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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Michelle is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Steven.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if it's us, why he's ghosting her, and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Michelle, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Stephen.

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week and a.

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Speaker 2: Half, okay, And.

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Speaker 4: Have you reached out to him in that time?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I texted three times, but then I was just like,

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Speaker 3: after the third text with no response, I felt like

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Speaker 3: I had to have some dignity and.

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Speaker 2: I saw it's understandable. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So how was your date then? What happened?

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Speaker 3: Well, it was actually a great date. We went on

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Speaker 3: a picnic together and it was super cute, and then

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Speaker 3: we went on a little walk. It was just like

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Speaker 3: a lovely little hike. It was. It was also a

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Speaker 3: great date, like it was the kind of date that

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Speaker 3: you would see in a rom com And I felt

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Speaker 3: so good afterwards, and we you know, shared a romantic

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Speaker 3: sunset kiss at the Yeah, it was it was really lovely.

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Speaker 3: And I didn't end up going home with him, and

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Speaker 3: then he was a gentleman so he didn't ask. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: I felt great about it afterwards.

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Speaker 2: Why do you think he's not calling you back?

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Speaker 3: Well, I did mention on the date that I read

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Speaker 3: very smut book and.

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Speaker 4: Like him, they like fairy born.

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Speaker 2: This the kind of books our friend read.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like demeanor kind of changed after I brought

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Speaker 3: that up, and so I thought maybe that put him

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Speaker 3: off or he was judging me about that, But like,

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Speaker 3: I'd like a chance to explain myself because I don't

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Speaker 3: think it's that weird, but anything, I feel.

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Speaker 2: Like it's that all right. Our social media producer Gabby

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Speaker 2: rees that stuff all the time. Yeah, she's always talking

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Speaker 2: about the fairies that are doing each other.

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Speaker 1: But I want to know more. So when you brought

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Speaker 1: that up, how did he react to it? Was he like,

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Speaker 1: I read too. Do you think maybe it's the fact

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Speaker 1: that you read or that it's fairy porn.

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Speaker 3: It's definitely the fairy porn aspect and not the reading.

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Speaker 3: He just kind of went quiet, and then after a

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Speaker 3: while he was like, oh, that's cool, and then he

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Speaker 3: didn't say anything else. So we changed the subject yeah.

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Speaker 2: So his vibe kind of changed after that for the

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Speaker 2: rest of the date or was just that one awkward moment.

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Speaker 3: I mean, for the rest of the hike, his vibe

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Speaker 3: definitely was different. Yeah, we kept hiking for a while

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Speaker 3: after that, but he seemed like he was super distracted.

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Speaker 1: But then he was fine when you guys kissed and

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Speaker 1: then did he say that he wanted to see you again?

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Speaker 3: At the end, he was kind of like, yeah, I'd

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Speaker 3: love to see you again, but it felt sort of

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Speaker 3: half hearted, and then we parted ways, and I don't know,

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Speaker 3: he just seems like tired and over it by the end.

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Speaker 3: It was weird.

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Speaker 4: So what about that makes you feel like you want

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Speaker 4: to talk to him again.

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Speaker 3: Well, I just feel like, up until the very end,

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Speaker 3: the date was so calm and so romant, and I

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Speaker 3: hadn't had a date like that in such a long time,

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Speaker 3: and you know, I've been single for a couple of years.

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Speaker 3: I just like really enjoyed it. So I feel like

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Speaker 3: there is potential here. I just want to be able

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Speaker 3: to like clear up the fairy smutt issue.

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Speaker 2: If that's that's what it is, all right, Well, we'll

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Speaker 2: see if we can figure it out for you. Then

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Speaker 2: we'll play a song come Back, and then call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you,

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date if you still want one. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, thank you? All right, we'll play a song

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Speaker 2: come Back, do your first day follow up next. Right

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Speaker 2: in the middle of today's first date follow up, and

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Michelle is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Steven. So

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Speaker 2: we're about to call him and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another

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Speaker 2: date if she still wants one. But before we do that,

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Speaker 2: one of your fresh Air Dy's memory on your date

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Speaker 2: with Stephen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So Steve and I went on a date about

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Speaker 3: two weeks ago. We went on a picnic, we went

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Speaker 3: for a hike. It was lovely and I had a

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Speaker 3: great time. But at one point I mentioned that I

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Speaker 3: read fairy smut book and how have changed? So I'm

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Speaker 3: trying to figure out what the problem is. He hasn't

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Speaker 3: reached out to me. Half.

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Speaker 2: Well, are you ready to see if it was a

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Speaker 2: very smut that ruined your date? I'm ready, I'm all right,

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Speaker 2: here we go. I'm gonna call him right now. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Stephen. Please. This is Steven. How are

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Speaker 2: you man? My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Stephen, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Oh what okay?

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Speaker 2: What have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I've heard of it. Okay, what up?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 2: Do a thing on the show. It's called the first

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Speaker 2: Date follow up? What that is? If you go out

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Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and then you ghost them,

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Speaker 2: that person can email us to call you and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, and you did. Yeah, and it's from somebody

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Speaker 2: named Michelle. Okay, and Michelle told us a little bit

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Speaker 2: about your date. She said she really liked you, and

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Speaker 2: she's wondering why you're ghosting her. Can you tell us?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: I mean, I like Michelle. It's a really nice girl.

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Speaker 5: I got nothing bad to say about her.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what. I don't know what to say

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Speaker 3: she you know, she's just, uh, she's pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: Well, then how come you didn't respond when she reached

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Speaker 1: out to you three times?

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Speaker 5: I don't know she's like really like she's like very

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Speaker 5: physically fit and like she looks beautiful and and like

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Speaker 5: that's not like a knock on anybody.

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Speaker 3: But she likes to like hike and stuff, and like

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Speaker 3: I'm just kind of not into all that.

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Speaker 2: You're not into the hiking and stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's not.

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Speaker 5: Like I don't like enjoy like a walk, but like

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Speaker 5: it seems like she's somebody that like really gets down.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, you know, she's just yoga and she and

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Speaker 6: we went on this hike that like it was hot,

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Speaker 6: and I'm like a gamer by heart, dude, Like it.

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Speaker 3: Wasn't that like it wasn't necessarily her.

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Speaker 5: I just figured like if that's the type of date

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Speaker 5: that she's gonna want to go on like over and over,

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Speaker 5: Like I'm really like I'm not lazy, but I'm just

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Speaker 5: like that's not my idea of.

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Speaker 6: A good time.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, she thought it might be because she's into those

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Speaker 2: adult fairy smart books. Oh no, no, that was about

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Speaker 2: the reason at all.

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Speaker 3: No, No, not at all.

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Speaker 2: Actually, like I thought that was actually kind of cute.

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Speaker 5: Like I'm like like like I'm a gamer, Like.

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Speaker 2: I I was gonna say, yeah, you're a gamer, that's you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, I mean like I'm not like, you know,

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Speaker 5: like creepy or whatever. I don't I don't find it weird.

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Speaker 5: Like I like there's gamer stuff that I kind of

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Speaker 5: like that I thought was pretty like I thought that

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Speaker 3: I just didn't want to keep walking around all day.

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Speaker 2: All right, cool, thanks for being honest with man. I

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Speaker 2: appreciate that now, Like you know that Michelle is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's been listening and let's talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, what's up and set up? Why were you

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Speaker 3: so down to go for a hike? I would have

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Speaker 3: been fine with not doing that. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I just thought I was just trying to be like easy,

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Speaker 5: but then I realized, like how much? So you talked

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Speaker 5: a lot about how you're so like basically active and stuff,

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Speaker 5: and I just felt like I don't want us to

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Speaker 3: So you didn't mind the very smart at all?

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Speaker 7: No, no, no, no, dude, Actually, like I'm I think

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Speaker 7: I would like to hear more about that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, great, well if when I go indoors, maybe yeah, no,

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Speaker 3: we don't have to even like get up off the couch. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I mean not it's totally cool. But I mean, like

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Speaker 7: You really like hiking, like what's gonna happen, like, you know,

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Speaker 7: a couple of weeks and months from not like if

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Speaker 7: I just like, like I really am not it's not

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Speaker 7: something I enjoy it at all, Like it's that gonna

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Speaker 3: I mean I can probably like keep it to myself somewhat.

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Speaker 3: But how inactive are you? Really? I mean, do you

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Speaker 3: do like leave the house?

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Speaker 5: I mean, but like I'm like my friends joke with

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Speaker 5: me and they say that I'm accidentally fit.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm I'm not inactive. I just like i'd

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Speaker 5: Like, you know, like playing games like I E good

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Speaker 5: and I do stuff. I don't like to just like

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Speaker 3: On an adventure into nowhere to hike. That's not my

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Speaker 3: That's not what I like to do. Okay, Well, we

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Speaker 3: might have to get you a week fit or something like.

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Speaker 3: We might have to find some compromise here.

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Speaker 4: That seems fair.

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Speaker 2: Okay, then Steven, would you like another date with Michelle?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it. We're not going to pay for

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Speaker 2: a week fit, but we'll pay for it. The date.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I'm totally down, just as long as the

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Speaker 5: you know, maybe we could uber there and not go like.

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Speaker 2: Well, congratulations, Michelle, you got another date.

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Speaker 3: Yeay, yay, Okay, I'm yeah, I'm down to take a

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Speaker 3: car there, and I do have some smut recommendations for

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Speaker 3: you when you're ready.

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Speaker 1: You play your cards right, so re you a bedtime story,

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Speaker 1: you will first date follow up