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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Adjocates Injury Attorneys.

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Speaker 2: Online at ADJUCUSLA dot com.

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Speaker 3: Julia is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 3: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a guy named Walker.

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Speaker 3: So in a minute, we're gonna call him and see

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Speaker 3: if we can figure out why he's ghostinger. But first, Julia,

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Speaker 3: how long has it been since you heard from Walker?

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Speaker 2: About a week? Okay?

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Speaker 4: Week?

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's kind of the sweet spot. How many times

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Speaker 5: have you reached out to him in that.

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Speaker 6: In that time?

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Speaker 1: I've sent him a couple of packs, like three or four, Like,

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Speaker 1: what's a couple?

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Speaker 2: About three?

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Speaker 3: It's not too bad, and you've heard nothing from him?

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Speaker 2: Nothing, not a peep.

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Speaker 6: All right, tell us a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 1: He asked me to meet him at a sushi restaurant,

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Speaker 1: which I thought was really cool. Okay, we had dinner

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Speaker 1: and he hadn't had much sushi before, so he let

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Speaker 1: me kind of pick everything out, and he seemed to

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Speaker 1: really like what I picked out, like especially.

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Speaker 2: The spicy tuna.

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Speaker 4: God.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so dinner was went really well.

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Speaker 1: He told me all about his business study starting, and

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Speaker 1: he just seems so motivated and passionate.

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Speaker 2: I loved that.

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Speaker 1: And then we went for a walk, which I thought

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Speaker 1: was a really good sign.

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Speaker 6: Okay, how was the walk?

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Speaker 2: It was nice. I mean it lasted about an hour

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Speaker 2: and we just kept talking.

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Speaker 6: How did it end? Like, did you all kiss? Hug five?

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Speaker 2: We hugged?

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Speaker 6: Okay, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Did anything happen between the walk and dinner that may

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Speaker 5: have been a little bit off?

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Speaker 1: I mean, the only thing I can think is that

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Speaker 1: I recently I told him a lot about my work too,

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Speaker 1: because he was telling me a lot about his business,

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Speaker 1: and I recently got a promotion at work and I

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Speaker 1: was so excited about it, thank you.

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Speaker 2: So I just wondered if that rubbed him the wrong way.

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Speaker 6: Or something like, how would do you think that could

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Speaker 6: rubbed him the wrong way?

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Speaker 2: Well, he looks a little I don't.

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Speaker 1: Know, like he didn't want to ask me a lot

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Speaker 1: about it or something. And I wondered if because he's

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Speaker 1: having he's just at the beginning stages of starting a business,

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Speaker 1: if he felt a little insecure or something that I'm

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Speaker 1: doing so well in my career.

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Speaker 6: Did he talk a lot about his business?

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Speaker 2: He did talk a fair amount.

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Speaker 1: I mean he seemed excited about it and like he

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Speaker 5: I don't know how that would take away from what

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Speaker 5: you're doing, but I mean there are guys like that,

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Speaker 5: so I believe it.

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Speaker 6: But I love this. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like maybe he's not quite where he

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Speaker 2: that was it.

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Speaker 5: Well, that's also kind of a red flag for you,

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Speaker 5: because you want to be with somebody that's a little

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Speaker 5: bit more secure in that space, right, If that was it,

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Speaker 5: I mean, we're highly speculating it's this point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I honestly, I feel like I've come

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Speaker 1: across this before. So Okay, that's what made me wonder

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Speaker 1: if that's the only thing I can think of, Because

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Speaker 1: we just had the.

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Speaker 6: Best time, okay.

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Speaker 3: And then at the end when you guys hugged, did

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Speaker 3: he say like, oh I want to meet up again

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Speaker 3: or anything like that, or did he just bounce?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 2: I think we just said we had a really nice time.

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Speaker 6: Okay. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out

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Speaker 6: for you.

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Speaker 3: We'll play a song, come back and then call him

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Speaker 3: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you

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Speaker 3: and maybe get you another date if you still want. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 3: all right, we'll play song come back and get your

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Speaker 3: first date follow up next. Right in the middle of

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Speaker 3: your first date follow up, if you're just joining us,

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Speaker 3: Julia is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 3: a dude named Walker. So we're just about to call

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Speaker 3: him see if he'll tell us why he's Ghostinger and

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Speaker 3: maybe get her another date. But before we do that, Julia,

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Speaker 3: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your day with Walker.

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Speaker 1: We went out for an amazing sushi dinner and had

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Speaker 1: a nice walk afterwards, and he told me about his

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Speaker 1: business that he's starting up, and he seemed super into it,

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Speaker 1: and I told him all about my promotion at work

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Speaker 1: and how excited I was about it.

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Speaker 3: Did you make a lot of Walker jokes while you

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Speaker 3: were walking? I just thought of her right now. That

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Speaker 3: could also be a reason if you wouldn't stop with

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Speaker 3: the Walker jokes like I would go hand on that that.

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Speaker 2: Would have been a great joke.

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Speaker 6: I totally okay. I was thinking maybe that is the reason,

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Speaker 6: but maybe not. William, we'll call him right now. Are

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Speaker 6: you ready?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Here we go.

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Speaker 3: I'm asking the Walker please, ye, hey man, how are you?

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Speaker 3: This is a radio show. It's called The Jewel Show.

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Speaker 3: My name's jebel Hi.

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Speaker 6: I'm also on the show.

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Speaker 2: Him.

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Speaker 3: We got an email about you from somebody that you

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Speaker 3: are ghosting and they want to know why you're not

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Speaker 3: calling them back.

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Speaker 7: Oh okay, yeah, okay, this is Julia.

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Speaker 6: Walker.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Julia emailed us, told us a little bit about

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Speaker 3: your date and is really confused why you're ghostinger a

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Speaker 3: mind telling us.

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Speaker 4: I mean, that's that's about it. I'm starting to think

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Speaker 7: Show about it could be on that list, but that

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Speaker 7: wasn't it initially?

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Speaker 6: Okay, so wait, what's the deal? Why are you a ghostinger?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. Man. Like, we went to dinner and

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Speaker 4: it was fun. It was great.

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Speaker 7: Actually we got some sushi. I'm not used to that stuff,

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Speaker 7: but I housed a couple spicy tuneroles. Those things are great,

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Speaker 7: and it was fun, you know, like it seemed pretty

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Speaker 7: easy at first, but she kind of got on, Oh god,

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Speaker 7: she kind of got on like this hanging about her

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Speaker 4: This new promotion, and then she was very excited about it.

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Speaker 7: It's it's it's cool, but it's kind of dominated the whole.

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Speaker 4: Back end of the night, so I don't know, it

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Speaker 6: She talked about her job too much?

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Speaker 4: Is that it it's not even just about I don't

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Speaker 4: all encompassing, you know, like I don't know, like somebody's

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Speaker 4: whole identity is wrapped up in that, you know, and.

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Speaker 7: It's just I don't know, it just kind of it was, Oh,

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Speaker 7: it was kind of boring.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry her.

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Speaker 6: Job is boring or the way she talked about it.

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Speaker 7: No, not that I don't know, you like, I don't

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Speaker 7: know much about finance, but that you know, just the

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Speaker 7: same thing over and over again.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 7: Does that make sense that somebody's talking about just something

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Speaker 7: like you get excited and then.

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Speaker 4: It just goes downhill and it's like, God, all right,

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Speaker 4: I get it, you know.

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Speaker 6: I mean, is that all she talked about is just

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Speaker 4: What I mean?

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Speaker 7: Sure, it's interesting, interfe She talked about some friends too,

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Speaker 7: and you know, they seem nice, and a little bit

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Speaker 7: about her family, but for the whole thing, it was

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Speaker 7: about like wanting a promotion and then what I had

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Speaker 7: to do to get it.

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Speaker 4: And I finally got it now.

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Speaker 7: I felt about it afterwards, like God, rent a movie

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Speaker 7: or something that's terrible. I shouldn't say that, but I

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Speaker 6: Did you ask question?

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Speaker 4: I mean the.

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Speaker 7: Usual stuff like, you know, where'd you grow up and

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Speaker 4: You know, did you play any sports? You know, where

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Speaker 4: do you live in the city? Like that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 4: You know, pretty pretty basic stuff I think when you're

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Speaker 4: on a first aid.

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Speaker 6: All right, well thanks for telling us, man, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: For sure, thanks for asking.

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Speaker 6: No problem.

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Speaker 3: Julia is also on the on the phone and has

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Speaker 3: been listening the whole time and wants to.

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Speaker 6: Talk to you. I shouldell you that.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, no, I'm I'm sure she is.

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Speaker 4: Man, Yeah, right, she really is.

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Speaker 2: Hey. Hey, welcome, Oh hey Julia.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Yeah, I guess I'm a little confused.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you seem yeah.

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Speaker 4: I don't even know how to put it any more

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Speaker 4: plainly than I did what I didn't know you were there?

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Speaker 4: But you know, I don't want to be mean. It's

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Speaker 4: just I'm really happy for you, but it just I

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Speaker 4: don't know, I just feel like maybe we're it's just

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Speaker 1: I mean, I just feel like someone can't accept a

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean that's that's not it. That's no, it's

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Speaker 4: not it at all. It's you know, I just wanted

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Speaker 1: I does.

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Speaker 2: Are you intimidated by me?

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Speaker 4: Not even a little bit? No, no, not at all.

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Speaker 7: I think it's great, you know, it seems to make

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Speaker 4: And that's wonderful. I just don't know if I can

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Speaker 1: Of Well, I think you're intimidated by me and you

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Speaker 2: I think that's what it is.

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Speaker 7: I'm sorry. I really don't know how to respond to that.

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Speaker 7: But that's absurd. That's not what this is. And it

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Speaker 7: feels kind of I don't know, that feels oddly accusatory

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Speaker 7: and weird to go to. It's not that at all,

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Speaker 7: trust me. I just think we're on two different playing

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Speaker 4: That's all.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think that's exactly what it is. But agree

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Speaker 7: I guess sure, I guess yeah. I'm sorry if I

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Speaker 7: gave you that impression, but that's not what this is.

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Speaker 4: So please don't harbor that ill will towards Okay.

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Speaker 2: Well, if you don't want someone who's happy.

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Speaker 1: And feels good about their job, then you know, what

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Speaker 4: There's nothing you can do about it. Keep being those things.

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Speaker 4: It's just not for me. I think it's great. I'm

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Speaker 4: very happy for you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well I don't really believe you.

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Speaker 1: So, you know, just because you can't be happy at

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Speaker 3: I sure, yeah, okay, Walker, would you like to another

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Speaker 3: day with Julia?

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Speaker 6: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I think that would be a horrible idea.

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Speaker 6: This was rough.

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Speaker 2: You will first date follow up