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Speaker 3: My cousin wanted me to work during my maternity leave,

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Speaker 3: but I refused.

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Speaker 4: It's called maternity leave for a reason.

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Speaker 3: I work for my cousin. We're in the same field,

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Speaker 3: but he owns a business. I started working for him

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Speaker 3: five years ago and worked my way up to second

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Speaker 4: Command at his fairly small company.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from deleted and if you

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Speaker 3: slash Okay Storytime Summer And I'm Savannah.

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Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we a hand to give

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Speaker 4: some good advice.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're gonna do it in a really funny way

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Speaker 3: that's gonna make you a chuckle to you be at vance.

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Speaker 3: But we want to know what you would do in

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Speaker 3: these situations in those comments, because maybe I'll agree with you,

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Speaker 3: maybe I won't, Maybe we'll kiss, maybe we'll hug. As

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Speaker 3: Opie says, I took nine months of maternity leave, starting

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Speaker 3: two weeks before my due date. My child is now

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Speaker 3: six months old, meaning I am currently in my seventh

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Speaker 3: month of leave and to go back to work in

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Speaker 3: about ten weeks. During the last seven months.

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Speaker 4: There's been a few crises at work.

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Speaker 3: They called me in I fixed it. They should not

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Speaker 3: have been doing this due to my maternity leave, but

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Speaker 3: I didn't mention it because these were legitimate crises, and

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Speaker 3: most of the time it was my cousin asking. However,

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Speaker 3: because I'm entering the end of my leave, I want

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Speaker 3: some time completely free of work to recharge before I

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Speaker 3: have to dive back in. So starting two weeks ago,

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Speaker 3: I stopped answering my phone. At some point it ran

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Speaker 3: and haven't plugged it in since I have a landline

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Speaker 3: for emergencies, a laptop to keep in touch with people,

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Speaker 3: and a TV for entertainment, so I'm enjoying the break

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Speaker 3: from the phone without issue. However, my cousin tried to

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Speaker 3: call me about a week ago to get help with

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Speaker 3: the client I handle. I had passed this client on

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Speaker 3: to someone else, but something went wrong. My cousin called

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Speaker 3: me to help, and because I did an answer, we

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Speaker 3: lost the client. I knew their contract was up for renewal,

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Speaker 3: but I didn't think there would be any issues, so

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Speaker 3: I saw no reason to check my phone. My cousin

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Speaker 3: has told our family what happened. He's furious with me

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Speaker 3: for not having my phone turn on when I knew

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Speaker 3: that client would be up for renewal. He also says

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Speaker 3: that that as I had been answering my phone this

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Speaker 3: whole time, I should have warned someone that I could

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Speaker 3: be uncontactable. I've called the client and tried to fix it,

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Speaker 3: but they've already signed on with someone else. My cousin,

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Speaker 3: wanting to stop this from happening again as several more

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Speaker 3: has said I have to be available for the next

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Speaker 3: another issue. I've said that I am on maternity leave

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Speaker 3: and therefore I should be left alone, so I will

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Speaker 3: be leaving my phone off and it's crappy of him.

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Speaker 4: To ask otherwise.

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Speaker 3: My cousin said that I was being selfish and accused

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Speaker 3: and aunt agree with him. Andy And if I don't

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Speaker 3: answer my phone, there may not be a company to

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Speaker 3: come back to and accuse me of taking advantage of

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Speaker 3: him because he's my cousin, as anyone else would have

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Speaker 3: fired me over this. I've responded that if my cousin

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Speaker 3: and shouldn't be in large of an omelet, let alone

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Speaker 3: call me if he needs But I'm still refusing.

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Speaker 4: Am I the a whole?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: I don't think you're the like a whole like work wise,

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Speaker 4: I don't think you owe them anything attorney legal.

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Speaker 3: And they gave you this time like they he knows

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Speaker 3: what time like this has been agreed upon, so he knows.

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Speaker 3: He's just he I think in his mind he's like, oh,

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Speaker 3: I know that she's like up for it, or like

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Speaker 3: she's my cousin, so she'll like do it like kind

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Speaker 4: I like, yeah, exactly, I feel like it. It was

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Speaker 4: a little bit more informal, yes, of an atmosphere, So

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Speaker 4: I think legally you're in the clear. They you do

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Speaker 4: the only thing that was like a little to me

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Speaker 4: in the future, Well, you're doing it now and they're

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Speaker 3: So why do people think I went away with no

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Speaker 3: plans in place. I had six months between figuring out

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Speaker 3: i'd need the leave and going on leave. I spent

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Speaker 3: those six months assigning my clients to my coworkers, bringing

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Speaker 3: I worked all of this out months ago.

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Speaker 4: There is an update.

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Speaker 3: Most of you agreed that I should not be working

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Speaker 3: for my cousin. I mentioned on the last post that

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Speaker 3: I'd had some offers from competitors, and while most paid

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Speaker 3: about the same, they required a step down in my career.

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Speaker 3: A few of you pointed out that if I can

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Speaker 3: matching up. I did some research and came to the

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean, like, are calling you on your maternity leave, so yeah, hmm.

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Speaker 3: I also triple checked all my notes for the last

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Speaker 3: over eighty seven days out of just over two hundred. Okay,

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Speaker 3: so you've worked basically half of your leave.

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Speaker 4: Angela Jasso also says, I bet she's not getting paid

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Speaker 4: for this time worked, which is a great point because

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Speaker 4: get that much paid maternity leave. That's a great point.

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Speaker 4: She's probably not getting paid for all the calls and

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Speaker 1: I do believe I saw a comment that confirmed she

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Speaker 1: was not getting paid. Oh then yeah, I'm fully on

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Speaker 1: trying to find it again.

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Speaker 4: Fully on your side, I would not be answering any

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Speaker 1: Someone responded to that basically being like, if you were

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Speaker 1: doing all of that, you had to pay for keeping

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Speaker 3: Have been that.

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Speaker 4: Yeh, that's the case. Wow, So basically your cousin is

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Speaker 4: taking advantage of you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would quit that go somewhere else. How dare

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Speaker 3: the wrong. Don't you love that family too? That was

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Speaker 4: Three of them did.

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Speaker 3: My favorite has fewer hour slash responsibilities and more money

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Speaker 3: plan maternity leave nine more weeks.

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Speaker 4: Nice or I start. That's great.

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Speaker 1: Here's another one too, responding to a comment that basically

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Speaker 1: in my country, once someone goes on maternity leave and

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Speaker 1: they are uncontactable, and it's not an option to call

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Speaker 1: them and ask them favors or even advice. He said, technically,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. I'm fully underside up. I

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Speaker 4: don't think you did anything wrong. Yeah, with all that

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Speaker 4: extra information, I think it very clearly does that you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, especially after having had a child and now having

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Speaker 3: to deal with life with the child, And now he's like,

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Speaker 3: why aren't you working new.

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Speaker 4: Excuse me and you new?

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Speaker 3: Where's my push present? That's right, I brought it back.

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Speaker 3: I'm going out of baby moon. Leave me alone going

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Speaker 3: on a baby moon. Shut up, cousin. I had a

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Speaker 4: I laid out all of the above.

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Speaker 3: I was open to negotiating in a way that would

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Speaker 3: Blocked me on everything, but his mom has called my mom,

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Speaker 4: I am never working with family again. Personally, I like

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Speaker 4: working with family, but in this case, your cousin sucks.

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Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 1: I followed my company's instructions exactly and it cost them

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Speaker 1: cost them what I work for a major grocery chain.

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Speaker 1: For the most part, they're locked in on following labor

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Speaker 1: laws properly, but every once in a while they don't

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Speaker 1: know what they're talking about. Before this job, I had

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Speaker 1: been a general manager of a high volume grouphub and

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Seth and Bean's and

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly, I'm Savannah, and.

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Speaker 1: We're here to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't

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Speaker 1: have all the answers. We only know what we would do.

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Speaker 1: Let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 1: and no p says. A while back, we had a

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Speaker 1: mandatory training for leadership about proper call out procedures for

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Speaker 1: our teams. In the training, our regional HR asked all

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Speaker 1: the department managers, what do you do if they text you?

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Speaker 1: I said, ignore the text. HR said no, you need

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Speaker 1: to tell them to call out on our call out line.

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Speaker 1: Let them know they need to leave their name, employee ID,

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Speaker 1: said yes. I said, okay, but would you email us

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Speaker 1: this information after the class and they did. About three

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Speaker 1: months later, I had a new employee somehow get my phone,

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Speaker 1: which bothered me, but that's another story, and text me

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Speaker 1: text back, call the call outline, leave your name, employee ID,

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Speaker 1: I put in an I put in a timekeeper request

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Speaker 4: Now you're like, oh no, we have to pay you

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Speaker 4: Of that story. Wow.

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Speaker 4: The big corporate grocery store. I'm sure they suck.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and that's the end of the story. We're going

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Speaker 3: I do admin my role, and the office I work

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from why Challenge forty eight

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Speaker 3: seventy four and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 4: I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 6: And we are here give you some good advice but

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Speaker 4: That's your challenge. Mmm, can you do it?

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Speaker 2: I hate this. As someone who can correlate to this,

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Speaker 2: Carly sees resident allergy as resident allergy boy. Carly has

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Speaker 1: I've seen him sneeze so much he can't do something

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Speaker 2: It's yeah to say me with like, oh, someone in

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Speaker 3: It's like this has been affecting my life right now,

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Speaker 3: When she went to lunch, I tipped my waistbind full

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think your work is the A hole.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Like let's just go to HR against our

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think Kim Roberts said it best here. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: The why don't we do the move thing that might

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Speaker 4: Could be happy?

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Speaker 2: Stella, Yeah that was me the other I think over

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Speaker 4: Well, there is an update. I've met with my union

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Speaker 3: a wiener got hauled into a meeting about that, which

442
00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:44,320
Speaker 3: involved one of my bosses actually shouting. I spent two

443
00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:50,040
Speaker 3: days irritating my general practitioner surgery for notes allergies and

444
00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,960
Speaker 3: asthma history, as well as the specific doctor's note for

445
00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:55,960
Speaker 3: this incident. Then there was the meeting with HR. There

446
00:18:56,040 --> 00:19:01,399
Speaker 3: was me, union REP, two HR people, supervisor's supervisor's boss, supervisor's.

447
00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:05,000
Speaker 4: Boss is boss. Okay, so everyone's there. We have to

448
00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:08,280
Speaker 4: come to a solution. Now these people have to come on.

449
00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:12,280
Speaker 1: Obviously, Op's not here, like I just hate dogs, like

450
00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:14,840
Speaker 1: you can see the physical effects.

451
00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:16,639
Speaker 4: That you have it. But she's just like facewall, like

452
00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:17,480
Speaker 4: I just want to.

453
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:20,760
Speaker 3: Be I just want to be able to like my God,

454
00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:24,399
Speaker 3: they didn't take me to task at all. Instead, they

455
00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:27,040
Speaker 3: wanted to accommodate my health and me to stop taking

456
00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:29,440
Speaker 3: meds that affected my ability to drive could be able

457
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:29,919
Speaker 3: to work.

458
00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:31,040
Speaker 4: So we worked out that I.

459
00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,520
Speaker 3: Will work in the office Monday to Wednesday and from

460
00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:36,560
Speaker 3: home Thursday and Friday. My colleague will work from home

461
00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:40,040
Speaker 3: Monday Tuesday and half day Wednesday. She and I both

462
00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:42,240
Speaker 3: need to be in half day on Wednesday, which will

463
00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:44,800
Speaker 3: be without her dog, but she can bring him in

464
00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,960
Speaker 3: Thursday to Friday, and because the office gets deep clean Saturday,

465
00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:50,320
Speaker 3: this shouldn't be a problem for me by Monday. Next

466
00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:52,520
Speaker 3: week is the first week will actually try this.

467
00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:55,960
Speaker 4: Bazah. This should have been the first solution that.

468
00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:59,679
Speaker 1: Was like even way crazier of a fix than just

469
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Speaker 1: like what your initial request was, which was just trying

470
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,880
Speaker 1: to live or trying to work on the other side

471
00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:06,439
Speaker 1: of the office.

472
00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:06,760
Speaker 4: Yeah.

473
00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:08,879
Speaker 1: Literally, now you've either been doing all of this and

474
00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:11,879
Speaker 1: the office has to get deep clean, and it's like, yeah, yeah,

475
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:13,280
Speaker 1: it's okay.

476
00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,520
Speaker 3: I get to work from home two days a week,

477
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:17,680
Speaker 3: I still have my job, and my coworker can bring

478
00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:20,000
Speaker 3: her dog in when I'm at home. My union rep

479
00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,440
Speaker 3: is a lovely woman who knows her stuff. In HR

480
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:25,960
Speaker 3: seems to have spent their time bullocking my supervisor.

481
00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:26,920
Speaker 4: Oh and the.

482
00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 3: Office gossip is that the coworker with the dog didn't

483
00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,640
Speaker 3: actually get any sort of official accommodation to bring him in.

484
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 3: But she's friends with the supervisor, which is why he

485
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,640
Speaker 3: was just there and no one checked about coworker allergies, etc.

486
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 4: This went smoothly.

487
00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:42,960
Speaker 3: Union rep knew all the right paperwork and what to

488
00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:43,840
Speaker 3: say to everyone.

489
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,479
Speaker 4: Join a union people.

490
00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:48,439
Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

491
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:49,399
Speaker 5: on to the next one.

492
00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:53,399
Speaker 4: A customer refused to follow delivery policy, so I walked

493
00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:58,159
Speaker 4: away with their order. It's mine now. I used to

494
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 4: work for a Dominos in New York. We had to

495
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 4: work on New Year's Eve. Dang, and honestly I would

496
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:07,200
Speaker 4: have much rather been home ordering pizza instead of delivering them.

497
00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:10,239
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from and what and if

498
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:11,639
Speaker 4: you want to submit your own story, it's kind of

499
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:13,439
Speaker 4: the our slash okay story time separate it.

500
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,439
Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm ke On, and they're here

501
00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 3: to give go to vice goofy.

502
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We len know

503
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:20,800
Speaker 4: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

504
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 4: do in the comments and op says. The night was

505
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:26,120
Speaker 4: relatively slow compared to normal, at least until around ten

506
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,240
Speaker 4: to eleven PM. I was what you'd call a third

507
00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,680
Speaker 4: shift driver, as we typically closed between two and three am.

508
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 4: The only people ordering that late were college students, people

509
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 4: had been drinking, people who were high, and sometimes all

510
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 4: three at once. At around nine PM, I received an

511
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 4: order to go to a lady's house that had a

512
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 4: dual payment. Most of it was on card and about

513
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 4: ten cents was in cash. When people were short on cash,

514
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 4: I would typically cover them. If it wasn't too much,

515
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 4: it would come out of my tip money, but I

516
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,240
Speaker 4: didn't mind as I didn't have major bills at the time.

517
00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,080
Speaker 4: We never got many tips either, as at the end

518
00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 4: of a typical ten hour shift I'd come out with

519
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:05,199
Speaker 4: about fifteen dollars For someone to leave ten cents in

520
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 4: cash on a dual payment, I had a suspicious feeling

521
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 4: they'd become a problem, but I was hopeful that they

522
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 4: simply didn't have it in their bank. I've been there,

523
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 4: I get that. On my way out of the restaurant,

524
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,199
Speaker 4: I asked my boss, more or less jokingly, if I

525
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 4: really had to collect the ten cents from the customer.

526
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 4: With a serious tone, he told me that I would

527
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 4: have to bring back the ten cents or I'd have

528
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 4: to pay for it myself. As long as the person

529
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 4: was kind and didn't give me a hard time, I

530
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 4: wouldn't mind covering for them. So I headed out toward

531
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,119
Speaker 4: their house without thinking too much of it. I arrived

532
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 4: at the customer's house to be greeted by an absolutely

533
00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 4: adorable kid, no older than five or six years old.

534
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,199
Speaker 4: I told him I need to speak to his parents

535
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 4: and asked him to bring their credit card. We had

536
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 4: to check the last four numbers of the credit card

537
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 4: against the receipt and imprint them on it, since sometimes

538
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 4: people tried charging our store back through the bank and

539
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,160
Speaker 4: having that imprint on the receipt we had delivered the order.

540
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 4: Not getting the imprint could lead to termination if there

541
00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 4: were enough offenses, so I never liked risking it. The

542
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 4: kids said okay and ran upstairs. A minute later, a

543
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 4: rather large woman started making her way down the stairs

544
00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 4: and stopped halfway. She was followed by at least eight

545
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 4: kids of varying ages, and to say the stairs were

546
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:24,879
Speaker 4: packed would be an understatement. She took a stance on

547
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 4: the stairs and glared at me. The crazy lady said,

548
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 4: what do you want? I don't have a credit card.

549
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 4: My brother ordered it from one town over. My brother

550
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 4: ordered it from one town of white. It's already paid

551
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 4: for it, so you'll give it to me. What more

552
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 4: do you want? I said, I'm sorry, madam. However, we

553
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:44,679
Speaker 4: require that we verify the credit card and imprint it

554
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 4: onto the receipt, as it's our store policy. Do you

555
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 4: know how far your brother is from here? I have

556
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 4: won more delivery and I might be able to get

557
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 4: my manager's permission to come back after that to verify

558
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,199
Speaker 4: the card. We don't get paid extra for gas if

559
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 4: we have to make extra trips for a customer, regardless

560
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 4: of the reason, just a dollar a trip. And this

561
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 4: customer was not close to the store, so that was

562
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,199
Speaker 4: already a generous offer on my part. The crazy lady said, no,

563
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 4: it's too far away. Listen, already gave me my money.

564
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 4: Give me the pizza now. You already took way too

565
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 4: long to get here. As it is, I said, as

566
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 4: I said, ma'am, I'm unable to do that. It's our

567
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 4: company's policy to verify cards, and I could get in

568
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 4: serious trouble if I don't follow it. That is kind

569
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 4: of a weird policy. Yeah, well, I guess I don't know.

570
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 4: Maybe he's in a poop poo town.

571
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 2: Well, especially in like New York, that makes a lot

572
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 2: of sense because it's all like a lot of apartment buildings.

573
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,480
Speaker 2: So like you like bring a pizza, but like you

574
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:42,399
Speaker 2: have to verify I who ordered it, because you know

575
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 2: somebody'd be like, oh, yeah, that's mine.

576
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 3: Well yeah, but they're saying for like, uh, like they

577
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 3: need to imprint. Yeah, they on the receipt.

578
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 4: It seems like they put the car number on. I'm

579
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 4: confused when I think imprint. I think they're just like

580
00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,360
Speaker 4: the pressing it. That's what I'm like, pressing it af old.

581
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

582
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 4: At this point, she started getting rather irate. If card

583
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 4: verification ever became an issue and the customer was being

584
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 4: kind about it, I would sometimes write flat on the receipt,

585
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,160
Speaker 4: indicating the numbers on the card were too flat to imprint.

586
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 4: This was against policy, but I'm a nice person and

587
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 4: would do it from time to time. Since my boss

588
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 4: never actually verified whether a card was truly flat or not.

589
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 4: You only checked to make sure an imprint or the

590
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,160
Speaker 4: word flat appeared on the receipts when we banked out

591
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 4: at the end of the night, so I never got

592
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 4: in trouble for it. Almost all of our customers knew

593
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 4: the policy anyway and would have their cards ready at

594
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 4: the door, so I rarely had to use that workaround.

595
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 4: In a way, I guess you could call it malicious compliance,

596
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 4: but I was not about to risk anything for someone

597
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 4: being entitled about it.

598
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

599
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 2: Also, I hate when people just like are so.

600
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 4: Rude to yes service workers. It's like, I'm just dropping

601
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:51,959
Speaker 4: off for pizza.

602
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 3: Man, I'm literally doing my job, like this is what

603
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 3: the policy is, and I'm literally just doing what they.

604
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 4: Tell me to and I'm getting paid craps, so please

605
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 4: don't give me a hard time.

606
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:02,919
Speaker 2: The funniest one is when people are mean to like

607
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 2: chefs or like cooks because like, oh.

608
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, they could do stuff with your food. Yeah, the

609
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 4: crazy lady said, give me my flip and page. How

610
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 4: hard is this for you? I said, I'd be happy

611
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:16,920
Speaker 4: to call my manager to see if you'd be willing

612
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 4: to make an exception for you, if that would be acceptable.

613
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 4: The crazy lady said, fine, call your flip and manager.

614
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,399
Speaker 4: If a customer had more than five orders in our system,

615
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 4: we would occasionally grant an exception as long as they

616
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 4: never caused problems in the past. It wasn't a written rule,

617
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 4: but we try to keep customers happy, and as long

618
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 4: as the manager approved it, I wouldn't get in trouble.

619
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 4: I took up my phone and called the store. We

620
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 4: didn't have a direct line to our managers, so I

621
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,959
Speaker 4: called the mainline like everyone else, and my coworker answered

622
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 4: and grabbed my boss for me. I said, hey, boss,

623
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 4: I'm at the address on my run and she doesn't

624
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 4: have the credit card to use on the order. Can

625
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 4: we make an exception? My boss checked her previous orders

626
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,000
Speaker 4: and she only had a couple on file. My boss said, no,

627
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 4: make sure to get the imprint. If you can get

628
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 4: the imprint, take the order back to the store. Let

629
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 4: me know what happens. He hung up, and I turned

630
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 4: back to her. I said, sorry, but my manager cannot

631
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 4: make an exception. If you have a different card, you

632
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 4: can put the bill on or have the remainder in cash.

633
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 4: I'll be happy to finish the delivery. The crazy lady said,

634
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 4: are you bet stupid? I don't have another card to

635
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 4: put it on. Call your manager again. Do it now?

636
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,199
Speaker 4: I said, I just talked to him and his answer

637
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 4: won't change. If you'd like to speak to him yourself,

638
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 4: i'd be happy to give you the store's number. The

639
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 4: crazy lady said, no, I want you to call him again.

640
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,679
Speaker 4: I said, I just spoke to him and his answer

641
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 4: won't change. Do you want the number or not? The

642
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 4: crazy lady said, fine, GOI me out number. I gave

643
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 4: her the number and waited while my boss told her

644
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,439
Speaker 4: the exact same thing I had. She absolutely lost it

645
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 4: on him, then hung up and turned back to me.

646
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 4: The crazy lady said, ah, you gotta refund me my money.

647
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 4: I said, absolutely, ma'am. We'll process a refund tonight. You

648
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 4: should see it reflecting your account in two to three

649
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 4: business days. The crazy lady said, I don't want my

650
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 4: money in two to three business stays. I want my

651
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 4: money now. She then proceeded to jump up and down

652
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 4: on the stairs like a child throwing a fit, while

653
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 4: the kids ran back upstairs and watched from the doorway.

654
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 4: The crazy lady kept screaming, Oh, I bought my money. No,

655
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 4: I want my money. No, give me my flipping money. No,

656
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 4: I said, ma'am, please calm down. I cannot do that,

657
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 4: as the two to three business days is for bank

658
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 4: processing time and we have no control over that timeframe.

659
00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 4: She kept screaming that you wanted our money. No, then

660
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 4: came charging down the stairs towards me. I stepped off

661
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 4: her porch quickly as she slammed the door behind me.

662
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 4: I was a bit shaken up, but tried to brush

663
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 4: it off and started walking toward my car. Now that's

664
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 4: when a guy came out of the bar across the street.

665
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 4: There's so many wild characters in the story.

666
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 2: This is just another day in New York City. Yeah,

667
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 2: what are you talking about?

668
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 4: Hey, I want a pitchey my pizza, and he gave

669
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 4: me my money, nothing like a New York kind of

670
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 4: vaguely Italian, give me my money.

671
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 2: Looking like a New York slice.

672
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 4: Hey was wasted. Guy said, Hey, why are you taking

673
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 4: all that food back to your cars? She not wanted

674
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 4: I said, no, she definitely wanted it. She didn't have

675
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 4: a credit card he use to pay for the orders,

676
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 4: so per company policy, I have to take it back.

677
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 4: The wasted guys said, she was mighty hungry, and I've

678
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 4: got a couple of kidstibsters who probably appreciate some food

679
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 4: right now? How much for it? I looked at the

680
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 4: tag with the price and looked back at him. I

681
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 4: said it would be twenty six and change. The wasted

682
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 4: guys said, I take it. I am a cash right here.

683
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 4: I said, mind if I checked with my boss to

684
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 4: verify that's okay. The wasted guy said, I don't mind.

685
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 2: See look at this guy. This guy's not rude, very

686
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: very nice.

687
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 3: Guess what he's about to get a pizza that he

688
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 3: didn't even order, somewhat concerning that.

689
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 4: He's wasted, and he says he's got kids that he's

690
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 4: taking care of.

691
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 2: Okay, it's New Year's Eve, he's.

692
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 4: Probably like, you know what's yeah, you know what fair is?

693
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 4: It is New Year's Eve. He gets a pass. That's

694
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 4: the day that that is passable. I called my boss

695
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 4: and he said that as long as I got the

696
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 4: money for the food, he didn't mind me selling it

697
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 4: to him. The wasted guy handed me the cash and

698
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 4: I unpacked everything for him on a bench outside. I said,

699
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 4: you don't even know what this, You don't even know

700
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 4: what this lady ordered, and you want to just hand

701
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 4: me twenty six dollars for it?

702
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 2: Right, now it was a surprise. It was a surprise pizza.

703
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 4: Wasted guy shaid, I like surprises. I'm sure it's good.

704
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 2: See it was a surprise pizza. I don't care what

705
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 2: the box.

706
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 4: Honestly, i'd be the same pizza. No one's touched it.

707
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 2: Is there a secret one? Like yeah, it's it's one

708
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: of those like uh, they had.

709
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 4: Like a seal on it. I was just thinking about

710
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 4: or in pizza and it's.

711
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 3: Here and and then I saw you coming out and

712
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 3: I wait, there's a mine right here.

713
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 4: And they said, there's no freaking way that this manager

714
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 4: showed up at my doorstep.

715
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 2: He did the original Uh wish MC call it? What

716
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 2: are those things like la boo boo's le boo boo,

717
00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: like a surprise box or.

718
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,959
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I said, surprise pizza excuse for me? I

719
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 4: you know what, Good on you for standing your ground,

720
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 4: I suppose. And I'm glad that someone got that pizza

721
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 4: and didn't go to waste.

722
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: And you got your full money.

723
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 3: And you got yeah, and you got money, and I

724
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 3: don't know, maybe I'll give you a tip or something.

725
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we got a little left. I handed him

726
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 4: the food and headed back to finish. My last delivery.

727
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 4: I got back to the store about thirty minutes later.

728
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 4: Little did I know, the woman had seen me give

729
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 4: her food to him, and I had been calling her

730
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 4: store the entire time since I left her house. Me

731
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 4: and my coworkers were in tears laughing as she kept

732
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 4: changing her phone number, probably using an app, and calling

733
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 4: to complain over and over again. At one point, she

734
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 4: even tried ordering food again using a different number to

735
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 4: the same address. She wasn't very bright. The moral of

736
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 4: the story is, don't be rude to your delivery drivers

737
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 4: and use a little common sense. And that's the end

738
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 4: of that story, folks. I paid for my friend's trip

739
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 4: to my wedding and she had other plans. Well, I'm

740
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 4: not coming to your wedding no more.

741
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 3: I twenty five female, recently got married to my twenty

742
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 3: five male husband in Bali, Indnysha in January. It was

743
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: a destined wedding, but my parents and his parents paid

744
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 3: for their own plane tickets and hotel. But we paid

745
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 3: for our friend's plane tickets and hotel stays.

746
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 4: Very nice of you, I'd go.

747
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 3: Each plane ticket was about two thousand dollars UH and

748
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 3: a hotel was maybe about one hundred and fifty to

749
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 3: three hundred dollars or a week. By the way, this

750
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 3: comes from Sweet and Sour Juice and if you want

751
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 3: to submit your own stories, go to.

752
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 4: The r slash Okay story time subreddit. I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia,

753
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 4: I'm Carly, and we are here to give some good advice. Goofly,

754
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 4: but we do not.

755
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 3: Have all of the answers. We only have the answers

756
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,479
Speaker 3: that we got up in here. But let us know

757
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 3: what you got up in yours done in the comments

758
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 3: as op sis, My friend Jemma brought along her newlywed

759
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 3: husband John, but paid for his plane ticket. The problem

760
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: is that Gemma and John did not show up to

761
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 3: my wedding. Jemma took the free plane ticket to Bali

762
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: in the hotel room, and when I asked her why

763
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 3: she didn't show up, she said that since they couldn't

764
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 3: afford their own honeymoon, that this was a perfect opportunity,

765
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 3: and that Jim decided that he didn't feel like going,

766
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: so you just took this plane ticket as a way

767
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 3: to be like, ooh, honey trip, free trip and we're

768
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 3: not gonna go do your wedding.

769
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 4: But thank you for buying our way there. Really appreciate it.

770
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 4: I just we've thought about it, and there's a lot

771
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 4: of other things we could be doing, so we're gonna

772
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 4: do them. It's like, what am That's crazy?

773
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 3: I was really hurt by this, since Jim and I

774
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 3: have been friends for over ten years. Would I be

775
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 3: the A hole if I took her to small claims

776
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 3: court for the money I spent on the plane ticket

777
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 3: in hotel?

778
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 4: I would just ask her for we're back. Yeah, I'd

779
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 4: be like, hey, me back because I didn't pay for

780
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 4: you guys to go on a trip. I paid for

781
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 4: you to come to my wedding. Yeah, like you don't.

782
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: I don't understand why she would think that that would

783
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 3: be an okay thing to do.

784
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 4: Just be like, oh, yeah, she's paying for her honeymoon.

785
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 4: No her Nopeah, what's happening? Huh No. I don't think

786
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 4: you'd be the a hole at all. And here's an update.

787
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 3: I messaged jem up for multiple comments advising me to

788
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 3: invoice her for the plane ticket and hotel room. But

789
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 3: I did something a little better. I wanted to get

790
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 3: proof so if I had to go to court, it

791
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 3: would be easier to win, I bess to sure this. Hey,

792
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:24,840
Speaker 3: sorry for being so distant, but I just wanted to

793
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,439
Speaker 3: talk to you about Balie. I'm hurt that you didn't

794
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 3: show up to the ceremony. I put a lot of

795
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 3: strings to ensure that you could come, and then you

796
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,799
Speaker 3: didn't show up. Did you think I paid for the

797
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 3: trip just so you could honeymoon with John? She replied,

798
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 3: I've missed you a lot, and I know the trip

799
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 3: was for your wedding, but John didn't want to go

800
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 3: because he felt like your wedding ruined the illusion of

801
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 3: the trip being our honeymoon, and that you'd understand that's wild.

802
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 4: He's like, I don't know, it's just not like our

803
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 4: honeymoon if we go to another wedding, and I just

804
00:34:56,520 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 4: can't separate that illusion, So let's just not go. She'll

805
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 4: be fine, and she's been drawn on the beach. Then

806
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 4: she's spent like over two thousand dollars, but for each

807
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 4: of us. But the fine what I ruled this girl, Yeah,

808
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 4: this girl and her husband, her and her husbands don't

809
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 4: even blame that, Like she can't even blame that on Like, oh,

810
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 4: my husband said he didn't want to go. One of

811
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 4: her close friends, probably best friends. If she was willing

812
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 4: to pay for you to come and then you be like.

813
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 3: This, that's crazy, like absolutely insane, I replied, No, I

814
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 3: don't understand. You took advantage of me, and that's not

815
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 3: what real friends do. So I'm invoicing you two thousand

816
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 3: and three hundred and eighty seven dollars and fifty three

817
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 3: cents for the cost of the plane ticket and hotel room.

818
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 4: I will give you.

819
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 3: Thirty days, and after that I will be taking legal action.

820
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:51,280
Speaker 3: I received no response, but she's been posting subliminal quotes

821
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 3: on Instagram that are along the liides of entitled friends

822
00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 3: and having snakes in your life, like.

823
00:35:55,719 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 4: Watch out, a snake might be behind you. You never

824
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 4: know if your friends are real or not.

825
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 3: Thank you all for your verdicts and help. And there's

826
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 3: a second update. Let's see if she paid it. I

827
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 3: didn't think this could get worse, but here we are.

828
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 4: Oh.

829
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 3: I didn't respond to any of the subliminal messages she

830
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: posted about me on social media, and I've been very

831
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 3: quiet while I've been getting my ducks in a row

832
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 3: for the litigation. But this past Friday, she sent me

833
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 3: a three page audit of financial and emotional contributions from

834
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 3: twenty fifteen to the present.

835
00:36:35,360 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 4: What the heck is an emotional one? What I wish

836
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:43,280
Speaker 4: I was effing joking. Wait the audits, we get the audits.

837
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,800
Speaker 4: No way, stop it right now.

838
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:50,280
Speaker 3: She itemized every dinner or lunch we've ever ate together.

839
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 3: She estimated eighteen dollars per meal. Dang gas money for

840
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 3: driving to and from hangouts, a birthday gift from twenty

841
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 3: seventeen that she now claims went into debt for time

842
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 3: spent emotionally supporting me after my dad passed. No, oh no,

843
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 3: get your audit done right back up, God, we are

844
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 3: going to part your honor.

845
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 4: She's she's the worst. Why did she think this was

846
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 4: a good idea? I don't know. She's like, oh, I know,

847
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 4: I know. Wicked. She's still in BALI leave her there.

848
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 4: I mean, this is ruining my honeymoon, Like, this is

849
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 4: ruining the illusion. I just can't even keep track of

850
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 4: what's going on.

851
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,879
Speaker 3: I don't care if you're getting married. I'm honeymooning with

852
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 3: your money.

853
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:39,280
Speaker 4: She said.

854
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 3: She took on the rule of grief counselor for me,

855
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:44,800
Speaker 3: even though I talked to her on the phone about

856
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 3: it once for thirty minutes one time she helped me

857
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 3: move apartments. She wants to be paid for her labor

858
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 3: and emotional distress caused by me threatening litigation.

859
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 4: Her grand total two four and twelve dollars.

860
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 3: And nine cents, which is conveniently within twenty five dollars

861
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 3: of what I invoiced her.

862
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:11,240
Speaker 4: Wow, Wow, isn't that funny. This school's crazy.

863
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: And then I find more in things for you to

864
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: invise her for and then you send her back another invoice.

865
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:20,439
Speaker 4: Emotional damage is caused to me by reading that I'm

866
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 4: reading this three page audit and that actually also just

867
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 4: costs two thousand dollars. I mean, it's it's crazy to

868
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 4: think this.

869
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 3: She then told me that if we're really keeping scored,

870
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 3: that I actually owe her twenty four dollars in fifty six.

871
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 4: Oh, she's got the CeNSE, she's got this sense. So

872
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 4: that's interesting that so OP owes her about twenty five dollars. Yeah,

873
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 4: well then she'll just put that onto the three thousand

874
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,399
Speaker 4: that you owe. Then yes, I think that's fair.

875
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 3: I think I stared at this document for ten minutes

876
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 3: in silence and shock from the audacity, because.

877
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 4: This witch is Dalulu, and.

878
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:06,359
Speaker 3: I think that this girl's stupid and Opie's just gonna.

879
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 4: Win take all of her money, maybe even some more.

880
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 4: Who knows. I think so, I do think so. I

881
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 4: think op this is a this is a sign that

882
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 4: you should cut off this friend. Yes, that wasn't incredibly obvious.

883
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 3: To clarify, I never asked her to cook for me

884
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 3: while I was in college, but she did pay for lunches.

885
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 3: But when I definitely returned the favor big time once

886
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,879
Speaker 3: I graduated. I bought her many gifts Over the years.

887
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 3: I've let her stay at my house several times when

888
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 3: she and John argued, and I have also lended a

889
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,720
Speaker 3: shoulder for her to cry on when she had difficult

890
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 3: times in life. But apparently being a friend is now billable. Yeah,

891
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 3: on her by her terms, Yes, everything is billable, and

892
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 3: everything is billable. I decided to give the message a

893
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 3: thumbs down because if I respond to that, I love that,

894
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 3: just down, pray something three pages and just yeah uh,

895
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 3: Because if I respond, I will be extremely disrespectful.

896
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,760
Speaker 4: With the anger I am facing, I cannot wait.

897
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,879
Speaker 3: For these thirty days to be over, because I will

898
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 3: be suing the f out of her yeehah.

899
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 4: Buckle up, girl, you're about to get food sued. You're

900
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:26,839
Speaker 4: about to have the lawn. Yeah, better run, better ruin.

901
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 4: Here comes a law chasing you.

902
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

903
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 5: on to the next one.

904
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Carly, your favorite jersey girl.

905
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 4: Here.

906
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:37,720
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories. But here's

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908
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 4: My roommate didn't hear me come in, and I saw

909
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 4: something I can't unsee. Uh oh, she don't have clothes On.

910
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 4: About a week and a half ago, my roommate and

911
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 4: I got back to campus to start our winter quarter.

912
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 4: We share a small room and this is our third

913
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,320
Speaker 4: year of sharing together and she's one of my closest friends.

914
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 4: On Friday night, I was going out with friends and

915
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 4: she said she was feeling sick and wanted to stay in.

916
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 4: I know what that meant. I told her i'd be

917
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 4: back around midnight and left. By the way this comes from,

918
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 4: there's no oh and if you want to spit your

919
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,719
Speaker 4: own stories, go to the ras slash Okay Storytime subbed it.

920
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're here to

921
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 4: give good of ice scoofy. But we don't have all

922
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 4: the answers we really know what we'd do, So let

923
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 4: us know what you would do in the comments, and

924
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 4: Opie says. I ended up coming back about an hour early,

925
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 4: and I wasn't sure if she'd be asleep, so I

926
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 4: opened the door quietly. She had handphones on so she

927
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 4: didn't hear me immediately, but she was dutching herself and

928
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 4: on a monitor. There was a corn video open on

929
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 4: our laptop screen. There was a picture of me in

930
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 4: a bikini and a picture of me is that she

931
00:41:54,000 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 4: was looking at. Oh get that? Get that? Where did

932
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 4: she get that? You would live with it for three years?

933
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 4: I just stepped back and let the door close and

934
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 4: heard her slam the laptop shut. I walked back in

935
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 4: and she apologized, bright red, saying she didn't think i'd

936
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 4: be back till later. I told her it was fine,

937
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 4: and that she'd walked in on me before, so we

938
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 4: were even, and laughed it off with her. I didn't

939
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 4: want to say anything more if I wasn't completely sure.

940
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 4: That night, I checked my pictures and found the one

941
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 4: of me in a bikini. I saw her looking at

942
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 4: I even remember sending it to her over the summer,

943
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 4: the one she had taken when we came back very

944
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 4: wasted during our first year, I threw up on my shirt,

945
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 4: so I took it off, and she took a picture

946
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 4: on Snapchat and wrote so gone. She started stripping as

947
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 4: a joke so I'd wake up and freak out, which

948
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 4: I thought was funny at the time. Wait, she took

949
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 4: a picture on Snapchatka, you took a picture on Snapchat

950
00:42:56,640 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 4: of her lists like private, save that I hope. So

951
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 4: I hope she didn't send that out to other people.

952
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 4: I've been super quiet with her since, and I think

953
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 4: she's guessing. I know. I'm not sure how to breach

954
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 4: this topic with her, and I don't want to destroy

955
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 4: our relationship. I'm just not sure it'll ever be the same.

956
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 4: Any advice on how to talk about this would be lovely,

957
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 4: because I don't think this can be left alone and

958
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 4: we have an update. What do you do in this situation?

959
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:30,759
Speaker 7: I would be like, hey, hey, I am flattered, just

960
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 7: so you know, I don't think of you in that

961
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 7: way and I still love you dearly, and I hope

962
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 7: this doesn't ruin anything.

963
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 4: But like, I don't feel comfortable to doing that though,

964
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 4: but I also don't really want you to do that anymore. Yeah,

965
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:50,279
Speaker 4: if that's okay, if I can please ask you to

966
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 4: not not touch yourself to me, please, I don't know,

967
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 4: Please don't do that. I don't know, maybe to leave

968
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:02,440
Speaker 4: that picture of me super come with you having that anymore. Update.

969
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 4: I got the chance to read the comments you guys left.

970
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 4: Last week was a very stressful, crappy week. But after all, well,

971
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 4: talking to her last night went, I've been smiling at

972
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 4: every little thing. Oh, last night, I asked if we

973
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 4: could talk about what happened last Friday, and she agreed.

974
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 4: I told her I just wanted to share how I felt,

975
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 4: and that she didn't have to say anything if she

976
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 4: didn't want to. I explained how it made me uncomfortable

977
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 4: that she was using my pictures in that way, and

978
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:30,280
Speaker 4: that no matter why she was doing it, it wouldn't

979
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 4: change my opinion of her, but it had to stop

980
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 4: if we were going to keep being friends. I asked

981
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 4: her to delete the photos and she agreed, so we

982
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 4: went on her laptop and deleted them together. It seems positive, Yeah,

983
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 4: it seems like piece a chiller, I guess.

984
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I would also be chill about it.

985
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 3: I'd be like, listen, I don't want to make you

986
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 3: feel bad.

987
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 4: You would be chill about it.

988
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 3: Well why, I mean, I don't want people to feel

989
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 3: bad for like I take that as a compliment, like like,

990
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 3: that's so nice of you to do that, but like

991
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 3: I wish I never saw that because now obviously I

992
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 3: look at you a little bit differently. And if you

993
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 3: want to confess anything right now, you can totally do that.

994
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 4: But if you don't, that's all right as well.

995
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 3: But I just want you to know that this is

996
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 3: how I feel, and there's you know, I want to

997
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:20,839
Speaker 3: at least get my opinion out there.

998
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, hopefully this goes well, but there's a little bit

999
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 4: left the story. She asked if she could take a

1000
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,319
Speaker 4: walk and then come back to talk, so she did,

1001
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 4: returning about half an hour later. She said she was

1002
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 4: trying to figure out who she was in her identity

1003
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:40,280
Speaker 4: and just wasn't sure, and then once she started thinking

1004
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 4: about other girls, I was the face that came to mind.

1005
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 4: She didn't have feelings for me, just in her words,

1006
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 4: someone who looks like you but isn't you. I don't

1007
00:45:50,640 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 4: believe that She's like, no, I'm like into you, but

1008
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 4: like just your looks, not you, just someone who would

1009
00:45:57,200 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 4: look exactly like you. Yeah. One one, I don't believe that.

1010
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 3: In two now it's not a compliment because now you

1011
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 3: just like before I looks I am to you, So

1012
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 3: I am just a thing to look at.

1013
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 4: I told her that no matter what, she could always

1014
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 4: talk to me, and then she looked me in the eyes.

1015
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 4: We kissed and spent the night together. No, of course

1016
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 4: that's not what happened. Oh my okay.

1017
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 3: I almost jumped out of my chair, look at my

1018
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 3: ears like I was like, I was ready to go.

1019
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 4: That is crazy. That whoa Okay, Okay. We hug and

1020
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 4: it's like a huge weight was lifted off my back.

1021
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 4: The tension is gone, and I have my best friend back.

1022
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 4: Oh good, okay, okay, just like a minor blip, little

1023
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 4: little road bump.

1024
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 3: Yeah we had bump, little little broad walk, I think.

1025
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 4: But I kind of wish it did end with the kiss.

1026
00:46:55,840 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 4: It would have been better. Would have been better if

1027
00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 4: a story. You're right that op, go back, do it

1028
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 4: to get back, reray your life.

1029
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna go

1030
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 5: on to the next one.

1031
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: I went to a party my friend invited me to,

1032
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: but there's no one there.

1033
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 4: I've invited you here today to hang out with me

1034
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 4: one on one.

1035
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: I'm feeling pretty heated right now and I need some perspective.

1036
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:20,959
Speaker 1: My friend's daughter is turning one today. A few weeks ago,

1037
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: my friend asked if I could make truffles for the party.

1038
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 1: I agreed, and she mentioned she would reimburse me for

1039
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 1: the ingredients. However, because truffles are expensive to make and

1040
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 1: incredibly labor intensive, I decided I was just gift them

1041
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:39,319
Speaker 1: as the birthday present instead of asking for money. By

1042
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Bella Billa and if you

1043
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:43,600
Speaker 1: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

1044
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: slash Okay Storytime Subredday.

1045
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 4: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and.

1046
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:49,919
Speaker 1: We're here to give good advice Goofily, but we don't

1047
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: have all the answers. We only know what we would do.

1048
00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: Let us know what you do in the comments. And

1049
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: I spent all day yesterday in the kitchen making these.

1050
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,200
Speaker 1: I had to wake up super early this morning to

1051
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 1: finish the final touches and get ready for the nine

1052
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 1: am start time listed on the invitation. I showed up

1053
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 1: at nine am, sharp truffles in hand, and the place

1054
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 1: was empty. I double checked the invite and it definitely

1055
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: said nine am. I called my friend and she casually

1056
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 1: told me that the time had been changed to the afternoon.

1057
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,880
Speaker 1: She admitted she forgot to tell me, and apparently I

1058
00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: was the only guest who wasn't notified. After working so

1059
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:34,840
Speaker 1: hard yesterday and sacrificing my Saturday morning sleep, I was

1060
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: and am pissed. I haven't told her if I can

1061
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: make it in the afternoon. Yet would I be the

1062
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 1: a hole if I charge her the full amount for

1063
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: the ingredients and my time since I might no longer

1064
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,240
Speaker 1: be attending and these were meant to be the gift?

1065
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 1: Or refused to go to the afternoon session because I've

1066
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 1: already wasted my morning and now i have other plans,

1067
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: which is mostly just being too annoyed to celebrate. And

1068
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: I did not I would gift her the truffles. I

1069
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 1: had just decided that myself. Another edit. A lot of

1070
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: people are asking for more context, so here it goes.

1071
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,560
Speaker 1: We moved to a new city last year, so I've

1072
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: been trying hard to make new friends and I've been

1073
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 1: hanging out with this friend and some of her friends,

1074
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: but I'm not in their little group yet. I'm a

1075
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: very helpful person in general, and I have a lot

1076
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: of party planning experience, so I actually helped her decide

1077
00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 1: many aspects of the party, like how much food, what

1078
00:49:26,800 --> 00:49:29,399
Speaker 1: types of food, how many drinks, et cetera. We were

1079
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:33,239
Speaker 1: exchanging info back and forth about this party constantly, and

1080
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:35,320
Speaker 1: I even lent her a bunch of my own decorse

1081
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: stuff to use for the cake table. Also, she specifically

1082
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:41,439
Speaker 1: chose nine am because that's what her daughter is most

1083
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: alert and happiest, So this was supposed to be a

1084
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 1: brunch type birthday party. Given how much we talked about

1085
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: the details and the fact that she has my decor,

1086
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,359
Speaker 1: I really don't feel like this was an easy thing

1087
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: to forget and we have an update.

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Speaker 4: What do you think? I don't know, K sounded like

1089
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 4: sound like, yeah, you can't do it, so you're like, oh.

1090
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 1: If it genuinely was just like, oh my god, she forgot,

1091
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 1: which yes, it does sound kind of crazy that she

1092
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: would forget, to tell just you, but also what would

1093
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:18,200
Speaker 1: be her motive to do that, like maliciously?

1094
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, especially if you're like, I don't know.

1095
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 4: If she did do it maliciously, then yeah, don't but

1096
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 4: I I yeah, I guess I don't see that being intentional.

1097
00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:32,319
Speaker 4: If this is that could be wrong.

1098
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 2: If this is like the second time or third time,

1099
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 2: I can understand it would I would be still upset,

1100
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 2: but to this extent of like, oh, like I'm not

1101
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:45,799
Speaker 2: gonna because it's later in the day, I don't know right,

1102
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 2: Like did she.

1103
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:48,759
Speaker 1: Just tell you in early time so she knew that

1104
00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 1: they'd be ready because she didn't think you'd finish it,

1105
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 1: or is he like could be.

1106
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 4: Or maybe she meant like I don't know, bring them

1107
00:50:55,120 --> 00:50:55,879
Speaker 4: over at that time.

1108
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:56,359
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1109
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1110
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:57,359
Speaker 4: See.

1111
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 1: The thing is is it's hard to tell if this

1112
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 1: is an honest mistake or not. And if it is,

1113
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 1: I think you're possibly going too far. But if she

1114
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: truly is just using you for like your party.

1115
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 4: To better and then you're not an a hole.

1116
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 1: Yes, you're smart to catch the red flag early, but

1117
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 1: it's like.

1118
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 4: So I need more information to decide whether or not

1119
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 4: you're an ale could go either way.

1120
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: And we have an update, so maybe we'll get that

1121
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:22,879
Speaker 1: boil boy. Wow, I did not expect this to blow

1122
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:25,120
Speaker 1: up First of all, I don't think it's fair for

1123
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: some people to say I'm self obsessed or that it's

1124
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 1: clear why I'm not included in the group. Clearly those

1125
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 1: people have never been in a position where they had

1126
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 1: to move cities and make new friends after a certain age.

1127
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:36,720
Speaker 4: It is not easy.

1128
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 1: I would agree that it's not easy to always make

1129
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: new friends when you move places. But I would also

1130
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 1: say that if it's an honest like, we potentially need

1131
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:48,320
Speaker 1: to be more forgiving and if.

1132
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 4: Maybe like if say like, hey, is this you know

1133
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 4: was this and now is this a mistake?

1134
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 5: Can we talk about this?

1135
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,480
Speaker 4: I felt that I felt these feelings.

1136
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 2: It just seems like it just prosueds of what and

1137
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:05,320
Speaker 2: how that you know, mother was like or that friend

1138
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 2: is acting after You're like, yeah, because if they're you know,

1139
00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 2: they're honestly like apologetic and like they're really sorry, and

1140
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 2: all that jazz are like your point.

1141
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 4: See this time I agreed to me. Yeah, shouldn't have agreed.

1142
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:20,320
Speaker 4: I shouldn't have agreed.

1143
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 1: I wrote that first post while I was literally leaving

1144
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:25,960
Speaker 1: the empty venue and heading home, so everything was fresh

1145
00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:28,440
Speaker 1: and I just needed to process externally and see what

1146
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 1: others would do. I think that's pretty normal when you're frustrated.

1147
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 1: After taking a nap and reading through the comments, I

1148
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 1: decided to be an.

1149
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 4: Adult about it.

1150
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 2: That's all oh be needed was just a little nap,

1151
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 2: a little like you know what, let's read just here.

1152
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:42,920
Speaker 1: I went to the birthday party in the afternoon. I

1153
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: brought the truffles and I told her they were a gift.

1154
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: I do think she'd just had mom brain moment and

1155
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: genuinely forgot to tell me. But because I'm new here

1156
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,719
Speaker 1: and I've been struggling with feeling excluded, it hit me

1157
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 1: harder in the moment. Thank you everyone for your answers

1158
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: and for helping me see things more clearly. I'm not

1159
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: going to hold this over her head, but I am

1160
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:04,080
Speaker 1: going to keep it in mind. If it happens again

1161
00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:06,480
Speaker 1: or becomes a pattern, I'll know this isn't the right

1162
00:53:06,520 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 1: friendship for me.

1163
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, there you go. Yeah, that's yeah. Like I said,

1164
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 2: if this is the first time, could be a genuine mistake.

1165
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, especially probably genuine mistake. Yeah.

1166
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 1: And if you had been planning it with her, maybe

1167
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,360
Speaker 1: she just thought that she had made that decision with

1168
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 1: you and she already knew kind of thing.

1169
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know, but I think it's smart to

1170
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 4: keep an eye on these things.

1171
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, never forget something strange like that, but we can forget.

1172
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, And way to be an adult about it. A

1173
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 2: way to go and be like, you know what, I'm

1174
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:37,959
Speaker 2: going to act like it was a genuine mistake before

1175
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 2: I jump to conclusions. See, like I said, see how

1176
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 2: she reacts, and see how she goes in the future

1177
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 2: about things, and then see if there's a pattern or

1178
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 2: she does it again. Then I would then cut ties rely.

1179
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 5: And that's the end of the story. We're going to

1180
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:52,720
Speaker 5: go on to the next one.

1181
00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:55,440
Speaker 4: My friend kept asking me for money while living a

1182
00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:56,600
Speaker 4: different life online.

1183
00:53:56,800 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: Your friend's Hannah Montana I, twenty six.

1184
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 4: Have been friends with this girl twenty six female, which

1185
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 4: we're gonna call.

1186
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:07,120
Speaker 1: MILEYMILEI and hennaes kidding, it's.

1187
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 4: Milly for seven years now. Shortly after we graduated high school,

1188
00:54:11,200 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 4: Millie moved abroad and we lost touch for about three years,

1189
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 4: in which I went to university and got my first degree.

1190
00:54:17,320 --> 00:54:19,479
Speaker 4: After that, I moved to the same country as Milly.

1191
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 4: I pursued my education to get my engineer's degree, and

1192
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 4: I've been working ever since. By the way, this comes

1193
00:54:25,520 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 4: from a Lexi and if you want to spit your

1194
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 4: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime separate it.

1195
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 4: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to

1196
00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 4: give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have all the answers.

1197
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:38,120
Speaker 4: We only know what we'd do, So let us know

1198
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,320
Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments, and Opie says.

1199
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 4: After I moved here, we got in touch online since

1200
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 4: she lives in another state, and became close again. She

1201
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 4: told me that she works as a saleswoman in an

1202
00:54:49,239 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 4: art shop and that she doesn't like it. She finds

1203
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 4: the job tiring and doesn't get paid enough, which I

1204
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 4: totally understand. I, on the other hand, have shared that

1205
00:54:57,800 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 4: I really love my job and it's what I've always

1206
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 4: so hard to achieve. Ever since I started working, Milly

1207
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 4: has started to ask me for money every now and then,

1208
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:08,399
Speaker 4: like fifty or one hundred dollars to help her out.

1209
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,520
Speaker 4: Since I have a stable job with a decent salary,

1210
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 4: I could afford it. I've always accepted and she always

1211
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 4: pays me back. Lately, I've started to save up money

1212
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 4: because I'd like to move in a bigger flat with

1213
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 4: my boyfriend. I am still currently living in a student

1214
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 4: storm and I'd like to move out by the end

1215
00:55:23,680 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 4: of this year. Meanwhile, Milly has been asking me to

1216
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:28,799
Speaker 4: help repare her plane tickets so that she could go

1217
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 4: to holidays with her boyfriend, who lives abroad and works

1218
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 4: as a streamer and is literally always bragging about how

1219
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 4: much money makes. I found it quite weird that she's

1220
00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 4: asking me instead of her boyfriend to pay for their

1221
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:45,560
Speaker 4: plane tickets. So I asked him and he gave me

1222
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:52,920
Speaker 4: a stupid excuse such as, oh, my card got rejected anyway,

1223
00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:54,520
Speaker 4: I didn't want to make a story out of it,

1224
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 4: and they both started to get offended, so I accepted again.

1225
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think we need to be more okay with

1226
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 1: the people in those situations. Yes, like oh sorry, no, sorry,

1227
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 1: my card's actually declining too.

1228
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 4: Ye oh my car's not working, so sorry. I also

1229
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 4: started to notice on her and her boyfriend's IG accounts

1230
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 4: how they buy expensive clothes and shoes that even I

1231
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:24,280
Speaker 4: can't afford to buy if I wanted, and started wondering

1232
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 4: how she could be buying all this stuff if she's

1233
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 4: having financial problems like she claims to be. Yesterday, Millie

1234
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 4: texted me asking if I had a Newberreat's account. I

1235
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,680
Speaker 4: said yes. She asked if I can give her my

1236
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,879
Speaker 4: account's information so that she can log in and order

1237
00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:42,720
Speaker 4: herself food because she was too lazy to cook dinner tonight.

1238
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I actually lied. I don't have a

1239
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:49,879
Speaker 4: new Berriet's account. So funny, I have a.

1240
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:52,799
Speaker 1: Go puff and it's regional, so you can't use it

1241
00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 1: doesn't work here. I think that actually is here now.

1242
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 1: It was a filly thing before.

1243
00:56:57,520 --> 00:57:01,240
Speaker 4: I've got I've got a thing that doesn't work. Sorry.

1244
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 4: I said no because it was an account that I

1245
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 4: share with my boyfriend, and I don't feel comfortable sharing

1246
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 4: our information with other people. So she continued by saying

1247
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,920
Speaker 4: I should then log into her account and save my

1248
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:15,279
Speaker 4: credit card information so that she can use it to

1249
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 4: order herself food whenever she wanted, and she paid me

1250
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 4: back after that is insane. She's like, yeah, the normal

1251
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 4: people think it's like when you pay for all of

1252
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:26,400
Speaker 4: my food.

1253
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: The normal people think when you just give me your

1254
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:30,680
Speaker 1: credit card information, it's super easy.

1255
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 4: I love it. Obviously, I refuse because one, I'm not

1256
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 4: saving my credit card information into anyone's account. And two,

1257
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 4: I don't think being too lazy to cook is a

1258
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 4: valid reason to ask people to pay for you. I

1259
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 4: would not be friends with this person anymore. Now she

1260
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 4: got mad at me and said that I was the

1261
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 4: ahole for refusing to help a friend out with all

1262
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:50,720
Speaker 4: the money I have. So am I the ale in

1263
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 4: this situation? Should I have just accepted? And why would

1264
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:56,120
Speaker 4: you think you're the a hole? You're the ale for

1265
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 4: asking me? Yeah, honestly, you're the ale for me? Gives

1266
00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 4: me this? He would you even be friends with this person?

1267
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: I need you to get the biggest of spines. Get

1268
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 1: it and that, and then get one bigger and then upgrade. Yeah,

1269
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:15,439
Speaker 1: and then upgrade again, and then door dash an even

1270
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 1: larger one while.

1271
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 4: We're at it.

1272
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:21,120
Speaker 1: Just DoorDash yourself the spine. There we go, a whole

1273
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:22,720
Speaker 1: exoskeleton in fact.

1274
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just need to revamp the whole system. Not

1275
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:26,600
Speaker 4: doing any good.

1276
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:29,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what in your psyche thinks that

1277
00:58:30,200 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: is making you think that you're in a hole.

1278
00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 4: You're not. We should look into that internally. But you therapists,

1279
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 4: use that money that she's asking from you to buy

1280
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 4: a therapist literally theist. Yeah, that's insane, but we get

1281
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 4: an update. Thank you everyone for helping me open my eyes.

1282
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 4: I have since stopped all contact with Millie, and with

1283
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 4: no surprise, she texted me again this morning asking me

1284
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 4: to send her one hundred dollars because she needs it.

1285
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 4: I told her no and that I will no longer

1286
00:59:02,760 --> 00:59:04,680
Speaker 4: be sending your money in that she needs to figure

1287
00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:07,640
Speaker 4: her crab out. She didn't answer, but I don't think

1288
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 4: she'll be contacting me again, I hope. As for her boyfriend,

1289
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 4: I removed him from from all of my social media

1290
00:59:15,000 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 4: since him and I aren't even friends, and he texted

1291
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,720
Speaker 4: me asking why did I remove him. I said that

1292
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 4: we never interact and I see no use in keeping

1293
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 4: him in my social media since we aren't even friends.

1294
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 4: I think he took it bad, but I don't give

1295
00:59:28,440 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 4: an f At the end of that.

1296
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:32,760
Speaker 1: Story, we had the start of a spine coming in

1297
00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 1: there with that day, she said.

1298
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:37,920
Speaker 4: But she probably didn't ad. She probably cried a little bit,

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Speaker 4: but you probably sent I D Yeah, she didn't. She

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Speaker 4: couldn't say it all. I was too know, so she

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Speaker 4: did the acronym and that's okay.

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Speaker 1: That's the first vertebrate was like starting to like form

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Speaker 1: a little bit.

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Speaker 4: It's a slow process.

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Speaker 1: The unadding of the boyfriend. I think that makes it

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Speaker 1: a whole, a whole, singular whole.

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Speaker 4: Singular vertebrae.

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Speaker 5: go on to the next one.

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Speaker 1: My friend tried to expose me and it completely backfired.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I twenty three female feel like I've accidentally caused

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Speaker 1: major drama in my friend group and now I'm scared

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 1: I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice Goofily,

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Speaker 1: but we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 4: Oh you know what we would do? Uh huh, let

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Speaker 4: us know what you would do in the commons.

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Speaker 1: Ease leave me and Nop says for context, I'm in

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Speaker 1: a close friend group from UNI. It's mostly guys except

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Speaker 1: for me. And Rachel twenty three femail me. Rachel. Rachel

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Speaker 1: dated Jid twenty four female on and off for about

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Speaker 1: a year. After they broke up, Jade stayed in the

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Speaker 1: wider group as some of the guys don't vibe with her. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Rachel had one boundary when they split up. She told

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Speaker 1: Jade not to sleep with Shane twenty three male, who

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Speaker 1: is Rachel's best friend. Jade agreed and said he wasn't

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Speaker 1: her type anyway. A few months later, Jade admitted to

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Speaker 1: me privately that she and Shane were secretly sleeping.

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Speaker 4: Ah, Je, Yeah, at what point? Two are we like?

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Speaker 4: Shane also Rachel's best friend, But like, I don't we

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Speaker 4: don't know, yes, Shane, But also we don't know what

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Speaker 4: she told Shane, Like did she say, hey, don't sleep

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Speaker 4: with Jade? Did she?

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Speaker 1: Jade went and said, actually, Rachel told me she really

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Speaker 1: wants us.

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Speaker 4: To say yeah, yeah, she actually said she wanted us

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Speaker 4: like that's all she wanted.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how many situations there are where some

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Speaker 1: sort of like broer girl code doesn't apply to not

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Speaker 1: sleeping with your besties.

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Speaker 4: Ex. Oh absolutely, this is a both of them thing.

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Speaker 1: She made me promise not to tell Rachel because it

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Speaker 1: would ruin friendships and her emotionally. I agreed and kept

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Speaker 1: it to myself about eight months past. During that time,

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Speaker 1: Rachel and Jade had ongoing drama, and I tried to

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Speaker 1: stay neutral. I didn't pick sides, and I mostly just

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Speaker 1: listened when they vented. Eventually, I distanced myself from Jade

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Speaker 1: because I didn't like how she handled conflict, posting indirect

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Speaker 1: things online and talking behind Rachel's back, telling the guys

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Speaker 1: things about her that just weren't true, et cetera.

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Speaker 4: Fast forward to yesterday.

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Speaker 1: I was catching up with Rachel and she mentioned Shane

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Speaker 1: might be sleeping with someone.

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Speaker 4: Oh, oh, stop up, he's got to be.

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Speaker 1: Like what wait, are you ready for this?

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Speaker 4: Oh? No, she joked.

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Speaker 1: Imagine if it was Jade, What a joke that would be?

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Speaker 4: What what? I froze.

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Speaker 1: I didn't confirm it. I didn't deny it.

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Speaker 4: I didn't say anything at all. Girls my exact.

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Speaker 1: Movie theater situation, Oh god, except for that was about

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Speaker 1: a movie.

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Speaker 4: I would do this. I probably wouldn't keep the secret.

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Speaker 4: Well no, I wouldn't be able to keep a secret

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Speaker 4: like this, Rachel, I was if I was put in

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Speaker 4: this exact situation. I'd be like in this if you

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Speaker 4: were who OPI, if I were Ope. So actually I

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Speaker 4: understand you completely OPI.

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Speaker 1: Rachel immediately noticed and started putting the pieces together herself.

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Speaker 1: She asked directly if they were sleeping together. I stayed

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Speaker 1: silent because I didn't want to lie to her, but

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Speaker 1: I also felt like it wasn't my place to reveal it.

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Speaker 4: You revealed it, op.

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Speaker 1: She figured it out and started crying. She called Jade

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Speaker 1: to confront her while I was sitting there. Jade assumed

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Speaker 1: I had told Rachel and accused me of spreading it,

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Speaker 1: but Rachel defended me and said I hadn't said anything.

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Speaker 1: She worked it out on her own. Now Rachel has

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Speaker 1: blocked both Jade and Shane and wants nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with them. Is the problem is Shane is still part

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Speaker 1: of our core group, so this affects everyone.

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Speaker 4: Well, that's Shane's fault. Yeah, that's not Shane. Shane stopped freaking.

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Speaker 1: Make it a best bestis I'm worried that by staying

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Speaker 1: silent and technically revealing the truth without meaning to, I've

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Speaker 1: created a drama that could divide the group. So am

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Speaker 1: I the a hole for staying quiet and letting my

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Speaker 1: friend figure it out. We have an update.

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Speaker 4: Uh No, I also wouldn't know how to you know,

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Speaker 4: what to do or what to say in that situation.

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Speaker 4: No one's tricky.

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Speaker 2: It's giving like euphoria, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, with like honestly giving pretty classic high school girl,

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Speaker 1: classic high school situation here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Update Since posting, Rachel and I had a very long

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Speaker 1: and honest conversation. I apologize for keeping it a secret

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Speaker 1: that directly involved her and her best friend Shane. We

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Speaker 1: talked every everything through, had a bit of a cry,

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Speaker 1: and managed to work things out. I'm really glad we

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Speaker 1: were able to communicate properly and clear the air. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I understand now that I should have done this in.

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Speaker 4: The first place.

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Speaker 1: As for Jade, we are no longer and won't be

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Speaker 1: on speaking terms after she tried to expose my untrustworthy

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Speaker 1: behavior to the guys. Fortunately the boys.

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Speaker 4: Took my side. Ice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna say, no, one's really gonna believe

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Speaker 1: Jade who slept with her excess beestie.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it doesn't really give you a lot of streecred.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to hear like Jade's reasoning. She's like yeah, Op,

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Speaker 2: he's the one who told that. I like, obviously I

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Speaker 2: was sleeping with him, but like, she's the one who

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Speaker 2: told them.

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Speaker 4: They're like, it's her fault, but you did it, so

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Speaker 4: it's her fault. No, it's your fault.

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Speaker 1: They actually brought up some issues they've previously had with

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Speaker 1: Jade and Shane, and admit it, they never really vibed

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Speaker 1: with her. A couple of them even said that they

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Speaker 1: already knew about Jade and Shane hooking up. Apparently it

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Speaker 1: was pretty obvious at times, especially when they were wasted.

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Speaker 1: How Rachel did and put the pieces together sooner, I

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Speaker 1: have no idea. I also addressed my concerns with some

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Speaker 1: of the guys in the group, and they reassured me

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Speaker 1: there won't be any issues going forward. They joked that

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Speaker 1: they don't plan on voting me off the.

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Speaker 4: Island just yet.

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Speaker 1: That's well, sounds like your group is at least pretty

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Speaker 1: good at spotting it the relay hole.

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Speaker 4: It's just short one Jade now and they voted them

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Speaker 4: off the ice. Is it really even short one?

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Speaker 5: We don't need it and that's the end of the story.