1
00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:07,360
Speaker 1: Hi, guys, how are you doing? This is Mandy and

2
00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:10,639
Speaker 1: we are here with yet another episode of horrible Decisions.

3
00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:15,000
Speaker 1: Wheezy is still in Dallas, UM getting her coins. Um

4
00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:16,960
Speaker 1: you know, she got a new job. And I am

5
00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:21,119
Speaker 1: just free from tax season, so I had some time.

6
00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:23,280
Speaker 1: So I decided to get up with some good friends

7
00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,600
Speaker 1: of mine to bring you this episode this week. UM,

8
00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:28,120
Speaker 1: and I guess we'll go ahead and introduce them now

9
00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:30,600
Speaker 1: we have UM, I'll start, you know what, We're gonna

10
00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,479
Speaker 1: start with the lady, because that's how we do. So

11
00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:37,599
Speaker 1: we have the lovely Christie Monroe. And do you want

12
00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:39,240
Speaker 1: to tell them where they may know you from a

13
00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:41,920
Speaker 1: little bit about yourself? Okay, well, most people know me

14
00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:45,680
Speaker 1: from VH one's Love and Hip Hop New York season five. Um.

15
00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:47,959
Speaker 1: And I'm also a writer for Hip Hop Weekly magazine.

16
00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,640
Speaker 1: I have a love advice column, Love Talk with Christy Monroe,

17
00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:53,480
Speaker 1: and a few other things. But we'll get into that later. Yes,

18
00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:55,840
Speaker 1: and then I am also I have the wonderful I

19
00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:57,960
Speaker 1: kind of want to roll out the red carpet. Y'all

20
00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:01,520
Speaker 1: may know him from now, but I'm not gonna do that.

21
00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:05,600
Speaker 1: We have, UM the do say Pelluza could I call

22
00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:07,520
Speaker 1: you the hype man. I know you kind of don't

23
00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:12,360
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, not the hype man. What what's what's

24
00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,440
Speaker 1: your title? What do say? Paluza? Um? I think I'm

25
00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:20,000
Speaker 1: the host? Oh the host? Okay, host is batter. Don't do,

26
00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:30,080
Speaker 1: don't do me, don't do break it out already, and

27
00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,119
Speaker 1: I know that you are the host of the wonderful

28
00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,600
Speaker 1: podcast Trapping Anonymous. Um. And if you guys have not

29
00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:39,200
Speaker 1: listened to it yet, if you guys are looking to

30
00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:43,120
Speaker 1: subscribe to a new show, Trapping Anonymous is hello, dope,

31
00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:44,600
Speaker 1: do you want to let our listeners know a little

32
00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:49,200
Speaker 1: bit what they might expect? Okay, do your intro? Son

33
00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,800
Speaker 1: go ahead, and you already know Chris Staffs Trapping Anonymous?

34
00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:55,600
Speaker 1: Do say pellus. I'm in the building out here, but

35
00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,320
Speaker 1: I'm mistake here by design. You know what it is

36
00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:00,120
Speaker 1: when I'm in the building. Let's get it um up

37
00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,520
Speaker 1: an Anonymous. Basically, now, I'm not gonna make the show,

38
00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:07,000
Speaker 1: but you know, I just I just I interview you know, scammers,

39
00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,959
Speaker 1: drug dealers, pimps, hookers, all kinds of people. Um, And

40
00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,760
Speaker 1: we do it anonymously, and you know, we just get

41
00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,680
Speaker 1: this story. You know, everybody has a story and it's

42
00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,000
Speaker 1: important that we get it out there because there's a

43
00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,120
Speaker 1: lot of lessons that could be learned from everybody's story.

44
00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,840
Speaker 1: So it doesn't always deter people away from the underworld.

45
00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:25,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes it brings them in. But we want to, you know,

46
00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:28,400
Speaker 1: give them some advice, um, if they're going to enter

47
00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:32,040
Speaker 1: that world. And we've done positive things. We've done hedge funds,

48
00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:36,840
Speaker 1: we've done black entrepreneurs, we've done people with HIV, all

49
00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:40,200
Speaker 1: types of topics. So if you interested, you know, trapping

50
00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,919
Speaker 1: anonymous on SoundCloud, crys styles on all platforms, and yeah,

51
00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,200
Speaker 1: let's do it. Damn you. You gotta gave the handle

52
00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,120
Speaker 1: at the end of the show. You want them to

53
00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:55,240
Speaker 1: see who you are right up fronts everywhere a job.

54
00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,920
Speaker 1: Excuse me, um, So both of you guys are listening

55
00:02:59,960 --> 00:03:02,720
Speaker 1: to the show. We actually brought back a new segment

56
00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:04,320
Speaker 1: that we stopped doing and we brought it back. So

57
00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,400
Speaker 1: we're gonna start off this show with some Vanilla ship.

58
00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,560
Speaker 1: What we do with Vanilla Ship is bring up a topic, um,

59
00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,680
Speaker 1: something that is going on in society and normally has

60
00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:15,640
Speaker 1: to do with sex. So of course I found a

61
00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,520
Speaker 1: great topic and I want you guys this kind of

62
00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,520
Speaker 1: input on it. I don't know if you have read it,

63
00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,520
Speaker 1: but the president of Uganda is trying to ban oral

64
00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:27,960
Speaker 1: sex because he claims that the mouth is for eating.

65
00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:34,120
Speaker 1: That is his reasoning. Um. He says, well, actually he

66
00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:38,720
Speaker 1: blames outsiders for trying to convince Uganda's to perform oral

67
00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:42,160
Speaker 1: sex on one another, um, saying that he's issuing this

68
00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:45,520
Speaker 1: public warning to stop from it. Um. And I was

69
00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:47,520
Speaker 1: talking with my friends earlier, and I kind of want

70
00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:51,560
Speaker 1: to know what are y'all thoughts on kind of the

71
00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:53,920
Speaker 1: government trying to interfere with what we do with our

72
00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:58,200
Speaker 1: bodies and sexuality, and like how are they even gonna know?

73
00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,280
Speaker 1: Like I I had a question about, like, yeah, like

74
00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,200
Speaker 1: you if you get caught, I think it's in the

75
00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:09,800
Speaker 1: act maybe, Like like prostitution is not what Prostitution is

76
00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,520
Speaker 1: not legal everywhere, and I believe that even if you

77
00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:15,160
Speaker 1: are a prostitute, you have to be caught in the

78
00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:19,600
Speaker 1: act of prostitution to get arrested. Correct. Well, let's think

79
00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:24,320
Speaker 1: about it. Yes, if I'm getting head, if you're getting handed,

80
00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:28,120
Speaker 1: I'm imagining it right now. Okay, good, Um, it's probably

81
00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,000
Speaker 1: just us in the room. Like if it's you and not.

82
00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:31,919
Speaker 1: It's just it would just be you and I in

83
00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:38,320
Speaker 1: the room. Right, How in the world? What if you okay?

84
00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:44,560
Speaker 1: So that's why, So then do you get who has that?

85
00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:46,320
Speaker 1: Do you get arrested for black man? Do you get arrested?

86
00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,479
Speaker 1: Propose both of y'all would get arrested because you are

87
00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:52,320
Speaker 1: allowing it. But it's the stupidest shi I ever heard of.

88
00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,320
Speaker 1: And what would be the punishment? They're going to fucking

89
00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:56,279
Speaker 1: sow your mouth shut or some sh it. So it's

90
00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:58,279
Speaker 1: funny because I ended up reading up on him, and

91
00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:00,120
Speaker 1: I want you all to know what a fucking In

92
00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:04,760
Speaker 1: two thousand fourteen, the same president actually introduced a law

93
00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:10,359
Speaker 1: um saying um that you couldn't have same sex sex

94
00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,320
Speaker 1: um and that if you were someone who was caught

95
00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:17,360
Speaker 1: having regular sex with the same sex, that you were

96
00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:20,360
Speaker 1: punishable by law for that. All this time to find

97
00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:27,600
Speaker 1: a topic for us to talk something bigger problems, like

98
00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:31,320
Speaker 1: I didn't a big deal because what is this is

99
00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,880
Speaker 1: something that they bring over here where they start banning,

100
00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:39,320
Speaker 1: Like so the president he's homophobic, obviously he ain't get

101
00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:45,800
Speaker 1: a prostitutes have say, Oh, so that's what you wanted

102
00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,160
Speaker 1: to talk about, is our president paying to have a

103
00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:50,840
Speaker 1: dick suck. I'm saying, it's just like so many other

104
00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,599
Speaker 1: things that's going on, this is something that was actually

105
00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,799
Speaker 1: made into a topic that a lot of people were discussing.

106
00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:58,120
Speaker 1: Thank you very much. I think I think the president

107
00:05:58,160 --> 00:05:59,760
Speaker 1: of you Gone to should worry about other ship. I

108
00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,040
Speaker 1: think he's probably a hater because his white probably sucking

109
00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:06,400
Speaker 1: his dick, because that's probably he's actually everybody got a pet.

110
00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:10,560
Speaker 1: It's funny because it's either it's either she ain't sucking

111
00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,960
Speaker 1: his dick or she's given bad head. What was bad head?

112
00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,400
Speaker 1: You know, te you know they're still biting. She ain't

113
00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:23,679
Speaker 1: got the suction. Yeah, she don't got the two hand ship. Okay.

114
00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,000
Speaker 1: He introduced it trying to say that oral sex actually

115
00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:34,320
Speaker 1: causes worms, and I thought I thought that was funny

116
00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:36,200
Speaker 1: because my mom used to say that, like why I

117
00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,400
Speaker 1: shouldn't drink beer. She said, if you drink beer, there's

118
00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:41,800
Speaker 1: worms at the bottom. Y'all's mom's never told y'all that

119
00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,040
Speaker 1: there was worms at the bottom. Bottom of here you

120
00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:47,040
Speaker 1: drink liquor or worms at the bottom. But it's like, yeah,

121
00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:50,640
Speaker 1: but tequila, I used to be told I ate a

122
00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,719
Speaker 1: watermelon seed. The watermelon will grow on my belly. That's

123
00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,800
Speaker 1: that's something I don't know about that I couldn't drink.

124
00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:05,400
Speaker 1: That was why you couldn't drink that. And older kids

125
00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:10,040
Speaker 1: got jes wait till I was eighteen and biotropical fantasy

126
00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:16,120
Speaker 1: and fine, okay, I guess y'all were coming on to

127
00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:17,880
Speaker 1: horrible decisions and thought we were going to talk about

128
00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:19,480
Speaker 1: something a little bit more raunchy. So that's what we're

129
00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:21,760
Speaker 1: gonna do. UM. The kink of the Week was inspired

130
00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,400
Speaker 1: by our beautiful guest UM and so the kick of

131
00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:26,640
Speaker 1: the week. And I would love your input as a

132
00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:30,560
Speaker 1: heterocyst male on this UM and any other men in

133
00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:31,840
Speaker 1: the room that were like the chime, and I would

134
00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:33,880
Speaker 1: like that too. So our kink of the Week for

135
00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:39,120
Speaker 1: this week is m m F Threesome. Mm F standing

136
00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:43,120
Speaker 1: for male Male female threesome. It is a threesome involving

137
00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:46,600
Speaker 1: two men and one woman. There are several options for

138
00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,400
Speaker 1: who actually has sex with home, so the woman can

139
00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,240
Speaker 1: be in the middle, one of the men can be

140
00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:56,120
Speaker 1: in the middle, or everyone can have sex with each other. UM.

141
00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:59,440
Speaker 1: I wanted to bring the song because I heard the

142
00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:03,040
Speaker 1: lovely Christie UM speak on this topic and she openly

143
00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:07,520
Speaker 1: admitted to enjoying um mmf threesomes. So what is your

144
00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:09,280
Speaker 1: take on it? And I also have homemail that I

145
00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,760
Speaker 1: would like to read and ask you for for some advice.

146
00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:13,760
Speaker 1: But what is your take on it? And then we'll

147
00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,960
Speaker 1: get to the man. It's the best thing ever. I've

148
00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:20,080
Speaker 1: done it several times. Um. I even had two cousins before.

149
00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:24,080
Speaker 1: Wait wait they were cousins. They were cousins. They were

150
00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,440
Speaker 1: totally cool. Of course, they don't get on the bed.

151
00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:30,000
Speaker 1: They ain't with the gayness at all. Okay, totally weren't

152
00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:32,360
Speaker 1: touching each other. It wasn't a d P and none

153
00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,280
Speaker 1: of that porn o ship. But it's fun because when

154
00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,000
Speaker 1: one is finished, the other one just keeps going. So

155
00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:41,400
Speaker 1: it's like just continual fun. And you know, like women

156
00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:45,320
Speaker 1: like y'all get more horny, you know what I'm saying,

157
00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:50,520
Speaker 1: Like uh huh, and was like yo, women, be like

158
00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:54,240
Speaker 1: let's go. Did you did you feel like it was

159
00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,360
Speaker 1: a lot of work for you? Because all admit and

160
00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,319
Speaker 1: I haven't admitted on the podcast, but I've done this

161
00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:02,679
Speaker 1: as well before. Um two men with me and I

162
00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:08,440
Speaker 1: enjoyed it, um um. We talked about it previously um,

163
00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:10,560
Speaker 1: and it was something where I said I would engage

164
00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:13,079
Speaker 1: in it because I trusted this man. So he was like,

165
00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,120
Speaker 1: he didn't say me and my man's wanna, But I

166
00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:19,400
Speaker 1: like it was something that I think he kind of

167
00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:22,360
Speaker 1: had a like fantasy of and I was like, yo,

168
00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:24,400
Speaker 1: I'm down with it. But it's also like to where

169
00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:26,439
Speaker 1: he didn't last as long, so I think he just

170
00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,839
Speaker 1: wanted to please me, and because he couldn't fully please me,

171
00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:43,079
Speaker 1: it was something that the problem you keep the bag,

172
00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:45,760
Speaker 1: this is what we're doing. You actually really don't listen

173
00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:47,240
Speaker 1: to the show because I actually like young niggas, but

174
00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:49,760
Speaker 1: I say it's because of stamina. Um and something that

175
00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:52,199
Speaker 1: I like that you um went to. You said that

176
00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,320
Speaker 1: it's kind of like being a queen for the day.

177
00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,439
Speaker 1: So as a woman, how do you feel when you're

178
00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:00,640
Speaker 1: engaging this And have you asked a guy for it before?

179
00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:02,480
Speaker 1: And he was like, I would never, Like, I can't

180
00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,880
Speaker 1: believe that you do this. I actually cut off. It

181
00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:10,240
Speaker 1: was a twin identical twin brothers and I was fucking

182
00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,280
Speaker 1: with one and I told him we ain't having sex again.

183
00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:13,960
Speaker 1: He was only twenty three. I said, we ain't having

184
00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,240
Speaker 1: sex again until you and your brother. Both come over

185
00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:18,000
Speaker 1: at the same time, and they would not do it.

186
00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:20,920
Speaker 1: They kept trying to. They started fighting each other like, no,

187
00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,120
Speaker 1: he ain't ship. I mean, you just funk with me.

188
00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:24,959
Speaker 1: You don't want to do that. But they wouldn't do it.

189
00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:26,640
Speaker 1: I guess they were embarrassed to doing it for each other.

190
00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:28,160
Speaker 1: I was like, both, you both cut off. That's it,

191
00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:32,520
Speaker 1: just just this was a few years ago, like four

192
00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:35,640
Speaker 1: years ago. And so is this something that you've introduced

193
00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:38,680
Speaker 1: into the bedroom with a partner or is this something

194
00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:41,679
Speaker 1: that you do just with you know, friends. The first

195
00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:43,400
Speaker 1: time I did it, I was in a relationship and

196
00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:46,760
Speaker 1: he would not fucking stop stressing me for a threesome.

197
00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:48,760
Speaker 1: I said, okay, but what's going for you? What's it

198
00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:50,520
Speaker 1: going for me? Motherfucker? I said, So we're going to

199
00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:53,520
Speaker 1: have a threesome. We're gonna have my threesome. First I

200
00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,400
Speaker 1: picked which one of his friends. I made him drive

201
00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,439
Speaker 1: to Brooklyn and bring it to my house and it

202
00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:05,480
Speaker 1: was on a popish for the fucking night till six am. Yes, yes, yes,

203
00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:10,480
Speaker 1: that was the first time. What type of ship? What

204
00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,920
Speaker 1: was he on? Though? Like? How did you like? How

205
00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:15,280
Speaker 1: was he feeling like that? You said, all right, I

206
00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:28,920
Speaker 1: want that friend because that friend still DM thirsty. So

207
00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:30,920
Speaker 1: you picked the friend. I picked the front and he

208
00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:32,760
Speaker 1: was cool, and he was so stucked out and just

209
00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:38,800
Speaker 1: he was like a crack dealer. That worked out? So

210
00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,199
Speaker 1: did did you eventually switch off and give him his

211
00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:43,760
Speaker 1: three so with another woman? Yeah? And it was so lame.

212
00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:47,200
Speaker 1: He got mad too because he busted in two seconds

213
00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:49,600
Speaker 1: and the girl was more into me. So he went

214
00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:52,080
Speaker 1: out lay in the livingroom, had a fucking attitude. I said,

215
00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:55,199
Speaker 1: it need my fucking fault like you, he disappointed to

216
00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,240
Speaker 1: motherfucker's tonight. Now you should have just left it alone.

217
00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:02,360
Speaker 1: I atually just made a post about this. All men

218
00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:06,120
Speaker 1: were not granted the ability to engage in a threesome.

219
00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,280
Speaker 1: It's not like it's not for everybody. If you don't,

220
00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:11,520
Speaker 1: they do. And if you don't have the stamina, you

221
00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:14,439
Speaker 1: don't have the girth. Let's say you don't like eating pussy.

222
00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:15,959
Speaker 1: If there's a lot of things that you don't like doing,

223
00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,559
Speaker 1: entertaining two women, don't let both of us down, please.

224
00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:21,599
Speaker 1: So I have a homemail about this that someone just

225
00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:23,760
Speaker 1: wrote in so I thought it was perfect. She said,

226
00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,040
Speaker 1: I just want to start off by saying I love

227
00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:28,439
Speaker 1: the podcast. I'm a young female interested in having a

228
00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:31,440
Speaker 1: threesome with two males. This is my wildest fantasy in life.

229
00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:33,360
Speaker 1: But I've never done anything like this and don't know

230
00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:35,640
Speaker 1: where to begin. I don't want to do it with

231
00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,599
Speaker 1: two guys that I know, because I just wanted to

232
00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:39,720
Speaker 1: happen and never want to face the people involved again.

233
00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,120
Speaker 1: Do you have any tips for me to make this happen?

234
00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:45,520
Speaker 1: All suggestions are welcome. I really really want to make

235
00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:51,440
Speaker 1: this fantasy happen. Go to the Dominican Republic, get get

236
00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:55,839
Speaker 1: You too, Sanky Panky's and call it to give twenty.

237
00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,360
Speaker 1: They do on threesomes for twenty. The men are US

238
00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:04,880
Speaker 1: dollars twenty us. Why why do we always so? If

239
00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:07,280
Speaker 1: Wey was here, she would say, pay for dick too,

240
00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,120
Speaker 1: And I'm just like that. You at never got to

241
00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,160
Speaker 1: see him again. They don't speak in no English, you

242
00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:15,320
Speaker 1: don't know English, you don't tell him your name. Paying

243
00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:18,239
Speaker 1: for sex is underrated, it really is. It's a convenience.

244
00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:22,439
Speaker 1: Something that I would say to do is if you

245
00:13:22,559 --> 00:13:24,920
Speaker 1: were on a trip, maybe out of the country or

246
00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:28,160
Speaker 1: in another city. Um, you'd be surprised that if you

247
00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,920
Speaker 1: come off like you want friends in a club or

248
00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:34,480
Speaker 1: a bar, A lot of them will be ready to

249
00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:39,120
Speaker 1: run the cruise please. One of the crews. Last summer,

250
00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:42,599
Speaker 1: I had every married motherfucker on my ship after the

251
00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:45,320
Speaker 1: kiddy daycare. Look, they had the daycare on the boat

252
00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:47,400
Speaker 1: till eleven o'clock, so then the wife had to go

253
00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:49,079
Speaker 1: back to the room to be with the kids. Oh,

254
00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:51,319
Speaker 1: they was in the club on button and the shirt

255
00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,040
Speaker 1: and out acting single. I'm like, I just saw you

256
00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,120
Speaker 1: in your whole fucking family four hours ago at the dinner.

257
00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,240
Speaker 1: What the fund are you trying to do? Where you

258
00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,600
Speaker 1: know I'm on vacation and my wife really don't mind.

259
00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:04,079
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna ask for tomorrow when I

260
00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:06,200
Speaker 1: see you all at the buffet, funk out the funk

261
00:14:06,280 --> 00:14:08,480
Speaker 1: out of here, like you know you're lying. So in

262
00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:11,520
Speaker 1: terms of this too, for for our lady listeners listening

263
00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:13,920
Speaker 1: who may want to engage in this, how do you

264
00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:16,360
Speaker 1: bring it up to a guy? I just kind of said,

265
00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:18,480
Speaker 1: how I did? How is it that you brought it

266
00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:21,320
Speaker 1: up to to any of these men? Like, listen, this

267
00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:23,640
Speaker 1: is what I like, and you know and have you

268
00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:27,120
Speaker 1: ever been at me a spontaneous thing like when I

269
00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:28,960
Speaker 1: had the two cousins. I was working with the guy.

270
00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,240
Speaker 1: He was the man, he was Dominican, he was that

271
00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:35,200
Speaker 1: was actually my barber at the time. And then we

272
00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:37,320
Speaker 1: all went out drinking. We had another girl with us,

273
00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:39,440
Speaker 1: but that bitch passed out on the couch. So me

274
00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:42,480
Speaker 1: and him were in my room fucking and his his cousin.

275
00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:46,480
Speaker 1: I left the door open on purpose, so his cousin

276
00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:48,760
Speaker 1: walked by and we're standing there watching. I was like,

277
00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,120
Speaker 1: I looked at my guy. I was like, is it

278
00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:55,720
Speaker 1: all right? Like he was like, Okay, have you ever

279
00:14:55,840 --> 00:15:00,240
Speaker 1: been how many have you done this? Quite a feel

280
00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:04,120
Speaker 1: quite a few? Have you ever been engaged in a

281
00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:06,560
Speaker 1: male male female threesome? And isn't something that you would do?

282
00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:15,400
Speaker 1: Like to be real? Like so it's just so many

283
00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:18,920
Speaker 1: different ways to tackle this question. Um, yeah, I had.

284
00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:22,520
Speaker 1: But it was like when you when you're younger, here,

285
00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:24,280
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like when you're younger, it's

286
00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,840
Speaker 1: a train. So like even even now, it's the train,

287
00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:30,200
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Because like women, this is

288
00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:33,320
Speaker 1: like they're fantasy. In my mind, this is like a

289
00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,480
Speaker 1: woman's fantasy, you know what I'm saying. So and women

290
00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:38,040
Speaker 1: always get looked down upon for anything sexual, and you

291
00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,920
Speaker 1: know that double standard is very alive. And well, um

292
00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:43,360
Speaker 1: so yeah, we've we've had trained, but you already know

293
00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:46,120
Speaker 1: like I'm not looking at him, he ain't looking at me.

294
00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:48,720
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. We're just doing us. You

295
00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:51,400
Speaker 1: get the net, somebody hitting it from the back, you know.

296
00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:54,640
Speaker 1: But if you've had it, you've had. You ran a train.

297
00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:56,640
Speaker 1: And that's one thing I don't like. That makes a

298
00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,640
Speaker 1: woman sound like she's like a whore. But then if

299
00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:02,000
Speaker 1: it's a ain't bitch, I'm the conductor because I'm running ship.

300
00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:06,720
Speaker 1: However you want to look at it, but see to me,

301
00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:09,240
Speaker 1: I thought I envisioned, first of all, the train. You

302
00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:11,560
Speaker 1: can't have just two caboosaves. I thought it's a little

303
00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:13,400
Speaker 1: longer than that. So I thought the train was a

304
00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,840
Speaker 1: little bit more than two men. And I also thought

305
00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:19,280
Speaker 1: that a train was you one coming in doing his thing,

306
00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,560
Speaker 1: then leaving, the next one coming and me and my

307
00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:26,160
Speaker 1: men got you, and we fucking you, and you giving

308
00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:29,040
Speaker 1: somebody else top and we switched in. That's a train.

309
00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:30,840
Speaker 1: You just got a train ring on you. So that

310
00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:33,200
Speaker 1: was but that's a younger thing. That's how it's considered

311
00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:35,360
Speaker 1: when you're younger as you when you were an adult,

312
00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:38,520
Speaker 1: and this ship is so common, it's so regular spoken

313
00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:39,960
Speaker 1: to women, and she was like, it was just two

314
00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:42,840
Speaker 1: dudes I used to mess with understand stuff. It's so

315
00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,800
Speaker 1: it's so regular, you know what I'm saying, But like,

316
00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,560
Speaker 1: don't tell no God that's trying to like wipe you

317
00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:50,480
Speaker 1: that ship, because no, no man is going to really

318
00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:53,000
Speaker 1: be on some light. Something I was about to ask you,

319
00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:56,560
Speaker 1: I'm telling you was slim up. Slim up in the

320
00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,120
Speaker 1: back of his mind. He got to like be with

321
00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,880
Speaker 1: you and ship and be like it was two nigga

322
00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:05,520
Speaker 1: your ship. But that's what I'm saying. But as my

323
00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:08,600
Speaker 1: agency is out here, there are I can't wait to

324
00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:11,040
Speaker 1: find somebody interview about that because that's but as but

325
00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:14,359
Speaker 1: as women, we're supposed to we're supposed to be okay

326
00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:19,680
Speaker 1: with you wanting a threesomeman you're taking supersy. Jealousy is

327
00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:23,080
Speaker 1: like a turn on two. You know what I like

328
00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:35,200
Speaker 1: better than him? I'm done. I'm really done. I'm really

329
00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:38,119
Speaker 1: definitely definitely one of those just standards come out and

330
00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:39,840
Speaker 1: you tweet about like you know what I'm saying. But

331
00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,200
Speaker 1: you're telling us you've had it done to you. Yes,

332
00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:44,840
Speaker 1: So now it's out on the open. So I can't

333
00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:47,520
Speaker 1: really take that back, can't I. I mean, it's going

334
00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:49,000
Speaker 1: to be in the back of his mind. You know

335
00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:52,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Niggas was wilding on your ship and

336
00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:56,879
Speaker 1: some man. You gotta have just open communication and make

337
00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:58,840
Speaker 1: sure you say it all the time. Go back, because

338
00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:00,840
Speaker 1: some men may take that as a pass to go cheat,

339
00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:03,760
Speaker 1: because they might start feeling what you don't want to

340
00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:05,920
Speaker 1: happen and then just kills a relationship. This has to

341
00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:07,840
Speaker 1: be something you both know you're into. If you both

342
00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:09,800
Speaker 1: know you're into going to swingers clubs and she's like,

343
00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:12,760
Speaker 1: that's the same thing, that's that's established from the jump.

344
00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:14,320
Speaker 1: But you do that when you do that with you,

345
00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:16,840
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, You can't do what your partner,

346
00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:21,080
Speaker 1: what your wife is like this, it's always donald, Hey,

347
00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,040
Speaker 1: this is my wife, Like you want my queen. You

348
00:18:23,160 --> 00:18:25,760
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. No, I get I get that

349
00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:31,440
Speaker 1: I'm cheating on And don't let that throw you all.

350
00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:36,040
Speaker 1: Don't let you You're my queen. You understand right, this

351
00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,159
Speaker 1: is my wife. You know what I'm saying. So how

352
00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:40,040
Speaker 1: is it that you look at a woman in this

353
00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:42,520
Speaker 1: way and can still cheat on her and do what

354
00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,800
Speaker 1: you do as a man, and we can't do ship together.

355
00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:48,159
Speaker 1: Let me finish with go ahead, and I got one

356
00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:53,320
Speaker 1: other niggau the ship out you that's crazy, Okay, So

357
00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:58,480
Speaker 1: you're not into it. We've established that, Yeah, but that is.

358
00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:00,720
Speaker 1: But the majority is not into No, you're right. You

359
00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:02,760
Speaker 1: meet all the men you meet because they seem to

360
00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:05,480
Speaker 1: be very they ain't husband material. I'm not trying to

361
00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:09,720
Speaker 1: husband now, so you wouldn't. You would wait? So you

362
00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:12,960
Speaker 1: would a guy who wants who you wanted to have

363
00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:14,960
Speaker 1: a three someone I could. I would marry two guys

364
00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:17,560
Speaker 1: if I could. I definitely would marry two men if

365
00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:21,320
Speaker 1: they were down with it. But good luck finding that, Okay,

366
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,400
Speaker 1: But I'm not doing with a man talking another bitch

367
00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,560
Speaker 1: in front of me though I'm too jealous, so I

368
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:29,359
Speaker 1: have a double standard'll funk a bit job if I

369
00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:31,840
Speaker 1: care about him. I mean, I've had threesomes like that before,

370
00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:33,200
Speaker 1: but I didn't give a funk about to do. It's

371
00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:36,720
Speaker 1: crazy because we've talked about threesomes so much on this podcast,

372
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,640
Speaker 1: and to have sitting here have two completely different points

373
00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:41,280
Speaker 1: of views of it. But for you to sit here

374
00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:42,719
Speaker 1: and say you love two men, but to sit here

375
00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:45,280
Speaker 1: and say you couldn't have another woman, It's just no.

376
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,520
Speaker 1: That is crazy. That motherfucking red rood. That is crazy.

377
00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:50,359
Speaker 1: And this is why I say, for a lot of somebody,

378
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,520
Speaker 1: I care about a lot of the people listening. If

379
00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 1: you're looking for a threesome to either engage with for

380
00:19:56,240 --> 00:20:01,639
Speaker 1: fun or in your relationship, it's a super huge importance

381
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:07,119
Speaker 1: to have communications. I still think you just need to

382
00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:10,159
Speaker 1: have that communication because knowing that you would be jealous,

383
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:13,120
Speaker 1: but then you would expect him. But I've been tuned

384
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:14,520
Speaker 1: with too, I am, and I know that about myself.

385
00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,600
Speaker 1: It took many years to figure that out. I like that. Hey, guys,

386
00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,719
Speaker 1: this episode of Horrible Decisions is brought to you by

387
00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:24,639
Speaker 1: Road Microphones, the official microphone of the Loudspeakers Network. That

388
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,760
Speaker 1: is right, y'all. Maybe y'all. I know we assigned to

389
00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,879
Speaker 1: the Loudspeaker Network since building our studio. We teamed up

390
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,440
Speaker 1: with Road because we wanted the best in microphones, and

391
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:36,320
Speaker 1: Road offers professional broadcast quality mics. We have been using

392
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,560
Speaker 1: the Road prodcaster now for a few months and the

393
00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,719
Speaker 1: audio quality is amazing. I know y'all talked about our

394
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 1: audio being too low. Y'all couldn't hear it on the

395
00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,679
Speaker 1: train for y'all that are in New York. And then

396
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 1: y'all say, y'all was having to turn on mic s

397
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 1: down while y'all was at work because we was too loud.

398
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 1: But now we're good. Y'all know it's because of Road.

399
00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:54,880
Speaker 1: To get more information on the road prodcaster and roads

400
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,880
Speaker 1: other microphones, go to road dot com. I'm gonna spell

401
00:20:57,920 --> 00:20:59,199
Speaker 1: that for y'all because some of y'all don't know how

402
00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:02,600
Speaker 1: to spell. But as r O d E dot com,

403
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 1: take your podcast to the next level with Road and

404
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,840
Speaker 1: now back to the show. I like that. So for

405
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,560
Speaker 1: this episode specifically, guys, we're going to take a turn.

406
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 1: We kind of just was, you know, a little funny

407
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,400
Speaker 1: and kinky and whatnot. But I wanted to have these

408
00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 1: two specifically in here for me because I think Chris

409
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 1: is a very sound voice. Um and with probing into

410
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:25,320
Speaker 1: getting really good questions out and Chrissie, do you want

411
00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 1: to share the other part of you that you didn't

412
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 1: share in the beginning and what you do and why

413
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 1: you were a voice of this um if you want

414
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:40,000
Speaker 1: to tell them about your UM organizations that I'm doing now. Okay, Yeah,

415
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: So a lot of people don't realize when I left

416
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:46,199
Speaker 1: love and hip hop, UM, I got into another relationship

417
00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:47,920
Speaker 1: and with a guy that was thirteen years younger. He

418
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 1: was fine as fun, but he was a piece of ship.

419
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,920
Speaker 1: They always yes, and I almost ended up losing my life.

420
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 1: This guy was was a woman beater. I mean I

421
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 1: didn't know that. When I'm at I we didn't just

422
00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 1: walk up and say hi, I'll beat you know, I'll

423
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 1: beat a man. Blah blah blah. It was a gradual progression.

424
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 1: So anyway, UM, to make a long story short, this

425
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 1: man UM almost beat me to death. I have permanent

426
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,440
Speaker 1: hearing damage in my left ear. He had punched a

427
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 1: hole in my ear drum. My front right tooth is

428
00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 1: bonded where he cracked it in half from punching me

429
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 1: in the mouth. He robbed me for over ten thous

430
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:21,640
Speaker 1: dollars with the jewelry. UM. The whole ordeal A staid

431
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,120
Speaker 1: about ten months, but honestly it felt more like ten years.

432
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:26,680
Speaker 1: I got rid of him finally, you know, the whole

433
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,399
Speaker 1: story would take a long time. UM, and he's also

434
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 1: already been back in prison for beating up two other

435
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 1: women since since me. So he's just a serial woman beater.

436
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:40,200
Speaker 1: But through that experience of almost dying from choosing the

437
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:44,679
Speaker 1: wrong motherfucker who was crazy. UM. You know, I started

438
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 1: a foundation and it's called Survived to Thrive Global. It's

439
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 1: a five oh one c three nonprofit. I started it

440
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 1: in and it's growing so fast that I'm amazed. Like

441
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: we're doing dental programs, credit, red hair programs. UM. We

442
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 1: just secured a hundred and fifty million dollars in funding

443
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 1: for housing for housing program we're starting in Westchester. UM.

444
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:13,880
Speaker 1: I have a very strong team on my board of directors, lawyers, doctors, uh,

445
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 1: political people. UM. Just everybody brings something to the table

446
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:21,200
Speaker 1: and it's all about helping. I say men and women,

447
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 1: but I really focus on women because I'm a woman

448
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 1: who survived domestic violence and for me starting this, I

449
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:31,199
Speaker 1: didn't realize how ignorant the public is and victim blaming

450
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 1: with a lot of the domestic violence I wanted to

451
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,800
Speaker 1: stuff and my goal is to educate and to share

452
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: my resources. I just spoke on a panel with Mayor

453
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: Miles Baracco last week I mean last month. Uh. He's

454
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: the mayor of Newark, New Jersey. He lost his sister

455
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 1: to domestic violence, and he has a center. It's rampant

456
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: in Newark, it's everywhere. And I know on this podcast

457
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,639
Speaker 1: we like to preach black love. We talked about a

458
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 1: lot of things in the bedroom communication. Uh um, but

459
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 1: relationships are hard. People are sometimes pieces of ship and

460
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 1: unfortunately love can blind us in a lot of different ways.

461
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 1: And so I wanted to talk about four things specifically

462
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: regarding domestic violence. And the first one, I'm going to

463
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: read the letter and if you have any questions as well,

464
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: to add on to this. For her, for me, this

465
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:19,840
Speaker 1: will be kind of like an open discussion. But we

466
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 1: had a lot of people sending letters. Um, this is one,

467
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,200
Speaker 1: and I want to talk about how you leave when

468
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 1: to leaves. And she wrote in she was like I

469
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: was in my first domestic every domestic violence issue ever

470
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 1: and learned that you don't leave or fight back. Because

471
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 1: for me, I was confused, here's the man saying he

472
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 1: loves me, but yet I'm waking up from being unconscious.

473
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 1: I just wanted him to protect me from him, and

474
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,159
Speaker 1: I went back because I just wanted it to be

475
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: a bad dream. To me, domestic violence is deeper than

476
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 1: putting hands because, like he told me, my outside wounds

477
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: would heal, which was right, but now my heart and

478
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: mental state was sucked up and that took a lot

479
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 1: longer to heal than this um from happening at the beginning.

480
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: And she's just pretty much saying that she's still trying

481
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: to put herself back together from it. UM. So in

482
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: this case, she stayed UM, wanting the protection from him,

483
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: thinking that it was love UM, thinking that she had

484
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 1: nowhere else to go. UM. And I just kind of

485
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: want to ask you why do women stay? And I

486
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: want to ask this specifically because as a woman who

487
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: has not experienced domestic violence, I could be one of

488
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: those that victim blame sometimes or may not understand when

489
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,120
Speaker 1: ring down. And that's always the number one question from

490
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:33,880
Speaker 1: the outside looking in, it's sick. Why don't you just leave?

491
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 1: I had my friend tell me, oh, what do you

492
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 1: like getting beat? It was disgusting because a lot of

493
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 1: people don't realize a lot of times women have been

494
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: with their abusers, say since they've been sixteen seventeen, since

495
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: high school, they dropped out of high school, got pregnant,

496
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 1: they got three or four kids now now they're forty

497
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 1: years old, no job skills, no job history, no money.

498
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: All they know is this man. All they know is abuse,

499
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 1: and they've stayed because he's been the sole provider for

500
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 1: them in their family. Where do you just sleeve too?

501
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 1: You've already been cut off an isolated from your family

502
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 1: because they're tired of hear about the ship. He's already

503
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: started ship with them, and they don't want to funk

504
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 1: with you because you're working with him, and don't talk

505
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 1: to me while you're still dealing with him. Where are

506
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 1: you all going? Oh, the shelter with shelter because most

507
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 1: of the shelters are crowded, they're dirty, and as if

508
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 1: they have room, or they tell you you can only

509
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 1: bring one of your kids, not all four. So where

510
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: the fund is? Where are you going? It's funny that

511
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: you say that because I spoke with my mom before

512
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: getting here, and this is something that I haven't really

513
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 1: shared on the podcast, and I talked with you about

514
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: it about sharing a little bit of my background. So

515
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 1: before doing this episode, I talked to my mom because

516
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 1: my mom was beat on by my dad. Um I

517
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 1: was much younger, and she stayed for a long time

518
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: with him, and that's what she did to get out.

519
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 1: She went to a shelter because the waiting list for

520
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 1: Section eight was way too long and at the time

521
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: she and at the time, she could not afford housing

522
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 1: for me and my sister at the time, so she

523
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 1: got up and left while he was at work, and

524
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 1: we she found a shelter and going to the shelter.

525
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: We lived there for I'm not sure, maybe a couple

526
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: of months, and being in the shelter put us up

527
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,360
Speaker 1: on the list for Section eight and she was able

528
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: to get a house with You're one of the lucky ones.

529
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: Another reason why people don't leave. Do you see the

530
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 1: one on the news when it's, oh, a man came,

531
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 1: he found us, He killed his girlfriend, shot the two kids,

532
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: killed his girlfriend, and killed himself. Nine of the time

533
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: those murders are when the woman has already left their

534
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: offender because it was I told you, bitch, I was

535
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 1: gonna kill you. Ever motherfucking leave me I found you.

536
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: They normally go and find them and there's going to

537
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 1: be hell to pay. So it's really that fear if

538
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: you ever leave me, I'm gonna kill you. I'm gonna

539
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: kill myself. I'm gonna kill the kids. It's a mind fuck.

540
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: My question to you, when was the point where you

541
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:48,159
Speaker 1: were like, all right, I cannot continue to do this, Like,

542
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 1: what was the last encounter that made you say? It

543
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: was the first encounter. But I couldn't get rid of

544
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: this motherfucker. He was already paroled to my house. I

545
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: knew he was a con, he was the bad boy,

546
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 1: but he had a gun charge and draw. Because I

547
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 1: didn't know he was a woman beater, I let him

548
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 1: move his parole to my house. So then every time,

549
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: you know, the first time he put his hands on me,

550
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 1: I was like, you need to get the funk out.

551
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 1: I ain't with this ship. He gave me a fucking

552
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 1: bloody nose that squirted onto the wall. I had never

553
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: had a bloody mose of my life. He was trying

554
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: to leave since the first time he wouldn't leave. He

555
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: was in my house. He I was trying to get

556
00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: him the funk outs, and that was bit you playing

557
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: with my freedom. I ain't gotten nowhere to stay. You

558
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 1: called my parole off for some gonna kill you fucking bitch.

559
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: He would have felt he would have been just calling

560
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: me from Corney Island, telling me my home addressed and

561
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 1: that they were gonna come cut me in my face.

562
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: It was just a fucking night. He went and committed

563
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: a crime and got fucked up because I used to

564
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: pray to God, God, please let him get hit by

565
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 1: a bus anything. That's what's happened to because he was

566
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 1: sleeping on my couse. By this time, we were not speaking.

567
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 1: I just wanted him to get the funk out, move

568
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: your fucking parole whatever, because like he was going to

569
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: end up killing me. The worst beating I had is

570
00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 1: because I hid my car from him because I didn't

571
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: want him to drive it. He had a suspend. He

572
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 1: was a loser. It's my fault. I picked him. I'm

573
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: not gonna you know whatever. I was stigmatized at the beginning. No,

574
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: it was my fault that I dealt with the motherfucker.

575
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: I picked him. I'm not gonna say, oh, I was

576
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: such a victim, victim like he did this. No, I

577
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 1: chose to let him move in my house. I chose

578
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: to let him put his parole there. But like I said,

579
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 1: it didn't just happen in one day. It was the

580
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: mental abuse first, and it was the verbal then it

581
00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: got physical. It was a gradual progression. It was it

582
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 1: was I'm sorry, I'll never do it again. I didn't

583
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: mean it. I'll go to counseling. Funk that he didn't

584
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 1: do No that ship, but he wanted committed a crime,

585
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: and he wanted to do a home invasion robbery. He

586
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 1: thought the guy was in there alone. No, there was

587
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: further dudes in the basement, and they drug his ass

588
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 1: outside and beat him with fucking bricks until he had

589
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 1: staples in his head, knocked all his teeth out. They

590
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: had to cut his clothes off. I heard, and then

591
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: it sounds like, yeah, he was in the hospital, um,

592
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: handcuffed to the bed with an officer. That was my time.

593
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 1: I packed up hefty bags all his ship. I took

594
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: it to his cousin's house, changed my locks. He got

595
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: out of jail because he was under custom right, you know,

596
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: he got a day let him out because he didn't

597
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 1: tell them he was on parole. So he was at

598
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: some checks house in Brooklyn on that Tuesday telling me,

599
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: come get me. I'm ready to come home. I said, motherfucker,

600
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: this is not your home no more. You come near me.

601
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: Because I knew he was weak now he had just

602
00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: gotten sucked up. I said, I said, you're gonna go.

603
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: You're gonna get sucked up worse like because I just

604
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: I automatically regained my strength like so I felt like

605
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 1: God had worked the miracle. And with what you do?

606
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 1: You did say you cater to women. We have a

607
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: man hand. I did want to bring up the topic um,

608
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: because I'm gonna read I'm gonna I'm gonna read this.

609
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: I had a friend, um, I won't say her name,

610
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,880
Speaker 1: but she wrote me a story of hers but this

611
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 1: relays to her hitting the man first and her hitting him,

612
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 1: So I kind of want to have the discussion um

613
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: from a man's point of view, and domestic violence from

614
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: women putting their hands on men and maybe getting retaliation

615
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 1: and then having to deal with that. So she said,

616
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 1: my husband at the time was drunk and I was tipsy.

617
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: We were driving back from the club. He was upset

618
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 1: with me because of his insecurities, and he was in

619
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: my face while I was driving, so I mushed him.

620
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 1: He then punched me dead in my mouth. I thought

621
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 1: I was gonna die in shock. And here I go,

622
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: messing up the goddamn thing. I thought. I was gonna

623
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 1: die in shock, like, did you really just punched me

624
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: in my mouth? I was bleeding, and I drove to

625
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: my parents house and called the cops. But since I

626
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: put hands on him first, we both could have went

627
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 1: to jail. So he checked himself into a mental institution.

628
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: Scared that he would get deported. He called and apologized.

629
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: I did as well, and we worked it out, but

630
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: already being over it, Sorry, I just got a call

631
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: um already with me being that he punched me. Um.

632
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 1: And then she went into conversations to say how she

633
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: should feel being that she put her hands on him first.

634
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you, in any of the relationships

635
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:46,239
Speaker 1: you've had with women, have any of them put their

636
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: hands on mayby just Dominican women, they always here. We

637
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 1: go attached by what's the passion? Both extreme emotions though, Okay,

638
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: seriousness though, like even when you're dealing with somebody like that,

639
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: for one, the moment a woman lifts her hand to

640
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 1: like come out of dude or hit a dude or whatever,

641
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: she has to be prepared for whatever it's about to happen.

642
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,959
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I've seen women play around

643
00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: and hit to do too hard or smack a dude

644
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: in the face, you know what I'm saying, and want

645
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: some joking ship, you know what I'm saying, And he

646
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 1: funked up? You know what I'm saying. The moment you

647
00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 1: do like that gesture, like when you physically hit a dude,

648
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: you have to be prepared because you do not know

649
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: what kind of trigger that's gonna set off on that dude.

650
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: You don't know people, and you don't know people being

651
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: in that situation. You don't know. And all the time

652
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: we're trained, oh yeah, God, never hit a woman. Woman.

653
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: That is That's the worst thing we could We could

654
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: keep poking the bear. Basically, that is the worst thing

655
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: we could teach because when these same people get into

656
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 1: those situations. And I have a friend who was dealing

657
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 1: with a guy who was much bigger than her, so

658
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: she would she told me she would beat his ass,

659
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 1: not really beating his ass, but because he was so big.

660
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: She felt like, these can't hurt He's ain't hurting him.

661
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: What is it doing? And then all it takes is

662
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: one retaliation from him, and now he's locked up. Um,

663
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: And so I wanted to bring this up, um, just

664
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: maybe to have a discussion, or even if you are

665
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: one of our listeners and you're in a relationship with

666
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: your man and you decide to put your hands on him.

667
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 1: Here we are in a in a room with multiple people,

668
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: and everyone's kind of shaking their head, like the woman

669
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: isn't the wrong. Nobody has a right to put their

670
00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 1: hands on anybody male female, male male female, finger in

671
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 1: my pussy, like that's the only way, Hello, hands around me.

672
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 1: But yeah, like you know, slap my ass in the bedroom,

673
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 1: but not in real life. If it gets to that

674
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 1: point where y'all fucking putting your hands on each other,

675
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 1: that's time to break up. Like really, no, I agree,

676
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: I agree, I'm it's getting to be too much. Like, yeah,

677
00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 1: I've been that person. I pushed guys and all that

678
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: when I was younger. Ship stupid ship and they pushed

679
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: me and all that. Ship just dumb ship. But when

680
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: it gets to that point, it's over. So we've talked

681
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 1: about the point of of leaving. I wanted to bring up, um,

682
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: the situation. I won't bring up the current situation that's

683
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 1: going on right now, but I'll mention ray Rice the situation. Um.

684
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:20,760
Speaker 1: If you guys are not familiar with the ray Right situation.

685
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: You've been living under a rock. Um. He was caught

686
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: dragging his woman out of an elevator and we all

687
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 1: thought it was the worst thing ever. He lost his job,

688
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 1: he lost endorsements, um, And she went back to him

689
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: and ended up having a baby and they're still together.

690
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: What do you right? Look, we got and I'm sure

691
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: it's still going on. But and so what do you do?

692
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,160
Speaker 1: What do you say to those women who go back?

693
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:48,240
Speaker 1: And why do women go back? Because it's not always

694
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:51,879
Speaker 1: all bad. Listen, you could be with somebody for five

695
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: years and it's perfect until he starts putting his hands

696
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 1: on you. You want to always think that they're going

697
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 1: to go back to revert back to that person. You

698
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 1: don't want to go back out and be single. You're

699
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 1: you're used to him. It's the familiar. You're always going

700
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: to hope and have that one little ounce of hope

701
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,480
Speaker 1: that he's going to get help and change and he's

702
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 1: not going to do it again, and and you love them.

703
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 1: This is an extreme comparison. So in no way am

704
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: I downplaying domestic violence, But like, why do people take

705
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:22,879
Speaker 1: people back that cheat? And I think that that's funny

706
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: because that's a conversation that I definitely wanted to have

707
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 1: with a couple, and I'm hoping to get one for

708
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: the live show. Um, but that there are different forms

709
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,400
Speaker 1: of domestic violence and it doesn't necessarily have to me.

710
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: And you had a bloody lip or a black eye,

711
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: It could be emotional, financial, it could be financial. Explained

712
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:48,040
Speaker 1: that you had a girl busting out, crying and washing

713
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 1: the dishes, and he said, after you find out he cheating,

714
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:55,719
Speaker 1: but you can't say nothing because you're living off. So

715
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:58,320
Speaker 1: now you can't even leave. You gotta deal with it

716
00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: because he doesn't set up he doesn't set everything up

717
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 1: around you. You ain't really working like that. He got

718
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 1: the money, he got the bag, he's taking care of

719
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 1: you and this, and you can't even get upset. You

720
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:14,359
Speaker 1: gotta what do you think Mayweather bit he took hand

721
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 1: of him at the fucking trailer park? Where do you

722
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: think they're going? Not a motherfucking And I was about

723
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: to say, I'm not taking those strong women. They signed

724
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: on certain women with certain levels. There you go, that's

725
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 1: the word I was looking for. Oh and so you

726
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: have a radar for them type of chickstuff. And so

727
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 1: you go back you know what, it's crazy. Those type

728
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: of women flock to those kind of guys, so they

729
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 1: don't even have so much that that type of woman

730
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 1: pursues that type of it's mutual, and so there's a

731
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: level of thing. I'm a single that's like saying I'll

732
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: be part of the ento. I need a white man

733
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 1: that you know that's not right and he was left him,

734
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: but like you just said, it doesn't necessarily have to

735
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 1: be physical. Those women are taking that emotional abuse. They're

736
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:32,360
Speaker 1: accepting the abuse because of him being wealthy and being powerful.

737
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: And so as a woman, even if you're saying I

738
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 1: would never take a man who would cheat on me,

739
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: I'll never accept this from MANA never when you get

740
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 1: in that situation, right, because I mean I'm saying that

741
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: I would never say the money that's it is hard

742
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: to especially for you used to certain type of lifestyle

743
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 1: and you you just being a faster hotel. You'd be like, yeah,

744
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 1: you just came from the moment like this and ship

745
00:37:56,160 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: like you never tasted. Yeah, some dime is in your ear,

746
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 1: Yes you have QVC. When I did, I was doing

747
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: one of my episodes and ship like that. Motherfucker. You

748
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,319
Speaker 1: know what, I'm saying, just regular ship. Right, we were

749
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: eating five star restaurants. You know what I'm saying. I'm

750
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 1: just like Nick, I just wanted to snack, you know

751
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. We got salmon and ship. You know

752
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Your stomach not hurting after meals. You

753
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 1: ain't got to use the bathroom like the food digestion

754
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 1: in the right places and ship like that. You know,

755
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 1: used to that lifestyle, you do. And I see how

756
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: women just go after that bag. But at the same time,

757
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: the value, the value for men is his pockets. The

758
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: value for women is all looks. So it will always

759
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: always everything has everything has its been everything. And if

760
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 1: you know, you ain't found that the bag just wasn't

761
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 1: big enough yet. That's why I've been out here getting

762
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 1: my own bad because I refused to be dealing with

763
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: none of that. Ship. Man, you gotta really be you

764
00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: really at the mercy of somebody else. I can't. I

765
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 1: can I agree. So I wanted to bring this up. Um,

766
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: this actually just happened and was released in the news today,

767
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 1: and it's going to lead to kind of why women

768
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 1: don't speak out. Um. I wanted to bring up the

769
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,840
Speaker 1: plice clip. So if you guys can listen to the

770
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: police clip, this is what she had to say that

771
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 1: happened with her and Chris Brown. And the only way

772
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: I can describe it, it was like double jets, Like

773
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: I felt like do I jump in? Like do I

774
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 1: say it? Because I had bruises all over my body

775
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,760
Speaker 1: at that time, Like that day, I remember being in Atlanta,

776
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: sitting in the kitchen and like, and I was like

777
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 1: do it? And I was and I wasn't ready to walk.

778
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,720
Speaker 1: I just wasn't. I'm sure I didn't say it. And honestly,

779
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: because I'm not weak and I'm not like I'm really

780
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 1: private and I'm like my business. I felt like, this

781
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 1: is my partner. I chose this, We're gonna do this,

782
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 1: We're gonna make it work. I stayed for years after that,

783
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:54,879
Speaker 1: and just you keep removing, you know, And like I said,

784
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 1: I'm not frail, I'm not scared. I'm not I'm not weak.

785
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: That probably what what what about it? It sounds like

786
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: she was still hurting. I'm sorry the emphasis on I

787
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: am not. I did not because it's embarrassing and I

788
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 1: was embarrassed. I was embarrassed. And so did you tell

789
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 1: your yours. So I brought this clip up to talk about, um,

790
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: how people could be going through this, but they're not

791
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: telling their family members, their friends, they're not telling people

792
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: now whether this happened or not. Of course police coming

793
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 1: ten years later and saying this happened. I don't want

794
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: to bash Nas or you know, put those allegations she

795
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 1: didn't hit him first, we would say that's her course.

796
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: There's there's always three sides. There's his side, her side,

797
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 1: and the truth. Um, and so why might women just

798
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 1: not even tell aside from embarrassment protecting him number one,

799
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 1: loving him? And then Nas is a powerful person in

800
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 1: the industry that she's in. He could have her completely blacklisted,

801
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:59,879
Speaker 1: just like Johnny Depp when his ex girlfriend came out.

802
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 1: They fucking nailed her to the cross. Taken up for

803
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: Johnny Depp calling her horse, sending her people on social

804
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:06,959
Speaker 1: media since she had to shut down her social media,

805
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: I think sending her death threats because she spoke up

806
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:12,239
Speaker 1: against Johnny Depp, Hollywood's golden boy. At the end of

807
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:15,920
Speaker 1: the day, let Emily being fabulous. We're just seen in

808
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 1: Coachella right with that, and we don't even well, I

809
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: saw him arguing on with the father, but I didn't

810
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: see nobody put hands on the body. He kind of

811
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 1: like flinched at hub was like yo, and then she

812
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 1: was like kind of like running away. And they said

813
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: he knocked up to fee, which we don't know because

814
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 1: I see was in Coachella a whole week two weeks later.

815
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 1: Was she out? I'm sure? But even but even that,

816
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: and that's and and me and Christy have had that

817
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 1: conversation too, knowing that we don't have that video footage

818
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 1: just yet, and we don't know who leaked the story

819
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 1: as far as what has been happened behind was fucking

820
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: It could be a lot of things, but not only that.

821
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: If she's abusive on her end, and maybe that's why

822
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 1: she chose to stay or even staying, and maybe none

823
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 1: of a lot of people know fabulous, and a lot

824
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 1: of people have come out and said, I've never seen

825
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,280
Speaker 1: this from him. I've never heard that he's done this before.

826
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: So it's likely is it happening if no one like

827
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 1: and and and it's crazy because it's just such like

828
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 1: a trigger for people. But honestly, at the end of

829
00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:22,919
Speaker 1: the day, every situation is different. It's different. I can't

830
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:26,320
Speaker 1: I can't. You can't base what happened with your situation

831
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 1: to be with why you should have left because you

832
00:42:28,719 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: have the same thing happened to you. Can We don't

833
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:34,760
Speaker 1: know the dynamic of your situation. Everybody's situation is completely different.

834
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 1: There's so many different nuances to every single part of

835
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 1: what they're going through that we can't just sit here

836
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 1: and say, don't ask you leave. They don't. They're not

837
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 1: with they don't know you're in the workings, what's going

838
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 1: on in your mind. They don't know the good parts

839
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: the bad parts in difference, like they don't know. Bottom line,

840
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 1: nobody's going to leave until they're really ready to leave,

841
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 1: if they're able to leave, if they're ready and willing

842
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 1: and able, and they have somewhere to go, They're not

843
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 1: going to leave until they are ready. Because I have

844
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: women write me every day and they're torn and this

845
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: and that. I'm like, hit me when you're out, because

846
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 1: I'm not doing the back and forth ship right, And

847
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 1: that's what happens a lot of times. I had I

848
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: had a friend um a reserve for people that are

849
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: that are done, And I had a friend who was

850
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: getting beat by her man, and so she would call

851
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 1: me and confide, and I tell her that's not who

852
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:23,440
Speaker 1: you need, you deserve better. I did all of that,

853
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 1: and then who she was with the next week starts

854
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 1: something the same nick and it's just like and now

855
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 1: she have three kids by you can't be disappointed by that.

856
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: And my my thing is also when I give people advice,

857
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:35,919
Speaker 1: the first thing I expected them to do is not listen,

858
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: because I'm not going to set myself for the disappointment.

859
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: I like that. I'll let it be known and I'll

860
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 1: leave it alone. I said, I say one time, I'm

861
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 1: here if you need me, but when you're serious about

862
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 1: getting help, let me notice. And So as a as

863
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: a friend, if both of you had really close friends

864
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:54,760
Speaker 1: that were experiencing either putting their hands on the woman

865
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 1: or being the woman receiving, you know this is now

866
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 1: going back to physical abuse, do you intervene? I can

867
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,959
Speaker 1: talk to them. So as a man, and I wanted

868
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 1: to talk about this because I've seen a lot of

869
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 1: men ignore their friends beating on a girl, acting like

870
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 1: it's not their business. They don't they can't see what

871
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: their friends doing. So you've cut your friends off for

872
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 1: I appreciate that. Yeah, that's not something that I could

873
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:21,319
Speaker 1: I could stomach, and if and if I'm not doing

874
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: nothing about it, and if I'm still being around, I'm

875
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 1: condoning it. And I don't want to feel same here.

876
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: I've seen guys like the women, and I cut them off.

877
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 1: But I've also let women stay in my couch and

878
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 1: you know, they really they came to my house and

879
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: stayed away and never went back. So you know, there's

880
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 1: you know, and then I've had friends that, like I said,

881
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: flip flop, bitch, don't call me because I'm tired of

882
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:45,240
Speaker 1: here and you sound like a broken record and really

883
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: fucking done. Don't call me because I'm busy, you know

884
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's it. Like I said, my resources

885
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:52,799
Speaker 1: are reserved for people that are serious as a as

886
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:56,360
Speaker 1: a friend, if anything worth. But I love him. Do

887
00:44:56,480 --> 00:45:00,320
Speaker 1: you would you feel responsible in any way? And because

888
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 1: like I said, like if something happened to that, if

889
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: something happened, you can't go and pull them out of

890
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 1: the house and come on right, And you can't. It's

891
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 1: like a drug addict. When they're ready to stop using drugs,

892
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: don't you still stop. You can't force nobody to leave

893
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: somebody alone until they're I don't looked at my own pops.

894
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 1: You under see what I'm saying. And watch him pick

895
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 1: up a cigarette after getting liver a transplant, kidney transplant

896
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: just down the third and I'm just like, yo, pastor cigarette.

897
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:28,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, because they're going to do what they

898
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: want to tease. You know what I'm saying. Sometimes you

899
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 1: gotta understand you gotta leave people in their own ship,

900
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: because now I'm dragging that ship. Now I'm losing my

901
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 1: mind right, you know, because you don't give about yours,

902
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 1: They're gonna sneak and do it behind your back anyway.

903
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 1: You can't force nobody to do nothing until they're ready.

904
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: Now that Hennessy come at the end, y'all, they came

905
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 1: into the studio. I want you all to know. We

906
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,000
Speaker 1: started a little late tonight and both of them came

907
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 1: and was like, where's the drink? So, like, what we're doing?

908
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: Why is there no drinks? As y'all know, me and

909
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: Wheezy don't be drinking. Wheezy does other things and I

910
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 1: just don't be wanting to drink because I feel like

911
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: this is work and my nails is not letting me

912
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: open this. But if you can open that. We got cups.

913
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 1: We got Oh, you can't publicly touch it? Okay, Oh

914
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: I forgot y'all. Do say palsa? If do do say,

915
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: do say palusa. If you guys have not attended yet,

916
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:22,320
Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and close out. But can you

917
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 1: let our listeners know what they can expect from Do

918
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: s felusa. I have been, I was going from the

919
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: very beginning. I absolutely love it. It's a lot of fun.

920
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 1: You guys just did Atlanta. Where is the next? Um

921
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: May nineteen Humistan ballroom? Um, we're gonna dosa open bar

922
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,480
Speaker 1: to save for its supplies last. Um. It's just a

923
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: good time. You know, it's really black people. It is

924
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 1: brown people's people with colors, just all kinds of people.

925
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 1: We just in there, just party in old school. You

926
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,760
Speaker 1: ain't gotta dress up, you ain't gotta win. No heels,

927
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:54,840
Speaker 1: you ain't gotta be. Don't wear heels, ladies, if you,

928
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 1: if you ever go so fucking do say falusa, do

929
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 1: not wear heels, you will be you will be completely

930
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 1: upset with yourself. The men there don't care if you

931
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 1: have heels off, flip flop so long sneakers on. Just

932
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: go for a good time. I've had a great time

933
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 1: there and I'm mad that I can't make this one

934
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 1: in New York City. UM, don't do me. You see

935
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: you see you see my friends. No, I will not

936
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 1: be in Dubai. I will actually be in Atlanta, Georgia

937
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 1: for our live show May nineteenth at Thank You. So

938
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: if you guys are in Atlanta or anywhere in the South,

939
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: come funk with us or fly in. But if you're

940
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: in New York City because you can't make the Atlanta

941
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: live show, make sure you check out. Don't do that.

942
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: Make sure you check out do say Pellosa at the

943
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 1: Hammer Signed ball Room made nineteenth And do you have

944
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,319
Speaker 1: anything coming up for our listeners to look out for you? Yeah?

945
00:47:46,320 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: Well I would like everybody to check out my nonprofit,

946
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 1: Domestic Violence Foundation Survived to Thrive Global at www dot

947
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 1: Survived to Thrive Global dot org. We're on Instagram at

948
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:59,320
Speaker 1: Survived to Thrive Global. Same thing on Facebook and Twitter

949
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 1: at st et Underscore Global. Also, I'm involved with Celebrity Catwalk.

950
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: We're a major pet charity here in New York. We

951
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:09,640
Speaker 1: pull pets from kill shelters, we get them fostered and adopted.

952
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: We do a lot of good events. We have something

953
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 1: coming next month and I'm also working for a double

954
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:19,720
Speaker 1: board certified plastic surgeon, dr Aiden. We have two offices.

955
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,720
Speaker 1: One is in Paramus, New Jersey. One is in White Plains,

956
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: New York. Come for a free consultation. I'll get that

957
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 1: way snatched that bottom with the full Mets Bob patient coordinator.

958
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 1: Get to looking right baby, Yes, so yeah, a lot

959
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 1: of good stuff and check out my column. We're ramping

960
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: Love Talk with Christie Monroe and Hip Hop Weekly Magazine

961
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 1: and two other surprises. One is going to be on

962
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: CBS soon, major daytime talk show, but I can't say yet.

963
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: I like that and you already know what it is, yeah,

964
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: because you live and I'm not gonna say the name.

965
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 1: But every day I'm hustling. Well, I want to thank

966
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 1: you guys so much for coming on. Um, I'm gonna

967
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 1: have to have you back so we could talk some

968
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 1: real dirty nasty ship because you just think ship. He

969
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 1: just think ship and real like, no, not do. We're

970
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 1: not doing anything, Chris. We are friends and um, yeah,

971
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: totally friends. But yeah, I'll still be all my good

972
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: ship when I'm on when hey, y'all stay trying to

973
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: offer my pussy. Anyways, um got I mean my friends,

974
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: Rory was trying to do that ship in LA All

975
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:47,319
Speaker 1: Star Weekend. Yeah yeah, I sitting here right on it. Anyways, guys,

976
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 1: this is another episode of Horrible Decisions. I hope you

977
00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: enjoyed