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Speaker 1: Second dat Day. The girl that's on the phone to
Speaker 1: do a second date update today actually got stood up
Speaker 1: completely for her first date, but she feels like it
Speaker 1: might be her fault. Really yeah. Normally when somebody get
Speaker 1: stood up, there angry at the other person, like I
Speaker 1: just want to get him on the phone so I
Speaker 1: can yell at them. But she feels like she might
Speaker 1: have actually screwed up and maybe understands why this guy
Speaker 1: didn't show up for her date. Amy, how are you hi? Guys?
Speaker 1: I'm okay. First of all, did he just stand you
Speaker 1: up completely? Yeah? I mean that's pretty much it. I
Speaker 1: waited at the bar and waited and waited, and I
Speaker 1: never saw anyone. I didn't hear from him. That's like
Speaker 1: the worst feeling. Ever, how long did you wait? Well?
Speaker 1: I was there for like thirty minutes when I started
Speaker 1: to wonder if I should maybe like text or call,
Speaker 1: and then right around forty five five minutes. I'm kind
Speaker 1: of patient, I guess yea, and I checked him and
Speaker 1: didn't hear anything back, and then I called him and
Speaker 1: no answer to that either. Yeah, so I probably waited
Speaker 1: about an hour total. Okay. And how did you meet
Speaker 1: this guy? I met him online? Okay? And how long
Speaker 1: had you been talking before you decided to meet up.
Speaker 1: We were trying to like two weeks, and we had
Speaker 1: pretty lengthy conversations, and I really felt like I knew
Speaker 1: this guy, and you know, knew a lot about him.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I don't know if any of you
Speaker 1: have done online dating, but it's pretty clear. You know,
Speaker 1: the guys that are just looking for one thing, and
Speaker 1: they pretty much get to the point really quick. I mean,
Speaker 1: most guys aren't going to spend two weeks figuring out
Speaker 1: who you are and what you like unless they're good
Speaker 1: at it idea that that's all they want. So you
Speaker 1: just made plans to meet at this bar and then
Speaker 1: you're waiting there for like forty five minutes, And what's
Speaker 1: going through your mind while you're waiting for him? Well,
Speaker 1: a lot of things. I know that he lives like
Speaker 1: twenty five minutes away, so that was one of the
Speaker 1: things I thought, Well, you know, maybe he's stuck in traffic, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: a little while, because if he lived right down the street,
Speaker 1: he was forty five minutes late, you'd be like, all right,
Speaker 1: he's definitely standing me up. So you thought maybe it
Speaker 1: was a traffic issue. Yeah, And so I taxed him
Speaker 1: initially and just was like, you know, everything okay, And
Speaker 1: I didn't hear anything back, and so then I thought, well,
Speaker 1: maybe he's in an accident or something. And that's the
Speaker 1: kind of the point where you like start to not
Speaker 1: necessarily hope that he's in an accident, not like a
Speaker 1: bad accident where he's injured, but you know, I hope
Speaker 1: maybe he got like a little bit of an accident
Speaker 1: so that he's not standing me up. Right. So your
Speaker 1: email did say though that you feel like it might
Speaker 1: be your fault that he stood you up. And why
Speaker 1: is that you never really actually explained it. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: I told it's like a tiny, tiny white lie on
Speaker 1: the dating profile, okay, And what was your white lie?
Speaker 1: And thirty two and I said that I was twenty
Speaker 1: five had lied about your age seven years That is
Speaker 1: a big age different and Samy, I mean, you know
Speaker 1: how it is guys want younger women and at the time,
Speaker 1: it seems like the right thing to do. And did
Speaker 1: you ever come clean about this? No? I had not
Speaker 1: come clean. That's my thought is that maybe he googled
Speaker 1: me or you know, facebooks to me or so what
Speaker 1: I mean, you've been online dating a lot. You said,
Speaker 1: what do you do when guys show up they think
Speaker 1: you're twenty five and you're actually thirty two? How do
Speaker 1: you break that to him? I mean, I don't think
Speaker 1: that I looked that much different than I did, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean I was using a picture from a few
Speaker 1: years ago, But I really don't think that, Gami, you
Speaker 1: were cat fishing him. Here's the deal. Once you hit
Speaker 1: the thirty mark, you get less messages from people. People
Speaker 1: are just not as interested. And so you know, putting
Speaker 1: that I'm twenty five, I simply get more messages and
Speaker 1: more people are willing to look at me, and then
Speaker 1: potentially Amy, I know where you're coming from. Look, if
Speaker 1: I were to do online dating, all right, I never have.
Speaker 1: But if I were my profile picture and would have
Speaker 1: been Mario Lopez, so I can understand where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: You want to make yourself seem a little more attractive,
Speaker 1: and this is the only thing that you can think
Speaker 1: of is that maybe he found out your real age exactly.
Speaker 1: So are you wanting to call and apologize and see
Speaker 1: if you can make good with that? Well, I honestly
Speaker 1: just want to find out what it is, you know
Speaker 1: by sitting up. All right, we'll play a song, come back,
Speaker 1: call him and get your second date update. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, hang on brooking jubil. In the morning, Amy
Speaker 1: is on the phone with us and she wants to
Speaker 1: call a guy named Craig today because Craig stood her
Speaker 1: up for her date. But Amy feels like it might
Speaker 1: be her fault because they met online and Amy lied
Speaker 1: about her age by seven years. She's thirty two years old,
Speaker 1: said that she was twenty five. She thinks maybe that
Speaker 1: he googled her or maybe showed up and saw her
Speaker 1: and realize that she wasn't twenty five and then just
Speaker 1: decided to split. She hasn't heard anything from him after
Speaker 1: waiting for like forty five minutes, so we're gonna call,
Speaker 1: try to get him on the phone and see if
Speaker 1: we can find out if that's the reason. Amy. I
Speaker 1: was thinking about it, and I don't think that he
Speaker 1: stood you up because you lied about your age. You know, No,
Speaker 1: I don't, because if I showed up and you said
Speaker 1: you were twenty five, and then I saw that you
Speaker 1: were like in your thirties, I would have definitely stayed
Speaker 1: and came and talked to you, because it's probably a
Speaker 1: sure thing because you're older and you're running out of
Speaker 1: time and you gotta get it in while you can.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I know that it's probably
Speaker 1: gonna happen with you. Yeah right, nice. Okay, Well, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dial the phone um right now, see if we
Speaker 1: get him on the phone and find out why he
Speaker 1: stood you up. Okay, all right, all right, here we go. Hello,
Speaker 1: I speak to Craig. Please, Hey, Craig, how are you.
Speaker 1: This is Jewel from Brook and jew in the Morning too, Sorry,
Speaker 1: Jebil from brook and Jewil in the Morning the radio show. Hi. Hi,
Speaker 1: how are you fine? Sorry? Why are you calling? I'm
Speaker 1: calling because you recently sort of went out on a
Speaker 1: date with a listener of ours and they wanted us
Speaker 1: to get a hold of you. Oh wow, And I
Speaker 1: say sort of went out on a date because you
Speaker 1: never actually showed up to the date. You're talking about, Amy, Yes,
Speaker 1: I am talking about Amy. She emailed us and told
Speaker 1: us that you guys have been talking online and made
Speaker 1: plans to meet up at a bar and then you know,
Speaker 1: showed I'm sorry. So she called you and wanted you
Speaker 1: to call me yep or yeah, because apparently you haven't
Speaker 1: answered any of her phone calls or texts or anything
Speaker 1: like that. Oh um, Okay, so she's upset about it.
Speaker 1: You know what, Well, we talked to her, and she's
Speaker 1: not really as upset as you think you would be
Speaker 1: if somebody made you wait at a bar for forty
Speaker 1: five minutes and didn't answer any text messages or phone
Speaker 1: calls from them. She just kind of wants to know why.
Speaker 1: It's really complicated and it's not her fault. That's important
Speaker 1: for her. No I should have texted her. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: if it's not her fault, can you tell us what
Speaker 1: it is so that we can let her know, Because
Speaker 1: I mean, you can imagine if you're in her shoes
Speaker 1: and you make plans to meet with somebody that you
Speaker 1: think is cool and then they don't show up, it
Speaker 1: upset you a little bit, even if you're not like
Speaker 1: outwardly upset at that person. Yeah, I can I could
Speaker 1: see how yeah, so could you do her that favor
Speaker 1: and let us know why you would stand her up?
Speaker 1: I mean I had every intention of meeting her and
Speaker 1: going on data, so we planned, but I live in
Speaker 1: too while then I just couldn't go through with it.
Speaker 1: What because you live in pu Allap? Well, I mean
Speaker 1: kind of it's it's a long story, but basically the
Speaker 1: situation that just makes it very difficult. Are you You're
Speaker 1: embarrassed because you live in pu Allap I'm more confused.
Speaker 1: You say you have a situation. I'd like to find
Speaker 1: out what that means. But I'm confused why you just
Speaker 1: mentioned the cities. Basically I live in Pulp and I
Speaker 1: don't go into Seattle very much ever, Okay, I mean
Speaker 1: the last time I was there was probably two years ago,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's it's not that far away by distance,
Speaker 1: but for me, going into the city tends to stress
Speaker 1: me out. And I the culture I got the Seattle,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of my seers were building and kind
Speaker 1: of started to overwhelm me. Is it the traffic, It's traffic,
Speaker 1: it's people. There's a lot of tall buildings and that's
Speaker 1: basically a lot of movements. And I honestly don't know
Speaker 1: how you guys do it. Like you walk down just
Speaker 1: a regular street in a city and there's so many
Speaker 1: sounds you don't know where they're coming from. Like there's
Speaker 1: people everywhere, cars, traffic alone is enough to just like
Speaker 1: freak me out. You know, there's people changing lanes not
Speaker 1: even signaling. So many bad drivers. How do you guys
Speaker 1: even operate? So correct me if I'm wrong, Craig, it
Speaker 1: sounds like you were scared of the city. I'm not
Speaker 1: scared of itarly, but it's it's just really really frightened
Speaker 1: of it. It just breaks out into gold. I don't
Speaker 1: have nightmares about it or anything. I'm you know, like
Speaker 1: it's not like a horror movie for me. But it's
Speaker 1: just a lot I understand. And that's something that's hard
Speaker 1: to tell somebody before you've even had your first day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, like what am I supposed to do? Text
Speaker 1: her and say sorry, I'm scared of the big city.
Speaker 1: Just I'm a little country boy and I can't possibly
Speaker 1: drive in with all those cars and people. You know what, Craig,
Speaker 1: I made a lot of people like you after my
Speaker 1: comedy shows when I do them, like in pop and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. They talk about the city of Seattle
Speaker 1: like it's foreign, like they've never gone there, and they're
Speaker 1: just like, I can't even drive in there because the
Speaker 1: traffic scares me, and I hate going there. Anytime I
Speaker 1: inte friends from Tacoma, they're always like, oh, I hate
Speaker 1: coming to Seattle traffic. I'm sorry, but he is playing
Speaker 1: such a victim role here when he's the one that
Speaker 1: stood this girl up and you never even sent her
Speaker 1: a text, like you could have made up any other
Speaker 1: excuse in the world. You didn't even have to tell
Speaker 1: her the truth. I'm not a liar. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to lie to her and also get into something else where,
Speaker 1: you know, she didn't know the real truth, so I
Speaker 1: just figured it was easier to not you know, all right,
Speaker 1: But I do have to let you know that Amy
Speaker 1: is actually on the other line and heard everything that
Speaker 1: you just said. Hi, Craig, Oh my god, Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: So I um, I really wasn't sure why you stood
Speaker 1: me up that I really never would have guessed that
Speaker 1: it's because you're scared of and yeah, I mean, why
Speaker 1: would you go to that, I know, And mean, why
Speaker 1: didn't you just tell me? You know? What I mean,
Speaker 1: I just I waited there, and then I spent this
Speaker 1: whole time wondering what did I do make you? Because
Speaker 1: I really liked you, and all you had to do is,
Speaker 1: you know, answer my text message or answer I know,
Speaker 1: I just didn't know how to tell you. And yeah, Craig,
Speaker 1: I mean listen, Craig Amy is a thirty two year
Speaker 1: old woman. Okay, she can she can handle the news
Speaker 1: that you have trouble going to the city. Maybe twenty five?
Speaker 1: Oh did I did I make a mistake there? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She's twenty five? Yeah, I mean, actually she's thirty two?
Speaker 1: Really talking about so, I guess you both have something
Speaker 1: that you kind of didn't tell each other, right, say,
Speaker 1: that's messed up. That is messed up. I figured now
Speaker 1: you both can come clean about everything. Are you really
Speaker 1: thirty two? Kind of kind of sad? Really? I just
Speaker 1: didn't even you were kind of be attracted to me
Speaker 1: if I was thirty two, or you wouldn't have messaged
Speaker 1: me or honestly, I thought you were really mature twenty
Speaker 1: five year old, but I'm not. I have no problem
Speaker 1: with you being thirty two. It's a little weird that
Speaker 1: you lied to me, but I guess I kind of
Speaker 1: hit things from you too. Yeah, and you made her
Speaker 1: way to a bar for forty five minutes, Craig, So
Speaker 1: maybe give her a break on the age thing? All right? Okay? Yeah, Craig,
Speaker 1: would you like a second date with Amy? I will
Speaker 1: pay for it. I don't know how it would work
Speaker 1: because I don't like to go to Seattle and she
Speaker 1: probably doesn't want to come to me, and you know,
Speaker 1: it's kind of one or the other. I mean, at
Speaker 1: least we could meet in the middle, maybe, you know,
Speaker 1: so I'm not always traveling, and maybe you could ride
Speaker 1: back with me sometimes and you'll be with me and
Speaker 1: we'll you'll be safe, you won't get robbed, Craig. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So what do you think? Can you guys find a
Speaker 1: way to make this crazy long distance relationship of yours work? Craig?
Speaker 1: Have you ever been to the metropolis called Written? Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes you have. Okay, so you know where that is?
Speaker 1: What if we have you guys meet there? Um, that
Speaker 1: should be fine? Okay with that? Yeah, Craig. It's a
Speaker 1: city that Craig can handle. And Amy you know where
Speaker 1: that is? You don't mind traveling at all, not at all? Okay? Perfect?
Speaker 1: And congratulations you guys you got your second date Amy, well,
Speaker 1: first date, I guess, because he never showed up on
Speaker 1: the first one. But whatever, I'm super excited. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: promise I will be there and if I'm not there
Speaker 1: then I will call. Okay, I promise I will be
Speaker 1: there unless the parking lot is full. Too many a
Speaker 1: broken jupil in the morning. Nice to meet you.