1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,560 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, So this is from Jay in Roanoke. 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 1: Jay says, I'm almost thirty and I live with my parents. 3 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,159 Speaker 1: My dad has a problem with me moving out, and 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: he also has a problem with my boyfriend staying with me. 5 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: When he comes to town. My boyfriend has to get 6 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: a hotel room. So it's a waste of money because 7 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 1: we have two extra guest rooms. My boyfriend said, my 8 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,759 Speaker 1: dad is controlling and he wants me to get my 9 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 1: own place. I'm comfortable with my living arrangement, but my 10 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: boyfriend is getting tired of it. 11 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,159 Speaker 2: What do you suggest I do? 12 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 3: Well. 13 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:34,279 Speaker 4: First of all, your father and his house makes the 14 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 4: rules period. He's uncomfortable with you moving out now you're thirty, 15 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 4: that you have an overprotected dad. Thirty, you should have 16 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 4: been gone unless you're in a certain culture, whether a 17 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 4: woman stays at the father's house until she marries. If 18 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 4: you're in a certain culture, then that you're gonna have 19 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 4: to do that. Secondly, don't nobody give it what your 20 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:03,639 Speaker 4: boyfriend think. Your father is controlling age because he can 21 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 4: see his way out the door. Because before your boyfriend 22 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 4: showed up, your father was holding it. 23 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 3: Down for you and your family. The entire time. 24 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 4: So your boyfriend is ignorant for trying to say that 25 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:21,279 Speaker 4: your father is controlling because he doesn't have a daughter yet, 26 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 4: so he can't possibly know what your father feels. So 27 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 4: now if he has to come and get a hotel, 28 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:32,680 Speaker 4: if that's an expense he can't afford, then he can't 29 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 4: come visit. 30 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 3: And your father has a rule. 31 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,839 Speaker 4: That nobody can come and sleep in his house unless 32 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 4: you're married to my daughter. And I'm pretty sure that's 33 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 4: the rule. So now, yeah, he's not mad at that. Yeah, 34 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 4: so you can get off the dad. And you should 35 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 4: have been gone technically. 36 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 2: Because she's thirty, but you know, a lot of. 37 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: There thirty for a lot of living with their parents. 38 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 2: Now that's too much of it. 39 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 5: But I think I think a man gives a little 40 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 5: bit more leeway to his daughter than his absolutely. 41 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: For you mean as far as staying at home after 42 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: at home? 43 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, a little bit more. 44 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 4: Lee. My youngest son is twenty eight. He can't he's 45 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 4: not coming to my house. 46 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 2: So when did you have to leave it? 47 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: What? 48 00:02:21,120 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 2: Eighteen? When you turned eighteen? 49 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 4: I left, seventeen, left I went to college when I 50 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:27,799 Speaker 4: was seventeen. He told me work it out. 51 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 2: Because that's it, that's what you had to do. 52 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 5: I think you realized after you come home a summer 53 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 5: after being in college. Have you come home a summer 54 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 5: and spend it with your parents' house and your daddy 55 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 5: back in your in your face, saying you ain't gonna 56 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 5: be coming. 57 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 3: Up in here. 58 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 5: No, middle, that's straight right now. Once you once you 59 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 5: hear that enough, you're like, okay, I gotta get my host. 60 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 3: You're about last weekend, I stayed out all night. I 61 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 3: ain't he making home. 62 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 2: Well this weekend, that's not gonna happen in this house. 63 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 3: Not at this house. 64 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 2: This house. 65 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 3: Now. 66 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,080 Speaker 4: When I flocked out of college, I had to stay 67 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 4: at home for six months when I flunked out of college. 68 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 4: But I got a job immediately for a motor company. 69 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 4: As soon as I had saved four checks, I was out. 70 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 2: Oh okay, all right, uncomfortable in the house. 71 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 3: No, no, no, he just said, the time you just 72 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 3: start lifting for something that. 73 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 2: Makes you uncomfortable. Yeah, your digs are number. 74 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 4: As soon as I got my first check, I had 75 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 4: to give my mom and daddy one hundred and twenty 76 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 4: five dollars. 77 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 3: All right, A lot of words do. 78 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 5: That and don't touch that last piece of chicken on 79 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 5: the stove that belonged to your dad. 80 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 3: I don't, but he had deals at our. 81 00:03:52,640 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 2: House because it was his house, his work. It is 82 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 2: different now though, Len walk in. 83 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 4: The house and he's sending a fan just he had 84 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 4: that one of them fans that turn you just have 85 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 4: it on him. 86 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 2: In the heat of the summer, you know that the. 87 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 4: Fan that oscillates, you know, go round the room, be 88 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 4: pressed stop. 89 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 3: It's just. 90 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 4: Everybody else sitting over to him and my mama Coan. 91 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 4: The rest of us are everybody else without with our 92 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 4: mouth open, panting like a doll. 93 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 2: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.