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Speaker 1: Hey, every want Welcome back to Bachler Happy Hour. I'm

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Speaker 1: Joe and I'm Serena and we are here today with Zoe. Zoe.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 2: Hi. Thank you for having me, of.

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Speaker 1: Course, And before we get into the episode, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: get a little breakdown of what you were doing before

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Speaker 1: the show, how you got on the show, a little

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Speaker 1: bit of a history, and then we'll get into episode two.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's lots to talk about, so we're excited to

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Speaker 3: have you on today.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So, Zoe, where where do you live?

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Speaker 2: So? Right now, I live in New York City, but

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Speaker 2: I'm actually from southern Virginia. I went to school in

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Speaker 2: North Carolina and lived in Philly. So nice New York too.

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Speaker 2: We're here too, a West village. Oh nice.

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Speaker 3: We're in Chelsea, so not too far close.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: How long have you been here?

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Speaker 2: Oh? I think like three years food and a half

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Speaker 2: now I'm like losing track of time. Yeah, I'll together,

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Speaker 2: we failed the same.

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Speaker 1: And how what do you do for a living?

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Speaker 2: So when I graduated, I've been working in finance tech

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Speaker 2: for like six years and my latest job was with

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Speaker 2: the one in Stock Exchange as a product manager. We

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Speaker 2: did interest rate things with large investment banks. But I

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Speaker 2: was actually laid off this summer, and I had started

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Speaker 2: modeling a couple of years ago once I moved to

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Speaker 2: New York, so luckily I was able to kind of

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Speaker 2: just pivot into that realm. But I do always want

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Speaker 2: to get back into like tech or like startups. So TBD.

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Speaker 1: Nice, Nice, And what was dating life like before you

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Speaker 1: went on the show.

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Speaker 2: It was very weird for me, Like I grew up

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Speaker 2: in southern Virginia as like one of the few people

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Speaker 2: of color in my like small town, and I did

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Speaker 2: not have a boyfriend until my senior year of college.

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Speaker 2: I think because of that, like a lot of the

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Speaker 2: guys would say like they couldn't date black women, like whatnot,

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Speaker 2: and I didn't have many options. And then at college

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Speaker 2: it's like at Duke, everyone was like so nerdy, and

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Speaker 2: I think they we like we're also focused on studies.

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Speaker 2: Like once the guys got there, they just wanted to

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Speaker 2: have fun and party and no one wanted to settle down.

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Speaker 2: And when I graduated, I moved to Philly. I met

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Speaker 2: a guy, and you know, I thought, like this is

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Speaker 2: I had like really low self esteem. So I basically

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Speaker 2: wasted like two years of my life like chasing him

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Speaker 2: and like pick me, like love me. And when we

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Speaker 2: finally did start dating, I was able to see a

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Speaker 2: lot of like the red flags and like how I

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Speaker 2: was not being treated well. And I think that coincided

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Speaker 2: girlfriends and like people who were like hyping me up

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Speaker 2: and like so we're like you're like amazing, Like you

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Speaker 2: don't need this, and so like the last two years

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Speaker 2: dating in New York has been interesting, Like I think

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Speaker 2: the quality of men is so amazing, Like I've met

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Speaker 2: so many genuine, nice, great people. But now I'm back

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Speaker 2: with the people who don't want to commit. And even

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Speaker 2: worse than not wanting to commit, they don't tell you that,

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Speaker 2: and so you've invested like months to like a year

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Speaker 2: that they're not actually looking for relationships. So that's where

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Speaker 2: I was at. And so last year on my vision board,

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Speaker 2: I was like, I want a husband. That's what I

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Speaker 2: was looking for, you know, I think it's it's something

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Speaker 2: opportunity arose like it was the strangest set of coincidences.

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Speaker 2: Like I said, I got laid off and then I

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Speaker 2: was going in to compete for Miss New York USA

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Speaker 2: for my third time. I was the returning fresh runner up,

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Speaker 2: so I was like, should have won. And that week

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Speaker 2: was like when someone had reached out to me of like,

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Speaker 2: do you want to apply to be on the Bachelor?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I guess, I I'll hedge my bets,

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Speaker 1: At the time, was Grant announced as being the next Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: No, so by that point all we had seen was

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Speaker 2: that like similar what Jen said. I was like, no,

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Speaker 2: So I wasn't like I want this man to be

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Speaker 2: think we found out when the world found out via Instagram,

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Speaker 2: and yeah, I was like, he seems really sweet. He

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Speaker 2: a little bit mysterious online, so it's like you know

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Speaker 2: that's preferred when it comes to men, like I want

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Speaker 2: my man on private with like two hundred followers, So

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Speaker 2: I was excited to meet him.

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Speaker 3: Did it feel like, what were your hopes to expectations

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Speaker 3: going into it, because it almost feels like if I

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Speaker 3: Like it almost feels kind of like fate, like everything's aligning,

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Speaker 3: manifesting a husband and this guy's looking for a wife,

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Speaker 3: and like this could really all work out.

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Speaker 2: That's exactly it. And everything in my life that's been

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Speaker 2: life changing, wrestling, getting into Duke, like everything was that way.

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Speaker 2: Like it's not like I had these like I'm going

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Speaker 2: So I was like Oh, this just makes sense in

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Speaker 2: the life of Zoe, like of course I'd be on

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Speaker 1: One more fact about you. You were on the boys

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Speaker 1: rest team. How does that work for boys in high

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Speaker 2: Like being in like a small like conservative town. I

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Speaker 2: like I'm gonna prove you all wrong. So when I

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Speaker 2: wrestled you, and he's like, I saw that I was

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Speaker 2: I never left him. Why what called you to do that? Like,

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Speaker 3: I feel called to be a wrestler now and I'm

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Speaker 2: You know, I was such a black sheep growing up.

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Speaker 2: I was adopted into like a Caucasian family, as I said,

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Speaker 2: That should have been in your fun facts. You should

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Speaker 2: I was taller than most of the boys, and I

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Speaker 2: going to the gym working out, but also like learning

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Speaker 2: And also like I didn't have a great home life,

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Speaker 2: And I think it's also what helped me when I

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Speaker 3: That is yeah, wow, I love that story. Okay, let's

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Speaker 3: get into the show. So night one rolls around. You

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Speaker 3: could have dresses Albert Einstein. You could have wrestled him

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Speaker 3: to the ground. You went with the T shirt gun.

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Speaker 3: How did we land on this?

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Speaker 2: Yes, because I really was like, do I want to

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Speaker 2: So I had that down from my pad and that

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Speaker 2: I got everywhere. I gotta get my money's worth, and

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Speaker 2: I was thinking something along the lines of basketball. But

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Speaker 2: I genuinely don't know why they thought that was a

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Speaker 2: good idea.

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Speaker 3: I would be like, someone needs to get like a waver,

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Speaker 3: like should have me sign a waiver before I use this?

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Speaker 2: No, I shouldn't be allowed to use this. Also, I

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Speaker 2: didn't know there were girls outside, Like I was like,

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Speaker 2: felt so bad and scared. I was like, is someone

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Speaker 2: who get hit? So I'm glad it all worked out.

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Speaker 2: No one was injured, no mansion was injured. And the

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Speaker 2: making of my Night one entrance, and I think it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say, I think from a viewer standpoint

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Speaker 1: in ours, you're one of the front runners after episode one,

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Speaker 1: it seems like you and Grant have a really good connection.

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Speaker 2: On the show, Very very little, and in hindsight, on

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Speaker 3: Way to look at it and a great mentality to

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Speaker 3: episode two because that's where all the juice is of. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it was a four choice of words. But anyway, you

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Speaker 2: So I was excited because I did play basketball. I

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that makes sense. Something we see. We see

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Speaker 2: Exactly as you just said. It happens every season. So

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Speaker 2: I thought it would be something like oh dang, like

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Speaker 2: but it was like we were. It was day one,

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Speaker 2: Like we had been playing basketball for hours and I

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Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not about to be bulldozed into

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Speaker 2: so I can accept that going forward, but like, I'm

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Speaker 1: Who out of the women would you say it was

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Speaker 3: Which was after you had stolen him, right.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I guess that was my first inkling that something

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I didn't say honestly, it's awkward, but

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Speaker 2: if y'all want to go do something. Leave the basketball

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Speaker 2: I'm a competitive person, but I'm also like a rule follower,

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Speaker 2: Like I don't know if who wins the basketball game

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Speaker 2: I'm going to give it my all. We played basketball.

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Speaker 2: My team was really good and the other team we like,

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Speaker 3: And I could take you?

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Speaker 2: Not only is she screaming at me for for stealing

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Speaker 1: Well, that's what I was going to ask you. I

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Speaker 2: and we're playing. I would have thought my team would

436
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,600
Speaker 2: have protesed me, but then suddenly they're trying to switch

437
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 2: sides because I think, and again this is my the

438
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 2: thing with women that I've had throughout over the years

439
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 2: is just that mentality of like group think of like

440
00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 2: we all have to be on the same page otherwise

441
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:18,200
Speaker 2: we're going to ostracize and attack you. And I don't

442
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 2: play that. Like me and my friends were all successful.

443
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 2: We're all driven, like but in different areas. Do whatever

444
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 2: you want to do, date who you want to date,

445
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 2: dress how you want to dress. Like, I'm not threatened

446
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 2: by them, I'm inspired by them. And I feel like

447
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,879
Speaker 2: a lot of times there's groups of women who need

448
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 2: to like they have their leader and they just like

449
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 2: go along with whatever they're saying. And at that point,

450
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,880
Speaker 2: the group of nine other women had the leaders telling

451
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:46,160
Speaker 2: them that I deserve to be attacked, and so during

452
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 2: the evening, not a single person stood up for me,

453
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 2: and by that point, like I'm in tears because what

454
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: is going like what is literally going on right now?

455
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 2: And that was like kind of just a really crazy

456
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 2: experience to be in because I have not been in

457
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: anything like that before and I definitely have not been

458
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 2: like now, As I said, my group and the people,

459
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: whether it be pageants, modeling, tack, all of them are

460
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 2: just so supportive and just like so it's just so

461
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:16,679
Speaker 2: strange and.

462
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 1: It's tough because you're like being filmed for the first time.

463
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're like, and I'm being filmed this entire time,

464
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 2: so you're like, you don't like you're also so hyper

465
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:30,880
Speaker 2: aware because if I go off and I say one

466
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 2: thing to them, I'm like, I don't want to stoop

467
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 2: to anyone's level, Like that was my one thing. It's

468
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 2: I don't do that. And well, thankfully, actually i've grown

469
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:42,080
Speaker 2: very much the I've gotten old there to be to

470
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 2: the point where like I'm not going to stoop your level,

471
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 2: like you're not going to get me out of character,

472
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 2: I'm not going to cuss you out, I'm not going

473
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,120
Speaker 2: to do these things, and I'm not going to gang

474
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 2: up and attack someone for no reason.

475
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like you said on the show, you said,

476
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:59,400
Speaker 3: I truly believe all is fair in love and war,

477
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 3: And I feel like that kind of encompasses your approach

478
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:05,720
Speaker 3: of like you are taking a bold approach, like there's

479
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 3: no question about it, Like you are making moves that

480
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 3: are naturally going to ruffle feathers, not saying that the

481
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 3: you know the explosiveness of the situation was justified, but

482
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 3: you know you're going to kind of like pee people

483
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,119
Speaker 3: off a little bit. But you do seem to be

484
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 3: accepting of whatever consequences, you know, whatever valid consequences come

485
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,880
Speaker 3: with that, And you're like, hey, this is the game

486
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:30,800
Speaker 3: I'm playing, Like you can play it too. We all

487
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,920
Speaker 3: have the freedom to move in whatever way we feel

488
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,919
Speaker 3: works best for our relationship with.

489
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 2: Grant exactly, and as I said it, it's all spirit,

490
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 2: love and more. And then if we had all talked

491
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 2: about this, like hey, tonight, we're all going to talk

492
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 2: to him one time and we agree to that and

493
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 2: then I go steal him five times, then then I'm

494
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 2: doing something wrong. But if we've not said that, like

495
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: we didn't say it, don't take another date, Like it

496
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 2: is all fair like, and I'm I'm so not going

497
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 2: to operate in a way that's not authentic to me,

498
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 2: Like I do bold things throughout my life, Like that

499
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 2: is who I am. It's who I'm always going to be.

500
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 2: It's not to it's not bold because I need attention,

501
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 2: and it's not bold because I'm insecure. It's just bold

502
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 2: because I like to do things a little bit different

503
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:21,120
Speaker 2: that like, you know, that's just the way I work,

504
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 2: And you're allowed to do whatever you want to do.

505
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 2: But you know, we'll see.

506
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's pivot to like the positive the positives of

507
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: you stealing him, and take us to that conversation on

508
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 1: the rooftop of how that went and if it went well.

509
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't see much of what you guys actually

510
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 3: talk about. Yes, what was the interaction, Like, how do

511
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,439
Speaker 3: you feel like your gesture was received by Grant?

512
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 2: Yeah? And Grant really liked it, like he was appreciative.

513
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:53,640
Speaker 2: He's like, I see you like I see you trying

514
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,479
Speaker 2: to step out. And the other reason I really did

515
00:25:56,520 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 2: it too was because I'm a really shy per so

516
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 2: naturally and it's something that I've worked over time, and

517
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 2: I feel like in this environment and in these last

518
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 2: few seasons where we have seen people there very very

519
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 2: clearly not for the lead, Like I wanted it to

520
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 2: be known to him that I'm trying to get to

521
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 2: know you. I don't want to just show up and

522
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 2: like ghost episode like week to week, like make it through,

523
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 2: Like I genuinely want to see if we have a connection,

524
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 2: because I don't want to be taking up any extra

525
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: time if I'm not supposed to be here. And so

526
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 2: that conversation was important to me, as I said, because

527
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,439
Speaker 2: I only had like two minutes with him on Night

528
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 2: one to see, like what is our actual vibe? And

529
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 2: we actually had a like cute little conversation about just

530
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 2: like general things like food and travel and like what

531
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: our type is normally, and like what we're looking for

532
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: on the rooftop. Like he had asked me about some

533
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 2: about my previous relationships, and I got to tell him, like,

534
00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 2: you know, my last partner was like very much gas lit,

535
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 2: narcissistic and like made me feel really insecure, and I'm

536
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 2: not looking for that again. And it was like a

537
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 2: cute little moment. And so I was grateful that I

538
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 2: got to do it because my time's valuable, his time's valuable,

539
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 2: and yeah, it was just it was meant to be that.

540
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: It wasn't meant to do anything else.

541
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 1: What when we go to the night portion and then

542
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: we see you and Li Joe kind of go back

543
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: and forth when you are when you both were taking

544
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: your time with Grant. That usually is always a rough

545
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,880
Speaker 1: situation to be in because it usually never works out

546
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: for either party. How was Grant taking it?

547
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 2: You know, I think Grant it was a nice man.

548
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:48,479
Speaker 2: He I don't think he minded like minded as much

549
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 2: as like he could have like been like why is

550
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: this already happening on night one? I think he was

551
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 2: very much just like understood that it was a very

552
00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 2: aggressive day of basketball that was competitive to you know

553
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 2: now the night portion, and like there was so many

554
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,640
Speaker 2: women all competing for the time during the cocktail party,

555
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 2: Like it's how rare is it that ten women are

556
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 2: all at one cocktail party and we don't know how

557
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 2: much time any of us have with him, And so

558
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 2: I think that was really nerve wracking for all of us.

559
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 2: And I think he was just very like understanding of it.

560
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 2: I know he saw like her storm out, which is

561
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 2: the only reason I said anything, because it's not like

562
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:35,359
Speaker 2: I'm like, was it just trying to bring anything up

563
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 2: to him, to bring some up to him, Like we

564
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 2: were in the same room, and she like said something

565
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 2: nasty and then like stormed off in front of him,

566
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 2: and like he saw that, Like did she say at

567
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 2: this point? I forgot? But that's when I was like,

568
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 2: oh no, like I'm about to walk into that lionstand.

569
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 2: But the thing wasn't. Again, I had the opportunity to

570
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 2: steal him from her, or steal him from her quicker,

571
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 2: and I literally like looked at a watch and was like, no, no,

572
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: like five more minutes. I'll give her five more minutes.

573
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 2: Like I just wanted to end the night with him

574
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 2: on a good note because I knew there were so

575
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 2: many targets on my back and like again, I don't

576
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,959
Speaker 2: know how I'm being perceived by him as being too

577
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 2: aggressive or true dramatic or problematic, and I just really

578
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 2: wanted to end on like a high note. And that

579
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 2: was it. I just wanted to say good night and

580
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 2: like see you hopefully next week, but yeah, just turn

581
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 2: into this whole thing. And then I think he walked

582
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: into us screaming and crying at each other to hand

583
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 2: out the group date rose. So he was tryingly, what

584
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 2: did I get myself into?

585
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 3: Well, you know it's weak too, He's got a lot

586
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 3: of time to keep feeling like that. He's the vachelor.

587
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,840
Speaker 2: He got himself into a lot exactly.

588
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: So so you get so you end up getting a rose? Yes,

589
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: where what's your headspace after you receive the rose? Now

590
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: you have it seems like you have a lot of

591
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:03,000
Speaker 1: enemies in the how but Grant is clearly giving you validation.

592
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 1: You gotta rose and he seems to be into you.

593
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: So yeah, like like looking forward, what's going on?

594
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think at that point because there was like

595
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: it's so much on you at one time when like

596
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 2: you do get involved in any drama because as I said,

597
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 2: like you're not like me personally, and I'm sure like

598
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 2: some people they love drama, they want to like be

599
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: in these fights. I'm like, I don't want that. Like

600
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: I'm here for love, I'm here for a husband. I

601
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 2: want Grant to know me and I want to know him,

602
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 2: but I'm also not here to apologize and to not

603
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 2: be myself. And so it was just very much like

604
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 2: I just hope that this drama is over, Like I

605
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 2: don't understand I didn't understan where the girls were holding

606
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 2: a grudge. They were still saying little comments during the

607
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 2: rose ceremony to me about me, Like it was just

608
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 2: so like stranged. I was like, are we really like

609
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 2: doing this right now? Like it's we're moving on, We're

610
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 2: past this week because you know, some people didn't make it,

611
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: and yeah, so I was like, I really just wanted

612
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: to stay out of the drama coming up. I wanted

613
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 2: to see if granted actually a connection, you know. I

614
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 2: was really hopeful that he saw that I was trying

615
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 2: so hard and that hopefully next week I get one

616
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 2: on one. Like those were like all the things that

617
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 2: I was hoping for too, since it was such a

618
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 2: tough time. I was hoping that like I'll have time

619
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 2: to like for him to see me and not me

620
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 2: trying to compete with many women. But yeah, I just.

621
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 3: Moving excited. Yeah, but probably a little bit.

622
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 2: It's nervous, it is. It was, yeah, just all of it.

623
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 2: And like as I said, I hadn't been like in

624
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:53,479
Speaker 2: an environment like that since I lived with my parents

625
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 2: from like years ago. So it was like a very

626
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 2: strange situation to kind of feel like you were back

627
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 2: in that environment as a grown adult. That was just

628
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 2: really triggering for me.

629
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, what were your goals and intentions moving into week three?

630
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 3: Were you feeling like you wanted to continue with the

631
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 3: strategy that you had been moving with, or were you like,

632
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna pull back. What were your kind

633
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 3: of goals moving forward with how you wanted to navigate everything.

634
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think my approach was like at that point

635
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 2: I had made in my mind like that's all I wanted.

636
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 2: I was like, I just want him to see me,

637
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 2: to hear me, to like hopefully get some sort of

638
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 2: connection going. And I think we did, and like that

639
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 2: was it. Like I'm not I don't need a bunch

640
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 2: of time. I'm not trying to like constantly step on

641
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 2: toes like and so for week three, I'm like, whatever

642
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 2: comes my way, if it makes sense to steal him,

643
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 2: if I get the one on one, like hopefully like

644
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 2: I can utilize that and like tell him more about

645
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:58,479
Speaker 2: myself and like get to know him more. But by

646
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 2: that point I was just so emotionally drained. Even though

647
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: it was like the first week, the second week that

648
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: I was just like I don't want to do anything

649
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 2: that is going to put any more targets on the

650
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 2: back because like, I genuinely don't want that and I

651
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 2: can't really handle it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. Okay, we're going to play

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Speaker 1: a game with you so people get to know you

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Speaker 1: a little better before we do. If you were to

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Speaker 1: tease next week with one word without spoiling it, what

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Speaker 1: would it be?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Shark pink?

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Speaker 1: Oh nice?

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's a first surprising.

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Speaker 2: I like it. I like it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna do rapid fire. Get to know Zoe.

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Speaker 1: It's just rapid fire, first thing that comes to your mind.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna ask you some very very easy questions. Okay,

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Speaker 1: what is your love language when it comes to receiving love?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Quality time?

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Speaker 1: What is your go to drink at a bar?

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Speaker 2: And Martini or NEGRONI?

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Speaker 1: Who is someone that inspires you?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Okay, I know this is controversial, but Kim Kardashian, like, if.

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Speaker 1: You were on a deserted island and could only bring

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Speaker 1: two girls from your season, Oh, who would you bring?

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Speaker 2: Okay? I would have to bring Bailey because she is

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Speaker 2: like the funniest person I've ever met, and she can

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Speaker 2: recite every single show that you can think of. And

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Speaker 2: Dina I love Dina.

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Speaker 1: Favorite thing to cook.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, I do a good surfing turf. It's a good

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Speaker 2: date night dish too.

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Speaker 1: Gold or silver, jewelry, gold heels or comfy shoes for

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Speaker 1: a night out heels? Are you an early bird or

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Speaker 1: a night owl?

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Speaker 2: Night owl?

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Speaker 1: What is your favorite thing about Grant?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Good question. Well, I think he is just was

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Speaker 2: like very had a protective energy, Like whenever we were together,

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Speaker 2: just kind of felt very protective.

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Speaker 3: So I like that. And last, but not least, if

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Speaker 3: you could describe Grant season in one word, what would

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Speaker 3: it be?

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Speaker 2: Unpredictable?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I like it.

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Speaker 3: I feel like the promos are teasing a lot to come,

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Speaker 3: so we're excited to see how your journey with Grant unfolds.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for coming on, Zoe, Yes, thank.

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Speaker 1: You guys, and thank you to all our listeners. And

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Speaker 1: make sure you stay tuned to Bachelor Happy Hour because

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Speaker 1: we will be having exclusive interviews with castmates all season long.

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Speaker 3: And more recaps to come. Don't forget to tune into

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Speaker 3: episode three of Grant season of The Bachelor next week

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Speaker 3: and be sure to subscribe to Bachelor Happy Hour. Thanks

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Speaker 3: for listening.

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Speaker 2: By