WEBVTT - Before you say yes

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to ask for more information. There is

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<v Speaker 1>no harm in clarifying things. Whenever anyone asks for a favor,

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<v Speaker 1>you can make sure everyone is spending their time wisely,

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<v Speaker 1>including you. Today's tip, like others this week, comes from

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<v Speaker 1>my friend Dory Clark's new book The Long Game, How

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<v Speaker 1>to be a long term thinker in a short term world.

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<v Speaker 1>Dory heartily recommends connecting with lots of people. However, when

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<v Speaker 1>we pack our schedules completely full, it's hard to have

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<v Speaker 1>space to think and create. The answer to this dilemma

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<v Speaker 1>is to make sure that you are connecting with people

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<v Speaker 1>when you can be most help full. So when people

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<v Speaker 1>ask to connect, follow up ask why they want to connect.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the script door he suggests, I'd love to see

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<v Speaker 1>if I can be helpful. Can you tell me a

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<v Speaker 1>bit more about what you'd like to discuss and how

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<v Speaker 1>I can be useful to you in particular. Yes, this

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<v Speaker 1>prolongs the email or phone exchange, but this does a

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<v Speaker 1>few things. First, some chunk of disorganized people will never

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<v Speaker 1>follow up. This lets you concentrate your energy on the

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<v Speaker 1>people who are going to make use of your time together. Second,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be sure that what the person needs

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<v Speaker 1>help with is something you can do. If they are

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<v Speaker 1>looking for advice on breaking into public relations, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>not actually what you do. Good to know before both

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<v Speaker 1>of you have that awkward conversation if they want you

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<v Speaker 1>to help with something, also ask specifically what they want

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<v Speaker 1>your help with. This allows you to figure out before

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<v Speaker 1>meeting if this is something that you are willing to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and also enables you to direct them to the right resources.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have any connections at that company, for instance,

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<v Speaker 1>but everyone in that industry seems to read this certain blog.

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<v Speaker 1>We want to be helpful, but there is nothing gained

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<v Speaker 1>by having a conversation with someone who really wants to

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<v Speaker 1>be introduced to a certain person when you don't know

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<v Speaker 1>that person. I mean, maybe you'll have a great conversation

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<v Speaker 1>about other things, maybe you'll build a friendship, and that

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<v Speaker 1>would be awesome, But if the person's heart was really

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<v Speaker 1>set on the intro it might just not be a

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<v Speaker 1>good use of anyone's time, So ask for more information.

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<v Speaker 1>That way, the networking conversations you do have will be

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<v Speaker 1>more fruitful, which feels far more satisfying than wasting time

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<v Speaker 1>realizing you can't really help. In the meantime, This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks so much, I look forward to staying in touch.

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