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Speaker 3: My father kept trying to make his son my problem,

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Speaker 3: but I refuse to make it mine.

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Speaker 4: Is this like half sibling or it's because it's weird,

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Speaker 4: It's like a riddle.

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Speaker 3: It does feel like a real Yeah, all right, let's

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Speaker 3: get some context. Yes, I thirty five female, have a

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Speaker 3: complicated relationship with both my father and his wife Denise

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Speaker 3: fake name for several reasons, some of which are related

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Speaker 3: to my half brother. Oh you calling it okay? Jake

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Speaker 3: nine years old? Oh boy? By the way, this comes

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Speaker 5: I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we have a very special

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Speaker 4: I am father McDonald, I'm a stand up comedian. I'm

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Speaker 4: going to be having a show in Hollywood. It's sold out.

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Speaker 4: It's through Netflix as a joke. It's a live Juicy Scoop,

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Speaker 4: which is my show that I've had for almost eleven years,

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Speaker 3: All right, Yeah, Netflix is a joke. That's awesome. Well,

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Speaker 3: she's gonna help us read some of these crazy stories.

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Speaker 3: So back to the nine year old Jake here. There's

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Speaker 3: a lot of backstory here, but to some things up,

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Speaker 3: Jake exists because Denise wanted a baby and my father

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Speaker 3: was upset that both his daughters were moving out. They

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Speaker 3: expected me and my sister twenty nine years old to

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Speaker 3: have an active role in caring for Jake. That would

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Speaker 3: it be possible for either of us, but they continue

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Speaker 3: to assume we'd given We didn't, which led to multiple

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Speaker 3: fights that soared my relationship with our father. Soward. I think, oh, Soward,

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Speaker 3: I can apologies. So Denise also got mad at me

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Speaker 3: with my first child when Jake was still a baby,

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Speaker 3: which made her even more angry that I wouldn't help

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Speaker 3: her as much as she wanted. If you want help,

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Speaker 3: you gotta start paying for it. Right, Yeah, things at

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Speaker 3: their household aren't great. Jake isn't well behaved. My father

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Speaker 4: He's exhausted. He's like sixty three years old.

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Speaker 3: Uh yeah, my father's not a very active parent, although

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Speaker 4: Oh, the bitter first child and the.

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Speaker 3: Older Jake gets, the more Denise loses interest in parenting.

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Speaker 3: What They never stop trying to get me to help

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Speaker 3: take care of their son.

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Speaker 5: So they want op to be the mom, just to

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Speaker 5: be the parent overall compared to themselves, you know, Oh

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Speaker 5: my god natural. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, to this day, whenever they need a babysitter, they

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Speaker 4: But oh that okay, that's interesting.

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Speaker 5: That's old Jake.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so now we understand because she is a mom

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Speaker 4: with similar aged kids. Yeah, they're like, why can't we

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Speaker 4: and then all of a sudden you're like, no, they're.

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Speaker 4: They hit me when you're not looking, they cheat at monopoly, whatever.

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Speaker 4: And then as the parent, you're like, it's so uncomfortable

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Speaker 4: It's just going to be the us four of us tonight. No,

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Speaker 4: But they're only a year apart, and they're both in

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Speaker 3: That that's fair. You're better than me. I would I

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Speaker 3: I like that. So they tried setting up playdates aka

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Speaker 4: They knew that. Yeah, I basically predicted that whole thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and my kids while she went shopping making them

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Speaker 3: share a room on family vacations, and my father even

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Speaker 3: considered changing Jake to Sam's school a few years ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Every time there's an opportunity to make

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Speaker 3: brings us to now we're at her breaking points. Oh. So,

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Speaker 3: my husband and I are planning a trip to France

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Speaker 3: with their children in September to celebrate Katie's fifth birthday. Wow,

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Speaker 4: A big trip for a five.

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Speaker 5: I was gonna say, is it for Katie or is

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Speaker 4: Katie wants to go to fashion Week in Paris.

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Speaker 4: Her whole life. She was like, I just want to

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Speaker 5: Jake, your kid, uncle Jakie. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: The whole trip. Different Okay, Well, no, that's not enough,

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Speaker 4: To say it's got to stop here because otherwise it's

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Speaker 3: Ye, Katie's going to turn six and she wants to

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Speaker 3: to who's Begastan Antarctica?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, where will Katie go? He said he paid for

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Speaker 3: that right. He kept insisting that Jake would love to

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 5: What, you just made it easier for OP to say no.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you think we'd like some family time without our uncle. Dude,

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Speaker 3: that he and Denise should have thought about their child

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Speaker 3: free time before having a child. Yeah, my father is furious.

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Speaker 3: Excuse me of saying I wish Jake was never born.

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Speaker 4: Saying, is he paying for the whole family? No, he's

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Speaker 3: Yep, he did not offer to fly my whole family.

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Speaker 4: That'd be a different story, right, It would be like.

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Speaker 3: Oh, sure Jake could come along. We're saving Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Like yeah. If he's like, you know, paying thirty grand

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Speaker 4: I'll take the other kid. If you're gonna pay for

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Sam, you're gonna have to be good.

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Speaker 3: We got some comments from people, and op responds to them.

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Speaker 3: So dazzling Grass fifty five says, not the ahole. I

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Speaker 3: think your step mother and father are ridiculous. If they

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Speaker 3: wanted child free time, why not get a babysitter and

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Speaker 3: go on vacation, or better yet, all go on a

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Speaker 3: family vacation. I think your father fails to realize you

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Speaker 3: have a family of your own now and they aren't

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Speaker 3: the main priority. Opie responds, I think this happens mostly

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Speaker 3: because I'm the eldest. Honestly, he's always expected me to

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Speaker 4: First firstborn females are like they like rule the world.

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Speaker 3: Obi says. My father wasn't a very active parent to

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Speaker 3: And Denise did want a girl, not to make her

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Speaker 3: First of all, I don't regret posting here, and I'm

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Speaker 3: Oh that's nice. I am, however, willing to go low contact,

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Speaker 3: But Denise barely spoke to me and my husband all night.

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Speaker 3: Oh and Jake was there and behaved better than usual.

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Speaker 5: Oh. They probably told Jake, if you behave on it, yeah,

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Speaker 5: How does that sound, Jakie right, if you have good manners,

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Speaker 5: Don't fall for it. Don't fall for it.

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Speaker 3: You want to see Mickey Mouse, This is how you

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Speaker 3: My father tried to end the conversation, but Denise started

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Speaker 4: That's awesome, finally, Yeah right.

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Speaker 3: Denise thankfully didn't have a meltdown in front of them

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Speaker 4: So she had like a meltdown and was like, you know,

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Speaker 3: I added that I loathed the way his wife and

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Speaker 3: I did mute Denise's contact for now. How are you

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Speaker 4: Hope, She text chem and Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's because the dad's really trying to wear it

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Speaker 3: Yeah right, Hope, he says. My husband and I are

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Speaker 3: This upset me a lot more than it should have.

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Speaker 8: My boyfriend helps his married friends sleep and I couldn't

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Speaker 8: We met through mutual friends playing an online game two

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Speaker 8: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good

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Speaker 8: advice scoofy, but we don't have all the answers. We

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Speaker 8: we could spend the rest of our lives together and

438
00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,880
Speaker 8: then some. But we're not moving that fast just yet,

439
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 8: and we're still young in the relationship. We still live

440
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 8: in separate apartments, our jobs are in different cities, too

441
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 8: far to commute from either's place, so we see each

442
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:12,360
Speaker 8: other every weekend or if we have bank holidays. Those

443
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 8: people just see us as a normal, happy couple with

444
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 8: their ups and downs, but generally we're great together ninety

445
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 8: nine percent of the time. Until my boyfriend brings up

446
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:25,640
Speaker 8: his best friend in any conversation, who I'll name kat

447
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:32,159
Speaker 8: don't don't it's a woman henceforth, which always makes for

448
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,920
Speaker 8: a tense conversation. Now, I'm pretty sure you're thinking that

449
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 8: I must be that girl, the joys type of girlfriend.

450
00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:39,960
Speaker 1: I think she's probably that girl.

451
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 8: I think she's that girl.

452
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 1: I think she's the annoying female best friend.

453
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,120
Speaker 8: Yeah, the jis type of girlfriend. Most guys don't want,

454
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:48,400
Speaker 8: the jealous type of girl that doesn't want her boyfriend

455
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 8: talking to other girls beside herself. But that simply isn't

456
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 8: the case here, and I'll explain. Cat and my boyfriend

457
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 8: were friends a year prior to meeting me, and I

458
00:22:56,320 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 8: suppose you could say they shared a special type of friendship.

459
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 8: Most people in a relationship dread the friends or more

460
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 8: with the blatant flirting and dirty jokes.

461
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 1: Eh.

462
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, that's not good.

463
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:17,919
Speaker 1: Pretty much exclusively every time that I hear, oh, like

464
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,959
Speaker 1: my grovenco jealous, I have female friends. No, it's because

465
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 1: the friends that you have are actively flirting and trying

466
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: to be in relationships with them. This is not on her. Yeah,

467
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 1: this is on all your female friends, on.

468
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 8: You, never moving forward past it, but always wondering if

469
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 8: they did, could they be more type boyfriends? Let me

470
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 8: know the cat always had, or rather still does have

471
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:43,439
Speaker 8: a thing brand. Oh yeah, that's worse. So he knows.

472
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 8: He knows. This is worse than all the other ones

473
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 8: where they're like, oh, I just didn't even see it,

474
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,200
Speaker 8: but it would you realize really close? No, he knows,

475
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 8: and at one point he did too. I'm sorry. Okay, well,

476
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 8: well I was about to launch into something, but I

477
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 8: don't want to hear the long I was going to say,

478
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 8: that's crazy ba ba bah. However, I can't fully commit

479
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 8: to that because I have had a similar situation where

480
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,920
Speaker 8: I was into someone they were into me, and then

481
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 8: we were like oh no, and nothing happened, so and

482
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 8: then we were just like, oh, we know, we're better

483
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 8: off our friends. And I still have those friends, So

484
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 8: I can't fully condemn them.

485
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: I can fully condemn them when it leads to one

486
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 1: of them comforting the other to bed.

487
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 8: Well, that's what I was gonna say. I can't fully

488
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,920
Speaker 8: condemn them for having this type relationship. However, I can

489
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 8: condemn them for flirting and not putting up the proper boundaries.

490
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 8: Because for those friends that I still have, I am

491
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 8: very like, this is our new boundary. We don't blur

492
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:46,399
Speaker 8: the line. You are my friend like.

493
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: He's also over it too, but she still actively has

494
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 1: said a crush, But that was.

495
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 8: Before Kat admitted that she was married and with kids.

496
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 8: My boyfriend had shut that idea down immediately, but still

497
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 8: continue to have the third fest with her regardless. Her

498
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 8: reasoning was because he would think all and what harm

499
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:08,120
Speaker 8: could it do? Elloel, You're not though girl. Anyway, when

500
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,639
Speaker 8: boyfriend and I met, we had an instant connection and

501
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 8: the rest is kind of history. For that My concern

502
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 8: here is that anytime Kat has a problem, boyfriend goes

503
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 8: running for the hills, trying to be her white.

504
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,120
Speaker 9: Night because he still has feelings for her.

505
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,639
Speaker 8: Her marriage is on the rocks, has been for the

506
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 8: longest I can remember. She and her husband married young,

507
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 8: shotgun wedding, and they've never really been committed to each other.

508
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 8: If she has money problems, he writes a check for her.

509
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,399
Speaker 8: If she has problems sleeping, he lets her record his

510
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 8: voice over Skype or mumble so she can fall asleep.

511
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 8: That's weird, insane, She has a husband, weird. She's going

512
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 8: to sleep putting another man's voice in her ear to

513
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 8: sleep while her husband sleeps, presumably next to her. If

514
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,640
Speaker 8: her husband doesn't want to have spicy sleep, he's there

515
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 8: to listen, listen to what. If she's in a crappy mood,

516
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,160
Speaker 8: she makes him say spicy sleep jokes and makes him

517
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 8: flirt with her to feel better. I'm bringing up with him. Yeah. Fully,

518
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 8: if she witnessed the second Coming of Jesus and didn't

519
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 8: know how to process it, she'd make him explain what happened.

520
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,479
Speaker 8: She likes to shamelessly flirt with him always. In general,

521
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 8: she looks for solace in my boyfriend when she has

522
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,399
Speaker 8: a problem, and he always helps her out, no matter

523
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 8: what it takes. Now, normally I wouldn't care and would

524
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 8: let him do that for any person he cared about.

525
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 8: But she always lets it slip that if she were single,

526
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:28,120
Speaker 8: she would snatch him up in a heartbeat, even if

527
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 8: he is with me or anyone else. She cracks lu

528
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 8: jokes at him well around the both of us. Kat

529
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 8: has never let the opportunity slip by to make it

530
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,640
Speaker 8: known to me that she's very much in love with

531
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 8: my boyfriend. She makes me uncomfortable, and I've told boyfriend

532
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 8: that many times. He assures me that he did entertain

533
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 8: the idea of once being with her, but once he

534
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 8: had met me that all changed. Then she shouldn't be

535
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 8: in her life. I actually was just talking to a

536
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 8: friend about not the same situation, but like a similar

537
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 8: situation where they had a X thing that was in

538
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 8: their life for a while and realized that they had

539
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 8: to fully cut them out of their life because it

540
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 8: just doesn't work anymore. It just at a certain point

541
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,120
Speaker 8: when there's just too much blurred lines and you don't

542
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 8: know how to interact without the blurred lines. It just

543
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 8: doesn't work.

544
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 1: Especially when one of them is like overstepping.

545
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 8: Yes, I trust his word one hundred percent and without

546
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 8: a doubt he wouldn't cheat on me. Well, he's emotionally

547
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 8: cheating on you.

548
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 1: Right now, and he's flirting with her.

549
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 8: He's emotionally cheating with her right now, or at least

550
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 8: I want to believe he wouldn't do that to our relationship.

551
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 8: I mean, you know he's doing that. You just told us,

552
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 8: you wrote about it. We've talked about what to do,

553
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 8: and he told me he would stop talking to her

554
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 8: entirely if that made things better. Yep, yes, it would

555
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 8: make things better. But I don't want to be that girl,

556
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 8: you know, the girl who makes her boyfriend break off friendships.

557
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,880
Speaker 8: I told him about how much Cat gives me anxiety

558
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 8: about the relationship, that she would try anything to get

559
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 8: rid of me and to get to you if her

560
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 8: life allowed it.

561
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:53,159
Speaker 1: To go oh pee. This is not being that girl.

562
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 1: Being that girl would be like, he can't have any friends,

563
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 1: he can't have any female people.

564
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 8: This is like one person.

565
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: Yeah that you have an obvious, valid reason to be

566
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: upset and concerned about. You're not doing it to the

567
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: rest of his friends. You're not isolating him that that

568
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 1: you're not that girl.

569
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 8: However, I don't think it should be you asking him

570
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 8: to do it. I think you should have expressed what

571
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 8: you felt. He should have looked at the relationship and

572
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 8: been like, oh, this is totally inappropriate and I don't

573
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,640
Speaker 8: think his can continue. I should end this, and I'm

574
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 8: not gonna put that on my girlfriend to make the decision.

575
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: He should have ended it. But if you want to

576
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 1: give it like one final go, yeah, I think you

577
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 1: can say now like, yeah, it's caatter me basically. Yeah.

578
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 8: I think you could just say, hey, I'm not going

579
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 8: to force you to do anything. I'm just letting you

580
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 8: know that this relationship is not going to end well, right,

581
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 8: it's going to end and not well. Boyfriend assured me

582
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 8: every time that he's with the person he loves being me.

583
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 8: I suppose her constant bantering has gotten the best of me.

584
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 1: He's got a sweet gig, he has you, and then

585
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: he flirts with the other girl.

586
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, what else could he want?

587
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 1: No, I'm being sarcastic at sweet gig guy to a point.

588
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 8: I trust boyfriend, but when he's around her, I don't

589
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 8: everything about cat I can't trust everything I hear or

590
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 8: see about or from her. I can't trust. Am I

591
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 8: just being the insecure girlfriend who can't get over that?

592
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 8: Am I just afraid that one day she'll do something

593
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 8: drastic to take the person I love away? Is this jealousy?

594
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 8: I don't know what to do, think, or say about

595
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 8: the situation. I've had so much anxiety over this that

596
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 8: writing all this out has taken a toll on me.

597
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 8: What can I do to ease the anxiety of my

598
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 8: boyfriend's white Knight syndrome? For cat is what he's doing

599
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 8: right now? Could she just really be the best friend?

600
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:34,959
Speaker 1: No?

601
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 8: Or am I just thinking too much into this?

602
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: No?

603
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 8: Please help? And we've got some comments.

604
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: Oh boy, I'm excited?

605
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I don't know if this

606
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 8: is good or lost comments. Does the boyfriend ever say

607
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 8: that's really inappropriate to this? Chick? Opie? Opie says he

608
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 8: has had times, but he lets it slide so much

609
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 8: that I don't think he bothers to anymore. Definitely a

610
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 8: bad sign. But I don't know whether it was playful

611
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 8: banter or just her being the slide. You know, I

612
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 8: suppose you're right about the latter fact, does she say

613
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 8: this crap around you? Hope? He says almost always. The

614
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 8: boyfriend and I don't meet up with her often, but

615
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 8: when it's get together with other friends and she's there,

616
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 8: she just has to sling that hash at me. It's

617
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 8: also a lot easier for her to do online when

618
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 8: we're playing games too, So yeah, she does. And we've

619
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 8: got an update ten days later. Do you think they're

620
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 8: still together?

621
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: Oh? I want to say no, but I think there's

622
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 1: a chance of yes.

623
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 3: Yeah.

624
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 1: I think maybe they had a conversation and he's going

625
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: to limit time with her, but then later on he

626
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 1: won't limit it, and then they'll break up. Okay, so

627
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 1: you're saying, yes, I think a temporary band aid leading

628
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 1: to a breakup.

629
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 8: I think I'm gonna just to be contradictory. I'm gonna

630
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 8: go now. I think they're done.

631
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 3: They're done.

632
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 8: Yeah, I think they're full done. Update ten days later.

633
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 8: The weekend came and I sat the boyfriend down and

634
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,959
Speaker 8: we had a very long talk about everything. Still together. Okay,

635
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 8: I laid down all of my cards on the table,

636
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 8: the concerns I have, the friendship, what she means to him,

637
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 8: that he was blind to her advances and how crude

638
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 8: and mean she is in regards to me, how she

639
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 8: disrespects the relationship and tries to undermine me, et cetera.

640
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 8: He was very adamant to say that he.

641
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 9: Was only just being a friend to her, that he.

642
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 8: Didn't see what he was doing was anything more than

643
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 8: going beyond that. Yeah, that's what you sound like, little

644
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 8: animal crossing character. I don't want to hear it, tom

645
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 8: Nook trying to steal my money. The boyfriend also mentioned

646
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 8: that he might have felt compelled to help her because

647
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 8: he always feels like he has to do everything he

648
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 8: can for anyone in his life. He did say the

649
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 8: flirting thing was mostly harmless.

650
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 1: It's not.

651
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 8: Yeah, He's like, no, you don't understand. I just feel

652
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 8: like I have to help everyone, and I also have

653
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 8: to flirt with everyone in my life.

654
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: You didn't understand the flirting is harmless. No, it hurts me.

655
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Speaker 8: Yeah, but he now realizes how careless and stupid it

656
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Speaker 8: was to think that it didn't hurt anyone. He pretty

657
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Speaker 8: much fessed up to saying that everything he did or

658
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Speaker 8: was doing was essentially emotional cheating. He's stead fast on

659
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Speaker 8: the fact that he's never actually done anything with Kat

660
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Speaker 8: beyond that just being a friend to her, that any

661
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 8: romantic or otherwise feelings related to that were gone and gone.

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Speaker 8: The moment Cat revealed herself to be married, he asked

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Speaker 8: me what I wanted done. I told him that I

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Speaker 8: wanted her out of our lives, that I couldn't trust

665
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Speaker 8: him around her, and vice versa. I couldn't be happy

666
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 8: as long as she was able to hover over my

667
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 8: boyfriend and a relationship so freely. She was a threat

668
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 8: to the relationship and there wasn't room for another.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 8: People told me to be brave and I should care

671
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 8: about being a stereotype, and that I should stand my

672
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 8: ground because of all my concerns. He was very responsive

673
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 8: to it and said that he would cut her out

674
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Speaker 8: of his life and therefore out of ours. He said

675
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Speaker 8: it would be hard because he feels like he's abandoning

676
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Speaker 8: a friend. I told him that she wasn't just a

677
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Speaker 8: friend to him, and I had to remind him that

678
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Speaker 8: Cat was more than that and would always be so

679
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Speaker 8: as long as he let her be. He promised that

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Speaker 8: he would no longer do any of it and would

681
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Speaker 8: cease any and all contact with Kat. After we were

682
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Speaker 8: done with the discussion, we ended up talking about a

683
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Speaker 8: lot of other relationship issues had Apparently a lot of

684
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 8: trust issues are deep seated with him, parents divorced while young,

685
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 8: never had real friends, past relationships, never working out, et cetera.

686
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Speaker 8: While I have them too. There was a lot to

687
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Speaker 8: be said.

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Speaker 1: I need to know his full response to this, because

689
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 1: if he's immediately agreeing.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, good, Yeah, good, I like it so far.

691
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm kind of just like okay now that he's

692
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: admitting that it was basically like emotional cheating. Yeah, are

693
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 1: you okay because there's a confession and like a plan

694
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: to change the action, or are you out regardless? Yeah,

695
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 1: I assume she'll stay.

696
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Speaker 9: Let's see what she does.

697
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Speaker 8: We're still together, good and dating m hm, and hopefully

698
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 8: stronger after this is dealt with in its entirety. As

699
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:45,959
Speaker 8: for the boyfriend doing what he said he would do,

700
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 8: only time will tell. As for me, I'm happier and

701
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 8: relieved to have been able to talk to the boyfriend

702
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 8: about the situation. Thanks to everyone who took time out

703
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 8: of their day to read my other thread and give

704
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Speaker 8: me some great advice. Hopefully I won't have to return

705
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 8: here with another update in future regarding this matter, but

706
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 8: I'll definitely come back if I do more boggling mind

707
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Speaker 8: matters for relationship issues.

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Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

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Speaker 7: the next one.

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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Axelattel host. Here. We're going

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713
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Speaker 1: of being selfish, and now he wants me to apologize.

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Speaker 8: I can't.

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Speaker 1: For some context, my boyfriend male twenty one and I

716
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: female twenty one recently moved in together after being in

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Speaker 1: a long distance relationship for three years. Back in February

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Speaker 1: of this year, my boyfriend was in New York and

719
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Speaker 1: moved to me in Texas. He's in his last semester

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Speaker 1: of college and is doing online classes so we can

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Speaker 1: still graduate with his hometown's college. It was a mutual

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Speaker 1: decision and we're very happy. My boyfriend's mom, Female fifty seven,

723
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 1: is a super sweet woman. We haven't always gotten along,

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Speaker 1: but that never hindered our relationship. By the way, this

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Speaker 1: here to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't have

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Speaker 1: all the answers. We only know what we would do.

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Speaker 1: Let's know what you would do in the comments I know,

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Speaker 1: he says.

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Speaker 8: Now to the.

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Speaker 1: Point, before he left, I got a call from his

734
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: mom wanting to give her opinion on our decision of moving.

735
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: During this call, she completely came after me and my character,

736
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,880
Speaker 1: using phrases like you're being very selfish. If you really

737
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: loved my son, you'd take care of the apartment by

738
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Speaker 1: yourself until August when he graduated. And you're not the

739
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: person I made you out to be. I thought you

740
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: were better than this, among so many other things. She

741
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: didn't give me the room to talk and explain that

742
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: we had been discussing this for almost a year now,

743
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: and that it was a decision both my boyfriend and

744
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: I put a lot of thought toward. All I could

745
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 1: do was sit there and take every nasty word she

746
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: spat out at me. It's been about five months since

747
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 1: that conversation and we haven't said a word to each other.

748
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: For some context, my boyfriend didn't tell his mom he

749
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: was moving out until a month before he came due

750
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: to personal issue that had come up and her not

751
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 1: being in the country, which isn't an excuse considering we

752
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 1: had been talking about it for a year and I

753
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: had nagged him for months to tell her so we

754
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: wouldn't end up in this situation. Yeah, she claims I

755
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:17,439
Speaker 1: should have told her myself since I was forcing her

756
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: son into this. I need to know what story the

757
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: mom got.

758
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 8: Yeah, what is her son telling her?

759
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 4: Yeah?

760
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 8: And why would you tell her as opposed to her

761
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 8: own son?

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00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: Right, I do feel like he might have made op escapegoat.

763
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:30,759
Speaker 8: I think so.

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00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 1: Anyway, my boyfriend, who wasn't present during this conversation, says

765
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 1: that we both messed up and that I should take

766
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:41,879
Speaker 1: the high road and apologize so that things can get

767
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: back to how they were before.

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00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 8: This man is like, I totally lied to both people.

769
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 8: I think, actually you should just apologize, And then he

770
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 8: went right to his mom and he was like, you know, Mom,

771
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 8: I think you should really just Apologie, take the high road, dude.

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00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,319
Speaker 8: Don't ask any questions.

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00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:02,440
Speaker 1: No questions, Yeah, no questions, household.

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00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 8: No questions asked or no, you will not ask A

775
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 8: question's a question.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you got that, But I don't feel like

777
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 1: I did anything wrong. I didn't snap back, I didn't

778
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: say anything to disrespect her, and I wasn't even able

779
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:16,880
Speaker 1: to get a whole sentence in without being told to

780
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 1: be quiet because she was speaking. I told him I

781
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: was absolutely not apologizing, and he told me that we're

782
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 1: both stubborn and if I don't do it, then nothing

783
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 1: will ever get better. We have my boyfriend's sister's wedding

784
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: to go to in June, and I don't want the

785
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: drama to take away from her big day because I'm

786
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 1: not willing to apologize. But I also don't want his

787
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: mom to think it's okay to talk to me the

788
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 1: way she wants to and that the way she treated

789
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 1: me was acceptable. So Reddit, am I the a hole

790
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: and we have an update?

791
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:46,319
Speaker 8: No?

792
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,280
Speaker 1: No, I think at the very least, if you wanted

793
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 1: to take some of a high road, you can always

794
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: prompt a conversation of like, I'm really sorry, like clump

795
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 1: yourself with boyfriend, I'm really sorry collectively that we did

796
00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: not tell you sooner that it felt very like just

797
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:03,800
Speaker 1: push on you. That wasn't our intent. Blah blah blah blah, blah,

798
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: you don't need to apologize for any of the stuff

799
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,879
Speaker 1: she was braiding you for. No, and it could even

800
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: prompt her to apologize for that.

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00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 8: I also think this is oh P's boyfriend's position, you know.

802
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 8: I think this is his responsibility to talk to his

803
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 8: mom about a move that he is making fully. And

804
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 8: I think maybe you can have a conversation with him

805
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 8: and say, hey, I love your mom, but we're adults now. Yeah,

806
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,359
Speaker 8: we have moved in together, right, you know, we're now

807
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 8: moving to another place, we're being independent, and I think

808
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,759
Speaker 8: you need to have a conversation with her about what

809
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 8: we're gonna tell her now what we don't need to

810
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 8: tell her.

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Speaker 1: Agreed.

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Speaker 8: Update.

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00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: I sat down with my boyfriend and I showed him

814
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: my post. It finally dawned on him that he hadn't

815
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: handled the situation well. He apologized for not having my

816
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: back and for standing up for me from the very beginning.

817
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: He explained how he had talked to his mom before

818
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: trying to get her to apologize as well, but she

819
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: had refused.

820
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 3: To do so.

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Speaker 1: He also did a lot of damage control between other

822
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 1: family members who were talking down on me, and had

823
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 1: to explain to them the true situation, which makes sense

824
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: considering I have no other problems with anyone else. He

825
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,760
Speaker 1: explained how he didn't tell either of us the full

826
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: truth about the move and was trying to keep the

827
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: heat off himself.

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00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 8: Wow did we read that exactly? Did we into it

829
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 8: all of that?

830
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 1: We're so smart? Yeah, which a lot of people in

831
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: the comments also pointed out.

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Speaker 10: Yeah.

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00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 1: He said he would talk to his mom and stand

834
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 1: up for our relationship to try and make things right

835
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 1: because he cares about us and wants to continue to

836
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 1: build what we have. He made the call to his

837
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Speaker 1: mom later that night, and it didn't go well. She

838
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: got really angry with him when he told her that

839
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 1: she had no right to talk to me the way

840
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: she did. He had my back and told her that

841
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: I'm a part of his family now and he won't

842
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: tolerate the disrespect any longer. He stuck up for me

843
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: and honestly made me love him more. Oh he's about

844
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: to go down.

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00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 9: Here we go.

846
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 1: She basically told him he's no longer welcome in her

847
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 1: home and that at the wedding she will not say

848
00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:00,479
Speaker 1: a single word to either of us because disrespect people

849
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: have no place in her life. Comical I know I

850
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: have absolutely no interest in even trying to repair the

851
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 1: relationship with her, and he's going minimal contact with her

852
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: for the time being. So that's where that is. Anyway,

853
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: the whole situation is upsetting. My heart hurts for my

854
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: boyfriend because I know how much his mom means to him.

855
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: He's trying to play it off like it doesn't matter,

856
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,479
Speaker 1: but I can see it's causing him pain.

857
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 8: What is the end of the Oh, yeah, well, he's

858
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 8: set the boundary Unfraditionally, his mom seems like the person

859
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:31,719
Speaker 8: who's like, I need to be involved in my son's life. Yeah,

860
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:33,720
Speaker 8: and if you try and take me out, I'm gonna

861
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:36,920
Speaker 8: bite harder. But as long as you guys are a

862
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 8: pair and a partner, yeah, ship, then.

863
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:43,399
Speaker 1: She might come around before August two, especially if sisters like, dude,

864
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 1: it's my wedding, Like, get over it.

865
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Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

866
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Speaker 7: the next one.

867
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Speaker 8: My boyfriend treated me like an emotional support animal, and

868
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 8: I despised it.

869
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 6: I'm not a dog.

870
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Speaker 8: I twenty two female, have been dating my boyfriend, twenty

871
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:00,839
Speaker 8: six male for almost two months. We've known each other

872
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 8: for three years now. We're both from Asia, and he

873
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 8: moved to the US for his master's degree in August

874
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 8: twenty twenty one. And I was aware that it would

875
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 8: be a long distance relationship going it. I have never

876
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 8: been in a long distance relationship before, so this is

877
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Speaker 8: new to me. By the way, this comes from outside

878
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 8: sand nine ninety one. And if you want to smit

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Speaker 8: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime

880
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 8: separed it. I'm Sophia Carly and we're here to give

881
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:24,240
Speaker 8: good advice coofley, but we don't have all the answers.

882
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 8: We don't know what we'd do, so let us know

883
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 8: what you would do in the comments and nope, he says.

884
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 8: Shortly after we started dating, he started having fights with

885
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 8: one of his close girlfriends. She told him that she

886
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 8: wanted to stop being friends with him. Add the blue,

887
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 8: she had been through a bad breakup recently and he

888
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 8: had supported her through it, but her refusal to acknowledge

889
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 8: him or their friendship was hard on him. He tried

890
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 8: to talk to other people in the same circle, but

891
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 8: they grew tired of the repeated discussions and told them

892
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 8: that they weren't interested in discussing the same thing over

893
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 8: and over. And that he shouldn't take this to heart

894
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 8: and leave her be I mean, depending on how much

895
00:41:56,520 --> 00:42:00,399
Speaker 8: he was talking about it valid Yeah, music, please talk

896
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 8: about it. Yeah, he's been depressed over this for about

897
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:04,760
Speaker 8: month and a half.

898
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Speaker 1: I mean it was a long time friendship ending out

899
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 1: of the blue. Ses. Yes, I can understand, but after

900
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 1: a month and a half it might be time to

901
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 1: stop cycling that through the friendship conversations.

902
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 8: Honestly, I kind of in my head just immediately translated

903
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 8: close girlfriend to be like someone he had feelings for. Oh,

904
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 8: and so I was like, do you still have feelings for.

905
00:42:27,560 --> 00:42:29,799
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a high chance that's what we're about

906
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 1: to find out.

907
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 8: But he's feeling lonely and feels that their friends shows

908
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 8: her and abandon him. All this while I have tried

909
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 8: my best to support him and be there for him.

910
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 8: I have tried to be positive and cheerful and tried

911
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 8: to cheer him up. I've had endless discussions about the

912
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 8: same thing with him. All this exploded about twenty days ago.

913
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 8: The said friend barged into his apartment and started braiding

914
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 8: him over how he was overly clingy and annoying and

915
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,479
Speaker 8: told them to grow up. And accept that they aren't

916
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 8: friends anymore. Both sides said terrible things to each other.

917
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:05,760
Speaker 8: She barged into his apartment, Yeah what and other friends

918
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 8: have chosen her and told him that he shouldn't have

919
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,720
Speaker 8: been so harsh, considering she was already having a difficult time.

920
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 8: She barged into his apartment. She literally barged into his apartment.

921
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 8: He's taken a turn for the worse since then. We

922
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 8: have an eleven hour time difference. He wants me to

923
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 8: stay up all night to talk to him because he's lonely.

924
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:26,399
Speaker 8: He wants me to stay on video calls with him

925
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,280
Speaker 8: while I work. I work eight to six hours currently

926
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 8: from home as a software engineer. I stayed up for

927
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 8: a while, but told him that it's hampering my productivity

928
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 8: at work.

929
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 9: I would not do this.

930
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:38,480
Speaker 8: He was sad over me not talking to him all night.

931
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 8: He wanted to have phones bicy sleep while I attended

932
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 8: a call because it was thrilling. I said no, I

933
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 8: want to focus on work. He wants me to talk

934
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:49,240
Speaker 8: to him whenever he's awake so he doesn't feel alone.

935
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Speaker 1: Therapy, Yeah, you know who can talk to you a papist.

936
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 8: Therapist can do that, which I think is impossible without

937
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 8: sacrificing all my sleep, which you need to live. Yeah,

938
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 8: yesterday I had a particularly hard day at work and

939
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 8: I had horrible period crams as well. I was in

940
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 8: the mood to talk, but he wanted to spicy text

941
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 8: with him. I told him I'm very tired and wasn't

942
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 8: feeling very well emotionally either. You got mad at me

943
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 8: because I couldn't stay up even on her Friday night

944
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,399
Speaker 8: to talk to him. He said, that's why you've never

945
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 8: been in a good relationship before. You never consider the

946
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 8: other person. You're selfish?

947
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me?

948
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 4: Dude?

949
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 8: I hate that? And also, oh, he's like four years

950
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 8: younger than you do.

951
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:28,959
Speaker 1: And she's also like, hey, I had a really bad day.

952
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: My cramp's really hurt. I'm exhausted. I just can't do

953
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 1: it tonight. I just need to go to bed.

954
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 8: And he's like, you witch, yeah, terre about I told

955
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 8: him that's all I've been doing for all the while

956
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,240
Speaker 8: we've dated. I've been talking of you and your fights

957
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 8: and your mental health. Stop treating me like i'm your

958
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 8: emotional support animal. I have my life to handle. And

959
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:49,720
Speaker 8: he hasn't talked to me since.

960
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, yeah, I think maybe harsh. But if

961
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 1: he's coming at you with those words like.

962
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 8: I think it's needed. I think he needs a harsh

963
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 8: and it's either going to end your relationship or he's

964
00:44:58,840 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 8: gotta realize.

965
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I might do both.

966
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 8: To be honest, I feel terrible for my words, but

967
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:06,919
Speaker 8: I was overworked and tired and couldn't help it. Am

968
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 8: I the ale and we've got an update thirteen days later.

969
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: I think there's a chance he had feelings for her.

970
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 8: I think for sure.

971
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a very non zero percentage.

972
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 9: But pe've got an update. Let's see if they're still together.

973
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Speaker 8: First off, thank you for everyone who gave opinions and

974
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 8: advice and opened my eyes to much more than what

975
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 8: I was seeing. I have now broken up with the guy.

976
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 8: I tried to stick by for a week or so

977
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 8: to really see if things were that bad, but things

978
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 8: didn't improve for my mental health and in fact got worse.

979
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 8: I became distant and cold and it had to be addressed.

980
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 6: I'm not shock.

981
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 8: Yeah, nor am I? Nor am I? It makes sense.

982
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 8: He did what she needed to do, and I'm glad

983
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:48,319
Speaker 8: read it helped you do it.

984
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 9: Yeah, let's see how it goes.

985
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 8: I decided to break up to take care of my

986
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 8: mental health. He did not take it nicely. He asked

987
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:56,879
Speaker 8: me why I'm giving up on him because you saw

988
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 8: I said, I'm not. I'm just prioritizing myself. Also claim

989
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 8: that I was being selfish. Why don't you think of me?

990
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 8: When have I ever asked you to go out of

991
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 8: your way and do something for me? Why am I

992
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 8: being treated like a burden If you want less people

993
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 8: stop talking to X my best friend's name, Dude, what

994
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 8: do you mean whenever I ever asked you to go

995
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:17,240
Speaker 8: out of your way? You asked her multiple times to

996
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 8: stay up all night, write.

997
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 1: And call her during work calls and do other weird stuff.

998
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 8: And that was the last job for me. I told

999
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 8: him to stop because I didn't want things to turn ugly.

1000
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 8: I told him, let's not lose our respect for each

1001
00:46:28,560 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 8: other that much. I'm not going down to your level.

1002
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,840
Speaker 8: And he hung up the call. So, yeah, that's about it.

1003
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 8: Thanks all for your help, appreciate it. And that's the

1004
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 8: end of the story. And there you go, and it

1005
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 8: happened as it should happen. Yeah, yeah, love to see it.

1006
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:44,480
Speaker 1: It'll bounce back.

1007
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

1008
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,240
Speaker 7: the next one.

1009
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 3: I confronted my fiance about hiding her phone, but her

1010
00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:53,280
Speaker 3: answer nade.

1011
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 4: Her laugh Ah hysterical.

1012
00:46:56,440 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 3: My fiance together almost four years, has never own any

1013
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:04,720
Speaker 3: signs of being a cheater, but it feels like something

1014
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:08,919
Speaker 3: weird's happening. She wears a ring everywhere except when she's

1015
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,760
Speaker 3: going out with her friends. I've never been a club person,

1016
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 3: but go with her sometimes to hang out. She's super

1017
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 3: extroverted while I'm more low key. Be balance each other out,

1018
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:25,319
Speaker 3: and she exposed me to a lot of amazing experiences.

1019
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 3: I love her very much, and she's been an amazing

1020
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 3: mother figure in my daughter's life who I have majority

1021
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:34,919
Speaker 3: custody of, so she spends a lot of her time

1022
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 3: with her. I asked her why she doesn't wear her

1023
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,359
Speaker 3: ring when she's out, but she says it's because she

1024
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 3: doesn't want to lose it when drinking. And by the way,

1025
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 3: this comes from Throwaway five five sixty six, five to five.

1026
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 3: And if you want to see your own stories, you

1027
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 3: know where to go.

1028
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:53,919
Speaker 6: I'm Riley, I'm Savannah, I'm Keon, and.

1029
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 3: We're here to be pretty goofy and we're not gonna

1030
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 3: be taking these stories very seriously, but if you have

1031
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 3: anything you want to add, please at it down below

1032
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 3: in the comments. As Op says, she wears it to

1033
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 3: the gym, but takes it off and puts it into

1034
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 3: this key chain ringholder. My brother was over last weekend

1035
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,879
Speaker 3: when she was leaving, and he asked me about it.

1036
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 3: I said it was because she didn't want to lose it.

1037
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 3: He said that wasn't normal. I grew up very religious

1038
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 3: and sheltered. My last long term relationship was with my

1039
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 3: child's mother, and she cheated before filing for a crazy

1040
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 3: amount of child support and then basically abandoning her child

1041
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 3: right after it was granted. Working on legally fixing that.

1042
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 3: So I worry sometimes that I'm too trusting. But is

1043
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 3: this normal? Am I being naive? She also seems to

1044
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,880
Speaker 3: be hiding her phone. I'll go over to her sometimes

1045
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 3: when she's super engaged, and she's clearly swiped away from

1046
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 3: whatever she's doing. We have each other's passwords, though, and

1047
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 3: when I asked what she's doing, she'll laugh it off

1048
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 3: and change the subject or start showing me funny stuff.

1049
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 3: I haven't seen anything suspicious or any suspicious numbers or messages,

1050
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 3: so I don't know relevant comments. Guys, are we going

1051
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 3: through the phone?

1052
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's a very sussy baka, you know are you

1053
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 5: going through the phone. I'm going to at this point

1054
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 5: where like, yeah, I'm going through the phone, going.

1055
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:20,399
Speaker 3: Through the phone.

1056
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 8: No, I don't think I would go through the phone. Well,

1057
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 8: I take that back.

1058
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 10: I would totally go through the phone if I had

1059
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 10: If I had the password and they're like not there

1060
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 10: or like they're like in the showers, and I'd.

1061
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 5: Be like, well, I'd be like what are you hiding?

1062
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 5: Like you yeah, very just go to that.

1063
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 10: Have the conversation, be like it feels like there's something

1064
00:49:38,160 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 10: going on. I don't know if that's just me or whatever.

1065
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 10: I would give them the chance to confess if something

1066
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 10: were to happen.

1067
00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:44,120
Speaker 3: On what reasoning, I.

1068
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 5: Would yeah, what Savanna said, I wouldn't go through the

1069
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 5: phone immediately. I'd be like, you're being sussy. You're being

1070
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 5: a very sussy person, Like, what what's up?

1071
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 1: Like?

1072
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 5: Or do we go with the really mental game of

1073
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 5: I know what you're doing. I know what you're doing. Yeah,

1074
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 5: I don't you know, you don't have to tell me

1075
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 5: I already know that's there's.

1076
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 3: Your point going through like the A to B. Also

1077
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,400
Speaker 3: everyone one for going through the phone two for no.

1078
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 3: I really want to know what you guys are thinking here.

1079
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 3: Ultrabaa says, I've deliberately warder ring on my ring finger

1080
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 3: to look like a wedding ring when I'd go out,

1081
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 3: just so I could say I'm married and wasn't interested.

1082
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 6: Nice, I've done that.

1083
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 3: Oh and if anybody interest you, you could just be like,

1084
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 3: huh not tonight, I'm not Mimik says nah Opie is

1085
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 3: already one foot out the relationship. Anyways, we got some comments.

1086
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 3: Opening track twelve twenty seven says, when you ask her

1087
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,359
Speaker 3: why she doesn't wear her engagement ring when she's going

1088
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 3: out with her friends, what was her response? And Obi says, ooh,

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Speaker 3: we already got some ones here. She said she's scared

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Speaker 3: to lose it because it's expensive, but she wears it

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Speaker 3: to this gym. But she wears it to the gym

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00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 3: and stores it in this keychain thing while she's working out,

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00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 3: So I don't know why she doesn't just do that.

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00:50:57,440 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 3: The only place she doesn't wear it is to part

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00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 3: already type social events or if she feels like she'll

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00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 3: might get it dirty. When told it's shady to check

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00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 3: her phone, she says, I looked last night. It was

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00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 3: all calls from numbers I recognize, like her family or

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00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 3: her friends or work. Text all seem normal too, nothing shady.

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00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 3: There's also no shady apps just look like games and

1101
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 3: social media. And nothing in these social except requests from

1102
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:29,319
Speaker 3: guys she either has it responded to or troll responded to.

1103
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:32,879
Speaker 3: She's pretty relaxed with her phone. She uses it a lot,

1104
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:35,239
Speaker 3: but doesn't guard it, if you know what I mean.

1105
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 3: She seems to swipe away when she's super engaged on

1106
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 3: it and I come over, we have an update.

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00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe she's trying to surprise you with something that's

1108
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 5: like the weird swiping, but then the ring stuff. She

1109
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,760
Speaker 5: makes a decent case in point, but still weird.

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00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 3: Van Kamper is asking the question we're all asking. I

1111
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 3: need to know how she gets.

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00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 5: I need to know how clumsy she is. I need

1113
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,920
Speaker 5: to know how clumsy she is and without being and

1114
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,880
Speaker 5: then how clumsy she is when she does get a

1115
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 5: little drinky.

1116
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 3: You know, I need to see her walk through her

1117
00:52:06,600 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 3: thrifts a china an antique shop. I need to see

1118
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 3: her walking through an antique shop, sober and then off

1119
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 3: of three drinks, then I'll get my answer. Miss Ray says,

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00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 3: wouldn't the ring be more endangered when she's wearing it

1121
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 3: at the gym because it might break when she puts

1122
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 3: in a little keychain? Key change?

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00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 8: Yeah, she puts it, Yeah, in a little.

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00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 3: And Van Camper says it's because it's one thing to

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00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 3: put your ring into a keychain when you're working out,

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00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 3: it's another to do it when because I have lost

1127
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 3: my keys when that's what I'm thinking to update. So,

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Speaker 3: after a lot of advice, I just decided to surprise

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00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:42,920
Speaker 3: her while she was out last night to see her

1130
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 3: true reaction. Like someone suggested, she told me where she

1131
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 3: was going, but it's not uncommon for her to bounce

1132
00:52:51,480 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 3: around different places, so I had to check her location,

1133
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 3: which we she are on Apple Maps. When I got there,

1134
00:52:58,239 --> 00:53:01,440
Speaker 3: I saw her quickly, but this dec to watch for

1135
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 3: a bit see how she acts when I'm not around.

1136
00:53:04,520 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 3: Sorry if this sounds creepy. She was just talking to

1137
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:10,760
Speaker 3: some guys and hugged them, which made me more nervous,

1138
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:14,320
Speaker 3: but it seemed more friendly than anything. Like I said,

1139
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 3: She's extremely extroverted and knows a lot of people. She

1140
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 3: acted like her normal self dancing and when a song

1141
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 3: came on, you'd grind or twerk on someone. She danced

1142
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 3: on with her friends or vice versa. Except for one moment,

1143
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:31,000
Speaker 3: a guy twerked on her as a joke and she

1144
00:53:31,120 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 3: pretended to be the guy, which was funny, okay, acceptable,

1145
00:53:33,560 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 3: I'm okay with that. After a few songs, I came

1146
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 3: over and she screamed and hugged me and started to

1147
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,920
Speaker 3: introduce me to everyone, which made me feel good. One

1148
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 3: of the guys she hugs at something like the famous

1149
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 3: fiance or something, so I'm clearly not a secret. The

1150
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,919
Speaker 3: night ended well. She and her girlfriends were wasted, so

1151
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 3: I got them food and took them home. When we

1152
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 3: got home, I decided it was the best time to ask,

1153
00:53:56,480 --> 00:54:00,400
Speaker 3: because wasted people tend to be their most on, so

1154
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:03,319
Speaker 3: I asked her flout out why she keeps hiding her

1155
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 3: phone when I come around. I don't like this technique.

1156
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 3: I've done this with my friend and he was so

1157
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 3: honest and he didn't understand what I was talking about.

1158
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 3: She said she doesn't hide her phone and asked what

1159
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 3: I was talking about. Then I described it. She made

1160
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:23,280
Speaker 3: a face and smiled like she was nervous. She asked

1161
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 3: if I really wanted to know, then tried laughing really hard.

1162
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:29,760
Speaker 3: Turns out she was playing this game that's like reading

1163
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:33,280
Speaker 3: a book that's animated and you choose how the story goes,

1164
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 3: called episode or something. He plays games like the SIMS,

1165
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:40,000
Speaker 3: so this tracks okay. She said the stories can be

1166
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 3: really cringey, and she was embarrassed because sometimes she feels

1167
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 3: like our age difference makes her feel immature, especially with

1168
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 3: the life experiences I've had before her. I left home young,

1169
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 3: and she grew up well off and is supported by

1170
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 3: her parents In many ways. She's the type to join

1171
00:54:57,080 --> 00:55:00,400
Speaker 3: in with the kids at the trampoline park, loves pink arkles,

1172
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 3: and styles her locks in fun ways. She's always getting

1173
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 3: me outside of try new things, but also likes to

1174
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:09,840
Speaker 3: do the low key things I like. I guess the

1175
00:55:09,880 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 3: contrast of her personalities made her feel like I would

1176
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:15,520
Speaker 3: judge her for the app, but I don't care. I'm

1177
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,640
Speaker 3: just really glad she's not cheating. Aloel, thanks for all

1178
00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 3: the advice, guys. Yay, every single one of you that

1179
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:26,720
Speaker 3: typed one is wrong. She's just likes the episode.

1180
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story, we're gonna read

1181
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 7: the next one.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here, and

1183
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 2: we're going to get back to the stories.

1184
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: But here's a three minute ad break from our sponsors.

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Speaker 8: I cheated on my boyfriend and told him. Now I

1186
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:43,360
Speaker 8: have a new.

1187
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:45,280
Speaker 3: Boyfriend, New boyfriend time.

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Speaker 10: I'm twenty one female, honestly overwhelmed by the situation and

1189
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 10: need all the options I can get. I've been with

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00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 10: my current boyfriend, twenty three male for two years, and

1191
00:55:54,680 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 10: my post might suggest otherwise, but I do love him

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00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 10: a lot. We both come from the same small town

1193
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,839
Speaker 10: and even went to the same school. Back then, we

1194
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 10: never even really talked, mainly because he was a year

1195
00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:09,319
Speaker 10: above me, but we went on to study at the

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00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 10: same university and grew closer until we started dating. By

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Speaker 10: the way, this comes from Bad Elegant thirty seven five,

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Speaker 10: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 10: to the r slash Okay Storytime subreda.

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Speaker 6: I'm Savannah, I'm Riley Keon, and.

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00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 10: We're here to give some good advice in a little

1202
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:25,520
Speaker 10: goofy manner. But we don't have all the answers. You

1203
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 10: only tell you what we would do, but you shall

1204
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 10: let us.

1205
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,360
Speaker 8: Know what you would do down in the comments.

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00:56:30,239 --> 00:56:33,800
Speaker 10: As OPI says, back in early March, I visited my brother,

1207
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 10: twenty six male, who studies abroad through a scholarship, and

1208
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 10: got along really well with one of his friends, twenty

1209
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 10: five mail. We stayed in contact after I return home,

1210
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:45,720
Speaker 10: and often FaceTime to update each other on our lives.

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00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 10: Some people might already consider this a form of cheating,

1212
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 10: but I genuinely saw him as more of a really

1213
00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 10: good friend until recently. The more we got to know

1214
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:58,280
Speaker 10: each other, the more my feelings changed from platonic to romantic,

1215
00:56:58,480 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 10: and I feel horrible. We have many of the same interests.

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00:57:02,320 --> 00:57:04,360
Speaker 10: He's asking me to join him when he goes to

1217
00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 10: his family's summer house. Even offered me a potential internship

1218
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:11,040
Speaker 10: at his dad's company, which is an insane opportunity for me.

1219
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:13,719
Speaker 10: His parents have already grown fond of me, even though

1220
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 10: I've only met them once. I hate myself for this,

1221
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 10: but I think I'm starting to fall in love with him.

1222
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:21,680
Speaker 10: I think the feeling is mutual, since my brother told

1223
00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 10: me he asks about me a lot. I just felt

1224
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 10: so happy around him. From the moment we met. I

1225
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 10: already miss him. The last thing I want to do

1226
00:57:30,840 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 10: is cheeto my boyfriend, so I can either shut down

1227
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 10: my new feelings or break up with him. Would I

1228
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 10: be the a hole if I did? If I had

1229
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 10: a valid reason to break up, I wouldn't even feel bad.

1230
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 10: But again, I still love him. I can never forgive

1231
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 10: myself for breaking his heart, especially knowing I will either

1232
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 10: have to tell him the reason, or if I don't,

1233
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 10: he will eventually find out. One thing I appreciate about

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00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 10: my brother's friend is the fact that he's very respectful

1235
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 10: and patient. He doesn't know I have a boyfriend, but

1236
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 10: his attempts on flirting are very subtle, and it makes

1237
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:04,040
Speaker 10: me feel like I'm not in a rush to choose yet. Regardless,

1238
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 10: I do want to finally make the choice.

1239
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 6: And there's an update, all right?

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00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 3: Number one? Where is this a broad trip? Are we

1241
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 3: in Germany or are we in France.

1242
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 5: Or Italy or like idaho?

1243
00:58:16,440 --> 00:58:19,040
Speaker 6: I guess, yeah, yeah, she is the ho.

1244
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a good point. Number two. The most common

1245
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 3: word I got in the second half of that when

1246
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:28,120
Speaker 3: we started talking about this new guy was the word think.

1247
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 3: I think, think, think, think, think think. We're in her

1248
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:37,640
Speaker 3: head and we're thinking about a possible future rather than predictability. Now,

1249
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 3: I know you're young, and this seems fun and this

1250
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 3: is a thing of episode. Here's my last thing I

1251
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:43,840
Speaker 3: want to say. There's this quote back where I'm from.

1252
00:58:43,880 --> 00:58:45,560
Speaker 3: It's called if you fall in love with two people,

1253
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 3: choose the second one, because if you truly love the

1254
00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:50,000
Speaker 3: first person, you want to fall in love with a

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00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 3: second person.

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00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 5: Oh wow, I love your I love that you're from

1257
00:58:53,280 --> 00:58:53,880
Speaker 5: Johnny Depp.

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00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 6: You're from Johnny say that?

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00:58:56,320 --> 00:58:58,160
Speaker 3: Oh my god. My cousin told me that, thinking it

1260
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 3: was like something from the South. My world shattered. I

1261
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 3: thought it was like old Southern proverb or something. All right,

1262
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 3: Johnny Depp, it is. That's even cooler.

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00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 1: I love Johnny Depp.

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00:59:09,720 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 3: Katie says, okay, Op, the next step would be to

1265
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 3: talk to your right now boyfriend about how you're feeling,

1266
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 3: instead of him finding out and your brother's friend and

1267
00:59:18,280 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 3: finding out about you and your brother's friend from someone else.

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00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 3: How do we feel about what I said? What do

1269
00:59:22,200 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 3: you think about that?

1270
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 10: Honestly, it's kind of valid. I mean, I I don't

1271
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:29,360
Speaker 10: know she's the second one because we truly.

1272
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 8: Love the person.

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00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 3: Johnny Zepp came up with that.

1274
00:59:32,920 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 5: From I love that you're from Johnny Depp.

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00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 8: That's crazy.

1276
00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 3: I heard that in high school.

1277
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 5: I thought it was like, so you thought that was like,

1278
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 5: that's that's poetic, that's historical.

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00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 6: I love how.

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Speaker 1: You're from Johnny.

1281
00:59:45,680 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 3: Well, Johnny is from the South? Is he all right? Predictions?

1282
00:59:49,240 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 5: I think your world's entirely flipped upside down because you're like,

1283
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 5: I live by this quote because it's from where I'm from.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

1285
00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 5: I thought I was like, is he really pulling this

1286
00:59:57,400 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 5: out of his ass?

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00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:02,000
Speaker 3: I am? I am process right now. I'm a little

1288
01:00:02,040 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 3: pissed at my cousin because he's the one that told

1289
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:07,840
Speaker 3: me this. But predictions, is she gonna go with? Which episode?

1290
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Speaker 3: Do we go with?

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01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 7: Guys?

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01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 5: I think she's going for number two, number two? I

1293
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 5: don't know number two really like guy number two. She's like,

1294
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,680
Speaker 5: I'm getting all of these things on the table, like

1295
01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:22,800
Speaker 5: it's a huge opportunity for me. Uh, this sounds great.

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01:00:23,040 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 5: My boyfriend currently doesn't do this for me.

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Speaker 3: Dude, I mean it does sound nice. I'm always down

1298
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 3: for be with someone that will make you a better

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01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 3: version of yourself or expand your mindset.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I agree, and.

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Speaker 3: I hate that. I'm feeling like number two is the

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01:00:37,560 --> 01:00:40,080
Speaker 3: best option here. Oh he's selling it pretty well.

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Speaker 8: There's an uphing.

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Speaker 10: After posting this, I realized I'm probably just resorting to

1305
01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:46,840
Speaker 10: Reddit because I was scared of confrontation and needed someone

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01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 10: to finally tell me to talk to both my boyfriend

1307
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 10: and I'm the guy I know or I now like.

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01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 8: I think if I.

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01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:56,000
Speaker 10: Had pushed it off further, the situation would be ten

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01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 10: times worse, So thank god I didn't. I called my

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01:00:58,880 --> 01:01:02,959
Speaker 10: boyfriend pretty much started crying immediately. He obviously knew something

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01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,000
Speaker 10: was wrong, and so I told him my developed feelings

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01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:07,200
Speaker 10: for a guy my brother introduced to me. I also

1314
01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:09,680
Speaker 10: admitted there was some flirting on his part and that

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01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 10: I never shut it down. My boyfriend was angry and

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01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 10: heartbroken and has every right to be, but he stayed

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01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:18,360
Speaker 10: mostly calm and trusted me when I said we had

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01:01:18,480 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 10: never been intimate. We agreed that our relationship is over

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01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 10: and I'm meaning soon to talk in person. I was

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01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 10: surprised at how understanding he was, but I also know

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01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 10: he's probably hurting a lot. I think we will still

1322
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:33,960
Speaker 10: be in contact until we finish university, but I don't

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01:01:33,960 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 10: think we can be friends after this. I'm nervous about

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01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 10: talking to him in person, but the fact that he

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01:01:40,400 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 10: didn't lash out helps. I also called the guy I like,

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01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 10: told him about my feelings and that I had a

1327
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 10: boyfriend up until a few minutes ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, you are moving too fast here, slow

1329
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Speaker 3: your role.

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Speaker 6: She doesn't want to be with Yeah, it was always

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01:01:54,600 --> 01:01:55,000
Speaker 6: number two.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, she doesn't want to be with one, which, unfortunately.

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01:01:58,680 --> 01:01:59,919
Speaker 8: Like sucks for that guy.

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Speaker 10: I told him that the reason I didn't break up

1335
01:02:02,120 --> 01:02:04,080
Speaker 10: earlier was because I wasn't sure what to make of

1336
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:06,520
Speaker 10: my new feelings and also scared of my boyfriend's reaction.

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01:02:07,200 --> 01:02:09,360
Speaker 10: He was very understanding and asked me if I still

1338
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 10: love my ex, but the truth is I don't. He

1339
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 10: also told me he had actually been wondering why I

1340
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:18,240
Speaker 10: always got so awkward when he complimented me. Now he understands.

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Speaker 3: Why Read the first two sentences and then I'll have

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01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:21,480
Speaker 3: something to say.

1343
01:02:21,560 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 10: This is the first time I was the one to

1344
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:26,240
Speaker 10: confess my love first, and I was extremely nervous, but

1345
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 10: he confirmed the feeling was mutual, and now we're planning

1346
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:31,920
Speaker 10: on meeting again soon, plus going on vacation together. We

1347
01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:33,960
Speaker 10: live in different countries, as you know for my original

1348
01:02:33,960 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 10: post whoa Girl.

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Speaker 5: She's like, I love him because we get to do

1350
01:02:39,240 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 5: so many fun things. I don't go back to my

1351
01:02:41,480 --> 01:02:43,440
Speaker 5: small town. I ow to different countries.

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Speaker 3: Now, this is way too fast. Good things come slowly, alright,

1353
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 3: people do things.

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Speaker 10: Yes, he's so mature and sweet about it and wants

1355
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:55,160
Speaker 10: me to take my time getting from my first relationship

1356
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 10: into this new one.

1357
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Speaker 8: But I know I love him.

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Speaker 10: I've actually never been this yere about it anything, and

1359
01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:02,880
Speaker 10: so I said yes when he asked me to be

1360
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:03,520
Speaker 10: his girlfriend.

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Speaker 7: Girl.

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01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:05,920
Speaker 8: How quick was that like a few minutes after he

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Speaker 8: broke up?

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Speaker 3: Yep, Yeah, that's crazy.

1365
01:03:07,800 --> 01:03:09,440
Speaker 8: I've never ever been able to do that.

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Speaker 10: I've always like, i mean, between like my relationships, there's

1367
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 10: always been like two three years and then like, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, you've been with the guy that you grew up with,

1369
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:20,200
Speaker 3: went to the same university because you guys just went

1370
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:22,919
Speaker 3: the same high school. High school, sweetheart, it's just the same.

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01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 3: He's just the same all the time. And he get

1372
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Speaker 3: this new experience, this new exciting thing. When't you just

1373
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 3: jump ship to this new exciting no jet ski.

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Speaker 10: No, Because I always think, like, why would I just

1375
01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:34,920
Speaker 10: waste all of that time when I like, I've been

1376
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:37,040
Speaker 10: with this person, I've grown with them, I've been with

1377
01:03:37,120 --> 01:03:39,120
Speaker 10: them this entire time. Why would I just all of

1378
01:03:39,160 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 10: a sudden, like just throw all of that away for

1379
01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 10: this thing that might work. That's my that's my like thing. Yeah.

1380
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 10: And I would tell that to my ex too, because

1381
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 10: he'd always he was just like very insecure.

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01:03:50,920 --> 01:03:52,360
Speaker 6: You always be like any you're gonna cheat on me.

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01:03:52,360 --> 01:03:54,640
Speaker 3: I'm like, Okay, how old is this chick again? Twenty one?

1384
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, she got a lot of life to live twenty one.

1385
01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 3: Is there anything else left now?

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01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:01,240
Speaker 8: There's not.

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01:04:01,360 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story.