Speaker 1: Hell I Suck at Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared
Speaker 1: and I heard radio podcast What's going on? Everybody? Welcome
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Speaker 1: My name is Jared, have been joined by the beautiful
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Speaker 1: is still traveling the world. We're not sure if he's
Speaker 1: ever going to come back. At this point. We have
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Speaker 1: Check it out today. A wonderful guest who is in
Speaker 1: studio with us right now. You might remember him from
Speaker 1: t m Z. Dex Halt dex. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for Johnny here. Yeah, thanks guys for having me. Oh,
Speaker 1: of course, it is our pleasure. So Dax. A lot
Speaker 1: of people might remember you from your TMZ days. You
Speaker 1: were a producer and also an our on air personality.
Speaker 1: Yea twelve years. It was a little bit, just a
Speaker 1: little blip in my just a little one. But people
Speaker 1: also have seen you on Access Hollywood, which is Access
Speaker 1: Live now atually. You know, I don't know why they
Speaker 1: dropped the Hollywood part of it, but Access, Yeah, just
Speaker 1: Access now. I because I was on Access a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago doing a Bachelor recap and I said
Speaker 1: Access Hollywood and they shun. You know, I said it
Speaker 1: to my fiance Ashley. She's like, it's Access and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I I guess I never noticed the
Speaker 1: Hollywood drop off. I've actually ran into actually quite a
Speaker 1: few times there. Okay, we we we talked in the
Speaker 1: green room. We talked all about you, behind your bad
Speaker 1: all bad things. I just don't believe a word she
Speaker 1: has to say about me. So, Dax, tell us a
Speaker 1: little bit about yourself. I know, I you know, gave
Speaker 1: a little intro, but give us a little bit more
Speaker 1: in detail about you and and your background. Yes, so
Speaker 1: you know. Obviously I was at TMZ for twelve years
Speaker 1: and then I decided I just needed to change in
Speaker 1: my life. I had been there. It had been a
Speaker 1: great ride. I was there from like literally day one
Speaker 1: before anyone even knew what the hell TMZ was too,
Speaker 1: the rise of TMZ and breaking some of the biggest
Speaker 1: stories in Hollywood, and then I just like, I need
Speaker 1: to change in my life, and so left there. Then
Speaker 1: I did the Live with Kelly competition, Remember that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was it was fun. It was just so different
Speaker 1: from the TMZ world to then go, you know, to
Speaker 1: this huge ABC show and they have got an audience,
Speaker 1: and so that was really fun. Came in second place there,
Speaker 1: and then some unknown guy named Ryan Seacrest got the gig.
Speaker 1: Who is that guy, How did he beat you out? Uh? No,
Speaker 1: I I love Ryan, So I'm very very happy for Ryan.
Speaker 1: Is is really good at his job, so good. I
Speaker 1: was just thinking about him before coming on. How does
Speaker 1: he have time to record all this stuff? And then
Speaker 1: he also has like a segmentment of Montreal and on
Speaker 1: Virgin Radio. How does he have time in the day?
Speaker 1: Is he in a relationship? Yes? Here's the thing that
Speaker 1: I don't think people realize how like how much this
Speaker 1: guy works. Is he's literally filming the Live with Kelly show,
Speaker 1: Live with Ryan and Kelly, and then he'll get on
Speaker 1: a plane and fly back and do American Idol, then
Speaker 1: fly back over there. It's it's unbelievable. He's the hardest
Speaker 1: working person in entertainment. And he does radio with Tanya
Speaker 1: in the morning, I mean Mark and he seen you
Speaker 1: guys are here for that. So he does morning radio,
Speaker 1: He does Live with Kelly, He flies to American Issle,
Speaker 1: he does all these different events. I would say, so
Speaker 1: long story short, you finishing second to him? That's pretty
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that. I'm sorry. So it's so continued anyway,
Speaker 1: So then uh, I decided that I wanted to start
Speaker 1: up my own thing. Really, it came down to I
Speaker 1: have a lot of experience and breaking news over many,
Speaker 1: many years, and I had a lot of contacts still
Speaker 1: hitting me up with information and stories and all this,
Speaker 1: and so I created the Hollywood Pipeline. It's Hollywood Pipeline
Speaker 1: dot Com, along with a podcast. And I explained it
Speaker 1: to people is I'm not trying to beat TMZ. That's
Speaker 1: not what I'm trying to do. I I see it
Speaker 1: as TMZ and Instagram had a little baby, and that
Speaker 1: is what the tipe is. So it's all visual content.
Speaker 1: It's photos, it's videos. We've actually covered you guys quite
Speaker 1: a few times. Well I appreciate that, thank you. Um
Speaker 1: and and it's just a place for people to go
Speaker 1: to get lost and and look through paparazzi photos or
Speaker 1: red carpets or whatever. I mean. Like the other day
Speaker 1: I put up an exclusive set of Selena Gomez on
Speaker 1: the beach down in Mexico, and people look, exactly are
Speaker 1: we had this exclusive? And then um, yeah, I do
Speaker 1: a lot of set photos. So like a big, you know,
Speaker 1: Marvel movie is coming out, I'll normally release photos of
Speaker 1: them shooting the movie, which people go insane about. I
Speaker 1: am one of those people that go insane for set photos.
Speaker 1: I've googled Avengers Endgames set photos to just see and
Speaker 1: I've seen some with Captain America and Robert down to Jr.
Speaker 1: Making it look like they were going back to the
Speaker 1: two dozen twelve Avengers possible time travel. Anyway, I'm one
Speaker 1: of those people. So you're I'm your speaking to you exactly.
Speaker 1: And then like we got a lot of traffic off
Speaker 1: the Joker film set we were filming, Like when Joaquin
Speaker 1: Phoenix was out there filming all this stuff in New York,
Speaker 1: people were going nuts over it. Just like millions of
Speaker 1: views on YouTube to watch him running through the streets.
Speaker 1: I've watched that video numerous times. Was was it the one?
Speaker 1: Who are he trips over himself? I had like nineteen videos,
Speaker 1: I mean, but they're the tripping one in the Crane station. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you want to see him, if you haven't seen
Speaker 1: him yet, it's on the Hollywood Pipelines YouTube page. Well,
Speaker 1: the Joker is such a fascinating character, which is why
Speaker 1: we'll keep doing what you're doing because you're killing the game.
Speaker 1: So how did you get involved in TMZ in the
Speaker 1: first place? Did you go to school for journalism and
Speaker 1: then so I, yeah, I went to school for radio
Speaker 1: TV Film down at cal State Fullerton, and then I
Speaker 1: just I had to do an internship. So I ended
Speaker 1: up working with Extra the other entertainment show and TMZ
Speaker 1: and Extra sister companies. And Harvey was working upstairs and
Speaker 1: it was he was creating this unknown website at the time,
Speaker 1: and walked in, put out my hands, said hey, I
Speaker 1: hear that you're looking for for people or you need
Speaker 1: interns or whatever, and is there anything I can do
Speaker 1: for you? And he sent me out on the red
Speaker 1: carpet literally that weekend. I do remember what red carpet
Speaker 1: it was. It was a peta event. It was a
Speaker 1: pet event. Um where was that at? I think it
Speaker 1: was at Paramount Studios. And I went and I was
Speaker 1: on crutches at the time because I had busted both
Speaker 1: of my ankles doing a gymnastics trick and literally popped
Speaker 1: out both of them. So I was double like cast
Speaker 1: it up on crutches, gimp down to this red carpet
Speaker 1: and and everyone started to come up and talk to me.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they felt bad for me or
Speaker 1: what the case was, but Pam Anderson talked to me,
Speaker 1: and I was at the very very end, and you
Speaker 1: guys know doing like red carpets want, you get halfway down,
Speaker 1: you kind of get over right and you kind of like,
Speaker 1: I don't really care about these people, and you move
Speaker 1: on a lot of it's the same questions. It's it's
Speaker 1: more of the same. So these poor people that are
Speaker 1: at the end of the carpet, they get no one,
Speaker 1: they get no love. I am at the very end,
Speaker 1: and it's literally like Pink comes over to me. Kristin Cavalarry,
Speaker 1: who was the biggest deal at that time, because I
Speaker 1: was right when like Laguna Beach was massive. She comes over,
Speaker 1: Dennis Rodman and I just sat there and everyone started
Speaker 1: talking to me. And I come back and Harvey's like, well,
Speaker 1: I think I need you a part of my team.
Speaker 1: And I literally handed in my resume that day and
Speaker 1: you ripped it up and throw it in the trash.
Speaker 1: You didn't even look at it, and you on the spot.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's such a testament to people who
Speaker 1: wanna People are so afraid of being rejected. But you
Speaker 1: just went in there, You shook his hand and you
Speaker 1: asked him, you know, like do you need someone period.
Speaker 1: You're even offering to do it for free to be
Speaker 1: an intern. So I think that's just a testament, like
Speaker 1: just be afraid of failure because you never know where
Speaker 1: how you'll get ahead. And I feel like you have
Speaker 1: such a great or about you. You're always smiling, um,
Speaker 1: so like you attract I guess that's what people were
Speaker 1: attracted to. You have such a great energy about you.
Speaker 1: But since you so, since you worked on TMZ, you
Speaker 1: have Hollywood pipeline now, um, and you know, I know
Speaker 1: how Jared wants to talk about the oscars and stuff.
Speaker 1: So I was actually thinking Julia Roberts a huge fan
Speaker 1: of hers. I'm obsessed. She's beautiful and you never ever
Speaker 1: see her being photographed with her husband because sometimes I
Speaker 1: forget that she's actually married to someone. And so I
Speaker 1: was thinking of since this is a relationship podcast, and
Speaker 1: a lot of our followers do have Instagram, and they
Speaker 1: do follow us on Instagram, and they look up to
Speaker 1: couple who are out in the media or in the spotlight,
Speaker 1: So hashtag couple girls, people like Christy Teagan and John
Speaker 1: Legend who are like fully out there um exposing their relationship.
Speaker 1: Blake Lively Reynolds, uh Ryan Reynolds. But any have people
Speaker 1: like Julia Robinson and her husband, You never hear any
Speaker 1: of their stories that are happening, uh in their personal
Speaker 1: uh marriage. What would you give? What kind of advice
Speaker 1: would you give to our listeners who are in a
Speaker 1: committed relationship, um and want to expose a relationship on
Speaker 1: social media? Well, my advice to that, yeah, like you know,
Speaker 1: like what to share it? Yeah, just click the share
Speaker 1: button and it's past. You're fine. I think you know
Speaker 1: what Julia Roberts, She's just been a very private person
Speaker 1: her you know, she's been such a big star that
Speaker 1: I think that she guards her relationship and her children's
Speaker 1: privacy and all of that. So that's why, you know,
Speaker 1: you can be a big star in Hollywood and never
Speaker 1: get photographed. And that's you just you don't go to
Speaker 1: the Craigs restaurants of l A. And you don't go
Speaker 1: to these places. But I mean, Craigs is so good.
Speaker 1: Have you ever tried their chuffle pizza? I haven't been there,
Speaker 1: but I've heard it's amazing. But it's it's she avoids
Speaker 1: going out where she knows paparazzi you're gonna take her
Speaker 1: photo and she doesn't have social media, and she so
Speaker 1: there's she's picked a different life. For people that actually
Speaker 1: want that attention or want to express that they are
Speaker 1: with someone and that they they like saying I'm with
Speaker 1: so and so, I say, share as much as you want,
Speaker 1: you know, to put it out there for the people.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, what's the worst
Speaker 1: gonna happen? You break up and you got to delete
Speaker 1: the photos. But at least during that moment, people saw
Speaker 1: how happy you were. Right, yeah, Well, I think it's
Speaker 1: people just put their best self forward on social media.
Speaker 1: And so for me, I want to make sure I'm
Speaker 1: in a relationship now, and I'm trying. I'm like, I'll
Speaker 1: post a picture now and here and there, but I'm
Speaker 1: not over the top posting pictures of our relationship because
Speaker 1: I feel like it's so import tend to have to
Speaker 1: preserve that part of your relationship signific Another. You also
Speaker 1: went from a very high profile relationship where you had
Speaker 1: that you didn't have to post anything because everyone knew
Speaker 1: your relationship. So I think maybe you're looking at it
Speaker 1: now is like I've gone through a super high profile
Speaker 1: relationship and how do I change that and do something
Speaker 1: A little different because maybe this would work better for me. Yeah. Well,
Speaker 1: I think it's also the expectation that we put out
Speaker 1: there on social media. All these amazing vacations that we
Speaker 1: do with our significant other, all these amazing dates that
Speaker 1: we go on with our significant other, And that's what
Speaker 1: people now have expectations. Things like even The Bachelor, like
Speaker 1: all these elaborate dates and stuff that we went on, Jared,
Speaker 1: you went on. Like, I feel like there's there's a
Speaker 1: little bit of an unrealistic expectation when it comes to
Speaker 1: the dating world with social media. You're absolutely right, but
Speaker 1: people have to take accountability for that on themselves in
Speaker 1: terms of the expectations they have from relationships, because no
Speaker 1: one's going to post a bad picture of themselves or
Speaker 1: a bad time in their relationship on Stagram. Everything is
Speaker 1: gonna be uh fluffed, Everything is gonna be seventh Heaven
Speaker 1: cloud nine. Same thing with The Bachelor, you know. So,
Speaker 1: I think people with social media or even television shows
Speaker 1: about dating, you have to take it with a little
Speaker 1: bit of a grain of salt, because of course it's
Speaker 1: not always going to be that good. Just like I
Speaker 1: feel like everybody who posts on Facebook, who's who's not
Speaker 1: a celebrity. They're not going to post a picture of
Speaker 1: them their significant other in them in a fight. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't see people updating their Facebook posts like oh
Speaker 1: so and so just cheated on me, so we broke up, Like,
Speaker 1: you don't see that post other than it's the Kardashian
Speaker 1: I mean the Kardashians. I kind of I respect that though,
Speaker 1: respect how open all their entire life is. I respect
Speaker 1: the hell out of the Kardashians. I listen, they are
Speaker 1: the smartest people out there. And I I've said this
Speaker 1: for so many years, like Kim Kardashian, Chris Jenner, Jenner
Speaker 1: is a smart genius to be able to work the
Speaker 1: media and work the fan base, all of that in
Speaker 1: your favor all the time. It's unbelievable. And the idea
Speaker 1: that they've been able to overcome so much because they've
Speaker 1: gotten so much flak for people saying, well, what, what's
Speaker 1: there even talent? What are they famous for? And they
Speaker 1: just keep overcoming it, overcoming it and overcoming it. Famous
Speaker 1: for being famous for a long period of time. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: it's the hardest thing because usually it's just fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: of fame. Yeah, and what other family out there has
Speaker 1: had so many like pivotal moments like for you know,
Speaker 1: Bruce's transition into Caitlin. You couldn't have scripted that out,
Speaker 1: or lamar Odom's storyline, Ristin Thompson and Tristan and Jordan,
Speaker 1: like all these things that I can't imagine having so
Speaker 1: much drama in my close knit family. And they've had
Speaker 1: it all, they really have had it all. Well, good
Speaker 1: for them, but we're not just here to talk about
Speaker 1: the credit Issuan Sax. You also talk about taking vacations
Speaker 1: with significant others because as said, we are dating podcast,
Speaker 1: so you have something called baya bacaca well as what
Speaker 1: a bacation? Yeah, so you know, uh, I think that Listen,
Speaker 1: this is kind of why I wanted to come onto
Speaker 1: this podcast because I think it's important for a lot
Speaker 1: of couples out there that don't really know where they're
Speaker 1: going with the relationship. They're they're interested in someone, but
Speaker 1: they're like, is this going to be for the long haul?
Speaker 1: And I've actually I teamed up with Visit Anaheim and
Speaker 1: because I'm from Anaheim, and basically we started talking about
Speaker 1: it and they did this big study where they pulled
Speaker 1: two thousand people just to find out, like that first
Speaker 1: trip that you go on with your significant other, is it?
Speaker 1: Is it a positive thing, is a nig thing? What
Speaker 1: is it? And come to find out like it really
Speaker 1: tells a lot about your relationship. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you remember the first trip that well, I guess you're
Speaker 1: gonnaps are a little different when they're being filmed in
Speaker 1: front of a national audience. But like someone off the show,
Speaker 1: you go on a trip, and the results of the
Speaker 1: study were actually predicting significant like most people were saying,
Speaker 1: I knew that I was with the right person when
Speaker 1: we were halfway through that trip and we were away
Speaker 1: from everyone and it was just us too in a
Speaker 1: different environment, and it was like that was the moment
Speaker 1: and I knew I was supposed to be with that person.
Speaker 1: And you know, I keep telling people, you know, Anaheim
Speaker 1: offers a lot that's I go back to it because
Speaker 1: it's there. But you've got so much like Disneyland and
Speaker 1: you've got the Great Wolf Lodge down there, not very
Speaker 1: farm And I try to tell people, like, do a
Speaker 1: trip with your significant other, get away, go hang out
Speaker 1: at an amusement park for today a day, because it's
Speaker 1: not you're not cramped up in a movie theater, kind
Speaker 1: of not talking in the darkness. You're actually standing in line,
Speaker 1: you're talking to each other, you're communicating, you're going through
Speaker 1: a hotel, you're going through flights, and you're really seeing
Speaker 1: what it's like to be with that person. An amusement
Speaker 1: park trip could really make or break earlier. Absolutely hits.
Speaker 1: I've been to Universal State Is in Disneyland, uh with
Speaker 1: significant others, and it's it's because there's its tension filled
Speaker 1: you're waiting in line. It's not there are crowds, you
Speaker 1: have anxiety. Uh, it's just it's so interesting to think
Speaker 1: about one day to the amusement park, and in my
Speaker 1: mind it is one of those moments where you do
Speaker 1: learn a lot about their your your significant other. But
Speaker 1: I also agree, I think that's one thing about The
Speaker 1: Bachelor and Bachelor I and Pachelor in Paradise in particular,
Speaker 1: that does legitimize relationship moving faster because it does feel
Speaker 1: like you're traveling with somebody when you go on those shows.
Speaker 1: It does if you're traveling with them and they're fourteen
Speaker 1: other boyfriend. True, Yes, I don't think you're traveling with
Speaker 1: your the lead at all. Oh so you're steping. You're
Speaker 1: skipping all the fun stuffs. You're skipping waiting in line
Speaker 1: at security, at at the airport, you're skipping, sitting next
Speaker 1: to each other on an airplane. You're skipping, like splitting
Speaker 1: a meal and who's gonna pay? You know, like you're
Speaker 1: skipping all the fun steps to really get to know
Speaker 1: a person. Let me rephrase, then Bachelor in Paradise is
Speaker 1: like that because then you're actually leaving the compound with
Speaker 1: the person, you're traveling out and then you're coming back
Speaker 1: to the island. But it is very secluded, and it
Speaker 1: is it does. It has this bonding to it that
Speaker 1: is is very different than anything I've experienced outside of
Speaker 1: the Bachelor bubble. I've never I never went to camp
Speaker 1: as a kid. I didn't do any of that at
Speaker 1: so I can only really relate it to people who
Speaker 1: have done those kinds of things, go to camp, because
Speaker 1: it is like this little get away that only you
Speaker 1: guys really know what that experience was like. And I
Speaker 1: think that's what vacation is all about. I mean, listen,
Speaker 1: they termed to vacation, but you know, I like it
Speaker 1: essentially just a vacation, and I'm always I'm always a
Speaker 1: guy for a good punch, and I gotta tell you
Speaker 1: out of the results, people said they fell in love
Speaker 1: after their first vacation. We're like, it didn't work because,
Speaker 1: like you said, it is the sitting in line. It's
Speaker 1: the stuff that's going to his you off and realize
Speaker 1: you don't want to be with that person because they're annoying. Yeah. Right,
Speaker 1: It's like the stuff that you find so cute at
Speaker 1: the beginning when you go on vacation with them and
Speaker 1: you're spending like three complete or four complete full days
Speaker 1: a day and they're like, oh, this is not as
Speaker 1: cute as I once thought it was. I remember the
Speaker 1: first trip I went with my now boyfriend. We went
Speaker 1: to New York City, and my biggest thing is budget,
Speaker 1: Like I don't like spending money. Um, I don't care
Speaker 1: or where I am. I can be hanging out in
Speaker 1: a hole in the wall, but I'm with people. If
Speaker 1: I'm with people I love, then it's going to be
Speaker 1: an amazing trip. And he was exactly like that too,
Speaker 1: so I'm like perfect. We ended up like splitting the airbnb.
Speaker 1: Taylor ended up coming with the guy that she was dating,
Speaker 1: so we all split it up. In four and then
Speaker 1: he's someone I need to be with, someone that takes
Speaker 1: the lead in booking a reservation for a restaurant, and
Speaker 1: I suck at that, Like, I'm not good at that
Speaker 1: at all, So I need help boervations. I'm not good
Speaker 1: at that. I'm like great at other things, but that's
Speaker 1: one thing. I'm like, if you're good at knowing which
Speaker 1: restaurants to go to and what places we should go visit,
Speaker 1: book that and I'll just go along with the ride.
Speaker 1: So for us, I want to ask you because being
Speaker 1: a female, what would you say? So if you had
Speaker 1: a couple come up to you and say, I like
Speaker 1: this idea of going away doing a trip, what do
Speaker 1: we do? Does he have to pay for it? Or
Speaker 1: do they split it? Split? Yeah? Yeah, I'm just asking.
Speaker 1: I'm curious because hold on, how long have they've been together? Oh?
Speaker 1: You're asking me. I don't know a hypothetical couple. So
Speaker 1: how long has this couple been I mean, if they're
Speaker 1: vacation and let's say they've been dating for six months,
Speaker 1: I think splitting is fine. So you're saying if they've
Speaker 1: been together for a year or two years, then the
Speaker 1: man should pay No, I think they if they've been
Speaker 1: together for like a month, the man should pay. What Yeah,
Speaker 1: on a normal fashion like that. What it depends on
Speaker 1: how big the trip is, right, No, not the entire trip,
Speaker 1: but you know dinner, like if you guys go out
Speaker 1: to a really nice No. No No, no, I'm talking about
Speaker 1: literally a vacation, like you're flying somewhere. You're having to
Speaker 1: play it for plane flights. Hell no, split it. Oh
Speaker 1: sorry I misinterpreted. Yeah, I was like, come on, Jared,
Speaker 1: what Oh, no way. I mean, unless you're talking about
Speaker 1: a married couple and it's a stay at home mom
Speaker 1: and you know the dad is the one where bank account. Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course that's different, so that would be I guess
Speaker 1: technically spinning as well. But no, if you're dating for
Speaker 1: like six months and you guys do it a vacation,
Speaker 1: you've got to split it, right, unless it's you know,
Speaker 1: Christmas gift or a big gift. Unless it's a it's
Speaker 1: like a surprise vacation. Then yeah, if it's a surprise vacation,
Speaker 1: I'm and I'm the one that's booking it, I'll be
Speaker 1: totally fine paying for for both of us. But I
Speaker 1: don't like setting I'm someone who's so independent when it
Speaker 1: comes to my finances, and I don't want I never
Speaker 1: wanted to be someone that got used to a certain
Speaker 1: type of lifestyle if I was dating someone who did
Speaker 1: have a lot of money, because I'm like, well, what
Speaker 1: if this relationship ends and I go back to like
Speaker 1: my penny saving, you know, lifestyle, and I want to
Speaker 1: be used. I want to be comfortable with the decisions
Speaker 1: that I make, not someone else makes. Okay, that gives
Speaker 1: me a good question. Is it hard for you guys
Speaker 1: to do normal dates now after you've done the most
Speaker 1: most ravagant, crazy date. Not at all. No. I love
Speaker 1: the small date. Yeah, you know, like I could really
Speaker 1: use a helicopter the roof of a building right now. No,
Speaker 1: those are exhausting. Those are too much. But it's because
Speaker 1: cameras around, or just because it's it makes it more
Speaker 1: exciting because the cameras are around. But if I were
Speaker 1: to go in a hellcap to write with just actually,
Speaker 1: it would be fun, it would be cool, but I
Speaker 1: would not want to do it all the time. That's
Speaker 1: like a once a year type thing, a big extravagant one,
Speaker 1: and then you know, we actually and I try to
Speaker 1: go out like at least once a month have date night,
Speaker 1: but most of the time stay in. We order in,
Speaker 1: watch a movie in pajamas. It's just the best. We
Speaker 1: are a couple of goals. I love it, oh Man,
Speaker 1: But yeah, what about you, Vanessa? Uh No, I don't
Speaker 1: like extravagant dates. I someone I like surprises. I like
Speaker 1: small surprises, like, oh, I We're going out for dinner somewhere,
Speaker 1: and it'll be my favorite takeout restaurant. You know, I'll
Speaker 1: eat in the car. Like to me, little moments like
Speaker 1: that are more significant than puking on a What was
Speaker 1: that thing that I did? Would you puke? Oh? You
Speaker 1: went you went into space or something? Yeah? The anti gravity. Yes. Um.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing about big dates, too expensive date, extravagant dates.
Speaker 1: It's truly about the environment. Because honestly, every time I
Speaker 1: go out to dinner and I pay for Ashley because
Speaker 1: I want to. It's a date night, I'm the guy
Speaker 1: in the relationship. I'm paying, you know, And so we
Speaker 1: end up spending like for two people say, we spend
Speaker 1: like including tip ad fifty bucks because we go to
Speaker 1: a really nice place and both Ashley and it's not terrible,
Speaker 1: but both Ashley and I come up with the same consensus,
Speaker 1: which is, did we enjoy this meal as much as
Speaker 1: we would have had we ordered mcconn's, you know, because
Speaker 1: we love fast like just not not like, but you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like sometimes our favorite date night
Speaker 1: is like going to Burger King. You know. I know
Speaker 1: that might sound stupid, but that like if I'm ordering
Speaker 1: a fifty dollar you know, fifty five dollar filet from
Speaker 1: this restaurant, that's really good, But do I enjoy it
Speaker 1: more than I would have if I ordered a big Mac?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't tell you that. I can
Speaker 1: tell you one of my favorite dates that goes down
Speaker 1: in history with me and my wife would be I
Speaker 1: took her on a date, a surprise date, to Chuck
Speaker 1: E Cheese and it was just the two of us
Speaker 1: and it was so fun. I just thought, like, here's
Speaker 1: a loaded card full of tons of money, go and
Speaker 1: let's just play games. And it was so different and
Speaker 1: there's kids running around everywhere, but it was it wasn't
Speaker 1: a typical meal out of Morton Steakhouse. It was us
Speaker 1: just having fun together. That's my favorite type of date
Speaker 1: because I love going up, but I love the element
Speaker 1: of surprise doing something different. Now, Chuck E Cheese is
Speaker 1: a dude. But you know, I think because we don't
Speaker 1: have Chucky cheese in Canada, you guys don't have to.
Speaker 1: I've been to boomers. It's kind of the same idea. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you guys remember it was like discover Discover Zone.
Speaker 1: Anybody Discovery Zone. Discovery Zone sounds familiar, anybody. It was
Speaker 1: like the It was like the b version of Chuck
Speaker 1: E Cheese. Maybe maybe I shouldn't admit that that's where
Speaker 1: my parents took me as a kid. I love that.
Speaker 1: I love that you brought Uh wait, will you you
Speaker 1: married at the time? Was that your wife or just
Speaker 1: there was my girlfriend at the time. Okay, but I
Speaker 1: love that idea of bringing your church chuck and cheese
Speaker 1: because I always trying to think of things that are
Speaker 1: outside our comfort zone. The problem is actually it doesn't
Speaker 1: like to do like play sports or anything. So I
Speaker 1: would I would be totally down, like let's go bowling, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, and she's like, we you know, let's stay
Speaker 1: in and watch you on Netflix or you know. So
Speaker 1: it's like, oh no, we should go to like the
Speaker 1: batting cages. But she she does a good job of
Speaker 1: of being there for me. She'll come to the bat
Speaker 1: and cages, she'll swing the bat, She'll have a good time.
Speaker 1: I've got I've got a cool date night. If you're interested.
Speaker 1: I'm always interested in In Anaheim, there is a place
Speaker 1: called the Packing House, and they've got a secret hidden
Speaker 1: bar inside the packing House. You go and you have
Speaker 1: to like knock on the door that speak easy, Speak easy,
Speaker 1: and it's just like a hidden wall and it opens
Speaker 1: up and it's a door and they've got this bar
Speaker 1: in there, and it's all candlelit and it's romantic and
Speaker 1: it's really cool. It's called the Blind right. I love it.
Speaker 1: We've gone there a couple of times. What's it called again,
Speaker 1: the Blind Rabbit? The Blind Rabbit. I checked that out
Speaker 1: easter and I saw you shaking your head. Have you
Speaker 1: been to the Blind Rabbit. I haven't been to Blind Rabbit,
Speaker 1: but I've been to the Packing House a number of times.
Speaker 1: I love that. You love it, right, It's so cool.
Speaker 1: It's a nice hidden gym just down the street from
Speaker 1: the Magic Kingdom. Yeah, of course it's right down the share.
Speaker 1: Is it near a cheesecake factory? By any chance? Eastern
Speaker 1: possibly the best cheesecake factory at the Anaheim Garden walks.
Speaker 1: Good God, Mark down there, No, No, I'm just a fan.
Speaker 1: I think Eastern goes to Magic Kingdom once every two weeks,
Speaker 1: at least once a week. I gotta get that annual pass.
Speaker 1: I gotta make it worth it down there. Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I Mark. Have you done any like, what's your biggest
Speaker 1: surprise date that you've done? You make surprise guy? Yeah.
Speaker 1: I tried to do a big surprise party for her
Speaker 1: for a birthday this year. I tried to do concerts
Speaker 1: as a surprise. She it's it's a weird balance because
Speaker 1: she loves it and hates it at the same time, Like,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm putting more effort into make me
Speaker 1: more special if I don't tell her what it is
Speaker 1: ahead of time, but she hates it that I'm not
Speaker 1: telling her what it to ahead of time, but then
Speaker 1: when we get there, she's delighted by it. So it's
Speaker 1: a line you're walking, But I'd like to give it
Speaker 1: a surprise. I like that, Vanessa. Have you ever planned
Speaker 1: a surprise date for a guy? Yes, and I'm trying to.
Speaker 1: I think recently I just planned something. I have the
Speaker 1: worst memory I like planning things on random occasions, not
Speaker 1: like hey it's your birthday or hey it's Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: I like a random day in the week. It makes
Speaker 1: it more romantic and special. He actually so, my boyfriend
Speaker 1: just surprised me one morning. We woke up and he's like,
Speaker 1: all right, get pack he told me, like, pack warm clothing.
Speaker 1: I mean it's like minus twenty five and Montreal. He's like,
Speaker 1: packwarm clothing, bringing a pair of boots and get in
Speaker 1: the car. And he's like, we have a two hour drive,
Speaker 1: so you can follow a sleep if you want. Like,
Speaker 1: I have no idea where we're going. He brought me
Speaker 1: to this place in Montreal where it's an ice drink
Speaker 1: in the forest. So the entire path is like miles
Speaker 1: of just ice skating through the forest. And it was
Speaker 1: the most romantic ad. It was like kind of like
Speaker 1: a bachelor date just like it was. There was lights,
Speaker 1: and you could stop at different shacks and have like
Speaker 1: a hot chocolate and a coffee and it was really beautiful.
Speaker 1: Your silver Fox knows what he's doing. I respect him.
Speaker 1: I appreciate that you actually planned dates to like I
Speaker 1: heard you say that in there, and I feel that
Speaker 1: a lot of women look at men like you should
Speaker 1: plan the date, but I like being surprised the other
Speaker 1: way around. There's girls out there listening like white a
Speaker 1: date for your dude, because it's pretty often. Yeah, to
Speaker 1: give credit, Ashley has planning dates for me and they've
Speaker 1: been pretty incredible. Um, So before you go, I just
Speaker 1: said one question about this vacation. There's different percentages I
Speaker 1: don't know if you've seen this that we're um given
Speaker 1: out to Like, for example, factors for successful vacation. Uh,
Speaker 1: it says that picking the right destination somewhere both partners
Speaker 1: are interested in that's six, that's super high. Well, these
Speaker 1: are basically for it to be a good vacation because
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that can go wrong. So
Speaker 1: they're saying, if you pick a spot where you both
Speaker 1: are interested, there's a much better chance that this is
Speaker 1: going to turn out for you that making like you said,
Speaker 1: a budget so that you're going into it and one
Speaker 1: person is thinking you're staying at the four Seasons and
Speaker 1: the other person is like, no, I was thinking more
Speaker 1: like Motel six. You've got to kind of be on
Speaker 1: the same page with with spending money. The other thing
Speaker 1: just good planning, so you know where you're going, and
Speaker 1: then you you've got to be able to compromise and
Speaker 1: that you're serious about each other. You don't want to
Speaker 1: just go because one person likes the other person more.
Speaker 1: So those are like the successful factors as for the
Speaker 1: top challenges. So they were overwhelmed by the stress of
Speaker 1: chanel of traveling. You said that, um, disagreeing on what
Speaker 1: the activities are gonna be. And then we were talking
Speaker 1: before this about just backseat driving, like how bad it
Speaker 1: is if you're stuck with someone full time and backseat driving,
Speaker 1: how it kills you. Because my wife sometimes she'll she'd
Speaker 1: be like, you need speed up, you need drive fast,
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking you drive our kids around? Is Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's actually a good point. By the way, the kid
Speaker 1: of your video, the video, the video that you posted
Speaker 1: of your kid with the weed. Oh my daughter, Yes,
Speaker 1: I didn't see it. You did, Okay. So there was
Speaker 1: a video that went around that went viral of a
Speaker 1: little redheaded girl saying that she told her teachers at
Speaker 1: school that her parents grow out of weed. You've seen
Speaker 1: that video? That was my daughter? Yeah, my daughter got
Speaker 1: somewhere like do you grow a lot of weed. She
Speaker 1: was referring to weeds. Okay, got you. But the video
Speaker 1: got like amazing how one little letter gets dropped off
Speaker 1: a word and it changes the meeting entire Like It's
Speaker 1: got like two hundred million views. It's ridiculous. So that's
Speaker 1: my daughter. She's six cutest little snitch, I've everything, cutest
Speaker 1: little tattle tale this sun of um Well, Dax, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for coming in. Uh yeah, anything else
Speaker 1: you and drop where people can find you. I would say,
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Speaker 1: are at the Hollywood Pipeline dot com. We're always breaking
Speaker 1: a lot of cool photos videos. Like you said, the
Speaker 1: set stuff has been huge for us, and just trying
Speaker 1: to make a name for myself in the entertainment in Yeah. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: Like you said, if TMZ and Instagram had a baby,
Speaker 1: the Hollow populine, Yes, so much coming in. Thanks guy. Alright,
Speaker 1: so we've talked about it countless times on this podcast.
Speaker 1: It's one of my top priorities. I know Jared and
Speaker 1: Vanessa feel the same way, and that is just creating
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Speaker 1: so next, I'm very excited about our special guess if
Speaker 1: you watch The Bachelor the hometown dates, you will recognize
Speaker 1: this wonderful woman. She's an ediquin coach. Amy Rayner's here
Speaker 1: with us. Thank you so much for calling in. Hey,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for having me. I'm actually kind
Speaker 1: of scared to speak because I'm like, what if I
Speaker 1: don't use the right terminology? Am I gonna get? I know?
Speaker 1: I feel like I need to pronounce my words so perfectly.
Speaker 1: You think maybe I'll bless your heart with the telephone
Speaker 1: for all for all our audience out there. If you
Speaker 1: watch The Bachelor, which I'm sure you do, last night.
Speaker 1: Amy was on an episode of the Bachelor with Colton
Speaker 1: and it was Hannah Jee's hometown and Obama, Alabama, and Amy,
Speaker 1: you were an etiquette teacher and you were teaching Coulton
Speaker 1: some dinner etiquette before he went to Hannah Gee's house.
Speaker 1: Exactly how did that come about? Did they contact you?
Speaker 1: Did you reach out? They contacted me. Apparently each girl
Speaker 1: gets to choose she'd like to do on her hometown date,
Speaker 1: and so Hannah requested a private etiquette lesson for she
Speaker 1: and Colton, and so the producers um emailed me the
Speaker 1: week before they came to Birmingham. So that's the rest
Speaker 1: is history and the rest of history. Ye. So, and
Speaker 1: I think I know that in the South we do
Speaker 1: things a little bit differently sometimes, and so I think
Speaker 1: it was a sweet idea for Hannah. She wanted to,
Speaker 1: I think, sort of spotlight her Southern roots and some
Speaker 1: Southern hospitality, and she also wanted to help Coulton feel
Speaker 1: comfortable when he met his her family. Do you specialize
Speaker 1: in dinner etiquette or table etiquette, I should say, or
Speaker 1: is it just an overall etiquette of life. I do
Speaker 1: etiquette lessons and I usually do four parts and table
Speaker 1: manners is one of the things that we do one
Speaker 1: of the weeks. What are the other three? So? Um, Well,
Speaker 1: I teach classes for late these and for gentlemen, and
Speaker 1: so in the gentleman classes we talk about chivalrists behaviors
Speaker 1: and um we also talk about developing our inner character
Speaker 1: qualities and having respect for other people and empathy and kindness. Um.
Speaker 1: What we talk about. We do focus heavily on table
Speaker 1: manners with ladies and gentlemen. Um. So you do etiquette
Speaker 1: pretty much of somebody's life, you know, character, personality, not
Speaker 1: just table etiquette as well. Because it's funny when when
Speaker 1: I was watching last night, all I can think about
Speaker 1: was a scene from Pretty Woman where she's at the
Speaker 1: dinner table with all the very rich men that Richard
Speaker 1: Gears friends with and she doesn't know which is the
Speaker 1: salad fork. I don't know what fork is which and
Speaker 1: she like flings the oyster. I think it was her
Speaker 1: the meat ball and somebody else's dish. Yeah, let me um,
Speaker 1: let me tell you sort of in my opinion, what
Speaker 1: I think. I sort of want to clear some things up.
Speaker 1: America's to having a hard time with the bread and
Speaker 1: the butter. Twitter is having a hard time. Everybody needs
Speaker 1: to come down just a little bit, and we're gonna
Speaker 1: we'll get to that. But I want to explain, UM,
Speaker 1: maybe I want to say what etiquette isn't I think
Speaker 1: that a lot of people think that etiquette is maybe
Speaker 1: a stuck up set of rule that UM caused some
Speaker 1: people to look down in judgment on other people. And
Speaker 1: that is not what it is in my opinion. Etiquette
Speaker 1: has two parts, and the first part is how we
Speaker 1: present ourselves. And those are some of the things that
Speaker 1: we talked, Uh. I talked to Colton about things like
Speaker 1: your eye contact and your posture and your speech and
Speaker 1: your handsake, having a nice firm handshake, UM, in your
Speaker 1: table manners. But the second part of etiquette is, and
Speaker 1: it may even be more important than how we present ourselves.
Speaker 1: That's how we treat other people. And it's treating other
Speaker 1: people with courtesy and respects and kindness. How do we
Speaker 1: treat somebody else if we have a difference of opinion, um,
Speaker 1: Because you can know which sport to use when you
Speaker 1: sit down, but if you can't treat other people with kindness,
Speaker 1: really none of the other stuff really matters. So UM,
Speaker 1: that's kind of an overview of how I view etiquette
Speaker 1: and how the limbs through with that teach by classes.
Speaker 1: Are there different etiquettes for females and males? Um, there
Speaker 1: are several different several different things, Like some of the
Speaker 1: table manners are different, Um, some of the Now can
Speaker 1: you point some out different? Yeah? Let me let me.
Speaker 1: Let's pretend for at the table and let me give
Speaker 1: y'all maybe five little table manners nuggets that you can
Speaker 1: take away. Okay, all right? So the first I think
Speaker 1: is most importantly, let's talk about the buttering of the bread.
Speaker 1: That is most important, really, right it really? I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: it's the most important. So when you butter your bread, um,
Speaker 1: you want to tear off one bite and butter that
Speaker 1: one bite at a time. I think that's what got
Speaker 1: everybody all up in arms. And I think Colton even said,
Speaker 1: if I can quote Coulton, I think he should. I
Speaker 1: don't have time for that. Of I don't know how
Speaker 1: to butter the bread. I just eat it, Okay, I
Speaker 1: just eat it. And also, before I go any further,
Speaker 1: let me let me just say that also when I
Speaker 1: teach these things, I try to view them through a lens,
Speaker 1: not so much as a um, I think we need
Speaker 1: to move away from thinking that's the right way to
Speaker 1: do something and that's the wrong way to do something.
Speaker 1: I think if we can use things through a lense
Speaker 1: of in different situations, there are things that are just good, better,
Speaker 1: or best for this situation that we're in, and if
Speaker 1: we don't really look at that's wrong, that's wrong, that's right,
Speaker 1: that's right, and we think this may be is the
Speaker 1: best way to handle this situation. For instance, is my
Speaker 1: husband and I went to Jim and Nicks here in Birmingham, Alabama.
Speaker 1: It's a barbecue restaurant. I'm probably not going to tear
Speaker 1: off each tiny bite of my garlettter biscuit and butter it.
Speaker 1: At the barbecue restaurants. This practical. So it's as long
Speaker 1: as people are familiar and know when it's the best
Speaker 1: time to exercise some of these things, Hopefully that will
Speaker 1: make people feel more comfortable in the situation. So hypothetically speaking,
Speaker 1: if I'm dating Vanessa and I'm going to her parents
Speaker 1: house to meet her parents for the first time, I
Speaker 1: should be grabbing bread and then ripping off little pieces
Speaker 1: and buttering each one. It seems exhausting. Amy you're tearing
Speaker 1: off quarter size pieces. We'll let me say this if
Speaker 1: it's exhausting, So let's let's let's see if that's say
Speaker 1: well with Vanessa and her parents. And I think it
Speaker 1: might just be best to tear off one bite at
Speaker 1: a time so that you could manage smaller bite past pieces,
Speaker 1: so that if her father asked you a question, you
Speaker 1: don't have a huge mouthful of foods. So maybe that's
Speaker 1: one of those situations where it is best to tear
Speaker 1: it off bit by bit. All right, that's fair. So
Speaker 1: what are one of the other four nuggets? Okay, let's
Speaker 1: go on to a couple other nuggets. Um, if someone
Speaker 1: asked for the salt, what would you pass them the salt?
Speaker 1: If someone asked for the salt, you have passed them
Speaker 1: the salt and the pepper, and the salt and pepper
Speaker 1: always passed together. So there's just who made up that rule?
Speaker 1: You know, I really can't tell you who made us
Speaker 1: all of these things, but I have I went through
Speaker 1: an etiquette class when I was in seventh grade, and
Speaker 1: these things has been around since then. I like that.
Speaker 1: I think it's a good gesture. I like, yeah, um, okay,
Speaker 1: there's one Okay, now, this is this is helpful, This
Speaker 1: is super helpful. You're gonna have to use your imagination.
Speaker 1: But when you're in a crowded let's say that we're
Speaker 1: at a round table. Let's say we're at Vanessas house
Speaker 1: again with her family, and we're at a round cable
Speaker 1: and you sit down and it's a crowded table and
Speaker 1: you can't decide which one is your drink. And that's
Speaker 1: happened that, that's happened so often because things are so close.
Speaker 1: If you will make a lowercase BE in a lower
Speaker 1: case D with your hands, and imagine that you're putting
Speaker 1: those lowercase letters on either side of a plate beside
Speaker 1: where your lower case B is. That is, decide where
Speaker 1: your bread plate would go, and the side with the
Speaker 1: lowercase D is your drink. So that's a great way
Speaker 1: to be able to distinguish which one is your bread
Speaker 1: plate and which one is your drink. Oh, because I
Speaker 1: can't make a wait what wait? So am I putting
Speaker 1: D before B? Are you putting? Are you making a
Speaker 1: lower case and a lowercase with your hands? Yes? So,
Speaker 1: because I can't make a lower case E with my
Speaker 1: right hand, it'd be it'd be back with bread. Wait
Speaker 1: B for bread. I think a D is left hands,
Speaker 1: the lowercase B is on your left hand, and the
Speaker 1: lower case D is on your right hand. Making how
Speaker 1: do I make a lower case B B is like
Speaker 1: a bubble going towards the right side. Yeah, exactly. This
Speaker 1: is proving to be more difficult than I thought it
Speaker 1: would be. Obviously. Yeah, you didn't look us up on
Speaker 1: the podcast Reality TV Personalities. I I can't tell my
Speaker 1: CS between my D s. I don't know. I'll tell
Speaker 1: you what. Let's move on to nugget number four. You've
Speaker 1: been to a restaurant before where sometimes your utensels are
Speaker 1: rolled up in your napkins and you have to unroll
Speaker 1: the napkin and place your napkin in your lap, and
Speaker 1: then you are putting your own utensils out. Very easy
Speaker 1: way to remember which side your forks we'll go on
Speaker 1: is fork is spelled S O r K, and the
Speaker 1: word left is spelled L E F T. They both
Speaker 1: have four letters, and then the spoon and the nine
Speaker 1: does each tough five letters, and they go on the right,
Speaker 1: which also has five letters. Because that's an easy way.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, that's easy. That's a really good trick. That's
Speaker 1: a good nugget. And then last nugget has to do
Speaker 1: with your napkins. Um. You unfold the dinner napkin one time,
Speaker 1: so it's a nice bar direct tangle, um. And then
Speaker 1: you gentlemen place the dinner napkin over their left legs
Speaker 1: while ladies place the dinner napkin over both legs. And
Speaker 1: you do this so that if someone comes to the
Speaker 1: table to visit, a gentleman can stand up and shake
Speaker 1: hands and he can hold onto the napkin with his
Speaker 1: left hand that's on his left leg, and he can
Speaker 1: spends his right hand in a handshake. Ohadi. The ladies
Speaker 1: stay seated unless but the lady can you know, I'm
Speaker 1: like no, that's i'mn't going in straight for the hug.
Speaker 1: Then go okay. So whenever you get up from the table,
Speaker 1: if you're a you're a one who's getting up and
Speaker 1: you're going in for the hugs, you can take your
Speaker 1: napkin and you price it in your chair. Okay, So
Speaker 1: your napkin, and if you excuse yourself from the table
Speaker 1: for any reason, you're napkin always scares in your chair.
Speaker 1: And at the end of the meal, when you're completely finished,
Speaker 1: you loosely folter your napkin back up and place it
Speaker 1: to the left of your clip. So what's your opinion
Speaker 1: on if I if I'm eating an olive and there's
Speaker 1: a pit, am I spitting that out? Okay? There's there's
Speaker 1: a rule that says that however something goes in your
Speaker 1: mouth is the way that something comes out. For instance,
Speaker 1: if you're eating chicken and you have a tiny bit
Speaker 1: of a bone, you would put that bone back on
Speaker 1: the fork and remove it and put it to the
Speaker 1: side of your plate. So with an olive, if you've
Speaker 1: put that olive in your mouth with your hand hand,
Speaker 1: then you would gently take that out with your fingers.
Speaker 1: It does kind of conceal the action, and that makes
Speaker 1: sense instead of just like spitting it back on your
Speaker 1: plate right making making a big production of it. So
Speaker 1: do you have any advice for not just physical etiquette,
Speaker 1: but maybe a tip for etiquette when you're meeting someone's
Speaker 1: parents or somebody's friends, your significant other's friends for the
Speaker 1: first time, something that the audience can you know I
Speaker 1: said this the colton and I did not get to
Speaker 1: spent I've probably spent um from start to finish Our
Speaker 1: whole taking time was probably two hours, and he was delightful.
Speaker 1: And I could see when he and Hannah were together
Speaker 1: and when they were laughing, and when they would kind
Speaker 1: of walk off to the side and I might be
Speaker 1: talking to producers about something else. It was so genuine
Speaker 1: and so real to see that the way that they
Speaker 1: interacted with each other. I think what I would say
Speaker 1: two people who are meeting a significant other family for
Speaker 1: the first time is be yourself and be genuine, um,
Speaker 1: be real, be fair, be kind, um all of these things.
Speaker 1: Just let your real self shine through. Oh it's fair enough.
Speaker 1: I like that. Well, Amy, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining the podcast today. Thank you for hearing me. I
Speaker 1: enjoy getting stut to you. No. Absolutely, and then is
Speaker 1: there anything where you want to tell the audience to
Speaker 1: go to find more about you or your etiquette classes? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: I Actually I teach. I teach classes in Birmingham, Alabama.
Speaker 1: But I'm working on an ambassador program right now and
Speaker 1: I am going to be delivering the lesson content through
Speaker 1: video segment. But it will be a revenue share program
Speaker 1: where I'll be hiring people to facilitate my curriculum and
Speaker 1: other cities. So if that interest anybody. I'd left for
Speaker 1: you to check out my website. It's Etiquette with Amy
Speaker 1: Rayner dot com. That's great, perfect, perfect. Thank you so much, Amy. Okay,
Speaker 1: thank you for your okay, bye bye bye. Um. Do
Speaker 1: you know of an etiquette that I learned? Do you
Speaker 1: ever watch the movie A Bronx Tail? Yeah, of course, okay,
Speaker 1: so you know where the remember I remember their character's names,
Speaker 1: but like his father figure or whatever, was like, well,
Speaker 1: you know if this one is a real one. If
Speaker 1: she you walk, if you open the car door for
Speaker 1: her and then you walk around your car and she
Speaker 1: opens the door for you from inside, you know she's
Speaker 1: a keeper. You ever watch that scene? And I like,
Speaker 1: I guess that's how I learned it. But I love
Speaker 1: opening my boyfriend's car door when he opens the door
Speaker 1: for me. I'm like, I'm open the door for you
Speaker 1: from in I and I feel like that's a cute
Speaker 1: little gesture that girls shouldn't do. I like that. You
Speaker 1: can't do as much anymore because the automatic, right, it's
Speaker 1: a different world. Now, my wife, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Because when I unlocked the car and unlocks all the doors,
Speaker 1: so no, I know, but I want to physically open
Speaker 1: the door for him, push it open. That's a tough
Speaker 1: little maneuver you're doing there. But here's no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: she's saying. What happens is hold on, let's get this picture.
Speaker 1: He's sitting in the driver's seat seat, she's in the
Speaker 1: passenger seat. He stops the car, parks the car, gets
Speaker 1: out if his door, goes around the car to open
Speaker 1: up the passenger side door for his girlfriend. But as
Speaker 1: he's doing that, Vanessa opens up the door at the
Speaker 1: same time. Correct, no, no, So we go into a restaurant.
Speaker 1: He opens my door. I sit down and as he's
Speaker 1: walking to his door, the driver's seat door, I op over.
Speaker 1: I opened the door and I pushed the door open
Speaker 1: just a little bit so it can be like, you know,
Speaker 1: like a little gesture of like I opened the door
Speaker 1: for you to They's not easy for the passion to
Speaker 1: reach all the way over and push it open. That's
Speaker 1: that's not post it completely open, but just like you know,
Speaker 1: just a little bit together that you appreciated. That's why
Speaker 1: it's a good gesture because it shows effort. Yes, we'll say,
Speaker 1: my wife goes the extra mile when I opened the
Speaker 1: door for her she gets instarts the car to see
Speaker 1: if there's a bomb in there. Oh that's so nice.
Speaker 1: So she'll be the one that blows up and you'll
Speaker 1: be safe and I'll get away. Wow, that's now, that's
Speaker 1: a keeper right there. That's somebody who's seen one too
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Speaker 1: sure he's safe. Seriously. Yeah, nothing can happen to east
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Speaker 1: I wanted to get to a topic that we tease
Speaker 1: a little bit earlier in the podcast. Vanessa. Did you
Speaker 1: watch the Oscars on Sunday? I did, okay, well, but
Speaker 1: I missed the most significant part of the Oscars. Tell
Speaker 1: me you did not miss the duo? Did? I don't
Speaker 1: want to talk about Yeah, I did. You missed Shallows? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that was the only like five minutes I missed.
Speaker 1: I remember what I was doing, but I remember hearing them, like,
Speaker 1: oh are they singing together? Anyway? Even want to recap
Speaker 1: it for me? I mean, it's really hard to put
Speaker 1: into words. Honestly, It's one of those moments you just
Speaker 1: had to see for yourself. Um. I saw the ending
Speaker 1: where she looks at him and she's like like doing
Speaker 1: this with her eyelashes. Well, I will say, let me
Speaker 1: preface this by saying, I do think Lady Gaga might
Speaker 1: be a little over dramatic at times. I I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm breaking news with that. When she won Shallow,
Speaker 1: the best song everybody knew was coming, and she worked
Speaker 1: so hard for that moment. I'm happy for it, but
Speaker 1: it was like she won the pull A Surprize. Um.
Speaker 1: But that moment in USA, Oh my god. Because we
Speaker 1: talked about the podcast last week how Lady Gaga ended
Speaker 1: her has a new tattoo. But even the tattoo, you know,
Speaker 1: it's a little ambiguous whatever, But the fact that she
Speaker 1: ended her engagement very sad, very sad. We're not rooting
Speaker 1: for any relationships and moving forward from that. So it
Speaker 1: was awesome because they didn't even intro the song. That's
Speaker 1: how badass the star is born and this song Shallow
Speaker 1: is there was no freaking intro. Okay, every other song,
Speaker 1: the artists came out, talked up about the song, and
Speaker 1: then they introd the song, and then the artist came
Speaker 1: out and sang it. They didn't even do that for Shallow.
Speaker 1: What happened was they just started somebody won the award.
Speaker 1: I forget what what what award it was, and they
Speaker 1: cleared off the stage and all of a sudden there
Speaker 1: was a camera behind the curtain. We're like, oh, what's
Speaker 1: this And then all a sudden, the curtain opened, and
Speaker 1: they pulled a piano out on the stage and you
Speaker 1: can hear shallow start playing, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: it was just the piano on stage with two mike's
Speaker 1: and then the camera went past the piano to where
Speaker 1: the audience was, and then they showed Lady Gaga and
Speaker 1: Bradley Cooper get up from their seats and on stage.
Speaker 1: It was holy, that's what it was. You have to YouTube.
Speaker 1: I've already watched it three times. So they sit down.
Speaker 1: There was I mean, I'm sure you've seen it all
Speaker 1: over news publications this past this a couple of days.
Speaker 1: The sexual tension between those two people. There's there's no
Speaker 1: way they're faking that. And if I was Bradley Cooper's girlfriend,
Speaker 1: he would never be allowed to leave the house again.
Speaker 1: Because I even I haven't asked Ashley, I said, what
Speaker 1: would you do if you saw another woman look at
Speaker 1: me the way that Lady Gaga is looking at Bradley
Speaker 1: Cooper right now? And I see looking at it like that,
Speaker 1: or she looking at him because it's a performance, and
Speaker 1: like yeah, she exaggerates. Now, I was thinking the same thing.
Speaker 1: I was thinking maybe they're in character. I'm sure there
Speaker 1: was some dramatics to it. But you know how when
Speaker 1: you watched two people together and you just think yourself,
Speaker 1: oh god, there's something there. That's what it was. That's
Speaker 1: why people are freaking out because it's hard to fake that.
Speaker 1: And even Bradley Cooper said something. He was on the
Speaker 1: Stephen Colber Show a couple of days before the Oscars
Speaker 1: and he said Stephen Colbert asked him, will Bradley Cooper
Speaker 1: be performing or will Jackson Maine be performing? You know,
Speaker 1: is he gonna be performing as Jackson Maine or is
Speaker 1: it Bradley Cooper, you just yourself? And he said, Jackson
Speaker 1: Maine is no more. He was like, now he's gone.
Speaker 1: His quote is he's gone. I'm not going to try
Speaker 1: to get back, you know, into character, but you know
Speaker 1: I will be me singing. And so that obviously made
Speaker 1: people think, well, brad Bradley, there was you, not Vanessa.
Speaker 1: There was a moment when they were on stage it
Speaker 1: looked like they were gonna kiss. They both he it
Speaker 1: was weird because she she was staring at him and
Speaker 1: anxiety for his girlfriend. Oh, I don't blame you, but
Speaker 1: well I'll tell you in a second. There's an article
Speaker 1: that I'll read to you. But she was looking at him,
Speaker 1: and he leaned in to sing into the mic because
Speaker 1: there was a part where he was on one mic
Speaker 1: and she was in the other. And then she did
Speaker 1: her solo part and he came around the piano and
Speaker 1: then sat next to her on the piano and they
Speaker 1: started singing together. But he leaned in for the mic
Speaker 1: and it looked like she was leaning in for a kiss.
Speaker 1: I can't make this now unless they rehearse that. And
Speaker 1: his girlfriend was okay with that, because hey, listen, baby,
Speaker 1: it's all for the you know, it's all for the movie.
Speaker 1: It's all for the moment. It means nothing. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I could buy that. Yeah, after the whole
Speaker 1: thing happened with Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, I mean
Speaker 1: I would be anxious a little bit as um girlfriend,
Speaker 1: just because I mean, you don't know, like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: do get into character. But I think when two people
Speaker 1: just have really good chemistry. But then again, is it
Speaker 1: is it the characters that had good chemistry or was
Speaker 1: it the actors that had good chemistry? I think it
Speaker 1: was the actors. This is why the chemistry was so
Speaker 1: good on and off screen. I hate saying. I watched
Speaker 1: Lady Gaga's documentary and she basically didn't even have to audition.
Speaker 1: Bradley Cooper just called and says, I'm making a movie
Speaker 1: and you're gonna start on it. Yeah, that's what I
Speaker 1: heard too. But then I heard I think pre Oscar Show,
Speaker 1: somebody said that Bradley Cooper wanted Beyonce to originally play
Speaker 1: Ali in the movie, and it would be it would
Speaker 1: have been interesting to see their chemistry if Bradley Cooper
Speaker 1: continue to play Jackson Maine. Um, but Beyonce I think
Speaker 1: turned it down for for whatever reason. Um. And the
Speaker 1: thing about Lady Gaga, and like you say, when when
Speaker 1: two people act together and they have this chemistry on screen,
Speaker 1: I mean, whether people a minute or not, it translate
Speaker 1: off screen. And point A would be on the Oscars.
Speaker 1: Rommi Malick wins Best Actor. He starts kissing the girl
Speaker 1: to his left. His girlfriends he couldn't stop kissing her.
Speaker 1: And it's the girl that he played that played his
Speaker 1: girlfriend in Bohemian Rhapsody, and they met on set and
Speaker 1: they're dating. Now. There's got to be something about being
Speaker 1: on those movie sets because this happened. So how can
Speaker 1: it not? I know, I know of a friend of
Speaker 1: a friend of mine who basically was dating this actor
Speaker 1: and he would always fall up with his cold stars
Speaker 1: and she was so insecure every time he would sign
Speaker 1: on to a new movie. Um, and now he's dating
Speaker 1: another one of his cool stars. Yeah, it's scary, but
Speaker 1: now here's here's the alternative. Um. Because I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people also shipped Leo Leonardo DiCaprio and Angelina
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he wins after Titanic. Everybody wanted them
Speaker 1: together and they have ended up becoming. Oh. I even
Speaker 1: as a as a boy, I was like, yeah, like
Speaker 1: I want them to be together. Jack and Rose. Come on?
Speaker 1: Then I see you didn't ship them. I can't believe
Speaker 1: I'm saying ship who might become. You know who's a
Speaker 1: good example of the onset romance, and I think she's
Speaker 1: fantastic is Jennifer Garner. If you were to get involved
Speaker 1: with Jennifer Garner, I'd be concerned when she goes off
Speaker 1: to do a movie because she was doing Felicity when
Speaker 1: she met Scott Foley and married him, then they got divorced,
Speaker 1: and then she was doing Alias and she got with
Speaker 1: Michael Vartan and they got together and then they split
Speaker 1: up and they started digging ben Affleck, who she met
Speaker 1: on the seat of Pearl Harbor and Daredevil. I forgot
Speaker 1: they got married Devil because I was thinking to myself,
Speaker 1: where did she meet ben Affleck them? Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: of course that little saucy thing. It's it is nerve
Speaker 1: racking though, But maybe maybe Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga
Speaker 1: are more like Leo and Kate were. Maybe they're just
Speaker 1: best friends. Because there was also an article in Cosmopolitan saying,
Speaker 1: because Bradley's girlfriend, her name is, is it Irena or Arena, well,
Speaker 1: Eatina and her arena Eatina shayak. I think it's a
Speaker 1: shake shake. Yeah, I think it's shake Okay, arena shake,
Speaker 1: sorry from pronouncing that really poorly, uh, saying that it
Speaker 1: pretty much was an article talking about how she felt
Speaker 1: during that moment watching Lady Gaga and her boyfriend Bradley
Speaker 1: Cooper up on stage, and apparently she was fine with it.
Speaker 1: And it says like a source close to US Weekly
Speaker 1: said that Arena knows that Bradley and Gaga are oddists, artists.
Speaker 1: It's a nuance for her. They were in character putting
Speaker 1: on an oscar performance. So maybe they're just really good
Speaker 1: friends in the three of them. But do you think
Speaker 1: she would actually admit if she felt uncomfortable? Hell no, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you don't want to. I think we want
Speaker 1: to sometimes not admit what we're feeling, but it can
Speaker 1: come out and it can display it in other ways.
Speaker 1: So we don't know what the relationship is like, We
Speaker 1: don't know what kind of conversation she may have had
Speaker 1: with him. If it were me, I would definitely be
Speaker 1: having a sit down conversation with Bradley Cooper after that performance.
Speaker 1: I feel like if it was you, Bradley would have numerables,
Speaker 1: it would it would be chopped off in your hands, like,
Speaker 1: try that one more time, Try one more Why do
Speaker 1: you say that? Because you're just a very empowered woman,
Speaker 1: and you know, I just I can see that. What's
Speaker 1: your what's your boyfriend's name again? John? Josh? Josh? Oh? Yeah, Josh?
Speaker 1: Ever tried that? Oh he'd be on that pond alone
Speaker 1: in the forest, sleeping there for weeks. Okay, let's let's
Speaker 1: let's chill. Let's chill. I have a very honest um
Speaker 1: relationship with him, and he knows my insecurities and I
Speaker 1: know his insecurities, and we don't try to play like
Speaker 1: we're too cool and we're you know, he's recal, suave,
Speaker 1: macho man that doesn't have any like insecurities of his own.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what made us so Um, that's
Speaker 1: what made our relationship so strong from the very beginning,
Speaker 1: where we're just like, this is what it is, is
Speaker 1: what I am, this is, this is the that I
Speaker 1: had to do with in my past, and um, and
Speaker 1: we try to work through it and whenever there's something
Speaker 1: that does come up, I mean, I was reading this
Speaker 1: quote and I want to find it because it's so true.
Speaker 1: Are you a big quote person? Yeahs? Are you much
Speaker 1: of our childhood maybe unstayable, but it's not inexpressible. And
Speaker 1: transference lets the story be told in spite of our mutiness.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, can you translate that for? Yeah? We act,
Speaker 1: We act out what we cannot quite cry out. So
Speaker 1: if someone is showing you something, it's because there they
Speaker 1: may not be able to express it, but they're showing
Speaker 1: you what they're feeling in their behaviors. So I don't
Speaker 1: know why I brought this up while we were talking
Speaker 1: about maybe Irena Bradley's girlfriend is a little nervous to
Speaker 1: share some insecurity she has about r BF and yeah,
Speaker 1: because once once you voice it, it becomes real and
Speaker 1: then it becomes scary. Totally. I think that's like every
Speaker 1: single one of us, right, we don't have to vocalize
Speaker 1: our anxiety or our fears because then they become reality.
Speaker 1: Do you want to ask me these ten questions? All right? Cool? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I want to get into a little segment. I was
Speaker 1: thinking about the podcast, and you know, Vanessa, I'm always
Speaker 1: a sucker for nice little question segments. I did this earlier.
Speaker 1: I think I did it with you Andy, we did
Speaker 1: all right. Yeah, I think it's always nice just to
Speaker 1: get to know our hosts a little bit better. So
Speaker 1: I'm calling this Ten Questions with Vanessa Grimaldi easter. Do
Speaker 1: you have a little sound bite for me for this?
Speaker 1: Maybe a very epic one. I like that Ten Questions
Speaker 1: with Vanessa Grimaldi hosted. All right, ten questions, question number one?
Speaker 1: These are very easy. What's so? There was a lot
Speaker 1: of controversy this past week between Mike Flice and Chloe Kardashian.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm sure you guys, saw is tweeting
Speaker 1: that they were and talking to be the Bachelor. Wrette,
Speaker 1: but you didn't see any of this, Oh yes they did, okay. Uh.
Speaker 1: Mike Flie was pretty much like the father of of
Speaker 1: the Bachelor. He was tweeting that he was in talks
Speaker 1: with Chloe Kardashian Christian about becoming the next Bachelor. Kim
Speaker 1: Kardashian retweeted it and said fake news, and then there
Speaker 1: was a little Twitter battle and pretty much, Chloe Kardashian
Speaker 1: is not gonna be the next stop using me as
Speaker 1: clickbait and stop. Yeah, which you know, good tweet Finn
Speaker 1: I get it. Having said that, God I wish he
Speaker 1: was the next Bachelor. It would have been the most
Speaker 1: talked about That would be the most dramatic season ever.
Speaker 1: It would have been the most non all most dramatic
Speaker 1: season of the Bachelor. It would have been probably maybe
Speaker 1: the most talked about television event in recent history. Chloe
Speaker 1: Kardashian as the Bachelor. Holy crap. There would have been
Speaker 1: a lot of celebrities on that season, tons of celebrities.
Speaker 1: So anyway, my question is because of that made me
Speaker 1: thinking what celebrity would you want to see as the
Speaker 1: next Bachelor? Of Vanessael either next Lea. Oh it's a
Speaker 1: tough one. Um who is always single? I can't. I
Speaker 1: mean I have one, she's not currently single, but it
Speaker 1: would be great TV who T Swift? Oh? Yes, Taylor,
Speaker 1: you know what? Yeah? I would totally love or Ariana Grande. Alright,
Speaker 1: a Grande. That would be a big one. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I do less in T Swift. I was just listening
Speaker 1: to album before the podcast. Um, T Swift and for
Speaker 1: a bachelor, m m. I didn't think about bachelor. I
Speaker 1: don't know if there's any leads that come to my mind.
Speaker 1: What does that Efron? Nah? Okay, never mind. Now I
Speaker 1: feel like he's too um he has too much like
Speaker 1: swag and no. Well that's why I know. That's why
Speaker 1: I would want someone who seems a little bit more
Speaker 1: um less. You know that's fair? Yeah? Okay, next? All right, Next,
Speaker 1: what's your favorite rom com? Ten Things I Hate About You?
Speaker 1: That's such a another one. Another one is how to
Speaker 1: Lose a Guy in Ten Days. I apparently like titles
Speaker 1: that have let the number ten eggs obviously your favorite number.
Speaker 1: I'm a big ten Things I Hate About You fan?
Speaker 1: He lede that hair God, Well, I would give to
Speaker 1: look like that man from that movie and that scene
Speaker 1: obviously he's singing, You're just too good to be true
Speaker 1: walking down the stairs to be true. Oh God, just
Speaker 1: gives me the chills every time. Alright, Number three, do
Speaker 1: you like a bad boy? You like a nice guy?
Speaker 1: Bad boy tendency? You have bad boy tendencies? Yeah, like
Speaker 1: a nice guy but with bad boy tendencies. That's like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, come to mama, damn. Alright, Number four, I
Speaker 1: feel like this podcast we should probably introduce a new
Speaker 1: dating slang every week. You know, we we we ran
Speaker 1: a couple down, but I think we should produce one
Speaker 1: per podcast to see what people you know, are getting
Speaker 1: themselves into by being in the dating world in twenty nineteen. So, Vanessa,
Speaker 1: do you know what the term stashing means? Yeah? Is
Speaker 1: it when a person has multiple people on their list
Speaker 1: of interests. I'm sorry, that is wrong. I'm sorry, like
Speaker 1: stashing like a purse of you know, I think that
Speaker 1: might be benching. Oh like you got you have people
Speaker 1: on the bench ready to go, So we'll we'll learn
Speaker 1: about that next week. But stashing for this week is
Speaker 1: a term for when someone you're dating refuses to introduce
Speaker 1: you to anyone he or she is close to, sort
Speaker 1: of like stashing you in a draw. Oh say, I
Speaker 1: was doing that. I was thinking the reverse, like, Oh,
Speaker 1: I like all these people, I'm just gonna stash onto
Speaker 1: my person. Then I'm gonna pick one out for today
Speaker 1: and another one out for tomorrow. Oh gotcha. See if
Speaker 1: anybody is stat like for our audience out there, if
Speaker 1: anybody is stashing you, cur Lee, you don't want to
Speaker 1: date them, No, you do not want to date them
Speaker 1: at all. You want to be going at hometown dates. Oh,
Speaker 1: hometown dates. Yeah, no more stashing. If somebody's stashing out there,
Speaker 1: we have one thing to say, get rid of them.
Speaker 1: Here we go, number five. Question number five, Vanessa Grimal,
Speaker 1: This is gonna get a little personal. Have you ever
Speaker 1: made out with two more people in one day? No? No,
Speaker 1: I mean if my dog counts. No, that's disgusting. You've
Speaker 1: made out with your dog? Yeah? Did your dog not
Speaker 1: kiss you on the mouth? No, on the face, not
Speaker 1: on the lips. Oh I kissed my dog in the
Speaker 1: lips all the time. Um. No, I've never kissed two
Speaker 1: people out in the same day, the same day. Mark Easton,
Speaker 1: want to share your dirty little secrets high school that happened. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you himp? You really that I would expect you, bad boy,
Speaker 1: Mark Easton. I knew you would good for you. Yes,
Speaker 1: I did it when I was probably around nine teen
Speaker 1: or twenty. I'll never forget it because I felt like
Speaker 1: the coolest I think I've ever felt in my entire life.
Speaker 1: I'll never forget because I was. It's so bad, I
Speaker 1: can't believe I'm even gonna admit this. I was with
Speaker 1: friends at a t g I Fridays and one of
Speaker 1: the girls that we worked with was very attractive, and
Speaker 1: I walked her back to her car and we started
Speaker 1: kissing at the car. And this is maybe I was
Speaker 1: when was I I was either eighteen or like a
Speaker 1: little bit. I think I was eighteen, And so we
Speaker 1: made out in her car, and then later that night
Speaker 1: I went over my friend's house after you know, t
Speaker 1: g I Friday's Long Night, Crazy night guys, and there
Speaker 1: was another girl I was attractive that I knew and
Speaker 1: I also worked with, and it was I know, I
Speaker 1: was eighteen, Okay, I just know what's worse the fact
Speaker 1: that you're at t g I Fridays or that you
Speaker 1: kissed two girls that night, and you know what it
Speaker 1: must have been when I was like twenty two actually
Speaker 1: thinking about it now, because I was drinking, I know,
Speaker 1: it makes it far worse, but I was of age.
Speaker 1: And so anyway, long story, show went back to my
Speaker 1: buddy's house and we're sitting on the couch and then
Speaker 1: she just started kissing me and we kind of like
Speaker 1: made out, and I was like, holy crap, this is
Speaker 1: the second girl with any of them. Then hey, you
Speaker 1: got that out of your system and now you're going
Speaker 1: with one woman for the rest of your life. The
Speaker 1: first girl was somebody that I kind of dug and
Speaker 1: was like, oh, that's why I walked back to her car.
Speaker 1: And then the second girl was just somebody who was
Speaker 1: just at a party and we're just hanging out. We
Speaker 1: were talking. You know, you're you're at a buddy's house
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden you're talking to somebody for
Speaker 1: like an hour about like the universe, and you know,
Speaker 1: you're getting that deep conversation. Then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: it was like boom. I was like, holy hell, how
Speaker 1: did this happen? Trying to get some bottomless spotizers idea
Speaker 1: obviously she really Yeah, the the chicken wings. That's always
Speaker 1: a good option. Alright, moving on, never mind, here we go.
Speaker 1: Number six. This is kind of superficial, but here we go.
Speaker 1: Do you like big muscles, athletic body, dad body, or skinny?
Speaker 1: I don't have a type, no physical type. Now, actually
Speaker 1: I will say this, if the guy is way too ripped,
Speaker 1: I'm I don't find that attractive. You're not a big
Speaker 1: muscle that no no no no no no no, spends
Speaker 1: way too much time at the gym and probably wait
Speaker 1: too much time looking at himself in the mirror. Not
Speaker 1: very not my type. Do you like tattoos? Oh? I
Speaker 1: loving questions? Was another question six? It was like a
Speaker 1: very bad body central type. Next, alright, number seven. The
Speaker 1: term couple goals is thrown around so much today. But
Speaker 1: to you, Vanessa, which famous couple exemplifies couple goals? To
Speaker 1: you pretty much? Who's your favorite celebrity couple. I really
Speaker 1: love Christie Teagan and John Legend. There are very much
Speaker 1: out there. She's so outspoken and he um he made
Speaker 1: a speech about her once for this award that she won,
Speaker 1: and it was so genuine and we started crying in
Speaker 1: the middle of his speech. And I mean, they're just
Speaker 1: open about the relationship, and I admire couples like that
Speaker 1: that don't pretend like they have it all together. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're awesome together. Mark, can you guess what my favorite
Speaker 1: celebrity couple is who they are? Moving on Number eight, Vanessa,
Speaker 1: do you walk around naked in front of your significant
Speaker 1: other or vice versa? Yes? Both? Yeah, he just lets
Speaker 1: to hang out. Huh yeah, good for you. Well, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I should be speaking for him, but
Speaker 1: the reason, the reason is the reason. That's true. But
Speaker 1: you you walk around, I definitely do. I guess there's
Speaker 1: a difference between a female body and a male body.
Speaker 1: I mean there's a big difference. I feel like the
Speaker 1: female bodies is far more attractive, let's just be honest,
Speaker 1: the male body. Like I look at myself naked sometimes
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh god, you know, I'm I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm I'm you know, average to above average, but
Speaker 1: just a lot of hair, so much hair. Oh. I
Speaker 1: like hair though. I like hair too, but you know,
Speaker 1: like from the waist up, I like it, Like I
Speaker 1: like having a I actually having a patchy beard feeling
Speaker 1: it's a little character. Do you have bad hair? No,
Speaker 1: I don't have back hair. Thank god. I've like it's
Speaker 1: as I get older, it's starting to come in a
Speaker 1: little bit at my lower back. This is way team though.
Speaker 1: I love how I turned this around on you. Okay,
Speaker 1: Number eight? Are we had eight? Or nine? That was
Speaker 1: number nine? Uh? This is again you don't have to
Speaker 1: talk about your personal experience, but just your overall thoughts
Speaker 1: on it. Sex on the first date? Yes or no?
Speaker 1: It depends. I mean, I for me, I don't think
Speaker 1: I had No, I have not had sex on the
Speaker 1: first date because that's been actually no, I'm no, No,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think. I'm like, have I Um, I haven't,
Speaker 1: and I'm but I'm not against it? All right? Fair enough?
Speaker 1: Not against it? I like all right? Number ten. Final
Speaker 1: question today. Not a lot of people know this, but
Speaker 1: you are on fear factor? Correct me if I'm wrong? Yes?
Speaker 1: What so is is there one thing? What would be
Speaker 1: the one thing going into fear factor? Because I'm you've
Speaker 1: thought about this, What would you have refused to do?
Speaker 1: That's an excellent question, Jared. Yeah, Um, I think I
Speaker 1: would have refused. I remember watching one episode where there
Speaker 1: was PLEXI glass over swimming pool and they had put
Speaker 1: maybe three or four holes where you could have went
Speaker 1: up and got air. And I think I probably would
Speaker 1: have asked Danielle at the time she was she was
Speaker 1: my partner on Fear Factor. I probably would have asked her.
Speaker 1: She felt more comfortable swimming in in the pool where
Speaker 1: it was covered with plexi glass because I guess I'm
Speaker 1: a little bit clutrophobic, but it was ready to put
Speaker 1: put it in like beetles and a blender and eat everything,
Speaker 1: eat everything. And yeah, because they have like like cow
Speaker 1: penis that you have to eat and all this just
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe that's a delicacy. I don't know, but
Speaker 1: there's a lot so for example, right, cow's our female.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, wait, I think you got your college and
Speaker 1: got your bulls A bull penis, I'm sorry, a bulls penis. Okay,
Speaker 1: my bad. I feel like Dean would have known that
Speaker 1: would definitely right now he is, all right, you guys
Speaker 1: want to move on to a couple of emails. I
Speaker 1: do have a really good email here that I'd love
Speaker 1: to get your thoughts on from anonymous, and those are
Speaker 1: always the best ones. She says, I met this guy
Speaker 1: and one night he just swept me off my feet.
Speaker 1: He grabbed me in a good way so that he
Speaker 1: could not not kiss me, and we started making out.
Speaker 1: We went to the bedroom. We didn't go all the way,
Speaker 1: but we were cuddling naked, and went on to open
Speaker 1: up about his finances, his family, his work, his ex,
Speaker 1: his friends. He said he was comfortable opening up to me.
Speaker 1: It was a little scared to be feeling this way.
Speaker 1: A couple of days later ago on social media and
Speaker 1: he blocked me, deleted me from Instagram, snapchat. Okay, I
Speaker 1: get it, I'm being did But why did guy get
Speaker 1: weirdly really vulnerable and emotional in the moment and then
Speaker 1: the polar opposite the next morning. It's just weird. That
Speaker 1: is weird. Can you explain I actually can't explain this
Speaker 1: to me. If I in that situation, naked, cuddling and
Speaker 1: discussing finances and family, I think I'm all into this relationship.
Speaker 1: I'm really interested in where this is going. Or maybe
Speaker 1: he just needed someone to literally open up to and
Speaker 1: shipped down naked and expose himself. Yeah, but when did
Speaker 1: you think that he would text her? Why would he
Speaker 1: completely ghost and block her? That's my question that made
Speaker 1: me wonder if it's that When he said he was
Speaker 1: a little scared that he was feeling this way. Maybe
Speaker 1: that's it. Maybe he got so scared, like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: what did I tell her? Oh my god, why did
Speaker 1: I do that? Oh my god, I I opened up
Speaker 1: too much? Or block her? I mean, or maybe he's
Speaker 1: in a relationship. That's a real possibility. Yeah, Yeah, there's
Speaker 1: something there where my mind went, you know, one night
Speaker 1: because he met I met this guy one night, he
Speaker 1: grabbed me, couldn't resist me. We didn't go all the way.
Speaker 1: Maybe built a little guilty and started opening up. Maybe
Speaker 1: he wasn't able to open up for quite some time,
Speaker 1: and then the next morning he's like, holy what did
Speaker 1: I do? Did I do? Maybe it's with somebody doesn't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable talking to He felt comfortable talking to you,
Speaker 1: but now he's still with that other person. I think
Speaker 1: that explains the blocking. I would that's because it's that
Speaker 1: probably explains why they didn't have sex. A great because
Speaker 1: maybe he had a moment guilt. Yeah, and he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not actually cheating because you know how it's so
Speaker 1: technical for some guys. Guys, that's hilarious. That's a really
Speaker 1: good point. That's a really good point. Well, yeah, anyway,
Speaker 1: Danta emails, what are your thoughts on going on a
Speaker 1: second date when you really didn't feel a spark on
Speaker 1: the first date. I'm torn and I can't decide if
Speaker 1: I'll just be wasting my time and his. But I
Speaker 1: have heard stories that people taking a while before they
Speaker 1: feel the chemistry go on a second do it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, people are just so awkward and weird on
Speaker 1: their first date and even on their second date. I would.
Speaker 1: I would go until like a third date, and then
Speaker 1: if you're really not feeling it, if he's feeling and
Speaker 1: it wants to go on a date with you, and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, like you just wanna cancel it on
Speaker 1: the date, just then at that point I would. I
Speaker 1: wouldn't go on a date, but I would. I would
Speaker 1: definitely try. I have somebody who's very close to me
Speaker 1: went on a date from an online dating app or website.
Speaker 1: I met this guy, liked him on the first date.
Speaker 1: I wanted to go on a second date. Second day
Speaker 1: did not go well, did not like a second day
Speaker 1: at all. So she was like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: I should go on a third day. Goes on the
Speaker 1: third day. Now I know it, well, you know I
Speaker 1: went on ad I usually go on really good dates,
Speaker 1: um because I'm like, I'm able to break down the
Speaker 1: person on the first date because I want them like
Speaker 1: I'll burp in front of them. I'm like, come on,
Speaker 1: let's just like be ourselves. Let's not try to audition,
Speaker 1: you know. A. Yeah. I went on a date with
Speaker 1: this one guy years ago and I remember being like, yeah,
Speaker 1: everyone's saying he's such a good person, but I just
Speaker 1: didn't feel it. And I guess he felt my energy
Speaker 1: was off and he had asked me out on the
Speaker 1: second date, and I remember being at work thinking I
Speaker 1: really don't want to go on the state. An hour later,
Speaker 1: he sends me a message saying like, hey, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea if we go on a
Speaker 1: second date. And I was like, the universe read my
Speaker 1: energy and that was it. And then the Bachelor, and
Speaker 1: then and then I was engaged on the Bachelor. So
Speaker 1: the consensus is, go on the second date. You got
Speaker 1: to lose. We're not that busy, Go ahead, do it,
Speaker 1: good time, forty minutes to an hour to lose. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: that will do it for the emails, and that we'll
Speaker 1: do it for today's episode some big thank you. First
Speaker 1: of all, thank you to Dax Holt for joining us today. Yes,
Speaker 1: and you can definitely check out Baby Vacation. Big thank
Speaker 1: you to Amy Rayner, the etiquettes teacher. Yes, everybody deserves
Speaker 1: an applause. Amy Rayner would be so proud of us.
Speaker 1: She'd be very proud of us right now. Past the
Speaker 1: salt and pepper together, no matter whether they asked for
Speaker 1: those individually or not. We want to give a very big,
Speaker 1: big big thank you to Noon, Third Love and zip Recruiter.
Speaker 1: Make sure to visit noon dot com slash Dean to
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