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Speaker 1: All right, here it is. It's time for the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter with my friend Shirley Strawberry. Thank you junr alright.

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Speaker 1: Subject seems like he's been waiting for me to leave. First.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I are now fifty

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Speaker 1: eight years old. We have five grown sons and four grandchildren.

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Speaker 1: Ten years ago, my husband had a fling at work

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Speaker 1: and the female was barely twenty years old at the time.

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Speaker 1: I was devastated, but he swore nothing physical happened. The

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Speaker 1: whole situation didn't sit well with me, so one day

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Speaker 1: last week I checked my husband's old phone for any

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Speaker 1: proof I could find. I found messages between my husband

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Speaker 1: she was thanking him for all he was doing for

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Speaker 1: her financially and praising him for his sexual prowess. I

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Speaker 1: was hurt and relieved at the same time. All of

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Speaker 1: the heartache came back, and I felt stupid for believing

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Speaker 1: came out. Now I know why he made all of

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Speaker 1: the random bank withdrawals and had strange purchases on his

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Speaker 1: credit cards. So I told him that I had all

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Speaker 1: of the proof that I needed, and I asked him

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Speaker 1: for a divorce. He did not put up a fight.

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Speaker 1: In fact, he did not seem concerned at all. I

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Speaker 1: have loved this man since I was eighteen years old,

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Speaker 1: and just like that, he was ready to end our marriage.

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Speaker 1: I should add that we haven't had sex since two

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Speaker 1: thousand and fifteen, and he always says it's not me,

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Speaker 1: it's him, and that I'm still as fine as the

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Speaker 1: day he married me. I'm no fool. Though. If I

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Speaker 1: wasn't enough for him, why didn't he just let me go?

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Speaker 1: I am feeling like he only stayed with me all

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Speaker 1: of these years for the sake of the kids. I

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Speaker 1: am still in good shape and good health. My black

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Speaker 1: has not cracked, so I'm sure I could get me

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Speaker 1: somebody else to Should I fight from my marriage or

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Speaker 1: let it go? Please advise? Should you fight for your

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Speaker 1: marriage or let it go? To that? I ask? What marriage? Okay?

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Speaker 1: No sex for three years, text messages and payouts to

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Speaker 1: another woman. Uh, lies upon lies upon lies, and the

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Speaker 1: ultimate slap in the face. He didn't even put up

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Speaker 1: any kind of fight to keep you. Uh. That's why

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Speaker 1: I say what marriage? This was a relationship of convenience

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Speaker 1: and of tolerance. All right, Uh, this thing that you had,

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Speaker 1: you guys had going on, this situation has been over

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Speaker 1: for a very long time. He was just waiting for

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Speaker 1: you to say it first. Like you said in the subject,

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Speaker 1: seems like he's been waiting for me to leave first.

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Speaker 1: He's waiting for you to say it first so he

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Speaker 1: wouldn't be the bad guy. Now he can tell the

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Speaker 1: kids it was you. You asked for the divorce. You

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Speaker 1: wanted the divorce. Well you did say you're glad the

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Speaker 1: truth came out. The truth is out. I would tell

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Speaker 1: you to fight for your marriage, but I don't see

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Speaker 1: anything left here, do you really? Steve m hm well

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Speaker 1: aimed like he'd been waiting on me to leave first. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's just take it from there and let's find out

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Speaker 1: why you're and your husband fifty five grown sons for grandkids.

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Speaker 1: Ten years ago, see listen to this. Ten years ago,

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Speaker 1: my husband had a fling at work and the female

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Speaker 1: Guess what where we had right now was where we

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Speaker 1: I think you should go. I think you should go.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, I'm getting there. I love this man since

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Speaker 1: ain't had no six. That's what you ain't here? What's

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Speaker 1: he been doing? Steve? You take we you can circle week.

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Speaker 1: We we ain't had six and two that w flip

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Speaker 1: dress this part right here. I'm still as fine as

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Speaker 1: the day as he married me. Come on, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letters. Subjects. Seems like he's been waiting for

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Speaker 1: so it's for grandkids. Ten years. Go to man having

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Speaker 1: for ten years. She found his old phone and went

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Speaker 1: You want a divorce. You're going there, you asked him. Man,

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Speaker 1: relieved man, I left that phone in that drawer. Took

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Speaker 1: I hope waiting on you. It took you ten damn years.

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Speaker 1: So when you come here with all the proof, he say,

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Speaker 1: you're the one said you wanted that divorce. Then when

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Speaker 1: add that we haven't had sex since two thoft. Please

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Speaker 1: stop saying week, please that that this is the last

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Speaker 1: down thing. But he've been filling up the trash. Can

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you this right now. This boy been out

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Speaker 1: years for what anyway? Then she says it's not Then

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Speaker 1: he always says it's not me, it's him, and that

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Speaker 1: I'm still as fine as the day he married me.

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Speaker 1: Now that's what you said. Let's let's say this again.

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Speaker 1: You fifty, y'all got five grown sons. Y'all been together

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Speaker 1: who you know Shell? You know named the human? Name

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Speaker 1: I just need a name better and still as fine

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Speaker 1: as to who? I just need a name, give him something,

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Speaker 1: Give me a dude, anybody beautiful? Give me your injuries?

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Speaker 1: Give me anybody, Denzel, anybody that's just as who this

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Speaker 1: Zail ain't fine as he was back then, asked Denzel. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: get I'm aging. Look, i'm aging, Well, ain't what I want?

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Speaker 1: I weight one forty seven. I just kept on the

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Speaker 1: know it star for the kid every thought that comes

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Speaker 1: Let me put it to you this way. I stayed

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Speaker 1: to say that I'm still in good shape. That's not

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Speaker 1: still in good shape. You know what that means, and

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Speaker 1: good health. My black has not cracked, so I could

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Speaker 1: we about to find that? All right? Guys, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. UM email as your Instagram.

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