1 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: Living with someone before getting married is so much better. 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think we need to fully understand who the 3 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 2: person is before making such a big decision in our life. 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: There are times when I want to kiss a girl. 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 2: It doesn't bother me. I see human beings. Love is love, 6 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 2: and if you've dated some girl before, I totally accept that. 7 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 1: I think we're just practicing and letting things be right. 8 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 2: When it comes to a kid, I think it's also 9 00:00:28,120 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: growing on you. I think it's growing on you. 10 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: I have had a little baby fever lately. Yeah, for sure. 11 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's 12 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: in Chill. Today I'm joined by one of my favorite 13 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: people in the entire world, my boyfriend Emilio, and we're 14 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: going to get really personal today. We're going to talk 15 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: about how our relationship has evolved, and we're also going 16 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: to address a topic that's been brought up quite a bit. 17 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: So if you want to hear more, stay tuned. This 18 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:08,759 Speaker 1: is cheek and Chill. Sitting here with me right now 19 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: is my love, Emilio Sanchez. He's a super talented photographer 20 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: based in la who has worked with everyone from Becky 21 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: g to the late Kobe Bryant and for those of 22 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: you who don't know, he's also photographed me a bunch 23 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,680 Speaker 1: of times, including my book cover Unstoppable and also for 24 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,760 Speaker 1: my album Avena. Hi, my love, how are you Hi? 25 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 2: I'm doing great. 26 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see him. He looks so 27 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: nervous right now. 28 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:33,959 Speaker 2: I'm good. 29 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: But you've been on here before, you've been on here. 30 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: This is it's me. 31 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I love talking to you, so yeah, he. 32 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: Does you, guys. That's one thing I can tell you. 33 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: Emilio is very good at communication. And yes, the first 34 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: time you were on we talked about our new relationship 35 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: and the seven year you know, age gap, and today 36 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: we're going to give listeners a little update on how 37 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: things have evolved and progressed. And I want you to 38 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: be completely honest and how you feel. This is like 39 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: an open space. No one's listening, it's just when I copy. 40 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: And we're also going to talk about how you feel 41 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: about me, you know, being fifteen twenty percent you know, lesbian, 42 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:11,919 Speaker 1: because that's been a topic that a lot of people, 43 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: you know, have been wanting to know about me liking 44 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: women and how you feel about it. Are you ready? 45 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:18,519 Speaker 2: Absolutely all right? 46 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: Okay, so before we get into it, I want to 47 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:24,120 Speaker 1: give everyone a bit of context, you know, a little background, 48 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: not too much because we did an entire episode already 49 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: on it, but for those of you who haven't listened 50 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: to that episode, shame on you go listen to it. 51 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 1: We've been dating for about what two years and three months? Yes, 52 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,399 Speaker 1: and yes we live together. A lot of people, I think, 53 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 1: have that question, how long have we been living together? 54 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 2: Babe? November of our first year. 55 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been no. Really, Okay, I don't remember it. 56 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,959 Speaker 1: Kind of it happened fairly quickly, you guys, But I 57 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 1: don't know. It just kind of happened right Like. We 58 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: didn't really talk about it. I just like wanted him 59 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,639 Speaker 1: to come over, and a lot I'm like, oh, what 60 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: do you mean you're not going to spend the night tonight? 61 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: And then I'd go to his place. I don't know. 62 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: How do you feel about it? Yeah? 63 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 2: I feel like we had our healthy space in the beginning, 64 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 2: and then it just the situations that came in our 65 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 2: lives brought a new opportunity and I feel like we 66 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 2: kind of got funneled into this new position in our 67 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 2: life and it led to us starting a new journey together, 68 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 2: and that's how I saw it. 69 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I think we both were just on the 70 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: same page. We both had been in pretty emotionally heavy 71 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: relationships right without talking about about anyone. But I think 72 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: we were both very honest from the beginning, and he 73 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: was very open as to what he wanted, what he 74 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: didn't want, and so was I and it just happened. You, guys, 75 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, like the day I met him, I 76 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: had taken my iud at, which is birth control. I 77 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: had told myself, you know what, I'm going to be celibate. 78 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: I'm not going to date, and if I date, I'm 79 00:03:57,800 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: not going to have sex. Like I just had this 80 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 1: whole idea in my mind. And I'm telling you, the 81 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: universe and God had something different because that day when 82 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: we made when because I had already met him before 83 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: a few months before, eight nine months before, but that 84 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: March of twenty twenty one, I just, I don't know, 85 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: there was just this click. I can't even explain it. 86 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: And ever since then, I can count the times that 87 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: we haven't been together, like we've been together and spent 88 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,679 Speaker 1: more time together than we haven't, right in these past 89 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 1: two years. 90 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:27,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's also like we enjoy it so much. 91 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:29,520 Speaker 2: And I think that's also a reason why we moved 92 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:33,159 Speaker 2: in so early, was because we love the feeling that 93 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 2: we've made each other feel. It's like, yeah, this is 94 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 2: where I want to be around. 95 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:39,559 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. You gave me a lot of peace, for sure, 96 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: And I hadn't felt that in a long time, like 97 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: sleeping next to someone and just being at peace and 98 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 1: feeling safe. I hadn't felt that, I think ever, to 99 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: be honest. So when I felt that, it was just 100 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:53,919 Speaker 1: like I got addicted to that feeling. Now I have 101 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: a question. I don't think i've ever asked you this. 102 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: What did your mom think about us moving in so quickly? 103 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: Or your grandma who we call Ama, she's like the 104 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: best by the. 105 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 2: Way, Well, a'ma oh, that's the one that was like, 106 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 2: don't get rid of your spot. Don't just move in 107 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 2: because if she kicks you out and then you're not 108 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 2: gonna have anywhere to go. And I was like, all right, Alma. 109 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,919 Speaker 1: Well, his Alma was a little hesitant, a little worried 110 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: about us dating because of everything that she had heard 111 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: and seen on TV. You know, like for a long time, 112 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:28,279 Speaker 1: all these programs, these Spanish programs just didn't really know me, 113 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: and I think perceived me in a certain way or 114 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: made me put me in a different light. So when 115 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,920 Speaker 1: I met her, like her and I are like best friends. 116 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: We love each other now so much. But I think 117 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 1: she was worried for him, which is probably why she 118 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:40,599 Speaker 1: said that, which makes sense. And by the way, he 119 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 1: still has his place. He still has a place in downtown, 120 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: he works out of there, and you know, but yeah, 121 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: we lived together full time. That's just what it is, guys. 122 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: And I'm fine with that because I'm sure a lot 123 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: of people are like, Okay, why not get married first 124 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,279 Speaker 1: and then live together? I think living together personally, this 125 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: is my personal opinion. Living with someone before getting married 126 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: is so much much better, I think, right. 127 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we need to fully understand who the 128 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 2: person is before making such a big decision in your life, 129 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 2: and it gives us the space and time to really 130 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 2: get to know each other and see if it can 131 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 2: work and how it can work and what we need 132 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 2: to do to make it work. 133 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:22,720 Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't regret it at all. If anything, I 134 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: think it's been pretty awesome. And of course it was 135 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 1: a little not uncomfortable. What's the right word. It was 136 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: just we had to get adjusted, you know what I mean. 137 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: Like there's certain ways that I want things, and I'm 138 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: very anal, very particular, but he is a type of 139 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: partner that wants to learn, and so do I. So 140 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, if I tell him, hey, I don't 141 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: like this or can you do this, he'll do it. 142 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: Like we're both pretty good with that, right, Like if 143 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 1: there's something like you've told me. I'm not trying to 144 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:50,280 Speaker 1: speak for you, but like you've told me, like if 145 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: I tell you I don't like something, like, I'm pretty 146 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: good with fixing it. 147 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 2: Yes, you're very yes, And that was something that surprised 148 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 2: me that you were very response to whatever I told you. 149 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 2: And it might not sit with you well or as 150 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,840 Speaker 2: easy in the beginning when you first hear it, but 151 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 2: then once you're able to digest it on your own, 152 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 2: then you show me pretty quickly, you know, with the 153 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 2: weeks after that, after I tell you, I see changers, 154 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 2: I see improvements. I see the effort, and that's, to me, 155 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 2: is the biggest thing. 156 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:25,720 Speaker 1: Well, thanks, I try, you know, I'm trying. I really am, 157 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: because I could be I don't think I'm controlling, right, 158 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 1: It's not that. It's more of like I could be 159 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: a little said in my ways sort of things in 160 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: certain things. Yes, I admit to that, and he's taught 161 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: me and through therapy as well, that a relationship is 162 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 1: all about compromising and even if the things feel uncomfortable 163 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: to you, it'll feel better together, if that makes sense, 164 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: because I guess in a way I've been a little 165 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: bit of a of a fine this isn't working. I'm 166 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: by you know, and that come from what I saw 167 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: growing up. It's kind of like okay, next, you know, 168 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 1: and that's not okay. A relationship is work. It's work 169 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 1: every single day. It's you choosing that person and also 170 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: being willing to see, hey, I have things I need 171 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: to work on. I have things that I have to 172 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 1: be better at, you know, just communication. You've lived with 173 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:20,679 Speaker 1: someone else before, right, babe? 174 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 2: Tell our people, Yes, it wasn't as permanent as this. 175 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 2: This is like the first time where it's like this 176 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 2: is our living situation and before it was more temporary. 177 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:35,560 Speaker 2: So but having another person in your space, in your home, 178 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 2: it does change things. 179 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: And what are what do you feel in your opinion, 180 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: like are the challenges of living together like you and I. 181 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 2: I think it's just having to be open about how 182 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 2: someone else likes things and figuring out what those things are, 183 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 2: what's important, what you like, how you like things done, 184 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 2: and also expressing what I like and how I like 185 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 2: things done as well, and just talking about those things. 186 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 2: It's something that you can't really plan out. We can't 187 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 2: be like this is the plan for us to make 188 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 2: this work. It's something that you have to experience and 189 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:13,439 Speaker 2: things are going to come up, Emotions are going to 190 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 2: come up, and it's like we have to find out 191 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 2: why those motions come up and what I can do 192 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 2: on my end help. Again, it's compromising and working with 193 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,199 Speaker 2: each other to make those things work. And I feel 194 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 2: like we do a pretty good job at that. 195 00:09:26,280 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to tell you that because I 196 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,439 Speaker 1: don't really have to tell him, hey, can you do this? 197 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: It's very very rare. I cook, and he washes the dishes, 198 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: he loves to vacuum, he makes the bed like it's 199 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 1: fairly I don't know. I don't want to say easy, 200 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 1: but it kind of has been where even if there's 201 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: something that bugs me, you know, like, for instance, he's 202 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: not a messy guy, but he kind of leaves like 203 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: his clothes just you know, on the other side of 204 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 1: the bed. He takes off his pants and his socks 205 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: and he just leaves it there. And like there are 206 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: times when I pick it up, and then are times 207 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 1: when I'm just like I'm just going to leave it there, 208 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: like I'm not you know, It's like I'm not gonna argue, 209 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: I'm not whatever. He's a brown as man. But I 210 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 1: got to pick and choose my battles. I'm not gonna 211 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: like cause a fight over something so like minimal. But 212 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:11,440 Speaker 1: other than that, I mean. 213 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm really trying to think of like the things 214 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 2: that I don't like that you do around the house. Yeah, 215 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 2: And I honestly like I can't really think of anything. 216 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 2: Nothing comes on. I'm like, you're on it. You're on everything. 217 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 2: So it's pretty cool. 218 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 1: Oh thanks man. Thanks. I mean I don't cook it. 219 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't cook as often as you like, maybe 220 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 1: because I know that's one thing that Johnny wishes I 221 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: did like cook a little bit more. 222 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:32,559 Speaker 2: I just I love when you cook, Like when I 223 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 2: know you you cut your bandanna on and you go 224 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 2: in the kitchen and I'm like, okay, it's about to 225 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 2: go down. 226 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how they know. In the house I put 227 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: on I've been down a but I'm a clean I'm 228 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 1: get shit done. I want to talk a little bit, 229 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: just a tiny bit, because we have so many things 230 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:55,599 Speaker 1: we got to talk about. But it's crazy to me, 231 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: you guys, Emilio's gonna be thirty one soon, and he's 232 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: very much over his age. I never thought, and I 233 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,720 Speaker 1: had told myself from my previous relationship, I'm not going 234 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: to date anyone younger. I want a forty five year 235 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 1: old man who has been married and divorced and has kids. 236 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:10,719 Speaker 1: And I had this whole other idea. I'm telling you, 237 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: God said, wait a minute, hold your horses. I'm sending 238 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,960 Speaker 1: you this young guy who was very mature, very wise. 239 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: He's gonna teach you quite a bit and it's gonna 240 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: put your ass in your place. And it's a medio. 241 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:25,199 Speaker 1: But you guys, he was kind of like a low 242 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 1: key fuck boy before me. Yes or no? Sure, yes, yes, 243 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 1: And I can't freaking believe it, you guys, Like when 244 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 1: he tells me some stories and how he was, I'm 245 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: just like, what, I can't even imagine it, you know. 246 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 1: But the beautiful thing about him is that he says 247 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: I was this way and I'm not proud of it. 248 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: I feel really bad. I heard a lot of girls, 249 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:51,839 Speaker 1: and I appreciate that. I don't get jealous. If anything, 250 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, that's very nice of him to say. 251 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 2: Fuck. 252 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: If I couldn't go and apologize to these girls that 253 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: I hurt, I would, you know. But he also you 254 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: see it as as what babe, like, you explain it absolutely. 255 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 2: That's something I tell myself a lot these days, is 256 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 2: I'm just I'm glad everything happened when it happened. I'm 257 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:10,679 Speaker 2: grateful for the pain that I went through because it 258 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 2: wouldn't have made me who I am today. I hurt 259 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,679 Speaker 2: a lot of people. I was hurt by people, and 260 00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 2: it pushed me to a point where I was searching 261 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:23,559 Speaker 2: for why am I unhappy? Still? Why am I unhappy 262 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 2: in every situation that I'm in? And I always went 263 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:29,520 Speaker 2: and looked for this like magic pill that was just 264 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 2: going to make everything better. And I realized that what 265 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 2: I was looking for is I had to look within 266 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 2: myself inward, and I think I avoided that for so long. 267 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 2: Or I also didn't know the techniques on how to 268 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 2: do that. And when I met you, I had the 269 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 2: biggest drive to be like, I have a clean plate here. 270 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:52,319 Speaker 2: What can I do to make sure that everything that 271 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:56,559 Speaker 2: has happened before doesn't happen again? And that starts with myself, 272 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 2: my insecurities, my bad traits, that I have, any behavioral 273 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 2: patterns that follow me, and I just decided it was 274 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 2: time to stop running from those things and really dig 275 00:13:10,440 --> 00:13:12,320 Speaker 2: deep and you know change. 276 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 1: And do you think it was because you were ready 277 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,839 Speaker 1: as a man to have that in your life or 278 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 1: was it because you met me and you or was 279 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: it a little bit of both? Maybe? I don't know. 280 00:13:23,440 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: Do you think you would have been the same guy 281 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: now if it was another girl for instance? 282 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, that question, I don't know. I feel like, again 283 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:31,439 Speaker 2: I tell you this all the time, I feel like 284 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 2: we were really mad for each other. So that just 285 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 2: comes with that. But even in my twenties, even when 286 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:43,319 Speaker 2: all the pain was happening in my heart, I always 287 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,839 Speaker 2: knew what I wanted to be out. I know deep 288 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:48,319 Speaker 2: down I'm a good person. I have good intentions. I 289 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 2: just didn't know how to express that with people. Then 290 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 2: when I met you, I was at a point where 291 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 2: I'm like I was so desperate for something new and 292 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 2: something to change, and then you also made me want 293 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:06,719 Speaker 2: to Basically, I asked God to help me with the 294 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 2: problems that I had, and he's not going to just say, hey, 295 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 2: you're fixed. He's going to give you a situation where 296 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 2: you're tested and be like, Okay, you have insecurities. I'm 297 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:19,440 Speaker 2: going to give you the woman that's going to make 298 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 2: all of those insecurities come out. And it's up to 299 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 2: you what to do with that, you know. And it 300 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 2: was our first year emotionally was really hard because I 301 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 2: was very uncomfortable with a lot of things because of 302 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 2: my career. Right just with everything you as a human being. 303 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 2: It could be career things, it can be day to 304 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 2: day things. It just opens up a door to be 305 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 2: able to work on yourselves. And Yeah, thankfully he brought 306 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:51,240 Speaker 2: a woman into my life that I've been able to 307 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 2: go through that process with that's helped me a lot. 308 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:56,800 Speaker 2: I know the work is on my end, but you 309 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 2: have supported me at my weakness. You you're there for 310 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 2: me and you have been there for me as well. 311 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: And this is I think we talked about this a 312 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: little bit before, but I have also had to work 313 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 1: on insecurities, you know, and people have asked me, how 314 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: do you feel about Emilio taking pictures of beautiful women? 315 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 1: And you know, they say all these things about photographers, 316 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I also am in a different 317 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: place in my life where I'm just like I know 318 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: who I am. But also you make me feel very 319 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 1: safe from the very beginning. You guys, I never asked 320 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: for his location. He gave it to me himself. We 321 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 1: have each other's locations, each other's passwords to our phones. 322 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,480 Speaker 1: Like it was just very different, Like it wasn't I 323 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: had it was pulling teeth and because of it, like 324 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 1: it just I don't know, it's just different, I think 325 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 1: the first time, Yeah, like the first week I started dating, 326 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 1: I was in Waala, Lajara. Then you had to go 327 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: to where did you go with with Stilo? 328 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 2: Uh Costa Rica, Costa Rica. 329 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 1: There was a bunch of girls in thongs, big booty 330 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: bitches on the boat. I told myself, like I have 331 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: to work through this, like I cannot be that toxic girlfriend. 332 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 1: I don't want to be that not. If anything, I 333 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: didn't want to like even pretend to be different with him. 334 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:09,520 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to feel that those things anymore. 335 00:16:09,560 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: And sometimes I come up not gonna lie, but then 336 00:16:11,560 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, no, Like I have to 337 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: be confident in who I am and in the man 338 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 1: that I have, And sometimes we torment our mind so 339 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: much with what could happen that we're not living and 340 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: enjoying the moment. And I used to do that so much, 341 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:26,520 Speaker 1: like oh my gosh, well what is he doing again? 342 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 1: My past relationships very different. I didn't feel that piece 343 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:34,200 Speaker 1: that I feel here, but I know that we've talked 344 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: about it, like things that have made you feel insecure 345 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:38,640 Speaker 1: about my career, things that make me feel little insecure 346 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: about yours. But we communicate, and I think that is 347 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 1: the biggest difference in this relationship is that we're very 348 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:47,800 Speaker 1: honest and we take care of each other's feelings. 349 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 2: I think yes. And also a big key to that 350 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 2: is that we don't judge each other, because when insecurity 351 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 2: has come up, it's so easy to be like, oh, 352 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 2: you're insecure, you're this, and shame that person, and we 353 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,680 Speaker 2: don't do that from that place. We are here for 354 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 2: each other and be like, I know I can be like, hey, 355 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 2: this bars me, and I know that you'll listen to 356 00:17:11,080 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: me and hear me out on why and then also 357 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 2: help me in the process of getting me to process 358 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,480 Speaker 2: that insecurity to where it's not a problem anymore, and 359 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:23,640 Speaker 2: we work through it together. And that's I think that's 360 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:27,359 Speaker 2: one of the biggest keys to the success in our relationship. 361 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,440 Speaker 1: For sure, and you're much better with that. To be honest, 362 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:32,200 Speaker 1: there are times when you say things bother you and 363 00:17:32,320 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 1: I get upset, like initially, but then I'm like, no, wait, 364 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:36,399 Speaker 1: I have to put myself in is sshoes. I have 365 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 1: to understand. I take a little longer to process things, guys. 366 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:41,920 Speaker 1: But now I feel like I'm quicker and I'm a 367 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: little more open to it. At first, I was kind 368 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 1: of like, what the fuck. This is my job, this 369 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 1: is what I got to do. Now I'm like, wait, 370 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:48,920 Speaker 1: this is a person that's important to me, and I 371 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 1: have to figure out how to make this work because 372 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:53,879 Speaker 1: he makes me happy and it can't just be well, 373 00:17:53,920 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 1: this is my career, yes and no. So I have 374 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: worked through that with my therapist, and you have been 375 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 1: very paid and I appreciate that because again, I am 376 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 1: a little bit more stuck in my ways. But I'm 377 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: very proud of myself. I have gotten better, he said it. 378 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 2: Guys. 379 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:15,320 Speaker 1: One thing that has helped a lot is we've been 380 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 1: microdosing together. We started microdosing together with psychedelics for how 381 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: long we've it's been what nine months now. 382 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been a little while and. 383 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:25,400 Speaker 1: Now been a while, yeah, And I feel like it's 384 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: changed us as individuals and as a unit. We try 385 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: to stay on the same schedule with microdosing because it's 386 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:36,240 Speaker 1: every what two to three days that we do it. Yeah, 387 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:38,879 Speaker 1: And we pray together and stuff, and I think that 388 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 1: helps that we're on the same page, on the same frequency. 389 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. And something about that too. It's not just that 390 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 2: we're taking this pill and it's making us better. It's 391 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,680 Speaker 2: it is the praying. It is setting our attentions. I 392 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 2: like to do it on the same schedule as you 393 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:55,960 Speaker 2: show that. To me, it makes us feel more connected. 394 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 2: And if we set our intentions together and we pray 395 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 2: and we do our little ritual and give each other 396 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 2: a kiss, like, to me, that makes me feel like, hey, 397 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 2: my partner's here on this healing process with me. To me, 398 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 2: that's everything. 399 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:13,919 Speaker 1: Yeah. And just for people that don't know what psychedelics are, 400 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:16,480 Speaker 1: they're basically mushrooms and I'm sure a lot of people 401 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,160 Speaker 1: have heard that, Oh my god, you hallucinate. You see 402 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 1: things like get all. This is micro dosing. We take 403 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 1: very little and it's more of like medicinal purposes, healing 404 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:26,920 Speaker 1: purposes that we do it. It's not to like go 405 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: out and party and get crazy. It's it's very different. 406 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: That's why how Emilio said, like we said our intentions, 407 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: and I always say, just make me the best version 408 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:36,639 Speaker 1: of myself. Helped me become a better person all around, 409 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: a better partner, and for us to be connected, and 410 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:42,920 Speaker 1: it's given us a lot of confidence. I feel like 411 00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:44,679 Speaker 1: in the relationship. I don't know, I just feel very 412 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 1: different since I've been doing it, and it's helped that 413 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 1: I've done it with him. But it's not like we're 414 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: out there doing drugs together, you guys, you know, it's 415 00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 1: this is this is very different. So just I always say, 416 00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: research it. 417 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the biggest thing for micro dosing for 418 00:19:56,600 --> 00:20:00,119 Speaker 2: me has been that it makes me more present uring 419 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 2: a day, So it doesn't give me any room in 420 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 2: my head to overthink things, to have anxiety, to have depression, 421 00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 2: because I'm so present and when you're present, I'm just 422 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,159 Speaker 2: so you're grateful when you're in the present moment and 423 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:14,360 Speaker 2: we get to enjoy each other. 424 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure. He believes in the power of Now. 425 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 1: He actually has it tattooed on his what is it 426 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:23,120 Speaker 1: your wrist, your arm baper Yeah, yeah, And that's a book, 427 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: you guys, read it, The Power of Now. It's such 428 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: a good book. And the crazy thing is that we 429 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 1: had both read it obviously, way before we met each other. 430 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: And that's what it is, Like, I think we're we 431 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: both understand like the power of now, like living in 432 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 1: the present and how important that is. And that's what 433 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: causes I've talked about this a lot. What causes anxiety, 434 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: you guys, is worrying about something that hasn't happened, And 435 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:46,320 Speaker 1: what causes depression is something that you're stuck in your past. 436 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: So that's the thing. I think that what makes our 437 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:53,800 Speaker 1: relationship work so well, despite you know the seven age 438 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 1: you know, seven year gap, Yes, the seven year gap, 439 00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 1: thank you sir. So I think despite all of that, 440 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 1: I think it's just the fact that like we're both 441 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: wanting to just be better individually and then together. Right yeah, okay, yeah, 442 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 1: that makes me happy. So another thing that we need 443 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 1: to talk about. I got a question I don't know 444 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 1: if I told you on Dear Cheeky's some girl. She 445 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,160 Speaker 1: was really nice about it. She's like, girl, I saw 446 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: you on the Snow podcast and you were just flirting 447 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 1: with Snow and all this stuff. Don't you have a boyfriend? 448 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:28,480 Speaker 1: Does he get mad? And all this stuff? And I've 449 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: gotten a lot of questions like that, and I was like, 450 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:32,000 Speaker 1: wait a second, I'm going to bring a media on 451 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: because we need to talk about this. And again, I 452 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: have been so open with this man from the very beginning. 453 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: That's another choice something I had never done before. It's like, 454 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: hold up, I've been through some shit. I don't want 455 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: to go through it anymore. So something has to change 456 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 1: within myself and how I approach your relationship. So I 457 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: was very honest with the media from the beginning. Any 458 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: question he asked, I was like, yes, I'm always asking questions. 459 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 1: And he's not not that he's not open, but he's 460 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: just like, why are you asking about my ex? Girlfriend's 461 00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 1: like what do you like? And he's right, we shouldn't 462 00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,879 Speaker 1: you go. It's not we should not open up that 463 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,880 Speaker 1: kind of worms. But I'm just very nosy. But anyways, 464 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,879 Speaker 1: I told him about me having a girlfriend. When I 465 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 1: was twenty three, I had a girlfriend. I'm like, there 466 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 1: are times when I want to kiss a girl. And 467 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,879 Speaker 1: he was actually with me when I went to someone's podcast, 468 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:20,840 Speaker 1: No her twitch was it her twitch bit Leslie DJ Leslie. 469 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 1: And we kissed and I had already kind of like 470 00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: told him, hey, you know, so he knew what he 471 00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: was walking into and he saw when we kissed and everything. 472 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 1: It wasn't like a tongue kiss. It was just like 473 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,159 Speaker 1: a cute little pet. She kissed me, but I let her, 474 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 1: And how did you feel? 475 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 2: I thought it was cool. We were having fun. We 476 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 2: were there having a great time. Yeah, it doesn't bother 477 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 2: me like it. I see human beings and love is love. 478 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 2: And if you dated some of girl before, I totally 479 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 2: accept that. I don't sit here and worry like, oh 480 00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,720 Speaker 2: what if she comes and leaves me for a girl, 481 00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:00,680 Speaker 2: And it's the same thing as you coming to me 482 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 2: and tell me you're leaving me for a guy. It 483 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:06,920 Speaker 2: makes no difference. It doesn't make any difference. You've been 484 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 2: very open about it, and it doesn't bother me at all. 485 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 2: I mean, if you came to me one day and 486 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,399 Speaker 2: be like, hey, last night made out with this girl 487 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 2: and like that's I heard each other. I know you 488 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:22,200 Speaker 2: wouldn't do that without talking to me about that first, 489 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:26,680 Speaker 2: or be like, hey, this is the situation and I 490 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 2: think that's just part of our communication. I don't think 491 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 2: you would ever do anything to step out of line 492 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,880 Speaker 2: like that to where it where it turns that situation 493 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:38,439 Speaker 2: into a bad thing again. In a relationship, as long 494 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 2: as there's communication about anything and both people agree, and 495 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 2: if both people are open to it, it's free gain. 496 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:52,879 Speaker 1: Basically, you guys, thank you so much for listening to 497 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: today's episode of Cheeky's and Chill. We'll continue this conversation 498 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,399 Speaker 1: tomorrow with part two of my chat with the Medium. 499 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 1: It's a conversation you're not going to wanna mosse. Love you, guys, vestos. 500 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:08,080 Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and the Micauldura podcast Network. 501 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at Michaeldura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's, 502 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:15,080 Speaker 1: That's c h I q U I s. 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