1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Spreading In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: Heart radio podcast. Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in. It 3 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:16,639 Speaker 1: is the Monday past Thanksgiving weekend. How's everyone doing the 4 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: Monday after Thanksgiving weekend? That's what I said, Oh, I 5 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: said past, Well that would also work. Oh does it? Yeah? 6 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: Right past Thanksgiving? So how are you doing, Tanya? Yeah, 7 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:39,239 Speaker 1: we're good. You know, I'm here mentally, here physically Yonder. 8 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: Where's Yonder? Would that be like in bed or something? Yeah, 9 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: Yonder's in bed. We're doing the podcast separate today because Tanya, 10 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: even though she tried to convince me it could have 11 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: been just sinuses, seems to have the viral cold or whatever, 12 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: infectious whatever it is that's spreading like crazy. She has it. 13 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: And I was like, you know what, everyone in my life, 14 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:06,119 Speaker 1: Haley had it last week, really bad. I somehow got 15 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: by without getting it. And I was like, I think 16 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna play it safe today, even though she 17 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: says it could be sinuses and all she might need 18 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: a dessert. Tech not taking the risk, And I'm glad 19 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: I made that decision. I'm glad I know I ended 20 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: up deciding that you should stay home and stay away 21 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 1: from me because although I don't know what I have, 22 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: it's not great in the morning and at night. During 23 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: the day, I'm I'm quite all right, it's just the 24 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: mornings and evenings that I'm melt. So there's a there's 25 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 1: a small period where you feel okay. Yeah, but that's 26 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: why I think it's sinuses. Oh well, I would say, yeah, sure, 27 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: maybe it could be sinuses if there wasn't just a 28 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: shocking amount of people going down with this. Can I 29 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: tell you that I have lived thirty five years of 30 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: my life and I have never used a Nettie pot 31 00:01:55,520 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: until this past few days. What a bly in invention 32 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: that thing is. Oh my gosh. I was like, I 33 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: am literally cleansing from one nostril up into the next 34 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: and seeing things come out into my sink that we're 35 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: like sea creatures. And I'm like, rad, yeah, you are 36 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: canceled creatures out of my nose with the Nettie pot, 37 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: and it's amazing. I'm like, this is the best thing 38 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: I've ever experienced. And Robbie has been using it too, 39 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: and I'm like, why have you been holding out on 40 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: me for three years? With this Nettie pot? Yeah, it's 41 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: pretty amazing. I I personally hate them because I don't 42 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: like anything going up my nose and then coming out 43 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: of my nose. But it does make a huge difference. 44 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: I think that's what drowning would feel like. Yes, it's 45 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:54,680 Speaker 1: a similar feeling of of when you, yes, when you 46 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: like get jumped into pool and the water goes up 47 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 1: your nose, you know what I mean. It's like that 48 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: similar it never stops coming up. Yeah, that's that's not 49 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 1: about pleasant sensation. Yeah, I'm a little confused by this 50 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,720 Speaker 1: because Tony is talking about how amazing it is, and 51 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: I'm sitting here thinking about Mark's description, which is drowning, 52 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: and I think I lean more towards Mark, which, like 53 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: shoving something up your nose and intentionally doing that to 54 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: yourself isn't like a natural feeling. No, I would say, 55 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: it's not like a like a fun activity, you know, 56 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: like I'm not gonna, you know, skip to the farmer's 57 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 1: market on a Sunday and Nettie pop my nose for fun, 58 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: but like for for for purposes of what it's intended 59 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: to do. It gets things moving and grooving and shaken 60 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: out of your system. And I'm into that. Yeah. Well, 61 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: I'm glad you're clearing things out, and I hope that 62 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: you continue to just soar on the up and up 63 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: of getting better. Thank you would argue that it should 64 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: be done on a regular basis, whether you're sick or not, 65 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: because you're clearing out potential germs, viruses, bacteria, clearing out 66 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:01,360 Speaker 1: potential infections. Like some say, there are many benefits of 67 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: doing it whenever you want to do it. No, I'm 68 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: gonna save it for when I'm not well. I think 69 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: you're right, Mark, though. I think when, like, especially if 70 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: you have allergies and you like are allergic to dust 71 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: and stuff, if you're like continuously cleansing that out, it 72 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: seems like that would be productive. But then part of 73 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: me wonders if you're doing like you know, when you 74 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: do too much of anything, it can ruin the purpose 75 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: of it. Part of me wonders if that would happen anyways, Well, 76 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 1: how is Everyone's Thanksgiving? What? What did everyone do? Do 77 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,479 Speaker 1: you want to start? Yeah, I mean I just we 78 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:40,159 Speaker 1: just went over to Hayley's family. Um, because she's from 79 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: l A and her parents live here, so we all 80 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: go over to her parents, and um, it's really fun 81 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: and casual and simple and it was great. And then 82 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: the rest of the weekend was like really fun and relaxed, 83 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: but like we did stuff too, which was nice. But 84 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: I kind of felt like I was a college student 85 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: on like when Thanksgiving break, because we we stayed up 86 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: so late and slept so late, and we went to 87 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: the mall and we went to movies. It just felt 88 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: like we were, like I say, so far away from 89 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: the mall. I couldn't be further away from the mall 90 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: this weekend. Yeah, it was a thrill being in all 91 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: the action of Black Friday. Honestly, it was very overwhelming. 92 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: It wasn't but yeah, it was a good weekend. I'm 93 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:26,039 Speaker 1: just tired now. My body, my schedules all messed up. 94 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: I don't know how it happened so quickly, but it did. 95 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: And you can really get used to that, like leisurely lifestyle, 96 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 1: you know, you're like Sunday, I slept until and I 97 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: was like, who is she? Like what is going on here? 98 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: I'm so sad for you that that's sleeping in. Oh, 99 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 1: that is sleeping in tremendously, Like I was shocked. I 100 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: think I envy you. I think I actually envy you 101 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: because that means you felt the same that I felt 102 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 1: sleeping in as late as I did, but then you 103 00:05:54,720 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 1: still had the full day to do things, so to do, 104 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: to do not much but Thanksgiving. Luckily, like I was 105 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:03,919 Speaker 1: feeling good on Thanksgiving and I got to spend it. 106 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 1: I went down to Orange County and I was with 107 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: my whole family, and um, so it was me and 108 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: my my parents, and my brother and his fiance, and 109 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: my sister her husband, and my niece and my nephew, 110 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: and then my cousin was in town from Serbia. And 111 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: then Robbie came down with me. In the morning. We 112 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: brought Sonny, and then Robbie's parents came down, and um, 113 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,840 Speaker 1: we all had Thanksgiving together and it was really nice 114 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: because last Thanksgiving my parents spent it with like all 115 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: of Robbie's family up here, and so this Thanksgiving his 116 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 1: parents came down and we had like a really nice time. Um, 117 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: we had like a really really really nice time. It 118 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: was like cute. It is this I don't know. I mean, 119 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 1: they've met my our parents have met, so our parents 120 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: know each other, but they haven't met my siblings and stuff, 121 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: and like my niece, my nephew. So it was really 122 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: fun to kind of like have that all together. Were 123 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: you nervous like the merging? Oh, I guess you'll did 124 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: it last year, but with it being your family, where 125 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: did you have any nerves of like the merging of families? 126 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:00,600 Speaker 1: Like not a nerve, but like jeds of like I 127 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 1: hope this is pleasant for everybody. Yeah. I wasn't nervous, 128 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: like scared, but I was like jitty, jittery excited, you 129 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: know what I mean, because it does feel like another step, 130 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like another step towards like 131 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: when they first meet, there's a step, and then this 132 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: was like a step. Um. But it went so well 133 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: that like it made me. I obviously knew it was 134 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: going to go great, but it went better than I 135 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: even thought too. So it was just like really really nice. 136 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: Like I left feeling like I was melting. Um, I 137 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: really started going down Thursday night. But um. But but 138 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:36,640 Speaker 1: all things considered, it was just like such a such 139 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: a great day. Great. I love hearing that Mark Easton. 140 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 1: How was Thanksgiving? It was lovely. My parents came out 141 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: from Tucson, UH and we had a nice time. Our 142 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: friends the Shoulders came by and they got kids that 143 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: my kids can kind of look after and so that 144 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: was nice. So yeah, it was really a good Thanksgiving, 145 00:07:57,600 --> 00:07:59,720 Speaker 1: and uh, you know you appreciate it. You know, your 146 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: parents getting on in years. You don't know how much 147 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: longer you're gonna have all the whole gang together. So 148 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: it's very nice, very very lovely time. And the Saturday 149 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: we went to Disneyland all day and that was exhausting. 150 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, a Saturday Disney during Thanksgiving break feels 151 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: very chaotic, feels ambitious. But none of the lions were 152 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: that terrible. I mean, Rise of the Resistance we still 153 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: haven't done. I'm sorry, Easton, but because the lines are 154 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: just too insane. But was okay. They were all like 155 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: forty to fifteen minutes. You know, they got the Lightning 156 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: Lane thing going on, and that worked out nicely for 157 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: strategic placements of different attractions. Think about forty to fifty minutes. 158 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: Think about what you could do in forty to fifty minutes. 159 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 1: You could make a bunch of all the milk. In 160 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: forty to fifteen minutes, you can wrap a lot of presents. 161 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: And forty to fifteen minutes I sat Disneyland, or do 162 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: you want to make some almond milk, and it chose 163 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 1: Disney plants. Yeah, that's so that's weird that they that 164 00:08:54,679 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 1: they chose that over almond milk. Making it's a reasonable money. 165 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: I think any two digit weight time is well, anything 166 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 1: under an hour is decent, is legitimate, and I'll get 167 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,319 Speaker 1: in line. But like we went by Rise there and 168 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: ten minutes, like, nope, I don't care what it is. 169 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: There's nothing I'm going to stand in line for for 170 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:19,319 Speaker 1: hundred Yeah, I have an unpopular opinion about that ride, 171 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: Like I think it's incredible as far as like you 172 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: feel like you're in a movie. But I don't know 173 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: that because I've stood in a long line for it. 174 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: I don't know that i'd stand in a long line 175 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: again for it. But I'm also not a huge but 176 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: I'm not a huge Star Wars fan, so I don't 177 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 1: know if it means as much to me as it 178 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: means to appeal to as like not a Star Wars fan. 179 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:39,959 Speaker 1: Like I liked it and I appreciated it, but I 180 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't stay in line for more than like thirty three 181 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:51,719 Speaker 1: minutes for it. Okay, Yeah, we did the Millennium Falcon thing. 182 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: That was fine. I don't see us doing that again. 183 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: It was fine. No, that one makes me ill. Yeah, 184 00:09:57,440 --> 00:09:59,720 Speaker 1: I felt some of that, Yeah, like queasy like I 185 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 1: but we did. We did Space Mountain twice. You know 186 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: when twice you've kind of done everything you want to 187 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 1: do when you're starting over. Plus the parade we did 188 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,199 Speaker 1: and we did the fireworks. It was really it was 189 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 1: a glorious thing. I was so bone tired at the 190 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: end of it, but it was great, really good thing. 191 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,559 Speaker 1: It takes you out, it really does. Eastern You went 192 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: up to northern California. I followed along your food. Yeah, 193 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 1: I went. I went home to Santa Cruz, California, and 194 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: my wife and I stayed in this haunted hotel They're 195 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: called the Brookdale Lodge that has a river running through 196 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: the dining room and a bunch of people died there 197 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: and it's very very haunted. Uh So we have we 198 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 1: have this like ghost hunting kit for our wedding gift, 199 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: and we broke it out and we hooked up all 200 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:50,320 Speaker 1: the equipment and who know that, my Auntiura, got me 201 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 1: that and we're very grateful. It's like it's not just 202 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: like a ghost detector, it's like real stuff. That took 203 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: me a long time to learn how to use um, 204 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,079 Speaker 1: but uh, we had a lot of fun doing that. 205 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 1: And then we um went to my mom's side of 206 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 1: the family. There's a lot of farmers and we went 207 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: to the farm out in Gustine, which is in the 208 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: Central Valley, and I got to ride the tractor and 209 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,680 Speaker 1: see all the farmer cousins and that was that was 210 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: really fun. I haven't been up there in like ten years, 211 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:20,199 Speaker 1: and Allison has ever gotten to see the family farms. 212 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: That was really fund. That's really cool. Tell me about 213 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: that pizza that you had, like multiple times, Pizza in 214 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 1: my Heart. I think it's one of the best pizzas 215 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,679 Speaker 1: you can get. And it pains me because it's not 216 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:32,719 Speaker 1: in Los Angeles yet. The furthest south they have it 217 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: is al Vista, and I have driven up there just 218 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: for Pizza my Heart a number of times. It's like 219 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:41,840 Speaker 1: a thin crust. They used to be a lot greasier. 220 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 1: They used to have a sign in the restaurant that 221 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:45,839 Speaker 1: said you can either ring the pizza out or you 222 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: can pat it with a napkin. It's so good, and 223 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: I feel bad because there's like there's not a damn 224 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 1: thing Allison can have there but I made it go 225 00:11:56,559 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: with me two different times Easton. That should be we 226 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: should go on a road trip up there, and that 227 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: could be our first food review we do. That is 228 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:10,559 Speaker 1: so fun. It's yes, I would I would love that 229 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: so much. It's uh yeah, pizza my heart is so good. 230 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: They have them, I think from I think they're in Sacramento. 231 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,199 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe they're in Oregon too, but then all the 232 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:23,199 Speaker 1: way down the coast to Santa Barbara and that's that's 233 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: where there, that's the range. But I would love to 234 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 1: be fun. That's a good start, you know. I will 235 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 1: tell you this isn't really that exciting because you can't 236 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:33,840 Speaker 1: ring out the pizza. But I did find the best 237 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: blue free pasta that I've tried to date, and it's 238 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 1: Jovial and it tastes just like regular pasta and it 239 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:43,679 Speaker 1: is bomb. So thank you to the Oaks at Jovial. 240 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: This is not sponsored. This is just tried and trude 241 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: tries it, trying true, I think trying true, tried and true. 242 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: Uh from my own taste buds, Jovial gluten free pasta 243 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: tastes like regular pasta. Wait is Jovial a restaurant or 244 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: something about the store No, it's the brand, Like it's 245 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,559 Speaker 1: just like the brand the kind of types Aposta, like 246 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: Penne's gette. That's good to know that that people have 247 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,440 Speaker 1: an option of something that tastes good. Yeah. Yeah, I 248 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 1: do feel like I tried a lot of different gluten 249 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: free noodles. Yeah, well, I believe if anyone has tried 250 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 1: and tested amount at to you try in tried, tried intrude, 251 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:27,679 Speaker 1: she said, right in trude, tried intrude in this dude. 252 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:30,680 Speaker 1: Right before we started the podcast, Tommy and I were 253 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: having a semiheated, uh message exchange on Instagram, and we 254 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:38,840 Speaker 1: are going to talk about that, but first we're going 255 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 1: to take a break. We are back, and right before 256 00:13:57,360 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: we started the podcast, Um so Ali Grant got engaged, 257 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: So congrats to a congrats Ali and her fiance Carston. 258 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: They were in Hawaii, and um, she'll probably be telling 259 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 1: the stories and so I'm not going to tell the 260 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 1: whole story. But I posted on my Instagram because she 261 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 1: got engaged. When was that like last week? At some 262 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: point lay before Thanksgiving? She actually sent me the photo. 263 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 1: Yeah on that level now where she sent me her Yeah, 264 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: y'all are best friends. Yeah, Okay, that leads me to 265 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: my point. So I posted on my Instagram, like when 266 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 1: you're because Ali facetimed me and Haley and like showed 267 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: us the ring and like we're engaged. So I posted 268 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: the screenshot of the FaceTime and I was like, when 269 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 1: your best friend calls to tell you she's engaged, And 270 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:51,680 Speaker 1: of course, as expected, I get a message from Tanya 271 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: rad best friend. Huh, but we've discussed this. I think 272 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 1: there's like a history of this on the podcast documented 273 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: that Tanya has said we've discussed like, yeah, once you 274 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: get to a certain ages as an adult, you get 275 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: to have multiple best friends, you know, and they're all 276 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 1: best friend before and and Brad and Sophia. Yeah, okay, 277 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 1: So just because we've discussed it in the past does 278 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: not make the stinks any less when you see it 279 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: before your eyes, when you're not feeling your best and 280 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 1: you see your best friend call somebody else they're best friend, 281 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 1: and it's just like, all right, I'm already like not 282 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:34,720 Speaker 1: feeling great and then I have to go and see this. 283 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 1: So you felt kicked when you were down, that's what 284 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: you felt. I felt kicked when I was down, And 285 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: then you're talking about bachelorette parties, and I'm like, is 286 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 1: Becca going to have it in her to throw multiple 287 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: bachelrette parties? Already talked to Haley about this, and I said, 288 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:52,960 Speaker 1: I might be busy this year, you know, so I 289 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: gotta start taking wellness shots to keep my moves. What 290 00:15:57,480 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 1: did you talk to her about? Just so you know 291 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 1: that it's we're getting to the point where all my 292 00:16:03,120 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 1: friends are getting engaged and there might be multiples, you know, 293 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: who knows what's on the horizon. Truly could be a 294 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 1: big deal. But so here's the question, who who is 295 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: your if you got married tomorrow, who is your maid 296 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: of honor? Each of you? Oh? Well, I think it's well, 297 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 1: would you have your sister? Because like I have my sister, 298 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 1: So I think I would probably have total cop out, 299 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: cop out my sister. My best friends, we're asking which sister, 300 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: which non sister. You're saying, yeah, okay, that's tough. I 301 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 1: might avoid having a bridal party just for this reason. 302 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: Or I would be like, hey, everybody, listen, y'all are 303 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 1: all of equal value. But for the sake of my 304 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 1: sanity during this wedding time, I have to appoint Tanya 305 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 1: as the maid of honor to avoid a full spiral 306 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: during my wedding. Okay, that's not your wedding should not 307 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: be about me, truly, No, I think, well, I feel 308 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:15,920 Speaker 1: like Tanya would be a really great maid of honor 309 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 1: because I do think she's very organized, it good at planning, 310 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: so she would definitely be in the running for that. 311 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 1: But I don't know, I might make it like one 312 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:26,680 Speaker 1: of those things where I don't do like a someone's 313 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,879 Speaker 1: above the rest, and I just kind of, you know, 314 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:32,040 Speaker 1: we're talking about a wedding that I'm not even sure 315 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 1: like I ever want or have. But I mean, I'm 316 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:42,199 Speaker 1: just never however, one let's I have talked about this. 317 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:44,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if I want like a huge grand wedding. 318 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:46,880 Speaker 1: And I always said, like, if that was really important 319 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,400 Speaker 1: to Haley, it would be a discussion. But me personally, 320 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 1: I'm not someone who's like dreamed of my wedding or 321 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 1: like that part of it. I would like to have 322 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: a huge party. I will say. I was talking to 323 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 1: one of Robbie's family members over the week and that 324 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: got engaged recently, and she was talking about like trying 325 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: on dresses, one in Miami, one in New York, one 326 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: in Orange County, and I'm like sitting here and I'm like, 327 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: none of this sounds appealing to me, like truly, like 328 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: I'm and you know me, like I love what, I 329 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: love weddings, I love love, I love all the fairy 330 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:19,320 Speaker 1: tale of it all. But I was like that nothing 331 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: about that sounds appealing to me. Like I think once 332 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 1: you got started doing it, I think you'd actually realized 333 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: could see really enjoy it. And they sit in in 334 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,160 Speaker 1: my bridal era. Aman of Stanton talked about this how 335 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: she like all the planning aspect and all the things 336 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: that you just listed did not sound like something she 337 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:40,200 Speaker 1: was excited about at all, but as she started doing it, 338 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,879 Speaker 1: she started getting so excited about the wedding and it 339 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,720 Speaker 1: all happening. And I think that part of you takes over. 340 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 1: But um, I also I envisioned like being somewhere, like 341 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: in a different country, with like the closest people in 342 00:18:54,400 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 1: my life doing something. I love what Sierra um Siera did. Yeah, Castana, Yeah, 343 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,040 Speaker 1: it was just like gorgeous. It felt intimate and like 344 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 1: not like overly deep. I just felt pretty and like 345 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 1: about their love, which I loved. Yeah, Tany is not 346 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:15,640 Speaker 1: going to escape without answering this, Yeah, I say, let's 347 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: move on to Tanya's answer. Just passed the law and 348 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 1: the lame duck session that says that you were no 349 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,879 Speaker 1: longer allowed to have siblings as you're maid of honor 350 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:27,200 Speaker 1: or parents, Tanya, who is your maid of honor? If 351 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 1: you have to rob Mary robby next weekend? So it 352 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:32,440 Speaker 1: would be a tough one because I know who would 353 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,439 Speaker 1: be between. It would be between do you know who 354 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: it would be between? Yeah, me and Paulina. Yes, So 355 00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 1: it's tough because Paulina is a little more buttoned up 356 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 1: than your The reason why I allowed is because literally, 357 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,399 Speaker 1: as I was talking to Hailey balling bachelor parties and stuff, 358 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: she goes, do you think Ali will have you as 359 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: her maid of honor? And I was like, I don't know, 360 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 1: Like maybe, I mean maybe, but I wouldn't be offended 361 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: if she had someone else. And she's like, what about Tanya? 362 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: And I was like, I don't know, Like Tanya is 363 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:14,960 Speaker 1: such a planner, she might she might go with Paulina 364 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:16,879 Speaker 1: because I think she's a little more organized than me. 365 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 1: So good to know. Paulina is just as like emotional 366 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:28,080 Speaker 1: and like sensitively sensitive charged as I am which I 367 00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: don't think would be good as a bridesmaid. So they 368 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:31,560 Speaker 1: feel like I do need like an even keeled gal, 369 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:34,480 Speaker 1: which would be back at well, I'm happy to be 370 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: a bridesmaid. I'm happy to be a bridesmaid. I I 371 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: just you know, if someone else is the title, No, 372 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:42,600 Speaker 1: no, no no, I'm not really a fighter to for to 373 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:49,320 Speaker 1: be in control of organizing anything. But the thing about 374 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: me is it might be spontaneous, but I'm going to 375 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: do a good job. That is one thing. I truly 376 00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:57,239 Speaker 1: Becca will pull it off. That's true. Yeah, but this 377 00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: is interesting. I think for scrubbers in general, it's very interesting. 378 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 1: And that Tanya is going with Paulina. You could tell 379 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: she's going with Paulina and Becca is going with Tanya 380 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: simply too, so she doesn't have to hear about it. 381 00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: I don't think it's surprising though, Like I think if 382 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,600 Speaker 1: anyone resonates with Tania or considers themselves so Tanya, they're 383 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:19,640 Speaker 1: gonna go for someone who's like a Tanya because they're 384 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,880 Speaker 1: gonna watch someone could but you could do a co situation. 385 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:24,720 Speaker 1: I feel like the one to punch between you and 386 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: Paulina could be very like good, Okay, we'll talk about that. Yeah, 387 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,720 Speaker 1: this is this conversation will be shelved for a later date. Yeah. Well, 388 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: well so anyways, Tanya, Tanya's best friend, Hugh. I said, yes, 389 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,240 Speaker 1: she goes, Oh, I said, oh, well, and she goes, 390 00:21:46,280 --> 00:21:49,240 Speaker 1: I'm already dark and sick. And now this spiral. And 391 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 1: I said, we've already discussed this how we can have 392 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 1: multiple best friends. And she goes, so I'm also best 393 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: friend or best friend adjacent. I'm like your best friend. 394 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 1: You know this, I said, just like how Riquel and 395 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,880 Speaker 1: Pauline are your best friends? So am I? Yeah? So 396 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: there we go the best friend conversation commit And this 397 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: would be a conversation that Paulina would have with me, 398 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? You know what I'm saying. 399 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 1: Oh like, if you said best friend about someone else, 400 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 1: she would okay, okay, okay, Well she might actually need 401 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,200 Speaker 1: to be made of honor. We might need to just 402 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:28,520 Speaker 1: go to the point her. Yeah. Um wait, there was 403 00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 1: something else that was conversation took a turn then. I 404 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 1: was not expecting to have this conversation today on the podcast. 405 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,440 Speaker 1: I'm glad we hash it out. I'm glad we haven't 406 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: figured out too because now we have time to really 407 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:48,080 Speaker 1: think it through. Would you want to bat to our party? Um, 408 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 1: I don't need, Like I was wont to say, like, 409 00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: I don't need like the penis straws, but that would 410 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:59,920 Speaker 1: be so unnecessary in general. Do you do those things 411 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: when it's the same sex female situation. I don't think so, 412 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess no. But that was never something I 413 00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 1: would do anyway, whether whether I was with a man 414 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:17,000 Speaker 1: or not. So yeah, yeah, I'm I'm with that, although 415 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,440 Speaker 1: I feel like Tonya would want them, so I don't know. Yeah, 416 00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:24,120 Speaker 1: I definitely think I want some penis paraphernalia. Yeah, but 417 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: we had those in my bachelor party. Wen. Yeah. You 418 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,320 Speaker 1: know where thrives though, Where I like it is like 419 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,399 Speaker 1: the hashtags and like the fun themes and stuff like that. 420 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:36,159 Speaker 1: Like that's where Becca really thrives at the fun themes 421 00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:38,880 Speaker 1: and hashtags. Yeah, Like I feel like you would come 422 00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,879 Speaker 1: up with like some great Bachelotte hashtags or like you know, 423 00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:50,640 Speaker 1: wedding hashtags. And I gotta do some brainstorming today. She's busy, todaviox. 424 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 1: But yeah, well that's fun. That was a fun conversation. 425 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: What a good time. God, we got that sort of 426 00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 1: like that does really swirl it in her head right now? Yeah, 427 00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 1: like what why di I the hashtager bachelor at party 428 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:18,280 Speaker 1: of like one last ween one last week. There you go. Um, 429 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:20,159 Speaker 1: by the way, we should have the scrubbers come up 430 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 1: with some good hashtags for the two couples, because those 431 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 1: are fun and I always enjoyed reading the suggestions in 432 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:27,920 Speaker 1: the Facebook group. What you know that the chili whatever, 433 00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,119 Speaker 1: the chili kiyoko. They come up with it themselves and 434 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:32,840 Speaker 1: they're always clever and funny and enjoyable. Sweet, So do 435 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 1: that get on that? Scrubbers. The scrubbers. The scrubbers are 436 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: really really good at hashtags, like when someone goes like, hey, 437 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,720 Speaker 1: I'm getting married or I just got engaged, like here 438 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,959 Speaker 1: are last names. I'm so impressed with what they come 439 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:53,200 Speaker 1: up with, some creative Um what I was gonna ask 440 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: you something about does anyone else feel like now the 441 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 1: rest of the years just like should be really yeah, 442 00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 1: the years over the years over like why do we 443 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,120 Speaker 1: still have to like think, like use our brains that much? 444 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 1: Or can we just like chill? No, there's still so 445 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,919 Speaker 1: much to do. But that's the thing. But like the 446 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,480 Speaker 1: work stuff and the professional stuff and the stuff we 447 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 1: don't want to do should all get shelved because it 448 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:25,760 Speaker 1: should all be about the holidays and personal time. I agree. 449 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 1: I agree December should be a month, a whole month off. 450 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: It had a guy come visit. He was a radio 451 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,920 Speaker 1: guy in Australia. He came and visited in early December 452 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,680 Speaker 1: because they were done. They signed off before Thanksgiving and 453 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 1: they don't go back until after the new year. I'm like, 454 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, that's amazing. That's how it should be. 455 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:51,000 Speaker 1: Like you just get to really enjoy, enjoy the end 456 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 1: of the year. And then January it's like you're ready 457 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,160 Speaker 1: to go, like you are fresh. You've had a whole 458 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: month off to do what you needed to do, spend 459 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,679 Speaker 1: time with who you need to spend with. It's ready 460 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:04,199 Speaker 1: to make your vision board and get going. I'm ready 461 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 1: for it. I'd love a whole month to just like 462 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: soak it all in. Although I didn't decide, I think 463 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 1: I decided what my word is going to be. Is 464 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 1: it the one that I accidentally said last week? It 465 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:18,360 Speaker 1: is not? What was that one? Can you share that one? 466 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:20,760 Speaker 1: Since you're not using Yes, I'm not going to use it. 467 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:26,399 Speaker 1: It was abundance. Oh and when will you reveal twenty 468 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 1: three word Jen one Jen one Jan one three. All right, 469 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:41,399 Speaker 1: stay tuned for that, folks. And also that's when Patrick 470 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 1: Dempsey we will open the doors for him the door. Yeah, 471 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 1: did you get any leads on that? Or I did 472 00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 1: get one. Somebody said that they knew, but it was 473 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,479 Speaker 1: like it was like a long lead. It was like 474 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 1: I'm babysat for his something something or other or whatever. 475 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,080 Speaker 1: And so I said, if people let them know about 476 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: our podcast, I'd appreciate it. Right, So we have one's 477 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 1: lead basically booked Adjason booked Jason any minute. Make sure 478 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 1: we check that email. I love when she says adjacent 479 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:20,320 Speaker 1: or like, it's just not Adjason at all. Um, It's 480 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:22,679 Speaker 1: just it's just kind of like thrown in there, and 481 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 1: it makes everything a little bit funnier. I really appreciate it. Okay, 482 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,480 Speaker 1: we're gonna take another break and we'll be back with 483 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: some emails. I read these last night. They're kind of hard. 484 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 1: I don't know how to answer, So we'll be back 485 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 1: with those. Okay, we're back in. Before we start emails, 486 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 1: I wanted to tell you all about something if you're 487 00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,879 Speaker 1: in southern California, specifically her most A Beach at the 488 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:04,120 Speaker 1: Comedy and Magic Club, they are having a donor appreciation night, 489 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 1: so there's gonna be ten comics and then free admission 490 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 1: for donors. So if you have the pink thought on 491 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,360 Speaker 1: your license, you get him for free. Um. And it's Thursday, 492 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,159 Speaker 1: December one. That's this Thursday. It starts at eight pm, 493 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:18,400 Speaker 1: So if you're in that area, please go down. Haley's 494 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:20,840 Speaker 1: dad is part of this putting this on, and he 495 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 1: is a double transplant recipient. So this is really cool 496 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,719 Speaker 1: and such a big deal. So if you are a 497 00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: donor and you want to go see some funny people 498 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:34,080 Speaker 1: on December one, that's this Thursday, go to the Comedy 499 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,400 Speaker 1: and Magic Club in Hermosa Beach and you get him 500 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 1: for free. As a cool club. Jaylene used to go 501 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,800 Speaker 1: there every weekend and work out his monologue material. Um 502 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,959 Speaker 1: what organs did? He was? He the recipient of so 503 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 1: he had a heart and a liver transplant? Wow, I 504 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 1: know that was I think five years ago. It was 505 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,440 Speaker 1: a year before Haley and I met. Does he know 506 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 1: who the heart was from? I don't think he knows, 507 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 1: but I was talking to him at Thanksgiving and he 508 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,280 Speaker 1: was telling me about this event on Thursday, and he 509 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 1: was saying, like he wakes up. He actually said, I 510 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 1: don't know who he is. I don't know his name, 511 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,480 Speaker 1: but I think him every morning and like every night. 512 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 1: Because what a gift to give someone into someone's family, 513 00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 1: you know, like to two organs saved his life that 514 00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: he otherwise wouldn't have gotten. I feel like there would 515 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 1: be some solace in that, as tragic and awful and 516 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,120 Speaker 1: unspeakable as that would be, there'd be some solace in 517 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,600 Speaker 1: knowing that their organs are helping someone else to live. Yeah, 518 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 1: and like also giving people a chance to be with 519 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,200 Speaker 1: their loved ones longer. And I agree, it's like a 520 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:35,720 Speaker 1: very bitter sweet thing, but it's a really cool event, 521 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 1: and it's cool that they're, you know, like giving people 522 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,680 Speaker 1: the chance to go for free if they have the 523 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 1: pink dot on their license. So definitely check that out 524 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 1: of her in the area. All right, onto emails, Mark 525 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,640 Speaker 1: take it away? Alright, Becca, thank you very much. Will 526 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: We're late on this one, so I hope this all 527 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,760 Speaker 1: worked out well for you, but we'll share it anyway. 528 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 1: Anonymous says, my boyfriend and I have been together for 529 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,600 Speaker 1: two years. We're both we've never spent the holidays together, 530 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,000 Speaker 1: but this year he asked me to stay in town 531 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: and spend Thanksgiving with his family. I always go home 532 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: to spend the holidays with my family, so I'm not 533 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 1: sure what to do. I see spending time during the 534 00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:13,800 Speaker 1: holidays is a very serious step. I want to say yes, 535 00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: but part of me wants to be with my family, 536 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 1: who are an eight hour drive away. Does this mean 537 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,760 Speaker 1: I have to ask him to spend Christmas with my family? 538 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 1: I might be overthinking this. I knew every relationship is different, 539 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:25,800 Speaker 1: but what is a good time to start sharing the 540 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 1: holidays with your significant other? M hmm. This is interesting 541 00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,480 Speaker 1: to me. It's interesting to me too, But why is 542 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:38,040 Speaker 1: it interesting to use? It's interesting to me because well 543 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: I have ever since Hayley and I started dating. We 544 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 1: I spent thanks Eving with her family, so I have 545 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,800 Speaker 1: been with them and then Christmas we always do separately, 546 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:51,280 Speaker 1: but I wish she was there. But there's um, you know, 547 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 1: certain things because my family lives in like the South, 548 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 1: and she wants to be with her family, and it's 549 00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,160 Speaker 1: like we normally just do a New Year's trip together 550 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,680 Speaker 1: and that's like ourselves abrading of the holidays but like 551 00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,680 Speaker 1: this year, I'm gonna do Christmas with her family before 552 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 1: I leave to go see my family, and then they're 553 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,720 Speaker 1: going to do there whatever. But my thing is I 554 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 1: always want to be with Haley. You know, if it 555 00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,480 Speaker 1: like worked out that we could always be together and 556 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,480 Speaker 1: both parties were like on the same page and we 557 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:21,760 Speaker 1: didn't live so far like a plane ride from my family, 558 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 1: I would love to do holidays together. So I'm wondering 559 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: why she's hesitant to do that, because in my mind, 560 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, can you not spend the holiday together and 561 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 1: then get in the car and go see your family 562 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,200 Speaker 1: or I think splitting holidays is very annoying. Like I 563 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:41,719 Speaker 1: was talking to some of Robbie's family over the weekend 564 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,360 Speaker 1: and they were like saying how they split Thanksgiving Like 565 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,280 Speaker 1: they go early to you know, one side of the 566 00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:47,960 Speaker 1: family and then later to the other. And I'm like, 567 00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 1: how know, you can't really like enjoy you can't just 568 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,160 Speaker 1: like park up on the couch of the beer. You know, 569 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,560 Speaker 1: I don't drink beer, but whatever if you did, you 570 00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 1: couldn't if you did, you couldn't park up with your beer. 571 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 1: And I think that sucks, Like I feel like thanks 572 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 1: loving so nice because you get to just like chill 573 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 1: and be in one place like all day. But what 574 00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,880 Speaker 1: my my sister did, which I found to be really smart, 575 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 1: is they like flip flop the holidays, So like if 576 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,800 Speaker 1: they did Thanksgiving with my family, they would do Christmas 577 00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: with his family, and the next year they would do 578 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,640 Speaker 1: Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with our family and 579 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 1: then flip flop the holidays. We've been doing both holidays together. 580 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:33,680 Speaker 1: I think, uh, we did Thanksgiving together last year, Thanksgiving 581 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 1: together this year, and because he didn't celebrate Christmas, he 582 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: did Christmas with my family last year and I do 583 00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:44,080 Speaker 1: Hanaka with his. So it's like kind of nice. Um, 584 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,800 Speaker 1: but I think it is better to be together. But 585 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:50,080 Speaker 1: my why I find this interesting is does this mean 586 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,200 Speaker 1: I have to ask does this mean I asked him 587 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: to spend Christmas with my family? Is she's scared because 588 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,080 Speaker 1: it feels like it's a big step and she's like, 589 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,000 Speaker 1: you know, hesitant to go to that next step because 590 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,680 Speaker 1: there's sometimes there's fear there. I feel like there's implications 591 00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 1: with that, or do you feel like maybe this is 592 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 1: like like does it feel like he would be intruding 593 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 1: on something that she doesn't want him to be a 594 00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 1: part of That's how I'm reading. Yeah, I don't think 595 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,800 Speaker 1: she's all in on this. I think a couple of things. One, 596 00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:27,000 Speaker 1: if you're just started dating recently or even towards Dania 597 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,320 Speaker 1: last year, but you're two years in now it's time 598 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,360 Speaker 1: to start being together for the holidays. I think Also, 599 00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 1: you're twenty nine. If you were twenty one, that might 600 00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,160 Speaker 1: be a little bit different. You're still your you still 601 00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,160 Speaker 1: have your traditions from childhood that you want to keep 602 00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:41,480 Speaker 1: going as long as possible. You're twenty nine, you've been 603 00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:43,760 Speaker 1: together two years. It's time to start doing this. I 604 00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: think now is the time. And if and if you're 605 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,840 Speaker 1: hesitant to do that, I think you need to kind 606 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,960 Speaker 1: of look inward and figure out why you're so hesitant 607 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:53,800 Speaker 1: to do this. He's not the one, kind of what 608 00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: it feels like, he's not the one. He's just one 609 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 1: of many. But then there's a part of me that knows, 610 00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:09,759 Speaker 1: like one adjacent it can be scary, or he's adjacent 611 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:16,360 Speaker 1: to the one. There, you're almost there. I just I 612 00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 1: just feel like the question of like, does this mean 613 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,560 Speaker 1: I am supposed to ask him to come with my family? 614 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,919 Speaker 1: Makes it seem like that's not in an instant thought 615 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,000 Speaker 1: of like wanting him there with you when your family 616 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 1: families there and sometimes family is really difficult, So I 617 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,440 Speaker 1: actually I can understand being like I don't know if 618 00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 1: I'm ready to bring him into the chaos like of 619 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 1: my family. So there could be that element of it 620 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 1: too where it's like I don't think I'm ready or 621 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,759 Speaker 1: that's scary to me to bring someone into this. That's 622 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: another option. So that's legit, But that's not what you're saying. 623 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: It sounds like she wants to just be with her 624 00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: family and not with him. That's what it sounds like 625 00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:57,319 Speaker 1: to me. But you know how like sometimes you're so 626 00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:00,799 Speaker 1: how I'm thinking of this from the perspective of like 627 00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:05,359 Speaker 1: what if her family has different like beliefs, so there's 628 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:08,279 Speaker 1: like different things that could start, like friction or something, 629 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,080 Speaker 1: and she's like, I don't even want to bring that 630 00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:15,799 Speaker 1: into it. I don't know, just a different, different perspective 631 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:17,720 Speaker 1: of not just like he's not the one, but maybe 632 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,000 Speaker 1: there's other elements to it that aren't in this email. 633 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,279 Speaker 1: But also it's been two years. They probably met, he 634 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,920 Speaker 1: probably met the parents, right, They probably met each other's families. 635 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,120 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know either, Anonymous. Sorry we 636 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:32,760 Speaker 1: were late on this. I hope it worked out, Okay, 637 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:39,560 Speaker 1: I hope Christmas works out. Yeah, it's interesting because now 638 00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:43,960 Speaker 1: that I'm thinking about it from that lens, that is interesting. Yeah. 639 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,400 Speaker 1: What if her family is very particular about something and 640 00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:50,600 Speaker 1: then her significant other is not what they expect or expected, 641 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't want I don't want to 642 00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,960 Speaker 1: put you in that position. I don't know. We don't 643 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 1: have enough context to really, but you know what, don't 644 00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 1: put off to tomorrow, what you can do today. Beautiful, 645 00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:08,319 Speaker 1: very very wise. Anonymous. Second one about about six years ago, 646 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: I hooked up with a guy friend of mine. At 647 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,440 Speaker 1: the time, he told me he was single by no 648 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:14,879 Speaker 1: later he's dating a girl. When that happened, he lied 649 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,240 Speaker 1: about being single. The girl he was dating was my friend, 650 00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:20,880 Speaker 1: and me and the girl were not on speaking terms 651 00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,560 Speaker 1: at the time. Well, recently we became good friends again. 652 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 1: She broke up with him. She's dating someone else, And 653 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,879 Speaker 1: I always feel guilty that I slept with her ex 654 00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,080 Speaker 1: boyfriend while they were still together, even though I didn't 655 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,560 Speaker 1: know that they were. Should I tell her the truth 656 00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,840 Speaker 1: or just keep it to myself because obviously they're no 657 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:37,319 Speaker 1: longer together and she's happy with a new boyfriend. I'm 658 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,120 Speaker 1: afraid if I tell her, she won't like me anymore. 659 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,120 Speaker 1: Even though I didn't know they were dating at the time, 660 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,400 Speaker 1: he lied that he was single. I guess it's my 661 00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,680 Speaker 1: guilty conscience. Whenever I see her. What do you think 662 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:47,879 Speaker 1: I should do? Should I just forget about it, keep 663 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,759 Speaker 1: it to myself forever? Like saying what you don't know 664 00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:55,960 Speaker 1: won't hurt you personally? This would eat me alive. I 665 00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:59,279 Speaker 1: would have no peace in this friendship, clearly eating her 666 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:03,719 Speaker 1: live or she Yeah, I think maybe it's just you 667 00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,399 Speaker 1: just have to have a conversation and just know that 668 00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:09,600 Speaker 1: she might have the reaction of like, I don't trust 669 00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 1: you as a friend. I want to be friends with you, 670 00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:16,080 Speaker 1: but I think it'll just make you feel lighter getting 671 00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:17,960 Speaker 1: it out and just I would just have a sit 672 00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:21,279 Speaker 1: down and say, like, I value your friendship so much 673 00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:22,920 Speaker 1: and there's just something that I have to tell you. 674 00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,399 Speaker 1: And I know that you've moved on from this relationship, 675 00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:29,279 Speaker 1: but because we're friends and you know I love you, 676 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:32,120 Speaker 1: I have to be honest with you about this and 677 00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:35,319 Speaker 1: just tell her, and she might react. It might not 678 00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:37,600 Speaker 1: be great, but I think it's going to be better 679 00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:41,560 Speaker 1: for your like general conscious and peace moving forward. It's 680 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:46,640 Speaker 1: gonna This actually happened to me in college. Um, I 681 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: slept with the guy that a friend of mine was 682 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,160 Speaker 1: like into. They hadn't like they weren't boyfriend girlfriend ever, 683 00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:53,719 Speaker 1: but she would just had a big crush on him, 684 00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,040 Speaker 1: and I like slept with him one night and I 685 00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:58,359 Speaker 1: end up I was eating me alive. I hadn't tell 686 00:37:58,400 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 1: her like I think I told her like the next 687 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,120 Speaker 1: day or the day after, and our friendship was never 688 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,239 Speaker 1: the same. But that was like my learning moment, you 689 00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:05,480 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like that was like a learning 690 00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:10,680 Speaker 1: moment that I needed in my early twenties to kind 691 00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,120 Speaker 1: of wake me up to that, you know what I mean, 692 00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:15,080 Speaker 1: Like no man or no guy is worth putting any 693 00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:17,600 Speaker 1: friendship at risk, you know what I mean. Like we 694 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,160 Speaker 1: were never super good friends, but like it was it 695 00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 1: definitely our friendship was not the same after that, and 696 00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,560 Speaker 1: so that was like my learning my learning moment, So 697 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:27,880 Speaker 1: that that's what this might be for you, And like 698 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:31,799 Speaker 1: you will never do it again, but it's gonna weigh 699 00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:35,399 Speaker 1: on you, like it's gonna eat you alive, you have to, yeah, 700 00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:38,799 Speaker 1: say it. I think the friend's biggest complaint might be, 701 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,719 Speaker 1: why didn't you tell me as soon as you phoned 702 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:42,400 Speaker 1: out that we were together? I know we weren't on 703 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,520 Speaker 1: speaking terms, but the right thing to do at that 704 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,360 Speaker 1: point would be to say to me, Hey, your boyfriend 705 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:50,319 Speaker 1: is going around sleeping with other people. And if she 706 00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,080 Speaker 1: says that, you can just be like. I was scared, 707 00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,560 Speaker 1: and I wish I had been I wish I had 708 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:57,600 Speaker 1: been brave enough to just be honest and tell you 709 00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,839 Speaker 1: what it what it was. But here I am now. 710 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:02,600 Speaker 1: I think that's what would bother me is if he's 711 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,279 Speaker 1: sleeping with anonymous, he might have been sleeping with who 712 00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,680 Speaker 1: knows how many people, which puts her in danger. Puts 713 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:11,360 Speaker 1: the girlfriend in danger. Yeah, but I agree with Tamy. 714 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:14,360 Speaker 1: This might just be a painful learning lesson, but I 715 00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,880 Speaker 1: think it's I think the best thing for you to 716 00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,319 Speaker 1: do is just be honest and get it off your chest. 717 00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,120 Speaker 1: And also good for you that you have a conscious 718 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,120 Speaker 1: about this, because some people might just be like, whatever 719 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:29,120 Speaker 1: you know, brush it off. But yeah, I love the queen. 720 00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:37,360 Speaker 1: I love the queen. She says. Is that our title 721 00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:44,680 Speaker 1: for today you've had a bunch. Actually, um true, I 722 00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:49,879 Speaker 1: thought that was a strong title. Try well, I think 723 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 1: that's it for today, folks. But we're back Thursday. And 724 00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,960 Speaker 1: guess what, we have another episode coming out Thursday and 725 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,799 Speaker 1: it's a Q and A that y'all submitted, so all 726 00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:03,600 Speaker 1: the questions that y'all want to know, we will be 727 00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:09,000 Speaker 1: on Thursday. So don't be too sad as we say 728 00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 1: goodbye today because to the party, and don't be tarted 729 00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:15,560 Speaker 1: to the party because we'll be back on Thursday. So 730 00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:20,800 Speaker 1: we'll see you then, Love you, love you, Bye.