1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Jonas is Sam your og okay storytime 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:03,559 Speaker 1: podcast hosts. 3 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 2: We have some great stories coming up. 4 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:07,000 Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two minute break 5 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 1: from the sponsors that keep the show alive. 6 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,320 Speaker 2: This is part two of My husband has a Secret 7 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:14,640 Speaker 2: son from a past partner. Man. 8 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: It's been beening crazy already, but we don't know if 9 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 1: this secret son is actually the secret son. 10 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, and just for a TLDR for everyone who's just 11 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 2: coming into this one again and listen to the first 12 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 2: part if you haven't already. But Ope's has been got 13 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 2: a message from a woman claiming that her five year 14 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 2: old is his son, and Opie's been pretty ballanced about 15 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 2: this whole thing. She wants him to have a relationship 16 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 2: with the son. The guy's like, I don't know if 17 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,199 Speaker 2: I really want to, and now OPI's like, hey, you 18 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 2: have a responsibility. She's kind of pushing him to have 19 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 2: a relationship. But let's see what happens. We're going into 20 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 2: the edit, so let's go. I want to thank everyone 21 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 2: who's taking the opportunity to respond, and I'm absolutely overwhelmed 22 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 2: by everyone's support. I'm definitely less emotional this morning, and 23 00:00:57,920 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: that is largely due to the community, so thank you. 24 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 2: I've told this story in the comments, but basically, at 25 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 2: the time the one night stand happened, she had just 26 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 2: broken up with her boyfriend and then got back together 27 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,919 Speaker 2: with him not long after. 28 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: Hmmmm. 29 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 2: So OPI's husband was like the meet in the middle, She's. 30 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: Like, She's like, oh, I don't got my boyfriend anymore. 31 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: Let's let's go back to the og daddy. 32 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: O yep, and then a bata bing about a boom. 33 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:29,559 Speaker 2: She pingpong ye ping pong, and the ex boyfriend claimed paternity, 34 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 2: but they are no longer together. So I think that 35 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 2: ex boyfriend thinks that he is the dad. She has 36 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,039 Speaker 2: told us that he is aware that my husband is 37 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 2: likely the father, Okay, but I am not sure if 38 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 2: he accepted this at face value, or if a praternity 39 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 2: test has been done, or what his current relationship to 40 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 2: her son is. For the moment, we are limiting contact 41 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 2: with her, so I'm not in a position to ask 42 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 2: these questions. It's been pointed out to me that I 43 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 2: have contradictory statements in my posts versus in the comments. 44 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 2: That is absolutely true, as I felt and am still 45 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 2: filling a very conflicted about the situation. From a moral standpoint, 46 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 2: I would hope that my husband does more than the 47 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 2: bare minimum, as I feel that this is in the 48 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:10,639 Speaker 2: best interest of the child and I will get over 49 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 2: myself and any doubt that I currently have. But personally, 50 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 2: that the roles were reversed, I would have a hard 51 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: time making payments and not playing an active role. I 52 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 2: would want either be involved or not at all. But 53 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 2: that's just me. At the same time, I wish that 54 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 2: this had never happened, that we could have continued on 55 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 2: living in oblivion, and that I wouldn't have to contribute 56 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 2: time in financial resources to a situation that I did 57 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 2: not cause. So yes, I feel conflicted, and hey, so fair, 58 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 2: so ridiculously fair. Yeah, this is a difficult situation. If 59 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 2: you weren't conflicted, I would be like, are you a human? 60 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:47,639 Speaker 2: Are you a real person? Exactly? 61 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: And I think OP is like trying to figure out 62 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: and you know, what's another thing to shout out OP for. Yeah, 63 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,799 Speaker 1: she hasn't like kind of pushed that agenda quote unquote 64 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:59,640 Speaker 1: on the husband. Yet she's like, Hey, this is what 65 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: I would like to see from it. This is like 66 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: what I would like to see from a partner that 67 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: I hopefully will spend the rest of my life with. 68 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 1: But I haven't like yet, just like she didn't immediate 69 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: drop the hand and be like, what are you doing? 70 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: Why aren't you doing this? You know, kind of like 71 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 1: letting and seeing where the dust falls and how the 72 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 1: husband after, because she's like, let me settle down, then, let. 73 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 2: Me give you the space to make your own decisions. Exactly. Yeah. 74 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 2: She goes on to say, if the kid is in 75 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 2: a harmful environment, all bets are off and we'll go 76 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 2: for custody provided my husband is the father. And edit 77 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 2: too took away stuff about not wanting to double up 78 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 2: on support if someone has already claimed paternity and is 79 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 2: paying support as this is not really relevant. Again, if 80 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 2: you're new here, there's multiple parts of the stories, so 81 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 2: make sure to follow us on the Iheard app or 82 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 2: Apple podcasts. Let's get back to the story. But I 83 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 2: guess it seems like what they're saying here is I 84 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 2: don't know if we're gonna double up if someone has 85 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 2: already claimed support, like double up paying child's right or 86 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 2: paying and if we were and maybe him paying and 87 00:03:58,280 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: doubling up on top of what this other guy is 88 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 2: already paying. 89 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: I think That's what I understand it as, is like 90 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: if the boyfriend has been like paying maybe even more 91 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: than child support, just like fully like, you know, funding 92 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: at least his share of everything, They're like, Hey, the 93 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: kid already has you know, two incomes coming in. We 94 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: don't necessarily need to be obligated to add to it. Yeah, 95 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: I think which makes sense. It's like, hey, like just 96 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 1: play like an active role in the kid's life, I guess, 97 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: versus just like kind of dumping dumping money on them. 98 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. Also with the paternity thing, can they they could 99 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,239 Speaker 2: you could do a court ordered paternity test, right, yeah, 100 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 2: so like, but how do they even make you do that? 101 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: As the Wise Drake once said, paternity testing for women 102 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: that I've never slept with, I'm legally obligated if they requested. 103 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: So if there is a formal request, really I believe 104 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:49,040 Speaker 1: you are I legally obligated. 105 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 2: So someone random that listens to us could be like, 106 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 2: I formally request that I've never met, You're legally obligated 107 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: she requested. So Edit three. It's more apparent in the 108 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 2: comments than in my post. But I have been trying 109 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 2: to hide how I really feel and have been trying 110 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: to be supportive while dealing with my own stuff myself. 111 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 2: He doesn't know a lot of how I am feeling 112 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 2: disappointment that he doesn't seem to want to step up 113 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 2: at the moment. This is the feelings that she's talking about. 114 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 2: He doesn't know. Fear of taking on a child when 115 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 2: we are currently childless, and fear of dealing with the 116 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 2: baby mama. Those are those are real fears, and I 117 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 2: feel that if I share that at this time without 118 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 2: truly understanding my own feelings, I will just be making 119 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 2: things worse. He needs my support, not my judgment. Ooh wow, 120 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 2: ooh look at that. Oh, p is great. Oh he's 121 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 2: a real one. Dale. What a bar? Yeah, what a bar. 122 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 2: He's supportt not my Judgementesh, that's a that's a line, 123 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 2: that's like that should be a line in some song. 124 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 2: I've reached out to a couple's counselor this morning so 125 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 2: that this can be unpacked in a constructive way. Boom oh, 126 00:05:56,279 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 2: green flag after green flag, and he'll hopefully feel can 127 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 2: share things that he is likely hiding from me as well. 128 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 2: He's also the type of guy to have an initial reaction, 129 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:06,840 Speaker 2: but then to dwell and think things through and come 130 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 2: to a different conclusion, so his stance can and will 131 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 2: likely change a bit. I don't have the greatest poker face, 132 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 2: so you probably will tell a bit how I'm feeling. 133 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 2: But we're pretty good at discussing things like adults. And 134 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 2: he knows that if I'm not sharing, it's because I'm 135 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 2: trying to figure things out. Healthy relationship. That's amazing. And John, 136 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 2: we have an update. Oh we haven't update coming, dude, 137 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 2: But before we hop into that update, any conspiracy theories 138 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 2: about what you think is going to happen, any predictions 139 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,840 Speaker 2: how are we feeling about their communication style? Just yeah, 140 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 2: how are you feeling about everything? Right now? 141 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: Opie's handling everything very well, again exuding all of the 142 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: Okay storytime podcast principles here, like communicating early and often, 143 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: understanding the communication styles, you know, giving him space, but 144 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: trying to be supportive. I honestly think as far as 145 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: a conspiracy theory, remember the line that said he looks 146 00:06:55,520 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: exactly like the husband did at five years old. If 147 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: you look exactly the same, especially like yeah, like comparing 148 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: the childhood pictures, not even just like oh how he 149 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: looks now, like oh he has like similar eyes or 150 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 1: something like that, I think this is, and the one 151 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: night stand, I think this is. 152 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, it does feel likely. Yeah, we don't feel likely, 153 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 2: but we don't have to proof, but it does feel likely. Yeah, 154 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 2: it almost like feels better to get it out of 155 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: the way, do it, do it sooner rather than later. Yeah, 156 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 2: because you don't want to settle in one direction or 157 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 2: the other and then be blindsided when it's the opposite judgment, Oh, 158 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 2: that's not my kid, and then it is, or that 159 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 2: is my kid and then it's not. You know, you 160 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 2: don't want to build up like an emotional attachment to 161 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 2: one or another out Yeah, rip the band aid. 162 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: Although like that's a tough it's like, okay, I just 163 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: need you just need to bite the bullet and. 164 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 2: Just like go for it. Easy advice to give, a 165 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 2: hard bite, hard advice to take. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, he's John, 166 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 2: your og host. Here. We're gonna get back to the stories. 167 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 2: But here's a quick three minute break of ass from 168 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 2: our sponsors. But we got an update. So my thoughts 169 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 2: were all over the place, and I was very conflicted. 170 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 2: I'm not super proud of my reaction, but I was 171 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 2: trying to be as open and honest about my thoughts 172 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 2: as possible, and now that things have settled in my head, 173 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 2: we have more information. Oh and my perspective has changed. Oh. 174 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 2: My husband was aware that I made the post because 175 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,040 Speaker 2: I needed to talk to someone, and he felt that 176 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 2: Reddit would be a good outlet. Since he is a 177 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 2: more private person than I am. He had asked that 178 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 2: I not talked too much about how he was feeling 179 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 2: unless it was relevant to my own feelings, which is 180 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 2: why it was focused on me. Also, because of the shock, 181 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 2: I may not have portrayed him in the best light. 182 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 2: He's very kind, he's empathetic, he's supportive, and has always 183 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 2: had my back for everything even before we were together. 184 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 2: He is my person and this situation has not changed that. 185 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 2: So what has all right? I think we're about to 186 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 2: find out what I said that leaving him I'd crossed 187 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 2: my mind it was the truth, But after talking to 188 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 2: a therapist, I realize that this stemmed from the fact 189 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 2: that I amied of being a parent and wasn't even 190 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 2: sure if deep down I really wanted kids at all. 191 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,439 Speaker 2: I have diagnosed infertility issues and deep down never truly 192 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 2: thought I would be able to have children. There are 193 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 2: options that we can pursue when ready, but there's no guarantee, 194 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 2: so it was easier to just not really think about it. 195 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 2: At the end of the day when I imagined having 196 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 2: the conversation regarding divorce and how it play out, and 197 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 2: even in my imagination, I couldn't say the words to him, 198 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 2: never mind in real life. So that clarified that this 199 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 2: was just bear talking. Yeah, and I mean like it. 200 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: There's a good a good point out too of Hey, 201 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm ready to be a mom 202 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:43,679 Speaker 1: and does this mean I'm gonna like what's gonna napo 203 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 1: do I? 204 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 2: You know? 205 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: And it's there will never be, never be a perfect situation. 206 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 1: But yeah, it would be kind of implied that she 207 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: would kind of be in the mix somehow, right, But 208 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: you just have to be like, she doesn't app sanely, 209 00:09:58,120 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: there is a way I think we can make it 210 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: pretty clean considering the situation. 211 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, but again, I just want to like focus on 212 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:11,079 Speaker 2: how healthy yes Op is processing all this news, like 213 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 2: going to a therapist, a couple's counselor really sitting with 214 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 2: her feelings without reacting. It's just like a masterclass and 215 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 2: how to deal with crazy and crazy. Truly, this is 216 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 2: one of the crazy situations that that could happen to you. Yep, 217 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 2: and Ope is really dealing it with it with a 218 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 2: lot of grace and poise. Yeah, the title is a 219 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 2: bit misleading regarding the math though. The kid is five 220 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:34,679 Speaker 2: and a half and my husband and I have been 221 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 2: together for a little over six years, married for a 222 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 2: bit over three mmmm, five and a half. 223 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: Which could work because of nine months of pregnancy, and 224 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: you know, some people like like you know myself, you know, 225 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: getting up to ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen months. 226 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 2: Well, it's just seeming like there's there's overlap there. It's 227 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 2: even on the super close, it's super cool, right on 228 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,320 Speaker 2: the line. Maybe they weren't official, you know, for the 229 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 2: first thing, and he cut it off once it was official. True, 230 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 2: my husband and I were actually very good friends for 231 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 2: a few years before we began seeing each other, and 232 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:10,719 Speaker 2: we're dating about three months before we had the exclusivity talk. 233 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:13,959 Speaker 2: He slept with the mother during the initial stages of 234 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 2: our relationship, and I was fully aware at the time 235 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,679 Speaker 2: that they had met online and had gone out once. 236 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 2: Ironically enough, he told her he didn't want to pursue 237 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 2: things with her because he realized he had deep feelings 238 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 2: for me and is guilt about sleeping with her prompted 239 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 2: the exclusivity talk. Okay, wow, the timeline kind of lines up. 240 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:35,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it was like communicated at the dude. 241 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:41,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, communicating early and off to gosh wow, so beautiful conception, 242 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 2: real exception. A lot of people, including my parents, have 243 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 2: a bit of an issue with the timing. But he 244 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 2: did not cheat on me, and that is in bold. 245 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen have not cheat, and it doesn't seem 246 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:55,200 Speaker 2: like he did. When we started seeing each other, we 247 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 2: had said that we would always be friends first and 248 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 2: would always be open and honest with each other, even 249 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 2: if it's difficult, and I have no reason to believe 250 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 2: that he slept with her since that time. Also, it's 251 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 2: that time to tell you that if you're new here, 252 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,040 Speaker 2: this is just part two of this story. There's a 253 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 2: part one that we already went to, and we got 254 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 2: a part three coming up, so we got some juice 255 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 2: left to squeeze. 256 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 1: Oh yeah. 257 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 2: To make sure you're following us on the Iheard app, 258 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 2: Apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts, and click 259 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 2: the link in the description to go to our profile 260 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 2: to get the next juicy part of the story. All right, 261 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 2: let's get into the next part.