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Speaker 1: The Bread Show is on it.

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Speaker 2: Stay or Go, hie the man's good morning, welcome to

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Speaker 2: Stay or Go, Amanda, huh hi hi, welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: What's going on with you and your husband? By the way,

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Speaker 2: seven months pregnant, says the email.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations, thank you, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: So what's the issue?

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Speaker 3: So? I, so I am pregnant seven months but it's

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Speaker 3: my second child, and.

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Speaker 4: My husband has decided that he is going to.

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Speaker 3: Take a week long work trip next month, and that

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Speaker 3: just happens to be.

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Speaker 4: The month before I'm supposed to give birth. Okay, So

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Speaker 4: I am feeling really.

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Speaker 3: Feeling really nervous and really anxious about that. I asked

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Speaker 3: him if he could not take the trip, maybe if

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Speaker 3: he talk to his boss and his you know, and

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Speaker 3: his boss could.

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Speaker 4: Have somebody else take the trip, and he said that

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Speaker 4: he had to be the one handling the trip. But

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Speaker 4: it's again, it really worries me because it's so close

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Speaker 4: to my do date.

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Speaker 2: All right, So you say to him, look, it's possible

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Speaker 2: that the baby could come early. This is you know,

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Speaker 2: you're cutting it close, and I don't want you to

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Speaker 2: be away if that happens. And so what is his response?

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Speaker 2: What does he say it has to be him? Like,

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Speaker 2: do you believe that does does it have to be him?

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Speaker 2: I mean, is his job on the line. Is Is

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Speaker 2: it possible that he's really feeling pressured to try and

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Speaker 2: do two things at once?

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Speaker 1: I mean maybe so he has said that he.

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Speaker 4: Has to be the one to go on it because

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Speaker 4: other people that have been in similar situations have.

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Speaker 1: Lost their job over this that.

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Speaker 4: They couldn't go to the meeting or any commerce whatever.

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Speaker 3: But my goodness, but I would feel like, hey, I

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Speaker 3: know his boss.

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Speaker 4: And it's do like saying, hey, my wife is do

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Speaker 4: to have a baby, Like you would think that they

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Speaker 4: would be fine just to have somebody.

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Speaker 5: Else go to it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Now your note says did he actually I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: read what you wrote, and I want to know if

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Speaker 2: he actually said this. Did he really say worst case scenario?

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Speaker 2: He was there for the birth of your first child,

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Speaker 2: so like if I missed the second one, so be it. Yes,

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Speaker 2: Now that's not helping your case here, Like, that's not

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Speaker 2: the approach to take. If you have a business shorp

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Speaker 2: that you have to take it. It's a month before

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Speaker 2: your baby's being born and you have to take it

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Speaker 2: or your job's on the line, that's one thing, but

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Speaker 2: just to have the attitude like, well, I mean I

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Speaker 2: already saw one, So it's thinking about him being present

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Speaker 2: to witness it. By the way, it's about him being

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Speaker 2: president president to support you exactly.

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Speaker 4: And you know, he keep saying that, like he has to.

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Speaker 3: Go because we need this job and we need to

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Speaker 3: be able to afford the baby.

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Speaker 4: And it's not a vacation, but just because he was

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Speaker 4: there for the first one, Like I don't, I'm just

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Speaker 4: I that and it makes me really sad. But his

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Speaker 4: second baby, it's not like it's not like our second

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Speaker 4: child is going to be less important than our first child.

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Speaker 4: And I mean, I don't, I don't really know how

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Speaker 3: Really upset and I'm scared that he's going to be gone.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and what if the baby is not early?

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Speaker 1: Is really right?

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Speaker 2: The only reason we've been having this debate is because

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Speaker 2: if you were to say, like it's a guy's trip

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Speaker 2: or a bachelor party or something recreational, then this isn't

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Speaker 2: even a conversation, right. That's insane, Absolutely, that's insanely insensitive

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Speaker 2: in no way. And but the fact that it's work.

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Speaker 2: I mean that makes this debatable. I guess. I mean

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Speaker 2: him hard to believe he would lose his job for

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Speaker 2: not going on a trip a month before he had

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Speaker 2: a baby, But I mean, stranger things have happened, and

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Speaker 7: Does he always go on work trips or is this

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Speaker 7: a new thing where he's just popping up needing to

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Speaker 4: No, he always goes on work trips, which usually is fine.

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Speaker 1: So well, how quickly could he get back if he

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Speaker 2: I mean, are we talking about is he going to

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Speaker 4: No, No, he's going to Florida.

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Speaker 2: So it's feasible that he could get back pretty quickly

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Speaker 2: I mean, he may have to flap his wings. We

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Speaker 2: can go see our friends, it hurts or whatever, But

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Speaker 2: there's a chance he could get back if he absolutely

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Speaker 1: That he needs to stand up for me. Yeah, And

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Speaker 1: and this isn't really a fair example, but you do hear.

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Speaker 2: And in granted, they have private jets and all kinds

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Speaker 2: of different things they have access to things. But you know,

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Speaker 2: you do hear about athletes going on road trips the

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Speaker 2: weekend that they're or while their wife is in labor

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Speaker 2: and playing in NFL games and NBA games. You do

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Speaker 2: hear about this. Again, I think it's a little crazy,

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Speaker 2: but it does happen. I mean, we are four weeks

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Speaker 2: out of the do date it had the baby would

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Speaker 2: have to be pretty early, right, I mean, I'm not

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Speaker 2: I'm not at obgyn currently licensed, but the baby would

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Speaker 2: have to be pretty early, wouldn't it.

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Speaker 1: Pauline, Yeah, I want to talk one out.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm not licensed when I popped one out unless

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Speaker 8: you're high risk. I feel like then maybe there would

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Speaker 8: be some reason right to think that this could come

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Speaker 8: early or like I had just sacial diabetes, so like

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Speaker 8: I had to be.

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Speaker 1: In DO so week early.

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Speaker 8: Doesn't mean that you know, she would have came early,

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Speaker 8: but at that time, like I mean, she was growing

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Speaker 2: But for you, this sounds like it's not even about

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Speaker 2: the fact that he might miss it. It's the fact

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Speaker 2: that he You want him to say that's your wish,

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Speaker 2: and so you want him to go to work and

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Speaker 2: say I'm not going becase that's what my wife wants.

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Speaker 2: That's what this sounds like this is really about for you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it really is.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, I want to take a I want

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Speaker 2: to take some opinions on this, because again, we have

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Speaker 2: I don't know eight five five, five, nine one one

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm curious if if if your partner came

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Speaker 2: to you and said, I have to be gone for

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Speaker 2: a week, I really do a month before our baby

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Speaker 2: is going to be born. Are you standing on business

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Speaker 2: and saying absolutely not, you need to you just can't

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Speaker 2: are you saying, no, I get it, you got to go.

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Speaker 2: At least it's not a week before or the week

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Speaker 2: of or whatever. I mean, there is a margin here

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Speaker 2: is relatively slim that we're going to have an issue,

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Speaker 2: and if we do, you would be able to get

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Speaker 2: back here in some you know, period of time. You're

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Speaker 2: not You're not going to be completely unreachable or something

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Speaker 2: like that. The two sides of this. So let me

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Speaker 2: let me take some calls eight five five five three five.

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Speaker 2: You can text the same number and aman have the

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Speaker 2: radio and we'll see what people have to say.

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Speaker 1: But I wish you the best.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: I thank you so much for taking my call and

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Speaker 3: making me, making me feel less crazy.

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Speaker 1: No, and thank you.

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Speaker 2: Hey Lauren, Hey Lauren, Lauren, you're saying, you're saying she's

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Speaker 2: been dramatic.

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Speaker 9: I am so. I gave her to my second last June,

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Speaker 9: and my husband he took a hunting trip three weeks

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Speaker 9: before I ended up delivering. So given that this is

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Speaker 9: a work trip, I think that there should be some

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Speaker 9: grace there, Like she doesn't know if she's going to

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Speaker 9: go into labor, Like you kind of just have to

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Speaker 9: let him, let him do what he needs to do

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be I mean, it's a it's an

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Speaker 2: unfair situation to be in, but it would be unfortunate

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Speaker 2: if he took any kind of penalty from work for

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Speaker 2: doing this, right, because now we have we have we

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Speaker 2: have layers of other problems then, But yeah, well not

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Speaker 2: right exactly, Lauren.

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Speaker 1: Thank you have a good day than you do.

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Speaker 2: Amber. Good morning, Amber, Good morning. So what do you

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Speaker 2: think you should this guy go to his work meeting

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Speaker 2: a month before his wife's about to get birth again.

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Speaker 2: I think the thing that really you say, yes, the

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Speaker 2: thing that really stands out to me, Amber, is his attitude,

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Speaker 2: which is why double checked that he actually said this. Well,

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Speaker 2: I mean I saw the first one. Don't say that.

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Speaker 2: That's not helping your cause here.

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Speaker 6: Don't say that, however, to play a devil's advocate. I'm

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Speaker 6: gonna say for his sanity, he might need a little

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Speaker 6: bit of a buffer.

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Speaker 6: Men are not equipped the way that women are. I

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Speaker 6: think that after having three children myself, none of them

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Speaker 6: came early, thank god. But she might also need this

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Speaker 6: time to like, you know, to feel the pregnancy more like,

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Speaker 6: instead of having expectations drop all expectations. Let him go

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Speaker 6: on the work trip. Jobs are really important in this economy.

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Speaker 6: He'll come back and you'll have a beautiful berth and

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Speaker 6: he's not going to miss it. It's a week, it's

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Speaker 6: a month out, okay, Like, let's be real.

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Speaker 2: The month sounds like a good margin again a week

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Speaker 2: before the week of I mean, that's that's crazy business.

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Speaker 2: But this, I don't know, this sounds fair. I Amber,

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Speaker 2: thank you, have a good day.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of why I'm stepping aside on this stone

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Speaker 2: and leaving it to the females who've had, you know,

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Speaker 2: a baby and maybe have counted on their partner for

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Speaker 2: this or how they feel, because I don't. I don't

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Speaker 2: believe it or not. I don't know what it's like

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I have a few friends that have

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Speaker 7: had to go in for like emergency birds, So I mean,

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Speaker 7: you just really never know.

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Speaker 1: It would make me nervous.

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Speaker 7: But again, if he's going to lose his job over it,

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Speaker 7: then I don't know what I would say.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I think they need a plan if anything, So

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Speaker 8: like if he goes on this work trip, which I think,

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Speaker 8: in my opinion, he should be able to go, it's

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Speaker 8: a month out. She needs a plan of Okay, if

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Speaker 8: take care of the other kid?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 8: Because they have another child, so someone needs to make

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Speaker 1: But you just never know.

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Speaker 2: If my mom is listening, she would tell you that

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Speaker 1: You were, Yes, you were, so she would probably child

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Speaker 2: I feel like, uh, yes, I was small and feeble,

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Speaker 1: How you doing, Collad? I'm good?

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Speaker 2: Are you Collad? You're in Cincinnati? We got I think

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Speaker 1: It's just kind of our survival. We'll do, thank you.

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Speaker 1: So what do you think here?

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Speaker 2: If your partner came to you and said you're having

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Speaker 10: If you've had a baby early, it is more likely

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Speaker 1: Right, I agree with him, I could have this baby

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Speaker 10: In her case, if hers wasn't a premie, it still

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Speaker 10: Heard his job is going to fire him over something.

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Speaker 10: For me, I would be suspecting there's another reason he's

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Speaker 2: But you, Collette, I know you're new to the program here,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my kind of girl. Oh he is said

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Speaker 2: Y Yeah, well I don't know that we have to

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Speaker 10: Especially with her being pregnant. If it weren't for her

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fair and I appreciate your perspective. Now, now, Coole,

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Speaker 2: I hang up the phone and call everybody you know

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Speaker 2: and tell him that you were on the Fred Show. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: they'll go who you're on? What Nadia?

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Speaker 1: How you doing? Good morning morning. Unfortunately, Nadia, this story

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Speaker 5: my husband went to Mexico to sign some contract and

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Speaker 5: Then didn't answer my phone for about four hours.

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Speaker 1: See now it goes my mom.

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Speaker 5: For whatever reason, my mom didn't answer. He was freaking

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Speaker 5: never let me live it down. That he almost had

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Speaker 2: Oh, man, that's a little risky. I just not a

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Speaker 2: thank you, have a good day. I'm glad you called. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm Someone pointed out that, you know, military spouses deal

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Speaker 1: At least you know that that's coming. Oh you know

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Speaker 7: It doesn't make it suck any less. But she I

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Speaker 2: I feel like, you gotta you gotta have a different attitude.

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Speaker 1: I have to go.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, like just shut up sometimes, you know, yeah, too

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Speaker 7: many China works