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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached

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Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here

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Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need

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Speaker 1: help with, whether you're going through a breakup or having

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Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question

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Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want

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Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in

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Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue

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Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional.

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Speaker 2: Hey cheeks, madam, My Historia's personal most mirit canos, scenarios,

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Speaker 2: mira chios, sukes a little close, Uncle, contado is pass

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Speaker 2: nunca lecho and melo the receptosala se vida, previda, sera

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Speaker 2: l trauma locum mimente is okay, d s o yayakis grande,

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Speaker 2: commonly speaking, my past casino valiente s a ho nk

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Speaker 2: is your problem as s a okay, simplest paratos connas

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Speaker 2: andresa sufri sufer inciencio. Come on, lets you go, My

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Speaker 2: mom pai ketos for mana familia po okay thing recept nalos.

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Speaker 3: Ko is gay, espero contestes o is them.

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Speaker 1: Well, first of all, guys, I want to explain to

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Speaker 1: you what he is saying. He's saying that he's twenty seven,

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Speaker 1: he is a gay man, and he needs advice on

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Speaker 1: how to tell his parents that he's gay, that he

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Speaker 1: has been a great son that hasn't given them issues,

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Speaker 1: but that indeed he doesn't know if maybe that's actually

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Speaker 1: a question I have for him, if he wants kids.

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Speaker 1: But he's like how because he's saying, I'm not going

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Speaker 1: to be able to give them grandchildren. So he's asking

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Speaker 1: for advice. One or more mira a cao eso, es lamente, especial,

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Speaker 1: jazz masco, moun pero, c endo on taboo special men

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Speaker 1: tec on a lesions the antees no pero salbermoso no

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Speaker 1: tojos no quiras pero mana za serlo a sket los

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Speaker 1: yo saulosa conversation, moodi fisi pero j lo mas pronto

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Speaker 1: posi sinopoles and persona scribuna carta conatus test is cribinos

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Speaker 1: carta or quando testes preperandosa conversation conos two tins caps

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Speaker 1: are missus padres mahaman so niho mama sceptar preence al

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Speaker 1: much es purkissas al principio shock kisas seven a molestaisvanavlar

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Speaker 1: to ten in ten los aos the rumpo call the

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Speaker 1: compassion as as percpeaos and momento stampo anijo poor kid

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Speaker 1: as parati estes to be the es to be the

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Speaker 1: como to kiras no less than you and n papas

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Speaker 1: pers gyaman even as no common agree it is gay

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Speaker 1: estaban peros do not deliveras de esto to be the

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Speaker 1: alcim perciento, bassar deficile baver aceptaro la grandiferenci and bueno

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Speaker 1: not to those neceptar pero acepto Joe michiro na malo

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Speaker 1: you can go to papas especial bo temples. No when

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Speaker 1: I see mio no man kiro has to call us

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Speaker 1: and timon to Corrasoni and domne vive Ebolar Midoo, per

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Speaker 1: tamn Connel and perciento Enesso. So, guys, quickly, I told

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Speaker 1: him that he should have this conversation with his parents

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Speaker 1: chance that they won't be happy about it, and that's okay.

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Speaker 1: We have to understand and have compassion for their feelings.

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Speaker 1: And everyone processes their feelings at their own time and

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Speaker 1: So that was my advice to him. I told him,

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Speaker 1: if he can't do it in person, do it through

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Speaker 1: a letter. I love writing to people to myself journaling,

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Speaker 4: I don't want to or react about it, but to me,

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Speaker 4: it's not okay. He has hurt her many times before

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Speaker 4: with other women, but for him to be texting his

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Speaker 4: Should I just forget about it?

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Speaker 3: Or talk about it? It? Oh?

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Speaker 1: And I hear the pain in your heart. I hear it,

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Speaker 1: I feel it. I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine.

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Speaker 1: As I was listening to you, I was thinking, what

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Speaker 1: if my sister's boyfriend or I mean, oh, I don't

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Speaker 1: that she's choosing him over herself. Your sister, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: he's probably very manipulative and emotionally, and I could already

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Speaker 1: probably tells her everything she wants to hear and ugh,

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Speaker 1: especially if he's done this with other people. But now

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Speaker 1: he's crossed a serious line. And I think if I

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Speaker 1: this way, I don't know how long it's gonna take.

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Speaker 1: But if you allow this and you let this pass

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Speaker 1: doing a disservice to her and to yourself. You have

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Speaker 1: to respect yourself. And honestly, I'm surprised your man didn't

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Speaker 1: don't want any more problems. But I would definitely stay away.

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Speaker 1: I would have the conversation with your sister and say, look,

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Speaker 1: I am hurt. I'm disappointed. He's disrespected you time and

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Speaker 1: if that's a type of life that you want, you

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Speaker 1: I am excusing myself. I love you, but when you're

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Speaker 1: You're closing the door, but you're not locking it, you know.

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Speaker 1: So she's aware of that. Yeah, yeah, she's gonna miss you.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's what she needs, babe, in order for her

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Speaker 1: hope she does. But this is not okay, and you

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Speaker 1: need to just make a decision. I think you're in

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Speaker 1: Make this firm decision of it's gonna hurt me. But

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Speaker 1: this is wrong and I cannot excuse and keep excusing

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Speaker 1: him because if my sister does it and you do

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Speaker 1: Someone needs to put a fucking stop to it. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: that means less family functions. It'll be difficult, but find

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Speaker 1: other areas and other people you deserve that you deserve

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Speaker 1: to be loved in a pure, respectful way, someone that

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Speaker 1: values you and your sister right now, I'm not saying

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Speaker 1: that she doesn't. I think she's blinded. He's blinding her

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Speaker 1: her situation and her relationship, what she's deciding to do

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Speaker 1: with her personal life. But you, this is the right

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Speaker 1: thing for you to do. Set a hard, hard boundary.

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Speaker 1: We can't allow him to do this and think it's okay.

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Speaker 1: It's not okay at all at all. And I'm sorry

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Speaker 1: her and you're gonna miss her, but you're actually doing

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Speaker 1: her a favor. It's not a lesson. It's just hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm honestly I feel like I feel bad

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Speaker 1: that you're going through this, but you're gonna be okay.

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Speaker 1: Just make this decision, this firm decision, and you'll see

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Speaker 1: that you'll have more peace in your heart and in

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Speaker 1: loving her. It just means that you're loving yourself more

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Speaker 1: and praying for her. From Afar, I hope everything works out, Anna,

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Speaker 1: I really do. Last question comes from rivaal Fondo.

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Speaker 4: Let's leon.

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Speaker 1: Thing and every howda particular like Costa Rica, Central Americana,

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Speaker 1: Costa Rican espero what is that? Lamo lamol Amiria music

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Speaker 1: is the guy. So she's as sking meme when she's

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Speaker 1: listening to my music first of all, and she's watching

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Speaker 1: one of my music video. Who's then asking why I

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Speaker 1: have a Costa Rican flag? I have Costa Rican flag

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Speaker 1: and also an American flag. And I want to think

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Speaker 1: that she's talking about pamihente the video because I have

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Speaker 1: so many different flags, but I'm not sure, but either

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Speaker 1: way I'm gonna respond, Okay. Miriva is the Mainlando the

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Speaker 1: l video, the pareo borqueeselnico vio cha vanderas know pero

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Speaker 1: Costa Rica, porqueesua Costa Rica and at pareja isto Latino

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Speaker 1: America pero sian predes latinosos ionios no latinos. So I

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Speaker 1: just told her that if she's talking about this particular video, pamihente,

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Speaker 1: it's just to celebrate all of Latin America and just

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Speaker 1: world united, we stand divided, we fall apart. So it's

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Speaker 1: just to celebrate. I'm assuming it's that one, so I'm

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Speaker 1: hoping she's talking about that. But I love cost Rica.

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Speaker 1: I went there once and oh my goodness, I had

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Speaker 1: so much fun. People are so nice. So yeah, that's all.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much. I appreciate your questions. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate you guys. If you guys have a question, please

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Speaker 1: leave it at speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and

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Speaker 1: Chill Podcasts, and I'll do my very best to answer

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Speaker 1: your questions, to give you advice like a big sister

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