1 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Welcome back to the podcast. This is episode 2 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:17,800 Speaker 1: two sixty two. And I'm just thinking as I was 3 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: setting up, that we should do something special for three hundred, right, 4 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: especially for the people that have listened for so long. 5 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: Three hundred episodes. That's crazy, right, We're getting close to that. 6 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: What we do here is we answer your questions. You 7 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: could email me podcast at grangersmith dot com how to 8 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: think about that for a second podcast at grangersmith dot com. 9 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 1: You could ask me any question about any topic and 10 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: I just answer it. Like me and you are friends 11 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: and we're driving on the road and you say, hey, 12 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:50,600 Speaker 1: can I run something by you. I don't have a 13 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: bunch of notes in front of me, I have this 14 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: iPad that has your questions chewed up from ant Man. 15 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: And you know, I look at this as a conversation, 16 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: and I look at this podcast as a way to 17 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: encourage people to think, and I want them to think 18 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: in a way that they could kind of step back 19 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 1: from being in the middle of the problem, because we 20 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: have a tendency to get inside our heads and look 21 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: at it the problem from a microscope instead of stepping 22 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: back and seeing the full picture of it. And so 23 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 1: ultimately The goal for me is not just to answer 24 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: your questions and move on and then that specific question 25 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: is answered, because I'm not always right on these, but 26 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 1: more so that we could all together learn to think 27 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: about them together, so that we could answer any question 28 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: that comes up. I think that's kind of the point here, 29 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:02,919 Speaker 1: because I have learned in two hundred and sixty one episodes. 30 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: This is number two sixty two. I think I've learned 31 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: that there are only seven to ten real questions, and 32 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: everything else is a nuance of those seven to ten questions. 33 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: So let's dive into this once again. The email is 34 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: podcast at grangersmith dot com. And another thing I've been 35 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 1: encouraging on this is if you go wherever you're listening 36 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: right now. My preference is Apple Podcasts. That's where I 37 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: listen to my podcast. Sometimes I listen on Spotify. You 38 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: could also watch the video that I'm recording on Spotify, 39 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: but I also put them up on YouTube and X 40 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: and Facebook. I think I know for sure X. But 41 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: on YouTube, if you go on there, you could actually 42 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 1: comment below the video, which is kind of cool. So 43 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: if you have a question wherever you're listening from about 44 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: what I say on this episode, not a new question, 45 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: but a question regarding an answer that I give. Go 46 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: to YouTube and comment below on this episode, and then 47 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: we'll scan through that and see if there's anything we 48 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: need to double down on. That's kind of how we 49 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: started this series, Marshall and I when we were doing 50 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,679 Speaker 1: the Good Church series How to Find a Good Church 51 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:22,839 Speaker 1: Part one, Part two, and I plan to have them 52 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: back for a part three and maybe even more to 53 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: continue this, but right now we're starting from scratchies or 54 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: brand new questions. The first one says, Hey, Granger, I 55 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: love what you're doing with the podcast. I was a 56 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: huge fan of your prior career as well. My name 57 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 1: is Justin and I'm married with two wonderful children. My 58 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: wife and I have been married for ten years now. 59 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: We recently attended a worship night in our area. During 60 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: that night, I met a worship leader from another church. 61 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: We began to small talk. I left my church to 62 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:56,160 Speaker 1: begin attending her church. I have grown feelings for someone 63 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: I don't even really know. My wife has started talking 64 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: about divorce as she thinks I'm cheating on her with 65 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: this other lady. I'm lost, confused and worried. What should 66 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: I do? Comes from justin, justin, thank you brother, thank 67 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: you for emailing. And here's my reaction to this. You know, 68 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:24,600 Speaker 1: it makes me think of there's a scene from this 69 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: Stephen King film, which I'm not recommending on this podcast, 70 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 1: but the movie is called it. Surely most people have 71 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: heard my kids. Obviously, my kids have not seen this movie, 72 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: but they know what it is. It's that crazy clown. 73 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: You know. It's like I think it's I think it 74 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: ends up being an alien or something that eats humans. 75 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: But here's the scenario. Here's the story. In the newer 76 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: version of this, this creature dressed as a clown hides 77 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: in a gutter I stuck a drain like a storm 78 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 1: train storm drain, and holds her little balloon that comes 79 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: out of the storm drain. And the clown is inside 80 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: the gutter and a kid, a boy, I think a 81 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: boy or a girl, sees the balloon and walks up 82 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: to the to the storm drain and wants to take 83 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: the balloon. And this this clown says, take the balloon. 84 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: Take it. You know, I haven't seen it personally, but 85 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: I'm telling you the story. Take you know, take it. 86 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 1: So pretty. It's a beautiful, innocent little balloon. You're gonna 87 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: love it. This is This is a beautiful toy. And 88 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 1: the child in the movie takes this innocent, little, sweet 89 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 1: little balloon from this clown, and the creature in the 90 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 1: clown grabs the child and rips the arm off of 91 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: the child, completely rips the arm right out of the 92 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: socket and takes it down into the storm drain and 93 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 1: eats it. Your story reminds me of that story, and 94 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 1: your story is actually worse than the movie it. Here's 95 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: another one. Whenever we go duck hunting in East Texas, 96 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 1: we put out these nice pretty decoys on the water, 97 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: and we put those decoys out there because it looks 98 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:35,280 Speaker 1: like a pretty little duck, peaceful and calm and relaxed 99 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: on a lake. Hey, look, all ducks, all mallards, look 100 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 1: right here. There's this pretty little little mallard sitting here 101 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: on this little pond. Nothing going on here. And then 102 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: here we are with our shotguns waiting to kill whatever 103 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:58,320 Speaker 1: comes in for this decoy. That story also reminds me 104 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: of your story. And look, brother, I'm telling you this 105 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: right now out of love, because justin right now, you 106 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: are still that innocent child that hasn't taken the balloon 107 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: yet but you you're now attracted to it. And you said, 108 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: I've grown feelings, which which this is what makes it 109 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 1: very difficult. You've now grown your feelings for this woman. 110 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: But I promise you there is only death on the 111 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 1: other side of the storm drain. There's only death. And 112 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: on the other side of this decoy on sitting on 113 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: the pond, it's it promises life, It promises beauty, it 114 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: promises prosperity, it promises happiness, it promises that. This is 115 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: a This is a good way to go. Your kids 116 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: are going to actually just adapt to the to the 117 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: new mom. There's going to be no problem. Your wife, 118 00:07:56,400 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: You'll tell yourself, probably wasn't happy anyway. Maybe she'll just 119 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: find somebody new. It's been ten years, you should know 120 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: by now. She could find somebody new. You could have 121 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: this wonderful new clown woman with the red balloon, and 122 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: she's so pretty, and you could just marry her, and 123 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: then maybe you could have kids with her and then 124 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: split time. This is death. This is going to rip 125 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: your arm off. This this is going to end. You're 126 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 1: gonna end up completely mutilated, and there's no other way 127 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: around it. The world makes this very normal. The world 128 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: makes this seem like this happens all the time. It's 129 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: no big deal. People fall out of love the brother. 130 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: I would encourage you to see what the Bible has 131 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 1: to say about this. The Book of Proverbs Solomon writes 132 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: extensively about this because he knows from experience. I would 133 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,280 Speaker 1: like you to read David's experience with this and Psal 134 00:08:57,320 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: I'm fifty one, and every other piece of the Bible 135 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: that says do not commit adultery, don't do it. There's 136 00:09:05,160 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: death on the other side of it. I feel like 137 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: there's not a better way for me to say it. 138 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: So maybe now the question is, well, how do you 139 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 1: how do you do this? Justin you've gone, you're in, 140 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: you're attracted to the balloon. What do you do? You 141 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: immediately seek counsel from godly men, and you brought it 142 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: to this podcast. It's interesting that you brought it to 143 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: the podcast, not being anonymous and just given me straight facts, 144 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: which is encouraging and interesting that it's not a secret, 145 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: almost as if your wife already knows about this. But 146 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: I would seek counsel immediately. I'm gonna go to your 147 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: wife and say, look, I've been wrong. If you thought. 148 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: I've been talking to this woman and I had feelings 149 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 1: for her. I am reversing that now. I am turning 150 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,839 Speaker 1: to you. I'm repenting, turning to God with my sin. 151 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: I'm sinning against God himself, and I'm turning to God, 152 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna stop it right where it is, right now, 153 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: kill it. Stop it right now. Turn away from the storm, drain, 154 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,439 Speaker 1: turn away with your wings flapping, and get away from 155 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:17,840 Speaker 1: this pond as fast as you can. You've gone this far, 156 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: so be it. Stop it, turn around, seek wise, counsel, 157 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:26,199 Speaker 1: get around, other men, go man. I was blinded by 158 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: this sin. Because what you need to realize justin I'll 159 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 1: say this last thing. I'll say this is a spiritual attack. 160 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: You are under attack, the clown, the hunters. With the 161 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: guns they have, they have tracked you down. They have 162 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: pinned you into a corner. They have outnumbered you. They 163 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: have fooled you, have been a fool to them. They 164 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:53,960 Speaker 1: have outwitted you, overpowered you, blinded you, and now they're 165 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 1: about to kill you. You have to know this is 166 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: not about this woman. She's just a pawn in this game. 167 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: But you've been hunted by an enemy that you cannot 168 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: compete against seek wise counsel, seek the Lord, repent, turn 169 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: back to him, tell your wife you will never leave her, 170 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 1: and then come back to this podcast in email. But 171 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, but I don't think 172 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: I think it requires that much severity in what I'm saying. 173 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 1: Next question is anonymous, It says Granger. As you know, 174 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: the comment section can be quite divisive on videos, So 175 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: my question is based on what I've read on various videos. 176 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:44,360 Speaker 1: What would you say about those that say that Catholicism 177 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: is the only true Christianity, or that Protestants do things 178 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: the right way and Catholics involve too many traditions, etc. 179 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: Would this be another case of the devil trying to 180 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: distract from the Gospel like the End Times debate. Could 181 00:11:58,480 --> 00:12:03,880 Speaker 1: the conflict over Baptism's role in salvation be included as well? Anonymous, Hey, 182 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: this is somebody that's used to this podcast. I like that. 183 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: So you're obviously referring to things that have happened on 184 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: this podcast over our previous episodes where I have brought 185 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: up the fact that when it comes to end Times, 186 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: people talking about the mark of the Beast and six 187 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:25,199 Speaker 1: sixty six and the anti Christ and the rapture, and 188 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 1: is it happening right now? Do we see it in 189 00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 1: the world today? And I've said many times that the 190 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: point of all of that, really, or the point that 191 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: we're missing, is that Jesus says, be ready. And so 192 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: the point is secure yourself with scripture, learning to know 193 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: who God is and understand the Gospel and what Jesus 194 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 1: did for man to bring them to reconcile them. The 195 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 1: Bible says, back to God, because we've sinned, we've turned 196 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: away from Him, and Jesus comes to die for sin 197 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: and through his righteousness bring us to God from what 198 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: he did on the cross. He takes our sin upon 199 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: his body on the cross and credits us with his righteousness. 200 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: We credit him with our sin. That's the Gospel, and 201 00:13:20,080 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: so anything other than that begins to distract like the 202 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,800 Speaker 1: end of times. And yes, I agree with this synonymous 203 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: comment that the debate of Catholicism and Protestants tends to 204 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,400 Speaker 1: break away and distract from the truth of the Gospel. 205 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:44,560 Speaker 1: And yes, I believe the Baptism's rule and salvation and 206 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: all these other things our divisive tactics by the enemy, 207 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: just like the clown with a red balloon in a 208 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:59,000 Speaker 1: different way. This is a different kind of sin. And 209 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 1: we're under spiritual constantly. This is spiritual warfare. We do 210 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 1: not battle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, 211 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 1: against authorities, against cosmic powers of this present darkness, against 212 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 1: the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places Ephesians 213 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: six twelve. We are in a war, and people are 214 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: getting taken out all the time. Justin is an example, 215 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: and then anonymous here is bringing up another example. And 216 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: this is another tactic by the enemies. Just distraction, disunity, discrediting, 217 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: just argue about these things and forget about the Gospel. 218 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 1: So what happened in the Reformation when when the Protestants 219 00:14:44,600 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 1: split from the Catholic Church, the Roman Catholic Church. What happened? 220 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 1: That's often misunderstood. And it's not that a new denomination 221 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: was formed or a new religion was formed. It's not 222 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 1: that it was a reformation, meaning it was a it 223 00:15:03,240 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 1: was reforming back to the basics. Really, you could say 224 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: it that way. It things had things began happening in 225 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 1: the church, in the Catholic Church that were leading it 226 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: away from the Gospel, and there were groups in France, 227 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: in Germany, in England, different pockets. Their Reformation wasn't all 228 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 1: Martin Luther in Germany, but there were different park pockets 229 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: that around the same time that started sparking up, speaking 230 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: out against the indulgences, against the Catholic Church, charging people 231 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:46,119 Speaker 1: to to to bring their family members out of purgatory 232 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 1: to save them, things that were unbiblical, and people were like, hey, 233 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: this isn't I don't think this is right. I don't 234 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 1: think this is right. But they were all Catholics saying this. 235 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: They were all Catholics. And so what really made it 236 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:04,920 Speaker 1: the spark flame was the printing press. And when the 237 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: printing press started, then these writings spread like wildfire and 238 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: everyone was able to consume and think to themselves, think 239 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 1: for themselves, and think to themselves, Oh, yeah, I've been 240 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 1: seeing this is a problem. I've been seeing this and 241 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 1: I thought this was a problem. And this guy's bringing 242 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: it to light and he's using the Bible is the 243 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: example of the truth. And so that's what took off. 244 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: And it wasn't that it was a new idea. It 245 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: was a hey, I think we're on a wrong path. 246 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:40,880 Speaker 1: Let's go back to the basics. Let's go back to 247 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 1: what the apostles taught us. That's what the Reformation was, 248 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 1: and so that the idea was never to break off 249 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: from the Catholic Church. The idea was to reform the 250 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: Catholic Church back to the way it was. Hey, let's 251 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 1: get back to the basics, right, Let's get back to 252 00:16:57,400 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 1: the fundamentals of the faith, because we're starting to lead 253 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: people straight by doing these all these things that are 254 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:07,720 Speaker 1: not biblical. But the reaction from the leadership of the 255 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 1: Catholic Church was this is heresy and were excommunicating you. 256 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 1: We're pushing you out. So the people that were once 257 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:19,920 Speaker 1: the once loved the church, that were part of the church, 258 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:24,919 Speaker 1: were then excommunicated and pushed out, and then the Reformation 259 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:30,359 Speaker 1: became its own thing. What's interesting is that when the 260 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 1: Reformation broke off, when the reformers broke off from the 261 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: Catholic Church once again, not because they were trying to, 262 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: but literally because they were pushed out threatened. When they 263 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 1: did break off, it didn't take but just a few 264 00:17:45,320 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: years before divisions within the Reformation started. The first one 265 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,679 Speaker 1: was in the sacrament of the Lord's Supper. People started 266 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:57,719 Speaker 1: disagreeing on what this what the Lord's Supper meant. And 267 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 1: so there is the divisiveness of the devil, the enemy 268 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: coming in right at the beginning of the Reformation going 269 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:07,119 Speaker 1: I'm gonna you guys divided. Now, I'm gonna divide you 270 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:11,360 Speaker 1: over this, and it's just constantly a distraction from the Gospel. 271 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: The Reformation started to reform back to the way of 272 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:18,479 Speaker 1: what things were, to the fundamentals, and as soon as 273 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 1: it reformed, it was breaking apart again with things that 274 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:27,080 Speaker 1: weren't fundamental. You could see the pattern. You could see 275 00:18:27,080 --> 00:18:29,200 Speaker 1: the red balloon right in the in the storm drain. 276 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:35,200 Speaker 1: You could start to see these tactics of disunity as 277 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:41,119 Speaker 1: it as the enemy comes in and attacks with pride 278 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:50,439 Speaker 1: and ignorance. The Reformation was based on the five Soul laws, 279 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: which is, we're saved by grace alone, through faith alone, 280 00:18:55,880 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 1: and Christ alone, according to the Bible alone, to the 281 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,679 Speaker 1: glory of God alone. That's five and all of that 282 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 1: is it's not a man made idea. It's what we 283 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: could trace through scripture that were saved by grace alone, 284 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:15,360 Speaker 1: through faith alone, and Christ alone according to the scripture, 285 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: the Holy Scriptures alone, to the glory of God alone. 286 00:19:19,119 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: Anything else really is a distraction an argument. There could 287 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: be Catholics that believe that that believe the gospel. There 288 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: could be people that disagree over the role of baptism 289 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,439 Speaker 1: and salvation, but still the Gospel has still taking root 290 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: in their heart and their Christians. And so while we 291 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 1: could disagree, and it's okay to disagree. You know, I 292 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:46,239 Speaker 1: like blue, you like red, I like country music, you 293 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:51,120 Speaker 1: like rap music. It's okay to have these nuances. But 294 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 1: when we start getting from the doctrine of salvation, of rebirth, 295 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 1: of regeneration, of justification, meaning how we're saved. We're saved 296 00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: by grace. God does it. God does it. Salvation is 297 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: of the Lord, the Bible says. When we start getting 298 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 1: away from this, then it gets muddy. The waters get muddy, 299 00:20:17,840 --> 00:20:22,160 Speaker 1: and the red balloon gets taken and arms get ripped off. 300 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,399 Speaker 1: Another reminder here on the podcast, if you have someone 301 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:28,359 Speaker 1: that you just don't know what kind of gift to 302 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:31,880 Speaker 1: get them coming up into this holiday season, consider cameo. 303 00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 1: Go to cameo dot com slash Grangersmith. And what that 304 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 1: does is it allows me to get a message from 305 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:40,159 Speaker 1: you and then I pull out my phone, put it 306 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 1: on selfie mode and record you a video message to 307 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: whoever you want it to go to. I get this 308 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: all the time when people say, hey, can you can 309 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: you give my neighbor a shout out? It's her birthday, 310 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: her name Savannah, she's turning ten years old, and so 311 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 1: I'll get it my phone out and say, hey Savanna, 312 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 1: it's Granger Smith. Hey, I'm thinking about you. I wanted 313 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:01,199 Speaker 1: to sing you a happy birthday, and I hope to 314 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:03,479 Speaker 1: meet you one of these days. Well, you could do 315 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 1: anyone could do that. If you got a cameo dot 316 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: com slash Granger Smith, leave me a message and I'll 317 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 1: send you whatever kind of video you want. Again, that's 318 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,479 Speaker 1: cameo dot com slash Granger Smith. Okay, next question. These 319 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: have been good so far today, Josh says, Hey, Grangeer, 320 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: I'm in my early thirties. I've been married to my 321 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,720 Speaker 1: wife almost ten years, and we have three kids. Currently, 322 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: I'm a youth pastor in a small town outside of Lubbock, Reckham. 323 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 1: I was called to ministry in high school and have 324 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 1: been pursuing that call ever since. Recently, my wife told 325 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,480 Speaker 1: me that she feels a strong call to missions overseas. 326 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:40,879 Speaker 1: I've been praying and thinking about ways to help her 327 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,320 Speaker 1: pursue her calling while also pursuing what God has called 328 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,680 Speaker 1: me to do. When we talk through what pursuing her 329 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:50,600 Speaker 1: calling looks like, sometimes it comes off like my job 330 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 1: and my calling is more important than hers. My question 331 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,800 Speaker 1: is how would you handle a situation where husband and 332 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:02,199 Speaker 1: wife have different callings in industry? Josh, Hey, thanks for 333 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 1: the email, buddy, appreciate you. Brother. I want to say 334 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:15,840 Speaker 1: that oftentimes we think that we have different callings from 335 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:21,280 Speaker 1: our wife, when in fact we are one flesh. The 336 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:25,520 Speaker 1: Bible says when we become husband and wife, we become 337 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:29,880 Speaker 1: one flesh. And so instead of thinking of she has 338 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 1: her calling and I have my calling, instead you should 339 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:36,960 Speaker 1: think of it as your calling is always through her calling, 340 00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 1: and her calling is always through your calling. They're intertwined. 341 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:46,400 Speaker 1: They don't they don't split off and go into nothingness. 342 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:51,200 Speaker 1: They are the same. They're nuanced, and you have different 343 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 1: giftings within it. But your calling, to say, youth ministry 344 00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: may go through her overseas calling so that you do 345 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 1: overseas missions, you do youth ministry in overseas missions, or 346 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,720 Speaker 1: her calling is through your calling where she host a 347 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 1: missions outreach in your church with your youth group so 348 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 1: that people how you house overseas missionaries that come through 349 00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:28,639 Speaker 1: Lubbock and they stay with you and get trained to 350 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: go out or something. But but you see, there's a 351 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 1: and I could say that ten different ways how your 352 00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 1: two callings could could intertwine. First question I would have 353 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,880 Speaker 1: if you're with me, as I would say, hey, where 354 00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 1: is your senior pastor in this? This is this is 355 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,600 Speaker 1: something that has to has to be talked through with 356 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 1: your elders, your overseers, your pastors, your fellow pastors have 357 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:01,359 Speaker 1: to be part of this. They do. This is not 358 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: something you wouldn't make a decision like this or try 359 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,600 Speaker 1: to think through this in a vacuum. Nothing in Christianity 360 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,959 Speaker 1: happens in a vacuum. It's a brotherhood, it's a sisterhood, 361 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:13,840 Speaker 1: it's a family. You are the church. The church is 362 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: not a building. It is a gathering of people. And 363 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 1: so when you think through this, don't think that God's 364 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: going to write something in the sky. You intensify your 365 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 1: prayer life about this. You focus on your daily scripture 366 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 1: reading for your own devotional time. You bring this to 367 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,120 Speaker 1: your leadership and you start praying through it. Say hey, guys, 368 00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:43,880 Speaker 1: I want to pray through something with you or can 369 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 1: you be praying something with us? Because my wife has 370 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:51,880 Speaker 1: a strong calling for overseas missions. And as you bring 371 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:53,920 Speaker 1: that up and you say, and then I have my calling. 372 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 1: I don't know honestly what you're calling is you say 373 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:58,720 Speaker 1: you're a youth pastor in a small town outside of Lubbock. 374 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,639 Speaker 1: I don't know specifically what you want to do, because 375 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: a calling is not much more than a want. You 376 00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: desire something, And if your your will is aligned with 377 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:11,400 Speaker 1: the Lords, then then his desires are yours and he 378 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:15,120 Speaker 1: gives you the desires of your heart if you're seeking him, 379 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,879 Speaker 1: if you're close to him, if you delight yourself in 380 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 1: the Lord, he will give you the desires of your heart. 381 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,919 Speaker 1: And that's the calling. There's there's It doesn't have to 382 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 1: be mysterious. A calling is your desire as long as 383 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: so long as you're close to the Lord. And so 384 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 1: what do you desire to do? Is it youth ministry? 385 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: Do you want to be a senior pastor one day? 386 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 1: And so I would say why is that? Why is 387 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 1: that different than what your wife wants to do? If 388 00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 1: she she has a strong call to missions, overseas. Would 389 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 1: you not want to be a pastor overseas or a 390 00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,400 Speaker 1: youth pastor overseas? Would you not want to take that there? 391 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 1: So I want you to think of it in this way. 392 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 1: I want you to think instead of hers, she has hers, 393 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 1: I have mine. I think that's dangerous and I think 394 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 1: it's wrong. I don't think the Bible speaks of a 395 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 1: husband and wife having callings in different ways. You too, 396 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,560 Speaker 1: are called to each other for the Lord, to each 397 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 1: other for the Lord, serving each other as one one flesh. 398 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 1: I don't know. There aren't kids mentioned here, but that 399 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 1: would be another component to this. But I would be 400 00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,040 Speaker 1: I would be just with your your the pastors of 401 00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:30,480 Speaker 1: your church in prayer a lot about this and trying 402 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 1: to get clarity through discussion and through prayer on what 403 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,600 Speaker 1: her overseas mission work looks like. Is it short term stuff? 404 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:43,360 Speaker 1: Does she want to move to China? Regardless, you guys 405 00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:48,040 Speaker 1: should should do with your praying. You should do a 406 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:52,159 Speaker 1: few trips to whatever people group she feels called to. 407 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:55,919 Speaker 1: Sometimes we feel called, we feel called to a certain 408 00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: kind of people. Every missionary I've ever talk to has 409 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 1: said that they have general mission work. But then there's 410 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:09,440 Speaker 1: always a specific people group that you say, I really 411 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:15,680 Speaker 1: feel called to the Saharan African culture, or I really 412 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 1: feel called to the Latino culture, or I really feel 413 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 1: called to the Chinese culture, or the Vietnamese culture, or 414 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:30,640 Speaker 1: the Filipino culture, or the Romanian culture or the Irish culture. 415 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 1: Usually you feel strongly about one or the other. So 416 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 1: I would test your wife with that and whatever she 417 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,959 Speaker 1: comes up with, whatever her answer is testing that her 418 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:47,639 Speaker 1: motivations are not self driven instead God glory driven. She 419 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:51,120 Speaker 1: wants to out of the abundance the love, the abundance 420 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: of her heart, the overflow of that, she wants to 421 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,159 Speaker 1: love God's people, and she wants to do that overseas 422 00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,239 Speaker 1: instead of propping herself up. She just wants to do 423 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 1: something really cool. There's a lot of things to test through. 424 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,280 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to throwing some things out, but at 425 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: the main point is you don't have two different callings. 426 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 1: You're married. Your calling is one. Next question comes from 427 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: John says, Hey, grad Guoman names John, my wife Amanda, 428 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 1: and I got the opportunity to meet you in Boston 429 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,360 Speaker 1: on your farewell tour as a Christian family. Your words 430 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 1: of encouragement and advice is very appreciated. We struggle as 431 00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:34,120 Speaker 1: god fearing and loving parents to shield our kids from 432 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 1: the world. My son Levi is convinced that Mav is 433 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: his brother. Huh. They love your family videos. The question 434 00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 1: that I have is something that is very heavy on 435 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: my heart. I own a towing company that is struggling. 436 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 1: I've worked construction my whole life, running heavy equipment. I've 437 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 1: had to put my business that I have spent the 438 00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 1: last six years building on hold. I've had to hold 439 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:04,520 Speaker 1: I've had to go back on the road. In quotes 440 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 1: working construction. I'm gone from Saturday night to Friday night. 441 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: I always grew up in the mindset of I must 442 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 1: do whatever it takes to provide for my family. I'm 443 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 1: missing so much being gone. I'm really struggling with the 444 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,560 Speaker 1: work family ratio. I've done a lot of self reflection 445 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: on how we as a family have gotten to this point, 446 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,160 Speaker 1: and my son is too. We just welcomed our daughter, 447 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,680 Speaker 1: Emma into the world on Monday. I grew up with 448 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 1: a father who was an over the road truck driver. 449 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 1: I barely knew him growing up as a father and 450 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 1: head provider for my family, I'm really struggling with this. 451 00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 1: I love any thoughts and ideas on the subject. God 452 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,080 Speaker 1: bless the Innis family. All right, John, appreciate you, brother, 453 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 1: Thank you for the email. Has this been all guys today? 454 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 1: I feel like it's been all dudes today. Okay, it's 455 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 1: the brother chat man. John. I appreciate the vulnerability, and 456 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: I understand the difficulty. I see it. I see what 457 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 1: you're saying, and I want to point a few things out. 458 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 1: One I think you know the answer. I think you 459 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,200 Speaker 1: know the answer. That's why you emailed me, because you've said, 460 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: you said here, I'm really struggling. I'm missing so much 461 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 1: being gone, you say, And I'm really struggling with the 462 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,480 Speaker 1: work family ratio. So I think you know what to do. 463 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 1: I think you know you need to be home, and 464 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:32,720 Speaker 1: you don't need me to tell you that being gone 465 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: Sunday night to Friday night is a long time and 466 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: it cannot be good. I'm not just thinking only about 467 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:46,920 Speaker 1: your kids. I'm also thinking about your wife. She needs 468 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,640 Speaker 1: you there. And I want to point out that you 469 00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:57,120 Speaker 1: said I've grown up with the mindset of I must 470 00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: do whatever it takes to provide for my family. I 471 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,840 Speaker 1: want you to think about what it means to provide 472 00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:10,840 Speaker 1: for your family. And that doesn't just mean financially. It 473 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 1: doesn't just mean they're going to pay the bills and 474 00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 1: pay the car payment and have food on the table. 475 00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: That's not just what it means. Providing for your family 476 00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:28,760 Speaker 1: also means emotionally, from a leadership standpoint, from an encouragement standpoint, 477 00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:32,640 Speaker 1: from a discipline standpoint, you providing for your families, not 478 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 1: just from the pocketbooks, not just from the bank account 479 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 1: that you be in there. It's a loving father as 480 00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:45,520 Speaker 1: a loving husband, giving instruction, lifting them up, giving them encouragement. 481 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,120 Speaker 1: No one would ever define a father is someone who 482 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:55,600 Speaker 1: provides financially and then end it right there. I mean 483 00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: a big calling as a father is to protect right, 484 00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:04,200 Speaker 1: to protect your family from all different things, not just physically, 485 00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 1: but from all different things spiritually is a huge one. 486 00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,120 Speaker 1: But how could you do that if you're gone six 487 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:14,360 Speaker 1: days every single week. How could you do that? You can't, 488 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 1: And so you wouldn't defy and a father as just financial, 489 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:22,320 Speaker 1: It would be the protector, the leader, the spiritual head, 490 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 1: the one that nurtures and loves and holds together. These 491 00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 1: are all definitions that you work together with your wife 492 00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:33,240 Speaker 1: on and with you gone, it can't be good. You 493 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 1: know this. You don't like I said. I don't need 494 00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,000 Speaker 1: to be the one telling you that you already know it. 495 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 1: I could hear it in your words. But the problem is, 496 00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 1: how do you pay the bills? That's what you're thinking. 497 00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,080 Speaker 1: You're thinking, this is all I've ever done. You justify 498 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,000 Speaker 1: it by saying, my dad did it to me, and 499 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 1: I guess I turned out okay, even though I didn't 500 00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 1: really know him. I don't want to be that guy. 501 00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,600 Speaker 1: But how else am I going to do this? You 502 00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:02,560 Speaker 1: think there's no other options, and so that's what I hear. 503 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,280 Speaker 1: And sometimes we get stuck in these situations where you 504 00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: think I could only do one thing, or we think 505 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:14,000 Speaker 1: I've done something for so long there's no turning back 506 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,960 Speaker 1: from it. Now, I've already I've set the precedent on this. 507 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 1: I've built my relationships, I've built my skill set, I've 508 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,680 Speaker 1: built my resume. And if I do something else, that's 509 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: like starting over. And how old are you? You didn't say, 510 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:32,000 Speaker 1: but you don't want to start over. You don't want 511 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:36,720 Speaker 1: to build the resume from scratch. But I'm here to 512 00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: tell you that most likely the story pans out and 513 00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,760 Speaker 1: you could attest because your dad did this. Twenty years 514 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:50,360 Speaker 1: go by, and your son is now twenty two and 515 00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:54,720 Speaker 1: your daughter's twenty and they don't know you, and it 516 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,680 Speaker 1: didn't really matter. And you always had a roof over 517 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,600 Speaker 1: your head no matter what, and you always had a 518 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,760 Speaker 1: vehicle to drive, you always had food to eat. And 519 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:07,880 Speaker 1: yet you've lost a relationship with them, and you and 520 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: your wife. Perhaps she even leaves you over this because 521 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:16,759 Speaker 1: you've you've more or less abandoned her. And you could 522 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 1: justify it by saying that, look, I always I always 523 00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 1: gave you everything you needed. I always provided a roof 524 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 1: over your head. I always gave you food on the table. 525 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 1: And your wife says that's not enough. Every wife listening 526 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:34,279 Speaker 1: right now goes, that's not enough. Most would say, I 527 00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,160 Speaker 1: would rather live in a cardboard box and have you 528 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,879 Speaker 1: than have all this stuff that we don't need and 529 00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: not have you. But somehow, this this disease has gotten 530 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:51,759 Speaker 1: into our heads. It's Americans in the West that we 531 00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 1: got to have stuff, and we got to provide for 532 00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,120 Speaker 1: our families. And that's that's the number one factor of 533 00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:01,160 Speaker 1: a father is to provide for a family. And it's 534 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: just never been that way, and we've got to break 535 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:09,799 Speaker 1: the mold and flip the script and instead we say, look, 536 00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:15,680 Speaker 1: I want to provide, and I'm gonna work my butt 537 00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:19,719 Speaker 1: off to do it. I'm gonna get out there. But 538 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 1: I have decided family that we might have a little 539 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:28,759 Speaker 1: bit less, we might need a smaller house, we might 540 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,480 Speaker 1: need to get rid of that nice car and go 541 00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:35,640 Speaker 1: to a lesser car. But I've decided that the more 542 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:38,720 Speaker 1: important thing is for you guys to have a dad 543 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 1: and a husband that's around every day. That's what I've decided, 544 00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,840 Speaker 1: and I guarantee you everyone in the family goes great. 545 00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,000 Speaker 1: No one goes oh, you got to get rid of 546 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:51,759 Speaker 1: the car. I mean, Dad, go back on the road. 547 00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:56,160 Speaker 1: We want the car. This is his reality. I appreciate 548 00:35:56,200 --> 00:36:00,920 Speaker 1: the email, buddy, Thank you. Next email comes from Dax. 549 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: He got your. My name is Dax. I'm nineteen live 550 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:04,920 Speaker 1: in Waco, Texas. I have a question I want to 551 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:10,560 Speaker 1: run by you. My grandpa recently passed by suicide. Side 552 00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:15,280 Speaker 1: my grandpa recently passed by suicide and my father also 553 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:20,359 Speaker 1: did the same. My grandpa was in Vietnam and left 554 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 1: with some PTSD. He was taking a new medication for 555 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,320 Speaker 1: some heart problems, and one of the side effects was depression. 556 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,680 Speaker 1: Nobody knew until he ended his life from it. What 557 00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,200 Speaker 1: is the best way to deal with this from a 558 00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:39,719 Speaker 1: Christian standpoint? He says on a different note, I've also 559 00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,960 Speaker 1: been struggling with lust for years, and I've tried so 560 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 1: much and wanted to know if you have figured out 561 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:49,160 Speaker 1: what the best way? What is the best way to 562 00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:54,279 Speaker 1: get out of this? My heart desires it, but I 563 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,920 Speaker 1: don't know how to change my heart. I would like 564 00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:02,480 Speaker 1: to hear your thoughts. Sorry for my bad reading. Yeah, Dax, 565 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:05,400 Speaker 1: thanks for the email. Brother. This has been the Brother podcast. 566 00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 1: This has been all good, all dudes. First of all, 567 00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:17,160 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry that here you are as the third 568 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:26,960 Speaker 1: generation man and the previous two generations have died by suicide. 569 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,280 Speaker 1: That is a tremendous pressure to put on your shoulders 570 00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:37,440 Speaker 1: as a nineteen year old, and I'm truly sorry and 571 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:49,719 Speaker 1: wouldn't wish that for anybody. It is significant, and you 572 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:55,120 Speaker 1: shouldn't and I shouldn't diminish the fact that it's gonna 573 00:37:55,120 --> 00:38:00,880 Speaker 1: be tough, not just the loss of them, but the 574 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,480 Speaker 1: way that you lost them, and how that weighs heavily 575 00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,560 Speaker 1: on you, and it would be hard not to think 576 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:13,920 Speaker 1: at some point, uh am I am I on the 577 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:28,040 Speaker 1: same path. So from a Christian standpoint, this comes up 578 00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:29,719 Speaker 1: a lot on this podcast, and this question comes up 579 00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:34,759 Speaker 1: a lot. I think you're asking. I think you're basically asking, Hey, 580 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:36,719 Speaker 1: is Grandpa going to heaven or Hell? I think I 581 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,359 Speaker 1: think that's what you're saying, because that's what usually when 582 00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:43,000 Speaker 1: you boil these questions down, that's the salt at the 583 00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:47,960 Speaker 1: bottom of the boil. And so I would say, like 584 00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:52,400 Speaker 1: I always say, you're we're saved by grace through faith 585 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:59,080 Speaker 1: and Jesus alone, and that's came out of the Reformation, 586 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,600 Speaker 1: you know, that's that's the idea, that's what the Bible teaches. 587 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:12,360 Speaker 1: And so being saved by grace through faith is understanding, 588 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:18,759 Speaker 1: believing in Jesus, and repenting of your sins, believing and 589 00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:22,960 Speaker 1: the finished work that Jesus did on the cross for sins, 590 00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:28,040 Speaker 1: taking sins on his own body as the sacrifice, the 591 00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:33,359 Speaker 1: sacrificial lamb for the sins of his people, so that 592 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:38,920 Speaker 1: his perfect righteousness, his goodness that he earned by divine 593 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,479 Speaker 1: right and lived out perfectly on this earth without sin, 594 00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:49,799 Speaker 1: is then credited to you. The Bible sometimes uses and 595 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:55,480 Speaker 1: theologians sometimes use the big word imputed. His goodness is 596 00:39:55,480 --> 00:40:00,000 Speaker 1: imputed onto you, so that when you come to judgment 597 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:04,839 Speaker 1: day and God looks at you and says, well, you 598 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:09,200 Speaker 1: are a criminal. You have broken the law of God, 599 00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:13,319 Speaker 1: you have rejected his mercy, and so the sentence for 600 00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:17,319 Speaker 1: your crime is death. And then the judge comes in 601 00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:21,600 Speaker 1: and goes, hold up, Hold up a minute. This man 602 00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:25,400 Speaker 1: of a hero, who is perfect, is offering his death 603 00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 1: in place of yours. So do you accept this? You 604 00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,320 Speaker 1: say yes, Well you still live a life in rejection 605 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,919 Speaker 1: of me, and you say no, and he says, then 606 00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:41,799 Speaker 1: therefore you're free to go. You're free to walk. That's 607 00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:46,640 Speaker 1: what's happening here. That's the gospel. And so suicide, where 608 00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,520 Speaker 1: does it come into plays. It is a sin, It 609 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,560 Speaker 1: is murder. Suicide is murder. We shouldn't think of it 610 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,960 Speaker 1: any other way. And murder is a sin, horrible sin 611 00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:01,680 Speaker 1: which with horrible consequences God. It only takes one sin 612 00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,440 Speaker 1: to be a transgressor and to be a criminal, to 613 00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:09,200 Speaker 1: be to be on the wrong side of God. But 614 00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:15,160 Speaker 1: we also should recognize that different sins have different consequences. 615 00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:20,760 Speaker 1: And the adultery the first question we had has huge consequences. 616 00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:28,480 Speaker 1: Murder has huge consequences. Murder of yourself. Suicide also has 617 00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:34,640 Speaker 1: huge consequences through other people, for instance, the grandson that's 618 00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:40,400 Speaker 1: worried about this. It's a consequence. But Jesus went to 619 00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:44,800 Speaker 1: the cross to die for sins for all who repent, 620 00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:48,200 Speaker 1: turn from the sin and turn to Him in faith, 621 00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:52,920 Speaker 1: who believe in him, who believe in Jesus, you're saved 622 00:41:53,400 --> 00:42:00,600 Speaker 1: regardless of sin. But you would think that if someone 623 00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:04,240 Speaker 1: is going to commit murder, that wouldn't be a fruit 624 00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:08,839 Speaker 1: of repentance, right. That's why people say sometimes way and amen, 625 00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:11,120 Speaker 1: grand Are you telling me that I could just accept 626 00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,400 Speaker 1: Jesus and repent and go do whatever I want? And 627 00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:19,040 Speaker 1: I say no, because true repentance and true faith would 628 00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:26,280 Speaker 1: birth the fruit of someone who genuinely desires to please 629 00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:30,800 Speaker 1: God in his actions, which is why faith and obedience 630 00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:36,200 Speaker 1: are always together. Faith comes first, but always true faith 631 00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:41,640 Speaker 1: is always followed by true obedience, never without it. You 632 00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 1: never have true faith without obedience, and you never have 633 00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:49,680 Speaker 1: true obedience to Christ without it being preceded by faith. 634 00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:53,080 Speaker 1: Those two things are always together, And so you would 635 00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:57,400 Speaker 1: think if someone murders, then that's coming out of bad 636 00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:00,840 Speaker 1: fruit and coming out of a faith that is broken. 637 00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:06,200 Speaker 1: But the nuances and what we see so many times 638 00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:09,799 Speaker 1: with suicide is that, like you said here, he was 639 00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:14,000 Speaker 1: taking this medication for heart problems and the side effect 640 00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:20,560 Speaker 1: was depression. So that depression from the side effect could 641 00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,719 Speaker 1: have clouded his mind enough for him to carry out 642 00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:27,000 Speaker 1: the act of suicide from a repentant heart, from a 643 00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:33,000 Speaker 1: true heart of faith, blinded and taken out by the enemy. 644 00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,640 Speaker 1: So that's where that's where you go. I don't know. 645 00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,360 Speaker 1: We pray for we pray for anyone that's struggling with 646 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:44,799 Speaker 1: suicide or depression. We pray for their salvation through faith 647 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,360 Speaker 1: in Jesus. We pray that they repent from their sins 648 00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:49,600 Speaker 1: and turn to Him. And if they go ahead and 649 00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:53,480 Speaker 1: carry it out, at that point, we don't know what happened. 650 00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:55,680 Speaker 1: We don't know their heart. We don't know that. We 651 00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:58,919 Speaker 1: don't know, and so I can't no one. I can't 652 00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,319 Speaker 1: give you an answer, and no one can, no one 653 00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,319 Speaker 1: can even begin to give you an answer. Besides, we 654 00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,960 Speaker 1: know how you're saved, and we know that the fruit 655 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:14,880 Speaker 1: of murder is rotten. But with this guy being clouded 656 00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:18,160 Speaker 1: in his mind, you could say well, maybe he was 657 00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,400 Speaker 1: messed up because of this drug, but he had actually 658 00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:26,680 Speaker 1: he actually had a repent in heart. You see, that's 659 00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,680 Speaker 1: why I can't. I can't tell you. That's the Christian standpoint. 660 00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,600 Speaker 1: But then you go and then you flip the script, buddy, 661 00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:34,640 Speaker 1: and you you take me to ask to this new 662 00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:38,680 Speaker 1: question of lust. And I run into this quite a bit. 663 00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:43,080 Speaker 1: I had it. I spoke at a men's group recently, 664 00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,680 Speaker 1: and I usually ask people to stay and talk to 665 00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:50,560 Speaker 1: me afterward, and this one guy stays. Three guys stay 666 00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:55,279 Speaker 1: past everyone else, very last three guys there, and two 667 00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,960 Speaker 1: of them say, hey, we're just they're asking some kind 668 00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:02,960 Speaker 1: of evangelism question. And I answered the question. And then 669 00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:04,880 Speaker 1: the last guy says, I want to talk privately, and 670 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:07,239 Speaker 1: I said okay. And he says, I struggle with lust 671 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:11,480 Speaker 1: with pornography. And I said, did you talk to your 672 00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:14,240 Speaker 1: other two friends about it? He says no, I haven't 673 00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:17,960 Speaker 1: told him yet. I said, okay, Well this is where 674 00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:23,480 Speaker 1: it starts. Look, if we don't bring these sins into 675 00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,360 Speaker 1: the light, if we don't shine the light on them, 676 00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:30,640 Speaker 1: then they will just fester and fester and grow. So 677 00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,200 Speaker 1: the best thing we could do, and that usually the 678 00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,000 Speaker 1: first thing we do is flip the light on in 679 00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:38,080 Speaker 1: the dark room, meaning you go to your two bodies. 680 00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:39,400 Speaker 1: And this is what I told. This guy said, go 681 00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:41,919 Speaker 1: out there right now after this, and I when you say, hey, guys, 682 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:43,640 Speaker 1: I just talked to Granger, and I want to tell 683 00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,359 Speaker 1: you I'm struggling with lust and pornography and I need 684 00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,920 Speaker 1: you two to stand with me because we can't do 685 00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,720 Speaker 1: it alone. And the Bible speaks about this. It's very clear, 686 00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:57,480 Speaker 1: don't do this alone, don't walk alone, don't try to 687 00:45:57,520 --> 00:46:02,319 Speaker 1: battle sin alone. So I want you to tell these 688 00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:06,640 Speaker 1: two guys, I say, I want you to keep me accountable. 689 00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:08,920 Speaker 1: I want you to check in and say, how'd you 690 00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:13,080 Speaker 1: do last night? Did you look at poorn last night? Yes? 691 00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:16,239 Speaker 1: I did? I did. Okay, then we're gonna help you. 692 00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:20,520 Speaker 1: Now what was the source of it? What, what made what? 693 00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:23,000 Speaker 1: What was the trigger for it? Let's let's help this brother, 694 00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,400 Speaker 1: because if you go down on next, let's stick together 695 00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:30,400 Speaker 1: in this. Right. So that's my first thing is flip 696 00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:32,759 Speaker 1: the light on the house, turn the light on in 697 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:37,319 Speaker 1: the dark room. And then practically there's I mean I've 698 00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,239 Speaker 1: mentioned this a month on the podcast. There's a there's 699 00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:43,279 Speaker 1: a website called Covenant eyes dot com. And if you 700 00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,839 Speaker 1: go to Covenant eyes dot com and you enter your 701 00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:51,000 Speaker 1: IP address in their server, and then you put your 702 00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:55,400 Speaker 1: accountability partner on the on the the server as well, 703 00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:58,440 Speaker 1: could be your mother or your sister, or your wife, 704 00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:02,680 Speaker 1: or your friend or your pastor or whoever, and they 705 00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:06,120 Speaker 1: will be notified. As soon as your device hits a 706 00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:11,200 Speaker 1: porn site, it notifies your mom. Now, come on, tell 707 00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:13,040 Speaker 1: me if there's not a better way for you to 708 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:15,200 Speaker 1: be motivated not to go to that site knowing your 709 00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:17,680 Speaker 1: mama is about to get an email with the exact 710 00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:19,799 Speaker 1: site that you just saw in the time stamp that 711 00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:24,160 Speaker 1: you did it in. Right, Hey, you want to fight 712 00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:27,840 Speaker 1: this or not? This is what I say. Make war 713 00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:31,960 Speaker 1: on it. Declare war on your sin, because sin, in 714 00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:36,080 Speaker 1: its full maturity leads to death. Don't let this sin 715 00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:39,080 Speaker 1: mature into death because it will kill you like that 716 00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:45,720 Speaker 1: clown in the storm drain. So declare war out loud 717 00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:51,400 Speaker 1: and say I make war on this sin. I decide 718 00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:56,960 Speaker 1: with my own self discipline that I will not do this. Instead, 719 00:47:57,239 --> 00:48:00,000 Speaker 1: I will turn to God. I will accept his mercy, 720 00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,680 Speaker 1: see and his grace, and I will look to Jesus 721 00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,800 Speaker 1: and what he did on the cross. And that, my friends, 722 00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:10,520 Speaker 1: is repentance. That's what it means to repent. It doesn't 723 00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:13,399 Speaker 1: repentance doesn't mean you're free of sin. It doesn't mean 724 00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:16,800 Speaker 1: you don't slip up, you accidentally do something, or you 725 00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:20,200 Speaker 1: you mess up one day. It's not what that means. 726 00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:22,880 Speaker 1: It means you make war on it. And sometimes you 727 00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,400 Speaker 1: lose a battle, but you're still fighting a war and 728 00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,880 Speaker 1: you hate it. You hate the sin that lives in you, 729 00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,120 Speaker 1: so you want to kill it and turn away from 730 00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:31,960 Speaker 1: it and turn back to God. And it drags you 731 00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,759 Speaker 1: back in and you hate it, and you strangle it 732 00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:36,520 Speaker 1: and you turn back to God again. That is the battle, 733 00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:40,319 Speaker 1: the ongoing war of repentance. It is ongoing. It's not 734 00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,680 Speaker 1: something that's not a decision you make one time. That's 735 00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:46,920 Speaker 1: why it's so hard for me to go to churches 736 00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:51,719 Speaker 1: when they say that we had so many salvations this year. 737 00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,319 Speaker 1: We had three hundred and thirty eight salvations this year. 738 00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:58,480 Speaker 1: You don't know that because because faith is a walk, 739 00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:02,959 Speaker 1: it's a walk of obedience. Repentance is an ongoing thing, 740 00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:06,160 Speaker 1: so the fruit of it takes time, not just one 741 00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,960 Speaker 1: declaration at an altar that says I'm a Christian. I 742 00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:13,279 Speaker 1: accepted Jesus, I'm done. No, it's a walk, it's a brotherhood, 743 00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:18,640 Speaker 1: it's a family, it's endurance. Now the Lord saves you 744 00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:23,360 Speaker 1: by grace, but you know that you're saved through the 745 00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:26,720 Speaker 1: fruit of repentance. When you just you begin to develop 746 00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:30,240 Speaker 1: this idea that I can't stand this anymore, can't stand 747 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:33,360 Speaker 1: living this old way anymore, because it's eating me away 748 00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:39,200 Speaker 1: like acid. It's corroding me. And so my brother, I 749 00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:42,759 Speaker 1: say this fight it. Love you, guys, we'll see you 750 00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,920 Speaker 1: next episode. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. 751 00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:48,440 Speaker 1: I appreciate all of you. Guys. You could help me 752 00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:52,080 Speaker 1: out by rating this podcast on iTunes. 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