Speaker 1: Living with someone before getting married is so much better.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think we need to fully understand who the
Speaker 2: person is before making such a big decision in our life.
Speaker 1: There are times when I want to kiss a girl.
Speaker 2: It doesn't bother me. I see human beings. Love is love,
Speaker 2: and if you've dated some girl before, I totally accept that.
Speaker 1: I think we're just practicing and letting things be right.
Speaker 2: When it comes to a kid, I think it's also
Speaker 2: growing on you. I think it's growing on you.
Speaker 1: I have had a little baby fever lately. Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's
Speaker 1: in Chill. Today I'm joined by one of my favorite
Speaker 1: people in the entire world, my boyfriend Emilio, and we're
Speaker 1: going to get really personal today. We're going to talk
Speaker 1: about how our relationship has evolved, and we're also going
Speaker 1: to address a topic that's been brought up quite a bit.
Speaker 1: So if you want to hear more, stay tuned. This
Speaker 1: is cheek and Chill. Sitting here with me right now
Speaker 1: is my love, Emilio Sanchez. He's a super talented photographer
Speaker 1: based in la who has worked with everyone from Becky
Speaker 1: g to the late Kobe Bryant and for those of
Speaker 1: you who don't know, he's also photographed me a bunch
Speaker 1: of times, including my book cover Unstoppable and also for
Speaker 1: my album Avena. Hi, my love, how are you Hi?
Speaker 2: I'm doing great.
Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see him. He looks so
Speaker 1: nervous right now.
Speaker 2: I'm good.
Speaker 1: But you've been on here before, you've been on here.
Speaker 1: This is it's me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I love talking to you, so yeah, he.
Speaker 1: Does you, guys. That's one thing I can tell you.
Speaker 1: Emilio is very good at communication. And yes, the first
Speaker 1: time you were on we talked about our new relationship
Speaker 1: and the seven year you know, age gap, and today
Speaker 1: we're going to give listeners a little update on how
Speaker 1: things have evolved and progressed. And I want you to
Speaker 1: be completely honest and how you feel. This is like
Speaker 1: an open space. No one's listening, it's just when I copy.
Speaker 1: And we're also going to talk about how you feel
Speaker 1: about me, you know, being fifteen twenty percent you know, lesbian,
Speaker 1: because that's been a topic that a lot of people,
Speaker 1: you know, have been wanting to know about me liking
Speaker 1: women and how you feel about it. Are you ready?
Speaker 2: Absolutely all right?
Speaker 1: Okay, so before we get into it, I want to
Speaker 1: give everyone a bit of context, you know, a little background,
Speaker 1: not too much because we did an entire episode already
Speaker 1: on it, but for those of you who haven't listened
Speaker 1: to that episode, shame on you go listen to it.
Speaker 1: We've been dating for about what two years and three months? Yes,
Speaker 1: and yes we live together. A lot of people, I think,
Speaker 1: have that question, how long have we been living together?
Speaker 2: Babe? November of our first year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been no. Really, Okay, I don't remember it.
Speaker 1: Kind of it happened fairly quickly, you guys, But I
Speaker 1: don't know. It just kind of happened right Like. We
Speaker 1: didn't really talk about it. I just like wanted him
Speaker 1: to come over, and a lot I'm like, oh, what
Speaker 1: do you mean you're not going to spend the night tonight?
Speaker 1: And then I'd go to his place. I don't know.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about it? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I feel like we had our healthy space in the beginning,
Speaker 2: and then it just the situations that came in our
Speaker 2: lives brought a new opportunity and I feel like we
Speaker 2: kind of got funneled into this new position in our
Speaker 2: life and it led to us starting a new journey together,
Speaker 2: and that's how I saw it.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I think we both were just on the
Speaker 1: same page. We both had been in pretty emotionally heavy
Speaker 1: relationships right without talking about about anyone. But I think
Speaker 1: we were both very honest from the beginning, and he
Speaker 1: was very open as to what he wanted, what he
Speaker 1: didn't want, and so was I and it just happened. You, guys,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, like the day I met him, I
Speaker 1: had taken my iud at, which is birth control. I
Speaker 1: had told myself, you know what, I'm going to be celibate.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to date, and if I date, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to have sex. Like I just had this
Speaker 1: whole idea in my mind. And I'm telling you, the
Speaker 1: universe and God had something different because that day when
Speaker 1: we made when because I had already met him before
Speaker 1: a few months before, eight nine months before, but that
Speaker 1: March of twenty twenty one, I just, I don't know,
Speaker 1: there was just this click. I can't even explain it.
Speaker 1: And ever since then, I can count the times that
Speaker 1: we haven't been together, like we've been together and spent
Speaker 1: more time together than we haven't, right in these past
Speaker 1: two years.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's also like we enjoy it so much.
Speaker 2: And I think that's also a reason why we moved
Speaker 2: in so early, was because we love the feeling that
Speaker 2: we've made each other feel. It's like, yeah, this is
Speaker 2: where I want to be around.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. You gave me a lot of peace, for sure,
Speaker 1: And I hadn't felt that in a long time, like
Speaker 1: sleeping next to someone and just being at peace and
Speaker 1: feeling safe. I hadn't felt that, I think ever, to
Speaker 1: be honest. So when I felt that, it was just
Speaker 1: like I got addicted to that feeling. Now I have
Speaker 1: a question. I don't think i've ever asked you this.
Speaker 1: What did your mom think about us moving in so quickly?
Speaker 1: Or your grandma who we call Ama, she's like the
Speaker 1: best by the.
Speaker 2: Way, Well, a'ma oh, that's the one that was like,
Speaker 2: don't get rid of your spot. Don't just move in
Speaker 2: because if she kicks you out and then you're not
Speaker 2: gonna have anywhere to go. And I was like, all right, Alma.
Speaker 1: Well, his Alma was a little hesitant, a little worried
Speaker 1: about us dating because of everything that she had heard
Speaker 1: and seen on TV. You know, like for a long time,
Speaker 1: all these programs, these Spanish programs just didn't really know me,
Speaker 1: and I think perceived me in a certain way or
Speaker 1: made me put me in a different light. So when
Speaker 1: I met her, like her and I are like best friends.
Speaker 1: We love each other now so much. But I think
Speaker 1: she was worried for him, which is probably why she
Speaker 1: said that, which makes sense. And by the way, he
Speaker 1: still has his place. He still has a place in downtown,
Speaker 1: he works out of there, and you know, but yeah,
Speaker 1: we lived together full time. That's just what it is, guys.
Speaker 1: And I'm fine with that because I'm sure a lot
Speaker 1: of people are like, Okay, why not get married first
Speaker 1: and then live together? I think living together personally, this
Speaker 1: is my personal opinion. Living with someone before getting married
Speaker 1: is so much much better, I think, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we need to fully understand who the
Speaker 2: person is before making such a big decision in your life,
Speaker 2: and it gives us the space and time to really
Speaker 2: get to know each other and see if it can
Speaker 2: work and how it can work and what we need
Speaker 2: to do to make it work.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't regret it at all. If anything, I
Speaker 1: think it's been pretty awesome. And of course it was
Speaker 1: a little not uncomfortable. What's the right word. It was
Speaker 1: just we had to get adjusted, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like there's certain ways that I want things, and I'm
Speaker 1: very anal, very particular, but he is a type of
Speaker 1: partner that wants to learn, and so do I. So
Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, if I tell him, hey, I don't
Speaker 1: like this or can you do this, he'll do it.
Speaker 1: Like we're both pretty good with that, right, Like if
Speaker 1: there's something like you've told me. I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: speak for you, but like you've told me, like if
Speaker 1: I tell you I don't like something, like, I'm pretty
Speaker 1: good with fixing it.
Speaker 2: Yes, you're very yes, And that was something that surprised
Speaker 2: me that you were very response to whatever I told you.
Speaker 2: And it might not sit with you well or as
Speaker 2: easy in the beginning when you first hear it, but
Speaker 2: then once you're able to digest it on your own,
Speaker 2: then you show me pretty quickly, you know, with the
Speaker 2: weeks after that, after I tell you, I see changers,
Speaker 2: I see improvements. I see the effort, and that's, to me,
Speaker 2: is the biggest thing.
Speaker 1: Well, thanks, I try, you know, I'm trying. I really am,
Speaker 1: because I could be I don't think I'm controlling, right,
Speaker 1: It's not that. It's more of like I could be
Speaker 1: a little said in my ways sort of things in
Speaker 1: certain things. Yes, I admit to that, and he's taught
Speaker 1: me and through therapy as well, that a relationship is
Speaker 1: all about compromising and even if the things feel uncomfortable
Speaker 1: to you, it'll feel better together, if that makes sense,
Speaker 1: because I guess in a way I've been a little
Speaker 1: bit of a of a fine this isn't working. I'm
Speaker 1: by you know, and that come from what I saw
Speaker 1: growing up. It's kind of like okay, next, you know,
Speaker 1: and that's not okay. A relationship is work. It's work
Speaker 1: every single day. It's you choosing that person and also
Speaker 1: being willing to see, hey, I have things I need
Speaker 1: to work on. I have things that I have to
Speaker 1: be better at, you know, just communication. You've lived with
Speaker 1: someone else before, right, babe?
Speaker 2: Tell our people, Yes, it wasn't as permanent as this.
Speaker 2: This is like the first time where it's like this
Speaker 2: is our living situation and before it was more temporary.
Speaker 2: So but having another person in your space, in your home,
Speaker 2: it does change things.
Speaker 1: And what are what do you feel in your opinion,
Speaker 1: like are the challenges of living together like you and I.
Speaker 2: I think it's just having to be open about how
Speaker 2: someone else likes things and figuring out what those things are,
Speaker 2: what's important, what you like, how you like things done,
Speaker 2: and also expressing what I like and how I like
Speaker 2: things done as well, and just talking about those things.
Speaker 2: It's something that you can't really plan out. We can't
Speaker 2: be like this is the plan for us to make
Speaker 2: this work. It's something that you have to experience and
Speaker 2: things are going to come up, Emotions are going to
Speaker 2: come up, and it's like we have to find out
Speaker 2: why those motions come up and what I can do
Speaker 2: on my end help. Again, it's compromising and working with
Speaker 2: each other to make those things work. And I feel
Speaker 2: like we do a pretty good job at that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to tell you that because I
Speaker 1: don't really have to tell him, hey, can you do this?
Speaker 1: It's very very rare. I cook, and he washes the dishes,
Speaker 1: he loves to vacuum, he makes the bed like it's
Speaker 1: fairly I don't know. I don't want to say easy,
Speaker 1: but it kind of has been where even if there's
Speaker 1: something that bugs me, you know, like, for instance, he's
Speaker 1: not a messy guy, but he kind of leaves like
Speaker 1: his clothes just you know, on the other side of
Speaker 1: the bed. He takes off his pants and his socks
Speaker 1: and he just leaves it there. And like there are
Speaker 1: times when I pick it up, and then are times
Speaker 1: when I'm just like I'm just going to leave it there,
Speaker 1: like I'm not you know, It's like I'm not gonna argue,
Speaker 1: I'm not whatever. He's a brown as man. But I
Speaker 1: got to pick and choose my battles. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: like cause a fight over something so like minimal. But
Speaker 1: other than that, I mean.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm really trying to think of like the things
Speaker 2: that I don't like that you do around the house. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And I honestly like I can't really think of anything.
Speaker 2: Nothing comes on. I'm like, you're on it. You're on everything.
Speaker 2: So it's pretty cool.
Speaker 1: Oh thanks man. Thanks. I mean I don't cook it.
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't cook as often as you like, maybe
Speaker 1: because I know that's one thing that Johnny wishes I
Speaker 1: did like cook a little bit more.
Speaker 2: I just I love when you cook, Like when I
Speaker 2: know you you cut your bandanna on and you go
Speaker 2: in the kitchen and I'm like, okay, it's about to
Speaker 2: go down.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how they know. In the house I put
Speaker 1: on I've been down a but I'm a clean I'm
Speaker 1: get shit done. I want to talk a little bit,
Speaker 1: just a tiny bit, because we have so many things
Speaker 1: we got to talk about. But it's crazy to me,
Speaker 1: you guys, Emilio's gonna be thirty one soon, and he's
Speaker 1: very much over his age. I never thought, and I
Speaker 1: had told myself from my previous relationship, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to date anyone younger. I want a forty five year
Speaker 1: old man who has been married and divorced and has kids.
Speaker 1: And I had this whole other idea. I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: God said, wait a minute, hold your horses. I'm sending
Speaker 1: you this young guy who was very mature, very wise.
Speaker 1: He's gonna teach you quite a bit and it's gonna
Speaker 1: put your ass in your place. And it's a medio.
Speaker 1: But you guys, he was kind of like a low
Speaker 1: key fuck boy before me. Yes or no? Sure, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: And I can't freaking believe it, you guys, Like when
Speaker 1: he tells me some stories and how he was, I'm
Speaker 1: just like, what, I can't even imagine it, you know.
Speaker 1: But the beautiful thing about him is that he says
Speaker 1: I was this way and I'm not proud of it.
Speaker 1: I feel really bad. I heard a lot of girls,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate that. I don't get jealous. If anything,
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's very nice of him to say.
Speaker 2: Fuck.
Speaker 1: If I couldn't go and apologize to these girls that
Speaker 1: I hurt, I would, you know. But he also you
Speaker 1: see it as as what babe, like, you explain it absolutely.
Speaker 2: That's something I tell myself a lot these days, is
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm glad everything happened when it happened. I'm
Speaker 2: grateful for the pain that I went through because it
Speaker 2: wouldn't have made me who I am today. I hurt
Speaker 2: a lot of people. I was hurt by people, and
Speaker 2: it pushed me to a point where I was searching
Speaker 2: for why am I unhappy? Still? Why am I unhappy
Speaker 2: in every situation that I'm in? And I always went
Speaker 2: and looked for this like magic pill that was just
Speaker 2: going to make everything better. And I realized that what
Speaker 2: I was looking for is I had to look within
Speaker 2: myself inward, and I think I avoided that for so long.
Speaker 2: Or I also didn't know the techniques on how to
Speaker 2: do that. And when I met you, I had the
Speaker 2: biggest drive to be like, I have a clean plate here.
Speaker 2: What can I do to make sure that everything that
Speaker 2: has happened before doesn't happen again? And that starts with myself,
Speaker 2: my insecurities, my bad traits, that I have, any behavioral
Speaker 2: patterns that follow me, and I just decided it was
Speaker 2: time to stop running from those things and really dig
Speaker 2: deep and you know change.
Speaker 1: And do you think it was because you were ready
Speaker 1: as a man to have that in your life or
Speaker 1: was it because you met me and you or was
Speaker 1: it a little bit of both? Maybe? I don't know.
Speaker 1: Do you think you would have been the same guy
Speaker 1: now if it was another girl for instance?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that question, I don't know. I feel like, again
Speaker 2: I tell you this all the time, I feel like
Speaker 2: we were really mad for each other. So that just
Speaker 2: comes with that. But even in my twenties, even when
Speaker 2: all the pain was happening in my heart, I always
Speaker 2: knew what I wanted to be out. I know deep
Speaker 2: down I'm a good person. I have good intentions. I
Speaker 2: just didn't know how to express that with people. Then
Speaker 2: when I met you, I was at a point where
Speaker 2: I'm like I was so desperate for something new and
Speaker 2: something to change, and then you also made me want
Speaker 2: to Basically, I asked God to help me with the
Speaker 2: problems that I had, and he's not going to just say, hey,
Speaker 2: you're fixed. He's going to give you a situation where
Speaker 2: you're tested and be like, Okay, you have insecurities. I'm
Speaker 2: going to give you the woman that's going to make
Speaker 2: all of those insecurities come out. And it's up to
Speaker 2: you what to do with that, you know. And it
Speaker 2: was our first year emotionally was really hard because I
Speaker 2: was very uncomfortable with a lot of things because of
Speaker 2: my career. Right just with everything you as a human being.
Speaker 2: It could be career things, it can be day to
Speaker 2: day things. It just opens up a door to be
Speaker 2: able to work on yourselves. And Yeah, thankfully he brought
Speaker 2: a woman into my life that I've been able to
Speaker 2: go through that process with that's helped me a lot.
Speaker 2: I know the work is on my end, but you
Speaker 2: have supported me at my weakness. You you're there for
Speaker 2: me and you have been there for me as well.
Speaker 1: And this is I think we talked about this a
Speaker 1: little bit before, but I have also had to work
Speaker 1: on insecurities, you know, and people have asked me, how
Speaker 1: do you feel about Emilio taking pictures of beautiful women?
Speaker 1: And you know, they say all these things about photographers,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I also am in a different
Speaker 1: place in my life where I'm just like I know
Speaker 1: who I am. But also you make me feel very
Speaker 1: safe from the very beginning. You guys, I never asked
Speaker 1: for his location. He gave it to me himself. We
Speaker 1: have each other's locations, each other's passwords to our phones.
Speaker 1: Like it was just very different, Like it wasn't I
Speaker 1: had it was pulling teeth and because of it, like
Speaker 1: it just I don't know, it's just different, I think
Speaker 1: the first time, Yeah, like the first week I started dating,
Speaker 1: I was in Waala, Lajara. Then you had to go
Speaker 1: to where did you go with with Stilo?
Speaker 2: Uh Costa Rica, Costa Rica.
Speaker 1: There was a bunch of girls in thongs, big booty
Speaker 1: bitches on the boat. I told myself, like I have
Speaker 1: to work through this, like I cannot be that toxic girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be that not. If anything, I
Speaker 1: didn't want to like even pretend to be different with him.
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to feel that those things anymore.
Speaker 1: And sometimes I come up not gonna lie, but then
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, no, Like I have to
Speaker 1: be confident in who I am and in the man
Speaker 1: that I have, And sometimes we torment our mind so
Speaker 1: much with what could happen that we're not living and
Speaker 1: enjoying the moment. And I used to do that so much,
Speaker 1: like oh my gosh, well what is he doing again?
Speaker 1: My past relationships very different. I didn't feel that piece
Speaker 1: that I feel here, but I know that we've talked
Speaker 1: about it, like things that have made you feel insecure
Speaker 1: about my career, things that make me feel little insecure
Speaker 1: about yours. But we communicate, and I think that is
Speaker 1: the biggest difference in this relationship is that we're very
Speaker 1: honest and we take care of each other's feelings.
Speaker 2: I think yes. And also a big key to that
Speaker 2: is that we don't judge each other, because when insecurity
Speaker 2: has come up, it's so easy to be like, oh,
Speaker 2: you're insecure, you're this, and shame that person, and we
Speaker 2: don't do that from that place. We are here for
Speaker 2: each other and be like, I know I can be like, hey,
Speaker 2: this bars me, and I know that you'll listen to
Speaker 2: me and hear me out on why and then also
Speaker 2: help me in the process of getting me to process
Speaker 2: that insecurity to where it's not a problem anymore, and
Speaker 2: we work through it together. And that's I think that's
Speaker 2: one of the biggest keys to the success in our relationship.
Speaker 1: For sure, and you're much better with that. To be honest,
Speaker 1: there are times when you say things bother you and
Speaker 1: I get upset, like initially, but then I'm like, no, wait,
Speaker 1: I have to put myself in is sshoes. I have
Speaker 1: to understand. I take a little longer to process things, guys.
Speaker 1: But now I feel like I'm quicker and I'm a
Speaker 1: little more open to it. At first, I was kind
Speaker 1: of like, what the fuck. This is my job, this
Speaker 1: is what I got to do. Now I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: this is a person that's important to me, and I
Speaker 1: have to figure out how to make this work because
Speaker 1: he makes me happy and it can't just be well,
Speaker 1: this is my career, yes and no. So I have
Speaker 1: worked through that with my therapist, and you have been
Speaker 1: very paid and I appreciate that because again, I am
Speaker 1: a little bit more stuck in my ways. But I'm
Speaker 1: very proud of myself. I have gotten better, he said it.
Speaker 2: Guys.
Speaker 1: One thing that has helped a lot is we've been
Speaker 1: microdosing together. We started microdosing together with psychedelics for how
Speaker 1: long we've it's been what nine months now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been a little while and.
Speaker 1: Now been a while, yeah, And I feel like it's
Speaker 1: changed us as individuals and as a unit. We try
Speaker 1: to stay on the same schedule with microdosing because it's
Speaker 1: every what two to three days that we do it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And we pray together and stuff, and I think that
Speaker 1: helps that we're on the same page, on the same frequency.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And something about that too. It's not just that
Speaker 2: we're taking this pill and it's making us better. It's
Speaker 2: it is the praying. It is setting our attentions. I
Speaker 2: like to do it on the same schedule as you
Speaker 2: show that. To me, it makes us feel more connected.
Speaker 2: And if we set our intentions together and we pray
Speaker 2: and we do our little ritual and give each other
Speaker 2: a kiss, like, to me, that makes me feel like, hey,
Speaker 2: my partner's here on this healing process with me. To me,
Speaker 2: that's everything.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And just for people that don't know what psychedelics are,
Speaker 1: they're basically mushrooms and I'm sure a lot of people
Speaker 1: have heard that, Oh my god, you hallucinate. You see
Speaker 1: things like get all. This is micro dosing. We take
Speaker 1: very little and it's more of like medicinal purposes, healing
Speaker 1: purposes that we do it. It's not to like go
Speaker 1: out and party and get crazy. It's it's very different.
Speaker 1: That's why how Emilio said, like we said our intentions,
Speaker 1: and I always say, just make me the best version
Speaker 1: of myself. Helped me become a better person all around,
Speaker 1: a better partner, and for us to be connected, and
Speaker 1: it's given us a lot of confidence. I feel like
Speaker 1: in the relationship. I don't know, I just feel very
Speaker 1: different since I've been doing it, and it's helped that
Speaker 1: I've done it with him. But it's not like we're
Speaker 1: out there doing drugs together, you guys, you know, it's
Speaker 1: this is this is very different. So just I always say,
Speaker 1: research it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the biggest thing for micro dosing for
Speaker 2: me has been that it makes me more present uring
Speaker 2: a day, So it doesn't give me any room in
Speaker 2: my head to overthink things, to have anxiety, to have depression,
Speaker 2: because I'm so present and when you're present, I'm just
Speaker 2: so you're grateful when you're in the present moment and
Speaker 2: we get to enjoy each other.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure. He believes in the power of Now.
Speaker 1: He actually has it tattooed on his what is it
Speaker 1: your wrist, your arm baper Yeah, yeah, And that's a book,
Speaker 1: you guys, read it, The Power of Now. It's such
Speaker 1: a good book. And the crazy thing is that we
Speaker 1: had both read it obviously, way before we met each other.
Speaker 1: And that's what it is, Like, I think we're we
Speaker 1: both understand like the power of now, like living in
Speaker 1: the present and how important that is. And that's what
Speaker 1: causes I've talked about this a lot. What causes anxiety,
Speaker 1: you guys, is worrying about something that hasn't happened, And
Speaker 1: what causes depression is something that you're stuck in your past.
Speaker 1: So that's the thing. I think that what makes our
Speaker 1: relationship work so well, despite you know the seven age
Speaker 1: you know, seven year gap, Yes, the seven year gap,
Speaker 1: thank you sir. So I think despite all of that,
Speaker 1: I think it's just the fact that like we're both
Speaker 1: wanting to just be better individually and then together. Right yeah, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes me happy. So another thing that we need
Speaker 1: to talk about. I got a question I don't know
Speaker 1: if I told you on Dear Cheeky's some girl. She
Speaker 1: was really nice about it. She's like, girl, I saw
Speaker 1: you on the Snow podcast and you were just flirting
Speaker 1: with Snow and all this stuff. Don't you have a boyfriend?
Speaker 1: Does he get mad? And all this stuff? And I've
Speaker 1: gotten a lot of questions like that, and I was like,
Speaker 1: wait a second, I'm going to bring a media on
Speaker 1: because we need to talk about this. And again, I
Speaker 1: have been so open with this man from the very beginning.
Speaker 1: That's another choice something I had never done before. It's like,
Speaker 1: hold up, I've been through some shit. I don't want
Speaker 1: to go through it anymore. So something has to change
Speaker 1: within myself and how I approach your relationship. So I
Speaker 1: was very honest with the media from the beginning. Any
Speaker 1: question he asked, I was like, yes, I'm always asking questions.
Speaker 1: And he's not not that he's not open, but he's
Speaker 1: just like, why are you asking about my ex? Girlfriend's
Speaker 1: like what do you like? And he's right, we shouldn't
Speaker 1: you go. It's not we should not open up that
Speaker 1: kind of worms. But I'm just very nosy. But anyways,
Speaker 1: I told him about me having a girlfriend. When I
Speaker 1: was twenty three, I had a girlfriend. I'm like, there
Speaker 1: are times when I want to kiss a girl. And
Speaker 1: he was actually with me when I went to someone's podcast,
Speaker 1: No her twitch was it her twitch bit Leslie DJ Leslie.
Speaker 1: And we kissed and I had already kind of like
Speaker 1: told him, hey, you know, so he knew what he
Speaker 1: was walking into and he saw when we kissed and everything.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like a tongue kiss. It was just like
Speaker 1: a cute little pet. She kissed me, but I let her,
Speaker 1: And how did you feel?
Speaker 2: I thought it was cool. We were having fun. We
Speaker 2: were there having a great time. Yeah, it doesn't bother
Speaker 2: me like it. I see human beings and love is love.
Speaker 2: And if you dated some of girl before, I totally
Speaker 2: accept that. I don't sit here and worry like, oh
Speaker 2: what if she comes and leaves me for a girl,
Speaker 2: And it's the same thing as you coming to me
Speaker 2: and tell me you're leaving me for a guy. It
Speaker 2: makes no difference. It doesn't make any difference. You've been
Speaker 2: very open about it, and it doesn't bother me at all.
Speaker 2: I mean, if you came to me one day and
Speaker 2: be like, hey, last night made out with this girl
Speaker 2: and like that's I heard each other. I know you
Speaker 2: wouldn't do that without talking to me about that first,
Speaker 2: or be like, hey, this is the situation and I
Speaker 2: think that's just part of our communication. I don't think
Speaker 2: you would ever do anything to step out of line
Speaker 2: like that to where it where it turns that situation
Speaker 2: into a bad thing again. In a relationship, as long
Speaker 2: as there's communication about anything and both people agree, and
Speaker 2: if both people are open to it, it's free gain.
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Speaker 1: today's episode of Cheeky's and Chill. We'll continue this conversation
Speaker 1: tomorrow with part two of my chat with the Medium.
Speaker 1: It's a conversation you're not going to wanna mosse. Love you, guys, vestos.
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