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 2: and she was like, you know you're She accused Love

455
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Speaker 2: and Remy of mixing the glitter with the whatever, and

456
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 2: they were both just standing there without an attorney and

457
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Speaker 2: they She was like, you did it, and then this

458
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Speaker 2: mom offside and says, if you did that, then you're

459
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Speaker 2: responsible for cleaning it up. The one that was responsible

460
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Speaker 2: for doing is the one response. And I'm a mom,

461
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Speaker 2: another random mom, and I'm like, I'm gonna I'm gonna

462
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Speaker 2: throw down in this fight museum, but a museum and

463
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Speaker 2: air quotes because it's a giant play place. And I

464
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Speaker 2: just was like, if you're not don't open this. If

465
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Speaker 2: you don't want to deal with kids, don't work here.

466
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Speaker 3: Uh huh yeah.

467
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Speaker 2: I mean they were not obnoxious. I am so overly

468
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Speaker 2: sensitive to my kids being obnoxious in public restaurants. They

469
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Speaker 2: stay seated. I was a server. Moms and dads are

470
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Speaker 2: on date nights like they don't. It's not cute when

471
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Speaker 2: your kid runs over with a cup. It's not funny, like,

472
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Speaker 2: please just stay seated. I if I'm in a play

473
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Speaker 2: place and my kids are just playing, yeah, I'm gonna

474
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Speaker 2: be Nancy to have a seat before, and Karen to

475
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Speaker 2: it yeah, and Sharon to get off my shoulder, and

476
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 2: Tiffany the random mom. It's a question, what did you do?

477
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Speaker 2: I said, I understand the glitter is very important to you.

478
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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. If my kids did that, it wouldn't be

479
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Speaker 2: like them. But we're happy to clean it up. And

480
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Speaker 2: did that.

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Speaker 3: It wouldn't be like them.

482
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Speaker 2: It wouldn't be on behalf of my client. What did

483
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Speaker 2: you do? We cleaned it up and I roygbibbed and

484
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 2: their can section in the grocery store is perfect and

485
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Speaker 2: all their produce is in like magic little order. And

486
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 2: I was like, and by the way, the fake onion

487
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Speaker 2: should go in this bin because in the real store

488
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Speaker 2: they would get molded. And then Chris comes in. Your

489
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Speaker 2: true wine is don't work at kids places if you

490
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Speaker 2: don't like kids, and don't work at places you don't

491
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Speaker 2: like your job. It's okay. I didn't like my job.

492
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Speaker 2: I remember being a server and I remember the minute

493
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Speaker 2: I was like, my job here is done. Oh you

494
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 2: guys know I'd go back to TG Fridays today. I

495
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,360
Speaker 2: know you would all that flare. A woman sat down,

496
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 2: she goes, do you know what I'd love? And in

497
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 2: my head remember Ellie mcbeale, I had an Allie McBeal memory.

498
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, what you will love? And I

499
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Speaker 2: thought it was probably my time to exit the serving community.

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Speaker 3: Oh man.

501
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: Anyways, it was frustrating. And don't accuse kids without parents, Nancy,

502
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: I'm chasing a toddler. You know. I think there's something

503
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Speaker 2: true to be said to that. And I've always and

504
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Speaker 2: I agree with you one thousand. No, no, no, I do

505
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Speaker 2: agree with you. I'm just going to play a little

506
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Speaker 2: bit of Devil's Advocate. Had a feeling. No, it's okay,

507
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Speaker 2: Nancy Junior's on, no, because I agree because I always

508
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Speaker 2: there was the secretary in my high school. She was

509
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Speaker 2: so mean, and I'm like, I wanted to ask her

510
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Speaker 2: many times, why do you work here if you don't

511
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Speaker 2: like kids? So I've always kind of wondered that, But

512
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Speaker 2: now that I've gotten older, I'm like, because it's the

513
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 2: job that it sometimes how do I say this without

514
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 2: like they needed that job? But it's also they might not.

515
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Speaker 1: It may not be exactly what they want, yes, but

516
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Speaker 1: it is the job that it.

517
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Speaker 2: Is, the means that they have that they have to have.

518
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,120
Speaker 2: And also they might not meet every requirement. I don't

519
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 2: think you have in the to be a secretary in

520
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Speaker 2: a school. Does it say do you love kids? You know?

521
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Speaker 2: Can you? Are you good at your doing your job

522
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 2: with the computer and the bookkeeping and the you know,

523
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: these people are apparently good at organization, and but I

524
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Speaker 2: agree with you that there should be Yeah, like like

525
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Speaker 2: Ryan picked up this like stuffed animal from the gift

526
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Speaker 2: shop and she was like she brought it over to me,

527
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Speaker 2: and the woman was like, you have to put that back,

528
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Speaker 2: that's the gift shop. And I said, but she would

529
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Speaker 2: have to test drive it if we were going to

530
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Speaker 2: pay forty two dollars for this over priced bear. So

531
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Speaker 2: we're just going to try it on, hold it for

532
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 2: a second, and we'll put it right back. Yeah, it's

533
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Speaker 2: the aggressive behavior. Yeah.

534
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Speaker 1: Course, seeing a lot more aggressive behavior in general, like

535
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Speaker 1: not even just in the job. I just think that

536
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Speaker 1: that's because coming more norm and tolerated or something. It

537
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Speaker 1: is like it's very like there's a way to be kind,

538
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 1: but also be assertive, and I think that we're kind

539
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: of at times losing that, which I mean we all

540
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 1: can be guilty of it, not just certain, but we are.

541
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Speaker 1: There's just a lot of personalities lately that I'm just like, wow,

542
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: like and I can be aggressive.

543
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 2: But I know, but then I always go to the

544
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Speaker 2: what are they doing? That's what are they going through?

545
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Speaker 2: I think, are they having a heart did they get

546
00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: a really bad diagnosis today? Did they tell you what

547
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Speaker 2: she's about to go through? Because that's where we were headed.

548
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Speaker 1: Well, I think that there is so much more behind it.

549
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Speaker 1: I think there's a reason why everyone's a little bit

550
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Speaker 1: more aggressive and a little bit more you know. And

551
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Speaker 1: maybe it does go back to information overload and being

552
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Speaker 1: just emotionally exhausted, you know, or whatever, but I think

553
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Speaker 1: there's a reason for that.

554
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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, And I think there's people that, you know.

555
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Speaker 2: I was just having a conversation with someone over the

556
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Speaker 2: tile and all autism debate, and she's a friend and

557
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: we have very open conversations about things, and she had

558
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Speaker 2: posted something and I just kind of slid in with

559
00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 2: something else. I'm like, what if you looked at it

560
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 2: from this angle? And I was kind of saying something else,

561
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 2: and she's like, I get that, but they're you know,

562
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 2: and then she goes into her thing. But then we

563
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 2: have a dialogue, some understanding on both sides, and I

564
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,560
Speaker 2: think so often, you know, in these situations, there might

565
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 2: believing something about who you are as a mom, but

566
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 2: that's not who you are as a mom, you know.

567
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 2: So it's just having good dialogue. And apparently maybe she

568
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,199
Speaker 2: wasn't wanting to meet you there, but sometimes it can

569
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,640
Speaker 2: be done. Maybe a lot of people just have their

570
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 2: own experience with these people mixing that they don't put

571
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 2: the glitter and then it bombs all over the freaking

572
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: grocery store. Mart. We had this. If anyone can relate

573
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 2: to this chicken wanting her glitter separate from her, it's me.

574
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, listen, you have no idea, who's here.

575
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 2: I'm here to help you, Nancy.

576
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Speaker 1: People assumptions come in, Like I had the most beautiful

577
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Speaker 1: conversation with someone over a similar situation, and it is

578
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Speaker 1: someone that we never agree on any thing, and she

579
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 1: came in with an assumption and I said, actually, this

580
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Speaker 1: is how I feel. And I said, and you probably

581
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: shouldn't have made that assumption, and she was like, absolutely right,

582
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: let's talk like you know, and we always talk.

583
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Speaker 3: But it's like, don't just make us up, don't jump

584
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Speaker 3: in with we all do. But like, I think that

585
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 3: is a very.

586
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 1: On the smaller scale, an assumption. She assumed that you

587
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: were probably like me, you didn't give a crap about

588
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: the glitter being mixed with and I'm sure I wouldn't.

589
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 2: Mom that she probably should have taken her aggression exactly.

590
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 2: I will clean it up, but I'm not not putting

591
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:31,919
Speaker 2: the glitters like back Together'll.

592
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Speaker 1: Clean it up, but I can tell you what is

593
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 1: not happening. Roygbivving. Did it start that way? I don't know,

594
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Speaker 1: but that's how Yeah.

595
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 2: And I just learned. So there's no chance you're rogivving.

596
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Speaker 1: I just thought you were going to show up with

597
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 1: me or Jana and then I will clean it up.

598
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 2: Though I will think I will always clean it up.

599
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 2: I mean I will push the seats in, you know.

600
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Speaker 3: And my kids are sitting at dinner, biggest.

601
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Speaker 1: Yes, that's one of my biggest not judging if you

602
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: don't make your kids sit, But it's always been one

603
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 1: of my like anybody general, not judging.

604
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Speaker 3: I get it.

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Speaker 2: It's hard you guys, we had a moment. This is

606
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 2: so like do you forget run? This is, by the way,

607
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 2: a moment that I'm just like us three talking now

608
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 2: at listening right now, may or may not make the cut. Actually,

609
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 2: when we were in Flower Child, the new restaurant in

610
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Speaker 2: oh in Franklin, freaking Roman, a sweet little boy. He

611
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 2: had his belly, was head some like ross diapers or whatever,

612
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 2: and then he threw up, like at the restaurant. It

613
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 2: was his first ever throw up. I was like mortified, right,

614
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 2: but because it's like the mom this other like lady

615
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 2: was just staring at me. But I mean we were

616
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 2: just like can I have the spray bot? You know

617
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 2: what I mean, like running out trying to clean it all.

618
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: I mean, it was it was such a mess. But

619
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Speaker 2: it's like I had those moments too where it's like

620
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Speaker 2: I will never leave, not just gonna be like peace out,

621
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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like like give me the

622
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 2: color everything, you know, like wiping it down as much

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Speaker 2: as humanly possibly can.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, being just very specific that we might not take

625
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: the glitter and separate it from them, but we will

626
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: clean up after our are created equal.

627
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Speaker 2: By the way, Roman will throw the food on the

628
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Speaker 2: floor and I'm cleaning it up.

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Speaker 3: I'm cleaning it up.

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Speaker 1: I always do because I was a server that had

631
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Speaker 1: to do that, so I haven't always and I and

632
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 1: Nick is like, girl, we got to clean this up.

633
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Speaker 3: I remember when they were little, and I'm like, oh

634
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Speaker 3: my gosh, I didn't like.

635
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 2: It's sweet when the service say, don't worry about it.

636
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I'm not leaving this here. I'm always

637
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:28,200
Speaker 2: cleaning it up, picking it up off the floor. I

638
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 2: can't imagine my visceral reaction if I had to leave

639
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 2: that mess behind. Oh yeah, yeah. Well anyways, and we're

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Speaker 2: back to the show. Okay. Headlines zach Efron Nina Dobrev

641
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Speaker 2: are all smiles and flirty photos while vacationing with friends

642
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Speaker 2: in Italy. Guys, because you know, she just had a

643
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Speaker 2: breakup of five years, I believe, and now everyone's thinking they're,

644
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 2: you know, getting back together or sorry that they're they're

645
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Speaker 2: you know, is this too soon to be in a relationship.

646
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 2: The rumors, the whole flo all the stuff. But I'm like,

647
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:03,959
Speaker 2: can't friends just be friends on a yacht? I mean,

648
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 2: I'm smiling, Yeah, you're gonna catch me looking all sorts

649
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:09,120
Speaker 2: of things.

650
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: If I'm on it, and if you're just out of

651
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 1: a breakup, you're gonna go on the yacht.

652
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and smile on It doesn't matter what comes up

653
00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: automatically after your breaks. I will tell you what. He

654
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 2: is still one of my good friends. Yes, he was great,

655
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 2: he's lovely. We yeah, it was it was again, hello,

656
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 2: we're not we're not, we're recording. But it was good. Yeah,

657
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: but like this was great. We were in Miami and

658
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: Miami Pam came out and you know she She's like,

659
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 2: I'm going to get us on a yacht this weekend.

660
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,719
Speaker 2: It was it was supposed to be my seven year

661
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 2: wedding anniversary and instead it was a divorce trip. And

662
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: we met this lovely entrepreneur man and his friends and

663
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 2: they're like, you should come on our yacht. We end

664
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 2: up going on a different yacht, which is funny because

665
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 2: we're like no, the thanks or whatever, and we like

666
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 2: wave to them and are yacht when they were on his.

667
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 3: Like I still tell the story of the.

668
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 2: Yacht, like I was like, we choose the wrong rock literally,

669
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 2: like the mile long the Titanic goes. You gotta he

670
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 2: gotta play like hard to get and I was like, no,

671
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 2: I want I'd like to get on.

672
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, how do we

673
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 1: get from me this yacht and that yacht thanks for

674
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 1: getting us on the.

675
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 2: Yacht things that are not relatable. And then we ended

676
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 2: up going and meeting this person because his friends are like, oh,

677
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 2: you should meet our friend. And that was the guy

678
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 2: who owned the yacht. And we are still friends to

679
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 2: this day. Yeah, oh good, I think obviously ever happened,

680
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 2: we just realized that we were going to be friends.

681
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 2: And he even just DMed me the other day being

682
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 2: like so proud of you and all I was just

683
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you, you know, your marriage. Yeah,

684
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 2: so let them go on the yacht.

685
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're dating, have fun.

686
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you make good friends on yachts, and maybe if

687
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 2: you're speculating you might need a yacht trip, maybe you

688
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:00,080
Speaker 2: just have yacht envy.

689
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: And let me just say, that's probably that's the only

690
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: time I've ever been on a yacht. Really yeah, so

691
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: that's like a really cool I'm just saying, that's like

692
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: a core memory for me.

693
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: If you get a chance to go on at.

694
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 2: I'm debating with her, I tell my yacht story. It's

695
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 2: why don't you think YadA YadA. Okay, So I'll make

696
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 2: it fast. So we go visit friends in Fort Lauderdale,

697
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: and I think these I think this friend girlfriend listens

698
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 2: to this podcast, so this will be funny to her.

699
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 2: So she we're visiting friends and they keep saying we're

700
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 2: going to go on a boat day. This is going

701
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 2: to be a boat day. And I'm like, that's exciting,

702
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 2: you know. So I pull love and legend didn't have

703
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: the baby at the time into this room at the

704
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 2: condo and I say, you listen to me, I need to. Yes,

705
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 2: ma'am's we are wearing every like everything known to man today.

706
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 2: You will keep them on the entire time we are

707
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 2: on the boat. Do not ask me to take them off.

708
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 2: If you cannot wear them, we don't go on the boat. Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.

709
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 2: We pull up and I'm like, on this episode, a

710
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 2: below deck, a hundred foot Yeah, this isn't a boat.

711
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, we have vastly different interpretations of what a

712
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 2: boat is. I'm thinking pontoon, you know, and there this

713
00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 2: is gorgeous. It's like four stories, five bedrooms in the

714
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 2: belly of the ship. And we're like ten minutes and

715
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 2: they're asking, you know, I'm kicking my shoes off, and

716
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 2: they're like, ma'am, can I get you a drink? Can

717
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 2: I take that bag for you? And I'm like no, no,

718
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,840
Speaker 2: It's so I feel like so Michigan rudy of me.

719
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, n I got it. I got it,

720
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 2: you know, baby, I'm a hip whatever. And and then

721
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 2: I look at Love and Legend about ten minutes in

722
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:34,919
Speaker 2: and you guys they're just like stuck there like little

723
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 2: puffer fish with and I go, hey, so I was wrong.

724
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: I didn't realize we were boarding an apartment complex and

725
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,919
Speaker 2: you're free to take off your flotation devices for the day.

726
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 3: That's funny.

727
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 2: And they swam on a swimming pool on a boat,

728
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 2: and they still to this day are like, well are

729
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 2: we going on a boat that has a swimming pool?

730
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 2: And like, please don't say that in public to anybody else.

731
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 3: See, they really beat me out. I haven't done that before.

732
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 2: You guys really want to do one of the those

733
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 2: rent one of those yachts, like we need to go

734
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 2: on an Italian vacation or somewhere, and they have one

735
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 2: of those yachts that have those swimming pools on there,

736
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 2: but you can actually rent him for the full week.

737
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 2: So you just it's crazy dock out by Capri or

738
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:18,359
Speaker 2: Positano and it's incredible. The crew is like incredible, They say,

739
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 2: rent your book, run him as front, you know, and

740
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 2: then you just chip it all in. Yeah, okay, sorry

741
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 2: that was it off. Wow we just apology.

742
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 3: Good for them.

743
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 2: Then they're yeah, start saving up the next ten years.

744
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 3: Are we doing this?

745
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 2: Yes, it's fifty on a boot. We be yachting, Okay,

746
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: I mean it. Clutes shares an emotional message to Charlie

747
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:42,319
Speaker 2: Kirk's widow, Erica, you have a purpose. She shared on

748
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 2: the podcast. She said, my late mother in law, Nick's

749
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 2: mother told me when Nick was in the hospital. She said,

750
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,919
Speaker 2: your son Elvis will save you, and his smile every

751
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 2: day will make you want to get up and live.

752
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 2: It's true, Clutes shared in a preview, and that's what

753
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 2: I would tell Erica that your kids you have a purpose.

754
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 2: She said. You know you will go through this time

755
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 2: when you're like, what's my purpose? Why did this happen?

756
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 2: She recalled. I told Nick when he died. I was like,

757
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: I will be the best mom to this kid. I

758
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 2: will show him the world and Amanda. I just I

759
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 2: love Amanda so much and I've just we've DMed over

760
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 2: the years, and she really has just shown up in

761
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 2: such a beautiful way for Elvis, and just all their

762
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:29,280
Speaker 2: vacations and their trips they take together are so beautiful

763
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 2: and like, what a truly beautiful thing that you know,

764
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 2: she's giving him joy and it's such a sad, sad remembrance,

765
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 2: you know, it's as awful.

766
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:45,800
Speaker 1: It's just amazing how when such tragic things happen, how

767
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 1: so much beauty can come out of it, you know.

768
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 1: And to me reading this on the rundown, I was like, man,

769
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: you know, God was really in that story. And I

770
00:36:56,080 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 1: know it's trauma and it's awful and it's tear but

771
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: to be able to see the beauty on the other

772
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 1: side of it and to be able to have this

773
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 1: may be her purpose. I mean, I understand that, you know,

774
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: whether Erica sees what she says or not, But to

775
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:12,879
Speaker 1: be able to pass that on and to be one

776
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 1: of few people who can really relate and to be

777
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 1: able to give that to someone else, I just think

778
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 1: it's just absolutely beautiful. Whether that just makes her feel,

779
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: you know, like she's got a purpose or just that

780
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: there's some the beauty and the trauma and the traumatic experience,

781
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:27,399
Speaker 1: and I.

782
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 2: Think it's a beautiful thing to hear from someone who's

783
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 2: walked in your shoes before. You know, That's one of

784
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 2: the reasons why I share my stuff. It's why you guys,

785
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 2: girls share your things. It's yeah, I get help and

786
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 2: hope from people that have walked before me. And so

787
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 2: if I can, you know, give that back, and Amanda's

788
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 2: doing that for Erica and I you know, it's it's

789
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:52,240
Speaker 2: it's awful and it's tragic, and you're also seeing Amanda

790
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 2: the light that she has now even with you know,

791
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 2: her missing her for her late husband. And there's a

792
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 2: lot of widows out I can't even imagine. I can't

793
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 2: I can't even imagine. No, it's we have friends who

794
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 2: are going through like a health issue. The husband's going

795
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 2: through a health issue, and the wife just like finally

796
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 2: had her moment where she cried and she was like,

797
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 2: I'm just overwhelmed. And he's a little bit older than her,

798
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 2: so I think that's always been in the back of

799
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 2: her mind anyways, and I just we just had this

800
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 2: moment where I was like, listen, we're going to stop.

801
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:24,839
Speaker 2: And I don't want you to spiral. I know that's

802
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 2: easy to do, but it's just, you know, I think

803
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 2: coming off the heels of this, everything just gets different weights.

804
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 2: And so my favorite, one of my favorite quotes of

805
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 2: all time is we're all just walking each other home,

806
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 2: and that just I feel like that's Amanda in a nutshell.

807
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 2: I love it. Yeah. Well, I mean I even think too.

808
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 2: I mean, just how much your kids do for for

809
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 2: you, you know, And it's like going when you go through

810
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 2: hard time, It's like I'll never forget when I was

811
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: going through my divorce, I'm like, I have no choice

812
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: but to show up for my kids. Like Catherine, you

813
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 2: know that I wrote about this in my book. But

814
00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: she's like, you have to get up and take your

815
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 2: kids to school. And I'm like, a dah, you know

816
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 2: what I mean, like a gang go, you know, and

817
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 2: she's like you have to, you will and you'll be fine.

818
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 2: And it's like it's like you just have to put

819
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 2: one foot in front of again. I'm not trying to

820
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 2: compare because it's total two different things, right, but you know,

821
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 2: when it comes to this being with your kids, it's

822
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 2: like you have to show up and for your kids

823
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 2: and it's well.

824
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: And the kids will also show up for you. Yeah,

825
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: and that was a part of that with you. I

826
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: knew that your kids and her kids and her that

827
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: is also.

828
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 3: A healing for the widow.

829
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, or the person who's been divorced or the person

830
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: like your kids. You're not just doing it for your kids.

831
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: Your kids can also do it for you, right, you

832
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:39,279
Speaker 1: know what I mean? They will show you what you need.

833
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean I remember looking back and photos

834
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 2: like when I go back, and you know, I'll post

835
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 2: things from back then in twenty twenty one. I'll I

836
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 2: know how hurt I was inside, but I have got

837
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 2: the photo of me and the kids like smiling because

838
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 2: it's like they're the ones that brought put the smile

839
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 2: on my face that day. Yeap, nobody else could have

840
00:39:56,680 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: done that. Sid's my kids, absolutely so and just yeah,

841
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 2: continuingly praying for Ericauner kids and it's awful. This was

842
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 2: this next one. Tom Brady confuses TV viewers of puzzling

843
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 2: common and very slamming a helmet to kicking a dog. Listen,

844
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,839
Speaker 2: you know, Peta announced peta. Peta hates me. Those little

845
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 2: start right there. I go to zoos. I love zoos.

846
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 2: You know, I'm big on what they dolphins and yeah,

847
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 2: those ones. Yes, but I am the person that will

848
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: do that. Okay, I do see the benefits of their

849
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 2: conservattory whatever all these things. But listen, I think he

850
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 2: was honestly taking things out of It was a taken

851
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,239
Speaker 2: out of context. He's obviously not going to kick a dog,

852
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. It's like, it's like, oh,

853
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:45,360
Speaker 2: you're so cute, I could eat you, like about a baby.

854
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 2: Like remember we talked to army hammer army hammers. She's like,

855
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:51,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, you can't actually con bear cannibalism to

856
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:55,879
Speaker 2: actually because this is bad. But that was funny. Yeah,

857
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 2: but like not in that context of an army hammer

858
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 2: inn you, and it would be always just I just

859
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:07,359
Speaker 2: eat you. But obviously that is also Guys, how much

860
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 2: do we misspeak? I mean I know that all of

861
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:14,360
Speaker 2: the time. I mean bound to misspeak.

862
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: You can't anymore though, it's like you you can't. Everything

863
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 1: is completely scrutinized, and you know, I mean that's what

864
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:24,240
Speaker 1: I took from the story.

865
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 3: I'm like, are we really worried about the dog? Like

866
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 3: maybe we are.

867
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 2: I don't know if he really does want to kick

868
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 2: a dog, but I think it's just the expression kick

869
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: the dog. Yes, it's like kick the can, right or

870
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 2: no one other and one is a woman.

871
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:42,319
Speaker 1: Yes it is kick a dog when it's down. It's

872
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 1: like kicking a dog when it's down. Yes, it is insane,

873
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: it is right. Yes, and horse, but I'm not going

874
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 1: to go beat a horse exactly. Do you have horses?

875
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:53,759
Speaker 2: No, we just.

876
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 3: Little to these days. There's too much of.

877
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: A magnifying glass and every word every like Tom Brady

878
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 2: look at him with his perfect teeth. He probably I

879
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 2: don't suspect he kicks dogs. I think he just likes

880
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:10,480
Speaker 2: the same and I bet he really regrets it. And

881
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 2: I think we don't need to go check on tom

882
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 2: Brady's dogs. I'm sure they have their best meal. Ever.

883
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 2: I think shortly we will see a headline that says

884
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:23,240
Speaker 2: Tom Brady donates an X amount to humane society.

885
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 3: But like he didn't.

886
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 2: Like it's ridiculous. No, I know.

887
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 1: Now we will retract this. If there is one that

888
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: says Tom Brady kicks.

889
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,880
Speaker 2: His dog, we will go back and say does it

890
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: like we're wrong, because you know that some of them

891
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 2: do those underground dog fights and like that. You know

892
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: NFL players didn't charged? Yes, good for me. Yeah, I

893
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 2: think it was big. It was thick, right, I'm pretty

894
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:54,240
Speaker 2: sure it was. Yeah.

895
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 3: Now that's messed up.

896
00:42:55,520 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 2: That's awful. He can't say that saying no.

897
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: No, no, Maybe no one really should.

898
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: But it was out of acts. I really don't. I'm

899
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 2: not dividing. Should someone say eating a baby like so cute?

900
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 2: I could just bite you?

901
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

902
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 3: We should not be this sensitive to all of this.

903
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 3: Thank you. People have got to be able to say

904
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:15,720
Speaker 3: things and not take it too literal.

905
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, amen Save Tom Brady.

906
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 4: Hi.

907
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,839
Speaker 2: I'm a mom of a kindergartener with autism and we're

908
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,359
Speaker 2: trying to navigate the school system for the first time.

909
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 2: One issue that's really weighing on me right now is

910
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 2: with his pe teacher. This is her first year teaching,

911
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 2: and she's made it clear that students are graded based

912
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 2: on ten specific rules. According to her, my son is

913
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 2: only meeting one of them, and she's expressed this in

914
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 2: a way that felt really cold and lacking understanding of

915
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 2: his needs. Our interactions have been tense, and she seems

916
00:43:57,440 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 2: to have very little patience for him, and frankly has

917
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,320
Speaker 2: been pretty rude in our communications. I'm trying to advocate

918
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,400
Speaker 2: for my son without being labeled that parent. But I'm

919
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 2: at a loss. How can I approach this in a

920
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:11,720
Speaker 2: way that supports my son, encourages some understanding from the teacher,

921
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 2: and hopefully opens up a better line of communication. What

922
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:17,240
Speaker 2: are my options when a teacher just doesn't seem willing

923
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 2: to accommodate or even understand.

924
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:24,360
Speaker 3: Shouldn't his shouldn't he already have some kind of like

925
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:26,160
Speaker 3: an IEP like what we have here.

926
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 1: I don't know what that'd be, but some kind of

927
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 1: accommodations already.

928
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 3: That's my biggest special Yeah.

929
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 2: So, like Jolie is technically in special ED for her dyslexia,

930
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 2: and she within her special Ed, she has a IEP

931
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 2: teacher that comes and meets with her. She also has

932
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 2: or a language teacher as well that comes and pulls

933
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 2: through out a class. Those times when it comes to pe,

934
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 2: That's where I'm like, I don't know, I don't know

935
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 2: that world. But I would say, first and foremost, ask

936
00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 2: for a meeting with the principal and sit down and

937
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 2: get ahead of it. And and it kills me that

938
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 2: she said that parent, because I'm like, you're already trying

939
00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:09,919
Speaker 2: to label yourself as that when you're you are doing

940
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:12,839
Speaker 2: what you need to be doing and advocating for your son,

941
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 2: who I believe it's a son son. Yeah, And that's

942
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 2: exactly you should be that parents. It's not about being

943
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 2: that parent, you are being a parent period. Like call

944
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 2: a meeting, exactly, call me. I mean meetings I had

945
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: with you know, Jolie's school, making sure everyone you know,

946
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 2: and everyone was kind in those meetings and understood as

947
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 2: I'm like bawling and sad, and it's like, you need

948
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:38,879
Speaker 2: to call a meeting for the principal. I shouldn't say

949
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 2: you need to. What I would recommend is call the school,

950
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 2: ask for a meeting with the principal vice principal and

951
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 2: have that, you know, then maybe the next meeting, have

952
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 2: them tell them what's going on, and then they can

953
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 2: talk to the pe teacher and then you guys have

954
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 2: another meeting where you sit down and you talk about,

955
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 2: you know, how your son's feeling, how you're feeling, what

956
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 2: can be done to accommodate because you can't treat them.

957
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 2: This is going to sound. People are gonna get mad.

958
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 2: At me for saying this, but it's true that let's

959
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 2: just say my Jolie's situation. You can't treat Joli the

960
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: same way as someone who doesn't have dyslexia. She fails

961
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 2: miserably if she does not have the help right to

962
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 2: help accommodate her. Someone with autism needs someone else to

963
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 2: help them. You can't treat them the same. And I

964
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 2: know people will be like that, but they're same, and

965
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,720
Speaker 2: maybe I'll get hate for that, but you can't.

966
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 1: No, And that's why there's accommodations in the school systems,

967
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 1: at least where we live, and I would assume there

968
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 1: are accommodations.

969
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 2: Where she lives as well if.

970
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 1: Not, and I would get educated on that to see

971
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: what her rights are and what the accommodation should be,

972
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 1: because I can promise you this is probably not living

973
00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 1: up to what that is supposed to be. I mean

974
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:54,840
Speaker 1: there's laws for this and states. So yes, again, I

975
00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:57,720
Speaker 1: don't know exactly what this pe teacher is going against,

976
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 1: but there are things in place for this very reason.

977
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,800
Speaker 1: So meetings one hundred percent couldn't agree. And like you said,

978
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: be that parent, be the parent, yeah, I mean, drop

979
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: that and just be the parent, be the parent. I mean,

980
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you're not gonna know

981
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: these people for very long, but you're gonna have your

982
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: child for the rest of their life.

983
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, and this is good. Shake them because if they're

984
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 2: if they're treating listen, this is and I feel really

985
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 2: it actually made me sad. I just did a conference

986
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: with Jace's teacher and he was reading in like the

987
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 2: eighty six percentile. Jolie is at like the fifth like

988
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 2: is she is if you're comparing the two. One has dyslexia,

989
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:42,359
Speaker 2: one does not right, And so you can't talk to

990
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 2: them in the way like Jace's teacher was talking to me.

991
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 2: The teacher that tells me Jolie's scoring and what she's

992
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,280
Speaker 2: doing has to come at it from a softer angle,

993
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:57,440
Speaker 2: knowing the stuff, the disability that she has within her

994
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 2: learning that's right and she should not be made to

995
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 2: feel stupid or unlike the other kids. So, you know,

996
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 2: I think you have to have that that careful thing,

997
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 2: because they're going to start if they feel any different,

998
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 2: which they are, but if they feel that and internalize that,

999
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:18,280
Speaker 2: that is when the issue of them feeling I'm stupid,

1000
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 2: I'm you know, I'm I'm less than and then they're

1001
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 2: gonna then carry that into their adolescence and adulthood, and

1002
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 2: that's where it becomes a big problem. Absolutely, the people

1003
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 2: start into that. Yeah, ineg and yeah, those early years

1004
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 2: are just about confidence building anyways. He just needs to

1005
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 2: feel capable of whatever capacity that is for him.

1006
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 3: I mean, even when there's not a disability involved. All

1007
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 3: children are different, and it's a good teacher, a good coach,

1008
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 3: a good parent notices that every child is different and

1009
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 3: there are different Now, there might be standards you have

1010
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 3: to have MPE, but I still think that you can

1011
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:56,279
Speaker 3: recognize when some people might not be able to meet

1012
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 3: those standards.

1013
00:48:57,239 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 2: Listening, it wasn't able to do the pull ups or

1014
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 2: whatever kind of rope in my life.

1015
00:49:02,560 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're going to have the natural athlete exactly.

1016
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 2: All three of us will have different Absolutely, Yes, things

1017
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 2: we can do, you know, and we'd be great on

1018
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 2: the game show. And if it doesn't work out for

1019
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 2: this pe teacher, I know a children's museum that can

1020
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 2: hire high.

1021
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 3: We just came full circle, just ended with that.

1022
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:23,760
Speaker 2: I was trying to say that about them being different,

1023
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:29,440
Speaker 2: like absolutely, but I but I also like to devil's

1024
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 2: advocate that that's the problem. Then making them not feel.

1025
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 1: Well, that's where it gets tricky in the school system.

1026
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 1: But that's why this stuff is in place. There is

1027
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:40,880
Speaker 1: a way to Yes, they have to be treated and

1028
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 1: you know, differently, but really it's just teaching differently. It's

1029
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: not treating differently. You're still treating them the same. But

1030
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 1: they have to have accommodations in place to help them out.

1031
00:49:52,000 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 2: And what are these ten commandments? That's what's crazy. There's

1032
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 2: like ten rules. I'm like, Okay, the dude was in

1033
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 2: your belly fy years ago. Let me just take the

1034
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 2: big old thing. What's that big thing? They do the

1035
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 2: best pop and popcorn? Yes, please, please.

1036
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: Please, please, though, look into what your states accommodations are

1037
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 1: because you're just now in kindergarten and this is going

1038
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 1: to get.

1039
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 3: So much more important as you.

1040
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 2: Please please do not feel bad for advocating for your child,

1041
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 2: and don't feel guilty, and don't let anybody you get

1042
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 2: right in there. Amen. Oh guys, we had a lot

1043
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 2: to say actually today who knew you started?

1044
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 3: And if we just can't.

1045
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 2: Stop ww find a yacht dot com

1046
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Speaker 3: B